80% of women initiate break ups and divorces … 56% because of money …2% because of abuse and the rest because they are not happy … what are you talking about “most men” smh here we go again 🤦🏽♂️
This is a societal issue not a personal one due to how motherhood is treated and lack of a village. Mamas it’s not your fault. Society and the ‘isms are to blame.
It's 100% their fault. They have no natural attachment to their own. One is 0b3s3 so likely lazy and does not care for nutrition, but her nails are pefectly done; the other is dressed like a hoochie mamma and can only spend so much time with their child, because she probably rather be on insta all day showing off her body or envying the glam life. Nobody is a victim here, except for their children.
Society has nothing to do with them being this way. Probably came from neglectful mothers themselves and that's why they cannot form a healthy attachment with their children. Also, likely one if not both are single mothers, hence the constant worrying and panic about something happening to the child.
They have no natural attachment to their own. One is 0b3s3 so likely lazy and does not care for nutrition, but her nails are pefectly done; the other is dressed like one of those mothers who go to the club to find a man and can only spend so much time with their child because she probably rather be on insta all day showing off her body, doing her makeup or envying the glam life. Nobody is a victim here, except for their children.
They have no natural attachment to their own. One is obe...se so likely lazy and does not care for nutrition, but her nails are pefectly done; the other is dressed like one of those mothers who go to the club to find a man and can only spend so much time with their child. She probably rather be on insta all day showing off her body or envying the glam life. Nobody is a victim here, except for their children.
After a certain point it becomes common sense that bringing a human life that requires you to take care of it 24/7 for at least the first 2 years of its life and with an overall life expectancy of 70 years will be a big decision. No one has to tell you that.
@@Ril014True! Although family can be shitty, if you decided to create one at least at late 20s, putting blame on the family for past toxic behavior doesn’t excuse neglect on the present.
Here is the thing; motherhood is extremely unnatural these days, which is why mothers are struggling. The saying "it takes a village to raise a child" is 100% true. But, a lot of mothers are alone in this. There should be a community surrounding you, whereby you feel safe for your child to go out every day, and play with the local kids. That's how it was 50 years ago. That's how it is in all tribes and other underdeveloped countries, that get by trying to live as natural as possible. But, there are no longer communities. Sending your child outside is unsafe for them. As a result, the mother gets zero space and has to be the soul playmate and educator. This isn't how it's supposed to be. We feel guilty about it, but it isn't our fault. Things need to change.
@@Ril014 It is a choice, but people still want to be mothers and recognise how unnatural it is raising them. Don't shame people for this now. That's not on.
@@nothanks1239I mean it wouldn’t take much research to realize all those roadblocks and challenges. They were never being hidden from anybody just pay attention.
I was sexually assaulted twice as a child I don’t have kids and didn’t met the man for it. If I were a mom I will have no peace of mind leaving my child at a daycare or with an stranger. 😢plus the political, societal and economic atmosphere it’s not helpful today. 😢
You need mental Help this has nothing to with a child. I was sexually assaulted as young boy I sought therapy. I’m a great father and emotionally mature.
@@kjellmclarenwhat are you even saying! It absolutely has everything to do with a child, the fear of having one in this world. No one told you not to do it, and trying to say someone is wrong about how they feel about points to you needing therapy more than anyone else. You said you got some but clearly your therapist failed you.
I struggle with this because I sometimes regret marriage and motherhood… even feel bad for my daughter in some ways because as women we get so much more of the responsibility put on us in caring for the children and household things. On the other hand, I also have many friends struggling to conceive, some had multiple losses, have gone through IVF, or other situations and I feel blessed to have grown to full-term and birthed 3 healthy babies naturally.
Don't feel guilty. Whenever people throw a baby shower, I feel the mother deserves a gift, too. Mothers need break and baby shower gifts for themselves. If my mother had told me she regrets having me, I would be understanding and compassionate, and i would only hurt for her. I won't take it personally. I actually did ask my mother, and she never responded.
She is sooooo right, I pray everyday for a better version of myself for my babies and for God to protect them in a world that is crumbling. The way we worry about the babies ages you.
I feel the same way she feels. 🤷🏽♀️💯 I love my son but I do not enjoy being a mother & I’m only 3 years in. The job is too much for me physically, mentally & emotionally. I don’t see how most moms have multiple children especially being a single mother.
It definitely makes you appreciate your mom more. I just want to say I’m sure you’re doing your best. My words may not mean anything because it doesn’t physically help but if I could I would send a whole village your way to help you. Sending love and strength your way.
@@misfitme7838 Thanks so much love. ❤️ Motherhood has gotten better recently but I still would never have more children. It’s not for me. Hopefully the man I end up with has a kid or 2 max of his own so at least my son will have a step brother or sister. My mom had 5 children and tbh I don’t see how she did it. I would have mentally gone insane like seriously. lol
That's because you were never meant to be a single mother. That's not God's creation, that's mankind's creation as a result of fornication. Single motherhood is prevalent in some societies not in every society and it causes poverty, so it's an ongoing cycle and that's why is so exhausting.
That's because you were never meant to be a single mother. That's not His creation, that's mankind's creation as a result of for...nica...tion. Single motherhood is prevalent in some societies not in every society and it causes poverty, so it's an ongoing cycle and that's why is so exhausting.
That's because you were never meant to be single and a mother. That's a result of modern society. Also, it is a cycle that ends in poverty hence why it is so tiresome and exhausting.
I feel this wholeheartedly!! After my oldest son passed away, my anxiety became sooo bad that I had to take medication, therapy and get on disability. The fear of someone hurting them consumed me. I've gotten better, but still struggle with it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm also sorry to hear how terribly it has affected your life. I pray you get help with your mental health and can find peace💚
I respect the women that share this reality .. And we women that dont have or dont want kids should thank this bad ass girls that truly tell how it can be and how it is. ❤
@@ashleyneco Lmao right. Childless people struggling to live and find a job after college, adding pregnancy, childbirth, and all the added expenses of a child don’t add to the stress. Not to mention if your kid ends up with some form of disability or mental health issue. You’re sheltered asf
Excellent conversation that should be had more often (between mothers AND fathers) in our society… most ppl today are never truly prepared enough for the role of parenthood (mentally, physically, emotionally, financially AND spiritually).
Why do you expect to 'get prepared' ? If you're old enough to f*ck around you're old enough to read books and make up your mind about parenting as well. Jeez, please grow some self-responsibility, people.
I feel afraid to let this past my mouth but I feel this. I don't regret my babies but I'm so enveloped with every part of them at all times. I'm exhausted but I love them with everything I can. It feels like if I said it out loud I'd be put down by everyone.
As you should. Cause it’s not okay that’s temporary feeling and if you keep feeling it talk to therapist not socioa media where they cuddle women and not tell the truth make y’all worse off more depressed and waddling in misery.
I grew up with a mother that regretted becoming a mom and it’s hurt me my whole life. To this day I fight feelings of rejection because as a child you can’t separate them regretting motherhood and regretting *you* Whether you say it or not we feel that energy
same. my mom had me at 32 and has said numerous times to my face that i ruined her body, that she never wanted kids, etc. she never did homework with me, never took me to the park, never volunteered at my school, none of that. she brought me lunch one time in the 4th grade and i still remember that shit lol
It’s never a married women with a good man saying no shit like this. Even though they’d like to convince us it’s most women because women hood is under attack something crazy. They have these Feminist agents working hard to convince women of bullshit
I’ve never aged more in the last 2 years of becoming a mom. I’ve never felt more vulnerable and scared. I like in constant anxiety of what’s to come and will he be okay. It’s true, I NEVER lived with this anxiety before. 35 years alone then motherhood comes and slaps you in the face. Reality check. ❤ I’m 37 now and I feel like I’m 67. When I swear 3 years ago I was feeling like I’m 21 again. Being a mommy is no joke. I love my son and would die for him but we need more light shed onto this topic and support. ❤
Love the honesty and the distinction. It’s not about not loving your child. It’s about not loving the role and all the baggage of that role from society. Thanks for putting this out there. I’m sure it helps other mom’s feel less alone, ❤
This is such an important conversation. I find I have it with myself often. I had my daughter young and never really got a chance to accomplish anything or really get my life going. So I regret bringing her into a hard part of my life. And it unfortunately has only gotten harder. Just the constant guilty feeling that she deserves better..
God bless you, you're a great mother 💜💜🌹in my opinion ,this society does not truly respect or appreciate mothers. I've decided not to have children out of fear... But I desire to do something that'll make life easier for mothers and children.
This is why telling women that their lives don't mean anything if they don't get married or have children is WRONG. Not all women even want those things, and those things are NOT the sole reason why were on this Earth.
Wow this is so real and i relate so much. Even tho I’m not a mother these are some reasons why i consider not wanting the roll. I know it will consume me and i get anxiety even thinking about being a mother so i could imagine the anxieties I’d have it i was to be a mother 🥹. It’s a bitter sweetheart thought for me so a rather not take that roll 💭
I respect what you’re saying, it doesn’t get said a lot. Although, I would like to add that I feel that there’s a certain beauty to hardships of motherhood. As a child seeing that, it creates great reassurance and it sets a good example in my opinion. I’ve had many foster mothers at varying ages and you see how at different ages women navigate the difficult things - it seems like, with time, it becomes easier to manage.
The idea that hardship is beautiful on its owcomes of as perseverance porn. There should be systems in place to help struggling mothers, but there should also be more awareness about the actual struggle.
Thank you to my mom who had told all 5 of her children since I can remember that if she could do it all again, she wouldn’t marry or have children. Now I am a 30 year old woman who has only just entered my first relationship since I was 18. I don’t see children in my future most days. Some days I think I want a baby. Then I get up and go do whatever I want and not think about a baby for the rest of the day…: it’s such a hard decision to make because women carry an unfair in-proportionate onus of the care of children whether you marry the father or not.
My dad never played with us unless it was something he was interested in, and it didn't negatively affect us. He'd play wiffle ball in the yard or help assemble a puzzle but he wouldn't play dolls. Parents can say no. You're not servants. You matter too
You chose the role so commit to it, learn, grow and be the best version of yourself for your child. There doesnt need to be an expection that every aspect of anything should 'feel' amazing. Feelings dont really matter life isnt about constantly 'feeling' good its about holding up your responsibilities and being the best you can be for your child and raising them well. I think this mentality can only harm your child, even if you dont say it explicitly, it'll show thrpugh your actions.
It does show. These women are sadly immature and reckless. Every child KNOWS when they are not being loved right. These women should think about the men in their lives and how desperately they act for them. If their man resented them they would be devastated
Thank you for being open and honest because I totally feel it. Tbh I hate I became a mom I'm great to my children but it's just too much out and not enough in .
I tell people all the time that I refuse to have a child until I’m ready and until the circumstances add up. You can die during childbirth, end up a single mom, leave the birth with life altering conditions, or even be stuck with someone that doesn’t appreciate all you’ve done
It may be good to consider keeping things in places where he cannot get to them. We have a 2 year old and our laptop has been safe. But we keep it away from him.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone say exactly what I think out loud. I used to feel bad about feeling this way about motherhood & I felt like I was being a bad parent, but being a single mom changed my whole life. Some good…some not so good & I love my son beyond words & comprehension, but if I could go back in time I would’ve done things differently. I definitely was not ready for all the worrying & overthinking I do on a daily basis since becoming a mom. Thank you for sharing this! ❤
You aren’t alone I promise you. ❤️ When ppl ask me how’s motherhood so far I tell them upfront it’s bittersweet or I haven’t enjoyed it. I’m not about to lie or sugarcoat my experience bc it has been hella difficult & he’s still a toddler.
@@tinyking11 Thank you ❤️ I wish I could tell you that it gets easier, but I have an almost 13 year old now & it has its challenges but one thing I can say is that if you are trying your best, be gracious & patient with yourself. It’s not easy. I feel like my son & I are growing up together & while I’ve made mistakes I try to focus on picking myself up & moving forward every time. Things will fall into place one day & the things we go through happen for us, not to us & hopefully we will learn & grow in the right direction ❤️
@@D_Ortiz23 Thanks for your kind words sis. Good luck with the rest of your motherhood journey. ❤️ Nothing I do is good enough for my mom when it comes to mothering my son which is annoying af. I’m a laid back mom & my mom be stressing me out & trying to correct everything I do. 🙄😑 That’s why I keep my distance from her.
@@tinyking11 we can’t make everyone happy & that’s okay. You do what you feel is best. We are all doing the best we can with what we have & what we know. When I became a mom I understood that my mom did the same. The kids our parents raised aren’t the same kids we are raising. This world is very different now & sometimes we have to pivot & try different things. Again, be patient with yourself. There will be ups & downs but you got this! ❤️
It does make sense. Some medications like antibiotics or seizure medication can make birth control less effective. Someone I know was in her mid 40s with her only child (son) being 18 years old, then after antibiotics she unexpectedly got pregnant with twin girls. She was not at all planning on having more children.
You still chose motherhood cuz you didn’t give the baby away. Seek sterilization to avoid more accidents. There’s docs out there who let you without hassle.
You can still get pregnant on birth control if you don’t wait for it to get in your system long enough. Three months is a good time to wait. Missed pills and then sex in the middle of trying to correct your missed pills could get you pregnant. Mirena is not 100% as your body can reject it or it can shift. In the process, you can get pregnant. Happened to my sister. One rule I find to be a success is double protect yourself by using condoms as well. This also prevents the spread of any STIs. You can also use birth control, condoms, and try to have the male use the pull out method. You won’t get pregnant!
I wish more mothers would come out about this. Let manosphere speak it we’ve made our bed. Which is true to an extent. But that anxiety never goes away. The fear. You lose yourself with the obligation of totally immersing yourself in motherhood and motherhood only. Considering giving my kids father the custody he wants and reclaiming me back. Love my girls to pieces. But it is incredibly hard on one person. I don’t regret them. I regret my stupid choice, I regret not fully knowing/processing what the heck I was getting myself into…so much goes into it and we’re just told to suck it up because it’s our choice which is true. But sheesh it’s troubling.
As a mother of 2 adult sons, I don’t regret them but motherhood is hard and honestly, the worry never goes away. When they are little you wanna rush them growing up because you believe that it will be easier. And in some ways, it is. But the worrying about them Never goes away. You just now worry about different things. And no one prepares a mother for the reality that when they do leave home, you struggle with your role and identity in life. And then when they bring children into the world, a whole another kind of worry starts. 🥺 But oh, the love of a grandbaby makes it all worth it!! At least for me.💜 and yes, I very much did miss the fun time with my kids. My regrets were that I didnt do enough of that. So I try and make it up through my grandbabies. No one but God could teach me what unconditional love was like my sons did. So for that I was always be grateful!! I believe they were God’s grace in my life. I pray I did right by them!!
IDK, my mum clearly didn't enjoy parenthood but loves being a mother if that makes sense? The mundanities that parenting entails such as cooking, cleaning, taking your child to and from school, parent meetings, parents of other kids - basically everything. But she enjoyed who each of her children were as individuals/has relationships with each of us and genuinely enjoys our company.
I do not know these mothers’ circumstances and or position…motherhood is super challenging, however, I can’t regret my children and regret being a mother. I get annoyed, I get tired and sometimes I want to cry, but being a mother is about being selfless, nurturing and giving unconditional love and setting your selfishness aside.
This is where I am now.. I am at the stage where I want to focus on myself. I want to make time to prep and research healthy foods.. make time for sunsets and sunrises.. without the responsibilities of all that motherhood brings.. I want to do 6am yoga on the beach. Sleep in.. take weekend road trips and visit local farmers market. I feel bad because I want the absolute BEST for my children but I also want to be able to put myself first so I can be a better individual 😢
This is the result of people consistently telling you "youll change your mind", "youll regret not having kids", "youre 25 when are you getting married and having kids?" People need to accept parenthood doesnt bring fulfillment or happiness to all
The EXTREME selfishness, narcissism and self-centredness that exists in the world today is CRAZY. I’m sorry but motherhood AND the role comes hand in hand. To say you don’t regret your child but you regret the role doesn’t make any sense.
@@EclecticallyEccentric anything that you love you don’t resent having to take care or watch over it… the two go hand in hand. So for a mother to say “she loves her children but hates motherhood” is inherently selfish and narcissistic. I’m not talking about those who say they don’t want children even though those people are also selfish and narcs but hey 😂
Thank you! The outrage in the comments if this lady said she regrets being a pet owner would be CRAZY but speaking like that about a human you gave life to is so “empowering” …sad world, really
@@EclecticallyEccentric All people should be able to instruct those who come after them, sadly, this is not the case in a world filled with lawlessness due to transgressions.
When I was inflamed like that I also had a ton of anxiety. As a parent I had to prioritize my health and sense of safety before fully embracing my role as mom, and giving myself space for all the other parts of me. Health is huge
I respect your honesty and myself as a parent we want to be the best for our children that we can be but then we look at ourselves and ask that we want to be selfish or do I have all that it takes to raise this person that depends on me I wake up day in and out wondering am I enough for them
Even cats and dogs take a break. If you have a cat or a dog that has babies, she will bring them to you to watch them while she rests. I was napping on the couch as a teen and woke up to our cat plopping her kittens one one after another "here you watch them"
😳. They regret “motherhood” is crazy. I love it. It’s like watching a flower grow if you put enough care and energy into it. Then the pay off is being endlessly respected and loved once that flower reaches maturity
I understand you this world is so evil and you know one day your kids is going to want to separate they want to do things and you don't know how to let go I feel you it gets worse honey it gets worse you going to one day may become a grandma and you're going to look at your grandkids is going to get worse because you know what I'm going through it right now I was like that with my child and I'm even worse my grandchildren. its so hard when you can't keep them close and protect them from themselves and this cold evil world. I say through experience pray to God keep God close and no not hope but have faith that God going to be there no matter what good and the bad.
Idk instead of complaining what can you do to change the situation . It’s possible. Don’t give into the circumstance . If you were strong before the child you are no different now if not stronger . Tap into that remember who you are and that you can do this . Rough times will ALWAYS be there . If you let them get the best of you you will lose every time .
Some people shouldn't be parents. They should have used abstinence, birth control, or Plan B. They should have worked to have good finances, so they don't have to use kids to get child support and govt benefits. These women maybe know a bit what it's like to be a responsible guy now...looking out for other people....being protective of somebody besides just themselves.
You make a good point. That’s coming from a woman with no kids. I am very blessed to have my dad who works very hard to provide for the family. I see the struggle my dad has especially because my brother and I are disabled and the other 4 kids are struggling to provide for themselves too, and he is trying to save enough money to provide for us even after he is gone in case we are still disabled. He also is the only one that really knows what to do and how to help us in most “adult” situations because my mom is clueless. She’s like an extra child. I can’t even imagine the pressure he has. And my mom refuses to work and is likely a narcissist and takes him for granted. I don’t know how he does it. I actually really want 1-3 kids. But I don’t want kids unless they’ll be in a happy and healthy situation. So, if I can find a man who would be a good father and I am in a place where I can be a good mother mentally, physically, spiritually, financially, etc. then I’d feel very blessed to have a child. These women don’t realize how blessed they are.
I love how they speak for most moms lmaoo Knowing they’re super projecting and has lighting ti make this mental women seem normal when she clearly needs therapy she in well.
If you regret the role then you regret your kids….no judgement tho cause I feel the same way….if your gonna tell your story you have to be honest with yourself first
As far as I know. Your judged either way. If you’re a mother or decide to be childless. That’s my understanding of it. I’m a single mother. I have encountered both sides. People judge me or help me. At the end of the day every woman has choices of how and who they choose to become
Every type of work has its inconveniences, just as in some aspects of parenthood, couples, jobs, etc. Does it drain me from time to time, yeah. I wish I could go back in time someday in the future, so I can relive my son's childhood days. Saying you love your children but wouldn't have them if you could change the past, well, loses all meaning and you probably shouldn't have been a parent, it's disgusting.
Thought I was alone in this. I do feel bad about the regret. Love my baby dearly but if i could go back in time. Its just not for me but i will push threw. I got about 14 more years to go. Atleast i just have the one.
I’m Glad a women said it, this what they want to tell our younger women. These feminist podcast are cancers. They want to gas light and push there negative motherhood narrative on young ladies it’s sick. Talking about most moms feels this way lmaoooo cut it out nice try.
For me, you don't know until the child reaches 5 y.o. I hated the too-much-care and "guardian" phase! But i' m ok know. I adore watching her grow. I grow with her too.
Idk how. But I do not feel like this about my son 😂😂. I enjoy my space from him. I don’t worry about his safety as much. (Mainly because he’s only with people I trust 100%) Idk how I did it. But I feel like I’ve found the balance of not allowing motherhood to consume me. It was rough the first year. But now I feel like myself. I pray more moms can create that balance in their life.
My Mom has to deal with a lot from my siblings and living at home, I had to deal with that. Then everybody and the family always wanna tell you how to raise your kids, like I don't have timd for that.
Imagine her child seeing this? You can say you don’t regret your daughter but saying you regret the role of mothering is just saying that in another way. Why put this on the internet?
it absolutely is. and with the state of this world and the constant taking away of women's rights... why would you want to have a child in this hellhole of a society?
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I respect the honesty .. ive met men who regret fatherhood.
Don’t nobody want to hear about their fk shyt. Their bodies, hormones, lifestyle, mental and emotional health don’t take a drastic hit
Explains why most of them bounce and leave the mom behind. Single motherhood is a term for a reason.
I have full custody of my daughter who is disabled and I totally understand. I don’t have help and it’s hell out here.
@@keysoteriq2590haha what a pathetic loser you are
80% of women initiate break ups and divorces … 56% because of money …2% because of abuse and the rest because they are not happy … what are you talking about “most men” smh here we go again 🤦🏽♂️
Imagine loosing your child. That thought alone keeps me appreciating every minute.
This is a societal issue not a personal one due to how motherhood is treated and lack of a village. Mamas it’s not your fault. Society and the ‘isms are to blame.
It's 100% their fault. They have no natural attachment to their own. One is 0b3s3 so likely lazy and does not care for nutrition, but her nails are pefectly done; the other is dressed like a hoochie mamma and can only spend so much time with their child, because she probably rather be on insta all day showing off her body or envying the glam life. Nobody is a victim here, except for their children.
Society has nothing to do with them being this way. Probably came from neglectful mothers themselves and that's why they cannot form a healthy attachment with their children. Also, likely one if not both are single mothers, hence the constant worrying and panic about something happening to the child.
They have no natural attachment to their own. One is 0b3s3 so likely lazy and does not care for nutrition, but her nails are pefectly done; the other is dressed like one of those mothers who go to the club to find a man and can only spend so much time with their child because she probably rather be on insta all day showing off her body, doing her makeup or envying the glam life. Nobody is a victim here, except for their children.
They have no natural attachment to their own. One is obe...se so likely lazy and does not care for nutrition, but her nails are pefectly done; the other is dressed like one of those mothers who go to the club to find a man and can only spend so much time with their child. She probably rather be on insta all day showing off her body or envying the glam life. Nobody is a victim here, except for their children.
Takes guts to admit it, its good that she said she regrets motherhood but not her daughter
People don’t realize what a life changing decision becoming a parent can be…usually due to lack of proper guidance by their families.
Completely agree.
Somethings are better left unsaid & need to be internalized.
After a certain point it becomes common sense that bringing a human life that requires you to take care of it 24/7 for at least the first 2 years of its life and with an overall life expectancy of 70 years will be a big decision. No one has to tell you that.
@@Ril014True! Although family can be shitty, if you decided to create one at least at late 20s, putting blame on the family for past toxic behavior doesn’t excuse neglect on the present.
even with proper guidance
Here is the thing; motherhood is extremely unnatural these days, which is why mothers are struggling. The saying "it takes a village to raise a child" is 100% true. But, a lot of mothers are alone in this. There should be a community surrounding you, whereby you feel safe for your child to go out every day, and play with the local kids. That's how it was 50 years ago. That's how it is in all tribes and other underdeveloped countries, that get by trying to live as natural as possible. But, there are no longer communities. Sending your child outside is unsafe for them.
As a result, the mother gets zero space and has to be the soul playmate and educator. This isn't how it's supposed to be. We feel guilty about it, but it isn't our fault. Things need to change.
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You make it sound like being a mother isn’t a choice.
@@Ril014 It is a choice, but people still want to be mothers and recognise how unnatural it is raising them. Don't shame people for this now. That's not on.
@@nothanks1239I mean it wouldn’t take much research to realize all those roadblocks and challenges. They were never being hidden from anybody just pay attention.
I was sexually assaulted twice as a child I don’t have kids and didn’t met the man for it. If I were a mom I will have no peace of mind leaving my child at a daycare or with an stranger. 😢plus the political, societal and economic atmosphere it’s not helpful today. 😢
I’m sorry. I can relate sadly x
You need mental
Help this has nothing to with a child. I was sexually assaulted as young boy I sought therapy. I’m a great father and emotionally mature.
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Weird. I've been raped with a knife and was probably molested, I still want to be a mom.
@@kjellmclarenwhat are you even saying! It absolutely has everything to do with a child, the fear of having one in this world. No one told you not to do it, and trying to say someone is wrong about how they feel about points to you needing therapy more than anyone else. You said you got some but clearly your therapist failed you.
I struggle with this because I sometimes regret marriage and motherhood… even feel bad for my daughter in some ways because as women we get so much more of the responsibility put on us in caring for the children and household things.
On the other hand, I also have many friends struggling to conceive, some had multiple losses, have gone through IVF, or other situations and I feel blessed to have grown to full-term and birthed 3 healthy babies naturally.
This is real.
Yet most women want this life I don't understand why.
Don't feel guilty. Whenever people throw a baby shower, I feel the mother deserves a gift, too. Mothers need break and baby shower gifts for themselves. If my mother had told me she regrets having me, I would be understanding and compassionate, and i would only hurt for her. I won't take it personally. I actually did ask my mother, and she never responded.
It doesn't make you a bad mother. You haven't abandoned your child.
I feel this exact same way.. I wish it was a mom group or some other ladies I can find to talk too..
She is sooooo right, I pray everyday for a better version of myself for my babies and for God to protect them in a world that is crumbling. The way we worry about the babies ages you.
I feel the same way she feels. 🤷🏽♀️💯 I love my son but I do not enjoy being a mother & I’m only 3 years in. The job is too much for me physically, mentally & emotionally. I don’t see how most moms have multiple children especially being a single mother.
It definitely makes you appreciate your mom more. I just want to say I’m sure you’re doing your best. My words may not mean anything because it doesn’t physically help but if I could I would send a whole village your way to help you. Sending love and strength your way.
@@misfitme7838 Thanks so much love. ❤️ Motherhood has gotten better recently but I still would never have more children. It’s not for me. Hopefully the man I end up with has a kid or 2 max of his own so at least my son will have a step brother or sister. My mom had 5 children and tbh I don’t see how she did it. I would have mentally gone insane like seriously. lol
That's because you were never meant to be a single mother. That's not God's creation, that's mankind's creation as a result of fornication. Single motherhood is prevalent in some societies not in every society and it causes poverty, so it's an ongoing cycle and that's why is so exhausting.
That's because you were never meant to be a single mother. That's not His creation, that's mankind's creation as a result of for...nica...tion. Single motherhood is prevalent in some societies not in every society and it causes poverty, so it's an ongoing cycle and that's why is so exhausting.
That's because you were never meant to be single and a mother. That's a result of modern society. Also, it is a cycle that ends in poverty hence why it is so tiresome and exhausting.
Same. Worst decision of my life. I love my child, that will not end. But If I could turn back time..
I respect this candid conversation
I feel this wholeheartedly!! After my oldest son passed away, my anxiety became sooo bad that I had to take medication, therapy and get on disability. The fear of someone hurting them consumed me. I've gotten better, but still struggle with it.
I'm sorry to hear about your son.
My condolences on the loss of your son. It's very difficult to get disability for emotional illness... you must have been in a state.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm also sorry to hear how terribly it has affected your life. I pray you get help with your mental health and can find peace💚
Thank you all for the kind words. I have since gotten into trauma therapy(ptsd), and I must say it has helped me tremendously!!
I'm so glad to hear that. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you an abundance of healing, even on the hardest days.
I respect the women that share this reality ..
And we women that dont have or dont want kids should thank this bad ass girls that truly tell how it can be and how it is.
❤
Having kids is overrated. Lots of stress and anxiety.
It's not
it is.@@ashleyneco
@@ashleyneco Lmao right. Childless people struggling to live and find a job after college, adding pregnancy, childbirth, and all the added expenses of a child don’t add to the stress. Not to mention if your kid ends up with some form of disability or mental health issue. You’re sheltered asf
@@ashleyneco It is.
Excellent conversation that should be had more often (between mothers AND fathers) in our society… most ppl today are never truly prepared enough for the role of parenthood (mentally, physically, emotionally, financially AND spiritually).
Why do you expect to 'get prepared' ? If you're old enough to f*ck around you're old enough to read books and make up your mind about parenting as well. Jeez, please grow some self-responsibility, people.
I feel afraid to let this past my mouth but I feel this. I don't regret my babies but I'm so enveloped with every part of them at all times. I'm exhausted but I love them with everything I can. It feels like if I said it out loud I'd be put down by everyone.
Me too 😢
As you should. Cause it’s not okay that’s temporary feeling and if you keep feeling it talk to therapist not socioa media where they cuddle women and not tell the truth make y’all worse off more depressed and waddling in misery.
I grew up with a mother that regretted becoming a mom and it’s hurt me my whole life. To this day I fight feelings of rejection because as a child you can’t separate them regretting motherhood and regretting *you* Whether you say it or not we feel that energy
The if I had my time again I would of had you later😂 comment
same. my mom had me at 32 and has said numerous times to my face that i ruined her body, that she never wanted kids, etc. she never did homework with me, never took me to the park, never volunteered at my school, none of that. she brought me lunch one time in the 4th grade and i still remember that shit lol
They need mental help. This nit normal for moms. This why women need to have kids with men they’re trust and love not one night stands.
It’s never a married women with a good man saying no shit like this. Even though they’d like to convince us it’s most women because women hood is under attack something crazy. They have these Feminist agents working hard to convince women of bullshit
@@emmyjulianne6850 I’m sorry 🥺❤️
“🗣No I won’t” I felt that. Lol
Me too!
I thought it was a little overkill..
I had to put my head back cross my legs and laugh cause shit no I won’t
I’ve never aged more in the last 2 years of becoming a mom. I’ve never felt more vulnerable and scared. I like in constant anxiety of what’s to come and will he be okay. It’s true, I NEVER lived with this anxiety before. 35 years alone then motherhood comes and slaps you in the face. Reality check. ❤ I’m 37 now and I feel like I’m 67. When I swear 3 years ago I was feeling like I’m 21 again. Being a mommy is no joke. I love my son and would die for him but we need more light shed onto this topic and support. ❤
Love the honesty and the distinction. It’s not about not loving your child. It’s about not loving the role and all the baggage of that role from society. Thanks for putting this out there. I’m sure it helps other mom’s feel less alone, ❤
This is such an important conversation. I find I have it with myself often. I had my daughter young and never really got a chance to accomplish anything or really get my life going. So I regret bringing her into a hard part of my life. And it unfortunately has only gotten harder. Just the constant guilty feeling that she deserves better..
God bless you, you're a great mother 💜💜🌹in my opinion ,this society does not truly respect or appreciate mothers. I've decided not to have children out of fear... But I desire to do something that'll make life easier for mothers and children.
Thank you for sharing how you feel ,helps to know it's more common than you think! It's easy to have a child it is hard to raise a child!
For what it’s worth I absolutely do not feel this way!
Neither do I. But I have a support system that eases the work
This is why telling women that their lives don't mean anything if they don't get married or have children is WRONG. Not all women even want those things, and those things are NOT the sole reason why were on this Earth.
Wow this is so real and i relate so much. Even tho I’m not a mother these are some reasons why i consider not wanting the roll. I know it will consume me and i get anxiety even thinking about being a mother so i could imagine the anxieties I’d have it i was to be a mother 🥹. It’s a bitter sweetheart thought for me so a rather not take that roll 💭
*role
Your first name is so lovely. What is it’s origins?
role
Don’t do it
Don’t do it.
I respect what you’re saying, it doesn’t get said a lot. Although, I would like to add that I feel that there’s a certain beauty to hardships of motherhood. As a child seeing that, it creates great reassurance and it sets a good example in my opinion.
I’ve had many foster mothers at varying ages and you see how at different ages women navigate the difficult things - it seems like, with time, it becomes easier to manage.
The idea that hardship is beautiful on its owcomes of as perseverance porn. There should be systems in place to help struggling mothers, but there should also be more awareness about the actual struggle.
Parenting is simply not for everyone.
Thank you for being so transparent, I wish more moms were open about this
Thank you for stating this.....sooooo relatable. 💜
Thank you to my mom who had told all 5 of her children since I can remember that if she could do it all again, she wouldn’t marry or have children. Now I am a 30 year old woman who has only just entered my first relationship since I was 18. I don’t see children in my future most days. Some days I think I want a baby. Then I get up and go do whatever I want and not think about a baby for the rest of the day…: it’s such a hard decision to make because women carry an unfair in-proportionate onus of the care of children whether you marry the father or not.
My dad never played with us unless it was something he was interested in, and it didn't negatively affect us. He'd play wiffle ball in the yard or help assemble a puzzle but he wouldn't play dolls. Parents can say no. You're not servants. You matter too
You chose the role so commit to it, learn, grow and be the best version of yourself for your child. There doesnt need to be an expection that every aspect of anything should 'feel' amazing. Feelings dont really matter life isnt about constantly 'feeling' good its about holding up your responsibilities and being the best you can be for your child and raising them well.
I think this mentality can only harm your child, even if you dont say it explicitly, it'll show thrpugh your actions.
Yeeeessss!!!!!❤
It does show. These women are sadly immature and reckless. Every child KNOWS when they are not being loved right. These women should think about the men in their lives and how desperately they act for them. If their man resented them they would be devastated
Such a needed conversation
Thank you for being open and honest because I totally feel it. Tbh I hate I became a mom I'm great to my children but it's just too much out and not enough in .
I tell people all the time that I refuse to have a child until I’m ready and until the circumstances add up.
You can die during childbirth, end up a single mom, leave the birth with life altering conditions, or even be stuck with someone that doesn’t appreciate all you’ve done
Birth can lead you you poppin out your vag due to things being ripped and shredded through birth
I’m SO straight on that 😅
Thank you and mad respect for talking about this when no one else will !! Can definitely relate as a mother with 2 😩
😂😂😂 this is ridiculous! A crying emoji? Do you guys have monsters at home or children you choose to give life too?
I hate being a mom of a 2 year old that destroys all of my stuff. He's broken two laptops and much more including my printer
Put valuable things out of reach. It’s why I don’t leave my shoes out. My puppy will eat them.
It may be good to consider keeping things in places where he cannot get to them. We have a 2 year old and our laptop has been safe. But we keep it away from him.
My one year old cracked my iPhone and I work on my phone. I was mad for a few days lol. Can't even use that phone anymore
They are babies wtf are you talking about. They know no better. You are supposed to teach them.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone say exactly what I think out loud. I used to feel bad about feeling this way about motherhood & I felt like I was being a bad parent, but being a single mom changed my whole life. Some good…some not so good & I love my son beyond words & comprehension, but if I could go back in time I would’ve done things differently. I definitely was not ready for all the worrying & overthinking I do on a daily basis since becoming a mom. Thank you for sharing this! ❤
You aren’t alone I promise you. ❤️ When ppl ask me how’s motherhood so far I tell them upfront it’s bittersweet or I haven’t enjoyed it. I’m not about to lie or sugarcoat my experience bc it has been hella difficult & he’s still a toddler.
@@tinyking11 Thank you ❤️ I wish I could tell you that it gets easier, but I have an almost 13 year old now & it has its challenges but one thing I can say is that if you are trying your best, be gracious & patient with yourself. It’s not easy. I feel like my son & I are growing up together & while I’ve made mistakes I try to focus on picking myself up & moving forward every time. Things will fall into place one day & the things we go through happen for us, not to us & hopefully we will learn & grow in the right direction ❤️
@@D_Ortiz23 Thanks for your kind words sis. Good luck with the rest of your motherhood journey. ❤️ Nothing I do is good enough for my mom when it comes to mothering my son which is annoying af. I’m a laid back mom & my mom be stressing me out & trying to correct everything I do. 🙄😑 That’s why I keep my distance from her.
@@tinyking11 we can’t make everyone happy & that’s okay. You do what you feel is best. We are all doing the best we can with what we have & what we know. When I became a mom I understood that my mom did the same. The kids our parents raised aren’t the same kids we are raising. This world is very different now & sometimes we have to pivot & try different things. Again, be patient with yourself. There will be ups & downs but you got this! ❤️
In my defense I was on birth control both times. I didn’t choose to be a mother, I just couldn’t choose to have an abortion if that makes sense……..
It does make sense. Some medications like antibiotics or seizure medication can make birth control less effective.
Someone I know was in her mid 40s with her only child (son) being 18 years old, then after antibiotics she unexpectedly got pregnant with twin girls. She was not at all planning on having more children.
You still chose motherhood cuz you didn’t give the baby away. Seek sterilization to avoid more accidents. There’s docs out there who let you without hassle.
Totally makes sense.couldn't choose the abortion as well
You can still get pregnant on birth control if you don’t wait for it to get in your system long enough. Three months is a good time to wait. Missed pills and then sex in the middle of trying to correct your missed pills could get you pregnant. Mirena is not 100% as your body can reject it or it can shift. In the process, you can get pregnant. Happened to my sister.
One rule I find to be a success is double protect yourself by using condoms as well. This also prevents the spread of any STIs. You can also use birth control, condoms, and try to have the male use the pull out method. You won’t get pregnant!
@@Marz859where about I need it too!
I wish more mothers would come out about this. Let manosphere speak it we’ve made our bed. Which is true to an extent. But that anxiety never goes away. The fear. You lose yourself with the obligation of totally immersing yourself in motherhood and motherhood only. Considering giving my kids father the custody he wants and reclaiming me back. Love my girls to pieces. But it is incredibly hard on one person. I don’t regret them. I regret my stupid choice, I regret not fully knowing/processing what the heck I was getting myself into…so much goes into it and we’re just told to suck it up because it’s our choice which is true. But sheesh it’s troubling.
Lmaoo why would you wish more moms would
Say this to make you feel better about ya bullshit thoughts. Seek therapy not validation.
@@kjellmclarenTake your own advice first
As a mother of 2 adult sons, I don’t regret them but motherhood is hard and honestly, the worry never goes away. When they are little you wanna rush them growing up because you believe that it will be easier. And in some ways, it is. But the worrying about them Never goes away. You just now worry about different things. And no one prepares a mother for the reality that when they do leave home, you struggle with your role and identity in life. And then when they bring children into the world, a whole another kind of worry starts. 🥺 But oh, the love of a grandbaby makes it all worth it!! At least for me.💜 and yes, I very much did miss the fun time with my kids. My regrets were that I didnt do enough of that. So I try and make it up through my grandbabies. No one but God could teach me what unconditional love was like my sons did. So for that I was always be grateful!! I believe they were God’s grace in my life. I pray I did right by them!!
IDK, my mum clearly didn't enjoy parenthood but loves being a mother if that makes sense? The mundanities that parenting entails such as cooking, cleaning, taking your child to and from school, parent meetings, parents of other kids - basically everything. But she enjoyed who each of her children were as individuals/has relationships with each of us and genuinely enjoys our company.
I wonder if single motherhood is causing those feelings. It is much easier with help
They also need Jesus
I will never be a wife or mother
I do not know these mothers’ circumstances and or position…motherhood is super challenging, however, I can’t regret my children and regret being a mother. I get annoyed, I get tired and sometimes I want to cry, but being a mother is about being selfless, nurturing and giving unconditional love and setting your selfishness aside.
This is where I am now.. I am at the stage where I want to focus on myself. I want to make time to prep and research healthy foods.. make time for sunsets and sunrises.. without the responsibilities of all that motherhood brings.. I want to do 6am yoga on the beach. Sleep in.. take weekend road trips and visit local farmers market. I feel bad because I want the absolute BEST for my children but I also want to be able to put myself first so I can be a better individual 😢
I feel you on that anxiety that comes with motherhood😅
I totally understand everyone’s point of view on this video.
As a 35yr old mother of 3 girls 12, 11, & 9 YALL get it!!!!
Yup mine 9,11,13
Same boo. I’m 33yr old mom of 3. Boy and 2 girls. 13,12,and 10 ❤
@@divinelycreated4him the nerve of others asking am I going to try for a boy at this point 🥴🤣
@@Taye1204 girl i have 1 kid . a daughter. and i.am.done .lol 😂
Beautifully said, honestly. I love my children more than myself more often than not, and it is rough mentally.
Everyone is different. Its great they are bringing this into light when almost no one talks about this 👍🏼
This is the result of people consistently telling you "youll change your mind", "youll regret not having kids", "youre 25 when are you getting married and having kids?" People need to accept parenthood doesnt bring fulfillment or happiness to all
I can't imagine being worried for the rest of my life have anxiety enough already no need for me to put a Child through my troubles
Most mothers???? motherhood is not fun . I choose to remain without kids unless I feel ready to adopt.
You think adoption is easy 😅
you think adopting a child is any different? lol
@@akashicrecords9672 it means u don’t have to waste your womb on birthing
@@Sky-yh3mlwhat do you mean " waste"
@@ashleyneco meaning person begs to have birth them to disown after! Nope! Stock options of corps making artificial wombs is where I’m investing
I don’t regret it because it was a conscious decision to go through the pregnancy!!& thank god I have a man who stuck around to raise our two
Wonderful
I 100% agree I've been feeling like that for a while and I thought I was a bad parent it's nice to see another mother with a different Outlook
The EXTREME selfishness, narcissism and self-centredness that exists in the world today is CRAZY. I’m sorry but motherhood AND the role comes hand in hand. To say you don’t regret your child but you regret the role doesn’t make any sense.
Not wanting children isn't inherently selfish or narcissistic. Most narcissists have children. Parenthood isn't for everyone.
@@EclecticallyEccentric anything that you love you don’t resent having to take care or watch over it… the two go hand in hand. So for a mother to say “she loves her children but hates motherhood” is inherently selfish and narcissistic. I’m not talking about those who say they don’t want children even though those people are also selfish and narcs but hey 😂
Thank you! The outrage in the comments if this lady said she regrets being a pet owner would be CRAZY but speaking like that about a human you gave life to is so “empowering” …sad world, really
@@EclecticallyEccentric All people should be able to instruct those who come after them, sadly, this is not the case in a world filled with lawlessness due to transgressions.
Whoa, yes!! Relatable and I’m so thankful you shared this honestly.
When I was inflamed like that I also had a ton of anxiety. As a parent I had to prioritize my health and sense of safety before fully embracing my role as mom, and giving myself space for all the other parts of me. Health is huge
Anxiety be on 5 million… that’s a fact!!!! Never been scared of nothing until I became a mom!!!!
I respect your honesty and myself as a parent we want to be the best for our children that we can be but then we look at ourselves and ask that we want to be selfish or do I have all that it takes to raise this person that depends on me I wake up day in and out wondering am I enough for them
Men say it act it and walk away and no one blinks an eye but if a women does woo she is cast to the pits of hell
Thank you for the honesty
I love being a mom but I’m not gonna say sometimes a break is not needed just like anything else.
Even cats and dogs take a break. If you have a cat or a dog that has babies, she will bring them to you to watch them while she rests. I was napping on the couch as a teen and woke up to our cat plopping her kittens one one after another "here you watch them"
This is the best post. 😊 naturally mothers should have that support like your cat feels confident that she has. ❤
Most moms don’t feel that way though. Some sure, but “most” is a strong assumption
Idk. I love everything about motherhood ❤
I love the honesty
😳. They regret “motherhood” is crazy. I love it. It’s like watching a flower grow if you put enough care and energy into it. Then the pay off is being endlessly respected and loved once that flower reaches maturity
Good for you. Not everyone shares your sentiments. If you can't empathize, be quiet.
I understand you this world is so evil and you know one day your kids is going to want to separate they want to do things and you don't know how to let go I feel you it gets worse honey it gets worse you going to one day may become a grandma and you're going to look at your grandkids is going to get worse because you know what I'm going through it right now I was like that with my child and I'm even worse my grandchildren. its so hard when you can't keep them close and protect them from themselves and this cold evil world. I say through experience pray to God keep God close and no not hope but have faith that God going to be there no matter what good and the bad.
📢say the quiet part out loud!
Most moms don’t regret motherhood.
Idk instead of complaining what can you do to change the situation . It’s possible. Don’t give into the circumstance . If you were strong before the child you are no different now if not stronger . Tap into that remember who you are and that you can do this . Rough times will ALWAYS be there . If you let them get the best of you you will lose every time .
Thank you. So true and encouraging ❤
Some people shouldn't be parents. They should have used abstinence, birth control, or Plan B. They should have worked to have good finances, so they don't have to use kids to get child support and govt benefits.
These women maybe know a bit what it's like to be a responsible guy now...looking out for other people....being protective of somebody besides just themselves.
don't feel sorry for these women one bit
BIRTH CONTROL PILLS KNOWN TO FAIL! MOST WMN DONT WANT PARENTHOOD
Just air food water is fine
You make a good point. That’s coming from a woman with no kids.
I am very blessed to have my dad who works very hard to provide for the family. I see the struggle my dad has especially because my brother and I are disabled and the other 4 kids are struggling to provide for themselves too, and he is trying to save enough money to provide for us even after he is gone in case we are still disabled. He also is the only one that really knows what to do and how to help us in most “adult” situations because my mom is clueless. She’s like an extra child. I can’t even imagine the pressure he has. And my mom refuses to work and is likely a narcissist and takes him for granted. I don’t know how he does it.
I actually really want 1-3 kids. But I don’t want kids unless they’ll be in a happy and healthy situation. So, if I can find a man who would be a good father and I am in a place where I can be a good mother mentally, physically, spiritually, financially, etc. then I’d feel very blessed to have a child. These women don’t realize how blessed they are.
I love how they speak for most moms lmaoo
Knowing they’re super projecting and has lighting ti make this mental women seem normal when she clearly needs therapy she in well.
Adults making adult choices and can't deal with the consequences like an adult
I understand space but my first pregnancy was at 16 and my last and third one at 26. I have zero regrets and wouldn't trade it for the world.
If you regret the role then you regret your kids….no judgement tho cause I feel the same way….if your gonna tell your story you have to be honest with yourself first
I hate the “role” too but love my daughters 🥰
This is how I feel. I love my child but I wish someone else I trust could raise my son for a few months. Lol
As far as I know. Your judged either way. If you’re a mother or decide to be childless. That’s my understanding of it. I’m a single mother. I have encountered both sides. People judge me or help me. At the end of the day every woman has choices of how and who they choose to become
Every type of work has its inconveniences, just as in some aspects of parenthood, couples, jobs, etc. Does it drain me from time to time, yeah.
I wish I could go back in time someday in the future, so I can relive my son's childhood days.
Saying you love your children but wouldn't have them if you could change the past, well, loses all meaning and you probably shouldn't have been a parent, it's disgusting.
Thought I was alone in this. I do feel bad about the regret. Love my baby dearly but if i could go back in time. Its just not for me but i will push threw. I got about 14 more years to go. Atleast i just have the one.
Respect to your content .. thank you
Keep it all the way real. Parenting is soooo hard
Children are not a blessing. Having a family is not worth the he risk and it is very little reward if any
Dont be afraid. Ask the Lord Jesus to take your fears and to keep your child safe. Fear has torment. Ask God to help you
Most moms feel that way? No they don’t 😅
I’m
Glad a women said it, this what they want to tell our younger women. These feminist podcast are cancers. They want to gas light and push there negative motherhood narrative on young ladies it’s sick. Talking about most moms feels this way lmaoooo cut it out nice try.
these American feminists really think like they speak for all women on the planet. smh
For me, you don't know until the child reaches 5 y.o. I hated the too-much-care and "guardian" phase! But i' m ok know. I adore watching her grow. I grow with her too.
That’s deep
So what you’re saying is that you hate responsibility? Got it..
So all these ladies became mothers by “accident” ?
Idk how. But I do not feel like this about my son 😂😂. I enjoy my space from him. I don’t worry about his safety as much. (Mainly because he’s only with people I trust 100%)
Idk how I did it. But I feel like I’ve found the balance of not allowing motherhood to consume me. It was rough the first year. But now I feel like myself.
I pray more moms can create that balance in their life.
Thank you for this!
I respect them. They said it as it is ❤and it is like that. But too many feel guilty thinking it so they don't say it ❤
My Mom has to deal with a lot from my siblings and living at home, I had to deal with that. Then everybody and the family always wanna tell you how to raise your kids, like I don't have timd for that.
Imagine her child seeing this? You can say you don’t regret your daughter but saying you regret the role of mothering is just saying that in another way. Why put this on the internet?
If you dont want kids or feel not ready dont have one
Yooo its great not having kids.
it absolutely is. and with the state of this world and the constant taking away of women's rights... why would you want to have a child in this hellhole of a society?
I’d have kids tomorrow if I could be the dad. Very little changes for men when they become parents unlike for women.