“Other people are becoming offended because we are offended” so true, there is this guy on tik tok I had to literally block him cause his whole thing is acting like a black woman that works at McDonald’s and some black women constantly tell him it ain’t funny and he thinks cause he’s black and gay he can do it. Disgusting.
He’s pathetic. If Black women are telling him to stop, he should stop. Why continue if your audience (mostly Black women I assume) do not like your stereotypical impressions? Also, this gives his non-black audience a negative perspective of Black women🤬‼️
I know just who you’re talking about. Also his audience comparing Mcdonalds to Chick-fil-A always gave me racists vibes😬😬, it just does. They’re laughing at him not with him!
You know when Malcolm X said "the most disrespected human on the planet is a black woman" and in 2022 we still dealing with this mess. It saddens me deeply.
Probably black men more, than women nowadays. Black men in general get mocked and berated by black women. Getting called trash and ain't shit for the actions and behaviors of a minority of black men. And when you start dating out after getting tired of being put down by black women. You hate your mother or you hate yourself.
I'm white but have a hair loss condition and it's caused me a lot of pain and shame. There's such a strong cultural association between having long hair and feminity. nobody would snatch a wig off a white woman who has cancer or alopecia, or if they would, i can't see it being treated as joke by bystanders. having your wig ripped off is an assault and should be treated like one.
@@tonysiaswain It's tough, it's centuries like this. Growing up as a black woman was a traumatic experience, unfortunately both black and white people contributed to it, I would probably even argue that it was more black people, my own people who were horrible to me. It's tough but have faith and trust in God. I'm 21 and I know that everything will be okay.
I have Alopecia, so when I was in the 6th grade, I was walking down the hall to my class and I was wearing a wig, everyone was quite aware of me having Alopecia and I just wore wigs because it made me feel comfortable. When I was walking down the hall to my class, this black boy found it necessary and his group of friends to pull my wig off. And I was humiliated, considering people was there. No wig cap and I have always struggled with not having hair or eyebrows, etc so it was completely visible. And I was expected to take it as a JOKE which is why I didn't report it to anyone till' 3months later. And when I did, they said, "It wasn't that serious and it was just kids being kids." I struggle with Anxiety and Depression and I'm just awkward. They never did ANYTHING about it and when my Mother got involved it was suddenly their main priority. The kid who did it, did not even get into ANY trouble. As a Black Female, we should be standing together and you're right, it really do be your own people who do make a mockery out of you.
In grade school, I also had kids pull a hair piece off my head. I was so mortified and humiliated, but I couldn’t say anything because then I’d be ridiculed for being too sensitive. I also had white boys make jokes about the fact that I wore weave. Moral of the story, I can completely empathize. It’s such a dehumanizing experience.
Don't try and solve other people's problems by yourself, in fact don't try and solve your own problems by yourself. God created everything there is on this Earth so go to Him for He knows everything and and knows how to navigate life in this world because He Himself created it. Trust that He is in control and that you can go to Him instead of draining yourself, trying to solve disputes between those around you
As a black woman am always very scared when am a round a group of black men than any other group of men because I know how heartless black men can be towards black women and girls and they always want to take advantage of us or picking us for jocks or fights for them to feel good about their weak ass
when we try to fit in, we get bashed for being "fake", but when we embrace ourselves, we're called ghetto, ratchet, etc. like damn can we catch a mf break
The sad part is that black women in general get judged based on these stereotypes and lose opportunities. It’s all fun and games till you shape societies thoughts on black women. It should not be the norm for people to find making fun or black women as their “comfort zone”.
@@ambrosiaking941 I have to agree, I don't want to see tired tropes on the screen anymore. Do it right or don't do it at all because it will end up being another think piece topic instead of something positive.
Thinking about a black woman who recently posted a Tik Tok saying how she and her fellow HR employees are definitely judging people who put their ethnic/"ghetto" names on their job applications. Seeing these attitudes internalized is honestly so disheartening.
I had never seen any issue and laughed at people like YungPoppy and PatDLucky 😑 It's like that saying, "Its all laughs until the jokes on you." In many ways we disassociate with women like that, so, that's why we thought it isn't offensive. Nor did we think it was directed at us for some reason 💀
Pulling off wigs is so disrespectful. Its disrespectful to others bodily autonomy. Its like pulling down someones pants or underwear. Edit: I'm being purposely hyperbolic for the sake of argument. What I meant to say is that both actions have the same reasoning behind it. To humiliate and expose. I wanted to come up with a comparison that men could understand. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk
@Elion unfortunately it doesn’t count as criminal assault even though it should!! It’s so messed up! That could actually injure someone as well, if they pulled off the adhesive they can pull off their baby hairs as well as skin! Or if its one of those sewed in wigs, that can cause A LOT OF DAMAGEEE
I'm a middle aged white woman so I realize my understanding comes from a place of ignorance, but I've always thought that Tyler Perry should be shunned for that terrible character. I mean, it offends me personally because I'm fat and that seems to be part of the joke but really... it just seems so disrespectful and demeaning.
That shit gives me real anxiety, not only do you have to put your hijab back on in front of everyone, but people just stand there and stare at you. I fucking hate humanity.
The fear of having a wig pulled off, water sprayed into hair that’s been straightened is so disturbing to me because the implication is that what’s underneath or whats “real” is somehow unacceptable, so disturbing to me, or the idea that changing someone’s appearance is incorrect when everyone knows that women and especially POC/black women are extremely judged by their appearance
THIS !!! Honestly i blame the schools to for not punishing these boys when they do this....i had my hair claw clip stolen from my head a few times i got in trouble for clawing a dude who did this ....i see him now and he clearly hates bw he is always throwing his white wife up as validation at bw on his fb lol
The worst part of this entire situation is that many of us were subconsciously indoctrinated into this during our youth. Many of us laughed at the Shanaynays, Wandas, Rasputias, and Madeas all the while not knowing that the world was laughing at us not with us. It’s like being the star of a 30 year roast that you never agreed to be a part of.
The worse thing is, I felt strange watching Shanaynay, but I thought it was ok for Shame Yaw to make fun of people of color including my own people because the internet found it funny.
i don’t understand the obsession with wanting to “humble” a woman who appears confident- no one is obsessed w humbling men in that same way, they support the man’s inflated ego even more. it’s sickening. great vid ❤️
@Clips Reborn 😂 The cowardice and hate, but worse, the insecurity. Someone is illusioned? If they are not running for office, then why should you/they care to the point of hoping for traumatic ways for that person to get a reality check that only less talented/beautiful/funny pray for? Literally people need to move on! The competition for misery and silence we want to push on black women is sickening! I’m not even a fan of MTS but I take what I like and leave the rest, no need to humble her by murder. What lesson are we hoping to teach her? That she’s less talented than trash goblins like Lil Wayne or 50 Cent? But I guess this is what America loves to do - humble people. JFK? Real humble. Malcom X, so humble and quiet right now. MLK, dreaming with humility. Tupac, the most humble rapper we know. Is this a joke? We are literally a toxic country!
black man: wears a skirt bc he’s confident cis black men: “you’re poisoning the youth (offensive slur)” black man: dresses up in a skirt to mock a black woman cis black men: “haha omg so funny”
@Beauty B nope just bullies from all walks of life that see western media and hop on the bandwagon. Then pull the trend and take it out. The arab media does this all the time for decades now. Just straight degrading
Ladies that's why we have to "divest" from the community, the strong black woman image and focus on developing ourselves. Our education/work/relationship and overall happiness. People feel threatened by the development of black women and try to "humble us" to keep us down and caping for the community. This also means not caring what Bm are doing and who they sleep with etc, not allowing these men to trap us with babies. We need to look after our bodies and wombs and only settle for men who love us and commit to us. Watch "chrissie", "the pink pill",and "real talk with yanie". Whether you like it or not it's us vs them, we have to stick together, for ourselves and other young bw ❤
Pulling off someone's wig to me always reminded me of growing up in a muslim family and having other kids pull off my hijab when I was in school. It really feels like someone pulled up your shirt or pulled down your pants and exposed you. It is cruel.
Yeah but at least people will defend us, I'm Muslim and there's countless articles and self defence videos on what to do if someone pulls or pulls off your hijab I searched for wig, didn't get NEARLY as many results.
@@starcherry6814 exactly, another of one of the thousands of example where the suffering and humiliation of black women is a source of entertainment and money for some. sad, cruel and disappointing. since i'm a hijabi too, so to me pulling/yanking wig is violent and is done with the intention of forcibly stripping someone down who has put pride and thought into presenting themselves in a dignified way. pulling off a wig is just as violent and nasty as pulling off a hijab, it's wrong on so many levels and people get money on these platforms for doing this to black girls again and again.
@@humblecrabd6981 Yeah and being a hijabi Muslim is a privilege in some way because at least we KNOW Muslim men will defend us. Since we are hijabis and we know what that fear is like we should also come to the defence of Black women that wear wigs, because when you look at it from the bigger pictures the same reason a racist white boy will pull of a Brown Muslimah's hijab is the same reason he'll pull off a Black woman's wig. To humiliate us.
Thing is, with both the women are assumed to be bald. Someone I know got their hijab yanked because they wanted to know if my friend was bald or not >:/
The kardashian’s took all the things that were deem “ratchet” when black girls did it (cornrows, colorful wigs, big lips, *NOW GOLD/DIAMOND GRILLS* , etc) and made it fashionable, trendy, & cute universally.... smh. Even got white magazines saying they created some of these trends too. Crazy the world we live in.
@lavender weiters get out of here. Black people were doijg it before, during, and will surely be doing it after the Kardashians. We arent a culture that cares what everyone thinks, if we were this world wouldnt have trends. But we cant just ignore the hypocrisy of everyone else, thats the point.
Pulling a women's wig off is the HIGHEST form of disrespect Ive ever seen, like even touching someone's hair is fucking gross. How could that person not react with anger or tears it's humiliating!
I'm commenting early in the video so idk if she's in it, but i remember seeing someone at a high school or something, a student took another girls wig during a packed hallway and ran off on it, and she just like...cowered and I felt so many kinds of ways, but I felt so deeply bad for her, and I wanted to kick the shit out of the guy. That poor girl. Just thinking about it makes me upset.
@@mariajoaquinacarvajal5904 ofc, my comment is not trying to undermine the seriousness of sexual harassment, just comment on the topic at hand. Sexual harassment would clearly be the worse assult
@@princememphis7726 well damn with the way every facet of our society treats black women and they still persevere, none of us deserve respect more than them
I don't wear wigs but I understand the fear of it getting pulled off because as a Muslim woman I wear the hijab and there's lots of Islamaphobes so there's always that possibility. It's scary because it's like someone ripping of your clothes and revealing your naked body, so violating.
@@Karenmariepombagira as you should. Where does the NERVE even come from for someone to work up the courage to do that. I, as a dark skin black girl, would be shy to even touch another person's hat, let alone their wig. Nobody in their right mind would pull of a white girl's wig, even if it's 100% clear that it's fake. It's almost unheard of. It's the sick obsession we have with humiliating and beating down even the most unassuming black girls and women for simply being born.
Yeah luckily it’s never happened to me since most ppl around me are Muslim too but omg the thought of having someone forcefully take my hijab off makes me so sad ppl are so horrible
I never looked at it that way. Now I am on the look out for wigs and hijabs. To protect both. A boy tried to pull my pants down in Highschool and it was very humiliating. I would never want someone to go through that.
There was a tweet that blew up when a hijabi got her hijab ripped off by someone else and a black woman came and offered a scarf because she knows what it feels like, I think it is terrible it happens in the first place
When I was in the Navy this white guy new that my supervisor was wearing a wig (It was not a nice wig) and he took it off her head and threw it while we were in the hanger bay and said, "Ship Mate you need to secure your gear adrift"! I was horrified for her. I told her that she needed to write him up, but she was a better person then me, she put it back on her head and just distanced herself from him. She told me not to make a big deal out of it, so I didn't, but at lunch I sure did accidentally trip him with the mop and made him fall in the water bucket full of dirty, greasy - A water. I don't see them snatching wigs off the Kardashians. I'm one of those girls that will take off a hair piece in public. Especially if it hurts or I realized that I just shouldn't have warn it to begin with. It's fine to me, but if someone tried to relieve me of that hair piece without my permission it's on.
@@ompibait's probably not tolerated but if it's not reported, then nothing will change. At the same time, black women / women face discrimination in these fields, so I can understand if she felt it was hard to report it.
My coworker yelled at me across the street about my hair and I yelled back at him we not doing this today. Afterwards I distanced myself and now he tries to act like I’m the crazy one and he now acts scary around me. Black men will disrespect the heck out or black women and when we check them they can’t handle it. But you would t do that to a white girl.
It’s messed up how black women are expected to have “good hair” but when we put on a wig to meet that expectation (and protect our natural hair) we get torn down for it.
Right? It’s the “take your gf swimming on the first date” men expecting women to be beautiful but not with makeup, but 100 times stronger specifically for women of colour Misogyny for poc is on steroids
@@beththegreen I saw this a lot having black female friends and living with them☹️ I was very protective of my girl friends specially the way I was treated growing up as a female in a strict Hispanic home.
I’ll never forget when I was in fifth grade and I had a hair piece ponytail on my head as a protective style. And this white girl in my class was walking behind me as we were walking in a line to our next class and she pulled my ponytail off and laughed at me and I just remember thinking I better pretend like this is okay so I don’t cause a scene but 14 years later I realize how toxic that was and how she knew that would humiliate me. It’s sad that she knew that was degrading to a black person at the age of 10.
It was and still is amazing how comfortable ww are with disrespecting/humiliating BW. Even at young age they were masters of microaggressions and manipulation.
Omg yes! When I was really young like before 3rd grade this boy or girl on the bus pulled off my bun piece and was played with it laughing at me in front of everyone. It’s sick
My own brother ripped my ponytail off in front of all our friends on my way to school. I was furious mostly because it was MY OWN BROTHER!!! I'm now struggling with hair loss and he has the nerve to tell me that I should wear a wig.
As a half black man with a full black momma, ive seen people treat her that way and it upsets me. Thank you for putting into words much more articulate, something that has bothered me.
I started wearing wigs in high school because I wanted to express myself with different hair colors and I felt it when you said that was a crippling fear. I used to literally dread going into school because I thought someone would rip my wig off. It used to make me nauseous, but no one did fortunately. It's sad as hell black women/girls have to fear that kind of violation. :(
it makes me so angry like i cry about it because the fact that dark skin and darker women are stripped of their humanity and their feminization to the point where even getting shot regards no sympathy is so so triggering because it even overlaps into the medical field and we don’t get taken seriously when we’re in pain
The fact that he still has money and fame is sick to me, he should be locked up. A sick dude who has the courage to only hit women. Absolutely disgusting
She was hitting him too and they were both kids but ALRIGHT, keep running with it...🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️. Neither one of them should’ve been hitting each other. They were hitting each other.
that is odd, how the public zeitgeist changed to the "everyone knows she has a badass" attitude right about the time after that... Before all of this, I think she definitely had a different image in the public's mind, a kinder one absolutely, she wasn't the fodder for magazines. I love how she blossomed into fashion and the speech she gave (i believe she won a fashion award) about loving fashion so much she said something like "while growing up facing a person that may have one upped me, but she cant beat my outfit". I know the quote is not exact but she is so cool.
Non-Black women might not have started it but they definitely benefit and uphold those biases/stereotypes. The number of times I've seen white women and Latinas argue with a Black woman and THE FIRST thing they go for is "At least my hair is real!" or talk about wigs and call someone bald headed. We as women just need to do better for each other, uplifting each other, instead of constantly acting like we're enemies.
and dont forget when we straighten out hair for the first time or wear long braids and they ask "Is that your real hair?" We are not always wearing weave !!!
My 13 yr old daughter put me on to you. She’s already light years ahead of the game. I’ll never have to worry about her or her having any misconceptions about herself in the world 💯
True!! To me it’s the same as when a man grabbed hold of my fishnets and tore them apart In public It was the same feeling as when my wig was torn off, both were so intimate and personal I can’t explain why
I'm a guy and Ii always hated seeing women getting their weave pulled off, not only is it immature, it's a violation of someones personal space and their right to govern themselves.
When she was talking about the de feminisation of black women I felt that, because my little sister went through the same bullshit a couple years back at school. She was 9 and some little white boy in her class was harassing her and when she finally stood up for herself? *She* got in trouble, had our parents called and the head teacher the audacity to ask if my sister had anger issues. To my mother's face. Just because my sister was a 9 year old black girl who was taller than average with a little muscle mass because my baby is an 👏athlete👏. So yeah this BS is everywhere, so thank you for calling it out.
I remember been in Middle School and this African American girl made fun of my braids in my hair because “it was too African” she then took it out of her way to make fun of an African character in a movie, while directly looking at me idk why some black females choose to be a pick me .. but I relate to this
Reasons like this are why I’m so scared to have a child. I would absolutely lose my shit, which would further support the stereotype of the “angry black woman”. I hate that black women aren’t allowed to express our emotions without being stereotyped.
@@cryezxzx8900 When you are inundated with the fallacy and neurosis called race, having it ingrained into your daily experience, it can create a self-hating dynamic of which Aboriginal and/or African descended people project upon their own people and/or cultural identity. Just as some 'wht' people become compulsively obsessed about the activities of 'blk' people and driven to violence towards them. It is this system of 'wht' soup-remasee which creates these misconceptions and pressures within this society. It is a psychopathic brain damaging system of programming and indoctrination. Believe me it is not just you, or even about you: it is about their insecurity and struggle with their own identity as a 'blk' woman. _______________________________________________________________________
@@Raaaaven oh yeah my doesn't play she has made school teachers cry for bringing their wht BS to the table and while it plays into the stereotype sometimes it the only thing to get stuff done
It seems to me that the humiliation of black women, especially by black men, is engendered by the same mechanism by which one oppressed group will attack another who are perceived as "lower" in the hierarchy. It is raising one's own status by lowering another's
@@paulbouffard3449 I'm a real black person, totally not actually white, and racism is chill with me!.. As useless as "all lives matter" .... are they _really_ black?
I’m a dark skin black women and I remember once a guy said I was too dark and I said is that a problem like you are darker than me and he said ya but you are a woman i was like 😐.
it's always the people darker than you or the same shade that makes a big deal about a girl being darkskin. It's self hatred and they were clearly never taught to love their own skin.
i truly am disgusted by men today- humbling women because they themselves feel threatened by our existence. Tee you are truly one of my favorite youtubers and such a smart and gorgeous women.
Which is somewhat on brand. Based on the conversation that gay/non-binary/trans POC have, White gays discriminate against them as well back in the day and now.
It's so cringy when someone says they have an "internal black woman" or smth like that. Like no, either you are a black woman or you aren't. I guess some white people just don't have a personality or smth so they need to stoop to identity appropriation.
My favorite strategy for calling people on unfunny “jokes” on the spot is just to act like I don’t understand the joke and ask them to explain why it’s supposed to be funny, then continue to ask them to clarify until they get to the essence of what they’re laughing at and hopefully realize how cruel and unfunny their “joke” was or stop trying to defend it.
My dad always says that "It's supposed to be illogical! Why are you so critical? It's just a joke". Like sir, it's not "illogical", it's racism and sexism.
I’m proud to be a black woman but I feel like a lot of this pride comes from the trauma we’ve overcome. Like the reason I’m proud isn’t rooted in happy moments - it’s literally because we’ve been treated like crap but are still here and persevere. I want to have lighter, happier reasons for being proud to be a black woman
@@samanthatheegr8 for me the lighter reasons we do have are far outweighed by the trauma and darkness of the past. And the fact that we HAVE to because no one else will, is in itself a darker reason for being proud. I want to be proud just because, no heavy meaning attached, no dark histories, not because others will treat me like I’m lesser than, just because and that’s it. But it’s hard to develop that when people continue to develop and publicise damaging stereotypes of your community.
Honestly I know some women who are proud simply because they re alive and like not in the good way. Like they re literally lucky and thankful to still be alive after surviving some crazy ish. that just blows my mind
I feel like people just don't want black women to be happy because then they wouldn't get to have their jokes anymore or it wouldn't sell :/ It's messed up
Real talk with Yanie shared a picture in her community tab. It was an animated ad for valentine’s day where girls of other races were coupled, while the black girl was hugging herself.
Tuh if you think that’s bad check out scentbirds new ad having a black woman talk about her “wap” and lusting after another man when she has a boyfriend. Such a disgusting and uncomfortable ad.
These male comedians never copy how men are it’s always us. Like they can’t be funny if they aren’t trying to make fun of black women. I was starting to think this a while ago, constantly seeing multiple men copying black women for comedy like can y’all do anything else ?
I know right Even tho we are talking about black women even another races of man do it shit too like I live in Egypt and Egyptian men they always make fun of Egyptian women and I never understood it
Long before, there used to be market on the internet for humiliating women alone.A lot creators dressed up and acted as woman and that was humour.And long ago, there was “comedy” based on how weird POC are. Black women obviously face bias and are exploited on both counts, for being a women and black. Ironically, misogyny brings people together. Both misogynistic men and racist people got off on it and contributed to their “large following”. The only difference is no one was speaking about it then and no one held them accountable. It was also a time where creators like Shane Dawson were thriving off creating stereotypical poc characters on UA-cam as well. Lilly Singh blew up. It wasn’t even considered wrong back then.I bet a lot of women were uncomfortable and offended, but if they were to speak up, they were a “hater “with usually white people in the comments defending them and accepting their apology if they were to make it.
Yeah... I seen a few eps. of Martin a few weeks back and the 'comedy' was always, "Oh Pam (a dsbw) is ugly (which wtf she was literally so beautiful??)" and Martin doing drag to play the ratchet sassy stereotype. Just rolled my eyes and sighed.
Men will have no problem calling black women bald when they have short hair, as if their male pattern baldness isn't literally right around the corner 💀
Wait wait ...so this is your comparison? I honestly thought that day and age Wass over but I do remember alot of balled headed unhealthy hair having lil girls in school. Most of the damage was self inflicted. Them and they mamas trying to do much messed up they hair. So ubequate that to men who loose their hair ? Hillarious not even close to the same thing but go head
@@nia356 yes I wrote it becuase I'm capable. And no I won't say I'm mad becuase I'm not. So u had nothing to offer in your response about the content of what I wrote? Shouldn't u have been the one to move on ? U didn't add anything but projection?
@@nia356 aparantly it's become so routine for women to do that y'all don't even realize you do it anymore. " Just say your mad and move on" I'll give u my go to reply. If you really do have the ability to assess my current emotional well being .... through txt no less ..u should bottle that ability and sell it !
Anybody notice at 16:30, the man got up and laughed, but the other woman didn't even crack a smile, but actually looked concerned. She knew that shit wasn't cool.
When you play it back in slow motion you can see the women even reaches her hand out in concern and dwight girl with the red wig didn’t crack a smile either. Only goofy a** B Simone laughed at that, she’s another walking minstrel show smh.
I’m a cartoonist and comicbook story teller and I’m listening. I hate when I don’t see the Black dream goth girl. Or the preppy all American girl next door. Etc. and you’re right no body cares to write that story. Which is why it’s my mission. Black women need a new light shined over them and it’s high time we as creators take a step back and really work at the drawing board. I’ve never been with that shit... but I never said anything either. Which is another problem.
well ppl ike to write about what they know. It isnt the job of other races or genders to write about black women, they can if they want to, but thats not their experience so they often dont
Naahhh, I don't buy that. People don't actually draw that they see and know with their own two eyes, they reveal their biases and what they idealize. It might be different in the middle of the US, but on the east coast the goth scene has always had tons of Black women and men, but when local cartoonists go to draw a "goth girl" it's always the same tropey pale white girl. If someone does some cliche series of "goth types" there is never a Black character. It's time to grow up draw reality, and original commenter is doing the lord's work.
NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN THO- like there is more than one black experience black women at people..and people think differently from each other usually and people have different confidence levels and due to black women being people..they aren't all like over confident some are sht some have a healthy ego ect.
Well said Sis you were totally on point on all areas mentioned. They're disturbed about our resilience, our ability to shake it off , overcome , stand up and keep going. They've been coming at us since we came here in chains. Woman without protection, carrying our families. But we're still standing. "We just built different." We had to be.
The whole pulling off wig trend kind of reminded me of the “Yaga” challenge, if anyone can remember that. It was where (usually) a guy would pull on a girl’s ponytail or weave as a joke. A part of me felt secondhand embarrassment whenever I watched those because I used to pull my hair up when I was younger. It was humiliating but we were expected to accept the joke.
The only 'yaga' video that brought me joy was the one where the lady slapped him, and the sound was so sharp you could feel the slap from your screen. I don't know if it was real but no one was laughing in that video, as they should because it wasn't funny to begin with 🙃
@@TeeNoir I remember struggling with my natural hair as I grew up in a predominantly white and wealthy area. My best friend (a white male) snatching the clip holding my hair back and criticizing the length of my hair. Me straightening my hair to fit in and being made fun of for it being stiff. I eventually did the big chop because I had built so much resentment for my hair and truly my blackness. Thank you for discussing these topics, I wish I had you when I was younger. I now love my blackness, I love my nose and melanin and tight curls. I love my shrinkage and the history in our DNA. I love the culture and sisterhood of us, I love us for real!
I think some BM do this because they have unresolved childhood issues with black female parental figures in their lives. It's easy to shit on women who look like you if you low key hate your mom and view your grandma as a dehumanized caricature.
Ladies that's why we have to "divest" from the community, the strong black woman image and focus on developing ourselves. Our education/work/relationship and overall happiness. People feel threatened by the development of black women and try to "humble us" to keep us down and caping for the community. This also means not caring what Bm are doing and who they sleep with etc, not allowing these men to trap us with babies. We need to look after our bodies and wombs and only settle for men who love us and commit to us. Watch "chrissie", "the pink pill",and "real talk with yanie". Whether you like it or not it's us vs them, we have to stick together, for ourselves and other young bw ❤
@@ArcadiasPlanet It doesn’t make ALL black women racist for the select few that do pull the race card. That’s like blaming one person out of the majority of people for that one person’s wrong doings😒
@@ArcadiasPlanet50% of black people does not consist of the “plenty” of black women you’ve seen. So no it is not 50/50 y’all just want to find any way to demonize black women
Here are my thoughts. Black women are women. Women are people. Treat Black women like people. Also Tee Noir is one of the few UA-camrs that can get me hyped over a box. :)
Edit: (it seems some people think I'm talking about all Black guys, seriously if this doesn't apply to you then yeah I aint talking about you) SOME Black guys (hell even white guys too) hate people taking their hats off, cause of their bad hair days but they are fine with taking black girls wigs off... damn I see you.
I initially read this as “bald hair”. I’ve known many white men who always wear a hat when out of the house because they are uncomfortable with their receding hairlines. Snatching their hats would not go over well.
WTF that is not true at all, I hated people taking my hat but not because of my bad hair day, I just didn't like people touching my stuff without permission. I have never touched a black woman's wig, barely even around them, heck if I wasn't black I would be around them even less.
@@cutesy2282 She generalized which applies so I can't let it fly. If you say Black guys that is very general which means all which includes me as well. Don't generalize because that is very ignorant, that was a personal attack an indirect attack, if you don't get it than you would have to run into a similar example before you get it. you were saying?
@@dataunreadable2437 they literally did not say anything about if a man was shot; you’re just coming up with something that completely misses the point. The point wasn’t about gender. It’s shitty to make memes about someone being shot. Okay, let’s say it was a man instead of Megan- it would still be unacceptable to make fun of them!
The secrect is to stand proud, sexy and unbothered.....i used this everytime i am out of my community... Most dont like a confident Black woman, but me i feel alive in my confidence with my middle finger up smiling....
Ya this shit is wild I've noticed. When black women cosplay people pipe up like "ohhh she's not your skin tone noooo" but when the palest white woman you've seen in your life cosplays a darker character? Crickets
Thank you. Even my brother said he will never date a dark girl. And he's MY complexion. I was 15yrs at the time and he's 18yrs older than me. I've never forgotten that. He even said he would cross the street and not walk with a dark girl in case ppl thinks that's his gf
@@chenesec6513 But don’t you see that that mentality is as a result of self hatred and white supremacy? You can’t hate dark skinned women if you are dark yourself without it being a product of self hatred. People need to stop being so brainwashed.
“You’re a victim “ 😂 man i felt that to the core. You say everything I’m feeling the most. I appreciate this because it helps me realize, black women are actually here for each other. I love it my whole life I’ve been waiting to see this day to see us unite and talk about these topics. So i very much appreciate you taking your time to put these together.🤎 you are phenomenal sis !
i feel like ripping women's wigs is an attempt to "de-validate" our natural beauty by revealing the true "ugly" underneath though the only thing "ugly" is the patriarchy's/eurocentric definition of beauty, further perpetuating the century-long mindset of naturally straight hair = beauty, etc. You're so right about hair etc. and there are so many days when i feel so masculine and ugly when my curly hair doesn't sit right when it's out so i pull it back into a bun and feel chubby and the feel like a little boy; when i have my hair straight, I feel that i have the default of feminity even when i pull it into a bun, and that when i wear "masculine" clothes, i still am "feminine" because of the straight hair. gosh i hate it here.
Femininity is not just about how you style your hair. Femininity is alot more, it's about how you carry yourself, how you walk, how you talk, the vibes you give out, it's Self love and self care....You may have a bald head but be the most feminine person in the room. It's all energy.
Yes, yes, just be a man, not a man child, a man child can’t lead a “woman”, a girl maybe, but not an intelligent woman. Where are the men? Not players, pimps, womanizers, we want Men! I would not have any trouble submitting to a Man’s leadership, but I cannot follow a man who don’t know who he is or where he is going or what he is doing.
SIS I COME TO TEE UNIVERSITY EVERYDAY AND LEAVE SO ENLIGHTENED. Thank you, you are worthy of all of your insight, gifts and knowledge! Black women have been naming, identifying and defining our oppression since the first moment we experienced it, so don’t ever feel you are not qualified to break down our experiences, let alone a movie! ♥️♥️♥️
YES 👏 If you even bump into the back of a black man shoe he can yell at you and make you clean it but they can to take off our wigs and we’re supposed to just take it
As a multiracial woman I have never understood black mens self hate but the way they disrespect black women is sooo shocking, like they have to bully the most vulnerable people to get brownie points to try and compete with other races of men like wtf you hate yourself your done already
If these types of women didn’t display this ratchet stupidness they wouldn’t be ridiculed, I don’t see rapsody of mc lyte ridiculed because they act right.
About Megan Thee Stallion being shot, when you google it a lot of the articles say "alleged", "she says", like why would someone lie about being shot???
It’s most likely for legal reasons so that the publisher can’t get sued for misinformation if official records change and/or legal proceedings are still in progress
@@zayna5549 But this clearly was not an example of that, wouldn’t you agree? The point is that the same skepticism most likely wouldn’t have occurred if it was Demi Lovato, or Lady Gaga, or Arianna Grande. We’re questioning why that is the case. There is no “alleged” about the situation
I remember seeing someone share this sentiment about people profiting off black women's embarrassment and I try to think about even the memes or GIFs I send to people. Thank you for sharing this video.
Even though I’m not black, I’m Indian, and when I was younger I had very long hair down to my knees, and random people would come up to me and pull on it to “see if it was a wig.” This was back in the 90s when I was growing up. I remember being so shocked, I didn’t even know how to react. So your fears of someone just pulling off a wig in public is justified. It happens, and you’re right, it doesn’t come from a lighthearted place.
When I was younger I was cornered in the ladies bathroom and a girl cut my hair because my real was shoulder length and I was talking to guy a friend of liked. I was told my hair is only long because I’m “Haitian” which isn’t true my mom has long curly hair. My mom had to cut my hair short and my classmates taught it was funny. I keep my hair short and sometimes where wigs but even now I’m worried someone will pull my wig and make fun of me because I keep my real short like Tee.
Same thing happened to me!! We must respect personal space and boundaries. Also, we should respect the hardships that people and their culture had to face that some are STILL facing.
@@blessyourheart175 I get where your coming from, but no matter what never carry a knife, because the majority of the time it is used against the person who was carrying it in the first place.
I just had this conversation how people can silence our tears with the "you're ok you're a strong black woman" ok so we can't cry or have a bad day...thank you for justifying our feelings QUEEN
I feel like this "niche" of comedy is honestly problematic because many of these videos go viral or widely shared onto big platforms, and though we as black people laugh at the jokes, other groups of people see these videos and BELIEVE the harmful rhetoric/stereotypes and attach them to black women as a whole.
Also isn’t it crazy how people always believe we only wear wigs? I remember this guy in high school pulling my fucking hair and then go like “oh it’s not a wig”... like who the hell gave you the permission to touch my hair ?! No one said a thing y’all... but when I shouted at his dumb ass people were like “come on you’re being a drama queen...” I am tired of this...
Fr that happened to me in 6th grade. he was like “your hair is so long” and then pulled it and was laughing. I didn’t think much of it tho. He was my friend (mostly only in that class) and a girl next to him did the same thing too (she was also my friend but only for that class).
Too many do!!! Omg I’m black and it’s like wth I’ve had people tell me like I’m the only one without when I see a woman without a wig it’s refreshing!!! Arrgh - the insecurity with the hair draws the gaslighting damn
Also there are so many videos on YT proving you need 1000 products, protective styles and Jesus Devante Christ to grow your hair out and especially show it's actual length with no relaxer and heat damage and then you get made fun of for shrinkage, and wearing a protective style like which one is it.
I could see someone making a mistake and applying some hardcore glue spray when they were thinking it’s more like Elmers or something. Mistakes happen, you’re in a hurry so maybe you don’t pay much attention to the packaging etc. What I couldn’t really get was upon reflection trying to externalize blame for the mistake or sue the company for damages cuz like girl you literally sprayed your head with industrial adhesive/liquid nails... I’m all for demanding culpability from big corps knowing that the power differential means they never really face consequences for anything shady they do, but cases like this kind of have a ‘psyop’ vibe or make the whole process seem more ridiculous or illegitimate.
I didn't even know about the gorilla glue until Tee mentioned it. And part of killing the humiliation, is addressing it and moving on. I didn't like how Tee lamented on it
how the whole “hot cheeto girl” trope got so popular on tiktok made me so mad. It made fun of the way black women dress and spoke and it’s sad that people saw that as entertainment. Non black ppl saw it ghetto when black women said “best fren” but now they use it especially on stan twitter and call everyone their “bestie” ....
"Best fren" has been popular vernacular for over 10 years, even online. I'm from the slums of LA where they encourage ex cons to move their family and start a new life while the county pays for it. "Bestie" too? I'm sure that's been in use for at least 30 years? Bunch of self victimized race hustlers appropriating culture from long gone subcultures. Poser a f
@@butterflyera765 both i guess but its really just the loud ghetto girls in the back of the class, to me there's nothing about race but there's a universal experience of having girls acting in the same loud, ghetto way. I think most people just mean girls (any race) that act like that but majority assume we mean black and latina/hispanic
"I'm willing to die on the hill that these men's obsessions with putting on wigs and makeup and nails and all of that is really just them taking the opportunity to toy with gender expression" Yes. YES. I remember there was a comedian on Comic View who did a ratchet female character in a recurring sketch. But every time he did it she got prettier and prettier....
Yes, the way they get more elaborate in cross dressing is interesting in itself. Martin as Shenehneh comes to mind. Alot of boys I've known in regular life also loved to imitate girls voice and mannerisms, try and put on our wigs as a "joke", and it's shocking how much they clearly enjoy it. I do think a lot of these jokes boys make really are them trying to let their feminine side out under the radar.
I remember grade 7, I was in class (in a school surrounded by 4 black communities, so my class was majority black in which I was comfortable) cutting my braids from back to shoulder length (which was somewhat normal there). My white teacher said it was disgusting, dirty, and a few other nasty things she had no business saying to a 13 14 yr old girl. My feelings were so hurt. Something that was common in my life and community, she made seem so ugly. I've changed in the way I decided to "be" since then in fear of feeling that shame again. My mother wrote her a strongly (professional) worded letter basically telling her about herself for speaking to a child (her child) that way. Since the letter, that teacher low key sucked up to me the remaining years. It hurt, and at 27 now I will never forget that feeling. Thank you for your videos.
@@isaiahgarcia2680 Many people made comments about her threatening and scaring the officer, and generally being the aggressor, when he broke into her home and murdered her. It's just grotesque the comments people felt compelled and comfort in writing.
@@akumaisreal2090 There are females that act like that in the skits... THEY even find it funny. The females that act like they skits... find. It. Funny. Too. I feel like only feminists are feeling attacked by this.
The way you speak about these topics with such eloquence, grace and composure is admirable. The whole time my heart is burning with this familiar anger that I’ve suppressed for so long. This video brought it to the surface in a gentle way to heal. I can’t thank you enough for this video. You are a beautiful powerful amazing black sista❤️❤️
It’s crazy to think how many people actually humiliated and publicly made clout off of the gorilla glue woman’s situation. More so the non-black folk on tiktok who started trending because of it and then proceeded to call her dumb and ask how a grown ass woman can’t read???? But I think the worst came from the black community who didn’t empathise with her and went on to patronise her further for her mistake
tbh its a mistake but i dont get why people think its such an unfathomable mistake?? like if I normally used got2b glued spray, but also know of/use moca de gorilla gel, then if i saw gorilla glue spray i might just grab it thinking it was moca de gorilla brand and just not think much of it
they was getting on her and calling her names for supposedly making that gofund me to spend it on herself or whatever when in REALITY that whole thing was a rumor made by tmz and she planned to donate the money to charity anyway
Let’s be honest here Comedians/ Actors like Eddie Murphy, Jamie Fox, Chris Tucker, Wesley Snipes, Martin Lawrence, TYLER PERRY, Arsenio Hall, Shawn and Marlon Wayans showed the powers at be that there is a market for this degrading type of humor.
Didn't white men make them dress like that originally. And that's why Dave Chappelle refuses to do it he recognised how harmful it was but so many people are wilfully blind.
The fact that movies like Big Momma house was considered peak comedy in the early 2000s, really puts into perspective how twisted people’s humour have been.
@Manuel Patterson The Karen stereotype is applied to a very specific, small group of white women who are clearly distinguished from the majority of white women. I work in a nearly all white work place and my coworkers call people Karens all the time because the term Karen does not equate to white women. It has not been used to dehumanize or disadvantage white women. So, this is not the same as the issues that she is discussing in this video.
I love everything about this video, I love how she calls out everyone especially black men. A lot of this stems from jealousy, they want to be us so bad they have to make fun of us and put us down to sleep at night. So sad
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“When Jaden Smith wears a skirt confidently it’s grotesque. But when other men do it at the expense of Black women now it’s okay.”
Blew my mind so hard
@@batty_babette same! Like we knew this. But I just did not have the words to say it so clearly.
OOP
But again some men are so against other men in dresses. Whether the man want to feel comfortable in a dress or wanna put a dress on to make jokes.
THAT. PART.
it's a different kind of anger and hurt when it's non-black people make fun of black women and black men laugh at it.
Hey Harriyanna!!!!!!!!!
Hey Harrianna 🙂💓💓💓
That's expected
Deadass the weakest links.
hey captain
“Other people are becoming offended because we are offended” so true, there is this guy on tik tok I had to literally block him cause his whole thing is acting like a black woman that works at McDonald’s and some black women constantly tell him it ain’t funny and he thinks cause he’s black and gay he can do it. Disgusting.
@@zayna5549 just get a life 😐
He’s pathetic. If Black women are telling him to stop, he should stop. Why continue if your audience (mostly Black women I assume) do not like your stereotypical impressions? Also, this gives his non-black audience a negative perspective of Black women🤬‼️
It don't even phase me anymore I just ignore stuff like that.
A lot of gay men think they can’t be misogynistic just because they gay like 🙄.
I know just who you’re talking about. Also his audience comparing Mcdonalds to Chick-fil-A always gave me racists vibes😬😬, it just does. They’re laughing at him not with him!
You know when Malcolm X said "the most disrespected human on the planet is a black woman" and in 2022 we still dealing with this mess. It saddens me deeply.
Fell back in line with the Patriarchy.
Probably black men more, than women nowadays. Black men in general get mocked and berated by black women. Getting called trash and ain't shit for the actions and behaviors of a minority of black men. And when you start dating out after getting tired of being put down by black women. You hate your mother or you hate yourself.
Yes I notice it.
Because y’all are the most disrespectful! You don’t even respect yourselves! No one of any other race or phenotype pity y’all.
*the most disrespected, neglected, rejected, and unprotected
The way people are putting food on their tables by humiliating black women... has never sat right with me.
YES
Only thing I can say to debate this is that at least now it's black homes getting fed. Not white people doing racist shit on live TV
@@TheAwe50me there’s no reason you should be trying to debate this.
If you see any trolls in the comments section try to pay them no mind
@@TheAwe50me That doesn't make it much better
I'm white but have a hair loss condition and it's caused me a lot of pain and shame. There's such a strong cultural association between having long hair and feminity. nobody would snatch a wig off a white woman who has cancer or alopecia, or if they would, i can't see it being treated as joke by bystanders. having your wig ripped off is an assault and should be treated like one.
Ugh girl FRRRR men are so annoying
Yeah they would.....
@@ILUVPASTEL no they would. Where do u live???
Podunk town in Oklahoma
@@ILUVPASTEL that explains a lot
I love being a black woman. But hate the violence we face for existing.
Yeah, me too. It's like a double-edged sword.
There are alot of pros of being a black women but the Cons are too much that you're exhausted and want to see the Lord already
@@hillxry1354 This comment here. 🙌🏾😩 You said THE words that I’ve been feeling and thinking for so long now....
Stop allowing it!
@@tonysiaswain It's tough, it's centuries like this. Growing up as a black woman was a traumatic experience, unfortunately both black and white people contributed to it, I would probably even argue that it was more black people, my own people who were horrible to me. It's tough but have faith and trust in God. I'm 21 and I know that everything will be okay.
I have Alopecia, so when I was in the 6th grade, I was walking down the hall to my class and I was wearing a wig, everyone was quite aware of me having Alopecia and I just wore wigs because it made me feel comfortable. When I was walking down the hall to my class, this black boy found it necessary and his group of friends to pull my wig off. And I was humiliated, considering people was there. No wig cap and I have always struggled with not having hair or eyebrows, etc so it was completely visible. And I was expected to take it as a JOKE which is why I didn't report it to anyone till' 3months later. And when I did, they said, "It wasn't that serious and it was just kids being kids." I struggle with Anxiety and Depression and I'm just awkward. They never did ANYTHING about it and when my Mother got involved it was suddenly their main priority. The kid who did it, did not even get into ANY trouble. As a Black Female, we should be standing together and you're right, it really do be your own people who do make a mockery out of you.
In grade school, I also had kids pull a hair piece off my head. I was so mortified and humiliated, but I couldn’t say anything because then I’d be ridiculed for being too sensitive. I also had white boys make jokes about the fact that I wore weave. Moral of the story, I can completely empathize. It’s such a dehumanizing experience.
Don't try and solve other people's problems by yourself, in fact don't try and solve your own problems by yourself. God created everything there is on this Earth so go to Him for He knows everything and and knows how to navigate life in this world because He Himself created it. Trust that He is in control and that you can go to Him instead of draining yourself, trying to solve disputes between those around you
@@yolisa444 huh
How did you feel about the Chris Rock/Will Smith altercation at the Oscars?
As a black woman am always very scared when am a round a group of black men than any other group of men because I know how heartless black men can be towards black women and girls and they always want to take advantage of us or picking us for jocks or fights for them to feel good about their weak ass
when we try to fit in, we get bashed for being "fake", but when we embrace ourselves, we're called ghetto, ratchet, etc. like damn can we catch a mf break
Or we’re queens 😂
@@happybabyblue27 like why am i a queen just for wearing my natural hair out? I mean i know i am one but let's normalize seeing confident black women.
Who calls you fake?? Sisters?? Hmmmm
@@erickamorgan4564 no, anyone
Exactly
The sad part is that black women in general get judged based on these stereotypes and lose opportunities. It’s all fun and games till you shape societies thoughts on black women. It should not be the norm for people to find making fun or black women as their “comfort zone”.
@@ambrosiaking941 I have to agree, I don't want to see tired tropes on the screen anymore. Do it right or don't do it at all because it will end up being another think piece topic instead of something positive.
Literally. Not ok.
Thinking about a black woman who recently posted a Tik Tok saying how she and her fellow HR employees are definitely judging people who put their ethnic/"ghetto" names on their job applications. Seeing these attitudes internalized is honestly so disheartening.
@Emma Loves U rightt
I had never seen any issue and laughed at people like YungPoppy and PatDLucky 😑 It's like that saying, "Its all laughs until the jokes on you."
In many ways we disassociate with women like that, so, that's why we thought it isn't offensive. Nor did we think it was directed at us for some reason 💀
Pulling off wigs is so disrespectful. Its disrespectful to others bodily autonomy. Its like pulling down someones pants or underwear.
Edit: I'm being purposely hyperbolic for the sake of argument. What I meant to say is that both actions have the same reasoning behind it. To humiliate and expose. I wanted to come up with a comparison that men could understand. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk
Ok super white clueless Brit here, but this wig thing is something that actually happens? Like isn't that straight-up criminal assault?
@@WhichDoctor1 yes people are sick and twisted
@@WhichDoctor1 just because something doesn’t happen to you doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen to other people.
@@CcCcc215 they never said it happens to them they’re just asking
@Elion unfortunately it doesn’t count as criminal assault even though it should!! It’s so messed up! That could actually injure someone as well, if they pulled off the adhesive they can pull off their baby hairs as well as skin! Or if its one of those sewed in wigs, that can cause A LOT OF DAMAGEEE
Tyler Perry, in my mind, is the blueprint. He made so much money of his portrayal of Madea.
Real talk always got menstrual vibe to them
I'm a middle aged white woman so I realize my understanding comes from a place of ignorance, but I've always thought that Tyler Perry should be shunned for that terrible character. I mean, it offends me personally because I'm fat and that seems to be part of the joke but really... it just seems so disrespectful and demeaning.
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Plenty came before him like Martin & Jamie Foxx, etc.
Madea is his grandma but much more of a bad bitch. But I learned a lot from madea
I’ve had someone pull my Hijab off in public, so i can only imagine people pulling wigs?? It’s so disrespectful and humiliating shame on them
Omg that’s horrible, those people will get karma one day
That is seriously twisted and disgusting.
That shit gives me real anxiety, not only do you have to put your hijab back on in front of everyone, but people just stand there and stare at you. I fucking hate humanity.
That’s disgusting
Wow people are seriously crazy
The fear of having a wig pulled off, water sprayed into hair that’s been straightened is so disturbing to me because the implication is that what’s underneath or whats “real” is somehow unacceptable, so disturbing to me, or the idea that changing someone’s appearance is incorrect when everyone knows that women and especially POC/black women are extremely judged by their appearance
@@soniao2356 She’s just spamming people's comments to piss them off. Ignore her.
THIS !!! Honestly i blame the schools to for not punishing these boys when they do this....i had my hair claw clip stolen from my head a few times i got in trouble for clawing a dude who did this ....i see him now and he clearly hates bw he is always throwing his white wife up as validation at bw on his fb lol
@@sirenthomas4595 ughhhhh
say it again for those in the back!!!
“Mocking black women is your safe space and you’re not even clocking that”
Girl, you are a legend!
Sooo blk woman mocking other BLK WOMAN....?. #jessWithTheMess....#jazzy
You said a mouthful 👏👏😂
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@@ebonix33 What about isms doesn’t change the point she is making. They are both wrong, or are you incapable of comprehending that??
But black women have mocked black men in the past as well
"the same women you're mocking are the foundation of these billion dollar industries" YEP
I love your username 😂
If women started ripping off dude’s caps covering those bald spots or those mile high hairlines, then I THINK they might understand lol
no,pull their underwear down when you see it exposed[sag] it wouldn't be so funny then.
@@keepzitreal2892 yes 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Wooow
Romans 10:9
If you declare with your mouth,Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved 💜
YES this is underrated
@@keepzitreal2892 bruh that is extremely different from weave bruh
The worst part of this entire situation is that many of us were subconsciously indoctrinated into this during our youth. Many of us laughed at the Shanaynays, Wandas, Rasputias, and Madeas all the while not knowing that the world was laughing at us not with us.
It’s like being the star of a 30 year roast that you never agreed to be a part of.
At this point these internet comedians are just the children of big time comedians that we grew up listening to.
People worked together to shut down that Loqueeshia movie.
The worse thing is, I felt strange watching Shanaynay, but I thought it was ok for Shame Yaw to make fun of people of color including my own people because the internet found it funny.
Damn Shani. That just broke my heart reading that. You’re so right.
Exactly
i don’t understand the obsession with wanting to “humble” a woman who appears confident- no one is obsessed w humbling men in that same way, they support the man’s inflated ego even more. it’s sickening. great vid ❤️
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It’s the oldest trick in the book.
Thissss!!!!!!
@Clips Reborn but why does someone believing that about themselves bother you specifically? It has merit on your life.
@Clips Reborn 😂 The cowardice and hate, but worse, the insecurity. Someone is illusioned? If they are not running for office, then why should you/they care to the point of hoping for traumatic ways for that person to get a reality check that only less talented/beautiful/funny pray for? Literally people need to move on! The competition for misery and silence we want to push on black women is sickening! I’m not even a fan of MTS but I take what I like and leave the rest, no need to humble her by murder. What lesson are we hoping to teach her? That she’s less talented than trash goblins like Lil Wayne or 50 Cent?
But I guess this is what America loves to do - humble people. JFK? Real humble. Malcom X, so humble and quiet right now. MLK, dreaming with humility. Tupac, the most humble rapper we know.
Is this a joke? We are literally a toxic country!
black man: wears a skirt bc he’s confident
cis black men: “you’re poisoning the youth (offensive slur)”
black man: dresses up in a skirt to mock a black woman
cis black men: “haha omg so funny”
Sad truth
right?? It’s so weird to me
To be fair, those men also hate on the Tyler Perry types
Trick Daddy: "I like to have my ass eaten"
Cis Black men: *Crickets
More like every cis man
“Embarrassing black women is so normal, other people become offended.. at us being offended..”
CLAP THAT SHIT UP EVERYONE
FACTS👏👏
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@Beauty B nope just bullies from all walks of life that see western media and hop on the bandwagon. Then pull the trend and take it out. The arab media does this all the time for decades now. Just straight degrading
@Luke Monsensey huh?
Ladies that's why we have to "divest" from the community, the strong black woman image and focus on developing ourselves. Our education/work/relationship and overall happiness. People feel threatened by the development of black women and try to "humble us" to keep us down and caping for the community. This also means not caring what Bm are doing and who they sleep with etc, not allowing these men to trap us with babies. We need to look after our bodies and wombs and only settle for men who love us and commit to us. Watch "chrissie", "the pink pill",and "real talk with yanie". Whether you like it or not it's us vs them, we have to stick together, for ourselves and other young bw ❤
Whew I got chills “making fun of black women is y’all’s safe space” ouch
Pulling off someone's wig to me always reminded me of growing up in a muslim family and having other kids pull off my hijab when I was in school. It really feels like someone pulled up your shirt or pulled down your pants and exposed you. It is cruel.
Yeah but at least people will defend us, I'm Muslim and there's countless articles and self defence videos on what to do if someone pulls or pulls off your hijab
I searched for wig, didn't get NEARLY as many results.
@@starcherry6814 exactly, another of one of the thousands of example where the suffering and humiliation of black women is a source of entertainment and money for some.
sad, cruel and disappointing. since i'm a hijabi too, so to me pulling/yanking wig is violent and is done with the intention of forcibly stripping someone down who has put pride and thought into presenting themselves in a dignified way. pulling off a wig is just as violent and nasty as pulling off a hijab, it's wrong on so many levels and people get money on these platforms for doing this to black girls again and again.
@@humblecrabd6981 Yeah and being a hijabi Muslim is a privilege in some way because at least we KNOW Muslim men will defend us.
Since we are hijabis and we know what that fear is like we should also come to the defence of Black women that wear wigs, because when you look at it from the bigger pictures the same reason a racist white boy will pull of a Brown Muslimah's hijab is the same reason he'll pull off a Black woman's wig. To humiliate us.
Thing is, with both the women are assumed to be bald. Someone I know got their hijab yanked because they wanted to know if my friend was bald or not >:/
WOW. I can’t believe anyone would pull someone’s hijab off. people really have no respect for other people’s religion.
The level of humiliation and cruelty against black women which is fully normalised in daily life is just crazy.
“BLACK WOMEN DO NOT NEED TO BE HUMBLED”
Exactly I had to take that clip and run it over and over for the people in the 🗣 back
Go head Queen!✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿
What makes women think they don't need to be humbled?
Women can definitely be humbled.... You females act like you don't need a man... Give up everything you have that was invented by men.
@@jeffreytorres2539 right...That pad she use was made from a man
The kardashian’s took all the things that were deem “ratchet” when black girls did it (cornrows, colorful wigs, big lips, *NOW GOLD/DIAMOND GRILLS* , etc) and made it fashionable, trendy, & cute universally.... smh. Even got white magazines saying they created some of these trends too.
Crazy the world we live in.
That’s why we should start gate keeping🙂
@lavender weiters get out of here. Black people were doijg it before, during, and will surely be doing it after the Kardashians. We arent a culture that cares what everyone thinks, if we were this world wouldnt have trends. But we cant just ignore the hypocrisy of everyone else, thats the point.
Ok and
cultural appropriation happens all the time. I'm mexican and I know for a fact white people love to hate us but then want the food, clothes, etc.
😐😐😐😐
It is STILL ratchet. :)
Pulling a women's wig off is the HIGHEST form of disrespect Ive ever seen, like even touching someone's hair is fucking gross. How could that person not react with anger or tears it's humiliating!
I'm commenting early in the video so idk if she's in it, but i remember seeing someone at a high school or something, a student took another girls wig during a packed hallway and ran off on it, and she just like...cowered and I felt so many kinds of ways, but I felt so deeply bad for her, and I wanted to kick the shit out of the guy. That poor girl. Just thinking about it makes me upset.
Out of all forms of disrespect, you rank it the highest?
Im pretty sure that sexual harrasment is the highest. Invading personal space is also pretty disrespectful but the highest? Nah
@@mariajoaquinacarvajal5904 ofc, my comment is not trying to undermine the seriousness of sexual harassment, just comment on the topic at hand. Sexual harassment would clearly be the worse assult
@@civildiscourse7626 no just commenting on the topic the video covers, I understand sexual assault and other situations are clearly worse
I hate when they get so angry and try to gaslight us when we're offended like we should just take it as a joke.
Especially in the workplace
respecting black women is not queen, and especially NOT king behavior. it is the bare minimum.
The bar is low for everybody these days.
the bar is so low.. so mf low...
Respect is earned. Not given
@@princememphis7726 well damn with the way every facet of our society treats black women and they still persevere, none of us deserve respect more than them
@@princememphis7726 do black men know that?! Hell, they want respect for just existing!
I don't wear wigs but I understand the fear of it getting pulled off because as a Muslim woman I wear the hijab and there's lots of Islamaphobes so there's always that possibility. It's scary because it's like someone ripping of your clothes and revealing your naked body, so violating.
I have a bsld head with scars due to ccca if my wig got pulled off I would sue.
@@Karenmariepombagira as you should. Where does the NERVE even come from for someone to work up the courage to do that. I, as a dark skin black girl, would be shy to even touch another person's hat, let alone their wig.
Nobody in their right mind would pull of a white girl's wig, even if it's 100% clear that it's fake. It's almost unheard of. It's the sick obsession we have with humiliating and beating down even the most unassuming black girls and women for simply being born.
Yeah luckily it’s never happened to me since most ppl around me are Muslim too but omg the thought of having someone forcefully take my hijab off makes me so sad ppl are so horrible
I never looked at it that way. Now I am on the look out for wigs and hijabs. To protect both. A boy tried to pull my pants down in Highschool and it was very humiliating. I would never want someone to go through that.
There was a tweet that blew up when a hijabi got her hijab ripped off by someone else and a black woman came and offered a scarf because she knows what it feels like, I think it is terrible it happens in the first place
"Making fun of Black women is ya'lls safe space."
Disgusting🤢
When I was in the Navy this white guy new that my supervisor was wearing a wig (It was not a nice wig) and he took it off her head and threw it while we were in the hanger bay and said, "Ship Mate you need to secure your gear adrift"! I was horrified for her. I told her that she needed to write him up, but she was a better person then me, she put it back on her head and just distanced herself from him. She told me not to make a big deal out of it, so I didn't, but at lunch I sure did accidentally trip him with the mop and made him fall in the water bucket full of dirty, greasy - A water. I don't see them snatching wigs off the Kardashians.
I'm one of those girls that will take off a hair piece in public. Especially if it hurts or I realized that I just shouldn't have warn it to begin with. It's fine to me, but if someone tried to relieve me of that hair piece without my permission it's on.
I feel this. I'm in still and was always afraid of this.
I didn't play with that in my division. Keep your hands to yourself at all times and we all have a good day.
She was your supervisor so i guess she was a superior to him too, right? How is it tolerated in the Navy???
@@ompibait's probably not tolerated but if it's not reported, then nothing will change. At the same time, black women / women face discrimination in these fields, so I can understand if she felt it was hard to report it.
My coworker yelled at me across the street about my hair and I yelled back at him we not doing this today. Afterwards I distanced myself and now he tries to act like I’m the crazy one and he now acts scary around me. Black men will disrespect the heck out or black women and when we check them they can’t handle it. But you would t do that to a white girl.
It’s messed up how black women are expected to have “good hair” but when we put on a wig to meet that expectation (and protect our natural hair) we get torn down for it.
this is very true.
facts
Right? It’s the “take your gf swimming on the first date” men expecting women to be beautiful but not with makeup, but 100 times stronger specifically for women of colour
Misogyny for poc is on steroids
But we already have " good hair" .. Wow
@@beththegreen I saw this a lot having black female friends and living with them☹️ I was very protective of my girl friends specially the way I was treated growing up as a female in a strict Hispanic home.
I’ll never forget when I was in fifth grade and I had a hair piece ponytail on my head as a protective style. And this white girl in my class was walking behind me as we were walking in a line to our next class and she pulled my ponytail off and laughed at me and I just remember thinking I better pretend like this is okay so I don’t cause a scene but 14 years later I realize how toxic that was and how she knew that would humiliate me. It’s sad that she knew that was degrading to a black person at the age of 10.
It was and still is amazing how comfortable ww are with disrespecting/humiliating BW. Even at young age they were masters of microaggressions and manipulation.
That wlda been my first fight
You were waayy better than me, because she would have gotten that same hand she used to pull, pulled off.
Omg yes! When I was really young like before 3rd grade this boy or girl on the bus pulled off my bun piece and was played with it laughing at me in front of everyone. It’s sick
My own brother ripped my ponytail off in front of all our friends on my way to school. I was furious mostly because it was MY OWN BROTHER!!! I'm now struggling with hair loss and he has the nerve to tell me that I should wear a wig.
As a half black man with a full black momma, ive seen people treat her that way and it upsets me. Thank you for putting into words much more articulate, something that has bothered me.
@B Pedersen 🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼
@B Pedersen You hate yourself! LeeII doesn't! You just lost your Black card, sucker!
@@jamberry8026 who tf are you god
@@riftram742 Ah! You triggered!
@@jamberry8026 no I'm not actually at all
I started wearing wigs in high school because I wanted to express myself with different hair colors and I felt it when you said that was a crippling fear. I used to literally dread going into school because I thought someone would rip my wig off. It used to make me nauseous, but no one did fortunately. It's sad as hell black women/girls have to fear that kind of violation. :(
That wig was probably not your hair texture.
Hit them. They're trying to kill you.
The police won't understand.
@@ladybird491 that's none of your business
OOOOOOOH the way y’all treated MEGAN???? I’ll never forget that shit.
ever.
Ikr
@samara. yup couldn’t say it better myself. It’s so fucking angering
it makes me so angry like i cry about it because the fact that dark skin and darker women are stripped of their humanity and their feminization to the point where even getting shot regards no sympathy is so so triggering because it even overlaps into the medical field and we don’t get taken seriously when we’re in pain
I’ll never forgive Tory L. Or ASAP rocky for the way he disrespected black women and I’ll never forgive the black Women who support them
The same thing happened when it took more than an entire year for people to stop asking Rihanna ‘what she did’ for Chris to beat her black&blue
The fact that he still has money and fame is sick to me, he should be locked up. A sick dude who has the courage to only hit women. Absolutely disgusting
EXACTLY. Nothing could ever justify what he did to her.
There’s a video on yt about his story and THE COMMENTS🤦🏾♀️..people were literally justifying it saying how she was abusive as well, it was disgusting
She was hitting him too and they were both kids but ALRIGHT, keep running with it...🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️. Neither one of them should’ve been hitting each other. They were hitting each other.
that is odd, how the public zeitgeist changed to the "everyone knows she has a badass" attitude right about the time after that... Before all of this, I think she definitely had a different image in the public's mind, a kinder one absolutely, she wasn't the fodder for magazines. I love how she blossomed into fashion and the speech she gave (i believe she won a fashion award) about loving fashion so much she said something like "while growing up facing a person that may have one upped me, but she cant beat my outfit". I know the quote is not exact but she is so cool.
Non-Black women might not have started it but they definitely benefit and uphold those biases/stereotypes. The number of times I've seen white women and Latinas argue with a Black woman and THE FIRST thing they go for is "At least my hair is real!" or talk about wigs and call someone bald headed. We as women just need to do better for each other, uplifting each other, instead of constantly acting like we're enemies.
And non black women act like they don’t wear cheap tape in extensions
@@chickennuggets1753 ya goddamn right 💀 😂
and dont forget when we straighten out hair for the first time or wear long braids and they ask "Is that your real hair?" We are not always wearing weave !!!
@@chickennuggets1753
That person was just talking about uplifting other women and now you’re saying this? 💀
@@hillxry1354, or say we’re trying to be white or hate ourselves
My 13 yr old daughter put me on to you. She’s already light years ahead of the game. I’ll never have to worry about her or her having any misconceptions about herself in the world 💯
Pulling off someone’s wig is equal to spitting in someone’s face to me.
Worse imo.
True!! To me it’s the same as when a man grabbed hold of my fishnets and tore them apart In public
It was the same feeling as when my wig was torn off, both were so intimate and personal I can’t explain why
You wouldn't rip a cancer patients wig off, why is it acceptable to do it to us.
Agreed
I'm a guy and Ii always hated seeing women getting their weave pulled off, not only is it immature, it's a violation of someones personal space and their right to govern themselves.
go the bare minimum go!
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@Carela Johnson wearing a raggedy wig doesn’t give anyone a right to snatch it tho
@Carela Johnson excuse you? Did I read that right? Hold up... e x c u s e y o u ?
@Carela Johnson What? You’re probably trolling anyways
When she was talking about the de feminisation of black women I felt that, because my little sister went through the same bullshit a couple years back at school. She was 9 and some little white boy in her class was harassing her and when she finally stood up for herself? *She* got in trouble, had our parents called and the head teacher the audacity to ask if my sister had anger issues. To my mother's face. Just because my sister was a 9 year old black girl who was taller than average with a little muscle mass because my baby is an 👏athlete👏.
So yeah this BS is everywhere, so thank you for calling it out.
I remember been in Middle School and this African American girl made fun of my braids in my hair because “it was too African” she then took it out of her way to make fun of an African character in a movie, while directly looking at me idk why some black females choose to be a pick me .. but I relate to this
Reasons like this are why I’m so scared to have a child. I would absolutely lose my shit, which would further support the stereotype of the “angry black woman”. I hate that black women aren’t allowed to express our emotions without being stereotyped.
@@cryezxzx8900 When you are inundated with the fallacy and neurosis called race, having it ingrained into your daily experience, it can create a self-hating dynamic of which Aboriginal and/or African descended people project upon their own people and/or cultural identity. Just as some 'wht' people become compulsively obsessed about the activities of 'blk' people and driven to violence towards them. It is this system of 'wht' soup-remasee which creates these misconceptions and pressures within this society. It is a psychopathic brain damaging system of programming and indoctrination. Believe me it is not just you, or even about you: it is about their insecurity and struggle with their own identity as a 'blk' woman.
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@@Raaaaven oh yeah my doesn't play she has made school teachers cry for bringing their wht BS to the table and while it plays into the stereotype sometimes it the only thing to get stuff done
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It seems to me that the humiliation of black women, especially by black men, is engendered by the same mechanism by which one oppressed group will attack another who are perceived as "lower" in the hierarchy. It is raising one's own status by lowering another's
I was literally just saying this to my girl! Black men try to be like the very people who have oppressed them in the past as well as the present.
Exactly, black men are hated too but not as much as black women so they bully us to get validation from the people above them
Almost like school bullying.
And it’s not extremely effective, either.
@@down-like-the-tower Makes it suck even more
@g513 because yall are. Lets be honest
The “I’m a black person and I wasn’t offended🤡” be pissing me off shut up
Nah y'all soft having these internet comedians living in your head rent free
@Smith blk men need white wooomen
Why? So they weren't offended, not everybody wants to be a victim 24/7.
@@paulbouffard3449 I'm a real black person, totally not actually white, and racism is chill with me!..
As useless as "all lives matter"
.... are they _really_ black?
@Smith no
I’m a dark skin black women and I remember once a guy said I was too dark and I said is that a problem like you are darker than me and he said ya but you are a woman i was like 😐.
it's always the people darker than you or the same shade that makes a big deal about a girl being darkskin. It's self hatred and they were clearly never taught to love their own skin.
Story of my life 😣
🤦🏿♀️
The same crusty dude will ask africans women why they don’t date them smh
Clearly, he's the sort of Black man that would withdraw interest in his mixed daughters if they are didn't have the 'right' hair and skin tone.
The wig pulling reminds me of when "friends" make fun of black hair and when you react to it, they're like "it's just a joke! Chill"
“AHAHA! then be more funny”
people make all sorts of “jokes” and then laugh not because it’s funny but because they said something they shouldn’t say
It’s just a joke til you clown there mothers and relatives then it’s “you sound jealous or mad” lmaooo
That gaslighting “oh it’s just a joke” is so shitty 😬 bc it means they don’t care about how you feel
Yesss, oh the memories.
Or when they ask to touch your hair, you say no and they grab your scalp anyway 🤬
i truly am disgusted by men today- humbling women because they themselves feel threatened by our existence. Tee you are truly one of my favorite youtubers and such a smart and gorgeous women.
We gotta humble y'all because y'all won't do it yourselves 😂 y'all to busy thinking y'all queens
Lets talk about many white gay men mocking African American women...
Which is somewhat on brand. Based on the conversation that gay/non-binary/trans POC have, White gays discriminate against them as well back in the day and now.
NOW THIS
Yessss
Let’s talk about it 👀👀👀👀
It's so cringy when someone says they have an "internal black woman" or smth like that. Like no, either you are a black woman or you aren't. I guess some white people just don't have a personality or smth so they need to stoop to identity appropriation.
My favorite strategy for calling people on unfunny “jokes” on the spot is just to act like I don’t understand the joke and ask them to explain why it’s supposed to be funny, then continue to ask them to clarify until they get to the essence of what they’re laughing at and hopefully realize how cruel and unfunny their “joke” was or stop trying to defend it.
That's a good way to disarm toxic mindsets/agendas.
Deep...
My dad always says that "It's supposed to be illogical! Why are you so critical? It's just a joke". Like sir, it's not "illogical", it's racism and sexism.
good strategy actually put them on the spot!!!
Comedy comes from suffering. If people didn’t suffer we’d have no reason to laugh
I’m proud to be a black woman but I feel like a lot of this pride comes from the trauma we’ve overcome. Like the reason I’m proud isn’t rooted in happy moments - it’s literally because we’ve been treated like crap but are still here and persevere. I want to have lighter, happier reasons for being proud to be a black woman
Me too
We have lighter reasons but those negative reasons have to be the reason we are proud bc no one else can see us, no matter how hard they try.
Yes same
@@samanthatheegr8 for me the lighter reasons we do have are far outweighed by the trauma and darkness of the past. And the fact that we HAVE to because no one else will, is in itself a darker reason for being proud. I want to be proud just because, no heavy meaning attached, no dark histories, not because others will treat me like I’m lesser than, just because and that’s it.
But it’s hard to develop that when people continue to develop and publicise damaging stereotypes of your community.
Honestly I know some women who are proud simply because they re alive and like not in the good way. Like they re literally lucky and thankful to still be alive after surviving some crazy ish. that just blows my mind
I feel like people just don't want black women to be happy because then they wouldn't get to have their jokes anymore or it wouldn't sell :/ It's messed up
I definitely agree.🤍
@@chocolateprincess8543 Really is heartbreaking 💔 hoping to see a change sometime
Real talk with Yanie shared a picture in her community tab. It was an animated ad for valentine’s day where girls of other races were coupled, while the black girl was hugging herself.
@semi it’s a subliminal message it’s propaganda
They were pushing everytime of relationship except one where the black woman is valued.
@@zayna5549 are you 10 or something? do you not have anything better to do with your time?
Tuh if you think that’s bad check out scentbirds new ad having a black woman talk about her “wap” and lusting after another man when she has a boyfriend. Such a disgusting and uncomfortable ad.
The ad is from two weeks ago btw. To make sure you see the right one.
These male comedians never copy how men are it’s always us. Like they can’t be funny if they aren’t trying to make fun of black women. I was starting to think this a while ago, constantly seeing multiple men copying black women for comedy like can y’all do anything else ?
I know right
Even tho we are talking about black women
even another races of man do it shit too like I live in Egypt and Egyptian men they always make fun of Egyptian women and I never understood it
Exactly it’s like They don’t know how else to make money other than making fun of the woman who created them
Long before, there used to be market on the internet for humiliating women alone.A lot creators dressed up and acted as woman and that was humour.And long ago, there was “comedy” based on how weird POC are.
Black women obviously face bias and are exploited on both counts, for being a women and black. Ironically, misogyny brings people together. Both misogynistic men and racist people got off on it and contributed to their “large following”. The only difference is no one was speaking about it then and no one held them accountable. It was also a time where creators like Shane Dawson were thriving off creating stereotypical poc characters on UA-cam as well. Lilly Singh blew up. It wasn’t even considered wrong back then.I bet a lot of women were uncomfortable and offended, but if they were to speak up, they were a “hater “with usually white people in the comments defending them and accepting their apology if they were to make it.
Yeah... I seen a few eps. of Martin a few weeks back and the 'comedy' was always, "Oh Pam (a dsbw) is ugly (which wtf she was literally so beautiful??)" and Martin doing drag to play the ratchet sassy stereotype. Just rolled my eyes and sighed.
Its because they don't have a dad to make fun of
Men will have no problem calling black women bald when they have short hair, as if their male pattern baldness isn't literally right around the corner 💀
Wait wait ...so this is your comparison? I honestly thought that day and age Wass over but I do remember alot of balled headed unhealthy hair having lil girls in school. Most of the damage was self inflicted. Them and they mamas trying to do much messed up they hair. So ubequate that to men who loose their hair ? Hillarious not even close to the same thing but go head
@@spazz-ok9nr you really wrote a whole paragraph... just say your mad and move on my guy 💀
@@nia356 yes I wrote it becuase I'm capable. And no I won't say I'm mad becuase I'm not. So u had nothing to offer in your response about the content of what I wrote? Shouldn't u have been the one to move on ? U didn't add anything but projection?
@@spazz-ok9nr what did I say in my reply that is projecting? My guy if anyone is projecting it's literally you.
@@nia356 aparantly it's become so routine for women to do that y'all don't even realize you do it anymore. " Just say your mad and move on" I'll give u my go to reply. If you really do have the ability to assess my current emotional well being .... through txt no less ..u should bottle that ability and sell it !
Anybody notice at 16:30, the man got up and laughed, but the other woman didn't even crack a smile, but actually looked concerned. She knew that shit wasn't cool.
When you play it back in slow motion you can see the women even reaches her hand out in concern and dwight girl with the red wig didn’t crack a smile either. Only goofy a** B Simone laughed at that, she’s another walking minstrel show smh.
I’m a cartoonist and comicbook story teller and I’m listening. I hate when I don’t see the Black dream goth girl. Or the preppy all American girl next door. Etc. and you’re right no body cares to write that story. Which is why it’s my mission. Black women need a new light shined over them and it’s high time we as creators take a step back and really work at the drawing board. I’ve never been with that shit... but I never said anything either. Which is another problem.
I grew up in the suburbs! I love high heels and pink cardigans! A black preppy all-American girl next door would be my dream!
Thankfully with tiktok I've been seeing so many alt & preppy black women! It's been great. Hopefully Hollywood catches up😊
Thank You
well ppl ike to write about what they know. It isnt the job of other races or genders to write about black women, they can if they want to, but thats not their experience so they often dont
Naahhh, I don't buy that. People don't actually draw that they see and know with their own two eyes, they reveal their biases and what they idealize. It might be different in the middle of the US, but on the east coast the goth scene has always had tons of Black women and men, but when local cartoonists go to draw a "goth girl" it's always the same tropey pale white girl. If someone does some cliche series of "goth types" there is never a Black character. It's time to grow up draw reality, and original commenter is doing the lord's work.
"black women don't need to be humbled". This one
Y'all do. Your reaction to hearing that is proof enough. Y'all ain't perfect, you human like the rest of us.
Bish sit-down
@@BobYourHeadMusic facts
NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN THO-
like there is more than one black experience black women at people..and people think differently from each other usually and people have different confidence levels and due to black women being people..they aren't all like over confident some are sht some have a healthy ego ect.
@@420rdj9 no one said all black women tho
Thank you for your mention of Megan thee stallion. People really do want her to hate herself, it's weird and sick.
Yes!!! And they keep saying she’s a man!! Shit is beyonnnnnddd sick!
Agree like she’s fucking gorgeous! You have to be a heathen to think she’s unattractive
FRLS
Well said Sis you were totally on point on all areas mentioned. They're disturbed about our resilience, our ability to shake it off , overcome , stand up and keep going. They've been coming at us since we came here in chains. Woman without protection, carrying our families. But we're still standing. "We just built different." We had to be.
The whole pulling off wig trend kind of reminded me of the “Yaga” challenge, if anyone can remember that. It was where (usually) a guy would pull on a girl’s ponytail or weave as a joke. A part of me felt secondhand embarrassment whenever I watched those because I used to pull my hair up when I was younger. It was humiliating but we were expected to accept the joke.
The only 'yaga' video that brought me joy was the one where the lady slapped him, and the sound was so sharp you could feel the slap from your screen. I don't know if it was real but no one was laughing in that video, as they should because it wasn't funny to begin with 🙃
Yes exactly. I remember that too
You just brought up regress memories I had forgotten about. I hated that so much
@@zayna5549 stop trollin
@@TeeNoir I remember struggling with my natural hair as I grew up in a predominantly white and wealthy area. My best friend (a white male) snatching the clip holding my hair back and criticizing the length of my hair. Me straightening my hair to fit in and being made fun of for it being stiff. I eventually did the big chop because I had built so much resentment for my hair and truly my blackness. Thank you for discussing these topics, I wish I had you when I was younger.
I now love my blackness, I love my nose and melanin and tight curls. I love my shrinkage and the history in our DNA. I love the culture and sisterhood of us, I love us for real!
"Making fun of black women is y'all's safe space." You are always just so insightful, I... 😭
Making fun of black women has been everyone’s safe space since the 1800s-
I think some BM do this because they have unresolved childhood issues with black female parental figures in their lives. It's easy to shit on women who look like you if you low key hate your mom and view your grandma as a dehumanized caricature.
Ladies that's why we have to "divest" from the community, the strong black woman image and focus on developing ourselves. Our education/work/relationship and overall happiness. People feel threatened by the development of black women and try to "humble us" to keep us down and caping for the community. This also means not caring what Bm are doing and who they sleep with etc, not allowing these men to trap us with babies. We need to look after our bodies and wombs and only settle for men who love us and commit to us. Watch "chrissie", "the pink pill",and "real talk with yanie". Whether you like it or not it's us vs them, we have to stick together, for ourselves and other young bw ❤
But when we react we're seen as an "angry black woman" 🙄
On tiktok they started calling us the most racist people bc we defend ourselves...
@@nia356 thats 50/50 cause ive seen plenty of black women pull the race card in a situation they were at fault for
@@ArcadiasPlanet that still doesn't make black women the most racist.
@@ArcadiasPlanet It doesn’t make ALL black women racist for the select few that do pull the race card. That’s like blaming one person out of the majority of people for that one person’s wrong doings😒
@@ArcadiasPlanet50% of black people does not consist of the “plenty” of black women you’ve seen. So no it is not 50/50 y’all just want to find any way to demonize black women
Here are my thoughts.
Black women are women.
Women are people.
Treat Black women like people.
Also Tee Noir is one of the few UA-camrs that can get me hyped over a box. :)
"making fun of black womxn is y'all safe space". That's how deep this is yo
YES
I was shook!
Why u censor the word women
Edit: (it seems some people think I'm talking about all Black guys, seriously if this doesn't apply to you then yeah I aint talking about you) SOME Black guys (hell even white guys too) hate people taking their hats off, cause of their bad hair days but they are fine with taking black girls wigs off... damn I see you.
I initially read this as “bald hair”. I’ve known many white men who always wear a hat when out of the house because they are uncomfortable with their receding hairlines. Snatching their hats would not go over well.
WTF that is not true at all, I hated people taking my hat but not because of my bad hair day, I just didn't like people touching my stuff without permission. I have never touched a black woman's wig, barely even around them, heck if I wasn't black I would be around them even less.
@@cutesy2282 She generalized which applies so I can't let it fly. If you say Black guys that is very general which means all which includes me as well. Don't generalize because that is very ignorant, that was a personal attack an indirect attack, if you don't get it than you would have to run into a similar example before you get it. you were saying?
@@cutesy2282 Don't be ignorant by generalizing.
@@Squirrels_On_Film same for black men with receding hairlines
I was done with the “community” after they made memes when Meg was shot.
It’s not even safe.
Sameeee
@@dataunreadable2437 because either fucking way she was harmed & y’all humiliated the fucking victim for it tf is wrong with you.
who tf is meg
@@lucaswallo8127 Megan Thee Stallion
@@dataunreadable2437 they literally did not say anything about if a man was shot; you’re just coming up with something that completely misses the point. The point wasn’t about gender. It’s shitty to make memes about someone being shot. Okay, let’s say it was a man instead of Megan- it would still be unacceptable to make fun of them!
Literally been in situations where I’m treated more “ roughly” than my non black friends by men because I’m a black girl
im glad somebody is talking about this
@@zayna5549 girl get off the damn page why even be here if your not gonna be sincere
@Jamiyah Thomas They've literally made 92 other trolling comments
People are so cruel towards Black women. We can’t even participate in hobbies like Cosplay without being attacked.
Are you talking about the nezuko cosplay. Yeah that was retarted but I'm glad some people defended her.
The secrect is to stand proud, sexy and unbothered.....i used this everytime i am out of my community... Most dont like a confident Black woman, but me i feel alive in my confidence with my middle finger up smiling....
@@muraismybby4617 wtf dont say slurs
Something is wrong with America if black women aren't allowed to have normal hobbies. I like bowling.
Ya this shit is wild I've noticed. When black women cosplay people pipe up like "ohhh she's not your skin tone noooo" but when the palest white woman you've seen in your life cosplays a darker character? Crickets
What hurts so much is that we gave BIRTH to these men.
Thank you. Even my brother said he will never date a dark girl. And he's MY complexion. I was 15yrs at the time and he's 18yrs older than me. I've never forgotten that. He even said he would cross the street and not walk with a dark girl in case ppl thinks that's his gf
@@chenesec6513 your brother is disgusting and he should hope any woman wants him dark or not
@@chenesec6513 But don’t you see that that mentality is as a result of self hatred and white supremacy? You can’t hate dark skinned women if you are dark yourself without it being a product of self hatred. People need to stop being so brainwashed.
@Sweet Doll Face Don’t give up on your people all u need is a two parent household and most of the problems we face are gone
@Sweet Doll Face facts
“You’re a victim “ 😂 man i felt that to the core. You say everything I’m feeling the most. I appreciate this because it helps me realize, black women are actually here for each other. I love it my whole life I’ve been waiting to see this day to see us unite and talk about these topics. So i very much appreciate you taking your time to put these together.🤎 you are phenomenal sis !
i feel like ripping women's wigs is an attempt to "de-validate" our natural beauty by revealing the true "ugly" underneath though the only thing "ugly" is the patriarchy's/eurocentric definition of beauty, further perpetuating the century-long mindset of naturally straight hair = beauty, etc.
You're so right about hair etc. and there are so many days when i feel so masculine and ugly when my curly hair doesn't sit right when it's out so i pull it back into a bun and feel chubby and the feel like a little boy; when i have my hair straight, I feel that i have the default of feminity even when i pull it into a bun, and that when i wear "masculine" clothes, i still am "feminine" because of the straight hair.
gosh i hate it here.
I completely agree!
I feel like it’s kind of similar to someone forcefully taking a makeup wipe to your face to “prove a point”
Femininity is not just about how you style your hair. Femininity is alot more, it's about how you carry yourself, how you walk, how you talk, the vibes you give out, it's Self love and self care....You may have a bald head but be the most feminine person in the room. It's all energy.
@@Empressivegoals i know, and i get so mad at myself when i forget that when the patriarchy makes me feel like a commodity and not a person :(
same
In the words of Saratu Morolayo, ‘just because we are resilient, doesn’t mean we don’t deserve ease.
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louder for the toxic, abusive , Black woman haters in the baaaaack row
Everyone wants to pretend to be a black woman; but, can't master being a man.
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Big facts!
Yes, yes, just be a man, not a man child, a man child can’t lead a “woman”, a girl maybe, but not an intelligent woman. Where are the men? Not players, pimps, womanizers, we want Men! I would not have any trouble submitting to a Man’s leadership, but I cannot follow a man who don’t know who he is or where he is going or what he is doing.
If you have any gay/trans bm in your family do you tell them tht? Cuz thts exactly what they're doing pretending to do is be a bw.
SIS I COME TO TEE UNIVERSITY EVERYDAY AND LEAVE SO ENLIGHTENED. Thank you, you are worthy of all of your insight, gifts and knowledge! Black women have been naming, identifying and defining our oppression since the first moment we experienced it, so don’t ever feel you are not qualified to break down our experiences, let alone a movie! ♥️♥️♥️
It's ok for a man to get angry if someone steps on their shoes but black women are not allowed to show emotions when truly disrespected.
LOUDER FOR THOSE IN THE BACK
YES 👏 If you even bump into the back of a black man shoe he can yell at you and make you clean it but they can to take off our wigs and we’re supposed to just take it
BM will literally kill another BM behind their shoes being stepped on. It's insane.
As a multiracial woman I have never understood black mens self hate but the way they disrespect black women is sooo shocking, like they have to bully the most vulnerable people to get brownie points to try and compete with other races of men like wtf you hate yourself your done already
Let's not forget how Shane Dawson would dress up in blackface, throw a pink wig on and regularly post videos mocking Nicki Minaj's looks
*ra-ra-ra roll up to the party in my crazy pink wig intensifies*
wwasnt her name shananay?
If these types of women didn’t display this ratchet stupidness they wouldn’t be ridiculed, I don’t see rapsody of mc lyte ridiculed because they act right.
@@Murdermagictricks it was a fake name so he wouldnt be called out for making fun of nicki
@@enosger you really didn’t watch the video at all, did you?
About Megan Thee Stallion being shot, when you google it a lot of the articles say "alleged", "she says", like why would someone lie about being shot???
@@zayna5549 stfu
It’s most likely for legal reasons so that the publisher can’t get sued for misinformation if official records change and/or legal proceedings are still in progress
@@PochamaRex Yea newspapers agencies have to be careful in their line of work because they can be sued out of business.
Especially since we got receipts... like what more receipts could you need other than a PHOTO of the WOUND??
@@zayna5549
But this clearly was not an example of that, wouldn’t you agree? The point is that the same skepticism most likely wouldn’t have occurred if it was Demi Lovato, or Lady Gaga, or Arianna Grande. We’re questioning why that is the case. There is no “alleged” about the situation
I remember seeing someone share this sentiment about people profiting off black women's embarrassment and I try to think about even the memes or GIFs I send to people. Thank you for sharing this video.
Pulling off a women's wig is an act of aggression and assault and I will respond according.
100% agree
*woman's
Any man that does that call the cops and charge them with assault.. wig or not it’s your property.
Considering cutting someone's hair is an act of assault yup this should be a no brainer for people. Unfortunate that it's not
Also, dont forget when those black guys threw the black girl in the trash not too long ago and filmed her crying
THIS!!! and the group of black men harassing the black woman at the gas station! she was obviously so uncomfortable.
I completely agree!! 😶😑😳
Bro yea that video was so upsetting to see, so heartbreaking
@@jasongreen3905 one time??? 😀
That video had me hot
Even though I’m not black, I’m Indian, and when I was younger I had very long hair down to my knees, and random people would come up to me and pull on it to “see if it was a wig.” This was back in the 90s when I was growing up. I remember being so shocked, I didn’t even know how to react. So your fears of someone just pulling off a wig in public is justified. It happens, and you’re right, it doesn’t come from a lighthearted place.
Its sad that people think they have the audacity to assume things and ignore our personal space, especially POC's. Bet your hairs still beautiful tho.
This is why I carry a shank. People have no couth. Try that with me and I’ll teach them. ☺️
When I was younger I was cornered in the ladies bathroom and a girl cut my hair because my real was shoulder length and I was talking to guy a friend of liked.
I was told my hair is only long because I’m “Haitian” which isn’t true my mom has long curly hair.
My mom had to cut my hair short and my classmates taught it was funny. I keep my hair short and sometimes where wigs but even now I’m worried someone will pull my wig and make fun of me because I keep my real short like Tee.
Same thing happened to me!! We must respect personal space and boundaries. Also, we should respect the hardships that people and their culture had to face that some are STILL facing.
@@blessyourheart175 I get where your coming from, but no matter what never carry a knife, because the majority of the time it is used against the person who was carrying it in the first place.
I just had this conversation how people can silence our tears with the "you're ok you're a strong black woman" ok so we can't cry or have a bad day...thank you for justifying our feelings QUEEN
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I feel like this "niche" of comedy is honestly problematic because many of these videos go viral or widely shared onto big platforms, and though we as black people laugh at the jokes, other groups of people see these videos and BELIEVE the harmful rhetoric/stereotypes and attach them to black women as a whole.
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@@zayna5549 I’m sure most of us were damn sperm when Dave was at his peak of his career... you tried it 🥴
@@winnd44 “sperm” LOL is so immature for laughing at that 😂
i feel like this need to "humble" black women through violence actually encourages more violence towards us...
They see it as inconsequential sadly. And inconsequential abuse on an inconsequential “person”.
Also isn’t it crazy how people always believe we only wear wigs? I remember this guy in high school pulling my fucking hair and then go like “oh it’s not a wig”... like who the hell gave you the permission to touch my hair ?! No one said a thing y’all... but when I shouted at his dumb ass people were like “come on you’re being a drama queen...” I am tired of this...
Fr that happened to me in 6th grade. he was like “your hair is so long” and then pulled it and was laughing. I didn’t think much of it tho. He was my friend (mostly only in that class) and a girl next to him did the same thing too (she was also my friend but only for that class).
@@tinalove4324 lol people really be mad huh 🙃
Too many do!!! Omg I’m black and it’s like wth I’ve had people tell me like I’m the only one without when I see a woman without a wig it’s refreshing!!! Arrgh - the insecurity with the hair draws the gaslighting damn
In elementary and middle school people thought I wore a weave
Also there are so many videos on YT proving you need 1000 products, protective styles and Jesus Devante Christ to grow your hair out and especially show it's actual length with no relaxer and heat damage and then you get made fun of for shrinkage, and wearing a protective style like which one is it.
I thought the gorilla glue thing was dumb and then I kept it movin’.
I could see someone making a mistake and applying some hardcore glue spray when they were thinking it’s more like Elmers or something. Mistakes happen, you’re in a hurry so maybe you don’t pay much attention to the packaging etc. What I couldn’t really get was upon reflection trying to externalize blame for the mistake or sue the company for damages cuz like girl you literally sprayed your head with industrial adhesive/liquid nails... I’m all for demanding culpability from big corps knowing that the power differential means they never really face consequences for anything shady they do, but cases like this kind of have a ‘psyop’ vibe or make the whole process seem more ridiculous or illegitimate.
I didn't even know about the gorilla glue until Tee mentioned it. And part of killing the humiliation, is addressing it and moving on. I didn't like how Tee lamented on it
how the whole “hot cheeto girl” trope got so popular on tiktok made me so mad. It made fun of the way black women dress and spoke and it’s sad that people saw that as entertainment. Non black ppl saw it ghetto when black women said “best fren” but now they use it especially on stan twitter and call everyone their “bestie” ....
So true!! Btw is ur pfp Chaeyoung from TWICE?
i thought that trope was to make fun on latino’s specifically mexicans?
"Best fren" has been popular vernacular for over 10 years, even online. I'm from the slums of LA where they encourage ex cons to move their family and start a new life while the county pays for it. "Bestie" too? I'm sure that's been in use for at least 30 years?
Bunch of self victimized race hustlers appropriating culture from long gone subcultures. Poser a f
@@butterflyera765 the trope makes fun of both latinos and black folks from the hood
@@butterflyera765 both i guess but its really just the loud ghetto girls in the back of the class, to me there's nothing about race but there's a universal experience of having girls acting in the same loud, ghetto way. I think most people just mean girls (any race) that act like that but majority assume we mean black and latina/hispanic
"I'm willing to die on the hill that these men's obsessions with putting on wigs and makeup and nails and all of that is really just them taking the opportunity to toy with gender expression"
Yes. YES.
I remember there was a comedian on Comic View who did a ratchet female character in a recurring sketch. But every time he did it she got prettier and prettier....
Yes, the way they get more elaborate in cross dressing is interesting in itself. Martin as Shenehneh comes to mind. Alot of boys I've known in regular life also loved to imitate girls voice and mannerisms, try and put on our wigs as a "joke", and it's shocking how much they clearly enjoy it. I do think a lot of these jokes boys make really are them trying to let their feminine side out under the radar.
I saw the title and subscribed immediately 😅
Yasssss so happy to see you here!!!
same
YASSS TWO BLACK QUEENS UNITE!
Same
i love you channel
I remember grade 7, I was in class (in a school surrounded by 4 black communities, so my class was majority black in which I was comfortable) cutting my braids from back to shoulder length (which was somewhat normal there). My white teacher said it was disgusting, dirty, and a few other nasty things she had no business saying to a 13 14 yr old girl. My feelings were so hurt. Something that was common in my life and community, she made seem so ugly. I've changed in the way I decided to "be" since then in fear of feeling that shame again. My mother wrote her a strongly (professional) worded letter basically telling her about herself for speaking to a child (her child) that way. Since the letter, that teacher low key sucked up to me the remaining years. It hurt, and at 27 now I will never forget that feeling. Thank you for your videos.
Speak on it, it's like the Breanna Taylor jokes like wtf is wrong with y'all.
Jokes? That's fucked up
Exactly. That woman died. she was killed. She was murdered, and people felt joy in exploiting her entire existence.
@@yourmotherhatesyou641 what jokes were they making??
Yeah, what? People were actually making fun of that???? What the fuck
@@isaiahgarcia2680 Many people made comments about her threatening and scaring the officer, and generally being the aggressor, when he broke into her home and murdered her. It's just grotesque the comments people felt compelled and comfort in writing.
I’m so happy black women are seeing this kind of “comedy” for what it is.
It's never fun being the subject of the joke. That's why the saying goes: everything is funny, until it happens to you
I think they knew, it’s everyone else who didn’t respect them that doesn’t understand
@@akumaisreal2090 There are females that act like that in the skits... THEY even find it funny. The females that act like they skits... find. It. Funny. Too.
I feel like only feminists are feeling attacked by this.
You mean funny?
@@saracosta1989 *corny
Everyone gets to come up off black women except black women ....
Especially that !
And that's facts!
Man!!!!
A whole word right here. 💯💯💯
This is the tea...
The way you speak about these topics with such eloquence, grace and composure is admirable. The whole time my heart is burning with this familiar anger that I’ve suppressed for so long. This video brought it to the surface in a gentle way to heal. I can’t thank you enough for this video. You are a beautiful powerful amazing black sista❤️❤️
It’s crazy to think how many people actually humiliated and publicly made clout off of the gorilla glue woman’s situation. More so the non-black folk on tiktok who started trending because of it and then proceeded to call her dumb and ask how a grown ass woman can’t read????
But I think the worst came from the black community who didn’t empathise with her and went on to patronise her further for her mistake
Exactly
I don't blame them, only a idiot would put fucking glue in their hair.
I was so disappointed when I saw hate comments like you can think she’s kinda dumb but a lot of people took it way to far.
tbh its a mistake but i dont get why people think its such an unfathomable mistake?? like if I normally used got2b glued spray, but also know of/use moca de gorilla gel, then if i saw gorilla glue spray i might just grab it thinking it was moca de gorilla brand and just not think much of it
they was getting on her and calling her names for supposedly making that gofund me to spend it on herself or whatever when in REALITY that whole thing was a rumor made by tmz and she planned to donate the money to charity anyway
Let’s be honest here Comedians/ Actors like Eddie Murphy, Jamie Fox, Chris Tucker, Wesley Snipes, Martin Lawrence, TYLER PERRY, Arsenio Hall, Shawn and Marlon Wayans showed the powers at be that there is a market for this degrading type of humor.
Didn't white men make them dress like that originally. And that's why Dave Chappelle refuses to do it he recognised how harmful it was but so many people are wilfully blind.
Wow all those men you listed, none of them married black women except Tyler Perry.
Yet these same comedians turn around and make fun or gay men.
@@froyokid when did Tyler Perry marry anyone?
The fact that movies like Big Momma house was considered peak comedy in the early 2000s, really puts into perspective how twisted people’s humour have been.
*"Why can't we exist in our confidence, without a whole ass market- a lucrative market- of people who wanna tear that down."*
@Manuel Patterson 'just as much'???? dont spread bullshit here, you know thats not true
Exactly, while they are making money off of their obsession with us and trying to market it back to us.
@Manuel Patterson The Karen stereotype is applied to a very specific, small group of white women who are clearly distinguished from the majority of white women. I work in a nearly all white work place and my coworkers call people Karens all the time because the term Karen does not equate to white women. It has not been used to dehumanize or disadvantage white women. So, this is not the same as the issues that she is discussing in this video.
I love everything about this video, I love how she calls out everyone especially black men. A lot of this stems from jealousy, they want to be us so bad they have to make fun of us and put us down to sleep at night. So sad