How to build somatic and nervous system capacity

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  • In essence, building somatic and nervous system capacity means being able to be with what we are feeling and sensing in the current moment and getting really good at it. Until we do this - build up these capacities - it is very tough to tap into stored traumas because those are stored up IN the nervous system and somatic self (i.e. in the body).
    Topics I cover in this video:
    -Navigating the tsunami waves of survival stress (those fight, flight, and freeze energies)
    -Why controlling our breath can stop stress from leaving
    -Growing accurate intuition starts with growing nervous system capacity
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    Resources I mention during this video:
    ►Polyvagal theory resources:
    a. Polyvagal Theory. Explained:
    • The Polyvagal Theory. ...
    b. Special Topic Lecture: All Things Polyvagal:
    • All THINGS Polyvagal. ...
    ►Vlog on Functional Freeze:
    irenelyon.com/2020/07/12/func...
    ►All my online FREE resources:
    irenelyon.com/free-resources-2/
    ►Self-study starter course, the 21 Day Nervous System Tune-Up:
    21daytuneup.com/
    ►12-week online group program, SmartBody SmartMind:
    smartbodysmartmind.com/
    ►Three-part healing trauma video training:
    irenelyon.com/healing-trauma-...
    ►Why taking a deep breath can be counterproductive (when trying to relax):
    irenelyon.com/2012/12/24/did-...
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 337

  • @Benjaminleo815
    @Benjaminleo815 Рік тому +76

    When I went through a difficult labor, the nurse told me "no big deep breaths when you feel a contraction coming, just focus on keeping your breathing completely even." This was perfect advice for me and helps me during stress.

  • @hustlemami8732
    @hustlemami8732 2 роки тому +70

    Your video makes me so emotional. I feel like crying. You make me feel like I'm not a freak and like there is hope. You make me feel like I am not the problem 😭😭😭

    • @IreneLyon
      @IreneLyon  Рік тому +10

      Hi @hustlemami, Diana here with Team Lyon. I was wondering if we could use your words as a testimonial, we feel a lot of people would resonate with that feeling of hope!

  • @lucysarraf
    @lucysarraf 2 роки тому +275

    WOW. This is unbelievable. There are so many videos that come up when you search for trauma or cptsd but I feel like this should be at the top. It's the missing piece. And your explanations and analogies are so helpful and clear. Thank you. You may have just saved my life after years of traditional therapy which helped ❤️

    • @loes1655
      @loes1655 2 роки тому +7

      Yes!!! The missing link.

    • @esperanzamunoz6719
      @esperanzamunoz6719 2 роки тому +5

      I agree. I watch dr.Favor Maté. He's been amazing at going deep into exactly how we were traumatized. Where it really comes from.

    • @IreneLyon
      @IreneLyon  Рік тому +12

      Hi! Diana here with Team Lyon. Thank you for taking the time to comment and share. Would it be okay with you if we shared your comment?

    • @hays6280
      @hays6280 Рік тому

      Agreed! So amazing

    • @zoeelisebell
      @zoeelisebell Рік тому +9

      i agreed SO MUCH when i finally foudn this account and channel i guess after having the worlds most massive feeling nervous breakdown at 17 after amy parents got divorced and i ended up going down the route of drug use, getting laced, having so many overwhelming sensations and my overwhelm capacity being soooo so low this account genuinely took me though my life time healing journey and im so happy to be here with everybody and encountering this along with everyone else and irene thank you guys and irene's team for everything :))))) yall should post more videos pleaseee !!! i'm on a pretty tight budget and couldn't afford sbsm but these videos are literally helping me take back the life that i used to have and used to love living 24/7 :)

  • @Vpopov81
    @Vpopov81 2 роки тому +167

    Breathwork made my symptoms much worse. I was doing wim hoff breathing and I actually noticed great benefits but it's like a shotgun blast to the limbic system and I think with a damaged limbic system you have to be very careful with breathwork. I can no longer do any kind of Rapid breathing and holding of breath because it literally is like a shotgun blast to the center of my brain

    • @andfoundout
      @andfoundout Рік тому +33

      Same and it's awful because that's the most common suggestion

    • @willbephore3086
      @willbephore3086 Рік тому +55

      Breathing with trauma needs to be very specific and VERY well informed. Taking a deep breath or fast breaths are the exact opposite of what a damaged limbic system needs. Frustrating that so many people recommend it for calming down.

    • @Mark1Mach2
      @Mark1Mach2 Рік тому +50

      wim hoff breathing is very bad for people going through a trauma or burnout.

    • @willbephore3086
      @willbephore3086 Рік тому +20

      @@Mark1Mach2 yep, 100% and I wish this were common knowledge. People think deep breathing is the answer to all stresses, but for certain states it's very detrimental.

    • @ttephi3667
      @ttephi3667 Рік тому +11

      @@willbephore3086 So what kind of breathing is beneficial in this case?

  • @bellastone-le9eb
    @bellastone-le9eb Рік тому +17

    She is what we call an “anointed teacher”. She not only knows what she’s talking about and she’s not banking only on book smarts but has a good sense of how things should be done and how they work.
    Thank you for your contribution to those who need help.

  • @deesparklebazinga9374
    @deesparklebazinga9374 8 місяців тому +4

    So pleased I found you as I am a recently diagnosed Autistic and ADHD (@ 38 and I'm now 40) and have been looking into introspection etc as I have masked for so long that I am in constant fight or flight and most of all freeze. I really struggle to be in the present. It has taken me years to calm my mind enough to manage meditations etc. I think I may have a degree of alexithymia which I discovered recently. I have addiction problems that I'm struggling to quit as I panic when going cold Turkey as my mindset is not functioning properly. I constantly use breathing exercises during the day. I have breathing issues so it can be hard work! I often dissociate/daydream to manage things. In terms of safety, I dont currently have a safe place due to constant floods and mold in my flat that I believe I'm allergic to as I've been so ill since covid lockdown. I am totally stressed out as I am unable to move so I just have to deal with it! I've been dealing with it since 2012 and Im fed up of living out of boxes! Sorry for the rant!! Im isolated so I often rant online instead. I am looking forward to hearing more from you.Thank you for sharing x

  • @missnord7730
    @missnord7730 2 роки тому +68

    I noticed you left out fawn response in your fight-flight-freeze response mode. Fawn response (people pleasing) is just as prevalent in old trauma pattern reacting (CPTSD) as the other three and should be addressed equally as symptoms to looks out for when healing the somatic nervous system.

    • @zarakeid3459
      @zarakeid3459 2 роки тому +51

      I was also concerned about that but in another video Irene mentions that she leaves out fawn because it's essentially on the freeze spectrum, it's a type of collapse in a way, giving up and giving in.

    • @cherylm5002
      @cherylm5002 2 роки тому +39

      True, fawning is the stress response most of us women fall into because that is what society n family expects of women. I just beginning to stop this reflexive mode of interaction. My first step in building new patterns of dealing with difficult people is walking away n cutting them off. My next is slo becoming more assertive n standing my ground. It's a long, long journey but so worth it in terms of feeling better about myself 😅😅

    • @angelic3450
      @angelic3450 2 роки тому +6

      she covered that previously ua-cam.com/video/Xr6cDe9OC3U/v-deo.html

    • @gabrielleallison978
      @gabrielleallison978 2 роки тому +20

      An interesting perspective I learned from another expert in the field is that fawning can be a response to feeling threat more specifically in the social engagement nervous system, ie. ventral vagal branch of PNS. A stress/survival response in response to the primal need to belong, feel connected, vs ejected or rejected from our "tribe" leads to fawning/pleasing, as well as fitting in, conforming, hiding etc. As mentioned, there's a strong societal piece. As Irene emphasizes often, there is overlap and a spectrum in and between all these states, but thought this was interesting.

    • @summer-xt1gg
      @summer-xt1gg 2 роки тому +8

      @@gabrielleallison978 I disagree- I fawn when I think someone is literally going to beat me- I know this isn’t a social threat.

  • @vanessapetrea2490
    @vanessapetrea2490 Рік тому +4

    I get most of these reactions nearly immediately, and nearly all at once!!! It’s so very overwhelming and ppl do not understand because they don’t experience it.

  • @chezzaluna
    @chezzaluna Рік тому +39

    As someone with an ACE test score that's a bit too high, this is super helpful because I don't often have a connection to present unless I focus. Self hypnosis has been super helpful, and it can look like a couple minutes of silence but it's definitely a resource that slows my heart rate and calms down those spikes of adrenaline and or cortisol so I can process what's going on.

    • @Deelitee
      @Deelitee 8 місяців тому +3

      This is so cool!!! ❤ do you have any particular approach that you follow??

    • @chezzaluna
      @chezzaluna 8 місяців тому +2

      @@Deelitee Sue David the hypnotist and author recommends sitting in a quiet place and counting basically then going over all the body systems for healing, maybe one day I can do a tribute in her honor. When she did a session with me it was amazing, comparative to relief from acupuncture feel wise. There's a video of her on UA-cam still, not sure if she is still with us, as she was in her eighties when we met.

    • @Deelitee
      @Deelitee 8 місяців тому +1

      @@chezzaluna thank you!! I totally need this. ✨

  • @Morphenius
    @Morphenius 2 роки тому +48

    Thank you. It's such a gift having this spelled out so clearly, and by someone who clearly lives the practice.

  • @altyrrell3088
    @altyrrell3088 8 місяців тому +1

    "Build a resource list of healthy, helpful options" - this is very important advice for me, especially the "helpful" part. I'll work on that.

  • @LavenderLori406
    @LavenderLori406 Рік тому +23

    Thanks for this. I noticed an old feeling, came into conscious awareness of it and then took a couple minutes to write about it in my journal. I then went outside and walked the cats! This video helped me realize how much capacity I have created. I began listening to your work here in 2016 I think it was. Thanks Irene!

  • @Ablecore
    @Ablecore Рік тому +2

    Cleaning Core Shame was our key to feeling freedomed
    Telling your self it’s just an echo leaving your head world
    Calms things immediately

  • @loriraemorris4142
    @loriraemorris4142 8 місяців тому +1

    Found you today from Anna at crappy childhood Fairy. So glad she mentioned you!😮

  • @vincentstocker3138
    @vincentstocker3138 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much for your input!! ❤️

  • @lifewithyana2924
    @lifewithyana2924 Рік тому +42

    Thank you so much Irene I have never felt more safe and ready to heal before. I was originally searching for anxiety stored in the body healing videos and luckily I found yours because you also have loads more that I can learn from to heal. You are easy to listen to and learn from. I love your channel it’s amazing you definitely deserve your flowers + more for helping so many. Thank you ☺️🌸💗

  • @Ellenweiss1
    @Ellenweiss1 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for your work Irene!!!!! It covers so much that needs to be covered.

  • @daniindie9447
    @daniindie9447 2 роки тому +4

    This is amazing. Thank you, Irene.

  • @mariamachuca3993
    @mariamachuca3993 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for this. Thank you. 💙

  • @MayanPrincess3
    @MayanPrincess3 Рік тому +31

    Thank you for speaking on this. I’ve been having bad anxiety attacks daily. I realized I’m extremely burnt out and possibly have adrenal fatigue

    • @petyabor5223
      @petyabor5223 Рік тому +3

      Hello! How are you feeling now?

    • @GodiscomingBhappy
      @GodiscomingBhappy 7 місяців тому

      @mayanprincess3 yeah i know the feeling... too much, too often, too sudden, too intense....

  • @northstarearthstar
    @northstarearthstar 11 місяців тому

    I love taking notes on these videos. Every time I relisten it makes even a little more sense. Ty❤️

  • @calimayne
    @calimayne 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you so much for your work

  • @melliecrann-gaoth4789
    @melliecrann-gaoth4789 Рік тому

    Thanks so much Irene

  • @eanwood6354
    @eanwood6354 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you so much. I have been entering this realm more and more. This was a great articulation that I needed to hear. Thank you for what you do. I judge it is so needed in these times.

  • @TamarChante
    @TamarChante 2 роки тому +2

    So clear & important! Thank you :) As always, I love your work 💗

  • @theshiftmastersessions
    @theshiftmastersessions Рік тому

    I love you. Thank you for being so authentic.

  • @sisterdiggins
    @sisterdiggins Рік тому +3

    This is a goldmine! Thank you so much for this video!

  • @megankellyhensley
    @megankellyhensley 2 роки тому +28

    I’m new to your content but have come across these concepts in other points of my life. The beautiful thing is that you have a lovely way of describing and threading these ideas together and here I am at a point in my life where I am able to fully connect to what you are teaching. 🙏🏻❤️

  • @selkiegrace
    @selkiegrace 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you Irene, the world needs this.

  • @rainsophia
    @rainsophia Рік тому +2

    This is beautiful- so grateful to have found this 😊

  • @anthonyiuculano6002
    @anthonyiuculano6002 2 роки тому +2

    This is the best video of yours that I've watched, and I've been here for a few years now... thanks. I've been struggling for SO LONG as to what to do when the hard sensations come up.

  • @sheilam8447
    @sheilam8447 Місяць тому +1

    This was amazing thank you SO much

  • @alliewilliams6237
    @alliewilliams6237 2 роки тому +2

    Amazing!!! Thank you so much ❤️

  • @ZoieNhoa
    @ZoieNhoa Рік тому

    Wow! ❤ This is what I needed tp hear about now. Thank you!

  • @robynbaxter7374
    @robynbaxter7374 11 місяців тому

    Thank you so much for this video, I wish I had come across it last year! 😝 Tons of amazing tid-bits to add to many pieces of info I've been reading & applying to my own CPTSD/Somatic journey. Connecting with the NOW feels so much wiser & helpful atm as the last few yrs I've been hardcore at unpacking n working on years/layers of stufffffff that I've just burnt myself out emotionally/mentally which in turn has affected me physically the last year. Will look up the other video's that you mentioned as well, thank you again 🥰

  • @jolandabasson6248
    @jolandabasson6248 4 місяці тому

    Thank you so much for all the information❤

  • @user-vb7gq1pc1r
    @user-vb7gq1pc1r 5 місяців тому +2

    Wonderful. Thank you.

  • @ShelbyArtist
    @ShelbyArtist Рік тому

    I’m so happy I found your channel

  • @powers6253
    @powers6253 2 роки тому

    This is INCREDIBLE! YOU are INCREDIBLE! THANK YOU!

  • @amethystbickham4993
    @amethystbickham4993 Рік тому

    This is INCREDIBLE information

  • @167cstewart
    @167cstewart 2 роки тому

    thank you so much, I've listened twice already.

  • @HDCAMAN
    @HDCAMAN Рік тому +1

    This is Gold

  • @petercelle1796
    @petercelle1796 Рік тому

    Thank you for your direct and open video. I look forward to more. I’ll go to the three part thing.

  • @hannavanderwat5689
    @hannavanderwat5689 Рік тому

    Thanks. Much needed - it definitely comes in waves of overwhelm.

  • @clifb.3521
    @clifb.3521 Рік тому

    Love this biz Thank you

  • @mreed1747
    @mreed1747 8 місяців тому

    Excellent video, thankyou.

  • @sharongonzales-wq1qt
    @sharongonzales-wq1qt Рік тому

    SOOOO POWERFUL 💪🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻. 🤩✨

  • @yvetteowo5318
    @yvetteowo5318 Рік тому +1

    GREAT explanation

  • @a.k.3110
    @a.k.3110 Рік тому +1

    Thank you. I learned a lot.
    This video is very helpful.

  • @loes1655
    @loes1655 2 роки тому

    Again and again you always inspired me. More and more i understand the wisdom of the nervus system.

  • @lydiabisaillon2954
    @lydiabisaillon2954 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for sharing all of this wonderful information. You share it in such a warm and wonderful way and is digestible.
    So grateful for you and all your sharing! ❤

  • @kristinaasimova601
    @kristinaasimova601 Рік тому

    So helpful ❤❤❤

  • @hollylange4967
    @hollylange4967 Рік тому

    Thank you. Learning new helping tools

  • @lunadust8017
    @lunadust8017 Рік тому +3

    You are fantastic! I am so glad i found you, i have been wanting to learn how to tap in to and resolve trauma stored inside the body. So damn interesting and opened up a whole world to me. Thankyou ❤

  • @rainbowdreams6660
    @rainbowdreams6660 2 роки тому +1

    Thankyou, very helpful and completely relevant to me

  • @holisticgirl
    @holisticgirl 2 роки тому +1

    I learn something each time I listen. I think you fill in the understanding where Bessel leaves off.

  • @painterprashant
    @painterprashant Рік тому +1

    Painting behind is beautiful as good as the topic expressed

  • @inglestherightway
    @inglestherightway Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this video. First time ever youtube's shown me your content. Wish it had been earlier.

  • @troym2375
    @troym2375 Рік тому

    thank you this was very helpful and some what of a mindshift

  • @gemfisher-highvibe6628
    @gemfisher-highvibe6628 5 місяців тому

    This is so interesting and I am seeking a therapist now in the uk. I am part way through your video and you’re talking about you friend and I have to say that resonates so much and I completely get it, and I got emotional when you were talking about changing the breath and allowing the emotion to peak. Thank u

  • @supersizegud
    @supersizegud 2 місяці тому +2

    Also stored love, joy. Its all energy

  • @naturesrhythm8506
    @naturesrhythm8506 Рік тому +12

    Thank you for this video. I think it would really help with coming OFF antidepressants, also. That, in itself, can be a traumatic experience.

  • @bloemenans
    @bloemenans 2 роки тому

    Soo thankful for your teachings you explain it so clear, it helps me an my clients tot develop a more healthy way of relating to the past and present feelings

  • @annalisemclean685
    @annalisemclean685 Рік тому +2

    Obsessed with your videos. Your knowledge is amazing and the way you explain is very easy to digest. Thank you.

  • @carolina6683
    @carolina6683 Рік тому +4

    Irene, this really is an excellent video. Thank you. I am one of your SBSM alumni and I do like to watch videos that show the bigger picture, from time to time.

  • @martha9148
    @martha9148 Рік тому +11

    Dear Irene, thank you very much for sharing this precious information. As someone who experiences anxious sensations out of nowhere sometimes this video feels like an incredible release in understanding how to get passed these sensations. It also inspired me to learn more about this topic. Thank you :)

  • @monicawilde7107
    @monicawilde7107 Рік тому +1

    Beautiful delivery of essential and liberating information. thank you for the work you do in sharing this empowering information to the world

  • @ek4172
    @ek4172 2 роки тому +24

    Thank you Irene, always so grateful for your wisdom! *Your body is a beautiful instrument. It is marvelous in what it can do.* But its real value is determined by what it serves. If it serves a conflicted agenda of the mind, then the body will do destructive things to itself and to other bodies in the world around you.
    From: The Gift
    The purpose of the body is not to be beautiful. *It is to be an instrument of communication, to be a vehicle and to participate in a physical world in a physical reality.* Like an automobile, if it can get you where you need to go, it has done its job.
    From: Living The Way of Knowledge, Chapter 4: The Pillar of Health
    Both quotes by *Marshall Vian Summers*

    • @johnchapman5125
      @johnchapman5125 2 роки тому +7

      Thank you, E K.

    • @julieann1975
      @julieann1975 2 роки тому +5

      Thanks!

    • @alwalw9237
      @alwalw9237 2 роки тому +1

      Wow, this is profound. Thank you.

    • @mindsoulpower
      @mindsoulpower Рік тому

      if the inside is beautiful the body simply reflects it.. health is beauty. beauty is health.. so the purpose of body not to be beautiful is unhealthy and unwise. i noticed ugly ppl come up always with this excuse.

  • @marc1391
    @marc1391 2 роки тому +23

    Thanks for presenting so clearly the process by which somatic therapies work. I’ve been at this for 3 years and one of my biggest frustrations is figuring out how these practices actually lead to recovery. Related to this- how can we tell that we are making progress? With your sports analogy, it’s easy to measure increased athletic capacity- we can walk or run further, lift more weight, etc. Capacity to be with emotions is so much harder to measure. Plus, since our intuition is off, and we always have setbacks, it’s hard to see improvement. This is the right therapy for me, but it moves so slowly that it’s hard to stay the course.

    • @a.s.jackson8203
      @a.s.jackson8203 8 місяців тому +1

      Yes, I'm wondering the same thing as well. How do we know there is improvement? Maybe when we are "triggered less and less. When we become fully conscious of what is going on with us in each moment. I've heard that this kind of work can take years to "undo" or integrate it, into ourselves. It did take years to become a part of us so I can see how it can take a while for us to be fully conscious. It's been a year since you left your comment. I hope you have seen some progress.

  • @mirkkuvuorela1509
    @mirkkuvuorela1509 Рік тому +2

    Thank you, this was very helpful! Before this, whenever I had been having uncomfortable feelings I'd start self-soothing and thought that's the only way to deal with it and heal from trauma. But now I'm learning to actually stay with the feelings and express them too while building my somatic capacity. Self-soothing is helpful especially when the emotion is too uncomfortable to be with, but you need to also allow yourself to feel it and express it so you can heal. 💜

  • @NorthbertR
    @NorthbertR 8 місяців тому +2

    I just discovered this channel and I'm really impressed. I was recently diagnosed with CPTSD after a serious breakdown that happened in 2020. Ever since my diagnosis, I have been looking for that kind of information, but even NHS ( UK ) information on a subject has been not very helpful. Thank you very much. It was amazingly helpful.

    • @IreneLyon
      @IreneLyon  8 місяців тому +1

      @TheNorthbert, Jen here from Irene's Team. It's great to hear that you've been finding Irene's content helpful. Since you're new around here, you might check out her New Here? page. Here's a link:irenelyon.com/new-here/

  • @TheSacredSovereignWoman
    @TheSacredSovereignWoman Рік тому

    Your amazing !!

  • @raynaburford728
    @raynaburford728 Рік тому +2

    This was great made me feel more confident that I am so anxious and I want to get comfortable with my overwhelming sensation instead of breathing them away I want to feel it and know it’s ok and it will pass . Not distract it alway

  • @tarakadir9259
    @tarakadir9259 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤

  • @champagnjethersiahdduvenag6078
    @champagnjethersiahdduvenag6078 2 роки тому +1

    I have been building up my systems in this way al my life. Its a lifestile.

  • @ellenfleming4784
    @ellenfleming4784 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much 💝

  • @karishmaroychowdhury1673
    @karishmaroychowdhury1673 Рік тому

    Thank you so much ❤

  • @dedebell9365
    @dedebell9365 Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for your work, Irene Lyon. There’s so much I could say here, but as an AuDHD, forgive me if I’m exhausted… but thank you!

  • @katrinabongi6295
    @katrinabongi6295 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for explaining this topic so well. I get it. You made me understand what I am going through on a daily basis. I've always believed that knowledge is power. Now, I can begin my healing journey. ❤

  • @Sofaklecks
    @Sofaklecks Рік тому

    Rather a WhyTo than a HowTo, but contentwise very precious video.

  • @emma-my8bn
    @emma-my8bn 9 місяців тому +2

    Headaches 😢 from emotional distress. TY for actually understanding this. ❤

    • @8Freakish8
      @8Freakish8 15 днів тому

      Bcs it causes you body tension. EVERY emotion is tied to a physical reaction and accumulates. That why u need to unlearn certaib things and,regularly doing stuff to release those emotions from your body. It can literally give u cancer or make u blind etc if you dont and its bad enough🫶🏼

  • @franciscoguevara9727
    @franciscoguevara9727 2 роки тому +14

    Ones own perspective can be trusted more if one starts honoring the cues of the inner child or feelings such as this felt unfair, i want you to speak up for me, dont let this person keep putting me down, etc. This is something that i do have to credit the top down approach for, teaching me to set boundaries by honoring my internal feelings , and becoming more connected to my authentic self. I grew up in a home with lots of gaslighting and where anger was only permitted to the abusive person. I had to supress my instinct of self-protection, and that left me walking around the world without this instinct of healthy - self- protection . The instinct was still there and i would get angry or feel a shame hit and then angry later if I felt disrespected. I was the family scapegoat so I had to learn that abuse was ok. I did become a lot more able to connect to my self-protective instinct after working with a person who was very good on boundaries themselves, and i joined support groups for survivors of childhood trauma. I learnt to talk to myself in more self-compassionate ways, and specially helpful that i had a healthy right to protest unfair treatment and connected to the internal parts of me, inner child , that can act as an authentic compass emotionally / relationally to what feels fair and what doesnt, and the whole navigating of it through communication skills, boundaries or assertion that is taught throughout the multiple trauma informed resources out there .

    • @Shri100percent
      @Shri100percent Рік тому

      Omg same!!!!

    • @EnaDunatov
      @EnaDunatov 3 години тому

      How did you learn to talk in a more self-compassionate way? I need a manual...I don't know what to say to myself when I need comfort, soothing and compassion. My mind is blank and then in more panic. I hug a pillow, do yoga or hum a song. But, what words and expressions? I don't have a role model for that. I think it would be easier watching and hearing someone being self-compassionate to themselves. I am going to therapy, but..what to do when I miss some basic kindness and compassion from people around me in daily life?

  • @xooq_
    @xooq_ 10 місяців тому

    love this.

  • @8no1likeme-infinitestar65
    @8no1likeme-infinitestar65 Рік тому

    THANK YOU❤

  • @Gabriellekidd
    @Gabriellekidd Рік тому +11

    This whole entire video was extremely helpful. This part at the end about expanding inside is just completely blew my mind. I’ve been struggling with getting bigger on my healing journey thinking that I should be getting smaller because I’m letting go of so much. This is profound. What about how trauma and toxins are stored in our in our cells and tissues, and by getting rid of that it lets go of fat and volume

    • @IreneLyon
      @IreneLyon  Рік тому +3

      Gabrielle KIDD, Jen here from Team Lyon. Great to hear that this video was so helpful to you. We do find that as we continue to explore this work over time, the body does release toxins stored in the tissues. How this impacts the physical structure will vary from person to person - it doesn't always translate to less volume.
      Irene herself experienced major changes to her skin as she was workmen through chemical trauma, and Seth Lyon, her husband and colleague has experienced a wide range of strange and interesting experiences as he's explored this work over the years. I'll share a few links to where you can learn more.
      Irene's bio - irenelyon.com/meet-irene/
      Seth Lyon's Fantastic Tales - sethlyon.com/fantastic-tales/

  • @smartypants6198
    @smartypants6198 Рік тому +1

    Just found you. I agree with this

  • @knowen32
    @knowen32 Рік тому

    Thank you

  • @HeadRecieverAtHeadOffice
    @HeadRecieverAtHeadOffice 2 роки тому

    that bit in the last 5 minutes blew my mind

  • @hannajarvenpaa5079
    @hannajarvenpaa5079 Рік тому

    Thank You✨💜💙💚💛🧡💖

  • @Aquedita
    @Aquedita 2 роки тому +3

    Hello Irene,
    Thank you for this helpful video. Would love to hear your thoughts if yoga nidra could potentially be one of the tools to help build this capacity.
    Thank you & warm greetings :)

  • @illuminatedsoles331
    @illuminatedsoles331 2 роки тому

    That last part was extremely interesting. When I look at myself in the mirror I just look too physically small of a human being

  • @julietye108
    @julietye108 Рік тому +1

    My heart has been beating fast since I was 2 thinking I was going to die from fear. I’m 68 now and have had 3 heart attacks and a bleeding valve in heart. Will look into your other videos. I can’t seem to understand what you mean. I do talk to my heart and tell it how much i love it. I’m having a hard time breathing and so tired. So it’s very important to do this work while you have the strength or your body will suffer. I will listen to your other videos and I’m sure it will help me. Thank you from australia

    • @IreneLyon
      @IreneLyon  Рік тому

      Julie - It sounds like you've had quite a journey. Glad you found your way here. When you wrote that you can't seem to understand what Irene means, I am guessing it's about nervous system capacity. If so, take your time to watch some other videos. I encourage you to start with the 3-part healing trauma series.
      ►Three-part healing trauma video training:
      irenelyon.com/healing-trauma-youtube/
      - Mara with Team Lyon.

  • @a.s.jackson8203
    @a.s.jackson8203 8 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for this video. This is my first time watching your channel and I think I'm going to learn a lot here. I especially liked your saying how we can begin to build capacity by noticing what we feel in our bodies right before we notice that we need to go to the bathroom. Yes, we are having physical sensations all day long but are not aware of them. This is so helpful to begin to build somatic capacity. These everyday sensations are always there. (I know people who didn't realize that the uncomfortable feeling/pain they would have right before they needed to have a bowel movement was happening because they were about to have a bowel movement. They thought they had a stomach ache and they didn't realize that the ache went away once they had the bowel movement.)
    I have experienced feeling cold and shivering at times in my life and I didn't know exactly why it was happening. It hasn't happened in a long time and I can't recall under what circumstances it would happen, maybe while I was feeling some stress like right before an interview or something else kind of stressful. I will now be able to look at it if and when it happens again and know that it's likely a trauma response and I will be able to deal with it. I'll be watching more of your videos. Thank you!

    • @IreneLyon
      @IreneLyon  8 місяців тому +2

      @a.s.jackson8203, Jen here from Irene's Team. Great to hear that Irene's teaching is resonating with you! Since you mentioned that you're new around here, you might check out these resources:
      New Here? - irenelyon.com/new-here/
      A Field Guide to Your Nervous System - irenelyon.com/field-guide-to-your-nervous-system

  • @novasplosionspotions8610
    @novasplosionspotions8610 Рік тому +2

    This will be my channel of obsession for the next month :)

  • @dorothyramig571
    @dorothyramig571 10 місяців тому +1

    I've been looking for ways to support my nervous system in social situations. This video library will be helpful, I'm pretty sure, after listening to this one for the first time. Thanks!

    • @IreneLyon
      @IreneLyon  10 місяців тому +1

      @dorothyramig571, great to hear the video resonated with you. You might check out this one too as it offers creative ways to spark up that social engagement system.
      Four ways to spark up our social engagement nervous system without socializing. - irenelyon.com/2020/06/14/four-ways-to-spark-up-our-social-engagement-nervous-system-without-socializing/
      - Jen from Team Lyon

  • @gabrielpeltier2885
    @gabrielpeltier2885 2 роки тому +4

    love it, an aspect i have also found in a co-regulating way is to the degree the other ,wether it is a friend or practitioner to co-create a space between two peoples .....a healing space . in other words doing our own work is critical to helping each other. ...........Another interesting topic here is ........just to what degree we can sniff out other systems, as it almost seems like we have that instinct to know the health or capacity of the others system ......even their ability to go to certain levels....how effective is techno logic connection vs the in person co regulation and does it affect things differently. Thank You Irene.

    • @teamlyon3109
      @teamlyon3109 2 роки тому

      Hi Gabriel Peltier, Jen here from Team Lyon. Yes, for sure coregulation can be important on many fronts. We definitely have a way of sensing other systems. Sometimes we are aware of this consciously, sometimes we are not. And depending on our patterning, we may be drawn to systems that are more or less regulated. And while there is definitely a difference between in person connection and connection via technology, there can be some powerful connections made via technology.

  • @justtryingtoheal5351
    @justtryingtoheal5351 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for your content, I’m in an extremely dysregulated state due to therapy and medical intervention and it’s been ongoing for a few weeks now. Anxiety and paranoia all day to the point of being scared to eat, multiple panic attacks per day, new and increased physical symptoms, especially shoulder pain and chest pain. I’ve been to the ER and they ruled out emergency conditions and tests came back healthy, I consulted my doctor and psychiatrist and they had no answers except to continue my medication, they had made a mistake in dosage of an anxiety medication but I only took that a few times then went back onto my regular dose. I have asked my therapist and they just recommended breathing and meditation and everything I’m already doing and none of it is helping my body get back into the window of tolerance. Basically, I did not have enough capacity for the physical and emotional work that was done two weeks ago and now my system is releasing heavy doses of stored trauma but it’s too much. How do I calm down this process?

    • @IreneLyon
      @IreneLyon  2 роки тому +3

      Hi Just trying to heal, Jen here from Team Lyon. Generally speaking, when we are experiencing sympathetic nervous system activation in a way that feels overwhelming, we want to bring in a sense of containment, support and turn towards things that soothe and resource us and to find ways for the underlying activation to move and express. Depending on the person, their nervous system and what's happening, it may be more of one or other other and is often a mix of both.
      I'll link to a practice that Irene shares that explores a form of containment and to another related resource, and as for the moving and expressing you might just try a little bits of making a sound, talking a walk or exploring another form of movement you're familiar with, tuning into see if the body wants to move in any organic way, inviting curiosity to whether there is any emotion that wants to come through - to name a few examples. This work can be quite nuanced, so I'm aiming to share some general ideas with you here. If it's an option, doing some 1-1 work with a practitioner trained in touch work specific to the nervous system as taught by Aline LaPierre, Kathy Kain and Stephen Terrell can often be helpful too.
      And know that it can often, though not always, take time for the nervous system to shift out of states of very high activation. Looking for little shifts, and knowing that it may move between and then then more again, may be helpful to keep in mind.
      DIY: Ancient Anxiety Medicine - ua-cam.com/video/0ICsbXUCKmM/v-deo.html&lc=UgzKvm65Pqe9xARznlN4AaABAg
      4 Simple Steps to Calm Overwhelm - irenelyon.com/4-steps-to-calm-overwhelm/

    • @desertflower4627
      @desertflower4627 Рік тому

      I'm finding using a yoga hammock to be really useful especially certain poses

  • @kittycat1302
    @kittycat1302 11 місяців тому +1

    Some of the resonated with me, but to be honest, the healing process sounds exhausting, overwhelming to me. I’m 65. I want to heal and change. I can’t afford sessions or courses. I will look into the free resources you offer. I appreciate you offering them. I especially related to the part about not being able to “trust your gut.” Have thought I was doing this many times only to find myself in trouble. I’m interested to know how all this relates to self sabotage and how to overcome it. Thank you again.

    • @IreneLyon
      @IreneLyon  11 місяців тому +2

      Bailey here from Team Lyon. Yes! Dig into those free resources. If you are new here (welcome!), I suggest heading over to the New Here page and signing up for the free Field Guide. Here is the link: www.irenelyon.com/new-here. (A Field Guide to Your Nervous System will pop up when you click on that link). ☺

    • @kittycat1302
      @kittycat1302 11 місяців тому +2

      @@IreneLyon Hi Bailey! Thank you for taking the time to make a personal reply. I followed the link you sent and downloaded the field guide. I am looking forward to digging in.

  • @hustlemami8732
    @hustlemami8732 2 роки тому +1

    I hate that I only found this now 💔 I have been searching for answers for so long 💔. Thank you so so much Irene. I don't know how to thank you. I'm trying so hard. I just want to get better😢....

    • @IreneLyon
      @IreneLyon  Рік тому

      Hi there - Diana here with Team Lyon. Thank you for your comment and reaching out, are you okay if we share your comment?

  • @BamBam_PDX
    @BamBam_PDX 2 роки тому +2

    Pressure in the Rectum is my new band name.