Intj female here. This is the BEST video I've ever seen on intj female needs. So helpful. Thanks. (So many intj videos just brag about being cold and evil, which isn't even true.)
@@AlexisKingsley Have you wondered; if you're ENTJ? I'm an INTJ male, and I love my Fi child. The hero and the child play together, remember-and are the first two functions to be developed, before the parent. Ni-Fi is also our natural loop, which is also why we're the third type most prone to limerence, behind only INFJ and INFP. Yeah, I totally get limerent: if I really like a girl, and there's always something missing for me if it's not there. ENTJ would have Te hero, and Fi inferior. I mean, it's still in your stack-so you're an Fi user, and you're relatively strong with it compared to many others-because it's in your ego: but your relationship with it is totally different from mine. I love my Fi, I would play with it all the time if I let it [it wastes time, which is what I hate about it-but so does Ni]. Ni consumes time, like the Space Shuttle consumes fuel. I think your Te efficiency council would have a hard time incurring the kind of costs my hero Ni entails. Se would also have a problem with that [I'm Se inferior, so it's complaints are...duly noted]. Also, a friend of my dad's I met over the weekend: I typed him as ENTJ. He was very similar to me-I could see that, but was more extroverted-and there was also a ruthlessness about him that was more suppressed in me. I mean, I have it too. But our deciders are both relatively well balanced, thinking and feeling. So INTJ are also described sometimes as [yes] even the kindest type. Of course, anyone can be kind, the point here I guess is; no one would describe ENTJ as the KINDEST. Still kind...but not THE kindest-there's a difference there. The basic reason I would say, is the basic driving force: I seek out chances to play with my Fi child; if none exist, or even if they do or don't: I make excuses to be kind as an example. I feed the birds 4 evenings a week-because it gives me an excuse to be in my true nature, where I walk, in my Ni-and play with my Fi. I still have this same ruthlessness [Ti critic-doesn't get much more cynical than that], and INTJ are most frequently portrayed as the bad guys in cinema-I get it. But ENTJ, are the true CEO type. INTJ is described as both David Bowie [I agree-Roger Waters from Pink Floyd too for sure] and the CEO type [I also agree-with a caveat]. INTJs are leaders-but we don't want to lead. ENTJs do, so they're the true CEO/Commander type. I just think you may have mistyped yourself, or that that might be a possibility, is all. Kindest regards Z Edit, o.k o.k; you're possibly INTJ. There are different enneagrams as well. However you spell that. I 'dunno, you just sound more efficient than me. I mean, I bet any amount of anything; your Se's stronger than mine. I also have very Ni hobbies; such as building model warships to museam standards-that's 300hrs per build, do karate and naturalistic oil paintings-it took me thirty yrs to teach myself how to do that. The others, require both 10 000hrs AND ten yrs in order to become proficient. It's increadibly inefficient getting there though. I mean, how do you work hard at something [even with every desire and intention in the world]...if you don't know how to do it??? That's the problem with long term creative problems-that only Ni can ultimately solve. To me, that's what I am; INTJ. That's what hero Ni entails. But anyway, that's just my experience. I thought your...persona became softer as you went on, then I thought "INTJ, maybe". I also want to just think all the time; more than anything. Loathing, hate, disgust, malice, good and evil, morality and love are all the same function: Fi. But I mean, any Fi-user will be able to instantly flick between love and disgust [harsh moral judgement-at least if an extroverted Judger], like a frequency-agile radar can flick between frequencies.
Right! So different from the other women in my family and had to contend so many times with whether I’m a bad person for not having a baby at 30, loving to be alone or with similar ppl, not needing so many social affirmations in discussions and being extremely unafraid to say what I truly think BECAUSE I care and tend to seriously consider just about anything… It’s so wonderful to have stumbled upon this channel and find people who don’t make me feel like such an exception in a bad way. 😮💨 Edit: I have been notoriously ruthless as a child while leading groups from earlier than first grade Perhaps I’m just an entj in an unbalanced place?
As an INTJ male, I actually found this very useful. I got stuck in the Ni-Fi loop for years with no idea how to get out of it. I have noticed that I feel much better when I do real things in the real world, such as traveling or managing a project. It’s also interesting that INTJ females seem to be more successful on UA-cam than INTJ males. I wonder if it’s because it’s easier for the women to adjust their personality...
Totally agree - feel better during project management! I think part of female INTJs being successful is that (in my opinion) female thinkers and male feelers have had to learn to blend more, and are forced to be more balanced by cultural standards.
@@AlexisKingsley yes I feel MUCH better when I’m working on a project and am focused on accomplishing something. For example, if I’m at work and have finished an 8 month project and am waiting for another big project to start planning, I’ll start feeling bad about myself and self worth. I HAVE to feel useful or else I get depressed.
Hey! INTJ lady-type person here! This was a fantastic breakdown and articulation of the personality type! I've been subjected to a barrage of tests since I was a kid, and I have consistently tested as INTJ (or the battery's equivalent) my whole life - and even am adjudged by others to be INTJ (sometimes ENTJ) when workplaces have done the assessments that ask you to assign personality "stuff" to team colleagues. I've also worked in the education / training / personal development space for almost my entire career, and I tend to be real skeptical about the value of personality inventories. But your assessment was really helpful! I also want to add that I think some of tend to have some of the discoveries and coping / compensation mechanisms trained into us by parents or our environment. My mom is an ENFP, and she trotted me out like a trick pony and sort of forced me to learn how to be more bubbly and such when it was necessary. I don't seek the spotlight, but I am comfortable there as a result. Also, I think that while you're right about the slow decision-making and analysis, we can seem to make snap decisions because we often sort of run thinking about stuff on a subroutine without talking about it, and then "jump" to a conclusion when the data comes back in an internally tangible way. In any case - thank you for the video and your perspective!
From one INTJ female to another, I say you are one INTJ, Alexis, who is engaging throughout your videos, and I find myself smiling the whole time while watching. Thank you for your candidness, also.
@@AlexisKingsley I mentioned appearing as an ISFP above as a sign of a healthy INTJ. I see that through your work. Further I think that is the brilliance of Jung. When perceiving and Judging processes work together great outcomes are produced. Thoughts?
You have literally called me out for being on crack with Fi to a point of severely weakening my Te. It was even harder due to the pandemic. My Ni-Fi is not letting me get anywhere, and I feel so bad about it. I have to realize that Te-Se baby steps are the most important in getting back on track. Thank you for the wake-up call. Stopping my Fi is the least comforting thing to do after being too deep into it, but I have to do it.
Well said!! Love the crack analogy! It's short-term "comforting" but long-term destructive. It's medicating, not solving, the problem. Love the analogy! I might use it!
Here is my working list for INTJ self development. Enjoy! -Ways to develop Se Go outside more often Practice martial arts/ dancing/rock climbing/swimming or any sport Work out regularly Pay attention to your senses (sight, smell, touch, hearing, taste) Get some xSxP friends Make music Dance Sing Don't overcomplicate simple solutions Do things that make you feel physically tired -Ways to develop Fi Be kind to others Make friends Express your feelings in a healthy way Tell the truth -Ways to develop Te Pursue a goal Write a plan and then work it Communicate with others Get on a team that inspires you Complete a to do list Implement your intuitive insights Journal Automate your decisions Speak up more -Detecting unhealthy Se Watching porn Surfing UA-cam Indifference to sensory data Binge eating Being impulsive Excessive drug and alcohol use -Detecting unhealthy Fi Feeling irritated or hopeless Isolating Confusion Apathy Being a perfectionist Ignoring your schedule Sleeping in -Detecting unhealthy Te Being lazy Not wanting to do it Being apathetic Analysis by paralysis
INTJ here. Sincerely, thanks so much this. Could this be the best video on INTJs out there? I am not sure. It's easily around the top. Very high utility factor.
I’m an INFJ, professor actually, and I like INTJs because they are different from me, I enjoy the TE, because it is so interesting to me. I used to have my students take the test at the beginning of each semester. I have to disagree with the idea of FE needing to be engaged by emotions, when we are actually just quite aware of the emotional component as a source for specific behaviors, in groups and individuals. Also, we have this annoyingly obtrusive empathy, which is often misunderstood to be sympathy. It is not sympathy, it is picking up on the feelings, whatever they may be, of others, and not realizing, necessarily, that these are not our own feelings, because it seems so ludicrous. So whether we like it or not, we are privy to the feelings of others, which makes it very difficult to ignore. If you instinctively feel something, and it is so unconscious, you won’t recognize it, quite naturally it will be included in any combination of variables your brain utilizes to make decisions, quickly. The only way I knew that I was picking up on other people’s’ feelings was the look on the face of the person looking back at me, of surprise, and suspicion, enough times, I couldn’t really ignore it anymore. We assess emotions in a very logical way, as we are intending to utilize it to solve potential problems, and to relate better to human beings. We are sort of chameleons. I am suggesting you may have been utilizing your “fi” with regard to the possible misperception you may have had, regarding reading the room as “falling flat” unless you use your fi, because it might the “fi” telling you this. Having observed the dynamics of my students, for years, which I loved, I can tell you that the one blind spot of INTJs, is precisely how they assume they are perceived. People respect the hell out of you, like you, and the only reason they don’t talk to you, is because they are intimidated by your very essence. You carry yourselves with such a sense of dignity, self directedness, purpose and inner strength (and I have been telling countless INTJs this for years) which is unusually well developed. It is naturally, very difficult for you, as the intj, to assess in terms of how people perceive this. It’s very rare. They look up to you. They may not even know it consciously, but they feel it. I had such a unique perspective, as a professor, and an INFJ, to be able it observe the dynamics in the classroom, and many one on one meetings with students, in which I slyly inserted a question or two, in which I received the feedback directly from them as well. This is so common, and I wish you guys could see the power you could have to change the world, honestly, if you’d just ask an INFJ. Seriously, you are brilliant, not just iq, but you can run the world, effectively. You would just need an INFJ to be your chief of staff.
Wow! If that's truly how we're perceived, then I definitely have that blind spot! I'm always amazed at Ti-users' ability to make distinctions. (I'm still somewhat failing to see the difference between engaged by emotions and picking up on emotions) but I've started to just trust Ti-users when they tell me there's a difference!
It's absolutely going to be an INTJ's blind spot assuming how we are perceived, think about it. We run constant simulations to figure out what exactly is the logic flow map behind whatever scenario/'s that we're running based on our observation and intuitive point of references. We OBSERVE constantly... but we never really get to see the situation from the outside looking in, ALWAYS inside looking out. Inside we get to experience all the hemming and hawing and sprinting through simulations as fast as possible to derive the best outcome as soon as possible. Possibly a good example of this would be along the lines of, "People only see the success after someone, "Makes it big", but they didn't see all of the consistency, effort, time, sweat, failure after failure, and tears it took over however long of a period of a little success every day that got them there". In my head, it's just constant simulation after simulation to logic my way through to an outcome to finally have an answer I'm confident in, because I ran the sim multiple times from multiple variables and angles and the answer is still true, so I HAVE to have certainty at that point. Everyone else just see's certainty in the observed point in time. I know in my head, it doesn't have any merit anymore because that is the standard of operation that is my norm, anything less and I'm absolutely not running at 100%. I know that negative loop became really destructive for myself because whenever I produced a piece of art, no matter how much time I spent or how much effort I put in, my pieces simply weren't at the standard I want them to be at. My wife still talks me up as being a great illustrator/artist, but I became tired of doing what felt like the same thing over and over and eventually stopped drawing. My wife see's the final drawings or sketches I would throw out and she see's the drawing when I see all the errors and hundreds of thousands of pictures I've drawn trying incessantly to correct the errors that are still present before me.
Your comment left me teary-eyed... briefly (lol). I'm an intj woman. Your comment reminded me of exactly what my enfj friend tells me about me. I am thoroughly oblivious to it. She always tells me how she admires my strength and self-sufficient ways. I tell her that her magical people powers are amazing. She can walk up to a stranger just know they are suffering and within minutes be hearing their life story and hugging them while they cry!! But she also always asks me if I'm bored when I'm just fascinated and absorbing. She can't always read me, (nor does she have to) but I think she likes that too. We admire each other. Anyway, thank you for your infj way of making an intj see a new perspective of themselves and their value. 😊
I have never thought about how I am perceived. And I don't care. Perception is not reality. Be bold. Delve into reality. Us INTJs. Please continue not talking to me, because those who do / will talk to me, are sure to have something meaningful to say. A professor here too.
Intj female here and everything you described is so relevant to me. I really struggle with making decisions because I think too much. Thank you for the tips! It feels good having someone who understands how you're feeling and is able to give useful advice. I also love how your channel is catered to intj females because, like what you described, I feel like there aren't many of us
Nice video as an xNTJ I agree to most of it, for those who came for the real deal -> 20:36, resumed, 1.- You have to overcome the good ol' isolation and introvertion (INTJ's mostly), 2.- Train your sensing extrovertion Why: because it's useful, haven't evaluated it in an interpersonal level, now is time for you to do your own diligence, it normally takes this to make things happen. Got to be a more animated and alive version of yourself to have bigger impact, example from this vid: SE
This is such a nice outline on how to as an INTJ optimize both my core primary and inferior functions to their most optimal level which will in turn enable me to reach my full potential as an INTJ thank you from the bottom of my INTJ heart for this video.
Intj female. I use the bursts of energy way of working. I go at a physical project for an hour or two, get to a plateau, or good stopping point (or finish the project if I can in time). Then I rest for maybe 10 minutes and let my brain play/learn/whatever, and back at it. I'm 52 and I learned recently this helped me to get more done without burning out physically. I just discovered your videos and I am so glad I did. You represent us well. Thank you.
19:15 "Se must serve Ni", or physical actions must serve your vision. This is the answer I have been looking for many years of why I can do some things effectively and sometimes I cant. Like stick to a diet. Thank you for this insight.
Hey, I just randomly found your video and started watching kinda sceptically honestly, but I just wanted to say, I was captivated ; nobody has ever described me so well or seemed to know me as well as you. Especially the decision fatigue part, was so mind blown by that. You obviously have worked hard on your goals and thank you for your effort and the opportunity to know, I really am not alone. Oh and straight after I started watching an intj video by another you tuber, you were on point about presentation and well a good microphone.
I hate the decision fatigue thing. It even gets to me when choosing a meal in a restaurant. It’s much harder for me to pick something if I don’t know the items well.
You have a wonderful channel. I'm getting some great insight from my you. I love learning form other INTJs. The discovery of Myers-Briggs and the development of my Te function was a game changer. My ENTJ cousin and I discuss MBTI often. I helped him with Ni and he helped me with Te. I became motivated to accomplishy goals. I wrote a book, shifted my attention into things that benefited me externally and accomplished my goals. INTJs have so much to offer. We are wellsprings of potential that need that Te unlocked to manifest our abilities. You're motivating me to start my own channel because that's my next goal. Thanks for putting this content out Alexis!
the descriptions about intjs that i always read had me convinced i wasn’t intj. but after watching this i know for a fact that i am. the way you describe the functions so realistically is honestly amazing. most things i read on intjs make it seem like we have it all figured out, know what we want and how to get it. but the reality is that we’re human, not the robotic evil masterminds we’re made out to be. your descriptions on Ni are so clear and make a lot of sense to me (an Ni dom). for some reason i always confused Ni-Te for Ti lol (believed i was intp). I also understand why i internalize emotions and have a desire to express myself through clothing, music, aesthetics etc. anyhoo thanks for the explanation :)
INTJ male here, I've watched over 20 of your videos and all your points are like flashlights highlighting a dark corner I didn't know existed this whole time. Thank you
It’s actually so interesting to see other types struggles and point of view. Before knowing mbti I thought everyone sees the world like me… not that all are the same, but they just process information in the same way. ~ enfj
I love your cadence. I watch most youtubers on 1.5 or 1.75 but I watch you on Normal. Thank you so much for this immensely valuable information. I’ve been heavily involved with Objective Personality and my attraction was the promise of fixing my flaws but I’ve not been able to get that. This is the info we need! And I am so caught in decision paralysis because my dad was a pack rat and I’m trying to clean out. I should just take it all to Goodwill but then I think I’ll sure regret that when I’m starving to death at 90!
Definitely one of the best videos for INTJ tips, dealing with Se can be like trying to squeeze blood out of a turnip but once you push through it becomes a great ally. I spent my 20s completely immersed in Ni and it lead to a huge amount of Se problems, body started to fail, car broke down, losing friendships. Once you can manage the Se and get it scheduled there is nothing that can stop you.
Thank goodness I'm normal. Able to relate what you said. Me too, working on my Se. Overcomplicating my analysis but it's just how we present... As a financial rep now, it's definitely pushing me OUT of my comfort zone.
This has been so helpful! I love the chart clearly explaining each one. So relatable and provided real insights into INTJ and how to work on the basement behaviors!
I just figured out why I GET YOU so much. I realize you're an INTJ as well (I know, I'm late). You speak to my soul. Your videos are spot on. Please keep it up! Thank you!!!
This is the best INTJ video I have ever watched. I watched a few of your videos 3 or 4 years ago and they didn't really hold my attention. I definately noticed throughout this one I kept thinking how I must have changed because I really enjoyed it and you kept me interested. The small changes you made definately made a difference!Very interesting! I am an INTJ (5w4) and this was very insightful.Thankyou:)
slightly embarrassing to admit, but this video made me so emotional. i felt like i've never had anyone to guide me my whole life, and always doubted and questioned myself and my reasoning for certain situations. recently realising that im an intj and being able to find videos such as this to explain why i am a certain way has helped me accept myself for who i am. im so grateful. apologies for the incoherent rambling.
Oh my goodness, I can’t believe what I’m listening to right now. It’s as if you’re speaking my thoughts out loud. It’s good to know that I’m not entirely different from EVERYONE else in the world.
As an INTJ I've never felt myself attracted to a female INTJ, until now. The feelings of being understood and the vibes of a more cerebral ENFP. --meaning that positive and dare I say -vibrant energy.
This is video is the best therapy I've ever received. You pointed out the root of my problems, and now I don't have to dwell and feel confused about it.
*Unlocking the INTJ Mastermind: A Guide to Developing Extroverted Thinking and Sensing* * *0:07** Introduction to INTJ Cognitive Functions:* INTJs lead with introverted intuition (Ni), followed by extroverted thinking (Te), introverted feeling (Fi), and extroverted sensing (Se). * *0:41** Ni (Introverted Intuition):* This dominant function involves deep, subconscious pattern recognition, leading to insights and a focus on future implications. * *2:29** Te (Extroverted Thinking):* This function focuses on organizing the external world, setting goals, and achieving efficiency. * *3:24** Fi (Introverted Feeling):* Occupying the third position, Fi can manifest negatively as self-pity or a focus on personal values, sometimes leading to inaction. * *5:47** Se (Extroverted Sensing):* As the inferior function, Se is often underdeveloped, leading to a disconnect from the present and physical needs. * *8:09** Why Develop Te and Se?:* Developing these functions is crucial for balance, effectiveness, and achieving the goals set by Ni. * *10:42** How to Develop Te:* * *10:50** Extrovert Thoughts:* Share ideas, write plans, and use a planner to stay organized. * *11:40** Evening Planning:* Plan the next day the night before to reduce morning decision fatigue. * *12:26** Embrace Te Extroversion:* Find social outlets through collaborative activities like volunteering or teamwork. * *13:02** Automate Systems:* Streamline routines (e.g., meal prepping, outfits) to minimize decisions. * *13:59** Theme Days:* Assign specific tasks to certain days to reduce mental load. * *14:28** Speak Up:* Share ideas assertively and take on leadership roles to build confidence. * *15:13** How to Develop Se:* * *16:57** Consider the Obvious:* Sometimes the simplest solution is the best; don't overcomplicate with Ni. * *17:16** "What Scares Me" List:* Identify and confront activities that involve abrupt changes or sensory engagement. * *17:52** "Exhausting" Activities:* Engage in activities that challenge your energy levels in a productive way (Te and Se, not Fi). * *19:06** Avoid Oscillation:* Find sustainable ways to incorporate Se without drastic shifts between Ni and Se dominance. * *20:35** Consequences of Neglect:* Failing to develop Te and Se can lead to isolation, inaction, and an inability to connect with others effectively. * *20:35** Become More Alive:* Embrace a more well-rounded, animated version of yourself to engage with the world and achieve your potential. * *22:50** Step Out of Your Comfort Zone:* Embrace challenges and take risks to foster growth. I used gemini-1.5-pro-exp-0827 on rocketrecap dot com to summarize the transcript. Cost (if I didn't use the free tier): $0.03 Input tokens: 22836 Output tokens: 660
When she said she would think about changing something like her hair color for a year. That hit me hard, as I do that also, not the hair color but, just in general. It's the over analysis of things that trap you for a while.
As an INTJ male, it was very helpful to hear your perspective. It seems like you have really worked at Se, which I am doing right now. I am only 19 so I cannot be too hard on myself. Thank you for such an open, informative video.
Thank you. I greatly appreciate the time you have dedicated to this channel. I have been trying to figure out my type for two years. During this two years I left my hometown and moved across the country, and finally healed a lot of the trama from my past, but one thing I have not figured out was why it in my early 20's I had dreams of me running from someone or something, especially while I was pregnant. I was running from the shame. The shame of not knowing or understanding myself, the shame of not really being mature enough for a relationship let alone a mother at 23. Not knowing what a real healthy relationship looks like, let alone maintain one. Wow. Thanks
I recently got on a INTJ video youtube bing and I agree most of the videos are lacking Se as you stated. Your has been by far the most pleasing visually and auditorily. It is amazing how much better people sound at 1.25 speed. I love, as I see other in the comments also, your practical examples like planning for the day the night before, joining more groups to make friends, and ect. There were actually a lot of practical take aways that I think will really help me. One suggestion visually is I have trouble reading the font you use on my phone. I think visuals are great addition its just I struggle to read them.
Excellent video Alexis. Thank you for putting it together. As a newbie to mbti, I'm going through the different types and thinking "I'm this", "no I'm that", and so on. I'm certain of being an INxx, but wasn't clear on the last two letters. The INTJ draws me the more I understand it, specially when listening to people who are INTJs themselves. I'm almost certain I'm one myself. Your video was extremely helpful in showing me how much I'm in my inner comfort zone, which has been my Achilles heel for most of my life, and that what precisely I need to get out of it is practicing more of the externally focused functions we have. Though I spend so much time figuring myself out and being frustrated of never getting to the bottom of it, curiously the times I was most happy was whenever I actually went out and did something physical. And whatever I did, I did it well, giving me a lot of satisfaction. Frankly speaking, it's not difficult for us to move in the physical world when we get down to it, not as much as we think. We need to be more grounded in the present external world. That's where our gifts possibly come out.
Thank you so much for all your videos! The way you put the information together really clicks well with me. My daughter and I are both INTJ. Your videos have helped me greatly in understanding myself, family, and friends better. You're awesome!
Great tips! You've really developed that Se! Really impressive! Te development. Find smart people and mentors. Work smarter not harder, is the INTJ way. Thanks for the video!
This video is pure gold. Is actually not the first time I hear the advise of working on the Te-Se combo to kind of cover for the missing Fe, but girl you did such a good job at making the idea understandable. Thanks for the insights!
I've an INTJ co-worker who is a master strategist to me. He thinks years ahead and can visualize how things should be and I'm the one who takes the lead to change dreams into reality with my Se-Ti while my tert Fe knows how to inspire and motivate the other team members. We are both good trouble-shooters in case we hit obstacles at the road. Our team runs like a well-oiled machine! I also enjoy the depth of the discussions when we are together.
Can’t thank You enough for this video. been spending the last 4-5 months in a Ni Fi loop and don’t know what to do. read a lot of articles on Google and watched a lot of UA-cam videos, but This video give the clearest picture and things of what should I do and what should I develop. my Te is definitely underutilized and my Se is repressed so I do self sabotaging things. You saved my life. Thanks.
Great advice! I love all the Se changes, background looks awesome and your new hair really suits you. And I admire your way of verbalizing your thoughts, it’s something I’ve struggled with all my life and you make me think it’s possible to get better at it, it may be a skill. Very inspirational! Thank you.
Thank you Val! It's been about 8 months and I'm just now getting to the place of **almost** being satisfied with how I express my thoughts, but the first step was believing it was possible. And you articulated yourself wonderfully here so it's more than possible, more than probable, almost certain. :)
INTJ here - very helpful video. Thanks. So you know I find that doing auto and motorcycke mechanics hugely relaxing, and now I see that is forces me to use Se and Te. Very insightful.
I recently discovered your Channel and I really enjoy it…An INTJ friend of mine recommended it…He said there is a lot here that would help me as an INFJ and I agree…thank you for the entertaining yet insightful and informative videos…👍
Black, Dark Grey, Grey, Navy Blue are the best clothing colors. You do not even need to sort them when doing laundry or fear for the colors to get mixed on the fabric.
Wow what a life hack! It is well presented, highly organized, and very useful. Now just got to put it into consistent practice ie the hard part. Thank you so much for this!
thank you so much!! i’ve been struggling so hard with my personality type. i’ve identified with intj for a long time but got really worried as i saw more stereotypes of “emotionless” intjs or very productive intjs when honestly that doesn’t describe me at all. i’ve watched almost all of your videos now and this one resonated with me so hard. the ni-fi loop and se grip was so insanely relatable that i was staring at the screen in shock. great video, you’re amazing❤️
For an intj female I can say my Se is very well developed which I often mistook it as Te but yes thanks to your video I know the difference now and will be working on improving my Te as well. I watched your vlogs too and they were fun.Thank you!!
I have never personally resonated so much with a UA-cam channel until I stumbled across your account. Initially I disliked the idea of developing my Se since it wasn't (nor is it currently) something I'm comfortable with. Thank you for broadening my perspective! I'll be binging your videos for a long while :)
👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 So many great points here!!! Loved the points about gender differences and expectations. 20:38 is SPOT ON!!! Doing what stretches and out of our comfort zone takes HARD, deliberate effort. But on the other side is a more impactful and full life ❤️ Bravo again 🎉 , Sandy. INTJ 5
Really thank you. Never heard of the Ni-Fi loop, but quickly realized it's exactly what I'm struggling with from time to time, but when I do it turns my life around, thanks a lot for sharing this and even providing ways how to break out of it. Thanks a lot again, subbed.
I’m a INTJ and through bodybuilding, weightlifting, powerlifting, being in the military, learning multiple trades (currently a Electrician, but I enjoy blacksmithing, mechanics, plumbing, HVAC, and carpentry), and the sport I’m doing now is boxing, iv developed my SE really well… but I do tend to listen to audio books and random subjects while working lol which is probably my Ni running in the background ;)
This is a very accurate analysis. Ni is the natural gift but it has it's downside and knowing how to switch into the realm of Si is key to go achieve, change and see the results of a well previsualized trajectory. I've been in a Ni-Fi loop, but I believe there are many factors that play or aid my falling into this. For instance, I'm also ADHD and dyslexia. These cognitive disorders are always throwing wrenches into my cognitive functions making it so hard to breakout of the my dark loops. Has anyone else experiencing this?
This video and comment section feel like long lost home for an INTJ... I was looking for this kind of detailed and informative video to better understand and work on my strengths and weaknesses... The presentation was amazing... Love to learn more about it...
Thank you, you are very good at explaining anything about INTJs :)! And I feel something very good and interesting from you and I like it :) We are always in alfa-level when we are thinking, that is why we are "seeing trough people", but actually, we are in some kind of meditation&thinking in our own inner world, detached from outside world. It can be weird for people who not experience it or are not capable of understand it, but we know how exactly it is like :)
Thank you for all the valuable information you have offered in this video! I've been typed as an INTJ by others and although I'm not certain of my type, a lot of these things applied to me such as the loop as well as the grip. I would have periods of time where I avoided Te because it was uncomfortable for me and I just feel like crap, but when I actually discipline myself to do Te related things, I end up being very energized. I also really liked how you described Ni since I cannot really express it effectively in words which makes me suspect whether I'm an INTJ at all, but the experiences of just constantly ruminating on thoughts and over complicating things has stressed me out and ended up causing me to make bad decisions. I really appreciate all the advice that you have gave in this video about developing Se. Thanks again!
Recently I learned I am intj, still learning exactly what that means but this video resonated with me so much. I’ve learned some of the mentioned things just from living with myself, but this was so enlightening
(Brit INFP sx4 (451)) I find gratitude very difficult, but doing a periodic sweep of unseen jungian type videos (I catch up every few years but try not to over-indulge), I found this, and also a random moment of gratitude. I am grateful that this today is a world of spiritual and ethical values that doing things as healthy as this can be the impact, life or meaning for INTJ, rather than what must often have been millennia of persecutions and forced ugliness: political machiavellianism out of necessity and bitterness, or banishment to hermitage, or isolation as a weird alchemist in a shack, or being burnt at the stake. I suppose, perversely, that makes me oddly partially grateful for the opportunity to be a species we had never been before after the special horrors that most of the first-world realised in WW2; that the reaction to it could so lead to 50's delta quadra Disney idealism and 80's gamma quadra happiness-seeking enterprise. They have faults and blindness but the late 20th century is the bedrock of what we predominantly still socially value and will fight for. I am grateful, I guess, for all of this. Thanks for prompting this thought, inadvertently.
Whenever I need to think of an example of Ni, my mind always goes to this puzzle game called "pipe dream". It's a NES game where they give you pipe parts one at a time and you have to assemble it so water can flow safely to the exit. I would always compare it with Introverted Intuition and I think like that(I'm INFP). But isn't that normal for everyone else? Like life gives you tiny pieces of info one at a time, you think nothing much of it and your brain stores it at the backroom drawers of your mind and then out of nowhere you find the final piece and you get this lightbulb epiphany thing. I'm so confused if I'm infp or intj. Maybe I develop a heightened sense of Ne because my life has been unpredictable af. I'm empathetic and would always get the F type. The tests are always bias and label thinkers as apathetic/antisocial and feelers as empathetic and that always leads to the innacuracy of the results. If I have to arrange my cognitive stack it'll look like this Ni Ne Fi Te Fe Si Ti Se
once i read my diary after 10 year and i found, I am still stuck in past and i am in loop. after that day my life become positive and wonderful. because i found that i was traped in my negative thoughts for so long.
I'm a INFJ/P and I really enjoyed every part of this video. There are things that I think will come handy for my daily routine. I've just realised how many Se things I avoid haha but all in a good balance is good.
THANK YOU FOR THIS. this video honestly made me feels so understood and helped me a lot. and i just love how insightful you are but yet still manage to say all important things. love this v much. - fellow intj
Super smart at the end is that we are aware that we can develop other functions😂💪🏽thank you for lovely super on point video- I’ll stick with ya to improve and understand more own loops. 👍🏽
Great, thanks - spot on here - I find it insulting in other videos when a Se person advises me (INTJ) to do real things in the real world without considering that I find my world of ideas and thinking as real as the outside world - so I don't get what they mean and I get confused - just could not understand what they mean by real-world coz I considered thoughts and ideas real too - arent they?
The thing about INTJs having low battery and energy is a bit surprising to me (heard it several times.) I am very high energy myself, able to give Se doms a run for their money and then some, but then again I had a very Se focused childhood as a Norwegian mountain boy growing up in a culture and family that prized physicallity. Using Te to socialize I can also completely relate to, I just love activities where a shared interest, activity or goal is what brought us together. (it cuts that un-fixable humanoid chaos by a comfortable degree lol)
I recently discovered that I am an Intj. Thank you for making this video, it’s possibly the most helpful resource I’ve found where each thing you said sparked a resounding YES from my head where I completely related. Do you plan to do Q&As in the future? I’m still figuring out how to come out of the dull loop you described and feel very uninspired by working out or starting a new project so I find myself becoming very self-deprecating. I’d love another video with how you’ve researched this loop and other strategies to develop more intrinsic conviction.
17:15 Had an INTJ leader in a youth church group, and he went talking about how my personal life reflects in my work (aka making videos) instead of telling me that it was bad/needs criticism 😭 ( not to be against INTJs hahaha, it's a joke, but yeah, we do need your Te as well in the team!)
Intj female here. This is the BEST video I've ever seen on intj female needs. So helpful. Thanks. (So many intj videos just brag about being cold and evil, which isn't even true.)
Thank you!!
@@AlexisKingsley Have you wondered; if you're ENTJ? I'm an INTJ male, and I love my Fi child. The hero and the child play together, remember-and are the first two functions to be developed, before the parent.
Ni-Fi is also our natural loop, which is also why we're the third type most prone to limerence, behind only INFJ and INFP. Yeah, I totally get limerent: if I really like a girl, and there's always something missing for me if it's not there.
ENTJ would have Te hero, and Fi inferior. I mean, it's still in your stack-so you're an Fi user, and you're relatively strong with it compared to many others-because it's in your ego: but your relationship with it is totally different from mine. I love my Fi, I would play with it all the time if I let it [it wastes time, which is what I hate about it-but so does Ni]. Ni consumes time, like the Space Shuttle consumes fuel. I think your Te efficiency council would have a hard time incurring the kind of costs my hero Ni entails. Se would also have a problem with that [I'm Se inferior, so it's complaints are...duly noted].
Also, a friend of my dad's I met over the weekend: I typed him as ENTJ. He was very similar to me-I could see that, but was more extroverted-and there was also a ruthlessness about him that was more suppressed in me. I mean, I have it too. But our deciders are both relatively well balanced, thinking and feeling. So INTJ are also described sometimes as [yes] even the kindest type. Of course, anyone can be kind, the point here I guess is; no one would describe ENTJ as the KINDEST. Still kind...but not THE kindest-there's a difference there. The basic reason I would say, is the basic driving force: I seek out chances to play with my Fi child; if none exist, or even if they do or don't: I make excuses to be kind as an example. I feed the birds 4 evenings a week-because it gives me an excuse to be in my true nature, where I walk, in my Ni-and play with my Fi. I still have this same ruthlessness [Ti critic-doesn't get much more cynical than that], and INTJ are most frequently portrayed as the bad guys in cinema-I get it. But ENTJ, are the true CEO type. INTJ is described as both David Bowie [I agree-Roger Waters from Pink Floyd too for sure] and the CEO type [I also agree-with a caveat]. INTJs are leaders-but we don't want to lead. ENTJs do, so they're the true CEO/Commander type. I just think you may have mistyped yourself, or that that might be a possibility, is all.
Kindest regards
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Edit, o.k o.k; you're possibly INTJ. There are different enneagrams as well. However you spell that. I 'dunno, you just sound more efficient than me. I mean, I bet any amount of anything; your Se's stronger than mine. I also have very Ni hobbies; such as building model warships to museam standards-that's 300hrs per build, do karate and naturalistic oil paintings-it took me thirty yrs to teach myself how to do that. The others, require both 10 000hrs AND ten yrs in order to become proficient. It's increadibly inefficient getting there though. I mean, how do you work hard at something [even with every desire and intention in the world]...if you don't know how to do it??? That's the problem with long term creative problems-that only Ni can ultimately solve. To me, that's what I am; INTJ. That's what hero Ni entails. But anyway, that's just my experience. I thought your...persona became softer as you went on, then I thought "INTJ, maybe". I also want to just think all the time; more than anything. Loathing, hate, disgust, malice, good and evil, morality and love are all the same function: Fi. But I mean, any Fi-user will be able to instantly flick between love and disgust [harsh moral judgement-at least if an extroverted Judger], like a frequency-agile radar can flick between frequencies.
Right! So different from the other women in my family and had to contend so many times with whether I’m a bad person for not having a baby at 30, loving to be alone or with similar ppl, not needing so many social affirmations in discussions and being extremely unafraid to say what I truly think BECAUSE I care and tend to seriously consider just about anything…
It’s so wonderful to have stumbled upon this channel and find people who don’t make me feel like such an exception in a bad way. 😮💨
Edit: I have been notoriously ruthless as a child while leading groups from earlier than first grade
Perhaps I’m just an entj in an unbalanced place?
And brag about their existences
i'm an ETNP
As an INTJ male, I actually found this very useful. I got stuck in the Ni-Fi loop for years with no idea how to get out of it. I have noticed that I feel much better when I do real things in the real world, such as traveling or managing a project.
It’s also interesting that INTJ females seem to be more successful on UA-cam than INTJ males. I wonder if it’s because it’s easier for the women to adjust their personality...
Totally agree - feel better during project management! I think part of female INTJs being successful is that (in my opinion) female thinkers and male feelers have had to learn to blend more, and are forced to be more balanced by cultural standards.
@@AlexisKingsley yes I feel MUCH better when I’m working on a project and am focused on accomplishing something. For example, if I’m at work and have finished an 8 month project and am waiting for another big project to start planning, I’ll start feeling bad about myself and self worth. I HAVE to feel useful or else I get depressed.
@@J_Trask so you are one of them... (personality police)
INTJ Females seem to be more successful online because there are so many females trying their hardest to be INTJ!
Hey! INTJ lady-type person here!
This was a fantastic breakdown and articulation of the personality type!
I've been subjected to a barrage of tests since I was a kid, and I have consistently tested as INTJ (or the battery's equivalent) my whole life - and even am adjudged by others to be INTJ (sometimes ENTJ) when workplaces have done the assessments that ask you to assign personality "stuff" to team colleagues. I've also worked in the education / training / personal development space for almost my entire career, and I tend to be real skeptical about the value of personality inventories. But your assessment was really helpful!
I also want to add that I think some of tend to have some of the discoveries and coping / compensation mechanisms trained into us by parents or our environment. My mom is an ENFP, and she trotted me out like a trick pony and sort of forced me to learn how to be more bubbly and such when it was necessary. I don't seek the spotlight, but I am comfortable there as a result. Also, I think that while you're right about the slow decision-making and analysis, we can seem to make snap decisions because we often sort of run thinking about stuff on a subroutine without talking about it, and then "jump" to a conclusion when the data comes back in an internally tangible way.
In any case - thank you for the video and your perspective!
From one INTJ female to another, I say you are one INTJ, Alexis, who is engaging throughout your videos, and I find myself smiling the whole time while watching. Thank you for your candidness, also.
Thank you!! I've worked so hard on viewer engagement 😂
@@AlexisKingsley I mentioned appearing as an ISFP above as a sign of a healthy INTJ. I see that through your work. Further I think that is the brilliance of Jung. When perceiving and Judging processes work together great outcomes are produced. Thoughts?
INTJ has a super power to switch to INFJ depending on the environment
Finally someone confirms my suspicions. Lol Comes in handy to have that "F" once in a while. But I'm always surprised when it shows up.
Fuckin A, Right.
Pode crer 😂
SO TRUE
@@moniquefleming3738 same!
"mastermind" I always found that title pretentious. - INTJ
yah not very funny lol. or i finde it better mind Master
I would never underestimate
@@hoatran-rq1ip better than overestimating yourself. This way, you could at least surprise yourself from time to time, in a positive manner.
I think "mastermind" is accurate.
This is how INTJs are percieved and described, but insecurities make us feel not enough. .INTJ
You have literally called me out for being on crack with Fi to a point of severely weakening my Te. It was even harder due to the pandemic. My Ni-Fi is not letting me get anywhere, and I feel so bad about it. I have to realize that Te-Se baby steps are the most important in getting back on track. Thank you for the wake-up call. Stopping my Fi is the least comforting thing to do after being too deep into it, but I have to do it.
Well said!! Love the crack analogy! It's short-term "comforting" but long-term destructive. It's medicating, not solving, the problem. Love the analogy! I might use it!
Here is my working list for INTJ self development. Enjoy!
-Ways to develop Se
Go outside more often
Practice martial arts/ dancing/rock climbing/swimming or any sport
Work out regularly
Pay attention to your senses (sight, smell, touch, hearing, taste)
Get some xSxP friends
Make music
Dance
Sing
Don't overcomplicate simple solutions
Do things that make you feel physically tired
-Ways to develop Fi
Be kind to others
Make friends
Express your feelings in a healthy way
Tell the truth
-Ways to develop Te
Pursue a goal
Write a plan and then work it
Communicate with others
Get on a team that inspires you
Complete a to do list
Implement your intuitive insights
Journal
Automate your decisions
Speak up more
-Detecting unhealthy Se
Watching porn
Surfing UA-cam
Indifference to sensory data
Binge eating
Being impulsive
Excessive drug and alcohol use
-Detecting unhealthy Fi
Feeling irritated or hopeless
Isolating
Confusion
Apathy
Being a perfectionist
Ignoring your schedule
Sleeping in
-Detecting unhealthy Te
Being lazy
Not wanting to do it
Being apathetic
Analysis by paralysis
INTJ here. Sincerely, thanks so much this. Could this be the best video on INTJs out there? I am not sure. It's easily around the top. Very high utility factor.
Thank you so much!!
I’m an INFJ, professor actually, and I like INTJs because they are different from me, I enjoy the TE, because it is so interesting to me. I used to have my students take the test at the beginning of each semester. I have to disagree with the idea of FE needing to be engaged by emotions, when we are actually just quite aware of the emotional component as a source for specific behaviors, in groups and individuals. Also, we have this annoyingly obtrusive empathy, which is often misunderstood to be sympathy. It is not sympathy, it is picking up on the feelings, whatever they may be, of others, and not realizing, necessarily, that these are not our own feelings, because it seems so ludicrous. So whether we like it or not, we are privy to the feelings of others, which makes it very difficult to ignore. If you instinctively feel something, and it is so unconscious, you won’t recognize it, quite naturally it will be included in any combination of variables your brain utilizes to make decisions, quickly. The only way I knew that I was picking up on other people’s’ feelings was the look on the face of the person looking back at me, of surprise, and suspicion, enough times, I couldn’t really ignore it anymore. We assess emotions in a very logical way, as we are intending to utilize it to solve potential problems, and to relate better to human beings. We are sort of chameleons. I am suggesting you may have been utilizing your “fi” with regard to the possible misperception you may have had, regarding reading the room as “falling flat” unless you use your fi, because it might the “fi” telling you this. Having observed the dynamics of my students, for years, which I loved, I can tell you that the one blind spot of INTJs, is precisely how they assume they are perceived. People respect the hell out of you, like you, and the only reason they don’t talk to you, is because they are intimidated by your very essence. You carry yourselves with such a sense of dignity, self directedness, purpose and inner strength (and I have been telling countless INTJs this for years) which is unusually well developed. It is naturally, very difficult for you, as the intj, to assess in terms of how people perceive this. It’s very rare. They look up to you. They may not even know it consciously, but they feel it. I had such a unique perspective, as a professor, and an INFJ, to be able it observe the dynamics in the classroom, and many one on one meetings with students, in which I slyly inserted a question or two, in which I received the feedback directly from them as well. This is so common, and I wish you guys could see the power you could have to change the world, honestly, if you’d just ask an INFJ. Seriously, you are brilliant, not just iq, but you can run the world, effectively. You would just need an INFJ to be your chief of staff.
Wow! If that's truly how we're perceived, then I definitely have that blind spot! I'm always amazed at Ti-users' ability to make distinctions. (I'm still somewhat failing to see the difference between engaged by emotions and picking up on emotions) but I've started to just trust Ti-users when they tell me there's a difference!
It's absolutely going to be an INTJ's blind spot assuming how we are perceived, think about it. We run constant simulations to figure out what exactly is the logic flow map behind whatever scenario/'s that we're running based on our observation and intuitive point of references. We OBSERVE constantly... but we never really get to see the situation from the outside looking in, ALWAYS inside looking out. Inside we get to experience all the hemming and hawing and sprinting through simulations as fast as possible to derive the best outcome as soon as possible. Possibly a good example of this would be along the lines of, "People only see the success after someone, "Makes it big", but they didn't see all of the consistency, effort, time, sweat, failure after failure, and tears it took over however long of a period of a little success every day that got them there". In my head, it's just constant simulation after simulation to logic my way through to an outcome to finally have an answer I'm confident in, because I ran the sim multiple times from multiple variables and angles and the answer is still true, so I HAVE to have certainty at that point. Everyone else just see's certainty in the observed point in time. I know in my head, it doesn't have any merit anymore because that is the standard of operation that is my norm, anything less and I'm absolutely not running at 100%. I know that negative loop became really destructive for myself because whenever I produced a piece of art, no matter how much time I spent or how much effort I put in, my pieces simply weren't at the standard I want them to be at. My wife still talks me up as being a great illustrator/artist, but I became tired of doing what felt like the same thing over and over and eventually stopped drawing. My wife see's the final drawings or sketches I would throw out and she see's the drawing when I see all the errors and hundreds of thousands of pictures I've drawn trying incessantly to correct the errors that are still present before me.
WOW
Your comment left me teary-eyed... briefly (lol). I'm an intj woman. Your comment reminded me of exactly what my enfj friend tells me about me.
I am thoroughly oblivious to it.
She always tells me how she admires my strength and self-sufficient ways.
I tell her that her magical people powers are amazing. She can walk up to a stranger just know they are suffering and within minutes be hearing their life story and hugging them while they cry!!
But she also always asks me if I'm bored when I'm just fascinated and absorbing. She can't always read me, (nor does she have to) but I think she likes that too. We admire each other.
Anyway, thank you for your infj way of making an intj see a new perspective of themselves and their value. 😊
I have never thought about how I am perceived. And I don't care. Perception is not reality. Be bold. Delve into reality. Us INTJs. Please continue not talking to me, because those who do / will talk to me, are sure to have something meaningful to say. A professor here too.
This video is so efficient that I have to pause it, and I always listen to other youtubers at x2. Love it.
Intj female here and everything you described is so relevant to me. I really struggle with making decisions because I think too much. Thank you for the tips! It feels good having someone who understands how you're feeling and is able to give useful advice. I also love how your channel is catered to intj females because, like what you described, I feel like there aren't many of us
As an INTJ female, this is such useful advice... thank you
Thank you!!
Nice video as an xNTJ I agree to most of it, for those who came for the real deal -> 20:36, resumed,
1.- You have to overcome the good ol' isolation and introvertion (INTJ's mostly),
2.- Train your sensing extrovertion
Why: because it's useful, haven't evaluated it in an interpersonal level, now is time for you to do your own diligence, it normally takes this to make things happen.
Got to be a more animated and alive version of yourself to have bigger impact, example from this vid:
SE
I've never felt so understood in my entire life, thank you for this channel.
This is such a nice outline on how to as an INTJ optimize both my core primary and inferior functions to their most optimal level which will in turn enable me to reach my full potential as an INTJ thank you from the bottom of my INTJ heart for this video.
Intj female. I use the bursts of energy way of working. I go at a physical project for an hour or two, get to a plateau, or good stopping point (or finish the project if I can in time). Then I rest for maybe 10 minutes and let my brain play/learn/whatever, and back at it.
I'm 52 and I learned recently this helped me to get more done without burning out physically.
I just discovered your videos and I am so glad I did. You represent us well. Thank you.
INTJ here. Got a subscribe from me. Been working on developing Te and getting out of loops for sometime. This is an extremely helpful video!
19:15 "Se must serve Ni", or physical actions must serve your vision. This is the answer I have been looking for many years of why I can do some things effectively and sometimes I cant. Like stick to a diet. Thank you for this insight.
Hey, I just randomly found your video and started watching kinda sceptically honestly, but I just wanted to say, I was captivated ; nobody has ever described me so well or seemed to know me as well as you. Especially the decision fatigue part, was so mind blown by that. You obviously have worked hard on your goals and thank you for your effort and the opportunity to know, I really am not alone. Oh and straight after I started watching an intj video by another you tuber, you were on point about presentation and well a good microphone.
Chris, thank you so much!! This was a wonderful comment to start my morning off.
I hate the decision fatigue thing. It even gets to me when choosing a meal in a restaurant. It’s much harder for me to pick something if I don’t know the items well.
@@Alex.Kalashnik lolol same
You have a wonderful channel. I'm getting some great insight from my you. I love learning form other INTJs. The discovery of Myers-Briggs and the development of my Te function was a game changer. My ENTJ cousin and I discuss MBTI often. I helped him with Ni and he helped me with Te. I became motivated to accomplishy goals. I wrote a book, shifted my attention into things that benefited me externally and accomplished my goals. INTJs have so much to offer. We are wellsprings of potential that need that Te unlocked to manifest our abilities. You're motivating me to start my own channel because that's my next goal. Thanks for putting this content out Alexis!
Wow that surely a healthy relationship, balancing each other. wish i got one
This is possibly the best video for INTJ I've seen, especially INTJ women. Thanks.
Agreed
the descriptions about intjs that i always read had me convinced i wasn’t intj. but after watching this i know for a fact that i am. the way you describe the functions so realistically is honestly amazing. most things i read on intjs make it seem like we have it all figured out, know what we want and how to get it. but the reality is that we’re human, not the robotic evil masterminds we’re made out to be. your descriptions on Ni are so clear and make a lot of sense to me (an Ni dom). for some reason i always confused Ni-Te for Ti lol (believed i was intp). I also understand why i internalize emotions and have a desire to express myself through clothing, music, aesthetics etc. anyhoo thanks for the explanation :)
INTJ male here, I've watched over 20 of your videos and all your points are like flashlights highlighting a dark corner I didn't know existed this whole time. Thank you
Thank you for sharing, this the best INTJ video I could relate to, keep up the excellent work.
It’s actually so interesting to see other types struggles and point of view. Before knowing mbti I thought everyone sees the world like me… not that all are the same, but they just process information in the same way.
~ enfj
I love your cadence. I watch most youtubers on 1.5 or 1.75 but I watch you on Normal. Thank you so much for this immensely valuable information. I’ve been heavily involved with Objective Personality and my attraction was the promise of fixing my flaws but I’ve not been able to get that. This is the info we need! And I am so caught in decision paralysis because my dad was a pack rat and I’m trying to clean out. I should just take it all to Goodwill but then I think I’ll sure regret that when I’m starving to death at 90!
Thank you!!
I really like your videos. You're one of the INTJ youtubers that i relate to the most. Keep it up ♥️
Thank you Karim!! I appreciate it.
Definitely one of the best videos for INTJ tips, dealing with Se can be like trying to squeeze blood out of a turnip but once you push through it becomes a great ally. I spent my 20s completely immersed in Ni and it lead to a huge amount of Se problems, body started to fail, car broke down, losing friendships. Once you can manage the Se and get it scheduled there is nothing that can stop you.
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Thank goodness I'm normal. Able to relate what you said. Me too, working on my Se. Overcomplicating my analysis but it's just how we present...
As a financial rep now, it's definitely pushing me OUT of my comfort zone.
This has been so helpful! I love the chart clearly explaining each one. So relatable and provided real insights into INTJ and how to work on the basement behaviors!
I just figured out why I GET YOU so much. I realize you're an INTJ as well (I know, I'm late). You speak to my soul. Your videos are spot on. Please keep it up! Thank you!!!
Sean, thank you so much for the amazing comment!! Have a great day!!
This is the best INTJ video I have ever watched.
I watched a few of your videos 3 or 4 years ago and they didn't really hold my attention.
I definately noticed throughout this one I kept thinking how I must have changed because I really enjoyed it and you kept me interested.
The small changes you made definately made a difference!Very interesting!
I am an INTJ (5w4) and this was very insightful.Thankyou:)
slightly embarrassing to admit, but this video made me so emotional. i felt like i've never had anyone to guide me my whole life, and always doubted and questioned myself and my reasoning for certain situations. recently realising that im an intj and being able to find videos such as this to explain why i am a certain way has helped me accept myself for who i am. im so grateful.
apologies for the incoherent rambling.
Welcome to the club.
Oh my goodness, I can’t believe what I’m listening to right now. It’s as if you’re speaking my thoughts out loud. It’s good to know that I’m not entirely different from EVERYONE else in the world.
As an INTJ I've never felt myself attracted to a female INTJ, until now. The feelings of being understood and the vibes of a more cerebral ENFP. --meaning that positive and dare I say -vibrant energy.
This is video is the best therapy I've ever received. You pointed out the root of my problems, and now I don't have to dwell and feel confused about it.
*Unlocking the INTJ Mastermind: A Guide to Developing Extroverted Thinking and Sensing*
* *0:07** Introduction to INTJ Cognitive Functions:* INTJs lead with introverted intuition (Ni), followed by extroverted thinking (Te), introverted feeling (Fi), and extroverted sensing (Se).
* *0:41** Ni (Introverted Intuition):* This dominant function involves deep, subconscious pattern recognition, leading to insights and a focus on future implications.
* *2:29** Te (Extroverted Thinking):* This function focuses on organizing the external world, setting goals, and achieving efficiency.
* *3:24** Fi (Introverted Feeling):* Occupying the third position, Fi can manifest negatively as self-pity or a focus on personal values, sometimes leading to inaction.
* *5:47** Se (Extroverted Sensing):* As the inferior function, Se is often underdeveloped, leading to a disconnect from the present and physical needs.
* *8:09** Why Develop Te and Se?:* Developing these functions is crucial for balance, effectiveness, and achieving the goals set by Ni.
* *10:42** How to Develop Te:*
* *10:50** Extrovert Thoughts:* Share ideas, write plans, and use a planner to stay organized.
* *11:40** Evening Planning:* Plan the next day the night before to reduce morning decision fatigue.
* *12:26** Embrace Te Extroversion:* Find social outlets through collaborative activities like volunteering or teamwork.
* *13:02** Automate Systems:* Streamline routines (e.g., meal prepping, outfits) to minimize decisions.
* *13:59** Theme Days:* Assign specific tasks to certain days to reduce mental load.
* *14:28** Speak Up:* Share ideas assertively and take on leadership roles to build confidence.
* *15:13** How to Develop Se:*
* *16:57** Consider the Obvious:* Sometimes the simplest solution is the best; don't overcomplicate with Ni.
* *17:16** "What Scares Me" List:* Identify and confront activities that involve abrupt changes or sensory engagement.
* *17:52** "Exhausting" Activities:* Engage in activities that challenge your energy levels in a productive way (Te and Se, not Fi).
* *19:06** Avoid Oscillation:* Find sustainable ways to incorporate Se without drastic shifts between Ni and Se dominance.
* *20:35** Consequences of Neglect:* Failing to develop Te and Se can lead to isolation, inaction, and an inability to connect with others effectively.
* *20:35** Become More Alive:* Embrace a more well-rounded, animated version of yourself to engage with the world and achieve your potential.
* *22:50** Step Out of Your Comfort Zone:* Embrace challenges and take risks to foster growth.
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I'm glad that you explained and broke down the four functions. Great video!!!
When she said she would think about changing something like her hair color for a year. That hit me hard, as I do that also, not the hair color but, just in general. It's the over analysis of things that trap you for a while.
INTJ female here. I'm Asperger (happily) and would encourage anyone else who is INTJ to get assessed. Game changer for self awareness.
Very well said. You are an amazing speaker and well informed. I learn something every time I listen to you. Thank you. 🤗
Wow, thank you!
As an INTJ male, it was very helpful to hear your perspective. It seems like you have really worked at Se, which I am doing right now. I am only 19 so I cannot be too hard on myself. Thank you for such an open, informative video.
This video was uploaded 9 hours ago and it goes exactly about what I am looking for: the development of our functions. Thanks, great content. :)
Thank you Cristhian!! I love when timing works out perfectly.
Thank you. I greatly appreciate the time you have dedicated to this channel. I have been trying to figure out my type for two years. During this two years I left my hometown and moved across the country, and finally healed a lot of the trama from my past, but one thing I have not figured out was why it in my early 20's I had dreams of me running from someone or something, especially while I was pregnant. I was running from the shame. The shame of not knowing or understanding myself, the shame of not really being mature enough for a relationship let alone a mother at 23. Not knowing what a real healthy relationship looks like, let alone maintain one. Wow. Thanks
I recently got on a INTJ video youtube bing and I agree most of the videos are lacking Se as you stated. Your has been by far the most pleasing visually and auditorily. It is amazing how much better people sound at 1.25 speed. I love, as I see other in the comments also, your practical examples like planning for the day the night before, joining more groups to make friends, and ect. There were actually a lot of practical take aways that I think will really help me. One suggestion visually is I have trouble reading the font you use on my phone. I think visuals are great addition its just I struggle to read them.
Excellent video Alexis. Thank you for putting it together. As a newbie to mbti, I'm going through the different types and thinking "I'm this", "no I'm that", and so on. I'm certain of being an INxx, but wasn't clear on the last two letters. The INTJ draws me the more I understand it, specially when listening to people who are INTJs themselves. I'm almost certain I'm one myself. Your video was extremely helpful in showing me how much I'm in my inner comfort zone, which has been my Achilles heel for most of my life, and that what precisely I need to get out of it is practicing more of the externally focused functions we have. Though I spend so much time figuring myself out and being frustrated of never getting to the bottom of it, curiously the times I was most happy was whenever I actually went out and did something physical. And whatever I did, I did it well, giving me a lot of satisfaction. Frankly speaking, it's not difficult for us to move in the physical world when we get down to it, not as much as we think. We need to be more grounded in the present external world. That's where our gifts possibly come out.
Intj here, glad i found this video as it is a very helpfull one :) thank you for the effort Alexis
Thank you!!
Thank you so much for all your videos! The way you put the information together really clicks well with me. My daughter and I are both INTJ. Your videos have helped me greatly in understanding myself, family, and friends better. You're awesome!
Great tips! You've really developed that Se! Really impressive!
Te development. Find smart people and mentors. Work smarter not harder, is the INTJ way.
Thanks for the video!
Thank you!! It's pretty easy to put on Se for a 20 minute video lol, the other 98% of my life isn't nearly as developed lol
Actually scratch that. It's hard even for that 20 mintues lol
@@AlexisKingsley LOL
This video is pure gold. Is actually not the first time I hear the advise of working on the Te-Se combo to kind of cover for the missing Fe, but girl you did such a good job at making the idea understandable. Thanks for the insights!
I've an INTJ co-worker who is a master strategist to me.
He thinks years ahead and can visualize how things should be and I'm the one who takes the lead to change dreams into reality with my Se-Ti while my tert Fe knows how to inspire and motivate the other team members. We are both good trouble-shooters in case we hit obstacles at the road. Our team runs like a well-oiled machine!
I also enjoy the depth of the discussions when we are together.
This blew my socks off. I get myself now. Second video, new sub, fellow INTJ. No wonder I’m so lonely!!!!
Can’t thank You enough for this video. been spending the last 4-5 months in a Ni Fi loop and don’t know what to do. read a lot of articles on Google and watched a lot of UA-cam videos, but This video give the clearest picture and things of what should I do and what should I develop. my Te is definitely underutilized and my Se is repressed so I do self sabotaging things. You saved my life. Thanks.
Great advice! I love all the Se changes, background looks awesome and your new hair really suits you. And I admire your way of verbalizing your thoughts, it’s something I’ve struggled with all my life and you make me think it’s possible to get better at it, it may be a skill. Very inspirational! Thank you.
Thank you Val! It's been about 8 months and I'm just now getting to the place of **almost** being satisfied with how I express my thoughts, but the first step was believing it was possible. And you articulated yourself wonderfully here so it's more than possible, more than probable, almost certain. :)
INTJ here - very helpful video. Thanks. So you know I find that doing auto and motorcycke mechanics hugely relaxing, and now I see that is forces me to use Se and Te. Very insightful.
I recently discovered your Channel and I really enjoy it…An INTJ friend of mine recommended it…He said there is a lot here that would help me as an INFJ and I agree…thank you for the entertaining yet insightful and informative videos…👍
Thank you!!
INFP here! I enjoyed this video 🙂❤Good job!👍🏻
Black, Dark Grey, Grey, Navy Blue are the best clothing colors. You do not even need to sort them when doing laundry or fear for the colors to get mixed on the fabric.
what youre explaining is shockingly accurate
Wow what a life hack! It is well presented, highly organized, and very useful. Now just got to put it into consistent practice ie the hard part. Thank you so much for this!
Thank you!!
I am an INTJ female and I often to cook more often because it stops me from thinking too much or it slows down my thinking speed lol
This is absolutely fabulous! I have been in a loop and now I understand how to get out.
thank you so much!! i’ve been struggling so hard with my personality type. i’ve identified with intj for a long time but got really worried as i saw more stereotypes of “emotionless” intjs or very productive intjs when honestly that doesn’t describe me at all. i’ve watched almost all of your videos now and this one resonated with me so hard. the ni-fi loop and se grip was so insanely relatable that i was staring at the screen in shock. great video, you’re amazing❤️
Excellent presentation Alexis. Very clear and insightful with real-life examples that make your thoughts relatable.
For an intj female I can say my Se is very well developed which I often mistook it as Te but yes thanks to your video I know the difference now and will be working on improving my Te as well.
I watched your vlogs too and they were fun.Thank you!!
I have never personally resonated so much with a UA-cam channel until I stumbled across your account. Initially I disliked the idea of developing my Se since it wasn't (nor is it currently) something I'm comfortable with. Thank you for broadening my perspective! I'll be binging your videos for a long while :)
You are everything. The part where you don't want to be tired from Fi was very relatable.
Emily YOU are everything ❤️
👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 So many great points here!!! Loved the points about gender differences and expectations. 20:38 is SPOT ON!!! Doing what stretches and out of our comfort zone takes HARD, deliberate effort. But on the other side is a more impactful and full life ❤️ Bravo again 🎉 , Sandy. INTJ 5
Thank you Sandy!!!!! Your comments are gold 🥳
Really thank you. Never heard of the Ni-Fi loop, but quickly realized it's exactly what I'm struggling with from time to time, but when I do it turns my life around, thanks a lot for sharing this and even providing ways how to break out of it. Thanks a lot again, subbed.
I’m a INTJ and through bodybuilding, weightlifting, powerlifting, being in the military, learning multiple trades (currently a Electrician, but I enjoy blacksmithing, mechanics, plumbing, HVAC, and carpentry), and the sport I’m doing now is boxing, iv developed my SE really well… but I do tend to listen to audio books and random subjects while working lol which is probably my Ni running in the background ;)
This is a very accurate analysis. Ni is the natural gift but it has it's downside and knowing how to switch into the realm of Si is key to go achieve, change and see the results of a well previsualized trajectory. I've been in a Ni-Fi loop, but I believe there are many factors that play or aid my falling into this. For instance, I'm also ADHD and dyslexia. These cognitive disorders are always throwing wrenches into my cognitive functions making it so hard to breakout of the my dark loops. Has anyone else experiencing this?
This video and comment section feel like long lost home for an INTJ... I was looking for this kind of detailed and informative video to better understand and work on my strengths and weaknesses... The presentation was amazing... Love to learn more about it...
Thank you, you are very good at explaining anything about INTJs :)! And I feel something very good and interesting from you and I like it :) We are always in alfa-level when we are thinking, that is why we are "seeing trough people", but actually, we are in some kind of meditation&thinking in our own inner world, detached from outside world. It can be weird for people who not experience it or are not capable of understand it, but we know how exactly it is like :)
You have the eyes of an INTJ, that's for sure.
What does that mean?
This video was just awesome. Both the content, the girls hair and the wall WaS pretty cool.
Thank you for all the valuable information you have offered in this video! I've been typed as an INTJ by others and although I'm not certain of my type, a lot of these things applied to me such as the loop as well as the grip. I would have periods of time where I avoided Te because it was uncomfortable for me and I just feel like crap, but when I actually discipline myself to do Te related things, I end up being very energized. I also really liked how you described Ni since I cannot really express it effectively in words which makes me suspect whether I'm an INTJ at all, but the experiences of just constantly ruminating on thoughts and over complicating things has stressed me out and ended up causing me to make bad decisions. I really appreciate all the advice that you have gave in this video about developing Se. Thanks again!
Thank you!! This seems like a very INTJ response to me!
INTJ master mind of the material world
INFJ mastermind of the emotional and spiritual world
Recently I learned I am intj, still learning exactly what that means but this video resonated with me so much. I’ve learned some of the mentioned things just from living with myself, but this was so enlightening
I understand myself more because of your video. Thank you so much
(Brit INFP sx4 (451)) I find gratitude very difficult, but doing a periodic sweep of unseen jungian type videos (I catch up every few years but try not to over-indulge), I found this, and also a random moment of gratitude. I am grateful that this today is a world of spiritual and ethical values that doing things as healthy as this can be the impact, life or meaning for INTJ, rather than what must often have been millennia of persecutions and forced ugliness: political machiavellianism out of necessity and bitterness, or banishment to hermitage, or isolation as a weird alchemist in a shack, or being burnt at the stake. I suppose, perversely, that makes me oddly partially grateful for the opportunity to be a species we had never been before after the special horrors that most of the first-world realised in WW2; that the reaction to it could so lead to 50's delta quadra Disney idealism and 80's gamma quadra happiness-seeking enterprise. They have faults and blindness but the late 20th century is the bedrock of what we predominantly still socially value and will fight for. I am grateful, I guess, for all of this. Thanks for prompting this thought, inadvertently.
I'm here for the info, trying to develop my INTJ shadow, esp Te... so it seems Te is the hardest to dev also in the ego, nice
So inspiring and interesting! Lots of good vibes! From a fellow ENFP.
Whenever I need to think of an example of Ni, my mind always goes to this puzzle game called "pipe dream". It's a NES game where they give you pipe parts one at a time and you have to assemble it so water can flow safely to the exit. I would always compare it with Introverted Intuition and I think like that(I'm INFP).
But isn't that normal for everyone else? Like life gives you tiny pieces of info one at a time, you think nothing much of it and your brain stores it at the backroom drawers of your mind and then out of nowhere you find the final piece and you get this lightbulb epiphany thing. I'm so confused if I'm infp or intj.
Maybe I develop a heightened sense of Ne because my life has been unpredictable af. I'm empathetic and would always get the F type. The tests are always bias and label thinkers as apathetic/antisocial and feelers as empathetic and that always leads to the innacuracy of the results.
If I have to arrange my cognitive stack it'll look like this Ni Ne Fi Te Fe Si Ti Se
INTJ - "Outsmarting is like a game and enjoy."😏😏😏
We could attempt to warn peers but they wouldn't heed our warnings anyway.
Lay traps and sit back! 😅
Dude everything just made sense. Thanks for this video
Thanks! I'm glad it helped!
once i read my diary after 10 year and i found, I am still stuck in past and i am in loop. after that day my life become positive and wonderful. because i found that i was traped in my negative thoughts for so long.
I'm a INFJ/P and I really enjoyed every part of this video. There are things that I think will come handy for my daily routine. I've just realised how many Se things I avoid haha but all in a good balance is good.
THANK YOU FOR THIS. this video honestly made me feels so understood and helped me a lot. and i just love how insightful you are but yet still manage to say all important things. love this v much.
- fellow intj
Super smart at the end is that we are aware that we can develop other functions😂💪🏽thank you for lovely super on point video- I’ll stick with ya to improve and understand more own loops. 👍🏽
Thank you!!
This is such a good video. Wish I had found it in my teenage years 😂
Thanks Sara!! Same! I wish I had this stuff when I was 15 lol 😂
the sustain advice is spot on.
Omg, so real. Also the planning/automating what clothes to wear (they're all black anyway) 😂 (3x a week shirt with graphics tho lol)
I grow up wondering why some people can't understand my ways of perceiving things ..
Thanks, this is great help... Much more easier to deal with myself
Great, thanks - spot on here - I find it insulting in other videos when a Se person advises me (INTJ) to do real things in the real world without considering that I find my world of ideas and thinking as real as the outside world - so I don't get what they mean and I get confused - just could not understand what they mean by real-world coz I considered thoughts and ideas real too - arent they?
The thing about INTJs having low battery and energy is a bit surprising to me (heard it several times.) I am very high energy myself, able to give Se doms a run for their money and then some, but then again I had a very Se focused childhood as a Norwegian mountain boy growing up in a culture and family that prized physicallity. Using Te to socialize I can also completely relate to, I just love activities where a shared interest, activity or goal is what brought us together. (it cuts that un-fixable humanoid chaos by a comfortable degree lol)
I recently discovered that I am an Intj. Thank you for making this video, it’s possibly the most helpful resource I’ve found where each thing you said sparked a resounding YES from my head where I completely related. Do you plan to do Q&As in the future? I’m still figuring out how to come out of the dull loop you described and feel very uninspired by working out or starting a new project so I find myself becoming very self-deprecating. I’d love another video with how you’ve researched this loop and other strategies to develop more intrinsic conviction.
Really loved this video.
Thanks for sharing!
hey i like your videos.....so much
3:48....
Good basis for what?
😁😁😁😂
Sorry just a little fun
17:15 Had an INTJ leader in a youth church group, and he went talking about how my personal life reflects in my work (aka making videos) instead of telling me that it was bad/needs criticism 😭 ( not to be against INTJs hahaha, it's a joke, but yeah, we do need your Te as well in the team!)