Retirement Regrets: Philippines
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- Опубліковано 4 жов 2024
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My Secret Story of overcoming the #lonliness epidemic in the west and my #retirement regrets after leaving the work force. Lack of quality friendships and possibly choosing the wrong #relationship. It Was a perfect storm, work and life experiences and #depression hit.
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Rob share his difficult career and personal trauma after his divorce which led to his dramatic life change in the Philippines in an #agegaprelationships with Chrissy.
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Rob, appreciate your transparency and vulnerability, I am certain you speak for many of us! We should live with no regrets, however, worry and uncertainty paralyze most of us. Enjoy a great day brother.
Thank you for that comment. I really appreciate it and thanks for watching our channel.
No, but I saw this on Boot Hill :
_Remember me, for as you are, so once was I, and as I am, you soon will be. Remember me._
I want that on my tombstone too.
Just remember I have never seen a tombstone that reads "Beloved Co-worker." Enjoy your life with your friends and loved ones.
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This was a fantastic video Rob. I hear the price of gold is way up, and yet this video was free - that makes you a very generous person.
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I divorced at age 51 and lost my job simultaneously. I had kids to support and found myself working for a greatly diminished income for the next seven years. Lucky for me, I made a lot of money during the pandemic which allowed me to retire two years early . My saga found me losing my social circle but I have compensated for it by moving into a front porch community. Next stop is a visit to The Philippines. I have been in a LDR for several months and it is time to take things to the next level.
Go now Doug!
@@mrhouse3826 Yes Rob exactly. October
That's exciting! congratulations
Douglas, thanks for sharing your experience and for the positive feedback. Let me know if I can help with your upcoming trip.
Another gem Rob! I like to say no one escapes this life unscathed. We all get our asses handed to us in one way shape, form, or another. For myself, I only know how to learn two ways: kicking and screaming and the hard way. You don't have to get up 10 times, just the next time. Appreciate the passion, care, and amazing insights. One month out to the PH!
Very interesting video Rob. You relate with the lives of many more people than you could ever imagine.
Your insight into one’s options are uplifting and profound.
Thank you for opening your life up so publicly, that can’t be easy.
May God not only continue to bless your UA-cam channel, but you life as well.
Bob, Chrissy and I wish we had hundreds of supporters like you. You’re the best. Thanks for your comment.
Rob, thanks for dropping this candid, vulnerable video… it’s among the most relatable ones I’ve ever seen. I’m 15 years behind you, but with virtually identical life experiences to what you’ve shared.
While I’ve been fortunate to have already seen much of the world🌏, I’m still based here in the US completing my devoted single dad tour of duty.
I’m not one to need mentorship, per se, but I’d love to chat with you sometime to share and refine our life philosophies. I’ll try to reach out on my next visit to the beautiful 7,200 island archipelago!
Cheers,🍻
Thanks Columbus you can reach out to me by email at fly me to the Philippines
Very encouraging video. In life, I believe there are no up’s without a few downs! We all have the power to turn our life around.
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You hit all the important retirement, personal, financial and relationship points. 😊😊😊keep up the great content. Lots of points to do more sole searching.
Thanks Art always happy to see you here. Appreciate your comment and sharing.
great vid Rob. your experiences are very typical of many retirees in the west. the kids grow up and build their own lives. the working life ends. we find ourselves stuck with a partner-relationship that doesnt work anymore. most of us need a new gig. the people that succeed in retirement search for and find a new life. you have done that. i talked my son out of going into the real estate bizness. that is a cluster fart world. i wrote high end mortgages for a bank for 12 years. i speak from experience about the real estate headache. you should consult soon-to-be retirees what they can expect. tell them to have a plan. you do your best work when Chrissy brings the munney home to the fam in the province😁
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Exceptional video Rob! So many nuggets of gold here! Hope this one breaks records! WOW what a turn around! Rob is absolutely living his best life! 🙏🙏❤️❤️
@@etfremd ❤️ Thank you Eric
You said a mouthful! I am in the exact same situation you were when you were back in the US. My marriage has failed. My self esteem is gone. My savings are depleted from being forced into living in Hawaii for 8 years, and my Social security check is very low, so I worry every day. On top of that, I am having a hard time getting out of expensive Hawaii. In 2020 I got Covid, and that damaged my health. Now I am working on my health and looking for a purpose in life.
Who would want to be with an old guy with wrinkles, hair loss, a negative attitude, poor health, and waining finances? No one in their right mind. Even I don't want to be with someone like that! LOL
You have no idea how much you will be appreciated in the Philippines. And when you are appreciated so much, it's the best uplift. Just go brother.
A move to the Philippines or another low expense country could solve that. You will probably get healthier inside and out and that will set you up for finding a great partner. Don't rush it. Get in a better place first before pursuing a relationship. Then when the right one comes along it will be remarkable!
Thank you for sharing ,Rob . Your story resonates with mine so strongly.Listening to how you have survived the isolation and are now thriving gives me hope I can make sense of my life again. The misery is real and a box as you say. Thank you. Doug Stewart
Thanks for the feedback, Doug
Randy, do you know what the solution is?
Nice presentation Rob!
Woulda-Coulda-Shoulda is weaved throughout this video and that’s good for those who are sitting on the fence. It’s a win+win situation if some of us pick, choose and apply your findings through your life learning experiences ie; exercising and simultaneously gaining knowledge, carefully choosing the right partner and knowing one’s compatibility to avoid a regretful full life
It’s amazing how the “box” of loneliness can still exist if you choose the wrong partner.
Keep up the great work Rob, I might take you up on your offer of a one hour session 😊.
Thanks for the feedback Samuel and for the kind words would be great to talk. You can contact me through email in the description box.
Rob, this was one of your best. It adds clarify to how you got here and who you are.
Thanks so much, Rich
I have been medically retired from the military since 2002, married twice and divorced for over 20 years. Raised my three kids on my own and now that they are grown and on their own my life is great. I have tons of hobbies and a lot of peace in my life. Not one time since my last divorce 2o plus years ago have I ever felt lonely. I love my life and after my dog passes I will be traveling to SE Asia, not to find a woman but because I love to travel and the only place I haven't been is Asia.
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Thanks for the pep talk Rob. It was brave of you to share your hardships and inspirational to hear how far you have come.... and how we can do it too. Funny, I always took you to be in a fraternity. Proud to be a Phi. Peace and Love, B Goat
FIJI B GOAT
Perfect analysis. Well done, Rob.
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Boredom is something that I am concerned about myself. That's one reason why I don't want to retire as long as I enjoy my work and I am healthy enough to keep on going. And moving to the PH won't fix that, even if I will have a loving devoted partner (she will have to work FT while I would be alone at home).
I hope you find your way to a solution. Thanks for sharing.
Rob..great video...I am not alone...and I don't have a wife or a girlfriend...My job keeps me busy and most women don't like being in a relationship with Airline Pilots..Cause we are always gone and busy working...But I do get the jus of what you are saying...hope to meet you and Crissy when I visit next year..You two are my kind of people to get to know..
Right on
Life gave you a kick in the rear to find your luck..you would never have moved to the Philippines otherwise. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
So true!
Excellent video. As far as loneliness goes, if you’ve already turned over every rock in the USA, and still are relatively lonely, there is not much risk in pulling up roots and going overseas.
it’s an asymmetric trade / risk. Little downside, lots of upside.
Good video Rob..I can relate...
Thanks for the feedback onward and upward
True story. I had a relationship with a Filipina who is now married in England, but I’m still friends with her mom. And I always felt bad for her mom because she was married to this retired guy who had a bad heart he was out of shape and she didn’t know how to drive so she was kind of stuck in the apartment with him. But she was part of the local Filipino political/committee and they had an annual Christmas gala event, Which she invited me to. As for myself I’m an NYer living in NC, post divorce etc. basically I have zero local friends.
So At this gala Xmas party which has roughly 400 ppl, she knows a LOT of them. She’s one of the 3 highest ranking ppl on the committee. She introduces me to a crap ton of ppl, including a state senator. And all along I’m feeling sorry for her being lonely. incredible.
Thanks for sharing
Rob, you’re a thinker and probably have a lot of inner dialogue conversations just like myself. I had a large photography business that didn’t make it through that great resession. A lot of teeth-nashing days. But, we all have to adapt to the new landscape and get something great going on. I have all the same concerns you have and you made it! Thanks, Patrick.
Patrick you’re so right finding a way forward is the key
Thanks for sharing more about your background. Now I totally understand why you are so good at your videos. I really like the idea you had regarding having conversations about your three favorite topics: history, philosophy, and politics. Those are all right up there with my favorites too.
I was in the Photography, Wedding Planning business in Hawaii. Great job, but I worked 7 days a week 16 hour days. If I had kept it up I would be dead from a heart attack now.
I retired a year ago and moved to a small village in the countryside. I’ve never been happier took up tennis and golf. I’m single but lucky to meet a great bunch of people and have made some great friends
Great to hear Paul
Hi Rob - a very personal and interesting topic. Best regards from Denmark
👋 Bent. Thanks
Rob,
I’ve been watching your videos for a while now and I always been interested in your background.
I now can see that you are a thinker and broad minded person like me who is interested in history, politics, economics, philosophy, culture, the arts, real estate, business, psychology, science, almost everything.
I think you have found the key to the secret of happiness in life.
I am in my late 70’s and have had very similar life experiences as you.
I have had two troubled marriages in the past and am currently recently married.
I think we could have endless conversations about everything and just sharing our knowledge and experiences.
Science and math was the love of my life in high school, but I majored in philosophy in college and anthropology in graduate school.
I got married soon after and was forced to support a family.
I went into real estate finance and had to learn all about business to survive and support my family.
But business was never my true love, it was just easy for me because I was good at math and science.
I’ve had my up and downs in business, too.
I live in Hawaii and I hope that I can meet you in person one day.
Glad you can afford to live in Hawaii. It's the best place for the weather. But you must have a good income and for that reason, it's long past time for me to leave.
Thanks for taking the time to share. I appreciate your support.
Great Video Rob!
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Rob this video really strikes a,note .wow
Thanks, Toby
we have several parallels, thanks for sharing.
Thanks for watching!
Cool video-my dad loved to travel too-the century club (over 100 countries) ! He even visited the island and dated my ex’s best friend in Lapu Lapu!
Wow cool Dad
Thanks for sharing Rob.
👍 appreciate the support
Taking a shot each time you said "epidemic" would be one hell of a drinking game!
Props to you my friend. Many guys would have packed it in after take a kick to the cojones like that. Way to pick yourself back up!
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Another good info video
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I've never been bored a day in my life. Being in business I was always busy. The day I sold my business I was retired at 49. Then I moved to the Philippines. I've never been bored. I enjoy my life. Travel is a big part of it. Can you sell my house? I'm joking. Planning my next trip. Do you invest in growth or dividend portfolio? Come on let the rat out of the trap. Hey your honesty, openness is great. Someday your in cebu let's meet for lunch my treat.
Billy, I’m gonna take you up on that
Great video
Glad you enjoyed it
Where would you recommend to go for some snorkeling and possibly learn to Scuba Dive someplace? Thanks.
My late Filipina wife said one of her biggest regrets was not travelling as much. She wished she had travelled more.
Malapasqua
Yes, I am « in that box » like you said… it’s tough.
Keep punching- keep fighting
You nailed it.
Thanks, Dennis
Me thinketh an interesting story which reminds me of something Warren Buffet said which was., when the tide goes out we all see.........who's swimming naked!@!?😃😉
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dito here…but SOLVED!!!
I’m really happy for you. Thanks for watching our videos.
The plight of many men at this age.... no fun at all. Only regret I'd likely have is to not take a risk and try someplace like the Philippines. Pretty much covered everything else but the loneliness.
Take the risk = no regrets
You really speak for so many of us, I was sucker punched getting served with divorce papers when I was out at the supermarket, now a year passed, I’m trying to financially recover!! I’m trying so hard to put together money to come there, BUT living here in N.Y. State is keeping me down just to get by on my pension & S.S. If I could just get there I’d be golden I have a good amount of $$ to live well there BUT Not here, with the Alimony, and crazy living bills!! I feel trapped here, and don’t own anything or have any family here, just can’t save enough for the plane ticket, hotel and have money to live on when I first get there until I start receiving my next payment after I’m there, then I’d be great! I just can’t get out of here !!!???!!?! I don’t even rent an apartment, I’m living in my Truck which isn’t payed off yet ether, and have to pay for storage unit that just has my personal property, no furniture she got it all !!! I stuck between a rock and a hard place as they say!! I could let Them repo the the truck & storage unit to save a months worth of. $$ for the expensive to get there, But what do I do for that month?? Live under a tree ???? Any suggestions 🤔🫤🤯🤷🏻♂️
John, sorry to hear about your situation, but as you put together your strategy don't forget... there are no safety nets in PH and you must have an emergency fund of some sort to fall back on. They won't even let you IN the hospital without demonstrating the ability to pay up front. Good Luck. B Goat
John- Don't come to the Philippines without at least $20,000 in an emergency fund. Minimum. AS Rob notes- There is NO safety net for foreigners. Zippo, zero, nada. One operation can set you back $5,000 and they won't let you leave the hospital untill you pay. There are videos all over UA-cam about older guys that went broke in the Philippines and living under terrible circumstances. It's low cost, but its not paradise and there is no safety net. Seek out help from your local county health and human services. Get food from foodbanks. Don't be proud, get the help you need. Local legal aid may be able to help you to lower the alimony amount. Sell the truck if you can and buy a beater car (I drive a 12 year old car that works great). You may want to consider going back to work even if part-time, even if your health sucks. That's how you save some money and come to the Philippines.. After full retirement age they don't reduce your social security for other income you earn. I would guess the alimony has a termination date on it. Set your ex-wife up with a wealthier guy to marry and I think "Cha-ching" no more alimony.
Paul, this is great advice
Everything Paul answered in his reply. I agree with.
Bob Seger sings it best. "you just don't need it all...". As for myself, "I'm a Delt from Arizona, and I don't give a damn..." lol
Thanks for watching our video Ralph
Pinching my pennies to retire in the Philippines at 55 for about $1500 a month until social security kicks in.
You can do it
How are you doing together with the family?
What would be a good budget for 2 people in the Philippines all included please?
Thank you.
I am thinking 1,500 a month, if you stick to a budget
@@randyfocht737 Thank you.
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How the heck did you find a way to pick my brain via me just watching your videos?😮
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It's called getting zeroed out
Exactly TJ
wheres the missus, its more fun with her present
It’s always more fun when she’s present
You exposed the idea of "True friendship", that you didn't have in the US. True friendship is similar to "True Love". It is NOT based on common interests, similar likes, the material world, or physical attraction. All of those end. A true connection is spiritual in nature...ie you are attracted to the qualities of God such as loving kindness, trustworthiness, sincerity, honesty, care and service to make others happy, care of the elderly, the sick and the poor, and gentleness to children. These qualities are spiritual in nature making the true connection a spiritual connection. "We are the flowers of one garden, the leaves of one tree...the waves of one sea". If there is only one God, then all of the religions have come from the same God, and all of humanity from the same God.
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Sorry brother, but this video was so depressing. One of your worst.......
OK, thanks for the feedback
Rather than depressing, it gives us something of reality to think about and deal with. Sometimes dealing with it is difficult, but you never get to the other side of the dark tunnel until you deal with it.
Not at all! This was packed with truth! Rob took action and with a little luck (meeting Chrissy) or Gods work…He has flipped his life 180!
I respect your opinion, but I found a lot of value in it. Depressing... yes. But that is how many of us have live, and maybe are living right now, trying to find a way out. To have joy in our lives once again. I'm glad that you don't need that which means you are already in a good place.
Excellent video. As far as loneliness goes, if you’ve already turned over every rock in the USA, and still are relatively lonely, there is not much risk in pulling up roots and going overseas.
it’s an asymmetric trade / risk. Little downside, lots of upside.
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