What are the weaknesses of an ISTP? | ISTP Cognitive Functions | CS Joseph Responds
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- CS Joseph responds to the question what are the weaknesses of an ISTP using cognitive functions and Four Sides of the Mind theory.
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"ISTPs have a really hard time saying I love you."
My ISTP boyfriend saying I love you a hundred times a day.
He does that for you, that's one of the actions he performs to "show" you that he cares. The words don't mean the same thing to him but the action of speaking it does.
@@bimic92 it is pretty ridiculous but for someone who doesn't connect that well emotionally at least they're making an effort. IDk, might just be a sociopath.
I have the same problem of saying those words. However there has only been one person in my entire existence I say that to that many times a day freely and loving every moment of it. I wonder why myself. Truth is there have been better girls than this girl I verbally express myself to but I still have a difficult time saying the words if it’s not her. That’s how I lost a good INFJ lady just because of those 3 words. I said to her in an argument “those words don’t mean anything, do I act like I don’t care about you? Any sociopath can say those words but no one will act the way I do towards you.” I thought I had given a noble speech didn’t know those will be one of my last words to her. When she didn’t respond positively and was withdrawing I later said out of anger “if you are waiting for me to say ‘I love you’ you won’t hear it. Go to the street there’ll be many guys who will tell you that to get under you. Not me, i show how I feel by the way I act”. I apologized later maybe 2 months later after realizing my mistake. Wanted us to get back together but Still didn’t say the words so she refused. We had been together only 3 weeks prior the split. So it Didn’t feel right. I now understand she felt like she had poured herself into me and I can’t tell her simple 3 words. But to me saying the words meant a higher level commitment. One which I wasn’t sure if I was ready for. Again it had only been 3 weeks. So don’t judge me.
My husband say it many times per day for 30 years.
@@Joyfullagony that is 100% true. the word love doesn't make us "feel" some type of way. But we're saying it because we know it means a lot to you.. acts of service are how we show love
"saying the word I love you is meaningless to them" - man, you're the best. The amount of fakeness and carelessness this sentence contains is fking unimaginable. These days people use these words "i love you", "you are amazing", "you're gonna be fine" left n right yet we are the most depressed gen of all time possibly. There's a reason for it - these are all fake.
@@dasein9980 Not it isn't,I see that all the time.
@@dasein9980 how?
You're absolutely right. There's much hypocrisy in it. At least to my own social compass.
There's a lack of commitment behind those words, that's what happens nowadays, with Ne trickster there's a need to state every intention beforehand, so ISTP know what is that the other person's interests are, a simple "I love you" is simply not enough for an ISTP, something like "Let's live together" would be far more useful I guess haha
Exactly. How about all the fake motion picture perfect dudes on TV. Can't stand it cause it doesn't mean a dam thing. Just words that's all.
“Words aren’t real” I _felt_ that
ISTP here, and each point of this is so true for me.
Deasy B than ur not an ISTP
The test requires complete honesty or it will miss type you. Might have to take some alone time before retaking it so your not influenced by anyone else. Just a theory
My ISTP husband took a long time to say it when we were dating. He was 38. But then when he finally did say it, he never stopped and has been saying it every day for 14 years. (And he is not mistyped. ). But that's about it. Trying to get words of affirmation out of him (Because that is my love language ) is nearly impossible. He speaks acts of service.
- INTJ
"So my dog is able to cope with the meaning of life" pissed myself
Danny Staton yeh 😄😂
omg, an istp video on youtube...Yay!!!!
Right?!
Hands-down every single time I watch one of your videos you change my life step-by-step. You help me with my children you help me with myself and my relationships all the time. This video alone tho short and brief has changed my gratitude towards my own I STP son my gratitude has only grown stronger from this video and now I have very valuable tools to help me to help his
Own self As a mother we always want to strengthen our children and help them become the best version of themselves and give them the best start I think you for all these little things and big things you teach me every single day.
also adding "inability to detect lies" to that Ne trickster
true that's why i think his first and third point can fall into the same category .We are unaware of that actions and intentions are 2 different things , so fake "good" actions from other people can be judged as good even tho the intuition is bad .Aka why ended up being tricked throu out my life in many relationships as an istp who judge people by their actions (thinking that "judging people from there actions is smart and enough to know if someone is nice or not ) i get spectical easly from ENFP's because of they high energy and niceness and all but i fail with other Ixxx types that requires more power to focus on seperating intention and actions.
okay sir thank you for giving your view ... God bless you and your family ..... can I ask more specifically ..? in general it is true that ISTPs can be very skilled at mastering any skilled trade ... but in this case .. in your opinion .. which of these 2 jobs is the most permanent for ISTP if one is required to choose one of them .... ??? electrician or mechanic ...? give me the answer and the logical reason sir ... thank you again ... god takes care of you and your family ......
@@antondeannova7016 I would prefer mechanic, because it has a master-level; but electrician doesn't have much of a mastery; it s just a job; Hardware engineering is also very interesting; since you constantly deal with physical concepts and rules, have a tangible output and can lead to a high paying job; mechanics can also earn $$$ lots of money; if they reached mastery; mostly personal preferences, but a bright future also is an important factor; thats why i am a software engineer right now; I don't like it that much; but kinda a trade-off; I'll be switching to hacking sooner a later since the skills are transferable; and if you are an istp; you can be a senior engineer in half time of a normal person;
A quote that helped me that every ISTP should learn “When it comes to someone who is romantically interested in you, ignore everything they say and only look at what they do.” My caveat to that is “especially if they are a delta.”
What do you mean?
I mean, by "ignore everything they say?"
@big heart the only problem is that ISTP hears word salad when INFP talks.
I have a friend who is INFP and that's not true but she's worked in tech and is a therapist now. Your basic INFP, to an ISTP, seems cute but batshit. Not a lot of real communication - which can be fine with an ISTP, until it's not.
@big heart I don't really care what ENFJs think about INFPs. Not at all helpful.
NFs sound like they're spouting word salad except to other NFs. And that's fine.
But the ISTP isn't obligated to play in NF land, either. Communication doesn't require empathy. It requires clarity.
@big heart am I being paid? Because when I'm being paid, I'll put in the effort to meet people where they are.
If I'm not being paid, they can put in some effort. It's not up to me to empathize and communicate with people. It's a two-way street.
If someone is spouting word salad, that means they aren't putting in the effort to meet me halfway. I'm not here to put in all the effort. BTDT and it doesn't end well.
Other people have responsibilities, too, and it's not up to me to do all the communicating. They have the right to remain silent, too.
@bigger heart.
Here's the thing I think. As an ISTP I don't talk to anyone for the jot of talking, it is either to get something or give something and the last thing I'm interested in are their feelings, because those just always get in the way.
There is a single question though that can normally get to the root of any communication problem when dealing with ISTPs, "Is that what they said or is that what you heard?"
Istp female
Bro, I really like the way you explain things. Keep goin'!
I learned the hard way to judge people by their actions and not their words. Soooo true!
I have patiently waited for another ISTP video. This brought a smile to my face, thank you! 🤗 This was accurate for me. You don’t know me, yet you know me. 🙂❤️
My ISTP husband is so stubborn he believes that if he doesn't know something that other people don't know too. He is super knowledgeable on lots of subjects and completely lacks knowledge on a few important subjects that I often know a lot about. So we are well matched and can make up for each others weaknesses, which is good. But he seems to lack awareness that things he doesn't know are actually knowable...often by me lol. So he sometimes doesn't listen....for like a year. It has sometimes put our relationship in jeopardy. But I really love him and he is a very sweet man even if occasionally he acts like this
you must info dump on him
INTJ wife to an ISTP husband here. Sounds like y'all's relationship mirrors ours. My husband is SO smart, very Introverted and my hero.
Hey Chase, long time follower first time commenter here. This is exactly the kind of stuff I like to see on this channel. ISTP GANG 💪🏻
Duuuuuude god I appreciate your work sooooo much!!!! I’m finally to the point I’m studying all the archetypes and asking tons of my co workers and friends to study their birth charts through astrology and lining it up with psychology. Goodness gracious it’s already helped so many people. Thank you endlessly!!
Yeah ISTP here and I feel like you hit the nail on the head...because I feel bad for every thing you said being true for me lmao. Arrogance(self reliance and dismissing others) and gullibility are my biggest weaknesses
ISTP... in an office =worst nightmare.
lmao
The REALLY worst nightmare would be a open plan office.
My husband is a nurse ISTP. IMAGINE . He hates it. And what he wants to do doesn't have medical insurance which he needs due to a condition. I wish he could go do something else.
@@CRlifeisgood what does he wish he could do? I agree, I could never be a nurse. As an ISTP Female with ADHD...... yeah, no.
OH YES. HAD 2 EXPERIENCES LATER IN LIFE. I AM A FEMALE ISTP AND WORKED WITH ALL FEMALES. SCARY ACTING PEOPLE AND I HAVE NO FEAR. BUT I HAD TO GET THE FLOCK OUT OF THERE BEGORE MY MOUTH LOST CONTROL.
Chase, thanks for interweaving our weaknesses with solutions to help us. I’ve also been told time and again that I should teach others, but have never felt qualified, but thanks for the food for thought. This video was super helpful 🙂
Other people recognize the teaching trait in you. You have probably been teaching for a while but only on occasion when you're interested. You likely more qualified than you think. If a student asked you something that you don't know, I'm betting you'll research it almost immediately.
One of the most educational ISTP videos out there, thanks a bunch!!
Having an amazing experience talking to the coolest ISTP in the universe thanks C.S. Joseph!
Yep. ISTP's suck at listening. Not hearing, listening. Those two are different. So many times an ISTP heard me and completely did not listen and actually think about what I said.
The fact that i have acts of service as my main love language explains a lot, i always had this sense where words are literally just words, if you care about me prove it by ur actions, bcz words are literally just words, i dont usually believe in words, and i dont usually say "i love you" to ppl that i actually love, instead, i do things for them, its a genuine act that i have and it comes more natural
That moment you remember your life's purpose is to be a teacher after vowing to never be a teacher....
This RIGHT HERE.
Yeah I have a friend who is going through this right now. He’s realizing he’s a good teacher and likes it but for years he has said that he doesn’t want that kind of responsibility
hahaha! ISTP here!
okay sir thank you for giving your view ... God bless you and your family ..... can I ask more specifically ..? in general it is true that ISTPs can be very skilled at mastering any skilled trade ... but in this case .. in your opinion .. which of these 2 jobs is the most permanent for ISTP if one is required to choose one of them .... ??? electrician or mechanic ...? give me the answer and the logical reason sir ... thank you again ... god takes care of you and your family ......
As an ISTP Architectural Draftsman I enjoyed designing the buildings but hated being in an office for more than an hour.
I got confused for a second about what he meant by how Actions are separate form Intentions, then it came to me. *father steels to feed his family*. the fathers Actions are bad, but his Intentions are good. So for any other ISTPs out there...that's how to simply see the difference of Actions and Intentions.
Damn it thank you for this video. I'm almost 18 and I really need to improve as a person. I guess no matter how much I get annoyed at my father or just don't want to hear him speak I'm just gonna have to suck it up bc I could learn and understand a thing or two.
Awesome video Chase. I think this added quite nicely to the other istp lectures.
you are so productive recently
I think Istps are so much listening people as a communication ;so when I talk they listen, they don't judge, they don't intreput, but yes they're deaf in listening the advices
I constantly say "I love you" to my partner to the extend where she thought that I always say it without meaning.
"...actions has more value" I totally agree and In my point of view it's not weakness ... We are showing our loyalty into actions because we do care ... What is the point of saying sugarcoated words without putting it into action
I know people are different and have different ways to show their feelings.and I'm not trying to blame anybody I just wanted to explain mine
I’m an infp and I’m totally athletic.
True also for estps but when we see actions over time we can deduce the intentions
My friend is an ISTP and does have his own business. So of course when he took the test he scored as ENTJ and said that was totally accurate, because: entrepreneur! :/ Only NTJs can know what they want and make it happen or so says mainstream MBTI culture...
Only NTJ's huh. That's hilarious 😆
I found the part about constant reading very close to home. I started a few years ago wearing 3m's 'Work Tunes' to listen to podcasts or audiobooks while at work or working around the yard and I've learned the value of constantly taking in new information and learning. I've even taken it a step further and purchased some bone conduction headphones so I can listen while at home without losing the use of my ears.
Also, I've only ever said, "I love you." to my wife and kids, except once on the phone I accidentally responded with, "Love you too." when my mother said goodbye with, "Love you." It was an automatic response since I was used to saying it since being in a relationship with my wife. I instantly regretted it as not being an authentic response from me but of course, didn't bother correcting the mistake.
Your understanding of the ISTP is very accurate and I really appreciate the expertise.
lol poor mom, but what she doesn't know won't hurt her haha
More on an INTP, please.. 😉
Interesting that you brought up that particular saying, as I've been saying that myself for many years now. I often get in trouble or are misunderstood when having good intentions about something towards someone, and often too late realize the actual impact of what I did. Rarely substantial things, but more often interpersonal things that are perceived as me being degrading.
This saying hits home with me as well. I was fortunate enough to learn early
This video so accurate
I got cheated multiple times by whom or who's actions were active and expected work to be done one time but didn't
Funny thing that I developed the unawareness of peoples’ intentions and had to deal with it my entire life till this point lol, I’m not fully developed in this regard because sometimes I really struggle to pay attention to that, but I can see that I’m much more aware of that than in the past 10 years or so
You're accurate. Nice video.
this video was super helpful. thanku
Wow, looking at people's actions instead of their words, I wasn't taught this. I have a huge problem when it comes to this. 😖
I will never forget the shock of my ISTP husband when i told him that if he will not SAY it i will not be able to know 😄
At that point, if you don't let them drag you into a logical argument, and just state that that is how your brain works, you can easily get them to accept that your brain functions differently (but stupid😅) and start practice expressing their love with words
”Istp show love thru concrete action”
I have a problem with offering assistance to my loved ones (ISFP, for example) before allowing them to fail - also not really listening is a problem too.
It’s like fixing problems is like my default mode and I can’t help but do it in every situation. I have to stop myself and use my time more for self development I think.
I’m trying to read more and develop more hands on skills (like piano). It’s a challenge.
Yup you need to let people fail before you offer to help otherwise they don't learn.
As an ISTP I definitely find it hard to sympathize with people, when you already see the solution to what is making them sad. Sometimes people be just too dependent on external factors which keeps them miserable. However there is a dilemma, whether to sympathize, listen to crying , complaints and leaving those people with their problem unsolved or Listen to those people and propose a solution to their problems because we actually care. Helping you solve your problem is our way of sympathizing with you. If we didn't care we will just ignore you. So I am not sure if this is a strength or a weakness. Your thoughts???? My sister an INFJ sometimes just cries when overwhelmed, and she gets angry when I ask her why she is crying. She responds she just feels like crying, when In my mind the solution is easy.
ISTP female. I learned to give them brief empathy and a pat or something and then. AVOUD, AVOID, AVOID.
Istp here I think this was pretty helpful information 🤔
I consider myself an ISTP but my Ne works a lil different I guess. I for example usually think (falsely) that someones being overly nice because they want something in return. After some time I realize that I misjudged them.
"Supervisor" type, huh? Would love to hear more about the benefits of those types of friendships.
In socionics entps supervise istps - istp is the 'supervisee' essentially. Basicac reason is that both are high Ti users, but ENTPs have Ne hero, istps Ne trickster so istps are using Ti without benefits of Ne, ENTPs can use Ti with all the Ne, so they can essentially supervise the Ti of ISTPs and see where they are going wrong with the Ne blindspot. this could be a good thing - istps learns, entp feels valued and also feels this pull towards helping guide the istp. And entp finds istp interesting because of their (to them) 'different' use of Ti so i guess can learn from them too. Socionics says its an unequal relationship tho with entps at an unfair advantage due to having istps trickster as their hero - so arguablyy they can manipulate them. Not sure how true this is - would be interested in Chase's opinion on supervisor relationships
Man that part of it's hard to say "I love you" to people, yeah.. yeahh... Totally yeahhh
I'm an enfj married to an istp. All sounds right on.
What would a istp midlife crisis look like? Because I think I’ve been dealing with so much bottled emotion and regret I’m full out acting like a miserable infp (at least that’s what it feels like idk)
Maybe my other quadrants are maturing
Thank you for the video 💕✨
that down vote was legit; #ISTP
can Te parent easily be blackmailed to do things they don’t wanna do?
I'd like to know more on the differences between the male and female version of each type. Especially ISTP, I think I have a pretty accurate vision of what it's like in a man (thanks to my ISTP grandpa, who is a self made man), but I have trouble understanding how it presents in women. Any thoughts ?
For example I have a female friend who typed herself as ENFJ but I don't buy it because she's quite unaware of other's intentions and very independant. Also she thinks she's always right and that other people are morons :-) and I see her as very concrete (likes to be always in action, see the results of her actions). I wonder if she might just have typed herself based on her subconscious.
So true about saying words i love you... my ex kept saying i love you , while also complaining that i didn't say it back, and if i said it she complained that it didn't feel right, go figure lol .
did you know you can zoom in the page on your browser by pressing ctrl and +
I mean i'm not 100% sure it is done the same way on this browser, but I think it should be
Derp, thanks bro!
Thanks for guilting me into subscribing...
Some ISTPs seem to not have an issue saying "I love you". One ISTP I know has no problem with even the corniest of romantic gestures. Maybe its a different in subtype?
Could be cognitive focus or transition
enfj subconscious
I think most of these weaknesses can applied to intps also.
Thanks for this info
my boss gave me 2 skillful trading options .. and i had to choose one of those trades carpenter and electrician ... which do you think should i choose ..? I am a male istp .. and I like both jobs but I have to choose one of them and I hope your answer can help god bless
I have a love-and-hate relationship with an istp. He always texted me first. And say that i no longer care about him anymore. What's wrong with him?
*infp
That was him saying he missed you and wanted your attention. . Imho. 😊
That’s a low blow. The Alpha Quadra Icey sword has broken me effectively
Is there a season or video that talks about these “supervising” types/dynamics
Not yet
I’m athletic and I’m an infp. Why is that?
10:38 funny because one of my childhood heroes is Eikichi from Great Teacher Onizuka. though i never really aspired to teach, i really loved watching anime/jdrama/movies and reading manga about teachers haha
We have no weaknesses!
ISTP here, thought that way before until, 1Coronthians 10:12 SO LET THE ONE WHO THINKS HE IS STANDING BEWARE THAT HE DOES NOT FALL.
I react like you too when something is inaccurate or incorrect lol
Boy, you sure have been responding a lot lately.
He doesn’t upload lectures on his UA-cam channel anymore only on his website.
😂😂
i need a job where im physically doing things.. office job== no
Is this an example of Ne trickster in isfps? - if someone says something neutral or positive to me with a negative facial expression and tone of voice, i often interpret this as a negative intention towards me - e.g. that they do not agree with me or disapprove of something ive said/done even if their words say otherwise.I then have trouble believing the words and go with the facial expression/body language/tone of voice. But in retrospect there's situations where i see i was wrong and their intentions were not bad or negative, and their words were in fact true
ENTP here with an ISTP younger bro
what does it mean "Istp should focus on actions not words"
can any one give me an example ?
Let me guess, that first response was for ISTJs (or the Socionics ISTps).
Would you say ISTPs don't do well in office politics. Since we don't really talk much, hate drama, fking hate manipulation! How do we get better at this?
you guys are good at confrontation, just don't let people guilt you.
istps like physical work.
In other words the song “more than words” was most likely written by an Istp.
Istp here as well, yup yup big brain time
dear csj; Its about a year (or more) that Im into personality stuff and mbti things, and Im a big fan of your work; I'm looking to find a partner for long-term relationship in terms of marriage, and things had became a little confusing to me (probably due to lack of knowledge); the problem is I think that ESTJ is the best choice and other types are not as comptabile as them and a marriage with an estj female would be ending great ( considering moderate nurture similarity) and other types (e.g. ISTJ or INFP) wouldn't be as successful as an ESTJ marriage.
sounds good, but I also think Im wrong; there are things that I don't see right now; may you clarify this topic a little bit; how type and nurture can play a role in choosing a partner; I really need to know what should I look for :) ( Ni child craving to know what should it want :) thanks in advance
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@@CSJoseph sounds like a second upgrade, ( the first upgrade was also your epic suggestion on "no more mr nice guy" ) I'm on it ... 🙏
Maybe some things are right on that website, other info not so much.
Istp here, I would die if I were to be forced to work in an office in environment.
Hey great videos thx. Something I don’t quite get tho, if we’re supposed to learn to evaluate people by their actions and not their words, isn’t it because actions reflect intentions better than words? So if we should not confuse their intentions and their actions, how are we supposed to evaluate their intentions? (I’m indeed very bad at judging people’s intentions so that could help :) Maybe somebody has a hint?
Experience and/or Consult an Ne user. No one is meant to be able to do everything alone in life. Also watch how to social engineer ISTPs so you can be prepared for that too.
Hehe, my brother is ISTP and he is in HVAC also. 😂😂
yes
Hard relate to your cousin mikes story with his wife
Got it
and i said i love you ironically lmao bcs why not
Can INFP's be scientists?
Why not ?
I think they can and be really very good :p
And i wanna be but if u wanna be for real u need to stop yourself for waste your time with things that arent important i guess like dont play video games or whatever u can think its useless
From an INFJ :p
Of course!
@@sharpiesarecool814 what do you wanna to be? And why :p
Pls answer im curious about others
Pls can you tell me what is your job that can make u happy?
@@eneopopa3145 Well, I'm into biology, fine art, and psychology, but currently, I am a psychology major at my college. I would like to be some sort of creative person, whether that be an artist, songwriter, writer, filmmaker, but I'm also interested in people and helping them. I think some sort of combination between helping others and being creative would be a job that makes me happy :)
thanks for asking! what about you as an INFJ?
@@sharpiesarecool814 Me as an INFJ wanna be the most teacher pyschology nurse and nutrion
I love so much if i could help people as much as possible
The most important i think i could be creative how to stop waste time and how to be a problem solver xD
I have so many jobs i wanna work ehh i hope it doesnt sound ridicioulos i wanna be profesional anywhere as much as possible
Thanks for anwsering :D
Hey can i ask u another question
For what reason you do hate people ?
3rd time watching
i wonder if Bear Grylls the ISTP will die earlier because of all the raw frog and scorpion he eats.
Aaaaahhhh I'm exposed fuck lol
isfjs and infjs most athletic in my opinion
roses are red
violets are blue
omae wa mou
shindeiru
I love that song! Do you know which anime that quote came from?
The woman with glasses in the thumbnail looks like karen.
The main issue with c s joseph obviously is that all his evidence is anecdotal and referring to his friends etc. He bases all his theories purely on anecdotes and personal experiences
Have you
Looked at
His gigantic
List of references
Yet, I find the things relating to ISTP's very accurate, so is that a bad thing?
do you think this is wrong? the answer for istps