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This is the pure reality of what is faced today and the games have to stop and we need to just not put up with this type of behavior. Saying no to the wrong ones is something I have struggled with and this is motivating to stick up for my self and move on to the right people.
This hit home! I have a " dance partner" we dance and text daily! The 'dating' outside of dancing is few ( like you described)... So I try to meet other women for dating. It's been really slow and difficult. My " dance partner" had several life altering complications this past year, ( she's too afraid to open up for help) including the ' big one ' that she claims " I only share this with you, I don't want this getting out,...I have an aortic aneurysm and could die at any moment. Along with other physical ailments. That's why I'm not interested in dating anyone... I want you to remain my friend for life! My surgery can lead to many complications". She's 57, I'm 60 where both retired. Her Husband died 7 yrs ago. Just different circumstances and not sure how to handle it! ( I stay in the good friend zone for now - nice to have a dance partner- we both respectfully, politely dance with other people. Our dance crowd is mostly married couples, but it's hard) Thanks for any input!( Prayers for her S.B. 🙏)
Well done Kimberly just perfect video! The best approach for men is to be brutally upfront or clear of your intentions as soon as possible so you know where you stand. If she has no real interest of intimacy you move on. If she is reciprocating you assess if she's the right women for you or not.
Perfect timing on this topic, Thank you! I went on a few dates with a woman that showed general interest, but was pretty inconsistent with responding or initiating conversations. Turned out after second date that she didn't know if she wanted a relationship at all as she's been alone for the last 2 years and was enjoying her alone time. Now I'm messaging someone who's very communicative, showing interest, lets me know when she will be busy and unable to respond and then gets back to me when she has a chance. It's a world of difference!
Nice advice and points here. Itbis something that I experienced over many, many years. I listened to a few relationship coaches on this. They say to heal yourself ( sounds like a preacher at times). Have plenty of interests and hobbies. Have boundaries and say no once in a while. Be kind to people but do not be a nice guy/ people pleaser. Tell a few jokes. Give hugs and listen and do not attempt to fix problems women have. Do not take up too much or too little space. Same results. Phone is silent. No initiating conversations, only response back. Although not the way to look at things, only expected anything for their validation....
You caught my attention. I'm clueless of her intentions. We haven't had that conversation yet and I think it's too early so there's no way in hell I'm going to be the one to start that conversation. Not that I don't want to.
Well done on bringing that to our attention ! This was something that i discovered myself years ago, but couldn't understand what was happening at the time. It was something that i talked about with my mother to see what she thought about it. She was just as bewildered by such behaviour as me, and said that couldn't ever remember women acting like that when she was younger; it seems like people acted in a more genuine way.
Excellent content Kimberly. I've been on the receiving end of this behavior. Now I give a woman the benefit of the doubt one time, then I walk. Some might think that's too soft. I'm not sure. However, I think the right girls catch the right vibe from the start.
Nowadays, it's easy to confuse genuine interest with a craving for attention. Social media has made superficial validation more common, making it harder to build meaningful connections. It’s important to look beyond surface-level interactions and see if she’s truly invested in you or just enjoying the attention you provide.
Kim, good stuff but I have found the best “tell” that she's just not into us…is that they ask few or no questions about us and our life. Shows no interest in getting to know us.
Thank you for describing yourself the dating scenario I've experienced through my life! I don't get to see a woman talking so clearly about those things in my real life, only on the internet, unfortunately! Makes me remember why I've completely given up on dating. Maybe it's cool/better for people who've not gone through things like that (overall speaking at least, that is, they got a real connection much more often than not), but it seems to me relationships are kinda overrated by society at large. Might be cool in the beginning, but the end always suck, and always seems like a total waste of time. But hey, thanks for the video! ^_^
Lots of “stoic” mindset videos. Ensure that you are a high value man so you don’t get used. We all get to a confused point in life, but the conscious must overpower the heart or d*** at those times. Take a pleasure pause (-o) for 6 months to prioritize other parts of your physical and mental self.
10.3k You are a interesting addition to the female creators in this space and learning to bring across the message along the way. A good counterforce to MGTOW.
This is the reason I rarely she interest when first meeting a gal. If she moves on to someone else before I get good energy from her, I just think “it wasn’t meant to be.” Glad to know I was right even before building myself up. Thanks for the great video!
I am curious about what would be a good amount of time before you decide to continue to pursue the connection with this person.. I am really trying to date intentionally and I’m in no rush to get into anything as I want to be sure this is the right decision long term for myself, as I’ve done a lot of work on myself so I can show up how I want to in relationship and I know there can be a different timeline like you said it could be weeks and or months.. I guess maybe knowing when would be a good amount of before it’s like okay.. we like each other and are we going to do this thing for really.
I wish I’d watched this in March, though I still would’ve been confused, I finally found my purpose and I lost it🙈💔 She did need validation alllll the time, and just didn’t want to do the same back. I’ve had females sending me nudes first time we chatted 😮💨 NOT attractive at all! Now when they slip one in several weeks into getting to know each other, that’s HOT and it works.. maybe too well? 9:39 you hit it, these females lack self awareness, and it hurts it’s disheartening. We don’t feel we belong we’re afraid to reach out when we need it most, due to all these things and the ripping us ALL down cuz one man was horrible to them. So many women think it’s ok to act emotionally available yet they’re not at all!! The whole me me me mentality and attention seeking on SM is SAD and women have 2k lonely men following them thinking they have a chance🤦♂️🙈💔 yet tell a female that- “That’s their problem not mine Ima do what I want” then don’t say you love everyone or are spiritual cuz posting yerself nude and leading many men on daily, is not responsible! But no one takes accountability. I’ve learned my lessons, I don’t deal with these anymore and everytime I throw that boundary up- I go from the most amazing man, to an asshole in 10 seconds 😂 noo confusion is NOT love!!! Yer actually one of the most blunt and realistic women I’ve heard speak on this- new subscriber here🙏✌️🫶
I’ve had some doozies so far. Last one randomly sent me a pic of her nude chained to a wall. For many reasons, I never pursued it. She was married and no it wasn’t a non-monogamous relationship she was in. She swears she was happy in her marriage but I don’t want to be involved in any of that. No matter how hot the pic was.
I've been working virtually with a woman on a project for nine months. Initially, I helped her in critical situations, and since then, she has been very supportive, protective and gives compliments. She even took my number, despite being in a different location, and is trying to help me to get a job at her company. She also sends emojis frequently. I'm confused about whether she likes me or if she’s just being helpful. Any advice ?
Sounds like she likes you. Women are subtle so have to know the signs. She has your number so that is personal connection which you could follow up on if you want to with a date request
I have winner answer ! I wish women would wear more dress,instead of pants,suits,etc,that attrative to me and Help read there body language better etc,so let say iam old school generation,open doors, pull their chair out, paid pay for meals, many other things,just please tell woman quit acting like men ! ⭐Point is tell them put there Phone away,have verable comumacation go back to basic.quit worry about a tips on waiter etc just the facts😊
Womens words and action never aline not sure how you could base anything off of what a women says . She will say she is open and honest and doesn't play games. then stand there and lie to your face .
The problem is that alot of these things could be just regular life. Maybe some days she just doesn’t want to flirt or talk. Even myself as a guy, sometimes I don’t always want to be going at it. Some days she just may not want to be putting out all the stops, or is having a rough day. Its not a universal sign of her being an attention seeker
The take away I get from you: We men seriously need to pump the brakes on our need for validation and intimate body language. We must focus on learning if her morals, values, boundaries, goals and aspirations are in alignment with our own.
Inconsistent communication = she’s got better options and your friend zoned 2. Flirting with you but avoids physical intimacy = she’s using you and has other chad options - she is taking advantage of your simp behavior 3. Constantly needs validation = she has a chad for physical pleasure but wants you for emotional support only. 4. Live in America - become a passport bro 😂
I am curious about what would be a good amount of time before you decide to continue to pursue the connection with this person.. I am really trying to date intentionally and I’m in no rush to get into anything as I want to be sure this is the right decision long term for myself, as I’ve done a lot of work on myself so I can show up how I want to in relationship and I know there can be a different timeline like you said it could be weeks and or months.. I guess maybe knowing when would be a good amount of before it’s like okay.. we like each other and are we going to do this thing for really.
you have to gauge how the communication is going step by step and if there is interest from her and interested in you. Match her frequency of texts or calls. Don't over text which is needy. Only use texts /calls for settng dates not getting to know her. Maintain some mystery for your self, women like that
Don't forget to grab a FREE copy of my checklist: "Is She The One? Your Checklist To Finding The Right Partner" > datingcoach.kimberlyninahill.com/checklist/
You have a beautiful personality
This is the pure reality of what is faced today and the games have to stop and we need to just not put up with this type of behavior. Saying no to the wrong ones is something I have struggled with and this is motivating to stick up for my self and move on to the right people.
This hit home! I have a " dance partner" we dance and text daily! The 'dating' outside of dancing is few ( like you described)... So I try to meet other women for dating. It's been really slow and difficult. My " dance partner" had several life altering complications this past year, ( she's too afraid to open up for help) including the ' big one ' that she claims " I only share this with you, I don't want this getting out,...I have an aortic aneurysm and could die at any moment. Along with other physical ailments. That's why I'm not interested in dating anyone... I want you to remain my friend for life! My surgery can lead to many complications". She's 57, I'm 60 where both retired. Her Husband died 7 yrs ago. Just different circumstances and not sure how to handle it! ( I stay in the good friend zone for now - nice to have a dance partner- we both respectfully, politely dance with other people. Our dance crowd is mostly married couples, but it's hard)
Thanks for any input!( Prayers for her S.B. 🙏)
Well done Kimberly just perfect video! The best approach for men is to be brutally upfront or clear of your intentions as soon as possible so you know where you stand. If she has no real interest of intimacy you move on. If she is reciprocating you assess if she's the right women for you or not.
Thank you! ;-)
Perfect timing on this topic, Thank you! I went on a few dates with a woman that showed general interest, but was pretty inconsistent with responding or initiating conversations. Turned out after second date that she didn't know if she wanted a relationship at all as she's been alone for the last 2 years and was enjoying her alone time. Now I'm messaging someone who's very communicative, showing interest, lets me know when she will be busy and unable to respond and then gets back to me when she has a chance. It's a world of difference!
Exactly!!
Nice advice and points here. Itbis something that I experienced over many, many years.
I listened to a few relationship coaches on this. They say to heal yourself ( sounds like a preacher at times). Have plenty of interests and hobbies. Have boundaries and say no once in a while. Be kind to people but do not be a nice guy/ people pleaser. Tell a few jokes. Give hugs and listen and do not attempt to fix problems women have. Do not take up too much or too little space.
Same results. Phone is silent. No initiating conversations, only response back.
Although not the way to look at things, only expected anything for their validation....
You caught my attention. I'm clueless of her intentions. We haven't had that conversation yet and I think it's too early so there's no way in hell I'm going to be the one to start that conversation. Not that I don't want to.
Well done on bringing that to our attention ! This was something that i discovered myself years ago, but couldn't understand what was happening at the time. It was something that i talked about with my mother to see what she thought about it. She was just as bewildered by such behaviour as me, and said that couldn't ever remember women acting like that when she was younger; it seems like people acted in a more genuine way.
I ghosted, left on read, told off, and blocked over a dozen women in the first week of this year men have options too.
Well that explains alot! Thanks! Got the “friend” text today after several weeks of flirting texts and only 2 dates.
@@jeffcauthen6434 frustrating!
Really wish this kind of behavior was more frowned upon in society. But thanks for the tips
It’s the times we’re in. I agree with you. Now everything that was bad is now good and everything that was good is now bad. It’s coming
Brilliant stuff, Kimberly!
Excellent content Kimberly. I've been on the receiving end of this behavior. Now I give a woman the benefit of the doubt one time, then I walk. Some might think that's too soft. I'm not sure. However, I think the right girls catch the right vibe from the start.
I literally had all 5 of these when online dating back in the day. Nailed it.
Congratulation, very good insights !
Does she want you or just your attention?
Fact is, she doesn't know what she wants, and that's bound to change in a heartbeat.
I've definitely experienced this too many times. This was very insightful. Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
Wow bulls eye accuracy ! Thank you....yes beware of The Jezabell woman !
alternate suggestion to “only if it’s convenient to her”:
“Only if it’s directly BENEFICIAL to her.”
attention mostly nowadays.
social media has destroyed meaningful connections.
It has in many ways, we get our fill from screens and then wonder why we're lonely
@@kimberlynhill sad but true!
Don't do social media beyond minimal useful interactions such as planning events.
Nowadays, it's easy to confuse genuine interest with a craving for attention. Social media has made superficial validation more common, making it harder to build meaningful connections. It’s important to look beyond surface-level interactions and see if she’s truly invested in you or just enjoying the attention you provide.
Almost everyone is some kind of addict now seems a stressed out generation agree social media has been bad for real connections
Kim, good stuff but I have found the best “tell” that she's just not into us…is that they ask few or no questions about us and our life. Shows no interest in getting to know us.
So true.
man this is such a good topic
Kimberly this dress looks good on you ❤
Outstanding! Thank you! 😉
Love your videos - Just Subsribed the channel
Thank you for describing yourself the dating scenario I've experienced through my life! I don't get to see a woman talking so clearly about those things in my real life, only on the internet, unfortunately! Makes me remember why I've completely given up on dating. Maybe it's cool/better for people who've not gone through things like that (overall speaking at least, that is, they got a real connection much more often than not), but it seems to me relationships are kinda overrated by society at large. Might be cool in the beginning, but the end always suck, and always seems like a total waste of time.
But hey, thanks for the video! ^_^
Lots of “stoic” mindset videos. Ensure that you are a high value man so you don’t get used. We all get to a confused point in life, but the conscious must overpower the heart or d*** at those times. Take a pleasure pause (-o) for 6 months to prioritize other parts of your physical and mental self.
Awesome tripical topic
10.3k You are a interesting addition to the female creators in this space and learning to bring across the message along the way. A good counterforce to MGTOW.
Enjoyed your video! Don't you look precious! 😘
Good video
Glad you enjoyed
Love this
This is the reason I rarely she interest when first meeting a gal. If she moves on to someone else before I get good energy from her, I just think “it wasn’t meant to be.”
Glad to know I was right even before building myself up.
Thanks for the great video!
SHE BARTENDER THIS WHAT SHE DOES!!
Thank you!
thx
If she’s interested, she will jump at the chance to hang out with you - together, just the two of you.
Awesome 😎
Guys, no need to be respectful with someone who s not respecting you, just cancel and move on
Hello I have a question is it true that sexual false accusations are common? If yes what should a man to to prevent it?
I am curious about what would be a good amount of time before you decide to continue to pursue the connection with this person.. I am really trying to date intentionally and I’m in no rush to get into anything as I want to be sure this is the right decision long term for myself, as I’ve done a lot of work on myself so I can show up how I want to in relationship and I know there can be a different timeline like you said it could be weeks and or months.. I guess maybe knowing when would be a good amount of before it’s like okay.. we like each other and are we going to do this thing for really.
I wish I’d watched this in March, though I still would’ve been confused, I finally found my purpose and I lost it🙈💔
She did need validation alllll the time, and just didn’t want to do the same back. I’ve had females sending me nudes first time we chatted 😮💨 NOT attractive at all! Now when they slip one in several weeks into getting to know each other, that’s HOT and it works.. maybe too well? 9:39 you hit it, these females lack self awareness, and it hurts it’s disheartening. We don’t feel we belong we’re afraid to reach out when we need it most, due to all these things and the ripping us ALL down cuz one man was horrible to them. So many women think it’s ok to act emotionally available yet they’re not at all!! The whole me me me mentality and attention seeking on SM is SAD and women have 2k lonely men following them thinking they have a chance🤦♂️🙈💔 yet tell a female that- “That’s their problem not mine Ima do what I want” then don’t say you love everyone or are spiritual cuz posting yerself nude and leading many men on daily, is not responsible! But no one takes accountability.
I’ve learned my lessons, I don’t deal with these anymore and everytime I throw that boundary up- I go from the most amazing man, to an asshole in 10 seconds 😂 noo confusion is NOT love!!!
Yer actually one of the most blunt and realistic women I’ve heard speak on this- new subscriber here🙏✌️🫶
I’ve had some doozies so far. Last one randomly sent me a pic of her nude chained to a wall. For many reasons, I never pursued it. She was married and no it wasn’t a non-monogamous relationship she was in. She swears she was happy in her marriage but I don’t want to be involved in any of that. No matter how hot the pic was.
great theories, but assumes you will just fall in love with anyone that ok, this isn't the case. you are in love...what then?
Is there any possible way that a woman can tick all of these behaviours and not be using you for attention and validation? 😅
If a women is talking... she playin games
Who cares. If you don't like the attitude just dump. There are 4 billion women in the world.
I've been working virtually with a woman on a project for nine months. Initially, I helped her in critical situations, and since then, she has been very supportive, protective and gives compliments. She even took my number, despite being in a different location, and is trying to help me to get a job at her company. She also sends emojis frequently. I'm confused about whether she likes me or if she’s just being helpful. Any advice ?
Does she talk to you outside the project? Is her communication consistent outside the project?
Sounds like she likes you. Women are subtle so have to know the signs. She has your number so that is personal connection which you could follow up on if you want to with a date request
I am using women for attention.
Wow your beautiful. Totally my type.
Gentlemen, stop giving attention to undeserving women. If she doesn't worship the ground you walk on.... keep it pushin'.
I have winner answer ! I wish women would wear more dress,instead of pants,suits,etc,that attrative to me and
Help read there body language better etc,so let say iam old school generation,open doors, pull their chair out, paid pay for meals, many other things,just please tell woman quit acting like men ! ⭐Point is tell them put there
Phone away,have verable comumacation go back to basic.quit worry about a tips on waiter etc just the facts😊
@@AaronFeiner summer dresses = heaven 😍
yup, women just have to exist, and they are guaranteed dates or a relationship, thats really no skill there, obviously not the case for men
Womens words and action never aline not sure how you could base anything off of what a women says . She will say she is open and honest and doesn't play games. then stand there and lie to your face .
The problem is that alot of these things could be just regular life.
Maybe some days she just doesn’t want to flirt or talk. Even myself as a guy, sometimes I don’t always want to be going at it.
Some days she just may not want to be putting out all the stops, or is having a rough day.
Its not a universal sign of her being an attention seeker
Certainly not, but if these behaviours are combined, it may indicate an incompatibility or lack of interest 😮
It’s all just games to me, texting is for meet ups only. Sometimes all women want is some witty conversation then gotta just throw them hard 🐓
nobody likes a flirt
The take away I get from you:
We men seriously need to pump the brakes on our need for validation and intimate body language.
We must focus on learning if her morals, values, boundaries, goals and aspirations are in alignment with our own.
❤❤❤
We don't respond to breadcrumbs. We don't negotiate with terrorists
Pos behavior...
Inconsistent communication = she’s got better options and your friend zoned
2. Flirting with you but avoids physical intimacy = she’s using you and has other chad options - she is taking advantage of your simp behavior
3. Constantly needs validation = she has a chad for physical pleasure but wants you for emotional support only.
4. Live in America - become a passport bro 😂
I am curious about what would be a good amount of time before you decide to continue to pursue the connection with this person.. I am really trying to date intentionally and I’m in no rush to get into anything as I want to be sure this is the right decision long term for myself, as I’ve done a lot of work on myself so I can show up how I want to in relationship and I know there can be a different timeline like you said it could be weeks and or months.. I guess maybe knowing when would be a good amount of before it’s like okay.. we like each other and are we going to do this thing for really.
you have to gauge how the communication is going step by step and if there is interest from her and interested in you. Match her frequency of texts or calls. Don't over text which is needy. Only use texts /calls for settng dates not getting to know her. Maintain some mystery for your self, women like that