Why Does Heartbreak Hurt So Much?
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- Опубліковано 1 гру 2023
- Why does heartbreak hurt so much? According to the MRI study of heartbroken individuals, social rejection (heartbreak) and physical pain are rooted in exactly the same regions of the brain. Your brain registers emotional pain of heartbreak in the same way that it registers physical pain, which is why you may believe your heartbreak is causing physical discomfort. Watch this video to learn more.
Do you have a broken heart? We made a video on that too: • 9 Signs You Have a Bro...
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Queensland Health. (2017, August 1). The science behind a broken heart. Queensland Health. Retrieved November 4, 2022, from www.health.qld.gov.au/news-ev...
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i like the old one better
It feels like mourning the death of someone that is still alive.
Much Worse
Exactly this. I have been through both and mourning someone you love that is alive is worse to me.
He can bring back your relationship
This is a wonderful and beautifully well put line. 💜
It’s like a knife in the chest, knowing you can’t be close with that person in your life the way you used to.
AMEN AMEN AMEN 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😢😢😢😢😢😢
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Yeah
Right It Feels Like Someone Stab A Knife On The Chest
Finally someone who understands me
Saying goodbye is hard, but moving on is even harder.
Having a solid support system can make a world of difference in tough times like these.
For real
My gf broke up w/ me ON EASTER
Now I feel like trash
True... When you love that special person so deeply, it feels like the pain is never going to end.
I felt that💔
@@raulmirut6519 Stay strong... We can get over it!
Nothing is worse than being broken over someone you know doesn’t care enough to be broken over you :/
I feel that. I’m going through it right now with my husband of 31 years. I’m sorry you are suffering, but I hope it helps to know that you are not alone. Best wishes to you as you move through this.
I was once like that when I met someone that brought my ex back if you are ready to see him and help you gain back your
@@samworthington-cf6jq What?
My last heartbreak made me pretty much dead inside.
It's been years but I finally feel like I could try again.
I feel similarly. Be cheering you on!
someone else will just hurt you again. it happened to me a few weeks ago...I feel so stupid for thinking it'd be different this time and choosing to trust someone else again.
Heartbreak can be rough, and it takes time. It's awesome that you're feeling open to trying again after all these years. Take it at your own pace. Rooting for you!
When you deal with the sudden loss of a loved one whether they be a relative or a life partner or a friend, it can hurt like hell either way! I've been dealing with it multiple times through therapy and prayer. You CAN get through this. 🙏🏾❤️
I was once like that when I met someone that brought my ex back if you are ready to see him and help you gain back your
Heartbreak is the same thing of grief, my friends. The death of a relationship is like the death of that person
Almost 2 years since last breakup. Still didnt get over it 100%
That is why i want anything to do with relationships way too messy
I can't say I feel ya cuz I never was in a relationship but I can say I know the feeling about being lost in someone completely.
dating for me is overrated bro i will say
Lets the planets align and a time will come.
Best practice is to cultivate self love by detachment, meditation exercises, journaling etc.
No one in the world can hurt me if i cultivate self love and that’s the best thing!!❤🎉
Same, Raul - attachment is crazy ❤️🩹
@@tommyray08 iam mostly detached to everything
although it hurts deeply, it’s completely normal to feel heartbroken when leaving or loosing something. you’re feelings are valid but it’s important to learn when to let go and heal.
I was once like that when I met someone that brought my ex back if you are ready to see him and help you gain back your
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It hurts only when you're invested in the relationship
Some people aren't invested, and so they aren't bothered
what does it mean to be invested?
Love can be a double edged sword...... Such a sad fact of life 😔
It’s worse when you love but can’t express….
I had my heartbroken in 2021- till this day I still feel bitter and broken somewhat; it comes and goes. I just hate remembering that someone I loved could hurt me so much and not even care…
What a coincidence just seconds ago got my hart broken and now this video comes up. Choose yourself first guys!❤
This came at a good time. I've both been trying to leave my girlfriend and dealing with breaking her heart, which is in itself a horrible feeling, and in my emotionally confused state I made some mistakes that have possibly lead to the loss of my best friend. I went so off the rails I'm now in a mental health support home for a few days. I feel more level headed about it now, but it hurts so much. I literally told them everything and now it feels so strange to not be able to share things. I can't tell them about the book I'm reading, show them the artwork I've seen, nor talk about how I've been doing and the healing process. It truly does feel like they are irreplacable and I will never get over it right now.
Why are you trying to leave your girlfriend?
@@damiensisco6960 she's abusive
I was in a similar situation, I am so happy you got out of that situation, it can feel like you're trapped and both ways will hurt but choosing to leave was the best option and I'm sure that things will get better, by striving to save yourself you have put your wellbeing first. Thank you, and remember to never give up.
@@Tainahhhhthank you for sharing. I've even been hesitant to even call her abusive until a mental health professional said I was a 'textbook' abuse victim a few days ago. Mental abuse fills you with doubts. I'm still worrying so much because I'm only here another 2 days, going out on my own has all it's own associated worries. I feel like I'm trying to talk myself out of it, but I have 24/7 support available here so I'm trying to share and discuss and I think they want to help me get together an exit plan, since they don't want me to go back.
@@Edlandish How is she abusive?
getting rejected and 3 years in the making of still trying to processing it. and I can't describe it but just the smell of her alone would literally be like inhaling peace and comfort. like when ever I smelled her hair after a hug I was like I never wanna let go of this smell ever in my life. it was intoxicating and I never understood the phrase getting weak in the knees till I met her. I had been in love many times before that but this time it was special... I really hope I am gonna meet someone like her some day. she was 95% perfect! and that is more than what I could ask for.
7 years ago my ex (together with her side of the family) threw me out. I was already depressed and had stopped communicating (I found out later that I have autism) but this was completely misread. I was homeless for a year and felt abandoned. The amount of heartbreak , you cannot imagine. My heart has healed somewhat, I have a new love, but it feels different now and much, MUCH less intense as the feelings I had for my former partner. When I woke up that morning I had no clue, and by 2 pm I was in my van, driving back to the place where my roots were and a place to stay, 200 miles away, bewildered, shocked, angry, sad, outright screaming of hurt, as if she had died. SNAP, and she was gone. I have never seen or spoken to her since and when I think back, my old wounds flare up something rotten. It will never go away, this one left a gash in my heart that will always be visible. The stress from that year in solitude, was the basis of a second heart attack, another year later. And even now, I am on the fence - If I ever were to see her again, what would I do - try to make amends and admit my mistakes, or smash her face in for the suffering she caused me. I am hoping my sensible self will choose the former rather than the latter, but sometimes, I still feel a deep, and utterly dark urge to want to hurt her badly. But also deep down, I think I still love her for who she was in the first 5 years of our relationship, the best 5 years of my life up till now (52).
NO WAY. The timing of this notification is actually insane. I got broken up with yesterday, and right now I was just laying here extremely sad and not knowing what to do and this is the notification I see
I have a crush on someone who I got close with a couple months after we met. She's like best friend to me, but I kept questioning to myself my feelings for her where it felt both platonic and also romantic. I realised I had romantic feelings for her, when i got extreme butterflies in my stomach after she touched my arm. I knew falling for her was just going to hurt me in the end. When I first grew feelings she was single, but now she's dating someone and it hurts to see her with someone else, but I knew I would never have a chance with her anyways because I knew she would never have the same feelings for me. I still want her in my life and keep our friendship, I love our friendship, but i don't know how to get over my romantic feelings for her. I broke my own heart and I don't know how to fix it.
I was once like that when I met someone that brought my ex back if you are ready to see him and help you gain back your
I’ve had this guy like me for a long time. I never wanted a relationship for that time being, and he was really dedicated to sticking along with me throughout our journey. But recently he’s been hanging out with other people and telling me how much is happy. Some sort of unexplainable heartbreak seeing how easy it was for him to move on… maybe it’s my fault, but I didn’t want to lose contact with him. Now we barely talk…😭
Sounds like he moved on from his feelings for you. Although, that’s no excuse to stop being friends. I’m sorry.
I'm going through the same thing of my ex moving on quickly and me feeling alone and that I messed up the relationship with something I did, and especially after what I did a few days ago I don't think they would ever want to see me again which just honestly proves that all the insecurities I've had about the break up were true. All I can do now is just cry about how I always ruin the best things. Right now Idk what to do to make it up to them even if I could do something
You strung him along for years, and now you're sad he's moved on? Good. Take that as a lesson to not treat people like that again.
@@josephcote7702Preach brother
It has been 4 years!! Still it hurts like something is burning inside
The fact this was uploaded aftet i lost a friend
The absolute very worst feeling I've ever EXPERIENCED! It also made me feel like I was dying and have lost HOPE things will get better
How did things get better for you? I'm experiencing it right now, and it's the worst thing ever. I don't know how to get through the days ahead now
Heartbreaks hurt our past, present and future
I completely agree.Heart break is awful but i would love a video that would help with asking someone out when you both know you like each other.
My feelings are relapsing, this video was good timing
Whatever you're going through is temporary- so always focus on the bright side and move on with a positive mindset in life :)
Great perspective!
@@Psych2go ❤️🫂
Thank you so much for your videos ❤
Time does NOT heal all wounds you just learn to live with the loss.
I feel like I have to force myself to move on although I think about that person all the time. I know if I don’t I’ll just watch myself fall apart but it’s like a quiet stillness when they leave as if you never met them. Although I feel a lot of things I feel like I’m in survival mode and I don’t feel anything like i did before. It really hurts honestly… like a part of you is gone but not because that they are but how they made you feel like you are worthless. I guess we all learn the hard way eventually.
I feel you, it's gonna be better, try to find positives in your now life and I now it's easy to say. Just know your not alone and you will find your happiness one way or another
Thanks for posting :)
Broke up last year August. Got back together and broke up a day before our official one year anniversary in September. I was broken. I cried so hard that day. In front of my mom to. I've never cried about someone like the way I did. I tried to date again. He ended up dating to. Everytime we talk...I feel smth. And everytime our relationship is brought up he always apologize for hurting me. Our break up wasn't cause of cheating or anything, it was on how he felt. It could of been fixed but..i guess not. I'm not completely over them 100%. It took him a while to. First love isn't easy to get over.
I understand grief and bereavement deserve extra elements of examination however I've never experienced heartbreak until my beloved passed away in 2018. She just had a bday Nov 29🥰
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Got heartbroken 3 times in the span of 2 years, it sometimes feels like there is nothing left to look forward to and that all hope is lost.
This vid healed me even if it's just a bit. Very comforting^^
Heartbreaks hurt, but they hurt worse if the one who broke your heart was someone to trust and feel safe with, until you had to move on with that pain
Kicking out the cortisol as we speak ❤️ thanks for the advice!
That's fantastic to hear! Kicking out that cortisol is a great move. Take care! 💪❤
As someone who unexpectedly lost my online friend whom I shared mental health problems and sufferings just a couple of hours ago, I’m glad that this video existed and that I could remember its existence. We only got to talk for as long as three days. He was surely one of the best friends in my life. He also didn’t expect that and it happened all of a sudden. In addition, I could not even say goodbye to him, but I hope he’s well and wish him all the best.
Although socializing, exercise and a healthy diet can help a lot in most cases, I wanna add another one: therapy.
Not all heartbreak needs therapy, but there are just some cases that can leave you traumatized. So sometimes you need some professional help too. And there is no shame in that! I've lost friends, family and partners, and it hurts like hell every time. But they usually heal with time. My last heartbreak left me deeply traumatized, and left me with severe depression, anxiety and major trust issues. I feel like people that have been cheated on, will know how I felt. And in my case, time only made it worse. No sleep, constant panic attacks, alcohol abuse, smoking and SH pushed me to a breaking point, where I was hospitalized 4 months after the fact, for being a danger to myself. But I needed to reach that breaking point to finally open up about my trauma, and get the help I desperately needed.
I've been in therapy ever since, and in my case the trauma was so severe that talking therapy wasn't enough. So I've been doing EMDR therapy since last year, and I can honestly not recommend it enough! I'm still not over the trauma, but I'm finally healing and slowly able to move on. I've been clean for 3 years now! I've come out after being in the closet for 20+ years, and have found a loving partner. And if I can overcome my trauma and heartbreak, so can you! You deserve to heal and move on
Heartbreak hurting so much when my husband died was a lot about watching the life we had planned to share and he could have lived disappearing with him, and there wasn't a damn thing I could do about it. Andy has been gone 26 years and trust me, "time heals all wounds" is a lot of oversimplified bullcrap.
breaking my leg didnt hurt as much as getting my heart broken
Thanks for mentioning losing a friendship and other emotional gut punches leading to heartbreak. I'm going through something like this now. It feels like my heart became a this heavy stone in my chest, shattering and I don't know how to deal with the weight or the pieces. It'll be hard to wait, but I do hope I can move on for this sometime.
Wow, great video! Gotta say, the art style is a bit different and I kind of like it. I have one suggestion: If your mission is to make psychology available to more people, why don't you turn on all subtitles in as many languages as you can, so more people from other nationalities can see these videos? It'd be great!
U can't imagine how much i needed this vidoe right now i was literally crying but now that i know it is just my mind do all this thing it is time to control it and move on
Time does not heal all wounds. It just gets easier to live with them.
I'M SOOOOO FEELING THE NEW STYLE!! MUCH 💜 💜
heartbreak is the worst pain i have everfelt in my entire life. (as of today)
what kinda makes it all worse is that i know she's watching this very video as well
Kinda glad I came across this video. My third relationship ended on my birthday and I finally took the next steps to kinda get back into the hobbies that I routinely enjoy doing (racing/mechanical work, video games, and exercising). It still hurts and I do think that it’s gonna take time for me to heal but I do like finding other new hobbies to try out. Just started boxing over a month ago and I can say it’s something that’s at least keeping me occupied and gets me out of the house
A lot of heartbreaks and sadness in life 😔
Ive been Rejected by many people, I am immune to heart break and the only thing to complete me is that one person :)
It'll be alright. Real life is here to teach us what we need to understand.
I didn’t know this! Very interesting.
Did you learn something new today?
@@Psych2go yes I did!
Ever been so heartbroken that you CANT do anything to fix it 😢.
Good video
When you got a major break up with your boyfriend today and this helps to understand how to feel better.😢
i broke up with mine today and have never felt so deeply sad are things better for you now? I feel like nothing matters and like im dying 😭😭
@@lils_xo Not really 😭😭
Been hurt so much…I must have this stress forever. 😢
Thank you
I’ve really been heart broken these last few weeks so this video came out exactly at the right time.
(Side note: I’m high as f**k right now or else I wouldn’t have written about this).
Sunshine can do wonders... just like exercise and good food.
Good addition. Thank you!
It took me 1 or 2 years to get over my ex bc he cheated, felt that and it was hard to get over.
As an autistic, I'm used to being left out and alone for a decade now, so I'm always feeling this deep heartbroken feeling, and it sucks. I do not know how Rapunzel and Anna, and Elsa (All from 2 Disney Movies) kept their happiness after being freed. How did Rapunzel maintain her happiness in that tower? How did Anna maintain her own happiness dispite being separated from her sister, trapped in a castle, and especially LOSING HER PARENTS!? Elsa is Anna's sister and she's more realistic (up to after she ran away) and I know how she feels. How in the actual heck is she very happy while singing "Let it go"? How is she very talented with building ice structures right after accepting her ice powers?
I have been building up empathy and I know the exact patterns when Elsa should feel very weak and strained to death after running away, when Rapunzel should be a madlad, and when Anna should be bored of everything. Not to mention food on Elsa's part. She hasn't been eating for 2 days. Not to mention how the sisters are still willing to communicate to each other. Granted, Rapunzel didn't think of a language barrier, which is accurate, given to the fact she never knew that exists. It doesn't make sense that Gothel (Rapunzel's illegally adoptive mother) would let her use the exact same language Rapunzel's home castle can understand.
Autism here too, and yes, heartbreak feels intensely amplified due to the sharp nature of our emotions.
Autistic myself I agree
It’s just Disney movies but I wish it was reality to avoid being stuck in a rut as an adult. I’m sure almost a lot of us are. I am too. I’m used to being left out too especially being fatherless. Family drama is my trauma throughout childhood. I’m used to being alone and lonely. Been the 3rd 5th & 7th wheel. It cuts deep. I haven’t dated since I was 20 (I’m 25). Lately I’ve felt left behind & lost in reality along with my career path. A-lot more difficult trying to get it back. All I can do is wander around if I’m lost. I work a job for money & survival so I can take the money to disappear. Once my money is gone so is my worth. I don’t really have enough to offer in this world. I’m at a point where I’m about to burnout being an adult. I’m autistic too.
Thanks
Its relate to emotion & our hopes. Perhaps tgats why it hurt so much
There is no replacement of heart break, its been 8 years but my eyes become wet by remembering some moments.its hard reality,
It has taken me 3 years for an ex partner and nearly 2 for a best friend. It still stings and it has really caused the symptoms shown. Now I'm having to work my butt off to lose the weight that came with the heartbreak. I'm losing a lot, so It's not all that bad, but it still sucks so much. I just hope it ends eventually.
Tylenol once a day for three plus months and occasionally after that for some time helped me immensely
Now, I can't relate. I've never felt a heartbreak before. But I can understand your guy's pain. It does hurt, I know. Trusted ones hurt the most...maybe.
There's no such thing as moving on from the death of a child. Every day, every minute is painful. I literally feel like my heart physically hurts.
Just found out that a girl I like who also used to like me has a boyfriend now. A lot of time went by without speaking to one another, like an idiot I chose to distance myself from her. I just recently contacted her again with hopes to meet up and tell her how I felt about her and that's when I found out she has a boyfriend now. The pain from finding out about this is unbelievable. I waited too long and now i lost her. Feels like I'm suffocating, cold, in the dark, and alone now.
To think I just went though this a month ago 🥺 with my partner it was the most gut renching and the most painful stab in your heart than you can ever experience although I did date him for 4 months it still felt like I was mourning to think I would never get the chance to say good morning or good night to him or having those dates ever again was the worst to this day I still think of him even though he did me wrong you still miss that person no matter what they did to you I’m still not over him and think of the great times we once had together the first 24 hours were the worst nobody really truly gets over someone they loved ❤
I gave up on myself, today. I bet you have seen me rant before so I'm not going to do it for long this time. I just wish I had more potential that I could capitalize on. I worked so hard to no avail. I get betrayed so often and now I'm just a peasant to my own family. The one time I have free time I can't even enjoy myself.
I am trash. Nothing more to it. I am disappointed to everyone and I am sorry.
because they offer you their world and then at a moments notice they force you out of it without any type of closure and do it all thru a text but then you randomly see them in town and they become non verbal. I will never forget that Meredith.Thanks bae.
Even though it has been over 11 years since the breakup. I still deal with it.
It doesn't pass for more than 3 decades now.
I can relate, you are not alone, be encouraged.
I had my heartbroken and i was acting numb but I'm moved on thank you psych2go
Great video! BTW.... This is not spamming but I just try my best to deliver this request to you.
Please make videos about.
1. Difference between Delusional disorder, schizotypal personality disorder, schizophrenia(without hallucinations)
2. Difference of paranoia in BPD and schizophrenia
3. Sadistic Personality Disorder vs love of horror and how to not to be a strange person in front of the society.
4. Why we feel lonely without friends and also be anxious about having them + thinking that we don't deserve them as we're victimized by sloth(whatever, what is this? how to overcome these?)
5. Signs that you don't have dementia but a different memory issue.
Hello Psych2go,I move your Videos,they cheered me up and made me understand things that are happening to my mental healt,btw sorry for the bad englisch
I have a question,can you please make a video about the signs that someone is trans?
It’s been around 5 years since my first love and I were truly together and Im still so torn up over him.. I feel embarrassed about it but I really can’t help it.. I don’t know how to make my feelings for him go away..
I just want to be loved by someone
Too pain for emotional and sensitive person 💔💔💔😔
Not that long ago i saw my friend with my crush im still heartbroken over it and my parents think im just overreacting
Waiting seven years for it to mend, still waiting
Every single relationship ive gotten into so far have ended in under a month. Im ugly and nobody even loves me..
Being freindzone is also tough
its like a stab, if you push it deeper and deeper and then take it out its gonna hurt more
Hi psych2go and by the title i really think i need this video
Hi, hope you've enjoyed the video!
@@Psych2go omg you answered i love your vids ❤️
What about a parental heartbreak when you finally realize the abuser was never a parent? 😔
Hurts so so much. 😢
if only I had time to be with my friends and do what I love but instead I decided to get a full time job right after getting broken up with
Funny cause I'm still waiting. I've learned to live with it, but the trauma never really goes away.
At least in my experience, life has a way of piling things on to really send home a message. Resistance is futile, fight or flee it will make no difference.
Been 3 weeks since my breaking up from my first relationship and it’s extremely painful
Iamin my late 30s and never experienced heartbreak never had or do not want a relationship never been to close with anyone or anything life is to complex to bother with people i complex enough without anyone else in my life iam one of the few people who won't let myself be drawn into drama with other iam better off alone
Story of my life
Rejection is heartbroken as well
Just on time.
My heart was broken today. Tomorrow is my birthday. I deserved better for today and tomorrow at least
I just got fired from my dream job just after a little over a month, things were suppose to be better and different. Yeah my heart does feel like it was ripped out.
Yeah that really sucks. Dream jobs don't come by often. Were you fired for making mistakes or was it a collective firing?
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