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One-sided relationships are always the worst… And you’re right it...always ultimately leads to a power struggle!!! The magic pill doesn’t exists. Love this. 💕
This is no different then telling someone. All you're doing is asking. At the end of it all you're still just telling them. The person still doesn't emotionally care because if they did, they wouldn't do it in the first place. People today are just selfish and could care less about the other person.
I had a discussion with my husband who told me that he felt like I was arguing with him when he was expressing his opinion and wanted my opinion and because I kept asking questions that I didn't understand what he was asking and gave my opinion that he didn't like. Then got upset on the second conversation that he tried to express an idea and he asked a question stating " It's not that it's this." Because I got upset he shared openly that he's not opening up that part to me anymore and in the next week is going to take a couple days no contact. But he's not disconnected from the other parts of me unless I show otherwise. I'm feeling pressured and confused
Hi Shellie T. Boss, I am struggling to see where I can give you guidance here. This comment is a bit confusing to me. Please feel free to make it more concise and clear and I would love to provide you with my advise.
Can you discuss too about a one sided friendship and your friend is really hard to reciprocate because the personality is neutral and always on the middle.
Im in a one-sided relationship, and right now I feel that our relationship is falling apart Well its because I always question her if she really loves me. we always have an argument about that But she still do the same But I know her reason, its because shes afraid that if she will give a full commitment to our relationship that I would end up just like her exes and she think that I would take advantage of that My friend says that I should let go but I dont want it because I am deeply inlove and attached to I hope that I can make her trust me and realise that my feelings are true. Any advise that you can give me I hope you read my comment Geoffrey Have a good day sir
My partner’s excuse is always work and when we have to do something outside or he has to spend time with our family outside, he uses his allergy to UV rays as an excuse (a condition that was not a problem when we met and spent most of our days outside, at the beach, living life and a condition he never seeks medical profession for)…. It is very important to note, we are both self employed and have lots of extra time for recreation!
My gf has told me that she doesn't love me, not now not ever. We have been together for almost a year, but I guess I have made a lot of mistakes (which IMO aren't even mistakes but you know ... women!🤯) like giving her too much praise and attention and stuff and I guess her atraction towards me at first started dying quick. I can't even open up about my feelings and reach to her that way. It doesn't matter how cool I am taking things and how well I am behaving conbtroling any temper etc, she doesn't value me enough. At the end of the day It always comes down to that. It is a pain, and I know everyone would say just leave her, but I can't, especially in these horrible times. She appeared like a rainbow in my cloudy life and now I just need that feeling back. I hope against hope to be able to make her love me someday, as it is also a question of pride. It hurts so much to have given so much for so little. I can't deal with it. 😢😢
It sounds like you need her more... to be you're rainbow. You have to be you're own rainbow. I'm sorry you're going through this I'm going through a similar situation. Trying to get the old happy exciting feeling back... I am going to accept the fact that it isn't coming back and I need to break it off.
@@GeoffreySetiawan I'm in a one sided relationship, and I was at the point where I was going to give an ultimatum. I thought it out and did what I do when I get stuck on an art project, came to UA-cam. Since watching your video and (putting my own little twist on your way of interaction) I have got my fiance to sit down and talk to me. She agreed that she hasn't been affectionate/loving in general, and agreed to do couples counseling. Thanks again man 🤙 you may be a small channel but you definitely bring value to the table.
How long should I wait for my wife to want to reconcile? She cheated on me for half a year and has been treating me cold for all that time. I have forgiven her after discovering the affair about 2 months ago and have been doing my best to create emotional safety for her despite being the betrayed. How long is too long for waiting? It is hurting me increasingly as time drags on but ok i get it that shes going through self preservation... but this is ridiculous because what had she done to rebuild my emotional safety? Nothing. I have left my door open, i have communicated that countless times... isn't it time to set the timeline for an ultimatum? Shouldnt she need to know that if she doesn't get her shit together, that this marriage is over? 3 months after discovery is a normal timeframe for us to calm down before making any big decisions like divorce. We have a child... and its almost like she still thinks shes entitled to only care about her own emotions than the wellbeing of this relationship as a whole. You're right, i can't appeal to her emotional side when she isn't even logical enough to let herself feel safe... how long is too long? How much longer do i need to wait for her to wake up? When is it a good time to set an ultimatum?
Hey Gerald -- This might offend you, but given how much anger and spite you have for her internally, I would try to put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself how you can expect her to ben open and honest with you in the first place about her feelings and the issues...
@@GeoffreySetiawan I have been very generous and kind to her already. I have given her space and time and everything. She's stonewalling even after betraying me, and she hasn't done anything to deal with the pain she is putting me through. All this time, she has lied compulsively... she isnt working on rebuilding, all she wants is for me to get over it and stop stressing her out. Yes, I understand that she has her own emotions to settle after the discovery... so I have been giving her space, time and everything she needs to be emotionally safe. My question is for how much longer should I expect to deal with this BS... she is only being passive... even after everything I am doing for her, and after forgiving her... when is it ever alright for me to use an ultimatum? It os tormenting me man... From a betrayed spouse perspective... its almost as if u are saying that I should continue being a doormat and hope she will someday come to her senses and have an emotional epiphany. Yes, I know i cant appeal to her logical side... but what can I do now besides wait? I've done enough waiting and waiting any longer is just destroying my mental state. I'm not asking for any quick pass, but I want to know what is a reasonable timeline for me to go with after discovery before making the decision to continue fighting for the marriage/giveup. And in your view, are ultimatums a definite no due to its effect on her emotional security?
@@GeoffreySetiawan FYI, I have also been working on myself and focusing on my work, my son, and keeping myself happy and healthy. So im not just waiting... its really much more complicated for my case as we have a child together...
Me and him broke up a week ago i showed him more love and him on the other hand he doesn’t know how to communicate i always call and text him but he complements me when he sees me and says i love you to me when were both going to sleep which is hard that i have to ghost him will he notice that he said that he still care for me and have me on his heart he said that he has complicated life rn thats why he doesn’t want relationship idk what to do should I continue ghosting him
Hi Lil Shawty, Use this opportunity to understand and connect with him emotionally… Dig deep into what’s complicating his life so much right now. This is how you slowly build trust & safety and get him to slowly express his emotions… If you’d like to learn more, you can join our free masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html Client Review Screenshots: drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing
Hey Geoff, I’ve invited my partner, he refuse to accept what i say & he always want the last say He repeatedly mentioned that its NO POINT since ours is a ONE sided relationship. & has choose to break up. Should i just leave it? I have left the door open…don’t know what else i can do to fix it. Feeling hopeless
Hi Jac, It’s normal that you partner will resist your changes and efforts to try to communicate. However, once you consistently show that this is the new you, he will naturally gravitate towards you. Your patience and understanding of where he is emotionally right now is crucial. If you’d like to learn more, you can join our free masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html Client Review Screenshots: drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing
@@GeoffreySetiawan thank you truely appreciate your prompt reply Unfortunately my partner just called one last time informing me that he has decided to move on and block all contact with me He said he cannot forget the wrong I did He don’t trust me anymore I’m broken
@Jac Hooi, use this opportunity to grow and become the best version of yourself. He is processing his emotions and will do and say things that will cause you to lose hope... But emotions can and do change with time.
Hey guys! Thanks for watching and I hope that was helpful. Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions
🗣 Join the FB Group! -> facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329/
One-sided relationships are always the worst… And you’re right it...always ultimately leads to a power struggle!!! The magic pill doesn’t exists. Love this. 💕
Thank you so much for watching!
I loved how you always offer solutions to restore and rebuild :) I'll share this video with a few friends. Thanks so much for sharing.
Thank you so much for tuning in Cel Amade.
Luckily my husband and I are great at communication! I am grateful.
That's awesome! You should be grateful! :)
This is great information! Thankfully, I'm not having this problem but I know some friends that can find a lot of value watching this!
Thanks for sharing my video! :)
This is no different then telling someone. All you're doing is asking. At the end of it all you're still just telling them. The person still doesn't emotionally care because if they did, they wouldn't do it in the first place. People today are just selfish and could care less about the other person.
I love that you're exploring relationships from so many angles. This is great and an informative channel as a whole!
Thank for the kind words Paul!
Another great video. Thanks for sharing this Geoffrey. Love your content.
As always, thanks Michael :)
I did what I said but my girl guard is always up she never listens she wants a gf and says I’m not enough nothing I do is ever good enough
I had a discussion with my husband who told me that he felt like I was arguing with him when he was expressing his opinion and wanted my opinion and because I kept asking questions that I didn't understand what he was asking and gave my opinion that he didn't like. Then got upset on the second conversation that he tried to express an idea and he asked a question stating " It's not that it's this." Because I got upset he shared openly that he's not opening up that part to me anymore and in the next week is going to take a couple days no contact. But he's not disconnected from the other parts of me unless I show otherwise. I'm feeling pressured and confused
Hi Shellie T. Boss,
I am struggling to see where I can give you guidance here. This comment is a bit confusing to me. Please feel free to make it more concise and clear and I would love to provide you with my advise.
I want to break the cycle!!
Great info Geoffrey
Thank you Rachel. Glad you found it valuable.
I want to break the cycle. I'm tired of hurting and I'm tired of hurting him.
Really useful thank you even in a non marriage situation
Omg this is exactly where I am. My partners a narcasist & I'm an empath
Hi Tiffany, am curious as to why you think that?
GET OUT. Relationships with narcissists is pure hell.
Wow, great advice. I learned a lot. Luckily I never had to deal with a one-sided relationship.
Thank you for tuning in! Leave a comment below with any other struggles you're having in your relationship/marriage!
Thank you for not being like so many other channels refering to these issues.
Can you discuss too about a one sided friendship and your friend is really hard to reciprocate because the personality is neutral and always on the middle.
Im in a one-sided relationship, and right now I feel that our relationship is falling apart
Well its because I always question her if she really loves me. we always have an argument about that
But she still do the same
But I know her reason, its because shes afraid that if she will give a full commitment to our relationship that I would end up just like her exes and she think that I would take advantage of that
My friend says that I should let go but I dont want it because I am deeply inlove and attached to
I hope that I can make her trust me and realise that my feelings are true.
Any advise that you can give me
I hope you read my comment Geoffrey
Have a good day sir
I want to break that cycle
My partner’s excuse is always work and when we have to do something outside or he has to spend time with our family outside, he uses his allergy to UV rays as an excuse (a condition that was not a problem when we met and spent most of our days outside, at the beach, living life and a condition he never seeks medical profession for)…. It is very important to note, we are both self employed and have lots of extra time for recreation!
Hi Push Mak B,
I think you may find this video helpful. Check it out and let me know what you thought.
ua-cam.com/video/wRxMS4Qlu4Q/v-deo.html
My gf has told me that she doesn't love me, not now not ever. We have been together for almost a year, but I guess I have made a lot of mistakes (which IMO aren't even mistakes but you know ... women!🤯) like giving her too much praise and attention and stuff and I guess her atraction towards me at first started dying quick. I can't even open up about my feelings and reach to her that way. It doesn't matter how cool I am taking things and how well I am behaving conbtroling any temper etc, she doesn't value me enough. At the end of the day It always comes down to that.
It is a pain, and I know everyone would say just leave her, but I can't, especially in these horrible times. She appeared like a rainbow in my cloudy life and now I just need that feeling back.
I hope against hope to be able to make her love me someday, as it is also a question of pride. It hurts so much to have given so much for so little. I can't deal with it. 😢😢
Meanwhile some of us are waiting for our partners to praise us more and just give us more attention😔😔
It sounds like you need her more... to be you're rainbow. You have to be you're own rainbow. I'm sorry you're going through this I'm going through a similar situation. Trying to get the old happy exciting feeling back... I am going to accept the fact that it isn't coming back and I need to break it off.
Dump her if you have not already. I hate freeloaders.
Great talk👏🏻
Haha love the comment!
I just found this and you are awesome dude 🤙
Thanks bro! What resonated most from this video?
@@GeoffreySetiawan I'm in a one sided relationship, and I was at the point where I was going to give an ultimatum. I thought it out and did what I do when I get stuck on an art project, came to UA-cam. Since watching your video and (putting my own little twist on your way of interaction) I have got my fiance to sit down and talk to me. She agreed that she hasn't been affectionate/loving in general, and agreed to do couples counseling. Thanks again man 🤙 you may be a small channel but you definitely bring value to the table.
I will break the cycle.
How long should I wait for my wife to want to reconcile? She cheated on me for half a year and has been treating me cold for all that time. I have forgiven her after discovering the affair about 2 months ago and have been doing my best to create emotional safety for her despite being the betrayed. How long is too long for waiting? It is hurting me increasingly as time drags on but ok i get it that shes going through self preservation... but this is ridiculous because what had she done to rebuild my emotional safety? Nothing.
I have left my door open, i have communicated that countless times... isn't it time to set the timeline for an ultimatum? Shouldnt she need to know that if she doesn't get her shit together, that this marriage is over?
3 months after discovery is a normal timeframe for us to calm down before making any big decisions like divorce. We have a child... and its almost like she still thinks shes entitled to only care about her own emotions than the wellbeing of this relationship as a whole. You're right, i can't appeal to her emotional side when she isn't even logical enough to let herself feel safe... how long is too long? How much longer do i need to wait for her to wake up? When is it a good time to set an ultimatum?
Hey Gerald -- This might offend you, but given how much anger and spite you have for her internally, I would try to put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself how you can expect her to ben open and honest with you in the first place about her feelings and the issues...
@@GeoffreySetiawan I have been very generous and kind to her already. I have given her space and time and everything. She's stonewalling even after betraying me, and she hasn't done anything to deal with the pain she is putting me through. All this time, she has lied compulsively... she isnt working on rebuilding, all she wants is for me to get over it and stop stressing her out. Yes, I understand that she has her own emotions to settle after the discovery... so I have been giving her space, time and everything she needs to be emotionally safe. My question is for how much longer should I expect to deal with this BS... she is only being passive... even after everything I am doing for her, and after forgiving her... when is it ever alright for me to use an ultimatum? It os tormenting me man...
From a betrayed spouse perspective... its almost as if u are saying that I should continue being a doormat and hope she will someday come to her senses and have an emotional epiphany. Yes, I know i cant appeal to her logical side... but what can I do now besides wait? I've done enough waiting and waiting any longer is just destroying my mental state. I'm not asking for any quick pass, but I want to know what is a reasonable timeline for me to go with after discovery before making the decision to continue fighting for the marriage/giveup. And in your view, are ultimatums a definite no due to its effect on her emotional security?
@@GeoffreySetiawan FYI, I have also been working on myself and focusing on my work, my son, and keeping myself happy and healthy. So im not just waiting... its really much more complicated for my case as we have a child together...
very good!
:)
I want to break the cycle...please
Me and him broke up a week ago i showed him more love and him on the other hand he doesn’t know how to communicate i always call and text him but he complements me when he sees me and says i love you to me when were both going to sleep which is hard that i have to ghost him will he notice that he said that he still care for me and have me on his heart he said that he has complicated life rn thats why he doesn’t want relationship idk what to do should I continue ghosting him
Hi Lil Shawty,
Use this opportunity to understand and connect with him emotionally… Dig deep into what’s complicating his life so much right now. This is how you slowly build trust & safety and get him to slowly express his emotions…
If you’d like to learn more, you can join our free masterclass here.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
Client Review Videos:
ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
Client Review Screenshots:
drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing
He telling the truth
Hey Geoff, I’ve invited my partner, he refuse to accept what i say & he always want the last say
He repeatedly mentioned that its NO POINT since ours is a ONE sided relationship.
& has choose to break up. Should i just leave it? I have left the door open…don’t know what else i can do to fix it.
Feeling hopeless
Hi Jac,
It’s normal that you partner will resist your changes and efforts to try to communicate. However, once you consistently show that this is the new you, he will naturally gravitate towards you. Your patience and understanding of where he is emotionally right now is crucial.
If you’d like to learn more, you can join our free masterclass here.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
Client Review Videos:
ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
Client Review Screenshots:
drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing
@@GeoffreySetiawan thank you truely appreciate your prompt reply
Unfortunately my partner just called one last time
informing me that he has decided to move on and block all contact with me
He said he cannot forget the wrong I did
He don’t trust me anymore
I’m broken
@Jac Hooi, use this opportunity to grow and become the best version of yourself. He is processing his emotions and will do and say things that will cause you to lose hope... But emotions can and do change with time.
I want to break that cycle .
Hi Sammy,
You can definitely learn to break that cycle by practicing the right processes…
I want to break the cycle
I thought telling a man we need to talk was the worse thing to do in a relationship...
Emotion is the killer to harmony.
One sided love hurts and it might even lead you to commit suicide😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Chriat is real, alive & He truly loves you. SEEK HIM
I wanna break the cycle Geoffrey
I want to break the cycle
I want to break the cycle
I want to break the cycle