Pretty well put about the Lady's Miss Kimberly, I went to a store to pick up some stuff , I ran into a Hispanic Woman , we chatted a while , later she told me that her husband had passed away some years back , I told her that I was sorry and also told her that my first ex had passed away in a car accident, We continued talking for a couple of hours , later I told her I would come and see her , she was happy to talk to someone around her age , Now to be brave enough to ask her for an evening together , cause for me it's been a number of years , Thank You , Samuel
What kind of physical problems? If you're overweight then, you know, lose weight; eat better and get frequent exercise, and by eat better I mean eat more fibrous fruits and veg, lean meat and healthy fats whilst cutting out fast releasing carbs and refined sugars. If you mean you think you're ugly then again, do the above, as well as work on your personality, learn to be more of a comedian etc. Remember that just like men, different women value different things and generally speaking women are less visually stimulated than men are, meaning in general women are less drawn to physical appearance than they are to someone who can fulfill them emotionally and sexually, but it all comes down to what she values, but less women are attracted to a ''8-10/10'' man simply because they are a 8,9 or 10. More women are attracted to men who just have themselves together, those who are stable, particularly emotionally because psychologically women often process their emotional highs and lows through their partner, so if they go a bit manic and that freaks you out then that then exacerbates their dysregulation further as opposed to you remaining calm and neutral and talking them down from their highs or up from their lows.
A women will not give a guy she is dating sex for months then all of a sudden give another guy a one night stand. My ex cheated on me and said she did it because she knew it would end our relationship, one man's 5 year relationship was another guys one night stand. So her motivation was to disrespect and betray me. It was emotional and physical sure but it was all negative and wrong. My point is sometimes their motivations are to destroy.
Sorry to break it to you, man, but she was never physically and sexually attracted to you to begin with. She saw you just as a comfortable and safe guy. Women actually know in seconds who they wanna sleep with when first meeting a guy. My point is that unless she is a virgin or a relationship minded if she makes you wait for sex, then the sex and the relationship won't be worth it.
@@staffanlundbergintelligence , emotional intelligence are some what required to develop social status , finacial dominance . Humor makes her feel good. How she feels when with someone does make a difference . In everything there are exceptions .
These points are incomplete 1Physical cash/materialism 2emotional support /protection 3 relational sex to reel you in. 4social goal orientated status for her social media
1 good looking 2 money 3 fame 4 power 5 status 6 height 7 confidence 8 humor 9 job 10 being what they can't have 11 house 12 experience with relationships 13 goal orientated 14 emotional to a certain point 15 social 16 physical 17 being able to flirt 18 being a guy that a lot women want 19 biology/science 20 survival instincts/good genes 21 pleasure 22 games 23 pension 24 protection 25 leadership 26 assertive 27 security 28 understanding 29 not boring 30 high energy 31 intellectual 32 wanting to create a life 33 age 34 Attention 35 Validation 36 Lifestyles 37 Friendship 38 Social ques 39 Body language 40 Motivations 41 Feelings 42 Language 43 Love 44 Passion 45 Connection.
So I’m 64 and date younger women, generally in the mid thirties to mid forties, and I find that financial security is a huge motivational factor with women in this age group! Secondly, emotional supportiveness and feeling desired, even though that doesn’t frequently result in sexual desire for them. Thirdly, maintaining relationship stability only results in sex when they want to reinforce or insure it, especially if the threat of another woman’s attention to me becomes a factor! It’s a very selfish manipulation of their use of sex and has little to do with me, my feelings or desire!
You really manage to get mid-thirties women at 64 years old??? That brings quite some hope 😅I'm 41 and didn't get the chance to experience what I wanted sexually with women, as I'm not really on top of the world physically speaking... Seems like one night stands get more and more difficult to get as time passes by?
Good grief, you are dating women who are 20-30 years younger than you! Breaking news: a 35 - 40-year-old woman would not look at a 64 year old guy, unless she was looking for someone to support her. Those who are looking for romance and sex, are doing so among their own age group (or even younger men).
Women don't give a shit about your car LOL Now money, home and lifestyle sure. Personally I'm broke, rent a small rowhouse, drive a 2012 Mazda and don't have much of a lifestyle to speak of and still get plenty of attention from women.
@@scottverge938 you mean from low classes,unemployed ,bored with actual partner and below medium(in other characterisics) women? it could be true in that case
@GrandMalCsur-x1t what are you talking about? We're talking about things that attract women. Hell, last night, I had a woman pay my way into the club and drinks for me. I didn't pay for shit. You don't need much of anything if you're the guy she's into from a fundamental level.
@@TheMarlboroM4n I think perhaps you missed the point of his answer. As I understand him, as a psychologist he has listened to what women say motivates on the matter.
The older I get the more women want me. All I had to do was be patient. It’s kinda wild. I was trying to take control in my 20’s but just letting things happen as they may is how you play it.
This is not my experience at all. I'm 66, average build and looks. I try to make eye contact with women and they look right past me. There may be very few who like old men, but for the most part it is a myth perpetrated on these You Tube pages to get clicks [but it works, including with me].
@@Frank-kp9le your mileage will vary. I’m 59 and I can still get women in their 30s. I have women in their 20s telling me I’m hot. We have women in their early 20s that come into the gym. I go to in the morning and I catch them checking me out all the time. So don’t tell me it doesn’t happen. I got my ass in the gym almost 3 years ago, and I’ve got my physique coming back and that’s a huge part of it.
I disagree. Money today is a huge motivation with modern women today. Interviews with many women today the first thing that comes up is he must make more money than me so that is really the biggest motivator with most modern day women.
Money is a big motivation for a long term relationship with women seeking to settle down and that has nothing to do with sexual desire. When they see a man as a provider, woman want to marry the provider - but make no mistake, it will be a sexless realtionship, with minimal sex in the beginning that will dry up very fast. Women see man as either a provider or a stud. There's a crystal clear divide between the two. When she sees you as a stud, money matters not at all. I have seen this so many times, women with (money-wise) successful boyfriends / husbands jump on nearly broke guys and have wild series of encounters with them. These end in a few weeks, and then the woman moves to the next stud. Sadly, the woman wants these studs to grow up to be a real man who can be depended on and have a life with, but very fast they all realize that's a broken dream. Yet, they do not give up and try again and again. Just as us, men try to find a woman who loves us passionately for being providers and enjoys wild bedtime - that has an equally fat chance of happening. When she realizes all studs are looking for sex only and do not want to marry the woman, then she will look for a provider again....
That’s true but listening to what women say is your first huge mistake, watch what women react to. Women also constantly complain about being used by broke men
It's funny how the average woman will look down their noses at prostitutes meanwhile they would date and marry a man with high income even though this man will be exploited in the relationship. This is legal glorified prostitution. On the other hand younger women might look at whether or not he is a potential provider because she wants to have children. I have no interest in making personal sacrifices to have children. Gentlemen don't get anyone pregnant because all they need is one child, and our unfair judicial system will take you to the poor house.
That's a derogatory adjective some girls use to describe marriage, but this isn't about marriage: 4 Reasons Women Will Have Sex. Also prostitution is already legal in many countries like Germany and the Netherlands
To add to what she is trying to say. You can not be someone's everything and they can not be your everything. This goes for all types of relationships you have in life business, friendships, family, etc......The sooner you can realize and accept this the sooner you can function in life.
It's not the sex that maintains that emotional bond, it's the relishing of the effects afterwards. Sex may help generate it, but its that cuddling and relaxing after you both get off that creates that longer lasting slow burn. It helps if you can both laugh.
I have a question. Why do people still have sex? I think sex is very gross, nasty, messy, and disgusting! I don't see how sex is a good thing. I don't see why humans haven't remove sex from this world yet. Women can still get pregnant without sex. There's a lot of ways women can get pregnant without sex and artificial insemination is one of them. Sex does cause a lot of problems, so the world might be a much better place without it.
@searain1573 because it's the strongest instinct. It's impossible to remove. Some unhealthy people (like yourself) probably have lost the desire. Or has repressed religious views about it OR you may have past trauma that just destroyed you in that area. Last option: you never had pleasurable sexual experiences. Or can't and don't want others to enjoy it. Whatever it is you are talking crazy. Insane proposition.
@@searain1573 some peoples actually achieved to completely remove sex from their lives. They left no children to talk about them anyway... Sadly enough your own mother didn't manage to remove sex from her life and there you are
Women on dating apps, predominately state they are financially secure, and want a male who is. The problem with this is, that a great deal of winen, get tired of men, divorce them, and take what they worked hard for. So, many wonen did not earn that money, but get frustrated when men are not wealthy. They can't get it through their heads, that they, caused a spike in men, who, have to rebuild their financial situation, and women feel turned off.
This is a prime example of women overthinking and analyzing everything to death. All this talking and connecting dots exhausts everyone so there’s no energy for sex. So: 1) stop talking 2) stop thinking about it 3) do it because you like it 4) repeat 1-3 Simple, easy and effective. And honestly if you require motivation to have sex you’re doing it wrong.
it's very bad we were born with such a strong sex drive and still have to figure out at the same time how not to depend to much on women. Depending on something so whimsicall and unstable as women is the way to hell but our libido kinda puts us in this situation
A moderately good looking woman can get sex whenever she wants it. All she needs to do is get dolled up, go to a club, walk up to a man and ask him it he'd like to fuck. Guys have a tougher time. It is, in fact, so easy for women that she really doesn't ever want sex for the sake of sex. She will be trying to use sex to get something else she desires. If you are tied to her, that equation sadly shifts to not doing it unless she gets something she wants first.
Women are logical as we men are. To us that's logical and simple but to women, it's not that simple. They need feelings, emotions, and all this other bs just to have bedroom fun.
I'm a male in my mid-60s with a very strong libido. Honestly, sometimes it feels like a curse. I'm currently dating and seeking a committed relationship. Hoping you follow up this with one addressing the needs of women 50 and up. I'm still learning!
Dude, women in their 50s want cruises and they’re all looking for Harrison Ford. Do yourself a favor and don’t date them. Just have sex with them and leave.
Women are never really yours, it's just your turn .. as a professional clam Whisperer I can attest that they do not make good pets. Slam the clam and move on to the next one
Its very simple guys… Attain physical beauty through eating clean and no processed bullshit foods. Hitting the gym, yoga, and surfing (or whatever cardio you are into). Have goals in life that reflect helping other people and attaining wealth. Lastly is emotional intelligence to connect with women. Women need to feel emotionally connected as well as intellectually connected. Basically, just put in the work, and women will feel it and notice it, which is attractive for women. Another reason is men need to know themselves before considering dating. All the guys saying only money, are looking in the wrong places for women. I personally would never try to find a future wife at a club, party, or a bar. Usually the women that goes there aren’t looking for future husbands.
@@Andre-hm5vo most guys in this planet are not popular, over 6 ft, and attractive yet many have wives and families. Dont be a little bitch boy about it. Go outside and charm women, its not complicated
Where else would you look? Schools and businesses frown on employees fraternizing and sleeping together. Meetups are a very mixed bag. Most of the time you won't meet and get intimate with someone for a LTR unless you see each other consistently. The biggest single problem with "dating" is the enormous waste of time before intimacy. That, and you have to do some kind of song and dance performance before she thinks of you as a lover rather than a friend.
@@Iloveyoumotherearth exactly. Just rock ur life and u will become interesting eventually because ur so happy with urself u couldnt care less about women
100's? Gross. How could you mentally withstand all that? Each one of them probably chased dozens of other Chads, so... well, the thought of that is pretty disgusting.
I’ve dated hundreds of women 🚩 Lol Sorry about that fella The few dozen I have, 50% were disgustingly selfish and untalented creatures, wrapped up in a superficially attractive package, what a waste of time mate
In my experiences: woman become highly attracted from the containment of safety. When the man is motivated to provide the kind of safety that covers the whole field; physical safety, financial safety, emotional safety, transportation safety... Nothing he would do that would put a fright into her.
Providing the 'physical safety' part was probably a key element of my character that was just not there. Up to my early thirties i was the glasses wearing, book reading, peaceful, caring nice guy. Although i had it my mind that i wanted to be with a girl to provide a 'protective' ( or perceived ) protective capability, i just didn't come across as the type that couldn't even protect myself. And that was true. So that was something that i changed about myself and that worked out and i was much happier that i did.
So again, a man has to "provide" everything for a woman. For me, it sounds like women do not want to take any responsibility for sex, enjoyment for both, and physical/emotional closeness
When you put a woman on a pedestal like this, it all goes south. Never put a woman before yourself, or your own mission, or your own needs. A relationship is just that, apart from physical safety, it should be two way thing on all those aspects.
My experience…it’s not money. It’s not crazy good looks…Just have your shit together. Be decent. Be physically and emotionally safe for her. Set boundaries..
This has never worked for me all my life, Iam 80 now and don't care anymore!!! By the way, I was considered good looking when I was younger, just a bit on the short side!
As a man, being inside someone should mean something, and it doesn't anymore it's very sad, and it makes me not want to be with anyone anymore because when I love someone I love with everything I have in me
@Priority57 Wanna find out what they rely think of you? See how they treat you if they think you are poor. Never lead with the heart it will come back to you as a scorched shish kabob served with a pimento. Never lead with money , anyone can do that and it blinds the filter. Never drink alcohol the Boozegoggles lie. In a cruel twist of natural instincts those who need affection the most are least likely to get any. Life is not fair do not expe t it to ever be save yourself some disappointment. Be pleasantly surprised when things work in your favor. If you have one true frie d in your life you are blessed. Treat them well.
In my observation fame/status is an incredible aphrodisiac. Take an average guy of the street, put him in some Netflix series and he will instantly become a heartthrob. I also grew up with guys who went on to become professional athletes, actors, rappers etc These guys live in a different world, the way women respond to them turns the assumptions we have about female sexuality upside down. Finally I have also noticed women are attracted to violence, abusive men. The more destructive a man is, the less issues he has attracting women. It's interesting that serial Killers, murderers, thieves, drug dealers etc always seem to have wives and girlfriends. Wade Wilson murdered two women and has received thousands of love letters and thousands petitioning for his release. Men are told women have intuitive superpower that can see into the real intentions and quality of a man but curiously this intuition fails repeatedly with the toxic men, women spend so much time complaining about.
I am an old man and I’ve explained this to several young men including my sons. Women respond to a “good” man but we never define what she believes that to be. Turns out this is what men expect a “good at being” a man are. Men who are desirable are respected by other men. The stronger the respecting men are the more value the respected man has. As a consequence the target male will have more confidence bc of the admiration of his peers. Before the internet and movies and media this was how men became “famous” albeit amongst his tribe. This has never changed. Women are primal, they have a simple need to feel like they gain something from your value. She’s selfish and childish and those qualities are what men are attracted too. She won’t ever share her value with you until she surrenders to you as her authority figure. The only way is to demonstrate that you are someone worth following. Your opinion of her should never place her value at more than yours, this is the issue. The modern world has told women they are queens and young men have been conditioned not to be masculine. No wonder there aren’t any “good” men left. “Good” never meant nice. It’s highly confusing isn’t it.
Septuagenarian here, Kimberly. You are wise beyond your years, perhaps thanks to the science that you cite. Younger men take note and learn. Thank you Kimberly for helping us, the clumsier gender.
This is the true order and human psychology shows this. 1) Status, because social status is by far the most important thing to women. 2) Power, because power almost always leads to status. 3) Money, because money can lead to status. 4) Looks, because your looks can lead to status. It’s funny that people list different things for why women are attracted to men but all of them are based in social status. Social status is the only thing women care about.
Kimberly love your content i am 58 been married for 28 years my wife been in self induced menopause, she has zero libido . could u do a in-depth video about the little things that might help
Oh Jeff ... you're fcked but not the good way. Nothing much to do as it sounds like she is not willing and wanting to improve. Drive is 1 thing, but what about her will ... her rational relational aspect to at least pleasure you. In a good relationship we do (at least) care for the other one's needs making it a "woman's job" to have xxx. Your wife sounds like mine which just does not care about it and even worse also does not care about us. Otherwise they'd do something about it, and with you (does she have hands? a mouth? there are tools) .. take it for what it is, very sry to hear. We're quite a huge group.
The emotional component is over stated. You have to take what women say with a pinch of salt, there is a vast gap between what women say and what women do. They are just as shallows as man, if not even more and driven by lust. However, so few men meet the standards of physical attractiveness to meet that lust. Being an emotionally available guy will do absolutely nothing for the vast majority of men.
I agree with you. The emotional aspect only matters if they love you and love is rare nowadays. Unless she's wealthy, I honestly believe that most women are more in love with what a man can potentially do for them.
Women are deluded hypocrites who are ultimately driven by selfish, treacherous hearts. Believe actions NOT words. They act on emotions ungoverned by virtue.
Hi Kimberly, you have explained some very important facts that are women's needs for companions in their stages of life. That is something that I have missed.
My idea of male female relations in a perfect world: Men and women would only date for the purpose of finding a mate. So men would have no expectation of sex. Thus, the couple would have the time and MENTAL FOCUS to get to know each other to determine if they like each other and have values, etc. in common. This time would also allow the woman to build sexual feelings for the man while he is building emotional feelings for her. Then by the time they were married ( a LONG while later) They actually, genuinely LOVED each other in a deep and meaningly way ( NOT just "in love" only). After marriage they would express this REAL love in a physical way with not only passion but tenderness. Their sex life would have a spiritual connection because of this. THAT is what REAL male and female love is intended to be!!!!!!!! Sex would be for the physical expression of REAL GENUINE love not for entertainment or merely release.
yeah but unfortunately we were created full of sin and ego so if we do not force ourselves to function spiritually, our body, mind takes over and this is full of lust and crap
Excellent presentation that delves into areas not covered by others. On the "emotional communication topic" can you create a video on how to provide that honest talk especially early on. What do woman want to hear/know so they trust you and feel close to you.
Physical attractiveness and emotional attraction is the deal…your statement is what ugly guys say who also don’t have any emotional attractiveness either
Most relationships today won't last as they're all based on economic sustenance and survival! Most people don't have time for intimacy because if man works to pay for everything, the woman is complaining it's never enough! First we have to change this model of relationships based on business transaction and then we could talk about real intimacy!
1) She is starting a new relationship with you. 2) She is single and one of those very rare and sought out women who have recreational casual sex. 3) She is already in a relationship with you. 4) She is cheating on you and building her next relationship.
Matching love languages are very important here. Trying to negotiate what makes you feel loved for the rest of your relationship is a disaster waiting to happen.
All good discussion. I will say that to get in the room, the woman needs to have comfort and security. Then there are many motivating factors. Each one of those factors may take precedent almost randomly because it takes so long for a woman to get the notion. Curious reactions can come from women when they feel threatened by the potential loss of a relationship. The key word is feel. In every case however for continued relationship there has to be the duality of respect and desire. If a woman starts disrespecting you the lines that have tied her ship to your dock have been cast off. Too much drifting away and the relationship is not recoverable. But go ahead and continue listening. She did read the report for you.
Rule #1 for men - never take dating advice from a chick. Go to experienced men who have learned it the hard way. Eg - Rich Cooper, Matt Cross, Casey Zander and others.
not necessarily. Some women actually do help men as well. You just gotta avoid those who sound too nice telling you to stay yourself and one day you will find your mate and stupid things like that, then you know, she doesn't really know or care about men's horrible dating struggles
I've never found any male or female "dating coach" that changed my odds with anyone. Generally, it's a few years and I might get lucky for a while, then a few years more of solitude. The whole "game" sucks.
The TRUE 4 reasons are guys: . Be 6ft plus . Be wealthy . Be attractive . Be popular No female companion for you guys if you do not have these assets above. Welcome to modernity!
@tedwilson1477 Yea the OG beat me to it, but I was going to say his other 3 stated criteria are so highly rated, it overcompensates for the shortness. I remember reading Shirly McClain relating her experiences with the "Rat Pack" and other Hollywood men back in the Mid-century days. She was passed around pretty promiscuously, and that was just how she was calibrated. An interviewer brought up Frank Sinatra, and she said he wasn't her type because he was just "a little guy" and she preferred taller men. So it CAN be decisive, but often times not, depending on other criteria.
But what do we do with a woman who has no interest in sex or even touch? And in the 30 years we've been together, has never brought up the topic in a conversation in any way?
Very fine explanations, bravo. I’m in the incredibly comfortable position of being blessed with relatively strong empathy. According to an analysis, I have 70% feminine tendencies and "only" 30% masculine ones, although no one who doesn’t truly know me emotionally would believe that. I have a demisexual orientation and deeply admire and cherish women emotionally and, of course, physically, just as the brightest side of my soul wants me to. My father and a favorite uncle taught me what it means to be an old-school gentleman. Since you women have a "problem"-namely, that there are so many incredibly beautiful and highly attractive beings among you-I’m fortunate to have the wonderful ability, when I meet a woman, to not be so blinded by her outward appearance that I can’t "see" into her soul. Because of this, I’ve always had longer, stable relationships with nearly 100% "ladies." I’ve also quickly realized that, for most women, love-induced intimacy often works through their "mental cinema," which I use to ignite their passion. The emotional openness and connection I express during the process of getting to know someone-through my strong presence and, most notably, my "soul mirrors," aka my eyes-has always led them to trust me with their heart, soul, and ultimately, their desires. In a way, with such women, it’s a reflection, and often an amplified version of the love and passion I freely and unreservedly give to them. The four motivations were somewhat clear to me before, but I hadn’t heard them expressed so clearly in this way. My thanks for that.
I recognize a lot of what you're saying. I hope more men will " join in'', esp. concerning the 70/30 stats. Still, what do you mean by feminine tendencies?
@@marioleclerc4566 totally, although very common to have differences in libido and as long as our partner is willing to talk and compromise, that’s great! We don’t always find someone perfectly aligned to what we want.
@@kimberlynhill that's my point you don't compromise on libido alignment - it has to be aligned not compromised. I know by experiences it leads to frustration and or resentment from both sides.
not sure if that really helps. when i asked the question, no woman until now could really respond because they don't know either cuz their libido is so complex, it depends on so many things. And her libido could have been high in her past relationship and maybe with you she doesn't really feel it. You see? So whats the point in asking beforehand?
@@mystik-der-klänge by asking you would see how she responds to this important question but you are right she can BS you. And I agree at the beginning of the relationship their libido is great til ...
A lot depends on her age. Women have a dual strategy for mating. The younger she is, the more likely she is to focus on physical....and not money (which you didn't list). As she gets closer to her biological imperative (having a baby), or if she is a single mom.... money becomes more important. Truth be told, young women rarely care about money... but care about the lifestyle it can provide. And women never care how much a man makes if he is good-looking enough. Sure, they won't consider him forca relationship. BUT they will break all their rules to sleep with him.
Going back in time, you would grow up in a close knit community, you would have always known the girl that you would marry, which would be at the age that you could first produce children. So you wouldn't know anything else.
Immediately after stating men also miss the touching too, you tell guys to "Lean in" as if it's all on them. Women want a never ending fairytale date and every inch they give needs an ROI.
I like physical contact in a relationship. I couldn't understand why my partner avoided it. What I wasn't grasping was that you have to let the woman take the lead in the early stages of intimacy. We have had sort of a "boomerang" type of relationship even with intimacy. I let her take the lead with all the non-verbal communicating and it's never been better.
I believe everyone is different. I think we have two ears and one mouth and if used proportionally you will connect. I’m married to a woman who is richer than me and smarter than me. I appreciate her and I tell her or show her every single day. I try (and fail sometimes) to understand her love language. She says she tries to understand mine. I’m happy and we have an active sex life.
I can easily believe you have a healthy loving relationship. Just like I can believe someone won the lottery. With respect, this conversation isn't about one person's experience of winning the lottery. It's about the general masses who keep investing in a game they're statistically never going to win.
I'm in my eighth decade, and I've still not learned how to get women to relate to me as a sex object! I've had a bit of luck due to hard work, but for the most part, my life has been wasted on achievement alone.
The whole thing - sex, when women want it or might want it, in what circumstances, on the basis of what mood or stimulus, with whom - is a hopelessly complex maze to a man. The modern cultural imperative for the man is to avoid giving offense. In these circumstances, is it any wonder that many men avoid the horrid labyrinth altogether?
@@kimberlynhill i have a nice relationship but kinda from a safe distance sexually and emotionally, so i won't get smashed by her feminine unpredictablility. kinda a wise form of dettached attachment or selective attachment. it works very well. In the end, you can only trust god and maybe yourself (cause you are corrupted by your sinful earthly nature)
@@kimberlynhill It was once, but maintaining it for a lifetime has rules that most men don't know or understand. I've met only a few who do, and I certainly don't. I've lost more than I care to mention.
I think that people’s love languages can and normally change throughout their lives and relationships. In my experience I’ve noticed that many women respond more to words of affirmation and physical touch at the insecure beginning of relationships. And that their love languages change based upon the responsibilities they have assumed. I’m assuming that men’s love languages are more consistent. Only slowly changing over time. But I haven’t had as many intimate relationships with men as I have with women.
On point, except our dating culture is so broken now that these basic concepts are now overtaken by hypergamy and entitlement. Many men will never get to experience the opportunity to even consider what a woman wants from them, as they remain undesired and invisible.
I didn’t hear you mention under GOAL-SOCIAL Oriented motivation that it applies to women in the workplace who climb careers, promotions by using Sex to advance etc. Quid Pro quo etc but this would be voluntary actually. This has gone on for years. To add an extra dimension to this point consider going overseas!!! The culture changes for women in the workplace even in Europe itself for females in societies. Much to consider and unpack right there.
So bloody true I was so surprised when I first found out how prevalent this is in the workplace and those woman's husbands know absolutely nothing of it
They get married so sex is off the table and there is not the survival reason to have sex. Having sex is an exciting adventure before marriage because it is so risky before marriage. After marriage there is certainty of a lot of things and the social risk of exposure of your activities is over. Risk reward is gone, desire verses social stigma risk gone. Adventure verses certainty. They have won the race and have the big wedding mostly to affirm witnesses for the bride’s benefit. Here the phrase we are gathered here today to witness. He is trapped and the community backs her up. Caged animal no interest. Roaming free uncertain of animals intentions, lots of attention. Look at the way modern zoos are constructed, The public is not interested in seeing an animal in a restricted steel cage.
Sex is easy compared to building a mutually supportive male-female companionship over time. Leave some of it for after the cake. Body count: 1. 38 years.
Recently I've been involved with a work colleague. I was new to the group; brought with me a certain amount of status, and was able to enhance that status. She had a genuine desire to get to know me (she was intrigued would be another way of putting it).
Women are so complicated that they have lost sight of how uncomplicated men are. Men are tunning into this and quite frankly, they're giving up. Why should my life be so complicated when I am just a guy who wants nothing more than peace. Perhaps AI will find them the perfect partners and they can ride off into the sunset with cyborg..
not one man sat and listened to this whole speech, 50% fell asleep in 3 mins. 40% said BS i'm not gonna try and figure this out. 8% turned their volume down and rubbed one out while looking at you. 1% puked. ok 1% watched this and still can't. figure out what your saying. just so you know i was in the 40% range
@@mystik-der-klänge Well, women are stupid, yer know! Now wonder they've had to be kept under control in the past.... and it's gonna be like this again, I promise you, sister...
@@SVRoquetta things can always be simple. When we make sacrifice to do so. And remember. Most people wear a mask. The ladies most of them? Don't try to please them. God can't even please them. God gave them beauty. And there not satisfied. They put on giant eye lashes and booby jobs. Good luck with that
@@Jimmerz63 it's definitely explainable. Just look around. This lady is being honest. A rare quality in a lady. She's being honest with integrity. People like her can change the world for the better. She is giving out intuitive knowledge. Very rare almost nonexistent.
You should turn your noisegate down on your audio device. That's why it's cutting in and out when you talk soft. Sorry I'm a live streaming professional so just trying to help. ☺️😜
If your man is protecting/providing for you all the time. You should do it whenever he wants. Or should he also choose not to protect/provide whenever he doesn't feel like it?
What do you think of these motivations?
Thank you for the information, you hit on everything. Very helpful!
Pretty well put about the Lady's Miss Kimberly, I went to a store to pick up some stuff , I ran into a Hispanic Woman , we chatted a while , later she told me that her husband had passed away some years back , I told her that I was sorry and also told her that my first ex had passed away in a car accident, We continued talking for a couple of hours , later I told her I would come and see her , she was happy to talk to someone around her age , Now to be brave enough to ask her for an evening together , cause for me it's been a number of years , Thank You , Samuel
@@samuelflorez1461 sounds like a lovely interaction! Good luck 😍
@kimberlynhill Thank You Miss Kimberly ❤️
Great content albeit a bit long winded
1 Your money 2. Your house 3. Your investments 4. Your pension/Alimony
Financial security. A meal ticket. A housing voucher. Access to his retirement nest egg.
Your job
True story
Toss-in Business Contacts. Networking. Social Status.
Why would you tell anyone all this before hopping into bed?
As soon as you have physical problems that lead to financial problems you won't need this video.
Hell, the physical problems alone disqualify you even if they don't affect your finances.
So don't let go of your physical capabilities. Keep going to the gym and learn what is good for you diet wise!
lol yea it becomes crystal clear
What kind of physical problems? If you're overweight then, you know, lose weight; eat better and get frequent exercise, and by eat better I mean eat more fibrous fruits and veg, lean meat and healthy fats whilst cutting out fast releasing carbs and refined sugars.
If you mean you think you're ugly then again, do the above, as well as work on your personality, learn to be more of a comedian etc.
Remember that just like men, different women value different things and generally speaking women are less visually stimulated than men are, meaning in general women are less drawn to physical appearance than they are to someone who can fulfill them emotionally and sexually, but it all comes down to what she values, but less women are attracted to a ''8-10/10'' man simply because they are a 8,9 or 10. More women are attracted to men who just have themselves together, those who are stable, particularly emotionally because psychologically women often process their emotional highs and lows through their partner, so if they go a bit manic and that freaks you out then that then exacerbates their dysregulation further as opposed to you remaining calm and neutral and talking them down from their highs or up from their lows.
@@psyanide1603 There are also problems, that are DNA related, ticking time bombs.
A women will not give a guy she is dating sex for months then all of a sudden give another guy a one night stand. My ex cheated on me and said she did it because she knew it would end our relationship, one man's 5 year relationship was another guys one night stand. So her motivation was to disrespect and betray me. It was emotional and physical sure but it was all negative and wrong. My point is sometimes their motivations are to destroy.
Sounds like an awful experience with a woman who couldn't communicate ...
Sorry to break it to you, man, but she was never physically and sexually attracted to you to begin with. She saw you just as a comfortable and safe guy. Women actually know in seconds who they wanna sleep with when first meeting a guy. My point is that unless she is a virgin or a relationship minded if she makes you wait for sex, then the sex and the relationship won't be worth it.
She is a 304 and you are better off without her
TRUST ME‼️‼️‼️
@@kimberlynhill there are more women who can't or won't communicate than you might think - game-playing is rife
@@kimberlynhill sorry, ma'am, but unfortunately women today DO NOT want to communicate.
Looks, status, dominance, and money
Not few women love mr Dick so madly!
@@keylanoslokj1806 +height
why should we ,as men always try to understand women? In this time of so called E Q U A L I T Y ?There is not much to understand! Just my opinion.
I agree these are important points but how about intelligence including emotional intelligence and humour ?
@@staffanlundbergintelligence , emotional intelligence are some what required to develop social status , finacial dominance . Humor makes her feel good. How she feels when with someone does make a difference .
In everything there are exceptions .
1. physical
2. emotional
3. relational
4. social/goal orientated
Thank you 👍🏼
5. Money
Thank you
Oriented, not orientated. She said it wrong.
These points are incomplete
1Physical cash/materialism
2emotional support /protection
3 relational sex to reel you in.
4social goal orientated status for her social media
1 good looking 2 money 3 fame 4 power 5 status 6 height 7 confidence 8 humor 9 job 10 being what they can't have 11 house 12 experience with relationships 13 goal orientated 14 emotional to a certain point 15 social 16 physical 17 being able to flirt 18 being a guy that a lot women want 19 biology/science 20 survival instincts/good genes
21 pleasure 22 games 23 pension 24 protection 25 leadership 26 assertive 27 security 28 understanding 29 not boring 30 high energy 31 intellectual 32 wanting to create a life 33 age
34 Attention 35 Validation 36 Lifestyles 37 Friendship 38 Social ques 39 Body language 40 Motivations 41 Feelings 42 Language 43 Love 44 Passion 45 Connection.
Brad Pitt and couple more may fit this category
@@ajaynair2636
Donald Trump and Vladimir Putin checks marks all of the above
And for guys it's be cute. Be nice. Lol
:)
@@ajaynair2636 Still, they also have breakups. 🤣
So I’m 64 and date younger women, generally in the mid thirties to mid forties, and I find that financial security is a huge motivational factor with women in this age group! Secondly, emotional supportiveness and feeling desired, even though that doesn’t frequently result in sexual desire for them. Thirdly, maintaining relationship stability only results in sex when they want to reinforce or insure it, especially if the threat of another woman’s attention to me becomes a factor! It’s a very selfish manipulation of their use of sex and has little to do with me, my feelings or desire!
You really manage to get mid-thirties women at 64 years old???
That brings quite some hope 😅I'm 41 and didn't get the chance to experience what I wanted sexually with women, as I'm not really on top of the world physically speaking...
Seems like one night stands get more and more difficult to get as time passes by?
Good grief, you are dating women who are 20-30 years younger than you! Breaking news: a 35 - 40-year-old woman would not look at a 64 year old guy, unless she was looking for someone to support her. Those who are looking for romance and sex, are doing so among their own age group (or even younger men).
They found a sugar found a sugar daddy ... they can alway cheat. "You can't hide your lying eyes..."
Go strong! 🤣
Other than financial security, why would a younger woman date an old fart? Why don't you date women your age?
The four reasons are, your money, your home, your car, your lifestyle.
Women don't give a shit about your car LOL
Now money, home and lifestyle sure.
Personally I'm broke, rent a small rowhouse, drive a 2012 Mazda and don't have much of a lifestyle to speak of and still get plenty of attention from women.
@@scottverge938 you mean from low classes,unemployed ,bored with actual partner and below medium(in other characterisics) women? it could be true in that case
@MrMultiHerbatnik whatever you need to tell yourself.
Are you high class and wealthy? If so presumably you have zero issues with women?
@GrandMalCsur-x1t what are you talking about? We're talking about things that attract women.
Hell, last night, I had a woman pay my way into the club and drinks for me. I didn't pay for shit.
You don't need much of anything if you're the guy she's into from a fundamental level.
@@GrandMalCsur-x1t I'm talking looks, body, charisma, personality
As a psychologist, it all comes down to money, money, money, and the rest, within the context of power!
Being a psychologist means nothing if you have no experience with being intimate with women.
@@TheMarlboroM4n I listen to them.
@wg611 they dont care if you listen dude. They want you to be interesting.
@@wg611 in it's most distilled essence. It's all an exchange of resources, however you define resources
@@TheMarlboroM4n I think perhaps you missed the point of his answer. As I understand him, as a psychologist he has listened to what women say motivates on the matter.
The older I get the more women want me. All I had to do was be patient. It’s kinda wild. I was trying to take control in my 20’s but just letting things happen as they may is how you play it.
Here,Here. In my sixties and this works for me as well. Enjoy and keep living the dream!
This is not my experience at all. I'm 66, average build and looks. I try to make eye contact with women and they look right past me. There may be very few who like old men, but for the most part it is a myth perpetrated on these You Tube pages to get clicks [but it works, including with me].
Yeah, as a 53 yr old married guy I’ve never had so much attention from women. Where were they when I was 25 and single?
@@Frank-kp9le your mileage will vary. I’m 59 and I can still get women in their 30s. I have women in their 20s telling me I’m hot. We have women in their early 20s that come into the gym. I go to in the morning and I catch them checking me out all the time. So don’t tell me it doesn’t happen. I got my ass in the gym almost 3 years ago, and I’ve got my physique coming back and that’s a huge part of it.
All you had to do was be financially successful...
I disagree. Money today is a huge motivation with modern women today. Interviews with many women today the first thing that comes up is he must make more money than me so that is really the biggest motivator with most modern day women.
Money is a big motivation for a long term relationship with women seeking to settle down and that has nothing to do with sexual desire. When they see a man as a provider, woman want to marry the provider - but make no mistake, it will be a sexless realtionship, with minimal sex in the beginning that will dry up very fast. Women see man as either a provider or a stud. There's a crystal clear divide between the two. When she sees you as a stud, money matters not at all. I have seen this so many times, women with (money-wise) successful boyfriends / husbands jump on nearly broke guys and have wild series of encounters with them. These end in a few weeks, and then the woman moves to the next stud. Sadly, the woman wants these studs to grow up to be a real man who can be depended on and have a life with, but very fast they all realize that's a broken dream. Yet, they do not give up and try again and again. Just as us, men try to find a woman who loves us passionately for being providers and enjoys wild bedtime - that has an equally fat chance of happening.
When she realizes all studs are looking for sex only and do not want to marry the woman, then she will look for a provider again....
That’s true but listening to what women say is your first huge mistake, watch what women react to. Women also constantly complain about being used by broke men
It's funny how the average woman will look down their noses at prostitutes meanwhile they would date and marry a man with high income even though this man will be exploited in the relationship. This is legal glorified prostitution. On the other hand younger women might look at whether or not he is a potential provider because she wants to have children. I have no interest in making personal sacrifices to have children. Gentlemen don't get anyone pregnant because all they need is one child, and our unfair judicial system will take you to the poor house.
hypergamy on steroids....
Dating app research has shown repeatedly that it's height, looks and money. Less than 10% of men on dating apps get all the women according to tinder.
Excellent presentation and true observations. Physical closeness is great, I’m 77. My love is 80 and love is wonderful!
1 Lots of Money!
2 More Money!
3 Even More Money!
4 ALL Your Money!
Yeah, this works for all gold diggers!
#1 Money
#2 Money
#3 Money
#4 Sense of humor.. I'm joking it's money
She has the $$$$ and I made her laugh..
#4 was a hoot
😆
DINERO! MONEY!
Sense of humour is a smokescreen
Legalized prostitution......at least working girls are more honest about it.....
@@blw3169 facts
It's less complicated and less annoying.
😂😂😂
working girls are better no career women
That's a derogatory adjective some girls use to describe marriage, but this isn't about marriage:
4 Reasons Women Will Have Sex.
Also prostitution is already legal in many countries like Germany and the Netherlands
To add to what she is trying to say. You can not be someone's everything and they can not be your everything. This goes for all types of relationships you have in life business, friendships, family, etc......The sooner you can realize and accept this the sooner you can function in life.
True, learned it the hard way.
It's not the sex that maintains that emotional bond, it's the relishing of the effects afterwards. Sex may help generate it, but its that cuddling and relaxing after you both get off that creates that longer lasting slow burn. It helps if you can both laugh.
I have a question. Why do people still have sex? I think sex is very gross, nasty, messy, and disgusting! I don't see how sex is a good thing. I don't see why humans haven't remove sex from this world yet. Women can still get pregnant without sex. There's a lot of ways women can get pregnant without sex and artificial insemination is one of them. Sex does cause a lot of problems, so the world might be a much better place without it.
@searain1573 because it's the strongest instinct. It's impossible to remove. Some unhealthy people (like yourself) probably have lost the desire. Or has repressed religious views about it OR you may have past trauma that just destroyed you in that area. Last option: you never had pleasurable sexual experiences. Or can't and don't want others to enjoy it. Whatever it is you are talking crazy. Insane proposition.
@@searain1573 some peoples actually achieved to completely remove sex from their lives.
They left no children to talk about them anyway...
Sadly enough your own mother didn't manage to remove sex from her life and there you are
You need to get laid. Lol
@@searain1573 what the hell kind of a comment is this? You need to get to see a psychologist immediately.
Women on dating apps, predominately state they are financially secure, and want a male who is. The problem with this is, that a great deal of winen, get tired of men, divorce them, and take what they worked hard for. So, many wonen did not earn that money, but get frustrated when men are not wealthy. They can't get it through their heads, that they, caused a spike in men, who, have to rebuild their financial situation, and women feel turned off.
But if he is TALL & has Teeth, and a J O B they love him.
@@meddyven the money they have they got through a divorce.
This is a prime example of women overthinking and analyzing everything to death. All this talking and connecting dots exhausts everyone so there’s no energy for sex. So:
1) stop talking
2) stop thinking about it
3) do it because you like it
4) repeat 1-3
Simple, easy and effective.
And honestly if you require motivation to have sex you’re doing it wrong.
it's very bad we were born with such a strong sex drive and still have to figure out at the same time how not to depend to much on women. Depending on something so whimsicall and unstable as women is the way to hell but our libido kinda puts us in this situation
@@mystik-der-klängejust get a tulpa
We are animals. It's the societal condition at odds with this @@mystik-der-klänge
A moderately good looking woman can get sex whenever she wants it. All she needs to do is get dolled up, go to a club, walk up to a man and ask him it he'd like to fuck. Guys have a tougher time. It is, in fact, so easy for women that she really doesn't ever want sex for the sake of sex. She will be trying to use sex to get something else she desires. If you are tied to her, that equation sadly shifts to not doing it unless she gets something she wants first.
Women are logical as we men are. To us that's logical and simple but to women, it's not that simple. They need feelings, emotions, and all this other bs just to have bedroom fun.
I'm a male in my mid-60s with a very strong libido. Honestly, sometimes it feels like a curse. I'm currently dating and seeking a committed relationship. Hoping you follow up this with one addressing the needs of women 50 and up. I'm still learning!
They need money!
Dude, women in their 50s want cruises and they’re all looking for Harrison Ford. Do yourself a favor and don’t date them. Just have sex with them and leave.
take an Asian woman about 45 years old much better
Women are never really yours, it's just your turn .. as a professional clam Whisperer I can attest that they do not make good pets. Slam the clam and move on to the next one
You have a way with words 👍🏿
@@yuris6125 thank you sir
You dont posess a humen
Truth. Especially the your turn bit.
Its very simple guys… Attain physical beauty through eating clean and no processed bullshit foods. Hitting the gym, yoga, and surfing (or whatever cardio you are into). Have goals in life that reflect helping other people and attaining wealth. Lastly is emotional intelligence to connect with women. Women need to feel emotionally connected as well as intellectually connected. Basically, just put in the work, and women will feel it and notice it, which is attractive for women. Another reason is men need to know themselves before considering dating. All the guys saying only money, are looking in the wrong places for women. I personally would never try to find a future wife at a club, party, or a bar. Usually the women that goes there aren’t looking for future husbands.
@@Andre-hm5vo most guys in this planet are not popular, over 6 ft, and attractive yet many have wives and families. Dont be a little bitch boy about it. Go outside and charm women, its not complicated
Where else would you look? Schools and businesses frown on employees fraternizing and sleeping together. Meetups are a very mixed bag. Most of the time you won't meet and get intimate with someone for a LTR unless you see each other consistently. The biggest single problem with "dating" is the enormous waste of time before intimacy. That, and you have to do some kind of song and dance performance before she thinks of you as a lover rather than a friend.
None of the performance arts necessary for seduction are taught either at home nor in school! For most of us, they don't come naturally.
@@Mikexxx531 better not to even start. If it werent for the libido and the emotional appetite as well, innit?
@@Iloveyoumotherearth exactly. Just rock ur life and u will become interesting eventually because ur so happy with urself u couldnt care less about women
I’ve dated 100’s of women. The 4 reasons they have sex with me is I’m tall, rich, smart, and good looking.
Who loves you ?
I am tall, poor, smart, and ugly.
100's? Gross. How could you mentally withstand all that?
Each one of them probably chased dozens of other Chads, so... well, the thought of that is pretty disgusting.
I’ve dated hundreds of women 🚩
Lol
Sorry about that fella
The few dozen I have, 50% were disgustingly selfish and untalented creatures, wrapped up in a superficially attractive package, what a waste of time mate
Sounds like a man of confidence to me.
Money , money ,money ! Life style , Status , physical looks
1. Money
2. Status
3. Manipulation
4. Revenge
In my experiences: woman become highly attracted from the containment of safety.
When the man is motivated to provide the kind of safety that covers the whole field; physical safety, financial safety, emotional safety, transportation safety... Nothing he would do that would put a fright into her.
Providing the 'physical safety' part was probably a key element of my character that was just not there. Up to my early thirties i was the glasses wearing, book reading, peaceful, caring nice guy. Although i had it my mind that i wanted to be with a girl to provide a 'protective' ( or perceived ) protective capability, i just didn't come across as the type that couldn't even protect myself. And that was true. So that was something that i changed about myself and that worked out and i was much happier that i did.
So again, a man has to "provide" everything for a woman. For me, it sounds like women do not want to take any responsibility for sex, enjoyment for both, and physical/emotional closeness
When you put a woman on a pedestal like this, it all goes south. Never put a woman before yourself, or your own mission, or your own needs. A relationship is just that, apart from physical safety, it should be two way thing on all those aspects.
oh BS... they want money
Tons of men provide "safety" everyday. They are in sexless marriages. Women just put the word safe in front of it not to sound shallow.
These reasons are only for men that women already find attractive. Tall, rich, good looking, status...ect.
yes - this video is predicated on female pre-qualifiers ... it is completely useless information for a general audience
My experience…it’s not money. It’s not crazy good looks…Just have your shit together. Be decent. Be physically and emotionally safe for her. Set boundaries..
This has never worked for me all my life, Iam 80 now and don't care anymore!!! By the way, I was considered good looking when I was younger, just a bit on the short side!
@@WalterVetterli my same story too only I’m 55
women aline themselves for survival and replication this is there core.
finally I found the comment that hits the nail on the head. well done sir. millions of years of evolution behind it.
As a man, being inside someone should mean something, and it doesn't anymore it's very sad, and it makes me not want to be with anyone anymore because when I love someone I love with everything I have in me
Money! , Money! , Money! ... Money will always be a chic magnet
And don't forget to add the Car.....
@Priority57 Wanna find out what they rely think of you?
See how they treat you if they think you are poor.
Never lead with the heart it will come back to you as a scorched shish kabob served with a pimento.
Never lead with money , anyone can do that and it blinds the filter.
Never drink alcohol the Boozegoggles lie.
In a cruel twist of natural instincts those who need affection the most are least likely to get any.
Life is not fair do not expe t it to ever be save yourself some disappointment.
Be pleasantly surprised when things work in your favor.
If you have one true frie d in your life you are blessed. Treat them well.
In my observation fame/status is an incredible aphrodisiac. Take an average guy of the street, put him in some Netflix series and he will instantly become a heartthrob.
I also grew up with guys who went on to become professional athletes, actors, rappers etc These guys live in a different world, the way women respond to them turns the assumptions we have about female sexuality upside down.
Finally I have also noticed women are attracted to violence, abusive men. The more destructive a man is, the less issues he has attracting women. It's interesting that serial Killers, murderers, thieves, drug dealers etc always seem to have wives and girlfriends.
Wade Wilson murdered two women and has received thousands of love letters and thousands petitioning for his release.
Men are told women have intuitive superpower that can see into the real intentions and quality of a man but curiously this intuition fails repeatedly with the toxic men, women spend so much time complaining about.
I thought the same ......
Fascinating! I'd recommend to be single seriously if one can.
Absolute facts. Female intuition and antenna is non existent around rappers, celebs and male models
I am an old man and I’ve explained this to several young men including my sons. Women respond to a “good” man but we never define what she believes that to be. Turns out this is what men expect a “good at being” a man are. Men who are desirable are respected by other men. The stronger the respecting men are the more value the respected man has. As a consequence the target male will have more confidence bc of the admiration of his peers. Before the internet and movies and media this was how men became “famous” albeit amongst his tribe. This has never changed. Women are primal, they have a simple need to feel like they gain something from your value. She’s selfish and childish and those qualities are what men are attracted too. She won’t ever share her value with you until she surrenders to you as her authority figure. The only way is to demonstrate that you are someone worth following. Your opinion of her should never place her value at more than yours, this is the issue. The modern world has told women they are queens and young men have been conditioned not to be masculine. No wonder there aren’t any “good” men left. “Good” never meant nice. It’s highly confusing isn’t it.
They can't resist dark triad traits
Septuagenarian here, Kimberly. You are wise beyond your years, perhaps thanks to the science that you cite. Younger men take note and learn. Thank you Kimberly for helping us, the clumsier gender.
1.- Money
2.- Money
3.- Money
4.- Money
😂😂😂
This is what ugly guys say
The fact that money is not mentioned in the top 4 reasons, shows that the studies are lying.
Not always. Sometimes it's just about money. 😂
Fancy spelling for love
And don't forget money
1. Money
2 Money
3 Money
4 More more money
@@johnnatisin-x9w Sounds about right LOL
Absolutely spot on!
Hypergamy
Thanks i’ve now got that song in my head 😁
This is the true order and human psychology shows this. 1) Status, because social status is by far the most important thing to women. 2) Power, because power almost always leads to status. 3) Money, because money can lead to status. 4) Looks, because your looks can lead to status. It’s funny that people list different things for why women are attracted to men but all of them are based in social status. Social status is the only thing women care about.
It’s easy ; It’s ladies choice ! It’s always been ladies choice.
Kimberly love your content i am 58 been married for 28 years my wife been in self induced menopause, she has zero libido . could u do a in-depth video about the little things that might help
Oh Jeff ... you're fcked but not the good way. Nothing much to do as it sounds like she is not willing and wanting to improve. Drive is 1 thing, but what about her will ... her rational relational aspect to at least pleasure you. In a good relationship we do (at least) care for the other one's needs making it a "woman's job" to have xxx. Your wife sounds like mine which just does not care about it and even worse also does not care about us. Otherwise they'd do something about it, and with you (does she have hands? a mouth? there are tools) .. take it for what it is, very sry to hear. We're quite a huge group.
She forgot to mention the biggest motivator of intimacy, his "Bank balance"....
It's not forever though. Bill Gates got divorced, Jeff Bezos got divorced, Channing Tatum got divorced so looks money status won't hold her forever
That probably falls under social/goal oriented.
I know plenty of guys with amazing bank balances who are lonely and alone. Having a lot of money can be quite isolating.
@@flyer617 A man with a lot of money and who is lonely must be a complete loser when it comes to women...Lots of broke dudes get women regularly...
@@flyer617 Having even less money can be even more isolating.
It's a sad society when women will refuse to have sex with guys if your not rich,don't have a car,a house or not tall.
The emotional component is over stated. You have to take what women say with a pinch of salt, there is a vast gap between what women say and what women do. They are just as shallows as man, if not even more and driven by lust. However, so few men meet the standards of physical attractiveness to meet that lust. Being an emotionally available guy will do absolutely nothing for the vast majority of men.
I agree with you. The emotional aspect only matters if they love you and love is rare nowadays. Unless she's wealthy, I honestly believe that most women are more in love with what a man can potentially do for them.
Women are deluded hypocrites who are ultimately driven by selfish, treacherous hearts. Believe actions NOT words. They act on emotions ungoverned by virtue.
Hi Kimberly, you have explained some very important facts that are women's needs for companions in their stages of life. That is something that I have missed.
My idea of male female relations in a perfect world: Men and women would only date for the purpose of finding a mate. So men would have no expectation of sex. Thus, the couple would have the time and MENTAL FOCUS to get to know each other to determine if they like each other and have values, etc. in common. This time would also allow the woman to build sexual feelings for the man while he is building emotional feelings for her. Then by the time they were married ( a LONG while later) They actually, genuinely LOVED each other in a deep and meaningly way ( NOT just "in love" only). After marriage they would express this REAL love in a physical way with not only passion but tenderness. Their sex life would have a spiritual connection because of this. THAT is what REAL male and female love is intended to be!!!!!!!! Sex would be for the physical expression of REAL GENUINE love not for entertainment or merely release.
yeah but unfortunately we were created full of sin and ego so if we do not force ourselves to function spiritually, our body, mind takes over and this is full of lust and crap
She talked too much, do not waste your time.
underrated comment here .i should go immediately to the comment section to save 20 minutes, but still thanks
@@MrMultiHerbatnik, she gave a very poor description which was too wordy.
Fact that she's a woman should've set off your alarm already...
Never take dating advice from a woman.
Excellent presentation that delves into areas not covered by others. On the "emotional communication topic" can you create a video on how to provide that honest talk especially early on. What do woman want to hear/know so they trust you and feel close to you.
Thank you for this! This was so helpful you have no idea how much you helped me! 🙋🏻♂️
@@333MFlores glad I did 🥹😀
U gotta have money. Period
Wrong. She said sex, not relationship.
Physical attractiveness and emotional attraction is the deal…your statement is what ugly guys say who also don’t have any emotional attractiveness either
Most relationships today won't last as they're all based on economic sustenance and survival! Most people don't have time for intimacy because if man works to pay for everything, the woman is complaining it's never enough! First we have to change this model of relationships based on business transaction and then we could talk about real intimacy!
@@NinjaWarhol Agreed. Only a paradigm shift will bring about authentic intimacy right? Well good luck that.
@@Andre-hm5vo No luck needed; I already gave up on the whole thing.
@@NinjaWarhol Good for you as of I too. 👍🏼
Awesome point
1) She is starting a new relationship with you.
2) She is single and one of those very rare and sought out women who have recreational casual sex.
3) She is already in a relationship with you.
4) She is cheating on you and building her next relationship.
@@InternetJunkHuman monkey chaining is real, common, they can't stand being alone
Sexually promiscuous women is the norm! NOT rare!!!
Matching love languages are very important here. Trying to negotiate what makes you feel loved for the rest of your relationship is a disaster waiting to happen.
Women may enjoy the feeling, but immediately afterward they totally forget.
All good discussion. I will say that to get in the room, the woman needs to have comfort and security. Then there are many motivating factors. Each one of those factors may take precedent almost randomly because it takes so long for a woman to get the notion. Curious reactions can come from women when they feel threatened by the potential loss of a relationship. The key word is feel. In every case however for continued relationship there has to be the duality of respect and desire. If a woman starts disrespecting you the lines that have tied her ship to your dock have been cast off. Too much drifting away and the relationship is not recoverable. But go ahead and continue listening. She did read the report for you.
Scheduling intimacy isn't going to work like a chore
Rule #1 for men - never take dating advice from a chick. Go to experienced men who have learned it the hard way. Eg - Rich Cooper, Matt Cross, Casey Zander and others.
Lots of wonderful coaches out there. Many men appreciate my advice and the female perspective, one thing those coaches don't have :)
not necessarily. Some women actually do help men as well. You just gotta avoid those who sound too nice telling you to stay yourself and one day you will find your mate and stupid things like that, then you know, she doesn't really know or care about men's horrible dating struggles
@@mystik-der-klängeyep lol
@@kimberlynhillthe guy's handle checks out.
I've never found any male or female "dating coach" that changed my odds with anyone. Generally, it's a few years and I might get lucky for a while, then a few years more of solitude. The whole "game" sucks.
The TRUE 4 reasons are guys:
. Be 6ft plus
. Be wealthy
. Be attractive
. Be popular
No female companion for you guys if you do not have these assets above. Welcome to modernity!
Damn looks like you'll be chosen over Tom Cruise by all women, hes only 5ft 6.
@@tedwilson1477 He has the 3 others assets though LOL.
@tedwilson1477 Yea the OG beat me to it, but I was going to say his other 3 stated criteria are so highly rated, it overcompensates for the shortness. I remember reading Shirly McClain relating her experiences with the "Rat Pack" and other Hollywood men back in the Mid-century days. She was passed around pretty promiscuously, and that was just how she was calibrated. An interviewer brought up Frank Sinatra, and she said he wasn't her type because he was just "a little guy" and she preferred taller men. So it CAN be decisive, but often times not, depending on other criteria.
@@tedwilson1477He's been divorced 3 times so...
If a man is under 6 ft he is not human in their eyes and deserves nothing only if he is rich he gets beta bucks.
Thank you! I’m trying to get out of the Friend Zone! Little by little it is working!
But what do we do with a woman who has no interest in sex or even touch? And in the 30 years we've been together, has never brought up the topic in a conversation in any way?
@@dcnnick respect u never cheated on her or dumped her. I could not stay so long, not even 30days sorry
Very fine explanations, bravo.
I’m in the incredibly comfortable position of being blessed with relatively strong empathy. According to an analysis, I have 70% feminine tendencies and "only" 30% masculine ones, although no one who doesn’t truly know me emotionally would believe that. I have a demisexual orientation and deeply admire and cherish women emotionally and, of course, physically, just as the brightest side of my soul wants me to. My father and a favorite uncle taught me what it means to be an old-school gentleman.
Since you women have a "problem"-namely, that there are so many incredibly beautiful and highly attractive beings among you-I’m fortunate to have the wonderful ability, when I meet a woman, to not be so blinded by her outward appearance that I can’t "see" into her soul. Because of this, I’ve always had longer, stable relationships with nearly 100% "ladies."
I’ve also quickly realized that, for most women, love-induced intimacy often works through their "mental cinema," which I use to ignite their passion. The emotional openness and connection I express during the process of getting to know someone-through my strong presence and, most notably, my "soul mirrors," aka my eyes-has always led them to trust me with their heart, soul, and ultimately, their desires.
In a way, with such women, it’s a reflection, and often an amplified version of the love and passion I freely and unreservedly give to them. The four motivations were somewhat clear to me before, but I hadn’t heard them expressed so clearly in this way. My thanks for that.
I recognize a lot of what you're saying. I hope more men will
" join in'', esp. concerning the 70/30 stats. Still, what do you mean by feminine tendencies?
Ask the hard questions right from the beginning. The most important one
is libido alignment!
@@marioleclerc4566 totally, although very common to have differences in libido and as long as our partner is willing to talk and compromise, that’s great! We don’t always find someone perfectly aligned to what we want.
@@kimberlynhill that's my point you don't compromise on libido alignment - it has to be aligned not compromised. I know by experiences it leads to frustration and or resentment from both sides.
not sure if that really helps. when i asked the question, no woman until now could really respond because they don't know either cuz their libido is so complex, it depends on so many things. And her libido could have been high in her past relationship and maybe with you she doesn't really feel it. You see? So whats the point in asking beforehand?
@@mystik-der-klänge by asking you would see how she responds to this important question but you are right she can BS you. And I agree at the beginning of the relationship their libido is great til ...
@@marioleclerc4566
Great observation !
All this is way to complicated. PASSPORT BROS. Woman are way different overseas.
Agreed
Yes... Personally, I know this to be true!
What a joke! Women are biologically and mentally the same the world over!!
Bingo!
😂😂no, they aren't
4 reasons:
Money
Money
Money
And of course, Money!
A lot depends on her age.
Women have a dual strategy for mating. The younger she is, the more likely she is to focus on physical....and not money (which you didn't list).
As she gets closer to her biological imperative (having a baby), or if she is a single mom.... money becomes more important.
Truth be told, young women rarely care about money... but care about the lifestyle it can provide.
And women never care how much a man makes if he is good-looking enough. Sure, they won't consider him forca relationship. BUT they will break all their rules to sleep with him.
Phenomenal Video. Best I’ve seen on the topic. Very eye opening.
I wonder how our ancestors did it without this wealth of knowledge
they could because women had less knowledge too and much less options than today
Going back in time, you would grow up in a close knit community, you would have always known the girl that you would marry, which would be at the age that you could first produce children. So you wouldn't know anything else.
Before women's lib, they had to act different
Physical gratification, handling the cash! MONEY MONEY MONEY!
Immediately after stating men also miss the touching too, you tell guys to "Lean in" as if it's all on them. Women want a never ending fairytale date and every inch they give needs an ROI.
precisely, it's all about the opportunities they have at hand and making sure they extract maximum value
I like physical contact in a relationship. I couldn't understand why my partner avoided it. What I wasn't grasping was that you have to let the woman take the lead in the early stages of intimacy. We have had sort of a "boomerang" type of relationship even with intimacy. I let her take the lead with all the non-verbal communicating and it's never been better.
I believe everyone is different. I think we have two ears and one mouth and if used proportionally you will connect. I’m married to a woman who is richer than me and smarter than me. I appreciate her and I tell her or show her every single day. I try (and fail sometimes) to understand her love language. She says she tries to understand mine. I’m happy and we have an active sex life.
I can easily believe you have a healthy loving relationship. Just like I can believe someone won the lottery. With respect, this conversation isn't about one person's experience of winning the lottery. It's about the general masses who keep investing in a game they're statistically never going to win.
Where were you 3yrs ago? Lol
Wish I knew this before. Thanks little to late. But I’m glad I found you and this information is noted. Thank you!!
This might be good content for teenagers, well done 👍
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I'm in my eighth decade, and I've still not learned how to get women to relate to me as a sex object! I've had a bit of luck due to hard work, but for the most part, my life has been wasted on achievement alone.
Masculinity, protection, emotionality, physicality
Money, that's all they want. Period.
Hypergamy
Enlightening, diffused a degree of complexity regarding women's behavior
The whole thing - sex, when women want it or might want it, in what circumstances, on the basis of what mood or stimulus, with whom - is a hopelessly complex maze to a man. The modern cultural imperative for the man is to avoid giving offense. In these circumstances, is it any wonder that many men avoid the horrid labyrinth altogether?
I can understand. Women are emotional and it's not easy being in a relationship with us....but if you find the right one...it sure is worth it :)
@@kimberlynhill i have a nice relationship but kinda from a safe distance sexually and emotionally, so i won't get smashed by her feminine unpredictablility. kinda a wise form of dettached attachment or selective attachment. it works very well. In the end, you can only trust god and maybe yourself (cause you are corrupted by your sinful earthly nature)
@@kimberlynhill It was once, but maintaining it for a lifetime has rules that most men don't know or understand. I've met only a few who do, and I certainly don't. I've lost more than I care to mention.
@@kimberlynhill nice marketing gimmick, just like the lottery, it could be you... ;)
Thank you Kimberly 🙌
My girlfriend said many men pursued her and she chose me bc of our spiritual connection.
Give her credit for a creative lie
I think that people’s love languages can and normally change throughout their lives and relationships.
In my experience I’ve noticed that many women respond more to words of affirmation and physical touch at the insecure beginning of relationships. And that their love languages change based upon the responsibilities they have assumed.
I’m assuming that men’s love languages are more consistent. Only slowly changing over time. But I haven’t had as many intimate relationships with men as I have with women.
On point, except our dating culture is so broken now that these basic concepts are now overtaken by hypergamy and entitlement. Many men will never get to experience the opportunity to even consider what a woman wants from them, as they remain undesired and invisible.
Great work, Kimberly. Very interesting.
In summary, money, because money encompasses security in all its shapes and forms.
I didn’t hear you mention under GOAL-SOCIAL Oriented motivation that it applies to women in the workplace who climb careers, promotions by using Sex to advance etc. Quid Pro quo etc but this would be voluntary actually. This has gone on for years.
To add an extra dimension to this point consider going overseas!!! The culture changes for women in the workplace even in Europe itself for females in societies.
Much to consider and unpack right there.
So bloody true I was so surprised when I first found out how prevalent this is in the workplace and those woman's husbands know absolutely nothing of it
I wouldn't ask a fish how to fish, but rather a fisherman.
I’m a fisherman and she’s not wrong…now I’m going to steal your girl…oh wait, you don’t have one
Imagine incels actually putting in the work to learn how to fish.
I like these longer videos. Thanks for all that you do for men.
4 motivating factors:
At least 6'4"
Six-figure income
Extremely good-looking
6-pack abs.
Wow. You don’t seem to need anyone to love you. You seem to love yourself just fine. I’m 6’3”. And yes. I’ll meet you on the street.
@brandanwakefield8754 oh, dude, not me! It's what the modern woman wants.
Thanks Kimberly. Just one study is what you're relying on here?
Otherwise known as the girlfriend experience. Maybe tell us why they won't as soon as the wedding cake is finished.
They get married so sex is off the table and there is not the survival reason to have sex. Having sex is an exciting adventure before marriage because it is so risky before marriage. After marriage there is certainty of a lot of things and the social risk of exposure of your activities is over. Risk reward is gone, desire verses social stigma risk gone. Adventure verses certainty. They have won the race and have the big wedding mostly to affirm witnesses for the bride’s benefit. Here the phrase we are gathered here today to witness. He is trapped and the community backs her up. Caged animal no interest. Roaming free uncertain of animals intentions, lots of attention. Look at the way modern zoos are constructed, The public is not interested in seeing an animal in a restricted steel cage.
Sex is easy compared to building a mutually supportive male-female companionship over time. Leave some of it for after the cake. Body count: 1. 38 years.
Recently I've been involved with a work colleague. I was new to the group; brought with me a certain amount of status, and was able to enhance that status. She had a genuine desire to get to know me (she was intrigued would be another way of putting it).
Women are so complicated that they have lost sight of how uncomplicated men are.
Men are tunning into this and quite frankly, they're giving up. Why should my life be so complicated when I am just a guy who wants nothing more than peace. Perhaps AI will find them the perfect partners and they can ride off into the sunset with cyborg..
I guess it's kind of true when people say don't choose a woman who's older than 29 years old.
They still all are the most dangerous human beings walking on two legs on this earth!
not one man sat and listened to this whole speech, 50% fell asleep in 3 mins. 40% said BS i'm not gonna try and figure this out. 8% turned their volume down and rubbed one out while looking at you. 1% puked. ok 1% watched this and still can't. figure out what your saying. just so you know i was in the 40% range
Very Hot
lol
Knowledge is wisdom , that was good for me! Perspective straight from a woman can only be helpful for both. 👍
1000 reasons women will file metoo false allegations on you.
they do it all the time and ruin it at the same time for the women that actually have been abused. so sad and annoying. I hate this world
@@mystik-der-klänge Well, women are stupid, yer know! Now wonder they've had to be kept under control in the past.... and it's gonna be like this again, I promise you, sister...
Things used to be so simple.
Geez... this woman is attempting to explain the unexplainable. Horrifying to be in this "pool" again.
@@SVRoquetta things can always be simple. When we make sacrifice to do so. And remember. Most people wear a mask. The ladies most of them? Don't try to please them. God can't even please them. God gave them beauty. And there not satisfied. They put on giant eye lashes and booby jobs. Good luck with that
@@Jimmerz63 it's definitely explainable. Just look around. This lady is being honest. A rare quality in a lady. She's being honest with integrity. People like her can change the world for the better. She is giving out intuitive knowledge. Very rare almost nonexistent.
@@karlmiller4061 I guess... she seems sincere but it's like asking the black widow spider for advice before she eats you
@@karlmiller4061 B.S. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You should turn your noisegate down on your audio device. That's why it's cutting in and out when you talk soft. Sorry I'm a live streaming professional so just trying to help. ☺️😜
@@DavidFosterVlog thanks. I’ll look into that!
Bad boy, bad boy, bad boy, old rich bad boy.
Money is always #1!
And babies, not necessarily in that order.
Money,money money . money
Hypergamy
Renting is the best way today. Get what you want and move on. W-m-n's value is youth and beauty and those both fade.
If your man is protecting/providing for you all the time. You should do it whenever he wants. Or should he also choose not to protect/provide whenever he doesn't feel like it?