Mindful Sex: Overcoming Orgasm Anxiety for Women
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- Many women have a lot of anxiety and insecurity about orgasming. In this video I offer some mindfulness tools for helping you get more enjoyment out of sex and orgasm.
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I seem to have a totally different problem to everyone else. It's horrible, I can get to the point or orgasm straight away, but once I get close to it, I stop because I can't handle the sensation to keep going myself. So I don't orgasm during masturbation. I also never have orgasmed with anyone as I stop them because I worry about urinating and then I worry about my toes cramping of all things. It's really horrible
Thank you for your patience on my reply. Letting go into climax can be very challenging and even scary for some. If someone has sexual trauma, or trauma in general, the release of climax can be overwhelming. Also, some of us need very light stimulation because anything more is too much. Main thing I want to say is that you are not broken. There is nothing wrong with you. You might seek out a therapist or guide/teacher to support you with this.
Jessica, thank you for taking the time to make these videos. They are very helpful. I have read your book “Good Sex” twice now and it’s great.
I’ve been practicing meditation daily for the past month and although there’s been ups and downs, it’s been so relieving. And I hope to see some improvement in my sex life at some point…
I have never been able to reach orgasm with a partner, no matter who it is. I’ve been sexually active for 10 years now, and still can only reach orgasm by myself. I’ve tried reaching orgasm with my husband being present but can only seem to do it once he falls asleep. It bothers him a lot. And I really want to be able to orgasm with him. I get really close but can never seem to fully let go while someone else is there.
Do you have any advice? Any specific practices I should try out?
I know this is very late but I wondered if you and your husband have tried full body sensual massage? Incorporating a blindfold into it maybe. Just a thought. I hope you have much success.
@@perpetualplatypussy69 we have tried massages. And the blindfold thing actually really helps. I still feel a blockage when I am close to reaching orgasm though. I can only fully orgasm after he falls asleep.
Thank you, I often can't relax. I have some shame around my body even though I look better than ever, when I'm on top I know my breasts aren't what they used to be because I lost a few stone.. also wanting more oral but wondering if I'm that pretty to look at and not wanting my partner to bury his nose and get suffocated haha. My partner is very loving and just wants to pay attention to me but all these anxieties are cropping up. I also fear im boring. I get angry at thoughts coming up and adding to tension but this meditation has really helped, I'll do my best to accept and move back to the body. I guess I still have some trauma from my last relationship.
Thank you Jessica! ❤️🙏🏼
Thank you for trying it out!
What if all your thoughts are about being unacceptable like he really don't want you. You've recently lost weight an now have a loose belly. An he wants to see you in mirror. Only you look an see ugly. Have a condition called racing thoughts anyway. Also have had experienced being trafficked an held captive. This is no ordinary perception created by myself. I want to feel alive, loved, and accepted by myself. I just don't know wht I have is called. This seems differing to things like head space being on chores. My head space tells me I'm disgusting.
Thank you for sharing this with me. I'm sending you a lot of love. My main suggestion is to focus your attention on lovingkindness practices. Meditations that help you to feel more love for yourself. I also suggest getting the support of a skilled trauma therapist. Somatic Experiencing and EMDR and incredible, and helped me a lot.
I also just posted a Divine Mother Practice video that might be able to offer support as well.
this has been coming back to me all week, since first listening to this. ' G r o u n d i n g ' Taking the time to literally connect
with, get in tune with, the p u l s e of the earth. Even just 20 minutes in a chair and bare feet on grass has a positive effect on removing c l u t t e r from both mind and body. // Then, as you say, don't even make orgasm the goal. Be free to enjoy a journey . . . . p e r f o r m ??? . . . . . simply ride what waves appear
Yes!
as the partner it seems to me one of the best things I can offer is the invitation to cook together. Here the senses are awakened. As well the clear message offered that is cooking; that there is no need to rush a n y t h i n g and that everything along the way is to be enjoyed..