SALES Is Just Like DATING | Simon Sinek
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- Опубліковано 22 бер 2021
- If we try to "close the deal" by bragging about our accomplishments and material possessions, we won't get very far. But if we start by sharing what we believe and WHY we are who we are (or do what we do) we give people the opportunity to connect with us on a deeper, more human level. People don't buy what you do, they buy WHY you do it.
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Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together.
Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do.
Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including Start With Why, Leaders Eat Last, Together is Better, and The Infinite Game.
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*"Pain of regret is so much worse than pain of discipline."*
What if you regret of being disciplined instead spontaneous? :)
... like Muhammad Ali said about his training.
Suffer now and live as a champion forever
Hello
I believe Jim Rohn was probably the first one I think who said something similar to that quote you wrote there but using different words
*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."*
The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day.* 🖤
Ill remember that and say it to myself everyday
Yeah man, be the best YOU that you can be, those who don’t “get” you, aren’t meant to be in your life’s groove, at least you working on your own game instead of changing others... kudos!
Even your life could get easier if you stopped concerning yourself with writing this message repeatedly, hoping and wishing on our account. Right?
What podcast/interview is this, anyone care to share?
Everything in life is about relationships, but people often forget that.
This so true!
I remember reading this in Start With Why! It’s so true, most business try to sell their what right away. Boosting about their company when actuality, being humble about ones achievements, explaining ones purpose, is so much more heart felt and effective.
This is so true, the best people I've ever met or heard such as yourselves, talk about themselves only in ways that are inspiring. You've outlined a very important fact for us Mr. Sinek, Thank you for that.
Why I’m bad at sales: Never DATED
You are either a back office person or a field person
Don't say that to yourself! :)
No. Why you never good at dating? You never sold
Not enough reference experience in real life.
You want to see it as a game you play on pc.
If you get the same outlook in dating or business you will almost become addicted to being always out there as opposed to being part of "Thank god it's friday" club in the words of late Jim Rohn
When you remind yourself always that the chance of death is around the corner (it's possible even if it's probably not going to happen) and maybe today or tomorrow it's the last day you live you will suddenly and hopefully get that urgency feeling inside to do the best you can as fast as you can either/or both in business and dating.
There is no rejection only feedback
Failure is only defined by time limits. Learned that from Richard Bandler watching one of his older video seminars on youtube he is the co founder of NLP along side John Grinder (neurolinguistic programming) which is almost like a secret ace you have up your sleeve if you learn it well and apply in real life situations.
*TelePhone batteries* last longer than most *relationships* and *sales promises* these days - another thing they have in common 🖖
Simon *GETS IT*
It's so true. If you don't like yourself and what you're doing, you can't ask others to buy in.
Love it Simon! Great reminder of your message once again that 'why' is bigger than trying to impress.
Simon is direct to point.
dude this is on point LMAO. This is exactly why I love sales. I love serving other people.
Same! I work in customer service in grocery, because I love helping people. And helping people goes much better when you get to know them. It's all about relationships.
@Simon Sinek I really wish I get to speak to you atleast once.. Love to hear you
@@DRISHKRISH He's an imposter, don't message that number. It's fake
@@tywincannister Yes You're absolutely right.. I reported and blocked him on WhatsApp.. as i had an intuition of wrong person and he wasn't able to prove...
Then why don't you work in customer service? Oh yeah cos the money's not as good
I love your intuition Simon, thank you.
Personally I do not care for money they have as long as they honestly work for it and not still from other people .
What interest me is what all those people do for other people .
Are they helping or hurting others ?
Only that what interest me .
Let the authenticity sell for itself. People who talk too much and advertise themselves are seriously empty. We buy the why right!? ❗ 💕 💕
The underlying message here is love what you do. A lot of people don't love what they do, they love the money they get paid. So unfortunately to do what Simon says would be difficult, or even worse fake.
You always have a unique way of putting this precious insight directly into our heart
Always start with your passion!
Just totally amazing and utterly true 🤩
I love this man. He is best
One thing you notice in this snippet is the presence Simon has. Absolutely owns the space, which is a beautiful setting (props to the person who designed it). Totally engaging and it's because of his passion for the subject. For all the insights Simon offers in business and relationships, I think it's his understanding of social mastery that is the biggest takeaway.
Simon, thank you!
Listening to Simon is enriching and very inspiring. Indeed the greatest human act is to inspire. I feel so good about myself and how I handle and develop my fintech business every single time I listen to him. He is a philosopher.
@Simon Sinek - I simply adore your speeches and i have been your Silent Admirer since the day I have known you
@Simon Sinek that's an honour to hear from you.. I have noted down your number - can I text you please?? Would love to connect with your kind of personality personally
@Simon Sinek --- are you a genuine guy??
@@DRISHKRISH it’s an imposter, don’t text him
@@SidOfRivia Thanx for the info..I realized it
I love that he’s keeping tempo with his right foot. Similar to a musician in the zone
SO GOOD!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This is wisdom!
Thank you
Learning about sales now and then Simon uploads this...hmmm Alignment???
So good!
He forgot to mention the most important thing... that it is not abaout telling this or that but much more about listening
Gosh! This is excellent advice.
Thanks brother
Absolutely right
Amazing
Even though these 2 things are very similar - I HATE dating and LOVE sales. Good job I'm happily married and I can focus on Sales instead :)
Funny :) And so true! Yes, this approach won't close the deal and if it does, it won't last for long. Bcz in relationships, looks, money, property can attract, but they're not rooted in the heart so they don't strengthen connection.
And in business, comp, benefits, title can attract but they're not the reason why people stay bcz they're not seeded in the heart so they don't enable connection.
Sharing one's beliefs and cause are key because "the mind can be convinced but the heart must be won." Hmmm... You said that :)
the funny thing is there are people who go on dates doing things exactly on the former
Simon is a poet
your's helping a lot of people
Amazing!
Nice carpet 🤔👌🏽
“Don’t limit your challenges. Challenge your limits. Sharing some love from small UA-camr
True happiness
Facts ❤️🔥
I can relate so much... so many sales guys were trying to impress me with their standard presentations :)
Yes, it's a shame, isn't it?
Knowledge
Someday I will find my purpose in life, I appreciate the post Thanks =D
So true
Need advise on how to sell relationship advice
Very true
Such a Catchy Headline...I can relate with this 😂😁
That guy said “yea” too much... Rude!
Yeah
Yeah
Nah..
I am getting dating advice from this guy
Does this apply also to consultants?
Like Simon Sinek...
Where can i find the complete interview? ¿What's the name of the full video?
excellent
You know, years ago as a sales enablement trainer I used this very same analogy in an onboarding training. A week later my HR team asked me to stop as they had received a complaint. Any thoughts?
Aren't the best salespeople the ones who talk the least, ask the most questions, and listens? Make it about the person sitting across from you, not yourself, right?
I'm taken by this. I had the pleasure of reading something similar, and I was truly taken by it. "The Hidden Empire: Inside the Private Worlds of Elite CEOs" by Adam Skylight
Hey Simon what do you say when someone tells you they can possibly lose their job
The foundation: lead with why.
Yeah. Yeah.
I was a cashier for a couple of years, and most people came to me because I am a gemini but nobody knew and I am extrovert or ambivalent in Jung Carl Gustav theories, and I am the master of words and communication. Even today few people knew why I knew the psychology of dostoyevsky characters and communication skills. being a salesman is easy to sell the prodcuts, you need to know how to speak with people, even with those stupid illiterate ignorant jerks all characters
This os SO ON POINT 😂
I go on first dates all the time, it really helps me have 0 nerves in sales.
Let tell you why I love this business!
Fascinating. I'm there for the dating advice though
Sell yourself as a product that you don't need to convince yourself is worth having.
I agree..I just have troubles dating men
I love that I have the same taste in snickers as Simon :)
Great sales advice.. wish you could give us the dating equivalent as well
Part 1- The dating equivalent: don’t say “I’m rich!” Talk about your business, recent stock trades, your moral views on being debt free (except for real estate) and financial independence, and your love for what you do in terms of work/investing. She’ll figure out you’re rich naturally without you bragging and saying “I’m so rich”
Really love what you said. However, at one moment I thought you'll say that sales is like dating because someone's gonna get f*cked...
Although knowing you, I knew what you will say is serious, logical and profound. Can I get any pointers how to get rid of stupid thoughts like this one I had?
Great
Full video podcast?
Good
Well, it's not far down to paradise
At least it's not for me
And if the wind is right you can sail away
And find tranquility
Oh, the canvas can do miracles
Just you wait and see, believe me
It's not far to never never land
No reason to pretend
And if the wind is right you can find the joy
Of innocence again
Oh, the canvas can do miracles
Just you wait and see, believe me
Sailing
Takes me away to where I've always heard it could be
Just a dream and the wind to carry me
Soon I will be free
Fantasy
It gets the best of me
When I'm sailing
All caught up in the reverie
Every word is a symphony
Won't you believe me?
Sailing
Takes me away to where I've always heard it could be
Just a dream and the wind to carry me
And soon I will be free
Well, it's not far back to sanity
At least it's not for me
And if the wind is right you can sail away
And find serenity
Oh, the canvas can do miracles
Just you wait and see, really, believe me
Sailing
Takes me away to where I've always heard it could be
Just a dream and the wind to carry me
And soon I will be free
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Songwriters: Carter Burwell
Wikipedia ~
Paul Lavon Davis (April 21, 1948 - April 22, 2008)[2] was an American singer and songwriter, best known for his radio hits and solo career which started worldwide in 1970. His career encompassed soul, country, and pop. His most successful songs are 1977's "I Go Crazy", a No. 7 pop hit which once held the record for the longest chart run on the Billboard Hot 100, and 1982's "'65 Love Affair", which at No. 6 is his highest-charting single. Another pop hit, "Cool Night", was released in 1981. In the mid-1980s, he also had two No. 1 country hits as a guest vocalist on songs by Marie Osmond and Tanya Tucker.
I don't think I'd give you a second date on either of those conversations. I could have been a wall. Or a table lamp. Try asking what I like, what I want... I'm not buying what you're selling either personally or professionally if it's not a good fit for my needs. 5 minutes finding out whether I actually have a use for what you're selling could save us both days of negotiations. And if I'm going to be a long term customer rather than a quick one off sale, you might actually want to know who I am.
@Simon Sinek thank you, no. This is exactly what I highlighted about the video. You have not remotely engaged with me as a person across the table from you. I am not interested in what you are selling. This is a shame as some of your views on leadership are very interesting
@@RevdKathy I agree with your point completely re both sales pitches sounding self absorbed (for dating or business). But FYI the person responding to you is a fake Simon Sinek account.
@@yamaotung905 I guessed as much, but it gave me a chance to reiterate my point!
good looking... indeed :) ... everything seems so clear and obvious, said by you :)
@Simon Sinek I was shocked when i received your messages... 1st thought :did Simon Sinek replied to my comment? then: is he asking me to text him?... to much... nice feeling though, i have to admit :)
Thanks,Simon. But I disagree about this. Forever your fan.
Gut gesprochen... nur leider funktioniert so nicht der Mensch und nicht die Welt.
100%!!!!!!!
2:14 onwards.
If i had a dollar for every time the interviewer says 'Yeah'...
i'd have a lot of dollars.
Yeah
Yeah
I was expecting you to say a good sales person should not talk about himself but listen to the customer 😁
Provide value first and then sell your products
that carpet really tied the backyard together..
He's right about why his original straw men won't make the sale. He's completely wrong in believing that the way he rephrased would. People don't buy what you do, how you do it, or even, (blasphemy I know) why you do it. People buy because of what's in it for them. If that kid wants a second date he should say something closer to "I know you value security and status, I know you want to know a lot of people, including the important people, and you want to do all that in style. Good news, I can provide all that for you. I'm very rich but I'm also a rich guy who knows all the important people. And well, you can judge for yourself if you think I'm good looking or not. Let's go out again so I can explain in more detail how all of these things I have can let me give you everything you want"
The dude that our man talking to be like "yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, by product, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah."
Aha you know ahhh
If starting a business didn't seem unreachable enough, this is what it needed to be 100% unreachable.
Sales is like dating. Absurdly difficult to the point where it's practically impossible
And just like dating there are people out there who somehow were born capable of doing it, but not us, not the failures of nature.
Life is shit
@@user-yg3fo2od4p I don't know. I've seen a lot of guys through my life that could simply go and talk with women, never needed to practice anything. Or talk to strangers in general. Whereas I struggle to keep conversations going even with my friends, for all of my life. I can't even comprehend how people flirt. But people who do never had to learn, they simply can. because is a skill necessary for the species to continue existing through time. It's logical to think that this skill is something you should have already when you are born. Animals don't need to learn to interact with those of their own species, then how come humans have to? What sense does it make?
Nature does produce failures, evolution is trial and error after all. When successful you have an adaptation, when not, an evolutionary dead end.
It happens in nature all the time. That smaller animals who eat last in the pack, the weaker, the one less likely to survive, the one that doesn't reproduce. But in human society we do not die. We keep living a terrible existence.
@@franacha it is very much possible that some people learn things faster than others. I'm /have been terrible at communication all my life. Only now am I realising how growing up I was conditioned to think or behave in a certain way that impacted my communication skills. What happened wasn't my fault. But it is my responsibility now. We all have a different set of skills and we all can leverage it. You may be thinking that you need to learn to talk to or impress a girl. You are missing then that communication is not just talking. It is also writing, drawing, singing, dancing, or just a random helpful gesture.
I write this as a female- I'm more impressed by a kind gesture than grandiose verbal vocabulary from any man. Perhaps your kind of partner is not the one who might be impressed by fancy speech but who is impressed by your other kindness, or generosity or the work you do. Sure you have something good about you, leverage that. It's about finding the people who believe what you believe. Hope you do so. Life becomes easier when you believe in what you are doing. Then it becomes easier to meet the same kinds of people.
All the best! Cheers!!
@@user-yg3fo2od4p I agree with the conditioning. But what I am now is just an empty human being. I never have anything to express, to communicate. Not only I can't hold conversations, I can't dance, and I can't sing either. I could technically write or draw but again I would have what to express.
How do I not need to learn to talk to impress a girl? I've seen that it is the most important skill necessary to even begin to flirt. How can you even meet people when you never have anything to talk about?
Kindness, or generosity are no useful. You need to already be in some level of confidence for those to be noticeable.
There's also no work to do. As someone empty I don't have dreams, goals, or even desires for my life. I don't even have reasons to get out of bed every day. I don't have anything good to leverage. I don't have anything to believe in.
How could I find the same kind of people if I am no kind of people? The idea of a woman finding me even remotely attractive is simply science fiction. I can't even make friends. There's no chance of finding love.
Life is boring and tedious and the only thing it brings consistently is anxiety. This life we live in is the true hell.
And I wish I could get out of it. I can't wait to be dead.
@@user-yg3fo2od4p That's a great insight, thanks
My man is literally like "bro everything is just you trying to get laid" alright i feel u simon
yeah... yeah... yeah... yeah... yeah... yeah... yeah... yeah... yeah...
anyway, where's the full interview?
I was thinking people do other way around 😀
Well then I'm worse than screwed.
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It is true but most people are stupid and fall for this right away. Both lovelife amd sales. So it is good in the way how it is.
Brabbel brabbel you know ahh
The other guy looks like a poor man's Ryan Reynolds
Not all chics are into $. The kind that'll double up on a guy like me are. Ah, good point- Office Space
Damn I'd be horrible at sales then
I m not good at both 😂😂