I asked this girl out a few months ago, and she said that liked me, but she didn’t feel quite feel like starting a relationship. No big deal. That happens sometimes. At this point, we’ve known each other for a while and we start texting a fair amount. It’s clear that she’s into me; she smiles to me at school, sits by me in classes, and she even remembered my birthday. A few weeks ago, we got invited to a “party” (there were only ~15 people there), and I mention it to her. She said “Oh!”, blushed, and ran over to her gaggle of friends. She whispered something to them and they all shake their head and shoot me dirty looks. She went over to me and politely declined. I was absolutely appalled that she would let her friends dictate her decisions. For anyone who’s looking for a stable relationship, don’t choose someone whose friends control what they do.
That’s toxic as heck bro. I’m sorry that happened to you! I’m also sorry for her, because she’s gonna realize one day how much letting her friends dictate her decisions like that will hurt her. If I had listened to my friends about relationship “advice” (who made NO valid points at all), then I wouldn’t be with who is now my wife. Keep looking man! You’ll find the one!
He was incredibly jealous and insecure. He said “you don’t need friends, you’ve got me.” But the final straw was when he accused me of cheating on him; with my brother in law; whilst my 8 month old nephew was in hospital.
“The Barefoot Witch”… By any chance are you related to the guy mentioned two posts below yours in which it was said he took his shoes off and made the whole room smell like a dumpster? 😂 (couldn’t resist)
Last time I ever tried to date a guy I opened up about being asexual and he just said "That's alright, so long as you just lay back and let me do things to you" I was kind of terrified and stopped all contact. Thankfully he gave up after a while, and I gave up on dating.
That's a creepy response. In the opening stages of considering a relationship, he obviously needs to know that you're asexual (that was totally appropriate and responsible on your part) and what kind of asexual you are, because that may be too difficult for some people....but you don't just reply with "it will be fine so long as I can do whatever I want to you like you're a marionette" Gross, dude. **Rolls up a newspaper for smacking** No! No!
The dude would not respect boundaries or my wish to not rush things. He started love bombing the hell out of me, blowing up my phone on the daily, saying "I love you" way too soon, and trying to get me to move in with him despite me saying (many times) that I was uncomfortable with that. His own friends even saw how creeped out I was. We only dated for 2 months.
Same experience didn't even date him told him I had zero interest in him. Kept threatening to kill himself. Told him to do it for the sake of humanity. Got the cops involved when he showed up at my former job with a gun. Still tries to text me demanding I have his kids. Fucker was 21 and "autistic" fuck I hate people
Not really a relationship, but still: A former work colleague was obviously interested in me. She wanted to work with me as often as possible and several times she encouraged me to just "take" her right there and then. I was very hesistant as I had never been in a relationship before, but I wasn't 100% sure what to do. Then she started telling me about her future plans; mainly how she wanted to be a single mum. This made me back off so after a while she lost interest in me. Not long after this, she found another guy and only a few months later she announed her pregnancy. They got married (I think it was pressure from the guy's family as they are quite conservative and tradition-bound) shortly before she gave birth to a daughter. No more than 2 months passed before she got pregnant again. After she gave birth to the second child she basically told the guy she didn't love him anymore and wanted to divorce him. The marriage lasted 14 months or so. Glad I wasn't part of that.
This one will sound weird unless you are a huge cat lover but I befriend a lot of street cats. If I see them regularly I name them. I have one cat I named Apollo, since at the time I was naming them after greek gods. Apollo is a literal ray of sunshine. She walks me home and meows to greet me whenever she sees me. I've also introduced her to some friends and she was equally as friendly. I was talking with this guy and to be honest I wasn't really into him. Apollo was out that day and I obviously went to say hi. The guy went to say hi to Apollo and Apollo actually hissed, that was the first time I ever saw her act violently! He told me cats always run away from him and he prefers dogs because, in his own words, "They'll let me do anything." I cut him off the next day and about a year later I found out from a friend that he has allegedly sexually assaulted someone. Thank you Apollo, you saved me there.
No! I totally get it. If my dog (Elmo) a yellow Labrador who loves everyone & everything growls at someone. I immediately pull away from that person. He has done this to 3 people so far. All 3 of these people have domestic violence charges, sexual battery, child abuse etc. I use been verified to check backgrounds before getting close to anyone. Elmo has never let me down. Now I take him to meet every date before getting close lol 😂
I can relate to the first one so much, there were so many red flags from the beginning that I ignored. It would take me hours to list everything that happened in those 2 years. The final straw was when my dog was killed and I was obviously devastated. Then 2 fucking days later he says he’s not getting enough sex in the relationship and that we should open it up… *only* for him. Not only is that fucked up to demand but literally 2 fucking days after my baby died in a horrific way… And then he had the audacity to get mad when I told him that was fucked up lol I will never let anyone manipulate me and destroy my identity like he did ever again. Be weary of people who radiate charisma yet expect you to always do as they say. It may be too late when you finally realize all the damage that relationship/friendship has caused
Wife says “you’re not allowed to leave me” Understandable given mental state if referring to divorce “As punishment I’m sleeping with 2 other guys” And that’s the exact condition when he is allowed to divorce with no stain on his conscience
If you're bisexual and want to have a boyfriend and girlfriend at the same time, at least be honest about it. Also examine consensual non monogamy if you're going to do that.
I'm a woman and I'm bi. That story was so infuriating. Monogamy, polygamy, open relationships, exclusivity etc are about the type of relationship you're into, nothing to do with sexual preferrences. This is cheating, followed by gaslighting pure and simple.
@@greyscalesx 💯 she should have taken the time to explore what relationship she's looking for before jumping into a relationship. Whether she's mono, non-mono, somewhere in the middle, etc.
Yep, this should apply to everyone. If someone wants the relationship to be monogamous or not, it needs to be discussed. I hate it when one partner pressures the other to have a different relationship style be it open or polyamory - it needs to be talked about. Some poly people can be really toxic in their ways of trying to force people into their lifestyle, just like monogamous people can do it too of course but it seems to be a bit of a trend atm of poly people demanding others who are not poly should date them regardless or pressuring a partner into an open relationship.
@@extremecoolguyyy even polyamory has its own Dynamics including a more exclusive one called polyfidelity, which one is basically monogamous to multiple people and an entirely different ball game. And then there's the poly monocross pairing in which one partner is monogamous but the other isn't. There's no pressure against the monogamous partner in this cross pairing.
I was part of an HR investigation that could not be avoided at our job due to a lot of things coming to light. I testified against a coworker against harassment. Two days later the guy I was with started distancing himself from me as if I was wrong to speak the truth. Pretty much ended it there.
I noped out when after a year & a half of living with my ex's narcissistic ways he decided to assault me in front of her child I was raising as my own, in the house I was paying the mortgage on. Left for a couple days, then came back, changed the locks and took my house back
I'm happy to put 2 stories for this. One girl I dated saw me talking to a girl who was very brief acquaintance and I calmy explained it was nothing and we just said the usual hello how are you and a quick catch up before parting ways. Well, that must not have sat right with my GF who I fully expect to trust me because 5 minutes later when I was driving down the road, I saw my GF running up to the acquaintance and put a look of terror on her face. My friend would have no idea who my girlfriend was since we hardly ever chatted more than 2 minutes at a time when we randomly bump into each other. Anyways my GF didn't realize I drove by and saw all this happen and I immediately told her we were over the moment we talked again. If you can't trust me at my word, then fuck off. Second GF was doing really shady shit behind my back like going to other guys houses and partying/getting drunk. I told her straight up I wasn't cool with that, and she accepted. Well, I invited her out to a party with MY friends one night to introduce her as my GF and stuff, but she wouldn't even get out of the car when we arrived. I took her home and said goodnight before going back to the party. Well, she started fuming that I was the one ditching her and leaving her alone to hang out with strangers. I was fucking flabbergasted. Looked her right in the eye and told her that I fully included her in my plans to go see my friends and have a good time and how she was the one not coming and wanted to be alone. I finally seen all the BS I put up with and said "you know what, this isn't worth it. We are done!" Shut the door and never went back.
I'm always happy when my boyfriend gets friends. He struggles with it so I don't care about the gender. I'm pansexual so technically me being friends with both genders is the same thing as my straight boyfriend being friends with girls. I love him and he loves me and I'm secure enough to know that that's all that matters.
Not really a relationship, but a bad blind date. My mom’s one coworker thought I was perfect for her oldest son. The first date wasn’t bad, but after the 2nd date I overheard from my dad that the coworker had told the son oh your gonna marry this girl and have a big family! We had only been on 2 dates and I could tell he liked me more than I liked him! Not only that but this was the type of family that expected the women to not work and stay home and run the household! I was only 19 at the time I didn’t have wishes of having a baby every 9 months!
Was in complete denial that they liked me. Kept me around while they figured out who they were but never reciprocated anything even they would act territorial and possessive, even hints of jealousy at times.
I got covid, delta variant and was freaking out as my parents who I live with are both highly vulnerable. Bf told me "can't talk, sorry" and vanished until the next morning. Turns out he was tripping on acid with his buddies and I was furious. He was a marine who kept loaded firearms on them. I'm all for taking whatever substances you want, but do it safely! He avoided me for three days after until I finally said "are we gonna talk or?" Then he dumped me for "talking too much." I think I dodged a bullet in the end.
Kinda like the first one where I should have noped out. She put the idea in me of an open relationship I'd say about a year in or so, and later she started complaining about being lonely and not pleasured (long distance btw), so I gave her permission to see someone else as long as I could still come up and visit and do whatever. Thankfully, she let go of me (most likely because she lost feelings but was too guilty to admit it). Of course I didn't take it well, especially because she lied about the reasoning, but now I see it as a blessing in disguise and am glad I am out of that relationship now.
I was engaged to this guy when I was living in Japan. He was the guitarist in the band called 2Bullet, and they make songs about liberation and down with capitalism, peace for the common man, etc. He was amazingly sweet around everyone, so I really thought he was the one. As soon as we moved in together, though, he became physically abusive and also abused prescription drugs. He would throw me onto the floor, throw me against walls, shove me, and attempted to strangle me the very last time, and also attempted false imprisonment by holding me down and not letting me get up for several hours. After the last outburst, I noped the f out and I am so so glad I did. That guy was such a hypocrite. Unfortunately, the police told me that I couldn’t press charges since I wasn’t maimed or bleeding, which was pretty lame, so he didn’t even get a slap on the wrist. :/ But yeah, that was my biggest “nope” moment.
I was ordering a pizza over the phone and clarified to the girl I was with that we could only get 2 toppings on each of the two pizzas to get the deal I was after (not 4 toppings). After I hung up the phone she asked "do you think I'm stupid?" Confused I said "no, I think you misunderstood the deal" She proceeded to start screaming at me variations of "she wasn't stupid, she was smarter than me, I'm an A%%hole, etc" she even hits me a few times and then goes to her room and slammed/locks the door, refusing to answer me. I didn't know what to do so I wait till the pizzas arrive, and pay. Wait a few more minutes then since I'm at her place I just leave. I start walking home since I'm a uni student without a car and the buses stop running at night. It's winter, and I'm not at all dressed for a four-hour walk. Also, way too broke for a cab. I get a phone call asking me what the hell was wrong with me, I didn't lock her door. Why did I leave? Told her that her behavior was totally past my boundaries and I thought it would be best if we didn't keep dating. The story is getting long but suffice it to say SHE DID NOT LIKE THAT ANSWER ONE BIT. My hands were too cold to keep holding my phone out so I eventually hung up on her.
One ex-gf in high school. Everything was fine at first, but after a while, things started to deteriorate. At first, it was little things, nothing major, but started talking about an ex of hers. Tried to get me to hate this dude and beat his ass. I later found out it was an old friend of mine. Turns out that I had completely "forgotten" him since he changed his name back in our freshman year and kinda disappeared the later year. More red flags, such as: - Weird mom and sister, and the sister was always staring at my junk. Wanted nothing to do with that. - Trying to get us to elope while rumors and friends suggested she was a cheater. - Started mouthing off about me within earshot as if I wasn't a foot or so away. Other flags were raised, but you know what the final straw was? The bitch refused to give me back my two-disc Special Edition of Monty Python and the Holy Grail. She was letting her friends borrow it from her without telling me. The day she FINALLY gave it back, I told her "It's over." right in front of her friends and I walked right the fuck off. Yes. Monty Python is far more important than some manipulative bitch.
"It was just meaningless sex, I don't have any feelings for them!" Does anyone ever actually expect that line to work? "Oh really? Well that's fine then I guess. Sleep around all you want, just make sure there's no feelings involved and we're all good."
3rd date, she finally told me she had 3 kids by 3 fathers, but was willing to have more (meaning: mine). Nope. Opened the car door and tucked and rolled out. It was my car and I was driving, but the situation merited radical action.
This wasn't really a relationship, but there was a girl I had a crush on at my college. I tried flirting with her, but she apparently didn't see me as anything more than a friend. It wasn't the rejection that bothered me. What bothered me was that instead of telling me how she really felt, she instead texted me saying that she couldn't be friends with me. I then heard from several friends that she was talking bad about me behind my back. When I tried to confront her about this, she yelled at me in public to leave her alone, which humiliated me. She then told her Resident Dean false things about me, and I had to talk to the RD about it. Thankfully, she understood, and recommended for me to leave her alone. After not talking to me for a month, she suddenly is now trying to talk to me and my friends as if nothing happened, and she's trying to get me and my friends pulled into drama with her ex. I'm currently ignoring her, but she's not picking up on my or my friends' signals that we don't want to talk to her. I'm going to tell her upfront to leave me and my friends alone, and I will get a No Contact Order placed against her if she refuses to listen.
I've dealt with this. A man asked me out a couple of times. In person and in text messages. He got extremely upset when I said no. He began telling our mutual friends that I was annoying him begging him to take me out on a date at an expensive restaurant. They automatically knew this was a lie because I'm one of the most humbled people. I never ask anyone for anything. They told me what he was saying. Then he began posting lies about me and them online. Saying that all the female friends wanted to date him & all male friends wanted to be him. They were jealous of him. I recorded everytime he came around. And saved all text messages. Later he accused our mutual friend of robbing his money from inside his car. I had proof our friend never got in his car because I was recording. We all cut him off. He still tries to come around us. But we all cut him off.
I trauma dump early on, which I know is a red flag, but that's kinda WHY I do it now lmao. Anyway if one more person hears me go off about how I'm afraid of being touched now and then decide "Oh she means everyone except ME!" and then keeps grabbing my hand, I might actually commit a violent felony.
I do the same thing. I have 4 mental diagnosis (medicated so people don't know about them until I tell them) and had a really abusive childhood. I tell people pretty much right away because that tells me if they will judge me or not before I get too attached
i prefer to just wait until i trust the person enough to share such personal info. if we end up being close friends and hang out a lot id trust u enough to share a little bit abt my mental illnesses.
The key is proper communication. My girlfriend tells me that she doesn't like being touched. It's not a trauma thing, it's a social preference. I found this out because I took what she said to mean I should limit the amount of random touching I do with her (simple things like hand on shoulder and back rubs) and she picked up on this. She sat me down and explained what her specific preference was and, while she's not a fan of PDA (which we have in common), she finds misc touching like that to be something reserved for that "special someone" and that she wasn't offended by me doing it. I didn't find it a red flag that she was telling me one of her hangups, even in erroneously presuming it was a trauma response rather than a social preference. She didn't find it a red flag that I overcorrected. The key is we talked and came to an understanding. The issue is people not respecting the personal preferences of their supposed "significant other"
Not that the relationship ended, but I ended my best friend behaviour. My best friend used to constantly lies bc she wanted to "test if I'm loyal/honest to her". Like when we hung out, she would lie about her not remembering correct bills and ask me how much she should pay me back. I'm a light-headed so I would have to went on a hunt for the bills and inform her. Or she'd tell lies abt how some people being mean towards her just to see how I'd react, bla bla bla, you name it. It's funny bc she won't come up with new excuses ya know, so the situations were like scripted events in games lol. This went on for a good while at the start of our "best friend" relationship. When I confronted her abt it, she said it was for the sake of our friendship. She was taken advantage of before she met me by many of her "bffs", so I told her I understand why she wants to "test" me, but I won't be friends with people who lie to me like that. So yeah she stopped, and we're fine now :D
I have never heard a story of a couple going to couples therapy ending well. With how many times I've heard couples resorting to couples therapy and breaking up I'm just convinced it's a scam. If you're at a point with your relationship that you need a third party to intervene, the relationship is already lost.
The idea is its supposed to bring an outside perspective to bring new light onto the situation and help with understanding but, like with normal therapy, people go there expecting it to solve their problems entirely. And then when it doesn't the problem just gets worse
Its seem that people use couples therapy as a last resort or as a way to prove they are right in the relationship. But thats not how therapy works. Its supposed to help you communicate but if your at last resorts and “im 100% right” or you’ve just checked out communication is probably dead and not going to happen without heaps of work. Couples Therapy works better as an check up rather than a resuscitation.
Most people aren't willing to back down. But it does work for those who are open to it and try to do the work. Worked for my cousin's marriage, happy ending for them sofar
I’m about to be out of a 60 day relationship. She’s use to yelling at her Sons and takes that male eating tone with me. Apparently because I won’t allow it she takes the silent treatment for as long as I’ll let it then will claim she don’t know how to talk to me it’s like she’s on eggshells. Then if by the 3rd day I don’t speak to her she’ll walk in the room singing songs centered around her feelings or will just keep sniffling until a phone call comes in and she’s happy but back to sniffling after the car ends. I’m so done!
Oh yes I've dealt with this. What annoyed me is how he would be crying sniffling & so distraught and then jump on his phone laughing about how he was done with me. But then would get off the phone and want to know who I was talking to. Stupid head games. Manipulation tactics.
i had just come out of a long term relation ship with some one i still find to be my best friend and as close as a brother to me now. the guy who i had started dating i met at a con and i was super paranoid of body contact because i was afraid of a few things. weeks down the road things dont seem to be improving with the new guy and when i am like "maybe we should consider just being friends" he went directly to "IF YOU LEAVE ME IM GONA KILL MYSELF" I don't put up with people who use suicide as a means of holding some ones emotions hostage and so i told the dude to have a nice life and i completely blocked him out of my life.
Not me but someone I know; His GF had heard way too many cheating stories in her teens and was basically obsessed with the thought of being cheated on. Demanded he didn't have female friends, work someplace with no female co-workers, got angry when he talked to female relatives, pouted when he talked to his mother and was overall massively controlling. He dealt with it thinking she was just traumatized from every one of her previous relationships ending in cheating. Turned out she never got cheated on. Her BFs just got sick of it and dumped her, which she took as definitive proof of their cheating. Now she's one of those militant online feminists who hate men with a burning passion and spends her free time on social media spitting venom at men.
A friend of mine was in prison for 5 yrs for a crime he did not commit when he was 1. He was S.A. in there. He was exonerated and about 3 yrs later he met his ex wife. They were married for all of 2 yrs when at a party, he didn't want to drink anymore cause he was already feeling a good buzz. For some reason that upset his ex and she yelled directly in his face, " THATS WHY THE EFFED YOU IN PRISON CAUSE YOU ACT LIKE A BIT@H" The gutted look on his face turned to very hurt tears, he dropped down in a puddle pulling his legs to his chest and sobbed. Once my friend and I got him into the car, I went back inside, suffice it to say it took 3 grown men to get me off her. I tried with everything in me to end her life that night. 11 yrs later he's happily married to a beautiful woman and they are talking about starting a family and I just got off of probation. It was 100% worth it.
This girl i met at my first college and I talked after graduation and set up a date at starbucks. We go and enjoy a nice conversation and out of nowhere she says "I don't believe in interracial relationships." I was completely dumbfounded as I don't recall us even talking about the topic of race or relationships. She also knew I'm half Asian and Caucasian. So I look at her and go "you know I'm the byproduct of an interracial couple, right?" and her response still makes me laugh to this day. "Yeah, but you don't look different so it's ok. I have a friend who's black and her boyfriend is white and I don't think they should be together." Needless to say, there was no second date.
It wasn't a relationship, but he was sending a lot of signals that seemed like he wanted to date me, and I was getting to know him as a friend. Was the same-age-as-me teenaged son of one of my Mom's childhood friends, who had moved back into our neighborhood. He would chat me up when they would visit, seemed nice enough at first, and gradually began walking over on his own to ask if I wanted to sit outside for a chat or go for walks in the neighborhood. Two things. 1. He started to do this thing where, if I was touching up my appearance in a basic way before going someplace, he would quietly walk over and stand in the bathroom door to watch while casually chatting with me....if I was combing my hair or applying mascara, it was fine. But if I brushed my teeth he would break off in mid sentence and just stare fixated, open mouthed, in the creepiest way. If I stopped to say his name, he wouldn't respond, would just stare at my mouth. I stopped brushing my teeth if he was present. It really freaked me out 2. Was the red flag. We were out walking one day, and he started talking about how "some girls and women" dress, though he wasn't specific. He started talking About how thoughtless they could be, and then said (maybe you guessed it) That women who dressed "like that" were asking to be.... let's say "assaulted"...and that it was their own fault if they were, and that men shouldn't be held accountable for their behavior with women who dressed provocatively. I was surprised and distressed by that, and tried to disagree, but he get a little bit keyed up about it,and insisted that I had to agree that they were "asking for it." It was at that moment that I realized we were alone on the street, and that he was much larger than I was and I thought "oh wow, I see....I've been very stupid". So I gave a very neutral answer that could be understood as agreeing with him, and he seemed satisfied, and we kept walking. He saw me home and I made an excuse and went upstairs and never hung out with him alone again. A few years later he and a male friend dropped out of high school because a Ouija board told them to 😑 he moved away and I never saw him again!
I'm a man and it still amazes me how often I hear other dudes say the same things as you described this fella doing. We are very sexually driven as a gender so I do understand why they come to these conclusions about women wearing exposing clothing because it comes off as invite for males to advance. Most women are dressing this way for the sole purpose of attracting certain men. There is an instinctual force within us when it comes to the mating process. Most of us have enough common sense to not act upon the urge, along with a moral sense of understanding it's wrong. While women should feel free to wear whatever they want, there is a reason that women have always been encouraged to dress modestly because there is a small amount of the male population that have no self control or moral awareness because they are weak minded individuals and typically sexually frustrated because they are not getting women. Also, that dude that started getting weird when you brushed your teeth, it's because it looks like a sexually suggestive motion. While no fault of your own, that dude is thinking about sexual things 24/7. He's driven by it, so his extreme views are mostly just a product of sexual frustration, lack of success with women, which turns into anger. He doesn't want to be held accountable for his actions because he feels like a victim of women leading men on through sexually suggestive things. If you dress and act modestly, you are less likely to be assaulted, will be taken more seriously, and will probably end up in a long term marriage with a family and home. You are always free to do what you want but there is consequences to everything in life. Men should always be held accountable for assault, but dressing modestly could be the difference between assault or avoidance. Unfortunately, there is a fair amount of guys out there that don't follow the rules. This isn't an excuse for their behavior, it's just an explanation with a rather simple solution. Stay safe out there.
Was with thus girl who was emotionally unstable. She would block my number when she had a mental lapse and threatened to end her life. Kept asking for money, complained about her weight, she was just not in a good headspace at all. I could go on and on about it. She accused me of cheating every time i talked to any other female. Blocked me when i was talking to my mom and then apologized saying “im nothing without my meds”. I broke up with her on new year’s eve 2018. I was worried she’d lose her mind and take her life. Thankfully she hasnt. But it was difficult to get out of there. It only lasted about 7 months
complained about my family and friends, then started screaming and gaslighting me. I was trying to help him with his mental health (really, really shitty/ abusive father). Left after he went off on my parents for no reason, like he did on me all the time, then realised it was over when he refused to get professional help - until he realised he couldnt get early retirement unless he did. Went out the next day to sort it. Never followed through with it of course, just did it long enough to get his pension. Realised that I loved the man he wanted to be, not the man he was, and that he was too damn selfish to work at being the person I fell in love with. Took me two years to find the real me again. The dogs took longer. Thank God there were no kids involved!
This has reminded of a guy I was on a second date with. We were on a walk and he tells me that he wanted to join the military to see what it was like to kill someone 😑
I had been seeing this one girl for a few weeks. We had planned on finally spending the night together and I was really looking forward to it. About an hour before we're supposed to meet, she texts me to tell me she'll be late because her co-workers wanted to hang out and casually mentions they already did some coke together. Keep in mind she's also a recovering addict who I decided to give a chance to because she's been sober for a few years. I didn't immediately end things, more so because I was so caught off guard by what she said that it left me in a state of shock, followed by a fit of laughter. I then texted her that I'm calling the night off. Never saw her again after that.
Girlfriend of 2.5 years told me she can’t even go to a party without worrying about cheating on me. I appreciated the sentiment but wasn’t going to be there with her while she fought that battle the rest of her life.
During a make out session that got very hot and heavy, he called my sister's name in his high of passion. I was young and dumb and played stupid. The breaking point however was when he damned for me to come over to his house after getting his wisedom teeth pulled, only for him to to use me as his verbal punching bag and that getting upset when I decided I'd rather be stuck at home than trapped in a house that wasn't mine with a person who seemed to clearly not want me there.
My ex-husband: I found out he was cheating with numerous other guys, and had a reputation as basically the town bicycle, which he enjoyed. He insisted that he needed this and refused to stop, which I (stupidly) accepted. Eventually I made one male friend. I didn't so much as kiss this guy, but my ex got jealous and insisted I break it off. I knew enough to see it as hypocritical but didn't divorce him over that. I divorced him because I realized that I wasn't comfortable sleeping when he was in the house and only felt safe if I could sleep while he was was at work and while I had the bedroom door locked from the inside. Also, when he was driving, he sometimes talked about how he could drive off a cliff and kill us both, so... yeah, I should have noped out of that so much more quickly than I did.
There was so much nope leading up to it but the moment of truth for me was when he tried to get me to fire the gun he was so proud of owning, and when I refused (having shown a LOT of discomfort over the gun already) he fired it himself. No words, just got in my car and left. Honestly, I should have done that when he pulled a new bike out of his shed and said 'I'm not sure where I got this, I must have stolen it when I was drunk. You wanna buy it?' (WTF was wrong with my dumb ass?!)
Hoooo boy, this is a doozy, first relationship too. She at first said she saw me as a sister when I got the courage to ask her out, no big deal. Month later, she asked me out, which I said yes to. Then came a year and a half but a very concerning year. She was 18, I was 17, we have very strict stagetory rape laws and everyone in school who didn't know us said I was dating a pedophile and needed to get out of there but I didn't think so cause it was a post-birthday thing. Then came what she was into, aside from gaslighting me for not talking 24/7 which now makes me scared when I'm ignored for a couple hours (still working on it now). See, I'm autistic, so school life is overstimulating and I take a break for hours after. I tried to explain it to her, but she demanded she was high priority and needed to respect her, so I had no choice but to follow to be a good partner. Then came after the rival release for Yandere Simulator. I still hate all the fans for this because it's so common even after the failed PornHub collab. She was into rping and we would do it by writing responses as texts or written on paper as separate journals during sleepovers. I was never really comfortable with age differences with minors, even at 17 years, because it feels wrong, but she almost won by making me be Taro Yamada and her be the adult rivals even when I told her they both actively rape boys. She ignored it and I pushed it off until we did something else. Something else, I like watching smut of other characters but I have really bad sexual trauma and never liked the concept of making out or having sex with someone. With that in mind, she kept trying to force me into it. She was significantly larger and stronger than me, so the only way I wasn't raped either awake or in my sleep was either friends/school bell/appointments/her being tired. Every time I mentioned slight things to my mom, she said there was some stuff that was weird, but never advised anything. My now current partner has been the most helpful. And my cat allergy got in the way of sleepovers, especially because my ex's mom and her hoard cats well before the pet limit increased, and they both never cleaned the litter so there was piss everywhere and I was at a sleepover one last time before my throat started closing. Then my ex got jealous because I had sleepovers with others even when I told her my throat was closing at her house specifically and she said "Fine, you want to be a whore? I'll be one too and make you watch~" even when I told her I cannot die at her house from the ammonia and cat allergy infestation. I started to think bad thoughts of myself, of submitting and letting her have her way because I was fresh from losing my entire family to an abandoning father, until she abandoned me too and never talked to me for months after our anniversary. Even when we were sitting across from each other, she ignored my existence. And then called me an abusive rapist out loud (quite loud) and that was how we broke up. Even after breaking up, I saw photos of my chest when I was sleeping on her phone cause she left it behind when she went to the bathroom. I had shirts and pants on when I would sleep over but had no idea. And after? She literally said "Now I've got disability points, don't ever date retards." So after surviving a 400-person kill list school shooting the same year we broke up with only autistic and mentally disabled victims including myself? I got scared for my life and cut off all ties with her, especially since it was the same year a 45 y.o. woman stalked me and threatened to impregnate me for flaming her publicly as a child rapist until I got her to fuck off back to Brazil after she found my neighborhood which I never disclosed post-breakup. 2020 quarantine comes, and I now am in a safe and much better relationship with the same person who helped me with my ex and gave proper advice. It feels unbelievably better because I'm not being groomed into getting everything for my partner, she insists to pay for things because I have only college money and not job paychecks. Make sure that the person you date isn't into raping children AT ALL COSTS.
There was a situation about a month ago where he broke up with me over a hypothetical, nonexistent situation and he didn’t consider what would make me happy only himself. I was I guess so wrapped up I stayed but I did eventually get fed up. Here it goes… My ex is allergic to cats and I have two. I understand pet allergies can be something to consider when in a relationship. We were together about 6 months and every time he came to my place he’d take allergy medication. So I’m thinking, everything is fine. He’s been around my cats and played with them, cool. Then he talks about living together in the future one day and he says “I don’t want any cats in the house, I don’t want to be uncomfortable in my home and having to take allergy meds.” He was uncompromising. I posed the solution “hey maybe they can be in a separate room.” But nope. No cats in the house. So I mention okay if we have a back yard maybe they can be in a converted tiny house. He gets what he wants and I don’t have to dreadfully think about re-homing my cats and being without them. He says no to that also. Mind you we both live with our parents and good financial standing was nonexistent for us both. So a house let alone an apartment was down the road. So I couldn’t understand why are we discussing something that we should solve as we go. His response to the tiny house was “no I’m not going to let you spend money on a tiny house.” and “they won’t get the love they need” and “a shed isn’t good enough” ?????? Yes he said these things. That told me everything that he doesn’t care about how I feel thinking about letting go of my cats. One that I’ve had since I was a kid. Pets are really really important. He wouldn’t entertain solutions where he gets what he wants and I as well. It was just his way or the highway. So he basically broke up with me because I didn’t say yes, I’ll give up my cats for you. I didn’t see it at the time but I definitely dodged one. I would think if you love someone you’d be all for solutions and not posing “me or the animal” type things
I dated a guy in high school that was “asexual” (I’m not dissing asexuals you’ll see why it’s in quotations). We were at my house for maybe the second time and about 2 weeks into our relationship. He told me he wanted to do this thing where basically we were writing smut, but about each other and passing the notebook back and forth. I was down to try it so I did and as soon as the foreplay kid of stopped it was REALLY creepy. He wanted me to call him daddy/master and he was writing about some pretty sadistic things about me. Mind you it wouldn’t have been that bad but we were like 14. The second he reached into his pants I was like YEAH NO THATS ENOUGH. In all fairness he stopped immediately and we never did it again. Broke up maybe a week later. He was a sweet dude though.
One time this guy jumped on the hood of my car after I dumped him and was trying to leave. Another time my ex-fiancé said he wanted to see me get jealous and stalk him. After I dumped him, too, I realized Gemini ain’t my bag 😂😅
I was the other guy with a chick for a few months. She ended up leaving him and moving in with someone else for a short while. She told me some of how he was abusive, but one thing in particular really soured my stomach. She had said that he had threatened to R* her 6 yr old Infront of her. . . So, when she went and moved back in with him I went No Contact. She ran into me eventually and was crying and talking and I just wasn't really engaging and she said "you really don't want anything more to do with me?" And I just said "No, not really" and walked away leaving her bawling her eyes out.
He stole from me, both money and things, in order to buy beer and cigarettes. I was unhappy with him in other ways that I could have gotten over, but that was the final straw for me.
This dude I was seeing became very clingy. He would get upset if I didn’t reply right away or didn’t answer a question. He would also try to guilt trip me into seeing him that day when I already had plans made or when I simply didn’t want to go out that day. It had only been one month of knowing him.
She started a relationship with me 3 days into knowing her, and she knew fully well that it was going to be long distance and that I can't be there with her physically really often and that I'm a fucking person with needs of affection to be reciprocated. She just eventually broke up with me 3 times and got back together twice until she finally decided " the distance was too much for her". She even went on to say that she knew we wouldn't work out because of the distance and that she was just " dating around". She knew I wanted something serious and she played me, but she just went on to love bomb me and continuously say she "still loved me" and "missed me" even though she had no intention of trying to make it work. Then she just started posting about her new boyfriend and how she was " so glad she chose him". She dated him more than once before, even complained about him while we were still dating, the fucking audacity. And I even went on to say how she can't go on and pull me in like that if she's just going to date someone else. She just replied with " yeah but I still love you, it's just the distance", well she clearly didn't love me enough to wait until we didn't have any distance between us. I told her that and she went on to say "are you really trying to make me feel guilty right now?" Was she fucking serious? She was a little bit younger than me and said constantly, "i'm sorry i'm not as mature as you are, it's because you're older than me." Maturity is a mindset and clearly not an age, she's not mature enough to maintain a relationship if she truly really wants one. We dated for about a month, now I seriously can't say I miss her because she really was just in it for situational reaffirmation, she ghosted me constantly when she was upset even though I had nothing to do with any of it. She even ghosted me when I was upset, because my issues and disheartening tellings of my past experiences made her sad. A complete waste of time to be honest, and even when she said she wanted to stay friends, she couldn't ever talk to me because I gave her panic attacks by just trying to make sure she was doing well. She kept contradicting herself by saying I wasn't the problem even though every issue she had was apparently "my doing", even when I hadn't even spoken to her for weeks on end. I just eventually blocked her on everything and now I feel so much fucking better.
She wouldn't officially say yes to being my girlfriend. Her best friend openly hated me, and insulted me. She thought it wasn't cheating if it was with someone of the same sex as her. She was afraid of her ex, who kept coming by. She kept inviting me to clean up after each holiday, that I wasn't invited to. She expected me to fund everything for her, while basically not letting me be involved in anything. She never asked what I wanted, ever, just expected me to do whatever she wanted, without telling me what it was that she wanted.
Dated a guy mostly because friend(one of his hs best friends) and his gf really wanted us to be together. We tried it out and ended it after awhile as nothing really was happening. No bad blood cuz we’re both mod-late 20’s and we’re not that bad of people. I wind up leaving the group and didn’t talk to really anyone from the group for about 2 years as there wasn’t much need and I was one of the more recent ones to be apart of it. Recently, the hs friend reached out and I’m suspicious about it but whatever. Eventually the hs friend said I should check up on ex-bf due to all sort of drama his family is in and he was so happy when I was around. Ex was/is a nice guy but I’m not getting back together with him until that whole new drama gets fixed. I’m not a fixer kind of person for that situation. I don’t mind being there for a friend but that drama is not something I’ll sign up for.
I was 22 when I decided I was finally ready for my first relationship. I had never been with or let anyone touch me before so I was really innocent. I thought she would be good for me since we went to high school together and she seemed so sweet. However, she wanted me back then when I wasn’t ready so when I rejected her then she assumed I wanted to play with her feelings again even though I was serious about her. She was desperate for me and love in general so she threw herself at me and pressured me to have sex with her even though I told her I wanted to take it slow. What I didn’t know was that the girl I once thought was good and sweet had turned out to be broken and toxic in many ways now in life. I was too naive to understand all the red flags so for two years i ended up being constantly manipulated, forced into having sex even though i hated it, falling into drugs so badly I almost lost myself and the trust of my family. She was possessive and jealous so I fell off from most people in my life. Every time I tried to leave she would manipulate me into staying no matter what. Even if that meant she would threaten me with either killing herself or me because she refused to let me live without her. She didn’t work for the two years we were together so I paid for everything including hundreds a week on drugs just to make her happy. She had a terrible home life and family so I assumed she would change if I tried my best, but I still ended up cheated on and reminded constantly that she could do better than me simply bc she had a pretty face. Worst part about it was that she claimed to be a lesbian, but she cheated on me with her male best friend a couple of times and several others too behind my back while she would constantly assume I was cheating on her instead. When we would drink we would fight physically, but she would still hit me when she was sober anyway.
small world Damaged goods. New guy pays for the damage done by previous lovers+low accountability on her part+ higher probability that connections/bonds will not form Solution: low body count, respectful, bright, young women.
Many things, but the last was him threatening to shoot me while he was on a call with someone, because I kept asking for help with my taxes. Which I hadn't asked alot. I just woke up a bit ago, like 9pm and now it's 1 am, from having dream where he and some chick shows up so he can slyly slander me without doing it directly and I lost my shiet and started attacking him. My dream self does these things, always crying, yelling, attacking, while I could never do anything irl because I have reason to fear for my life if I attacked him or did anything. I like living. If I die, I don't want it to be by him.
My last dream left me devastated where I'd keep things organized and picked up,but my ex would come through and start destroying and tossing stuff around. Me yelling and screaming in my dreams to stop left me depressed that day.
my ex ldr started an argument with me when i told her i was okay with her being bi when she came out to me. next day she asked me if i was pissed at her and i said why would i be pissed. she said its because she said she was bi yesterday so i told her i accept her for who she is, i dont care if she is bi and im totally fine with it and its not a dealbreaker at all. she then told me the reason she came out is because she wanted to know if its okay if she can sleep with other girls. here's the thing, she told me she wanted to wait for a bit before we had sex and i respected that. i dont want her to do anything she is not comfortable yet. but thing is when i asked her if she would be comfortable with me sleeping with other girls and she couldnt say anything. she just went quiet. so i told her it didn't seem as if she would be comfortable with me sleeping with someone else so how would it be fair that she gets to have her bit of fun when she isn't ready to have sex with me yet. i dont even want to be in an open relationship at all. cant remember the argument exactly but i did remember that she was trying to justify stuff. i just told her outright i would not be comfortable with it and if she did, it would mean that she cheated on me. ironically, she accused me of cheating on her about a month later and her suspicions arised because she saw me texting a groupchat back and she told me she had been cheated on in the past. there were other stuff that led to the breakup but i really did feel her 'is it okay if i can sleep with a girl but idk if ill be okay with you sleeping with other girls' ended any feelings i had with her
I didn't realize it but one of my exes was cheating on me having sex with other dudes behind my back and claimed she was a Christian but one day a friend of mine caught her having sex with another dude and called me immediately. that girl and i broke up that day.
"If we can't agree on how to eat tuna, how will this ever work?!" Ladies and gents, if your SO ever unironically spouts a line that sounds like a punchline on Friends- probably a Ross line- the time to rethink your relationship is behind you and something needs to be done about it.
I was the horrible boyfriend, not gonna say what i did but i was very toxic and selfish. We are still friends and i have changed. Still need to but im glad im not as horrible as before.
GF was part of a group of adoptees who would plan ways of getting back at their biological parents. She had loving parents yet wanted to make her bio mums life hell. All came to a head when she realised i knew her half sisters……….i met my now wife the same night i walked out of that relationship.
Telling me I “had to come around his family more” meanwhile we spent almost every date at his parents house… I broke up with him on the spot because a man will never tell me what I HAVE to do. Oh yeah and he’d never even met my grandparents and came to my house once during our entire relationship.
The beautiful woman was always talking about UFOs, aliens, ghosts, and spirits. I really did not mind it until she wanted me to contact the spirit that was constantly with me. She pulled out an Ouija board and wanted me to drink something. She said few have a spirit with them all the time. If my spirit was evil, she could not stay with me. I slid the Ouija board pointer around the board, hissed like I was possessed, stood up, and said, "The spirit is evil, pure evil!" I walked out out of her house and kept walking. I walked all the way home because she drove me to her house. I never heard from her again. She can do an exorcisim on her next boyfriend.
How about asking her to be your girl a few times and she says no , because it wasn’t special so I ignore it then next thing you know a month later I try to surprise visit she’s like why? Then next thing you know she hits me with the Let’s go to the bar but you should pretend to be gay so we can get free drinks 😂😂 I left my ass out her apartment when she was in the bathroom 💀
I asked this girl out a few months ago, and she said that liked me, but she didn’t feel quite feel like starting a relationship. No big deal. That happens sometimes. At this point, we’ve known each other for a while and we start texting a fair amount. It’s clear that she’s into me; she smiles to me at school, sits by me in classes, and she even remembered my birthday. A few weeks ago, we got invited to a “party” (there were only ~15 people there), and I mention it to her. She said “Oh!”, blushed, and ran over to her gaggle of friends. She whispered something to them and they all shake their head and shoot me dirty looks. She went over to me and politely declined. I was absolutely appalled that she would let her friends dictate her decisions. For anyone who’s looking for a stable relationship, don’t choose someone whose friends control what they do.
That’s toxic as heck bro. I’m sorry that happened to you! I’m also sorry for her, because she’s gonna realize one day how much letting her friends dictate her decisions like that will hurt her. If I had listened to my friends about relationship “advice” (who made NO valid points at all), then I wouldn’t be with who is now my wife. Keep looking man! You’ll find the one!
I aggree with this one. Sometimes the problem are not just the friends but the girl as well.
Exactly, then when you point out the blatant manipulation or bad influences you become the bad guy.
Should ask her why.
@@GalliaUchiha I’m planning on doing that at some point
He was incredibly jealous and insecure. He said “you don’t need friends, you’ve got me.” But the final straw was when he accused me of cheating on him; with my brother in law; whilst my 8 month old nephew was in hospital.
“The Barefoot Witch”… By any chance are you related to the guy mentioned two posts below yours in which it was said he took his shoes off and made the whole room smell like a dumpster? 😂 (couldn’t resist)
I repel those... they just want to mount you but not care for what you are. Predatory.
Were you? I didn't hear a denial.
Last time I ever tried to date a guy I opened up about being asexual and he just said "That's alright, so long as you just lay back and let me do things to you" I was kind of terrified and stopped all contact. Thankfully he gave up after a while, and I gave up on dating.
That's a creepy response.
In the opening stages of considering a relationship, he obviously needs to know that you're asexual (that was totally appropriate and responsible on your part) and what kind of asexual you are, because that may be too difficult for some people....but you don't just reply with "it will be fine so long as I can do whatever I want to you like you're a marionette"
Gross, dude. **Rolls up a newspaper for smacking** No! No!
Wow, yeah, that's a huge red flag. It reminded of a guy I dated who said he wanted to join the military to see what it was like to kill someone 😑
@The XXX Experience Given your comment, your screen name mad me lol
Thats disgusting
Why would you date if you’re asexual though? Genuinely curious 🤔
The dude would not respect boundaries or my wish to not rush things. He started love bombing the hell out of me, blowing up my phone on the daily, saying "I love you" way too soon, and trying to get me to move in with him despite me saying (many times) that I was uncomfortable with that. His own friends even saw how creeped out I was. We only dated for 2 months.
Same experience didn't even date him told him I had zero interest in him. Kept threatening to kill himself. Told him to do it for the sake of humanity. Got the cops involved when he showed up at my former job with a gun. Still tries to text me demanding I have his kids. Fucker was 21 and "autistic" fuck I hate people
Not really a relationship, but still:
A former work colleague was obviously interested in me. She wanted to work with me as often as possible and several times she encouraged me to just "take" her right there and then. I was very hesistant as I had never been in a relationship before, but I wasn't 100% sure what to do. Then she started telling me about her future plans; mainly how she wanted to be a single mum. This made me back off so after a while she lost interest in me. Not long after this, she found another guy and only a few months later she announed her pregnancy. They got married (I think it was pressure from the guy's family as they are quite conservative and tradition-bound) shortly before she gave birth to a daughter. No more than 2 months passed before she got pregnant again. After she gave birth to the second child she basically told the guy she didn't love him anymore and wanted to divorce him. The marriage lasted 14 months or so.
Glad I wasn't part of that.
This one will sound weird unless you are a huge cat lover but I befriend a lot of street cats. If I see them regularly I name them. I have one cat I named Apollo, since at the time I was naming them after greek gods. Apollo is a literal ray of sunshine. She walks me home and meows to greet me whenever she sees me. I've also introduced her to some friends and she was equally as friendly. I was talking with this guy and to be honest I wasn't really into him. Apollo was out that day and I obviously went to say hi. The guy went to say hi to Apollo and Apollo actually hissed, that was the first time I ever saw her act violently! He told me cats always run away from him and he prefers dogs because, in his own words, "They'll let me do anything." I cut him off the next day and about a year later I found out from a friend that he has allegedly sexually assaulted someone. Thank you Apollo, you saved me there.
No! I totally get it. If my dog (Elmo) a yellow Labrador who loves everyone & everything growls at someone. I immediately pull away from that person. He has done this to 3 people so far. All 3 of these people have domestic violence charges, sexual battery, child abuse etc. I use been verified to check backgrounds before getting close to anyone. Elmo has never let me down. Now I take him to meet every date before getting close lol 😂
Animals always know. If you don’t like my animals, or my animals, don’t like you… I don’t trust you.
@@TruecrimeWithAlicia my Doggo Blair is the exact same way. If she doesn’t like you, I don’t like you.
Wow that's crazy 😵
Thank you, Apollo! 😄
I can relate to the first one so much, there were so many red flags from the beginning that I ignored. It would take me hours to list everything that happened in those 2 years.
The final straw was when my dog was killed and I was obviously devastated. Then 2 fucking days later he says he’s not getting enough sex in the relationship and that we should open it up… *only* for him.
Not only is that fucked up to demand but literally 2 fucking days after my baby died in a horrific way…
And then he had the audacity to get mad when I told him that was fucked up lol
I will never let anyone manipulate me and destroy my identity like he did ever again.
Be weary of people who radiate charisma yet expect you to always do as they say. It may be too late when you finally realize all the damage that relationship/friendship has caused
Wife says “you’re not allowed to leave me”
Understandable given mental state if referring to divorce
“As punishment I’m sleeping with 2 other guys”
And that’s the exact condition when he is allowed to divorce with no stain on his conscience
If you're bisexual and want to have a boyfriend and girlfriend at the same time, at least be honest about it. Also examine consensual non monogamy if you're going to do that.
I'm a woman and I'm bi.
That story was so infuriating.
Monogamy, polygamy, open relationships, exclusivity etc are about the type of relationship you're into, nothing to do with sexual preferrences.
This is cheating, followed by gaslighting pure and simple.
@@greyscalesx 💯 she should have taken the time to explore what relationship she's looking for before jumping into a relationship. Whether she's mono, non-mono, somewhere in the middle, etc.
Yep, this should apply to everyone. If someone wants the relationship to be monogamous or not, it needs to be discussed. I hate it when one partner pressures the other to have a different relationship style be it open or polyamory - it needs to be talked about. Some poly people can be really toxic in their ways of trying to force people into their lifestyle, just like monogamous people can do it too of course but it seems to be a bit of a trend atm of poly people demanding others who are not poly should date them regardless or pressuring a partner into an open relationship.
@@extremecoolguyyy even polyamory has its own Dynamics including a more exclusive one called polyfidelity, which one is basically monogamous to multiple people and an entirely different ball game. And then there's the poly monocross pairing in which one partner is monogamous but the other isn't. There's no pressure against the monogamous partner in this cross pairing.
@@dae6736 I don't. I'm sure only a certain few are.
I was part of an HR investigation that could not be avoided at our job due to a lot of things coming to light. I testified against a coworker against harassment. Two days later the guy I was with started distancing himself from me as if I was wrong to speak the truth. Pretty much ended it there.
I noped out when after a year & a half of living with my ex's narcissistic ways he decided to assault me in front of her child I was raising as my own, in the house I was paying the mortgage on. Left for a couple days, then came back, changed the locks and took my house back
I'm happy to put 2 stories for this. One girl I dated saw me talking to a girl who was very brief acquaintance and I calmy explained it was nothing and we just said the usual hello how are you and a quick catch up before parting ways. Well, that must not have sat right with my GF who I fully expect to trust me because 5 minutes later when I was driving down the road, I saw my GF running up to the acquaintance and put a look of terror on her face. My friend would have no idea who my girlfriend was since we hardly ever chatted more than 2 minutes at a time when we randomly bump into each other. Anyways my GF didn't realize I drove by and saw all this happen and I immediately told her we were over the moment we talked again. If you can't trust me at my word, then fuck off. Second GF was doing really shady shit behind my back like going to other guys houses and partying/getting drunk. I told her straight up I wasn't cool with that, and she accepted. Well, I invited her out to a party with MY friends one night to introduce her as my GF and stuff, but she wouldn't even get out of the car when we arrived. I took her home and said goodnight before going back to the party. Well, she started fuming that I was the one ditching her and leaving her alone to hang out with strangers. I was fucking flabbergasted. Looked her right in the eye and told her that I fully included her in my plans to go see my friends and have a good time and how she was the one not coming and wanted to be alone. I finally seen all the BS I put up with and said "you know what, this isn't worth it. We are done!" Shut the door and never went back.
Respect for not taking any bullshit.
@@asura5806 I still think back and am still proud of never letting myself be manipulated
I'm always happy when my boyfriend gets friends. He struggles with it so I don't care about the gender. I'm pansexual so technically me being friends with both genders is the same thing as my straight boyfriend being friends with girls. I love him and he loves me and I'm secure enough to know that that's all that matters.
@@francescaperron2003 your relationship sounds like a huge W
Not really a relationship, but a bad blind date. My mom’s one coworker thought I was perfect for her oldest son. The first date wasn’t bad, but after the 2nd date I overheard from my dad that the coworker had told the son oh your gonna marry this girl and have a big family! We had only been on 2 dates and I could tell he liked me more than I liked him! Not only that but this was the type of family that expected the women to not work and stay home and run the household! I was only 19 at the time I didn’t have wishes of having a baby every 9 months!
Sounds like you dodged a bullet!
Idk if that's a red flag, more like a severe difference in intrests
Was in complete denial that they liked me. Kept me around while they figured out who they were but never reciprocated anything even they would act territorial and possessive, even hints of jealousy at times.
Thomas was horrified, it didn’t even take a minute for him to start reversing and he ran away without looking back
I got covid, delta variant and was freaking out as my parents who I live with are both highly vulnerable. Bf told me "can't talk, sorry" and vanished until the next morning. Turns out he was tripping on acid with his buddies and I was furious. He was a marine who kept loaded firearms on them. I'm all for taking whatever substances you want, but do it safely! He avoided me for three days after until I finally said "are we gonna talk or?" Then he dumped me for "talking too much." I think I dodged a bullet in the end.
She forgot to tell me that she was already married, until I proposed to her. Then was pissed.
Yikes
Kinda like the first one where I should have noped out. She put the idea in me of an open relationship I'd say about a year in or so, and later she started complaining about being lonely and not pleasured (long distance btw), so I gave her permission to see someone else as long as I could still come up and visit and do whatever. Thankfully, she let go of me (most likely because she lost feelings but was too guilty to admit it). Of course I didn't take it well, especially because she lied about the reasoning, but now I see it as a blessing in disguise and am glad I am out of that relationship now.
I was engaged to this guy when I was living in Japan. He was the guitarist in the band called 2Bullet, and they make songs about liberation and down with capitalism, peace for the common man, etc. He was amazingly sweet around everyone, so I really thought he was the one. As soon as we moved in together, though, he became physically abusive and also abused prescription drugs. He would throw me onto the floor, throw me against walls, shove me, and attempted to strangle me the very last time, and also attempted false imprisonment by holding me down and not letting me get up for several hours. After the last outburst, I noped the f out and I am so so glad I did. That guy was such a hypocrite. Unfortunately, the police told me that I couldn’t press charges since I wasn’t maimed or bleeding, which was pretty lame, so he didn’t even get a slap on the wrist. :/
But yeah, that was my biggest “nope” moment.
I was ordering a pizza over the phone and clarified to the girl I was with that we could only get 2 toppings on each of the two pizzas to get the deal I was after (not 4 toppings). After I hung up the phone she asked "do you think I'm stupid?"
Confused I said "no, I think you misunderstood the deal"
She proceeded to start screaming at me variations of "she wasn't stupid, she was smarter than me, I'm an A%%hole, etc" she even hits me a few times and then goes to her room and slammed/locks the door, refusing to answer me.
I didn't know what to do so I wait till the pizzas arrive, and pay. Wait a few more minutes then since I'm at her place I just leave.
I start walking home since I'm a uni student without a car and the buses stop running at night. It's winter, and I'm not at all dressed for a four-hour walk. Also, way too broke for a cab.
I get a phone call asking me what the hell was wrong with me, I didn't lock her door. Why did I leave?
Told her that her behavior was totally past my boundaries and I thought it would be best if we didn't keep dating. The story is getting long but suffice it to say SHE DID NOT LIKE THAT ANSWER ONE BIT. My hands were too cold to keep holding my phone out so I eventually hung up on her.
Should have ate some pizza, put the leftovers in the fridge. and crashed on her couch for the night. no way im walking 4 hours to get home.
One ex-gf in high school.
Everything was fine at first, but after a while, things started to deteriorate.
At first, it was little things, nothing major, but started talking about an ex of hers. Tried to get me to hate this dude and beat his ass. I later found out it was an old friend of mine. Turns out that I had completely "forgotten" him since he changed his name back in our freshman year and kinda disappeared the later year.
More red flags, such as:
- Weird mom and sister, and the sister was always staring at my junk. Wanted nothing to do with that.
- Trying to get us to elope while rumors and friends suggested she was a cheater.
- Started mouthing off about me within earshot as if I wasn't a foot or so away.
Other flags were raised, but you know what the final straw was? The bitch refused to give me back my two-disc Special Edition of Monty Python and the Holy Grail. She was letting her friends borrow it from her without telling me.
The day she FINALLY gave it back, I told her "It's over." right in front of her friends and I walked right the fuck off.
Yes. Monty Python is far more important than some manipulative bitch.
even though i don`t know what the Monty Python is, but if its Special Edition, IT IS IMPORTANT!
@@adlan_kacakDude wtf..
"It was just meaningless sex, I don't have any feelings for them!"
Does anyone ever actually expect that line to work?
"Oh really? Well that's fine then I guess. Sleep around all you want, just make sure there's no feelings involved and we're all good."
"You know, I think therapy might help with that."
"Why should I go to therapy, when I have you?"
Not for long 😬
"The therapist is gonna be a lot nicer about it, trust me."
3rd date, she finally told me she had 3 kids by 3 fathers, but was willing to have more (meaning: mine).
Nope.
Opened the car door and tucked and rolled out.
It was my car and I was driving, but the situation merited radical action.
I survived 7 years of one like the first story and let me tell you, my trauma now runs deep.
This wasn't really a relationship, but there was a girl I had a crush on at my college. I tried flirting with her, but she apparently didn't see me as anything more than a friend. It wasn't the rejection that bothered me. What bothered me was that instead of telling me how she really felt, she instead texted me saying that she couldn't be friends with me. I then heard from several friends that she was talking bad about me behind my back. When I tried to confront her about this, she yelled at me in public to leave her alone, which humiliated me. She then told her Resident Dean false things about me, and I had to talk to the RD about it. Thankfully, she understood, and recommended for me to leave her alone. After not talking to me for a month, she suddenly is now trying to talk to me and my friends as if nothing happened, and she's trying to get me and my friends pulled into drama with her ex. I'm currently ignoring her, but she's not picking up on my or my friends' signals that we don't want to talk to her. I'm going to tell her upfront to leave me and my friends alone, and I will get a No Contact Order placed against her if she refuses to listen.
I've dealt with this. A man asked me out a couple of times. In person and in text messages. He got extremely upset when I said no. He began telling our mutual friends that I was annoying him begging him to take me out on a date at an expensive restaurant. They automatically knew this was a lie because I'm one of the most humbled people. I never ask anyone for anything. They told me what he was saying. Then he began posting lies about me and them online. Saying that all the female friends wanted to date him & all male friends wanted to be him. They were jealous of him. I recorded everytime he came around. And saved all text messages. Later he accused our mutual friend of robbing his money from inside his car. I had proof our friend never got in his car because I was recording. We all cut him off. He still tries to come around us. But we all cut him off.
A fetish for body hair? That’s a win
I trauma dump early on, which I know is a red flag, but that's kinda WHY I do it now lmao.
Anyway if one more person hears me go off about how I'm afraid of being touched now and then decide "Oh she means everyone except ME!" and then keeps grabbing my hand, I might actually commit a violent felony.
I do the same thing. I have 4 mental diagnosis (medicated so people don't know about them until I tell them) and had a really abusive childhood. I tell people pretty much right away because that tells me if they will judge me or not before I get too attached
i prefer to just wait until i trust the person enough to share such personal info. if we end up being close friends and hang out a lot id trust u enough to share a little bit abt my mental illnesses.
The key is proper communication. My girlfriend tells me that she doesn't like being touched. It's not a trauma thing, it's a social preference. I found this out because I took what she said to mean I should limit the amount of random touching I do with her (simple things like hand on shoulder and back rubs) and she picked up on this. She sat me down and explained what her specific preference was and, while she's not a fan of PDA (which we have in common), she finds misc touching like that to be something reserved for that "special someone" and that she wasn't offended by me doing it.
I didn't find it a red flag that she was telling me one of her hangups, even in erroneously presuming it was a trauma response rather than a social preference. She didn't find it a red flag that I overcorrected. The key is we talked and came to an understanding. The issue is people not respecting the personal preferences of their supposed "significant other"
Not that the relationship ended, but I ended my best friend behaviour.
My best friend used to constantly lies bc she wanted to "test if I'm loyal/honest to her". Like when we hung out, she would lie about her not remembering correct bills and ask me how much she should pay me back. I'm a light-headed so I would have to went on a hunt for the bills and inform her. Or she'd tell lies abt how some people being mean towards her just to see how I'd react, bla bla bla, you name it. It's funny bc she won't come up with new excuses ya know, so the situations were like scripted events in games lol.
This went on for a good while at the start of our "best friend" relationship. When I confronted her abt it, she said it was for the sake of our friendship. She was taken advantage of before she met me by many of her "bffs", so I told her I understand why she wants to "test" me, but I won't be friends with people who lie to me like that. So yeah she stopped, and we're fine now :D
I have never heard a story of a couple going to couples therapy ending well. With how many times I've heard couples resorting to couples therapy and breaking up I'm just convinced it's a scam. If you're at a point with your relationship that you need a third party to intervene, the relationship is already lost.
Couples therapy can be really eye opening 0:29
The idea is its supposed to bring an outside perspective to bring new light onto the situation and help with understanding but, like with normal therapy, people go there expecting it to solve their problems entirely. And then when it doesn't the problem just gets worse
Its seem that people use couples therapy as a last resort or as a way to prove they are right in the relationship. But thats not how therapy works. Its supposed to help you communicate but if your at last resorts and “im 100% right” or you’ve just checked out communication is probably dead and not going to happen without heaps of work. Couples Therapy works better as an check up rather than a resuscitation.
Most people aren't willing to back down. But it does work for those who are open to it and try to do the work. Worked for my cousin's marriage, happy ending for them sofar
I’m about to be out of a 60 day relationship. She’s use to yelling at her Sons and takes that male eating tone with me. Apparently because I won’t allow it she takes the silent treatment for as long as I’ll let it then will claim she don’t know how to talk to me it’s like she’s on eggshells. Then if by the 3rd day I don’t speak to her she’ll walk in the room singing songs centered around her feelings or will just keep sniffling until a phone call comes in and she’s happy but back to sniffling after the car ends. I’m so done!
Oh yes I've dealt with this. What annoyed me is how he would be crying sniffling & so distraught and then jump on his phone laughing about how he was done with me. But then would get off the phone and want to know who I was talking to. Stupid head games. Manipulation tactics.
i had just come out of a long term relation ship with some one i still find to be my best friend and as close as a brother to me now. the guy who i had started dating i met at a con and i was super paranoid of body contact because i was afraid of a few things.
weeks down the road things dont seem to be improving with the new guy and when i am like "maybe we should consider just being friends" he went directly to "IF YOU LEAVE ME IM GONA KILL MYSELF"
I don't put up with people who use suicide as a means of holding some ones emotions hostage and so i told the dude to have a nice life and i completely blocked him out of my life.
Not me but someone I know; His GF had heard way too many cheating stories in her teens and was basically obsessed with the thought of being cheated on. Demanded he didn't have female friends, work someplace with no female co-workers, got angry when he talked to female relatives, pouted when he talked to his mother and was overall massively controlling. He dealt with it thinking she was just traumatized from every one of her previous relationships ending in cheating. Turned out she never got cheated on. Her BFs just got sick of it and dumped her, which she took as definitive proof of their cheating.
Now she's one of those militant online feminists who hate men with a burning passion and spends her free time on social media spitting venom at men.
A friend of mine was in prison for 5 yrs for a crime he did not commit when he was 1. He was S.A. in there. He was exonerated and about 3 yrs later he met his ex wife. They were married for all of 2 yrs when at a party, he didn't want to drink anymore cause he was already feeling a good buzz. For some reason that upset his ex and she yelled directly in his face, " THATS WHY THE EFFED YOU IN PRISON CAUSE YOU ACT LIKE A BIT@H" The gutted look on his face turned to very hurt tears, he dropped down in a puddle pulling his legs to his chest and sobbed. Once my friend and I got him into the car, I went back inside, suffice it to say it took 3 grown men to get me off her. I tried with everything in me to end her life that night. 11 yrs later he's happily married to a beautiful woman and they are talking about starting a family and I just got off of probation. It was 100% worth it.
Hope you got some licks in, man did she deserve that beating
17:38 And leave me to take care of TWINS all by myself??? i'm sorry, but no, just no.
The most recent one? When she said she was a religious conservative. There's no way I'd want to be in the same room as one, let alone date one.
The fact that these people deal with a fraction of this behavior with no kids involved boggles my mind.
This girl i met at my first college and I talked after graduation and set up a date at starbucks. We go and enjoy a nice conversation and out of nowhere she says "I don't believe in interracial relationships." I was completely dumbfounded as I don't recall us even talking about the topic of race or relationships. She also knew I'm half Asian and Caucasian. So I look at her and go "you know I'm the byproduct of an interracial couple, right?" and her response still makes me laugh to this day. "Yeah, but you don't look different so it's ok. I have a friend who's black and her boyfriend is white and I don't think they should be together." Needless to say, there was no second date.
It wasn't a relationship, but he was sending a lot of signals that seemed like he wanted to date me, and I was getting to know him as a friend.
Was the same-age-as-me teenaged son of one of my Mom's childhood friends, who had moved back into our neighborhood.
He would chat me up when they would visit, seemed nice enough at first, and gradually began walking over on his own to ask if I wanted to sit outside for a chat or go for walks in the neighborhood.
Two things.
1. He started to do this thing where, if I was touching up my appearance in a basic way before going someplace, he would quietly walk over and stand in the bathroom door to watch while casually chatting with me....if I was combing my hair or applying mascara, it was fine. But if I brushed my teeth he would break off in mid sentence and just stare fixated, open mouthed, in the creepiest way.
If I stopped to say his name, he wouldn't respond, would just stare at my mouth.
I stopped brushing my teeth if he was present.
It really freaked me out
2. Was the red flag.
We were out walking one day, and he started talking about how "some girls and women" dress, though he wasn't specific. He started talking About how thoughtless they could be, and then said (maybe you guessed it)
That women who dressed "like that" were asking to be.... let's say "assaulted"...and that it was their own fault if they were, and that men shouldn't be held accountable for their behavior with women who dressed provocatively.
I was surprised and distressed by that, and tried to disagree, but he get a little bit keyed up about it,and insisted that I had to agree that they were "asking for it."
It was at that moment that I realized we were alone on the street, and that he was much larger than I was and I thought "oh wow, I see....I've been very stupid".
So I gave a very neutral answer that could be understood as agreeing with him, and he seemed satisfied, and we kept walking.
He saw me home and I made an excuse and went upstairs and never hung out with him alone again.
A few years later he and a male friend
dropped out of high school because a Ouija board told them to 😑 he moved away and I never saw him again!
I'm a man and it still amazes me how often I hear other dudes say the same things as you described this fella doing.
We are very sexually driven as a gender so I do understand why they come to these conclusions about women wearing exposing clothing because it comes off as invite for males to advance. Most women are dressing this way for the sole purpose of attracting certain men. There is an instinctual force within us when it comes to the mating process. Most of us have enough common sense to not act upon the urge, along with a moral sense of understanding it's wrong.
While women should feel free to wear whatever they want, there is a reason that women have always been encouraged to dress modestly because there is a small amount of the male population that have no self control or moral awareness because they are weak minded individuals and typically sexually frustrated because they are not getting women.
Also, that dude that started getting weird when you brushed your teeth, it's because it looks like a sexually suggestive motion. While no fault of your own, that dude is thinking about sexual things 24/7. He's driven by it, so his extreme views are mostly just a product of sexual frustration, lack of success with women, which turns into anger. He doesn't want to be held accountable for his actions because he feels like a victim of women leading men on through sexually suggestive things.
If you dress and act modestly, you are less likely to be assaulted, will be taken more seriously, and will probably end up in a long term marriage with a family and home. You are always free to do what you want but there is consequences to everything in life. Men should always be held accountable for assault, but dressing modestly could be the difference between assault or avoidance. Unfortunately, there is a fair amount of guys out there that don't follow the rules. This isn't an excuse for their behavior, it's just an explanation with a rather simple solution. Stay safe out there.
Was with thus girl who was emotionally unstable. She would block my number when she had a mental lapse and threatened to end her life. Kept asking for money, complained about her weight, she was just not in a good headspace at all. I could go on and on about it. She accused me of cheating every time i talked to any other female. Blocked me when i was talking to my mom and then apologized saying “im nothing without my meds”.
I broke up with her on new year’s eve 2018. I was worried she’d lose her mind and take her life. Thankfully she hasnt. But it was difficult to get out of there. It only lasted about 7 months
When he didn't wear deodorant,after I *kept* making him. 😑
Yikes
@@ultraboombean it's ok now haha
complained about my family and friends, then started screaming and gaslighting me. I was trying to help him with his mental health (really, really shitty/ abusive father). Left after he went off on my parents for no reason, like he did on me all the time, then realised it was over when he refused to get professional help - until he realised he couldnt get early retirement unless he did. Went out the next day to sort it. Never followed through with it of course, just did it long enough to get his pension. Realised that I loved the man he wanted to be, not the man he was, and that he was too damn selfish to work at being the person I fell in love with. Took me two years to find the real me again. The dogs took longer. Thank God there were no kids involved!
This has reminded of a guy I was on a second date with. We were on a walk and he tells me that he wanted to join the military to see what it was like to kill someone 😑
Nah, bruv. Stick her with the bill.
I had been seeing this one girl for a few weeks. We had planned on finally spending the night together and I was really looking forward to it. About an hour before we're supposed to meet, she texts me to tell me she'll be late because her co-workers wanted to hang out and casually mentions they already did some coke together. Keep in mind she's also a recovering addict who I decided to give a chance to because she's been sober for a few years.
I didn't immediately end things, more so because I was so caught off guard by what she said that it left me in a state of shock, followed by a fit of laughter. I then texted her that I'm calling the night off. Never saw her again after that.
4:44 LMAOOOOO 🤣🤣 I'm dead
Girlfriend of 2.5 years told me she can’t even go to a party without worrying about cheating on me. I appreciated the sentiment but wasn’t going to be there with her while she fought that battle the rest of her life.
When she said "you always ask me to look at things from your perspective, but I'm not you so I can't do that."
During a make out session that got very hot and heavy, he called my sister's name in his high of passion. I was young and dumb and played stupid. The breaking point however was when he damned for me to come over to his house after getting his wisedom teeth pulled, only for him to to use me as his verbal punching bag and that getting upset when I decided I'd rather be stuck at home than trapped in a house that wasn't mine with a person who seemed to clearly not want me there.
My ex-husband: I found out he was cheating with numerous other guys, and had a reputation as basically the town bicycle, which he enjoyed. He insisted that he needed this and refused to stop, which I (stupidly) accepted. Eventually I made one male friend. I didn't so much as kiss this guy, but my ex got jealous and insisted I break it off. I knew enough to see it as hypocritical but didn't divorce him over that. I divorced him because I realized that I wasn't comfortable sleeping when he was in the house and only felt safe if I could sleep while he was was at work and while I had the bedroom door locked from the inside. Also, when he was driving, he sometimes talked about how he could drive off a cliff and kill us both, so... yeah, I should have noped out of that so much more quickly than I did.
There was so much nope leading up to it but the moment of truth for me was when he tried to get me to fire the gun he was so proud of owning, and when I refused (having shown a LOT of discomfort over the gun already) he fired it himself. No words, just got in my car and left. Honestly, I should have done that when he pulled a new bike out of his shed and said 'I'm not sure where I got this, I must have stolen it when I was drunk. You wanna buy it?' (WTF was wrong with my dumb ass?!)
Hoooo boy, this is a doozy, first relationship too.
She at first said she saw me as a sister when I got the courage to ask her out, no big deal. Month later, she asked me out, which I said yes to. Then came a year and a half but a very concerning year. She was 18, I was 17, we have very strict stagetory rape laws and everyone in school who didn't know us said I was dating a pedophile and needed to get out of there but I didn't think so cause it was a post-birthday thing. Then came what she was into, aside from gaslighting me for not talking 24/7 which now makes me scared when I'm ignored for a couple hours (still working on it now). See, I'm autistic, so school life is overstimulating and I take a break for hours after. I tried to explain it to her, but she demanded she was high priority and needed to respect her, so I had no choice but to follow to be a good partner.
Then came after the rival release for Yandere Simulator. I still hate all the fans for this because it's so common even after the failed PornHub collab.
She was into rping and we would do it by writing responses as texts or written on paper as separate journals during sleepovers. I was never really comfortable with age differences with minors, even at 17 years, because it feels wrong, but she almost won by making me be Taro Yamada and her be the adult rivals even when I told her they both actively rape boys. She ignored it and I pushed it off until we did something else.
Something else, I like watching smut of other characters but I have really bad sexual trauma and never liked the concept of making out or having sex with someone. With that in mind, she kept trying to force me into it. She was significantly larger and stronger than me, so the only way I wasn't raped either awake or in my sleep was either friends/school bell/appointments/her being tired. Every time I mentioned slight things to my mom, she said there was some stuff that was weird, but never advised anything. My now current partner has been the most helpful. And my cat allergy got in the way of sleepovers, especially because my ex's mom and her hoard cats well before the pet limit increased, and they both never cleaned the litter so there was piss everywhere and I was at a sleepover one last time before my throat started closing. Then my ex got jealous because I had sleepovers with others even when I told her my throat was closing at her house specifically and she said "Fine, you want to be a whore? I'll be one too and make you watch~" even when I told her I cannot die at her house from the ammonia and cat allergy infestation. I started to think bad thoughts of myself, of submitting and letting her have her way because I was fresh from losing my entire family to an abandoning father, until she abandoned me too and never talked to me for months after our anniversary. Even when we were sitting across from each other, she ignored my existence. And then called me an abusive rapist out loud (quite loud) and that was how we broke up.
Even after breaking up, I saw photos of my chest when I was sleeping on her phone cause she left it behind when she went to the bathroom. I had shirts and pants on when I would sleep over but had no idea. And after? She literally said "Now I've got disability points, don't ever date retards." So after surviving a 400-person kill list school shooting the same year we broke up with only autistic and mentally disabled victims including myself? I got scared for my life and cut off all ties with her, especially since it was the same year a 45 y.o. woman stalked me and threatened to impregnate me for flaming her publicly as a child rapist until I got her to fuck off back to Brazil after she found my neighborhood which I never disclosed post-breakup.
2020 quarantine comes, and I now am in a safe and much better relationship with the same person who helped me with my ex and gave proper advice. It feels unbelievably better because I'm not being groomed into getting everything for my partner, she insists to pay for things because I have only college money and not job paychecks.
Make sure that the person you date isn't into raping children AT ALL COSTS.
There was a situation about a month ago where he broke up with me over a hypothetical, nonexistent situation and he didn’t consider what would make me happy only himself. I was I guess so wrapped up I stayed but I did eventually get fed up.
Here it goes… My ex is allergic to cats and I have two. I understand pet allergies can be something to consider when in a relationship. We were together about 6 months and every time he came to my place he’d take allergy medication. So I’m thinking, everything is fine. He’s been around my cats and played with them, cool. Then he talks about living together in the future one day and he says “I don’t want any cats in the house, I don’t want to be uncomfortable in my home and having to take allergy meds.” He was uncompromising. I posed the solution “hey maybe they can be in a separate room.” But nope. No cats in the house. So I mention okay if we have a back yard maybe they can be in a converted tiny house. He gets what he wants and I don’t have to dreadfully think about re-homing my cats and being without them. He says no to that also. Mind you we both live with our parents and good financial standing was nonexistent for us both. So a house let alone an apartment was down the road. So I couldn’t understand why are we discussing something that we should solve as we go. His response to the tiny house was “no I’m not going to let you spend money on a tiny house.” and “they won’t get the love they need” and “a shed isn’t good enough” ?????? Yes he said these things. That told me everything that he doesn’t care about how I feel thinking about letting go of my cats. One that I’ve had since I was a kid. Pets are really really important. He wouldn’t entertain solutions where he gets what he wants and I as well. It was just his way or the highway. So he basically broke up with me because I didn’t say yes, I’ll give up my cats for you. I didn’t see it at the time but I definitely dodged one. I would think if you love someone you’d be all for solutions and not posing “me or the animal” type things
I dated a guy in high school that was “asexual” (I’m not dissing asexuals you’ll see why it’s in quotations). We were at my house for maybe the second time and about 2 weeks into our relationship. He told me he wanted to do this thing where basically we were writing smut, but about each other and passing the notebook back and forth. I was down to try it so I did and as soon as the foreplay kid of stopped it was REALLY creepy. He wanted me to call him daddy/master and he was writing about some pretty sadistic things about me. Mind you it wouldn’t have been that bad but we were like 14. The second he reached into his pants I was like YEAH NO THATS ENOUGH. In all fairness he stopped immediately and we never did it again. Broke up maybe a week later. He was a sweet dude though.
When I was the only one that ever had to make changes, or give stuff up. Then I realized that a one sided give and take was not for me.
“Are you completely useless as a human being?”
One time this guy jumped on the hood of my car after I dumped him and was trying to leave. Another time my ex-fiancé said he wanted to see me get jealous and stalk him. After I dumped him, too, I realized Gemini ain’t my bag 😂😅
When he told me hanging out with my family is cheating on him I “noped” out
I was the other guy with a chick for a few months. She ended up leaving him and moving in with someone else for a short while. She told me some of how he was abusive, but one thing in particular really soured my stomach. She had said that he had threatened to R* her 6 yr old Infront of her. . . So, when she went and moved back in with him I went No Contact. She ran into me eventually and was crying and talking and I just wasn't really engaging and she said "you really don't want anything more to do with me?" And I just said "No, not really" and walked away leaving her bawling her eyes out.
Good day y’all hope y’all have a good day
He stole from me, both money and things, in order to buy beer and cigarettes. I was unhappy with him in other ways that I could have gotten over, but that was the final straw for me.
*Back away, not today Disco lady!!*
*Am I glad I'm in love with a fictional character yeah it's weird but hey least I don't have to deal with this.*
This dude I was seeing became very clingy. He would get upset if I didn’t reply right away or didn’t answer a question. He would also try to guilt trip me into seeing him that day when I already had plans made or when I simply didn’t want to go out that day. It had only been one month of knowing him.
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17:43 had me in stitches, oh my god 💀
She started a relationship with me 3 days into knowing her, and she knew fully well that it was going to be long distance and that I can't be there with her physically really often and that I'm a fucking person with needs of affection to be reciprocated. She just eventually broke up with me 3 times and got back together twice until she finally decided " the distance was too much for her". She even went on to say that she knew we wouldn't work out because of the distance and that she was just " dating around". She knew I wanted something serious and she played me, but she just went on to love bomb me and continuously say she "still loved me" and "missed me" even though she had no intention of trying to make it work. Then she just started posting about her new boyfriend and how she was " so glad she chose him". She dated him more than once before, even complained about him while we were still dating, the fucking audacity. And I even went on to say how she can't go on and pull me in like that if she's just going to date someone else. She just replied with " yeah but I still love you, it's just the distance", well she clearly didn't love me enough to wait until we didn't have any distance between us. I told her that and she went on to say "are you really trying to make me feel guilty right now?" Was she fucking serious? She was a little bit younger than me and said constantly, "i'm sorry i'm not as mature as you are, it's because you're older than me." Maturity is a mindset and clearly not an age, she's not mature enough to maintain a relationship if she truly really wants one. We dated for about a month, now I seriously can't say I miss her because she really was just in it for situational reaffirmation, she ghosted me constantly when she was upset even though I had nothing to do with any of it. She even ghosted me when I was upset, because my issues and disheartening tellings of my past experiences made her sad. A complete waste of time to be honest, and even when she said she wanted to stay friends, she couldn't ever talk to me because I gave her panic attacks by just trying to make sure she was doing well. She kept contradicting herself by saying I wasn't the problem even though every issue she had was apparently "my doing", even when I hadn't even spoken to her for weeks on end. I just eventually blocked her on everything and now I feel so much fucking better.
9:54 sounds like your ex dodged a bullet when you dumped him.
She wouldn't officially say yes to being my girlfriend. Her best friend openly hated me, and insulted me. She thought it wasn't cheating if it was with someone of the same sex as her. She was afraid of her ex, who kept coming by. She kept inviting me to clean up after each holiday, that I wasn't invited to. She expected me to fund everything for her, while basically not letting me be involved in anything. She never asked what I wanted, ever, just expected me to do whatever she wanted, without telling me what it was that she wanted.
Wow! Yeah she was definitely using you. That's awful. I can't stand people like this. Users, liars, cheaters & moochers are the worst.
Dated a guy mostly because friend(one of his hs best friends) and his gf really wanted us to be together. We tried it out and ended it after awhile as nothing really was happening. No bad blood cuz we’re both mod-late 20’s and we’re not that bad of people. I wind up leaving the group and didn’t talk to really anyone from the group for about 2 years as there wasn’t much need and I was one of the more recent ones to be apart of it. Recently, the hs friend reached out and I’m suspicious about it but whatever. Eventually the hs friend said I should check up on ex-bf due to all sort of drama his family is in and he was so happy when I was around. Ex was/is a nice guy but I’m not getting back together with him until that whole new drama gets fixed. I’m not a fixer kind of person for that situation. I don’t mind being there for a friend but that drama is not something I’ll sign up for.
That first one, yeesh
I was 22 when I decided I was finally ready for my first relationship. I had never been with or let anyone touch me before so I was really innocent. I thought she would be good for me since we went to high school together and she seemed so sweet. However, she wanted me back then when I wasn’t ready so when I rejected her then she assumed I wanted to play with her feelings again even though I was serious about her. She was desperate for me and love in general so she threw herself at me and pressured me to have sex with her even though I told her I wanted to take it slow. What I didn’t know was that the girl I once thought was good and sweet had turned out to be broken and toxic in many ways now in life. I was too naive to understand all the red flags so for two years i ended up being constantly manipulated, forced into having sex even though i hated it, falling into drugs so badly I almost lost myself and the trust of my family. She was possessive and jealous so I fell off from most people in my life. Every time I tried to leave she would manipulate me into staying no matter what. Even if that meant she would threaten me with either killing herself or me because she refused to let me live without her. She didn’t work for the two years we were together so I paid for everything including hundreds a week on drugs just to make her happy. She had a terrible home life and family so I assumed she would change if I tried my best, but I still ended up cheated on and reminded constantly that she could do better than me simply bc she had a pretty face. Worst part about it was that she claimed to be a lesbian, but she cheated on me with her male best friend a couple of times and several others too behind my back while she would constantly assume I was cheating on her instead. When we would drink we would fight physically, but she would still hit me when she was sober anyway.
small world
Damaged goods. New guy pays for the damage done by previous lovers+low accountability on her part+ higher probability that connections/bonds will not form
Solution: low body count, respectful, bright, young women.
I highly approve of the thumbnail
No abuse. None. Start slow...watch for signs - at the first sign, CUT AND RUN!
Many things, but the last was him threatening to shoot me while he was on a call with someone, because I kept asking for help with my taxes. Which I hadn't asked alot. I just woke up a bit ago, like 9pm and now it's 1 am, from having dream where he and some chick shows up so he can slyly slander me without doing it directly and I lost my shiet and started attacking him. My dream self does these things, always crying, yelling, attacking, while I could never do anything irl because I have reason to fear for my life if I attacked him or did anything. I like living. If I die, I don't want it to be by him.
My last dream left me devastated where I'd keep things organized and picked up,but my ex would come through and start destroying and tossing stuff around. Me yelling and screaming in my dreams to stop left me depressed that day.
"Like you left your brother?"
And that's when you beat her ass, right?
Used to call me on breaks from night shifts to hear my voice no matter how much I asked/said he didn't have too.
My ex-girlfriend didn't use her turning signals ever. Had to cut her loose.
my ex ldr started an argument with me when i told her i was okay with her being bi when she came out to me. next day she asked me if i was pissed at her and i said why would i be pissed. she said its because she said she was bi yesterday so i told her i accept her for who she is, i dont care if she is bi and im totally fine with it and its not a dealbreaker at all.
she then told me the reason she came out is because she wanted to know if its okay if she can sleep with other girls. here's the thing, she told me she wanted to wait for a bit before we had sex and i respected that. i dont want her to do anything she is not comfortable yet.
but thing is when i asked her if she would be comfortable with me sleeping with other girls and she couldnt say anything. she just went quiet. so i told her it didn't seem as if she would be comfortable with me sleeping with someone else so how would it be fair that she gets to have her bit of fun when she isn't ready to have sex with me yet. i dont even want to be in an open relationship at all. cant remember the argument exactly but i did remember that she was trying to justify stuff. i just told her outright i would not be comfortable with it and if she did, it would mean that she cheated on me.
ironically, she accused me of cheating on her about a month later and her suspicions arised because she saw me texting a groupchat back and she told me she had been cheated on in the past.
there were other stuff that led to the breakup but i really did feel her 'is it okay if i can sleep with a girl but idk if ill be okay with you sleeping with other girls' ended any feelings i had with her
I found out he was dealing meth.
she wanted to know my name
I didn't realize it but one of my exes was cheating on me having sex with other dudes behind my back and claimed she was a Christian but one day a friend of mine caught her having sex with another dude and called me immediately. that girl and i broke up that day.
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I know that thumbnail picture! It’s from the Thomas and Friends Episode. “Percy’s Ghostly trick”
Season 2
"If we can't agree on how to eat tuna, how will this ever work?!"
Ladies and gents, if your SO ever unironically spouts a line that sounds like a punchline on Friends- probably a Ross line- the time to rethink your relationship is behind you and something needs to be done about it.
I was the horrible boyfriend, not gonna say what i did but i was very toxic and selfish. We are still friends and i have changed. Still need to but im glad im not as horrible as before.
Rule #1: It almost always escalates. Rarely do things get better. If you see red flags at the beginning, get out fast.
Thank you, Reddit, for reminding me not to date
GF was part of a group of adoptees who would plan ways of getting back at their biological parents. She had loving parents yet wanted to make her bio mums life hell. All came to a head when she realised i knew her half sisters……….i met my now wife the same night i walked out of that relationship.
that`s why i`m scared to be in relationship
Telling me I “had to come around his family more” meanwhile we spent almost every date at his parents house… I broke up with him on the spot because a man will never tell me what I HAVE to do. Oh yeah and he’d never even met my grandparents and came to my house once during our entire relationship.
I divorced my first husband after he tried beating me half to death! I wasn't masochistic enough to stay in that marriage, unlike some of my friends!
So many unhinged people
I am guilty of a mental moment. I never ever date men now. It's all of the emotions. I am sane now ;)
The beautiful woman was always talking about UFOs, aliens, ghosts, and spirits. I really did not mind it until she wanted me to contact the spirit that was constantly with me. She pulled out an Ouija board and wanted me to drink something. She said few have a spirit with them all the time. If my spirit was evil, she could not stay with me. I slid the Ouija board pointer around the board, hissed like I was possessed, stood up, and said, "The spirit is evil, pure evil!" I walked out out of her house and kept walking. I walked all the way home because she drove me to her house. I never heard from her again. She can do an exorcisim on her next boyfriend.
I give it to all the men saying how bad the woman was. You usually only hear about bad men. Women can be just as bad or worse.
Pay attention to the jokes they tell. My first boyfriend would always yell me mean or vindictive stories but phrase them as a joke. Big red flag.
Ex told me to get over my dad dying, after i just put my dog down, who was a gift from my dad
Gave me a loaded gun to shoot him when I caught him cheating. I just gave it back to him and left
How about asking her to be your girl a few times and she says no , because it wasn’t special so I ignore it then next thing you know a month later I try to surprise visit she’s like why?
Then next thing you know she hits me with the
Let’s go to the bar but you should pretend to be gay so we can get free drinks 😂😂
I left my ass out her apartment when she was in the bathroom 💀