I have noticed that some people do not prioritise friendship at all. Some people are just happy with just being with their partner and their families. So unless you don't have a lot of history together with such people, they'll show up only as non-present friends. Some friends are only there because of proximity. Friendship is really weird and evolving.
Thank you for touching on the pressure we sometimes feel to make our friendships picture perfect like the ones portrayed in movies or shows! I'm sure I've compared mine to these media portrayals many times and it never helps wanting to attain such an unrealistic standard. I'm also really looking forward to seeing another part on this with focus on friendships with men or generally the opposite sex!
I NEEDED this just stopped a friendship with someone who was always insulting me but never apologising or changing when I voiced how I felt. Onwards and upwards🤞🤞
Your channel needs...so much love because you have made me get my self together and realize my self worth, show up for my self and this friendship video is sooo what i needed❤❤❤
love this vid, when I've made new friends its always so scary when I suddenly met the right ones there's always balanced convos and they are not afraid to be themselves, and I wished I read between the ines when a certain group backstabs me and pretend not to take accountability. The wrong ones would talk OVER me and I would think oh its just one time, but no they'd betrayed or disrespected you once they will do it over and over again. It's not even about mind reading or not they don't even let me talk or make a decision they're so uneffective its just ruins my productivity. My main probs also includes those who are uncomfortable to go deeper and still want to blame others.
Elicia Elicia first of all you look stunning, gorgeous. You're skin goals. I aspire to be like you. And second of all, yes yes yes to this video. Getting to know real and fake friends, maintaining those friends for a long time ( this is especially hard bcz i have 5 close friends and we live miles apart 🥲 )and cutting yourself off from toxic friend groups, all these things are very important and took me so long to learn. This video gets a big 👍
Same! It’s so hard. I moved to a new city 3years ago and I have no friends. Doesn’t help that I’m autistic and have a hard time putting myself out there. All my friends from home pretty much forced me in to being their friend(in the best way) and I miss them so much. 🥲
I have no friends either, it is sad & lonely but you have to stop being miserable about it & make an effort to getting close with others. It doesn't matter how awkward you are, if it's bothering you then be straight up & tell people you're awkward. It may lead to a great conversation!
I don’t wanna loose my friends but my mental stability is so unstable, I always end up ghosting them. I had a very bad experience with a friend I’ve known since I was 11, that person changed completely towards me and treated me bad. I found out it became hard for me to be constant in relationships now when I was the opposite. Anyways im working on knowing why and how to change it now. It is the importance to have really good people by your side, because they affect EVERYTHING, your attitud, how you feel, your goals, your perspective and opinions, they affect tremendousely, so be wise, selective on people you can choose. They always have to add!! Not the opposite thats a big red flag. Relationships affects mental health
I’m having a hard time rn I’m healing rn and I feel so alone I have no friends or friends who aren’t even there and I don’t have siblings or anyone really here i always have had to be strong alone
I am going through the same situation, it is very difficult to completely isolate myself from people, so I compensate myself with some electronic friendships while I am currently working on my psychological treatment, and I am confident that I will attract healthy people in the future, no matter when, as long as I am not with the wrong people.
Ok I‘m in a group of 3. I moved 250km away and my 2 friends still live in the same town. Since I moved away, they barely talk to each other neither they meet. Person 1 welcomed a baby last year and I was busy with exams, Person 2 always complained that none of us has time. She works 30h per week and she could visit Person 1 easily. So now I finished degree and had a few weeks off before work and I asked Person 2 a few times if she could take a day off from work at the end of August so we could spend a day together. That was 6 weeks ago, in that time it is possible to ask your boss for a free Saturday. Also Person 2 is always THAT Person who drop their friends for a guy. I tolerated that behaviour long enough and I’m just tired of her. Seems like she doesn’t need us. I wanted to quit that friendship earlier because of her racism and for sleeping with taken men. Same time it just makes me angry and sad. We have been friends since primary school and she’s the one that complained about us not having time. Anyway I’m good with person 1
I have also realised that whenever a third person is added to a duo. The new person either feels left out or ensures that one of the other person feel left out .They want a friend for themselves lol they kiss ass and vice-versa and pick me exists in friendships also .
real 😭 I was the new person and the first part is exactly what happened to me. I wasn't purposefully excluded (90% of the time), but it was clear they were already rly close to each other. they were really nice to me, but the one i was rly close too started getting jealous of me (she and the other friend admitted it) and i just wasn't close to the other friend as much to go out with them alone lol
I’ve done this before and it was hard! I still miss her to this day but I realised that myself and my boundaries mattered more. Hopefully we’ll both find more people to add to our lives who respect them 🤗
Very helpful 💖also yes, we need a part 2 :) I was wondering what your thoughts are on having a chronic depressed friend? I have one friend who I do love very much, and obv I want to be there for her, but she s not willing to change. (Shes just trying to stay alive). Its hard cs I want to see her but all the emotional/mature stuff falls on me + its a lot of energy to stir the conversation away from negativity that her mind goes to in a convo all the time. I already have friends who r aligned/we talk about dreams etc, so it feels weird when I see her again (cs weve been friends before I myself was aligned) Just interested in your experience w this, if you have any🥰
Currently I'm a student in an university and I'm studying for competitive exams too. I recently had an spiritual awakening and I've been thinking this for a long time now. Do I really want to go down this career lane. Content creation ( skincare and lifestyle videos) always seemed so appealing to me. But I'm not sure if I can get successful there, maybe this is an excuse but I'm honestly scared to leave this path and then choose a totally different thing for me. I'm not sure what to do.
I was told it was ruthless of me to cut friends off if I didn't feel chemistry. Glad to hear you confirm not to waste time and effort.
I have noticed that some people do not prioritise friendship at all. Some people are just happy with just being with their partner and their families. So unless you don't have a lot of history together with such people, they'll show up only as non-present friends. Some friends are only there because of proximity. Friendship is really weird and evolving.
This is soooo true!!!
Part 2 or 3 on opposite sex friendships is a must.
Thank you for touching on the pressure we sometimes feel to make our friendships picture perfect like the ones portrayed in movies or shows! I'm sure I've compared mine to these media portrayals many times and it never helps wanting to attain such an unrealistic standard. I'm also really looking forward to seeing another part on this with focus on friendships with men or generally the opposite sex!
Thank you!! And yes I will definitely will make one 🤍
I NEEDED this just stopped a friendship with someone who was always insulting me but never apologising or changing when I voiced how I felt. Onwards and upwards🤞🤞
Your channel needs...so much love because you have made me get my self together and realize my self worth, show up for my self and this friendship video is sooo what i needed❤❤❤
Aww I appreciate you so much 🤍🥹
love this vid, when I've made new friends its always so scary when I suddenly met the right ones there's always balanced convos and they are not afraid to be themselves, and I wished I read between the ines when a certain group backstabs me and pretend not to take accountability. The wrong ones would talk OVER me and I would think oh its just one time, but no they'd betrayed or disrespected you once they will do it over and over again. It's not even about mind reading or not they don't even let me talk or make a decision they're so uneffective its just ruins my productivity. My main probs also includes those who are uncomfortable to go deeper and still want to blame others.
Elicia Elicia first of all you look stunning, gorgeous. You're skin goals. I aspire to be like you. And second of all, yes yes yes to this video. Getting to know real and fake friends, maintaining those friends for a long time ( this is especially hard bcz i have 5 close friends and we live miles apart 🥲 )and cutting yourself off from toxic friend groups, all these things are very important and took me so long to learn. This video gets a big 👍
Awww omg thank you so much 🥰 you’re so wise 🤍
Thank you so much Elicia ! Your videos have helped me so much , you're like a big sister to me and am so grateful for your advices!❤
Aww you’re so welcome girl 🥰
I haven’t had friends in 4 years 😬 I wish I could meet people 🙁
Opppppp 😬
Good luck ❤ sometimes it's better to stay alone for a while and wait for the right people to cross your path
Same! It’s so hard. I moved to a new city 3years ago and I have no friends. Doesn’t help that I’m autistic and have a hard time putting myself out there.
All my friends from home pretty much forced me in to being their friend(in the best way) and I miss them so much. 🥲
@@Aubreyinlalaland least you have friends at home :) I have 0
I have no friends either, it is sad & lonely but you have to stop being miserable about it & make an effort to getting close with others. It doesn't matter how awkward you are, if it's bothering you then be straight up & tell people you're awkward. It may lead to a great conversation!
Love love love your videos! You’re like a big sister I never had but needed🥹 Much love from Germany
Aww I’m so happy about this 🥹 love you girl 🤍
Thanks for your feedback! In a relationship it’s best to be straight forward and not lead someone on . Have a great weekend
Yaaaas !!!
I outgrown some of my friends it’s kinda lonely here at level up 🔝 🆙 ⬆️ .
Definitely lonely at times, but you’re never truly alone!! Many of us at the top are simply just searching for each other 🤍
In the spirit of having open energy, anyone here from London? ☺️✨
Girl i literally started to learn about this topic yesterday and here is ur new video 😅 I’m happy
Ahhhh 🥰🥰
Love youu girl this came at right time been opening my self to new friendships ❤
Yaaay I’m so glad 🤍🤍
This video was so good! So many great points mentioned. I’m excited for part 2 ✨✨✨
I don’t wanna loose my friends but my mental stability is so unstable, I always end up ghosting them. I had a very bad experience with a friend I’ve known since I was 11, that person changed completely towards me and treated me bad. I found out it became hard for me to be constant in relationships now when I was the opposite. Anyways im working on knowing why and how to change it now. It is the importance to have really good people by your side, because they affect EVERYTHING, your attitud, how you feel, your goals, your perspective and opinions, they affect tremendousely, so be wise, selective on people you can choose. They always have to add!! Not the opposite thats a big red flag. Relationships affects mental health
She made the video! Yaay!!! Getting a pen and paper. Thank you Elicia! 🎉
Ahhh love you 🥰
Girrlllieee thank you for picking this topic! I can’t wait to watch ❤
Ahh I hope you love it 🥰
ILY MORE THAN WORDS!!!!!!!!!!
Hi happy Friday night and I hope you having amazing day today and I loved your chit-chat vlogs and this was amazing video I enjoy your channel
Happy Friday 🥰
@@eliciagoguen you too and you enjoy your weekend ❤️ 😊
❤ Thank you for your advice .
I’m having a hard time rn I’m healing rn and I feel so alone I have no friends or friends who aren’t even there and I don’t have siblings or anyone really here i always have had to be strong alone
I am going through the same situation, it is very difficult to completely isolate myself from people, so I compensate myself with some electronic friendships while I am currently working on my psychological treatment, and I am confident that I will attract healthy people in the future, no matter when, as long as I am not with the wrong people.
Ok I‘m in a group of 3. I moved 250km away and my 2 friends still live in the same town. Since I moved away, they barely talk to each other neither they meet. Person 1 welcomed a baby last year and I was busy with exams, Person 2 always complained that none of us has time. She works 30h per week and she could visit Person 1 easily. So now I finished degree and had a few weeks off before work and I asked Person 2 a few times if she could take a day off from work at the end of August so we could spend a day together. That was 6 weeks ago, in that time it is possible to ask your boss for a free Saturday. Also Person 2 is always THAT Person who drop their friends for a guy. I tolerated that behaviour long enough and I’m just tired of her. Seems like she doesn’t need us. I wanted to quit that friendship earlier because of her racism and for sleeping with taken men. Same time it just makes me angry and sad. We have been friends since primary school and she’s the one that complained about us not having time. Anyway I’m good with person 1
I have also realised that whenever a third person is added to a duo. The new person either feels left out or ensures that one of the other person feel left out .They want a friend for themselves lol they kiss ass and vice-versa and pick me exists in friendships also .
real 😭 I was the new person and the first part is exactly what happened to me. I wasn't purposefully excluded (90% of the time), but it was clear they were already rly close to each other. they were really nice to me, but the one i was rly close too started getting jealous of me (she and the other friend admitted it) and i just wasn't close to the other friend as much to go out with them alone lol
I had to distance myself from my best friend because I started to see I was being used :/
I’ve done this before and it was hard! I still miss her to this day but I realised that myself and my boundaries mattered more. Hopefully we’ll both find more people to add to our lives who respect them 🤗
I wish I had friends like you ❤
Aw ily 🥹
Hey ! A suggestion for your videos since you talk about so many things and videos are long..can you please add time stamps in the video.
Fortunate to Have in my life , as a friend.. 🇮🇳☺️
Authentic friends are rarity
So true 🥹
Eliciaaa you keep me on my game uploading so much its sooo inspirational. Not me youtubing a free britney spears spin class ✨influenced✨
Hahaahha I love you!!!!🥰🤍
Very helpful 💖also yes, we need a part 2 :) I was wondering what your thoughts are on having a chronic depressed friend? I have one friend who I do love very much, and obv I want to be there for her, but she s not willing to change. (Shes just trying to stay alive). Its hard cs I want to see her but all the emotional/mature stuff falls on me + its a lot of energy to stir the conversation away from negativity that her mind goes to in a convo all the time. I already have friends who r aligned/we talk about dreams etc, so it feels weird when I see her again (cs weve been friends before I myself was aligned) Just interested in your experience w this, if you have any🥰
Currently I'm a student in an university and I'm studying for competitive exams too. I recently had an spiritual awakening and I've been thinking this for a long time now. Do I really want to go down this career lane. Content creation ( skincare and lifestyle videos) always seemed so appealing to me. But I'm not sure if I can get successful there, maybe this is an excuse but I'm honestly scared to leave this path and then choose a totally different thing for me. I'm not sure what to do.
Start slow do like one or two videos a week and see how you like it and build up from there
Yes yes yes.
🤍🤍🤍
Girllll!!! Thank you so much. This video is just perfect, every topic i struggle with is treated. It shows we just all have the same issues 🥲
Aww love you girl! You’re never alone 🤍
How do you distance yourself from someone you text regularly? Ahh...
Communicate with them.
@@eliciagoguen that's my issue, I'm not quite sure what
I have only 2 people in my life who can be considered friends. I'm in my thirties, and I don't know how to make friends and how to be a good friend 😢
Well hopefully my advice can help!!
I love your videos so much 🤍
Thank you my love 🥰
putting on ur videos while cooking and doing self care >>>>>> 🧡🫶🏽🦋
Omg my heart 🥹🥰