Meeting someone wonderful and then realising you can't have them is one of the most heartbreaking feelings imaginable. Whether you like someone who is taken or you ask someone out and they say no, the aftermath is very painful. VERY painful indeed. When I had a similar experience myself, it took me about five to six years to fully recover from it because it hurt me so bad. People say "move on" or "there are plenty of other fish in the sea" like the opposite sex are just numbers. As stated in other DatingLogic videos, there is no designated person preordained for you or anybody else by fate. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. If it lasts, lasts. If it ends, it ends. True love does exist but it is not guaranteed. You can't make yourself love someone you don't love so sometimes it isn't easy to move on and find someone who is single so easily. Just because someone is single it doesn't mean you'll have feelings for them. I've always been told I'm being too picky or something like that. It just isn't that easy when it comes to people and relationships.
I hear you . Same here. Took me 7 years. And still thinking after 20! . Now I have an impossibile crush on my lecturer. I told him how I feel about him. But he said it is highly inappropriate and could jeopardize his job. But he didn't tell me if he feel the same. But he stares at me when I am not looking and when he comes near me he pretends he doesn't see me. When it is impossible sometimes that he didn't see me. Don't understand
Just watched this video and, man, i can't believe i've never thought of it this way. It might sound stupid but you really made me get over this girl JUST THIS SECOND. She really was self-centered now that i think of it. I know ill find someone who will ACTUALLY care about me, instead of chasing after girls who only care about themselves.
hi Sergio hope you are well . sometimes girls don't approach or want to be approached could also be , because of religious beliefs, sometimes there is health issues or even skin conditions that they may have or other family problems that they maybe embarrassed about having or to bring a person they like to know these things.
Also Remember "Dont judge a book by its cover" that means also domt think cause someone's hot or seems to be perfect that thats how they actually are they could look perfect but be a 2 face person or be backstabbers.
I haven't been in the best mental state because I was obsessed with someone who was already married with kids and it felt gut-wrenchingly awful seeing how cute they were and getting to know them. Thanks so much for this video.
The girl I am madly and amazingly in love with doesn't give a damn about me, but I just have not been able to get her outta my mind. We used to be colleagues, but now she has joined some other company. We used to spend a lot of time together, not cuz we liked each other or anything, but coz she didn't have much friends. She approached me only when she needed something from me, and sometimes I felt really bad cuz I knew that she would never wanna go out with me, and I felt being used. Life is a bitch but what the heck.
I like this video. Here's my situation: I fell in love for the first time when I was 9 years old, she was 5 years older than me. When I was 18, she came back into my life and even gave me her number and of course I was happy. Problem was I was still a senior in high school and she was now a single mother with a kid. Another problem: I was really shy, quiet, and insecure, and also struggled with social anxiety at the time, so I was worried if I had gone on a friendly date with her, it wouldn't go so well, and also worried that we probably wouldn't have things in common. By the time I started college: At the time, I figured it was best just to move on and we soon lost contact with each other. At this point, I'm in my mid-20s and recently became interested in her again, but then I found out she was engaged, and I was pretty bummed out and mad at myself because I had blew every chance to come back into contact with her over the years. But I relate to what you say in this video, we'd never know what they were like if we were dating and with me, all I had was creating fantasies of what the date would be like, I just have to keep that in mind.
I can see all of his problems and still think we can be perfect together kz I get him. Help me through that. I’m a psychology major, and I cant shake him. I’ll go years without speaking or seeing and fall back in love on sight. Fix me.
Nyhna Law I feel ya! It's like they're a drug and you can't live without them. Your mindset from the time you wake till the time you go to sleep is on them. Unfortunately, it's gonna take being okay with being alone and loving yourself. Of course it's not exciting being alone or as mentally stimulating as that special someone smiling or being with you, giving you that rush/high you've been craving all this time but it boils down to prayer, self love, and keeping yourself busy with your personal intrinsic goals and not focusing on what ever your crush or ex is doing. It's hard but it too shall pass. #bestofluck
I hear that. My only problem is, I feel like I can do all that. I said I can go years without him. Seeing or speaking to him and be alone and LOOOVE it. its almost like I'd rather just be alone, actually. But with him, its different. Our timing always seems "wrong". And i "let go" and "move on" but he still lingers in the back of my mind and in my heart. I hate it. I left him, moved homes, got a new job, new car, new hair, lost weight, THE WHOLE NINE! 3 years later, I found him back in my bed and my head. The unhealthy love i feel for him makes me sick. I can cut anyone off with ease and move on once I feel they're toxic for my health. But for some reason, I just cant with him....but i REALLY want to. UGH! It sucks. And this is the battle I've been having with myself..
@@EmperatrizNyhnaLaw ooh giirrrlll! You in deep. When you love that hard it seems like it's no turning back. Being in love is like a contract we sign. We vow to love and honor our commitment and just because the other party breaks that commitment doesn't mean we're ready to break our commitment. So at this point it's like what's the point of holding on to a broken contract? So it's like we walk around grieving that the contract was broken. We are stuck with the contract, while they out there f..king up. We feel better mentally when we are achieving our goals and keeping distance, but deep down you desire mending the broken contract (your heart). So, yes, we know theyre not good for us right now, but we feel somehow that theirs potential for the relationship will blossom eventually. But as the saying goes sometimes it's best to leave glass broken instead of cutting ourselves trying to fix it. Better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else. But I definitely feel you. Been there and is not a pleasant feeling loving someone who may not be good for you in this point of your life.
Funny that I don't even remember writing this. Somewhere between then and now, I've put him in a category with all the other mfs I'm never fucking with again. Lol. No more excuses and shit. Fuck that nigga.
Changing my life. I always crush hard and get attached to ppl fast. But why there not perfect and I'm not either. It's only when you stop crushing on them you see there flaws or why it wouldn't work.
I’ve never thought watching a video would actually help and change my mind. Im used to looking for stuff like this unintentionally, watch a couple of second and realize what im watching is helpless, but this time it truly helped, thank you good sir
I've realised the utopia is just that and now I'm crashing from the realisation and don't know how to get over that. The fact that it's a dream just makes me more sad? And it's making it harder to get over them because I'm so sad about it?
feb 2014 i was a mess with a situation i had with a girl i fell in love with. skip ahead to over 2 yrs later and im fine. the issues are gone and i am functioning exactly the way im suppose to function. it takes alot of work to forget someone. its a very long process but you have to use any and every tool at your disposal to help yourself out. The same way you obsess over a man or a woman, you have to use that same type of obsession to help yourself get better. In time you will see yourself recovering.
Thank you for sharing your time and indepth knowledge, particularly with inexperienced people like me. Your UA-cam clips have given me some relief and encouragement. At present I feel very broken, because the only man I've ever liked in my whole entire 33 years of life has no regard for me. He never greets me, however, he kind of reply when I greet him. He never initiates any conversation and typically does not show a friendly persona towards me. This pitiful game of waiting and wishing has gone on for 7 years and it is emotionally draining. Whether I like it or not, I'm determined to find a way of wiping him off my mind. I know it is the right thing to do, but hey, it's easier said than done. But, at least I've made a start, that's how I found your videos. From your videos I've learnt a lot about body language and meaning in dating. In my case, this guy tends drop his head/eyes when he sees me. I've tried to observe how he interacts with others. I have had to very painfully admit to myself that I am nothing to him and probably will never be. Please make more videos about getting over a crush and how to recover when rejected in the ways described above. Thank you Zion
Ik that the only way i can be happy is if i let her go but part of me just cant except that, part of me feels like i need her and that im the only person who knows how she needs to be treated and i just cant understand why i was made to feel this way about someone if theyll never feel the same way back
Very true we create a perfect dream and fantasy and have no idea what it would be really like to date this person . We need to get back into reality and see the truth for what it is .
ive been friends with a woman i work with for 5 yrs.shes blk im blk,she and i talked about doing stuff outside of work but we just never linked up, but we still talked about it.she threw me a curve by getting involved with a guy at work that i cant stand because he helped her by a car because she crashed hers. she went to him and hes just doing what any man in his position would do.the images of them together disgusts me.my emotions are all over the place, its only been about a month since they hooked up and i know i just need to erase her from my memory.Its rough but i know eventually she will be eradicated from my brain.I never thought she and i would be a couple, just really good friends.maybe in my mind she was my girl unofficially.I think the only thing that will help me with this is time and patience on my part and civility.
For me, this is kind of perfect. Here’s why. This guy I worked for? I worked for him for years, before he started paying me any attention (or I started noticing). I’d long felt he was attractive. So, by the time he started seeing me in a different light, I knew who he was, at least professionally. He was a very closed person. Had never really shown any other emotion, other than quick anger. I have a bad temper, too. But, any fantasies I’ve ever had of him, while quite sexy, I already know are for my personal entertainment. He was married before I started working for him so, that was primary. But, even once he was no longer married, he never contacted me anyway. That could’ve been for a few reasons. I never really reciprocated as, I knew an office romance (of that was what he even intended), would be word for me, than for him. But, I also think that men have short attention spans. There are PLENTY of women out there and, once he was single again, I knew women, far more qualified than myself, would be throwing themselves at him. He may not be re-married and may even be single. But, for most women, he’s a catch. Still, my fantasies have always been tempered by the realities of his overall personality. I’ve always questioned whether or not I could tolerate him, on a personal level. So, for me, he’s relegated to fantasy and, since I’m alone and haven’t met anyone new, I’ll need to satisfy myself with that.
I'm getting mad because everyone wants to say that a relationship could've been this or it could've been that or this person is just something you've built up in your head. What if you never dated this person and you've seen their faults and you love them more because of them? What if you know how how bad things could've been but you still feel like a piece of you is missing? What if you don't want to live without them but you have to because they are the one who let you go? What if you know you will never stop loving this person? what if you've tried everything to get over them but your heart is so totally broken and your life is falling apart because you feel abandoned? I'll tell you what happens, you start to lose hope that anything is ever going to get better and you give up on love entirely.
Falling In love or just having a crush is a result of bad karma..you gave your authority( your feelings,power and basically yourself) to someone else..Be prepared for some misery ahead..treat it like an accident or bad flu..
I totally understand what is being said in this video. Not long ago I did have this idea of me and this certain lady getting together (we've known each other for nearly 14 years) but since then I've realised that could also be impossible as she is in fact married. We've talked about it and I appreciate her being patient with me and my feelings, and I also appreciate her for being one of the best people / friends I've ever met, I've told her this. I've learned to be more patient with her too. Now I think of it like "if she got divorced and maybe thought of the idea of me and her as well, and we actually went through with it but it didn't work, would we really be able to rebuild a friendship or would it be awkward?"
I was doubting about whether to wait for his message or not, but now I've realised that most of the things I wanted to get from him were part of my imagination, he is not hwo I was expecting and we are better as friends.
Here a song that someone gets jealous by their male/female friends who has flirt with him or her. Every place you go, everywhere you turn Someone else is moving in and they're making time And it's getting underneath your skin, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy Nothing to be said, nothing to be done Someone else is in your place and you won't forgive And it's hitting you right where you live, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it grab hold of you, Breaking your heart in two? Jealousy All at once, you're wild and running, running blind Revenge, revenge, revenge is the one thing on your mind, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
2 of 2 Let me tell the rest of the story. In my desperate attempt to draw his attention I used my colleague (a much mature lady) to make enquiries about and from him directly. This was in 2006/7 or 2008/9. Initially my hopes were really built up, my colleague came back to tell me that he was excited and inquisitive. But nothing ever happened. The same colleague, who works more closely with him in our workplace came back some weeks or months later to complain and vent herself about his character flaws. She tried to convince me to forget him. But I was much younger at the time and didn't understand or know how to get over the crush.
a girl in my school liked me and i liked her but then she stopped liking me. i dont know why. and i tried dating other girls but i still couldnt get over her. im only 13 but i cant even describe how i feel. ive been thinking about her for 2 years now. we met at a camp on a school trip. shes everything. and i know how people say theres plenty of fish in the sea but, not like her. i cant get over her. she made me happy again after my grandad, both my great nannies, and my closest cousin died. any advice how to get over her, or should i keep liking her and keep trying to get her to like me?
I... I can't get over her ;( I dream about her, I love her. It's hard. The thing is I don't want to accept reality. She lives on the other side of the country. Why did god and my heart have to fall so hard for her?
I have liked a curtain kid for a long time now.My problem is i never liked him a lot before.I only started liking him more and more because my friends and other people keep putting stuff in my head getting my hopes up.Ever since then i been fantasizing on me being with him it took months later to find out that everyone who put those things in my head where lying and he turned out to be the exact opposite it hurts a lot i honestly don't know what to do anymore
I was on holiday and I met the perfect girl there, and while I knew she had a boyfriend I fell for her anyway and she had feelings for me too. on the last day I kissed her and she promised to keep in touch. when she got home she blocked me and refused to speak. eventually I got through to her to ask why, and she said she felt bad for kissing another person that wasn't her bf. I have no hard feelings towards her because she told me straight away she had a boyfriend, but I still feel black and depressed. how the hell do I get over a girl who was in fact perfect in every aspect, but I could never have? and I mean literally every aspect. I see what you're saying about the eutopia of the mind etc but I cant genuinely think of a single thing that was wrong apart from her bf
Happened with me..had a female friend in my office and I asked her out but after that she started drifting away(didn't blocked me or ignored but never initiated convo and only used to reply when I message her and her messages were more of formal and not warm like before)..she was already in a relationship and had told me way back still I tried to date her so no hard feelings but I had feeling for her ..although getting over it now.. Problem is we male are very firm in our decisions so if we like a girl we cant get over her very soon..another reason is male have lesser options than female,at least an average male..so we need to fulfill our all kind of desires at any cost with this single woman we met...on the other hand females are emotional so you can never rely on them..they are only good to you till they feel like and plus since they are human so they can be selfish and leave you anytime if they already have other guys..so best is to keep your expectations lower and just be in present..don't expect any future from any female unless you have hooked up with her multiple times..plain and simple..
Every place you go, everywhere you turn Someone else is moving in and they're making time And it's getting underneath your skin, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy Nothing to be said, nothing to be done Someone else is in your place and you won't forgive And it's hitting you right where you live, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it grab hold of you, Breaking your heart in two? Jealousy All at once, you're wild and running, running blind Revenge, revenge, revenge is the one thing on your mind, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
We all tend to have what we can't get en create ilusions in our head en ignore the reality. The best way to go with a woman, be sure from the start that you alway's act like a catch.
hi i have been thinking of this guy for the past 15 yrs ...... ya 15yrs...i have not seen or met him all these yrs but he has been on my mind every second........i fell in love wid him in 98 ...I never had a sexual relation wid him.......we were just frens ..........we lost touch in 2000.........i kept on bin in love wid him till 2009 without seeing or talking on d ph even......in 2009, i found out that he was involved wid drugs.....i lost faith in him and don't like him as much as i did b4......however dammit it is 2014 and i think of him still......i get happy,sad,angry all kinds of thoughts......i have met several guys but things neva worked out and m still single..........my family makes fun of me, they dn't understand that i m dying slowly inside ....this guy is like my heart-beat or like every breath that i take.......i have no idea when this craziness will end......hope dis dsn't go on till 2080!!
There is a good chance that the reason why your encounters with guys have never worked out is because you are not available to them emotionally. As long as you are in love with this other guy, you will never truly give all of yourself emotionally and this will jeopardize any attempt at a relationship that you endeavor. You have to decide if you want to move forward with your life and open yourself up fully to someone or remain stuck in the past.
You can sing this song, Every place you go, everywhere you turn Someone else is moving in and they're making time And it's getting underneath your skin, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy Nothing to be said, nothing to be done Someone else is in your place and you won't forgive And it's hitting you right where you live, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it grab hold of you, Breaking your heart in two? Jealousy All at once, you're wild and running, running blind Revenge, revenge, revenge is the one thing on your mind, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
Here is my situation; last year on holiday met a Colombian girl spent lovely time, fell in love and forgot to ask for contact details back in the UK but still no clue where she is =(( please help sir
I needed this i confessed to him and he didn't even bother to replay although he made me beleive he is in to me thank you i wasted 2 years of my youth waiting for him and imagine my life with him this is what I need to hear I'll graduate from university soon and i don't want to waste my time any more I'm in my 20's i need to live be happy deserve a person who actually love me and it hurts me so much writing this and feeling how i could be so stupid
Can you make him sing this song? It's called, "Jealousy" by Jem and the Holograms. Every place you go, everywhere you turn Someone else is moving in and they're making time And it's getting underneath your skin, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy Nothing to be said, nothing to be done Someone else is in your place and you won't forgive And it's hitting you right where you live, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it grab hold of you, Breaking your heart in two? Jealousy All at once, you're wild and running, running blind Revenge, revenge, revenge is the one thing on your mind, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
What you're talking about is "falling in love" which most people consider as "true love" and they just couldn't be more wrong. Being in love and loving someone are two separated things, heck"being in love" is NOT even a feeling, while love is. Saying that I must also tell what "being in love" actually is - it's a pathological state where people project their wishes of their "ideal partner" to someone that actually exist and they like because they "fit in your frame" - the frame you created in your mind how your "perfect" lover is going to be. Once you fall out of love and see your partner exactly the way they are, there's a 99% chance you WILL be dissapointed. However, if you think in that moment to break up with your partner because "the love is gone", I have a reality check for you - the "love" isn't gone because it didn't have the opportunity to start yet :) We all have "good and bad sides", but once you see them and still see an opportunity that you might still like your partner, there's a possibility for the LOVE to begin. Unless they harm you/abuse you in any way, which is a whole new topic, but I just couldn't end my comment with "then they lived happily ever after" as any and every kind of a relationship needs work from both sides :)
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Time heals all wounds, then one day you'll look back and say, What the hell was I thinking? What did I see in this person?
I’m currently in this situation right now and I will look back and will laugh at this
Same bro.
But she's amazing bro 😢. I'm cooked
"This person could have anger issues, loyalty issues, jealousy issues"....does he know my ex or what lol
Rejection is God's best protection! #trusthim
Is that a quote in the bible?
That's the dumbest shit I've ever read today...
Dr WGA Labriskagni Or maybe you're just too dumb to understand it properly
There's no god. There also is no Santa Claus.
Sorry!
Rejection is God's best gift to the dumper!
Meeting someone wonderful and then realising you can't have them is one of the most heartbreaking feelings imaginable. Whether you like someone who is taken or you ask someone out and they say no, the aftermath is very painful. VERY painful indeed. When I had a similar experience myself, it took me about five to six years to fully recover from it because it hurt me so bad.
People say "move on" or "there are plenty of other fish in the sea" like the opposite sex are just numbers. As stated in other DatingLogic videos, there is no designated person preordained for you or anybody else by fate. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. If it lasts, lasts. If it ends, it ends. True love does exist but it is not guaranteed. You can't make yourself love someone you don't love so sometimes it isn't easy to move on and find someone who is single so easily. Just because someone is single it doesn't mean you'll have feelings for them.
I've always been told I'm being too picky or something like that. It just isn't that easy when it comes to people and relationships.
im so sorry 😢
I hear you . Same here. Took me 7 years. And still thinking after 20! . Now I have an impossibile crush on my lecturer. I told him how I feel about him. But he said it is highly inappropriate and could jeopardize his job. But he didn't tell me if he feel the same. But he stares at me when I am not looking and when he comes near me he pretends he doesn't see me. When it is impossible sometimes that he didn't see me. Don't understand
Just watched this video and, man, i can't believe i've never thought of it this way. It might sound stupid but you really made me get over this girl JUST THIS SECOND. She really was self-centered now that i think of it. I know ill find someone who will ACTUALLY care about me, instead of chasing after girls who only care about themselves.
wise words.
hi Sergio hope you are well . sometimes girls don't approach or want to be approached could also be , because of religious beliefs, sometimes there is health issues or even skin conditions that they may have or other family problems that they maybe embarrassed about having or to bring a person they like to know these things.
Wow this guy is preaching.
I needed this video... so glad I found it. It's simple, but for some reason, it really helps
Rylee Langlois same. this video actually helped me make up my mind.
Also Remember "Dont judge a book by its cover" that means also domt think cause someone's hot or seems to be perfect that thats how they actually are they could look perfect but be a 2 face person or be backstabbers.
I haven't been in the best mental state because I was obsessed with someone who was already married with kids and it felt gut-wrenchingly awful seeing how cute they were and getting to know them. Thanks so much for this video.
Amen.. Even if the connection is so strong.. Not real
The girl I am madly and amazingly in love with doesn't give a damn about me, but I just have not been able to get her outta my mind. We used to be colleagues, but now she has joined some other company. We used to spend a lot of time together, not cuz we liked each other or anything, but coz she didn't have much friends. She approached me only when she needed something from me, and sometimes I felt really bad cuz I knew that she would never wanna go out with me, and I felt being used. Life is a bitch but what the heck.
Happened to me it hurts 😢
One if the best videos I've seen on this topic
I like this video. Here's my situation: I fell in love for the first time when I was 9 years old, she was 5 years older than me. When I was 18, she came back into my life and even gave me her number and of course I was happy. Problem was I was still a senior in high school and she was now a single mother with a kid. Another problem: I was really shy, quiet, and insecure, and also struggled with social anxiety at the time, so I was worried if I had gone on a friendly date with her, it wouldn't go so well, and also worried that we probably wouldn't have things in common. By the time I started college: At the time, I figured it was best just to move on and we soon lost contact with each other. At this point, I'm in my mid-20s and recently became interested in her again, but then I found out she was engaged, and I was pretty bummed out and mad at myself because I had blew every chance to come back into contact with her over the years. But I relate to what you say in this video, we'd never know what they were like if we were dating and with me, all I had was creating fantasies of what the date would be like, I just have to keep that in mind.
I can see all of his problems and still think we can be perfect together kz I get him. Help me through that. I’m a psychology major, and I cant shake him. I’ll go years without speaking or seeing and fall back in love on sight. Fix me.
Nyhna Law I feel ya! It's like they're a drug and you can't live without them. Your mindset from the time you wake till the time you go to sleep is on them. Unfortunately, it's gonna take being okay with being alone and loving yourself. Of course it's not exciting being alone or as mentally stimulating as that special someone smiling or being with you, giving you that rush/high you've been craving all this time but it boils down to prayer, self love, and keeping yourself busy with your personal intrinsic goals and not focusing on what ever your crush or ex is doing. It's hard but it too shall pass. #bestofluck
I hear that. My only problem is, I feel like I can do all that. I said I can go years without him. Seeing or speaking to him and be alone and LOOOVE it. its almost like I'd rather just be alone, actually. But with him, its different. Our timing always seems "wrong". And i "let go" and "move on" but he still lingers in the back of my mind and in my heart. I hate it. I left him, moved homes, got a new job, new car, new hair, lost weight, THE WHOLE NINE! 3 years later, I found him back in my bed and my head.
The unhealthy love i feel for him makes me sick. I can cut anyone off with ease and move on once I feel they're toxic for my health. But for some reason, I just cant with him....but i REALLY want to. UGH! It sucks. And this is the battle I've been having with myself..
@@EmperatrizNyhnaLaw ooh giirrrlll! You in deep. When you love that hard it seems like it's no turning back. Being in love is like a contract we sign. We vow to love and honor our commitment and just because the other party breaks that commitment doesn't mean we're ready to break our commitment. So at this point it's like what's the point of holding on to a broken contract? So it's like we walk around grieving that the contract was broken. We are stuck with the contract, while they out there f..king up. We feel better mentally when we are achieving our goals and keeping distance, but deep down you desire mending the broken contract (your heart). So, yes, we know theyre not good for us right now, but we feel somehow that theirs potential for the relationship will blossom eventually. But as the saying goes sometimes it's best to leave glass broken instead of cutting ourselves trying to fix it. Better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else. But I definitely feel you. Been there and is not a pleasant feeling loving someone who may not be good for you in this point of your life.
Funny that I don't even remember writing this. Somewhere between then and now, I've put him in a category with all the other mfs I'm never fucking with again. Lol. No more excuses and shit. Fuck that nigga.
@@EmperatrizNyhnaLaw when can i get to that stage??? I feel exactly like your past comments...💀
Best things about your videos is that they are all sharp, short and straight to the point
Changing my life. I always crush hard and get attached to ppl fast. But why there not perfect and I'm not either. It's only when you stop crushing on them you see there flaws or why it wouldn't work.
Thanks man you're the best. This video really helped me :)
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I’ve never thought watching a video would actually help and change my mind. Im used to looking for stuff like this unintentionally, watch a couple of second and realize what im watching is helpless, but this time it truly helped, thank you good sir
Thank you! You have been more helpful than my therapist for me trying to forget about my crush
thanks for not putting intros and thanks for getting straight to the point.
Your videos are straight to the point and we'll done. Thank you!!
It makes me depressed because I see her all the time. She lives on my block.
I've realised the utopia is just that and now I'm crashing from the realisation and don't know how to get over that. The fact that it's a dream just makes me more sad? And it's making it harder to get over them because I'm so sad about it?
Wow! A simple yet so powerful words. Really needed this words of wisdom!
feb 2014 i was a mess with a situation i had with a girl i fell in love with. skip ahead to over 2 yrs later and im fine. the issues are gone and i am functioning exactly the way im suppose to function. it takes alot of work to forget someone. its a very long process but you have to use any and every tool at your disposal to help yourself out. The same way you obsess over a man or a woman, you have to use that same type of obsession to help yourself get better. In time you will see yourself recovering.
Thank you so much man. The way you delivered this idea somehow gave me clarity in a way that no other resource I've found has managed to do.
Thank you for sharing your time and indepth knowledge, particularly with inexperienced people like me. Your UA-cam clips have given me some relief and encouragement.
At present I feel very broken, because the only man I've ever liked in my whole entire 33 years of life has no regard for me. He never greets me, however, he kind of reply when I greet him. He never initiates any conversation and typically does not show a friendly persona towards me. This pitiful game of waiting and wishing has gone on for 7 years and it is emotionally draining.
Whether I like it or not, I'm determined to find a way of wiping him off my mind. I know it is the right thing to do, but hey, it's easier said than done. But, at least I've made a start, that's how I found your videos.
From your videos I've learnt a lot about body language and meaning in dating. In my case, this guy tends drop his head/eyes when he sees me. I've tried to observe how he interacts with others. I have had to very painfully admit to myself that I am nothing to him and probably will never be.
Please make more videos about getting over a crush and how to recover when rejected in the ways described above.
Thank you
Zion
You'll never know til u go for it. 😎😤
I so needed to listen that! :'/ thank you!
Still in 2018 it’s a greatest video.
Thank you 🙏
I wish you were my teacher! You have the best advice ever heard online.
Thanks a million. It is all in the mind ... not a reality
Great video, thank you... from a broken and very sad heart
He hit the nail point with that. So true
Thank you for this
You are the best man, thanks.
Ik that the only way i can be happy is if i let her go but part of me just cant except that, part of me feels like i need her and that im the only person who knows how she needs to be treated and i just cant understand why i was made to feel this way about someone if theyll never feel the same way back
I'm drunk and this is what I exactly searched for
Sometimes you know this but when somebody says it for you, it's more comprehensible
Very true we create a perfect dream and fantasy and have no idea what it would be really like to date this person . We need to get back into reality and see the truth for what it is .
ive been friends with a woman i work with for 5 yrs.shes blk im blk,she and i talked about doing stuff outside of work but we just never linked up, but we still talked about it.she threw me a curve by getting involved with a guy at work that i cant stand because he helped her by a car because she crashed hers. she went to him and hes just doing what any man in his position would do.the images of them together disgusts me.my emotions are all over the place, its only been about a month since they hooked up and i know i just need to erase her from my memory.Its rough but i know eventually she will be eradicated from my brain.I never thought she and i would be a couple, just really good friends.maybe in my mind she was my girl unofficially.I think the only thing that will help me with this is time and patience on my part and civility.
I'm going to send this video to my sister who can't get over a guy, thanks man.
For me, this is kind of perfect. Here’s why.
This guy I worked for? I worked for him for years, before he started paying me any attention (or I started noticing). I’d long felt he was attractive. So, by the time he started seeing me in a different light, I knew who he was, at least professionally. He was a very closed person. Had never really shown any other emotion, other than quick anger. I have a bad temper, too. But, any fantasies I’ve ever had of him, while quite sexy, I already know are for my personal entertainment. He was married before I started working for him so, that was primary. But, even once he was no longer married, he never contacted me anyway. That could’ve been for a few reasons. I never really reciprocated as, I knew an office romance (of that was what he even intended), would be word for me, than for him. But, I also think that men have short attention spans. There are PLENTY of women out there and, once he was single again, I knew women, far more qualified than myself, would be throwing themselves at him. He may not be re-married and may even be single. But, for most women, he’s a catch. Still, my fantasies have always been tempered by the realities of his overall personality. I’ve always questioned whether or not I could tolerate him, on a personal level. So, for me, he’s relegated to fantasy and, since I’m alone and haven’t met anyone new, I’ll need to satisfy myself with that.
I'm getting mad because everyone wants to say that a relationship could've been this or it could've been that or this person is just something you've built up in your head. What if you never dated this person and you've seen their faults and you love them more because of them? What if you know how how bad things could've been but you still feel like a piece of you is missing? What if you don't want to live without them but you have to because they are the one who let you go? What if you know you will never stop loving this person? what if you've tried everything to get over them but your heart is so totally broken and your life is falling apart because you feel abandoned? I'll tell you what happens, you start to lose hope that anything is ever going to get better and you give up on love entirely.
Falling In love or just having a crush is a result of bad karma..you gave your authority( your feelings,power and basically yourself) to someone else..Be prepared for some misery ahead..treat it like an accident or bad flu..
This really helped me a lot, I'm happy I. Found this video
I totally understand what is being said in this video. Not long ago I did have this idea of me and this certain lady getting together (we've known each other for nearly 14 years) but since then I've realised that could also be impossible as she is in fact married. We've talked about it and I appreciate her being patient with me and my feelings, and I also appreciate her for being one of the best people / friends I've ever met, I've told her this. I've learned to be more patient with her too. Now I think of it like "if she got divorced and maybe thought of the idea of me and her as well, and we actually went through with it but it didn't work, would we really be able to rebuild a friendship or would it be awkward?"
I was doubting about whether to wait for his message or not, but now I've realised that most of the things I wanted to get from him were part of my imagination, he is not hwo I was expecting and we are better as friends.
Here a song that someone gets jealous by their male/female friends who has flirt with him or her.
Every place you go, everywhere you turn Someone else is moving in and they're making time And it's getting underneath your skin, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy Nothing to be said, nothing to be done Someone else is in your place and you won't forgive And it's hitting you right where you live, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it grab hold of you, Breaking your heart in two? Jealousy All at once, you're wild and running, running blind Revenge, revenge, revenge is the one thing on your mind, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
Once in a while the curiosity gets The Best of Me I think what you just said helped me
Damn this guy is GOOD!
Sad thing is if you never got to try first at least
Best one I've seen thankyou!
Thanks for this my dear. It really helps.
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Let me tell the rest of the story. In my desperate attempt to draw his attention I used my colleague (a much mature lady) to make enquiries about and from him directly.
This was in 2006/7 or 2008/9. Initially my hopes were really built up, my colleague came back to tell me that he was excited and inquisitive.
But nothing ever happened. The same colleague, who works more closely with him in our workplace came back some weeks or months later to complain and vent herself about his character flaws. She tried to convince me to forget him. But I was much younger at the time and didn't understand or know how to get over the crush.
a girl in my school liked me and i liked her but then she stopped liking me. i dont know why. and i tried dating other girls but i still couldnt get over her. im only 13 but i cant even describe how i feel. ive been thinking about her for 2 years now. we met at a camp on a school trip. shes everything. and i know how people say theres plenty of fish in the sea but, not like her. i cant get over her. she made me happy again after my grandad, both my great nannies, and my closest cousin died. any advice how to get over her, or should i keep liking her and keep trying to get her to like me?
i love your videos, they're so helpful and they get straight to the point, thank you :)
You are so spot on.. it’s crazy
I needed this video. Thank you
really glad I found this vid it really helped me to understand what im feeling
this is so helpful. thank you.
Best video ! All is about our thoughts ...
You're so right about this!
Real talk
Thank you
Damn this man is on point
This makes so much sense!
I... I can't get over her ;( I dream about her, I love her. It's hard. The thing is I don't want to accept reality. She lives on the other side of the country. Why did god and my heart have to fall so hard for her?
Thank you, you a such a good friend🌸🌺❤️💕🌼
Sometimes fantasy is better than reality..
but I can't stop I don't no how
Brilliant video thanks
Thank you ! 🙏🏾
Thanks for the tips
Brilliant Sir.
Thanks for the videos but I wish they were longer tho :)
You’re awesome!!
I have liked a curtain kid for a long time now.My problem is i never liked him a lot before.I only started liking him more and more because my friends and other people keep putting stuff in my head getting my hopes up.Ever since then i been fantasizing on me being with him it took months later to find out that everyone who put those things in my head where lying and he turned out to be the exact opposite it hurts a lot i honestly don't know what to do anymore
You are reading my mail! Thanks
thank you for this
That is mad love. To like them despite of all that. Maybe Im a clinical case
Thank you so much!
I was on holiday and I met the perfect girl there, and while I knew she had a boyfriend I fell for her anyway and she had feelings for me too. on the last day I kissed her and she promised to keep in touch. when she got home she blocked me and refused to speak. eventually I got through to her to ask why, and she said she felt bad for kissing another person that wasn't her bf. I have no hard feelings towards her because she told me straight away she had a boyfriend, but I still feel black and depressed. how the hell do I get over a girl who was in fact perfect in every aspect, but I could never have? and I mean literally every aspect. I see what you're saying about the eutopia of the mind etc but I cant genuinely think of a single thing that was wrong apart from her bf
Happened with me..had a female friend in my office and I asked her out but after that she started drifting away(didn't blocked me or ignored but never initiated convo and only used to reply when I message her and her messages were more of formal and not warm like before)..she was already in a relationship and had told me way back still I tried to date her so no hard feelings but I had feeling for her ..although getting over it now..
Problem is we male are very firm in our decisions so if we like a girl we cant get over her very soon..another reason is male have lesser options than female,at least an average male..so we need to fulfill our all kind of desires at any cost with this single woman we met...on the other hand females are emotional so you can never rely on them..they are only good to you till they feel like and plus since they are human so they can be selfish and leave you anytime if they already have other guys..so best is to keep your expectations lower and just be in present..don't expect any future from any female unless you have hooked up with her multiple times..plain and simple..
This has really helped me:))))
Maybe!
this person has all of them.
Thank you!
Thank you.
Wow so true!
wow impressive i will take that advice
You just saved my life xoxo
Thank you very much.
Every place you go, everywhere you turn Someone else is moving in and they're making time And it's getting underneath your skin, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy Nothing to be said, nothing to be done Someone else is in your place and you won't forgive And it's hitting you right where you live, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it grab hold of you, Breaking your heart in two? Jealousy All at once, you're wild and running, running blind Revenge, revenge, revenge is the one thing on your mind, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
omgg thank you so much
Thank you 🙏
Very true.
thanks! ✌🏻️
That's true!!
We all tend to have what we can't get en create ilusions in our head en ignore the reality. The best way to go with a woman, be sure from the start that you alway's act like a catch.
hi i have been thinking of this guy for the past 15 yrs ...... ya 15yrs...i have not seen or met him all these yrs but he has been on my mind every second........i fell in love wid him in 98 ...I never had a sexual relation wid him.......we were just frens ..........we lost touch in 2000.........i kept on bin in love wid him till 2009 without seeing or talking on d ph even......in 2009, i found out that he was involved wid drugs.....i lost faith in him and don't like him as much as i did b4......however dammit it is 2014 and i think of him still......i get happy,sad,angry all kinds of thoughts......i have met several guys but things neva worked out and m still single..........my family makes fun of me, they dn't understand that i m dying slowly inside ....this guy is like my heart-beat or like every breath that i take.......i have no idea when this craziness will end......hope dis dsn't go on till 2080!!
There is a good chance that the reason why your encounters with guys have never worked out is because you are not available to them emotionally. As long as you are in love with this other guy, you will never truly give all of yourself emotionally and this will jeopardize any attempt at a relationship that you endeavor. You have to decide if you want to move forward with your life and open yourself up fully to someone or remain stuck in the past.
thnks for yo advise
Are you over him now?
Yes I got over him by June 2014 ............now I don't feel sad or lonely about the whole scenario.
soneelita must be nice
Truth!!
It hurts so bad
You can sing this song,
Every place you go, everywhere you turn Someone else is moving in and they're making time And it's getting underneath your skin, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy Nothing to be said, nothing to be done Someone else is in your place and you won't forgive And it's hitting you right where you live, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it grab hold of you, Breaking your heart in two? Jealousy All at once, you're wild and running, running blind Revenge, revenge, revenge is the one thing on your mind, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
Here is my situation; last year on holiday met a Colombian girl spent lovely time, fell in love and forgot to ask for contact details back in the UK but still no clue where she is =(( please help sir
I needed this i confessed to him and he didn't even bother to replay although he made me beleive he is in to me thank you i wasted 2 years of my youth waiting for him and imagine my life with him this is what I need to hear I'll graduate from university soon and i don't want to waste my time any more I'm in my 20's i need to live be happy deserve a person who actually love me and it hurts me so much writing this and feeling how i could be so stupid
Can you make him sing this song? It's called, "Jealousy" by Jem and the Holograms.
Every place you go, everywhere you turn Someone else is moving in and they're making time And it's getting underneath your skin, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy Nothing to be said, nothing to be done Someone else is in your place and you won't forgive And it's hitting you right where you live, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it grab hold of you, Breaking your heart in two? Jealousy All at once, you're wild and running, running blind Revenge, revenge, revenge is the one thing on your mind, whoa, whoa Doesn't it hurt? Jealousy, baby Doesn't it burn? Jealousy Doesn't it consume your soul, Making you lose control? Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy, jealousy
What you're talking about is "falling in love" which most people consider as "true love" and they just couldn't be more wrong. Being in love and loving someone are two separated things, heck"being in love" is NOT even a feeling, while love is. Saying that I must also tell what "being in love" actually is - it's a pathological state where people project their wishes of their "ideal partner" to someone that actually exist and they like because they "fit in your frame" - the frame you created in your mind how your "perfect" lover is going to be. Once you fall out of love and see your partner exactly the way they are, there's a 99% chance you WILL be dissapointed. However, if you think in that moment to break up with your partner because "the love is gone", I have a reality check for you - the "love" isn't gone because it didn't have the opportunity to start yet :) We all have "good and bad sides", but once you see them and still see an opportunity that you might still like your partner, there's a possibility for the LOVE to begin. Unless they harm you/abuse you in any way, which is a whole new topic, but I just couldn't end my comment with "then they lived happily ever after" as any and every kind of a relationship needs work from both sides :)