I just read up on Australia's classification for sexual assault, 'an unwanted invitation for a date' was on the list. What man on this planet is not guilty of this evil infraction. Little wonder there are so many singles.
@PGH Engineer With bars, you can go and meet someone there for a long term relationship and still frequent that bar as a couple. Can't do that with Tinder so Tinder's whole business strategy is to be successful enough for women and high social status men to meet someone but not enough to keep them away for good. Your average man goes to Tinder knowing that the game is crooked against them but still foolishly take part in the false belief that this time will be different.
When men are told hitting on a girl is harassment And girls are told hitting on a man is pathetic birthrates drop (as intended) and loneliness is considered collateral damage.
One of the hosts from Cinema Therapy, who's a therapist, talked about how he had someone complaining about being unable to get a date. The therapist asked for their list of standards and it came out as someone who is perfect in every way (someone that most likely doesn't exist). The therapist took that list, pointing at it and asked: "This person right here... what does their list look like?" The person was dumbfounded because it never occurred to them that the person they desire may have a list that looks similar, and realized that they'd either have to up their game to became like the person on that list or lower their standards to something more reasonable and similar to themselves (at least in terms of core values and lifestyle). Likes attract likes.
Of course there are women who will claim to meet those standards. With 3 kids. A job being a cashier or something similar. And allergic to exercise shall we say.
I've seen this a lot in people my age (22). Seems like a weird kind of solipsism where they view themselves as the only "real" person, and everyone and everything else only exists to fulfil their wants and needs.
A cousin of mine went on a date and was incensed when the guy insisted on splitting the bill. Apparently his response was, "I've lost count of the number of dates I've been on that were nothing but an excuse for the woman to get free food. I'll happily pay for ALL our future meals once I'm certain you're not like that." In either a self-fulfilling prophecy of the guy or a revealment of my cousin's character, she didn't go on a second date with him. But I can totally understand where he is coming from.
Wait so she didn't didn't go on a second date with a smart man? A man that's looks after his assets and protects what he has? Sounds like a plus. Only a wife should get wife perks.
Let me guess, your cousin also happens to believe in feminism, equality between the sexes, women being strong and independent and needing no man etc. pp. yet still insists on being wined and dined like women in generations past and doesn't see the contradiction whatsoever.
"I'm 18 and female and single! I'm relieved I found feminism! This'll empower me and help me to Live My Truth(tm)!" "I'm 25 and female and single! I'm so relieved! This just means more time to find out who I am!" "I'm 30 and female and single! I'm still so relieved! This just means I'll have more time to explore my sexuality!" "I'm 35 and female and single! I'm SERIOUSLY SO RELIEVED THIS JUST MEANS MORE TIME FOR MY WINE-TASTING AND CATS HAHA" "I'm 43 and female and single. This is all mens' fault."
@@michaelsorensen7567 "52 and single. Now I run workshops, teaching young women how to properly masturbate, and how to detox from unhealthy relationships they're in."
Yup, and then their doting Mom's all say "I told you so". Women have been warning their daughters to find a good man and get married but daughters keep saying they can wait, until it is too late.
Met a woman on a ferry last year..."Pop round next time you're on the island" she said, as she gave directions to the craft shop she worked in. As I was back a month later, I just happened to be her day off, I left a card, explaining who I was, just popped round to say hi,etc(had 6hrs to kill between boats). A week later I was woken by the Police who said a woman had made a complaint saying I was stalking her(easy found, I was the only motorcycle on the ferry when we met). I asked the Policewoman at my door if she could explain women to me, the Policeman behind her nearly choked, trying to suppress his laughter! A true story!
I've never seen a group of people actively try so hard to destroy any chance of finding happiness in their lives. God damn....just ban tik-tok already.
@@williamrae9954 You're a helpless victim (regardless of the Million$ contract), and the producer is a rapist.. . surely you know, any other answer is prohibited
Remember all those tech types gloating that they were going to make their fortunes 'disrupting' various industries. Well, they massively disrupted social trust too. Question is: precisely how much of their disruption was unintentional?
Stop calling it "dating", dating means trying to know eachother for further purpose of serious relationship and marriage.... What we have in this society is either booty call or foodie call 😒😒
@@WinkLinkletter oh yea. When I talk to some women I used the phrase altered as "Netflix and f*ck" and they laugh slightly uncomfortably because they know how gluttonous they really are
But if a woman makes a man wait for sex the man she's a tease and not worth the time. So it goes both ways you want a woman with low to no body count you have to be able to wait and not be a dick about it.
She works at The Independent which is up there with The Guardian for misandrist feminism, so someone who's been drinking that in all day would be enough to send most men running for the hills.
"misandrist feminism" - as opposed to non-misandrist feminism? Feminism is inherently misandrist and misogynistic as it's based on the axiom "man = bad, woman = weak".
I remember talking to a colleague of mine she was young and while not anything special she wasn't unattractive. A strong 5 out of 10. She was complaining she couldn't find a man so I asked her to describe what she needs in a man. She goes on to describe Chad "Thundercock" McPerfect, M.D. A man so perfect he probably doesn't exist just a perfect 10 in every category. I then asked her to rate herself out of 10 she said "3". The penny still hasn't dropped.
I finally logged into my LinkedIn account a few months ago, after probably 5 years of just ignoring it... Still didn't seem like it really serves the purpose I thought it was created for - job hunting.
the future of the west is lost but it can still be saved if we adopt mild patriarchy policies. if not then more of the same will continue at the same rates crushing large swathes of society and turning them into glorified ghettos of single mothers and thugs.
Nah, the average woman doesn't think she's better than the average man - she thinks she's entitled to better than the average man. It's because naturally, women date up, and this was fine when nature and society regulated this tendency, so that women were still accepting reasonable candidates from the local gene pool. In fact, it was one of the driving mechanisms behind the human race - because women date up, men aspire to become good enough to match the woman's expectations, and in so doing create and build and accumulate worth. But the regulation of female behaviour has been broken - they are now aiming for something that, in practical terms, does not exist for the majority of them and that they are not entitled to, even if they find it.
There's an old joke from "Back in the day"... It went something like: A department store is 'selling' men to women. You could always move up one floor but never back down. The first floor held ordinary men that would love her. The second floor had guys that looked good. The third floor was good looking men with decent jobs. Fourth floor was good looking men with good jobs. Fifth floor was good looking men that have good jobs and love your pets. Sixth floor was the exit, you can never return. Strangely this is the most visited floor. Across the street was a similar department store for men, same theme.... No man has made it past the 2nd floor.
Exactly this, the word is "disneyfication", the relationship expectations of women these days is just so unrealistic and they hop from one guy to another, dropping anyone who isn't their prince charming, because that's easier than actually having a real relationship where both parties have to work at it. What do guys need to to do? well watch some Peterson videos about the "female hero archetype", and you'll soon get the idea. Got to be vampire, werewolf, or beast that can be tamed, whilst being kind and generous, super fit without spending any time at a gym, have a high paying job that doesn't take up all your time, preferably be an airline pilot so that she can have free holidays. I swear to god we don't need to worry about climate change destroying the planet, we'll make ourselves extinct before that.
Dwayne Johnson - ‘Pardon me, ma’am, but I couldn’t help but notice how blue your eyes are!’ Woman - ‘ 😍😍😍 ‘ Ordinary bloke - ‘Pardon me, ma’am, but I really like your hair in that style and - ‘ Woman - _’HELP, POLICE! - GET THIS QUASIMODO RAPIST STALKER OUT OF MY SIGHT IMMEDIATELY ! ! !’_ 🙄
"Most men find most women to be somewhat attractive. In contrast, women on average view 80% of men as below average in attractiveness." - Study cited by Mikhaila Peterson.
@UCHc-mznMefuPMyDR4W6vCxA I’ve heard that as well. On a side note, I’ve always noticed that in the vast majority of couples I’ve seen, the man is always more attractive than the woman.
based. women have to understand real men are based. not perfect tho but we never claimed to be. we just simply follow the founding fathers in so far as women should have never been given the privilege to vote. now we are paying for it with a massive welfare state and military industrial complex.
if a girl I went on a date with turned out to be an insufferable feminist I can 100% imagine myself telling her im not paying. if for no other reason than because I know its not gonna work out and I might as well get a laugh with the boys later about it.
you guys pay for the date? Dutch everytime no matter who. don't pay for people's time when it's supposed to be a mutual arrangement and both are agreeing to meet.
As a single man who isn't just out looking for sex, I find the entire prospect of dating to be very unappealing despite my desire for a meaningful relationship, particularly considering how women tend to rate men so harshly, the legal risks, and the cultural damage of Feminism on many women in my age range - shifting blame on Men for doing and not doing, in all cases.
I’m in exactly the same position. I think about it like: “wouldn’t it be nice if…” and then remember what an average relationship would be like and go “nah,I’m good”.
@@mogznwaz It's honestly pretty bad if you're a young guy. Speaking from personal experience, having tried probably more than a dozen different dating apps, there are just mountains upon mountains of shit. Every woman I see on those is either a Filipino looking to marry into the US, a whore, or a rabid feminist that couldn't get a sex crazed lunatic to touch her if she was naked in front of him. About 1 out of 300 is actually seemingly decent, but they either never respond, probably because they're buried in so many interested men that the odds of them even seeing your message are next to none, or when they do respond, they just give a single 3-5 word response to your message, which is always a positive response playing into what I started with, then just ghost you. The only women I've ever managed to actually hold a conversation with on any dating app have been 2 Poles. Then they ghosted me because they didn't want to associate with a Russian after the invasion of Ukraine.
Women just aren't listening to anyone but themselves. I've actually heard "advice" from several women on how to lock down Chad....Sleep with him on the first date. Which is the whole reason that Chad ghosts these women, he got what he wanted. It's not a mystery to men but there are hundreds of Tik-Tok women baffled as to why they keep getting ghosted. I do laugh.
Women initiate over 70% of divorces, and reap massive financial rewards for doing so. It only took men several decades to catch on to this, but catching on they are.
at this point only idiots and liars are wanting people to get married without fundamentally reforming society's obsession with feminism. and if we can't then there is NO Future for the west other than Tyranny and War.
So. Got divorced at 40. Met her when I was 30. Working since 14 on the farm. Saved every penny for 16 years. Was successful. She divorced me because she wasn't happy. Took half of every thing including my farm. I'm 62 now and have rebuilt everything again. I could have gotten remarried 3 times in the last 10 years and said nope. Not worth the risk. 40+ year old women are tired and want resources but will divorce you to get them and the courts and the government don't want to support them. Don't live with them, don't marry them, don't give them a dime. You learn pretty quickly that they will walk away if you refuse to support them.
My wife of 12 years is divorcing me for not being "happy" as well. It greatly pisses me off because there have been multiple times I wasn't happy, but I knew divorce was never an option. So I learned how to make myself happy, and never expected her to make me happy.
"First marriage is for the money, second one is for love." Something I've heard women tell one another as relationship advice. Quite hard to feel any sympathy for them after hearing that a few times.
@@fatimahsharpe9113 because you're both women. He's right. You are the problem. Men are telling you exactly how they feel, from their own experiences and your only response is, 'well, he's probably icky anyway.' Unbelievable.
Yah" not happy" but she took everything except my tool truck.. ( Had to still make that alimony and child support).... Wish theyed stop with that lie of 50%
I know one thing women can do to make it a little more tolerable to be around them: find some contentment in simple things. Things that don't require an appointment with a bank manager.
Social media has destroyed the dating dynamic. There is a many more trust issues to sift through, when so many lie on social media to sell themselves as something worth "Likes".
women are actually most affected since social media triggers some social instinct in them but men are also pretty manipulative compared to prior generations
If you're going to blame social media, you might as well blame roads for bringing towns and cities closer together. Don't get me wrong, I'm with you, but this was inevitable since the Industrial Revolution. We used to "court" within our local villages and a woman would pick her "suitor" from the best available, because going to the next built-up area was too far to make it feasible. Hell, I don't even like most of the local women in my neck of the woods. I think the catalyst has been female entitlement, spurred on by feminism's encroachment into legislation. It's not worth getting married when the only hang-up was peer pressure. Today, "when are you going to make me a grandmother" has all but disappeared.
@@davey1602 I agree with this. Blaming social media is like blaming a car for an accident or putting the blame on a gun. It'd isn't the tool, it's the person/people behind it... Or what, were all women of the 90s saints, then twitter came out and this stuff suddenly happened? People wouldn't use their looks, their status, and use other people to get what they want without having to give a thing before social media came out..
it was well destroyed before that by the 80s men knew they were on the losing end of a relationship. like being in the passenger seat of a crashing car .
After my divorce I was terrified that this would be my future, but I realized quickly what tinder was and got off, switching to a different app (single mom going to school and working, I had no time to go places unfortunately) and found my now and future husband, we met and having both been divorced, basically interrogated each other as our first date haha things we would and would not tolerate, our goals and values, etc. I highly recommend everyone start doing that, as unromantic as it may sound, once you know it's worth pursuing all the love and romance follows
I did that before I married. The first month we saw each other every day and talked for hours about things that matter. We married after 4 months and have been together over 33 years. People are so concerned about putting out and not enough about learning about each other first. Talk about things that matter to you. As Ben Shapiro said "find someone who shares your values not your hobbies/likes". If you have fundamentally different world views it will never work no matter that you are both base jumping lacrosse players!
The irony here is that most of these women are so insecure, they dont actually ever go for the most attractive guys. And they dont go for the lowest either, which leaves them a tiny little slice to choose from. How could you possibly win with this strategy hahaha. Ahhh women.....
Unfortunately most ppl don't realise many woman often lie/gaslight/doublethink/minmax when talking about anything even distantly related to them self to give positive picture and destroying truth in progress.
They've done studies. Women don't actually know what "average looking men" look like. They rate 80% as average, and everything lower as below average. I suspect it may not even be that they're doing it on purpose, just that they don't even SEE the vast majority of men and classify them as such
I get the guy that refused to pay for the meal if it wasn't going any where I know a female family member that joked about going out just to get the free meals and to get her ego stroked. Girls like her are why I make it clear that everything is split until it gets serious
Women really be putting videos out there of them admitting to being manipulative and exploitative of mens' emotions and then wonder why guys will split the bill.
You know what's funny? In Germany for example it was the feminists who introduced the "going dutch"/splitting the bill as a general rule, because they didn't want to "owe" the man any. In essence they wanted to take some of the pressures out of a dating situation. It gives both persons involved in it a chance to check out the other person in their natural surroundings and see if they actually like them. And honestly good on them, it's more equal that way. So here treating someone is something you do for the significant persons in your life, like family, a steady girlfriend or boyfriend, good friends on their birthday etc. Sadly that has been slowly eroded under the american cultural influence..... Looking at all that, I see those girls who want to be more than equal, by gaining the same rights, but also all the privileges created to offset their disadvantages in earlier times and think: Yeah, how about no!? That kind of behaviour shows a rotten, spoilt, selfish character which will mess up my life, because as soon as it isn't smooth sailing, I get blamed and she's out of there. Woth half of my earnings through the marriage. (Thankfully assets owned prior to the marriage are not part of the split.)
You don't know the context. It looks to me like the guy really thought he would get something in return when paying for the meal. That's generally how self-important and self-interested many people are in this day and age, both men and women. Being galant, being a gentleman, is something that has been lost... having been for so long depicted as old-fashioned and too western by progressives and feminists.
He's under the idea that "men need to just quit being little boys and dive on a landmine for society if it means pumping out a couple of kids with a gorgon."
@@jayak8217 - not to the same extent, no. In the reproductive context of the human ‘animal’ (for want of a better word), it is the female who chooses with whom she will partner and / or mate with.
@@jayak8217 No ... because WOMEN are the gatekeepers of sex.[1] "80% of women are chasing 20% of men" is a TRUTH ... from sites like OK Cupid and so on. [1] Just to explain: - an island with 50 women and 1 man ... who decides to procreate? - an island with 1 woman and 50 men ... who decides who gets to procreate?
@@Bushcraft-xz6xd You seem to be confused. When a women says she "can't find a man" that doesn't mean she's not having sex, it just means she can't get the man to stick around after.
@@Bushcraft-xz6xd - the woman who is ‘saving herself’ for her ‘ideal’ man (to whatever extent the ‘ideal’ partner is possible ‘cos invariably long-term relationships usually engender the necessities of compromise and patience for those willing to navigate the very real rigors of permanent-intended love), or at the very least is able to form semi-permanent attachments and doesn’t have too high a ‘notch count’ behind her, and in the interim conducts herself fairly virtuously whilst acknowledging that it _is_ the twenty-first century now (i.e., not being a consistently promiscuous and vacuous b*tch living her life in lieu of impulse control or adult ambitions), is _exactly the opposite_ example of woman to the theoretical example I was referring to in my original comment.
What’s most sadly ironic is that men are not hard to please. Honestly. We are socially simple creatures. If you want a man, a husband, a father, a leader, you need only complement him (not compliment, complement) and most of all, SHOW HIM RESPECT. Not sarcastic ass kissing, not belittlement, not mockery, but respect. Respect means acknowledging the things he does for you and your family. It can be as little as a “Thank you for working so hard” in his lunchbox - which trust me, as a guy who gets those in his lunchbox, it puts us over the moon and drives us to work that hard always. Honesty/forthright - women communicate differently to each other. We get that. But when speaking to a man, be direct. I can handle bad news, I can’t handle lying and bullshit. Give it to me straight. Most men hate problems, but love solving them. When you’re direct, we can start putting the pieces together and find what’s missing. That’s my job. Whether I’m trying to figure out why there is only 80 volts on this 120v circuit or how to get enough money for an emergency repair, I need the most information I can get.
Well said. That is my observation too. I do think that men need honest compliments as well. Your comment about writing the note in the lunch box proves that.
@@proudatheist2042 I agree, though I think that falls under showing respect. I’m not happy because my wife writes a note that says ‘thank you, you’re great’ but because she thought to put the note in the first place. I hear a lot of guys complain that their wife doesn’t acknowledge what they do. Or as my wife did when we got married, say nothing when you do X but complain if you didn’t do X. It’s such a simple thing that causes so much drama.
So accurate. I have accomplished what this girl wished for; met my husband on a bus at university at 18 and married shortly after we graduated. We're 30 now with 2 sons and another on the way. I don't know if my advice would work for anyone who had already had a sexual partner because I don't have any experience with that but as an 18 year old with no previous experience I found it very easy to respect my husband and even idolize him at first when in the honeymoon phase and viewed him as the leader of our family (even before the kids are) and I have always seen him as my hero. I know some ladies cringe when I say this but I truely feel this way and I think it has been instrumental in us making it. I say respect him, let him lead and have his masculine role, fulfill your feminine role and your golden. This doesn't mean I don't think anything else can ever work, but I think this was the mold most people followed throughout history for a reason. I just think the biggest problem is once a girl has been dumped by that first guy, it's a whole different ball game. I don't think they get the stars in their eyes like with the first guy and then what? I think that's most women.
Greed. Too many women do not understand that men literally do not think like that, and expect women to pick up on all the signals that other women pick up on or that men in their family pick up on because they've been there for years. Telling someone that they should have known is basically telling that man that he should be a mind reader or have the power of prophecy to predict what she wants.
I find it funny how advise for women can be pretty much reduced to "don't have sex until he commits to a relationship". Meanwhile for men it's a multiple year course on how to sort out your life
Even then he’s compromising. It should be “don’t have sex until marriage,” as well as “don’t fall for the no-fault divorce trap; your children will suffer the most.”
Yet, here we are hearing they won’t pay for a meal if she doesn’t put out….so??? That’s the kind of double standard that you always hear women complaining about. Like, which is it - whore or virgin, “transactional” relationships or not??
... especially when those "dreams" are totally unrealistic (like the stereotypical "I want world peace" answer during a "Miss ...." contest question section).
"no sex no paying the food bill" i would be sympathetic for if i hadnt seen , heard AND read about so many whimz going on 'free meals' with men they have No interest in dating.
Here's a twist, when I was dating my wife of 44 years it was me that took sex off the table.. When I first met my wife she was stunning and I mean stunning, she was a model with flawless beauty.. I'm average, nothing special but I did after persistence get a date.. It went well, I treated her with kindness and respect and got another date.. After a few more the subject of sex came up and I said not right now because I wanted to know her as a person first.. It did eventually happen but later she told me I was the first man that didn't just see her as a body.. For men and women both emotional binds are far stronger than sexual ones..
I think that's step two, step one is to stop charging men for sexual misconduct and putting them on a permanent sex offender list just because they were persistent in attempting to court a woman.
@@jackmcslay people get in huge amount of trouble when charged. Not everything get caught but that's how crime works. Going after men for making a pass at woman makes all this worse.
And they did it to themselves, by being willfully oblivious to the fact that men are experts at cost/benefit analysis. Basically by being willfully olivious about *everything* about men, since it is always about *her,* and *her* needs and wants.
This is hilarious 😂. I met my husband in college and we didn't use any apps or whatever people use now. We looked in each other's eyes and started talking. We talked for 3 hours at a stretch and skipped a class in order to get to know each other. We spent countless hours in the months ahead getting to know each other emotionally before we progressed to physical things and it happened so naturally. No one asked questions or permissions. It just happened so naturally and it was great. Now we've been together for 14 years and been 100% faithful to each other and we are very happily married. As a woman, I would love to have a channel like this where I can speak about such issues, but I wouldn't know where to start. There is so much to say. People today have forgotten basic human interactions and everyone is looking for instant gratification with minimal effort. All these social movements haven't helped people in the end. They have only hurt people and made them forget who we are. Everything has become so transactional as they said in the video. I am so glad I don't have to be part of the 'modern' dating scene.
The secret to start is to just do it. People really need to hear stories like yours. Good content is when someone has something meaningful to say, which you do since so many people do not know how to achieve what you have. You can always upgrade to nice cameras and microphones later but you can really start with just your phone. Make a few videos about how your started, built, and maintained your healthy, happy, fulfilling relationship. The advice is surely needed
You figure it out, let me know, I'll happily help. Been with my husband for 16 years (and if being together 24/7 during lockdowns didn't cause a divorce or a murder charge, I'm comfortable saying we'll ride this out into the sunset one day), well, 16 married. 18 if you tack on dating, and feel like I am pounding my head against a brick wall when talking to other women. I refuse to believe I (and you I'm glad to hear) I got the last good one walking about in the wild. (and before HarryPearce tries to ask, in what I can only assume to be a slightly snarky tone, my husband is 4 inches ~shorter~ than I am. And to cover the basics - when we got married we lived in a house I personally cut/stacked/kept stocked, brought in, burned and cleaned out the ashes afterwards wood to heat with a woodstove because electric or gas heat was too expensive. Had weeks when meals were what I had squirreled in a pantry and dug change out of the car seats and took in soda cans for recycling to cover the cost of gas to work. No, I didn't marry a man with money/power/position. Just a ~good~ man. And if that sounds snippy, I've had too many twits suggest I married him for ease of life and security. We're on steady financial ground now, but up until a few years ago, we both were rowing this canoe pretty desperately. Together.)
@@HarryPearce7 6 feet tall? Why? Is being 6 feet tall important for some reason? No my dear. I am Asian (as in the continent of Asia) and so is he. He is 5 feet, 7 inches or 5 feet 8 inches tall. Around there. So he is on the taller side here in Asia (depending on the country), but just average on a global scale. I never cared about height and I rarely think about these kinds of things when thinking of a partner. What I care about is his intelligence, wisdom, humor, character, morals, ethics etc. Things like that. How we communicate and connect with each other. How loving and caring he is. Stuff like that.
It is not a conditioning, it is inherent behaviour. The better the woman's economic situation the more picky she will be at picking a mate. Hence the focus on good looking men in western countries. Besides numerous studies have found that women find 80% of men to be below average with regards to attraction. So yeah..
@@benjaminmee3751 Similar, I'm only 5'7" but I've never had that much trouble getting decent looking ladies. I'm 40 now though so perhaps it's generational 🤷♂️
litterally, if you want a guy, just show interrest in them. physically make it obvious that you want to get to know them. men don't need much to establish intterest in a woman, all we want is a caring woman who likes us.
Women will flirt with men in order to get them to do things for them. It's still risky for the man if she appears to show interest. Trust is hard won and easily lost.
they don't want a guy. they want a top percent guy. the type of guy that has options and could probably construct a harem if it was legal it's going to take a lot more work to get the interest of that guy
I’m a very socially anxious, plain Jane looking woman, and somehow I managed to get a husband. Don’t know how I did it, but I’m very caring and affectionate, and I’m polite almost to a fault. I curtsy at people, and I’ve gotten looks for that, because I guess it’s gone out of style, but it has always been a reflex for me. I always try to look my best and put effort into my appearance, not because I want to trick people. I just want to look nice. Our marriage isn’t perfect, but we try to work on it. Most of the problems are my fault because my instinct is to withdraw and shut down when I’m feeling down. That’s a personal problem I need to work on. I think if most people would address their own issues rather than pointing fingers, they’d have better luck in love.
Same thing on my end. Thing is the majority of these videos (be them conservative or liberal) are usually here to pander to their audiences' ideals rather than actually provide advice to the gender in question. Makes for great entertainment though 😂
Congratulations on having a relationship. Well, you sound like you don't have insane standards. That's basically all that women need in the 21st century in order to not be single.
@@lightworker2956 it goes both ways from my experience. Dudes in highschool avoided me like like I was a leper but yes, women tend to be more pickier in my experience.
@@mariellelita We met through a mutual friend. My friend circle was rather small, and the three of us would go hiking, kayaking, and looking for reptiles together. My husband and I bonded over a shared love of snakes and other creepy crawlies.
@@jessruhl24 “Virgin” “Christian” “Desires children” Just, y’know, the absolute basics. I don’t care if she looks like the wicked witch of the west; as long as she checks all of the above boxes, I would have no qualms whatsoever marrying her.
Sargon, you don't need to be an expert in helping them get a man, just get rid of all the terrible *wrong* advice they get from Hollywood, Corporations, and *other* brainwashed older women, and you're already batting well above the average.
@lord barking While the C.I.A. Certainly played an Extreme role in Modern Issues, they Didn't Cause the Boomers to Grow Up so Decadently, Believing that only We would Suffer, Not them
16 years in - 2 basic rules of thumb I have given all single friends when asked : 1# Don't date an asshole. Seriously - if you would hate the idea of your granny meeting them, nope. If they act like jerks around people they aren't obligated to be nice too, into the bin, try again. 2# (and this is the biggie) Don't BE an asshole. Or bitch. Pick term of choice. I go nuts about the whole 'demanding to be treated like a queen' thing (if you see a girl in a sparkly "Princess" shirt/jewelry/etc. RUN. I swear to god it turns out entitled nutters.) without any understanding of the back and forth requirements. I'm lucky, my guy does. Know why? I treat him like a king. Shock and awe. Does my husband pay for most things? Yup. And I take care of the house, him and making sure I can duck in front of him sometimes and say "what my husband MEANT to say was" and translate whatever abrupt borderline insulting he just used into a nicer version when dealing with difficult people. Also remember birthdays, weddings, baby names, etc. It's a straightforward job, but has kept him employed for years now.... lol (Also, one last bit of advice. If you EVER hear a man refer to himself as an Alpha.... dump them. Instantly. Run. Do not pass go. Do not bother to collect your $200. Bounce. Fast. You'll thank me. Guys, same deal. She starts talking about herself like she is the freaking second coming, bolt.)
Let me know if I miss the mark with this one... Men who are obsessed with maintaining a muscle cat are the male equivalent of women who own horses but do not live/work on a farm. If they own either but live in a cheap apartment..run... don't walk.
@@theaccordian9377 nah, just find a cat that did a stint in the pound for about 2 years. It would have have no time to lounge round. He would be ripped and ready to go when you adopt him.
If a woman can't get man you have one of two problems 1) your standards are unrealisticly high for where you fit in the pecking order 2) take care of yourself. Women make dating hard on themselves
100%. Sadly hypergamy + dating apps = disaster for women if they want a relationship. They want the best they can get so they keep 'upgrading' until they're with a guy who's out of their league and then he dumps / ghosts her and she inevitably decides that it's men that are the problem. "Do better men!" Any relationship is always a few swipes or a DM away from a fling with a more desirable man who absolutely will not stick around.
@@impudentdomain As funny as that is, women do need to learn how to take care of themselves / market themselves as a dating partner. Though modern women's movements have brainwashed so many to accept instead of improve themselves.
To be honest, if you look around you will notice a lot more women than men who are well groomed, in shape and better looking. Also, a lot of attractive men do not like to settle, that is another problem. I do agree high maintenance women should lower their standards though.
not just the good, the average, the below-average and the "disposable" men too (40% is the number that comes to mind but I could be mistaken). plenty of people in relationships but I know maybe 20% who have been in relationships that lasted longer than 5 years. A relationship isn't a prize or a fix-all it's a lifetime of hard work and honest negotiation, the prize is the connection forged between two people (and their offspring).
Yes, that’s what it comes down to. You can be absolutely faultless while at the same time, she can sleep with Chad on your couch in front of your kids and still get half your stuff and make you an indentured servant to her with alimony and child support. Evil, anti-man Family court judges have destroyed marriage and childbearing and the west. We should give them all the “credit” they deserve.
Well ideally, a man shouldn't expect sex on a first date, but when 9/10 women on dating apps will give it for a free dinner, and you're the 1/10, you shouldn't be surprised. Supply and demand.
and if a "7" wont give it up to Chad on the first date, he has no problem going with a "5" for an easy quick dump... and then after that the "5" thinks her future husband should be Chad-level
I can't speak for that guy, but maybe he meant long term and not just short term... Although that phrasing does make me assume he meant short term... Still, the more women expecting to just take advantage of men, the more likely that men will get fed up with getting played.
@@KitsyX dating is messed up these days, and I'll be the first to admit I'm not exactly the highest quality single man on the dating market, I'm 37 and made a lot of mistakes in my 20s that put me in less than the best financial category. But I've worked hard and gotten my shit (relatively) together. And I'm not asking for the perfect woman either. But single women my age have unrealistic expectations. There's problems all across the board, in so many ways. Feminism broke western culture.
A female relative explained to me that she is addicted to feedback and interactions on tinder. Even when she meets and dates a nice guy, she can’t help seeing if there is other guys ‘chasing’ her. It’s like a drug. I nearly signed up to Tinder but never did.
Getting married was the best decision I've ever made. Been married for almost 10 years. We have a home and we will start trying for kids soon. I couldn't imagine life without my husband, and I pity women my age (approaching 30) who are not even dating anyone. They must be lonely. They've been lied to their entire lives by feminist BS.
Congrats on your your success. Not many women out there like you anymore. I think we are going to see a sharp decline in population growth in the upcoming years.
The author described finding a man as "inevitable," which I think is a huge mistake. It's not. Young people need to, firstly, go outside and meet people; secondly, adjust their expectations according to their situation and self. Women in particular need to resist the temptation of hookup culture that will inflate their ego short-term and ruin their long-term marriage prospects.
Some lady: "where are all the good men gone? Same lady: "Eww no, I don't date anyone under 6 feet, makes less than 100k, or precisely matches my long list of entirely changeable minor personal traits." Men: "The day you find all of that you might want to buy a lottery ticket. The odds are better."
As a man in his late 40's now, having lost my wife to cancer recently, this does not bode well for meeting a new woman and going on dates again....but holy hell, sounds to me like lots of young woman have had their heads filled with nonsense for the last 20 years.
If you are a sucessful home owner, with a nice car, a good income and are reasonably presentable you will be fighting off the single mothers and the wall hitting carousel riders with a pointed stick. Be very careful or you could lose it all.
A simple way to think about it is that, like how women will 'friend zone' guys that aren't romantic prospects, many of us men will 'sex zone' girls. Once many of us realizes a girl gives it up easy and early, either from our own experience or what other men say, she's off the table for anything long term, whether we're one of the men who sleep around or not. Nothing so easily won is seen with value.
Exactly. No self-respect. No sense of value. And utterly depraved, seeking nothing more than sexual gratification. If she’ll give it up for you, she’ll give it up for anyone. That is NOT wife material. Definitely not someone I’d want raising children, let alone _my_ children.
I would just like to play devil's advocate for the guy who wouldn't pay. I imagine it's possible that he has been on several dates where he did pay, and never heard from her again. It happens, and I think a lot of men have become jaded by it.
You mentioned some good points but there are several more that women need to understand, stop treating men like walking wallets and not behave like Megan Markle being in a relationship with someone just to tie you over and then leaving that partner when a better offer comes along
I witnessed a hilariously fat 19 yr old girl just throw a tantrum because her bf was mad that she wanted to go out with her friends rather than him. Her exact words - "I effing hate it when men try to have authority over me." You're grosss. You should be happy that anyone wants you. But no.
Saying to women don't treat men like walking wallets is like saying to men don't treat women like hoes. Why would either sex want to date anybody like that. Yes there are horrible people of both sexes.
@@julietessam2999 no, what's said is that women ONLY treat men like wallets, or like planned entertainment. There's no point in treating the modern woman any other way than as a sex object, and you've all done it to yourselves. Fix it.
Your grandmother: I need a man who can take care of me and be a father. Modern women: I need a man who is 6 feet tall, makes 6 figures, and has 6 pack.
I just wanna say that, as a man, I feel inclined to not treat women with a high body count as precious, leading me to not really bat an eye about that article with the guy refusing to pay It feels like its a very safe assumption to make that most women you meet are hoes, unless you have been given reasons to believe otherwise Call it a black pill, but men glorifying women without good reason is probably one of the least self respecting things i can think about. Make your attention a privilege most people arent worthy of
and the ones that aren't hoes have astronomically high standards... Always remember; if a girl will sleep with you, that means she sleeps with guys like you...
I think growing up with women cuts a lot of that "glorification" out. I grew up with a brother, so our family was three dudes (including my dad, haha) and my mom, so for me, it was like mom, grandma, aunties... ok, those women, and then these angelic creatures that I wanted to be near,, so I would say I held them on a pedestal like as a class or category, haha. Now, I have lived for years predominantly surrounded by women (wife, daughter, niece, and their friends, my in-laws, etc.), and NO glorification now, haha. Had I known then what I know now!
Catch someone before they damage themselves, I found my husband on my first day of uni, and our total "body count" was 3... at the age of 20 Edit: my mother taught me shame and the damage of being a slut
A woman who has never dated can only have the excuse of being shy. If a woman actively tries to date, and can't find a match, then there's some serious problem with her.
“25yo female. I’m mousy, insecure, demanding, and have unrealistic expectations for how I deserve to be treated. Only men over 6ft with a good income need apply.”
Specific heights are silly, but if a young woman is looking for someone to settle down and raise a family with, isn't it just wise of her to weed out Dylan who works at Sonic twenty hours a week in favor of a dude with a steady income that can actually provide for their future family? If she's bringing the homemaking, then he can bring the bacon.
@@tayh.6235 some men aren’t looking for a homemaker. I cook & clean for myself. I just want someone who I’d rather be with than not be with. Which is usually way too much to ask.
Thing is, I'm 6ft 3 with a decent income and I've been single for nearly 4 years now... I dont find many modern women relatable so I choose to just stay on my own.
@@GargantuanD Same here. My mom taught me to cook & clean so I don’t need domestic help. So that narrows it down to women who are witty, interesting, and don’t get mad when you don’t need anything from them to function.
I'm actively dating although I'm not looking for anything serious. You won't believe how Many times the women I've met have randomly exploded into rants about the patriarchy... Fuck that shit I'm out.
I can relate to that but not with dating. I'm a girl and I just want to make friends at uni, but almost all the girls (because most psychology students are girls) are sjw's and feminists. As soon as someone starts talking about 'lived experience' I tap out lol
that first article: "before I inevitably end up falling in love one day." ... there's nothing inevitable about it, young folks better get out and search for what they want to find
Im looking for a White woman in America who is based and redpilled and wants to start a family. Who also doesn't wear masks or get the clot shot. So basically, Im looking for a unicorn that loads of other men are looking for. And some, I imagine, are more attractive than me.
I’m a below average 28 year old guy and have never been in a relationship and I’m not sure I’ll ever be in one. Every girl I’ve ever had any interest in just goes “ew no gross” do whatever. I feel like with all of the media in the world I have a somewhat general understanding of relationships and sex.
I'm not saying this all applies to you but, here is some tips. Dont be fat, obviously. Do mewing. Put minoxidil on your face to grow a beard. And use and micro needle roller. If you are balding cut it all off. Confidence cannot be faked, so the whole 'just be yourself' thing is legit, just be authentically the kind of person you are/are striving to be. Do not ever cum or masterbait. EVER. If you're insecure about your dick size, you can do what's called 'hanging', you put weight on your dick to stretch the suspensiory ligament which allows more of the penis to be outside the body when erect. And most importantly, NEVER CHASE A WOMAN. If she likes you, she will follow you. And do not make a move until she directly asks you to fuck her. Also try out some psychedelics, free yourself. Get to know God. Life sucks, but it really doesnt have to suck that bad. 👍good luck brother.
@@Blobby192 I was going to say this too. We can’t do anything about not having a handsome face, but we can reshape our bodies and that goes a long way. Clothing and hygiene too.
"We've fought so hard to destroy the family and the oppression of housewives! Why won't no one make me their wife and build a family with me?" Here we go again. Learn the hard way. Fuck it. See y'all that don't punch out early in about 20 years or so.
As a father of two teenage daughters, the new ‘fad’ is that they all think they will be ‘stay at home’ mums. When I point out that as times become harder these ‘roles’ will be highly sought after and that they can’t cook, clean, make pastry, preserves etc. They are devoid of the basic skills required and certainly repulsed by the thought of “serving their man”. They have nothing to offer but their looks and genitalia in exchange your resources, time and sanity. Good luck selling that package ladies.
Actually, it at least sounds like it's one tiny step in the right direction. They must be getting an alternative Narrative from somewhere, although at this point not societal changing.
About 15 years ago I had a relationship with a woman that wanted to be a stay at home mom. Great. But she refused to cook or clean and said that if we got married I would also have to hire a house keeper and nanny. A few years ago I saw her at a bus stop with two kids. But I do have a house keeper. 😁😁😁
I am a stay at home mom and I don’t make pastry or preserves. Those are admirable skills but not necessary. Cooking takes practice, make them make you dinner and clean up after themselves. At that age, I was also horrified by being a “submissive” wife. It takes time and experience to understand that it’s a give and take between husband and wife. My husband works and provides, I care for and nurture our family. They should probably learn to be good with kids too. Kinda critical.
If we want to be completely 100 about taking sex "off the table", many men(like myself) don't want to be with a women who has ever been loose with sex in the first place.
@@reekinronald6776 is it not slavery if you have no authority of your household. like no she should be equal under your roof unless she bought it fully. i hate this obsession with equality. it's highly unnatural and destructive but then simply means no relationship until society fundamentally changes to a mild patriarchy. and as a young guy i will wait. good luck to all the older men and older women.
@@reekinronald6776 so how do we remove her muscle from this equation? i assume that means armed rebellion which i'm fine with but obviously we have to try every single peaceful method first. i agree with your assessment.
I'm 42, I was attractive enough to date throughout my teens and 20's but I am absolutely certain that if I had been born in '99 vs '79, I'd be an incel right now.
It’s pretty easy ladies.. (1) Be Fit; go to the gym; eat in moderation. (2) Be Feminine; Sun Dresses are a thing. (3) Be Fun; be willing to try things that he’s interested in; even if you think it’s dumb or lame. (4) focus on characteristics that lead to a successful relationship and NOT on game and money that he will provide you. How does he treat others? What’s his relationship like with his family? How does he treat the waitress? (5) Men don’t care about your job or how much money you make. It’s irrelevant to raising of future children. If you work great, mange your finances/be frugal; if he’s going to work and you stay home; you become CEO of the house. Cut coupons, be frugal, don’t waste money on stupid things. You do the above; you’ll have an above average successful marriage.
@@run2cat4run nope; just a successful married older Millennial man with two kids. How’s your love life working out for you? Stocking up on cat food deals at Costco are we ?
@@mikehunt4265 the above is all within a woman’s control; height for a man is not. Women need standards to hold men to, but it has to be standards that don’t just revolve around money and status.
I've been in 2 relationships and the 1st fell apart because she failed at 4) and 5) and the 2nd one because of 2) and 3). I just wouldn't be in a relationship at all if they failed at 1)
For women, finding a good man is like when you try to find something to watch on Netflix but you can't find anything to watch, even with the huge selection including many good films on there that you've already watched, or in this woman's case, banged.
Whereas for men, finding a good woman who won't instantly take a dislike and reject them is like trying to find something to watch on Netflix after they've filed for bankruptcy and shut down operations.
Her profile: I'm 32, 3 kids by 3 different dads, 45kgs overweight. Looking for 6'6", 6 figure income and 6 pack guy to take care of my kids and me. Also her: Why am I single?! _How can men keep getting away with this?!_
These girls live in a "creative modus" server where non of her actions bare consequenses. yet at the same time they think they can blame other players in "veteran" servers for their own "creative" actions. In other words: women can't be taken serious anymore.
I would rather take a foreign woman as a bride than go through another miserable relationship with an empowered western woman. Dating in the west has become so bad it's best to just stay single.
9 years I’m single, gave up aged 39, had enough of being used and abused and when relationships ended I was heavily out of pocket and had nothing to show for it. Well I’m no rich man but I’ve had no drama for 9 years and it’s been fantastic, I got a few German Shepherds that I get to enjoy without a headache 🤣
Women made dating transactional. For too long men have held traditional roles in dating while women have not and still expect men to be traditional. So no sex? Split the bill.
This is a really good point, Women expect men to be completely traditional, romance, good earner, stable and responsible, but at the same time have decided that they should not be traditional and owe nothing to a relationship.
@@kingcosworth2643 lot of women believe it’s the man’s role to be the provider of the home and her yet raising kids and managing the home is a sexist role for women and should go away. When men ask what do women bring to the table they usually have no answer cause they think just being at the table is enough
About a year ago I finally worked up the courage to ask out a girl on my recreation softball team. She told me no, she already had a boyfriend, and we should just be friends. I took it in stride, but began to have my doubts when she never mentioned her boyfriend when we needed people to sub in, and she never posted any pics on social media with a guy. Found out later she never had a boyfriend. If she had just said no thanks, I could have handled that fine, but the fact she felt like she needed to lie to me made it sting a lot more and only added onto my growing distrust of women.
What would help women is lowering their standards. Not every men get to be 6 feet tall and above, and it's nothing we can do about it, unlike weight. Which is something everyone can work on. An attitude check would also be a massive help, nobody wants to date an entitled, egotistical and disrespectful woman.
@@JohnSmith-wx9wj disagree, height requirements are so arbitrary they might not initially be as attracted to them, but they could grow to love their personality, or discover the guy has a massive schlong. There's no excuse for cheating, if she cheats she isn't committed to having a relationship period.
If a woman who has been loose in her past suddenly decides that she needs a relationship from me to give it up, I’ll just laugh and walk away. Once they have enjoyed their hot girl summers and carrousel rides, there is no turning back.
When I was in high-school I took a shop class because I already knew how to cook and do housework and didn't need anymore home ec classes. Once I got in trouble for talking in class with a boy who also got in trouble. The shop teacher's punishment was always push-ups. He asked me if I was a feminist. I wasn't sure what that meant and said no. As a girl I was permitted to do push-ups at a desk while standing. The boy had to hit the floor. I remember thinking I'm glad I answered with a puzzled no instead of yes. Feminists had to hit the floor. Silly story but yes I'm an old school feminists. I still believe men and women are very different. I still believe in gentlemen and ladylike behaviors. But yes as far as government goes all people should be treated equally. Sex has no place in work professional behavior by superiors or employers. But there are jobs women shouldn't do and jobs men shouldn't do. We are obviously very different biologically. People need to accept reality and treat people with equal respect.
> I'm an old school feminist which one, the one that wants to reduce males to 10% of human population, the fish bicycle feminist, the feminist that shames men into throwing themselves into the meatgrinder of war, or the one that insists women have to get into politics because men are too dumb and brutish?
I feel entittled to say tat youre wrong. your grown woman is not the same as me 20 year old guy. not sure why you have to call yourself a feminist. i think youre repulsive for doing so. you should have been punished for being a feminst. because i think you would punish a man that were to be sexist and youd humiliate him. woman i thihnk are definitely inherently narccisitic. you avoided doing more pushups? And allowed the boy to do more than you? Wouldnt that be sexist by your feminazi standards? I treat you the same as any feminist because really youre all the same. theres no good feminist. youre all evil. because you all call men incels which you dont agree with. and you spew the nonsense out of males and females being equal. i thought for how old you are you would realize that its false we are not equal and its been a lie since the start we are literally not equal this isnt a matter of opinion. since you decided not to do more pushups there it is unequal. because you decided to do less push ups for being female and the boy did more for being male thus not equal. your narccicism is very obvious at least fix that so i dont have to be angry at feminists as you are.
Go read Simone debouviers book "the second sex", or watch the book review Carl and Connor did on it. Then come back and tell us your a feminist. As your description of your self isn't that of a feminist.
@@chadcadsonvii5258 there is a difference between feminist and militant feminist activist. The main difference : feminists don't discriminate and tell people they don't fit their personal ideology. Militant feminists well they just hate everyone.
As a man who is nearly 30 years old, I have never been in a relationship. At this point, the family court system is so screwed up that it's just not worth it anymore. In the US, in "no fault divorce" states, a lot of the time the guy gives up half his stuff and when it could have easily been the girl's fault.
Unfortunately this is just cope. Having a family is absolutely worth it and I’m not going to pretend otherwise to make you feel better. Tough love my friend.
I'm almost 30 and I feel the same way as you do. I don't want to get screwed over by the court system and that's the main reason why I choose to remain single throughout the rest of my life.
I am 31 khhv. Honestly blaming it on the system is a second order cope. It is absolutely true, of course, and definitely a factor, but the primary reason for my situation is that I am just not attractive and women don't have a incentive to care about me.
I think and I might be wrong about it, one of the better ways to go about dating for women would be - don't be an entitled, insufferable, "i scream my abortions", "I am always right, now shut up, man" feminist (solves 90% of the problems) - don't sleep with a guy on the first, second, third date BUT show him that you are actually interested in him (conversation, eye contact, body language), not saying it is an easy line to balance Also some things to consider - it would be great if you share the same values when it comes to kids (having and raising them) if you plan to go there - you might not get the best looking guy in town - with the current laws, you might not get a wedding (the eternal girlfriend) or will have to sign one/several prenups. That kind of romance is dead and lawyers love it And for men - keep in shape - get a decent job - dont wet your noodle in every pot in town that will have you
I find myself in a similar situation as the first lady. I know this isn’t the place to share one’s life story but this is the first time I’m seeing a story similar to mine being discussed. Sorry this is gonna be a long read. English is my second language so please forgive me if I make any mistakes. My current situation is as follows: I am now 26 and I am in a continuous search for my future husband. I work as a high school teacher for engineering graphics and design (and no I am not like one of those crazy woke blue haired grooming lunatics that we have recently seen in America). I have paid off all my student loan dept and bought myself a car. I unfortunately, like a lot of people my age, can not afford my own house at the moment but I’m saving for a piece of property at least. I am currently living in a apartment in the schools’ girls hostel where I do “supervising duty” once a week which gives me an extra allowance to cancel out my rent. I didn’t date anyone in high school. I also didn’t date during university. I wasn’t into the whole party lifestyle that most people had at university as I could barely afford to study and couldn’t justify spending money on going out like the others did. I focused very hard on my studies and it paid off in the end and I am proud of how I built myself up. I did however get my first kiss during my final year from a guy who forced himself on me so that really wasn’t the experience that I hoped it would be. When I moved away from university to my current job, I did start going out more with the friends I made in the new town. I have to add now that I am an introvert and did make a point of it to try and get more out of my shell and comfort zone. I am also Christian and unlike many others of my faith I am making a effort to save myself for marriage or at least a very serious and committed relationship, I don’t think it would have been emphasised so much in the Bible if it wasn’t important to do so. I am not claiming to be better than anyone but most people who say they are Christian in my town do ignore this and are very promiscuous. I have gone on a few dates over the last couple of years an d they did not lead to anything serious. I just didn’t match with the guys and that’s fine. I did also make out with a guy I met at a party. He wanted to take it further than that but I wasn’t having it, because I am not going to sleep with some guy that I barely know. I do regret making out with him because he is still trying for a “booty call”. Which proves Carl’s point about being too easy. I gave an inch and the guy wants the whole mile. I don’t think that my expectations are too outrageous either but I may be wrong about that, you can leave I comment to let me know. Of course obviously I want someone who has similar interests to mine. That is why my previous relationships didn’t go far. I tried to engage with their interests but I didn’t receive the same engagement in return. A guy that has good manners will always have me weak at the knees. They are unfortunately in very short supply. Physically I am not bothered about having some Adonis. I think that I am quite average and know that I should stay in my lane and not try and go for someone that is clearly out of my league. (A friend of mine did try to do this and I knew that it wouldn’t work, but I didn’t know how to tell her that and she got her heart broken.) I prefer guys with dark eyes and dark hair but it’s not a deal breaker to have something different I just find that more attractive. I would prefer someone who is not overweight as I keep myself in shape and would like a guy who does the same. I also love a good dry sense of humour. One of the most important things for me is someone who is practical and good at building and repairing things. I am quite practical myself but I’m not very strong which limits me in the things that I can do by myself. So I am looking for someone who I can work with on projects. I am also not really bothered with having a very wealthy guy. If he would like both of us to work in the relationship then I would want someone with a similar income to mine. If he would like to be the sole provider then he is realistically definitely gonna have to earn more than what I am currently earning. I would like to have kids and would also prefer to raise them myself rather than sending them to a daycare and be raised by someone else. I think one of my negative attributes that is hindering my relationships is that I might be a bit too independent. I am an only child and had to care for myself most of the time, which leads me to wanting to do everything myself and not letting others in or accepting help when it is offered. All in all I don’t regret not sleeping around in my earlier life when the opportunities presented themselves. After listening to all my friends who have done and still do it, they always brag about their encounters and plan their next conquests with much excitement. Yet they are all on antidepressants and are quite unhappy most of the time (I know that is part of the depression but I am starting to see a link between what they choose to do and what they experience afterwards). While I might not have as much experience in life as them I am content with myself. The only thing that has me negative is that the dating pool doesn’t seem to offer what I am looking for and I don’t know where to go looking for that right guy. And unfortunately my biological clock isn’t going to wait forever but I don’t see how I can be happy if I lower my standards. Anyway sorry for typing up this long winded novel of a comment but I felt like I needed to get it off my chest.
I guess youtube comment section can't be worse than tinder, if you are trying to find someone. I'm 31 guy, never had a relationship, probably never will. That is a reality a lot of men will have to come to terms with in one way or the other
Not going to give you any advice, as I have no right to, but I do want to share my empathy with you. 24 yo female here in a similar situation. In the comments I havent really found a lot of useful advice tbh, and even the video was more aimed at feminist women. So other than lower your standards, dont have sex bf marriage, dont be a crazy feminist and stop stealing mens money when divorcing its a bit dry out there😅They kinda forget that the ladies watching this video are very likely doing non of that to begin with but oh well... Just know you're not alone! Hope you find yourself a good husband soon🥰
Don't worry so much. 25 these days isn't over the hill and plenty of females meet their man and get married around 30. As a man I'd say you seem like marriageable material and the only question I have is why you are in rebellion against the archetype of a good marriage - you know, the version that was tried and tested over thousands of years? You have something: your career, your independence and your singlehood. Marriage requires you give them up. Yes. And completely. A good man is not a simp: he is a leader and while you can continue your interests don't expect the protector and provider to be interested in them: it's your role to be interested in and support his. And what do you want more: your standard of lifestyle or a loving home with a hard-working man and healthy children? A good woman needs to submit to her husband's will and find fulfillment in supporting his trajectory - she'll then find everything she needed and hoped for because he will have found his fate: to lose himself in his family.
If you're taking a woman to a restaurant date on the first few dates, you're doing it wrong. If that's how you start the relationship that's how she'll expect it to continue. See if she wants to spend time with you and not take Instagram pictures of her food you bought her.
@@diex40 Fuck drinks, son, use your brain, it's there for a reason: take a girl for a walk in the park/woods, hell, a hike. IF she's looking forward to it and comes, and enjoys it and can't wait to do it again, then you have something to build on, if not, then you've lost nothing of value. For fuck's sake, how is this so hard for so many of you?
So in my experience I've had confusion on this one. I prefer to pay for myself(and do unless he's already paid while I wasn't looking,it happened a couple of times and I offered to pay for the next) I've had male friends tell me men don't like it and to let them pay, I had one guy actually yell at me for buying my own coffee on the first date and had others who looked uncomfortable when I paid for myself so I asked the men I know how men feel about this. Can I ask is it something that does bother men or imply that I'm not interested (I've been told it does) ? I live in England so I guess the question is only about men there. There are so many mixed views on this one.
Im in the US and in my experience most men who would get mad at you for paying would be blue pill men who believe in the Disney bs about relationships or old school men who think its the mans responsibility to take care of everything for wemon. If you payed like that with me i would be much more interested in you. Look up ssm( strong successful male) he gives good advice.
I got married at 21, my husband and I were on an aviation course together sitting next to eachother, it took over 2 months of flirting and teasing eachother almost daily to even get to our first kiss and I cherish that time so much
I gotta defend the guy not paying for dates if it doesn't lead anywhere. There are only so many free meals you are willing to pay for before you start expecting at least a modicum of reward or interest back, often times these women looking for a meal aren't even entertaining dates.
Benjamin, you're being too kind to the girls in this. They aren't giving it up for all the men they date around. As you said they only see the top 25% of men as even average because of an over inflation of their dating market value. This isn't a most men thing this is a most girls thing.
Except the expectations of many men are just as warped as women's. You have to be able to accept your failings if you want to overcome them and preaching from on your high horse ain't going to convince any woman that she's wrong.
I just read up on Australia's classification for sexual assault, 'an unwanted invitation for a date' was on the list. What man on this planet is not guilty of this evil infraction. Little wonder there are so many singles.
How are you supposed to know if it's unwanted until you ask?
@@nucleargrizzly1776 Ha! Look at him and laugh, he doesn’t have powers of telepathy!
@@fuckgoogle2554 So we're supposed to read their minds now?
Welp
So Australia has created the "How to completely wreck dating and reproduction"-law to combst sexual assault.
400 Tinder matches and has never been kissed, something tells me the problem isn't with the men.
bcs it isn't...Feminism and modern Woman Issues are the Problem
It's just for validation...
"These 400 guys like me... So I can afford to keep waiting for Prince Charming"
Yeah I found that number highly sus as well. Like...does her breath smell like rotten eggs or something?
@PGH Engineer With bars, you can go and meet someone there for a long term relationship and still frequent that bar as a couple. Can't do that with Tinder so Tinder's whole business strategy is to be successful enough for women and high social status men to meet someone but not enough to keep them away for good. Your average man goes to Tinder knowing that the game is crooked against them but still foolishly take part in the false belief that this time will be different.
Tinder isn't there for kissin'.
When men are told hitting on a girl is harassment
And girls are told hitting on a man is pathetic
birthrates drop (as intended) and loneliness is considered collateral damage.
Society is a hoax, distraction from the manual labor.
@@EA-tc6kb what world do you live in?
@@joemayo1589 My own world obviously, you must be part of society so you won't get it.
@@EA-tc6kb No I get it, you have a very loose grasp on reality.
(((Gleeful hand-rubbing intensifies)))
One of the hosts from Cinema Therapy, who's a therapist, talked about how he had someone complaining about being unable to get a date. The therapist asked for their list of standards and it came out as someone who is perfect in every way (someone that most likely doesn't exist). The therapist took that list, pointing at it and asked: "This person right here... what does their list look like?" The person was dumbfounded because it never occurred to them that the person they desire may have a list that looks similar, and realized that they'd either have to up their game to became like the person on that list or lower their standards to something more reasonable and similar to themselves (at least in terms of core values and lifestyle). Likes attract likes.
They are gold!
Of course there are women who will claim to meet those standards. With 3 kids. A job being a cashier or something similar. And allergic to exercise shall we say.
Exactly, if you want perfection you yourself needs to first achieve perfection.
I like how Patrice describes women like this. They're women who have never been introduced to a new way of thinking.
I've seen this a lot in people my age (22). Seems like a weird kind of solipsism where they view themselves as the only "real" person, and everyone and everything else only exists to fulfil their wants and needs.
A cousin of mine went on a date and was incensed when the guy insisted on splitting the bill.
Apparently his response was, "I've lost count of the number of dates I've been on that were nothing but an excuse for the woman to get free food. I'll happily pay for ALL our future meals once I'm certain you're not like that."
In either a self-fulfilling prophecy of the guy or a revealment of my cousin's character, she didn't go on a second date with him.
But I can totally understand where he is coming from.
Based.
Trust is earned.
He's jaded clearly. It does kill the romance for her clearly.
Both parties have reason to feel the way they do. Unfortunate
Sound like the guy dodged a bullet...
Wait so she didn't didn't go on a second date with a smart man? A man that's looks after his assets and protects what he has? Sounds like a plus. Only a wife should get wife perks.
Let me guess, your cousin also happens to believe in feminism, equality between the sexes, women being strong and independent and needing no man etc. pp. yet still insists on being wined and dined like women in generations past and doesn't see the contradiction whatsoever.
"I'm 18 and female and single! I'm relieved I found feminism! This'll empower me and help me to Live My Truth(tm)!"
"I'm 25 and female and single! I'm so relieved! This just means more time to find out who I am!"
"I'm 30 and female and single! I'm still so relieved! This just means I'll have more time to explore my sexuality!"
"I'm 35 and female and single! I'm SERIOUSLY SO RELIEVED THIS JUST MEANS MORE TIME FOR MY WINE-TASTING AND CATS HAHA"
"I'm 43 and female and single. This is all mens' fault."
"50 and single. It's men's fault I'm oppressed, crush the patriarchy"
@@michaelsorensen7567 "52 and single. Now I run workshops, teaching young women how to properly masturbate, and how to detox from unhealthy relationships they're in."
'I'm 65 and female and single. I really need a man now as I can't live well on just my pension.'
close but the "This is all mens' fault." is a through-line from "i found feminism" until death/recantation
Yup, and then their doting Mom's all say "I told you so". Women have been warning their daughters to find a good man and get married but daughters keep saying they can wait, until it is too late.
Met a woman on a ferry last year..."Pop round next time you're on the island" she said, as she gave directions to the craft shop she worked in. As I was back a month later, I just happened to be her day off, I left a card, explaining who I was, just popped round to say hi,etc(had 6hrs to kill between boats). A week later I was woken by the Police who said a woman had made a complaint saying I was stalking her(easy found, I was the only motorcycle on the ferry when we met). I asked the Policewoman at my door if she could explain women to me, the Policeman behind her nearly choked, trying to suppress his laughter! A true story!
I actually said to the Cops I'd just dodged a bullet! :)
Ahhheee CRAZY.
@@williamrae9954 you really did
@@elainejohnson796 British police are a JOKE ... a fully COMMUNIST joke!
I've never seen a group of people actively try so hard to destroy any chance of finding happiness in their lives. God damn....just ban tik-tok already.
Dating apps, feminism, metoo, social media all combined into a storm that destroyed dating market
If you took your clothes off and slept with a movie producer just for a part in said movie, what does that say about you?
not only this. Mainstream Media and their Lies with Mr. Grey and Cindarella BS
@@williamrae9954 You're a helpless victim (regardless of the Million$ contract), and the producer is a rapist.. . surely you know, any other answer is prohibited
Dating apps make it impossible to meet people (I highly doubt the 40% of relationships starting online stat)
Remember all those tech types gloating that they were going to make their fortunes 'disrupting' various industries. Well, they massively disrupted social trust too. Question is: precisely how much of their disruption was unintentional?
Stop calling it "dating", dating means trying to know eachother for further purpose of serious relationship and marriage....
What we have in this society is either booty call or foodie call 😒😒
I rarely see other people with this view. 'Dating' is code for 'sexual relationship' now. It's very cringe
@@barrontrump3943 Netflix and Chill...euphemism takes root where shame fertilizes.
@@WinkLinkletter oh yea. When I talk to some women I used the phrase altered as "Netflix and f*ck" and they laugh slightly uncomfortably because they know how gluttonous they really are
Don’t remind me.
The sheer number of foolish people who willingly defile themselves is an abomination beyond human comprehension.
Isn't this the same thing ' 😁
"Why would i buy the cow when i can get the milk free" things moms use to tell the daughters instead of mommy' s going out .
And then why would I pay fill price for the milk if it has been given out for free, that just makes you a sucker.
@@Hunter4042012 Or why pay full retail for a dented car with 100000 miles on it.
@@azh698 hard miles
@@azh698 exactly.
But if a woman makes a man wait for sex the man she's a tease and not worth the time. So it goes both ways you want a woman with low to no body count you have to be able to wait and not be a dick about it.
She works at The Independent which is up there with The Guardian for misandrist feminism, so someone who's been drinking that in all day would be enough to send most men running for the hills.
This woman: Sh!ts the bed. Then writes article asking "Why is my bed full of sh!t?"
"misandrist feminism" - as opposed to non-misandrist feminism? Feminism is inherently misandrist and misogynistic as it's based on the axiom "man = bad, woman = weak".
@@harbl99 what!? I didn't know Amber Hurd worked for the independent. That's interesting.
Misandrist feminism is a bit redundant.
Not wrong rob
I remember talking to a colleague of mine she was young and while not anything special she wasn't unattractive. A strong 5 out of 10. She was complaining she couldn't find a man so I asked her to describe what she needs in a man. She goes on to describe Chad "Thundercock" McPerfect, M.D. A man so perfect he probably doesn't exist just a perfect 10 in every category. I then asked her to rate herself out of 10 she said "3".
The penny still hasn't dropped.
@Oldie But Goodie LinkedIn where corporate chumps tweet and get divorced on average of 10-17 years
@Oldie But Goodie LinkedIn being this cesspool of bad hookup culture is just the wildest, most surreal shit to me.
@@_Jay_Maker_ I had no idea. I thought it was still a business thing.
I finally logged into my LinkedIn account a few months ago, after probably 5 years of just ignoring it... Still didn't seem like it really serves the purpose I thought it was created for - job hunting.
Chad Thundercock will now be my pro wrestling name if I ever become one
The basic problem today is that the average woman thinks she is better than the average man.
Even the fat mingers think they're a ten. 😂
Narcissistically 'better than'
the future of the west is lost but it can still be saved if we adopt mild patriarchy policies. if not then more of the same will continue at the same rates crushing large swathes of society and turning them into glorified ghettos of single mothers and thugs.
Nah, the average woman doesn't think she's better than the average man - she thinks she's entitled to better than the average man.
It's because naturally, women date up, and this was fine when nature and society regulated this tendency, so that women were still accepting reasonable candidates from the local gene pool. In fact, it was one of the driving mechanisms behind the human race - because women date up, men aspire to become good enough to match the woman's expectations, and in so doing create and build and accumulate worth.
But the regulation of female behaviour has been broken - they are now aiming for something that, in practical terms, does not exist for the majority of them and that they are not entitled to, even if they find it.
@@NicholasBrakespear Essentially a more in depth explanation of what I summarised.
"As I approach 25, everything I thought I knew about love was all a lie."
Welcome to adulthood, girlie.
*< LAUGHS IN 35 >*
I wonder if she'll be able to work out any other lies she's been told.
Guess what? It never ends. If you get as far as 75, you'll look back at 65 and think "What a dunce I was."
[Smiles with no joy in 43]
@@PierceyeG Bro I do not want to hear this.
There's an old joke from "Back in the day"... It went something like:
A department store is 'selling' men to women. You could always move up one floor but never back down. The first floor held ordinary men that would love her. The second floor had guys that looked good. The third floor was good looking men with decent jobs. Fourth floor was good looking men with good jobs. Fifth floor was good looking men that have good jobs and love your pets. Sixth floor was the exit, you can never return. Strangely this is the most visited floor.
Across the street was a similar department store for men, same theme.... No man has made it past the 2nd floor.
I like this!
Epic
What she hasn’t admitted to is that her ‘romantic’ requirements are the usual criteria that statistically reduce her pool of candidates to ZERO.
but 400 matches? ? ...nah there's no way unless there's some detail being left out here, obviously it's a really BIG detail at that...
@@iller3 400 ? that's the number of cats she will soon have
THAT'S EXACTLY IT. I knew it STRAIGHT UP when she said "fairy tale romance". Because fairy tales aren't real.
@@iller3 400 matches BUT NEVER BEEN KISSED. We all know she's too fussy
Exactly this, the word is "disneyfication", the relationship expectations of women these days is just so unrealistic and they hop from one guy to another, dropping anyone who isn't their prince charming, because that's easier than actually having a real relationship where both parties have to work at it.
What do guys need to to do? well watch some Peterson videos about the "female hero archetype", and you'll soon get the idea. Got to be vampire, werewolf, or beast that can be tamed, whilst being kind and generous, super fit without spending any time at a gym, have a high paying job that doesn't take up all your time, preferably be an airline pilot so that she can have free holidays.
I swear to god we don't need to worry about climate change destroying the planet, we'll make ourselves extinct before that.
Woman: “Why am I not married?”
Man: “Hello”
Woman: “Ew, gross!”
Dwayne Johnson - ‘Pardon me, ma’am, but I couldn’t help but notice how blue your eyes are!’
Woman - ‘ 😍😍😍 ‘
Ordinary bloke - ‘Pardon me, ma’am, but I really like your hair in that style and - ‘
Woman - _’HELP, POLICE! - GET THIS QUASIMODO RAPIST STALKER OUT OF MY SIGHT IMMEDIATELY ! ! !’_
🙄
"Most men find most women to be somewhat attractive. In contrast, women on average view 80% of men as below average in attractiveness." - Study cited by Mikhaila Peterson.
@UCHc-mznMefuPMyDR4W6vCxA I’ve heard that as well. On a side note, I’ve always noticed that in the vast majority of couples I’ve seen, the man is always more attractive than the woman.
Pretty much.
@@tovsteh OkCupid confirmed this back in 2012.
" woman won't give up the ass so man refuses to pay for meal."
Callum internally the whole time:
"Don't say based
Don't say based
Don't say based."
💯
I could feel him trying to keep it in lmao
based. women have to understand real men are based. not perfect tho but we never claimed to be. we just simply follow the founding fathers in so far as women should have never been given the privilege to vote. now we are paying for it with a massive welfare state and military industrial complex.
If she doesn't understand equivalent exchange she isn't ready for a relationship
@cindybin2001 Aryan afterthoughts afton Armageddon
Soooooo many women on dating apps are single mothers which is a complete turn off for most guys.
Or have high body counts and unable to pair-bond
Tattooed, dyed haired, that much metal on their face looking they've been at the business end of a shotgun, and a single mum...hardly a catch?
@@williamrae9954 all the signs of mental illness
poor kids
a single mom is just someones rejected sloppy seconds after years of poor dicision making skills.
i dont want any of that shit.
@@williamrae9954 "Low value woman" as the incels would say
if a girl I went on a date with turned out to be an insufferable feminist I can 100% imagine myself telling her im not paying.
if for no other reason than because I know its not gonna work out and I might as well get a laugh with the boys later about it.
I did this once, kinda. Made a girl pay for herself after she was on her phone the whole date. She was livid. Gotta love female entitlement...
Not paying? Bro I wouldnt even make it to the check
That was my take on it. Chick was using him to have something to write about. He figured it out.
you guys pay for the date? Dutch everytime no matter who. don't pay for people's time when it's supposed to be a mutual arrangement and both are agreeing to meet.
Telling her? I'd just say I'm going to the bathroom, sneak out and leave her to deal with the bill.
As a single man who isn't just out looking for sex, I find the entire prospect of dating to be very unappealing despite my desire for a meaningful relationship, particularly considering how women tend to rate men so harshly, the legal risks, and the cultural damage of Feminism on many women in my age range - shifting blame on Men for doing and not doing, in all cases.
You could remove literally any one of those factors and it would be an order of magnitude better. As is, well... it's minesweeper without the numbers.
I’m in exactly the same position. I think about it like: “wouldn’t it be nice if…” and then remember what an average relationship would be like and go “nah,I’m good”.
Not all women. Most of us are NOT raging modern feminists who want maximum benefit for zero effort. Men and women have both been let down.
@@mogznwaz It's honestly pretty bad if you're a young guy. Speaking from personal experience, having tried probably more than a dozen different dating apps, there are just mountains upon mountains of shit. Every woman I see on those is either a Filipino looking to marry into the US, a whore, or a rabid feminist that couldn't get a sex crazed lunatic to touch her if she was naked in front of him. About 1 out of 300 is actually seemingly decent, but they either never respond, probably because they're buried in so many interested men that the odds of them even seeing your message are next to none, or when they do respond, they just give a single 3-5 word response to your message, which is always a positive response playing into what I started with, then just ghost you. The only women I've ever managed to actually hold a conversation with on any dating app have been 2 Poles. Then they ghosted me because they didn't want to associate with a Russian after the invasion of Ukraine.
Women just aren't listening to anyone but themselves. I've actually heard "advice" from several women on how to lock down Chad....Sleep with him on the first date. Which is the whole reason that Chad ghosts these women, he got what he wanted. It's not a mystery to men but there are hundreds of Tik-Tok women baffled as to why they keep getting ghosted. I do laugh.
Exactly because it is stupid. But I have never had sex but why am I still single? Perhaps im too christian and autistic?
Do they actually say this? Do they have brains? What the hell.
No man wants to revisit the starfish disney princess.
@@miniondaechir you'll be surprised how low most women would go
It's hilarious they think they're more emotionally intelligent.
Women initiate over 70% of divorces, and reap massive financial rewards for doing so.
It only took men several decades to catch on to this, but catching on they are.
If they have degrees it’s 85%
As long as divorcing means you lose even 1 cent any man getting married is a fool.
at this point only idiots and liars are wanting people to get married without fundamentally reforming society's obsession with feminism. and if we can't then there is NO Future for the west other than Tyranny and War.
So. Got divorced at 40. Met her when I was 30. Working since 14 on the farm. Saved every penny for 16 years. Was successful. She divorced me because she wasn't happy. Took half of every thing including my farm.
I'm 62 now and have rebuilt everything again.
I could have gotten remarried 3 times in the last 10 years and said nope. Not worth the risk. 40+ year old women are tired and want resources but will divorce you to get them and the courts and the government don't want to support them. Don't live with them, don't marry them, don't give them a dime.
You learn pretty quickly that they will walk away if you refuse to support them.
My wife of 12 years is divorcing me for not being "happy" as well. It greatly pisses me off because there have been multiple times I wasn't happy, but I knew divorce was never an option. So I learned how to make myself happy, and never expected her to make me happy.
"First marriage is for the money, second one is for love."
Something I've heard women tell one another as relationship advice. Quite hard to feel any sympathy for them after hearing that a few times.
@@GladIRecognizedABeautifulSoul yeah....I felt sorry for the first part of the story. By the end of the second part I wasn't so sure.
@@fatimahsharpe9113 because you're both women. He's right. You are the problem. Men are telling you exactly how they feel, from their own experiences and your only response is, 'well, he's probably icky anyway.' Unbelievable.
Yah" not happy" but she took everything except my tool truck..
( Had to still make that alimony and child support)....
Wish theyed stop with that lie of 50%
I know one thing women can do to make it a little more tolerable to be around them: find some contentment in simple things. Things that don't require an appointment with a bank manager.
Now your whistling Dixie 🤣
@@ianmcdonald3053 Well I am from Georgia so I suppose it's par for the course.
@@MushmouthJoe I wish I was in Dixie, hooray, hooray!
you have crossed into madness my friend wimmin don't even know what they want themselves
@@BusbyTreeSurgery True dat
Social media has destroyed the dating dynamic. There is a many more trust issues to sift through, when so many lie on social media to sell themselves as something worth "Likes".
women are actually most affected since social media triggers some social instinct in them but men are also pretty manipulative compared to prior generations
If you're going to blame social media, you might as well blame roads for bringing towns and cities closer together. Don't get me wrong, I'm with you, but this was inevitable since the Industrial Revolution. We used to "court" within our local villages and a woman would pick her "suitor" from the best available, because going to the next built-up area was too far to make it feasible. Hell, I don't even like most of the local women in my neck of the woods. I think the catalyst has been female entitlement, spurred on by feminism's encroachment into legislation. It's not worth getting married when the only hang-up was peer pressure. Today, "when are you going to make me a grandmother" has all but disappeared.
A good rule of thumb is not to marry a woman who constantly takes selfies, and to avoid women who constantly post said selfies on the internet
@@davey1602 I agree with this. Blaming social media is like blaming a car for an accident or putting the blame on a gun. It'd isn't the tool, it's the person/people behind it... Or what, were all women of the 90s saints, then twitter came out and this stuff suddenly happened? People wouldn't use their looks, their status, and use other people to get what they want without having to give a thing before social media came out..
it was well destroyed before that by the 80s men knew they were on the losing end of a relationship. like being in the passenger seat of a crashing car .
After my divorce I was terrified that this would be my future, but I realized quickly what tinder was and got off, switching to a different app (single mom going to school and working, I had no time to go places unfortunately) and found my now and future husband, we met and having both been divorced, basically interrogated each other as our first date haha things we would and would not tolerate, our goals and values, etc. I highly recommend everyone start doing that, as unromantic as it may sound, once you know it's worth pursuing all the love and romance follows
I did that before I married. The first month we saw each other every day and talked for hours about things that matter. We married after 4 months and have been together over 33 years. People are so concerned about putting out and not enough about learning about each other first. Talk about things that matter to you. As Ben Shapiro said "find someone who shares your values not your hobbies/likes". If you have fundamentally different world views it will never work no matter that you are both base jumping lacrosse players!
When they say average looking men, they mean the best looking men... Its just a way of sounds less shallow whilst being shallow
As a below average looking man, I'd be stuffed if I weren't already married hahaha!
The irony here is that most of these women are so insecure, they dont actually ever go for the most attractive guys. And they dont go for the lowest either, which leaves them a tiny little slice to choose from. How could you possibly win with this strategy hahaha. Ahhh women.....
Women and Progressives are so good at this stuff, turning selfishness into an apparent virtue with a twist of a phrase.
Unfortunately most ppl don't realise many woman often lie/gaslight/doublethink/minmax when talking about anything even distantly related to them self to give positive picture and destroying truth in progress.
They've done studies. Women don't actually know what "average looking men" look like. They rate 80% as average, and everything lower as below average. I suspect it may not even be that they're doing it on purpose, just that they don't even SEE the vast majority of men and classify them as such
I get the guy that refused to pay for the meal if it wasn't going any where I know a female family member that joked about going out just to get the free meals and to get her ego stroked. Girls like her are why I make it clear that everything is split until it gets serious
Women have to hold other women to account is the end of this. Does that happen is the question. Basically bullying has to come back into vouge haha
Women really be putting videos out there of them admitting to being manipulative and exploitative of mens' emotions and then wonder why guys will split the bill.
You know what's funny? In Germany for example it was the feminists who introduced the "going dutch"/splitting the bill as a general rule, because they didn't want to "owe" the man any.
In essence they wanted to take some of the pressures out of a dating situation.
It gives both persons involved in it a chance to check out the other person in their natural surroundings and see if they actually like them. And honestly good on them, it's more equal that way.
So here treating someone is something you do for the significant persons in your life, like family, a steady girlfriend or boyfriend, good friends on their birthday etc.
Sadly that has been slowly eroded under the american cultural influence.....
Looking at all that, I see those girls who want to be more than equal, by gaining the same rights, but also all the privileges created to offset their disadvantages in earlier times and think:
Yeah, how about no!?
That kind of behaviour shows a rotten, spoilt, selfish character which will mess up my life, because as soon as it isn't smooth sailing, I get blamed and she's out of there. Woth half of my earnings through the marriage. (Thankfully assets owned prior to the marriage are not part of the split.)
He needs to stop Simping!
You don't know the context. It looks to me like the guy really thought he would get something in return when paying for the meal. That's generally how self-important and self-interested many people are in this day and age, both men and women. Being galant, being a gentleman, is something that has been lost... having been for so long depicted as old-fashioned and too western by progressives and feminists.
I notice that Carl completely ignored the elephant in the room. Men aren't avoiding commitment, they're avoiding divorce.
He's under the idea that "men need to just quit being little boys and dive on a landmine for society if it means pumping out a couple of kids with a gorgon."
It’s self-correcting ‘cos the kind of woman that ‘can’t find a man’ is exactly the kind of woman that a man doesn’t need . . .
Does the same saying go for the kind of man who can't find a woman?
@@jayak8217 - not to the same extent, no. In the reproductive context of the human ‘animal’ (for want of a better word), it is the female who chooses with whom she will partner and / or mate with.
@@jayak8217 No ... because WOMEN are the gatekeepers of sex.[1] "80% of women are chasing 20% of men" is a TRUTH ... from sites like OK Cupid and so on.
[1] Just to explain:
- an island with 50 women and 1 man ... who decides to procreate?
- an island with 1 woman and 50 men ... who decides who gets to procreate?
@@Bushcraft-xz6xd You seem to be confused. When a women says she "can't find a man" that doesn't mean she's not having sex, it just means she can't get the man to stick around after.
@@Bushcraft-xz6xd - the woman who is ‘saving herself’ for her ‘ideal’ man (to whatever extent the ‘ideal’ partner is possible ‘cos invariably long-term relationships usually engender the necessities of compromise and patience for those willing to navigate the very real rigors of permanent-intended love), or at the very least is able to form semi-permanent attachments and doesn’t have too high a ‘notch count’ behind her, and in the interim conducts herself fairly virtuously whilst acknowledging that it _is_ the twenty-first century now (i.e., not being a consistently promiscuous and vacuous b*tch living her life in lieu of impulse control or adult ambitions), is _exactly the opposite_ example of woman to the theoretical example I was referring to in my original comment.
What’s most sadly ironic is that men are not hard to please. Honestly. We are socially simple creatures. If you want a man, a husband, a father, a leader, you need only complement him (not compliment, complement) and most of all, SHOW HIM RESPECT. Not sarcastic ass kissing, not belittlement, not mockery, but respect. Respect means acknowledging the things he does for you and your family. It can be as little as a “Thank you for working so hard” in his lunchbox - which trust me, as a guy who gets those in his lunchbox, it puts us over the moon and drives us to work that hard always.
Honesty/forthright - women communicate differently to each other. We get that. But when speaking to a man, be direct. I can handle bad news, I can’t handle lying and bullshit. Give it to me straight. Most men hate problems, but love solving them. When you’re direct, we can start putting the pieces together and find what’s missing. That’s my job. Whether I’m trying to figure out why there is only 80 volts on this 120v circuit or how to get enough money for an emergency repair, I need the most information I can get.
Well said. That is my observation too. I do think that men need honest compliments as well. Your comment about writing the note in the lunch box proves that.
@@proudatheist2042 I agree, though I think that falls under showing respect. I’m not happy because my wife writes a note that says ‘thank you, you’re great’ but because she thought to put the note in the first place.
I hear a lot of guys complain that their wife doesn’t acknowledge what they do. Or as my wife did when we got married, say nothing when you do X but complain if you didn’t do X. It’s such a simple thing that causes so much drama.
@@TheSpicyLeg Couples need to tell each other exactly what they need and want from their relationship, because people are not mind readers.
So accurate. I have accomplished what this girl wished for; met my husband on a bus at university at 18 and married shortly after we graduated. We're 30 now with 2 sons and another on the way. I don't know if my advice would work for anyone who had already had a sexual partner because I don't have any experience with that but as an 18 year old with no previous experience I found it very easy to respect my husband and even idolize him at first when in the honeymoon phase and viewed him as the leader of our family (even before the kids are) and I have always seen him as my hero. I know some ladies cringe when I say this but I truely feel this way and I think it has been instrumental in us making it. I say respect him, let him lead and have his masculine role, fulfill your feminine role and your golden. This doesn't mean I don't think anything else can ever work, but I think this was the mold most people followed throughout history for a reason. I just think the biggest problem is once a girl has been dumped by that first guy, it's a whole different ball game. I don't think they get the stars in their eyes like with the first guy and then what? I think that's most women.
Greed. Too many women do not understand that men literally do not think like that, and expect women to pick up on all the signals that other women pick up on or that men in their family pick up on because they've been there for years. Telling someone that they should have known is basically telling that man that he should be a mind reader or have the power of prophecy to predict what she wants.
I find it funny how advise for women can be pretty much reduced to "don't have sex until he commits to a relationship". Meanwhile for men it's a multiple year course on how to sort out your life
It really is bullshit, isn't it?
Women are born with a winning lottery ticket between their legs, if they're smart they will be pampered for life.
Even then he’s compromising.
It should be “don’t have sex until marriage,” as well as “don’t fall for the no-fault divorce trap; your children will suffer the most.”
@@combativeThinker what a hard standard for women to follow, truly challenging...
Yet, here we are hearing they won’t pay for a meal if she doesn’t put out….so???
That’s the kind of double standard that you always hear women complaining about.
Like, which is it - whore or virgin, “transactional” relationships or not??
It's hard to live a satisfying life when you're focusing on how you *want* the world to be, rather than on how it actually is.
Indeed. Glad my wife doesn't believe in Disney fairy tales.
That is wisdom.
Oh eyyy we got a Jordan peterson guy ovah ere :"D
She offers nothing.
... especially when those "dreams" are totally unrealistic (like the stereotypical "I want world peace" answer during a "Miss ...." contest question section).
"no sex no paying the food bill" i would be sympathetic for if i hadnt seen , heard AND read about so many whimz going on 'free meals' with men they have No interest in dating.
A “Foody Call”.
Buying food for a woman who you’ve never slept with is pathetic simp behaviour
two wrongs doesn't make a right, we have to be change we want to see and lead by example
@@JordiumZ Simp
@@JordiumZ wish it worked that way
Here's a twist, when I was dating my wife of 44 years it was me that took sex off the table.. When I first met my wife she was stunning and I mean stunning, she was a model with flawless beauty.. I'm average, nothing special but I did after persistence get a date.. It went well, I treated her with kindness and respect and got another date.. After a few more the subject of sex came up and I said not right now because I wanted to know her as a person first.. It did eventually happen but later she told me I was the first man that didn't just see her as a body.. For men and women both emotional binds are far stronger than sexual ones..
Step one: Campaign for divorce reform so it doesn't destroy the man's life.
That's it, there's only one step.
I think that's step two, step one is to stop charging men for sexual misconduct and putting them on a permanent sex offender list just because they were persistent in attempting to court a woman.
Wouldn't hurt if family court and child law was reasonable.
second step: save all the trouble. never put a ring on it.
divorce reform will never pass, as long as women are voting.
@@hanslye122 Correct. This is just more of the 'wanting to both eat the cookie and keep it', that essentially defines them nowadays.
@@jackmcslay people get in huge amount of trouble when charged. Not everything get caught but that's how crime works.
Going after men for making a pass at woman makes all this worse.
Women struggling to date and find love is like losing on easy mode
And they did it to themselves, by being willfully oblivious to the fact that men are experts at cost/benefit analysis.
Basically by being willfully olivious about *everything* about men, since it is always about *her,* and *her* needs and wants.
@@Darkjuggernaut99 🤣🤣😂
LMAO precisely, women live without responsibility and accountability and it's come to bite em in the ass
Liberal areas have distorted all aspects of reality so can't always blame them for being losers either.
Hahaha
This is hilarious 😂. I met my husband in college and we didn't use any apps or whatever people use now. We looked in each other's eyes and started talking. We talked for 3 hours at a stretch and skipped a class in order to get to know each other. We spent countless hours in the months ahead getting to know each other emotionally before we progressed to physical things and it happened so naturally. No one asked questions or permissions. It just happened so naturally and it was great. Now we've been together for 14 years and been 100% faithful to each other and we are very happily married.
As a woman, I would love to have a channel like this where I can speak about such issues, but I wouldn't know where to start. There is so much to say. People today have forgotten basic human interactions and everyone is looking for instant gratification with minimal effort. All these social movements haven't helped people in the end. They have only hurt people and made them forget who we are. Everything has become so transactional as they said in the video. I am so glad I don't have to be part of the 'modern' dating scene.
Is he over 6 feet tall?
The secret to start is to just do it. People really need to hear stories like yours. Good content is when someone has something meaningful to say, which you do since so many people do not know how to achieve what you have. You can always upgrade to nice cameras and microphones later but you can really start with just your phone. Make a few videos about how your started, built, and maintained your healthy, happy, fulfilling relationship. The advice is surely needed
You figure it out, let me know, I'll happily help. Been with my husband for 16 years (and if being together 24/7 during lockdowns didn't cause a divorce or a murder charge, I'm comfortable saying we'll ride this out into the sunset one day), well, 16 married. 18 if you tack on dating, and feel like I am pounding my head against a brick wall when talking to other women. I refuse to believe I (and you I'm glad to hear) I got the last good one walking about in the wild. (and before HarryPearce tries to ask, in what I can only assume to be a slightly snarky tone, my husband is 4 inches ~shorter~ than I am. And to cover the basics - when we got married we lived in a house I personally cut/stacked/kept stocked, brought in, burned and cleaned out the ashes afterwards wood to heat with a woodstove because electric or gas heat was too expensive. Had weeks when meals were what I had squirreled in a pantry and dug change out of the car seats and took in soda cans for recycling to cover the cost of gas to work. No, I didn't marry a man with money/power/position. Just a ~good~ man. And if that sounds snippy, I've had too many twits suggest I married him for ease of life and security. We're on steady financial ground now, but up until a few years ago, we both were rowing this canoe pretty desperately. Together.)
@@Magpiebard so, big d and 8/10 face then
@@HarryPearce7 6 feet tall? Why? Is being 6 feet tall important for some reason? No my dear. I am Asian (as in the continent of Asia) and so is he. He is 5 feet, 7 inches or 5 feet 8 inches tall. Around there. So he is on the taller side here in Asia (depending on the country), but just average on a global scale.
I never cared about height and I rarely think about these kinds of things when thinking of a partner. What I care about is his intelligence, wisdom, humor, character, morals, ethics etc. Things like that. How we communicate and connect with each other. How loving and caring he is. Stuff like that.
Average women have been conditioned to think they deserve the giga chads and are above the average guy.
It's funny. The so-called "80/20" rule doesn't seem to exist outside social media.
It is not a conditioning, it is inherent behaviour. The better the woman's economic situation the more picky she will be at picking a mate. Hence the focus on good looking men in western countries. Besides numerous studies have found that women find 80% of men to be below average with regards to attraction. So yeah..
That's Internet dating, I'm not sure reality is quite as bad.
I’ve found that I can get really attractive women face to face but nothing on dating sites at all.
@@benjaminmee3751 Similar, I'm only 5'7" but I've never had that much trouble getting decent looking ladies. I'm 40 now though so perhaps it's generational 🤷♂️
litterally, if you want a guy, just show interrest in them. physically make it obvious that you want to get to know them. men don't need much to establish intterest in a woman, all we want is a caring woman who likes us.
Yep, guys are expected to initiate any date or relationship. So it's a quick way to catch a guys attention if you show interest first.
Women will flirt with men in order to get them to do things for them. It's still risky for the man if she appears to show interest. Trust is hard won and easily lost.
“Men would date a tree if it made the first move” I forget where I heard that from, but it’s true
Shoot how about a women who doesn’t hate us let alone like lol
they don't want a guy. they want a top percent guy. the type of guy that has options and could probably construct a harem if it was legal
it's going to take a lot more work to get the interest of that guy
I’m a very socially anxious, plain Jane looking woman, and somehow I managed to get a husband. Don’t know how I did it, but I’m very caring and affectionate, and I’m polite almost to a fault. I curtsy at people, and I’ve gotten looks for that, because I guess it’s gone out of style, but it has always been a reflex for me. I always try to look my best and put effort into my appearance, not because I want to trick people. I just want to look nice. Our marriage isn’t perfect, but we try to work on it. Most of the problems are my fault because my instinct is to withdraw and shut down when I’m feeling down. That’s a personal problem I need to work on. I think if most people would address their own issues rather than pointing fingers, they’d have better luck in love.
Same thing on my end. Thing is the majority of these videos (be them conservative or liberal) are usually here to pander to their audiences' ideals rather than actually provide advice to the gender in question. Makes for great entertainment though 😂
Congratulations on having a relationship.
Well, you sound like you don't have insane standards. That's basically all that women need in the 21st century in order to not be single.
@@lightworker2956 it goes both ways from my experience. Dudes in highschool avoided me like like I was a leper but yes, women tend to be more pickier in my experience.
May I ask how you met your SO? I'm a socially anxious woman as well, but still unmarried.
@@mariellelita We met through a mutual friend. My friend circle was rather small, and the three of us would go hiking, kayaking, and looking for reptiles together. My husband and I bonded over a shared love of snakes and other creepy crawlies.
ladies, in your dating profiles, make offers _not demands_
Whoa now... They are standards to be met. We wuz kweens
THIS!
So tired of women acting entitled in mate selection, especially when they're not much to offer.
What kind of offers?
@@jessruhl24
“Virgin”
“Christian”
“Desires children”
Just, y’know, the absolute basics.
I don’t care if she looks like the wicked witch of the west; as long as she checks all of the above boxes, I would have no qualms whatsoever marrying her.
Sargon, you don't need to be an expert in helping them get a man, just get rid of all the terrible *wrong* advice they get from Hollywood, Corporations, and *other* brainwashed older women, and you're already batting well above the average.
Thank You for Not Just Saying "Companies",
It's Annoying when People Don't Use the Correct Term
@lord barking I Don't Think they Tried or Needed to Brainwash, Boomers Seemed to have Done it Themselves Just Fine
@lord barking While the C.I.A. Certainly played an Extreme role in Modern Issues, they Didn't Cause the Boomers to Grow Up so Decadently, Believing that only We would Suffer, Not them
@lord barking You Think those Foundations or even People from the First Generation were At All Interested in Doing That.
@lord barking Then, How Come they Weren't Done Earlier? In Fact, Why is it Only when the Boomers were Around, did they Begin?
16 years in - 2 basic rules of thumb I have given all single friends when asked : 1# Don't date an asshole. Seriously - if you would hate the idea of your granny meeting them, nope. If they act like jerks around people they aren't obligated to be nice too, into the bin, try again. 2# (and this is the biggie) Don't BE an asshole. Or bitch. Pick term of choice. I go nuts about the whole 'demanding to be treated like a queen' thing (if you see a girl in a sparkly "Princess" shirt/jewelry/etc. RUN. I swear to god it turns out entitled nutters.) without any understanding of the back and forth requirements. I'm lucky, my guy does. Know why? I treat him like a king. Shock and awe. Does my husband pay for most things? Yup. And I take care of the house, him and making sure I can duck in front of him sometimes and say "what my husband MEANT to say was" and translate whatever abrupt borderline insulting he just used into a nicer version when dealing with difficult people. Also remember birthdays, weddings, baby names, etc. It's a straightforward job, but has kept him employed for years now.... lol (Also, one last bit of advice. If you EVER hear a man refer to himself as an Alpha.... dump them. Instantly. Run. Do not pass go. Do not bother to collect your $200. Bounce. Fast. You'll thank me. Guys, same deal. She starts talking about herself like she is the freaking second coming, bolt.)
Oh, so I am not the only wife who has had to translate my husband to calm down a tense situation? Lol.
Let me know if I miss the mark with this one...
Men who are obsessed with maintaining a muscle cat are the male equivalent of women who own horses but do not live/work on a farm.
If they own either but live in a cheap apartment..run... don't walk.
@@shelbysycamore637 Muscle cats aren't easy to come by....
@@theaccordian9377 nah, just find a cat that did a stint in the pound for about 2 years. It would have have no time to lounge round. He would be ripped and ready to go when you adopt him.
If a woman can't get man you have one of two problems 1) your standards are unrealisticly high for where you fit in the pecking order 2) take care of yourself. Women make dating hard on themselves
100%. Sadly hypergamy + dating apps = disaster for women if they want a relationship. They want the best they can get so they keep 'upgrading' until they're with a guy who's out of their league and then he dumps / ghosts her and she inevitably decides that it's men that are the problem. "Do better men!" Any relationship is always a few swipes or a DM away from a fling with a more desirable man who absolutely will not stick around.
being a young woman in today's society is like playing a computer game on the easiest setting and you keep getting killed at the first obstacle.
@@impudentdomain As funny as that is, women do need to learn how to take care of themselves / market themselves as a dating partner. Though modern women's movements have brainwashed so many to accept instead of improve themselves.
To be honest, if you look around you will notice a lot more women than men who are well groomed, in shape and better looking. Also, a lot of attractive men do not like to settle, that is another problem. I do agree high maintenance women should lower their standards though.
@@Mr_Jombles I ghost women to keep their egos down. I lift for me, not them.
As Jim Davidson said when asked if he'd get married again. .... No I'll just find a woman I don't like and buy her a house"
For starters: Have divorce laws changed? Have family courts changed? Well, fight for changing them.
You go girl!
In the meantime: good man will GTOW.
Absolutely
not just the good, the average, the below-average and the "disposable" men too (40% is the number that comes to mind but I could be mistaken).
plenty of people in relationships but I know maybe 20% who have been in relationships that lasted longer than 5 years.
A relationship isn't a prize or a fix-all it's a lifetime of hard work and honest negotiation, the prize is the connection forged between two people (and their offspring).
they're trying their best to label MGTOW a terrorist group. pathetic feminists and CIA stooges.
Yes, that’s what it comes down to.
You can be absolutely faultless while at the same time, she can sleep with Chad on your couch in front of your kids and still get half your stuff and make you an indentured servant to her with alimony and child support.
Evil, anti-man Family court judges have destroyed marriage and childbearing and the west.
We should give them all the “credit” they deserve.
@@IamDoogy lol, tell me you’ve never been in a relationship without telling me (or certainly it’s been a loooong while).
Don't date a feminist, it's hard work and not worth the effort.
Thank you. I shall take to heart your wise advice on not f*cking rabid porcupines.
@@harbl99 Maybe you should date a feminist, it sounds like you enjoy conflicts and aggression.
I second this statement
Well ideally, a man shouldn't expect sex on a first date, but when 9/10 women on dating apps will give it for a free dinner, and you're the 1/10, you shouldn't be surprised. Supply and demand.
and if a "7" wont give it up to Chad on the first date, he has no problem going with a "5" for an easy quick dump...
and then after that the "5" thinks her future husband should be Chad-level
I can't speak for that guy, but maybe he meant long term and not just short term... Although that phrasing does make me assume he meant short term... Still, the more women expecting to just take advantage of men, the more likely that men will get fed up with getting played.
@@KitsyX dating is messed up these days, and I'll be the first to admit I'm not exactly the highest quality single man on the dating market, I'm 37 and made a lot of mistakes in my 20s that put me in less than the best financial category. But I've worked hard and gotten my shit (relatively) together. And I'm not asking for the perfect woman either. But single women my age have unrealistic expectations. There's problems all across the board, in so many ways. Feminism broke western culture.
If a woman I'm interested in gave herself up to me on the first date, I wouldn't be interested anymore. That's not marriage material.
@@markzuckergecko621 I don't want to have to *COMPETE* with a woman who I'm trying to have a relationship with...
A female relative explained to me that she is addicted to feedback and interactions on tinder. Even when she meets and dates a nice guy, she can’t help seeing if there is other guys ‘chasing’ her. It’s like a drug.
I nearly signed up to Tinder but never did.
Getting married was the best decision I've ever made. Been married for almost 10 years. We have a home and we will start trying for kids soon. I couldn't imagine life without my husband, and I pity women my age (approaching 30) who are not even dating anyone. They must be lonely. They've been lied to their entire lives by feminist BS.
Mind control exposed!
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Having a partner doesn't always get rid of lonliness.
Congrats on your your success. Not many women out there like you anymore. I think we are going to see a sharp decline in population growth in the upcoming years.
@LilyB I was going through school and was not sure about having kids yet. We just decided to wait. Is just personal decisions.
@LilyB Okay. I'm happy that some women are happy being single. Except many of them seem to be bitter and unhappy about it.
Callum looks so uncomfortable with this topic.
Carl -"Can you imagine saying this to a woman"
Callum- "Whats a woman?"
The author described finding a man as "inevitable," which I think is a huge mistake. It's not. Young people need to, firstly, go outside and meet people; secondly, adjust their expectations according to their situation and self. Women in particular need to resist the temptation of hookup culture that will inflate their ego short-term and ruin their long-term marriage prospects.
Some lady: "where are all the good men gone?
Same lady: "Eww no, I don't date anyone under 6 feet, makes less than 100k, or precisely matches my long list of entirely changeable minor personal traits."
Men: "The day you find all of that you might want to buy a lottery ticket. The odds are better."
Typical 39ners.
We're all playing Call Of Duty, shit talking each other and having a great time.
@@neat3468
That is the other half the problem, and porn.
And just like the lottery everyone will want a piece of that prize, especially your friends.
@@jayt9608 why's it a problem? If the guy is enjoying his Call of Duty, has a decent job. that's all fine.
Porn I know can be one.
As a man in his late 40's now, having lost my wife to cancer recently, this does not bode well for meeting a new woman and going on dates again....but holy hell, sounds to me like lots of young woman have had their heads filled with nonsense for the last 20 years.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Condolences man.
If you are a sucessful home owner, with a nice car, a good income and are reasonably presentable you will be fighting off the single mothers and the wall hitting carousel riders with a pointed stick. Be very careful or you could lose it all.
Sorry for your loss bro. Be very careful out there, it's f-ing nuts.
My condolences for your loss. Godspeed to your endeavors.
A simple way to think about it is that, like how women will 'friend zone' guys that aren't romantic prospects, many of us men will 'sex zone' girls. Once many of us realizes a girl gives it up easy and early, either from our own experience or what other men say, she's off the table for anything long term, whether we're one of the men who sleep around or not.
Nothing so easily won is seen with value.
Exactly. No self-respect. No sense of value. And utterly depraved, seeking nothing more than sexual gratification.
If she’ll give it up for you, she’ll give it up for anyone.
That is NOT wife material. Definitely not someone I’d want raising children, let alone _my_ children.
I would just like to play devil's advocate for the guy who wouldn't pay. I imagine it's possible that he has been on several dates where he did pay, and never heard from her again. It happens, and I think a lot of men have become jaded by it.
Why should a man pay for a woman? Arent Women independent and strong?
@@shogunofharlem8240 she should only have to pay for 77% of the food she eat.
@@shogunofharlem8240 Sho 'nuff!
He who asks, pays.
@@rationalbacon5872 BS - because women never ask. For this exact reason. Nonsense argument
You mentioned some good points but there are several more that women need to understand, stop treating men like walking wallets and not behave like Megan Markle being in a relationship with someone just to tie you over and then leaving that partner when a better offer comes along
I recently heard a woman refer to a man as a "starter husband".
I witnessed a hilariously fat 19 yr old girl just throw a tantrum because her bf was mad that she wanted to go out with her friends rather than him. Her exact words - "I effing hate it when men try to have authority over me."
You're grosss. You should be happy that anyone wants you. But no.
@@nucleargrizzly1776
Thats f’d up
Saying to women don't treat men like walking wallets is like saying to men don't treat women like hoes. Why would either sex want to date anybody like that. Yes there are horrible people of both sexes.
@@julietessam2999 no, what's said is that women ONLY treat men like wallets, or like planned entertainment. There's no point in treating the modern woman any other way than as a sex object, and you've all done it to yourselves. Fix it.
Your grandmother: I need a man who can take care of me and be a father.
Modern women: I need a man who is 6 feet tall, makes 6 figures, and has 6 pack.
And not forgetting he has to have a good sense of humour...
@@rewdwarf123 plus smart, loyal & dependable (though the reality clearly states otherwise in terms of the womens behavior).
Underrated comment
and know how to cook.
I'm 6'3" tall,and still single, you get me now? , missing six figures I guess 😮.
I just wanna say that, as a man, I feel inclined to not treat women with a high body count as precious, leading me to not really bat an eye about that article with the guy refusing to pay
It feels like its a very safe assumption to make that most women you meet are hoes, unless you have been given reasons to believe otherwise
Call it a black pill, but men glorifying women without good reason is probably one of the least self respecting things i can think about.
Make your attention a privilege most people arent worthy of
Some men are just a blowjob away from selling out on their pride, selfrespect, and dignity.
and the ones that aren't hoes have astronomically high standards...
Always remember; if a girl will sleep with you, that means she sleeps with guys like you...
I think growing up with women cuts a lot of that "glorification" out. I grew up with a brother, so our family was three dudes (including my dad, haha) and my mom, so for me, it was like mom, grandma, aunties... ok, those women, and then these angelic creatures that I wanted to be near,, so I would say I held them on a pedestal like as a class or category, haha. Now, I have lived for years predominantly surrounded by women (wife, daughter, niece, and their friends, my in-laws, etc.), and NO glorification now, haha. Had I known then what I know now!
Catch someone before they damage themselves, I found my husband on my first day of uni, and our total "body count" was 3... at the age of 20 Edit: my mother taught me shame and the damage of being a slut
I hear you brother, and more and more brothers are...
A woman who has never dated can only have the excuse of being shy.
If a woman actively tries to date, and can't find a match, then there's some serious problem with her.
She probably feels entitled to a guy that can do much much better than her.
@@nucleargrizzly1776 maybe she's a bit like a crypto buyer, only thinks it'll ever go up, and holds on until it crashes (the wall).
yah there's obviously some major detail missing from that first Article!
@@iller3 400 matches, no dates.
A man would be lucky to get 400 matches in his life.
There is a shortage of average looking women. They are mostly obese with a very small minority who are too obsessed with their looks.
“25yo female. I’m mousy, insecure, demanding, and have unrealistic expectations for how I deserve to be treated. Only men over 6ft with a good income need apply.”
Specific heights are silly, but if a young woman is looking for someone to settle down and raise a family with, isn't it just wise of her to weed out Dylan who works at Sonic twenty hours a week in favor of a dude with a steady income that can actually provide for their future family? If she's bringing the homemaking, then he can bring the bacon.
@@tayh.6235 some men aren’t looking for a homemaker. I cook & clean for myself. I just want someone who I’d rather be with than not be with.
Which is usually way too much to ask.
@@MikeInOregon that's fair, but then it seems like your criteria and hers just don't overlap. And that's okay
Thing is, I'm 6ft 3 with a decent income and I've been single for nearly 4 years now... I dont find many modern women relatable so I choose to just stay on my own.
@@GargantuanD Same here. My mom taught me to cook & clean so I don’t need domestic help.
So that narrows it down to women who are witty, interesting, and don’t get mad when you don’t need anything from them to function.
Woman: "Are you an incel?"
Man: "That's up to you!"
I like the t'shirt based on the Intel logo, 'Incel Inside' ! ;)
@@williamrae9954 hahaha lol
'Pay my bill?'
'Eat my ass?'
@@williamrae9954 Fuck that busted my gut 🤣
@@StarboyXL9 and op may get to bust his...
I'm actively dating although I'm not looking for anything serious.
You won't believe how Many times the women I've met have randomly exploded into rants about the patriarchy...
Fuck that shit I'm out.
Seriously. So sick of women who expect me to put up with their crazy/entitlements just for sex.
Slightly better than ranting about their ex-boyfriends, I guess.
I can relate to that but not with dating. I'm a girl and I just want to make friends at uni, but almost all the girls (because most psychology students are girls) are sjw's and feminists. As soon as someone starts talking about 'lived experience' I tap out lol
@@rewdwarf123
Only slightly, though.
that first article: "before I inevitably end up falling in love one day." ... there's nothing inevitable about it, young folks better get out and search for what they want to find
Finding a person you can live with and building love with them is much more reliable than waiting to just fall in love
Im looking for a White woman in America who is based and redpilled and wants to start a family. Who also doesn't wear masks or get the clot shot. So basically, Im looking for a unicorn that loads of other men are looking for. And some, I imagine, are more attractive than me.
@@stupendous7848 increasing your field to include Latinas and asians might help
I'd wish to find me a woman, but I don't even know where you go to find people, outside of pubs and clubs
@@miniondaechir Being realistic is very hard due to Gynocentric society telling them they are amazing due to Vagine.
I’m a below average 28 year old guy and have never been in a relationship and I’m not sure I’ll ever be in one. Every girl I’ve ever had any interest in just goes “ew no gross” do whatever. I feel like with all of the media in the world I have a somewhat general understanding of relationships and sex.
Get out of the city
Crack one off and get on with your day. 😋
go to the gym a muscular body should be the order of the day,looks are secondary to women if you have a great bod
I'm not saying this all applies to you but, here is some tips.
Dont be fat, obviously.
Do mewing.
Put minoxidil on your face to grow a beard. And use and micro needle roller.
If you are balding cut it all off.
Confidence cannot be faked, so the whole 'just be yourself' thing is legit, just be authentically the kind of person you are/are striving to be.
Do not ever cum or masterbait. EVER.
If you're insecure about your dick size, you can do what's called 'hanging', you put weight on your dick to stretch the suspensiory ligament which allows more of the penis to be outside the body when erect.
And most importantly, NEVER CHASE A WOMAN. If she likes you, she will follow you. And do not make a move until she directly asks you to fuck her.
Also try out some psychedelics, free yourself. Get to know God. Life sucks, but it really doesnt have to suck that bad.
👍good luck brother.
@@Blobby192 I was going to say this too. We can’t do anything about not having a handsome face, but we can reshape our bodies and that goes a long way. Clothing and hygiene too.
I love how liberal women are starting to act conservative without even realizing it
"We've fought so hard to destroy the family and the oppression of housewives! Why won't no one make me their wife and build a family with me?"
Here we go again. Learn the hard way. Fuck it. See y'all that don't punch out early in about 20 years or so.
Spot on
And our forefathers gave these creatures the vote. Jesus wept.
@@thehammer9599
West is closing down so to speak
20 years? Such an optimist!
20, eh…
The bastards who did this to us will be lucky if I don’t go postal in 2.
As a father of two teenage daughters, the new ‘fad’ is that they all think they will be ‘stay at home’ mums. When I point out that as times become harder these ‘roles’ will be highly sought after and that they can’t cook, clean, make pastry, preserves etc.
They are devoid of the basic skills required and certainly repulsed by the thought of “serving their man”.
They have nothing to offer but their looks and genitalia in exchange your resources, time and sanity.
Good luck selling that package ladies.
Actually, it at least sounds like it's one tiny step in the right direction. They must be getting an alternative Narrative from somewhere, although at this point not societal changing.
About 15 years ago I had a relationship with a woman that wanted to be a stay at home mom. Great. But she refused to cook or clean and said that if we got married I would also have to hire a house keeper and nanny.
A few years ago I saw her at a bus stop with two kids.
But I do have a house keeper. 😁😁😁
I didn't learn to cook until I was 16. There is still hope.
@@nucleargrizzly1776
So like every wealthy woman in the 1800s
I am a stay at home mom and I don’t make pastry or preserves. Those are admirable skills but not necessary. Cooking takes practice, make them make you dinner and clean up after themselves. At that age, I was also horrified by being a “submissive” wife. It takes time and experience to understand that it’s a give and take between husband and wife. My husband works and provides, I care for and nurture our family. They should probably learn to be good with kids too. Kinda critical.
If we want to be completely 100 about taking sex "off the table", many men(like myself) don't want to be with a women who has ever been loose with sex in the first place.
In a world where convenience is the ultimate goal relationships don’t really fit in.
...and self fulfillment is a right. You believe in that crap, then a relationship is equivalent to slavery.
Errr.... It's more convenient to go on dates than to just stick with one person?!
@@reekinronald6776 is it not slavery if you have no authority of your household. like no she should be equal under your roof unless she bought it fully. i hate this obsession with equality. it's highly unnatural and destructive but then simply means no relationship until society fundamentally changes to a mild patriarchy. and as a young guy i will wait. good luck to all the older men and older women.
@@FazeParticles
She has compete authority because she has the full muscle of the government to back her up under any situation.
@@reekinronald6776 so how do we remove her muscle from this equation? i assume that means armed rebellion which i'm fine with but obviously we have to try every single peaceful method first. i agree with your assessment.
I'm 42, I was attractive enough to date throughout my teens and 20's but I am absolutely certain that if I had been born in '99 vs '79, I'd be an incel right now.
When they first came out, people laughed at me for using dating apps. Now, I laugh at them for continuing to.
It’s pretty easy ladies..
(1) Be Fit; go to the gym; eat in moderation.
(2) Be Feminine; Sun Dresses are a thing.
(3) Be Fun; be willing to try things that he’s interested in; even if you think it’s dumb or lame.
(4) focus on characteristics that lead to a successful relationship and NOT on game and money that he will provide you. How does he treat others? What’s his relationship like with his family? How does he treat the waitress?
(5) Men don’t care about your job or how much money you make. It’s irrelevant to raising of future children. If you work great, mange your finances/be frugal; if he’s going to work and you stay home; you become CEO of the house. Cut coupons, be frugal, don’t waste money on stupid things.
You do the above; you’ll have an above average successful marriage.
Are you from the 50s lol
All I saw when I read this is "must be 6ft+, earn 6 figures, drive a nice car" you may have different requirements but your standards are no different
@@run2cat4run nope; just a successful married older Millennial man with two kids. How’s your love life working out for you? Stocking up on cat food deals at Costco are we ?
@@mikehunt4265 the above is all within a woman’s control; height for a man is not. Women need standards to hold men to, but it has to be standards that don’t just revolve around money and status.
I've been in 2 relationships and the 1st fell apart because she failed at 4) and 5) and the 2nd one because of 2) and 3). I just wouldn't be in a relationship at all if they failed at 1)
For women, finding a good man is like when you try to find something to watch on Netflix but you can't find anything to watch, even with the huge selection including many good films on there that you've already watched, or in this woman's case, banged.
She's a virgin.
Damned spicy.
Whereas for men, finding a good woman who won't instantly take a dislike and reject them is like trying to find something to watch on Netflix after they've filed for bankruptcy and shut down operations.
1:37 - Carl, that's no shortage of average looking man. That's oversupply of female entitlement, if anything...
Her profile: I'm 32, 3 kids by 3 different dads, 45kgs overweight. Looking for 6'6", 6 figure income and 6 pack guy to take care of my kids and me.
Also her: Why am I single?! _How can men keep getting away with this?!_
WE CANT KEEP GETTING AWAY WITH IT!!! 🤣 🤣 🤣
So. Fucking. Accurate.
she should just accept being a concubine for a very rich attractive man. if not then she can suffer for the rest of her life.
These girls live in a "creative modus" server where non of her actions bare consequenses. yet at the same time they think they can blame other players in "veteran" servers for their own "creative" actions.
In other words: women can't be taken serious anymore.
Young women: I can't find a man to marry
Young men: I can't get a date
I would rather take a foreign woman as a bride than go through another miserable relationship with an empowered western woman. Dating in the west has become so bad it's best to just stay single.
I was dating an African woman, then she got a job in my country with white female colleagues, they turned her into a brat
then western women will teach her about western 50% and alimony.
I've saw this happened.
9 years I’m single, gave up aged 39, had enough of being used and abused and when relationships ended I was heavily out of pocket and had nothing to show for it. Well I’m no rich man but I’ve had no drama for 9 years and it’s been fantastic, I got a few German Shepherds that I get to enjoy without a headache 🤣
The problem with this is that it only aids White genocide.
Don't kid yourself, son, women are like that everywhere.
Women made dating transactional. For too long men have held traditional roles in dating while women have not and still expect men to be traditional. So no sex? Split the bill.
It was always transactional.. All love is transactional. The terms have simply changed drastically so men have nothing to gain and evetything at risk.
This is a really good point, Women expect men to be completely traditional, romance, good earner, stable and responsible, but at the same time have decided that they should not be traditional and owe nothing to a relationship.
@@kingcosworth2643 lot of women believe it’s the man’s role to be the provider of the home and her yet raising kids and managing the home is a sexist role for women and should go away. When men ask what do women bring to the table they usually have no answer cause they think just being at the table is enough
About a year ago I finally worked up the courage to ask out a girl on my recreation softball team. She told me no, she already had a boyfriend, and we should just be friends. I took it in stride, but began to have my doubts when she never mentioned her boyfriend when we needed people to sub in, and she never posted any pics on social media with a guy. Found out later she never had a boyfriend. If she had just said no thanks, I could have handled that fine, but the fact she felt like she needed to lie to me made it sting a lot more and only added onto my growing distrust of women.
Could be she was testing you,still think she should have said so directly
Should have said, 'Can I meet him? We could become friends.'
Well, she did you a favor. Getting involved with someone like that would only be trouble.
What would help women is lowering their standards. Not every men get to be 6 feet tall and above, and it's nothing we can do about it, unlike weight. Which is something everyone can work on. An attitude check would also be a massive help, nobody wants to date an entitled, egotistical and disrespectful woman.
Lowering their standards won't help. They'll still not really be attracted to shorter men, which means they'll be cheating.
@@JohnSmith-wx9wj disagree, height requirements are so arbitrary they might not initially be as attracted to them, but they could grow to love their personality, or discover the guy has a massive schlong. There's no excuse for cheating, if she cheats she isn't committed to having a relationship period.
@PGH Engineer They're not marrying, though. If they do, they resent their husbands.
@PGH Engineer That's low compared to the past, and it is trending lower. It's also not taking into account sexless marriages.
Men should just demand women be 5'2 and shorter. Would make things ....interesting.
If a woman who has been loose in her past suddenly decides that she needs a relationship from me to give it up, I’ll just laugh and walk away. Once they have enjoyed their hot girl summers and carrousel rides, there is no turning back.
You can't turn a hoe into a housewife
Yep. No hymen no diamond
@@StarboyXL9 LMAO, good luck with that one! They'll only be growing attractive virgin women in test-tubes way in the future. You'' be dead by then
@@StarboyXL9 They hate that phrase because it means they have to be responsible! (Australian media had an online $hit-fit over it).
@@tigereyewong9757
Cope, seethe, and mald.
Mine that salt, boys!
When I was in high-school I took a shop class because I already knew how to cook and do housework and didn't need anymore home ec classes. Once I got in trouble for talking in class with a boy who also got in trouble. The shop teacher's punishment was always push-ups. He asked me if I was a feminist. I wasn't sure what that meant and said no. As a girl I was permitted to do push-ups at a desk while standing. The boy had to hit the floor. I remember thinking I'm glad I answered with a puzzled no instead of yes. Feminists had to hit the floor. Silly story but yes I'm an old school feminists. I still believe men and women are very different. I still believe in gentlemen and ladylike behaviors. But yes as far as government goes all people should be treated equally. Sex has no place in work professional behavior by superiors or employers. But there are jobs women shouldn't do and jobs men shouldn't do. We are obviously very different biologically. People need to accept reality and treat people with equal respect.
> I'm an old school feminist
which one, the one that wants to reduce males to 10% of human population, the fish bicycle feminist, the feminist that shames men into throwing themselves into the meatgrinder of war, or the one that insists women have to get into politics because men are too dumb and brutish?
its even more dangerous than that authorities some times admit difrenses but feek women are still entiteled to position
I feel entittled to say tat youre wrong. your grown woman is not the same as me 20 year old guy. not sure why you have to call yourself a feminist. i think youre repulsive for doing so. you should have been punished for being a feminst. because i think you would punish a man that were to be sexist and youd humiliate him. woman i thihnk are definitely inherently narccisitic. you avoided doing more pushups? And allowed the boy to do more than you? Wouldnt that be sexist by your feminazi standards? I treat you the same as any feminist because really youre all the same. theres no good feminist. youre all evil. because you all call men incels which you dont agree with. and you spew the nonsense out of males and females being equal. i thought for how old you are you would realize that its false we are not equal and its been a lie since the start we are literally not equal this isnt a matter of opinion. since you decided not to do more pushups there it is unequal. because you decided to do less push ups for being female and the boy did more for being male thus not equal. your narccicism is very obvious at least fix that so i dont have to be angry at feminists as you are.
Go read Simone debouviers book "the second sex", or watch the book review Carl and Connor did on it. Then come back and tell us your a feminist. As your description of your self isn't that of a feminist.
@@chadcadsonvii5258 there is a difference between feminist and militant feminist activist. The main difference : feminists don't discriminate and tell people they don't fit their personal ideology. Militant feminists well they just hate everyone.
As a man who is nearly 30 years old, I have never been in a relationship. At this point, the family court system is so screwed up that it's just not worth it anymore.
In the US, in "no fault divorce" states, a lot of the time the guy gives up half his stuff and when it could have easily been the girl's fault.
Same but women just don’t want me
Unfortunately this is just cope. Having a family is absolutely worth it and I’m not going to pretend otherwise to make you feel better. Tough love my friend.
I'm almost 30 and I feel the same way as you do. I don't want to get screwed over by the court system and that's the main reason why I choose to remain single throughout the rest of my life.
I am 31 khhv. Honestly blaming it on the system is a second order cope. It is absolutely true, of course, and definitely a factor, but the primary reason for my situation is that I am just not attractive and women don't have a incentive to care about me.
Wtf......how is this even possible? By the time I was 30 I had dated like 20 women.....
I think and I might be wrong about it, one of the better ways to go about dating for women would be
- don't be an entitled, insufferable, "i scream my abortions", "I am always right, now shut up, man" feminist (solves 90% of the problems)
- don't sleep with a guy on the first, second, third date BUT show him that you are actually interested in him (conversation, eye contact, body language), not saying it is an easy line to balance
Also some things to consider
- it would be great if you share the same values when it comes to kids (having and raising them) if you plan to go there
- you might not get the best looking guy in town
- with the current laws, you might not get a wedding (the eternal girlfriend) or will have to sign one/several prenups. That kind of romance is dead and lawyers love it
And for men
- keep in shape
- get a decent job
- dont wet your noodle in every pot in town that will have you
I find myself in a similar situation as the first lady. I know this isn’t the place to share one’s life story but this is the first time I’m seeing a story similar to mine being discussed. Sorry this is gonna be a long read. English is my second language so please forgive me if I make any mistakes.
My current situation is as follows: I am now 26 and I am in a continuous search for my future husband. I work as a high school teacher for engineering graphics and design (and no I am not like one of those crazy woke blue haired grooming lunatics that we have recently seen in America). I have paid off all my student loan dept and bought myself a car. I unfortunately, like a lot of people my age, can not afford my own house at the moment but I’m saving for a piece of property at least. I am currently living in a apartment in the schools’ girls hostel where I do “supervising duty” once a week which gives me an extra allowance to cancel out my rent.
I didn’t date anyone in high school. I also didn’t date during university. I wasn’t into the whole party lifestyle that most people had at university as I could barely afford to study and couldn’t justify spending money on going out like the others did. I focused very hard on my studies and it paid off in the end and I am proud of how I built myself up.
I did however get my first kiss during my final year from a guy who forced himself on me so that really wasn’t the experience that I hoped it would be.
When I moved away from university to my current job, I did start going out more with the friends I made in the new town.
I have to add now that I am an introvert and did make a point of it to try and get more out of my shell and comfort zone. I am also Christian and unlike many others of my faith I am making a effort to save myself for marriage or at least a very serious and committed relationship, I don’t think it would have been emphasised so much in the Bible if it wasn’t important to do so. I am not claiming to be better than anyone but most people who say they are Christian in my town do ignore this and are very promiscuous.
I have gone on a few dates over the last couple of years an d they did not lead to anything serious. I just didn’t match with the guys and that’s fine. I did also make out with a guy I met at a party. He wanted to take it further than that but I wasn’t having it, because I am not going to sleep with some guy that I barely know. I do regret making out with him because he is still trying for a “booty call”. Which proves Carl’s point about being too easy. I gave an inch and the guy wants the whole mile.
I don’t think that my expectations are too outrageous either but I may be wrong about that, you can leave I comment to let me know.
Of course obviously I want someone who has similar interests to mine. That is why my previous relationships didn’t go far. I tried to engage with their interests but I didn’t receive the same engagement in return.
A guy that has good manners will always have me weak at the knees. They are unfortunately in very short supply.
Physically I am not bothered about having some Adonis. I think that I am quite average and know that I should stay in my lane and not try and go for someone that is clearly out of my league. (A friend of mine did try to do this and I knew that it wouldn’t work, but I didn’t know how to tell her that and she got her heart broken.) I prefer guys with dark eyes and dark hair but it’s not a deal breaker to have something different I just find that more attractive. I would prefer someone who is not overweight as I keep myself in shape and would like a guy who does the same.
I also love a good dry sense of humour.
One of the most important things for me is someone who is practical and good at building and repairing things. I am quite practical myself but I’m not very strong which limits me in the things that I can do by myself. So I am looking for someone who I can work with on projects.
I am also not really bothered with having a very wealthy guy. If he would like both of us to work in the relationship then I would want someone with a similar income to mine. If he would like to be the sole provider then he is realistically definitely gonna have to earn more than what I am currently earning. I would like to have kids and would also prefer to raise them myself rather than sending them to a daycare and be raised by someone else.
I think one of my negative attributes that is hindering my relationships is that I might be a bit too independent. I am an only child and had to care for myself most of the time, which leads me to wanting to do everything myself and not letting others in or accepting help when it is offered.
All in all I don’t regret not sleeping around in my earlier life when the opportunities presented themselves. After listening to all my friends who have done and still do it, they always brag about their encounters and plan their next conquests with much excitement. Yet they are all on antidepressants and are quite unhappy most of the time (I know that is part of the depression but I am starting to see a link between what they choose to do and what they experience afterwards). While I might not have as much experience in life as them I am content with myself. The only thing that has me negative is that the dating pool doesn’t seem to offer what I am looking for and I don’t know where to go looking for that right guy. And unfortunately my biological clock isn’t going to wait forever but I don’t see how I can be happy if I lower my standards.
Anyway sorry for typing up this long winded novel of a comment but I felt like I needed to get it off my chest.
I guess youtube comment section can't be worse than tinder, if you are trying to find someone. I'm 31 guy, never had a relationship, probably never will. That is a reality a lot of men will have to come to terms with in one way or the other
Not going to give you any advice, as I have no right to, but I do want to share my empathy with you. 24 yo female here in a similar situation. In the comments I havent really found a lot of useful advice tbh, and even the video was more aimed at feminist women. So other than lower your standards, dont have sex bf marriage, dont be a crazy feminist and stop stealing mens money when divorcing its a bit dry out there😅They kinda forget that the ladies watching this video are very likely doing non of that to begin with but oh well... Just know you're not alone! Hope you find yourself a good husband soon🥰
Don't worry so much. 25 these days isn't over the hill and plenty of females meet their man and get married around 30. As a man I'd say you seem like marriageable material and the only question I have is why you are in rebellion against the archetype of a good marriage - you know, the version that was tried and tested over thousands of years? You have something: your career, your independence and your singlehood. Marriage requires you give them up. Yes. And completely. A good man is not a simp: he is a leader and while you can continue your interests don't expect the protector and provider to be interested in them: it's your role to be interested in and support his. And what do you want more: your standard of lifestyle or a loving home with a hard-working man and healthy children? A good woman needs to submit to her husband's will and find fulfillment in supporting his trajectory - she'll then find everything she needed and hoped for because he will have found his fate: to lose himself in his family.
Germany/Netherlands based on your name?
@@ajsouza3720 South Africa actually
As a man that has bin used for free meals or dined and dashed on multiple times i will NEVER pay for all of the first few dates
If you're taking a woman to a restaurant date on the first few dates, you're doing it wrong.
If that's how you start the relationship that's how she'll expect it to continue.
See if she wants to spend time with you and not take Instagram pictures of her food you bought her.
@@HaggisMuncher-69-420 i dont take them on restaurant dates. 1 drink or more if it gose well. SSM has taught me well
@@diex40 Fuck drinks, son, use your brain, it's there for a reason: take a girl for a walk in the park/woods, hell, a hike. IF she's looking forward to it and comes, and enjoys it and can't wait to do it again, then you have something to build on, if not, then you've lost nothing of value. For fuck's sake, how is this so hard for so many of you?
So in my experience I've had confusion on this one.
I prefer to pay for myself(and do unless he's already paid while I wasn't looking,it happened a couple of times and I offered to pay for the next)
I've had male friends tell me men don't like it and to let them pay, I had one guy actually yell at me for buying my own coffee on the first date and had others who looked uncomfortable when I paid for myself so I asked the men I know how men feel about this. Can I ask is it something that does bother men or imply that I'm not interested (I've been told it does) ? I live in England so I guess the question is only about men there. There are so many mixed views on this one.
Im in the US and in my experience most men who would get mad at you for paying would be blue pill men who believe in the Disney bs about relationships or old school men who think its the mans responsibility to take care of everything for wemon. If you payed like that with me i would be much more interested in you. Look up ssm( strong successful male) he gives good advice.
Step 1. Don't be a slag
Step 2. Don't be a slag
Step 3. Don't have " work " done.
Bolt ons are acceptable, but bum implants and lip injections are right out.
Have you ever considered not all women are slags ?
Plastic surgery is always a bad idea.
I'm okay with breast augmentation, but that's just my thing.
Whats a slag
Her dreams are really driving home a certain thing I've read. "The world you grew up in no longer exists."
I got married at 21, my husband and I were on an aviation course together sitting next to eachother, it took over 2 months of flirting and teasing eachother almost daily to even get to our first kiss and I cherish that time so much
Based.
As it should be, instead of hookup culture.
Only "first" world women need advice on how to get men 😂 It's not hard, you TALK to them, ask things, see if common topics show up, and go from that.
Basically lmao. Most single men would kill to have women approach them on their own.
And do things for them. Which is the obvious problem
@@miniondaechir If only rejection wasnt a thing haha
I gotta defend the guy not paying for dates if it doesn't lead anywhere. There are only so many free meals you are willing to pay for before you start expecting at least a modicum of reward or interest back, often times these women looking for a meal aren't even entertaining dates.
Her being on Tinder tells us all we need to know.
Triple digits monkey back flips on that carousel for life!
And a healthy dose of Superhyper Gonasyphilaids .
Carl and Callum: Certified licensed Biologists.
Just say "Carllum."
It saves time. 👍🏼
@@MushmouthJoe that is inviting a monstrosity in the form of weirdos called 'shippers'.
@@ArgentWolf95 You brought it up
@@WideMouth They usually mix the two names, was just pointing out that it'sa not a good idea, especially with real people.
@@ArgentWolf95 Yeah, I know. I was just making a joke haha
"Never been kissed"
"400 Tinder matches"
YOU'RE the problem. And let's start with your standards, which are probably insane.
Benjamin, you're being too kind to the girls in this. They aren't giving it up for all the men they date around. As you said they only see the top 25% of men as even average because of an over inflation of their dating market value. This isn't a most men thing this is a most girls thing.
Except the expectations of many men are just as warped as women's. You have to be able to accept your failings if you want to overcome them and preaching from on your high horse ain't going to convince any woman that she's wrong.
@@josephahner3031 Like?🤔
@@josephahner3031 like what? Just wanting her to genuinely like us and appreciate us.
Nah, it's both. Most people are pretty trashy and it's hard for a grounded person to find another good person, man or woman