@@hardmtnbiker No Sir, my hubby was only 7yrs older than me. It doesn't really matter how long you know the person as long as you marry that person for love, not for the wrong reason. I know in my heart he was my twin flame.
Sorry to hear the news. I started a business and got married 6 months or so later. I worked like a dog, 6 and 7 days a week for 12 years. My wife and I worked together the last 3 years until the divorce. I feel for you. Don't get depressed like I did and lose years of your life.
Thank you for being a part of my life, for the love we shared, and for the lessons we learned along the way. Our time together was filled with ups and downs, but through it all, I believe we both grew and evolved as individuals. I am grateful for the good memories we created together - the laughter, the adventures, and the moments of genuine connection. These memories will always hold a special place in my heart, reminding me of the love and friendship we once shared. As we both move forward on our separate paths, I want to wish you nothing but the best. May you find happiness, peace, and fulfillment in all that you do. May you continue to grow and thrive, and may the lessons we learned together guide you towards a brighter future. Although our relationship may have come to an end, I believe that everything happens for a reason, and I am thankful for the time we spent together. May God bless us both as we embark on this new chapter of our lives.
This is really nice.. and not typical at all. That's not the narrative that you'll hear from woman in the U.S.A., especially when finances are involved. Way to go out on a high note. 😉👍
Just make sure you never get married again. If you remarry after a divorce, God sees this as Adultery. A very serious sin and could possibly lead to eternal separation from God. This does not go away with regular confession or forgiveness.
@@kamronwilliams2634 Where does it say in the bible that remarrying after divorce is adultery? I will answer for you: Nowhere does it say that. This is just some ancient Catholic canonical rule that has seen its day; Jesus never said that. You mention confession: What trespass in the bible would one confess to after remarriage? And what about annulment? Doesn't canon law treat that as allowing remarriage? I'll bet these two really got annulment since they are in the Philippines.
@@kamronwilliams2634 Get off your religious high horse! God may hate divorce, but HE hates it no more or no less than anything else HE hates. You WILL NOT be lead into eternal separation from God for divorce no more than for lying, stealing, murder, etc. NO sin has greater weight than another sin. And, ALL sin is forgiven and washed by the blood of Jesus. He was never as religious and judgmental as so many people who go to church and study the bible. If you think Jesus was judgmental like this, you really don't know HIM. Also, I know of many people who have gotten divorced and remarried again and are definitely more happier than the first marry. The first marriage was simply a mistake. Many marry for the wrong reasons and motives. God understands us as humans and understands the mistakes we make and why we make them. But, HE forgives us and doesn't hold it against us as you have expressed. " . . . the greatest of these is_LOVE"
I hear so many expats say they want a working Filipina. But then the relationship ends up being like a typical Western one. Just like in the West, the modern working woman doesn't have the time or energy to take care of ol John when she gets home tired after long hours of work. If you want a traditional woman, she needs to have traditional roles. Sorry this happened to you John.
Hehehe. How dare you tell the truth.? Now you can actually have a traditional wife who works, provided maybe you have no children. But there are types of ladies...and men whose life evolves solely around achieving something : a job, a company, academia etc. Those ladies often ww admire them for their grit and determination. But they are rarely wife material..I dated a university professor while doing her PhD in Australia. Wonderful in many regards and desperate for a relationship in he'd mid 30s but the pull of academia was still too strong. Needless to say, I am now married to someone else ...and she is back to her tenure.😂
Problem is if relationship fails with house wife , There will be MASS ive Ali Money /ex spousal support , probably for life Compared to if s He has her own job. Financial burden of ex Wifi can destroy a man financially, After that he can’t afford a new partner any more
@@A_Sen_0 Even if you have a working Filipina, most of the financial burden is going to be on you anyway cause they only make small pesos. Better to keep them home taking care of the domestic stuff then you'll have a blissful relationship and less chance of breakup.
Hi John. Thanks for sharing your personal story. I’m not really in a position to comment much since I hardly know either of you. It sounds like you and your wife made an excellent team business wise. Although you may have had some differing immediate or long-term personal goals or priorities along the way. Often times there is pressure from family and society to stay together, but imo you’re ultimately better off to end a relationship sooner than later once differences become evident however hard it may be. One thing I’ve learned, is sometimes people can grow closer together, while other times they can grow farther apart. Full compatibility can’t be forced. It either happens naturally or it doesn’t. Best wishes to both of you in finding the right person to share your lives with in the future.
Sorry to hear that my dude. Divorce is never easy, no matter how civil it is. I wish you best of luck in future romances. Till eventually you meet a compatible partner. ✌️🐻
thank you for this video❤ so light and no drama! You guys moved on and the advise its so helpful. Take time to know the person before getting married.. How they would do when you are sick or down.. How they're going to handle the situation special in rough time.❤
Sorry John. Appreciate your honesty on a difficult topic. I have a pinay girlfriend but no plans to marry again. Just don’t have faith in it anymore sadly
Most relationship fails because one person was being loved to much & the other wasn’t being loved enough. Thanks for sharing Sir. God bless & Good luck to both of you.
Love, like life, is a loan and you have to pay it back everyday. Too easy to see it as a thing. John Sexton (divorce lawyer) talks about the 3 ingredients for a good marriage. Loyalty is first. Be their cheerleader and also the loving critic so they see their blind spots. Second is romance/sex/intimacy. Be real, be honest, and skin to skin is so powerful as each can be totally themselves in this bubble of time away from the world. Lastly, consciously value through language and behaviors. My ex never understood the second ingredient. I tried all the constructive criticism and she bought into the idea from may that you fix the relationship first and the sex will fix itself. That's ridiculous and naive. Most men have a very strong monogamous sex drive that barely declines as we age. If we are monogamous and she is the only meal in town then forcing us into famine is a death spiral to divorce. One has to be deliberate with intimacy. Put it on the calendar like you would all important things.
Ive always wanted to be just a housewife doing wife duties, i met this guy, he said im the woman he is always looking to marry, but all of a sudden , he pushes me be better, get a better paying job be productive, be independent😢, that really hurt me,im lost right now. From the start i told him im poor and will have almost nothing to offer financially unlike the girls she dated before, they have careers, rich but the relationships failed😥
I really feel sorry about the divorce because I’ve been married faithfully to my late hubby for 15 years and we promised each other NOT TO DIVORCE. Unfortunately, time is so cruel sometimes that left you unspoken but shed a tear reminiscing how beautiful and colourful my life with him. But the painful part when you face the reality hit me so hard that God showed me the real colours of the members of my family and friends, they despise me and kicked me out of the house. I even renovated my parents house, bought a car for them and brought them for vacation, helping my brothers etc.., and when my American husband died, they totally changed when they knew that I don’t have pension from him and no money at all, and now I am all alone fighting for my survival standing alone in a middle of a storm with strong prayers to God and He really did take good care of me. As what the Bible says, widows are so loved by God. And I feel confident that I’m in a good hands of God. Same to you, you will be safe and cared by God. These are just passing by. Have faith in God, smile and look up the sky, inhale, exhale and be thankful to Him for all the blessings. Everything happens for a reason and continue doing good to others. Love Live Laugh Positivity to the fullest! ❤🙏
@donnabethquijano1931 I am sorry for the betrayal & abandonment you endured/endure. Why is it that life’s worst blows happen when we are allready hurt/grieving? Yup, When it rains it pours. I believe, like I suspect you may, that Our Heavenly Father may wish us to learn that He alone is worthy of our deepest trust. Even if one’s husband is healthy, alive & the marriage is stable, for some of us there can still be longterm differences & disagreements that result in feelings of loneliness & isolation. Imo. We are flawed, but God is Love. Plz pray for me & I will for you!
@@wintersojourn9356 Thank you wintersojourn for praying for me and I really need that and of course I am praying for you and the rest of the world. Yes, God is love and that’s all we need. Happy Valentine’s Day to you and John!❤️
This is going to sound offensive but I feel this video was completely useless and basically just sounded like some public ass kissing to me. It really sucks going through a divorce but there's no valuable information provided to those already engaged to a Filipina around what actually went wrong in the relationship and ways to either resolve or compromise on the conflict. There's always going to be a lack of knowing someone fully and I don't really see this as a valid excuse for wanting a divorce. I'm confident in that whatever the real reason is for the breakup, it was not included in this video. Thanks for nothing.
@@mikebenson5840 I want to see marriages succeed, specially between a native Filipina and a "foreigner". However, it is disheartening to see this particular bond fall apart due to a regression in emotional connection (lack of intimacy 🤔), because that's what appears to be lacking in my opinion. But hey, I'm sure they're both decent people and I can't really blame them for wanting to maintain a positive public image. It's just sad to me that as someone who's at the beginning stages of a similar situation, that there are no real "hard lessons learned" to share in this message. To me the video felt rather emotionally disconnected.
This is how men think. Marriage is foundational to our psyche because as the Book says, we came from dust and to dust we shall return. Our binary is zero and we will do everything in our power to not be dust. When my wife said to me that she wants a divorce I was WTF! Like you say, she did not present "a valid excuse" which to me is things like physical abuse or gambling/alcohol addition or infidelity that can't stop. You will never know someone fully because we all change and don't even know ourselves. You may doubt my words but stats are evident. 56% divorce rate and of those that remain married more than 20% do so unhappy, unsatisfied, regretfully. This is why the birth rate across the modern world: Korea, Japan, America... is going down. The system is broken. We don't need each other.
Congratulations. You deserve to have what you want and to be happy. Great content. I appreciate the honesty. You’re the only one who is open and honest like this. Especially the Duma vloggers paint one side. I have had relationships but never committed as vloggers say and instead work on my relationship with myself. I’ve met so many expats who complain about their wives, gf, and don’t do anything to improve or change. Things aren’t as they seem mostly. It takes years and years to know myself and others. Those who jumped in a many times regretful. Fortunately I listen to my instinct and conscience
Im sorry to hear this. I always say that people don't get married intending to be divorced. Unfortunately, life happens, and hard choices have to be made sometimes. It can be challenging, but I hope you and your ex can remain good friends, as well as continue to enjoy life in Davao. Thanks for sharing.🙏
56% divorce rate in America. And the humorous aspect of this is that within five years 85% of people will remarry. If it was any other system, driving your car for example, and you had a terrible accident 56% of the time then you would not keep driving. But here we are with love. All of us staring at the moon and being drawn by it's allure. There must be something very powerful in our need for it. Perhaps like life, we all know we are going to die but we continue to play the game. It's kind of beautiful in tragic sense.
@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x your description is fitting, beautiful in a tragic way. Despite tragedy, there's a sense of fulfillment when one eventually finds love. It brings hope and strengthens resolve. I didn't know the statistics. Looks like I'm in danger of falling under the 15%. Life being life.
Hello John, wow im chocked for both of you. Just reset life again my friend and Enjoy. I have been busy offline a long time bit trying to grt back and watch your videos again. Take care and can we have a call someday soon?
shit happens. Even not knowing your wife, I felt a lost something in that respect when we met. The good thing is that life offers great opportunities in business and love life alike.. You are a good man and I am sure so she is. Both strong and will make it and be glad you can grow in the Philippines a country that is more loving than the US right now. I wish both of you happiness and joy.😍
Ive got a feeling of deja vu though for feeling sad of knowing relationship does not last long. I have been very fond of this one foreign couple blogger who Im rooting to have what can I say a solid foundation of emotional connection that's just cannot be untie by the charms of any elements that the passes through, unfortunately the guy did was charmed and the lady at her first blogs , I so feel her. It's just maybe I do not differentiate a bloggers life to a somekind of a movie or a short love story documentary. I don't know the world of vloggers how they really manage not to be carried away not to talk their personal life, since everything might become a topic one day. It is never a talk that is simply to pass a content, it is how one would manage to deliver it and still have his/her moment to grasp it. After all there's more than just emotion invested in a relationship. I believe there's no animosity between the two of you after this since I can sense calmness between the two of you.
Unfortunately work and children can get in the way of relationships. I stayed single after my divorce at age 35. Not working seems like a necessity for me to devote enough time to my relationship. Best wishes to both of you.
How did you manage it? I'm a few days away from the divorce being final and already at peace. My life is perfect. Except the power of Eros won't be ignored. Perhaps chastity brings it's own power over time? Most days I feel empowered but then Eros sneaks in and ruins things. Eros is very sneaky; enticing with words like love and visions of intimacy.
@@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x Joining a church and praying for the answers helps. For me a 19 year old was available to me, but I waited until I was financially able to start my new family. So I've discovered that God's plan was best. My wife left me 24 years ago and that's when my new wife was born. She's 24 now and we met online when she was 19 during COVID. 2Pet.3 [8] But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day.
Sorry to hear this , But it’s got be tough still working together after divorcing . Trusting someone after a divorce to be able to trust them in business is tough I hope you’re being careful.
Sorry to hear your news. Hope things work out to your mutual benefit. It appears you have lifted each other up and I suspect you always will, just not husband and wife. Continued good luck to you both. You stand out as a good guy especially in comparison to the nut cases down in Dumaguete.
So very sorry to hear the news you shared. Life can and will alway present you with challenges. I am sorry you find this to be one of them. Take care and I wish you both nothing but good things in your future.
That's the speech I gave to my two children last month. Life will present obstacles. Some you do to yourself (we all make mistakes) and some life brings to you. So what do you do when you have a problem? You need two things: a map and to do something different. And you sleep on it. Both things you are excited about like a new toy and things you are troubled by. I told them I was sleeping on it for a year before deciding what I will do. I feel like I have already made up my mind (retire early and go abroad) but yes, "good things in your future" is the them song for troubled times. We will see....
Fascinating. I watched a divorce video months ago where the american woman described her "conscious uncoupling" from her husband. She said that he was wonderful but more Buddhist and content whereas she was always wanting to grow and go and grow and go. As she spoke it felt like a western mind virus that had taken over female psyche. As you explained this I was then shocked that you were the relationship first partner with a Filipina. Pressure to get married in their culture is something that has bothered me as I consider a move there in 2025. I've been married. Twice! Marriage is a broken system and I don't want to do it again. James Sexton describes marriage as the moon and people mistake their pointing at the moon as marriage. In other words, they each have a picture of the moon but they are not the same. And problems come. I'm so glad that you have a solid head on your shoulders with this. Honestly, I don't think I have the capacity to endure another divorce. And if I were to sell everything I know here in the States and relocated to my adventure there, it would be a soul sucking dark hole; standing at the bottom of this bottomless pit I'm not sure I'd be able to cope. You've got sensibility and youth on your side brother. Time to go fishing again. Godspeed.
Seems more of a certain Hollywood divorce like George Hamilton and Alana Collins. They divorced but still get along. AC married Sir Rod Stewart but divorced, yet, they also get along. Some working couples 💑 just do not blend well as marriage partners. This is like having a work wife and a family wife.
@WatchCaliforniaExpat We will be back in the Philippines around August-September. We will plan to get together with you at that time. Pencil us into your schedule, please. I know you are a busy man.
To me you have to know the psychology of a Filipina, A Western foreigner Expat has a different upbringing and mind frame. So many expats expect a lot from an Asian lady, maybe work got on the way, and that gets its toll on a relationship, An in influx of old senior Cititzen from the West want a relationship with a Filipina with a huge age gap, I hope the future of the women in Philippines will improve and not rely on a Western Foreigner Financially, Age Gap dont matter is too ridiculous for me and outrageous it was a taboo for Asians/Pinay back in the days.! 🙏
I'm considering PI or Thailand for retirement. In Thailand there is more of a Buddhist mentality in female psychology. They want to achieve and a man will have to be equal or better for a productive life. Age gap is more as it is in America. Perhaps 7 years or 10 years but you would find only amongst the 1% wealthy any big gaps like rich old man and beautiful young woman. I think if an expat retires to Thailand he should expect a place that treats him well (cost of living and lifestyle quite favorable) but not a heart that treats him well. Language by itself is a great obstacle but so is their culture. Of course, it's not impossible and I have watched some success stories but expats with a heart priority don't feel so incentivized to sell everything and go abroad just for the cost of living. Thailand is a beautiful country though and one can live a very good life that is free from the economic grind we have, on top of the social tensions as is so evident in our wild politics where crime is celebrated and we don't even know what a man or woman is. I get what you saying though about it seeming taboo for big age gap. I have heard that in modern cultures like America, if you are looking for love with a younger person, then age minus 20 + 7 is a good guide to follow. Anything more and you are too far outside your generation and will not understand each other.
Sorry buddy. I believe when one door closes another one opens. And another one is everything happens for a reason. One last one your life will be better in the future I promise.
I really honestly don't think of it as Filipina or Expats, it is about PEOPLE! I was married to a woman from Colombia, she told me that she married me for my money and for citizenship after we got married and then told me that I was stupid., it is all about people motives and love, when you truly love a person, it doesn't matter, what matter is finding common ground and solutions, it is a constant fight, you just gave up., just the reality of it.
I'm a first time viewer so I don't know your story, but I was a leader of a divorce recovery group for several years. Our society isn't geared towards the traditional family where the man is the leader and the woman follows, women, even Filipinas, want to control the family. Many people don't realize that the Philippine family is run by the woman and her family. It is what it is, no judgements. Given the high rate of unhappy marriages, maybe marriage isn't a viable way to live your life. Think about how women change, both physically and emotionally, is a long term relationship even a good idea where the state controls the terms?
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat That all depends on how you see basic female nature. If you still have the old world thinking that women are sugar and spice then you should roll the dice again and play a game that has very few winners. Even the guys that appear to be winners are miserable and wish they had picked more wisely. That's the fly in the ointment, there is no wiser choice of women as it all goes back to basic female nature. This isn't something to be mad about, it is just how it has always been and will always be. If you see the logic in what I'm saying then act in a way that will bring good things into your life for the long term.
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat Many people regard Mike Tyson as a meathead, maybe he is dumb enough to speak thee truth to a gynocentric world. "You're mother will do everything she can to help you,...every other woman will do everything she can to help herself." Over half the people will reject those words and call Mike names, the other half has lived out the truth of his words. Best of luck to you.
A divorce between a filipino and a foreign national will only be recognized if the marriage and divorce took place outside the country. If you were married in the Ph, goodluck with that.
No. Good and kind is never a mistake. Divorce is more common than a successful marriage because it is a broken system. People are not broken, although we may not have the right tools for navigating this rapidly changing world. In modernity, woman do not need men. Perhaps AI girlfriends will soon solve this for men as well. Birth rates are falling across modernity: Korea, Japan, US... and some sort of change will have to be designed as their doesn't seem to be any way to get the ketchup back in the bottle.
Sorry to hear that your marriage didn’t work out, and I appreciate you sharing something so personal. Being divorced myself, I understand what a difficult situation it can be, so I hope you’re both handling it well. It came as a shock, considering that I just saw a video a few days ago about another well known UA-cam couple who do videos about the Philippines getting divorced, and because of extremely similar reasons. It’s something that I would expect more in Western culture than with a Filipina. Do you feel that Filipino culture is becoming more Westernized in some ways?
Filipino culture remains forever because it is part of Philippine history. However, those few Filipinos who has colonial mentality embracing the western culture.
Is it possible to divorce a marriage even if there is no contact with him? I'm A Filipina married for 20 years but my husband who is a foreigner left me 16 years ago, I don't know how to locate him since he went to the USA for the reason his mother died, after that We lost our communication..
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat John, we're not in Davao, but we'll love to visit there at some stage ... when we do, we'll reach out to you, to see if you're free to get together
Sorry things didn't work out for you two. I'm really interested in seeing your next video though, about how you went through with divorce in the Phillipines. I have only ever heard, over and over again, that there is no divorce in the Phillipines, only annulment for certain cases such as if one partner contracts a serious STD or something. Hoping you won't spare the details and really tell us what happened and how you got a divorce there, thanks.
Damn John, my heart goes out to you. I’m actually divorcing in the states because she choose career over relationship. So I’m off to PH to live differently and hopefully better.
@@MarsOcto Sooner or later you will find out if she is only after your money or if she wants to establish a long-lasting relationship. Women that only want your money and not your person tend to keep other women out of sight by picking you up at the airport...but you may be lucky and be met with genuine sympathy. The bottom line is not to marry the first 5 years and to opt for a kind of business partnership instead, and if you do marry make sure there is a possibility of divorce.
Hi John, your story is one of said ones i ever heard about. The fact she divorced from you means that the reason why she accepted to marry you was not really what you thought to be. It shows clearly that she looked for financial security from you. You guys have you at least had children together?
I'm holding my breath john... I'm not ready to watch this yet... You two were my my pandemic couple 🥹🥹 I'll watch it before the night ends john Fully support you and your channel ☺️
Awh John... From the bottom of my heart, I truly sympathize with what you are going through... 😔 Even though I never met you or Grace, whenever I would watch you guys on your channel or Meljean's, I just instantly loved you two... I'll always continue to support both of your channels, John
Sorry dear but never loose hope, i know she was not meant for you, your right one is coming you will be happ again trust me. Visit Uganda is a good country too with beautiful people. Watching you from Uganda.
I have never been to Uganda but the women seem to be gorgious , athletic , tall way better than filipinas, but I have not found yet other reasons to visit it , beautiful landscape I can have in many places and to go to a very poor country is always a challenge don't feel the urge so far since it's gonna be expensive trip and the outcome in regards to women is always vague 😂 German 60 yrs
You have my sympathy. Divorce is never easy. I agree that you shouldn't rush, but that's not a guarantee and Filipina tend to push and rush. They meet you at the airport and move right in. I always warn that you don't get an accurate picture by just talking to Filipina.
Hi, I would like to ask what if the marriage are in between two Filipinos and would file a divorce in Guam? Is Guam Divorce applicable in this situation?
May I know what Law office did you hire? I have been in contact a family law office there I raised that issue but they said it can be done but will not be recognized in the Philippines.
There are tough questions to this situation that might never be answered if asked. Looking back at the beginning of your relationship, did she use you as a quick stepping stone to lift herself up? I see so many filipinas that use foreigners to get ahead in life, some follow through for real and many are in it for "business", then they want to move on.
I respect you telling your story..I made a mistake marrying the wrong pinay.. Almost every relationship..girl gains status and financially...while the guy ?
your right but thats every where in the world when it comes to relationships Ive been married twice it didn't work for me now I have a girl friend or three threw out US and Asia with me is just don't get attached. you start getting that feeling or if you notice that she wants more than your willing to give leave go to another town or country there's plenty of lonely women out there I make friends easy and maybe I will hook up one day but its been 25 years and Ive avoided the stress of a nagging wife so far lol good luck and thanks for your story
They don't. But foreigners married to Filipinas can get divorced in their own country and it go through a process in the Philippines to have the divorce recognized. I share more in a second video and forthcoming third.
I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. I met my husband online in 2005. He came to the Philippines a year later. Then he lived most of four years there while I was working full time. We moved to CA in 2009 and he passed in 2014. It'll be his 10yr death anniversary on the 22nd this month.I was so blessed and very grateful to have met him-'--He was the best man in my life. I love and miss him so much❤️ All the best on your life journey in the Philippines! May you find your one true love in God's perfect time.
Thank you. I'm srill living here in Sacramento with my almost 24yo son. He's graduating at SacState in May so hoepfully I'd be able to 'retire' soon, God willing.
@@sheincha3817 One of my sisters lives in Sacramento. I lived there and Elk Grove for a few years before. Hope you'll be able to come back where you want to be. Keep in touch
Well sounds like all the hard decisions are behind you already and time to move forward. Tough. So now I suppose it’s time to jump on keto and hit the gym and be ready for love to find you again one day in the future. For now keep you head down and focused on your business and know it will get easier in time. Cheers.
real unconditional love can be found between parents and their children to find a good spouse i's vital that both are generous and open to bring more to the table , to find a generous women is very hard and even unlikely amongst the good looking ones additional features add up , most men look mainly for beauty failure must be prevalent
So sorry John to hear that you and Grace have divorced. Strangely I was thinking about the pair of you the other week after not hearing anything about Grace for some time.
There's always food for thoughts to ponder coming from the boss and expats motivator🎉🎉 😂😂 a more wiser decisions would always be the factor in whatever endeavour it might be.
Actually thought you batted for the other side. Thanks for sharing, hope you didnt lose the shirt off your back.. Onwards... Stay away from Dramagete 😅
Just because the two of you get along, have good sex, etc does not mean you have to marry them. I’m 51 never been married or have kids. I tell them from the beginning that I’m a confirmed bachelor that will never marry.Some deal with it and some can’t either way they know where I stand on the matter.
Definitely best to be upfront. Best way to avoid divorce is to not avoid marriage. I've always been the kind of guy who wanted to be married in a long term relationships, but I've paid a high price for it more than once now. And I'm not talking about finances.
I met and dated my hubby for 4months before we got married and live together for 16yrs and took care of him when he got sick until he passed.
Those are the stories i love to hear
Well-done. True commitment is so hard to find these days. Many will say for better or worse but few seem to mean it when worse comes to visit.
@@ericg9092technology has made commitment less and less important. People are more replaceable than ever before. It is what it is.
I’m sure those stories are common when young Filipina’s marry an old and often disabled or retired foreigner.
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No Sir, my hubby was only 7yrs older than me. It doesn't really matter how long you know the person as long as you marry that person for love, not for the wrong reason.
I know in my heart he was my twin flame.
Sorry to hear the news. I started a business and got married 6 months or so later. I worked like a dog, 6 and 7 days a week for 12 years. My wife and I worked together the last 3 years until the divorce. I feel for you. Don't get depressed like I did and lose years of your life.
Appreciate your support and sorry to be you went through the same
Thank you for being a part of my life, for the love we shared, and for the lessons we learned along the way. Our time together was filled with ups and downs, but through it all, I believe we both grew and evolved as individuals.
I am grateful for the good memories we created together - the laughter, the adventures, and the moments of genuine connection. These memories will always hold a special place in my heart, reminding me of the love and friendship we once shared.
As we both move forward on our separate paths, I want to wish you nothing but the best. May you find happiness, peace, and fulfillment in all that you do. May you continue to grow and thrive, and may the lessons we learned together guide you towards a brighter future.
Although our relationship may have come to an end, I believe that everything happens for a reason, and I am thankful for the time we spent together.
May God bless us both as we embark on this new chapter of our lives.
This is really nice.. and not typical at all. That's not the narrative that you'll hear from woman in the U.S.A., especially when finances are involved.
Way to go out on a high note. 😉👍
Just make sure you never get married again. If you remarry after a divorce, God sees this as Adultery. A very serious sin and could possibly lead to eternal separation from God. This does not go away with regular confession or forgiveness.
@@kamronwilliams2634 Where does it say in the bible that remarrying after divorce is adultery? I will answer for you: Nowhere does it say that. This is just some ancient Catholic canonical rule that has seen its day; Jesus never said that. You mention confession: What trespass in the bible would one confess to after remarriage? And what about annulment? Doesn't canon law treat that as allowing remarriage? I'll bet these two really got annulment since they are in the Philippines.
@@kamronwilliams2634 you're an idiot if you actually believe that
@@kamronwilliams2634 Get off your religious high horse! God may hate divorce, but HE hates it no more or no less than anything else HE hates. You WILL NOT be lead into eternal separation from God for divorce no more than for lying, stealing, murder, etc. NO sin has greater weight than another sin. And, ALL sin is forgiven and washed by the blood of Jesus. He was never as religious and judgmental as so many people who go to church and study the bible. If you think Jesus was judgmental like this, you really don't know HIM. Also, I know of many people who have gotten divorced and remarried again and are definitely more happier than the first marry. The first marriage was simply a mistake. Many marry for the wrong reasons and motives. God understands us as humans and understands the mistakes we make and why we make them. But, HE forgives us and doesn't hold it against us as you have expressed. " . . . the greatest of these is_LOVE"
Glad you are on your feet and moving forward with new beginnings
Thank you very much
So sorry to hear the bad news, John. A vulnerable video and sad. Trust you and Grace are ok. Blessings to both of you.
Appreciate you
I hear so many expats say they want a working Filipina. But then the relationship ends up being like a typical Western one. Just like in the West, the modern working woman doesn't have the time or energy to take care of ol John when she gets home tired after long hours of work. If you want a traditional woman, she needs to have traditional roles.
Sorry this happened to you John.
Appreciate your thoughts Gary. I think that can be balance between work but there wasn't any balance in this case
Hehehe. How dare you tell the truth.? Now you can actually have a traditional wife who works, provided maybe you have no children. But there are types of ladies...and men whose life evolves solely around achieving something : a job, a company, academia etc. Those ladies often ww admire them for their grit and determination. But they are rarely wife material..I dated a university professor while doing her PhD in Australia. Wonderful in many regards and desperate for a relationship in he'd mid 30s but the pull of academia was still too strong. Needless to say, I am now married to someone else ...and she is back to her tenure.😂
Yes, if you marry a Filipina and want it to last...... Just keep her home (housewife).......
Problem is if relationship fails with house wife ,
There will be MASS ive Ali Money /ex spousal support , probably for life
Compared to if s He has her own job.
Financial burden of ex Wifi can destroy a man financially,
After that he can’t afford a new partner any more
@@A_Sen_0 Even if you have a working Filipina, most of the financial burden is going to be on you anyway cause they only make small pesos. Better to keep them home taking care of the domestic stuff then you'll have a blissful relationship and less chance of breakup.
You’re such a nice guy KING JOHN! Great advice! Glad you’re doing good and not giving up on the amazing Philippines! 💪❤️🇵🇭
Thanks so much
Hi John. Thanks for sharing your personal story. I’m not really in a position to comment much since I hardly know either of you. It sounds like you and your wife made an excellent team business wise. Although you may have had some differing immediate or long-term personal goals or priorities along the way. Often times there is pressure from family and society to stay together, but imo you’re ultimately better off to end a relationship sooner than later once differences become evident however hard it may be. One thing I’ve learned, is sometimes people can grow closer together, while other times they can grow farther apart. Full compatibility can’t be forced. It either happens naturally or it doesn’t. Best wishes to both of you in finding the right person to share your lives with in the future.
Really appreciate your thoughts and support
Sorry to hear that my dude. Divorce is never easy, no matter how civil it is. I wish you best of luck in future romances. Till eventually you meet a compatible partner. ✌️🐻
Much appreciated 🙏
John,yes I saw some of your earlier vids sorry to hear that its over between you and your x .Good luck my friend and God bless.
Thank you for your support my friend
All the best to you both as you start a new phase in your life.
Thank you very much
thank you for this video❤ so light and no drama! You guys moved on and the advise its so helpful. Take time to know the person before getting married.. How they would do when you are sick or down.. How they're going to handle the situation special in rough time.❤
Thank you ☺️ You are right those things are very important
Sorry John. Appreciate your honesty on a difficult topic. I have a pinay girlfriend but no plans to marry again. Just don’t have faith in it anymore sadly
I understand you my friend. It's difficult
Most relationship fails because one person was being loved to much & the other wasn’t being loved enough. Thanks for sharing Sir. God bless & Good luck to both of you.
Thank you very much
Love, like life, is a loan and you have to pay it back everyday. Too easy to see it as a thing. John Sexton (divorce lawyer) talks about the 3 ingredients for a good marriage. Loyalty is first. Be their cheerleader and also the loving critic so they see their blind spots. Second is romance/sex/intimacy. Be real, be honest, and skin to skin is so powerful as each can be totally themselves in this bubble of time away from the world. Lastly, consciously value through language and behaviors.
My ex never understood the second ingredient. I tried all the constructive criticism and she bought into the idea from may that you fix the relationship first and the sex will fix itself. That's ridiculous and naive. Most men have a very strong monogamous sex drive that barely declines as we age. If we are monogamous and she is the only meal in town then forcing us into famine is a death spiral to divorce. One has to be deliberate with intimacy. Put it on the calendar like you would all important things.
Ive always wanted to be just a housewife doing wife duties, i met this guy, he said im the woman he is always looking to marry, but all of a sudden , he pushes me be better, get a better paying job be productive, be independent😢, that really hurt me,im lost right now. From the start i told him im poor and will have almost nothing to offer financially unlike the girls she dated before, they have careers, rich but the relationships failed😥
I’m sorry to hear that. I know love can be painful
I really feel sorry about the divorce because I’ve been married faithfully to my late hubby for 15 years and we promised each other NOT TO DIVORCE. Unfortunately, time is so cruel sometimes that left you unspoken but shed a tear reminiscing how beautiful and colourful my life with him.
But the painful part when you face the reality hit me so hard that God showed me the real colours of the members of my family and friends, they despise me and kicked me out of the house. I even renovated my parents house, bought a car for them and brought them for vacation, helping my brothers etc.., and when my American husband died, they totally changed when they knew that I don’t have pension from him and no money at all, and now I am all alone fighting for my survival standing alone in a middle of a storm with strong prayers to God and He really did take good care of me. As what the Bible says, widows are so loved by God. And I feel confident that I’m in a good hands of God.
Same to you, you will be safe and cared by God. These are just passing by. Have faith in God, smile and look up the sky, inhale, exhale and be thankful to Him for all the blessings. Everything happens for a reason and continue doing good to others. Love Live Laugh Positivity to the fullest! ❤🙏
Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry what happened to you
@donnabethquijano1931 I am sorry for the betrayal & abandonment you endured/endure. Why is it that life’s worst blows happen when we are allready hurt/grieving? Yup, When it rains it pours. I believe, like I suspect you may, that Our Heavenly Father may wish us to learn that He alone is worthy of our deepest trust. Even if one’s husband is healthy, alive & the marriage is stable, for some of us there can still be longterm differences & disagreements that result in feelings of loneliness & isolation. Imo. We are flawed, but God is Love. Plz pray for me & I will for you!
@@wintersojourn9356 Thank you wintersojourn for praying for me and I really need that and of course I am praying for you and the rest of the world. Yes, God is love and that’s all we need. Happy Valentine’s Day to you and John!❤️
Thank you for your comments and expressions of faith in God. Life happens unexpecting. I would like to chat with you. Maybe we have things in common.
@@thetrumpetplayer1109 yes I would love that idea. It’s nice to have friends to talk to too.
This is going to sound offensive but I feel this video was completely useless and basically just sounded like some public ass kissing to me. It really sucks going through a divorce but there's no valuable information provided to those already engaged to a Filipina around what actually went wrong in the relationship and ways to either resolve or compromise on the conflict. There's always going to be a lack of knowing someone fully and I don't really see this as a valid excuse for wanting a divorce. I'm confident in that whatever the real reason is for the breakup, it was not included in this video.
Thanks for nothing.
I agree with you. I think this is one of those elephant in the room situations?
@@mikebenson5840 I want to see marriages succeed, specially between a native Filipina and a "foreigner". However, it is disheartening to see this particular bond fall apart due to a regression in emotional connection (lack of intimacy 🤔), because that's what appears to be lacking in my opinion. But hey, I'm sure they're both decent people and I can't really blame them for wanting to maintain a positive public image.
It's just sad to me that as someone who's at the beginning stages of a similar situation, that there are no real "hard lessons learned" to share in this message. To me the video felt rather emotionally disconnected.
Fair enough guys but always a challenge to figure out how much to share in public.
This is how men think. Marriage is foundational to our psyche because as the Book says, we came from dust and to dust we shall return. Our binary is zero and we will do everything in our power to not be dust.
When my wife said to me that she wants a divorce I was WTF! Like you say, she did not present "a valid excuse" which to me is things like physical abuse or gambling/alcohol addition or infidelity that can't stop. You will never know someone fully because we all change and don't even know ourselves. You may doubt my words but stats are evident. 56% divorce rate and of those that remain married more than 20% do so unhappy, unsatisfied, regretfully. This is why the birth rate across the modern world: Korea, Japan, America... is going down. The system is broken. We don't need each other.
Congratulations. You deserve to have what you want and to be happy. Great content. I appreciate the honesty. You’re the only one who is open and honest like this. Especially the Duma vloggers paint one side. I have had relationships but never committed as vloggers say and instead work on my relationship with myself. I’ve met so many expats who complain about their wives, gf, and don’t do anything to improve or change. Things aren’t as they seem mostly. It takes years and years to know myself and others. Those who jumped in a many times regretful. Fortunately I listen to my instinct and conscience
Thank you for your kind comment and support
Im sorry to hear this. I always say that people don't get married intending to be divorced. Unfortunately, life happens, and hard choices have to be made sometimes. It can be challenging, but I hope you and your ex can remain good friends, as well as continue to enjoy life in Davao. Thanks for sharing.🙏
56% divorce rate in America. And the humorous aspect of this is that within five years 85% of people will remarry.
If it was any other system, driving your car for example, and you had a terrible accident 56% of the time then you would not keep driving. But here we are with love. All of us staring at the moon and being drawn by it's allure. There must be something very powerful in our need for it. Perhaps like life, we all know we are going to die but we continue to play the game. It's kind of beautiful in tragic sense.
@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x your description is fitting, beautiful in a tragic way. Despite tragedy, there's a sense of fulfillment when one eventually finds love. It brings hope and strengthens resolve.
I didn't know the statistics. Looks like I'm in danger of falling under the 15%. Life being life.
Hello John, wow im chocked for both of you. Just reset life again my friend and Enjoy. I have been busy offline a long time bit trying to grt back and watch your videos again. Take care and can we have a call someday soon?
Thank you. Sure, send me a message on Facebook
Thanks for sharing. It’s nice to hear the respect in your telling of your story.
Much appreciated
shit happens. Even not knowing your wife, I felt a lost something in that respect when we met. The good thing is that life offers great opportunities in business and love life alike.. You are a good man and I am sure so she is. Both strong and will make it and be glad you can grow in the Philippines a country that is more loving than the US right now. I wish both of you happiness and joy.😍
Thank you Paul. Appreciate your words
Ive got a feeling of deja vu though for feeling sad of knowing relationship does not last long. I have been very fond of this one foreign couple blogger who Im rooting to have what can I say a solid foundation of emotional connection that's just cannot be untie by the charms of any elements that the passes through, unfortunately the guy did was charmed and the lady at her first blogs , I so feel her. It's just maybe I do not differentiate a bloggers life to a somekind of a movie or a short love story documentary. I don't know the world of vloggers how they really manage not to be carried away not to talk their personal life, since everything might become a topic one day. It is never a talk that is simply to pass a content, it is how one would manage to deliver it and still have his/her moment to grasp it. After all there's more than just emotion invested in a relationship. I believe there's no animosity between the two of you after this since I can sense calmness between the two of you.
Thank you for sharing and your support
God bless you both everything happens for a reason and thereis always a Time for Everything
Unfortunately work and children can get in the way of relationships. I stayed single after my divorce at age 35. Not working seems like a necessity for me to devote enough time to my relationship. Best wishes to both of you.
Much appreciated
How did you manage it?
I'm a few days away from the divorce being final and already at peace. My life is perfect. Except the power of Eros won't be ignored. Perhaps chastity brings it's own power over time? Most days I feel empowered but then Eros sneaks in and ruins things. Eros is very sneaky; enticing with words like love and visions of intimacy.
@@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x Joining a church and praying for the answers helps. For me a 19 year old was available to me, but I waited until I was financially able to start my new family. So I've discovered that God's plan was best. My wife left me 24 years ago and that's when my new wife was born. She's 24 now and we met online when she was 19 during COVID.
2Pet.3
[8] But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day.
Wow John.. came as a bit of a shocker. Regardless of the reasons, we're always here to support you. We'll see you soon and save big hugs for then.
Thank you Todd
Sorry to hear this , But it’s got be tough still working together after divorcing . Trusting someone after a divorce to be able to trust them in business is tough I hope you’re being careful.
Appreciate it Dave
Congratulations my friend and I hope you will learn your lesson…
Oh john that sucks mate especially seeing u had been divorced before all the best mate
Appreciate it
Sorry to hear your news. Hope things work out to your mutual benefit. It appears you have lifted each other up and I suspect you always will, just not husband and wife. Continued good luck to you both. You stand out as a good guy especially in comparison to the nut cases down in Dumaguete.
I appreciate your support Greg. Than you for commenting.
Life happens, and I admire that you made changes you felt necessary. Wish you all the best, John.
Thank you my friend
You didn't rush. You just chose wrongly, as I did too. Anyone can make a mistake.
Appreciate that
So very sorry to hear the news you shared. Life can and will alway present you with challenges. I am sorry you find this to be one of them. Take care and I wish you both nothing but good things in your future.
Thank you very much
That's the speech I gave to my two children last month. Life will present obstacles. Some you do to yourself (we all make mistakes) and some life brings to you. So what do you do when you have a problem? You need two things: a map and to do something different.
And you sleep on it. Both things you are excited about like a new toy and things you are troubled by. I told them I was sleeping on it for a year before deciding what I will do. I feel like I have already made up my mind (retire early and go abroad) but yes, "good things in your future" is the them song for troubled times. We will see....
Your not the first and you won’t be the last !!!
Very true
Lots of love brother ❤
Thank you my sister
Its a hard blow. Go easy on yourself and take time to heal.
Thank you Steve
wow its legit a personal vedio sir, in my openion mybe its not a true love i think, & ur correct sir need moreee getting to know b4 decided.,
Thank you for your support 😊
Thank you for sharing. Hopefully it works out for you in the end and you meet someone more suited to your lifestyle.
Thank you very much
Fascinating. I watched a divorce video months ago where the american woman described her "conscious uncoupling" from her husband. She said that he was wonderful but more Buddhist and content whereas she was always wanting to grow and go and grow and go. As she spoke it felt like a western mind virus that had taken over female psyche. As you explained this I was then shocked that you were the relationship first partner with a Filipina.
Pressure to get married in their culture is something that has bothered me as I consider a move there in 2025. I've been married. Twice! Marriage is a broken system and I don't want to do it again. James Sexton describes marriage as the moon and people mistake their pointing at the moon as marriage. In other words, they each have a picture of the moon but they are not the same. And problems come.
I'm so glad that you have a solid head on your shoulders with this. Honestly, I don't think I have the capacity to endure another divorce. And if I were to sell everything I know here in the States and relocated to my adventure there, it would be a soul sucking dark hole; standing at the bottom of this bottomless pit I'm not sure I'd be able to cope. You've got sensibility and youth on your side brother. Time to go fishing again. Godspeed.
Been married for 12 years but when your an expat in the Philippines single and ready to mingle is the best place to be.
True story. Thanks for sharing.
sorry to hear that sir John
Salamat po
Sorry to hear this kuya. ❤
Thank you Sammi
Sorry to hear that John. We hope the transition will be as smooth as possible.
Take care 🙏
Thank you guys, hope you are doing great
Things happen. Good luck to both of you. ❤
Thank you very much
Seems more of a certain Hollywood divorce like George Hamilton and Alana Collins. They divorced but still get along. AC married Sir Rod Stewart but divorced, yet, they also get along.
Some working couples 💑 just do not blend well as marriage partners. This is like having a work wife and a family wife.
Appreciate that.
Thank you for sharing your story with Grace,John. I believe you are a great guy, and you will do just fine moving forward.
Thank you Steve, that means a lot to hear from you.
@WatchCaliforniaExpat We will be back in the Philippines around August-September. We will plan to get together with you at that time. Pencil us into your schedule, please. I know you are a busy man.
@@stevelawson68 Will make time for sure
To me you have to know the psychology of a Filipina, A Western foreigner Expat has a different upbringing and mind frame. So many expats expect a lot from an Asian lady, maybe work got on the way, and that gets its toll on a relationship, An in influx of old senior Cititzen from the West want a relationship with a Filipina with a huge age gap, I hope the future of the women in Philippines will improve and not rely on a Western Foreigner Financially, Age Gap dont matter is too ridiculous for me and outrageous it was a taboo for Asians/Pinay back in the days.! 🙏
I'm considering PI or Thailand for retirement.
In Thailand there is more of a Buddhist mentality in female psychology. They want to achieve and a man will have to be equal or better for a productive life. Age gap is more as it is in America. Perhaps 7 years or 10 years but you would find only amongst the 1% wealthy any big gaps like rich old man and beautiful young woman. I think if an expat retires to Thailand he should expect a place that treats him well (cost of living and lifestyle quite favorable) but not a heart that treats him well. Language by itself is a great obstacle but so is their culture.
Of course, it's not impossible and I have watched some success stories but expats with a heart priority don't feel so incentivized to sell everything and go abroad just for the cost of living. Thailand is a beautiful country though and one can live a very good life that is free from the economic grind we have, on top of the social tensions as is so evident in our wild politics where crime is celebrated and we don't even know what a man or woman is.
I get what you saying though about it seeming taboo for big age gap. I have heard that in modern cultures like America, if you are looking for love with a younger person, then age minus 20 + 7 is a good guide to follow. Anything more and you are too far outside your generation and will not understand each other.
Sorry buddy. I believe when one door closes another one opens. And another one is everything happens for a reason. One last one your life will be better in the future I promise.
Very much appreciated. I needed to hear that
Sorry to hear the news John. Great presentation on this subject.
Much appreciated.
You will overcome that sir
Thank you Paul
I really honestly don't think of it as Filipina or Expats, it is about PEOPLE! I was married to a woman from Colombia, she told me that she married me for my money and for citizenship after we got married and then told me that I was stupid., it is all about people motives and love, when you truly love a person, it doesn't matter, what matter is finding common ground and solutions, it is a constant fight, you just gave up., just the reality of it.
I sure did give up. The best way forward sometimes in life is a step backwards
YOU have my respect!
@@ricoroger thank you sir
Sorry to hear John. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Jude
I'm a first time viewer so I don't know your story, but I was a leader of a divorce recovery group for several years. Our society isn't geared towards the traditional family where the man is the leader and the woman follows, women, even Filipinas, want to control the family. Many people don't realize that the Philippine family is run by the woman and her family. It is what it is, no judgements. Given the high rate of unhappy marriages, maybe marriage isn't a viable way to live your life. Think about how women change, both physically and emotionally, is a long term relationship even a good idea where the state controls the terms?
Hi Tim, that's a tough question. What is your feeling after leading a recovery group for years?
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat That all depends on how you see basic female nature. If you still have the old world thinking that women are sugar and spice then you should roll the dice again and play a game that has very few winners. Even the guys that appear to be winners are miserable and wish they had picked more wisely. That's the fly in the ointment, there is no wiser choice of women as it all goes back to basic female nature. This isn't something to be mad about, it is just how it has always been and will always be. If you see the logic in what I'm saying then act in a way that will bring good things into your life for the long term.
@@timlee5260Very interesting thoughts that would make for an interesting conversation if not here.
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat Many people regard Mike Tyson as a meathead, maybe he is dumb enough to speak thee truth to a gynocentric world. "You're mother will do everything she can to help you,...every other woman will do everything she can to help herself." Over half the people will reject those words and call Mike names, the other half has lived out the truth of his words. Best of luck to you.
Wow John I’m shocked 😮….so sorry for the both of you… I pray you both remain friends at least… Stay close to God😊
Thank you
“I'm not sure what to do with my hands.”
A divorce between a filipino and a foreign national will only be recognized if the marriage and divorce took place outside the country. If you were married in the Ph, goodluck with that.
There is a process for it I mention in the follow up video
It's seems that being a good and kind person is a mistake these days. Sadly.
I understand what you mean
No. Good and kind is never a mistake.
Divorce is more common than a successful marriage because it is a broken system. People are not broken, although we may not have the right tools for navigating this rapidly changing world. In modernity, woman do not need men. Perhaps AI girlfriends will soon solve this for men as well. Birth rates are falling across modernity: Korea, Japan, US... and some sort of change will have to be designed as their doesn't seem to be any way to get the ketchup back in the bottle.
Sorry to hear that your marriage didn’t work out, and I appreciate you sharing something so personal. Being divorced myself, I understand what a difficult situation it can be, so I hope you’re both handling it well. It came as a shock, considering that I just saw a video a few days ago about another well known UA-cam couple who do videos about the Philippines getting divorced, and because of extremely similar reasons. It’s something that I would expect more in Western culture than with a Filipina. Do you feel that Filipino culture is becoming more Westernized in some ways?
Filipino culture remains forever because it is part of Philippine history. However, those few Filipinos who has colonial mentality embracing the western culture.
Is it possible to divorce a marriage even if there is no contact with him? I'm A Filipina married for 20 years but my husband who is a foreigner left me 16 years ago, I don't know how to locate him since he went to the USA for the reason his mother died, after that We lost our communication..
Yes it is possible. I'd recommend talking to an attorney
Honest and respectful to Grace. Good video!
Thank you 🙏
John, not the best news ... but thanks for sharing. Take care of yourself, and onwards and upwards in Davao
Appreciate that. Are you in Davao too?
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat John, we're not in Davao, but we'll love to visit there at some stage ... when we do, we'll reach out to you, to see if you're free to get together
@@txtworld I'll look forward to seeing you
Sorry things didn't work out for you two. I'm really interested in seeing your next video though, about how you went through with divorce in the Phillipines. I have only ever heard, over and over again, that there is no divorce in the Phillipines, only annulment for certain cases such as if one partner contracts a serious STD or something. Hoping you won't spare the details and really tell us what happened and how you got a divorce there, thanks.
It's live now. Hope you find it helpful and will be one more to come from someone who helps with the process
You are a gentleman sir. I hope everything works out well for you.
Thank you very much
Damn John, my heart goes out to you. I’m actually divorcing in the states because she choose career over relationship. So I’m off to PH to live differently and hopefully better.
Same thing for me here, but certainly more rare here. I feel for you too and I'm sure you will have a far better situation here.
All the best for both of you
thank you very much.
Great story 😊
Thanks for listening
Excellently done and handled
Thank you very much
My pleasure, be patient, please.@@WatchCaliforniaExpat
Sooo…… I shouldn’t let the girl I’ve been talking to for 3 days on PinaLove pick me up at the airport and move in with her family?
No you should not...
@@LodeNid but she’s so convincing
@@MarsOcto Sooner or later you will find out if she is only after your money or if she wants to establish a long-lasting relationship. Women that only want your money and not your person tend to keep other women out of sight by picking you up at the airport...but you may be lucky and be met with genuine sympathy. The bottom line is not to marry the first 5 years and to opt for a kind of business partnership instead, and if you do marry make sure there is a possibility of divorce.
3 days plus 3 years
My take: He wanted a hard working wife, he got a hard working wife. He decided he wanted a stay at home servant, he got divorced.
May be He wanted a 9am to 3pm wife not 9am to 9pm 😅
I think your crystal ball failed you
Best of luck to you both.
Thank you very much
Partners don't work...
A wife is a wife...and a business partner is a business partner...
99% of the time I'm sure your right. Though every now and then I see it work
stay well - divorce sucks for everyone except lawyers
So true. Thank you
Hi John, your story is one of said ones i ever heard about. The fact she divorced from you means that the reason why she accepted to marry you was not really what you thought to be. It shows clearly that she looked for financial security from you. You guys have you at least had children together?
I think she had a daughter from her past relationship,
I'm holding my breath john... I'm not ready to watch this yet... You two were my my pandemic couple 🥹🥹
I'll watch it before the night ends john
Fully support you and your channel ☺️
Thank you so much. Sorry to make you 🥺
Awh John... From the bottom of my heart, I truly sympathize with what you are going through... 😔
Even though I never met you or Grace, whenever I would watch you guys on your channel or Meljean's, I just instantly loved you two...
I'll always continue to support both of your channels, John
@@limtseho3540 Thank you ☺️ 🙏
Sorry dear but never loose hope, i know she was not meant for you, your right one is coming you will be happ again trust me. Visit Uganda is a good country too with beautiful people. Watching you from Uganda.
Thank you
Thank you for your support
I have never been to Uganda but the women seem to be gorgious ,
athletic , tall
way better than filipinas,
but I have not found yet other reasons to visit it ,
beautiful landscape I can have in many places and to go to a very poor country is always a challenge
don't feel the urge so far since it's gonna be expensive trip and the outcome in regards to women is always vague 😂
German 60 yrs
This is why I've never been married and if I ever do before I die it will be an AI robot. 😂
Lol smart man
You have my sympathy. Divorce is never easy.
I agree that you shouldn't rush, but that's not a guarantee and Filipina tend to push and rush. They meet you at the airport and move right in. I always warn that you don't get an accurate picture by just talking to Filipina.
Appreciate your sympathy. You are right.
Hi, I would like to ask what if the marriage are in between two Filipinos and would file a divorce in Guam? Is Guam Divorce applicable in this situation?
I'm sorry but I don't think so
May I know what Law office did you hire? I have been in contact a family law office there I raised that issue but they said it can be done but will not be recognized in the Philippines.
Thank you..
DID YOU TWO MARRY IN THE STATES 🤔
There are tough questions to this situation that might never be answered if asked. Looking back at the beginning of your relationship, did she use you as a quick stepping stone to lift herself up? I see so many filipinas that use foreigners to get ahead in life, some follow through for real and many are in it for "business", then they want to move on.
She was a hard working person with money in the bank before I ever met her. No one used anyone, we just weren't a fit with priorities in marriage.
I respect you telling your story..I made a mistake marrying the wrong pinay..
Almost every relationship..girl gains status and financially...while the guy ?
Guy gets nothing
In my case was worse , s He started Sxless marriage 😢
Biggest financial loss
your right but thats every where in the world when it comes to relationships Ive been married twice it didn't work for me now I have a girl friend or three threw out US and Asia with me is just don't get attached. you start getting that feeling or if you notice that she wants more than your willing to give leave go to another town or country there's plenty of lonely women out there I make friends easy and maybe I will hook up one day but its been 25 years and Ive avoided the stress of a nagging wife so far lol good luck and thanks for your story
Exactly sir!
Thank you
Sorry bud. Hope you're both in a better place soon.
Thanks James, much appreciated
I thought divorces did not exist there.?
They don't. But foreigners married to Filipinas can get divorced in their own country and it go through a process in the Philippines to have the divorce recognized. I share more in a second video and forthcoming third.
Nothing new. Western men are already divorced before they go to the Philippines. But they will be divorced. It's Normal for them.
I see more successful foreign-filipina relationships though.
I'm sorry it didn't work out for you.
I met my husband online in 2005. He came to the Philippines a year later. Then he lived most of four years there while I was working full time. We moved to CA in 2009 and he passed in 2014. It'll be his 10yr death anniversary on the 22nd this month.I was so blessed and very grateful to have met him-'--He was the best man in my life. I love and miss him so much❤️
All the best on your life journey in the Philippines! May you find your one true love in God's perfect time.
I'm sorry for your loss. Where were you in California if you don't mind me asking? Thank you for your support.
Thank you.
I'm srill living here in Sacramento with my almost 24yo son. He's graduating at SacState in May so hoepfully I'd be able to 'retire' soon, God willing.
@@sheincha3817 One of my sisters lives in Sacramento. I lived there and Elk Grove for a few years before. Hope you'll be able to come back where you want to be. Keep in touch
Keep safe happy and healthy
Salamat Julius
Well sounds like all the hard decisions are behind you already and time to move forward. Tough. So now I suppose it’s time to jump on keto and hit the gym and be ready for love to find you again one day in the future. For now keep you head down and focused on your business and know it will get easier in time. Cheers.
Thank you
real unconditional love can be found between parents and their children
to find a good spouse i's vital that both are generous and open to bring more to the table , to find a generous women is very hard and even unlikely amongst the good looking ones
additional features add up , most men look mainly for beauty failure must be prevalent
Thank you for sharing your thoughts
So sorry John to hear that you and Grace have divorced. Strangely I was thinking about the pair of you the other week after not hearing anything about Grace for some time.
Really appreciate it
Why divorced no divroced here only annulmemt maybe u got married in the us
There's always food for thoughts to ponder coming from the boss and expats motivator🎉🎉 😂😂 a more wiser decisions would always be the factor in whatever endeavour it might be.
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there are factors that make a relationship lasts, the crucial one is compatibility.
True. Also ability to work through disagreement in a healthy way and care what matters most to each other
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat (sometimes) we have to agree to disagree and compromise or meet halfway to avoid disputes and spites.
@@gracia130Yes I agree
Actually thought you batted for the other side. Thanks for sharing, hope you didnt lose the shirt off your back.. Onwards... Stay away from Dramagete 😅
Definitely don't, and still got my shirt lol
so you got your divorce then back in the USA?
No, in Guam, a US territory
Just because the two of you get along, have good sex, etc does not mean you have to marry them. I’m 51 never been married or have kids. I tell them from the beginning that I’m a confirmed bachelor that will never marry.Some deal with it and some can’t either way they know where I stand on the matter.
Definitely best to be upfront. Best way to avoid divorce is to not avoid marriage. I've always been the kind of guy who wanted to be married in a long term relationships, but I've paid a high price for it more than once now. And I'm not talking about finances.
Sorry to hear that.
Thank you very much
Im so sorry but your great another is good
Thank you Mark
Love your videos content
Thank you very much 😊