After School Care in Denmark/Schools in Denmark/Raising Kids in Denmark
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- Опубліковано 12 лип 2024
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Hi! I'm Kelly, an American mom living in a small town on Denmark's peninsula in Midtjylland. Today, I am going to tell you the 5 Culture Shocks that I had with After School Care in Denmark and give you some details about what our experiences have been with SFO and club in Denmark over the past 5 years!
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It is really important to learn the kids that they can't go anywhere without telling. My opinion is there is three very important things to learn the kids:
1. Adhere to agreements and why
2. Learn the clock as early as possible and why.
3. Never go anywhere without permission and why.
These 3 small rules will make it much easier to be a parent and kid. Don't forget the why part.
I don't have problems with my kids going off. They always tell me where they are going. That just doesn't happen in the SFO. My son should get a watch though. That could be helpful!
I Will mention one thing surrounding the whole looking for you kids, for 30minutes, etc. It is not unheard of the kids to hide to get more playtime with their friends. I have certainly done it.
I agree with this! :)
Back in the days we had no SFO's or "clubs". If my parents wanted to find me the search radius would have been 10 kilometers ;)
My father has often told how churchbells, at 18 o´clock, was the tricker telling him to go home :).
Exactly! Me and my brother too. No SFO.
👦👨
Gone for hours on Sundays, exploring. The great lake, the wood, the beach, the cliffs. In short: the northern part of the island Als.
Nothing bad ever happened, if I remember correctly. 🤔
I vividly recall once we were chased by a bunch of angry cows because we crossed their field. 👍🏻🐄
Just one of many adventures.
(And you could ask our little sister what adventures we put HER through!) 🙂🧗♀️
Yes we did. We just called them "Fritidshjem" :-) ! Same concept as an SFO,/Club (near your school), different name. The first "fritidshjem" dates back to 1903, so you must be over 118 years old, if you didn't have the offer, of at least - the first on😉! Otherwise the national offer and concept of "fritidshjem/SFO/Club" has been around for 50+ years! So stop the "BS" 🙄!
Sorry Kelly, but I need to write the rest in Danish. Pretty sure your able to get most of it. Otherwise get "Hubby" to help you out.
Stop nu folkens! I begynder at lyde som min Mormor, der blev født i 1916 og reelt ikke havde de tilbud vi og vores unger har i dag :-( ! Hvis du var barn i 70'erne, har du du haft adgang til en "Skole/fritidsordning" - også kaldet et fritidshjem :-) ! Den var ofte tilknyttet den skole du gik på, og lå ofte i nærheden af den.
Korrekt! Ikke alle fritidshjem havde adgang til en "Skov", men så fandt vores skønne pædagoger på noget andet 😁, efter tiden vi levede i ☺️ ! I 70'erne var mit fritidshjem i et "Betonkvarter" i Århus. Så i stedet for at kunne slås i mod "Orker" (som vi ikke engang kendte), "Rollespillede vi "Cowboy'der og Indianere", "Politi og røvere" eller "Amerikanerne mod Tyskerne" (Den var altid svær..., for der var sgu ALDRIG nogen der ville være Tyskere 😁 ) !
Men her lærte vi vores Danske evne til at gå på kompromis og lære at forhandle :-) ! "Du får noget nu, men så må du give mig noget, næste gang" ! Det lærte vi Danske unger allerede i 12/13års alderen tilbage for 40år siden 😎 !
Kort og godt! Er I født i 60'erne, ved jeg i hvert fald godt, at I har haft adgang til dagtidens SFO ordning! I en eller anden form!!
Pas på jer selv ;-) !
@@KHValby They are closely related but they aren´t really the same thing. SFO is more educational (schoollike) than many/most "fritidshjem", always being under the control of a school. The idea is a coorporation between school and freetime (often called DUS to amplify this connecting). SFOs around Denmark are more similar to eachother compared to "fritidshjem", the last are allowed to stand more out.
The classic "fritidshjem" was more of a placeholder for the kids - not that there´s necessarily anything wrong with that. There is no imperical evidens for children learning more being in school.
Thanks for the info :-) ! I didn't know that :-) ! I don't totally agree, since I learned how to just have fun and socialize with other kids. If I messed up, there where teachers there to teach me, that what I did wasn't "cool". That usually worked! Never felt my fritidshjem as a "placeholder" " I actually liked coming there.., and was often upset when I my parents picked me up! And please" Don't read anything bad into that. I had good parents :-) !
In the Klub i went to, we had rabbits, we could sign up to take care of. And right next to the rabbits, we were allowed to built our own "house", so we did. We were provided with all the materials, to make doors and a roof, and there was a pædagog to help us. It was super fun!
That does sound fun!
We had school-gardens, each our little lot. I grew a bunch of rhubarbs and brought them home to my mom.
She probably got sick and tired of them, but she never mentioned it. (Thx mom!)
@@Finnec123 that’s adorable 🥰
i love Denmark, I came from connecticut in a middle class but i move in denmark bcos of culture and way of life thats what i love it
I worked at an SFO, and we had a system, where they had to move thier picture om a board, to show where they are - outside, gymnasium, basement or inside. Helped a lot.
I den sfo min datter gik havde de en stor tavle hvor alle områder af sfoen var tegnet og hver barn havde en magnet med deres foto på. De skulle så flytte deres foto hver gang de skiftede legeområde og de voksne hjalp med at huske børnene på om de havde husket at flytte deres foto. Så kiggede man bare der for at se hvor ens barn var. 😃👍🏻👍🏻
Det er en god ide!
Vi havde et lignende system, på mine børns skole, hvor der også var maaange steder at lede. Nogen gange huskede de det, andre gange ikke...! 😎
En rigtig god måde at prøve at holde styr på rødderne.
You always make me smile. Thank you.
Mange tak for another great video Kelly. :)
Thanks, Dan!
I was born in Denmark and moved to New Zealand when i was really young, i hope to move back to Denmark and your videos help alot about learning danish life.
Where I live in Jylland, up north of Limfjorden, we didn't have SFO in school, it was a building right next to it that shared football fields with it. I remember my friend and I would always be pretending to be masons when we weren't competing for digging the deepest hole, and around 14:00 there was free food in the form of rugbrødsmadder and we would always compete to see who could eat the most :D Later when we got into klub, another building just next to school, we were allowed to go play in a small forest nearby where we also did roleplay and stuff like that. Two or three times a year, we would have these theme weeks where we would learn about something and then try and live it, such as cowboys where we would make wooden horses and carve a sign for the last day of the week where we would open the "saloon" and hand out food and drinks to the younger kids, indians where we would build a huge tipi and cook over fire and such, and vikings during the winter where he made a cloth out of hide (first time we ever tried sowing) and made axes and shield before roleplaying a fight. We would also frequent a stream on the edge of the grounds where we would catch frogs, spiders, salamanders and bugs and put them in terrariums to learn about throughout the day before releasing them and going home. Otherwise, they put on a market for us to sell toys and stuff during summer where folks from town could come and buy it for their own kids or grandkids, we had excursions to other SFO's to trade pokemon cards and other collectibles as well as a football tournament every summer with 5 other SFO's with teams from each year. Obviously we also had card games, consoles, pool table, table tennis, a basketball court, pillow rooms for pillow fights, rooms with couches to just hang out in and firepits and hammocks outside, so much like what your kids have. I guess not much has changed since then, thankfully :)
My kids went to SFO which was great!
Personally, I didn't mind if it took me a while to find them, just meant that they were having fun! 🤩
Club was even better! 👍
You were one of the big kids!
That meant, dance parties, motorcross track, horseback riding, even a 5 day summer trip to Paris, Euro Disney!
All my kids went, had a blast!!
Hello from Hundested 🌸🌱
Thanks for sharing!!
YAY ! Kelly is back 😎😎 ! Missed you 😑😑 !! American perspective to a life in DK 😉😉😉 !! It's good for us Danes to see the world, from other places 😊, otherwise we get to smug 😁 !! And you make total sense, but most Danes just trust that nothing bad will happen to there Kids 😉 ! Our Kids will find there way out of the Forest, and back to "Kindergarten", or they'll just sit down and wait to be found. Danish Kids are resourceful 😉😉 ! Kelly! Your a good Mom and a really good "Ameridane" 😁 ! Welcome back 😉
Thanks so much! :) I am raising kids in Denmark, but it really feels like Denmark is raising me as a mom! LOL :)
Mrs Kelly :-) ! Your doing a great job!! You don't need to be raised :-D !
We pay for our daughter to be able to go to "klub" (she's 11) after school so that she won't miss out on the potential social relations and events connected to klub. It was never really a neccesity but we wanted her to have the option - especially since she had to change schools. And yeah...I've sometimes spent a good amount of time trying to locate my daughter when picking her up from sfo when she was younger 😂
I live in Denmark many years
I worked in a SFO from 2005 to 2009, I would usually work outdoors, and I would have pretty good idea about where the different kids were, in the sandbox, playhouses, mooncars, sportsfield etc. So I would often help the parents find their kids.
I'm from the southwestern part of jutland and we also had rollespil! Usually it was just once or twice a year where we did it for a whole week each day after school in the SFO and it was so much fun! Most of my favourite childhood memories were made in my local SFO
That is wonderful! :)
I grew up in a small village near Silkeborg. I remember since 5 being out and about with my friends. We bicycled 8km from home. To get to the neighboring town.
But I have to admit that it's nice with mobile phones today. Our 6yo has a cheap phone limited and monitored by apps. So the days she wanna do the 700m walk home by herself or with classmates, it's still really easy to reach her, or in worst case locate her.
We pay for SFO too, but that's just as much for her to have somewhere to hang out after school as it is an actual need to have someone look after her... She's reasonably responsible at this age, she knows what's dangerous or stupid by now.
Edit: been through the comments by now. Apparently there's a lot of people that doesn't even trust their own kids. Try to remember as far back as you can, hadn't you at least tried to climb the tallest tree around when you turned 7? My point is not that kids are always rational, but most of us survived anyway. The one kid that didn't make it in my generation was the idiot that put a plastic bag over his head while trying to inhale the butane of a lighter. Any proper parent would teach a kid about that kinda shit before it's 3. Don't get me started on how silly the kinder surprise ban in the US is. Be a parent and teach your children ffs.
I used to work in a klub. It function ed like an SFO but was called "krogården" we had everything from competetive mountainbiking on a track we made to LARP'ing (thanks to yours truly), bouncy castle (not really castle but You get whst im saying), boxing training and more. great place for the Kids, they had massive fun
Works the same in Sweden. We lived so close to school so my 3 sons could walk there by themselves from early age.
The pedal carts with the lever steering 💥, I remember that 😂😂😂😬
I'm from a coastal town on the mid-eastern part of Jylland (Not Aarhus).
Back when I was a kid, we had SFO. Though when I was in the second grade I'd usually go home, since the walk home was bout 5-10mins and I'd usually take my little sister home with me.
When I couldn't go to the SFO anymore, the school would offer after school activites. We did have a "club", but it was sort of a dancing/party club and it wasn't my thing.
Some of the after school activites or classes, where pottery, food making with adults, painting, dancing, jewlery making, forest explorations (where you'd learn about nature), sports like football, forste runs and biking etc.
I just have to address that the people working in the SFO are not teachers, they're pædagoger and pædagogmedhjælpere. It's a completely different profession.
After school or sfo or club, that is the best things for the kids.
When I lived in Copenhagen, early 1980s, I never heard of SFO or Klub. I was older - high school age - but I did have a younger brother who was the right age for those programs. The school I attended was a private school with an international side and a Danish side, but it must not have been a thing back then. My old school now does have SFO, they have information about it on their website.
Thanks! It's never crossed my mind to look up my old schools online. 🤔
It is always fun listening to your reactions to how you see Scandinavia (Denmark) compared to the US. Or to be more price how it works over here. The more I listen to you, the more I realize I probably would live with one culture shock after the other if I moved to the US.
I just wouldn´t fit there. I´m not saying this as if I am negative to America it is just that I am fostered in a different way like you describe here.
As are most people.
There are large role playing games in the weekends. 1-200 kids spend 4-6 sometimes 8 hours running around the forest and battling each other in all kinds of weather.
its been a few years (25 years) since i was in Klub. but the one i went to, had animals like chickens, pigs, bunnies and horses.
In my kids SFO I never had that problem, the teachers always know in what area the kids are, not the exact point, but the general area
When my brother and I were ~12 and 13yo we roamed around in a big forrest with a steep cliff down to the beach. We did all sorts of things. We would be back by dinner. Our parents never worried. Before we were 10 we walked all over the island (30×10 km) on Saturdays. We were chaced by cows and played at a big lake. Our parents never worried. Etc. Good times.
I'm too old to have known kindergarten, SFO etc. Lucky me. No grown ups around.
I Think how far SFO goes is a bit different School to School because the School i went to and that my one sister still goes on has SFO 2 from 4-6th grade (its a Little School so only classes til 6th grade) and its like a Big thing to get to SFO 2 because its a bit different stuff we do we used to get invited to this childrens festival ind Vordingborg which was awesome and there was at SFO 2 playstaition and that kinda stuff
Very neat! Thanks for sharing! 😊
The staff in the SFO is not teachers, they are "pedagogues" (I do not know if that is a English word)
Great channel and content :-)
Hi Kelly, thx for yet another interesting video. Been watching quite a few of your videos by now and love to hear how you feel about Denmark and the way things just are here :D But I have a question that I hope you don´t mind answering ( if you don´t that´s totally fair ofc :D ). Can´t help noticing that it looks like your pupil ( center of the eye) has dripped down in your one eye. Is that a condition you have ? and if so does it have a name ? I have never seen that before and just finds interest in learning every day :D Have a nice day.
It is a freckle. My eye is actually normal otherwise.
@@MyNewDanishLife I take it´s what is also called a nevus ? That´s cool and thx for the reply nice to learn :D And I guess it just has to do with how the light hits your eye that makes me notice it as your eyes often are fully lighted up by whatever light source you have in front of you. But super cool to have something ( as long as not harmful ofc ) that you don´t see often with others :D
@@XpiRai It is like a nervus, which we call a "mole", but it is just a freckle. In Danish, it is called a "fregne".
@@MyNewDanishLife Åhh jeg er skam 100% dansk så den er jeg med på :D Var en måske forkert venlighed jeg skrev på engelsk. Men igen tak var interessant at læse op på noget jeg personligt aldrig havde set før :D
The club i went to as a child/teen, the ages was from 10 to 18 years Old. I dont know how it work in Jylland or if the rules have chance since 2004-2012. But probably further than 7th grade 😄
As a dane, I think a big part of older childhood and teenage years in denmark is conected to your sport activities or sparetime activities in a local "forening". How is your expirience with this and how is it different from US?
"There's more good than bad."
Happy to hear that...
(No, just give us your piece of mind!)
I remember when my kid was in sfo, her dad always complained that he spent so long looking for her. He often spent 30-45 min to find her. I always found her within 10 min or so 😅
Too funny! :)
I work in an SFO (Well, KKFO, the Copenhagen equivalent) and when parents ask me where their kid is, if I haven’t just seen them, I tend to shrug and say; “Around. Go look.”
"...but shocked like...ok, thats different...!"
Well, that's a positive view on Danish life. 😉
I think the keyword in this setting is; trust. Danish society is build around that word.
I get the part of not being able to find your kid, and the way it works at your SFO, does not sounds like how it works most places. Normally the kids are supposed to write or tell an adult where they go if they are leaving the house or the normal playground, and often the parents plan a time to pick their kids up and the kids are ready to leave or are near the parking spot, or the parents text their kids so the kids come to them instead of their moms running around.
That is interesting to hear. Are you in a bigger town or a smaller town?
@@MyNewDanishLife Both a really really small town ( the countryside) and a bigger one. It was the same both places.
One thing is if the adults know where the kids are, for me, it is more important that my kid know where to go and find an adult if they need one. And yes, my children were hard to find. Annoying for me, heaven for them. They had a gym, lego room, arts and crafts, book nook, kitchen, gaming, big playgrounds and a huge forest. The kids grow with the responsibility. The limits in the forest are only marked with yellow paint on a few trees, and every kid know that’s the border.
Where in Midtjylland do you live
Good video. However the ‘teachers’ at sfo and club are not teachers. They are Pædagoger, which is quite different
Hi, I'm new in Denmark and I find it so difficult to accommodate, I would like to bring my fsmily as well, can you give me any directions 😊
I'm living in Aarhus
nyidanmark.dk Spouses and children are pretty easy to bring if you can support them. Other family members, not so much.
My cousins son love the SFO. One day on the way home my cousin almost had a car accident, when his son told him the best thing that day was when all the boys in the SFO had to pee on a bonfire to put it out - just like real cowboys.
Oh my! That is funny! :)
Wish there were a lot more Americans in here.
When your son buys stuff at 'the club', using your account, what ID does he have use?
He doesn't use one. Small town. They know all the kids.
@@MyNewDanishLife
That's so cute!
Where are you, Kelly? Missing you.
The adults know were the kids are even now it doesnt seen like it. They are somewere in the SFO area 😉😂
YOU could teach your kids to tell an adult where they go. 😀
This should so much like the club I went to
Unfortunally sueing culture is slowly sneaking into denmar bc most young parents today is hysterically anxious about every little thing
do you feel its safer sending ur kids to school in Denmark vs. USA? :D
I've long since understood that you can be sued if you as much as lift your left thigh and let out a bit of "air" - in the US. 🙂
Is that common culture replaced by suing culture?
Yikes!
I REALLY like that your kid went home with a buddy and didn't tell anybody. 😄
@Rita Roork
I don't doubt one second that you love and take care of your children.
It's just that suing as a reaction to things unforseen seems so foreign to me. It doesn't solve any problem.
Edit (added):
It just settles a dispute leaving one the winner and the other the loser. 🤷🏻♂️
@Rita Roork
Children lying around in the snow... We don't do that either (we rarely have snow here these days unfortunately).
Just wondered why suing each other maybe has replaced what I regard as normal culture.
@Rita Roork lol, we do Care about our children to, but we trust them to find an adult if they need help or something. The kids are not missing, and the adults know that they are in the SFO area. 😅
@Rita Roork we do not leave infants! WTF!? They are fine wearing warm clothes.
@Rita Roork
Excuse me, but I wonder on what planet you're living.
I think it's about control.
This is part of the problem America have with law enforcement. Kids are brought up with adults that not only are responsible for there safety, but want to be in control all the time. Kids learn from that behavior and many Americans want to be in control of other people rather than just letting them be free. It's a paradox in the land of the free, that people make stupid 911 calls about trivial stuff that no one in Denmark would care about, also when no law has been broken. They want to boss people around because of bullying in there childhood and they learn that bullying from too much control from adults. Kids mirror the behavior of adults and slightly perverted that becomes bullying.
There was this very successful TV show in Norway called "Skam". They evaluated for an American version, but the idea was tossed. The reason was not the (nonexplicit) sexual scenes - no that was OK. The problem was that the parents was not bothering the kids all the time. That was judged unrealistic for an American audience. In Denmark no parent ever go to a collage. In America the parents have payed a lot of money to see there kids in to collage and they want to follow there education and social life much too closely imo.
Craving for power over people you love is not cool and that goes for kids too. Of cause kids need some decisions to be taken by an adult (I call them adult decisions so the kids don't get confused) but mostly they will go along with being guided, if your past guiding has proved successful.
So you freaked out at the SFO .......... trust your kids
Gosh Kelly, the audio....
I can't fix it unless you tell me what is wrong. It sounds fine to me!
@@MyNewDanishLife
Just relistened. The sound is very tinny, like the mic is 2m away. Volume is OK.
If I'm the only one complaining then just ignore me. 👍🏻🙂
Try using another computer/phone to check your video.
🤷🏻♂️
Im 12
Thanks for watching, Benjamin!
realy..45min
USA: calls itself land of the free. Also USA: Needs to know where kids are at all possible times. Doesn't sound very free to me
In Denmark copenhagen zoo 🇩🇰🇩🇰 vs 🇺🇸 vs 🇱🇹
Will you be my friend
Ehh what's your point
I work in a SFO. We have a english speaking parent... Lets call her Karen... Who throws a tantrum every time theres not a grown up close by her kid. How about showing some trust in Staff?
Vil du være min ven
You are not a real danish when you go to copenhagen zoo
You don't know denmark let them be its not usa its denmark im 14 year old boy
You seemed to have missed something in the translation. Thanks for the comment.
I m the king of denmark so you do anything what i say to you. Don't forget
The king of Denmark is a child? I’m pretty sure that’s not true.😂
@@MyNewDanishLife : just another troll, ignore..
Hillerød school is denmark has the worst schools
I live in Denmark its sk boring denmark