The Reality of Getting Old
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I am 66 and what he says is exactly as decribed. I have lost my wife in the journey.
I set myself a daily routine
I cherish my aloness
Be humble with the people around you, listen speak little
Material things loose their value as you get older.
All i can add.
Well said. 🙏
I agree I have money and there is nothing I want to buy I hate shopping my birthday went but and my beautiful daughter in law wanted to buy me a gift I said no she asked my son and he said he said no.I love them both very much
I agree with you , l only shop for food or my meds .@@fredmyott849
you are not old by any measure. Wake up bro.
I saw that, 44 quad bypass cone back to this world & I have totally lost interest in material & money.
Your wife is in a better place I can tell you that much this is the FLATWORLD, UNCLEAN LOW ENERGY SPIRITS.
Be good 👍.
Whenever you see an older gentleman sitting on the tailgate of a pickup truck and talking, it's best to listen closely because he has a wealth of useable knowledge that he is sharing.
ABSOLUTELY 💯
I am 88years old and still take care of myself because I care how how I look for me.
You’re a Woman! Make up is a part of your culture. The video is by Men, for Men.
Waww good on you 👏👏👏❤ wish you more happy and healthy life 🙏
I needed to hear this! Good for you!
63 is still ypung in 2024 we have to have mibset of strivin for life as much as we can keep heakthy andcactive but not stressed
❤❤💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿👆🏿🔥🔥🔥🔥GREATTTT
this man is a man who has found peace. very few people ever come to this conclusion because they expect too much from others
This is how I also see things, but people can't get it.
Indeed😮😊
I expect nothing from others, and I expect too much from myself.
@@sandponics
That's why you are so blessed. God knows. 😊 ❤️
22 year old here, I may be young but my heart doesn't work great so I don't know how long I've got. Let's all appreciate every single day we have
Love cover you NOW, it's all we have NOW. ❤🎉
Jesus can do ALL things. Ask Him to do his will in your life and be at peace with whatever He chooses to do.
Awww may healing visit you❤
Well said Rob, there’s a good Bob Dylan song called Forever Young, worth a listen. Take care mate.
I love your strength…keep your mindset positive
I saw an article and it said: "I've never understood people being ashamed of their age as if it's some sort of failure.
If you aren't aging, you aren't living, so drop the shame and embrace the journey.
😃🌟❕THATS RIGHT❕🌟😊
❕🖖🏼😁👍🏼👍🏼❕
Sowhat I do not understand that either. I am 82 year old feel very proud of still being here and able to live by myself, doing what I want, getting up at 9:30 am or 10:0 0 am ( I love to sleep at least 8 hours or more) and sometimes loved doing just NOTHING, except watching UA-cam’s videos all day long and learning from them. I dance alone at home to keep my cells happy to avoid illnesses. I am planning to
Live at least until 97 but if I am still healthy I do not mind to reach 100 and to have a big party
I agree! I get tired of people, especially females, who are scared to say; how old they are! We live to age and we age to die! SIMPLE MATHEMATICS!
Well, I don't mind aging, just the helplessness that seems to go with. Pain a lot. Depends on the person. It helps to walk. I think it's wonderful for those who suffer no ill. That chalk it up to their personal will and strength without help. I face everyday with courage. And what God gives me strength to do. And I thank Him. But nothing is easy as one gets older for many people. Good if it's nothing to another. Also depends on the road traveled to get here.
I'll take any good advice or commentary.
Many people never get that opportunity of getting old, many die Young.
Right. Old age is a privilege denied many.
@@ananda_miaoyin Old age is a curse. Dying young is a privilege.
@@jayaCatLvr-ys5ix "Dying young is a privilege"?
Said not one human under 60.
@Ananda_miaoyin really? Im sure anyone who really thinks about it would prefer to go sooner rather than later. When you’re old you may forget everything that makes you, you due to dementia. Life is already a pretty fucked up experience you never asked for but it’s really wild to think that if you live long enough, your memories/experieces, your individuality can completely disappear. Not to mention needing assistance going to the bathroom doesn’t look to appealing either. Old people stuck in nursing homes are just rotting away waiting to die. By the time your old majority of your friends will be in the ground too. Idk man being old seems kinda ass.
@@drago9606 I have seen a lot of aging through my life working with the VA and hospice to include immediate family and do agree that the very last years can be exceedingly rough. So when I say "old age is a privilege denied many" what I really mean is to go before your natural healthy years is a real drag.
To lose those years that are spent in dispensing with your accumulated knowledge, wealth and wisdom; making endowments and mentoring is almost a wasted experience in total.
Almost.
Everyone is born alone and would die alone, sooner the better you come to terms with this fact. Thanks Doc.
Unless, of course, you decide to become an IMMORTALIST and transcend death as did Enoch, Elijah, Germaine, Sundar Singh and a number of others have done down through the ages.
GENESIS 5:24
And Enoch walked with God: and he was not; for God took him.
Yep.. And the world just dumps a bunch of rules and opinions to try and make you forget, but I never forget.
Yes, the Quran says (Every one of them shall come to Him upon the Day of Resurrection, all alone.)
Also what he said toward the end about a quick very simple burial is a well known Islamic rule, done for Kings or Common people.
@@hhussein6764the Quran😂
I'm 80 years old. My children have their own lives. Well said my man.
I'm coming to grips with this painful reality.
This truth has set me free. No more blaming my children.
No more blaming my parents.
@@5150Bud😊😂😂
61 now , living solitude , never expecting or longing from anyone , no disapointment here ! 😊
I love the way you worded this
In Australia, we have something called Men's She'd where the old fools can go and party. You should start one where you live.
So true! Outsiders are more supportive than your own family.
Possibly this is because the family are sick of you. Lighten up and party.
You're speaking for millions of us
How did you come to that assumption.
@@colcal5275It's true.
I realized this dynamic change coming in my 50’s. I remembered how I was when I was navigating a husband and children so I didn’t get mad when I didn’t hear from my kids. Now I’m 66 and my kids are in their 40’s dealing with their families and life issues. They call now for advice. I have learned you have to develop your own life and not depend on family or friends. You have to come to terms with being forgotten and overlooked as you age. God is your helper. I love my life helping older people adjust to the aging process. Your videos should be a mandatory course. Keep up the great work.
So true. I am experiencing this now. I feel lost and even hurt.
Just turned 50 but I still love my sleep and given the chance I can sleep early and when I wake up late night I look at time and be happy that I still have more time to sleep😅 I pray it doesn't come until more than 60😂
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@shereerabon8551 Me too. I turned 49 a few months ago. My feelings of irrelevance and abandonment have been growing for years.
A lot of things make sens3 but true love still exists thp matetnal bond i agree is strong
'Spread your life like a perfume to reach as many people as possible". Beautifully put
Good one in kenya
and watch yourself get used! yeah right.
This is a great message! I don't know why but I'm 49 years old and I think the same way already! I've noticed that funerals are for the living and not the dead.
Yep
I’m 58 and that’s what i know as well. My instructions is don’t wait for anyone bury me as soon as possible as cheap as possible and whatever money left do whatever. I will be gone, everything for me would be null and void.
@@LivingMyBestAlways cremate me, scatter my ashes in the Atlantic ocean. Only ceremony is that small gathering my of my kids.
Excellent commentary! I stopped going to funerals in 2014 when my Mom transitioned to the Spiritual Realm. I told her I was not going to her funeral, and she did not get mad at me, but she told me; "I ain't gonna know who's there anyway." With that said, I do not feel bad bcuz I do not attend funerals. If, I can't do for them before they transitioned, what can I do for them when they are lying in a casket cold as ice without blood running thru their veins?
We live to die, and we die to live! The Spiritual Realm takes over when you transition, and a RIGHTEOUS SPIRIT lives forever! My Dad & Mom are still LIVING thru me via the SPIRIT!
❤❤❤❤ I stopped going to funerals years ago too!
Dr Apoki, it’s rare to find Senior African Fathers tell us what it is like over 50, 60, 70 etc. May Yahweh give you strength to be an open book. Thank u for speaking to Family/Income/Sexuality/Psychological/Health issues in your various postings
Thanks so much. It's a promise I made to myself because the aging process looked too dark and mysterious. I decided to shed some light from various interviews with old people.
Well said. Very true. I am71. My wife past away 10 years ago with cancer. I retired & living my life travelling. Keeping in pray. In jesus christ mighty name i am healthy, no kind sickness. 🙏🙏🙏
There is no god.. actually there are 3000 gods and you are an atheist for them ALL except for ONE..The one that allows childhood cancer
So if I’m not healthy I should damn God? All abrahamic religions are fake bs.youre scared of being sick because your religion focuses on behavior. I can assure you regardless of how your wife was here she has moved on to a better place regardless of her mental brainwashed religion. With today’s Bible translation software and with access to so much information there is no excuse for anyone to call themselves a Christian, Jew or Muslim. All made up. In fact Jews created Christianity and the empower who brought to Europe was a slave owning raging homosexual because it suited his power goals. Constantine
My mother said that if you die young then you won't know what it is to get old staying positive and prayed up much love to the believers kelelah ❤❤
@@ernestinetodd7744 Believers don't believe in rational thought. Dey iz deluded fo sho.. I became a convinced atheist inn 1958 and my belief in science and reason has increased every year since then
May the grace of God be upon us... We that are 40s to start preparing...for our old age..
I am 60 yrs my self care and looking good matters to me not for anybody .
The only thing is i try not to let unnecessary things bother me i also set boundaries and keep toxic people at bay .
Very nice.
Yes I agree I’m working on trying not to get bothered by meaningless things
I keep toxic people away from myself also 🤨
Toxic people will surely take away your joy😢
The world is full of nice people. No reason to waste precious time on the bad ones.
Charles Apoki is only 63 years young. He is not that old.
Thanks for your words of wisdom
yea…63 is getting there , but not old any more.
another 15/20 good years to go .
good luck brother….
He's a young man with average life standards. 60 us the new 40. Lol. Well, definitely the new 50.
I’m nearly speechless. Where did you come from? God must have sent you to me on this day, my 67th birthday. Until very recently I was so brokenhearted about my only child, my daughter. Then I decided to accept that, as you put it, I’m just an option to her. Maybe this doesn’t mean I failed as a parent. Your wise words are helping me to accept that this perhaps is the natural order of things. And to not take it personally. Thank you! You have a new subscriber. ❤
Im 63. Kids dont owe their parents anything.Nobody ask to be brought into this mess
@@johnmitchell8925 That's not what the word of God says it says you're worse than an infidel If you don't take care of your family if they need you.
I am over 60 now, but I still value my appearance and well-being. It's important to me to be the best version of myself at any age. While our bodies may change as we age, it's crucial to maintain a youthful mindset. Whether we live to be 100 or more, we should always strive to live our best lives.
Just the truth. Our children inclusive. They hardly care about parents once they're grown.
A man once shared with me this one: "When we die, the world will just go on without us- AND VERY WELL WITHOUT US!" Yes, i needed that reminder to draw close to God our Maker & Christ our Savior, and be in peace in my soul by the grace of God.
My realizations of what matters come too slow, by my own fault. I have 7 children by my wife who divorced me against my will. Only 2 of my 7 pay me any respect, but my hope is in God. ❤
I don't seek pleasures at 72; but only relationship deepening with God and my few friends/family.
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It's only when it's too late that children realize how much they have lost. The blessings that come from just your father touching your head like the biblical story of Jacob and Esau.
This is why I have determined to live my last years just as I please doing whatever I please...
Why wait?
I am 72 this year married 48 years to same man, we were never blessed with our own children but spent 20 years fostering others children.
We have had a rich and varied life with many ups and downs along the road and times of happiness and times of deep sadness , God has been with there on the journey and will bring us safely home. My husband and I remain best friends in our later years because we have no competition for our attention apart from God. We enjoy a simple life together and have accepted that we have become optional extras to others. Perhaps we would find it hard to leave if life here was always like paradise.
Thank you for sharing that there are many ways to be become parents ❤.
watching from Ghana....I am 79, moved from Germany to USA lived there 45 years, 2019 I followed my son to Ghana.....so, a very busy and I interesting life. Sleep has become my most important topic!! What Dr Apoki is talking about is very real and important!
I think this is the single most wisdom filled video I've ever seen.
This man has found peace. I’m younger and I think he found something billions in this world never cared to see. God bless you sir.
I am 52 years young and one day willget 75 young and now trying to singing more than complaining. Thank you Doc. 🙏🇮🇩✝️
Am having a great morning today. It’s 6:28am Saturday 17 February 2024. On this day I came across your page.. this is a masterpiece. Thanks so much again sir.
Am exactly 32 now , it’s time for me to reflect 😢😢
Welcome aboard!
Nothing but truth man. I'm only 30 and I already realize how simple all these truths are.
You call 30 yrs only? Think 30 is few years?😮😮
@@ngangajeremiah9912 .......compared to 80 years old yes it is young. Are you 12 years old or something?
My looks still matter to me, selfcare is necessary for you no body else. Alot if old minded people think they are old and finished but i love how the west think about learning and living til the end. Life is for living. Old is a mindset. 60 and still growing i feel great.
Amen
As one gets older and gains wisdoms, one begins to realize that you are not the body and that you are not the mind. The wise ones will begin to keep a little distance from the body and mind in order to get in touch with the true self.
That’s right hun
@@benedetteenemuoh8534 Maturity speaking.
True that🤞 I take care to the fullest and I want to look my best in this age. I have been taking care of other people and now it's time for me.
Thank you Dr. Apoki for your highly informative and inspiring message. I live in Kenya and I'm now 80 years, and I'm carrying my years well. At my age I've learnt how to live alone and keep busy always, and not to worry about being rejected. I consider being alive and healthy, and living in a peaceful country, as the greatest gifts in live. May God continue to bless you as you continue enjoying your life, and sharing your wonderful life experiences with others.
You are 80???
U r so right sir,What I can't understand why r treated and looked at different once u hit the 50 mark.I noticed that as soon as I turned 50 .I know one thing for sure being a senior citizen is a million more like billion dollar a yr.business.Everything he s sayn so ,so true
Growing old is such a privilege.Awake each day with an attitude of gratitude. Always find the positive in every day.
There is always something to be grateful for. 🙏
Old age is disgusting.
Thanks🙏
It’s a curse
@@Ghost960RedBull FR
You’re wisdom is gracefully received in Nairobi, Kenya 🇰🇪.
Thank you Papa.
He is an Igbo Man?
Very wise man! Everything he said is true. My illumination came a bit early at 35 when I buried my late father. It redefined my outlook on life. People's lives are in their minds. "As a man thinketh..." Now at 40, the greatest skill I learned within a short time was the ability to say No, and the things to say Yes to. The second best was the ability to be my best friend. No man is an island, true but ask yourself, why are the most exotic travel destinations islands? Selah
So true that if I had to depend on my adult children for assistance, I'd be miserable. They take and contribute very little to my life other than grandkids and when I decline to babysit, I don't hear from them for weeks because they're angry. Im used to it and live my life ❤🎉😊
At 37 years old, what you said here has me thinking alot.
I’m a simple man, I see a pick-up truck I click watch😂 long live African king 💪🏼
I love pickup trucks....especially Chevrolet.
So true Pop I’m in my 50’s now an I see what you are talking about my three sons are living their life they call for advice or something else they will come visit when they can . Over all life has treated me well praise God🙏🏽🙏🏽
It is the truth. May God help us in old age
Watching from South Africa, I'm in my early 40s and this message reached me in time, now I can make life changing decisions on how I will leave like at my old age, thanks a lot Dr Apoki for your life changing teachings ❤
I resonate with you!
Respect ❤
We not old we are now vintage
thanks for sharing this reality. I am 63 i am glad i found your channel...I am 63 and have come to realize most of what you are saying as true. I am now a subscriber.
Thanks.
Thank you for this wisdom. I m reaching 40 and thinking ahead and planning. I’m a civil engineer and my plan is to go back to my homeland Congo and spend my last few decades doing something I love - Road building & farming.
Great. I pray for peace in Congo.
I m 63, born again,widow and mother of two girls. I happened to see this video and it has really made my night. I laughed soooo much. Thank you for speaking the truth and we are with you.
So truthful and wise,i am 75 and alone with a lot of changes
I can’t wait to get old n leave this world no more paying for anything n be in complete peace is a life I want
WOW, when people Walk away allow them to walk away and face reality.
This your words really teach me to reset my thinking towards people
You absolutely right. When us men get up in age where invisible to the world. Almost like were in the way and we feel no sence of accomplishments. The regrets, I wish I saved more for retirement I'm sure we all deal with that. And then we get thrown into a senior living community or convalescent care due to poor health choices. Well not me I fly over seas and still get attention from beautiful women I can hear them say all they want is your money. No matter where u go or live every one wants your money.
grow up passport bro. Didn't your mum give you enough attention when you were young?
@MisterNumber6 you be blessed my brotha 🙏 All praise to Jesus
Money is a poor substitute for human love and interaction.
I am 84. I still care how neat I look and dress. I care about other people and show it every day.
Everyone speaks highly of me. I am truly blessed with good health, can hold a good conversation
and express myself well. GOD has shown great blessing in my life. Praise GOD in the highest.
I dont know you sir but I love you sir, just discovered your video this morning.
Thanks and welcome
I just found you. I am in Oklahoma United States. I am 78 years old. I am a widow with 7 adult children. I have 5 grandsons. I have plenty but this is eye opening. What an interesting fellow. Thanks for this video.
My pleasure God bless you senior
Brutal...but the truth.
I like the Leave me alone part 😂😂😂
I love you Sir. You are blessing my life tremendously.
I get you loud and clear my brother, yes now I live for myself first , and I have no apologies.
Our children are never our own, they are souls searching after themselves; they only came in through us.
Take care of your health and financies. The only people who care about you when you get old are your God, and your money. My children and grandchildren love and adore me, but I’ve learned to let them go on and live their lives independently, and I , chose to pick up and start taking care of and loving myself and finding compassion in me. I’m living to the fullest and enjoying myself.
Love from 🇺🇸 and 🇰🇪.
Peace.
Thank you brother, keep on posting, I really enjoy your wise talk.
Oversixty? Like and subscribe!
God bless you sir
I feel the same way you do about all that you have said. I am a 58 year old man. People care more about what you can do for them than they do you. Learn to live a life that is enjoyable to you and die with no regrets.
I love this Man. He is a father figure indeed
When the truth is spoken, you will know because silence follows.
He is 100% correct you’re children or your extended family can become your worst enemy. They will use you but when you need them, they are nowhere to be found. They will ignore you. They will not have nothing to do with you.
Get busy living or get busy dying, you all have a blessed day 😊
The elder has spoken
👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 A Nigerian who thinks outside the box. Refreshing.
I wish my mother listened to this. She would have saved herself so much unhappiness she felt from ungrateful family members and yes many children no longer remember their parents.
I absolutely loved this. I will subscribe. You have inspired me to do a video on celebrating people when their alive. Thank You
Well said
Speaking with such wisdom. I'm only 42 and I think I will have to leave a lot of instructions and plan my own funeral ahead of time. Life is what it is.
U dont nid to plan ur funeral.instead prepare for ur hear after.by connecting with ur creator.so that the creator will be pleased with u n receive u in heaven.
No you're right on the money you need to plan all that stuff early your family just going to let whatever happen
I am turning 30 this year,all my life ive always wanted to take care of my siblings and if i ever have kids to love them unconditionaly. Growing up i was surrounded by a lot of friends showered with love. At this age, everything has changed seeing my siblings finding their own feet and not needing me anymore. My words are less of an influence but in all of this i have seen this as a sign to find pleasure in what makes me happy.
What he is saying is that people should take care of their parents when they’re alive. Not when the person dies then they start celebrating.
I love this old man, hahaha, Dr. Apoki, thank you for such insights and gratitude from the Republic of South Africa. 🎉
The way you say your name with pride 💪
There's something anecdotal about growing old. Often times I stand before the mirror and reminisce through the years and something of elation engulfles me as I compare my station now ( and still moving, thank God). It's really nice to a member of the last of the summer wine, the vintage class ! Thank you, Lord for this my Ebenezer ! Praise and Honour be to your Mighty Name !
These are words of wisdom I’m in my late sixties. All said is the truth
I like you Dr Apoki. The world today is a world of lost souls. I also discovered what you are talking about just as I turned 60 a couple of years ago. Welcome to the party
I just come across this by accident. I thank God that i did. Wahooo!!! This really minister to be. I have been very sad by the behaviour of some people around me. I think i am lightened up. I thought I am bad. My neighbour and church members have value foe me more than my siblings and children that i sacrificed for. I am grateful for this message. God bless you sir.
Amen.
The best UA-cam video l have watched in a very lonnnnggggg time
Absolutely
I am 51. I appreciate hearing this. Deep wisdom. These truths spoken brought tears to my eyes because I too accept the reality of this situation in life. Thank you for sharing and helping others by sharing.
This is among the most educative that I have listened
I am a women and i didn't know how a man can feel. We as women we have to take also note of this!. Thank you DR. APOKI for sharing. GOD bless you too!.
I'm 42 years old right now and watching this video brought me piece of mind and also helped me make up my mind to focus on myself and build a life I enjoy and will hopefully be able to enjoy later in life because the people I spend most of my life worrying about will not care about me and they already treat me as if I'm a second option...
From this day forward I will focus on myself
I am 74 and still living with my spouse. She is 8 years younger. We are seeing all that has been told in this narration. God give us the strength and courage to face the reality of being old. Thank you Doc for your openness.
Your speech really made me to think
Please more videos around Aging, African proverbs, your experiences, and wise advice…
I'm from Detroit, Michigan and I'm a 73 years young.
You are absolutely right and all I can say is thank you very much.
Especially when you mention our looks and grey hair. Keep speaking TRUTH.
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36 years old, And yes This Man speaks All the Facts!!!!! Most Important messages on UA-cam.
Am 55 yrs I have learned to stay alone and so happy wen I feel like having fun I go out am active doing my duties
Sir, you are very right. I know I’m still a youth, but just as you said, I’m learning to condition my mind and learning how to live stay comfortable alone. I can be alone without my family for a long time, although they are always in my heart, I pray for them, and I take responsibilities when possible. But I’m learn to stay alone and live independently because of how I believe the future will be. Because at the end, it’s me and me alone.
That was dead on . Thats exactly how i feel
Reality!! I walk alone
At 61, I'm finding this to be so true. Thank you, Dr. Charles
I am now 66 years old. I work in technology as a Sr. Application Developer. Recently taking an interest in Artificial Intelligence. If I listen to some people I should have already gone away. The AI that I work with is supposed to accelerate me being replaced and made obsolete. I don't worry if I will outlive my use on this planet. It pleases me to remain a part of it and I am happy when I can create something even if it is quite microscopic on a cosmic level.
As of my comment, I am 66 years, nine months and 4 days. Doing audio, video, music, photo, data technology while owning and operating lots of equipment to do my live original, copyright, music shows allowed me to continue to keep on keeping on. I’ve thought about having AI in music videos doing dance moves. I’m hoping to learn how to do animations and/or other forms of visual creations. Being blessed with talents, skills and resources at my age is more than I ever thought of in my younger years. Being behind the camera is as great than being in front of cameras. Things and equipment is always changing digitally which allows me to tap into and learn about while also having knowledge and experience with analog from way back since my early childhood. Being able to transfer, duplicate, convert, etc., allowed me to restore and create memories for so many others. I believe that everyone should be seen and heard. We all are unique and have stories. Reading the Bible gave me awareness of how people from biblical times are still read about these days and times. Many Bible stories does not have detailed information. Each person now can write and say whatever with as much detail and clarity. Having smart devices created was one of the greatest inventions ever done. Living in America, many people get free government smart phones. The internet is available worldwide and many have access to various platforms where others to learn and know about. If you and I can connect to talk about AI, that would be a start for me to talk with someone just by mentioning you work in technology in this UA-cam video. I always heard it takes time to meet that are positive and want to share their skills, talents, etc.. Thanks for reading my comments. I am also on Facebook as Noreene Mack Bostick. I look forward to connecting. Smiles
How then do you reconcile the conflicting potential outcome of your developments? given that if not you as a beneficiary, someone else might or will be replaced and made obsolete by it. Creation from information to material doesn't have to be just for fun, or purely for material or personal or corporate gains, but it ought to have meaning that transcends all those partials without making a subset of humans obsolete.
@@colbos1 I chose Application Developer in the technology sector purely on the basis of having a job when I got out of college. I realize that advances in technology change and shape the future. I also agree that necessity is the mother of invention. Out of necessity change comes and sometimes makes what we do obsolete. Sadly many of our best craftsmen have experienced this and through no lack of ability or dedication to their trade. I chase technology changes truly like a hamster on a wheel sometimes. I really can't stop if I want to be part of that as a career. It does not define me however. I have found balance. This balance results in push backs which anger those that prefer the hamster on the wheel remains quiet If you stand up and be different you will find some will dismiss you They cannot take advantage and they don't want that. I guess we accept that our options will be limited but we set an example for a balanced society which is helping set the future for rational and peaceful and meaningful coexistence.
Are yall hiring ? This job market crazy
@@Rileyck1 i don't have a business that hires. I am a contract worker. Recruiters contract me. Jobs sites I use are DICE, Monster, linkedIn and Glassdoor. But I hear Glassdoor has started to report people that apply for jobs to their managers. That's bad. It's a bad world right now. Best of luck.
I’m 63 and have been married since 1994 w two ‘kids’ in their mid 20s and my wife started with this behavior about 15yrs ago. I haven’t cheated, I definitely don’t put hands on anyone, don’t drink, smoke, no drugs and I don’t hang out etc. I’m not perfect but I’ve always put my family first, especially my two kids. Wife turned off to my touch years ago and I realize that damn near every other married dude I know my age is found through THE SAME BULLSHT!!!
@@user-np7pq2gy1vYou really believe that nonsense?? That’s an excuse. His wife checked out of the relationship and she’s staying with him cuz it’s the easy thing to do
😢😢 very sad
My friend am your age mate and retired from Kenya and I have experienced all that you share.
This is all a reality.
God bless
Amen.
@@DrCharlesApoki which region are you from in Nigeria? Are you s medical Dr or academic? Am academic Dr now retired and aiming to give back to society as my graph takes me close to my maker
@@tobiasarudo7315 I am a medical doctor with 40 years experience . I am a Nigerian. Aging has a universal similarity that's why they have old people's homes overseas with care givers. People move on with their lives and you are not their priority. That's the reality.
Profound! What a comfort and eye opener...I always wondered why most of our fathers died so unhappy and lonely! I'm sharing this Gospel Truth with my naive brothers, here in Lesotho 🇱🇸
I am alone and content. I expect nothing from family and friends. So be it.
Yes Dr. Ty.. I really appreciate this video. I’m going to be 59 soon.. I find myself reevaluating my life and which direction I shift .. it’s a bit concerning. I have one daughter, she’s now taken her own path in life. I’m stuck.. lot material things really don’t matter : I work all the time, and trying to figure out what’s next. I’ll stay tuned to follow your journey, maybe I can get some pointers from you. God Bless you. 😊
Refreshing water from a wise loving mature man of God. Thank you.
As a 73 year old father, this is one of the best videos I have seen in a long time. A very long time. Thank you Dr. Apoki.
You are most welcome
I'm 80 and what he says is so true for me.
Words of wisdom. Wish i can meet you someday and give you a hug. This is exacly what i preach every time to my husband, we get too sentimental and attached to things & people thay will eventually not need us or dont need us at the moment. The people that will really appreciate your good deeds are strangers. May God help us all not to have regrets in our latter days cos it will hurt bad.
As a great thinker, don’t just listen to people talk
You are a wise man who says it as it is
May God keep you sir
Truth be told...he put it very well
I am 38 now turning 39 and I have no wife no children and no girlfriend, you have lived a good life. God bless you
Maybe you don't fine it necessary if not, what are waiting for,? Try and get anyone that comes your way after all,there is no angel on earth
@@Jennifer-zv8vp I try everyday and I get rejected all the time Jennifer, would you like to go out ?
@@derick-johnroman7249Come on! It can't be that bad!
@@derick-johnroman7249 Learn Game
Don't panic, I was in exactly the same boat and one day I found someone and had a child. You never know what is around the corner but you must search, if you don't believe, you won't succeed.
This is how I feel at 70. I'm a complete different person than i was just 10 years ago.