I RELAXED MY 4C NATURAL HAIR FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER | relaxing my hair by myself

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  • heyyy sooo pretty much ive been absolutely sick and tired of my natural hair and i just couldn't manage it anymore, so i decided to relax my natural hair. tbh i had no idea what i was doing but then again when do i ever lol. it actually turned out good except for the fact that i burned the back of my head lmao anyways.... enjoy :)
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 987

  • @stephanogabanna
    @stephanogabanna 3 роки тому +1964

    I can just hear all the naturals coming to judge! it came out super nice! relaxed hair is also a vibe. Glad you did what YOU wanted!

    • @tyrarenae3486
      @tyrarenae3486 3 роки тому +37

      Exactly, I agree!

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому +45

      Thank you so much!!

    • @Jaydawayda2_0
      @Jaydawayda2_0 3 роки тому +133

      I’m natural and I’m not judging her because honestly I feel like having permed hair is easier to maintain and I’m really tempted to perm my hair again

    • @bi.fruitsalad
      @bi.fruitsalad 3 роки тому +21

      @@Jaydawayda2_0 samee. I love how it looks and I honestly love anything. But personally I won’t relax it again any time soon because my hair got damanged (probably cause I wasn’t taking good care of my hair and cause i didn’t cover it enough) and was falling out and because I first did it when I was 13 because I thought it would be easier since my mom died so there is not one to really help me but since 15 I’ve stopped and chopped my damaged air and let it grow and now I have braids to protect my hair. If I relax it it’ll be when I’m older and can take better care of my hair loll

    • @janereyrules1083
      @janereyrules1083 3 роки тому +20

      @@Jaydawayda2_0 Same! I am natural I am not judging anyone. She looks gorgeous and I am also tempted sometimes! All natural women are not "nazies" like all "relaxed" women are not treating "natural" hair as "nappy" or "unprofessional". At the end of the day people do what is best for them. Period!

  • @taylorpriester496
    @taylorpriester496 3 роки тому +1387

    you’re so pretty u literally look like a barbie

  • @PassionatelyFit
    @PassionatelyFit 3 роки тому +693

    “If my hair falls out, it falls out” periona !!! 🥰

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому +14

      😂🤎

    • @-blickemms5438
      @-blickemms5438 3 роки тому +14

      That's what I said when I relaxed my hair😭😭

    • @SharlenesJourney
      @SharlenesJourney 3 роки тому +5

      Bro me right now on my way to the store to get this relaxer my natural hair is having a melt down lmao

  • @iamdanie_.
    @iamdanie_. 3 роки тому +420

    SOME people's hair actually thrive more when it's relaxed than natural so people with opinions of "don't do it. It's bad for your hair" are speaking for themselves and shouldn't be watching a video about something they don't stand behind. That's what they should be questioning.

    • @arneshiabaldwin8335
      @arneshiabaldwin8335 3 роки тому +15

      That’s how my hair is. My mom and sisters are natural and kept saying “it’s better to be natural” but my hair thrives more when I relax it

    • @mondesirbeatrice1851
      @mondesirbeatrice1851 2 роки тому

      🤔🤔🤔🤔😓😓😓😥❤💋

    • @mariecampbell274
      @mariecampbell274 2 роки тому +3

      I agree my hair was so long and it grew faster when it was permed .I recently last year did a big chop tho and now rocking short hair and natural

    • @cloudydays6277
      @cloudydays6277 2 роки тому +4

      This person was me 100%. With relaxed hair i didnt have extra dry patches and short back. Now my relaxed hair is well moisturised for days with natural hair it drank water and mosturiser like a freaky thirsty tree

    • @iamdanie_.
      @iamdanie_. 2 роки тому

      @@cloudydays6277 yesss! Everyone is different and there's no exception when it comes to the hair on their heads.
      You can only focus on what is YOURS because no one will know and understand it like the person tending to it daily.

  • @miyahb7511
    @miyahb7511 3 роки тому +405

    I honestly don’t blame her 😭 you can’t do anything with 4c hair, idc what nobody says cause most people don’t even have real 4c hair

    • @Isaiah-um4yi
      @Isaiah-um4yi 3 роки тому +58

      That’s what I’m thinking I always see people who claim they have 4c hair and while it looks 4c it still has a slightly looser pattern, cause my hair will not loosen or curl no matter what I do to it or put in it, it is like WIRE. Real 4c.

    • @NieshaStevens
      @NieshaStevens 2 роки тому +4

      😂😂😂 exactly!!!

    • @AmeraRecords
      @AmeraRecords 2 роки тому +18

      I used to feel the exact same way when I first started taking care of my hair but I swear as your hair gets healthier the curls start to pop more because it’s healthier! Comparing my undefined unruly hair to my curls that are defined and soft now you’d think I switched textures but no they’re just healthy. Do what makes you happy but with persistence & patience it may start to look how you want

    • @pump1180
      @pump1180 2 роки тому +27

      Tbh with 4c hair it doesn’t have to be curly in fact it looks healthiest and best when it’s just a beautiful thick Afro people Be to obsessed with curls

    • @ijeitracyada6796
      @ijeitracyada6796 2 роки тому +15

      Heyyy I have real 4c hair and I do a slick bun and I do a lot of styles u just don't know how to care 4 ur hair 4c isn't the problem

  • @missanniejay
    @missanniejay 2 роки тому +530

    The first 2 minutes of your video is EXACTLY how I feel 😂😂. I am fully over the natural hair journey.. 6 years in.. Im over it, its no longer for me! I stand in solidarity with you girl all the way from the UK 💕

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  2 роки тому +8

      hehee love you girl 💗

    • @pink1237480
      @pink1237480 2 роки тому +3

      You sound just like T.I. daughter dehja who said her hair is not for her.

    • @missanniejay
      @missanniejay 2 роки тому

      @@MyaJoelle you too baby girl keep doing your thing 💪🏾💕

    • @lukundokampeshi7822
      @lukundokampeshi7822 2 роки тому

      Same

    • @sbusbus3734
      @sbusbus3734 2 роки тому +1

      same

  • @apoetsmile3956
    @apoetsmile3956 3 роки тому +81

    Sis, before you apply the relaxer, please protect your Whole scalp and the hair line. Avoid over processing when you are ready to re-touch by only applying relaxer to your new growth. I saturate my previously relaxed hair with coconut oil and separate sections and twist the night before I re-touch. I wash, protein treatment, and deep condition the week before. Trim hair every 3-6 months as needed. Happy hair journey!

  • @thegoodfoodieSA
    @thegoodfoodieSA 3 роки тому +268

    I did this today, i cried after. I'm really mad at myself but proud at the same time cause my hair was literally starting to depress me.

    • @cosmicbeauty5682
      @cosmicbeauty5682 2 роки тому +39

      That's where I'm at now and I've been natural for over a decade. I'm older with more responsibilities and I spent so much money over the years for my natural hair. I can't do it anymore. It's time consuming and I'm tired of fussing with it

    • @bleh5409
      @bleh5409 2 роки тому +20

      @@cosmicbeauty5682 I was just about to type that exact response. I'm over it and It's very depressing. The constant struggle, long hours of styling, cant leave the house if friend calls me up on a whim I have to plan around my hair. No more

    • @nellustylejeb7210
      @nellustylejeb7210 2 роки тому +2

      You guys hate your natural hair?

    • @mhiriaridy5816
      @mhiriaridy5816 2 роки тому +43

      @@nellustylejeb7210 oh stop being toxic , they just said that its difficult to maintain

    • @nellustylejeb7210
      @nellustylejeb7210 2 роки тому

      @@mhiriaridy5816 i don't like Black people anyways.

  • @ladygodiva8256
    @ladygodiva8256 3 роки тому +606

    I get my hair relaxed every 3 months by a professional... my hair is super long and thick , all my edges are intact! I’ve been doing this since age 19 now I’m 37 and my hair is super healthy... no breakage , no split ends ( I trim every 6 months)

    • @notngoskiibarie
      @notngoskiibarie 3 роки тому +23

      Hey I know this is a personal question but do you have any problems down there? I want to get a relaxer but people say its causes unterine cancer and makes periods heavier. I'm 14 and I'm really contemplating the decision to get one at the moment

    • @ladygodiva8256
      @ladygodiva8256 3 роки тому +81

      @@notngoskiibarie Absolutely no issues! Genetics, hormones and diet play the biggest roles when it comes to health issues in women. If relaxers were such a cause for concern they would be pulled off the shelves and the numbers of affected women would be staggering!!

    • @notngoskiibarie
      @notngoskiibarie 3 роки тому +14

      @@ladygodiva8256 oh my gosh thank you 😊 I've been very worried about that particular issue because I already have a very heavy flow 😅 Thanks, have a great day 🥰

    • @satanicluvsyou9893
      @satanicluvsyou9893 3 роки тому +10

      @@notngoskiibarie I’m 14 lol my mom relaxes my hair every 4-6 months it dosent cause issues down there at all jus take care of ur hair Nd urself Nd ur all set🥰😌 here’s my snap if u have any more questions or my insta sc:snapergirl56 ig:stfu_eiri

    • @notngoskiibarie
      @notngoskiibarie 3 роки тому +2

      @@satanicluvsyou9893 thanks so much ❤❤ I'll make sure to DM you if I have any questions 🥰x

  • @sierraloghan6097
    @sierraloghan6097 3 роки тому +640

    A lot of these comments are really negative which I don’t get because shouldn’t it the people who have our hair understand that it’s very difficult to manage?! Anyways, if you take care of relaxed hair, it can look good and suit your lifestyle. Natural hair isn’t for everyone and that’s fine, it’s just hair.

    • @themelanatednomad6989
      @themelanatednomad6989 3 роки тому +69

      Natural hair isn’t difficult to manage, especially when you understand what your individual hair needs. A lot of people don’t want to take the time to learn and care for their hair. They just want their hair to act like a different texture. I agree with the rest of things you said, just not the difficult to manage part.

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому +18

      ❤️

    • @jasmineogunyemi2658
      @jasmineogunyemi2658 3 роки тому +46

      Its only difficult to manage if you're trying to force it to do what it's not meant to do

    • @shontaduncan6072
      @shontaduncan6072 3 роки тому +83

      @@themelanatednomad6989 Everyone's experience is different, based on your lifestyle etc. My natural hair can probably go in so many cute styles but I just dont have the time / tools / products to do so. I have a VERY busy lifestyle, and time for my hair is very limited. Perhaps I can devote more time to it, fine, but when I DO get a rest period, I don't spend it on my hair. I rest, cause Im always so exhausted.
      Truthfully, when you DO get a good hair routine down, natural hair is NOT difficult to manage, but you know what the thing is? My best hair routine is wash day, then 2 strand twists and leave it like that until next wash day. Guess what though? BAsed on my job, I will NOT be wearing 2 strand twists to work (just my preference), and I don't really wear wigs or weave. So you see? For me, it is daily combing and THAT'S probably what causes a lot of frustration among naturals. The constant having to comb their hair every day, and if they happen to sleep on a cotton pillow, OH MY GOODNESS---you can imagine our hair in the morning, lol. So it's a lot. It's not easy at all. Im a type 4c.
      Appreciating all the different points of view though.

    • @hakuqtsukii
      @hakuqtsukii 3 роки тому +2

      @SatelliteOffice Everyone's hair and time is different. I do Chebe, hair mask, pre poo, all that yidda yada and it still time consuming, but I have to admit, easier to manage.

  • @samanthasosa9206
    @samanthasosa9206 3 роки тому +113

    Wait, did you relax right after you relaxed... gurrrrlllllll I’m scared

  • @nisagitty196
    @nisagitty196 2 роки тому +51

    I was natural for 11 years. Relaxed last October and I'm GOOD. Natural hair was becoming way too time consuming (at waist length). Do you! I totally get it

  • @fk8395
    @fk8395 3 роки тому +145

    Been natural for 7years now.
    No dye nothing. And girl I'm relaxing it. I'm tired! I love my hair sooo freaking much but I'm tired of the pain while braiding or styling. Aaaaargh

    • @niyahstudyaccount4456
      @niyahstudyaccount4456 2 роки тому +6

      im relaxing mine too.. im giving up chile i got no time

    • @cedesgee119
      @cedesgee119 2 роки тому +1

      SAME! Literally relaxing mine right now

    • @deviIish
      @deviIish 2 роки тому +1

      im about to.. im sick of it

    • @LoLaBun242
      @LoLaBun242 Рік тому

      Same I already booked my appointment

  • @fashionkeyllah
    @fashionkeyllah 3 роки тому +425

    I feel the same, I wanted to relax my hair last year but kept on postponing because I felt so guilty, I felt like I was betraying someone
    I do not know who? hahaha. Anyway it is one of my resolutions this year, plaiting next week then after that I am relaxing it...lovely video...

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому +46

      girl I literally felt that same way... but it just needed to be done 😂😂

    • @cyyrious
      @cyyrious 3 роки тому +6

      😂🤣😂 I feel you

    • @chaichai012
      @chaichai012 3 роки тому +2

      @T M yep they are

    • @-blickemms5438
      @-blickemms5438 3 роки тому +9

      Girl I just slapped the product on my hair, I was over itt

    • @pointingitout5624
      @pointingitout5624 3 роки тому +2

      Me too! I'm going to relax it later this year

  • @Smwhereasleeprn
    @Smwhereasleeprn 3 роки тому +52

    I’ve been natural since 2014 and I wholeheartedly regret it 😂 I’m glad you did what you needed to do for yourself despite what others have to say about it.

  • @jasmyntailor3810
    @jasmyntailor3810 3 роки тому +38

    my mouth dropped when you restarted! you're a real trooper for doing it twice. it looked good in the end!

  • @fifixcx1433
    @fifixcx1433 3 роки тому +239

    i keep seeing everyone say don’t listen to the negative comments and first of all i see none second of all be positive like damn y’all lowkey the negative vibes

  • @Meetthebutlerstv
    @Meetthebutlerstv 3 роки тому +23

    This is the same exact thing I went through 4 years ago. I was so tired of maintaining my natural hair. It's only so many times you can dye, flatiron, twist out, braid out, etc. your hair and be satisfied with it, we are women and our hair is our crown and glory and sometimes you can be just unhappy with your crown and glory and you need a change. Sometimes you just got to try shit out. I FULLY support this decision cause guess what, you can get a fresh start once you're tired of that relaxer.
    Believe me Sis, I done did it all, shaved my head, bleached, dreaded it up, rocked an afro. Right now I'm relaxed and transitioning it back out, I relaxed it about a year ago, now I want to change it up again.
    It's your hair, experiment. Worse casinario , like you said, it fall out. Oh well, it's hair it'll grow back. 🤍❤🤍🤍❤❤❤🐞

  • @AuthorLHollingsworth
    @AuthorLHollingsworth 3 роки тому +68

    Im relaxed, and waist length. Your hair is beautiful regardless, if natural/ relaxed.

  • @Nayamirie
    @Nayamirie 3 роки тому +67

    I wanna get a relaxer again ... when I had my relaxer my hair was so long and thick . Now that I’m pretty much natural it’s so much work and my hair is shorter and breaking more 😭

    • @natashaw4005
      @natashaw4005 3 роки тому +5

      That’s because some people Jaír strive more when it’s relaxed

    • @michellemensah2098
      @michellemensah2098 3 роки тому +2

      Literally same and my brother and mom are saying no but my sisters are saying sure and I don’t even know what to do. I went natural but now I have 4D hair and I just want the relaxer back. 😭

    • @lifewithkasha
      @lifewithkasha 2 роки тому

      Same!!!!!

    • @kaylove4507
      @kaylove4507 Рік тому

      That's because most of the products for black hair are full of water and alcohol You're not actually getting moisture out of them. Also relaxers open up the hair follicle so that you can absorb moisture and retain moisture for long period of time moisture is what makes the hair grow. Think about why on every hair ad keywords like moisture get rid of frizz get rid of dry brittle hair because all of that is prone to breakage. Every product out is marketed to sell moisture because the hair needs moisture to grow. Even white women and non-black women perm or relax their hair because some of them too have textured hair. There are a lot of Hispanic women with three type hair who relax their hair because they need to lol.

  • @julia9.3252
    @julia9.3252 3 роки тому +108

    I hope you don’t listen to the people judging your decision, cause first of all you are gorgeous either way and second of all, if it makes you happy, you do you !!

  • @chocolat917
    @chocolat917 3 роки тому +113

    “If my hair falls out, it falls out” very matter of fact and I love it 😂

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому +5

      😂😂

    • @86Kera
      @86Kera 3 роки тому +1

      Lol that was funny

  • @latlats
    @latlats 2 роки тому +15

    You know, I just recently went back to relaxing my hair. I tried going back natural and it didn't work out. I think there is this stigma that if we relax our hair, we aren't "real" black women... and it's not fair because not everyone has time and money to maintain that well neat natural look. Not everyone can handle the natural look. And I felt guilty at first because it's like I said I felt like I was acting like a "real" black woman.
    But I realize is that having my hair relaxed it suits me and I can keep my hair healthy and maintained. I have a very good hairstylist who's been doing my hair 15 years. And she educates me in how to maintain healthy hair.
    I am happy like this, I feel like myself again. I also realize that there is no REAL black woman. You simply are who you are. Nerdy, weird, open to a higher calling, whatever...I am who am I and you are who you are.
    May the LORD bless you all, and may you be who you need to be.

  • @ennvee1989
    @ennvee1989 3 роки тому +39

    Girl get rid of that ORS hair mousse, it has rubbing alcohol in it. That stuff broke off my hair so bad. The mousse from LottaBody is a lot better for your hair and it is quite cheap too.

    • @TheTjoy910
      @TheTjoy910 3 роки тому

      I love the lotta body mousse! Both of the kinds they have.

  • @sammy-gayjackson5041
    @sammy-gayjackson5041 2 роки тому +14

    When she said “I am so sick and tired of this “ I felt it because that’s how I feel right now

  • @blue-pi7vy
    @blue-pi7vy 3 роки тому +16

    Me and my sister thinking about relaxing our hair. I was relaxed until my 9th grade year in hs and I should’ve stayed relaxed. It’s so much work and we get super stressed. It looks beautiful, and thanks for giving us the extra push!!

  • @doneshageorge7284
    @doneshageorge7284 3 роки тому +53

    I’m going to relax my hair!!! Like she said I am sick and tired looking at my hair they way she had her hair is the way I wake up every morning 💯 there’s nothing wrong with 4c hair but I’m just tired of it .. I literally cry sometimes bc I just wish I had different ways to wear my hair but I think imma go head and get it relaxed

    • @elle_aire4789
      @elle_aire4789 3 роки тому +13

      Girl same! I have soft curly natural hair idk what texture it is but I can literally use water to get curls and go but otherwise I be looking like a crack head and I don't know what to do to my hair. I see styles on UA-cam but tbh if u not glammed and wearing makeup those styles look awkward asl. I'm so insecure about my appearance now but kinda feel like if I perm it I'm doing something wrong. I'm so tired of it

    • @doneshageorge7284
      @doneshageorge7284 3 роки тому +4

      @@elle_aire4789 sameee!!! Like I just don’t get it 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️the frustration I have when it comes down to my hair is crazyyy

    • @neqj5104
      @neqj5104 3 роки тому +1

      Girl same! I'm this 👌🏾 close lol

    • @Michelle-xb4nz
      @Michelle-xb4nz 2 роки тому +7

      I am 35 years old and tired of wearing a puff or bun all the time. I would love to have different ways to wear my hair.

  • @amoraisonguyo9618
    @amoraisonguyo9618 3 роки тому +12

    love this. u literally just explained my every reason for relaxing my hair.

  • @stevieann2491
    @stevieann2491 2 роки тому +18

    Let's just all handle our OWN hair how ever we choose and not worry about the next persons hair. Natural, relaxed, textured or whatever, let's just leave each other alone about the hair.

  • @LoneWolf-wy5qd
    @LoneWolf-wy5qd 3 роки тому +10

    Even though I'm natural I still be watching perming and straightening videos they're just so satisfying to watch especially the ones with big chop or straight back to curly. Off topic but ya chill out if someone perm their hair than that's their decision honestly I sometimes stress over my hair a lot of people just don't got the time or patience and that's fine.

  • @mariahreed5102
    @mariahreed5102 2 роки тому +3

    Literally how I am feeling! I resonated with EVERY word you said. You’re gorgeous no matter what babe ✨

  • @DonatellaButt
    @DonatellaButt 2 роки тому

    Omg I’m obsessed! It is so cute before and after!!

  • @thewritergrl
    @thewritergrl 3 роки тому +5

    The video started and I was so blown away by your beauty, it literally took my breath away. I had to click like straight away. Wow.

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому

      Aww thank you so much 🥰

  • @hakuqtsukii
    @hakuqtsukii 3 роки тому +5

    Your hair is sucha vibe. It remind me so much of my aunts in the Caribbean that would have relaxed hair. Thank you for giving me a wave of nostalgia lol.

  • @souljaslim0778
    @souljaslim0778 3 роки тому +22

    LMAO the break between the two relaxers 😭

  • @uniquely_chyy6551
    @uniquely_chyy6551 2 роки тому +23

    Relaxer twice in one day on bleached hair? Your lucky your hair didn't fall out girl please don't do that in future and please read the instructions xx you look great xx

    • @Kokoro562
      @Kokoro562 2 роки тому +4

      there's still the risk of longterm damage

  • @miatamar
    @miatamar 3 роки тому +131

    Sis you relaxed your hair back to back?

    • @NajSinghs
      @NajSinghs 3 роки тому +10

      👀🤦

    • @geniepyt3123
      @geniepyt3123 3 роки тому +1

      OMG

    • @exilelovebaby
      @exilelovebaby 3 роки тому +47

      Yo I nearly had a heart attack when she got another box.......

    • @Brandiatl
      @Brandiatl 3 роки тому +23

      Over processed and will not make your hair straighter. It’s for sure going to break off and will be difficult to style. Should have gotten help with the 1st relaxer and do your own touch ups.

    • @melfrancois4625
      @melfrancois4625 3 роки тому +4

      Tf did she just relaxed her hair twice no sis

  • @vanessathomas7437
    @vanessathomas7437 3 роки тому +16

    Depending how long your hair is and its thickness(volume), you may have to buy 2 boxes of home relaxers. Many of those have small containers of product; or you can buy a 'Double Pack'.

  • @thatsmynamja732
    @thatsmynamja732 3 роки тому +121

    I've always been told that when you have color treated hair you can't get a relaxer. You also should definitely never ever again relax your hair twice in one shot. You're super lucky your hair didn't just tap out the 2nd time around lol. For the touch up I think you should let a professional do it. Despite tbe many comments here imho there's nothing wrong with relaxers. If you have the right people doing them for you and you are good at maintaining your hair then your hair won't suffer. My hair looked amazing when I had it relaxed and the only reason i decided to go natural was because I legit didn't know what my natural hair looked like being that I had been relaxed since I was 5 or 6. Honestly feel like going back relaxed because of the convenience.

    • @modestinemungo8140
      @modestinemungo8140 3 роки тому +5

      Oh youre saying.. Wait a min.. Yes u can relaxed color treated hair.. You have to wait at least about two weeks before relaxing it.. But were you saying. " You shouldnt do it at 🏡? Because my stylist always relaxes his customers whose hair is colored and 9 times out of 10 he did the color. But ok. Kool!

    • @jeanett8416
      @jeanett8416 3 роки тому +4

      @@modestinemungo8140 you are not suppose to relax color treated hair. Kim Kimble which is a famous hair stylist, make her clients choose between color or relaxer but not both. your stylist suck lol

    • @Cnal01
      @Cnal01 3 роки тому

      That’s the reason I went natural too lol. Just to see what my natural texture is like. Im ready to go back to the relaxer too. My hair is way too thick.

    • @elle_aire4789
      @elle_aire4789 3 роки тому +2

      Same reason I went natural. I love my curls but I literally dont know what to do to my hair other than an afro or a wash and go. Otherwise it is very unkempt and it makes me feel insecure

  • @augustvirgo26
    @augustvirgo26 3 роки тому +14

    Felt that rant in the beginning lmfao. I cut all of my hair off last year in August so I could do finger waves and that didn’t work, so I tried relaxing it and I did that wrong. So, now I currently have a TWA and hopefully I can take care of it better now lmao, if I don’t get lazy 😩

  • @scrubz.n.squatz2495
    @scrubz.n.squatz2495 3 роки тому +50

    It’s the voice for me..... girl !!!

  • @itstorrie4809
    @itstorrie4809 2 роки тому +4

    yess i’ve been natural since i was 15, and now i’m about to be 23 and i just cannot deal with my thick, tight 4c hair anymore. styling it literally gives me migraines. i’m ready for a relaxer so it can be more manageable for me to keep up with.

    • @_chrisxtinaa
      @_chrisxtinaa 2 роки тому +3

      as a person with 4c, relaxers work wonders for me 😭 it just makes it easier to style and manage

  • @adreannasmith9686
    @adreannasmith9686 2 роки тому +4

    So glad I’m not alone 😭I have this same problem with my 4c hair and I think on Christmas I decided I can’t do this anymore so I’m relaxing my hair next week☺️but u look good

    • @jasminehiii
      @jasminehiii 10 місяців тому

      how did relaxing your hair go? is it healthy and easy to maintain? im thinking about relaxing too :)

  • @annaisbrown7628
    @annaisbrown7628 3 роки тому +45

    NEVER RELAX YOUR HAIR TWICE IM SHOCKED HER HAIR DIDNT FALL OUT

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому +29

      I know my hair lol it’s super thick, and I knew it wasn’t gonna fall out 🙂 either way if it didn’t work I would’ve shaved my head 😂

  • @absolutedrey8642
    @absolutedrey8642 3 роки тому +11

    Sleeping relaxed hair is so easy definitely relaxing my hair

  • @livingwithavery
    @livingwithavery 11 місяців тому

    I love it, and you’re hair is absolutely beautiful babes. You did an amazing job, good job babes! ❤

  • @Plushiecandie
    @Plushiecandie 3 роки тому +2

    Lol im living for ur confidence girl!! 😂❤

  • @kkelseym
    @kkelseym 2 роки тому +38

    Oh girl everything you said in the beginning is how I feel right now. I'm tired of my 4C as well and will be perming my hair again soon.

  • @soniayancy533
    @soniayancy533 2 роки тому +5

    If this ain't the MOST RELATABLE VIDEO...from the blonde dye to being OVER IT! I purchased a relaxer an got all setup but bc it'd been yearsss since relaxing, I decided to look for videos relaxing CURLY HAIR...and your video w/ same HAIR and DYE came up!!! "Relaxing my hair in 2021 bc I'm over it" 🤣🤣🤣 not exact but I felt that! I'm tired of WAKING UP WITH DREDS, or when I do my hair... I sweat and gel fades, hair poof up, etc...😭😭😭 WISH ME LUCK AND THANKS 4 THE PUSH!!!- Sorry for the novel😩🥺🤣 xoxo ❤

    • @ashleycampbell8988
      @ashleycampbell8988 2 роки тому

      girl, I feel this! I have a box just sitting and looking at me and I'm ready to just do it.

  • @shortstackcarly
    @shortstackcarly 2 роки тому +1

    I cry too girl!! I felt that. Ty for this

  • @jasminehiii
    @jasminehiii 10 місяців тому

    this is the exact video I was looking for to motivate me!! ❤️ I have 3c curls and I bleached it over a year ago. I’ve been thinking about relaxing it but I’ve been terrified if my hair would’ve fallen out due to the bleach. im so glad yours turned out just fine :))

  • @kreyol539
    @kreyol539 3 роки тому +109

    Could’ve came out way nicer going to a professional, and processed consistently throughout. Your hair is pretty compromised and dehydrated, & had the additional strain of the slick back. I hope (even while relaxed) you are able to nurse it back to health, so It doesn’t break off. Truly, Best of luck.

    • @ewilliams8099
      @ewilliams8099 3 роки тому +7

      @sweetstarize Lol! I felt that.

    • @vanesalusaria7860
      @vanesalusaria7860 2 роки тому +3

      @sweetstarize If you have to do it yourself, do it well. She seriously compromised her hair.

  • @verajean3239
    @verajean3239 2 роки тому +3

    I have been natural for about 4 years. I’ve done the big chop a year or 2 ago. I have put heat to it a handful of times since going natural, and have gotten braids a handful of times too, but mostly I’ve been wearing headband wigs and regular wigs. Ive NEVER been fully natural before, ever since i could remember my hair has been relaxed. I don’t recall ever seeing my real natural hair before it first got relaxed. Thats how young I was when it first got done. And so now i have NO IDEA how to do it/manage it. I have 4c, MAJOR SHRINKAGE hair. Ive watched countless youtube videos, spent fuckin tons on hair product to follow these youtube videos and it just never works.
    But before going natural I would go to the salon to get it relaxed and honestly it grew better and faster when i was going to the shop getting it relaxed. The minute I would stop going it would stop growing, fall out.
    So now im like, i spend tons on trying to be natural, why not spend on relaxing it myself and maintaining that, at least then i’d be able to wear my real hair more often.
    But ppl are so negative about everything and so i just dont fuckin know what to do😭😭😭
    RANT OVER🤣🤣🤣

  • @mayahyisrael2473
    @mayahyisrael2473 3 роки тому +1

    I had to stop the video @4:00 because I literally died at the fact you “messed up” and went to go get another box my stomach literally hurts from laughing so hard . The struggle is real ain’t it girl ! 😂

  • @brittanyc5476
    @brittanyc5476 3 роки тому +2

    I hate I have to look for videos like this. No one supports me relaxing my hair. I get tired of having to spend hours prepping my hair the night before and the next day after for a hairstyle 😞. I wasn’t born with gifted hands and I get tired of going to the salon. 7 years natural here and I’m over it. So glad I found this video and you are absolutely beautiful 😍

  • @africiawright1396
    @africiawright1396 3 роки тому +19

    ‘If my hair falls out it falls out’ is a mood that I feel with my entire being.

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому +2

      😂😂

    • @africiawright1396
      @africiawright1396 3 роки тому +1

      @@MyaJoelle it is literally my mood rn because I am relaxing my hair tomorrow.

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому +1

      ahhh good luck 💗

    • @africiawright1396
      @africiawright1396 3 роки тому

      @@MyaJoelle Thank youuu❤️❤️❤️

  • @Evax814
    @Evax814 3 роки тому +17

    I can hear you talk for years your voice is everything

  • @Justa_blasian
    @Justa_blasian 3 роки тому +1

    This is the funniest video I’ve seen on UA-cam in a while 😂😂😂

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому

      I’m glad my failure was entertaining 🤣🤣

  • @nosiphov8505
    @nosiphov8505 2 роки тому

    I love the end result and your vibe ❤😍

  • @super-cc3ow
    @super-cc3ow 3 роки тому +20

    I’ve had my natural hair for a while now. I’m getting tired of it, my scalp is to sensitive now for natural hair 😩

  • @allin5201
    @allin5201 3 роки тому +7

    OK I feel the same way She feels. Natural hair is cute and everything that I am done here and I don’t want it anymore. I did not think she was gonna be so funny. 😂😂😂

  • @user-xe4uf7dj5n
    @user-xe4uf7dj5n 6 місяців тому

    this is the best ! 23 getting my very first ever relaxer tomorrow this video was perfect

  • @mvakelly7973
    @mvakelly7973 3 роки тому

    I big choped a month ago, but I am here watching people relax their hair!😂😂I do not regret cutting off my relaxed ends, and i am not here to tell her that what she is doing is wrong, far away from that.. just do what makes you happy, people gonna judge anyway so do it if you want to!🥰❤

  • @ambitiousmissy
    @ambitiousmissy 3 роки тому +25

    I lowkey be wanting to relax my hair, but baybayyyyyy, when I do my wash and go, and then curls be popping, I can’t, I just can’t 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @ItsMeToYou
    @ItsMeToYou 2 роки тому +20

    No big deal if we want to relax our hair. As black women, we'll always be natural 💯. Our DNA isn't going anywhere lol.

  • @mayamclemore1172
    @mayamclemore1172 3 роки тому +1

    I love your personality- don’t change. Beautiful name too btw 🤣

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому

      awww wow you’re so sweet ☺️

  • @maniii1125
    @maniii1125 3 роки тому +1

    omg i just finished watching rep tour on netflix haha great video!

  • @shontaduncan6072
    @shontaduncan6072 3 роки тому +24

    It's okay to straighten your hair after being an active part of the natural hair movement. I am feeling like I want to do it too, and I have a whole NATURAL HAIR CHANNEL (not really active though....haven't had much time to devote to it). That's to say I REALLY embrace being natural ,it is more than about the hair to me - I went natural as a part of a wholistic, being the best me kind of thing...meaning what you see is exactly WHO I am, you know?
    Anyway, I do understand the pressure some persons may feel, as if they are being hypcrite and no longer supporting black beauty, but don't feel that way.
    The only thing I don't like about straightened hair is that it is chemicals going into my scalp and I really don't like that :(. But I think I want a change and so I might do it. If anything, I'll just cut it all off and go natural again. :)

  • @mamuzo1328
    @mamuzo1328 3 роки тому +4

    My hair was relaxed up until I was 15, I loved my relaxed hair and I still do like relaxed hair, I went natural, big chopped and everything because I wanted to try it and I was really into the whole curly thing. I still have natural hair and I still love straight relaxed hair.

  • @ell3447
    @ell3447 2 роки тому

    You’re beautyyyyyyy🥰🥰. Thank you for helping me make my decision ❤️

  • @maemeraki5005
    @maemeraki5005 2 роки тому +1

    I love her lmao!!! She is the definition of YOLO!!!🥰🥰🥰🥰💚💙

  • @MissCrownRoyal1
    @MissCrownRoyal1 3 роки тому +5

    The way you slapped that Vaseline on your head. 🤣🤣

  • @dapoohbear7501
    @dapoohbear7501 3 роки тому +2

    I subscribed within seconds of the video starting. You got me laughing and feeling the same struggle with mine

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому +1

      aww thank you! you’re so kind 🥰

  • @vaniapetlane8391
    @vaniapetlane8391 2 роки тому +1

    Girlllll. I completely understand you. I bleached my hair and it's always dry at the ends. I'm doing this soon as it's been a year after the bleaching

  • @ArianneMcD
    @ArianneMcD 3 роки тому

    You’re so pretty omg

  • @kgabomolele3346
    @kgabomolele3346 3 роки тому +28

    Okay but why am I terrified of relaxing my hair, 😂

    • @lucashairtie9034
      @lucashairtie9034 3 роки тому +1

      Same like girls in school be like 'omh I so totally permed my hair when I was younger and my hair dropped' so I'm scared my hair will too especially since it came a long way from heat damage

    • @lyricsznn3477
      @lyricsznn3477 3 роки тому +2

      @@lucashairtie9034 I’ve been relaxed since kindergarten now I’m in 8th and it’s nothing to be scared of I promise 💀just don’t scratch your hair the day before a relaxer

    • @randyranda8881
      @randyranda8881 3 роки тому +6

      My mom forced me since kindergarden.
      It burns your scalp like hell or maybe I was just too sensitive.
      Always looking kinda ugly, dry, frizzy, tangle... It's only my experience as a child/teens who didn't know better 😂
      When you do it once, you have to continue or else you will have to deal with 2 textures.
      So you do a big chop 🙂
      The end lol

    • @bluevlade
      @bluevlade 3 роки тому +4

      do as you want obviously but relaxing your hair is more prone to being damaged. of course you can have relative healthy hair but it’s really not worth it in my opinion.

    • @Smwhereasleeprn
      @Smwhereasleeprn 3 роки тому

      You shouldn’t be. Just weigh the pros and cons.

  • @marionsanders8733
    @marionsanders8733 3 роки тому +7

    Gonna relax mine for the army I don’t wanna struggle putting my hair in a low slick bun

  • @luhcow2332
    @luhcow2332 3 роки тому

    Yess just relaxed after 4 years ✨✨✨

  • @ashajones2791
    @ashajones2791 2 роки тому

    Such a pretty girl. I think your natural hair looked better but of course you do whatever you want to your hair.

  • @tigana
    @tigana 3 роки тому +42

    I’m not upset at you for relaxing your hair but please remember little black girls are learning how to view their hair by how we discuss and relate to it.

    • @denyshadials5702
      @denyshadials5702 3 роки тому +11

      That part. They are listening and thinking about how people view them and their hair. The boys too...

    • @bribriiiiietiouf
      @bribriiiiietiouf 3 роки тому +3

      PERIODT sis

    • @urmom777
      @urmom777 3 роки тому +18

      They can learn from their parents she's nobody's role model.

    • @denyshadials5702
      @denyshadials5702 3 роки тому +6

      @@urmom777
      That’s not a choice an individual makes. When someone, especially a child, is inspired by you that’s simply the affect of your presence-how you live and perceive life. The only thing you can decide is to be a good influence or a bad one.

    • @urmom777
      @urmom777 3 роки тому +11

      @@denyshadials5702 i don't understand what a person doing what they wanna do with their own body has anything to do with a child that isn't even theirs but ok. ..

  • @TheAnonyy
    @TheAnonyy 3 роки тому +48

    I could tell straight away she didn't do it properly the first time. Hope she understands what she is doing from now on, don't want her burning her scalp or hair falling out.

  • @sevannadunbar7470
    @sevannadunbar7470 3 роки тому +1

    I have thick curly hair, (not what’s in my profile pic lol that’s a fake pony extension) and even though I go natural and love it, it is still hard to manage at times. If relaxing it is what makes you happy and confident, then you go girl! It looks stunning curly or straight, keep on shining. 💅🏽💘

  • @sisterbrother6357
    @sisterbrother6357 3 роки тому

    Was scared with two treatment so close, but so glad you are happy!

  • @EbonyWhitee
    @EbonyWhitee Рік тому +3

    People dont understand how exhausting curly and kinky textured hair is! Especially if you have daughters; you gotta do their hair too! It's never ending!!!

  • @NyapouchMakuach
    @NyapouchMakuach 3 роки тому +4

    I’m gonna get a relaxer soon too, I’m so sick of dealing with the curls lol

  • @Oreoluwa
    @Oreoluwa 3 роки тому +6

    Oh goodness when you said your hair was bleached and you want to relax it I was like “ooo let’s see how this goes”😭

  • @help1227
    @help1227 2 роки тому

    How long ago did you change the color in your hair ? I want to relax but I definitely did a color lifter like two years ago…

  • @vernitaarty9288
    @vernitaarty9288 2 роки тому

    How long was your hair bleached before relaxing it?
    I have 4a natural bleached hair and I want to get a relaxer for the first time in 3 years because I am tired but I'm scared of loosing my hair

  • @rajeeka2180
    @rajeeka2180 2 роки тому +35

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  • @AyeyiA
    @AyeyiA 3 роки тому +8

    When I was 5 my mum relaxed it then changed her mind I had to cut it so short. Its taking forver to grow. Now I’m 14 🤪

  • @AnimeLover-mn2wg
    @AnimeLover-mn2wg 2 роки тому

    is there any relaxers that wont turn your hair pin straight but make your curl pattern looser. like 4c to 4a

  • @Ohemaa_Gold
    @Ohemaa_Gold 3 роки тому +2

    Girl I’m thinking about relaxing my hair too...every time I try doing my hair it hurts and on top of that I always get a headache, I’m lowkey scared lol but oh well.

  • @mdowe80
    @mdowe80 Рік тому +7

    Ok so you permed your hair 2x in one day, with bleached ends and 4c hair ...youve slayed every myth about relaxed hair lol!! i am convinced its just how you do it and not the product itself! thanks

  • @ToriOfTheNile
    @ToriOfTheNile 3 роки тому +6

    NOT YOU RELAXING UR HAIR BACK TO BACK 😭 never that girl, never that. Ima pray to the hair gods on ur behalf

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому +4

      😂😂 I realized it was a bad decision after... but nothing happened after I did it

  • @lashawnspann
    @lashawnspann 2 місяці тому

    i am 100000000% with you sister !!!! my hair is a struggle in the morning , i be so ready to cry

  • @Teenuke
    @Teenuke Рік тому

    How did you relax your hair with dye on it without it falling out?

  • @theflowerchild8899
    @theflowerchild8899 3 роки тому +5

    You're really pretty ignore the comments and do what you want it's hair❤

  • @LoveYAH7
    @LoveYAH7 3 роки тому +41

    You relaxed it... just to put it in a slick back .I’m sorry sis the natural looked better😭 Just my opinion but it’s your hair your choice . You’re really pretty btw

    • @nayentertainment7603
      @nayentertainment7603 3 роки тому +5

      She sure did

    • @MyaJoelle
      @MyaJoelle  3 роки тому +24

      hey, thanks for letting me know you’re opinion... but it’s way easier to maintain for me and it makes me really happy...... I’m going to be straightening it soon tho dw☺️

  • @TheJalenjdog14211
    @TheJalenjdog14211 3 роки тому

    LOVE IT!

  • @alexlugo452
    @alexlugo452 Рік тому +1

    This is the first video i can find where someone is relaxing their color treated natural hairrr😭😭 My hair is in the same state and Im looking to see if it’s safe for me to relax my hair. I last dyed in April