Exactly, plus he lies all the time and excuse everything on his autism, very convenient. He also keeps talking about the greencard, like if he was a money catch and can't even afford $200¡ Boy, go home.
Knocking is not the engagement. Knocking requires 10 people or less and only requires immediate family from both sides. The custom is that the ladies family is responsible for providing the food
She asked him for $300 for a big celebration/dinner. That hardly makes her a scammer. Niles doesn’t want to get married and he needs to be honest about that.
She asked for $300, then admitted to $200 … and … and … she may not be the scammer you’re use to hearing about, she is being unethical 💯 to get money and whatever else by saying it’s a custom.
true its not that much $300 Niles does not have money and he came not prepared for the wedding of which he should have been honest before he came that he was coming to see her know her and then plan the wedding later.
Don't Judge Matilda by the Van Cleefe necklace and the Gucci slides. The bootleg versions are so many in every country, they're the most affordable thing around
Exactly! Plus, second-hand and donated clothing are constantly dumped/resold in African countries. There's even a Ghanaian slang term for it that translates to "dead white man's clothes." A lot of the Ghanaians don't even know the significance of many lesser-known brand logos -- it's like Chinese characters to them. Matilda likely got knock-offs at the market; she's not some sugar baby.
I won’t even wear anything Gucci. I’m haunted by the sight of the fakes EVERYWHERE. I feel bad for Van Cleefe’s. I can’t go anywhere without seeing the fakes, I’ve grown to hate the look of that clover design
@@Flo4Keepsum her future husband??? after he already embarrassed her by canceling the wedding at the last minute. that’s the least he could do is spend $200 on some food
Because he was not planning on marrying her this trip. They had already discussed marriage but he changed his mind and didn’t know how to tell her until he arrived in Ghana.
Exactly,the GA people especially La people won't accept a knocking ceremony without the family head,so since niles is from America and don't actually have a family head his dad has to be present, give his name and a bit of his family history and most importantly his approval, so incase if matilda gets pregnant and niles doesn't return to ghana the baby's father can be trased easily, they don't joke with their knocking ceremony, they consider that marriage as well.because both families are all involved.
I agree, but I don't think he lies, try to play it off until the situation is in deep water and tried to address when he should have before the issue got to big.
@@spice4life67just imagine yes Matilda did exaggerat concerning the knocking ceremony, it's better to educate yourself the culture that about to embrace , people need to know that in Africa thing are done differently , in Africa a man should take care of is partner , for a man that is coming from outside the country you can't visite your in law empty ✋ or your partner especially the parents of the girl that how u show appreciation when it's come to Nile is autism I don't blame him
Am not even Ghanaian but this guy was my uncle growing up. You would tell him about someone behind closed doors and the next day he tells the person openly😂 Fear African elders
He meant well for Niles but his words could have been phrased better. Saying women can be deceitful would cause more anger in Niles and make it look like Mathilda is out to cheat his money. It's better for Niles to withdraw from marriage but telling Mathilda he want out, he probably won't be able to leave Ghana alive😂
@@AbigaillOwusu come on now mans taking the P its the same in most non white households but in this case he's looking for his own personal gain from this whole joke of a marriage thing which he knows is just of convenience 😂
Niles is dead wrong. I love them both as a couple, but that $200 for the knocking was just to compromise, showing that they weren’t going to have a wedding. Her family even agreed to stay calm about it and allowed him to come back for the wedding everyone seems to forget that part. After he proposed to Matilda over the phone, her family showed great respect for Niles and went out of their way to accept his situation. But because Niles is so easily influenced, he’s going to twist this whole situation and make Matilda look like the bad guy. He also forgot to tell Mr. Arc the truth about why he met Matilda’s family first. Matilda was misled about getting married, and to correct it, she simply asked him to explain himself to her parents. There’s nothing wrong with that. The whole situation is sad because it’s clear Matilda really loves Niles and is always trying to be patient with his disability, which is not easy, by the way.
The 90DF franchise is doing Matilda dirty with the edit and collective amnesia! A prior episode shows Matilda wanted to pivot to a bigger knocking as a make-good because she feared her guests would feel deceived. Niles has pretty much cat-fished Matilda with unmet expectations and last-minute denials: sudden no sex policy, waffling on marriage, gaslighting prior arrangements, misleading about financial standing, etc. Matilda has shown grace at every turn and, after being disgraced many times, is getting frustrated. She is a patient human, not a scammer. As a half-Ghanaian -- I can't stress how much of an accommodation her family is willing to make!!!! Most would take it as an insult and end the discussion faster than cease-fire negotiations.
@@amybiggs9094 Girl, please. I’m African you can not tell me a damn thing about what i know or do not know about my own culture. I know exactly what’s going on. Y’all Americans love to demonize foreigners, assuming everything is about money or a free pass to America. $200 for a small ceremony is nothing, especially since Niles agreed to it after suggesting no wedding at all (for the time being). Mr. Arc is just an old-fashioned elder with specific ways of doing things. As Africans we know how elders from the village are. It doesn’t mean they’re always right or willing to look deeper into situations, they never come with any compromise and get offended if things don’t go their way. Niles obviously does not know this and can’t make a decision voor himself. Niles made it seem like Matilda was asking for the world, which isn’t true. Let the woman have her small ceremony after accepting that there is no wedding. It’s her commitment too.
Matilda didn't want to be showy -- just compromise on a bigger knocking ceremony to counter the let-down of a sudden non-wedding. This was all aired in a previous episode. Niles and TLC are doing her dirty with this edit and collective amnesia.
A fellow Ghanaian here 🤚🏿🤚🏿 A Ghanaian wedding with 200 people is on the average to small side, ESPECIALLY if it's happening in Ghana where people have lots of extended family (the nuclear family is a western concept), church family, neighborhood etc. It's just different than how we think of weddings in America. In Ghanaian culture, you are raised by the community/village and the community/village is your family. Weddings are a community affair, ESPECIALLY in a village like Ofinso, where Matilda is from. Please don't judge other cultures through the lenses of your own because it's very easy to make assumptions that way. I feel sorry for Matilda because with all due respect to the Elder, the plans for the wedding are often negotiated between BOTH families during the knocking ceremony but it is ABSOLUTELY the bride's family who sets the terms, not the groom's family. They can negotiate things down or compromise, if they choose but Mr. Arc as the "father" of the groom CAN NOT set the terms for the marriage and that includes the size, date, location, accommodations etc. In fact, according to tradition, the knocking ceremony is done at or in proximity to the bride's house. On the other hand, 90 people for a knocking ceremony is absurd. The weddings are grand but that's not necessarily true for the knocking ceremony. At the knocking ceremony, the bride's family will then make a demand in the form of list of ALL their requests (gifts, money, food, etc). I think Matilda was trying to treat the knocking ceremony as a traditional engagement because of the sudden change in plans to postpone the wedding. She was embarrassed.
Facts the siblings and cousins i speak to in my family alone is 50...and these are only siblings and cousins that i speak to not counting aunts uncles and cousins i dont speak to on a regular
Thank goodness you explained! I’m South Africa and we also do things like that. The grooms family has no say to what must happen on the wedding process. The number of people we have in African families is over 90 times 😂 you cannot exclude others because if your budget. Niles is playing
That’s very informative. As a Ghanaian, could you also clear if it’s the bride’s or the groom’s family that is supposed to pay for knocking ceremony. I keep reading comments that according to google it’s the bride’s.
I think to save face she's trying to do a hybrid type of wedding/knocking ceremony. A knocking ceremony with some wedding elements, but she should have explained that's not tradition to him.
She did, producers are just not showing that part. Niles is a pathological liar and uses this autism as an excuse. I think he's a passport bro honestly
@@bellam7546 The producers showed it once. She told him that the knocking ceremony is usually 30 people but because Niles backed out from the wedding she was inviting more people. Niles did not dispute it.
Niles isn’t ready to be anybody’s husband. Trying to date a woman overseas wasn’t going to fix the maturity issues he had with himself. Yes he is on the spectrum but he needs to wait until he is mature and financially stable before he pursues anyone.
She asked for $300 for her wedding and according to her she's NEVER asked him for anything in the past. Niles made me mad acting like somebody trying to use him when all she asked for was $300 for a wedding she felt proud of. Nothing wrong with that if she requested 1k. Give her, her wedding!!!! Cheap ass Niles
I disagree. Her sister told about $245 and Matilda upped it to $300. She is being deceitful and looking for a marriage to apply for a spousal visa to the USA.
Surely the reason that Matilda is making a huge fuss of the knocking is that until a day or so ago, she and her family and friends were expecting a wedding!
Mr. Arc said all the extras for the knocking --not the wedding-- were unnecessary. He isn’t aware of the compromise the couple reached and how the bigger knocking was to make the non-wedding more palatable. Ghanaian weddings are right up there with Nigerians, Greeks, and Indians - they have big families, so they have big events!
My knocking ceremony was just 10 people, you only need a hand full of people in your living room to accept that both families can go ahead and plan for the wedding ceremony
I think she try to deceived him because obviously he doesn't know anything about the culture or her ceremony. That's why is good before u get into marriage with someone that is not from the same country or even have the same culture u need to know a few things.
@@sharon602haha.. mine was 6 at nsawam, Eastern region of ghana. lol.. this matilda is just blowing things out of proportion and if niles should break up with her, it will be her fault
The $300 knocking price tag was the compromise between Niles and Matilda! In a prior episode that aired, Matilda said she wanted to now opt for a bigger knocking ceremony. It was to accommodate the fact that a wedding, the original event, wouldn’t take place. Also to soothe the sting of breaking custom, which Mr. Arc reinforces is simply NOT done. Niles was in agreement, so I don’t know why he and TLC are playing bffr
Niles has made so many promises that he can't even keep up with it. One thing though, one shouldn't be breaking customs and traditions for no man! Matilda should have let it go the moment he said he wasn't going to marry her during this visit. Her compromising brought her this mess.
I would not say that was a compromise 😂😂😂😂 I would say that she was pushing him to give her $300 so she can have a large knocking party, and then lied to make it seem like that's traditional when it's not? 😂 he agreed to give her that money ALL THE WAY up until Mr.Ark basically told him she's playing him 😂😂😂
No, Matilda just wants a nice knocking ceremony cause Niles decided to pull the wool over her eyes. Also, the editing of this show is suss. And if Niles thinks that $200 is a lot wait until he has to pay the bride price which Matilda's family determine.
@@ifitdontapplydontyoucry I think people who dont understand or dont want to understand, shouldnt marry outside their culture. Matilda is being ridiculed and painted as a scammer by people who know zilch. It's maddening
So Niles travelled all the way to Africa but can't afford 200$ for a small traditional wedding?she told everyone she is getting married,she is just trying to safe face.
You think he gets money from trees? How much hotels over there air ticket too and fro where do you think he will get the money for the wedding from?you guys you think he's Obama's son.
Listen, I'm wondering what I am missing because $200.00 for a little party is literally nothing! 😬 And she probably wants more of a party for the knocking ceremony because she's already embarrassed because he's not marrying her immediately. I am seeing her side more than his. I'm actually finding him a bit cringy now.
@@02loudit is not about the money. It is about the lies, she wanted everything big (it is ok, every girl deserves her dream wedding) but he feels betrayed that everything was push on him like a requirement of the tradition to force him on her wants
@@pinkyprincesscuban8207the traditional wedding to us is more important than the white wedding because thats not our culture..if you get married in church and not in tradition your families and ancestors may not recognize that union.So it is indeed a big deal to her...miles is more focused on a white wedding...we value tha traditional wedding more
@@pinkyprincesscuban8207 we slaughter cows and goats at our weddings..a single cow is $300 alone with no rice and stuff😂...so $200 is really a spit in the face.The white wedding if your thing
@@darkskinneddutchess4007 it really irritates me that Niles didn’t do his research. I feel like he thinks that he can get away with trying to you know use American culture to you know get away with his lies for example with him proposing, you know when you propose to someone in the United States you don’t get married immediately unless you decide to go to the courthouse or you go to Vegas, but in reality, they wait a few months they might wait like maybe one or two years to plan the wedding so they can get their finances in order to do over the phone if he decided to propose to Matilda, he should have said look I want to marry you I’m proposing to you however, when I come over to you, we are not going to get married on this trip. He should have said that from the ghetto that goes to jewelry store buys an engagement ring and proposes to her again so now she’s thinking that they’re gonna get married on this trip guardians traditions research culture United States is totally different from any other countries culture so he should’ve got himself together. I feel like he’s not ready for marriage. I think this was a spare the moment thing got caught up in the moment, he was like he wants to get married should’ve made himself clear instead of trying to keep up with the lies he keeps telling
Lets be honest. Niles is constantly back peddling situations. Matilda aint no saint but Niles always trying to find a way out of the situation. He dont want to marry her so he keeps making everything a big deal. Matilda needs to find another american man that can make her dreams come true. Aint no way Niles will do it.
Niles is neurodivergent so communication issues are a part of his disorder. He tries to express himself and she just shuts him down and steamrolls over him. He asked on the phone before he came to postpone the wedding. She didn't listen and said don't disappoint me. He asked her to to make the knocking ceremony smaller and she flat out said no last week at the dinner with her brothers. Anyway we can understand why Niles is a horrible communicator but what is Matilda's excuse?
@@geminizoe777 he never told her nothing until he got there. He knew she was planning a wedding and a knocking ceremony. He didn't want to do the wedding so she respected his wishes. All she asked for was to do the knocking ceremony so she wouldn't lose face as she already has to call and tell people the wedding is off. If I were her I wouldn't want another embarrassing situation to happen again and yet here is Niles doing what he does best. I don't blame a woman that wants the finer things in life. She just chose the wrong guy.
@DasBonners Go back and look at the epi where they were on the phone before he came. He did say he wanted to postpone wedding and she said my family and friends are expecting a wedding don't disappoint me and then continually said we're getting married right. He was pushed into submission and said ok. She's very pushy with him and I would hate for the rest of his life to be overpowered by M while she sends his disability check to her family. I said what I said and we can agree to disagree.
@@geminizoe777 he had time before that? He had all this time before coming but he didn't say anything. Disabilities aside because he's literally telling her in the worst way possible. He been trying everything in his power as we all have been watching to not get married. It's always one thing or another for Niles. It's too soon or it's the money or there are too many people. He's embarrassed Matilda way too much.
Don't forget, Niles had promised Matelda that they were going to get married shortly after he arrived there. He was trying to figure out a way to tell her that he was NOT going to get married this time around. She and her family a already prepared for the whole thing, both the knocking and the wedding. So because he had mislead her, she HAD to break certain norms like go ahead and introduce him to hear family. And she was also trying to save face, because him lying to her by having SOME type of ceremony. Niles is to blame for all of the confusion.
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I really feel the way people are speaking on Malitda is very telling, there is a huge cultural difference and a lot of people are forgetting this. Also $300 to pay to set up a small party isnt a lot of money and they literally agreed it was a compromise since there was no wedding. Niles didnt tell Mr Narc the whole story all that man was spewing was just misogyny. He just wanted to paint her as this bad person and didnt even let her explain.
Matilda is so sweet and you can tell she really loves Niles, he’s the one lying and promising things he can’t keep up with !! Just because she’s the foreigner people are calling her a gold digger and it’s a damn shame 🙃
@@glam4331 no disrespect I’m not going to read your whole comment simply because we all know he has a disability so saying he’s not telling the truth or being this way or that way he doesn’t have the capability of doing so she knew that he knows that you should know that stop it
@@cherissewilliams6008 now where did i say he didnt tell the truth, i said the whole story, full picture in fact. Like no shit he has autism but that man doesnt know what Niles and Matilda have discussed and he is already weary cause they are breaking traditions
@@cherissewilliams6008 having autism, does not negate you from lying first of all autism or not because I’ve dated a man who had autism and he told me straight up things that were bothering him things when he was overwhelmed. Everything was caught up in the moment. OK Disability is out the out the water no, I have a disability myself, but I don’t use my disability to excuse. Lies that are told is a grown man OK before he even got on that plane on Gandhian land he should not have proposed to Matilda should not have proposed to her if he was not ready for marriage proposed to her if he was ready for marriage before he got on a plane and flew to he should have done his research on how Ugandan weddings are done again like I’ve said in many other videos, the wedding engagement are not the ones in the United States in the United States can get engaged in the wedding for months or even years and make sure your finances are in order countries not like that’s what a lot of people are failing to realize is hundred percent wrong Matilda should have you know informed Niles on certain things about the knocking ceremony however, if Niles is feeling overwhelmed with all the stuff he has to do, he should not have proposed to her over the phone. He should not have went to Uganda got her ring and proposed to her again because now Matilda had got to her family and told them that they were gonna get married now they have to postpone the wedding not acceptable and their culture but cannot even keep up with the lies. He is telling and now he’s getting upset because Matilda is getting frustrated, Matilda has a right to be frustrated because Niles had made promises that he can’t keep, this goes for the United States as well if you are not ready for marriage do not get engaged don’t because the bride is going to wonder when they’re gonna get married how much the wedding is gonna be it’s gonna be stressful. They gotta get their finances in order so really this is all on Niles if Niles did his research and if he prepared himself, then none of this happened and then he can’t keep up with his lies has nothing to do with his disability, I’m tired of people trying to justify his actions because he has autism. I have dated someone who has autism and my exes has a couple episodes I have watched.
Matilda just wanted to take a little shame out of her face by keeping a bigger ceremony. Mr. Ark will be the weapon fashioned against that marriage if it happens. He will always be frustrating that marriage. Matilda will regret introducing him to Niles. Those village elders can be very diabolical when they can’t get their way. Did he say Niles is his “son”? 😢😂
I didn't like him, sounded super misogynistic. And then when Niles started getting upset with Matilda he tried to calm Niles down as if he didn't rile him up in the first place 🙄
What is wrong with wanting a nice dinner, she is not asking for thousands, she should get what she wants, her designer items are probably fake ones, it does not make her greedy. She sleeps on the floor ! She just wants something nice.
She should have been honest instead of making it seem like it’s required. Just because you want something doesn’t mean you’re given a pass to be deceptive in order to get it. She was taking advantage of the fact that he doesn’t know the culture.
@@kaykay3458i don't think greed. But more to show off. It's why she wasn't fully honest with Niles and was demanding money. I'm guessing she told family and friends that she's gna have a grand wedding because her fiance is from the US. It's why I think she kept saying he embarrassed her and her temper flared. As someone coming from a 3rd world country, folks back home think we're all rich here. When someone gets married to an American they think they will also benefit from that because we're a family oriented culture. :/
Matilda just wanted her family and friends to come to enjoy with her , her marriage day and I do not think that's a lot to ask and it's only few hundred dollars. I know women that demands tens of thousands of dollars .
I think Bozo is full of it. There's more going on with him than just not feeling chemistry with Vanya in person. He also doesn't have a job and lives with his mom and aunt. He has a failure to launch. 😂
The elder said they don't need anything out of pride, not in approval. If you want to take their daughter and you can't pay $200 to feed the family or people, then what are you doing here?
The Elder knew that Niles was being played. Matilda wanted a big wedding to show off her American man. And she got caught. Thank you to the Elder who said he was going to guide Niles for now on.
Na Mayilda wasn't laying anyone. Say that to the person that switches things up when he already said something over the phone. Niles embarrassed Matilda by making her inform her people of a wedding and then come to Ghana and change it on her. Do you know the plans the family already made and now being told there's not going to any wedding. Its shameful
Honestly, Seeing that Matilda thought she was getting MARRIED, I dont think she is wrong for wanting the knocking and a celebration of their engagement. I think its a fair compromise. She couldve communicated better for sure, but I cant blame the girl TBH. PLUS $200 dollars to feed 90 people for a celebration is a very humble amount of money. They need to just sit down and speak about their expectations, finances, and overall relationship.
Africans usually have large extravagant weddings so I don't know why everyone is giving Matilda a hard time. Niles knew good & well he wasn't going to marry that woman and then complaining to the Elder.
@@lumedeon8471 how do you know?? Village is actually where you spend a lot cause there's no limit to the number of guests you don't even have to invite people they just show up😂😂 also look up african weddings there's a South African show called our perfect wedding go watch some episodes then come back here and explain what you mean by " they don't have large extravagant weddings" keep in mind south Africans aren't even as extra as West Africans
You’re an uninformed bigot. Plenty of large and lavish weddings take place in west Africa especially. If Niles if crying now, he would never survive marriage by Nigerian standards. Ghana is more lenient than Nigeria lol
@@vanisaurusrex2750 there is always someone in each season that’s so likable. When they finally showed her, I was like wow !! I really like her presence
Seriously am angry with her sis. How can she ask Faith to forgive a cheating liar? Now gonorrhoea, next time what? HIV? So dangerous to keep Loren around and all she thinks of is having a boyfriend.
I can also see it from Matilda’s perspective. Niles forgot to tell the Elder gentleman that his intention was not to marry Matilda until he felt comfortable rather than he’s asking to postpone the wedding until he can afford it. The baseline intention of not marrying this trip needed to be laid out first, not the wedding expenses.
But then the show is 90 day fiancé they get to know each other for 90 days and get married most often after that. So in Matilda’s mind she’s getting married no matter what. As a Ghanaian , I think she should just let this guy go, he seems immature and not really mentally okay , plus he’s kinda weird 😭 I can she the excitement in getting married to a foreigner and going to the U.S. because things are hard in Ghana, but Miles isn’t the right person to do this with 😂😭
So, it is wrong for Tygerlily to marry a guy she just met; but is ok for Niles to marry a girl he just met. Talking about double standards. She is a woman who doesn’t listen, she only force him to do what she wants thinking that autism makes him stupid
Matilda is dead wrong and got busted, Niles and she do not need to get married. She tried to use him, and take advantage of him, and he is afraid of getting married so quickly. This needs to end.
Things are starting to stink … I am concerned she is just using him 💯 because she thinks she can control him esp. (in her eyes) because of autism. That to her may have made him sooo attractive… so to speak.
Did you not hear Mr Arc saying that Niles should get married to Matilda and not do the knocking ceremony and leave? I understand in America women have low standards and can give wife benefits to boyfriends and have 5 year engagements, but not in Africa. You don't play around with an African woman, especially since they are the the back bone of society. Matilda deserved a nice knocking ceremony since Niles pulled the wool over her eyes. African parties are big, from the weddings to the knocking ceremonies. We are not western. Anyway, Niles should marry his own American counterpart and leave Matilda alone.
@@bellam7546As these episodes played out, I was headed to Nigeria (10/25) to meet my girlfriend, propose and married. I found this show and deeply related to Niles. As an American, such a fast step on the first face to face meeting is CRAZY. But I trusted her and went through with the marriage. It was BEAUTIFUL . We did have a few unrelated arguments during the trip , but overall I’m glad I followed my heart and married the love of my life.❤
You didn’t watch each episode clearly. They did agree on a larger knocking for that reason. Matilda even explained to Niles that it was because they’re now deceiving guests with a non-wedding.
These days we add knocking and everything to the ceremony.There's nothing like knocking before the marriage ceremony, knocking money is added to the marriage list.
@JacquelineEitee My family did the knocking ceremony then the dowry money was used towards the wedding. Matilda just wanted to show off, Niles doesn't owe her friends anything.
I am rooting for them but the moment I heard Mathilda’s sister say to her that she should’ve forced him to marry her I knew they were taking advantage of him smh
But doesn't that sort of show Matilda didn't force him, despite her family likely telling her she should. I dunno, I liked them as a couple initially but not really so much anymore.
Melicia, African people believe in community. When Niles goes back to the states, Matilda is left with that community that will help her when in need. So it would be offensive of she does not invite them. Now I'm from South Africa and live in the suburb, my family is abit liberal so if I don't want their friends on my special day, I can say that. Hope you understand
@MLoves29 rural village African life and suburban African life are two different things. She cannot exclude her community. I've never lived in rural areas but I'm very much aware of protocol.
Unpopular Opinion: there was no need to bring Vonya & Bojo (don’t know how to spell their names) onto the show, this is 90 day fiancé.. they weren’t engaged, they weren’t dating, they were in a talking stage that could’ve been ended over the phone and not have been broadcasted on the show. They were so unentertaining in my opinion. Good luck to them tho❤
I don't know how to feel about Matilda tbh. I'm married to a West African man and the women feel as though they have to do any ceremony big to show off to their friends and other women that their man has money and takes care of them. My husband doesn't care about none of that, we'd rather save money and travel 💁🏾♀️✈️
Oh no girl, I love my man real bad 🥰 I actually live with his whole family, three generations, under one room here in the US. It honestly depends from person to person. We've been married for two years but dated for three or so. And I moved in right after we got married. I think maybe because he moved here when he was a teenager, he's kind of western in a way but still traditional and speaks his language daily.
In Matilda's defence, weddings are a big deal in West Africa. You may invite 30 people and 300 people will show up and I'm not exergearating 😂 it's a bigger deal if you live abroad or you are marrying a foreigner . I feel she didn't communicate these properly to Niles.
For someone who was bold enough to call out her living situation as poor or inhumane you should be glad she aspires to put on a show for her family and village
No, Mr Arc wants Matilda to MARRY Matilda and the custom marriage includes the bride price which will cost more than $200 he doesn't want to give Matilda. The editing is also shit so I don't trust that Mr Arc said what he said exactly.
that is a cultural thing and you shouldnt speak on that since you clearly havent done any research. He literally promised to marry her on this trip and all shes asking for is food for is money for the ceremony since no wedding
Matilda didn't make any unreasonable request or attempt to be showy. She just compromised on a bigger knocking ceremony to counteract the let-down of a sudden non-wedding. This was all aired in a previous episode. Niles and TLC are doing her dirty with this edit and collective amnesia. Matilda has been a sweetheart this entire time even with all of Niles' reneging, but people are so quick to demonize her as a Black woman.
Ghana isn’t a broke country there are many rich men who live in Ghana ! Americans and other foreigners are so narrow minded they don’t even realise this matailda is beautiful women she loves Nile’s she could easily find a wealthy Ghanaian man please
To be fair 90 is small in Africa. A typical actual wedding could be anything from 300 - 1000 people counting family, friends, church community, all the neighbours … she did inflate it but ‘small’ is relative
i’m cool with matilda..I get it she from a small town she wanted to show off a little ..so what ..doesn’t mean she didn’t like him ..or want him how many girls in her town snag an american and a tv show!! i get it ..
Melecia must have ate her alive in this video because nobody acts like they understand. SO WHAT she asked for a raggedy lil $300 for her wedding. I'm mad at Miles and apparently Melicia too
People so quick to villainize Matilda when she’s been a dream so far. She just wanted a bigger knocking to soothe the sting of not doing a wedding right away, as advertised. Niles agreed, so what’s the problem? He's the one constantly baiting and switching.
"Stop. Talking. Right this instant. I need a moment."😂 I don't care what he's done wrong, I love him😂😂😂 Crazy how love can turn to momentary disgust very quick!
Nah, she wants to take care of her family by getting a better life in America, nothing wrong with that. You guys are used to men that are not providers and are stingy.
@ I’m from Abu Dhabi our men are from from being Stingy and providers. 😁 Nothing wrong with her wanting to provide for her family but she knows his finances and she’s asking for more than he can offer. If she wants a provider maybe she should look elsewhere, he won’t be able to provide her with her needs.
Does Niles not realise how mortifying it is for Africans to be discussing/complaining about food? That old man wanted the ground to swallow him so that chat could end 😭
Niles and matilida this is the definition of a misunderstanding. She asked for something and he thought it was manditory now she they both feel lied too
Niles LIES...1st! He never told her he was not going to get married this trip. 😢He was scared and concerned about it! The producers also called him about it!. So she's trying to SAVE FACE from EMBARRASSMENT... so why not a large party if she CAN'T do a wedding?
This host, aren't you aware that is a fake van cleef necklace and obviously fake gucci slides? Niles couldn't afford that please. And yes it is possible to have 90 people attend the event especially in a rural setting where invitations dont matter.
If Niles can’t afford $200 for food he had no business trying to find international love
Exactly, plus he lies all the time and excuse everything on his autism, very convenient.
He also keeps talking about the greencard, like if he was a money catch and can't even afford $200¡ Boy, go home.
Yes you are right. Matilda deserves better
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or local love....or any love off line..
Knocking is not the engagement. Knocking requires 10 people or less and only requires immediate family from both sides. The custom is that the ladies family is responsible for providing the food
I really like how Niles stands up for himself and says “ I need a moment” 😂
yes... and please stop talking now.
I was just saying that
What’s funny? He’s autistic and gets easily stimulated
Definitely!!! I think Matilda is using him and hoping he is slow enough to let her get away from everything!
I'm just here to hear Mathilda say EMBARAAAAAST 😂😂😂
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She asked him for $300 for a big celebration/dinner. That hardly makes her a scammer. Niles doesn’t want to get married and he needs to be honest about that.
Exactly. People are so dense
She asked for $300, then admitted to $200 … and … and … she may not be the scammer you’re use to hearing about, she is being unethical 💯 to get money and whatever else by saying it’s a custom.
I don’t know what show you’ve been watching, but that isn’t what happened.
Sometimes is not what you do, it’s in the ways
true its not that much $300 Niles does not have money and he came not prepared for the wedding of which he should have been honest before he came that he was coming to see her know her and then plan the wedding later.
Every true Ghanaians knows the Gucci slides are fake 😂😂
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😂😂😂😂😂China Gucci
I just LOVE IT when Melicia recaps. She is great host, she should be the host of the tell all.
Please make this a petition I'll sign it
@@SheilaLJoneslet me sign too ❤
At the rate this season is going, no one will be together for the tell all.
She really is good!
Matilda is no different than any other bride. She wants a nice wedding. Niles should support her.
Don't Judge Matilda by the Van Cleefe necklace and the Gucci slides. The bootleg versions are so many in every country, they're the most affordable thing around
Exactly! Plus, second-hand and donated clothing are constantly dumped/resold in African countries. There's even a Ghanaian slang term for it that translates to "dead white man's clothes." A lot of the Ghanaians don't even know the significance of many lesser-known brand logos -- it's like Chinese characters to them. Matilda likely got knock-offs at the market; she's not some sugar baby.
EXACTLY 😭
yes those are very cheap at the fle markets in africa😅😅
@@Rogueviewer1you sound so incredibly rude in that comment. You’re probably can’t even afford rent and groceries and ure talking shit sit down
I won’t even wear anything Gucci. I’m haunted by the sight of the fakes EVERYWHERE. I feel bad for Van Cleefe’s. I can’t go anywhere without seeing the fakes, I’ve grown to hate the look of that clover design
I cannot blame Matilda for wanting a big ceremony. Most women want big weddings, it does not mean she is not a good person.
Work hard for it then, don’t demand it
If it's at the expense of someone else then yup, bad person you are...she's horrible.
Yes but she was being sneaky
@@Flo4Keepsum her future husband??? after he already embarrassed her by canceling the wedding at the last minute. that’s the least he could do is spend $200 on some food
@j.ordan23
You married?!I doubt you are with that kinda mindset you have.
Why will Niles go all the way to a different country without at least one person for knocking/marriage anything.. You don’t go alone
Because he was not planning on marrying her this trip. They had already discussed marriage but he changed his mind and didn’t know how to tell her until he arrived in Ghana.
Exactly,the GA people especially La people won't accept a knocking ceremony without the family head,so since niles is from America and don't actually have a family head his dad has to be present, give his name and a bit of his family history and most importantly his approval, so incase if matilda gets pregnant and niles doesn't return to ghana the baby's father can be trased easily, they don't joke with their knocking ceremony, they consider that marriage as well.because both families are all involved.
Exactly
His family was against him even going there and marrying someone he didn't know. Phone calls are different than being in the presence of someone
Ok VEAH 🤣🤣🤣
Niles is not the 1 not the 2 for me.
He lies, and is throwing Matilda under the bus everytime he gets.
I agree, but I don't think he lies, try to play it off until the situation is in deep water and tried to address when he should have before the issue got to big.
@@spice4life67just imagine yes Matilda did exaggerat concerning the knocking ceremony, it's better to educate yourself the culture that about to embrace , people need to know that in Africa thing are done differently , in Africa a man should take care of is partner , for a man that is coming from outside the country you can't visite your in law empty ✋ or your partner especially the parents of the girl that how u show appreciation when it's come to Nile is autism I don't blame him
That's obviously why he couldn't find love in America
@@kaysbeautyplace3363 u can say that again girl and all the lies
@@kaysbeautyplace3363it’s definitely that voice lol
MR. ARCH embodies the essence of the Ghanaian Elder. Respect and Honesty!!!
Am not even Ghanaian but this guy was my uncle growing up. You would tell him about someone behind closed doors and the next day he tells the person openly😂
Fear African elders
And masculine energy families need!
He meant well for Niles but his words could have been phrased better. Saying women can be deceitful would cause more anger in Niles and make it look like Mathilda is out to cheat his money. It's better for Niles to withdraw from marriage but telling Mathilda he want out, he probably won't be able to leave Ghana alive😂
Ahh I love that elder. So honest
I appreciated when hw checked Niles for raising his voice and getting mad at Matilda
When Melissa said he's taking that roll seriously took me out 😂😂😂😂. He said I am the father I make the shots now😂
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Very unpopular opinion buuuuttt….
Matilda and Niles should NOT get married.
Yep
I think he is breaking up with her next episode 😢
@@summerlavey6091good
I hope he leaves and never looks back.She and her family are scammers.
@hi.goodbye2167 no they should not
Can we talk about the fact that the elder automatically took Niles and made him his son. "I will guide you now!"
That's tradition is Africa. It takes a village to raise a child.
Africans understand that this is completely normal. I can meet an elderly African auntie tomorrow and she will take me as her daughter in no time.
Africa for you. All you need to do is tell any elder that they are your parent
There's nothing wrong it's normal in Africa ,
@@AbigaillOwusu come on now mans taking the P its the same in most non white households but in this case he's looking for his own personal gain from this whole joke of a marriage thing which he knows is just of convenience 😂
That “ahaa” from Mr. Arc is Ghanaian for “this bs right here”😂
@@user-en1zc5vd6y exactly 😂
It's not
😂🤣it's the "eeii" and "herhh" by Mr Ark for me😂😂
then he realized Niles was about to take it too far...
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And the spitting action he did lol
@@mememe2105 lollllllllllllllllllllllllll
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Niles is dead wrong. I love them both as a couple, but that $200 for the knocking was just to compromise, showing that they weren’t going to have a wedding. Her family even agreed to stay calm about it and allowed him to come back for the wedding everyone seems to forget that part. After he proposed to Matilda over the phone, her family showed great respect for Niles and went out of their way to accept his situation. But because Niles is so easily influenced, he’s going to twist this whole situation and make Matilda look like the bad guy. He also forgot to tell Mr. Arc the truth about why he met Matilda’s family first. Matilda was misled about getting married, and to correct it, she simply asked him to explain himself to her parents. There’s nothing wrong with that.
The whole situation is sad because it’s clear Matilda really loves Niles and is always trying to be patient with his disability, which is not easy, by the way.
I don’t think you actually fully understand everything that’s going on lmfaooo
She thinks that she can manipulate him! Even though he is on the Autism Spectrum, he is really smart and I am glad he is seeing thru her!
@@ladydi-lynnHe manipulated her though. He lied to her.
The 90DF franchise is doing Matilda dirty with the edit and collective amnesia! A prior episode shows Matilda wanted to pivot to a bigger knocking as a make-good because she feared her guests would feel deceived. Niles has pretty much cat-fished Matilda with unmet expectations and last-minute denials: sudden no sex policy, waffling on marriage, gaslighting prior arrangements, misleading about financial standing, etc. Matilda has shown grace at every turn and, after being disgraced many times, is getting frustrated. She is a patient human, not a scammer. As a half-Ghanaian -- I can't stress how much of an accommodation her family is willing to make!!!! Most would take it as an insult and end the discussion faster than cease-fire negotiations.
@@amybiggs9094 Girl, please. I’m African you can not tell me a damn thing about what i know or do not know about my own culture. I know exactly what’s going on. Y’all Americans love to demonize foreigners, assuming everything is about money or a free pass to America. $200 for a small ceremony is nothing, especially since Niles agreed to it after suggesting no wedding at all (for the time being). Mr. Arc is just an old-fashioned elder with specific ways of doing things. As Africans we know how elders from the village are. It doesn’t mean they’re always right or willing to look deeper into situations, they never come with any compromise and get offended if things don’t go their way. Niles obviously does not know this and can’t make a decision voor himself. Niles made it seem like Matilda was asking for the world, which isn’t true. Let the woman have her small ceremony after accepting that there is no wedding. It’s her commitment too.
Loren is the reason why im scared of people who are always smiling
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@@Rantwithbee yesss omg he genuinely terrifies me… justtt no
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What about people who are always frowning?
I wouldn't consider it smiling, it's a mental deformation. He is not self aware...he is confused .
Matilda wanted to be showy and she's marrying a American she definitely wanna show she's steping up in life
Marrying an American stepping up in life? Lol.
@lucym1724 economically yes for some people
She has every right to.
You know nothing about their culture. Even funerals are made for 500 peoples or even more.
Matilda didn't want to be showy -- just compromise on a bigger knocking ceremony to counter the let-down of a sudden non-wedding. This was all aired in a previous episode. Niles and TLC are doing her dirty with this edit and collective amnesia.
A fellow Ghanaian here 🤚🏿🤚🏿
A Ghanaian wedding with 200 people is on the average to small side, ESPECIALLY if it's happening in Ghana where people have lots of extended family (the nuclear family is a western concept), church family, neighborhood etc. It's just different than how we think of weddings in America. In Ghanaian culture, you are raised by the community/village and the community/village is your family. Weddings are a community affair, ESPECIALLY in a village like Ofinso, where Matilda is from. Please don't judge other cultures through the lenses of your own because it's very easy to make assumptions that way.
I feel sorry for Matilda because with all due respect to the Elder, the plans for the wedding are often negotiated between BOTH families during the knocking ceremony but it is ABSOLUTELY the bride's family who sets the terms, not the groom's family. They can negotiate things down or compromise, if they choose but Mr. Arc as the "father" of the groom CAN NOT set the terms for the marriage and that includes the size, date, location, accommodations etc.
In fact, according to tradition, the knocking ceremony is done at or in proximity to the bride's house. On the other hand, 90 people for a knocking ceremony is absurd. The weddings are grand but that's not necessarily true for the knocking ceremony. At the knocking ceremony, the bride's family will then make a demand in the form of list of ALL their requests (gifts, money, food, etc). I think Matilda was trying to treat the knocking ceremony as a traditional engagement because of the sudden change in plans to postpone the wedding. She was embarrassed.
Facts the siblings and cousins i speak to in my family alone is 50...and these are only siblings and cousins that i speak to not counting aunts uncles and cousins i dont speak to on a regular
Thank you for sharing!!
Thank goodness you explained! I’m South Africa and we also do things like that. The grooms family has no say to what must happen on the wedding process. The number of people we have in African families is over 90 times 😂 you cannot exclude others because if your budget. Niles is playing
That’s very informative. As a Ghanaian, could you also clear if it’s the bride’s or the groom’s family that is supposed to pay for knocking ceremony. I keep reading comments that according to google it’s the bride’s.
That's true, the bride's family sets the terms
The host is so soothing when she talks
I think to save face she's trying to do a hybrid type of wedding/knocking ceremony. A knocking ceremony with some wedding elements, but she should have explained that's not tradition to him.
She did, producers are just not showing that part. Niles is a pathological liar and uses this autism as an excuse. I think he's a passport bro honestly
@@bellam7546 The producers showed it once. She told him that the knocking ceremony is usually 30 people but because Niles backed out from the wedding she was inviting more people. Niles did not dispute it.
Niles isn’t ready to be anybody’s husband. Trying to date a woman overseas wasn’t going to fix the maturity issues he had with himself. Yes he is on the spectrum but he needs to wait until he is mature and financially stable before he pursues anyone.
She asked for $300 for her wedding and according to her she's NEVER asked him for anything in the past. Niles made me mad acting like somebody trying to use him when all she asked for was $300 for a wedding she felt proud of. Nothing wrong with that if she requested 1k. Give her, her wedding!!!! Cheap ass Niles
I disagree. Her sister told about $245 and Matilda upped it to $300. She is being deceitful and looking for a marriage to apply for a spousal visa to the USA.
@@Larry-qw3rp $65 dollars? She's robbing him for $65 dollars? You people are insufferable
He is spending tons of money for a hotel got to live in luxury while she’s with him. We all see where she usually lives. I’m just saying. C
@@Larry-qw3rpwait you think a $55 difference is a big deal? So you don’t think there is a possibility it could go over budget?
@Larry-qw3rp yeah because $55 is a huge difference, and no unexpected expenses would ever come up😅😂
Surely the reason that Matilda is making a huge fuss of the knocking is that until a day or so ago, she and her family and friends were expecting a wedding!
But even that wedding she was planning was against tradition according to Mr. Arch.
@@PhemeTellsnot against tradition per say, just not exactly necessary
@@PhemeTells It’s not against traditions
Mr. Arc said all the extras for the knocking --not the wedding-- were unnecessary. He isn’t aware of the compromise the couple reached and how the bigger knocking was to make the non-wedding more palatable. Ghanaian weddings are right up there with Nigerians, Greeks, and Indians - they have big families, so they have big events!
@@Rogueviewer1 exactly
Matilda is not perfect but she’s not the villain they’re making her out to be
My knocking ceremony was just 10 people, you only need a hand full of people in your living room to accept that both families can go ahead and plan for the wedding ceremony
I think she try to deceived him because obviously he doesn't know anything about the culture or her ceremony. That's why is good before u get into marriage with someone that is not from the same country or even have the same culture u need to know a few things.
Right?! Mine was 5 people. It’s really not that serious. She’s just trying to save face since the wedding has been postponed.
@@sharon602haha.. mine was 6 at nsawam, Eastern region of ghana. lol.. this matilda is just blowing things out of proportion and if niles should break up with her, it will be her fault
@@frenatfarmsI agree…
she said she wanted it to be a bigger thing since Niles canceled the wedding
I LOVE MELICIA AND HER RECAPS!!! She speaks for us at home😂👏🏽
She's very classy
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Melicia, I appreciate your recaps. I watch your recaps instead of the show. It’s so much better 💜
Niles my boy get your self out of there before you get swallowed up
She been the most respectful woman in the whole 90 fiance series. You must be another stuck up American 😏
I agree
True marriage can’t be that difficult they hardly know each other’s,, better run bc the temper is rising from Matilda showing true colours 😮😂
Thanks to Africa for giving him a wife meanwhile America didn’t notice his existence .
The $300 knocking price tag was the compromise between Niles and Matilda! In a prior episode that aired, Matilda said she wanted to now opt for a bigger knocking ceremony. It was to accommodate the fact that a wedding, the original event, wouldn’t take place. Also to soothe the sting of breaking custom, which Mr. Arc reinforces is simply NOT done. Niles was in agreement, so I don’t know why he and TLC are playing bffr
Exactly! You are absolutely right and it seems like everyone else forgot that part 🙄
this and that man was being weird anyways saying women can be evil or whatever he was saying
Niles has made so many promises that he can't even keep up with it. One thing though, one shouldn't be breaking customs and traditions for no man! Matilda should have let it go the moment he said he wasn't going to marry her during this visit. Her compromising brought her this mess.
Niles is being deceitful. He keeps pulling out the autism card to protect himself.
I would not say that was a compromise 😂😂😂😂 I would say that she was pushing him to give her $300 so she can have a large knocking party, and then lied to make it seem like that's traditional when it's not? 😂 he agreed to give her that money ALL THE WAY up until Mr.Ark basically told him she's playing him 😂😂😂
He stood up for himself very well in a healthy masculine way. Good job Niles
Yes, I was so proud of him 😊
Yes, and also not being taken advantage of … I’m not sure of her intentions… maybe she thinks having autism means she can control everything…
No, Matilda just wants a nice knocking ceremony cause Niles decided to pull the wool over her eyes. Also, the editing of this show is suss. And if Niles thinks that $200 is a lot wait until he has to pay the bride price which Matilda's family determine.
@bellam7546 No. He should be treated with respect, and included in everything. Not just her way. Good thing Mr. Arc was there to tell him the truth.
@@ifitdontapplydontyoucry I think people who dont understand or dont want to understand, shouldnt marry outside their culture. Matilda is being ridiculed and painted as a scammer by people who know zilch. It's maddening
So Niles travelled all the way to Africa but can't afford 200$ for a small traditional wedding?she told everyone she is getting married,she is just trying to safe face.
He stated that he only had 3000$ for travels and everything.
I also dont get what the issue is... am starting to think Miles is playing games
Yall unjustify black gold digger
You think he gets money from trees? How much hotels over there air ticket too and fro where do you think he will get the money for the wedding from?you guys you think he's Obama's son.
Ik many Ghanaians, it’s never $200 for a small traditional wedding 😂. More like $2000
Niles, $200 for food for 90 people is NOT a lot.
Listen, I'm wondering what I am missing because $200.00 for a little party is literally nothing! 😬
And she probably wants more of a party for the knocking ceremony because she's already embarrassed because he's not marrying her immediately. I am seeing her side more than his.
I'm actually finding him a bit cringy now.
@@02loudit is not about the money. It is about the lies, she wanted everything big (it is ok, every girl deserves her dream wedding) but he feels betrayed that everything was push on him like a requirement of the tradition to force him on her wants
@@pinkyprincesscuban8207the traditional wedding to us is more important than the white wedding because thats not our culture..if you get married in church and not in tradition your families and ancestors may not recognize that union.So it is indeed a big deal to her...miles is more focused on a white wedding...we value tha traditional wedding more
@@pinkyprincesscuban8207 we slaughter cows and goats at our weddings..a single cow is $300 alone with no rice and stuff😂...so $200 is really a spit in the face.The white wedding if your thing
@@darkskinneddutchess4007 it really irritates me that Niles didn’t do his research. I feel like he thinks that he can get away with trying to you know use American culture to you know get away with his lies for example with him proposing, you know when you propose to someone in the United States you don’t get married immediately unless you decide to go to the courthouse or you go to Vegas, but in reality, they wait a few months they might wait like maybe one or two years to plan the wedding so they can get their finances in order to do over the phone if he decided to propose to Matilda, he should have said look I want to marry you I’m proposing to you however, when I come over to you, we are not going to get married on this trip. He should have said that from the ghetto that goes to jewelry store buys an engagement ring and proposes to her again so now she’s thinking that they’re gonna get married on this trip guardians traditions research culture United States is totally different from any other countries culture so he should’ve got himself together. I feel like he’s not ready for marriage. I think this was a spare the moment thing got caught up in the moment, he was like he wants to get married should’ve made himself clear instead of trying to keep up with the lies he keeps telling
Lets be honest. Niles is constantly back peddling situations. Matilda aint no saint but Niles always trying to find a way out of the situation. He dont want to marry her so he keeps making everything a big deal. Matilda needs to find another american man that can make her dreams come true. Aint no way Niles will do it.
Niles is neurodivergent so communication issues are a part of his disorder. He tries to express himself and she just shuts him down and steamrolls over him. He asked on the phone before he came to postpone the wedding. She didn't listen and said don't disappoint me. He asked her to to make the knocking ceremony smaller and she flat out said no last week at the dinner with her brothers. Anyway we can understand why Niles is a horrible communicator but what is Matilda's excuse?
@@geminizoe777 he never told her nothing until he got there. He knew she was planning a wedding and a knocking ceremony. He didn't want to do the wedding so she respected his wishes. All she asked for was to do the knocking ceremony so she wouldn't lose face as she already has to call and tell people the wedding is off. If I were her I wouldn't want another embarrassing situation to happen again and yet here is Niles doing what he does best. I don't blame a woman that wants the finer things in life. She just chose the wrong guy.
@DasBonners Go back and look at the epi where they were on the phone before he came. He did say he wanted to postpone wedding and she said my family and friends are expecting a wedding don't disappoint me and then continually said we're getting married right. He was pushed into submission and said ok. She's very pushy with him and I would hate for the rest of his life to be overpowered by M while she sends his disability check to her family. I said what I said and we can agree to disagree.
@@geminizoe777 he had time before that? He had all this time before coming but he didn't say anything. Disabilities aside because he's literally telling her in the worst way possible. He been trying everything in his power as we all have been watching to not get married. It's always one thing or another for Niles. It's too soon or it's the money or there are too many people. He's embarrassed Matilda way too much.
Yeah, Matilda finds someone else to use with a disability that’s so gross 🤢.
Don't forget, Niles had promised Matelda that they were going to get married shortly after he arrived there. He was trying to figure out a way to tell her that he was NOT going to get married this time around. She and her family a already prepared for the whole thing, both the knocking and the wedding. So because he had mislead her, she HAD to break certain norms like go ahead and introduce him to hear family. And she was also trying to save face, because him lying to her by having SOME type of ceremony. Niles is to blame for all of the confusion.
I really dont get why people cant see that... I had an ex do this to me... the moment I called off the wedding , now he wants a big wedding
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Love how Mr Ark takes Niles under his wing with no questions asked.
True!
African elders are more than happy to play Mr. Miyagi to wayward youths. Very kind people
Many bloggers SAID that she was too high paced for him. She has 5 jobs and not tired. He has no job and too fragile for her…run V
Who
Dinner for 2 at a decent restaurant on the USA can be more than $300. Feeding 90 people on that budget is a steal.
I really feel the way people are speaking on Malitda is very telling, there is a huge cultural difference and a lot of people are forgetting this. Also $300 to pay to set up a small party isnt a lot of money and they literally agreed it was a compromise since there was no wedding. Niles didnt tell Mr Narc the whole story all that man was spewing was just misogyny. He just wanted to paint her as this bad person and didnt even let her explain.
Yall keep saying Nile’s didn’t tell the whole story but are forgetting that they EDIT!!!!!!!!!!!!! COME ON
Matilda is so sweet and you can tell she really loves Niles, he’s the one lying and promising things he can’t keep up with !! Just because she’s the foreigner people are calling her a gold digger and it’s a damn shame 🙃
@@glam4331 no disrespect I’m not going to read your whole comment simply because we all know he has a disability so saying he’s not telling the truth or being this way or that way he doesn’t have the capability of doing so she knew that he knows that you should know that stop it
@@cherissewilliams6008 now where did i say he didnt tell the truth, i said the whole story, full picture in fact. Like no shit he has autism but that man doesnt know what Niles and Matilda have discussed and he is already weary cause they are breaking traditions
@@cherissewilliams6008 having autism, does not negate you from lying first of all autism or not because I’ve dated a man who had autism and he told me straight up things that were bothering him things when he was overwhelmed. Everything was caught up in the moment. OK Disability is out the out the water no, I have a disability myself, but I don’t use my disability to excuse. Lies that are told is a grown man OK before he even got on that plane on Gandhian land he should not have proposed to Matilda should not have proposed to her if he was not ready for marriage proposed to her if he was ready for marriage before he got on a plane and flew to he should have done his research on how Ugandan weddings are done again like I’ve said in many other videos, the wedding engagement are not the ones in the United States in the United States can get engaged in the wedding for months or even years and make sure your finances are in order countries not like that’s what a lot of people are failing to realize is hundred percent wrong Matilda should have you know informed Niles on certain things about the knocking ceremony however, if Niles is feeling overwhelmed with all the stuff he has to do, he should not have proposed to her over the phone. He should not have went to Uganda got her ring and proposed to her again because now Matilda had got to her family and told them that they were gonna get married now they have to postpone the wedding not acceptable and their culture but cannot even keep up with the lies. He is telling and now he’s getting upset because Matilda is getting frustrated, Matilda has a right to be frustrated because Niles had made promises that he can’t keep, this goes for the United States as well if you are not ready for marriage do not get engaged don’t because the bride is going to wonder when they’re gonna get married how much the wedding is gonna be it’s gonna be stressful. They gotta get their finances in order so really this is all on Niles if Niles did his research and if he prepared himself, then none of this happened and then he can’t keep up with his lies has nothing to do with his disability, I’m tired of people trying to justify his actions because he has autism. I have dated someone who has autism and my exes has a couple episodes I have watched.
Matilda just wanted to take a little shame out of her face by keeping a bigger ceremony. Mr. Ark will be the weapon fashioned against that marriage if it happens. He will always be frustrating that marriage. Matilda will regret introducing him to Niles. Those village elders can be very diabolical when they can’t get their way. Did he say Niles is his “son”? 😢😂
Please preach! An uncle is not a father.
I didn't like him, sounded super misogynistic. And then when Niles started getting upset with Matilda he tried to calm Niles down as if he didn't rile him up in the first place 🙄
Thank you
@@02loud exactly
What is wrong with wanting a nice dinner, she is not asking for thousands, she should get what she wants, her designer items are probably fake ones, it does not make her greedy. She sleeps on the floor ! She just wants something nice.
She wants a nice green card to go along with that American
He can’t offer that right now. She is forcing him
She’s pimping this special needs man for a green card. Just evil
She should have been honest instead of making it seem like it’s required. Just because you want something doesn’t mean you’re given a pass to be deceptive in order to get it. She was taking advantage of the fact that he doesn’t know the culture.
He can't afford it he wasn't prepared and now he's found the perfect excuse to not go through with it . That's how I see it
Malicia, I don’t even watch the show anymore but enjoy your reviews so here I am 😂❤ ✌️
Knocking is not a community and friends show but rather its for very few family members.
Exactly…. She wanted to show off at his expense
@@Queensofafrica8so? he embarrassed her by canceling the wedding she told everyone about at the last minute
Matilda wanted to save face after he postponed the wedding without much warning. Niles made a big deal out of it.
I’m thankful for your graceful n insightful commentary Melicia
MAtilda embarrassed herself being greedy.
@jennapitts8373 yep she thought as a lot of them do I got an American and they got lots of money
Asking for $300 for her wedding when she's never asked him for anything before isn't being greedy
@@kaykay3458 I was about to comment this. Plus she was asking for money for the ceremony
@@kaykay3458i don't think greed. But more to show off. It's why she wasn't fully honest with Niles and was demanding money. I'm guessing she told family and friends that she's gna have a grand wedding because her fiance is from the US. It's why I think she kept saying he embarrassed her and her temper flared. As someone coming from a 3rd world country, folks back home think we're all rich here. When someone gets married to an American they think they will also benefit from that because we're a family oriented culture. :/
Matilda just wanted her family and friends to come to enjoy with her , her marriage day and I do not think that's a lot to ask and it's only few hundred dollars. I know women that demands tens of thousands of dollars .
Niles trynna be a passport bro 😂😂😂😂😂 he ain’t slick 😭
I think Bozo is full of it. There's more going on with him than just not feeling chemistry with Vanya in person. He also doesn't have a job and lives with his mom and aunt. He has a failure to launch. 😂
The elder said they don't need anything out of pride, not in approval. If you want to take their daughter and you can't pay $200 to feed the family or people, then what are you doing here?
None of this would’ve been an issue if Niles was honest from the very beginning!
The Elder knew that Niles was being played. Matilda wanted a big wedding to show off her American man. And she got caught. Thank you to the Elder who said he was going to guide Niles for now on.
how she will show off with $300? since when $300 are considered lot of money for a big ceremony? you do not know what you are talking about.
Na Mayilda wasn't laying anyone. Say that to the person that switches things up when he already said something over the phone. Niles embarrassed Matilda by making her inform her people of a wedding and then come to Ghana and change it on her. Do you know the plans the family already made and now being told there's not going to any wedding. Its shameful
With 200-300 hundred dollars though? 😂😂😂😂😂 would you even accept that if you were in her position?
I wish u were the official tell all host.....that other lady lets people get away with murder
For real bro 😂😂😂
Yep!
Let’s all prey about it 🙏🏾
It is likely by design… she doesn’t have that much control.
When you read the credits at the end of the show, Shaun Robinson the host is an EP (executive producer) of the tell all
mr. arc is a true g
Honestly, Seeing that Matilda thought she was getting MARRIED, I dont think she is wrong for wanting the knocking and a celebration of their engagement. I think its a fair compromise. She couldve communicated better for sure, but I cant blame the girl TBH. PLUS $200 dollars to feed 90 people for a celebration is a very humble amount of money. They need to just sit down and speak about their expectations, finances, and overall relationship.
Africans usually have large extravagant weddings so I don't know why everyone is giving Matilda a hard time.
Niles knew good & well he wasn't going to marry that woman and then complaining to the Elder.
They don’t usually have large extravagant expensive weddings in Africa. She would’ve never expected that of a man from her village.
The elder will chastise Niles once the episode air and he sees how flip-floppy Niles has been. He didn't give the elder full context.
@@lumedeon8471 how do you know?? Village is actually where you spend a lot cause there's no limit to the number of guests you don't even have to invite people they just show up😂😂 also look up african weddings there's a South African show called our perfect wedding go watch some episodes then come back here and explain what you mean by " they don't have large extravagant weddings" keep in mind south Africans aren't even as extra as West Africans
Thank you! 😂
You’re an uninformed bigot. Plenty of large and lavish weddings take place in west Africa especially. If Niles if crying now, he would never survive marriage by Nigerian standards. Ghana is more lenient than Nigeria lol
I think she didn't get what she was expecting from the guy, she looks so angry. She expected much from Niles, expectations hurt🤣🤣
PLEASE KEEP VANJA ON THE SINGLE LIFE, SHE IS SO PURE AND A BREATH OF FRESH AIR
@@vanisaurusrex2750 there is always someone in each season that’s so likable. When they finally showed her, I was like wow !! I really like her presence
I could’ve sworn Niles is supposed to give the family gifts. Like a list of things they want. Didn’t Emily and Kobe do that??
That is for marriage rites. For knocking, only schnapps and some amount of money is needed
Faith can do better she needs to kick him to the curb
Faith cannot get any better, Neither can Ingrid
@@jennapitts8373so as you
Seriously am angry with her sis. How can she ask Faith to forgive a cheating liar? Now gonorrhoea, next time what? HIV? So dangerous to keep Loren around and all she thinks of is having a boyfriend.
There is a reason Bozo’s mother and aunt are PRAYING to God that he finds a woman. He’s a loser.
This
I can also see it from Matilda’s perspective. Niles forgot to tell the Elder gentleman that his intention was not to marry Matilda until he felt comfortable rather than he’s asking to postpone the wedding until he can afford it. The baseline intention of not marrying this trip needed to be laid out first, not the wedding expenses.
Right!
But then the show is 90 day fiancé they get to know each other for 90 days and get married most often after that. So in Matilda’s mind she’s getting married no matter what. As a Ghanaian , I think she should just let this guy go, he seems immature and not really mentally okay , plus he’s kinda weird 😭
I can she the excitement in getting married to a foreigner and going to the U.S. because things are hard in Ghana, but Miles isn’t the right person to do this with 😂😭
She was the one that was pressuring Niles about all the foods, and Champagne that they needed for the wedding.
Loren wants to go to the Philippines to avoid child support payments
This man has kids with another human? 😂
@zana9402 shocking I know , pray they don't inherit his looks or character
This man is fucking twisted. How he is even allowed in the show? Watta creep
@@viciouslady1340 or his gonorrhea
"he started to take that role serious, really fast" 🤣
Niles wanted a father. He got one lol
Matilda was expecting a wedding & she wants a big knocking ceremony to make up for the wedding since ppl were waiting for that.
So, it is wrong for Tygerlily to marry a guy she just met; but is ok for Niles to marry a girl he just met. Talking about double standards. She is a woman who doesn’t listen, she only force him to do what she wants thinking that autism makes him stupid
In Africa, 200 ppls wedding is considered as a small ceremony.
I love the way my West African cousins say, "em-bear-uss" ❤❤❤
Matilda is dead wrong and got busted, Niles and she do not need to get married. She tried to use him, and take advantage of him, and he is afraid of getting married so quickly. This needs to end.
I totally agree.
Things are starting to stink … I am concerned she is just using him 💯 because she thinks she can control him esp. (in her eyes) because of autism. That to her may have made him sooo attractive… so to speak.
Did you not hear Mr Arc saying that Niles should get married to Matilda and not do the knocking ceremony and leave? I understand in America women have low standards and can give wife benefits to boyfriends and have 5 year engagements, but not in Africa. You don't play around with an African woman, especially since they are the the back bone of society. Matilda deserved a nice knocking ceremony since Niles pulled the wool over her eyes. African parties are big, from the weddings to the knocking ceremonies. We are not western. Anyway, Niles should marry his own American counterpart and leave Matilda alone.
No, just say you have low standards.
@@bellam7546As these episodes played out, I was headed to Nigeria (10/25) to meet my girlfriend, propose and married. I found this show and deeply related to Niles. As an American, such a fast step on the first face to face meeting is CRAZY. But I trusted her and went through with the marriage. It was BEAUTIFUL . We did have a few unrelated arguments during the trip , but overall I’m glad I followed my heart and married the love of my life.❤
$200 for food for a traditional wedding is really no that much
It is when you live on disability benefit
Likeeeee do they know the cost of living here? Hmm
Is it a wedding or a knocking ceremony. Like asking your partner’s family’s hand in marriage.
Niles delflectung Matilda been telling him his plan to leave and come back wasn't gonna work!...lol they're so cute!
As a Ghanaian, Matilda please knocking is a family affair and the wedding is a large affair
Matilda was trying to blend elements of the two to make up for pivoting from a full-on wedding. Niles agreed and is back-peddling.
@@Rogueviewer1he didn't. He even protested the number of people coming and she refused to cut down
You didn’t watch each episode clearly. They did agree on a larger knocking for that reason. Matilda even explained to Niles that it was because they’re now deceiving guests with a non-wedding.
Happy Thanks giving Melicia...
Thanks for putting a smile on our faces...
And you're insights go a long way....
Knocking ceremony is a small ceremony, not everyone is invited.
It's just dowry negotiations then families have lunch.
That's all
He promised a wedding and she's trying to save face because he has humiliated her
These days we add knocking and everything to the ceremony.There's nothing like knocking before the marriage ceremony, knocking money is added to the marriage list.
@JacquelineEitee
My family did the knocking ceremony then the dowry money was used towards the wedding.
Matilda just wanted to show off, Niles doesn't owe her friends anything.
I am rooting for them but the moment I heard Mathilda’s sister say to her that she should’ve forced him to marry her I knew they were taking advantage of him smh
But doesn't that sort of show Matilda didn't force him, despite her family likely telling her she should. I dunno, I liked them as a couple initially but not really so much anymore.
@@02loudHow exactly was she gonna "force" him to marry her?? Hold a plantain to his head and threaten to shoot? 😂😂
Lol@@BlondeMafia89
Matilda wants a party..a celebration and who can blame her?!
She lied straight
Not at Niles expense 🙄 He already has to save for a big wedding and for the process of her paperwork , if he choose to marry her 🤨
He supported it too!… watch the first episode
He told her : go big with the wedding!.. you only marry once and now he is crying for $200 that she ask for feeding 90 people!… common Niles!
Niles....GO HOME! ASAP You have no idea whatsoever about Matilda and the culture.
Matilda is bold faceeeee she thought she got an American which they feel is money
Melicia, African people believe in community. When Niles goes back to the states, Matilda is left with that community that will help her when in need. So it would be offensive of she does not invite them. Now I'm from South Africa and live in the suburb, my family is abit liberal so if I don't want their friends on my special day, I can say that. Hope you understand
exactly this its very normal
@MLoves29 rural village African life and suburban African life are two different things. She cannot exclude her community. I've never lived in rural areas but I'm very much aware of protocol.
Unpopular Opinion: there was no need to bring Vonya & Bojo (don’t know how to spell their names) onto the show, this is 90 day fiancé.. they weren’t engaged, they weren’t dating, they were in a talking stage that could’ve been ended over the phone and not have been broadcasted on the show. They were so unentertaining in my opinion. Good luck to them tho❤
Absolutely
He's a Bozo 🤡
I don't know how to feel about Matilda tbh. I'm married to a West African man and the women feel as though they have to do any ceremony big to show off to their friends and other women that their man has money and takes care of them. My husband doesn't care about none of that, we'd rather save money and travel 💁🏾♀️✈️
So sad. West Africans are horrible. I’m married to one too and it’s horrible dealing with these people.
How long has it been?
Oh no girl, I love my man real bad 🥰 I actually live with his whole family, three generations, under one room here in the US. It honestly depends from person to person. We've been married for two years but dated for three or so. And I moved in right after we got married. I think maybe because he moved here when he was a teenager, he's kind of western in a way but still traditional and speaks his language daily.
@@kalimbaayinde25what makes you feel that way? Is it his family?
@kalimbaayinde25 don't marry into a family and culture you find so "horrible" before you end up raising self hating kids
In Matilda's defence, weddings are a big deal in West Africa. You may invite 30 people and 300 people will show up and I'm not exergearating 😂 it's a bigger deal if you live abroad or you are marrying a foreigner . I feel she didn't communicate these properly to Niles.
For someone who was bold enough to call out her living situation as poor or inhumane you should be glad she aspires to put on a show for her family and village
All of this mess is because Niles wasn't brave enough to tell Matilda he was not ready for marriage before he met her wuffffh
MELCIA PRE JUDGING MATILDA BECAUSE OF HER CLOTHES ?? WAS SHE MEANT TO COME ON RAGS
She even was talking about a bride price and everything for her parents and siblings
That is tradition
@@kaykay3458Apparently not according to Mr. Arc.
No, Mr Arc wants Matilda to MARRY Matilda and the custom marriage includes the bride price which will cost more than $200 he doesn't want to give Matilda. The editing is also shit so I don't trust that Mr Arc said what he said exactly.
*Niles
that is a cultural thing and you shouldnt speak on that since you clearly havent done any research. He literally promised to marry her on this trip and all shes asking for is food for is money for the ceremony since no wedding
Me Arc’s statement that someone else can come marry her after the knocking is an eye opener.
Lol me too 😅
He is correct
Hmmm ..... Niels has to watch out for these people. Matilda is playing a mind game.
Nah, Niles is a typical passport bro. I knew this since the preview of the show.
I saw the first time I watched , them , Matilda is coniving,
I saw it from before she open her 👄.
Matilda didn't make any unreasonable request or attempt to be showy. She just compromised on a bigger knocking ceremony to counteract the let-down of a sudden non-wedding. This was all aired in a previous episode. Niles and TLC are doing her dirty with this edit and collective amnesia. Matilda has been a sweetheart this entire time even with all of Niles' reneging, but people are so quick to demonize her as a Black woman.
Loren is a natural born con artist I mean look so much like SpongeBob a little bit LMAO😂😂😂😂
He looks like squidward
Yeah but he is not good at it. 😂
lol don’t disrespect SpongeBob like that 😂😂😂😂
HONESTLY. I'm disgusted by his coloniser spreading disease behaviour. I hope he gets deported to europe, project of incel
😂😂😂😂
Matilda found a foreigner and thought she hit the jackpot. Typical
A jackpot? Food for an engagement? Wow.... a jackpot for food? Who should pay for food for the engagement ceremony? Her elderly parents???
Ghana isn’t a broke country there are many rich men who live in Ghana ! Americans and other foreigners are so narrow minded they don’t even realise this matailda is beautiful women she loves Nile’s she could easily find a wealthy Ghanaian man please
All those fine ass men in her country & she chooses him😂
To be fair 90 is small in Africa. A typical actual wedding could be anything from 300 - 1000 people counting family, friends, church community, all the neighbours … she did inflate it but ‘small’ is relative
i’m cool with matilda..I get it she from a small town she wanted to show off a little ..so what ..doesn’t mean she didn’t like him ..or want him how many girls in her town snag an american and a tv show!! i get it ..
Well, she hasn't been very nice with him about it, espessially now, yelling at him(
Melecia must have ate her alive in this video because nobody acts like they understand. SO WHAT she asked for a raggedy lil $300 for her wedding. I'm mad at Miles and apparently Melicia too
@@kaykay3458 she DEMANDED. everything she did demand. Not giving enough honesty explanation to respect him
People so quick to villainize Matilda when she’s been a dream so far. She just wanted a bigger knocking to soothe the sting of not doing a wedding right away, as advertised. Niles agreed, so what’s the problem? He's the one constantly baiting and switching.
$300 couldn't be too raggedy. She and the whole of her family can't come up with it.
"Stop. Talking. Right this instant. I need a moment."😂 I don't care what he's done wrong, I love him😂😂😂 Crazy how love can turn to momentary disgust very quick!
I always said from the begging that even salt looks like sugar. I always had a bad feeling about Matilda.
@yazooy3860 think she wants him to take care of her family and get to America
Nah, she wants to take care of her family by getting a better life in America, nothing wrong with that. You guys are used to men that are not providers and are stingy.
@ I’m from Abu Dhabi our men are from from being Stingy and providers. 😁
Nothing wrong with her wanting to provide for her family but she knows his finances and she’s asking for more than he can offer. If she wants a provider maybe she should look elsewhere, he won’t be able to provide her with her needs.
Does Niles not realise how mortifying it is for Africans to be discussing/complaining about food? That old man wanted the ground to swallow him so that chat could end 😭
Matilda was being too pushy.. She should have just let niles go to America and prepare and come back to wed her. It was just too much
Niles and matilida this is the definition of a misunderstanding. She asked for something and he thought it was manditory now she they both feel lied too
Niles LIES...1st! He never told her he was not going to get married this trip. 😢He was scared and concerned about it! The producers also called him about it!. So she's trying to SAVE FACE from EMBARRASSMENT... so why not a large party if she CAN'T do a wedding?
This host, aren't you aware that is a fake van cleef necklace and obviously fake gucci slides? Niles couldn't afford that please. And yes it is possible to have 90 people attend the event especially in a rural setting where invitations dont matter.