Being a black American childfree woman will NEVER have any cons to it. The way black girls/women are treated in society is horrible and I'd never want to Subject a precious baby girl to this nonsense!
The only downsides are.. 1. People think I'm wealthy so my no to borrowing money just seems selfish. I'm cool with that😂. 2. Apparently I can't be tired. Whenever I say I'm tired people are like how you don't have kids. Cause I stayed up 18hrs playing video games when I had to work. 😅😅 People do try and make you responsible for their kids. People try and tell you how to dress, talk and act cause they have kids
im dealing with this right now at work and its not even a cooperate setting. i’m a hairstylist and all the other women are 35+ and im 23. the owner of the salon litterally told me she is taking most of my profit for the day a 50% cut because that was are “agreement” and i don’t have other stuff to take care of aka because i don’t have kids. she was like what do u need money for anyways u live with ur parents and i blatantly told her so im never supposed to get my own place? …this is just a sprinkle of the stuff she has done to me but guess what. i will be doing my own thing from now. i’m going to do hair from home or do home visits, record on tiktok and ik God will bless me. Guess what guys she has been making 5 times more money out of me then my 1 other co worker and she treats me like shit. not anymore loyalty and love shouldn’t be the detriment to your own success.
RIGHT. This is happening to me as well in my dog grooming salon im 21 & my commission percentage was cut in half because I chose to apply to college. Im planning on providing a in house dog grooming services side business to get by during my time in uni. It sad how people treat childfree & esp young adults in the working environment.
I'm sorry but there has literally then 0 downsides to being childfree for me 😂😂😂 People projecting their negative feelings onto me about MY life choices changes nothing for me. People telling me I'll "change my mind", people telling me that I "haven't met the right guy yet", people trying to convince me that my life is equivalent to a grain of sand simply because I refuse to assist in bringing in the next generation of stressed out, underpaid, tax paying wage slaves. . .changes NOTHING for me. I have 0 interest in living a life of servitude to a man OR children. If people have a problem with that, they can take it up with a therapist.
Yeah but I don't usually ask for much they don't treat us very well they get triggered by women that are happy and peaceful without kids some of us can't afford them or make them I'm not totally against a happy ending if the situation is right but I think my soul mate probably passed away.
THIS. Been volunteering endlessly for 5 years only to get passed over for paid positions by parents, it’s annoying but entrepreneurial ventures seem to be the only escape.
My ex best friend was like this. She would always say “you don’t understand bc you ain’t got no kids.” Like girl, you chose to hv 3 kids, 3 different baby daddies. I chose to go to school and hv a career. My life is busy too, I just choose to hv a career and be a wife b4 having children.
This was a real issue when I was in the miliary. Someone would ask you to pull their weekend duties, alter your holiday plans so they can see their extended families as if you don't want to see yours, and even suggest sending single soldiers on deployments more often than married soldiers. Most of these people are married single parents who know that when they get home, job #2 starts for another 4-5 hours with no help, even though they have a spouse or partner.
That’s wild of them to act like they should get special privileges just cuz they somehow have more to live for…and a lot of those spouses/parents don’t even take care of their kids beyond the minimum, or actually like them or their spouses cuz they complain about them all the time. It’s actually kind of funny in a way.
Yup they will volunteer singles 4 5k etc on the holidays r especially cq and had our unit on a 15month deployment cause the covering unit wanted to be with their fam 4 Halloween n Christmas n will send singles 2 Korea since u can't bring kids/family there
WHO CARES ABOUT PEOPLE'S OPINIONS? SO HAVE A BABY FOR THE WORLD TO TAKE ME SERIOUSLY? REALLY? I'M NOT LIVING MY LIFE FOR THE APPROVAL OF OTHERS, WHICH ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE ARE GOING TO BABYSIT, AND HELP TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD IF I HAD ONE?? CRICKETS......
I'm an assistant manager at a bank. I've got a coworker who has 3 kids and consistently shows up late to work almost every day due to childcare issues/illnesses. My boss has tried to accommodate her by offering her a different schedule. Twice. Stupidly, she refused the offers and continued to show up late to work. I would have lost my job if my child free ass showed up late as often as she does.
That is so annoying to me that some people might think child free women don't need money. With the rising cost of groceries, vet bills, etc, how is anyone supposed to live? People who don't have kids, it doesn't seem to cross their minds that some people just can't afford kids. And, people who think we aren't busy, we are very busy, busy with hobbies and whatever errands we need to do.
They can't afford their kids either but they swear it's a blessing when Mark 9:36 say's children r an annoying distractions from God n ur purpose but that's just the bible words lol
The main downside is... TAXES. They take more from us. Around tax season...that lil return grinds my GEARS😂😂😂😂 BUT I see where this world is going...so I choose the taxes and make other investments.
Man, I've been so tempted to lie at the next job I get and say I have kids 😅 People with kids get extra time off, and they have more reasons to call in sick, and they don't get much slack for it
During my apprenticeship, my mentor would bring her kid to work and expect me to babysit/entertain her, meanwhile my boss was busy with a client.... how am I supposed to observe and learn the job when I'm occupied with (unpaid) childcare?? Miss me with that.
That’s hard cuz if you don’t watch the kid she could hold it against you, but if you do she’d constantly push your boundaries. Depending on the job and how much it pays I may not be opposed to being a work aunty. 🤷♀️
People with kids honestly need to learn how to budget. Why have kids KNOWING THAT THEY'RE EXPENSIVE AND GONNA BE THE MAJORITY OF YOUR PAYCHECK but expect everyone else to hand over BOTH their time AND energy (AND MONEY) just because THEY have kids...
Cause they feel entitled honestly when I was buying Jordans, Nike,tims, supplies, gadgets, clothes, haircuts n hairdos food r blank Walmart/Costco checks for food out my own pockets they were demanding more free things after back to school time asking for 6500$ for her n seven kids so I stopped n did a child free self care haircut hairdos event n they didn't even want to demand their own hairdos saying freestyle r do whatever is quick so everyone can get theirs done too one guy wanted a happy ending after the massage but that was about it
Millennial, growing up even when my family didn't have much I still had a back yard , pets and a vacation, my generation went through 2 recessions and honestly i had planned on a child with the expectation my parents had .. I accepted it wasn't gonna happen after trying for some time. 2021 and I got pregnant at the worst possible time in my life and I live in Texas .. so even if I wanted an abortion I couldn't get one .. I was going on the 2nd trimester when I got the ultra sound
Downsides to not having kids; 1. Free time 2.Unrestricted travel 3.Disposable income 4.Not being able to experience dying during birth due to negligence 5.Not being able to experience dying because a hospital doesn't know if they can help me if i need an emergency termination 6.Not being able to experience being arrested and charged with a felony if I mis-carry 7. Not being able to experience being overworked and underappreciated 8. Not being able to contemplate staying in abusive relationships for the sake of" 2 parent" child rearing Man all these downsides....😂😂😂
No more of us not making it during birth especially since they told Makayla her baby was gone after taking her up from the hospital floor the whole time nobody broke the amino sac until hours later so the baby will never have a normal healthy life even though she alive after saying she wasn't n her husband just wants the neglectful staff to take care of her health damages they caused their baby
I’m sick of it. This is why I avoid those with children. This is why my partner and I have our own business. I’m not your oil well, mom jeans. Being part of a community does not entitle those with children to extract endlessly from me.
All of my peers who have kids are much more immature than those of us who don’t. It’s why I don’t believe it when people say kids make you mature. No they just make you take on more responsibility. I’m 29 for reference and my peers with kids still act like they’re in high school.
Im 35, childless and love it. In my case, I'm the 2nd oldest of 7, and that really deterred me from wanting kids. I was a parent as a kid, and i dont wish that on anyone, and i love my free time and money 😂
7 kids? That's so irresponsible. It's impossible to raise more than 2 k7ds with giving them enough time to educate them, teach them manners and basic life skills and so on. And it's CRUEL to abuse older siblings as Co-parents
As someone who’s also child-free, I think it’s great if that makes you happy, but there’s no need to put down people who choose to have families that’s just judgmental. A lot of what’s being discussed here comes down to boundaries: saying no, standing up for yourself, and protecting your peace. Child-free people do face judgment and unfair treatment like being looked down on or having their time exploited and that’s not okay. Let’s focus on setting boundaries and respecting everyone’s choices instead of tearing others down.
The one downside is that these parents expects for you to help watch their kids when they want to go out and do stuff without their kids or when they can’t secure childcare. I’m not a part of your village, go find someone else to help.
Yup I was watching this couple on here n while the grandma was cooking they came in saying the first person to move have to babysit so when she got burnt they grabbed their keys n dipped
I find that it’s single men who shove their work off onto me. In fact, I can’t ever recall a time that a mother pushed her work off onto me. It’s always the men. Guess I’m lucky to not experience that. The men have been enough.
"People will not take you seriously" Oh no, what will I do without approval of overworked overwhelmed financially exhausted people heavily reliant on their parents' help because in this economy it's the only way to survive with kids? 🙃
I do understand what they mean. I'm honestly done accommodating folks though. I'm not giving another dime because you don't say thank you when I do. I'm not babysitting because you expect it and don't say thank you. I'm not working holidays so you can get off. I'm not staying late so you can leave early. I'm over it. The same way I have to figure it out you need to figure it out. Plus they don't ever ever appreciate it. They expect it and then get an attitude of you say no.
Some people think being a parent is like serving in war. I get it’s tough, but not all of us think it’s that great to get into a self-imposed war. And that doesn’t mean we are selfish or not as tough. It just means we have scoped out the environment and since we have a choice now as women, we see no great benefit to being a parent willingly. Good luck to y’all that do!
I'm 45. All my siblings had kids. I'm the sole one that remained childfree. I am STILL looked down on by my family because I refuse to follow their ideas of what life should be like. I just take care of our Dad (his health has a recent decline and needs help now). I refuse to give anyone my free time except for what I chose to give it to (Dad, community events, volunteering, ect.).
I remember when I didn’t get a promotion or raise because I didn't have kids and lived at home, and it wasn’t an assumption because the people that called off or didn’t show up got the raise. Needless to say I quit that job and went to school.
I just think it's funny how other women who don't know me well react to me not having kids at 29. It's emmidiataly pity and the "oh you still have time". At this point I just smile and nod to avoid discussions haha like b I don't want any
I look to young to get bothered by these annoying ______ but as soon as they come for me I will start crying and say I am infertile. I fertile women are on top of the victimhood hirachy, untouchable. NOBODY will suggest to adopt.
I’m 29 too, and I play this little game where when moms act better than me, I call them out for complaining about their kids or spouse and say “why are you with him then”?/ “why did you have kids if it’s so hard”? The trick is to act like you genuinely don’t know why and they get even madder. 💀
The downside to being childfree are: • People don't take you seriously. They say: - "you'll change your mind" - "you haven't found “the one” yet" - "you're too picky" - "what if your husband/boyfriend/partner wants kids?" (*This is such stupid question! Why TF would I be with someone who's NOT on the same page with me? 🤦😒 I digress*) - "who's gonna take care of you when you are old?" (*As if the sole purpose of having kids is to create personal caregivers! To have a kid just so you can have a personal booty wiper is selfish AF!*) • People think you have indisposable income! They think you're NOT entitled to YOUR OWN MONEY that YOU worked for! They think you're "supposed" to spend your money on other people who DIDN'T work for it, as well as, other non-existent humans who NEVER asked, nor chose, nor consented to be born in the first place! And let's be real, most people DON'T have a crap-load of money! I sure as hell don't! I'm DISABLED! I literally CAN'T work (*and shouldn't have to either!*) I've been trying to get disability for YEARS! My disabilities have been confirmed by my doctor! I was financially abused/financially controlled by my sperm donor! That bastard NEVER paid my mother child support! So ANY money that bastard has is technically MINE anyways! People who have kids make me sick to my stomach! Especially abusive, controlling, narcissistic, manipulative, gaslighting, hypocritical, liar-ass parents that abuse their kids, expect their kids to work and never give them money, no questions asked! There's a reason adult children go no-contact with their sperm/egg donors! • People want you to be miserable right along with them! They think that since you don't have kids, they think you should be self-sacrificing and be "the village" because they need a free babysitter to dump THEIR kids off on! They always need a so-called "break!" They want to slow you down and bring you either to their level or lower! They think that the "whole family" is supposed to take on the responsibility of what TWO people decided to do! That math has never made sense! • If you're lucky enough to have work, they want you to fill in for someone else who has kids so they can take their kids on vacation to fkn Disneyland! NO! You see your kids DAILY! Someone else may have not seen their relatives in a year or two! Ain't nobody sacrificing their vacation just so you can have one! Let me know if I missed something.
Everything u said lol but seriously u need to go to school so u can get paid until ur disability come in u can do online but it's only 3700$(that u get paid not that u have to pay)each month for online gd luck regardless
@shaypope4732 Thanks but go back to school and do what? I don't have $3700 out-of-pocket. Not in this messed up economy. I tried to go back to school but everyone doesn't have the aptitude for it. Its gotten really hard, plus, people with degrees are saying they can't find jobs either. 🤷
The fourth bullet point is a lack of common sense on their part. If my partner wants kids then he wouldn’t be my partner, duh. It also ties into the belief that women have to go along with what men want which is such an old belief.
6:00 I live in an apartment complex and for Halloween they were giving out free food vouchers to get a free plate of barbecue. I went to get the free plate and they said that they wanted to give it to parents not to single people like me
I had a single employee. They had weekends off and got off by 4pm on weekdays. Wouldn't work holidays that fell on Mondays. Always on the phone with kids dr, teachers you name it. Having to leave early on a whim. Its easier working solo.
At this point its just basic wisdom not to have kids in the current world conditions esp if your from Africa where women are still seen as slaves to men, children and some toxic extended family! Wont be sacrificing my life & happiness for anyone.
There are no downsides. Women who do not participate in making the destruktive Overpopulation worse are the ones who might secure our long term survival.
You dont get anymore respect being a parent , i dont expect anyone to accommodate me and i plan ahead when i want off to spend time with my child .. it may seem like entitlement for some but kids are extremely demanding and you Honestly dont know what the day brings .. like one day my son had a rash that spread , this was 2 hours prior to my shift and i had to take him to the pediatrician, i cant stay home , i cant afford it and my husband and i split shifts .. this was the one emergency payed day i had . Its frustrating.
I don't tell anyone, it's not their business. Also, stop telling employers that you're childfree b/c they'll use it against you. Lie using pictures of children if you must.
Hi mums, just because u want to create a retirement caregiver for yourselves, does not mean all the rest of the world should need to help you with that. You be selfish and make your slave all you want, none of our business
1 Corinthians 7:5-9 King James Version "For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn." Matthew 19:12 King James Version "For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it."
A way to handle this is to always be in school, training and or have a side business, ministry or art classes. Keep your schedule full with stuff you want.
I really don’t care what anyone thinks of me. I’m gonna live my life the way I wanna live it and they can’t do a thing about it. I don’t see any cons being childfree. I’m happy!
A lot of these downsides are because there isn't a good social security network in the US. I my country you're legally obliged to provide substitution for a person who will be gone for a while, like maternity/parental leave. Social housing isn't ideal but it's not awful and people without kids will also be housed.
I was at a job and some of these situations mentioned fall under the workplace harassment. So if you are in the US check the hr rules and see if your workplace counts it as harassment.(don’t know if all do) Then you can either bring it up to the people or Hr if you want to.
It makes me wonder and think, who gonna take care of those child free by choice women and men when they get older and end up in a nursing home? Oh, I KNOW! The people who decided to have children, How Interesting!!! When they fall and break a hip it's the people who chose to have children that will be surgeons taking care of the fracture . So much selfishness in this world.
So the girl in the first complaining issue is not that the girl had a child. Her actual underlining issue is that her job made her pick up the slack. And since she's too much of a coward to call out her company, cuz they punked her into doing the other person's job, she's gonna whine about someone having a child? GTFOH.
As a young mom of two. I understand both sides. Some parents are entitled. And they think the world revolves around them just because they have kids. When you choose to have children you need to learn time management skills. People are willing to help until you start expecting the help. On the other side. I would be mad if I had to take in more work for someone else. But I also understand the importance of children to society. We need people to have children. And childless people need to understand that yes more is expected of you because you really don’t have responsibilities outside of work. 😂 that’s no shade. Even if you have a dog, you cannot compare a dog to a child. That’s crazy. But I do think you should be compensated for your extra work! We need to change the mindset of people with kids being against people without kids. Because we all got problems and need help from each other.
The fist girl is on heroine. People do know that we will need a ratio of 2 to 1 to make sure that SHE is covered by the economy when she retires right? There's so much that goes into it. And yes people, specifically women, who have children should get some benefits when it comes to time off. Stop being selfish. Yall live in vacuum is literally annoying.
How will the existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood be able to survive if more couples/women keep choosing not to procreate. The effects of more couples/women that keep choosing not to procreate could cause the existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood to be at a risk of no longer existing anymore. The existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood are all very important things for the future because 1. Humans (including women) were created to reproduce in order to keep the human race existing for many years to come. 2. Humans have gotten the chance and ability to create and invent so many unique and useful things ever since the human race began. 3. Public establishments were meant to allow humans to have access to them and were only meant to be operating in an environment where humans are around. 4. Parenthood was meant to be seen and created as something that is beautiful, delightful, rewarding, important, fulfilling and meaningful for a married couple to choose to experience. Since the existence of public establishments are included, Here are different types of public establishments that could be affected which are 1. How places of business (like jobs, companies, corporations, and manufacturers) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs at businesses, companies, corporations and manufacturers and the amount of new people that buy items from manufacturers keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 2. How places of education (like schools, universities/colleges and tutoring services) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as teachers/professors by teaching new students at schools and universities/colleges, the amount of new students that choose to go to universities/colleges and the amount of new children that need to go to schools and tutoring services to get an education keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 3. How places of healthcare (like hospitals, medical centres/clinics, dental clinics and pharmacies) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as doctors/healthcare workers by recovering new patients at hospitals and medical centres/clinics, the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as dentists by recovering new patients at dental clinics and the amount of new people that need to get treatment at hospitals, medical centres/clinics, dental clinics and pharmacies keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 4. How places of retail (like malls, shopping centres/districts, stores and e-commerce retailers) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to visit malls and shopping centres/districts, the amount of new people that choose to shop at stores and retailers in-person and from online and the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs at stores and for e-commerce retailers keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 5. How places of transportation (like airports, subway/LRT stations, and bus stations) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that need or choose to use airports, subway/LRT stations and bus stations to go their destination keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 6. How places of sports (like recreation/leisure/aquatic centres, gyms, fitness centres, parks and playgrounds) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that need to exercise or choose to spend time at recreation/leisure/aquatic centres, gyms, fitness centres and parks and the amount of new children that go to playgrounds keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 7. How places of tourism (like museums, movie theatres/cinemas, entertainment centres/venues, amusement parks/carnivals and water parks) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to go to museums, movie theatres/cinemas, entertainment centres/venues, amusement parks/carnivals and water parks keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 8. How places of hospitality (like restaurants/food establishments, hotels/resorts, and daycares/childcare facilities) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to dine at restaurants/food establishments, the amount of new people that need or choose to stay at hotels/resorts, and the amount of new children that need to go to daycares/childcare facilities keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
Well that was.... dramatic. Everyone isn't going to be child free and there are people who will have multiple children so that'll balance out those won't have them, it's fine relax😂
I thought this is a channel that supports women. I’m sorry, pinning childless women against women who have children is not Progressive to me. How about people just do what they want as a woman and not needing to shame other woman to do it.
The only downside I experience is folks making demands from my womb that will never be met.
🙋 Same!
Ever!!!
I always make a generous donation to Planned Parenthood whenever they harass me like that.
The “that will never be met” part took me clean out 🤣🤣🤣
Being a black American childfree woman will NEVER have any cons to it. The way black girls/women are treated in society is horrible and I'd never want to Subject a precious baby girl to this nonsense!
Not all over the world! Stop overreacting now😂😂😂😂
@@monaj4079I’m pretty sure she’s talking about American society.
Next time, keep scrolling.
@monaj4079 you're overreacting to a fact. Poor thing....
So true i love my unborn kids too much to do them to the same place Lucifer n his minions r
Same, here in the UK.
The "downside" is that you can't be manipulated into staying in bad jobs or with trifling men because of the children
😂😂😂😂yes lol its true!
Then why'd you have the kid with the trifling man?
@@TheAbbot92 who?
@@TheAbbot92 exactly, they attract who they are.
This!! I can leave jobs and be okay cuz I have no mouths to feed just my own and while I’m job searching it’s ramen noodles and rice and eggs 😂
The only downsides are..
1. People think I'm wealthy so my no to borrowing money just seems selfish. I'm cool with that😂.
2. Apparently I can't be tired. Whenever I say I'm tired people are like how you don't have kids. Cause I stayed up 18hrs playing video games when I had to work. 😅😅
People do try and make you responsible for their kids. People try and tell you how to dress, talk and act cause they have kids
Yes I agree 1000%
Same 😂
So true
I had a friend from school have a newborn and a man , call me up for money 💰! Huh😮ask ya hubby.
You're tired? Haha I have 3 kids. You don't know what tired means! - parents
im dealing with this right now at work and its not even a cooperate setting. i’m a hairstylist and all the other women are 35+ and im 23. the owner of the salon litterally told me she is taking most of my profit for the day a 50% cut because that was are “agreement” and i don’t have other stuff to take care of aka because i don’t have kids. she was like what do u need money for anyways u live with ur parents and i blatantly told her so im never supposed to get my own place? …this is just a sprinkle of the stuff she has done to me but guess what. i will be doing my own thing from now. i’m going to do hair from home or do home visits, record on tiktok and ik God will bless me. Guess what guys she has been making 5 times more money out of me then my 1 other co worker and she treats me like shit. not anymore loyalty and love shouldn’t be the detriment to your own success.
I'm pretty sure that is illigal.
RIGHT. This is happening to me as well in my dog grooming salon im 21 & my commission percentage was cut in half because I chose to apply to college. Im planning on providing a in house dog grooming services side business to get by during my time in uni. It sad how people treat childfree & esp young adults in the working environment.
That’s so unfair!! Good for you. You’ll go far. Good luck to you!
WTFE SHE WAS EVIL
Wishing you much success❤️
As a childfree 44 yo man i enjoy my peace. Congrats ladies for making your OWN decisions
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Idgaf who takes me seriously, especially if it’s because I don’t have children. 😂
That’s not even a valid excuse??
Yeah, who cares!? 😂😂😂😂😂 🙄🙄🙄
💯💯💯 I just give them the side eye 👀……
So true
I'm sorry but there has literally then 0 downsides to being childfree for me 😂😂😂 People projecting their negative feelings onto me about MY life choices changes nothing for me.
People telling me I'll "change my mind", people telling me that I "haven't met the right guy yet", people trying to convince me that my life is equivalent to a grain of sand simply because I refuse to assist in bringing in the next generation of stressed out, underpaid, tax paying wage slaves. . .changes NOTHING for me.
I have 0 interest in living a life of servitude to a man OR children. If people have a problem with that, they can take it up with a therapist.
The love of a child is priceless, but i can understand women who don't want kids.
Still ain't change my mind n not going to
And have the kids their damn selves
Childless people who are expected to stay back, and cover for other people need to be offered a higher salary.
Yeah but I don't usually ask for much they don't treat us very well they get triggered by women that are happy and peaceful without kids some of us can't afford them or make them I'm not totally against a happy ending if the situation is right but I think my soul mate probably passed away.
THIS. Been volunteering endlessly for 5 years only to get passed over for paid positions by parents, it’s annoying but entrepreneurial ventures seem to be the only escape.
My ex best friend was like this. She would always say “you don’t understand bc you ain’t got no kids.” Like girl, you chose to hv 3 kids, 3 different baby daddies. I chose to go to school and hv a career. My life is busy too, I just choose to hv a career and be a wife b4 having children.
That's six ppl she chooses to deal with
That’s right! People swear you don’t have anything to do. Like I have a whole life. A career friends family travel etc.
@@shaypope4732 Exactly💯💯💯
@@emhym Definitely! Ppl hv the right to place priorities where they want.
She’s mad at you because you have discipline. Don’t mind her, she’s stressed out beyond belief as we speak.
Child free does not mean responsibility free or that you have no caring responsibilities. I look after my mother.
This was a real issue when I was in the miliary. Someone would ask you to pull their weekend duties, alter your holiday plans so they can see their extended families as if you don't want to see yours, and even suggest sending single soldiers on deployments more often than married soldiers.
Most of these people are married single parents who know that when they get home, job #2 starts for another 4-5 hours with no help, even though they have a spouse or partner.
That’s wild of them to act like they should get special privileges just cuz they somehow have more to live for…and a lot of those spouses/parents don’t even take care of their kids beyond the minimum, or actually like them or their spouses cuz they complain about them all the time. It’s actually kind of funny in a way.
Yup they will volunteer singles 4 5k etc on the holidays r especially cq and had our unit on a 15month deployment cause the covering unit wanted to be with their fam 4 Halloween n Christmas n will send singles 2 Korea since u can't bring kids/family there
WHO CARES ABOUT PEOPLE'S OPINIONS? SO HAVE A BABY FOR THE WORLD TO TAKE ME SERIOUSLY? REALLY? I'M NOT LIVING MY LIFE FOR THE APPROVAL OF OTHERS, WHICH ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE ARE GOING TO BABYSIT, AND HELP TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD IF I HAD ONE?? CRICKETS......
Zero honestly
I'm an assistant manager at a bank. I've got a coworker who has 3 kids and consistently shows up late to work almost every day due to childcare issues/illnesses. My boss has tried to accommodate her by offering her a different schedule. Twice. Stupidly, she refused the offers and continued to show up late to work. I would have lost my job if my child free ass showed up late as often as she does.
That is so annoying to me that some people might think child free women don't need money. With the rising cost of groceries, vet bills, etc, how is anyone supposed to live? People who don't have kids, it doesn't seem to cross their minds that some people just can't afford kids. And, people who think we aren't busy, we are very busy, busy with hobbies and whatever errands we need to do.
They can't afford their kids either but they swear it's a blessing when Mark 9:36 say's children r an annoying distractions from God n ur purpose but that's just the bible words lol
The main downside is...
TAXES. They take more from us. Around tax season...that lil return grinds my GEARS😂😂😂😂
BUT I see where this world is going...so I choose the taxes and make other investments.
U can opt out plus trump cutting of the expanded child tax credit so less tax money for them
The extra money you get in taxes will mostly go to the kids anyway 🤷🏿♀️
READ THEM SIS! 👏🏽 we're basically being punished for being responsible with our wombs
Man, I've been so tempted to lie at the next job I get and say I have kids 😅 People with kids get extra time off, and they have more reasons to call in sick, and they don't get much slack for it
I personally took pics with my niece...so That if i get the question from higher ups at work i can show them.. having to lie is part of the game..
Omg, this!!!! Lmao
You're the worst, just to have the same benefits 😏😏😏thank God you don't have kids!
Omg, that is genius! I'm so tempted to mention my cats without mentioning them as cats and pretend they're my sons. 😂
@@HaleyMary
During my apprenticeship, my mentor would bring her kid to work and expect me to babysit/entertain her, meanwhile my boss was busy with a client.... how am I supposed to observe and learn the job when I'm occupied with (unpaid) childcare?? Miss me with that.
That’s hard cuz if you don’t watch the kid she could hold it against you, but if you do she’d constantly push your boundaries. Depending on the job and how much it pays I may not be opposed to being a work aunty. 🤷♀️
That's why I have a fictional old aunt that needs my help and support ... Sorry but not sorry
People with kids honestly need to learn how to budget.
Why have kids KNOWING THAT THEY'RE EXPENSIVE AND GONNA BE THE MAJORITY OF YOUR PAYCHECK but expect everyone else to hand over BOTH their time AND energy (AND MONEY) just because THEY have kids...
Cause they feel entitled honestly when I was buying Jordans, Nike,tims, supplies, gadgets, clothes, haircuts n hairdos food r blank Walmart/Costco checks for food out my own pockets they were demanding more free things after back to school time asking for 6500$ for her n seven kids so I stopped n did a child free self care haircut hairdos event n they didn't even want to demand their own hairdos saying freestyle r do whatever is quick so everyone can get theirs done too one guy wanted a happy ending after the massage but that was about it
Millennial, growing up even when my family didn't have much I still had a back yard , pets and a vacation, my generation went through 2 recessions and honestly i had planned on a child with the expectation my parents had .. I accepted it wasn't gonna happen after trying for some time. 2021 and I got pregnant at the worst possible time in my life and I live in Texas .. so even if I wanted an abortion I couldn't get one .. I was going on the 2nd trimester when I got the ultra sound
you think they get it by now by how our parents stay reminding us how much we cost 😂
Downsides to not having kids;
1. Free time
2.Unrestricted travel
3.Disposable income
4.Not being able to experience dying during birth due to negligence
5.Not being able to experience dying because a hospital doesn't know if they can help me if i need an emergency termination
6.Not being able to experience being arrested and charged with a felony if I mis-carry
7. Not being able to experience being overworked and underappreciated
8. Not being able to contemplate staying in abusive relationships for the sake of" 2 parent" child rearing
Man all these downsides....😂😂😂
Nothing makes me more happy than women, especially fellow women of color, saying no to having kids they don’t want! ❤❤❤
No more of us not making it during birth especially since they told Makayla her baby was gone after taking her up from the hospital floor the whole time nobody broke the amino sac until hours later so the baby will never have a normal healthy life even though she alive after saying she wasn't n her husband just wants the neglectful staff to take care of her health damages they caused their baby
@@shaypope4732wow
I’m sick of it. This is why I avoid those with children. This is why my partner and I have our own business. I’m not your oil well, mom jeans. Being part of a community does not entitle those with children to extract endlessly from me.
05:12
In the US, it is a violation of the Fair Housing Act to deny housing based on "familial status"
File a lawsuit
Yup
Honestly it just sounds like a 2 parent household means they can pay the rent .. but yeah this is a common practice for awhile .
They think im not an a total grown up since I don't have children.
Lol like hunching makes u grown
All of my peers who have kids are much more immature than those of us who don’t. It’s why I don’t believe it when people say kids make you mature. No they just make you take on more responsibility. I’m 29 for reference and my peers with kids still act like they’re in high school.
just say no and block them
Im 35, childless and love it. In my case, I'm the 2nd oldest of 7, and that really deterred me from wanting kids. I was a parent as a kid, and i dont wish that on anyone, and i love my free time and money 😂
7 kids?
That's so irresponsible. It's impossible to raise more than 2 k7ds with giving them enough time to educate them, teach them manners and basic life skills and so on.
And it's CRUEL to abuse older siblings as Co-parents
@CordeliaWagner1999 yup..my youngest sibling turned 18 this year...so kids are a definite NO for me
I'm 40 and the eldest of 5 daughters. I can relate to how you feel about already taking on so many "parenting/adulting" duties at a young age.
My exhusband had 9 siblings n he was parenting them all he hated his parents
Do you want to marry?
As someone who’s also child-free, I think it’s great if that makes you happy, but there’s no need to put down people who choose to have families that’s just judgmental. A lot of what’s being discussed here comes down to boundaries: saying no, standing up for yourself, and protecting your peace.
Child-free people do face judgment and unfair treatment like being looked down on or having their time exploited and that’s not okay. Let’s focus on setting boundaries and respecting everyone’s choices instead of tearing others down.
These types of parents are LITERALLY the MOST selfish people I've ever came across 🙄🙄🙄
They all r y would anyone bring anyone they loved to the same place God sent Lucifer n his minions honestly
Yeah and they tell you being parents is selfless. f that
Basically they are people with no boundaries, people users
There’s is no downside to being child free 😂. Lmaooo, not in my life
😂 zero freedom with no baggage is great honestly
People take me seriously bc I command respect
🎯💯🎯
What if I don’t give a fck about what people think of me…? Then there are no downsides 😂
Zero honestly
The one downside is that these parents expects for you to help watch their kids when they want to go out and do stuff without their kids or when they can’t secure childcare. I’m not a part of your village, go find someone else to help.
Yup I was watching this couple on here n while the grandma was cooking they came in saying the first person to move have to babysit so when she got burnt they grabbed their keys n dipped
I find that it’s single men who shove their work off onto me. In fact, I can’t ever recall a time that a mother pushed her work off onto me. It’s always the men. Guess I’m lucky to not experience that. The men have been enough.
Just say no. Teach them to do their own work.
They hate you no matter if you do their work or not.
Focus on the things that get YOU a promotion.
"People will not take you seriously"
Oh no, what will I do without approval of overworked overwhelmed financially exhausted people heavily reliant on their parents' help because in this economy it's the only way to survive with kids? 🙃
Lol luv the sarcasm they own kids don't take them seriously r like them for bringing them to this BS
I do understand what they mean. I'm honestly done accommodating folks though. I'm not giving another dime because you don't say thank you when I do. I'm not babysitting because you expect it and don't say thank you. I'm not working holidays so you can get off. I'm not staying late so you can leave early. I'm over it. The same way I have to figure it out you need to figure it out. Plus they don't ever ever appreciate it. They expect it and then get an attitude of you say no.
They r really entitled like ole girl n her kid that tried taking someone else plane Seat's
Some people think being a parent is like serving in war. I get it’s tough, but not all of us think it’s that great to get into a self-imposed war. And that doesn’t mean we are selfish or not as tough. It just means we have scoped out the environment and since we have a choice now as women, we see no great benefit to being a parent willingly. Good luck to y’all that do!
Most of them are accidents honestly
@@shaypope4732 or band aid babies. Just being honest
Ladies do what you want to do with your life childfree or not.❤❤❤ No free labor childfree or not.❤❤
No downside whatsoever because I know myself better than society and randos online 💋
Exactly ppl get on my nerves honestly
The downside is that there are so many upsides you can't count them all! 😊😊😊
I'm 45. All my siblings had kids. I'm the sole one that remained childfree. I am STILL looked down on by my family because I refuse to follow their ideas of what life should be like. I just take care of our Dad (his health has a recent decline and needs help now). I refuse to give anyone my free time except for what I chose to give it to (Dad, community events, volunteering, ect.).
All women end up childfree at some point in their life even if they have had babies. What do people think women do when they aint raising babies?
Good point
Lala gaging I guess
No they don't
I remember when I didn’t get a promotion or raise because I didn't have kids and lived at home, and it wasn’t an assumption because the people that called off or didn’t show up got the raise. Needless to say I quit that job and went to school.
I just think it's funny how other women who don't know me well react to me not having kids at 29. It's emmidiataly pity and the "oh you still have time". At this point I just smile and nod to avoid discussions haha like b I don't want any
I look to young to get bothered by these annoying ______ but as soon as they come for me I will start crying and say I am infertile.
I fertile women are on top of the victimhood hirachy, untouchable.
NOBODY will suggest to adopt.
@CordeliaWagner1999 haha I should do this too
U don't owe them a response
I’m 29 too, and I play this little game where when moms act better than me, I call them out for complaining about their kids or spouse and say “why are you with him then”?/ “why did you have kids if it’s so hard”? The trick is to act like you genuinely don’t know why and they get even madder. 💀
The downside to being childfree are:
• People don't take you seriously. They say:
- "you'll change your mind"
- "you haven't found “the one” yet"
- "you're too picky"
- "what if your husband/boyfriend/partner wants kids?" (*This is such stupid question! Why TF would I be with someone who's NOT on the same page with me? 🤦😒 I digress*)
- "who's gonna take care of you when you are old?" (*As if the sole purpose of having kids is to create personal caregivers! To have a kid just so you can have a personal booty wiper is selfish AF!*)
• People think you have indisposable income! They think you're NOT entitled to YOUR OWN MONEY that YOU worked for! They think you're "supposed" to spend your money on other people who DIDN'T work for it, as well as, other non-existent humans who NEVER asked, nor chose, nor consented to be born in the first place!
And let's be real, most people DON'T have a crap-load of money! I sure as hell don't! I'm DISABLED! I literally CAN'T work (*and shouldn't have to either!*) I've been trying to get disability for YEARS! My disabilities have been confirmed by my doctor! I was financially abused/financially controlled by my sperm donor! That bastard NEVER paid my mother child support! So ANY money that bastard has is technically MINE anyways! People who have kids make me sick to my stomach! Especially abusive, controlling, narcissistic, manipulative, gaslighting, hypocritical, liar-ass parents that abuse their kids, expect their kids to work and never give them money, no questions asked! There's a reason adult children go no-contact with their sperm/egg donors!
• People want you to be miserable right along with them! They think that since you don't have kids, they think you should be self-sacrificing and be "the village" because they need a free babysitter to dump THEIR kids off on! They always need a so-called "break!" They want to slow you down and bring you either to their level or lower! They think that the "whole family" is supposed to take on the responsibility of what TWO people decided to do! That math has never made sense!
• If you're lucky enough to have work, they want you to fill in for someone else who has kids so they can take their kids on vacation to fkn Disneyland! NO! You see your kids DAILY! Someone else may have not seen their relatives in a year or two! Ain't nobody sacrificing their vacation just so you can have one!
Let me know if I missed something.
Everything u said lol but seriously u need to go to school so u can get paid until ur disability come in u can do online but it's only 3700$(that u get paid not that u have to pay)each month for online gd luck regardless
@shaypope4732
Thanks but go back to school and do what? I don't have $3700 out-of-pocket. Not in this messed up economy. I tried to go back to school but everyone doesn't have the aptitude for it. Its gotten really hard, plus, people with degrees are saying they can't find jobs either. 🤷
@@marissa._ huh I think u didn't understand what I said u get paid 3700$ a month if it's online but I get it do wat works for u
The fourth bullet point is a lack of common sense on their part. If my partner wants kids then he wouldn’t be my partner, duh. It also ties into the belief that women have to go along with what men want which is such an old belief.
6:00 I live in an apartment complex and for Halloween they were giving out free food vouchers to get a free plate of barbecue. I went to get the free plate and they said that they wanted to give it to parents not to single people like me
I had a single employee. They had weekends off and got off by 4pm on weekdays. Wouldn't work holidays that fell on Mondays. Always on the phone with kids dr, teachers you name it. Having to leave early on a whim. Its easier working solo.
Get out early, too
At this point its just basic wisdom not to have kids in the current world conditions esp if your from Africa where women are still seen as slaves to men, children and some toxic extended family! Wont be sacrificing my life & happiness for anyone.
Sad asl this why they r trying to stop men taking advantage of young girl brides
And it's never the kid is sick or school randomly called and closed.
Ok but this seems the fault of the employers not having enough staff 🤔.
There are no downsides.
Women who do not participate in making the destruktive Overpopulation worse are the ones who might secure our long term survival.
If the world was ending n aliens came to take over no baggage r loud kids giving away our hiding spot to get caught honestly
You dont get anymore respect being a parent , i dont expect anyone to accommodate me and i plan ahead when i want off to spend time with my child .. it may seem like entitlement for some but kids are extremely demanding and you Honestly dont know what the day brings .. like one day my son had a rash that spread , this was 2 hours prior to my shift and i had to take him to the pediatrician, i cant stay home , i cant afford it and my husband and i split shifts .. this was the one emergency payed day i had . Its frustrating.
I don't tell anyone, it's not their business. Also, stop telling employers that you're childfree b/c they'll use it against you. Lie using pictures of children if you must.
I tell them I'm disabled. LOL! They can't legally discriminate against me for being disabled. Lol! they can try but they will be sued.
@marleyhill34
If it goes to court you'll have to prove your disability. You don't want to perjure yourself.
@@Tigerlily_Fresh I have it in writing in doctors reports.
@@marleyhill34 👍🏾
Hi mums, just because u want to create a retirement caregiver for yourselves, does not mean all the rest of the world should need to help you with that. You be selfish and make your slave all you want, none of our business
Life is not only about marriage and children.. I love how my life is setup.. zero cons
1 Corinthians 7:5-9 King James Version
"For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn."
Matthew 19:12 King James Version
"For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it."
A way to handle this is to always be in school, training and or have a side business, ministry or art classes. Keep your schedule full with stuff you want.
No one told them to have kids.
Most r accidents from men not pulling out
That could be the case in some cases but this is going mostly towards people who willingly signed up for kids.
I really don’t care what anyone thinks of me. I’m gonna live my life the way I wanna live it and they can’t do a thing about it. I don’t see any cons being childfree. I’m happy!
“But she has a baby”
Me: “Yeah, and?.. Just ‘because your birth control failed, doesn’t mean I need to be punished” x
A lot of these downsides are because there isn't a good social security network in the US. I my country you're legally obliged to provide substitution for a person who will be gone for a while, like maternity/parental leave. Social housing isn't ideal but it's not awful and people without kids will also be housed.
Just don’t tell the men that you never having they baby 💯
I was at a job and some of these situations mentioned fall under the workplace harassment. So if you are in the US check the hr rules and see if your workplace counts it as harassment.(don’t know if all do)
Then you can either bring it up to the people or Hr if you want to.
It makes me wonder and think, who gonna take care of those child free by choice women and men when they get older and end up in a nursing home? Oh, I KNOW! The people who decided to have children, How Interesting!!! When they fall and break a hip it's the people who chose to have children that will be surgeons taking care of the fracture . So much selfishness in this world.
Even if you have older and grown kids and don't pull this BS people expect you to accomodate them.
Your choice your probs...
Please, does anyone have the tik tok name of this young man with the glasses?🙏
So the girl in the first complaining issue is not that the girl had a child. Her actual underlining issue is that her job made her pick up the slack. And since she's too much of a coward to call out her company, cuz they punked her into doing the other person's job, she's gonna whine about someone having a child? GTFOH.
As a young mom of two. I understand both sides. Some parents are entitled. And they think the world revolves around them just because they have kids. When you choose to have children you need to learn time management skills. People are willing to help until you start expecting the help.
On the other side. I would be mad if I had to take in more work for someone else. But I also understand the importance of children to society. We need people to have children. And childless people need to understand that yes more is expected of you because you really don’t have responsibilities outside of work. 😂 that’s no shade. Even if you have a dog, you cannot compare a dog to a child. That’s crazy. But I do think you should be compensated for your extra work!
We need to change the mindset of people with kids being against people without kids. Because we all got problems and need help from each other.
The fist girl is on heroine. People do know that we will need a ratio of 2 to 1 to make sure that SHE is covered by the economy when she retires right? There's so much that goes into it. And yes people, specifically women, who have children should get some benefits when it comes to time off. Stop being selfish. Yall live in vacuum is literally annoying.
How will the existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood be able to survive if more couples/women keep choosing not to procreate.
The effects of more couples/women that keep choosing not to procreate could cause the existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood to be at a risk of no longer existing anymore.
The existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood are all very important things for the future because
1. Humans (including women) were created to reproduce in order to keep the human race existing for many years to come.
2. Humans have gotten the chance and ability to create and invent so many unique and useful things ever since the human race began.
3. Public establishments were meant to allow humans to have access to them and were only meant to be operating in an environment where humans are around.
4. Parenthood was meant to be seen and created as something that is beautiful, delightful, rewarding, important, fulfilling and meaningful for a married couple to choose to experience.
Since the existence of public establishments are included, Here are different types of public establishments that could be affected which are
1. How places of business (like jobs, companies, corporations, and manufacturers) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs at businesses, companies, corporations and manufacturers and the amount of new people that buy items from manufacturers keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
2. How places of education (like schools, universities/colleges and tutoring services) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as teachers/professors by teaching new students at schools and universities/colleges, the amount of new students that choose to go to universities/colleges and the amount of new children that need to go to schools and tutoring services to get an education keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
3. How places of healthcare (like hospitals, medical centres/clinics, dental clinics and pharmacies) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as doctors/healthcare workers by recovering new patients at hospitals and medical centres/clinics, the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as dentists by recovering new patients at dental clinics and the amount of new people that need to get treatment at hospitals, medical centres/clinics, dental clinics and pharmacies keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
4. How places of retail (like malls, shopping centres/districts, stores and e-commerce retailers) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to visit malls and shopping centres/districts, the amount of new people that choose to shop at stores and retailers in-person and from online and the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs at stores and for e-commerce retailers keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
5. How places of transportation (like airports, subway/LRT stations, and bus stations) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that need or choose to use airports, subway/LRT stations and bus stations to go their destination keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
6. How places of sports (like recreation/leisure/aquatic centres, gyms, fitness centres, parks and playgrounds) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that need to exercise or choose to spend time at recreation/leisure/aquatic centres, gyms, fitness centres and parks and the amount of new children that go to playgrounds keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
7. How places of tourism (like museums, movie theatres/cinemas, entertainment centres/venues, amusement parks/carnivals and water parks) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to go to museums, movie theatres/cinemas, entertainment centres/venues, amusement parks/carnivals and water parks keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
8. How places of hospitality (like restaurants/food establishments, hotels/resorts, and daycares/childcare facilities) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to dine at restaurants/food establishments, the amount of new people that need or choose to stay at hotels/resorts, and the amount of new children that need to go to daycares/childcare facilities keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
Well that was.... dramatic. Everyone isn't going to be child free and there are people who will have multiple children so that'll balance out those won't have them, it's fine relax😂
Chile you wrote all of this and for what? Who cares if humanity will cease to exist? Humans are not are special as we think we are.
That's just not our problem that's just not my problem🎶🎶
Are you child free?
I wish I can choose to be child free . Not in Africa 😮
Can you say you are infertile or that some magical entity told you to not have children?
U don't have to tell them ur plans honestly
I thought this is a channel that supports women. I’m sorry, pinning childless women against women who have children is not Progressive to me. How about people just do what they want as a woman and not needing to shame other woman to do it.
Not all women deserve support.
And they way many mothers treat young women and childfree women itTHEM who divide
who cares if your childfree worry about your dang business