Common Phrases That Show You Lack Confidence
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- Опубліковано 9 тра 2024
- Confidence is not just about appearing strong; it's rooted in genuine self-assurance and belief in your abilities.
Building confidence is a process, and steering clear of certain phrases is a vital step toward becoming a more confident version of yourself. If you're wondering "how to be confident", here are some phrases that might inadvertently undermine your journey to building true confidence. These Common Phrases KILL Your Confidence Says Psychology to avoid.
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Voice Over: Drew Baillie
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References:
G. Gousie (1997) Speaking With Confidence. Paper presented at the Annual Training Conference of the National Head Start Association (24th, Boston, MA, May 25-31, 1997).
D. Carnegie (1927) How to Develop Self-Confidence and Influence People Through Public Speaking. Gallery Books
D. Carnegie (1936) How to Make Friends and Influence People. Musaicum Books
L. Greenacre, N. M. Tung & T. Chapman (2014) Self Confidence, and The Ability to Influence Academy of Marketing Studies Journal
L. Kelly and A. K. Watson (1986) Speaking with Confidence and Skill University Press of America
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Personal development videos such as this one, can be quite insightful. With "How to LOVE Yourself The Right Way", I found it to be quite helpful. In fact, I even started partaking in the "Knowing Yourself" activity as a way of getting a better sense of who I am currently. While I wouldn't say I've completely "finished" the activity, it has been an interesting reflecting process for myself.
And with this video, I was surprised by the specific phrases that show a lack of confidence. I also appreciated the alternative phrases you suggested, such as saying "Excuse me" instead of "Sorry to bother you". Overall, I thought this was another fantastic video from you guys. Great job @Psych2go! Oh, and I also thought that the voice over artist here(Drew Baillie)was fantastic in narrating this video.
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Timestamps
1). Sorry to bother you 0:26
2). If it's okay... 1:20
3). I just 2:03
4). I'm worried 2:39
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To anyone, also listen to the context of that phrases. Its more important to know "why that words make you lack of confidence" than "what words I dont have to say" have a beautiful day.
Thanks!!! I immediately went here
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"Are you guilty of using any of these?"
*yes*
There is nothing wrong with using such phrases. You aren't guilty.
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I love how all voice actors have such comforting voice makes me feel comforting watching your vids even tho it may have sensitive context like seggs or something sensitive about mental health
I always use these phrases cuz I always thought I was being friendly but it is what it is I guess 🤷♂️ l. Thanks for the clarity and the calm voice
Maybe you expected to be friendly with others ? Not being polite or respectful !
Start going the other way. Say “I don’t need the approval of other people. Other people need my approval.”
Then you start thinking about what you like about yourself. Switch it on its head and you’ll feel better about yourself.
Omg. What if this actually works? What if this allows someone to love themselves for who they are? I struggle with self restriction, which makes me feel shame for some of the things that I do, even though they’re not hurting anyone. It’s the pressure and high unrealistic expectations that I put on myself to fit in with society’s norms. I have come so far in my healing, but the perfectionist is still there, and I constantly shit on myself for making mistakes or for showing emotions that are not related to happiness.
@@siennaprice1351 remember that society and capitalism exist to keep themselves going. Not to make you feel good about yourself.
The irony is that the less you care about what people think, the more they like you. If you care what people think, you are giving control of your life to other people. You are allowing them to control you.
As for perfectionism, aim for “good enough”. Not by society’s standards, by yours. Then if you make a mistake, you learn from it. The more mistakes you make, the more you learn. People who judge you for making a mistake are not worth caring about anyway.
@@AutomaticDuck300 I’m more than capable of trying this! It is stressful to have people try to limit me from doing that benefit my blindness, autism and CPTSD. I’ve come so far in my healing. I don’t hear any voices inside me saying that I won’t get there. I will get there. And I can get there. I will smack self restriction upside the head. To be honest, I don’t everyone in the world to love me, but I don’t want everyone in the world to hate me.
I just expect myself to be happy 24/7 and never struggle. I expect myself to never feel sad, never cry, never feel nervous, never feel negative about things. Always be happy. Always laugh. Always be positive. Never have obstacles. Never ask for help or support. Never show emotions of tough times or weakness.
It is a delicate balance between confidence and arrogance.
"it's not what you say, it's how you say it.🤣🤣🤣🤣 Reminds me of fighting with my sisters. "It's not what she said, it's how she said it", came up in many arguments.
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Growing up autistic I always hated hearing that
This is really helpful, thank you! I think Psych2go is in my walls 'cause today I was talking to a person and I said 'I just' 'cause I was worried, and it's very true- it's just a filler that removes assertiveness and makes you sound more apologetic, insecure and honestly- like you feel like you're a bother. I need to stop focusing so much on whether people will like me, and start viewing myself as a catch, someone who other people would be lucky to have. Not in a narcissistic way, but I really am someone people would be lucky to have, I need to start acting like it and thinking of myself that way. A lot of the social anxiety I get is from a negative self-image, so I need to work on how I view myself. Thanks again psych2go, you're amazing
Thanks so much I actually have said all of these phrases so it's very useful!!! I love your channel so much!!❤❤❤
Confidence is key, people. Don’t worry about how you talk-even if you use some of these phrases! Have confidence in your speech, and that’s what’s important! ❤
- Edit: What I mean, is..
Even if the way you speak is less direct, or is more timid/open, you don’t need to SOUND confident right away to BE confident! Sure, it can help to let others know you’re sure of yourself, and that’s great! But the first step to BEING confident is proving to yourself you’re proud of what you do already and are fully capable to do better and achieve greatness! ILY, stranger. Take care.
Thank you for such kind words friend :> , and it means a lot, and helps. I hope you have a awesome day :>
That’s exactly what I do !
I don’t care Actually how the person interpreted what I said. I don’t have any attachements or aversions wherever the person gonna interpreted.
The most important for me is I’m feel confident when I said it. I don’t need a validation of everyone. 🤣😂🤣😂
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Great, I’ll keep these in mind if I’m overconfident or anything.
this is so helpful for essays too!!
Learning to be yourself always helps
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I apologize if I expressed myself poorly, English is not my native language.
Another good video I need to study/learn from.
Thank you so much for this video
I really like Drew's voice 🥰
For me, a lot of times it feels as if I’m just putting on a facade to convince myself and others that I have it all figured out. In reality, I’m just stumbling through life, hoping nobody notices my insecurities and doubts.
You’re not alone. I have the same exact problem. We’ll get through this! 🤍
Is fair to say we all feel like this so if you know there is other people feeling the same way as you find beauty in that and just accept the fact that you don’t know what the f u doing but neither the rest of us, so wear your uncertainty with confidence ❤
Or maybe you just overthink little too much !
Same here 😢 but day by day I am trying to be confident . I will wish you the same and hope you'll feel better soon
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It sounds good but sometimes I feel that the world needs less people becoming more confident and instead people need less expectations of confidence from other people and become more participative to share responsibilities and to question more instead of needing to feel safe, be less prone to reject or accept before reasoning about things. I feel that what you say as a lack of confidence is actually an invite for participating in the decisions like a group, people should work more like a group and less individualistic when talking about decisions or learning about anything. People tend to try to find culprits instead of being part of the decisions and results.
I do agree with some of the phrases in this video, however, i also feel like its the way you bring it. Its like the 'awkward situation' dilemma, it becomes awkward if you make it awkward. If you think you need to change some of these, all power to you! Self improvement is very important and it never stops. But if this is just the way you speak, why change? I personally dont see any problems with these, maybe thats because of my personality? I dont know haha.
Its fine if you dont agree with this, we're all human, we're all grown ups, everyone is different.
Wishing everyone self-confidence. You are all wonderful and very capable.
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Thank you!!!
This all seems like politeness and honesty, like every single thing here.
I guess too.
It’s part of politeness and respectfulness also when you talk to people !
The whole video sounds like "if you don't feel confident in yourself, then fake it!" Which is a terrible advice in my mind.
If you aren't confident in yourself, improve yourself until you are proud of yourself as a human being, not invent other ways to talk because it sounds better. If you lack confidence, show it to the world! At least people appreciate the honesty and truthfulness you express. "Fake it until you make it" mindset is toxic and needs to die.
@@manoftherainshorts9075 Actually, it’s their own perception. Not false not true. And it depends on everyone, on situation, and his/her experience etc. I think everyone knows what is the best for them. Free for you to attach on their own perception or not !
And I think you’re the own who knows your weaknesses and your qualities and you find balance on your own not Psycho 2 go !
And the thing that you have to be aware that Psycho 2 go talk something very general and very superficial too. You don’t have to identity yourself. Just listening their perception but not my cup of tea.
Well, for me, I just do on my own and focus what I like ! But I know my weaknesses and qualities and I embrace all of them because that’s makes me as a human ! And it’s personal for each person !
And here I really don’t care the advice of Pyscho 2 go !
But actually, I understand your perception !
@@manoftherainshorts9075 "Fake it until you make it" can actually be helpful, at least it has been for me and I'll explain why.
Confidence is similar to our attitude towards all things in life but it's just towards us. If you think that tomorrow is going to be a boring day, it will most likely be boring. But if you think it will be fun, you are more likely to feel positive emotions during tomorrow, even if it will be a bit boring. Same goes for confidence.
Another example: If you think you need to go for a run consistently to be a sporty person you are less likely to go for a run. If you think that you are already a sporty person you are more likely to go for a run since you migh think "what would a sporty person do?". Once again, same goes with confidence. Think about yourself as a confidence person while acknowledging that you aren't yet where you want to be. That makes you more likely to act like a confidence person and therefore you start to believe that you actually are getting more confidence.
I get your point though. If you aren't happy about where you are in life or what you are like as a person, then do something about it. Thinking positively can help the progress but it won't do the work for you.
I feel like the excessive amounts of “I’m sorry” also fits in here (coming from someone with a low self esteem) me personally, I always apologize for things because I usually see myself in the wrong even when nothing bad even happened.
I find this post so funny because this is basically just corporate speak 101 on how to articulate professionally.
Literally almost all examples and alternatives were taught to me in business writing.
I'm sorry, the whole video I just thought "but it's adorable! why would anyone want to fix a phrase like that?"
I remember in one of your videos, you said that shame is something that's universally attractive in both men and women
That is so true
I think a lack of confidence, or shame, is one of the most attractive traits someone may have.
if you want to be attractive, I don't think you should to try and change how you speak
In other situations though, maybe you should.
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glad to know I'm socially awkward
Same
Same here.
Me here
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This was very helpful
So true. I’m multilingual and multitalented (can dance, can sing, can play multiple music instruments, outstanding performing staff of the company for conservatively years) but still lack confidence just cos I’m short and less “rich” than the majority of the surrounding. 💀
You're right to be. Because nobody looks inside without checking the outside first
Why you need a validation for others ? Do it for yourself !
Everything you do is for yourself not for others !
@@jpjfrey5673 Yep, I got so fed up ngl. Always get feedbacks or wow factor like, “should’ve known you earlier, didn’t know you could do this and that etc…” when new people (when they have no other choice) trying to know me.
@@Lolcoca True. This is what I’m trying to do starting this year.
@@Lolcoca cuz it don't matter how much you like yourself - that pingas is still dry
With the phrase “Excuse Me”, I’m usually good with that. But others, not so much. So I’m glad to know what lines I should I say and how to say so I can have show confidence.
Yep it depends on the context but yeah I sometimes use it for polite sentence not because I don’t have a confidence !
Definitely helpful! Even if painful lol.
Exibiting confidence can be intimidating to some, so I use some of these phrases if the person is hyper sensitive or emotionally disturbed.
glad to know that I lack confidence
I’m not sure if I’m the only one, but I was not always shy and not as confident. After being in quarantine and a mentally abusive relationship got me to this point.. But I feel like it’s a journey, I have plenty of moment where I don’t even think about my anxiety and I glide easily through social engagements. When I tell people I just met or co workers that I’ve known for years,, people don’t believe me when I say I’m shy. I’m realizing it’s really in my head no matter how real it feels. Simple eye contact makes me uncomfortable at times. But what helps me is remembering that no one is laser focused on the things I am insecure about. Get in a habit of not overthinking interactions and just let them happen. If you react a certain way, don’t think it’s because you are weird just accept and trust your responses and actions. You aren’t an alien that can’t connect with people. You just have a different approach, which is perfectly okay. Be kind and understanding with yourself like you are with your friends.
Actually, when I talk to people, I just stay polite and respectful.
I don’t think too much of it !
But I can understand for you !
I had the confidence to click on this video when I saw it in my notifications.
I said nearly all of these things when I was trying to patch up a friendship that I ruined. (I confessed that I loved her, but she was an adult, and I wasn't...) I still got out what I wanted to say, and even gave her some poet's daffodils. After that, I kind of feared women more.
Interesting, I'll make sure to say these things to myself every often 😁🥰
Ooo. I appreciate the video.
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So speak in an active voice rather than a passive voice? Got it!
I am aware of my lack of confidence. And, I know I should practice these tips. There is a lot of people taking advantage of this lack of confidence and assertiveness. But, I can not help being stressed and worried that the moment I start speaking more assertively I will hurt other people or have fights with them. I've seen that happen so many times around me and that thought doesn't leave my mind.
Does anyone has a tip for that kind of issue?
At 3:08, I had a random thought on a replacement phrase for “I’m worried”. I liked how earlier in the video Psych2go mentioned an alternative phrase to “sorry to bother you”, and I was thinking of an alternative to “I’m worried”, but I’m not sure if it’s a good fit. Instead of saying “I’m worried that I won’t make it on time”, could I say “I don’t think I’ll make it on time”. Then I can come up with a solution for the problem. Would this work ok?
Be stoic..got it
"If it's okay" = or else. It is one of the most threatening phrases that shows your power and their powerlessness as they HAVE to agree it is okay or face consequences.
The examples were all my vocabulary... Cool
A good rule of thumb to help with your cofidence is to build strong faith and trust in your morals, and to accept the realization that not everyone will agree with them. Be the better person and agree to disagree, because getting frustrated over a conflict can also be a sign of low-confidence.
Great video, but where does this presenters accent come from?? It's SO cool!
And then there’s “For what it’s worth, I think…” a personal favorite of mine.
Glad to say that I can't relate to most of these and still not confident.
More negative, stubborn, angrier and emotionless.
Another thing I have a habit of saying is “I mean I could be wrong” after anything important
So what do you suggest i say instead of if its okay then u didn't mention it on the video?
I do all of these 🙈 also when texting I put “lol” at the end of every sentence even if it’s not funny. How do you show confidence but not come off as arrogant ? 😮
I think the difference between confidence and arrogance lies in how you treat other people. Confidence is being comfortable in one’s own skin, regardless of the opinion of others; arrogance is more like boosting oneself up by lowering others. You can be confident and still be warm and kind; the same is not true of arrogance. Arrogance has something to prove; confidence does not.
@@Slim_Charles thanks for explaining!
"Sorry to bother you....I just...I'm worried if it's okay..."
Video: 'these phrases kill your confidence '
Me: "Well, looks interesting."
Video: *proceeds to say all the phrases I use*
(Its also very helpful, thanks!)
amazing
I say all of them. All of the time.
I'm so screwed...
Uhhh I know who Dale Carnegie is😲I'm currently reading a book from him! It's a good book. I don't know the english title bc I bought it in my native language but it must be sth like "how to win friends and be influencial". It's a book abt communication. I recommend it. It's a helpful book for your private life and for your work life👍
Yes, How to Win Friends and Influence People. It's a very iconic book, at least in North America. One of the books that's not uncommonly found in the average family's household, I'd reckon. Well, I grew up with an old copy in mine, anyways.
Without even watching my prediction is that i am probably guilty of all or even more :/
But i want to work on it :)
My confidence is already so ded
Is there any way I can become confident again? 😢
I seriously have no social skills, I barely talk even to my family. If I somehow get lost when I go out, I probably won't be able to explain myself.
I’ve been guilty of saying all of them except for “I’m worried.”
Lost a great job today due to lack of confidence and faith in myself. (Chef in a popular restaurant here.) feeling utterly defeated. Maybe this won’t fix my confidence, but at least hide the lack of it, eh?
There's nothing wrong with those phrases other than giving the impression that the person appears unassertive and unconfident. Nothing wrong whatsoever.
That’s what I said too !
It’s part of polite and respectful conversation actually ! Especially when you write it for some works for example !
I only use those phrases when I know somebody is in a bad mood. Otherwise, I usually have the opposite problem.
Confidence always seems easier on paper
Me who uses all of these
“I don’t see an problem here”
What's wrong in showing you lack confidence? Everyone has flaws, showing world yours is truthful.
Right
What about if it were for one important person would this work then??? Ooops did it again 😂, but yeah i feel this could backfire especially if that person is sensitive with one person only, not the general public, this works fine for people you don’t care about not people you do i feel, but maybe i’m wrong idk.
I'd love a video about gender dysphoria. How to identify it, what to do etc
Just take a deep breath and remember that actual gender disphoria is very, very rare. What we've been seeing the past five or so years is a social contagion.
Feeling wierd about your body and identity is pretty normal and most people grow out of it.
The non-binary thing is a fad too. Everyone who has ever lived is non-binary. Most of the "they/them" are narcissists.
@@Apeiron242 I am soon to be 31, I never outgrew my dysphoria. Because of people who have a mindset like you, I cannot find a medical treatment I need. Dysphoria is not "contagion" nor "a fad", nor it's a quantum physics to realize that we are no longer living in boomer era nor we are bound to boomer ideas, therefore we can express however we want.
@@RebelWvlf What was that comment about? It got deleted
@@eloskowy4954 It's not deleted, you can find it when you choose "newest first" for comment section and scroll down until you find your original comment. The guy wrote something like "it's just another fad" and it prompted me to write this.
@@RebelWvlf Hmm, that's weird. In popular section it shows that I have 3 subcomments and in newest, 4.l subcomments, but I have read it.
I would have clicked on this earlier, but I lacked confidence.
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Not even close.
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how to focus as an ADHD ?
Guilty as charged
As a natural-born, antisocial, rude-ass, I approve this video
0:52 Or you can say excuse me for interrupting
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Out of curiosity, what sort of accent does the narrator have? I've never heard anything quite like it. It was actually a little distracting, with how different it sounded to me. 😅
I feel bad about feeling targetted by this. XD
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The way i clicked and looked around if anyone saw me 😭
What confidence?
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Excuse me can i have ur attention please Self confidence starts on how you view yourself is so true to me bcoz im reading dr maltz maxwell psychocybernetis do you read it too?
Can you do Adhd , Ocd , PTSD , Anesthesia
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"Excuse me" in Spanish is "Disculpa" that can also mean "Forgive me". 😩
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Ah yes, self confidence, something i don’t have.
I don't know use" sorry for bother" is disrespectful maybe next time i such be careful ╥﹏╥ but its is hard for me to change my behavior but it will take time
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As someone with Septo Optic Dysplasia and CPTSD, I deal with self restriction, because I was not allowed to freely express myself. Because of SOD, I am totally blind and on the autism spectrum. So I do certain things that benefit my blindness, autism and CPTSD. But society views them as socially awkward. It’s led me down the path of self restriction, self shame, and setting unrealistic expectations on myself. And if I meet someone, I always say, “if it’s ok with you, I constantly touch and explore things, and I may do this and that, and I might show some emotions.” I’ve overcame self doubt. It’s the self restriction and the self disrespect that I need to overcome. I CAN DO THIS! AND I WILL DO IT! I AM WORTH IT!
lmao i use all of them