This is a critical part of the intimacy dynamics between the man and the woman. Another aspect of the dynamics is the fact that intimacy is for mutual benefits, whether with respect to pleasure, relief, procreation, strengthening of the marriage-bond, etc. The mutuality component naturally demands that both parties contribute to making it work. Making love in the context of marriage should not be seen as a privilege earned through worship (called "romance"), and from the man to the woman, but rather as a contribution by both parties to the maintenance of the relationship. The man needs to do his part, and the woman does her part to build this beautiful relationship. There's a lot of perspectives to this situation more than the correct disposition portrayed by the video. I'm just saying, though.
My bro, God bless you. It seems like it is a priviledge for the woman to give the man. This is why it is always weaponised. May men get to the point that sex or not, they are fine. This is why it is important that men chase purpose.
Let the woman always desire you more than you desire her at all times and they will be no deprivation always remain solid and masculine yet romantic and tensioned
Maximum respect sir. My perspective is this: the key to Jerusalem is like the four fingers and the thumb. Without the thumb the four fingers are next to useless. Without the fingers, the thumb can do wonders. Key to my analogy : everything mentioned are the four fingers except money( the thumb). Men, make sure you are capable (money) and with the four fingers, you will become a perpetual pilgrim.
Dr Apoki, you are indeed a genius. Thanks for your vulnerability. Many men approach women from logical angles, but it has to be from emotional angles. If you are going for fishing, you take worms not cake / fufu. You have to look at things from their perspective. Many Christian men especially are quick to point to “wives submit.,,” as if their wives are robots.
DR. APOKI YOU REALLY UNDERSTAND PSYCHOLOGY WHICH VERY ESSENTIAL IN RELATIONSHIPS. SOME MEN ARE JUST PASSIVE AND NEVER APPRECIATE THEIR SPOUSES SACRIFICE IN RUNNING THE HOME.
You’re quite correct sir but this theory should be applied with discretion. If you become too soft she totally disrespects you, if you become too hard, you push her away. It’s dicey just like a Mercedes, drive too hard you destroy the AMG or get a fatal accident, don’t drive at all or too slow, you never enjoy that sweet automobile experience of an AMG
I'm so glad I found your channel. You’re like the uncle I never had 🙏🏽. That being said, there’s really no difference between humans and lesser creatures. What you’ve just described is very similar to the courting rituals many animals use to attract mates. The only difference is that this behavior seems less common among animals that mate for life. Like marriage, once the ultimate bond is formed and the pair is committed, trust and sacrifice gradually eliminate the need for constant courting and appeasing in exchange for affection. Still, it is what it is, and you’re absolutely right. One can either choose your wise advice or continue to speak in grand philosophical terms while suffering from frustration 😅.
Dr Akpoki, so lovely listening to you. I hope there are young men listening to you on how to treat their wives and to reach Jerusalem. You make me chuckle, stay blessed
This is wisdom at its Best... When it comes to these matters..... I have watched a couple of video from your Channel hadn't yet Subscribed, But this one has made me Do so..
@@kosiekoos9408you want to victim blame abi? A man without wisdom cannot be helped by anyone. You don't have to do anything to him, it is common sense which he just does not have that's his problem.
Great video but woman of today are cut from a different cloth. If you are not sharply you will go broke and then dumped for being broke. It has become a lot more complicated for men to navigate this issue today.
He is right, but it mostly works on married couples. It's a different dynamic, when you're dating I agree that girls are simply insane. If you're dating, never date someone who you can't see yourself marry
As a young married man, though, not too young and as one who married in Europe and do not have most challenges identified by @charles. However, I agree with Dr Charles but i will say men should be becareful and wise in applyibg this formula. This is because, what arouse a woman today will not work tomorrow trust me. So, therefore, base on my personal experience, men should be creative and unpredictable to their wives in pleasing them. Nonetheless ooh, always prepare your mind to be disappointed irrespective of your efforts 😂😂😂. Truth be told, now I understand why our ancestors both in the bible married more than 1 wife, it 100% does make sense now but what can we do as unfortunately society have gradually declined it to be wrong 😢😢. Again, one unfortunate thing I have notice is, because our stupid body knows that we will not always get it when we asked for it, the body will be wanting it more than when you know its always available 😢 what an irony 😅😅😅
Good counsel sir. However, I have learnt in my 16yrs of marriage that you can't please a woman. Just do your best but never allow yourself 2 be manipulated in2 carrying out her whims and caprices just 4 Jerusalem sake. If she denies you your right unduly, seek your satisfaction else where or in other things you enjoy. Do not build your life and future around her... cos you will surely be disappointed. Trust me there is more 2 life than marriage Thanks.
Pretty sure you didn't listen to this video before making your own conclusion n posting a response. Please listen again from beginning to end n learn. Your post shows that you really need to sit at Dr Apoki's feet to learn wisdom. You sure need a lot of wisdom. I can imagine what your wife is suffering from you.
@@lilyefegreat458 someone who already left his wife, you can lick his feet for your own wisdom. Say what you like, women can't be satisfied. The best thing a man can do is to be the best version of himself, with or without a woman
As a medical doctor with 40 years experience, married for 39 years and masters degree holder in the social sciences and a scavenger for knowledge I accumulated knowledge and experience over the years. As a Christian I pray in the spirit and meditate a lot. It is 1:30 am but I am still working. It's been like that since I was 16 years old now I am 65.
Very very good advice. But I recommend what someone else suggested. Spend all this patience, time, energy and money on developing yourself than trying to please complicated women. The same woman who requires 'all these' to be on, would sleep with a celebrity on first sight, in fact, would pursue a celebrity or 'more valuable' man and be rejected by him, whilst you begging.
God bless you sir. I just stumbled upon this video. Indeed you are such a mentor to have. I will contact you soon. However, don't be on a look out for me sir. LOL God bless you.
The good news is he sounds like the perfect African man, the Bad news also, he sounds Like the perfect African man. I admire only when he gatherers his diverse resources to be self serving. He is so cunning. But tax money you contribute to your mechanic for driving a Mercedes. Or compairing problems with more glamorized problems that is what is expected for the avargr African man to survive and u r a distinguished African man. Women refuse sex, because they are narcistic and business oriented, when your offers, Love, as it maybe, become limp, the sex will disappear. It's normal. This man has no solution for those years he was shortchange as if robbery. But he survived
Men before you get married, make sure you are at a point where you can't live without being married! Make sure you only marry to get that which you can't get outside marriage.
I am laughing my brains off. You said you will be aggressive during the day at work and then crawl down like a cockroach at night!😅😅😅
Yes 😂😂😂
😂😂
This is a critical part of the intimacy dynamics between the man and the woman. Another aspect of the dynamics is the fact that intimacy is for mutual benefits, whether with respect to pleasure, relief, procreation, strengthening of the marriage-bond, etc. The mutuality component naturally demands that both parties contribute to making it work. Making love in the context of marriage should not be seen as a privilege earned through worship (called "romance"), and from the man to the woman, but rather as a contribution by both parties to the maintenance of the relationship. The man needs to do his part, and the woman does her part to build this beautiful relationship. There's a lot of perspectives to this situation more than the correct disposition portrayed by the video. I'm just saying, though.
My bro, God bless you. It seems like it is a priviledge for the woman to give the man. This is why it is always weaponised. May men get to the point that sex or not, they are fine. This is why it is important that men chase purpose.
"You cannot go to Jerusalem with a sweating pilot"😅😅.. Dr. Apoki you are unique😂😂
😂😂😂 I always get to Jerusalem sweaty, but hold on, I just realized am the passenger not the pilot 😅😅
🤣🤣🤣@@Enabu1
😂😂😂😂
Your type of African man is rare
Not really
There's millions out there
Very useful information. I am Black American, 62, living in America. I feel that compassion, and mutual respect are important.
That analogy about the mad woman's lock of hair is fire!!!
THIS IS A REALLY GOOD VIDEO! WHY? BECAUSE IT IS VERY TRUE. 😂
Thanks so much please share with others.
Let the woman always desire you more than you desire her at all times and they will be no deprivation always remain solid and masculine yet romantic and tensioned
Facts
Baba you're a national treasure 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Maximum respect sir. My perspective is this: the key to Jerusalem is like the four fingers and the thumb. Without the thumb the four fingers are next to useless. Without the fingers, the thumb can do wonders. Key to my analogy : everything mentioned are the four fingers except money( the thumb). Men, make sure you are capable (money) and with the four fingers, you will become a perpetual pilgrim.
What a great fingering insight...money. Finance and romance are twins.😂😂😂😂🗝️🔐
Modern Day King Solomon. You are wise Doc
Dr Akpoki is a wise man he visited my church in port Harcourt his teaches exposes you to the reality of life 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
You have spoken pure truth, Dr Apoki 🙏🏾 As a woman, I completely agree
Dr you are full.of wisdom. Am glad i landed on this channel. Learning alot here. Our husbands need to hear this wisdom.🙏
Drinking from this fountain from Kenya.
Dr Charles Akpoooookkiii😅😅 thank you for the words of wisdom.
Dr Apoki, you are indeed a genius. Thanks for your vulnerability. Many men approach women from logical angles, but it has to be from emotional angles. If you are going for fishing, you take worms not cake / fufu. You have to look at things from their perspective. Many Christian men especially are quick to point to “wives submit.,,” as if their wives are robots.
So true.
You are a man of the people. I want to talk to you one day
Preach am oh dear Sir. Preach am 🙏🏽 He who has ears should hear.
Another banger!! Words of wisdom.
Very open and sincere I wish all men will listen to your advice
Great wisdom Dr.Apoki, I have learnt something all the way from Zambia.
100% well said. I wish my husband would hear this.
You’ve said it all.
Let our men learn. God bless you!
Just share with him straight 😊
Well said Sir. I thoroughly enjoyed this!
Mercedes grace,mercy and reward
😂😂😂. I love the wisdom of the native doctor.
I can’t stop laughing ❤️Thank you Dr Apoki
Nah wahhh for you Dr.Akpoki well done xx🎉
U are very practical and plain
I am learning alot from u daddy
God bless you❤
Amen.
DR. APOKI YOU REALLY UNDERSTAND PSYCHOLOGY WHICH VERY ESSENTIAL IN RELATIONSHIPS.
SOME MEN ARE JUST PASSIVE AND NEVER APPRECIATE THEIR SPOUSES SACRIFICE IN RUNNING THE HOME.
Dr Charles, you are an epitome of knowledge. A blessing to our generation, thank you for all you do for humanity.
You’re quite correct sir but this theory should be applied with discretion. If you become too soft she totally disrespects you, if you become too hard, you push her away. It’s dicey just like a Mercedes, drive too hard you destroy the AMG or get a fatal accident, don’t drive at all or too slow, you never enjoy that sweet automobile experience of an AMG
In other words "balance"
I'm so glad I found your channel. You’re like the uncle I never had 🙏🏽.
That being said, there’s really no difference between humans and lesser creatures. What you’ve just described is very similar to the courting rituals many animals use to attract mates. The only difference is that this behavior seems less common among animals that mate for life. Like marriage, once the ultimate bond is formed and the pair is committed, trust and sacrifice gradually eliminate the need for constant courting and appeasing in exchange for affection. Still, it is what it is, and you’re absolutely right. One can either choose your wise advice or continue to speak in grand philosophical terms while suffering from frustration 😅.
Dr Akpoki, so lovely listening to you. I hope there are young men listening to you on how to treat their wives and to reach Jerusalem. You make me chuckle, stay blessed
I always enjoy your videos great job you're doing I love this one a lot would share it with my husband lol
Thanks Doctor, I agree with everything you said but they will forever need more for the gate to be open.They are never grateful or satisfied.
FACTS UPON FACTS!
Any woman that deprived her husband with sex is not a good wife .period
They are usually grateful at that moment then you have to creative again as you need it another time.
Hence life style just way of handling. 😂😂
Sometimes I wish we were just like animals. Women use mount Olive to reward, abuse and use men
Women are very easy to please. Men just would rather be nice to people (side chicks) outside than to their wives because of ego n lack of wisdom.
Dr Charles, thanks. I will definitely give you a shout one of these days.
More wisdom, God bless you, Sir!
Watching you from Zambia 🇿🇲 ❤
Thank you sar, I am a 23 year old guy. Your words help shape my thoughts
Thank you for the wisdom Granny ❤ blessings
This is wisdom at its Best... When it comes to these matters..... I have watched a couple of video from your Channel hadn't yet Subscribed, But this one has made me Do so..
Me too, I immediately clicked subscribe button after listening.
Wow i wish my x husband listened to this....treating me like a dog during the day and expecting jerusalem at night, couldn't work
😭😭😭😭😭
But what is your part? You totally innocent? What did u do to him?
@@kosiekoos9408 Women believe they're innocent by default.
Now you are someone's sidekick 😅😆
@@kosiekoos9408you want to victim blame abi? A man without wisdom cannot be helped by anyone. You don't have to do anything to him, it is common sense which he just does not have that's his problem.
Great video but woman of today are cut from a different cloth. If you are not sharply you will go broke and then dumped for being broke. It has become a lot more complicated for men to navigate this issue today.
He is right, but it mostly works on married couples. It's a different dynamic, when you're dating I agree that girls are simply insane.
If you're dating, never date someone who you can't see yourself marry
God bless u dr Apoki I love u sir more grace to Ur elbow
Thanks for all you do sir, you're a rare gem
My pleasure
Waohh this is really inspiring!!
You are God-Sent🙏 Thank you Dr, Mentor and Area Grand Father. Greetings from Kigali
What a lesson, true wisdom.
Great counsel.. you softened my heart o.. loved the example of patience...
Thank daddy. I won't miss this coming seminar.
This is experiential Knowledge.....Thank you for sharing this golden wisdom
Original Grandfather na you bikooooo. Ndewo for this advice.
Dr Apoki you make me laugh even when I am serious, very informative and humorous, viva.
As a young married man, though, not too young and as one who married in Europe and do not have most challenges identified by @charles. However, I agree with Dr Charles but i will say men should be becareful and wise in applyibg this formula. This is because, what arouse a woman today will not work tomorrow trust me. So, therefore, base on my personal experience, men should be creative and unpredictable to their wives in pleasing them. Nonetheless ooh, always prepare your mind to be disappointed irrespective of your efforts 😂😂😂.
Truth be told, now I understand why our ancestors both in the bible married more than 1 wife, it 100% does make sense now but what can we do as unfortunately society have gradually declined it to be wrong 😢😢.
Again, one unfortunate thing I have notice is, because our stupid body knows that we will not always get it when we asked for it, the body will be wanting it more than when you know its always available 😢 what an irony 😅😅😅
Thank you Sir for this
But every Woman and marriage are unique on their own.
It's not a one solution fits all, especially in these times.
Dr. Charles Apoki, very apt and instructive. God bless you for😊 sharing so deeply from the heart.
Good to hear from you sir these is what meny people don't understand my professor
thank you Doctor ,one of the best
Thank you, Dr. Charles
You are very welcome
Good counsel sir. However, I have learnt in my 16yrs of marriage that you can't please a woman. Just do your best but never allow yourself 2 be manipulated in2 carrying out her whims and caprices just 4 Jerusalem sake. If she denies you your right unduly, seek your satisfaction else where or in other things you enjoy. Do not build your life and future around her... cos you will surely be disappointed. Trust me there is more 2 life than marriage Thanks.
Well said
Hope in seeking, you will not bring sickness and mind you, you will still spend money before getting the satisfaction from else where
Pretty sure you didn't listen to this video before making your own conclusion n posting a response. Please listen again from beginning to end n learn. Your post shows that you really need to sit at Dr Apoki's feet to learn wisdom. You sure need a lot of wisdom. I can imagine what your wife is suffering from you.
@@lilyefegreat458 someone who already left his wife, you can lick his feet for your own wisdom.
Say what you like, women can't be satisfied.
The best thing a man can do is to be the best version of himself, with or without a woman
@@joyndidiamakaedosomwan2425 He said you can also seek your joy in other things asides women in general
God bless you really good " I like that part"
True baba there's different July or August,u will realize it....
I love the last part of the video where we have to "deaf" 😂😂 so so real and true papa
great story sir
Doctor Charles, how come you know so much on so many issues.?
As a medical doctor with 40 years experience, married for 39 years and masters degree holder in the social sciences and a scavenger for knowledge I accumulated knowledge and experience over the years. As a Christian I pray in the spirit and meditate a lot. It is 1:30 am but I am still working. It's been like that since I was 16 years old now I am 65.
Happy listening to your priceless pieces of advice. Tks again Sir
Thank you so much sir, for this lovely lovely 🎉teaching.❤❤❤❤❤ I am so happy
Very very good advice. But I recommend what someone else suggested. Spend all this patience, time, energy and money on developing yourself than trying to please complicated women. The same woman who requires 'all these' to be on, would sleep with a celebrity on first sight, in fact, would pursue a celebrity or 'more valuable' man and be rejected by him, whilst you begging.
Good video. Real talk.
You are wonderful.
God bless you sir.
I just stumbled upon this video.
Indeed you are such a mentor to have.
I will contact you soon. However, don't be on a look out for me sir. LOL
God bless you.
Thanks you so much.
Great, thanks sir
I really wish all men could see this. It is true.
Great man sir
Fantastic story
Many many thanks
We are 41k Amazing
Glory to God.
Good sermon!
No lies detected😊
God bless you more sir.
A very useful channel
I love u sir God bless u real good.
The good news is he sounds like the perfect African man, the Bad news also, he sounds Like the perfect African man. I admire only when he gatherers his diverse resources to be self serving. He is so cunning. But tax money you contribute to your mechanic for driving a Mercedes. Or compairing problems with more glamorized problems that is what is expected for the avargr African man to survive and u r a distinguished African man. Women refuse sex, because they are narcistic and business oriented, when your offers, Love, as it maybe, become limp, the sex will disappear. It's normal. This man has no solution for those years he was shortchange as if robbery. But he survived
good sir ,were you a student of GCU ,I KOPE KEEP THE SHIP SAILING IS IN ORDER?
Keep keeping ship sailing
Thank you sir for the advice
wisdom chief
He’s so funny. Thank you @Dr charles apoki
This should be required upbringing for boys.
After wife came from work AC did what? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.. anyway I'm learning 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Is this a university?
THOSE THAT LAUGH AT U TODAY WILL SEE WERE GOD POSITION U TOMORROW , MORE VIBES SUBSCRIBE KIND HEART ❤️❤️
God bless you sir
Human philosophies...
Men before you get married, make sure you are at a point where you can't live without being married! Make sure you only marry to get that which you can't get outside marriage.
Dr Apoki my friend, my wife is 66 she says heaven gates are closed from the time she reached 60
😂😂😂😂😂
Well said
My friend