i just drew the line yesterday n told this guy I don't see him being interested or making efforts so im stepping back n doing my own thing! know your worth ladies never settle for less!👊👋👏
Call them out! Do it!💥 If they go away, great! Be vocal about what you want and don't lower the standards. It's not easy but stay strong ! Get what you want!💥💯
Pull away Bye Bye life it too short. Emotional rejection is a powerful way to control a woman. If a man does that he expects the woman to feel guilty or scared and go back toward him.
Bye bye baby bye bye. The strip joint isn't the deal breaker for some if it is every once and a while but married woman on his cell ah no. Some men decide to cut lose at 50 and some never grew up. Who wants to be with a flight risk at 50. This kind of man is hoping that the woman will back to and be quiet so he can go on having his cake and eating it too. Being cherished is a worthy thing to have happen. Someone who thinks we as woman are all that and a bag of chips..
Good guys are pretty simple. Allow them to help you out on occasion. Be available to listen if their best friend screwed them over or his childhood dog or cat died and don't kick them when they are down. Other than that they should be pretty happy campers if they really like you. They won't want to flee the scene but hang out with you. I organize an interest meetup and on occasion I end with one other person which always seems to be a much younger man. I always give them an out if they don't want to hang out with a mom type. On several occasions I have ended up talking almost 2 hours during or after the official meetup ends. I'm not saying it is like a dating kind of thing but if I can hold the attention of a man half my age, not being a knock out beauty, just by talking than any woman can do it. These are situations where the men could have easily made an excuse or I even gave them an out but they just had the interest in having a real conversation. It comes down to having confidence in ones self which I really don't have but I am getting there.
Bottom line is that we often unknowingly teach people how to to treat us. Not just dealing with romantic relationships, but in all relations with other people. What you allow is what will continue 💜
I just told my guy not to treat me like a prostitute..just comes round when he wants a thing then I don't hear from him. So far he hasn't come round. But feel great that I showed him my value.
I just drew the line today and walked away. Hurts a lot but I'm also proud of myself and know I'm gonna be alright. Even though I actually think I won't find somebody else and end up single like he mentioned in the video. So maybe I'm not the only one thinking that.
I'm still learning to express myself and call a man out on his bullshit and yes, the few times I have done so the men can't/don't/choose not to step up, take responsibility for they've done and I end up never hearing from them again. Sure, it bloody hurts and so be it.. but, I get over it and move on. When an arsehole can't treat you like one, of course he's going to leave. And thank god! We're dodging bullets, ladies, by standing up for ourselves and laying down standards. We're discovering the truth of this person we're interested in. The kind of man (rather, boy) he is. By calling him out, you're showing your worth and your value. At the end of the day, call him out and if he cannot take responsibility (humility), step up and be his best self then he's no longer worth your time.
Call out that bullshit! Seriously, just do it! They'll come to regret losing you even if they never tell you! Way too many people suggest just being quiet and cool about stuff and I've done that before and it's so disempowering. It's hard to lose someone you care about, but it's ten times worse to have someone around who doesn't respect you. They might even learn a thing or two. They might come back one day, ready to step up. If they don't, at least you haven't wasted your time
IM SO GLAD YOU MADE THIS VIDEO. MORE WOMEN NEED TO DO THIS. I HAVE NO ISSUE IN THIS DEPARTMENT..I WILL CALL HIM OUT QUICK AND LEAVE HIM WHERE HE STANDS. NO TIME FOR POWER GAMES!
It takes me awhile to fall in love, but if I think there is a future, I wait intil I hear the words I want to hear before I give it up. I'm NOT going to have a FWB or NSA! You are SO right Elliot!!
My theory is there are 10,000 men for each woman that will be just fine to be in love with. I came up with this theory after holding on to a dysfunctional marriage for too long.
I agree on the doormat thing. A guy might not even realize it because he is just comfortable getting all the perks of the relationship and stops giving it back. Tell a guy 3 times what you want and then stop. Depending on the severity of the situation then decide if you want to let it go, take a breather or walk away. After 3 times it is nagging and if a guy can't either have a frank discussion or make a change after initiating a conversation 3 times then it is almost impossible to work with him whether it be helping around the house or help raise a child.
Ahlright ladies, listen up: This is absolutely true! I myself did an experiment where I was talking to Mr. Douchebag #1. I then created a fake profile and went for a more harsch I-don't-take-any-crap- kinda attitude and this girl he actually treated nicely since he soon noticed that she didn't take any shit. I was in awe! It's all about your own attitude! DON'T TAKE CRAP! If you do, he will play on it!
Dam right Elliot! I called a guy out on his stupid ass mind games just last week. Thank God I never slept with him. He came to my house to visit and I believe dude thought he was gonna get some. Was sweet talking before he came over after he didn't get none he changed up. That's when I called him out. He talkin bout he don't have a clue what I'm talking about. BS!!! I said "you know what you're doing". His voice changed and he says, "I have to make some adjustments". I say we both do. He's texted me since but I'm still not feeling him. It's been about 4-5 days since I've heard from him which is the longest we've gone since we started back talking 3 months ago. I'm pretty disappointed with him don't know if he came worm his way out of this one. Not sure I'd wanna talk again. Have known him for over 2 years was hoping to at least maintain a friendship but them dam mind games piss me off.
Every single reason you listed that women give as to why they lower their standards is so spot-on it's ridiculous. I've been telling myself these are excuses and I need to hold the line. It's been working well! Such a confidence boost when I don't allow myself to settle for bullshit.
This video made my eyes watery because I felt you were talking only to me. I relate to this so much because I been in this situation so many times. But not anymore.
A guy did that to me, we met when we were kids. Lead me on for years mixed messages being vague until I saw his social media and said he was married. Once I saw that I was done. Lesson learned...call him out stand up for yourself do not allow him to shit on you.
Elliot it really is about letting go of someone who disrespects a relationship. Both people have equal power w/o it. Who wants to be in it? Thank you for this video.
Well said. Just did it and I feel empowered. If is worth it it will get back to me. If not I know what I want and where I'm going... Selection. Is a natural and healthy process. Thank you for your video.
Good Advice. There are some serious conversations we need to have with people that are real contenders. I really liked what you had to say about keeping it real from the beginning. Of course in the beginning it's only natural that both parties want to make a nice impression so I think you give it time to get to know this person and create lots of situations where you can watch this person. It's good to see how the person reacts if plans don't always go their way, can they compromise? If you are human and make a silly mistake do they cancel you out quickly or do they show some sort of humanity?Do they as least try to talk through a problem. This shows emotional maturity which is a deal breaker for me.
Everybody is on here feeling down or checking out clever moves.. But you floor people with your humour And I know your being serious. Laughter beats everything for me and we must laugh at how laughable we All sound. If we could read our stories from a paper, we'd see how silly we've all been. Think women trust To much from a young age. I'm a mature woman now and ready for all the bull shit, I get a kick out of it Now.. 👍😀
I'm actually going through this Bullshit now. I have been seeing this guy off and on for a 5 months and he's a little controlling. We argue like we are in a marriage. But we have good chemistry together when things are good. It's seems as if he's verbally and mentally abusive at times. So I had to let him have over the weekend and told him it's over because he started a arrangement with me again over a situation, that I thought it's was already discussed and handle. he wanted to blame me for the argument and said I was hurting him. When this he have saying things to hurt me for a while. But he had to wait until he had a drink to say it 😂 so I got tired of it and let him have it. I haven't heard from him for 3 days.
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Is there anyway to change his perception on you, once he's became this way? Not to have him falling head over heals for you but to show him that he's missed out and that you DO have values & morals he just caught you at a very venerable time in your life.
I really related to this video. I work with my boyfriend which is already difficult, and I'm the only woman at my job, so that's already challenging. But lately I've been calling my guy out when he disses me in front of the other guys, or when he's just being a jerk about something. Before, I didn't say anything cause I was afraid of making things awkward at work, but now enough is enough and I'm calling him out more, and I think he's finally realizing that his actions and words could be enough for me to leave him. So this video helped reaffirm what I'm dealing with.
what do I say to end things. like what words should I use? hey I don't think I can keep meeting up with you anymore. I have deep feelings for you and it's not good for me. is that good?
I'm sorry, I don't think this is helpful. Every time a guy has mistreated me early in a dating period and i called him out, he's gone. It's only with guys who are on their toes from the beginning that anything seems to work. I'm not mean about it, but I speak plainly. "Not following through is not sexy." "I'm not impressed by that."
This guy talks about teaching women how to do it. Sorry I don't think he taught anything except we have no choice but to do it. But it doesn't help us impress the guy so he'll rethink treating us like crap. And have any chance of being there and improving for me.
devorahacts Maybe Elliot does need to better explain how to call them out. Sometimes there's a way to call them out in the way you say things. Also not all of the problems can be fixed or the guy doesn't want to fix it so we have to let them go. Let them pull away. Many times it's a good thing.
That's the thing. The level of answers most of us are looking for are the types of things to say that can disarm someone who isn't seeing our good qualities.
Excellent video, I am going through this right now, if we are talking on the phone he is saying what he wants.. abusive mean crap, tonight he called me a "chore", again,... oh but he calls me much much worse than that all the time.I know i deserve better, but my situation is I'm isolated so cant meet anyone right now. We lived together for ten years, I had to move back to the west coast because my mother passed, I am supposed to move back east again soon, in the next few months hopefully , he was an ass some of the time before when we lived together, he seems worse now. he knows he has the power because of where he is living, he even told me "I don't need you, you need me" because I'm suppose to move to where he is when some house issues are figured out, so i can finally move there. Cant have a real conversation because he hangs up constantly on me, he is a narcissist and he treats me like sh*t, but other times he can be fine.I have no idea why I love him. I don't think I will be able to find anyone else. But my dog and I cant stay where we are now forever here in the west, I was hoping to go back and live with him again. This whole situation is so messed up. Yes i know , it sounds strange to want to go back with a guy like this, but its either him or staying in the place i am now, and that is impossible to live where i am now,the house in is bad shape , leaky roof, mold all that fun stuff, I have been here long enough. I do know my worth, he does not. Sorry for the rant.
I don't agree exactly with the way you explained it but even good guys are most likely going to have sex if the opportunity arises either because they asked and the woman said yes or she initiated it. That said I think a man, to commit doesn't have so much to do if he can get the milk for free or not but more to do with does he want someone around to share the good and the bad times with. Is there a woman who will be around to call when his childhood dog just died. He doesn't want to look like a big cry baby in front of just any woman just the woman who will give him comfort. I don't think commitment has to be marriage it can be an agreement to be monogamous and loyal to each other. I think commitment comes when both people can trust each other even when they are not at their best.
Life tobelived He said if he treats you like a door mat and is half out of the relationship anyway- but can come back through the back door so to speak!
I made the exact mistakes you mention, being a doormat. This guy was my first love and we were together for 5 years and he just dumped me at the start of summer. We were doing SO well at the beginning of the year, then it became long distance, I visited him once and he was the one really insistent that long distance can work fine for us but he ended up changing his mind. He never gave me a clear answer though. I want him back and I think there's a good chance he will come back eventually... Would I benefit from your coaching at all or does this sound like a lost cause?
I did just that. I called the last guy. I got the backbone from it. I got tired of his bullshit. I told him like it is. I haven't been calling him or texting. I leaved him. And told him that i was not affaid of loosing him. That was 3 weeks ago. I really don't give a damn. I have my own friends and family that loves me and respects me. I just let him go. All well. No one is going to still my happiness. I rather be with someone that really wants to be with me. And not treat me as door mat. Let the man go period.
Make a series on the fact that many women are way better off financially then men. Watch the interview of Cher in the late 1960’s and what she told her mother. It is very enlightening and empowering. Women are taking over so watch out.
I think this was the video that broke the camels back for me I went off on my dude and I wasnt the one it was two different females he had on the side went off on him too but I am so glad you made this because Im free from the bullshit
Honey, you do not need a man. If he is pulling this shit, let him go. He is not great at all if he is treating you like shit. My advice is to cut his egotistical ass down and walk away.
sorry if this is a bit off topic but you made me think. I know having sex too soon lowers your value. what are some of the things we as women have to think about or steps to do, so we know when its the right time for sex
Not totally sure I agree. I will always treat people well, and especially guys I'm dating well, even if I don't want to continue seeing them. I do get that you need boundaries, but you also shouldn't have to teach a guy basic respect either? He should have learned that from his momma lol
Well I think most of men, if decent, and whether they get benefits for free does not always treat the woman the way the woman conditions him indirectly does say something rather than keep treating her like shit. Those guys are few and far between. I do agree with calling him out on their shit. Come on ladies, you are wanting to know in the beginning if the man is decent, calling them out on their crap will decipher from a decent man compared to the ones who are assholes. Think about it, you are respecting yourself when you call the them on their crap. When you don't you are actually disrespecting yourself. Therefore, you'll attract the men who will do the same, disrespect you.
Elliot another awesome video but please tell us HOW and WHAT to say...to stand out so if they are going to leave they CAN but we stay higher grounds with a great call that will save or hearts and make us feel stronger :D
I met this guy online and we hit it off fast. He's making time as I do too, we always have meaningful conversations. We're planning to meet in person this year. We're both not needy and clingy and we're cool just talking 3-4 days a week cause it's long distance and we're both busy with work and our own stuffs anyway. One thing I can't get from him is the videocall. Sure, he always call via skype. When he does, he asks me to turn on my cam so he can see me (by the way he does it either day or night, whether im out or at home). So I did, but then he didn't show himself! I asked why, he said he's using a computer with no webcam. Few days later he called and asked for it again. I answerd but with no video. I suggested he get skype on mobile, but he said he couldn't remember his password. Bottomline, he has lots of excuses. Most of it is because "he can't right now" but he doesn't explain further. He just dismisses my concerns with an "im sorry" and then with a promise that he let me see him today/tonight/tomorrow. Which never happens. It's been a month, no improvement. This is getting confusing and I'm getting suspicious of him. We haven't talked in 3 days since I last called him out about that. When he comes back, is it okay if I raise my concern about that again? It feels unfair. I just don't feel comfortable not seeing who I'm talking to online especially when I really like that person.
what do u do if they live together. and she has been reading it off his body language. she has fronted him out about all the above with evidence or examples of his actions and words that he does. he always denys it. she knows better. but she just fuckin stays mad and hurt. shes always saying shit about it and gives them every option to leave and she breaks up with them and they wont leave. shes done. shes pulled back just waiting for him to leave. and he dont. so everything ends up going right back. like nothing even happened. i need some advise please
Call him out. You can’t lose someone you never had.
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i just drew the line yesterday n told this guy I don't see him being interested or making efforts so im stepping back n doing my own thing! know your worth ladies never settle for less!👊👋👏
zhana528 you go girl
Hollie Western you go Glenn coco
zhana28 same thing just happened to me. I’m not tolerating inconsistency
Y’all are better than me, I give no explanations what so ever. If he acts like a clown I just fall back and let go. No tolerance to the nonsense! ✌️
" Teach people how to treat U" and have value..... once again Mr Scott is right👊🏻👏🏻👏🏻😉
I wish all women everywhere would start calling this behaviour out. Great advice.
Call them out! Do it!💥 If they go away, great! Be vocal about what you want and don't lower the standards. It's not easy but stay strong ! Get what you want!💥💯
I called him out, he replied "Well, thats what Ive got to offer" We hardly talk anymore.
Pull away Bye Bye life it too short. Emotional rejection is a powerful way to control a woman. If a man does that he expects the woman to feel guilty or scared and go back toward him.
Bye bye baby bye bye. The strip joint isn't the deal breaker for some if it is every once and a while but married woman on his cell ah no. Some men decide to cut lose at 50 and some never grew up. Who wants to be with a flight risk at 50. This kind of man is hoping that the woman will back to and be quiet so he can go on having his cake and eating it too. Being cherished is a worthy thing to have happen. Someone who thinks we as woman are all that and a bag of chips..
Good guys are pretty simple. Allow them to help you out on occasion. Be available to listen if their best friend screwed them over or his childhood dog or cat died and don't kick them when they are down. Other than that they should be pretty happy campers if they really like you. They won't want to flee the scene but hang out with you.
I organize an interest meetup and on occasion I end with one other person which always seems to be a much younger man. I always give them an out if they don't want to hang out with a mom type. On several occasions I have ended up talking almost 2 hours during or after the official meetup ends. I'm not saying it is like a dating kind of thing but if I can hold the attention of a man half my age, not being a knock out beauty, just by talking than any woman can do it. These are situations where the men could have easily made an excuse or I even gave them an out but they just had the interest in having a real conversation. It comes down to having confidence in ones self which I really don't have but I am getting there.
Bottom line is that we often unknowingly teach people how to to treat us. Not just dealing with romantic relationships, but in all relations with other people. What you allow is what will continue 💜
I just told my guy not to treat me like a prostitute..just comes round when he wants a thing then I don't hear from him. So far he hasn't come round. But feel great that I showed him my value.
I just drew the line today and walked away. Hurts a lot but I'm also proud of myself and know I'm gonna be alright. Even though I actually think I won't find somebody else and end up single like he mentioned in the video. So maybe I'm not the only one thinking that.
Hell yes call them f boys out ladies!!💯😘❤️
I'm still learning to express myself and call a man out on his bullshit and yes, the few times I have done so the men can't/don't/choose not to step up, take responsibility for they've done and I end up never hearing from them again.
Sure, it bloody hurts and so be it.. but, I get over it and move on.
When an arsehole can't treat you like one, of course he's going to leave. And thank god! We're dodging bullets, ladies, by standing up for ourselves and laying down standards. We're discovering the truth of this person we're interested in. The kind of man (rather, boy) he is.
By calling him out, you're showing your worth and your value.
At the end of the day, call him out and if he cannot take responsibility (humility), step up and be his best self then he's no longer worth your time.
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Call out that bullshit! Seriously, just do it! They'll come to regret losing you even if they never tell you! Way too many people suggest just being quiet and cool about stuff and I've done that before and it's so disempowering. It's hard to lose someone you care about, but it's ten times worse to have someone around who doesn't respect you. They might even learn a thing or two. They might come back one day, ready to step up. If they don't, at least you haven't wasted your time
Aaaand I'm curious about that giraffe. . .
IM SO GLAD YOU MADE THIS VIDEO. MORE WOMEN NEED TO DO THIS. I HAVE NO ISSUE IN THIS DEPARTMENT..I WILL CALL HIM OUT QUICK AND LEAVE HIM WHERE HE STANDS. NO TIME FOR POWER GAMES!
Yes! Yes! Yes! On the whole series of calling men out on their bullshit!!!! This is exactly what I needed to watch today! You're the best!!!!
It takes me awhile to fall in love, but if I think there is a future, I wait intil I hear the words I want to hear before I give it up. I'm NOT going to have a FWB or NSA! You are SO right Elliot!!
My theory is there are 10,000 men for each woman that will be just fine to be in love with. I came up with this theory after holding on to a dysfunctional marriage for too long.
I agree on the doormat thing. A guy might not even realize it because he is just comfortable getting all the perks of the relationship and stops giving it back. Tell a guy 3 times what you want and then stop. Depending on the severity of the situation then decide if you want to let it go, take a breather or walk away. After 3 times it is nagging and if a guy can't either have a frank discussion or make a change after initiating a conversation 3 times then it is almost impossible to work with him whether it be helping around the house or help raise a child.
Ahlright ladies, listen up:
This is absolutely true! I myself did an experiment where I was talking to Mr. Douchebag #1. I then created a fake profile and went for a more harsch I-don't-take-any-crap- kinda attitude and this girl he actually treated nicely since he soon noticed that she didn't take any shit. I was in awe! It's all about your own attitude! DON'T TAKE CRAP! If you do, he will play on it!
Lol. Why buy the pig for a little sausage ? Ha ha
That is the most funny thing ever. LooooooL Pig and Sausage LoL
TheFunfun61 bahahaaaaaa😂😂
wow, you're gorgeous!
Exactly. Have you heard the Cher tiktok? Watch it. We have the power
Dam right Elliot! I called a guy out on his stupid ass mind games just last week. Thank God I never slept with him. He came to my house to visit and I believe dude thought he was gonna get some. Was sweet talking before he came over after he didn't get none he changed up. That's when I called him out. He talkin bout he don't have a clue what I'm talking about. BS!!! I said "you know what you're doing". His voice changed and he says, "I have to make some adjustments". I say we both do. He's texted me since but I'm still not feeling him. It's been about 4-5 days since I've heard from him which is the longest we've gone since we started back talking 3 months ago. I'm pretty disappointed with him don't know if he came worm his way out of this one. Not sure I'd wanna talk again. Have known him for over 2 years was hoping to at least maintain a friendship but them dam mind games piss me off.
Totally time-appropriate video! Thanks bunches! And yes... back in your car!! XOXO
Every single reason you listed that women give as to why they lower their standards is so spot-on it's ridiculous. I've been telling myself these are excuses and I need to hold the line. It's been working well! Such a confidence boost when I don't allow myself to settle for bullshit.
This video made my eyes watery because I felt you were talking only to me. I relate to this so much because I been in this situation so many times. But not anymore.
Why are you so cool Elliot.. I love and live every word that you say... U make me a stronger woman. thank you.
A guy did that to me, we met when we were kids. Lead me on for years mixed messages being vague until I saw his social media and said he was married. Once I saw that I was done. Lesson learned...call him out stand up for yourself do not allow him to shit on you.
Elliot it really is about letting go of someone who disrespects a relationship. Both people have equal power w/o it. Who wants to be in it? Thank you for this video.
So cute in your car, love the giraffe and all your advice is the best!
Well said. Just did it and I feel empowered. If is worth it it will get back to me. If not I know what I want and where I'm going... Selection. Is a natural and healthy process.
Thank you for your video.
Good Advice. There are some serious conversations we need to have with people that are real contenders. I really liked what you had to say about keeping it real from the beginning. Of course in the beginning it's only natural that both parties want to make a nice impression so I think you give it time to get to know this person and create lots of situations where you can watch this person. It's good to see how the person reacts if plans don't always go their way, can they compromise? If you are human and make a silly mistake do they cancel you out quickly or do they show some sort of humanity?Do they as least try to talk through a problem. This shows emotional maturity which is a deal breaker for me.
ladies call tht dude out on his BULL SHIT....ladies we all have 2strt seeing OUR SELF WORTH...we got2 LOVE OURSELVES B4 ANYONE ELSE CAN
Please do....make a whole video on it!
Everybody is on here feeling down or checking out clever moves.. But you floor people with your humour
And I know your being serious. Laughter beats everything for me and we must laugh at how laughable we
All sound. If we could read our stories from a paper, we'd see how silly we've all been. Think women trust
To much from a young age. I'm a mature woman now and ready for all the bull shit, I get a kick out of it
Now.. 👍😀
I'm actually going through this Bullshit now. I have been seeing this guy off and on for a 5 months and he's a little controlling. We argue like we are in a marriage. But we have good chemistry together when things are good. It's seems as if he's verbally and mentally abusive at times. So I had to let him have over the weekend and told him it's over because he started a arrangement with me again over a situation, that I thought it's was already discussed and handle. he wanted to blame me for the argument and said I was hurting him. When this he have saying things to hurt me for a while. But he had to wait until he had a drink to say it 😂 so I got tired of it and let him have it. I haven't heard from him for 3 days.
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Shit E think that video was for me... like always love your honesty with us ladies but you pinned it
Men like to chase and work for the prize.
You are SO right again Elliot!
Is there anyway to change his perception on you, once he's became this way? Not to have him falling head over heals for you but to show him that he's missed out and that you DO have values & morals he just caught you at a very venerable time in your life.
Mech Cabrera same. Elliott, can you do a vid if this is possible
this video came at the right time. thank you
Elliott keeps it 100% savage lol
This is insightful 👌🏻 Thanks, Elliot!
Great video! Powerful and insightful!
I really related to this video. I work with my boyfriend which is already difficult, and I'm the only woman at my job, so that's already challenging. But lately I've been calling my guy out when he disses me in front of the other guys, or when he's just being a jerk about something. Before, I didn't say anything cause I was afraid of making things awkward at work, but now enough is enough and I'm calling him out more, and I think he's finally realizing that his actions and words could be enough for me to leave him. So this video helped reaffirm what I'm dealing with.
I really appreciate your bluntly honest outlook here. Thanks for saying what needs to be said
Great advices Scott!
Just roll your eyes at his silliness.
I called my ex out on his bs and then he broke up with me LOL. Guess he wasn't worth my time anyway 🙅🏻
I love you forever and I'm sooo subscribed!!!
Love you too, Elliot. Thank you. Another great video!
Thank youuu, Elliot!!! This helped me with my overthinking hahaha. Love you! 😘
Hooray!!! I love it when you do videos in your car!
Always appreciate your message consistency and elegant potty mouth! ;)
With my experience the moment I call a guy out I get way more respect.
Love you Elliot 😊 thank you for the level head coaching I really appreciate 😊
Always learn something from you!
what do I say to end things. like what words should I use? hey I don't think I can keep meeting up with you anymore. I have deep feelings for you and it's not good for me. is that good?
What's a classy way to call him out and still remain attractive &a of value? Please give an example.
I'm sorry, I don't think this is helpful. Every time a guy has mistreated me early in a dating period and i called him out, he's gone. It's only with guys who are on their toes from the beginning that anything seems to work. I'm not mean about it, but I speak plainly. "Not following through is not sexy." "I'm not impressed by that."
devorahacts he's gone cause you hurt his feelings, he realized your not a door mat
devorahacts It's probably a good thing that they're gone hun. That's how you weed out the riff raff.
This guy talks about teaching women how to do it. Sorry I don't think he taught anything except we have no choice but to do it. But it doesn't help us impress the guy so he'll rethink treating us like crap. And have any chance of being there and improving for me.
devorahacts Maybe Elliot does need to better explain how to call them out. Sometimes there's a way to call them out in the way you say things. Also not all of the problems can be fixed or the guy doesn't want to fix it so we have to let them go. Let them pull away. Many times it's a good thing.
That's the thing. The level of answers most of us are looking for are the types of things to say that can disarm someone who isn't seeing our good qualities.
Excellent video, I am going through this right now, if we are talking on the phone he is saying what he wants.. abusive mean crap, tonight he called me a "chore", again,... oh but he calls me much much worse than that all the time.I know i deserve better, but my situation is I'm isolated so cant meet anyone right now. We lived together for ten years, I had to move back to the west coast because my mother passed, I am supposed to move back east again soon, in the next few months hopefully , he was an ass some of the time before when we lived together, he seems worse now. he knows he has the power because of where he is living, he even told me "I don't need you, you need me" because I'm suppose to move to where he is when some house issues are figured out, so i can finally move there. Cant have a real conversation because he hangs up constantly on me, he is a narcissist and he treats me like sh*t, but other times he can be fine.I have no idea why I love him. I don't think I will be able to find anyone else. But my dog and I cant stay where we are now forever here in the west, I was hoping to go back and live with him again. This whole situation is so messed up. Yes i know , it sounds strange to want to go back with a guy like this, but its either him or staying in the place i am now, and that is impossible to live where i am now,the house in is bad shape , leaky roof, mold all that fun stuff, I have been here long enough. I do know my worth, he does not. Sorry for the rant.
The one who cares the least is in control .
I don't agree exactly with the way you explained it but even good guys are most likely going to have sex if the opportunity arises either because they asked and the woman said yes or she initiated it. That said I think a man, to commit doesn't have so much to do if he can get the milk for free or not but more to do with does he want someone around to share the good and the bad times with. Is there a woman who will be around to call when his childhood dog just died. He doesn't want to look like a big cry baby in front of just any woman just the woman who will give him comfort. I don't think commitment has to be marriage it can be an agreement to be monogamous and loyal to each other. I think commitment comes when both people can trust each other even when they are not at their best.
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Life tobelived He said if he treats you like a door mat and is half out of the relationship anyway- but can come back through the back door so to speak!
You, sir, you deserve way more subscribers!
great video! I need this in my life rn!!
I made the exact mistakes you mention, being a doormat. This guy was my first love and we were together for 5 years and he just dumped me at the start of summer. We were doing SO well at the beginning of the year, then it became long distance, I visited him once and he was the one really insistent that long distance can work fine for us but he ended up changing his mind. He never gave me a clear answer though. I want him back and I think there's a good chance he will come back eventually... Would I benefit from your coaching at all or does this sound like a lost cause?
I did just that. I called the last guy. I got the backbone from it. I got tired of his bullshit. I told him like it is. I haven't been calling him or texting. I leaved him. And told him that i was not affaid of loosing him. That was 3 weeks ago. I really don't give a damn. I have my own friends and family that loves me and respects me. I just let him go. All well. No one is going to still my happiness. I rather be with someone that really wants to be with me. And not treat me as door mat. Let the man go period.
Did he ever come back?
We all know it...but sometimes it's hard to do put boundaries
Love the realtalk. Great video.
Men have been doing this forever just now they actually come out and ask the questions instead doing the slow smooth move toward the action
Make a series on the fact that many women are way better off financially then men. Watch the interview of Cher in the late 1960’s and what she told her mother. It is very enlightening and empowering. Women are taking over so watch out.
You're the MAN Elliot!
Your videos always seem to be at the exact time something is happening to me with this guy. Haha it's like a sign
if you do that what you suggested,
how to get him back after 4 weeks of no contact
thanks, Elliot ...looking good
Your the best ELLIOT!
Word Elliott 🙌🏼
I think this was the video that broke the camels back for me I went off on my dude and I wasnt the one it was two different females he had on the side went off on him too but I am so glad you made this because Im free from the bullshit
Honey, you do not need a man. If he is pulling this shit, let him go. He is not great at all if he is treating you like shit. My advice is to cut his egotistical ass down and walk away.
Best advice thank you
sorry if this is a bit off topic but you made me think. I know having sex too soon lowers your value. what are some of the things we as women have to think about or steps to do, so we know when its the right time for sex
Not totally sure I agree. I will always treat people well, and especially guys I'm dating well, even if I don't want to continue seeing them. I do get that you need boundaries, but you also shouldn't have to teach a guy basic respect either? He should have learned that from his momma lol
Alot of your clients must find there guys on tinder lmao
Well I think most of men, if decent, and whether they get benefits for free does not always treat the woman the way the woman conditions him indirectly does say something rather than keep treating her like shit. Those guys are few and far between.
I do agree with calling him out on their shit. Come on ladies, you are wanting to know in the beginning if the man is decent, calling them out on their crap will decipher from a decent man compared to the ones who are assholes.
Think about it, you are respecting yourself when you call the them on their crap. When you don't you are actually disrespecting yourself. Therefore, you'll attract the men who will do the same, disrespect you.
Elliot another awesome video but please tell us HOW and WHAT to say...to stand out so if they are going to leave they CAN but we stay higher grounds with a great call that will save or hearts and make us feel stronger :D
Great video.
I met this guy online and we hit it off fast. He's making time as I do too, we always have meaningful conversations. We're planning to meet in person this year. We're both not needy and clingy and we're cool just talking 3-4 days a week cause it's long distance and we're both busy with work and our own stuffs anyway. One thing I can't get from him is the videocall. Sure, he always call via skype. When he does, he asks me to turn on my cam so he can see me (by the way he does it either day or night, whether im out or at home). So I did, but then he didn't show himself! I asked why, he said he's using a computer with no webcam. Few days later he called and asked for it again. I answerd but with no video. I suggested he get skype on mobile, but he said he couldn't remember his password. Bottomline, he has lots of excuses. Most of it is because "he can't right now" but he doesn't explain further. He just dismisses my concerns with an "im sorry" and then with a promise that he let me see him today/tonight/tomorrow. Which never happens. It's been a month, no improvement. This is getting confusing and I'm getting suspicious of him. We haven't talked in 3 days since I last called him out about that. When he comes back, is it okay if I raise my concern about that again? It feels unfair. I just don't feel comfortable not seeing who I'm talking to online especially when I really like that person.
jing jing maybe he's a fake, catfish!! Beware!
He's playing you, he is not being honest
Real talk...sad to know men are like this even if it's true. :(
I think you meant demonic! Like the guy I just wasted my time with. You are so on point. Feeling used is a horrible feeling for me
I left him b/c standards should be higher.
Ho ho ho Elliot you naughty boy
you did watched my video and it seems you liked my point of view :)
Yassssss back at the car!
Elliot this is my situation always!!!
he'll yeah dude once I realized this on my own I became free
What if ur married to him? I stood my ground and he threatened me with an eviction notice. gave me the silent treatment
I call guys on their bullshit and if they don't like it too bad. There are other men I can date.
I'm known for making men uncomfortable, kick them to the kerb ladies!!!
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Thank you, next!
Very good video
what do u do if they live together. and she has been reading it off his body language. she has fronted him out about all the above with evidence or examples of his actions and words that he does. he always denys it. she knows better. but she just fuckin stays mad and hurt. shes always saying shit about it and gives them every option to leave and she breaks up with them and they wont leave. shes done. shes pulled back just waiting for him to leave. and he dont. so everything ends up going right back. like nothing even happened. i need some advise please
What if you are someone who enjoys calling him out? I personally love it, outcome be damned