Amber I first want to say thank you so much. The love of my life is a binge drinking alcoholic . I recently have him an ultimatum . It was really hard for me because I have never felt so much love for a person like I do with him. He drank very casual when we met and things seemed amazing . He shared with me that after his son passed he started drinking vodka so heavy that he was taken to the ICU for vomiting blood and also blood coming out , well both ends. His esophagus was clamped together in a couple of places. God gave him another chance at life he did not drink from one year. He shared all of this with me and he seemed very healthy he did tell me that he had a fatty liver with two lesions so whenever I saw him drinking casually it crossed my mind that he shouldn’t drink at all but he told me that his doctor told him a beer once in a blue moon was not a big deal. And I also saw that he was very fit he will go running and work out and take lots of vitamins. However about two years later he bought a house in a lot of stress came with that and he started drinking heavy vodka again.that was 9 months ago. He stopped the every day thing but still drinks too much. 2 months ago he started urinating blood . Was in hospital for 4 days . Long story short he only has an enlarged prostate . But there was a Cancer scare first , after 2 biopsy’s it’s not that . THANK GOD! needless to say sense he has been drinking heavily again he has changed so much towards me and has become extremely distinct it pushes me away blames everything on me I know he’s not being honest with me all the classic signs of addiction. I still love him with all of my heart but in my heart I knew I had to leave. I told him that I loved him more than anything in the world and asked him if he would ever quit drinking from me and of course he said no. So I told him that I needed to leave him. I packed my things and I did that it’s been about one month. At least once a week he will text me a random question and he always says I love you. I told him I love him more than anything in the world in a text and I told him it’s very hard for me to walk around with a piece of my heart missing and that I pray for him and for me every single day. He texted me back and told me that I know what to do. Meaning I should just come back to him and not expect him to quit drinking. Because for whatever reason he tells me he’s not an alcoholic and that he could just have a beer every now and then but I’ve already told him he’s only fooling himself and I have witnessed him drink heavy duty liquor it’s never a beer now and then. I’m so sorry that this text message is so long on here but I really do love your videos. I just would like you or somebody to tell me what I should do? In my heart I don’t think I should go back but I can’t imagine not ever being with him or touching him or holding him again. He is one of the best people I have ever known and he always pushed me to be a better person and a better mother to my son who is incarcerated because of him I went to school and became a nurse and because of him I stopped enabling my son in prison. And now I want to help the love of my life and the only way I knew to do that was to leave. Please tell me what to do how do I answer his text ?
Great show! I am always working on earning trust back. It's been very difficult, but from there point of view, they were put threw a lot, which is very true. So I had to double my effort and make some positive changes to my life before some trust was earned back. This gave me some more tips to continue improving my relationships.
Having spoken of this channel that opened the opportunity for one and now a continuing conversation. (They are typically short) This is good for a mother and son to speak honestly admitting about addiction in our family. Thanks.
Hi Amber, I'm new to your channel. I find you informative and knowledgeable. Don't stop what you do. The world needs you and all your skills. Regarding Sobershare, does the technology work with cocaine addiction? If not, is there something comparable? I'm from Toronto Canada and am asking for a family member.
Hi Pat, Welcome to our little community. The Soberlink device mentioned in this video only works on Alcohol. There's not anything exactly like it for drugs (I wish there was!). The only thing I know of that would be similar in effect is something called a drug patch. It's essentially a Band-Aid (looks similar to a nicotine patch) that you can put on your arm. It stays on up to 10 days at a time. It collects sweat. Once your remove it, you send it to the lab. It can test for anything (inlcluding an expanded opioid panel). It will tell what (and how much) is in someone's system. So it's monitoring 24/7. The only problem is that it takes a while to get the results, so it's not real time data. We've used these in our office with some success, but I'm not sure where to get access to it in Toronto. Here's a link to a website to learn more: www.pharmchek.com/products/pharmchek-patch#:~:text=The%20PharmChek%C2%AE%20Sweat%20Patch,a%20reward%20or%20a%20sanction
There's nothing I want to rebuild with the people I used to consider my family. They are clearly loyal to the let's get stone or shite faced at ten in the morning team. They even asked some of those people to keep an eye on me. So the only thing I have left to tell them is: Have a nice life I'm not missing your presence in those conditions.
My husband is an addict (pills) and an alcoholic. He has hurt me emotionally and mentally many times as well as lying and stealing. He is now abusing prescription Xanax. I think I should kick him out (I own my house). I'm scared.
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Amber I first want to say thank you so much. The love of my life is a binge drinking alcoholic . I recently have him an ultimatum . It was really hard for me because I have never felt so much love for a person like I do with him. He drank very casual when we met and things seemed amazing . He shared with me that after his son passed he started drinking vodka so heavy that he was taken to the ICU for vomiting blood and also blood coming out , well both ends. His esophagus was clamped together in a couple of places. God gave him another chance at life he did not drink from one year. He shared all of this with me and he seemed very healthy he did tell me that he had a fatty liver with two lesions so whenever I saw him drinking casually it crossed my mind that he shouldn’t drink at all but he told me that his doctor told him a beer once in a blue moon was not a big deal. And I also saw that he was very fit he will go running and work out and take lots of vitamins. However about two years later he bought a house in a lot of stress came with that and he started drinking heavy vodka again.that was 9 months ago. He stopped the every day thing but still drinks too much. 2 months ago he started urinating blood . Was in hospital for 4 days . Long story short he only has an enlarged prostate . But there was a Cancer scare first , after 2 biopsy’s it’s not that . THANK GOD! needless to say sense he has been drinking heavily again he has changed so much towards me and has become extremely distinct it pushes me away blames everything on me I know he’s not being honest with me all the classic signs of addiction. I still love him with all of my heart but in my heart I knew I had to leave. I told him that I loved him more than anything in the world and asked him if he would ever quit drinking from me and of course he said no. So I told him that I needed to leave him. I packed my things and I did that it’s been about one month. At least once a week he will text me a random question and he always says I love you. I told him I love him more than anything in the world in a text and I told him it’s very hard for me to walk around with a piece of my heart missing and that I pray for him and for me every single day. He texted me back and told me that I know what to do. Meaning I should just come back to him and not expect him to quit drinking. Because for whatever reason he tells me he’s not an alcoholic and that he could just have a beer every now and then but I’ve already told him he’s only fooling himself and I have witnessed him drink heavy duty liquor it’s never a beer now and then. I’m so sorry that this text message is so long on here but I really do love your videos. I just would like you or somebody to tell me what I should do? In my heart I don’t think I should go back but I can’t imagine not ever being with him or touching him or holding him again. He is one of the best people I have ever known and he always pushed me to be a better person and a better mother to my son who is incarcerated because of him I went to school and became a nurse and because of him I stopped enabling my son in prison. And now I want to help the love of my life and the only way I knew to do that was to leave. Please tell me what to do how do I answer his text ?
How do you handle the lack of empathy from the addict?
@@paulreints2279 I can't "leave" my child.
Great show! I am always working on earning trust back. It's been very difficult, but from there point of view, they were put threw a lot, which is very true. So I had to double my effort and make some positive changes to my life before some trust was earned back. This gave me some more tips to continue improving my relationships.
Having spoken of this channel
that
opened the opportunity
for one and now a continuing conversation.
(They are typically short)
This is good
for a mother and son
to speak honestly admitting
about addiction in our family.
Thanks.
Hi Amber! Fellow content creator here and sub'd to keep tuned into your content. Great job!
Awesome! Thank you!
Hi Amber, I'm new to your channel. I find you informative and knowledgeable. Don't stop what you do. The world needs you and all your skills. Regarding Sobershare, does the technology work with cocaine addiction? If not, is there something comparable? I'm from Toronto Canada and am asking for a family member.
Hi Pat, Welcome to our little community. The Soberlink device mentioned in this video only works on Alcohol. There's not anything exactly like it for drugs (I wish there was!). The only thing I know of that would be similar in effect is something called a drug patch. It's essentially a Band-Aid (looks similar to a nicotine patch) that you can put on your arm. It stays on up to 10 days at a time. It collects sweat. Once your remove it, you send it to the lab. It can test for anything (inlcluding an expanded opioid panel). It will tell what (and how much) is in someone's system. So it's monitoring 24/7. The only problem is that it takes a while to get the results, so it's not real time data. We've used these in our office with some success, but I'm not sure where to get access to it in Toronto. Here's a link to a website to learn more: www.pharmchek.com/products/pharmchek-patch#:~:text=The%20PharmChek%C2%AE%20Sweat%20Patch,a%20reward%20or%20a%20sanction
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There's nothing I want to rebuild with the people I used to consider my family. They are clearly loyal to the let's get stone or shite faced at ten in the morning team. They even asked some of those people to keep an eye on me. So the only thing I have left to tell them is: Have a nice life I'm not missing your presence in those conditions.
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My husband is an addict (pills) and an alcoholic. He has hurt me emotionally and mentally many times as well as lying and stealing. He is now abusing prescription Xanax. I think I should kick him out (I own my house). I'm scared.
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Hi Tamar, Try this video instead: ua-cam.com/video/st0ywWyJ_2w/v-deo.html
You must not have an alcoholic in your life. Or used Soberlink. Amber is definitely not wrong about this.
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Thanks Anthony! 😁