The Problem With Being A Blessing
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- Опубліковано 10 лис 2022
- No matter how much you do for loved one, there may come a time where they don't talk to you for no reason at all.
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Rickey you spoke a Word here.!!! I have a 23 year old Son and a 30 year old Daughter. I'am a Single Parent and I did everything for them. When they were young I made sure they had everything they wanted. I was there for every School Play they were in, and every Sports game they played. I bought them everything they wanted. It was like Christmas here all year long !!! I took them places like Zoos and Museums at least twice a Month. Now that they are grown I don't hear from them unless they want something.!!! I'am 62 years old and they don't even check on me on a regular basis to see if I'am still alive.!!! It's a hurtful feeling. Sometimes I just sit and cry about it !!!😪
You are not alone. It happen to me too, I cried so much doctor had to give me some medicine to stop the tears.
@Sheryl…….. I totally agree👍🏽, I had a cancer diagnosis and my son calls only when he wants something 🫴🏽🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Prayers I so understand
😞❤️🩹. Sorry you go through that
I'm sorry your kids don't understand how limited our time is, but please enjoy the rest of your life with no expectations from your kids! They won't truly appreciate all you did or are doing until you are gone. I lost my own mom when she was just 66 and I miss her terribly!
It's really hurtful, but a blessing in disguise. I just love them from afar and keep the bank closed.
Hello! And someone asked me today about Christmas gifts for my nieces and nephews who don't call. They got older or grown and don't call no more... the bank is closed!
Exactly(.) There is nothing Godly about planting seeds on stony grounds, which yield no fruit(.) I rather avoid the whole process of ungrateful children.
I have 3 sons that don't have anything to do with me..I broke my back, sacrificed everything to make sure they were straight and their kids were straight...I have been cursed and clowned and talked about like a dog to whoever would listen...they even stopped my grandchildren from talking to me..
I prayed and I cried..
But I had my last cry, wished them well and peaced them out and started living for me.✌🏾
@@cautiontothewind277 Make comments of such when you have all the facts. People can't control how others act
Praying for you My Sister and awesome Mother and loving grandmother thanks for telling my story..God Bless you always.lets make contact...🙏
@@cautiontothewind277 no their father abandoned me..he was physically abusive and he cheated on me with the manager on his job
Are they Jehovah’s Witnesses?
And that's all you can do is live your life because they damn sure gone live their life honey
I'm learning that being "alone" is NOT a bad thing. I thank God for a spirit of discernment.
I TOTALLY AGREE... WHEN YOU LOVE YOURSELF AND LIKE YOURSELF, BEING ALONE IS WONDERFUL 😊! SPACE IS GOOD AND I FEEL BAD FOR RICH PEOPLE WHO CAN'T TRULY GET GOOD SPACE WITHOUT COMPLICATIONS AND RUDE FAMILY FAKE FRIENDS AND FAKE FAMILY ARE ALL AROUND YOU/THEM. YOU CAN'T PLEASE THE ONES YOU LOVE, AND THEY REALLY DON'T SHOW THAT SAME ENERGY BACK... THAT'S WHY I WALKED AWAY FROM IT/THEM ALL✌️😊
You speaking total TRUTH. Hell, it ain't just the kids, it be grown folk/friends too.
Actually when the grown folks sit around talking about other grown folks in the presence of children that will make children dislike that grown person
Yes
Amen!
Wow this HIT HOME and I can relate.. worked my heart and soul to raise 1 girl 2 boys put through college MADE SURE they had a good life went through cancer treatment THEY RAN...The worst feeling in my life. Now my oldest has sickness & cancer, screaming for MAMA... I pray they ALL DO WELL... But I HAD TO GIVE THEM KIDS BACK TO GOD.. Matthew 10 speaks..Stay prayed up...WE DID OUR BEST!
I'm soooo sorry! But you did right "GIVE THEM CHILDREN BACK TO OUR FATHER"! Continue to keep your eyes on the prize- Our FATHER ALMIGHTY...💜💜💜💜🙏🏾
Come on baby give them back because you deserved better ‼️‼️ also they would be the first ones that will throw you in a nursing home 🏡 let him get thru it just like he did you ‼️ people have to understand that once these kids get grown they are responsible for their own actions ‼️
@@itsHappening-ry2ef
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Amen.yes we do our BEST
I hear you. I was gifted with a son and two daughters. They are on loan to me. They belong to God. I pray you are cancer free and living strong.
It's very sad reading these comments I can say this my 24 year old son calls me everyday when he's not at home with me he helps me walk when my back is out he makes me sit down when my knee is hurting he goes with me to my appointments and last Saturday he picked me up I've been at his house going on two weeks he doesn't want me to be at home by myself I'm so thankful that he cares about me I wish you all children cared about you all I pray for everyone going through these things
You might be burdening him and don't even know it. He's not your husband and I'm saying this respectfully.
Try not to wear him out too much. I'm glad he does it, but he shouldn't be a substitute husband.
@@stingray0033 I can't burden him if that's what he wants to do I don't ask him to do anything he chose to do it WHY because he loves his momma
@@margaritataylor8743 hahaha 🤣🤣🤣 a substitute husband well unfortunately my husband works out of State 3 weeks out the month so my son helps me maybe if y'all get you some loving children and husband you'll understand what I'm talking about
You are blessed
I’m a daddy’s girl to my core and this whole conversation made me pick up the phone and call him today. This reminded me of my roots and all the words my parents used to tell me. I called a few aunts and uncles today too just to tell them I love them because I know better than to let this much time pass without speaking. ♥️ thank you for this Uncle Rick!
All so true. I believe in giving people their flowers, while they are alive. My grown son has nothing to do with me. So I can identify
I've learned the less you do the more they love. The more you do the less they care about you!!
Facts slow that hand and close that purse ‼️‼️
Preach bruh
Thats it!
That's just not true. It depends on the person. I have an older brother. Since I'm a girl I grew up like an only child. My mother gave us everything even after she became a single parent. My mother went through cancer and I practically wouldn't let her out of my sight. I did everything I could for her and then some.
This comment makes no sense. It's so far off topic. First of all.we.are mainly talking about men. The rest is explanatory. Have a great evening. Tracy Hairston
Absolutely!!! God had to teach me that my return blessings come back from him. Usually the people we help, will not be the ones to show gratitude. Hence; It's the very reason why we are in a position to give and they are the beggers. Not only kids... everyone...especially family.. and it HURTS...
Mmmmm Huh
True! We can't get in our feelings. I won't be here for them Father's day chronicles but prayers for Rickey Smiley ...I hear his pain.
He's seems hurt by expectations he placed on others.Being a blessing is a blessing when you learn to relinquish any expectations of reciprocation from others.
@@reneewhite8145 Hi...I think it's more about a lack of gratitude but that's my opinion and I respect yours....happy holidays 😊
Facts!
I literally cried last night at how my 2 oldest children act like I don't even exist!! When I think of them all I feel is hurt and pain! I call and my calls don't get returned! I text and my texts get no replies! I raised 3 kids but every day I feel like I have only 1 child! My youngest child is the only one that shows me love! I thank God for him! During my darkest days dealing with Depression n thoughts of suicide, I think about my youngest and that's who and what keeps me going! Rickey you have preached nothing but the truth!!!!!
Sending a hug
yes sis keep going do something you love for yourself and LIVE God loves you
Simone James Sending you love an Prayers from South Carolina!!..Stay Strong God Got You!!!..
Sis sorry you're going through this, I feel you. Our oldest two feel like I owe them an apology for being me. They talk to my husband but not me. I still love me and more than that God loves me. He loves you and thank God for the one you have a relationship with. I am blessed with four others that love and care for me. Take care of yourself and trust God.
Stay strong and know God has your back. We can not allow our children, grandchildren and so called friends impact our lives. We must learn to love the company we keep when we're alone. Find you some things you enjoy doing and get busy doing you. 🙏🏾💕
Only mature individuals can relate and respect this conversation Rickey..🎤🔥👏🏽🎯
THIS IS SO SO VERY TRUE 🥲🥰💖😇✨️🤔
But, what if you were always on their ass really really hard and that's the reason?
ANSWER THAT QUESTION.
We are going to pray daily Grayson turns out to be a great young/man that will do positive things in life and live by what his village has taught him. I believe he will. God keep Grayson under your wings. 🙏
I agree 100%. My husband and I have been married 31 yrs w/ 2 adults ages 31 and 28. I see how our children treat their dad. It's really sad, but let them need something (especially financially) their dad is right there. I had to finally check our kids and tell my husband to stop helping them soo much. Let them figure it out, they'll be okay.
Story of my life!! And this is why I don't have transactional relationships with ANYONE..
RICKEY I TELL YOU, YOU PREACH THE TRUTH EVERY TIME REGARDING OUR CHILDREN AND HOW THEY BECOME SELFISH ADULTS! PLEASE KEEP MAKING THESE VIDEOS FOR US GOOD A.. PARENTS WE NEED THIS MOTIVATION
Mr. Ricky, this should be a TED talk because it's needed for so many, RIGHT ON 😘
Please do a TED talk on this .....I sent this podcast to my grandchildren
OMG!!! I'm going through this right now. I literally saved one child's life and her mom has nothing good to say about me (all of a sudden), NOTHING, NOTHING good to say. But as long as I was supporting her and her kids, everything was fine. Hindsight is 20/20. Now that they're grown.....well, Rickey said it. And the parents don't try to encourage them to look back at your ass.
The more you do for them, the more they hate on you because you're in the position to do so. And, the more you do for them, the more they loose respect for you.
Sistah I have been their also!!! We have to look beyond them and thank God that we were blessed to bless others...I was bitter at one time! But I had to let that go. And like Rickey said everybody ain't like us...Be Blessed!!!
@Tonigurrll You're absolutely right! I had to process all of it, now I'm in the process of letting it go. Glad to know that it's not just me, so thank you for sharing. It really helps 🥰
Man do we need more talks like this…you could’ve went on and on. Families don’t have that kind of respect like back in the days with how our grandparents and great grandparents raised the households and neighbors. It was so good to hear you mirror some of things we used to be told from them. They didn’t play when it came to respect, honesty, loyalty, etc. Your words stands so true and I’m sure it designated to so many today 🙏🏽. Thank you and keep bringing these conversations to light. It really does the heart good ❤
👍👍 Omg, I totally understand what our saying. I now have 2 grown daughters, I am raising my oldest daughter's daughter for over 7 yrs now and I was and am a single parent and I took care of my kids and gave them my last dime to make sure they had all their needs and wants. My oldest daughter to this day at 31 yrs on and her 3 other kids later has nerve to say I never do nothing for her. She don't understand taking care of her child, my grandchild is doing something for her everyday. No appreciation at all. My granddaughter is now 12 and she smelling herself right now so the struggle is real raising her in this world today. I just pray she will be better cuz she does know better about respecting the one taking care of her. Sometimes not being bothered with family is my peace.
I'm going through this right now! As a single Father. Man it's hard, but you are absolutely right Rickey.
Yes Ricky! I see through people so much to the point I am not liked by many. I can't fake the funk. If your energy bad, you will be overlooked...without hesitation. Setting boundaries has cost me friendships I've had for over 15 years. I cried at first...then I remembered...When God is bringing you closer to your blessings and breakthroughs, unhealthy folk tend to fall by the waistline. They are NOT meant to reap the rewards and prosperity given unto me in my life!
@YogaNidraCalm...Ive been there as well and I commend you for being strong through your discernment of letting go and letting God guide you. Stay Blessed🙏
That's because you can see through them
You've hit every nail on it's head. I am the same way now. No time for fake fronting folks who continue to brush things under the rug always trying to impress others and looking down on people who'er beneath or have less than them......
It’s fall by the wayside, not by the waistline. Just tryna help… 🤷🏽♀️
Hurtful truth but it is that very truth that sets us free
Man I would love to have someone with as much sense as you around me.
You are so right. My kids only care when it benefits them.
Rickey no matter what they choose to do in life, as long as we know we did our best, and raised them right. We are to remain prayed up, for them and us! 🙏🏽 💛
Rickey! Single Mama's go through this too! Not just fathers, even tho I know men do not get enough credit for what they do. But you can do literally EVERYTHING for your child, and once my son hit 16 he forgot who I was, doesnt even ask how im doing, doesn't want to speak, doesn't say thank you, no appreciation. Like you said, its like you did something to them! I hope one day his mind changes when he's in his 20s and out of puberty or whatever, but it's hard to look forward to. Til this day, even tho my father didnt raise me, I call my dad often just to show appreciation for the man that helped create me. I moved my mama in my house after I moved to a safer city and bigger home, just to show appreciation for the woman that raise me all my life, so I really don't understand these kids. Everything i did in college was to come back and help my family, even if they never fully supported me, some of it is not even deserved but I feel like as the "child" , that is my duty. So I just don't understand why teens and young adults these days don't reciprocate the love for the people that help raise and support them. I often think about the kids who don't have parents that dont have anything or any support and wonder if they would accept me more than my own son.. it's just sad.
I'm gonna hope for the best tho. He's still young and maybe has time to alter his thinking but it does hurt..and I do feel so very much for the parents, grandparents, caregivers that have sacrificed so much for their adult children 😰I wish I could hug you all for real. I couldn't even imagine.
“Duty” that you mentioned is no longer a thought. A LOT are just selfish and self centered 😞 and feel NO OBLIGATION to help where they can. I understand the economy is different but a phone call or Thank you doesn’t cost a thing except thought , time and effort
@@kynroebri4347 right! almost like a sense of entitlement. very hurtful.
@@xiexie89 Im going through the same with mine which means I spoiled them. But HOW do “poor kids” get SPOILED???🤷🏽♀️😂😂😂 Must be this “Black Girl Magic” I hear about
Rickey after I divorced my husband I made our son's call and visit him . Didn't matter if he called or visited them, I made sure they kept a relationship with their Dad. Because, even though we were divorced he was still just as important, and they needed him as much or more than they needed me. You're an awesome individual. You never have to say you were raised right it shows in the way you treat and respect folk. My parents were from Mississippi, I was born in new Orleans, they were strict, but loving and after becoming an adult I took care of my Mama, actually was holding her hand when she transitioned, still hard. We took care of my Dad as well. I took care of my ex husband after his cancer diagnosis. I never forgot how I was raised or who and whose I am, bless you always MIRACLES PEACE FAITH AND BLESSINGS 🙏🏾✝️🙏🏾
It’s the real love in the 6 wings and fries and the relationship with Uncle Herbert for me. That’s so sweet! I’m loyal too 👍🏾 and it does hurt to be the only one that’s loyal. And you’re right about everything you say, I totally agree with you! 💯
Hopefully someone will come into your life that will appreciate you and show you the Love that you deserve ❤❤❤
Ricky better go and find a woman if he go find him a woman he want be worried about what his kids and grandkids doing they probably out trying to get it on. Ricky need to go find a damn woman 🙄
Amen!
@@elizabethjackson u will be surprised to know how many of these guys who u think don't have problem finding women they do, because they have issues that isn't seen on the surface.
Ricky probably got ED..😅🤣😂
@@alpoyao9758 Your comment is precisely why he should be cautious with women. Ricky probably wants someone special, not just any woman. He can get any woman, just as any celebrity man can, but he likely doesn’t want that. Finding REAL is difficult today. Most relationships are superficial and transactional.
@@se_me1756 so you sound like you the type of woman that as long as a man is a celebrity you'll be all up on him. And you say most relationships are superficial and transactional you sound like you know Mighty much about these kind of relationships.
What kind of relationship you having ??????🙄
I have a phrase: "when they don't need you, they don't need you". Thanks for this video, Rickey. This really resonated with me. I've decided to pray for and love these type people from a distance!
Rickey, you spoke a lot of truths in this video and thanks for sharing your story. I can relate to everything you stated instead of speaking from a “father’s perspective”. One statement I can honestly relate to is “the reality that people are not going to treat us how we would treat them”. I have been heartbroken and mistreated for the past fours years from FAMILY!!! I never thought I would experience what I did from my “BLOOD”,‘ people I trusted, people I loved, people I always respected, people I was loyal to…they hurt me to my core! So, I learned the hard way to stop expecting people to treat me how I treat them…💔
Rickey, I’m a single mother, raised my daughter alone, she moved to Europe, haven heard from her going on three years. Yes! I know exactly what you are speaking about. When my elders were living, I was there for them too. This generation not the same.
Tell the truth Rickey, My discernment is on point also, That is why I do not mess with most people, It looks like the more you do, The less they care, I think sometimes good people do way too much, My children do not check on me at all, I do not worry about it, Because I know that the Bible tells me that God loves me, That is all that matters to me, Love You Rickey
Sometimes people do not appreciate or acknowledge the love & positive things others have done. It’s unfortunate & it’s human nature. Appreciation is great when it happens.
It has to be taught. Also, maturity. Sons, daughters, nieces, and nephews will be in the same place one day.
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💯 true!
@@alexisbrown6442 whew dats a word BUT sad
@@alexisbrown6442 being taught isn’t the only deciding factor since we ALL have free will!!
I have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to go out of my way to pay homage to anyone still living of a variety of relatives HOWEVER because of my upbringing I still check in (not as frequently as I used to by design) but I still periodically make my respect known JUST BECAUSE of the values my Mother or grandparents instilled in me!!
Consequently my children learned by example but I intentionally taught mine to set boundaries and to feel NO NEED to be “hospice kids” or “nurse maidens” to ANYONE that didn’t pour into your development kin or not!!!
Real talk… dads, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc, don’t try to guilt trip mine I’ve taught them better than that!!
Rickey, it's not only fathers/men that get that treatment. Mothers/aunties get the same from sons, daughters, nieces and nephews too. But I needed to hear your message to keep my heart soft. And you're right, it has to be in them - mine grew up hearing me tell them ALL the time "Let you ATTITUDE be your GRATITUDE"
The ones you love the most,are the same ones who hurt you the most.
Keep letting God use you.Keep being a blessing to others.Thank you Rickey Smiley!
This is one thing that I tell people all the time I felt my ex husbands pain when he felt like my kids didn't"t treat him like they treat
me. I told both of my kids treat your Dad like you treat me. It's been years now and they treat him for birthdays and father"s like a king.
I agree. I also believe the mom needs to make them accountable especially if she has a good relationship with the kids and they listen and respect her. I never stopped my daughter from dealing with her dad even when he couldn't pay child support. It allowed her to develop their own relationship. She accepted him for him.
@@stephaniecook416 Yes, I looked at Jemelle hill speak on how a lot of us taught our kids to be fiercely independent and I know I did. And these leaders a lot of times just need us differently than we needed our parents she reassured her mom even though I don’t call you much it doesn’t mean that I don’t love you-know that..
THANK YOU FOR SPEAKING THE TRUTH MY BROTHER..🙌
🌅🌅"Yes, it's is true how there respect for you changes as they get older, and it is painful, something you never expected .Your upbringing shows in how you speak on this matter, very heartfelt. But you continue to be the blessing you are, that's what truly matters in your life. Thanks for sharing, gives us all food for thought! ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
You are right! Been married for 17 years and when I got sick and still am 4 years ago, my husband jumped in with everything without complaining. I know it hurts him just as much as me and I appreciate him so much. When people men shame or dad shame, I can’t get down with that. I don’t know any dead beat dads.
Lord have mercy! This is so true! My mom's friend whom had died from cancer a few years back did everything for her daughter. Her daughter did what she wanted to do especially as she got older, had a son, and was not appreciative of her mother. The son was raised by my moms friend up until her passing. The daughter now is in her late 40s now, turned into a man, and her aunt has been the caretaker of her son. I tell the aunt all the time to just pray for her and give her to God for real. 🙏🏽 🙏🏽 🙏🏽
Rickey, you gotta keep in mind, everybody ain’t you. And sometimes you gotta let young folks mature and realize the importance. Sometimes it’s not that you don’t exist, kids are weird. They don’t recognize things until later on. You might’ve always been on point but not everyone is.
One of the lowest days of my life was the realization that our relationship is not special
In general, having a good heart for others gets us used and underapreciated. We do it cause we love n care about the people we're willing to help, but doesn't take long to see that actions of those people can in alot of ways show a lack of appreciation for what we do for em. They're words might say thanks and may truly be thankful for the help, but they can't even do the smallest favor for us when we need it. Even if it's just taking out the trash and doing the dishes. Everyone just wants to take whatever is given, and not return the favor with simple acts of respect and then wanna act like your an asshole when you gotta get on em for not pulling their own weight. Makes it worse when your dating a chick who's got kids from a previous marriage that aren't biological yours so it's way out of line to whoop em like you would if they was your own kids. Im long out of that relationship now, and have learned my lesson lol, but yea that shit gers irritating af when your taking care of kids that aren't even yours and treating em as if their yours but not one of em wanna show any real respect and appreciation for it
The key word is 'Respect'. This is so good. Don't forget those whom the Lord has placed in your life. A phone call, text message, email, or something means alot.
This video was dead on. I’m going through this exact same thing and to be honest, it hurts. Thanks for being a vessel for the Lord because this message was for me. I literally repeated “that’s crazy” about his same subject matter, in complete disbelief that someone you have made major sacrifices for could discard you like a bag of trash-unbelievable! Thanks for speaking out loud what everyone is thinking. I’m definitely sharing this with my ungrateful ass adulting only child. That’s crazy!
At Catherine Williams if your love wasn't enough you think your words are this video is going to change anything? live your life. I pray that all is well with everyone just live your life do what you do you have Rewards are already out there in the universe they'll come back to you what we send out we get back when we do things from our heart we're not disappointed you did it from your heart gratitude is wonderful it really is however you've lived long enough to know that the people you help are not the ones that's going to help you anyway and if you haven't learned that keep living sometimes we have to learn our purpose and the reasons why we must do things if you expect something in return are you doing it for the right reason live your life wish everyone well everything is going to be all right it took a whole lot of valleys for me to Cross to become the woman that I am today that's why I can tell you everything's going to be just fine. love anyway. Give anyway. Don't forget- self matters
@@henbyrd4516 Thanks for all of the wisdom, it brings me comfort.
You said a "mouth-full"
I am healed and free from your TESTIMONY. Thank you Rickey
It’s that way with my father and my brothers. They only call him when they need something. As for me, my father would try to be in my life. In fact, I am loyal to my dad and never turned my back on him. My mother never talked bad about my father but my grandmother did. My mom wanted me and my sister to see how our dads was ourselves as adults. But I do remember my dad trying to pick me up to take me places as a little girl. When I was raised by my mother‘s mother, she would tell him she ain’t going nowhere with you. The only time he could see me is when I’m at my other grandma’s house which is his mom. That’s when he could take me places and my grandmother would allow it. I even called just to chat and shoot the breeze with my dad, and my stepmother who I love dearly. Not because she sends me money through cash app, I love her because she loves my father’s kids, and she loves my father. in fact when my mother was dying of cancer, she told my step mother to look after me if she ever dies. Well, my stepmother is doing just that. Thanks for expressing yourself and sharing this video with all of us fans of yours. Love you rickey.
I have been a blessing to alot of people Rickey that other people don't know about . God sees it all!🙌
Mr. Ricky,
You are so right. I wonder is it this new generation. Even though we raise these kids the way we were raised, when they get older they don’t have the same respect, compassion, or loyalty we had for our elders. It’s insane. I did everything for my nephew and he has a birthday coming up he’ll be 32. He has nothing to do with me or his mother. I can count the times on one hand that he has called me. We raised him in complete love no abuse. I cried about this for years. Now I just gave him to God.
To whom much is given, much is required 🙏🏾
Man I've been going through some shit with my son. And I stumbled upon this fate. But it spoke to my soul. Thanks Rickey.
So true
I love THIS!!! It made me do a self check!!! I have dealt with the disrespect and those that don't acknowledge me after I have been a blessing to their lives and lived with me, ate my food and ran up my water bill!!! 🤦🏽♀️ But GOD!!! He is the one that don't allow me to be bitter and gives me peace. Thank you for sharing, I needed to hear this.
This has helped me today. As far as your grandson is concerned start praying for him now and plead the blood of Jesus over him. He will be just fine.
Amen speak life over their relationship ✨
Been raising my daughter's son since birth and I have made up my mind, in 2 more years I'm sending him off to college and the rest of my life will be husband & wife time and that's it. Thank GOD, he's a good child, never had any issues with him at all (I don't play that); if you raise them right and check out the friendships they keep, it shoud be alright when it comes to behaviour. Now, I'll still take the Grandkids to differant places for vacation time but, upon return they got's to go. Generational Courses nornally will have everybody locked down raising somebodies elses children while the so called daddy out there making more babies by other women. Ladies, do your due dilligence before you have a baby by someone, some of these joker's can't take care of themselves and if you do or have, don't have 2, 3, more by him when he didn't take care of the first one.
You are speaking nothing but truth.
Thank you. Just because you made a mistake doesn't mean you have to wallow in your mess.
❤️🔥🙏❤️🔥 Do your best no matter what and Christ will do the rest 🫶🏾 what comes from the heart reaches the heart ❤🙏❤
Bruh you’re so right. After me and my daughter’s separated I did my best to be present in her life but her mother made it difficult for me. My daughter is grown and graduated from Georgia Tech . She was a cheerleader and I went to some games to support her. All my daughters life I always made sure she was aware of me being in her life. At this point her mother just stop speaking to me at all. And my daughter has chosen to do the same. And Que she’s my only child. If I don’t call her she’s not going to call me unless something mayor happens. Thanks for the uplift. It is what it is……
Girls LOVE their Daddy’s, It’s a privilege to be able to show appreciation and wishing you could pay them back for all of the love and support. Contrary to the masses, there are some AMAZING Black Fathers, I had one.🙏🏾
We can do everything right....and our kids can still go left. Society and our grown children love to place blame on the parents, but the truth is - that's only part of it. DNA plays a role, psychological issues play a role, etc. So for all my fellow parents out there, nobody is a perfect parent. But we wake up and show up every day, we attend recitals and we kiss boo boos. We love, we nurture and we worry. And a lot of us do it ALONE. As a single parent. Had I walked out on my kids the way their father did, they would've grown up in the system. People don't really "get it" until they're in your shoes. Give yourself credit for doing your job, and just know that God sees everything. ❤️❤️
This is so good I was brought up to definitely call all my aunts uncles and grandparents etc respect and check on your elders 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥
It IS a real conversation because I understand it. I've enjoyed my grand daughter over all these years. She's now 13 and I'm still blessed to be enjoying her. It's a little different. But I'm trying to prepare myself for whatever may come. I'm a praying mother and grandmother so it will be well with my soul.
What you said Rickey!! Not just Dad's, but Mom's too! I raised my children, as well as had custody of my sister's children, only hear from them if they need something!!! Only get ad knowledgement from one on Mother's Day.
My mother was just like an ungrateful teenager. Never showed appreciation. She's gone and is not missed! Ask the world of you.
My 3 are young adults, 20, 22, 24. Growing up I noticed many people my age dealing with their loved ones just like this. I figured, it would take more than love and exposure, it would take prayer. I prayed for each of my kids while they were in the womb that they would be humble, thoughtful and a joy to be around. At each stage of their life, they’ve all been all those things. My expectations are not what I don’t want them to be or act but that they live life the best they can no matter where they are. This has been our , my husband of 27 years, game plan together. Prayers of what you want starts early and often.
We should take the children to Volunteer more. Let them see how hard some children have it... take them to the children's hospital, the homes shelters, the domestic violence shelters, let them help refugees who just arrive off the boat & need food & clothing... service helps to teach Empathy, and consideration for others... and always teach kindness... then we Pray🙏
Lack of respect is disrespect 💯.
You preaching today Rickey!!💞
This is truly gospel. I was that kid many years ago to an uncle of mine and when I realized how wrong I was I tried reaching out to him, but learned he died from AIDS. I never got to say thank you.
So sorry for your loss praying for you 🙏🏽....we should not try putting things off ...praying for healing..in Jesus name Amen 🙏🏽
This was pure gold and had me in tears of sadness! ALL FACTS. All I want is acknowledgement.
🥰 love you Rickey!!!! You hit this on the nail 💜💫💯
Ohhh Yes He Did!!
I absolutely feel you‼️💯💪🏽 I’m a woman but from my perspective it happens to the best of us. You’re exactly right!! I’ve been watching you since you were at the radio station with Buckwild and Africa. I was in Tuscaloosa during this time and I know that you are a good man. God will continue to bless you. Stay hopeful and pray
I am a 80 baby, and I'm so thankful i have this upbringing and I raise my 17 year old with this same energy. Now how she turns out is her decision. I love and respect Mr. Smiley. We need more pioneers like him
This was so sad to read. But a sad truth. I don't have kids but I hear this over and over. Selfish as heck. But what goes around comes around. My mom was sick and Dad. I ran to their sides. It was a blessing to be their daughter. Give love and let go. Try to go take care of yourself because people don't give a care!!! So sad. Sending love to Rickey and everyone. Have a beautiful Thanksgiving! 🦃
It's SO painful, it'll make you wish that you didn't have them ! The pain is imbearable !
Rickey you are speaking facts 💯You are absolutely correct and it doesn’t matter if you are a dad, grandfather or father! Everything you mentioned I’ve done for my own and my nephew except college tuition payments but my very own kids…after seeing me hustle to be able to afford them the abilities that I didn’t have, to now feel as if I did nothing, to sacrifice myself for them and to be treated as if I’m the worst person ever! I’m learning how to navigate beyond it as well as my son now can’t get his self together enough to get his own place again, walking around like he’s entitled 🙄yet instill their dad wasn’t able to provide for them as much but since their family is huge, they are cousins, aunts and uncles are so close they are best friends as well, which I totally love about that family. In turn they turned my kids against me because issues arise that stopped my nuptials over 30yrs ago but yet instill they seemed to not have gotten over it 🙄mind you their dad has been married for the past 20 plus yrs🤨since being blessed to provide for them more even married but he’s the most favored and I’ll leave it as that 🤨Now I learning solely focus on myself which has taken me a minute since being a young parent at 18/19yrs old my whole young adult life has never been about myself but about my children!! Thanks Rickey you are Always on point and I don’t need to write a book 📖 in your comments 😂😂
Thank you Ricky for what you do. The real hard part is when your raised by parent's and always knew something didn't feel right with one biological parent. When you truly figure out that your own father wishes that you were never born, dad tells you, you will never amount to anything ! A narcissist parent is the worst, they will try to destroy your marriage and destroy your beautiful wife and kids. I carried my mother in my arms while she battled cancer, my dad wouldn't hold her hand while she was dying and asked, I took off the most , done the most, and paid bill's, and tried to protect them. But a evil father and sibling will gang up on you with this narcissistic stuff. So at age 50, and lots of land to live on acres and acres of property, I moved and life is grand all parents are not good parents, thank you for raising me, But yeah no contact, take those demonic demons to someone else !but thank God when He said when father and mother forsake me ! Jesus was there ! Love my wife and kids, Thank you Jesus !
Call a narcissist person/parents if you want to, they will assault you over the phone. I wouldn't wish a narcissistic person on my worst enemy
I have been a “ BLESSING”, to my Family, extended family, their friends…I TRULY Understand.❤
This was sad to hear!! I check on my mom all the time!! Always did and always will! ❤🙏
Dam This Touched My Soul💯💯 Anit to many Good Genuine people's left❗️❗️
Mine as well. ❤️AGREE💯
This is so foreign to me, and I praise God for saving me before I was a parent! My children were in Sunday school, Bible study, worship service, church conventions and Monday night prayer ...my children are gone, married and with families of their own...we talk almost everyday... Disney world is nice, college is nice, giving material things are nice...BUT WHAT ABOUT GIVING THEM GOD⁉️⁉️⁉️ We all need Jesus
Ur a Empath high sensitive person can always see through the fakeness lies deception... especially when you've experienced a raw deal with a few karmics meaning not on the winning team of God... don't change for nobody Rickey keep being urself God got U peace blessings prosperity Love and light!!!!!!!!!!
You did all these things for others and you did it in Love. You are blessed and you may not see your blessings now but you will see it later.. I promise God will show you. Just wait and see.
Hope you’re right… Thanks for watching!!
Exactly!!! I have low expectations. Which is why I'm working to save money for myself so maybe I won't wind up in a nursing home!
I tell my children all of the time it takes all kinds to make the world go round. Like my dear Mother use to say keep living you will get old one day. The BIBLE said train up a child in the way that they should go that when they are older they will not depart from it.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
That is Ephesians 6:1 ! Learned that in Elementary Christian school, never forgot it. Thank you for that
This is needed such a time as this. I feel the same way. I’ve love everyone but I don’t get it back in return 😢. We just have to remember what we do for other we want get that back in return. Lord give us strength
I have thought a lot about this post since seeing it yesterday. I get it. I am on your side. My kids are 34 and 36. I have been hurt by mine too. I gave up everything for my kids. My career. But I wanted to. My choice. No regrets. But… I feel left out at times. I feel like I have too. All I pray for is they will come back. My DTR Is so independent. I taught her that tho. I am too. But. She was trained. Both of mine were. Respect. Manners. Consideration. Sincere. The whole package. She calls me. Sometimes. Son. Different story. He protects me. Checks on me. I have always been strong. My Dtr too. Things change. I am older. I just hope they all come back to us. Be more present in our life. She thinks she is. But I feel it differently. My heart breaks. I know yours does too. Let’s just keep eating about this. Bx I feel u. 😢😮😊
Keep praying* about this. Eating??
Rickey I totally agree with you. Sometimes after all you’ve done and sacrifices you made, they soon forget as a teenager/adult.
Thank you GOD for 'ALL' my BLESSINGs. Iam so GRATEFUL for what you have already done for me in my Life! I raised my 💖💖💖 granddaughter after loosing my daughter. Thankful, Thankful, Thankful!!! My granddaughter never forgets me she has genuinE LOVE, always checking up on me and so much GIVING, for that Iam GRATEFUL to God. This is the way I look at it, GOD took my daughter and gave me another gift in her place, I trust GOD for what he did because he PROTECTED me from something. PSALM 91 BLESS YOU Brother RICKEY 'ALL' of these experiences happened for a REASON. And GOD BLESS EVERYONE here who have had these experiences. I have had them too, yes it hurts, but know this. GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU! YOU HAVE THAT ASSURANCE!!! FORGIVE the people who have hurt you FORGIVE yourself, none of us are perfect, but we are perfectly made by GOD. KNOW THAT YOU ARE LOVE! KEEP DOING GOOD! GOD WILL REVEAL THAT THING THAT's hidden in the APPOINTED TIME!
Trust in the Lord with 'ALL' YOUR HEART, lean not on your own understanding, in 'ALL' YOUR WAYs ACKNOWLEDGE HIM, and HE WILL DIRECT YOUR PATH. PROVERB 3:5-6
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This is sooo true Rickey! I am going through this right now with my own children. I never would have thought or foreseen a time that any of my children would not be speaking to me 😞
Rickey, I felt this in my soul. I'm going through this now with my grandchildren
I NEEDED this message! Thank you Rickey for bringing this to the forefront!
I am in tears... literally..this hit home on so many levels..it hurt so bad..til u have to laugh 🤷
You are so right. People choose to be who they are no matter what you do for them.
It’s a “new breed “ 😢of Children
This is so sad but true. I'm learning to bless them & move on. 🙏. Straight facts 💯💯💯💯
This message needs to be shared to this new generation.
Hi Rickey, it breaks my heart to hear your pain. Regarding your grandson, please speak hope, respect, grattitude, love and of the beauty he brings to your life. Continue, as most selfless parents do, to pray for his character while raising him with the genuine love ,care consideration and respect that you were. The enemy is real and the fear you harbor in your heart and speak, he will get to work on manifesting it. You and yours are on my heart and in my prayers. Remember Jesus never said this life would be easy yet was and is our BLESSING. He's blessed you to be a blessing and you know that. You are impacting more people than you know, I dont know you and already appreciate your heart. Many more blessings to you!
Real talk Ricky.. appreciate this.. Feels like therapy to me.. it's Veterans Day and I got in the military to take care of Both my children When they were about 7 years Of age and now that they're grown ..one of them won't have nothing to do with me cause his wife don't like me And he allowed a person in our family that is a known liar and drama starter to get in his head when she lied about me and my other grown child used to call every now and then either to ask how I'm doing, vent about a problem or ask for money and now she won't even do that much and only texts sporadically .. S*** hurts for real Ricky ... I was not raised with a father or a stable mother And had to separate from my brother when I was 6 seeing him rarely after that And found out as an adult that I had a sister that was a year older than me that grew up in the same town as I did and nobody told me about her; however I chose to raise my children Myself and keep both of them together.. My only goals for them was that they graduate high school, didn't end up in jail or getting pregnant or feel like they were forced to get married like I was at 16 But I know that they will be OK and things will eventually be reconciled.. I'm just satisfied that they are alive, healthy and working even if they treat me some kind of way 💯
Rickey, I love when you keep it REAL. This type of stuff goes on all the time then people think you mean when you set boundaries. SMH 💯
Rickey thank you for all that you do and have done for people. I appreciate your real talk. I parent a lot like you. Parents are so busy trying to give kids everything they want and being their friends that they end up being used. I'm thankful my son was taught some the lessons you taught your kids and other children. These kids don't sit with the elders and learn the life lessons we have to share on life, marriage, God, relationships. They want to text and call and not sacrifice their time to actually come visit you because "they" have things to do. We have lost our village connection. We have to correct and check these kids. Parents are and have been sacrificing and they don't appreciate it.
You're speaking FACTS! It's a thankless job!
I am a mother & I feel you completely RS ♥️
Thanks Rickey. It was a long ass video BUT I could listen to YOU all day long! And as usual YOU’RE RIGHT about everything you just said. Where’s the loyalty? Smdh💕
everything he saying makes a lot of sense!
Being a Blessing is Never a problem because where you sow may not be where you reap. I really wish we would have more direct conversations with the people in our lives about what we wanted instead of being upset about not getting what we never asked for but expected. ❤️
My Lord Rickey this is my life…I have raised daughter and many other children that are adults…… it hurts that most of them don’t give a f$&! about whether I live or die… the relationship with my daughter is on / off…we need a whole show based on this topic…. Thanks for sharing… you always keep it real💕💕
It hapns to mothers too! Hate to say it. But, it does🤷🏽♀️