Why would someone want to have intercaste marriages? In Indian context, marriage involves alliance between two families and this cannot happen with intercaste marriages. There are gonna be problems. Marry within the caste, within the religion.
Have Prachi been into Rodies audition ever? I have seen a video in which girl looks like prachi and her name is also Prachi. Is she the one in the rodies?
@@harsham9488 What do you mean by caste system? Only the inequalities among different castes need to be erased. Not the castes themselves. Intercaste marriages break our history, our cultural origin.
Couldn't find all the point listed together, so here you go. Hope it helps. Also, thanks Prachi for the awesome video. 1. Your partner's parents 2:06 2. Extent of being influenced by others 4:27 3. How you both handle finances 6:08 4. Family planning goals 8:22 5. Basics of family chores 10:02 6. Each others past 12:14 7. Fight topics and conflict resolution 14:16 8. Future goals 16:43 9. Communication and companionship feels 18:31 10. Understanding expectations 19:58
That is a harsh reality But nowadays I have seen a lot of people who are not like that They understand in transparency from both sides & It's really good
Tight slap to the parents of the girls. Who instead of understanding the feelings of their daughter push her to marry some stranger of their own religion, caste, sub-caste, ..etc and also agree to give dowry and luxuries to those worthless beggars. 😠 I am a boy but I can understand what girls in India have to go through, sacrificing everything for the ego of their parents.😔
@@ad8128 bro we r progressing in a positive way but sad part is that our pwrents or societies r not able to get out from such backdated trapped stereotypical thoughts!!
@മെரக் गुप्ता hey. Not sure but I think if you are comfortable with the guy you can always propose..it's not like you want him to go through. You are yourself undergoing so probably it's fair for both the people. And if two people are matured, you don't need to involve families in discussing this. It's better to be safe than sorry I guess.
@@sarojnegi3351in order to be aware if the person isnt suffering from some disease esp one thats been hereditary in their family for generations....for safety of child
My mom and dad is the perfect example of perfect couple , even after 26 years , yes there is financial and family problem troughout the year , what matters is only respect
@@Crymeareva if you’re such a woman hater then don’t marry a woman..my comment wasn’t in regards to women but both men and women and the complications that arise with both families expectations.. and your own needs. Women have been sacrificing for years.. their lifestyle and what not to meet the demands of men and their families while men were free to do whatever they want.. you should be born as a woman in your next life to see all the freedoms that get taken away..
I'll not say you are wrong it's all upon you. If your parents are ok with your decision that's absolutely ok. Coz ik some girls who are happy unmarried and handing their life and parents peacefully and are well settled. I think people should not force anyone to get married :)
Before listening you, I thought that I am wrong about adopting a child rather than give a birth... But now I am 100% sure... Coz I thinks exactly the same, that bcoz of this population, polution, I don't want to give birth to another child. Isase achha to me adopt karu or us bachhe ki life achhi banau ❤️
I wish I had seen this video before getting married! My piece of advice- the boy will become like his parents post marriage, so focus all your energy on the parents. Even when the boy acts independent, he will be a reflection of his parents. All of a sudden, family traditions become important for guys post marriage. And India men do not want to equally share household chores. It's never gonna happen.
I will add 1 and i think the most important thing to understand about your partner. DON'T ASSUME THINGS. Don't expect your partner to do and know things about you without you telling him/her first. Don't expect.
Everything looks rosy during dating ..then all hell breaks loose when they start living under one roof.. If no Compramise & adjustments , it's gonna be doomed...Both irritate each other..Both will be good , sometimes situation ruins the relationship..
I agree with you....can anyone ever read the depth of a boy and his family. In the beginning everything is a bed of roses.....the movie starts once you are married. Than you see the consequence
one point i also want to share i.e. temperament, reacting on other's(spouse or in-laws) action is normal but overreacting is always bad and will eventually can destroy your married life.
It's good to understand Responses or Style of response in angry mood . Some strong minded folks have responses which are difficult for spouse to handle and it can ruin the entire day or even few days to recover . The tone,words, outburst of energy or even the sound frequency ...
You put things in a very good manner,but one point I want to add here is that before marriage all girls should spend some time with the boy's family in order to know each other and same logic applies for boys and both the parents for a healthy relationship. I agree to the fact that there would be differences between couples and families but there should be mutual respect between families & couple and instead of proving who is right or wrong,they should find what is wrong and solve them. :-)
To me, I always wanted to both adopt and have biological. Just be open to both. If it is too hard to adopt or too hard to get pregnant, that's fine. Make sure communication is there
This is not just a video. It is a gift to humanity. Thank you will be an understatement for this, honestly. I just wish, hope and pray that it reaches as many unmarried people as possible (ideally, all the unmarried people). Share this video as much as you can guys. This is pure gold!
Most needed and important video for the kind of girl like me who is going to get married and in search of life partner.. I completely agree your opinion Thank you Prachi di..
Prachi.. my wedding is on coming Jan 31 and I must say, this video was most needed. You have no idea how easy you have made things for us.. thank you ♥️
This felt like an older sister that I never had telling me all the things I need to know before marrying someone. Thank you so much and may God bless you! ❤
One of the best videos I have watched in YT about Marriage Balanced view Neither a Feminist nor a Male chauvinist No scaring of Biological or Zoological clock Well drafted On to the point Clear and concise Both Men and Women should watch this
I am so happy women are finally opening up about not wanting to have kids biologically. I also dont intend to have kids but it's very hard to find any Indian guy who doesn't want kids.
it's like we owe them a kid ,as if we somehow r obliged to carry foward their legacy.They fail to take into a/c "the right to our body".It's something thats implied when clearly we do have a choice.
for girls: ask ur mother..about her choice for dauggter in law. and be that one for boys: ask ur mother about what type of boys will be best for her daughter. be that one
@@Crymeareva I am just reading the comments section and shocked to see some girls don't even want to be a mother. These types of girls on one day can even say to his husband that we don't want your parents too send them to an old-age home. Bharosa nhi inka kuch😂
i would want to add one thing to this list. and that is pets.. some women are so afraid of dogs and majority of men have made it a life goal to own a dog. they in some cases are so blinded that they cant believe that a person can get afraid of dogs....... this is really important to be spoken about
Prachi many desi girls and boys are not even allowed to talk to each other before marriage in arrange marriages..how do we know all these things about them😯😯😯 btw love from Pakistan
Sometimes past can be known better to understand the mentality of a person . It really helps coz sometimes agreeing to marry is not all like knowing a person.
@@sumandhabolkar2819 no one is a saint in this world of hypocrisy.Everyone portray themselves so genuine ,no one gonna tell upto which extent he/she was indulged into sort of scandalous events.
Mam what you mentioned is all true. However this level of understanding about the other person can only happen in either love marriage or you have a long courtship after getting engaged probably.. and after that if you discover something like this it's very hard to break ties once families are involved.. specially in arranged marriage, where you would max get few months to probably know each other.. would be useful if you can make video sharing your thoughts given these scenarios.
Thanks Prachi i can say this is ur one of ur videos ... There were lots of confusions since m 25 and single ... I met many boys but not able to synchronise with anyone .. i was thinking that there was problem in me but now i gain confidence 😊 thanks Prachi ,, we girls love u and always give credit to u
Great 10 points, all the more important to think upon, discuss openly if it’s an arranged marriage. I would add discussion on religious beliefs; more so if it’s an inter religion marriage. The boy and the girl might not pay much attention to it. Believe me, quite a number of issues can surface around adapting to culture, food and practices. Also there need to be discussion on habits pointing to smoking, drinking etc. if it’s a love marriage they would certainly be aware to a great extent. On the other hand if it’s an arranged marriage, then it can be an unpleasant surprise to either the boy or the girl. Discussing around extra curricular activities would be appropriate too. After marriage, for example the boys parents may be against the girl giving public dance (Bharatnatyam, Khatak......) performances.
@@zrmalluexplorer5538 Yeah! My ex- mother in-law would sulk whenever my husband used to take me out or on holiday. She used to come a lot between us. I decided to end the marriage when this ex-husband asked her to sit on our bed in the master bedroom. I was just lying around and browsing something. He was working on his laptop and lying around too. I took great offence because the master bedroom is a personal space.
It is very important for both boy and girl to get comfortable with each other and know each other before tying the knot in case of arranged marriage. parents need to understand how important this is.
My boyfriend is mama's boy.. Bt somehow i could find more similarities between me and her... Rather than he and his mother! This is Intresting, but have to see how this gonna work... Im gonna marry him in few months. Wish me!
make sure you are happy in yourself before getting married and live a life of very low expectations. don't marry to search for happiness. low expectation doesn't mean you are lazy but you expect nothing to very little from other people including your partner. that way you are happy with pretty much anything positive no matter how small that comes your way. You just keep working on yourself. i found my personal happiness by reading the Upanishads. I needed to understand the meaning of life and being here because only then could all my activities in day to day life give me purpose and make me happy. IF i get married, the only thing that could upset it now is if i choose poorly, somebody who has not truly figured their state of mind out.
Well Said Prachi. I appreciate you speaking up on this topic.Most Guys really don't consider these aspects significant.Parents think, once married they will adjust themselves, but it might lead to adverse situations too.
Prachi: I find your views on such topics to be balanced and mature. I know you must be aware but have some questions for you. I would appreciate if you can answer them (I mean your thoughts). The purpose is just for my own knowledge especially as you have balanced thoughts on such topics: 1. Your questions are for mature people who understand what the real meaning of marriage is (two mature like-minded individuals sharing their lives and achieving goals and facing challenges together). There are many people who get married because their parents want them to get married. They are not mature enough to know why people get married. They treat it as an item checked off their list (I am not talking about teenage brides or grooms here. I know close to 30 year olds who are clueless). How do we even educate such people on such issues? 2. In many arranged marriages it would be a taboo or a cardinal sin to ask about past relationships. All hell breaks loose if the couple escalate this to their parents (which is a dumb thing to do) but people do it anyway. How do we even educate people that when you talk to a prospective bride/groom, even if you don't like what he/she says, it's between the two of you and don't make it a public issue. Also many parents are inquisitive and would like to know exactly what went on. Even in such cases we know what parents can react to and we can censor those aspects. How do we educate people on these aspects? 3. Kids and sex??? Forget it !! Sex is the biggest bad word in our country. Could you throw some light on how to approach this talk given many people are shy to even think about this topic (forget talking) 4. A lot of Indian men and women are brought up trained that even talking to someone of the opposite gender is a no no. We might think it is changing now but I see a vast majority still clueless about not knowing how to even have a conversation with someone of the opposite gender (relationship is till a long way to go). Infact any educational video from someone like you would go a long way. There are colleges in India where students are fined for interacting with someone of their opposite gender and the management takes pride in it (after all they are "saving Indian culture") and some parents feel kids are safe in that environment !!! Forget relationships, such people won't even know how to work with colleagues of the opposite gender at work!!! Would appreciate if you can make some videos related to these in whatever way you think is appropriate (if you feel these are worthwhile topics). Thank you for reading
Even still now.. m stuck with this topic... Not getting a understanding or accepting partner... Bcz maximum wants their own child... Don't know when vl they change their thoughts.... 😥😥
I loved every single line you conveyed in this video...! 🥰🥰🥰Really must for every girl before marriage..! Yur communicating everything so clearlyy..! Yur beauty with brain.. 👍🏻👍🏻
Thanks Prachi i also wanna work and don't like cooking on daily to daily basis .. i was worried .. but now i wanna marry as per my thinking i thought it was not possible ... But now i will marry according to my thinking synchronisation... It is really helpful.. i am 25 and unmarried and everyone is giving me advice that u will not a perfect partner until and unless u will compromise with ur thinking.. but now m feeling more confident
Fair enough. But do learn basic cooking as a life skill. It's essential, though of course you don't have to cook daily if you don't want :) do keep in mind that a little compromise always helps a relationship become stronger and happier. Don't have to change yourself for someone, but small compromises are healthy. Both men and women should be willing to compromise a bit sometimes. :)
I am glad that you are saying it out in the open that you do not like cooking. I don't understand why Indian society cannot accept people as they are. For the longest time, I've had problems with my own mother and aunt about this topic. I was more focused on self-development, work, fun etc while buying food from the outside. I was in UK at the time but my mum still used to pressurise me to cook my own food. I was working a demanding job and had no time to do so. Even to this day, she goes "You are a woman. You should cook! "
Thanks for the educational eye opening tips. My marriage life is a hell. Everything opposite the tips you have given. Only if I was of this generation than I would follow up with your tips to have a happy marriage life. Even though to gain something ....anyone can go to any extent.....later you see the true colours.
Definitely one of the most relevant n genuine advice given by anyone on UA-cam....... Very true.... N very true.....super like to ur video... thanks for making this video......
Prachi di , M engaged n m marrying frm my choice bt his mother n father are not alive . My papa met there relatives and he is satisfy. M frm mumbai and his frm banglore . His is nice well manner and working guy , no bad habits i know him since 2 or 3 yr nd i told my parents i convince my parnts for him . It was so difficlt to convince them bt finally they are ready in two week m getting married ..In sha Allah
Know about partner parents Should not get influenced Know about finances - loans Family planning Daily chores Each other's past Fight topics and resolutions Future goals Communication and compassion Understanding expectations Work life balance, working weekends, spending time with family, going abroad
Do u think is it possible to sort out all these things before getting married(especially arrange marriage)?? If i discuss all this things with my future life partner, at one point he may feel frustated for discussing so many future things.. We can discuss few things like his/her likes and dislikes, financial things...apart from that, i feel we cannot sort out everything before marriage...May b it is possible in love marriages
Sister I don't know what is your age but one thing I am sure that you are filter the consequences after marriage might or will happen. You are absolutely right, I fully agree with you GOD BLESS YOU
After listening to you I realized how similar we both think @prachi....Till now when you give suggestions to others it feels like if I was in your place, I will be saying the exactly the same things.... Lots of love and hugs ❣️
One thing every one should must know that no one is perfect either boy or girl. We need to understand each other. That is the basic way to lead a wealthy relationship 😜
Thnku di ...mri shadi to jbrjsti ki ja rh h...Im asking my dad to gv me time but he says now its over ....u have completed graduation..now it's tym to become a wife N if ur husband allows... Thn u can do job othrws not.. Im a btech engineer...but this happens in my fmly.. Why can't I take decisions on my own? Im frustrated just want to run away 😭
Kya yr mtlb abhi bhe bache hai ki permission lene pdhe 😶 bs yehe reh jata hai baad mai jaabh taak permission na milhe taabh taak bs sapne he lete raho......Plz stand for yourself .
What the fuck...I don't understand that we all are living in 21st century and but still we are fighting for our rights...ye ho kya raha h...same situation with me also..I m not ready for marriage right now bt my family pressuring me to get married bcz according to them ab meri age ho gyi hain...fir baad m ladke nhi milenge ...ladke reject karenge jb age nikl jayegi to ..I just hate marriage...
You will have to put your foot down and tell your dad that its your life and you will take decisions accordingly and not the other way around... other wise dont call it a forced marriage if you can not fight for what you want in life. Its like you either are a boss of your own life or you let someone else decide your life. Remember you are the architect of your life
The family goals wala thing is important. But what if both the partners don't want but family is forcing, mostly because they think the couple needs to have kids before the woman ages. It's so annoying for the woman when the family puts so much of pressure.
Subhra Subhadarsini Family ke kuch reasons honge. health issue jyada aate hai age badhne ke sath. isliye force kar rahe honge. but woman ho to responsibility to woman ko hi leni hogi bache ko paida karne ki. ye to natural hai na isme kya problem hai kisi ko?
It's the woman's body - she has every right to decide if she wants to get pregnahr. and a very very personal choice. It's also a big decision for a couple. Nobody has the right to force them. Even parents. Put your foot down and say that the decision is final. ( If they do want to have children much later, talk to a doctor though to understand the possible pregnancy issues that may come up with age.)
youngster needs to understand how to take partner as a friend who will live with you together throughout life with mutual benefits if a girl/boy refuse your proposal for love you must understand what deficiency you had or where you lacked rather can criticizing your partner that they said no
Sandhya just ask them. And mention that you want to want understand him and don't mean to offend him. And if he doesn't take it well, he might not be the best person for you in future also. You have complete right to know the person you'll be spending your life with.
Ask and expect to be asked the same questions. Jitna rudely AAP puchoge ya rudely usey lagega, itna rudely wo puchega to tumhe pata lag jayega tumne theek tareeke se puch ya rudely. Simple
I am in a similar kind of situation.Earlier I hated even to think about getting married because married life comes with so much responsibilities but now I am 29 I think life will be boring after sometimes but you shouldn't get married unless you can't imagine spending next 50-60 years with that person(personality)
This is the reason Why Arranged marriages are extremely tough to happen now a days...!!!! The Best Suggestion-: “Marry the person whom you love very simple”. Arranged marriages don’t really work, it is just like to adjust and the whole life goes into it.
Hello Prachi. Nice videos. I would like you to share your experience and learning on after marriage life so that youngsters as well as those struggling in their marriage can work it out on their own rather than seek divorce or interference from outsiders including parents (some times). Hope to hear from you. Thank you 😊
I didn't talked much to my husband before marriage, hardly 3-4 times only.. we only chatted on whatsapp and our marriage is typical arranged marriage. And one more thing, boys do promised u to support u, ur dreams and all bt after marriage things change sometimes. It happened with me a bit.
@@supercoolaks han mtlb they do support on somethings like I could be a ESE officer if I had studied much harder but I ended up an Engg. in state govt. so he supports me,encourages me to keep studying and my hobby is dancing,if my parents would have allowed me earlier to choose my passion of dancing as a career then I would have tried going dance classes but aisa hua nhi to before marriage jb maine apne partner se ye baat kahi thi to he supported he,he said aapko dance cls join krna h to kr skti ho aao,koi issue nhi h but shadi k baad it seems like he doesn't respect these things. He doesn't respect people who dance or who chose to be choreographer. Now he said that I cannot grow the economy of my country by dancing, we should work hard😄😄
@@sukrititekam8724 the thing is compromise. If you do job and your classes come in clash with the timings, ofcourse he is gonna be worried, other reasons could be low money to afford dance class or maybe dance classes will leave you so tired that you both won't spend time. If you can make him realise that dance classes won't affect negatively to him, I don't see why he won't agree. Also, men also want to do a lot of things like you said, but do you see your hsuband doing something like that? That maybe because he is saving up or money is tight now. Have a proper talk with him instead of asking strangers on internet. He is the person who you are going to hopefully spend your life. Talk to him
@@archanabansal5261 yup. We both are trying to understand and respect each other and our priorities. ☺️ I hope things get better and best with time for both of us.
I don’t know what to say .. BUT I guess everything Falls into place when ‘YOU’ really want to marry someone... Love allows you to be Flexible, giving and Warm when it comes to be with someone.. And marrying in a Joint Family, adoring them , Respecting the parents is a Bliss and a Beautiful Blessing from a God ... Your choices or beliefs takes a backseat not entirely but yes to some extent because then you’re part of a Happy Family who are tied together 😊
Very informative video prachi, this is amazing. The topics you chose were so exact that i have seem these issues in my family so often.thanks for the wisdom prachi🎈♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️😘
Mam I would disagree on your point about past matters , I think both of the couples should clarify & discuss deeply about their past , so that they can wind up & understand themselves demands& feeling truly, if virginity matters , then they can broke up at an initial state , that issue can not be longed & get more bitter leads to a tragical end.
Husband (to wife) : How did the shopping go today? Did you get what you wanted? Wife : You know what happened. On my way to shopping my mum called. She said blah blah blah. Then my sister called. She said blah blah blah. Then I called my friend. We spoke about blah blah blah Husband: 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡 Wife: Why do you look so angry? Husband : I asked you a simple question. Did you buy what you wanted? Wife : If you don't have the patience to listen to everything I say, just don't ask me any questions...OK?😡😡😡😡😡😡😡 Husband : I am going to make a UA-cam video about 10 Questions every man should ask before getting married.
All will look for these qualities or discuss these things upto some times and many men will not accept this so eventually women stop discussion about these things and gets married coz of loneliness and its a fact 😶
How to convince your parents for intercaste marriages - ua-cam.com/video/9RHE772KVCU/v-deo.html
I think its more of a balance game rather expectation for both
Why would someone want to have intercaste marriages? In Indian context, marriage involves alliance between two families and this cannot happen with intercaste marriages. There are gonna be problems. Marry within the caste, within the religion.
Have Prachi been into Rodies audition ever? I have seen a video in which girl looks like prachi and her name is also Prachi. Is she the one in the rodies?
@@SurajInd89 Please stop encouraging caste system.
@@harsham9488 What do you mean by caste system? Only the inequalities among different castes need to be erased. Not the castes themselves. Intercaste marriages break our history, our cultural origin.
Be practical rather being mama's boy or papa ki pari. Respect everyone because both spouse and parents are very important in life.
That's subjective and upto the individuals what They want to do.
@@miliaurora1038 no
@@mrperfectionist6859 What no?? It's people' choice what they want to be like... it's none of anyone else's business.
@@miliaurora1038 yes both are important in life and proper balance is needed...
What hand sanitizer brand do you use?
@@mrperfectionist6859 That's subjective
Couldn't find all the point listed together, so here you go. Hope it helps. Also, thanks Prachi for the awesome video.
1. Your partner's parents 2:06
2. Extent of being influenced by others 4:27
3. How you both handle finances 6:08
4. Family planning goals 8:22
5. Basics of family chores 10:02
6. Each others past 12:14
7. Fight topics and conflict resolution 14:16
8. Future goals 16:43
9. Communication and companionship feels 18:31
10. Understanding expectations 19:58
Thank you for putting all this together 😊
@@pinkykaur8760 you are welcome 😊
Thank you 😇 @Ish J
@@raisunnisakhan5622 my pleasure 🙂
@prachi pin this to top
In arrange marriages, boyys family boast a lot about their finances but after marriage, you get to know the real scenario.
That is a harsh reality
But nowadays I have seen a lot of people who are not like that
They understand in transparency from both sides & It's really good
Hahaha I think you are one of them ..feel sorry for you but every female parents looking for only financial status of boys family😜😂
Tight slap to the parents of the girls. Who instead of understanding the feelings of their daughter push her to marry some stranger of their own religion, caste, sub-caste, ..etc and also agree to give dowry and luxuries to those worthless beggars. 😠
I am a boy but I can understand what girls in India have to go through, sacrificing everything for the ego of their parents.😔
@@ad8128 bro we r progressing in a positive way but sad part is that our pwrents or societies r not able to get out from such backdated trapped stereotypical thoughts!!
@@ad8128 why bring religion to it?
after listening to you i am always moved in a good way. My all insecurities are gone and you inspired me to walk off a toxic relationship.♥️
Another point I feel is very important is knowing the medical history of each other and getting a blood test.. Know family history as well..
@മെரக் गुप्ता hey. Not sure but I think if you are comfortable with the guy you can always propose..it's not like you want him to go through. You are yourself undergoing so probably it's fair for both the people. And if two people are matured, you don't need to involve families in discussing this. It's better to be safe than sorry I guess.
@മെரக் गुप्ताyeah I think so. And if there are any issues also one can take precautions.
Why? Can you please elaborate on that?
Ya I agree with you. It's so fuckin scary what if someone have no idea that their partner have STDs.
@@sarojnegi3351in order to be aware if the person isnt suffering from some disease esp one thats been hereditary in their family for generations....for safety of child
My mom and dad is the perfect example of perfect couple , even after 26 years , yes there is financial and family problem troughout the year , what matters is only respect
Basically just don’t get married 😆
But not getting married will not be type of incomplete life or type of lonliness after a certain age
@@Crymeareva if you’re such a woman hater then don’t marry a woman..my comment wasn’t in regards to women but both men and women and the complications that arise with both families expectations.. and your own needs. Women have been sacrificing for years.. their lifestyle and what not to meet the demands of men and their families while men were free to do whatever they want.. you should be born as a woman in your next life to see all the freedoms that get taken away..
I'll not say you are wrong it's all upon you. If your parents are ok with your decision that's absolutely ok. Coz ik some girls who are happy unmarried and handing their life and parents peacefully and are well settled. I think people should not force anyone to get married :)
@@samtula5946 Even if born as women, the ultimate sufferer is the WOMAN only.
Right
Before listening you, I thought that I am wrong about adopting a child rather than give a birth... But now I am 100% sure... Coz I thinks exactly the same, that bcoz of this population, polution, I don't want to give birth to another child. Isase achha to me adopt karu or us bachhe ki life achhi banau ❤️
I too think the same :)
@@priyanshipriu9139 Mee too...and i will definitely do that......
I feel the exact same way!! ❤️
Me too
@americ loves trump thanks....
Saving this video for my daughter because it's very late for me bearing a mama's boy from last 4 year.
Mama's boy? Does he not love you?
I wish I had seen this video before getting married!
My piece of advice- the boy will become like his parents post marriage, so focus all your energy on the parents. Even when the boy acts independent, he will be a reflection of his parents. All of a sudden, family traditions become important for guys post marriage.
And India men do not want to equally share household chores. It's never gonna happen.
Wow, you are not intelligent at all
@@archanabansal5261 Why do you say so? Its her observation.
@@rashuharshu it's his observation
@@archanabansal5261 like ur husband is ur slave ?? That's why
@Healthnut Chef, You're very correct. This was my experience too.
I will add 1 and i think the most important thing to understand about your partner.
DON'T ASSUME THINGS.
Don't expect your partner to do and know things about you without you telling him/her first. Don't expect.
I agree❤
Everything looks rosy during dating ..then all hell breaks loose when they start living under one roof.. If no Compramise & adjustments , it's gonna be doomed...Both irritate each other..Both will be good , sometimes situation ruins the relationship..
I agree with you....can anyone ever read the depth of a boy and his family.
In the beginning everything is a bed of roses.....the movie starts once you are married. Than you see the consequence
100 percent true👌👌
Never marry a used product
one point i also want to share i.e. temperament,
reacting on other's(spouse or in-laws) action is normal but overreacting is always bad and will eventually can destroy your married life.
It's good to understand Responses or Style of response in angry mood . Some strong minded folks have responses which are difficult for spouse to handle and it can ruin the entire day or even few days to recover . The tone,words, outburst of energy or even the sound frequency ...
You put things in a very good manner,but one point I want to add here is that before marriage all girls should spend some time with the boy's family in order to know each other and same logic applies for boys and both the parents for a healthy relationship. I agree to the fact that there would be differences between couples and families but there should be mutual respect between families & couple and instead of proving who is right or wrong,they should find what is wrong and solve them. :-)
Yes thatz true but everyone should have the mindset to find the issue and solve them...
She looks like Radhika Apte..
What about her thoughts?
She thoughts like arnav goswamii
Only diff she is 100 times more smart over all in terms of maturity and logical thinking
i was about to write this
Radhika Apte watching: when did I make this video 🤔
To me, I always wanted to both adopt and have biological. Just be open to both. If it is too hard to adopt or too hard to get pregnant, that's fine. Make sure communication is there
This is not just a video. It is a gift to humanity. Thank you will be an understatement for this, honestly. I just wish, hope and pray that it reaches as many unmarried people as possible (ideally, all the unmarried people). Share this video as much as you can guys. This is pure gold!
yes...a true gift
@@shefalisabrina7679
Apne miya se poochhna
Ki wo bachha nahi chahte kya
Itna excited hone ki jarurat nahi hai
10 saal baad sabke 4 bachhe honge
Kyuki aaj ki saas bhi kabhi ese hi khayaal rakhti thi😂😂😂😂
So true
I am saving this video for my future fiancee 😂😂😂😂 i hope i remember about this video then 😭
Me too 😂🤣
😂🤣🤣 I was thinking the same
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Me to
Download it
Most needed and important video for the kind of girl like me who is going to get married and in search of life partner..
I completely agree your opinion
Thank you Prachi di..
Prachi.. my wedding is on coming Jan 31 and I must say, this video was most needed. You have no idea how easy you have made things for us.. thank you ♥️
Vedha Nath congratulations n good luck 👍🏽
@@swapnakrish1517 thank you so much dear ♥️
Congratulations for a new beginning dear❤️
I am reading ur comment after almost 1 year.congratulations for ur marriage. How r u and how ur married life is going on???
Meri bhi 31 jan ko hui thii last year.... But i m not happy
Thankgod I'm watching this now and marriage is not on the cards right now.
This felt like an older sister that I never had telling me all the things I need to know before marrying someone.
Thank you so much and may God bless you! ❤
Ur one look can cure erectile dysfunction !! U know that?
U probably marry Ur cousin anyway lol
The guy's parents whom I dated for marriage expected me to not pay emi for my parents..there we broke
Did u divorce him..I mean he didn't support u na
The hypocrisy of Indian parents between there own daughter and daughter in law is disheartening
Wise decision 👍🏼
Well done 👍
You go girl💗
Marrying the entire family 😂 holy cow !
True behavior of spouse is seen only in conflicts and hard times
Very true..
One of the best videos I have watched in YT about Marriage
Balanced view
Neither a Feminist nor a Male chauvinist
No scaring of Biological or Zoological clock
Well drafted
On to the point
Clear and concise
Both Men and Women should watch this
I am so happy women are finally opening up about not wanting to have kids biologically. I also dont intend to have kids but it's very hard to find any Indian guy who doesn't want kids.
Well said
Exactly
So true, girl .
it's like we owe them a kid ,as if we somehow r obliged to carry foward their legacy.They fail to take into a/c "the right to our body".It's something thats implied when clearly we do have a choice.
I also don't want to have kids but luckily my boyfriend doesn't want them too.
for girls: ask ur mother..about her choice for dauggter in law. and be that one
for boys: ask ur mother about what type of boys will be best for her daughter. be that one
Won't work if Mom is too open minded, can't expect that from everyone
@@karthi368 She won't , she knows the old you !
The world is not that ideal my friend. Your mother and other's mother won't think alike.
@@Crymeareva I am just reading the comments section and shocked to see some girls don't even want to be a mother. These types of girls on one day can even say to his husband that we don't want your parents too send them to an old-age home. Bharosa nhi inka kuch😂
@@Crymeareva omg listen to u atm machines???r u even aware that lot of girls r earng more than guys
i would want to add one thing to this list. and that is pets.. some women are so afraid of dogs and majority of men have made it a life goal to own a dog. they in some cases are so blinded that they cant believe that a person can get afraid of dogs....... this is really important to be spoken about
Prachi many desi girls and boys are not even allowed to talk to each other before marriage in arrange marriages..how do we know all these things about them😯😯😯 btw love from Pakistan
Too bad lol
Good question.. Here lies the practical problem.. Convince the parents until tjey accept.
Girls need to stay strong for the sake of their own future.
Not even on phone?
@@deepalil1085 yes. Not even on phone.
You'll meet him/her directly in marriage hall.
@@Crymeareva lol
Everything is going wrong
In middle class families we do not have an option of not cooking, adopting child, doing chores etc 🙄🙄🙄
I have experienced most of all the things she is saying I have been married for a year now
Sometimes past can be known better to understand the mentality of a person . It really helps coz sometimes agreeing to marry is not all like knowing a person.
True. I don't know why people are shamed into not asking partner's past.
@@sumandhabolkar2819 no one is a saint in this world of hypocrisy.Everyone portray themselves so genuine ,no one gonna tell upto which extent he/she was indulged into sort of scandalous events.
Your talks mean a lot❤️❤️❤️ I wish this video was available in hindi too so we could share it with our parents too... 🙂
Best content on this topic. I would recommend everyone to watch this before getting married.
Mam what you mentioned is all true. However this level of understanding about the other person can only happen in either love marriage or you have a long courtship after getting engaged probably.. and after that if you discover something like this it's very hard to break ties once families are involved.. specially in arranged marriage, where you would max get few months to probably know each other.. would be useful if you can make video sharing your thoughts given these scenarios.
Sis you are dropping some real gems here. Thank you so much.
Much needed video, now I understand why my marriage is not working.... because any of the points are not available in my marriage
Past does matter because. Because we now know that past can effect future relationship
Had I seen you(this video) before my marriage probably my life would have been different!! :p
Thanks Prachi i can say this is ur one of ur videos ... There were lots of confusions since m 25 and single ... I met many boys but not able to synchronise with anyone .. i was thinking that there was problem in me but now i gain confidence 😊 thanks Prachi ,, we girls love u and always give credit to u
Great 10 points, all the more important to think upon, discuss openly if it’s an arranged marriage. I would add discussion on religious beliefs; more so if it’s an inter religion marriage. The boy and the girl might not pay much attention to it. Believe me, quite a number of issues can surface around adapting to culture, food and practices. Also there need to be discussion on habits pointing to smoking, drinking etc. if it’s a love marriage they would certainly be aware to a great extent. On the other hand if it’s an arranged marriage, then it can be an unpleasant surprise to either the boy or the girl. Discussing around extra curricular activities would be appropriate too. After marriage, for example the boys parents may be against the girl giving public dance (Bharatnatyam, Khatak......) performances.
Some mother in-law doesn't allow her son's to take out his wife. It's really a sad part of life😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔
Then they shouldnt marry their son
@@khushwindersingh2208 after marrying they will come to know 🙂
Styleluxe Henna - RamZi Khan hainji hindi mein bta do mujhe ni smjh aaya kya kaha aapne
True ✋Experienced
@@zrmalluexplorer5538 Yeah! My ex- mother in-law would sulk whenever my husband used to take me out or on holiday. She used to come a lot between us.
I decided to end the marriage when this ex-husband asked her to sit on our bed in the master bedroom.
I was just lying around and browsing something. He was working on his laptop and lying around too.
I took great offence because the master bedroom is a personal space.
It is very important for both boy and girl to get comfortable with each other and know each other before tying the knot in case of arranged marriage. parents need to understand how important this is.
Dude the arranged marriage scenario is pretty much messed up !!!
Brilliant. Every girl nd boy must watch this before marriage.
You and your husband is very lucky....found the best match..❤️❤️❤️❤️
My boyfriend is mama's boy.. Bt somehow i could find more similarities between me and her... Rather than he and his mother! This is Intresting, but have to see how this gonna work...
Im gonna marry him in few months.
Wish me!
Happy married life in advance 🍫💐
Congratulations🎉. Wish you a happy married life in advance.
Congratulations nd Blessed married life 🎉🎊 in advance ❤
Wish you a wonderful married life!!!!
Congratulations ❤
Hi Prachi...
You helped a lot to understand what one should know before getting married
make sure you are happy in yourself before getting married and live a life of very low expectations. don't marry to search for happiness. low expectation doesn't mean you are lazy but you expect nothing to very little from other people including your partner. that way you are happy with pretty much anything positive no matter how small that comes your way. You just keep working on yourself. i found my personal happiness by reading the Upanishads. I needed to understand the meaning of life and being here because only then could all my activities in day to day life give me purpose and make me happy. IF i get married, the only thing that could upset it now is if i choose poorly, somebody who has not truly figured their state of mind out.
Well Said Prachi. I appreciate you speaking up on this topic.Most Guys really don't consider these aspects significant.Parents think, once married they will adjust themselves, but it might lead to adverse situations too.
Prachi: I find your views on such topics to be balanced and mature. I know you must be aware but have some questions for you. I would appreciate if you can answer them (I mean your thoughts). The purpose is just for my own knowledge especially as you have balanced thoughts on such topics:
1. Your questions are for mature people who understand what the real meaning of marriage is (two mature like-minded individuals sharing their lives and achieving goals and facing challenges together). There are many people who get married because their parents want them to get married. They are not mature enough to know why people get married. They treat it as an item checked off their list (I am not talking about teenage brides or grooms here. I know close to 30 year olds who are clueless). How do we even educate such people on such issues?
2. In many arranged marriages it would be a taboo or a cardinal sin to ask about past relationships. All hell breaks loose if the couple escalate this to their parents (which is a dumb thing to do) but people do it anyway. How do we even educate people that when you talk to a prospective bride/groom, even if you don't like what he/she says, it's between the two of you and don't make it a public issue. Also many parents are inquisitive and would like to know exactly what went on. Even in such cases we know what parents can react to and we can censor those aspects. How do we educate people on these aspects?
3. Kids and sex??? Forget it !! Sex is the biggest bad word in our country. Could you throw some light on how to approach this talk given many people are shy to even think about this topic (forget talking)
4. A lot of Indian men and women are brought up trained that even talking to someone of the opposite gender is a no no. We might think it is changing now but I see a vast majority still clueless about not knowing how to even have a conversation with someone of the opposite gender (relationship is till a long way to go). Infact any educational video from someone like you would go a long way. There are colleges in India where students are fined for interacting with someone of their opposite gender and the management takes pride in it (after all they are "saving Indian culture") and some parents feel kids are safe in that environment !!! Forget relationships, such people won't even know how to work with colleagues of the opposite gender at work!!!
Would appreciate if you can make some videos related to these in whatever way you think is appropriate (if you feel these are worthwhile topics). Thank you for reading
I hv all liberty to meet to spend time with the guy bt still i am not sure 🤣 still its scary.... hats off to ppl who do it the parents way
Really liked your thought about having kids and giving more importance to adopting children than bringing new ones to the world.👍
I was thinking of adopting a kid rather than bringing one into this world
Sab aysa hi soche tho akir adopt karne ke liye be kahase ayega 🤔
Thinking just like me 😊
@Joseph D T okay so adopting a child is selfish kutta billi hai kya bache
Gud decision..
Even still now.. m stuck with this topic... Not getting a understanding or accepting partner... Bcz maximum wants their own child... Don't know when vl they change their thoughts.... 😥😥
I loved every single line you conveyed in this video...! 🥰🥰🥰Really must for every girl before marriage..! Yur communicating everything so clearlyy..! Yur beauty with brain.. 👍🏻👍🏻
You r absolutely right di ..but the prblm is evrything they agree before marriage and literally they got change after marriage!! Helpless yaar🙂
Thanks Prachi i also wanna work and don't like cooking on daily to daily basis .. i was worried .. but now i wanna marry as per my thinking i thought it was not possible ... But now i will marry according to my thinking synchronisation... It is really helpful.. i am 25 and unmarried and everyone is giving me advice that u will not a perfect partner until and unless u will compromise with ur thinking.. but now m feeling more confident
Fair enough. But do learn basic cooking as a life skill. It's essential, though of course you don't have to cook daily if you don't want :)
do keep in mind that a little compromise always helps a relationship become stronger and happier. Don't have to change yourself for someone, but small compromises are healthy.
Both men and women should be willing to compromise a bit sometimes. :)
@@SmileWithPrachi i understood whats ur point and thanks u have replied
@@SmileWithPrachi thank u so much understood what u meant to say ... And thanks for replying me :) love u lot
I am glad that you are saying it out in the open that you do not like cooking. I don't understand why Indian society cannot accept people as they are.
For the longest time, I've had problems with my own mother and aunt about this topic.
I was more focused on self-development, work, fun etc while buying food from the outside.
I was in UK at the time but my mum still used to pressurise me to cook my own food.
I was working a demanding job and had no time to do so. Even to this day, she goes "You are a woman. You should cook! "
Because cooking is indeed needed. What will your kids eat? Outside food? Your husband and kids will become sick due to that.
Right stuff I was searching before getting married. Thanks Prachi
Thanks for the educational eye opening tips. My marriage life is a hell. Everything opposite the tips you have given. Only if I was of this generation than I would follow up with your tips to have a happy marriage life.
Even though to gain something ....anyone can go to any extent.....later you see the true colours.
Definitely one of the most relevant n genuine advice given by anyone on UA-cam....... Very true.... N very true.....super like to ur video... thanks for making this video......
Prachi di , M engaged n m marrying frm my choice bt his mother n father are not alive . My papa met there relatives and he is satisfy. M frm mumbai and his frm banglore . His is nice well manner and working guy , no bad habits i know him since 2 or 3 yr nd i told my parents i convince my parnts for him . It was so difficlt to convince them bt finally they are ready in two week m getting married ..In sha Allah
I hope you are fine♥💖
I just saw her video for the first time and honestly, Prachi is so beautiful ❤
Know about partner parents
Should not get influenced
Know about finances - loans
Family planning
Daily chores
Each other's past
Fight topics and resolutions
Future goals
Communication and compassion
Understanding expectations
Work life balance, working weekends, spending time with family, going abroad
Do u think is it possible to sort out all these things before getting married(especially arrange marriage)?? If i discuss all this things with my future life partner, at one point he may feel frustated for discussing so many future things.. We can discuss few things like his/her likes and dislikes, financial things...apart from that, i feel we cannot sort out everything before marriage...May b it is possible in love marriages
Sister I don't know what is your age but one thing I am sure that you are filter the consequences after marriage might or will happen. You are absolutely right, I fully agree with you GOD BLESS YOU
After listening to you I realized how similar we both think @prachi....Till now when you give suggestions to others it feels like if I was in your place, I will be saying the exactly the same things....
Lots of love and hugs ❣️
One thing every one should must know that no one is perfect either boy or girl. We need to understand each other. That is the basic way to lead a wealthy relationship 😜
I'm exactly like u in many ways Prachi♥️♥️ We r so similar in mindseta nd thought process
Very well said mam.. i would need to refer this video quite a few times before getting married.. good observation!
Your speaking skill is great.
This video is a gem. One of my younger friend is getting married, shared this video.
Thank you Prachi for this video ❤❤❤
Your eyes are so beautiful and expressive❤ And the things you say are so practical. Keep up the good work, Prachi dee.
On kids...I agree with you...u think same way...❤️
Thnku di ...mri shadi to jbrjsti ki ja rh h...Im asking my dad to gv me time but he says now its over ....u have completed graduation..now it's tym to become a wife
N if ur husband allows...
Thn u can do job othrws not..
Im a btech engineer...but this happens in my fmly..
Why can't I take decisions on my own?
Im frustrated just want to run away 😭
are you fine now?
Kya yr mtlb abhi bhe bache hai ki permission lene pdhe 😶 bs yehe reh jata hai baad mai jaabh taak permission na milhe taabh taak bs sapne he lete raho......Plz stand for yourself .
What the fuck...I don't understand that we all are living in 21st century and but still we are fighting for our rights...ye ho kya raha h...same situation with me also..I m not ready for marriage right now bt my family pressuring me to get married bcz according to them ab meri age ho gyi hain...fir baad m ladke nhi milenge ...ladke reject karenge jb age nikl jayegi to ..I just hate marriage...
Everything happens for a reason. Trust God
You will have to put your foot down and tell your dad that its your life and you will take decisions accordingly and not the other way around... other wise dont call it a forced marriage if you can not fight for what you want in life.
Its like you either are a boss of your own life or you let someone else decide your life. Remember you are the architect of your life
Super that was quite handy..as m single and often ponder on what are the dynamics of happy marriages
The family goals wala thing is important. But what if both the partners don't want but family is forcing, mostly because they think the couple needs to have kids before the woman ages. It's so annoying for the woman when the family puts so much of pressure.
Subhra Subhadarsini
Family ke kuch reasons honge. health issue jyada aate hai age badhne ke sath. isliye force kar rahe honge. but woman ho to responsibility to woman ko hi leni hogi bache ko paida karne ki. ye to natural hai na isme kya problem hai kisi ko?
It's the woman's body - she has every right to decide if she wants to get pregnahr. and a very very personal choice. It's also a big decision for a couple. Nobody has the right to force them. Even parents.
Put your foot down and say that the decision is final.
( If they do want to have children much later, talk to a doctor though to understand the possible pregnancy issues that may come up with age.)
@@SmileWithPrachi thanks ☺
youngster needs to understand how to take partner as a friend who will live with you together throughout life with mutual benefits if a girl/boy refuse your proposal for love you must understand what deficiency you had or where you lacked rather can criticizing your partner that they said no
wish i had this info. 15years back.
True that
Nice video to watch before marriage ...you explained it very well..👍
This is one of your best vlogs with such valued content.
Hi , Ma'am perfect video... wonderful video...Truee compatibility and happiness matters much more...But HOPE is what we can only ponder about...🤓🙊😍🤞🤩
Do more of these series Prachi di... we need to gather more wisdom on Marriage. I think it is a least discussed topic...
How to ask this question directly?? Rude nahi ho jaiga? I want to ask all these Questions without being rude
Sandhya just ask them. And mention that you want to want understand him and don't mean to offend him. And if he doesn't take it well, he might not be the best person for you in future also. You have complete right to know the person you'll be spending your life with.
@@TheSoulfulPalette sahi bole di. Thank you so much
Yes you can ask your question and the thing going in your mind as it is important for both men and women at the time of their first meeting
Ask and expect to be asked the same questions. Jitna rudely AAP puchoge ya rudely usey lagega, itna rudely wo puchega to tumhe pata lag jayega tumne theek tareeke se puch ya rudely. Simple
@@archanabansal5261 okay di
What if you don't want to marry at all ... But have to ... Just because your family said so .... And you have no choice.
Don’t do it
I am in a similar kind of situation.Earlier I hated even to think about getting married because married life comes with so much responsibilities but now I am 29 I think life will be boring after sometimes but you shouldn't get married unless you can't imagine spending next 50-60 years with that person(personality)
If you earn good amount of money then this types of questions will not come in your mind
Jaab waqt se phelle he pyaar hoo jatta hai 3-4 baar taab humare dimag mein essa khayal atta hai
I don't want to marry
@@Crymeareva enjoy with ur cats
This is the reason Why Arranged marriages are extremely tough to happen now a days...!!!! The Best Suggestion-: “Marry the person whom you love very simple”. Arranged marriages don’t really work, it is just like to adjust and the whole life goes into it.
Hello Prachi. Nice videos. I would like you to share your experience and learning on after marriage life so that youngsters as well as those struggling in their marriage can work it out on their own rather than seek divorce or interference from outsiders including parents (some times). Hope to hear from you. Thank you 😊
I didn't talked much to my husband before marriage, hardly 3-4 times only.. we only chatted on whatsapp and our marriage is typical arranged marriage. And one more thing, boys do promised u to support u, ur dreams and all bt after marriage things change sometimes. It happened with me a bit.
A bit?
@@supercoolaks han mtlb they do support on somethings like I could be a ESE officer if I had studied much harder but I ended up an Engg. in state govt. so he supports me,encourages me to keep studying and my hobby is dancing,if my parents would have allowed me earlier to choose my passion of dancing as a career then I would have tried going dance classes but aisa hua nhi to before marriage jb maine apne partner se ye baat kahi thi to he supported he,he said aapko dance cls join krna h to kr skti ho aao,koi issue nhi h but shadi k baad it seems like he doesn't respect these things. He doesn't respect people who dance or who chose to be choreographer. Now he said that I cannot grow the economy of my country by dancing, we should work hard😄😄
@@sukrititekam8724 the thing is compromise. If you do job and your classes come in clash with the timings, ofcourse he is gonna be worried, other reasons could be low money to afford dance class or maybe dance classes will leave you so tired that you both won't spend time. If you can make him realise that dance classes won't affect negatively to him, I don't see why he won't agree. Also, men also want to do a lot of things like you said, but do you see your hsuband doing something like that? That maybe because he is saving up or money is tight now. Have a proper talk with him instead of asking strangers on internet. He is the person who you are going to hopefully spend your life. Talk to him
@@archanabansal5261 yup. We both are trying to understand and respect each other and our priorities. ☺️ I hope things get better and best with time for both of us.
I don’t know what to say .. BUT I guess everything Falls into place when ‘YOU’ really want to marry someone... Love allows you to be Flexible, giving and Warm when it comes to be with someone.. And marrying in a Joint Family, adoring them , Respecting the parents is a Bliss and a Beautiful Blessing from a God ... Your choices or beliefs takes a backseat not entirely but yes to some extent because then you’re part of a Happy Family who are tied together 😊
Agreed...👏
Very good content prachi di.
Going to get married soon nd today after watching this video,
I'm sure I want him.
Very informative video prachi, this is amazing. The topics you chose were so exact that i have seem these issues in my family so often.thanks for the wisdom prachi🎈♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️😘
Mam I would disagree on your point about past matters , I think both of the couples should clarify & discuss deeply about their past , so that they can wind up & understand themselves demands& feeling truly, if virginity matters , then they can broke up at an initial state , that issue can not be longed & get more bitter leads to a tragical end.
Husband (to wife) : How did the shopping go today? Did you get what you wanted?
Wife : You know what happened. On my way to shopping my mum called. She said blah blah blah. Then my sister called. She said blah blah blah. Then I called my friend. We spoke about blah blah blah
Husband: 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡
Wife: Why do you look so angry?
Husband : I asked you a simple question. Did you buy what you wanted?
Wife : If you don't have the patience to listen to everything I say, just don't ask me any questions...OK?😡😡😡😡😡😡😡
Husband : I am going to make a UA-cam video about 10 Questions every man should ask before getting married.
All will look for these qualities or discuss these things upto some times and many men will not accept this so eventually women stop discussion about these things and gets married coz of loneliness and its a fact 😶
The point number 2 the most intolerable quality for me when it comes to my life partner..
Amazing video, great job in preching equality and understanding between the partners...
Loved your views on children ❤️ 💕
These weren't questions more like suggestions or things to know about the one you're marrying. Great points anyway.
My marriage is on Feb.. Really helpful!