[FULL STORY] Aita for Refusing to Give My Restaurant Savings to My Sister and Getting Kicked Out?
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- Опубліковано 22 чер 2024
- Aita for Refusing to Give My Restaurant Savings to My Sister and Getting Kicked Out?
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She is your parents child she is their responsibility to pay for not yours she's not your kid you didn't sleep with someone and have a baby so it's not your job to take care of her
Are the parents or relatives who agree with the parents going to hand over their savings or take out a 2nd mortgage for OP sister? No. Only OP is supposed to sacrifice for the sister, no one else.
That's what I said
@@jdavis7613it's not up to the sibling to do what the parents fail to do
The way they were mad the op said she should work when he saved from countless jobs
Bc Op sister is golden child.
If she was so smart, couldn’t she just get a scholarship?
EXACTLY
I’m pretty sure she got one in the story
@@snickerdog65hume27 exactly, and most scolarships are never enough to pay everything (sometimes not even a fraction) of the tuition in an Ivy League
@@hhappiness true, my friend rn is trying to get a scholarship by having an ATAR of 96 (Aussie percentile measurement from highschool) and it pays a reasonable amount, but not nearly the full price of going there
The sheer lack of self awareness and maturity to call someone else selfish while asking them to give you all of their money is genuinely crazy. Im not saying that’s absurd, I’m saying that is literally speaking, crazy. As in there is something wrong with their brains.
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Your money is your money and your the only one that decides what you do with it. Your family is just acting entitled
That money was saved for your future, not hers. They didn't give you money for your education, why should you give up your future for hers?
Sometimes when the scapegoat of the family is no longer around to be a scapegoat, the family will create another.
I wouldn't hire the sister. Theres more bad than good that can come from her. She could ruin your business but can't do anything to help it.
That's right, for most jobs, I wouldn't hire a family member. In OP case, even less so.
Eh... really depends on the family. My younger siblings and I helped my brother by quitting our jobs and pretty much working for less than half of minimum wage (about $2/hr) to help get him started on his restaurant. He was slowly able to pay off both his and his wife's student loans with the excess money. But the problem was his wife. She drove us away so that she could hire her siblings instead (we put up with her for nearly 6 years before leaving). They got paid way more than us, yet couldn't stay with them for more than a month before storming out because of her. And every new person my brother hired also left because of her. It was kinda sad cuz they had finally started turning a nice profit after almost 7 years of running the restaurant. In the end, they sold it to someone else and she complains about not "having enough money," even though my brother works full time as an IT guy making 6 figures and has a side hustle of fixing people's computers.
Well those parents are going to really regret their decision when op has a successful business.
Children don't ask to be brought into this world, they don't owe you shit for raising them, you owe them all the world you can give for them for bringing them into it.
i cant beleive some people are like that and the worst of all is that there are so many
Bro got the good ending😊
I would of said “if family is that important then you should of saved more for her”
I think he should have said, “aren’t I family, too?”
You have been more of a parent to her than her actual parents. Bravo. You made every single right decision. Respect
NTA obviously
@@Notlongerinuse73NTA means not the a-hole
@@Bedwarsplayerthebestphoneuser oh I
My bad bruh
The audacity of these people to think it’s OK for them to take your money that you worked hard for. Comment that supposed to do.
How is it that these OPs who are so abused still remain in contact with toxic people? Forget culture; turn your back on horrible, abusive people. Demand an apology from the sister and parents or go no contact. Do write a detailed letter to the entire family.
Her education is not your responsibility. Just leave go NC and don't look back. To heck with them.
I hate how its written like ai wrote it so I decided to think its a fictional story so I can enjoy it
Wrongful eviction. Sue them
Imagine a thief calling you selfish because you refuse to give them your money
Imagine someone flirting with your husband/wife call you selfish for not divorcing for their sake
Paying for your own graduate school is a given. She has a degree now she can work part time. Would she make a good server? If yes then hire her.
They are the ones to blame, they know that College is Super expensive so they could have saved much earlier and she is not your responsibility they know you were saving up, so they try to take advantage if they didn’t want to take advantage of you they would have saved mush more earlier they think they can just take your money because they just said so
As someone who’s been putting off my own dreams for others just listen to some advice just take your win follow that dream and never give it up for anything
NTA because you save your money for your dreams and your parents should respect that and help their golden child out down the line plus like it or not it's their responsibility to do the right thing and not the op to make sure that the daughter's education is taken care of period.
For those who finished the short 0:56 for overlap 0:59 no overlap
Ty
thanks
Uhh she's only 19 and already going for a master's degree program? How is that even possible? :/
I thought about it too. Either she finished school early or it's another AI story
How 'Successfull' could the sister be if she couldn't ALSO get a scholarship along WITH the acceptance to her little Ivy League?
They're disgusting and that favoritism will bite them all for what they did to OP
Breaking even after less than a year is pretty great.
He got punked at the end.. he finally fell for the manipulation and didn't even see it.
I can't imagine trying to steal my child's hard earned and dedication for their sibling. I will never understand how a person can look their own kid in the eyes and project my inability to raise my 2nd child to be a good person and to genuinely feel entitled to treating my child like shit because of it after seeing how well I did with raising the 1st one to be so responsible and focused. There really should be a test for people to determine whether or not their fit parents before they ever have kids mental gymnastics to really just think it's okay to screw your kid over while playing hella favorites just pisses me off so much.
Not your responsibility to pay for your sisters college.. Hell No!! Keep your money and go NC with entire family..
Parents never needed the money, it was all about stopping OP from achieving his goals. They Also didn't care about his sister either. They KNEW she needed a Master's degree and only funded a bachelor's. They also had enough to fund her masters degree and were both refusing to cosign a loan and demanding their son pay... Their entire plan was to siphon off OP's money, then invent then escalate the asks until the ultimatum was literally impossible then disown him anyway. Their plan with the daughter was to let her go with her college half funded then cut her off and disown her once the 75k(only half of 150k) ran out. The whole thing was a ploy to destroy both of their children in one fell swoop.
NTA: you were right to follow your dreams and not handed over your savings. Good luck with your restaurant Op
The sister was accepted into a masters program at 19 ? C’mon.
I used to really like listening to these stories, i didn't even mind that they were fake
but now that it's become obvious they were written by a robot I just can't get into them
I wouldn't even mind if someone proofread them and took out all the nonsense dialogue
but every story becomes indistinguishable from the next when they just reuse the same cringe inducing dialogue. Everything is always "a mix of emotions" or "a look of uncertainty in their eyes." no one notices these things in a real argument. Or if they do they say "I could tell his was angry just by looking at him." they don't say "tension spilling over with every heated word."
It sounds like a minor nit-pick but when these videos are 15-40 minutes long and each one is exactly the same, you are better off not wasting your time.
Those comments that said OP should offer a smaller amount to keep the peace?? Eff that I'm sick of people thinking the person in the right should do something to keep the peace, No just No.
NTA. Your responsibility as the older brother? Just tell them it is THEIR responsibility as her parents. Good for you for sticking to what you KNOW is the right thing, standing your ground and pursuing your dreams. Your cousins are right. They didn't want to dip into their savings or retirement funds but expected you to give up your savings? What a bunch of crap. Breaking even being open 4 months is pretty darn good. Glad you did not hire your sister for your restaurant. I hope she indeed has changed and does right by you by doing well. Just having a masters degree (even from an Ivy League) does not guarantee one a lucrative job. As per your parents? They'll show up at your restaurant one day, expecting you to wine and dine them because... they're your parents. I hope you manage to maintain whatever family relationship is positive for you. You DID live there rent free to save money for years. They ARE selfish idiots who expected you to sacrifice for your sister so they did not have to. Good luck with your restaurant.
I would've loved to hear that OP tells parents that sister could have his money if she repays it with a kinda low interest rate (so its safer than taking out a loan)
If the sister is so great why can’t she pay for her own shiz
Jeez im sorry for op, another " do it for dan"
Op cut off toxic family and potentially improved his own reputation with the extended family or even community now that's a win
19 and already in her master's? She can take some time off to work in her field if this story is real
Thank you for a normal background instead of the game where a thing jump around and gives me headaches.
People are trying to make him into a B
One hour in i would have told them to F off and walk out. Don't ever contact me.
What is the Restaurant called?
Pls tag me when you till him the answer
When OP dedided to fund sister's education, I farted in disappointment
The parents were right they were being selfish
They were just projecting onto op
No. O. P is not responsible for you're sister.. it's is parents responsible for there's kid.. especially their daughter.. no no and more no..
So the sister got what she wanted anyway lol.
They should have said to there care givers I should not give her the life I didn't have but u r
2:20 WTF
For people from the short 0:58
Naw this was chat gpd 100%
Bro I think I would've done same if I was you
You call that family??
F*** the peace
Just to stop kids from saying first im first😂
I'm third
She’s 19, she’s old enough to get a part time job and save, let her learn independence financially and not take what is not hers, the parents are the enablers of this attitude…if sister has changed is willing to work hard and serious about her future and away from their parents’ influence then not so wrong to help her out
those who came from shorts
0:59 thank me later 😊
"update 1: wow this grew up overnight" this vid was out for 1 hr wth
This Reddit sotory is like 3 years old. This isn’t a story FOR UA-cam. All these come from Reddit so some are pretty old.
Its from reddit💀
These videos could be shorter if there weren’t so many long unnecessary pauses
Use all of them money except like 1% of it and if they ask you for it just give it too them
The OP is a simp.
Fr bro
This has to be fake. No restaurant owner is that stupid. Fewer than 10% of new restaurants make it to the 5-year mark, and he sure as hell didn't open one on $70k, lol. Yeah, that might get him his lease (barely, and in a shit location), but vendor contracts, renovations, equipment, the cost of carrying employees (who cost about 2x their actual wages), insurance, Permitting, Licensing, and a million other expenses. He needs to be saving every penny he makes for quite a while. This is such ludicrously bad business, if he thought this way, he never would have made it to his grand opening, lol.
He is right, don't mix family with business. I know nepotism runs wild in the restaurant industry, but in those first very vulnerable years, it would be stupid to attempt it.
Keep in mind the restaurant failure rate is so high, creditors won't even look at loan applications unless you can secure it yourself, in which case you wouldn't need the loan, lol. Even if it was a huge success, money would be tight for a very long time.
He's also forgetting, his first duty is to his employees. They're the ones busting their asses off to help him build the place up. If the restaurant goes under, he harms all of their lives. Sure, they'll get new jobs, but it's still a catastrophic scenario for many. He's prioritizing those who wanted him to fail over those who are working to help him succeed.
This is just generic feel-good fiction about humility and redemption, in the real world he'd be penniless by now.
Im guessing theyre from a country where 75k goes a long way like the Philippines based on what they said about their culture
There are more countrys then just the usa. He is probably realy from a country where 75k$ is way more worth then in the us. And he already breaks even, so your insisting on "he should be broke now" does not hold up. If you have just a small something, but a good spot, and the guy simply wants to rent it out, because its run down, then op got an easy cash grab
@@MrDoreius Considering they're speaking in Dollars, and there are only 20 currencies globally that use the word "Dollar" (U.S., Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Barbados, Jamaica, Fiji etc) AND they're talking about going to Harvard, and there are no national grant programs for them to rely on for payment, and the OP used several idioms common to the U.S. which are rarely used in other English speaking nations (except perhaps Canada), I think it's a fair assumption.