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I feel when he’s talking about Elyas he’s talking about himself 😂😂
me too 😂
I love this positive vibe your videos start to have brother. continue the good work!
I strongly disagree with the idea of "marry bad women and charm them in to becoming good". No one really changes that fast and even if she change for a while she will have high tendency to go back to what she used to be once she feel you have accepted her as a long time wife and mother. Especially if the compromise is in the religion aspect.
not what he said bro, he said, overlook a few flaws for the good that she has. You will not find the "perfect" woman, that was the idea of the video which is a very good imo
@DubcoreBibbi
Ummm... He said marry women with flaws and don't disqualify bad women. Sorry this is scraping bottom of the barrel. And his first wife and him got divorced, so this advise is null
If I understand Mahdi general advice, it is if the woman is less than ideal religious wise but she has feminine non combative and submissive behavior to give leadership to the husband, then there is a chance she will fix her religious flaws after marriage, he is basically saying don't be quickly dismissive if you so this type because the ideal woman of religious feminine beautiful and non combative is hard to find and you will end up looking for a unicorn. Not necessarily agree but I can see some valid argument about it
He said, if she has bad flaws, but clearly wants to change. Than you can consider marrying her, if you really can see her wanting to change and doing some progress.
That’s the important point in here
The guy is wack lol he’s a complete joke
Love is transactional for women, they love what you can do for them or how you make them feel.
Same for men so it's dumb to mention it so much.
@@Bro-dd2sgno not really. Men do it unconditionally.
Thats the difference. So your dumb for countering it.
@@Bro-dd2sgYes and No. Men and women both have love conditionally, but I would argue since men are the more hopeless romantic sex on average men comparatively love women more unconditionally than vice versa. Its a repeated statement online that men love women for WHO they are whereas women love men for WHAT they are. Personally I have find arguments for this statement in more than one videos on youtube quite convincing on AVERAGE at least. However, there are also cases I can promise where both a man and a woman have fallen in love with some one from the opposite sex without getting anything in return. And Allah (SWT) knows best. All these discussions regarding human psychology and behavior are awesome but as I mentioned earlier Allah (SWT) knows best on how accurate oir assessment of His creation is.
Nah, it's just some men would rather pay than work on being a decent person. If love wasn't transactional then your character would be put under the microscope. Are you sure you want that? 😂😂😂😂
@@DudeDesi07 You need to go look up what the definition of unconditional love is. Being hopeless romantic does not make you an unconditional lover. Unconditional love means that you love someone irrespective of what they do. But what most men are describing is actually unconditional dedication, and that is you do irrespective of how you feel. It's a "duty" based love.
Most men have circumstantial limitations, so they try harder to keep the woman because of how long it takes them to get one. Then they funnel their hopeless romanticism to her and explain it off as unconditional love when they're the ones in a situation. Hence where the "duty" love comes in.
wow this is such a great advice Mashallah. May Allah bless you, grant you protection, happiness and success in this world and the hereafter
Unspoken reality: a significant amount of sisters who wear niqab in the west are argumentative, stubborn and somewhat masculine. If a woman fulfills her fardh, avoids kabair sins AND her spouse is upset will go to paradise from any door she pleases. A woman who does a thousand extra things for the deep, but her husband dreads her is not a pious woman.
*pleased not upset
Men have become soo soft that if a woman has an opinion and airs it they see it as argumentative and stubborn. You are dealing with humans not an AI robot.
@SultanasRoyalSpambot you’re reminding me of Gaston from beauty and the beast 😂
‘It’s not right for a woman to read…soon she starts getting ideas and thinking’
@SultanasRoyalSpambot My thoughts too haha
@@renatoc8377big facts
“Average ABDULLAH” and “exceptional Elyas” inspired by Hamza Ahmed’s “Jefferey” and “Adonis”
Haha nice comparison
Though I don't think the similarities were intentional or directly inspired.
I say this mainly because the Jeffrey character does not exactly represent the same as average Abdullah
Abdullah is a servant of Allah swt. How can you call someone with that name average. This is an insult
Good points but certain things can’t be overlooked. Either have an ironclad prenup or keep government out of your marriage. Especially important if you’re marrying in the west.
In some states, if you live for certain number of years, you are considered married.
@@danielaramburo7648 very true. Prenup is inevitable if in those states
The edits and transitions are really good in this video
Naa. I would never have married a girl with guy friends.
Deal breaker
Same, it genuinely disgusts me. At my school, people will be dating and letting their women be messed around with other guys. Sickening 🤢
Only a dayoth marries such women. They do that then be sure Allah will test them badly as they didn't prioritise religion and chastity
@@proilen4060thats usually what happens in the west.. no education on morality. Just fools around like cattle
@@proilen4060 but bro you dont need to be loyal if she has a past you can have four wives
@@proilen4060 Depends what her attitude is imo and how she acts around you even when she has no guy friends.
Wow, I never thought of this. Thank you soooooooo much...
Inshallah we all meet you nasib soon… those late twenties hit different😢 everyday it gets worse like the clock is ticking….
May Allah Help you
I love you brother and I agree that there are many good pious muslim sisters out there. It might not seem that way if the only sisters that you see are the ones on Instagram and youtube. However I don't agree with your advice to the brother to put his wife "on probation". This is not how we should approach marriage. The woman you marry is a trust from Allah and should be treated that way. If you already have the mindset of "let's do nikah and see how it goes", you shouldn't marry her. Would you allow someone to marry your daughter with that mindset? The intention should be "I will do anything possible to make this marriage work and make my wife a reason to gain entrance to Jannah".
Some don't even respect themselves. They wear abaya and hijab. They gaze at you like never before, especially when she's alone. What happened with lowering their gaze? If sisters did not do that peak a boo stuff, and observed their deen. They'd all have a husband. I think men have valid reasons not to get married to them.
I've noticed this as well. You don't even have to look at them to know as you can see it from your peripheral vision but when you do, they get puzzled and look away, it's funny 😂
@Altair-El-Haddad It's annoying. I was driving with my brother two hijabis did this thing they always do.
You 2 must be exceptionally attractive because most women I know avoid eye contact with men, because they don’t want random men harassing them for their number.
@@sarahosman9030
In my opinion the reason is the Haya among modern wmn is on the decline and it all comes to their households and the men in their families and how they were raised, I had girls from school trying to talk to me and the more I ignore them the more they try and they even started to harass me on social media.
@@sarahosman9030 only desperate men will harrass middle age darkness
Attracting/being appealing to the sisters isn't the issue but finding the right one is. It's like searching for a freshly baked muffin in the midst of the amazon forest.
@ftrtts5666 if you fancy mid then sure, go ahead bud
You attract what you are 🤷🏽♀️
@@sarahosman9030
That applies to women not men
@@Ya39oub_G I’m sure Allah said The good man is for the good woman and the bad man is for the bad woman. But obviously you know more right 🥴
@@sarahosman9030
First, go and read the Tafseer before you give it a Tafseer of your own.
Second, what I meant is that women are the ones to attract men not the opposite because the man is the one who makes the first move and asks her hand for marriage based on what he sees in her.
The hoe-jabi past killed me wallah 😂😂
It's funny, while it legit kills some _good_ women.
Not trying to provoke a ridiculous childish discussion with you, (only pointing it out).
Some men don't have the courage to defend women they THINK do wrong on a daily basis, in fear of losing face/respect from other male family members &/or friends..
Me too 😂
@@Daniella-mg7wwhoejabis r never good
@@Daniella-mg7ww Mahdi was just making all the 304 Hijabis happy. He is now Elyas. So he wouldn't care about your past & would be good for you. 🙌
@@jcl9034 I was not referring to real "hoe-jabis"
I agree with you, there is no perfect option but there are certain things which you can't compromise on like Salat because it's islamically not permissable to marry someone who doesn't pray.
But guys can marry Christians. They don't even know about salah
@@shahee6579
That's a different thing, and I didn't come up with it myself you can ask any scholar.
if a muslim reject salah she become kafir, and you cannot eat the meat she makes. but if a christian it is permitted.@@shahee6579
@@shahee6579 No they can't.
Do not marry polytheistic women until they believe; for a believing slave-woman is better than a free polytheist, even though she may look pleasant to you. And do not marry your women to polytheistic men until they believe, for a believing slave-man is better than a free polytheist, even though he may look pleasant to you. They invite ˹you˺ to the Fire while Allah invites ˹you˺ to Paradise and forgiveness by His grace.1 He makes His revelations clear to the people so perhaps they will be mindful.
Surah Baraqah, verse 221.
Before you send the verse that you can marry women of the Book, women of the Book believed in Tawheed and it was applied to 1400+ years ago not now. Nowadays "Christians" are disbelievers, they idol worship. So it is not allowed.
@@horemopik2152 false understanding. do not speak about the Quran without knowledge. the trinity is mentioned in the quran
So many Muslim men have no room to compensate since they are 27-28 and are looking for first time intimacy hence are desperate and the Nisaa know this and this grants them exceptional advantage and she can virtually get away with everything even ho e jabi past since in Europe they can literally just get a simple procedure fixing up the tear so it's appears first time
Overtime she grows to despise him because the man bought into the Disney fantasies and thinks them real but because her degree is mostly useless she has to depend on him further causing her to start even denying him his right
And he can't even divorce because he's scared and he's needy and fears he can't get another and so she becomes his boss and master
Sadly this not only happens in the west but also in countries like, Lebanon, Egypt and Morocco. My friends who are around 24-26 always tell me horrifying stories about the things that happen in their respective countries. My mates native to Morocco who are not even unattractive, they've got good height and jobs but they can't find/afraid of getting married cause a lot of the sisters don't know much about Islam and it was evident to me when i visited marrakech and the streets were filled with sisters wearing short shorts. It's sad.
@@Altair-El-Haddad Oh don't get me started with Egypt 😂😂😂 I visited some family members there who were staying there temporarily from a war-torn country, and let's just say I never felt so uncomfortable my whole life. I almost wanted to throw up. It was the first time I saw a hijabi go inside a club. They wore tight jeans with a hijab before it was even a thing in the west. Thats when I realized Muslims here are actually more conservative.
@@-glitch-8195 the people are pretty friendly and fun to hang out with as they're outgoing, loads of uncles with pot bellies cracking jokes all the time but yeah some places and behaviour of certain people make you feel like you're on a different planet 😂😂
Brother, there are women that are religious and also beautiful, but do not find the so called religious man! I don't know why mahdi says we cannot apply his view on men too, like in the city where I live most young Muslim men do not even pray, they drink alcohol and are dayooth
The perfect sister does exist, but it's difficult to get her, most of these sisters are being tested so much, with their own families that go against their hijab and force them to work and mix with men.
Still remember the prophet said marry the religious woman, hold onto her with your nails!
The other women mahdi talks about, they may be the ones to change the man and not the other way around! As the prophet said he has never seen someone who can take away the brain of men more than women. A religious man married a woman from the khawarij and he ended up becoming a khariji.
Also mahdi not all fathers are like his own father, most don't care about their sons and daughters doing zinah, masturbation and watching porn.
So yes, do not think there aren't exceptional women, they just live among deviants and are more ghurabah than the muslims in other countries. Many women are being tested like Sarah and Yusuf.
Do you know how much hard it is for those women to not commit zinah and to hold onto their religion?
Or yes maybe the whole in one sisters, deserve a whole in one man, which either exists in the very end of times or in paradise.
These sisters have only Allah to turn to, no muslim scholar, no muslim man, no muslim judge, no muslim ruler, no prophet on earth.
May Allah protect these sisters and may Allah make justice on the day of judgment and punish the oppressors
Yaay!! Mahdi is here to save the world 😂😂😅
Seriously ,this was a really good video thumbs up 👍
Were u saying that when he beat his wife and divorced her?
@@ultrabossKM
Idk about that 😐 can't you just stick to the topic?
@@Sofyh-l4u I mean I am, your taking marriage advice from a guy that openly said that he's qualified to talk about marriage becuz he got divorced for abusing his wife and child, that's like going to a serial killer for medical advice.
@@ultrabossKM
Lol am not one of his fan girls am just glad his views is different in this video . He's actually supporting the sisters here which is not always the case!
@@Sofyh-l4u Supporting the sisters by telling them to get copper IUDs which are harmful to the women and her vagina health?
My brother this video is very refreshing. I am an unmarried brother who is going to turn 33 soon. As you’ve said in your video i find it difficult to make a decision as I’m ’trying to find the whole in one’ it’s a tough decision as it’s a life choice, but as you said if it doesn’t work out then it doesn’t work out. May Allah grant us all what is best. I am glad I came across your video
Women: I want to want to marry a man who's taller than me so I feel protected and our children could grow up to be tall
Men: I want to marry a woman who's able to conceive and give me healthy children
Women: So are you saying women who aren't able to conceive not good enough??
💯
Yes they are not good enough
It goes both ways though. Women usually want a man taller than them, and men usually want a woman shorter than them.
Yes.
In fact beeing a little bit shorter is more healthy : less cancer risk and less heart attack risks, the natural hight of an male human is beetween 5 7 and 5 10 (stoneage average, the most natural lifestyle in human history) this should be the perfect hight for the most healthy offspring.
am a 25 year old male. single. never was married. my only probleme is money. i know that becous every thing els is perfect. but if thers no money nothing els matters and thats a fact. ya Allah Grant us goodness and wealth, O Lord.
He is talking about his wives like they're a piece of meat. So now the whole world knows that his wives are using copper coils. Who asked? Does a woman really need a husband who is exposing the most private details of her sexuality? Is that the guidance and the leadership and the protection he always is talking about? I'm not a religious expert, but I don't think this is how a Muslim should be...
Springs in their things 🤣🤣🤣🤣 yeah a husband who shares this surely has little if any shame or respect and dignity for his wife
flipping love this donny😂😂😂😂 May Allah guide us all and bless brother Mahdi, ameen
Wallahi I hear you bro.
0:15 ain’t no way bro is pulling a Jeffry-Chad on us🤣
The non hormonal coil has several side effects for the woman. Main one being frequent, heavy and pain menses. Which defeats the purpose if your wife is always on her menses. It also impacts your ibadah as you can’t pray for an excessive amount of time.
Natural family planning is the way to go, as if Allah wills a child not even a coil is going to prevent it, as stated in the Quran. Maybe Mahdi should practice his pull out game instead of this nonsense.
hmm...some ppl take the opinion that all contraception is impermissible, a lot of the scholars have gone into detail about it....what u described is the only practise that is sunnah backed. That aside...it's copper, it's a metal....it's toxic. Just no ❌
Have some shame sister. Assalamwailakum
@@shahee6579 sorry does human biology offend you?
@@ghurabaa114xxwhat is your take on contraceptives?
@@ghurabaa114xxagreed.
Thank you very much
This promo is straight out Hamzas playbook with the Geoffry campainh
Thanks for this
Be patient bro
Copper IUD Aren't SAFE ........
The presence of copper also disrupts the natural microbiome of the vagina, which can lead to recurring yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, urinary tract infections and other local adverse events.
Additionally, copper IUDs are associated with increased menstrual bleeding and abdominal pain, with one study finding copper IUDs increase menstrual blood loss by about 50% over pre-insertion levels, increasing the likelihood of anemia.
Copper IUDs can also lead to copper toxicity in the body.
Symptoms may include headaches, fever, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, black stool, abdominal cramping, jaundice, fainting, anxiety, irritability, difficulty paying attention, depression, sadness and other mood imbalances.
Pain and cramping outside of the typical menstrual period window is also a common side effect experienced with copper IUDs.
I agree. Anything that disrupts the way the body was naturally designed will inadvertently have side effects.
High levels of copper can also lead to infertility. Copper is well known to be an spermicide.
My advice is to use the pull out method as well as planning around the female cycle (fertile days should be off charts. The healthiest for sure.
@SultanasRoyalSpambot How old are you? smh
Yes it sounds very dangerous putting foreign objects in our bodies can also cause autoimmune diseases.
Disclaimers like are akin to those you see on a paracetamol pack: you might die from taking a paracetamol.. but probably not.
@@MahdiTidjani it's about the cumulative effects. One paracetamol won't kill, but continued use will damage your liver. Copper IUDs are harmful long term. Infact all long term birth control methods are harmful. Use other methods that don't disrupt what Allah swt made normal for a woman biology
You cannot simply ignore the fact that she will be doing 'ibadah because of you, which may even be SHIRK.
I had bad things happened for been poor so I wouldn’t get married until I earn the capitals to do it every one have different life experiences to learn from
Excellent advice.
My brother ❤️
Nice!
I like this guy 💪🏻
This guy got divorced cuz he beat his wife and child 💪
جزاك الله خيرا
Why y’all making it so complicated? According to Islam it is best to marry a woman with that has deen and fears Allah. If she doesn’t fear Allah then she won’t obey her husband and many problems will occur.
4:00
Good point.
Also lot of salafi brothers look specifically for salafi sisters who wear gloves memorised the Quran and six books of hadith, good luck. Allah gave muslim men the option to marry a k44firah, is a mubtadiah that much worse? No she isn't.
Barakallahufeek
Brother, there are women that are religious and also beautiful, but do not find the so called religious man! I don't know why mahdi says we cannot apply his view on men too, like in the city where I live most young Muslim men do not even pray, they drink alcohol and are dayooth
The perfect sister does exist, but it's difficult to get her, most of these sisters are being tested so much, with their own families that go against their hijab and force them to work and mix with men.
Still remember the prophet said marry the religious woman, hold onto her with your nails!
The other women mahdi talks about, they may be the ones to change the man and not the other way around! As the prophet said he has never seen someone who can take away the brain of men more than women. A religious man married a woman from the khawarij and he ended up becoming a khariji.
Also mahdi not all fathers are like his own father, most don't care about their sons and daughters doing zinah, masturbation and watching porn.
So yes, do not think there aren't exceptional women, they just live among deviants and are more ghurabah than the muslims in other countries. Many women are being tested like Sarah and Yusuf.
Do you know how much hard it is for those women to not commit zinah and to hold onto their religion?
Or yes maybe the whole in one sisters, deserve a whole in one man, which either exists in the very end of times or in paradise.
These sisters have only Allah to turn to, no muslim scholar, no muslim man, no muslim judge, no muslim ruler, no prophet on earth.
May Allah protect these sisters and may Allah make justice on the day of judgment and punish the oppressors
@@hiddensoul4137 come on, there's literally tons of men to turn to lol
They can just accept a proposal and get married. Its actually difficult for the men cause they're the ones who have to make loads of money 💰 to be able to pay the 50k mahr and get married. The real test is on them. Let's go boys 💪
Bro is talking about a 16 year old. Try changing a 26 year old she’ll find it hard to change her ways if you’re an ordinary man
From now on I’m referring to you in my circle as Dr. Tijani. Real talk
Respect brother
I truly believe the riskiest partnership a man can have the better he gets is with women just because how things are in this era. Imagine entering a business you know there is statistically way more than 50% chance of it not just failing but robbing you of what you’ve worked for (even if you are great and successful and a catch -it still happens) .. it’s become a wrestling match
6:25 This only works if she loves you.
My man fixed society
Mahdi you talking about a 16 year old wife who previously had 'guy friends'... which was before social media, and those 'guy friends' were probably people at school in class who said hi once a while during group work. They probably wasn't guy friends but guys in the same class/form.
... don't compare that to today.. to a 25 year old bint with guy friends talking on social media dms sending pictures of fruit emojis to one another...
Caution.
lol I live in Miami make dua for me 😅
Brother, I am not muslim woman, Christian. Music is a soul. While you listening to your favourite music it gives you life and joy. Can woman feel her soul and enjoy? My soul was is piano keys since I was 5yo
If it's good music then I see no problem with it
Love the humour. Nobody is perfect... yet to find a perfect human being (doesn't exist) and people can change... will take time depending on the person.
Each and every action has its advantages and disadvantages. One of which is when you marry a woman who has no idea about love marriage and family. When you get married to her then she would also expect you to teach her the basics for looking after your children and your family. And if you are not able to teach her that then she will deprive of your expectations. That’s how I feel many marriages fail and the woman wants to get out of that marriages. So 1st advantage is she will be eager to learn from you. No.2 she will seek your attention when you are able to charm her. But their are also disadvantages like if you fail to teach her about her job she lose respect for you and she will try to leave that relationship. Cause women seek to have a father figure. Who can teach them Wht to do as a woman. If your not able to fulfil her desires she will not fulfil your desires. And the man should be dominating in a relationship in a positive way because he provides as a main source of income for his family
9:00 you're contradicting yourself all over the place.
Obviously Myron is right since your 2 first wives were horrible and disastrous according to you.
Also you said dont overlook her bad characteristics but overlooking them Obviously leads to divotce and disaster
Make up your mind
Yup 👍
Withholding yourself and your wife from childeren is heavily against the Sunnah.
For the rest, I kinda agree with almost everything else on a personal basis
The women on fresh and fit are Americans in Miami. Women looking for 100k husbands it's in dollars. 100k dollar jobs are simply middle class based on cost of living in the US. 100k dollar jobs in the US are doctor or lawyer middle class professional jobs on the UK which is £40k and up. So the UK sisters looking for middle class 40k jobs have the same expectations as fresh and fit women.
Interesting take
Tbf its not that hard for a guy to make 40k and up once he's in his late twenties for this new generation, everyone has access to so many resrouces and free information on the web. If he can't he's prolly just lazy and couldnt be bothered putting a tiny bit of work in during his youth. So 40k is pretty reasonable if he's like 30+. If he's in his early twenties he gets a pass tho.
@@itwasaizensplan007 Maybe in the US 40k is achievable in dollars. In the uk the average salary is 36k in London. So most people in the uk will never reach 40k in their lifetime. Only 15% of men have professional jobs lawyers, doctors, architects etc. So what happens to the 85% of men who didnt work hard enough at school as you put it?
@@nizal9388 its not even just working hard in school, plenty of people dropped out of school and uni and still did well coz they put the time and effort in. Lazy men are the equivelant to fat women since theyre both in the majority🤣. I'm not saying that either should die alone. I'm merely saying they aren't as desirable. Its honestly not hard. I don't even study and I dont even wanna work and yet i'm still acing law school. Its not hard at all for this generation we have so many resources and advantages that our parents never had. Only exception is if you had an unforseen circumstance which disrupted ur flow - like death of a loved one or an illness or smthn.
@@itwasaizensplan007 fair points. I agree with alot of what you said. We should take full accountability. However, qadr is definitely there because if only smart hardworking people succeeded we wouldn't have dumb lazy bosses - but we know they exist. Success is the chance meeting between hardworking and opportunity.
I used to be that magical agreeaable woman . The moment polygamy is involved im a feminist.
You have an issue
Go seek therapy for ur mental illness before u become a danger 4 people around u
@@max20817 you're absolutely right
Only an ugly insecure woman says this
@@user-ve4zw6jp9iwhy become feminist,
No need,
Islam gives you the right to be jealous, doesnt mean ur a feminist
What about if she have kid from divorce first married?
One of the major signs of the weakness of our ummah is that we flocked to 🤡 for advice and left our scholars in the dust
🤷♂️🤦♂️ this advise is not what the prophet Muhammad pbuh would give. So sorry this is not advise to give. And we all know your first marriage failed. So your advise is flawed
Discuss the dunia Shuaib incident . Thats an outwardly religious woman, but you'd prefer a less practising agreeable woman
I dont want a wife who wears niqab just to please me
First you said consider bad women for marriage by giving example of your first wife then 9:16 of video you told you went separate ways with your first two wives so whole argument is destroyed
Sounds like a recipe for disaster. What happened to good men are for good women and bad men and for bad women?
It’s really funny how most men tell us women what they want ‘an obedient’ wife, but majority of men actually find the ‘agreeable’ wife boring in the long run. Men like challenges, women like stability. That’s why when women marry they want a stable man. But when men marry they want a someone stable woman who has a ‘freaky’ side. A lady in the streets and a ‘fr*ak’ in the sheets. Unfortunately for that type of woman you would need a woman to be very comfortable with her ‘s*xuality’ where she can let the man how to satisfy her and she can explore how to satisfy him. That’s all the physical stuff. Men also love a women who provide intellectual stimulation. Agreeing with him 90% of the time simply because he’s the leader isn’t it. If his vision/suggestion isn’t sitting well with you, you can’t just go along with it. Challenge him to grow and see a different perspective. He will not like it in the moment but will love it enough to not part ways with you. Dressing up for your man and home is another key thing and being presentable as much as possible. Grow in the deen together and inspire him to grow with you. Do fun things together, don’t make marriages boring! And lastly, don’t ever disrespect him in public. If you don’t like how he is you can also politely tell him in public or even tell him that you will walk away from him until he calms down. But don’t yell and shout in public. Try to avoid arguing in private too but it is better that you sort out your differences in private. And don’t talk ill about him to your friends and family. That’s your man, have his back. Don’t expose his sins or flaws to others. You’ll have a man’s heart forever with the above, and more… but can’t give out all the secrets 🤩
Lol Miami is probably the WORST area. I agree with a lot of what you say. I am not Muslim but I agree. - my knee jerk was listening to music 🤣. - Not the man friends-
Mahdi Manscaping for sure. Its 2023 oh well.
Mandi for the love of god please consider the blackpill
No
Marrying and then deciding to not have children for the first two years??? I don't know about that.
It weeds out the honey moon phase and to vet her if she actually can be a lifelong partner. Nobody should be forced to be in a commitment if 1 isn't happy
Is a nikab a mandatory requirement in Islam? Can someone please explain. The quran does not state that women must wear nikab
Difference of opinion
1. There’s scholarly difference about this.
2. The sources in Islam are the Quran. Sunnah (hadith) and scholarly consensus. Therefore, if something is not mentioned in the Quran, it doesn’t mean it holds no weight.
Fresh and fit need to man up. Those cannot be taken seriously
Can someone please explain, what does `guy friend` entails?
Does it mean they spend time together, go to the cinema or whatever?
Or you just know someone from class, you say hi and bye, does this constitutes as a guy friend or female friend?
the latter but definitely the former
It can be both
@@Anw4rr10r wouldn’t it be ok to say hi and bye in certain occasions (acquaintance). Didn’t Sahaba did it? Not sure just asking
@SultanasRoyalSpambot this shouldn't be a problem what you did but your coworker would've been considered a guy friend before that
@SultanasRoyalSpambot I wasn't talking about such incidents. Yeah it is bad for him to do that. But as a man, just a reminder, MOST of the time, if you are nice to a man, he will think you like him. So I think that is why it is recommended for women to be no nice to man with their voice or actions but be firm and serious at all times.
When I was writing my sentence I was thinking about the incident between Sahabaa. (This story might be made up, i heard somewhere). When the order came for women to cover up, women started to weare black burqas/niqabs etc. But one Sahaba told another female Sahaba that, "no matter how much you cover we can recognize you" due to her being tall etc.
So, I thought to myself, there is such interaction or even small talk between them. Allah knows best, I am just not sure.
The janissaries were soldiers in the Ottoman army, but they were had christian background. Not a good name for your online community (besides the fact that the membership is expensive).
Nothing worse than liberal Somali How-Jabi
Too many of them. Even my somali mates complain about it and want Yemeni women 😂😂 but nah the ones who are shy and reserved are wife material.
@@Altair-El-Haddad avoid them bro, 99.99 are liberal, masculine, aggressive and bleach their skin to look white
@@OliverYavetyou got me cracking bruv 😂😂😂
@@Altair-El-Haddad avoid them bro, dont let that bleaching+make up+ filters deceive u
@@OliverYavetgotcha big g
What did I do 😭😂
Marriage Marriage Marriage… don’t u guys get bored?! It’s Sunnah at the end of the day! Also I just can’t get how can someone sleep with another person in a room for years!? U or she might 💨😷 etc.. I’d rather sleep alone in my room I don’t want a girl sleeping next to me! Sleep is privacy
I think you're genuinely 12 years old. You'll only understand when you reach puberty.
Fr man . I'd rather sleep next to my bros . Wouldn't it get boring with a woman . Guys are more fun to be around . Plus wrestling them is always fun
Marriage is fard
@@shahee6579thats gay. Why do u wanna wrestle and sleep with ur bro's 🤢
@@shahee6579most gay thing i have ever read
Brother got hot towards the end lol
I get your point brother, but we are not animals. Sex isn't _that_ important. At least, not so important for one to compromise (heavily) on his requirements for a good woman. Desires can be ignored, a terrible wife can't ever be ignored.
Because your desire is low and you are not exceptional Ilyas
Unsubscribed, never accept these advices!
Yes his advise is not wholesome. Copper IUDs are not safe. And a Muslim man should marry a good woman with good character. All 3 of his principles are flawed. Although the second one is somewhat true, but not entirely, especially in the modern day.
Copper intrauterine devices (IUDs) are often promoted as a safer, non-hormonal approach to birth control, but how safe are they?
The so-called “non-hormonal copper IUD” is actually an endocrine-disrupting plastic device wrapped with a coil of copper that does in fact influence hormones, despite not releasing any hormones itself.
The coil around the IUD emits copper ions that create an inflammatory response in the lining of the uterus and inhibit the binding sites of the hormones progesterone and estrogen.
Implanting a foreign plastic object into a woman’s reproductive organ to intentionally cause inflammation and block hormones in order to impair fertility is not an ideal approach to birth control.
Marriage is a business transaction. For both parties in a way. From a man's perspective two scenario's: 1) The woman's family asked for a paid off house as a dowry. 2) The woman's family asked for $100K transferred into her account as a form of dowry. The demand is more than what they have to offer. Is it a surprise that more Muslim men say "forget it"?
@SultanasRoyalSpambotI would not sign up for that. Work and family should be separated.
@SultanasRoyalSpambot I am glad you want to stay away from cousin marriages. The thing is...networking. Who are your friends? Who are your acquaintances? And why don't you want to let you daughter go and live where the prospective husband lives? What you are asking is not by any means prohibited but maybe a bit unusual as context is lacking. So the thing is....what would YOU find a compelling reason to let YOUR son live with his future wife's family? Can you answer that for yourself?
Everybody has flaws lol men women. If u want perfection then dont get married because u will be disappointed
Has anyone realised he always goes into detail about his first wife he married at 16 all her bad and all her good. He never goes into detail about these other wives that he says he has
It’s normal as his first experience of marriage at 16. And no he’s not hung up on her if that’s what you’re implying. He said Allah gave him much better. She’s the same one who keeps his children away from him to hurt him but she’s selfishly hurting the children.
He also often mentions his 3d wife and speaks well of her.
He even interviewed her in one of his videos
@Wilmao475 yeah we know he mentions the widow one but the rest of them he never does
@@uu7007maybe I’m a fraud 👀
@SultanasRoyalSpambotwhat sane woman would put a copper coil in her. I think it sounds awful lol
I know all of that red pill red flag talk, but this really made me think.
Thank God I don't depend on a man 🙏🏼😇
To be independent should be the main goal for every woman and a good foundation for a happy life...
You depend on policemen, firemen, garbage men, electrician men, plumber men, builder men, gas men, water men, lay down the pipe men, security men... etc.
Be thankful to God for those men in your life.
Akhi what’s your opinions on prenups ?
I want an exceptional Eliyas. Too bad i cant
@@kelvin_1904 I am. The issue is im just not pretty enough to even tho I'm in my prime, I'm 17.
@@kelvin_1904no I've been told I'm pretty by women in my family, one person outside my family and a kid or two. But I've never been approached by men. I have been stared at by men though so much so my dad told me to switch places so they don't see me. But that's it.
@@kelvin_1904 and the only man that's called me pretty is my uncle lol.
@@kelvin_1904 dont free mix
@@kelvin_1904 thank u
Your inability to have self control over your sexual desires simply because is natural or instinctive is a flaw that will negatively impact how your wive views you in the relationship. If you think you're gonna get intimate whenver you want just because now you're married, you're wrong. Also getting married beause you're horny is quite the naive reasoning to get married and take responsability for someone's daughter, it's almost as if you're saying that you want her to satisfy your sexual urges, effectively objectifiying her as an outlet for your lack of self control.
Man up boys, you're horny, control it the same way you control hunger. You don't eat burgers and pizzas just because you're hungry, you know better to not eat those things multiple times a week because it's not good for you. Being horny and not being able to control it is also not good for you or your wife.
@@ahmedalmahdi9254 so she’s just your sex object because you can’t practice sexual discipline?
@@x7yo7xI agree. That’s why each man needs 4 wives. Because one wife like you is useless
Hamburgers are not good, but sex with wife is good. Do not you see the differences?
is that copper thing halal?
I have a same question
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I heard that birth control namely pills can mess with a woman’s psychology like you said and make them attracted to the more beta archetype. I’ve heard stories of women coming off and no longer being attracted to their partners. Is this the case for the copper coil aswell?
No. It has no such side effects
@@Wilmao475 are you someone who takes the opinion no type of birth control has such effects or are you specifically referring to the copper coil which I was referring to
😂😂😂 bring back the Hamza 😫
So now we’re doing the HAMZA WAY ?
I know a lot of married women who had a terrible past but Alxd as soon as they got married they changed or after they had their first baby they changed to a better person a better wife.
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This is not how it pans out most of the time. I've witnessed loads of brothers marrying both reverts/born Muslims with extensive pasts in hopes of being the Captain SaveAJamila who will "save" her but ended up getting cheated on or divorced in a year or two. Life is not a movie.
@@Altair-El-Haddad am sure such women exist, I just haven’t seen it yet. You need to see what you can or can’t tolerate. See if she respects you as her man as a authority figure. She absolutely needs to be under your masculine frame.
Men are repulsed by wmn with a past for a reason, it's like an alarm or a danger sign to stay away.
Not for me
U contradicting urself now homie.
What app can I use to find a good muslim girl in my area? I live in the Netherlands
An app ?!
The worst kinds are on apps even muslim ones.
Bruv don't use these apps, especially muzzmatch. Loads of crazies there. Netherlands is not the best place to get married if I'm being honest, both for the brothers and sisters. Better move out.
Nowhere app
Pure matrimony is good
@@Sofyh-l4u it’s like a tinder but put Islamic label on it
Ladies, this guy is teaching us a lesson, so listen carefully, read between the lines and draw your conclusions, because when he is talking about guidance and leadership he actually means dominance and control.
This is abusive and no woman needs that, because we were not created to live like a slave.
Women are precious, nurturing and powerful and we deserve a man who appreciates us.
This one is definitely no marriage material!
So be very careful and choose wisely. Try to be financially independent and strive to be happy.
God bless 💗🕊️😘
Men are the qawwam and we do have the rights to have control over our homes and our family members, you can cope all you want.
@@Altair-El-HaddadWomen and the family also have rights upon the man, it ain't like were kings and everyone else in the house is a slave to us, we are slaves only to Allah, cope with that if you value your deen.
@@ultrabossKM ok and? Men are the leaders still, it still doesn't change the fact that you have to obey the head of the house. Cope harder.
@@Altair-El-Haddad What if he says to kill urself or go against Islam should you still obey him? No, becuz men, women and the family have rights, the man's right is not to be a god over the family or to have the family fulfil only his rights, what if he doesn't work or doesn't provide and the wife and kids are struggling to live, should we still obey him even tho he is not acting like a man? Also cope harder? Yes I'll cope with standing up for innocent women and family's who are not having their Islamic rights fulfilled, that makes me a Muslim, do you not cope with this or are you a non muslim?
@@ultrabossKM Of course you wouldn't obey him if he commands you to do things which are against Islam, that's common sense but it still doesn't diminish his role as qawwam, the protector and provider of the family, he who you must respect. The man and woman's rights and responsibilities are different, the wife can't even go outside or work without the permission of her husband but it's not the case vice versa. You can't compare, we are different and we have been given different roles to fill by Allah. You are the only one here who's bringing up these hypotheticals and what ifs, it's nothing but some classic red herring logical fallacy.
You seem very emotional, are you sure you're not a female? Cause if you're not then I can assure you that Zuleikha isn't seeing this. Tone it down little Desi boy, you can't even throw a punch.
Raah! What happened to the shirt?
These days, if they have guy friends, they maybe did stuff with them. Some even when no guy friends and they done stuff. I cant marry a woman like this. Alot haven't, but how do you know. Sad sad world. Arranged marriage from back home is probably better lol.
I see what you mean, but there’s difficulties that come with marrying back home. Will you truly be compatible with a woman who has grown in a different culture and who doesn’t quite understand how life in the west works? It’s hard.
Hoe-jabi past 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
But where did your shirt go? 15:39
The sister you’ve asked r they independent ie paying bills etc. ?
No, why ?
Soon enough most of them will become independent. Unwillingly.
good video but why you took off your clothes at the end, that is cringe to be honest.