How to tell if an INFJ likes you | ALDEN WHITE
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How to tell if an INFJ likes you
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nobody : INFJ: finding a mate is like war strategy
Damn so true 🌟
truer words have never been spoken
same here,haha
Yaa It's A War Within Us😏
Hmmmmmm.......
Chika: Love is War?
That’s actually so weird to think about, how I would be far more comfortable talking about someone’s family problems than making small talk.
I...damn same
I just realized I'm the only one who feels that way
😢
"we never want to come off too needy, too demanding or too annoying..."
Turns out I'm all of those things
Bro PLZ 😭 This is getting a little TOO accurate.
So true
Am I the only one who sometimes prepares topics to talk about before meeting said person?
No. I didn’t realize others did this too.
Me too 😭 and after the conversation I’d replay it in my head and analyze every cringy word I said and if it’s texts I’ll reread the conversations like 5 times and say to myself they’ll never talk to me again 🙂
Yeah, don't wanna get caught not having sh*t to say to the one you're super interested/invested in. 😅
Youre not alone 😀✋
same here 😃😭😭
so you just gonna expose us like that
😂😂😂
Ikr 😂😂👏🏻
LOL!!!
Holy shit i forgot i already saw this hahaah
As an INFJ who gives less f***s every passing day, I don't think anyone can tell if I am flirting for the memes or because I am into them. Sometimes I will act a certain way just to see what happens for the "data".
That's me bro. I used to be so tense and stuff, but now I really don't care about much. This funny thing I used to do is to stare at someone with my intense way and see their reaction. Lol
Ditto
« Just to see what happens for the data » this. is SPOT ON
So you generally play with other people's emotions....that's kinda messed up
@@zuvanissi9676 well, infjs are humans too. not all of us are "saint-like". generally i'd like to think i'm nice. i like being kind to people but sometimes it's only to make them 'accept' me. bcs of how weird i can be when i'm just being myself. but when i want to see some 'reactions' to people, i will do what these ppl said they did.
mostly bcs it's only that way that we get to peel the layers of a person. so we can 'understand' how these people tick. i don't think most infjs do this out of malice. it's just how we wired to be.
INFJ will avoid eye contact if we don't like a person. If we do like someone, it's the complete opposite. Our eyes will be on you all the time. Also, if you're the first person we come to when we want to share news, then we definitely like you A LOT. If you can't or won't make us laugh, please exit the building.
I never though about that..
Its true.
what if an infj sometimes avoid eye contact and sometimes look so deeply into your eyes or stares at you when you are not looking and then shy away after you make eye contact with them?
@@ameee7902 This. Asking for a friend of course.
@@ameee7902 good news. That's me. They nervous
Stares. Little grin. Doesn't acknowledge your existence. Cold, yet wanting to get to know you. One day you'll see their true self. But that's level 100. Good luck.
Ugh. I've stuck by my INFJ for 1year and 5months, we met online during the pandemic and developed the strongest connection in (I think both) our lives. We're in our mid 30's. He showed all the signs, opened up, asked everything about me, we know eachother seemingly inside and out, he now vents and cries in front of me (during video chat), keeps me involved in all his work/financial decisions. And yet.... He has never said I love you.. he's told me a handful that I mean 'so much' to him, and he sometimes has emotional breakdowns about how amazing he things i am, and how I get him and know him better than anyone. YET.. in recent months, he's gone completely platonic... And after a recent argument, he just hit me with 'im flying to see you'.. the plan was to wait for our vaccines, but nope. He got his ticket and will "coincidentally" be here for my birthday week in June, and also "coincidentally" flys in one hour before I land at LAX from a bachelorette trip I will be on. He is flying from Europe, to see me. I've got NO idea why, I feel like he couldn't care less about a future together. But, he says he wants to talk, so.. alright, come half way around the world I guess... Let's talk. 🤦🏽♀️... If he doesn't finally let his guard down once were face to face, and return the love I've openly given him. I swear to God. 🙃.
That's is all, thank you for reading🙏🏽
Sorry for the typo's, I didn't have it in me to spell/grammar check🙈
@@krystlevergara3955 I'm not sure about infj male ofc they're different. But whem we do love someone we are often very guarded we DO want long commitments and not one night stand. So for 1 year is too long to wait for any man now matter what he is. Max 6 months if he not marrying- he never will. Hope this helped
@@redroselace9545 it helps! And the 1year is due to him living in Europe and me in the US, and the pandemic. After this first visit, were going to discuss flying to see eachother more often, let's see what happens😬😩
@@redroselace9545 and thank you for you're response!!!
when he said "casual dating is dead", my next heart beat was deep.. omg xD
As an INFJ, I can confirm this
@Has Goodles I second your seconding.
I remember when my crush caught me staring, i felt like i absorbed all his energy,. I could somehow tell that he didn't like me staring, i felt his annoyance. He has a stoic face so it's difficult to read him but i felt THAT, i felt rejected and, it took me a while, but i got over him.
Bro, I used to do eye contacts with this guy in weird moments until I noticed him avoiding all eye contacts with me by all means. I kinda think as infjs our stares can be a bit intimidating haha
@@Zizipho_Ndayi 😀Yaa True Tho...
Damn you sound like an empath or something XD...honestly I don’t get how I would be able to “fee” that person in that scenario
I've been told I'm intimidating. A new girl came to our school, and months later she was telling her first impressions of everybody. She suddenly came up to me and was like "Amelia, I was scared of you. You were scary."
I felt a bit of pride that I was intimidating, but also immensely confused because I didn't mean to be.
Me, an INFJ, watching this video so that I am aware of what signs I am giving off and can overthink about it
Laughed at ‘cheerful nihilism’. So true.
As a INFJ female I agree.
* I see through people easily and the guys hitting on me (and getting turned down asap)are usually; the guys with issues looking for a free shrink/mommy 2.0 and the narsisstic guys mistaking me for a co-dependent. I cut those off at the knees nowadays cause I know where that toxicity is going. I don't need that in my life.
* But I agree if I like you I get protective. Not just wanting to take care of you, protect you physically but mostly emotionally. I just wanna rap them in bubblerap really.😊
* I get playful. My inner child doesn't come out with everyone. But if I trust you and sense no judgement you get to see my wacky softer side. And I agree a shared sense of humor is important. I like guys that can make me laugh. But I don't like humor at the expense of someone or at my expense. That feels like a veiled attack. But someone who doesn't take themselves seriously and is relaxed and goofy is attractive.....and a good way to weed out the narcs cause they would never do that. They are too obsessed with their image to ever devalue themselves in public. 😜
* Also smartass flirty banter is hot too. If someone tries to talk me under the table....you are not gonna succeed but you trying to is very sexy. Its more of a test of will really. I like to see a little backbone in a man. I tend to be independent and don't NEED a partner but I LIKE to know someone is strong enough to have my back if need be and secure enough to let me do my thing.
* And I agree we are first looking for an emotional spiritual connection. Shared views on life or shared values. Someone who understands us on a deeper level who we can be ourselves with.
* Authenticity is very hot. Someone being their weird self even if that doesn't match the group is attractive. It takes guts to be yourself. And as an INFJ we are usually the weirdo as well so.
Don't get too confident about the fact when you can tell if someone likes you..... I made that mistake. Some people have very borderline "friendly"
@@betimobla6562 Thank you for the warning. Unfortunately I had to learn that lesson the hard way already (narc). It's the reason I tend to be guarded. Especially guys I assume are enfp. They feel very familiar and my guard tends to be down immediately...BUT I still keep my guard up...my emotional side may be going "a feeler jippy 😀👍👋". My rational side knows better and will be analysing for possible red flags the next couple of months. Before I let my guard down I need to feel like I know them through and through. As an INFJ who psycho analysed someone I wanna know them better then they know themselves.
But I tend to like the playful guys (my guess enfp). You know the....they've been bullied growing up but they grew up types. I like the guys comfortable in their own skin but a little cinnamon role on the inside. Adorable! I am a believer that a difficult childhood makes for an interesting adult. 😜
You sound like an assertive type and I applaud you for it ;)
@@Octobris yall wtf. There's enneagram. Pssht get outta my sight with that T/A
@@betimobla6562 umm, what? How complimenting someone's ability to recognise what they want from a partner bad? Also tell me how this in any way, shape or form concerns you.
😏 INFJ having the most twisted sense of humor but loving af 👌🏻
This is too accurate 😩🙏
Lol gets dark sometimes.
Lol I feel when my stare is creeping someone out so I have to schedule in "eye-contact breaks" during conversations to dissipate awkwardness.
Lol, I will do that instead
Top love languages: touch and quality time and acts of service towards the other person
You infj's are rly adorable XD
Y'all so soft cuties in my eyes
Same
We aren't soft trust me. Usually by age 15 we don't give a damn about humanity and hope it burns but at the same time want to save it.
Awww nice to hear😊
thanks man, finally someone who said it.
You intj's bring out the dark side in us lmao. Need to stay away from you even tho we love you and get you on many levels
borderline inappropriate humour, well said:) Me all the time...
I’m laughing because at 2:36 you’re playing with a feather, that’s exactly what I do when I’m trying to explain things 😂 I fidget a lot lol
I can't describe how moved I was to have someone describe how this works as an INFJ. Someone who understands, finally! The demisexuality, the wish for MORE quality time, the staring and looking and trying to peel off layers to get closer to their innermost self and connect on that level. Balancing this want for connection with not really wanting them to feel it because they might not feel the same and it would hurt so much.
I have a major crush on a good friend and that is exactly what happens when we take a walk together.
I’m heavily crushing on an Infj . I’m an Infp haha this was definitely eye opening.
what- same
Winona ryder(infp) and johnny depp (infj) are compatible
damn same
Hmmmmmm....
I'm an Infj crushing on an Infp 😂
That's going to be the thing that " is going to stir the infj's chili" ... LMAO.
We appreciate you matched sense of humor. Sincerely,
An ENFP female. 🪄
I'm an ENTP who's been in love with an INFJ for 10 years. We're very close friends, and she's now married, so good friends we will stay.
thats sad
Im so sorry
I want to give you a hug. A big warm sweet hug. Really. I hope you find someone who'll love you fully too. :)
In my 23 years of life I have never ever felt so stirred up ever in my life, I think she's the first INFJ ever I witnessed in my life - ENTP here.
Have you found another one?
I love small talk as long as it lasts a small time. Its a time when people reveal themselves in a socially structured means of acknowledging another without becoming entangled.
Cool that you made the connection to demisexuality. I thought I might be demisexual without making the connection with being an INFJ. Now it does make sense.
Demisexual means possessing a Christ like tendency to become a Hermaphrodite or giving up on sex all together? That is a new idea.. lol.
@Robert Acton
Demisexual in this sense means having sexual attraction only after developing strong emotional connection. I like your "definition" MORE though, which I thought that word originally meant before looking it up. Like demigod. Funny, because I'm a Sagittarius too, so god-complex comes naturally. LOL.
Im 62 and I've been going on this INFJ journey, which has been fascinating because I really thought I just looked at things differently and more deeply than everyone else. I'm gay and my friends alway thought I was crazy because I actually have to "like" someone to have sex with them, no matter how "hot" they were. They were like, why? The only thing small talk is good for is to get more info on a person's true self. I give everyone a break because I know how hard life is, I hate phone calls because I don't get enough social clues over the phone...and so on. It's interesting how all these INFJ traits hit me right on the head.
I betting text conversations are awesome but short and never last long
As an ENTP I always find INTJs attractive as fuck , and I didn't know why exactly people say INFJs are the best match for us ..now I kinda know , that's hella cute
So who are your INFJ crushes?
This is better than all of those robot voiced top 10 lists
ENTP trying to get an INFJ to fall madly in love with me. It’s working.
The way you describe how INFJs decide to like someone is very similar to how INFPs decide to like someone. Reviewing all their aspects (faith, values, interests, compatibility) and needing an emotional connection before deciding to let the like happen. Also being highly selective!
Exactly that’s why I think we get on so well
Humour is so sexy. When guy makes me genuinely laugh its a turn on.
exactlyy
For me it's high intelligence 😍
This guy I know has this signs on, I like him so much.
ENFP here
I always stare at people, I like taking all their features, and their energy, is like by watching them I can know a lot about them. I talk more through my eyes than with words, I'm not good with words. Is hard being an infj, people always misunderstand us
I literally came here to see if how I crush is the same as other INFJs and the answer is yes lol
Exactly!! Same!
Precisely me
I am an INTJ female and I just started dating an INFJ man. Our connection is crazy. I am excited to see what the future holds.
It’s been a year that I think I am Demi sexual and then you say that infj are kind of demi sexuel. This so true !!
As an INFJ female I find this video great- so true about us, and surprising how attracted I am to male INFJs! Maybe because we just get each other. Thank you for doing this video :)
I thought the problem was with me, the fact that I couldn't go out with anyone until I had a meaningful connection or a truly deep conversation. thanks for showing that I wasn't the only one. Sometimes I think I'll always be alone, because until today I haven't met anyone who makes me feel passionate about who they really are. But you made me realize that there're people like me. thanks.
I confirm this is 100% accurate
We tend to overanalyze things and sometimes that can lead to misunderstandings. Anndddd yeahhh you truly don't know if an INFJ likes you. Sometimes even I feel and get informations about a person even when they are just walking or talking with someone else. And I always have a thought of I know someone better than they know themselves which is very complicated.
What I've noticed about myself is that, unless you show me romantic interest and makes it at least slightly obvious, I won't really look at you romantically and won't open up my heart to fall in love with you... I wouldn't want to take that risk, and I can say for sure, that I've never taken that risk, ever...
my crush is an INFJ and i'm an INTJ he literally stared at me for 3 years at school but we never spoke, when we did it was always me asking for a pencil or smthn or talking for 5 seconds..i don't wanna make the first move again since i do it all the time and i ended up being ghosted + it's uncomfortable to me...ughhh
I'm also an INTJ. Same with the first move, he's (INFJ) the first one who confessed but after two months or so, he's kinda not into me anymore, he even said I should always do the first move and when I do, he's not reacting like how a partner would do ;-; I try to keep in touch with him during this pandemic but he's now spending time with his "duo" player in games. I do want to understand why INFJs are so complicated that I had to compromise and wait for them to open up but I cannot wait and suffer that long if in the end he's going to ghost me.
@@ppnovoir that's kinda toxic, he shoud've been nicer at least😒
I maybe demisexual (I m not really sure) and I only ever feel some kind of connection with INFJ cause I feel like they are so pure and like I wanna protect them and be with them sitting in silence without having to force either of us to a conversation I feel like INFJ are like so amazing ppl and just thinking about growing closer with them would be so special but I have never really found anyone like that which is sad
God, this is so accurate, It felt like I was talking to myself
As an Intj exploring an Infj, this was so…
"How close are you with your parents? What's the deal there?" 🤣🤣🤣 This man is saying everything just circulating in my INFP mind that never makes it's way out! I love talking openly about my family and trauma. That's the shit that matters. 😄
I’ve always thought of myself as more of a sharpshooter when it comes to mate selection
With maturity I learned to control my dark side but I lived experiences that made me afraid of myself. I have an aggressive predisposition and in a fit of anger that occurs in situations of real threat against the people I love or against someone close to me, I would transform into a cruel monster with animalistic behavior and even my voice would change. The last time it happened to me, the person didn't know whether to call the police or an exorcist. Seriously, no one benefits to see the dark side of an infj.
ENFP here, I never clicked so quick
straight to point with demisexual
ALDEN WHITE........oh my word!!!!!!
Yes, to all you said. I was cracking up with laughter as everything was spot on especially the humor. You made my day!
I laughed so hard at many of your accurate points in this video --well explained!
Maaan, i've never been more understood in my life! If im really intrested in someone, i study their moves, their habits, their whole SELVES. If i haven't EVER talked to this person, i will plan and try to find the best opportunity to talk to them casually so they won't have a clue i like them. When i liked this guy, i was planning FOR MONTHS how to approach him but the time never felt right. Once the time felt right, i casually asked him if he knew an english word i didn't know (because our native language is greek) during our english class and when NO ONE was around. The whole thing went pretty smooth but long story short it didn't work out, i didn't even have the chance to get to know him better because my autistic friend of mine told him i like him (i don't blame my friend though). I was too embarassed to even walk near him afterwards.
I found like this little feather thing😂
I just realized that me as an Infj I can just say the exactly same thing during a conversation
As a fellow INFJ, you are spot on!!!
Nailed it! It was fun watching you express yourself with your hands as I do. Thanks for sharing.
🙏💕✨
Great Video! This was a spot on analysis...hope to see more MBTI content in the future :)
This was perfect. I laughed at some of the realness here. Thanks.
Oh wow this is a map of myself. I'm finding out this is exactly how I operate. Thank you, it's funny and validating.
You deserve more subscribers! Please make more videos , because I’m an INFJ 🙂🙂🙂
EVERYTHING YOU SAID WAS JUST ON POINT. 🤣🤣🤣
Wow I'm an INFJ and this is right on! ❤️
I'm an infj female and you are bang on. It appears that you may or may not be by twin from another dimension. Further, you are very handsome and even talk with your hands too
OH MY GOSH. THAT "IMMEDIATELY DIVES TO DEEP TALKS"
7:15 - YES!!! Exactly! 💯
very insightful. your ability to self analyze is impressive. I definatly agree with most of what you said. I hesitate to make any bold statements though, as my situation is very unorthodox. I was a virgin until 35, rejected my every single girl i ever asked out if she she knew, or dumped by all of them when they found out. violently in some cases. Eventually just withdrawing completely. the options who did want me only wanted hookups, and i couldn’t do that. So i wasted away until i was a shell. And all the more crazy was that i’m above average attractive. it just attracted poor intentions
I've been studying INFJs for some time now. (I have picked and interest in a special INFJ) and I have to say thsr I'm glad I've been picking up on several of these points made here. Thanks for sharing this with us.
The protective part is dead on. I recently experienced this not knowing why, it was just automatic.
Spot on ! I had an INFJ friend who did all of this to a T
Sharing the same sense of humor I totally agree is important..and precisely the way you stated..wow!! Enjoyed and related to your perspective..thank you.
Spot on 😍
True....Intellectual and Spiritual connection is the key for the attraction to happen!!!
If no that kinds of connection, no or even hate having any physical connection...this is my case!
The memories of all the times I went way too deep too early and kicked myself later for all the oversharing. I knew it wasn’t going down well in the moment but I couldn’t stop!
you absolutely described what stirs my chili
LOL THIS IS SO ACCURATE. I have a crush on a coworker and i always gaze at them because im analyzing them and would discreetly talk to them as if it was casual and try hard not obvious I am flirting.
Yep, I’m an INFJ and also a demisexual.
I am an INFJ. and I do put someone through an internal checklist and then when I see they check off the boxes, I will be more open with the person and tell them my feelings.
I love these examples, stir the chili… I felt that after thought tho but the editing lol
I completely agree with this
Love this video! I 100% agree. I was curious how similar male vs female INFJs “flirt.” Exactly the same apparently. The random feather has me sold lol. Dark and self deprecating humor is the best. If comedy is tragedy plus time, INFJ time is shorter than most.
I love the expression "stir someone's chilli". Thanks for that.😁
Omg i feel so understood 😭🤯
Very accurate.
Every lil thing you did... Omgoshhhh... you are so much like me.
Examine is right, that’s so true
Dude, I'm literally surprised and terrified at the same time at how alike we are! 😱 #infj
i could totally relate as a fellow infj
Ah yes, the what we're your parents like in your childhood as a conversation starter is accurate 😂😂😂
love ya channel man this shit describes me very clearly
Jeez I never thought I would find a perfect explanation of my self
Infj🤝Enfj
I feel like I'm the only infj that doesn't like to make too much eye contact
I feel there is a constant war inside me where I hate being the center of attention, but I love to understand people and feel like I get them and know what they love.
Also, I have never talked to another INFJ in person. Sometimes I feel like it would frighten me a bit, especially if they are as smart as I am. I would probably get myself to trust them despite it all though.
Both me and my friend are INFJs, and we are very similar and different at the same time.
We have similar hobbies and like similar books and movies.
She is organized and I am a mess.
She gets angry easily and I'm super calm all the time.
She likes physical touch and I don't.
Sometimes I think we don't have the same personality at all.
Yes I am an infj, like even if I could like you or being interstead on you but I have never spoke with you I will defenitlly avoid eye contact. Also cause I live in Italy and people are kinda misogenist so if you look at them too much they will start thinking bad of you.
INFJ wants to ask about your past trauma and your parents right away, b/c they know it'll be relevant in the long run. Sounds fun, eh? (Not sure if it's a good sign, though. It seems to signal instant obsession. I cannot think that is rooted in healthy mental outlook. This is our brain on the chemical high of that oh-so-rare instant lust. The INFJ wants to be assured of a positive outcome, even when in the throes of the temporary insanity of romantic obsession!) Your insights are very interesting, thanks for sharing.
First one I’ve found that is deep enough and true 🤟🏽 all the thought is there...and although it’s kinda weird for me...but this true 😗😭👌🏽👌🏽
This is 100% my approach, a true INFJ 😂
I legit wait years and then I have this huge outburst omg I love you can't hold it any much years later. 😭😭😭.
Nice video
exposing us out here
Humor comes in handy because it’s tied into being a Heyoka empath AKA the sacred clown AKA super empath the destroyer of narcissists.
Narc slayer 😂😂👌🏻