Day 89 of no contact, it gets easier guys, trust me. For the first 3 weeks I was depressed and had no motivation to do anything, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t eat. I loved her with every fiber of my being, 2 months later I no longer even want her back, she no longer matters… she left me for somebody else, that’s unforgivable to me, I would never take her back and you shouldn’t either.
Dude I want to give you hope, she reached out at day 96. It’s been 4 months she came back, we are happier than ever, everyone learned their lesson, just one thing try to be ready for when your ex come back if you want because it is the hardest part because you don’t exactly know what to do. Follow exactly what coach Lee says EDIT : Oh you don’t want her back sorry never mind my message then !
@@Louis_B_creations i’m not telling anyone what to do… people can make their own choices, me personally, I can’t forgive someone that cheated on me and stabbed me in the back.
@ i’m giving people hope and a message of positivity, because I know a lot of people watching are suffering, they’re in tremendous pain, and i’m giving hope by saying I was in their position, but that it gets better with TIME and that this pain will subside.
I listened carefully to all coach Lee,s videos and did exactly what he said . 3 months struglling with no contact . No messages no texts . I started lossing hope , and suddenly she called asking about something and what is going on with my work . I cant believe it worked . I responded politly and Im keeping with my no contact .please listen carfully to his videos , as if he is pretending about the future . Thank u coach Lee .
She called me from an international phone (fake/rented) number. Her avatar was her old photo in scuba diving costume under the water with a mask on her face. 😂😂 She is a severe avoidant I must add…
I thnk another question you may want to deeply reflect on is whether you really want to take someone back who continues to play games and manipulate you, intentional or not, after they shattered your trust and your heart. Save your love and your energy for someone who meets you half-way, values you and what you bring to the relationship, isn't afraid to have difficult conversations with you and won't run at the first sign of difficulty. You deserve to be treated with respect so don't let someone else's actions take that away from you.
We broke up 7 Months ago, our Near 10 Year Relationship came to an end. I genuinely didn’t know how to move on for the longest time. She still came around, we had a situationship badly. At the beginning of November, I had enough and told her I never wanted to see her anymore. She instantly got a new boyfriend within a month, seemed shady, so I blew up on her. She hit the nail in the coffin and got a Restraining order on me for calling her out on BS. I officially moved on around the same time and entered a new relationship on Christmas Eve. It’s over, I’m over it, And I have officially moved on. Your videos helped me at my lowest at the beginning. But I’ve realized, I never wanted them back, the rose tinted glasses came off.
I recently purchased your reunion bluepring to support you, you're helping so many people in so many ways. Can you make a video about a logistics meeting with an ex? A lot of us are expecting similar situations and need some professional guidance.
I found your videos after my ex cheated and left me. It honestly helped me so much. What helped me was I went full on delete mode. I permanently deleted EVERYTHING and blocked her, family and friends straight away. She is nothing but a dead memory. It's been 13 months now and not one bit of contact has happened, not even a hint. If I saw her in public I wouldn't even acknowledge her existence. I will be honest, I see her face everyday still and I will never wish anything bad upon her but I live life now as if our relationship never even happened.
Another great video. Good job Coach! Please don’t dance when they throw pennies at your feet … dignity people. (me paraphrasing point 4.) Coach, you ever thought about making a board/card/digital game? Scenarios, situations… getting taken back to the no contact time line’s beginning if you mess up. Make it 6 (? Too long) months to the end to “win”. Winning should be that you’re a better, more emotionally mature, more competent in that thing you got really good at doing to help yourself divert attention away from the breakup, more confident, stronger, more attractive person despite probably aging (unless you’re Coach Lee.) With or with out ex, you win if you do no contract right with the coach :)
I realized after i sent this comment that this board/card/app game idea is exactly what you already asked everyone about when you asked if they would pay for AI-Coach-Lee. Except if you taught AI your parameters, and were actively involved in moderating, it would be infinitely better than card game. I was playing with Claude from Anthropic (so awesome) asking him (?) to role play a sort of situation where this guy reached out sporadically - to help me figure out what i was doing wrong. It was very revealing, to get the feedback, not too different from yours … sorry… this is a lot of words to say i think your AI idea is really brilliant, and has potential to seriously help people see themselves and reveal things they didn’t know they already had answers to.
My ex tried to get me to give her my new address, to send me a birthday present. I didn't respond, feel relieved and happy with out her. I don't miss being neglected and taken for granted.
Can you please do a video on when you haven't been broken up with but they behaved so badly that YOU had to walk away and you're waiting for them to wise up and aplogise!
22 days now since he broke up with me.. and 10 days now of no contact. Im afraid i dont know what to do. I hit the gym to divert but when i get home i can’t stop thinking of him.. im hurting and i feel so down.. please help 😢💔
Same here dear. Blocked me too everywhere. No dialogue. We were great, was gutted and got angry but instead of fixing he said we just end it and blocked everywhere. We’ll get through this. If it’s meant for us it will happen. Stay strong
He blocked me on everything too. The first 2 months of no contact is the hardest. Stay in no contact. They usually come back. Be prepared for that. Don't see him again unless he's shown and proven serious intent and investment to reconcile.
Thank you for this information first of all. At this point I have realized I’m worth so much more than bare minimum. Like you say “ don’t become what hurt you” no anger from over here, just dueces ✌️
She claimed she lost feelings after our first major conflict, i chased, and pleaded, went nc for 2months plus, and i reached out via text saying "we need not let pride/ego to destroy our connection, she replies " hey I've moved on, i think you should do thesame" i was like just 2months? After 4years of us, i was like thank u, wish you well in your next adventure, i got blocked and i blocked her in all platform ... never knew about attachment styles then
@@ackbuilder8262 you spoke like you know what a simp means, people like you are the main simp ..... talking on a bro in that way, you think you more masculine cause you read a piece of information... we all human and feel hurt and loss,
When my ex unfollowed me on social media after 2 months no contact, I thought it meant things were over so I reached out to wish her well. Felt like a trap.
Quick Question it's been about a week she broke up with me the status on FB is were still in a relationship should I change that? Thanks I really like your information!
@@RealCoachLeeafter 6 months of Monkey Branching and Rebound with another Man .once a Cheater will always Cheat again ...she is Tainted by the guy she cheated with ..taking her back she will cheat again ...is that correct ?
Currently ignoring her a little bit. Her signals have been extremely mixed. I thought we were about to get back together after a year of no contact (it wasn’t total silence but you know). I asked if she would like to see each other. She very clearly and directly said how it was nice to be wanted romantically but she doesn’t feel the same way with me. I respectfully backed off. Days later she tried to talk casually and I fully ignored it. Then after another week she just said “hello” & “how are you.” I answered those but did not carry the conversation. I won’t be mean to her. I would like to have her back. But I’m done with casual conversations. If she asks then I’ll tell her I don’t want to talk anymore if she doesn’t want a better future together
Don’t do that. Just disappear and be silent. Go no contact. For your own good. For long time. If it was meant for you. They will come back. If not you are better off.
@ That pretty much is what I’m doing. On Coach Lee’s videos there’s No Contact, Ignoring, and Radio Silence. They’re completely different. I was doing No Contact but I’m creeping into the other two as well now. A process of backing away.
He cheated and discarded me after 14 years together. He took everything from me including our dog and home. He insisted on being friends but he breadcrumbed me like no tomorrow. I’m now past 9 months of no contact and thankful he’s out of my life
Coach how do I get me ex back when she is acting totally like another person and saying things that really does not sound like here! We were togther for 10 years but the last two and a half were hard because I went into a depression and was on a anti depressiv that made me worse.. Now she will not talk to me, she says she is glad and happy (it has only been 10 weeks since she left me) our house is going to be sold this is how far she is ? (she moved to her parents and is doing everything to avoid me) She is saying things that really does not sound like her! Things that sound like she has talked to girfriends that really do not know me at all. We have not talked other then the 4 times she has been at the house to pick up stuff and we did really not talk and when I tried to talk about the situation she becomes hard, cold and talks like everything between us were all bad! I swear it sounds like someone is coaching here and telling her to "not answer him" "do not see him" and so on.
6 months of no contact messed up a lot on social media. Plus side is I now know for sure she is secretly watching my stories. so 2 solid months of no contact.
An exact year ago I went into NC. My ex deleted me from social media. Fast forward a year, to the day, she sent a request on social media. A full year. I don't know what she's thinking or wants. I haven't messaged her. Don't know what to do.
It would be almost a year that she left me. We're divorcing still. It was my idea because she hadnt contacted me with anything. Then, I would move on and be finally free. It sucked a lot guys but you can get through and it will be even better than before. Different, but better. Bit by bit.
Coach, what if during the beeakup, they offered to be writing you to check on you, and you told them its not a good idea to keep writing each other, and you went radio silence, and its been two months; does it mean you’ve shut the door and they'll never come back?
My ex broke up with me me New Year’s Eve threw this month I’ve had silly texts from her then she’s gone quiet ! I’ve remained in no contact until last Sunday ! She sent a text asking me out for a meal as my birthday is on Friday , I accepted but she is still very distant .. is that normal?
Daym, its been the 2nd time that her cousin called me, and guess who's behind her cousin while we were talking, it was her, she didnt say anything, i didn't either, but i know that she saw me, and it looks like the call was staged so that i can also see her
Hi Coach Lee, my ex has msged me several times throughout 4mos of NC and even invited me to play a couple of online games with him when both of us are online.. Should I stop going online to exploit being taken for granted? 😅
we were together for 3 months, she left me for another guy and they have been together for 3 months now, i miss her bad i dont know if shell ever come back, i hope so
My ex wrote a book of poetry and she posted about it incessantly.What do you think I should do bare in mind it's been 4 months and she still occasionally watches my page
I restarted on day 5, and my ex said I never wanted to be with me again, I begged and pleaded... then I just went into NC... It fucking sucks... but I need to do this. She found out i cheated back on the 12th of Dec, we didn't see each other til the 4th of January, and I made the mistake of sleeping with each other for a couple of days... talked about working things out... and she flaked on me three different times. The last time she did, I had made my mind up about going NC for good. The following morning at 0700, she texted me that we were done for good. I got relationship focus really fast.
Day 89 of no contact, it gets easier guys, trust me. For the first 3 weeks I was depressed and had no motivation to do anything, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t eat. I loved her with every fiber of my being, 2 months later I no longer even want her back, she no longer matters… she left me for somebody else, that’s unforgivable to me, I would never take her back and you shouldn’t either.
Dude I want to give you hope, she reached out at day 96. It’s been 4 months she came back, we are happier than ever, everyone learned their lesson, just one thing try to be ready for when your ex come back if you want because it is the hardest part because you don’t exactly know what to do. Follow exactly what coach Lee says
EDIT : Oh you don’t want her back sorry never mind my message then !
Your situation shouldn’t be projected to others to do the same. You made your choice. You can leave don’t tell others to do the same
@@Louis_B_creations i’m not telling anyone what to do… people can make their own choices, me personally, I can’t forgive someone that cheated on me and stabbed me in the back.
@ i’m giving people hope and a message of positivity, because I know a lot of people watching are suffering, they’re in tremendous pain, and i’m giving hope by saying I was in their position, but that it gets better with TIME and that this pain will subside.
@ telling people they shouldnt try isn’t hope.
12 years of no contact and they’re still trying to get a hold of me.
When you stop counting the days of NC you're finally free.
I listened carefully to all coach Lee,s videos and did exactly what he said . 3 months struglling with no contact . No messages no texts . I started lossing hope , and suddenly she called asking about something and what is going on with my work . I cant believe it worked . I responded politly and Im keeping with my no contact .please listen carfully to his videos , as if he is pretending about the future . Thank u coach Lee .
4 months into no contact no reach out but I feel so much better remember time and working on yourself is the win you need
She called me from an international phone (fake/rented) number. Her avatar was her old photo in scuba diving costume under the water with a mask on her face. 😂😂 She is a severe avoidant I must add…
Lee’s looking fresh today. Cheers everyone. Stay strong.
I thnk another question you may want to deeply reflect on is whether you really want to take someone back who continues to play games and manipulate you, intentional or not, after they shattered your trust and your heart. Save your love and your energy for someone who meets you half-way, values you and what you bring to the relationship, isn't afraid to have difficult conversations with you and won't run at the first sign of difficulty. You deserve to be treated with respect so don't let someone else's actions take that away from you.
We broke up 7 Months ago, our Near 10 Year Relationship came to an end. I genuinely didn’t know how to move on for the longest time. She still came around, we had a situationship badly. At the beginning of November, I had enough and told her I never wanted to see her anymore. She instantly got a new boyfriend within a month, seemed shady, so I blew up on her. She hit the nail in the coffin and got a Restraining order on me for calling her out on BS. I officially moved on around the same time and entered a new relationship on Christmas Eve. It’s over, I’m over it, And I have officially moved on. Your videos helped me at my lowest at the beginning. But I’ve realized, I never wanted them back, the rose tinted glasses came off.
Block and delete in every facet, disappeared and not ever looking back!
I recently purchased your reunion bluepring to support you, you're helping so many people in so many ways. Can you make a video about a logistics meeting with an ex? A lot of us are expecting similar situations and need some professional guidance.
I found your videos after my ex cheated and left me. It honestly helped me so much. What helped me was I went full on delete mode. I permanently deleted EVERYTHING and blocked her, family and friends straight away. She is nothing but a dead memory. It's been 13 months now and not one bit of contact has happened, not even a hint. If I saw her in public I wouldn't even acknowledge her existence. I will be honest, I see her face everyday still and I will never wish anything bad upon her but I live life now as if our relationship never even happened.
We have to hang in there y'all!
Another great video. Good job Coach!
Please don’t dance when they throw pennies at your feet … dignity people. (me paraphrasing point 4.)
Coach, you ever thought about making a board/card/digital game? Scenarios, situations… getting taken back to the no contact time line’s beginning if you mess up. Make it 6 (? Too long) months to the end to “win”. Winning should be that you’re a better, more emotionally mature, more competent in that thing you got really good at doing to help yourself divert attention away from the breakup, more confident, stronger, more attractive person despite probably aging (unless you’re Coach Lee.) With or with out ex, you win if you do no contract right with the coach :)
I realized after i sent this comment that this board/card/app game idea is exactly what you already asked everyone about when you asked if they would pay for AI-Coach-Lee. Except if you taught AI your parameters, and were actively involved in moderating, it would be infinitely better than card game.
I was playing with Claude from Anthropic (so awesome) asking him (?) to role play a sort of situation where this guy reached out sporadically - to help me figure out what i was doing wrong. It was very revealing, to get the feedback, not too different from yours … sorry… this is a lot of words to say i think your AI idea is really brilliant, and has potential to seriously help people see themselves and reveal things they didn’t know they already had answers to.
If a woman breaks up with you go total no contact. I don't know if I would respond even if she reached out. Its over.
My ex tried to get me to give her my new address, to send me a birthday present. I didn't respond, feel relieved and happy with out her. I don't miss being neglected and taken for granted.
💪🏻
Being neglected and takes for granted is the absolute worst. Been there, never doing that again.
Can you please do a video on when you haven't been broken up with but they behaved so badly that YOU had to walk away and you're waiting for them to wise up and aplogise!
22 days now since he broke up with me.. and 10 days now of no contact. Im afraid i dont know what to do. I hit the gym to divert but when i get home i can’t stop thinking of him.. im hurting and i feel so down.. please help 😢💔
Same here dear. Blocked me too everywhere. No dialogue. We were great, was gutted and got angry but instead of fixing he said we just end it and blocked everywhere. We’ll get through this. If it’s meant for us it will happen. Stay strong
me to miss my beautiful Diamond heart davina Nikic Bouweng fiancee
Watch coach Ken "no contact when you barelly haging on", I watched it a billion times it helped me to keep on going
He blocked me on everything too. The first 2 months of no contact is the hardest. Stay in no contact. They usually come back. Be prepared for that. Don't see him again unless he's shown and proven serious intent and investment to reconcile.
@basicinfo2022 so true
Thank you for this information first of all. At this point I have realized I’m worth so much more than bare minimum. Like you say “ don’t become what hurt you” no anger from over here, just dueces ✌️
She claimed she lost feelings after our first major conflict, i chased, and pleaded, went nc for 2months plus, and i reached out via text saying "we need not let pride/ego to destroy our connection, she replies " hey I've moved on, i think you should do thesame" i was like just 2months? After 4years of us, i was like thank u, wish you well in your next adventure, i got blocked and i blocked her in all platform ... never knew about attachment styles then
this really hurts.😢
Women don’t respect simps. Masculine guys never chase, plead, feel pity for themselves. You have some work to do.
She most certainly already had another guy lined up before she even dumped you man. It’s called “monkey branching”
@@ackbuilder8262 you spoke like you know what a simp means, people like you are the main simp ..... talking on a bro in that way, you think you more masculine cause you read a piece of information... we all human and feel hurt and loss,
When my ex unfollowed me on social media after 2 months no contact, I thought it meant things were over so I reached out to wish her well. Felt like a trap.
5 years NO CONTACT & it has been the key to healing & happiness. Life is so awesome now.
Quick Question it's been about a week she broke up with me the status on FB is were still in a relationship should I change that? Thanks I really like your information!
Over 6 months NC this time. He has kept me blocked on everything. No breadcrumbing yet...
Great advice 👍🏾
6 mos of nc she called and apologized
💪🏻
@@RealCoachLeeafter 6 months of Monkey Branching and Rebound with another Man .once a Cheater will always Cheat again ...she is Tainted by the guy she cheated with ..taking her back she will cheat again ...is that correct ?
Currently ignoring her a little bit. Her signals have been extremely mixed. I thought we were about to get back together after a year of no contact (it wasn’t total silence but you know). I asked if she would like to see each other. She very clearly and directly said how it was nice to be wanted romantically but she doesn’t feel the same way with me. I respectfully backed off. Days later she tried to talk casually and I fully ignored it. Then after another week she just said “hello” & “how are you.” I answered those but did not carry the conversation.
I won’t be mean to her. I would like to have her back. But I’m done with casual conversations. If she asks then I’ll tell her I don’t want to talk anymore if she doesn’t want a better future together
Don’t do that. Just disappear and be silent. Go no contact. For your own good. For long time. If it was meant for you. They will come back. If not you are better off.
@ That pretty much is what I’m doing. On Coach Lee’s videos there’s No Contact, Ignoring, and Radio Silence. They’re completely different. I was doing No Contact but I’m creeping into the other two as well now. A process of backing away.
He cheated and discarded me after 14 years together. He took everything from me including our dog and home. He insisted on being friends but he breadcrumbed me like no tomorrow. I’m now past 9 months of no contact and thankful he’s out of my life
Coach how do I get me ex back when she is acting totally like another person and saying things that really does not sound like here! We were togther for 10 years but the last two and a half were hard because I went into a depression and was on a anti depressiv that made me worse.. Now she will not talk to me, she says she is glad and happy (it has only been 10 weeks since she left me) our house is going to be sold this is how far she is ? (she moved to her parents and is doing everything to avoid me) She is saying things that really does not sound like her! Things that sound like she has talked to girfriends that really do not know me at all. We have not talked other then the 4 times she has been at the house to pick up stuff and we did really not talk and when I tried to talk about the situation she becomes hard, cold and talks like everything between us were all bad! I swear it sounds like someone is coaching here and telling her to "not answer him" "do not see him" and so on.
ex reached out to me a year of NC asking me if I wanted an item back that they still had of mine, I ignored her. 3 years still NC.
6 months of no contact messed up a lot on social media. Plus side is I now know for sure she is secretly watching my stories. so 2 solid months of no contact.
I'm going thru this now. This video helps so much I'm still in no contact
What about trying to do no contact with kids and they use the kids to talk to you ?
Watch this video all the way through: ua-cam.com/video/flXMJxzIDH0/v-deo.htmlsi=RF41_AMS9jP-jPX-
An exact year ago I went into NC. My ex deleted me from social media. Fast forward a year, to the day, she sent a request on social media. A full year. I don't know what she's thinking or wants. I haven't messaged her. Don't know what to do.
It would be almost a year that she left me. We're divorcing still. It was my idea because she hadnt contacted me with anything. Then, I would move on and be finally free. It sucked a lot guys but you can get through and it will be even better than before. Different, but better. Bit by bit.
Coach, what if during the beeakup, they offered to be writing you to check on you, and you told them its not a good idea to keep writing each other, and you went radio silence, and its been two months; does it mean you’ve shut the door and they'll never come back?
Like the cut and beard❤
My ex unfriended me out of the blue on social media. I've been in no contact for about 37 days now. Is this a trick?
My ex broke up with me me New Year’s Eve threw this month I’ve had silly texts from her then she’s gone quiet ! I’ve remained in no contact until last Sunday ! She sent a text asking me out for a meal as my birthday is on Friday , I accepted but she is still very distant .. is that normal?
I got blocked almost everywhere apart from snapchat and phone number.
After 3 weeks of no, my ex asked if I wanted to renew a store membership that we had, he’ll pay half. Do I respond
Daym, its been the 2nd time that her cousin called me, and guess who's behind her cousin while we were talking, it was her, she didnt say anything, i didn't either, but i know that she saw me, and it looks like the call was staged so that i can also see her
Hi Coach Lee, my ex has msged me several times throughout 4mos of NC and even invited me to play a couple of online games with him when both of us are online.. Should I stop going online to exploit being taken for granted? 😅
After 3 weeks of no contact , my ex- asked if I wanted to keep the bjs membership, cause he’ll pay 30. How do I respond or do I respond?
we were together for 3 months, she left me for another guy and they have been together for 3 months now, i miss her bad i dont know if shell ever come back, i hope so
No, do not go back to that person if you were good to her. She is not mature
@mindhealsbody-soul I was the best to her
My ex wrote a book of poetry and she posted about it incessantly.What do you think I should do bare in mind it's been 4 months and she still occasionally watches my page
she came apolozised and ghosted me after 5 days and started dating sameone new
I've been silent
if its right theres no games
What about posting a song cover for the first time in four years called “heartbreakin man” lol
I restarted on day 5, and my ex said I never wanted to be with me again, I begged and pleaded... then I just went into NC... It fucking sucks... but I need to do this. She found out i cheated back on the 12th of Dec, we didn't see each other til the 4th of January, and I made the mistake of sleeping with each other for a couple of days... talked about working things out... and she flaked on me three different times. The last time she did, I had made my mind up about going NC for good. The following morning at 0700, she texted me that we were done for good. I got relationship focus really fast.
You cheated, so…yeah, she had a good reason to leave you.
@dmil843 i agree, i agree.
Red pill urselves people.
Yeh she has a massive ego
I like ur videos, love from pakistan❤