Watchu mean all male friends? Even if she has 1 male friend😂 🤮Ain't no way a guy discussing my marriage w/her. Not even his brother or father should have their noses in our relationship. Let the women be women, let the guys stay the f away
As a Muslim woman who has had to vastly financially fend for myself in life, I completely agree with everything you have said brother. JazakAllah khair for these important truths.
Solid gold. This is absolutely true. I thought I was married to the perfect Muslim woman, but her mother and every single person in her family had married only after zina. I though she was different, but she turned out to be exactly like them. You can't save her. Also Daddy issues added on top. She told me herself, after i discovered her cheating, that she can't stop lying, and that she doesn't know how to love. I was still holding on and trying to think of saving her from herself, but this saved me so much effort. Thank you.
Feminism has really created monsters. Some feminist have called out for people to be murdered just for disagreeing with their ideologies. This man was lucky, the masses hate the truth.
@@zaktheymor1977 That doesn't change that what he said makes sense! For example, if a murderer said stealing is terrible does what he said automatically becomes wrong!? By your logic, yes. And I don't agree. His transparency about his past issues may weaken his message but makes him more credible, nonetheless! he was def wrong but that doesn't mean his wives were angels. He is saying he was PARTLY wrong for choosing wives that contributed to his domestic problems.
@@zaktheymor1977 I can tell you're just an overgrown infant with how you think. This man gives the best advice because he actually has experience with the bad parts, so he's knows what to avoid. Wouldn't you like to get advice from a person who has been there done that, instead of a person who speaking on a topic he hasn't really experienced. People like you should just learn by experience, since you are too arrogant to take head to this mans advice.
I completely agree with a lot of what you are saying.. the problem with guys picking these girls - they see them on social media to begin with.. and then expect this girl/ woman to change. If you don’t like that person then don’t try to get her attention. She ain’t going to change. I told a coworker to go find a girl at the library- at the book store- at the grocery store .. a NORMAL person. Not an attention seeker on the internet/ dating sites.
I do slightly agree with your first point I was chatting to a sister who’s mum had a divorce and I could tell she did not like her dad, she said she didn’t trust men and wouldn’t trust her husband which shows that she carried emotional baggage from her mothers divorce.
Trust me running fast...the first movement's they slap you run...don't have babies with them and think it will get better and if you do leave them...your kids will thank you for it
This video is about qualities in a woman but you decided to turn it into qualities about men when that is not the topic. Domestic violence between men and women are very similar. Stop trying to make a victim status for women. And yes he has done it before but is he still doing it? How many women abuse their husbands and have no one telling them they are abusers for the rest if their life?
I wish someone told me this way before my first marriage. Could have saved myself from a lot of hardship. At least 3 markers out of the 5 mentioned were true
My dad left me 3 times as a child and my mum raised me and did such a fantastic job I never turned out like my dad he was a coward so I don't agree with what your saying because I looked at my dad and saw all his failed marriages with women and I wanted to do the opposite because I didn't agree I believe and still to this day believe that if you are perusing a relationship that you a there for the commitment and to be in that relationship for the long run and see marriage in your future. So this whole conspiracy that children follow what their parents do is lies my brother, we are all our own person and you will find that a lot of people never end up repeating their parents mistakes because they learn from them instead and if they are a good parent they will teach them that!
the fact you recognised your father's flaws has allowed u to become a better version of urself and not repeat his flaws, making you an exception to Mahdi's suggestion
Your experiences as an individual do NOT make you the rule, it makes you the exceptions… Mahdi is speaking in generalities because his points are not made to address you
Same goes for men, before you marry a men look at his father's relationship with the mother. Look how his mother is treated at home, if mother has no value at home, than stay far away from this men. He will be controlling and toxic.
Fathers have a lot to answer for when raising girls. They should be making sure there daughter sees how a woman should be treated. I have as you say daddy issues. I couldn’t resolve these issues with my dad as he died when I was 12. But ended up being diagnosed with bpd when I was 19 as they say it’s caused by childhood trauma . I was looking for male attention in all the wrong places and I was looking for that father figure to show me love. I got involved with the wrong people who tried to take advantage of my weakness. But when I was 17 I met my husband and we have been together 13 years now. There are exceptions I didn’t choose to loose my dad. I’m happy I’m a mum of two and I have sercutity and protection from my husband that’s all I need. I saw how my mum never gave up on trying to make things work with my dad even after all the wrong he did to her. A lot of woman who experience issues with there dad are normally worse for sleeping around because they are trying to fill the void and crave the love they never got. Therapy does help and prepares u to be mentally strong so u can have a decent relationship in life.
I would like to add any man or woman who recognises they have a problem is no longer held hostage by that problem: the mere fact you are able to openly and humbly identify you had an issue immediately makes you an exception to the rule. I salute you Sadie. P.S. the mention of your mother relentlessly trying to make it work with your father is almost definitely indicative of your own resoluteness to make your relationship work despite the struggles you may face - as we all do. We reenact what we saw growing up to a large degree. Again, I salute you
Don't forget, she should also witness from a Mother how a man should be treated, forget that it's just how you treat a woman malarkey othewise it comes across very self entitled with no effort, understanding or education on men
u say woman need to be held accountable for who they open there legs too in a previous video. But surely u should of been more careful with who u stuck it too. Works both ways. U went for this type of woman.
I am a divorced man and listened attentively to your point of view. I really tested all but the last one about the independent woman. I liked the second point and how you explained it, when I heard the second point, I remember 2018 and 2019 which were the hardest for me.
People don't always need to be right. They are just right when they are. If you don't have accountability, things will be lopsided even if they look straight.
What about the dad leaving the family they created (cheated, was abusive towards the mum) but she chose to stay for the kids sake? She later married someone else when the kids were teenagers and the dad bounced from woman to woman.
Just to add, when your kids become adults, you should take account of their opinion or information seriously as well, especially when you are making big decisions about the family. Due to the generation gaps, you might not be able to see the whole picture, while your kids might be able to do.
and his kids and he has the audacity, im 14 and im disgusted he has no right to talk about women the way he does, especially when he claims to be a muslim which is a religion that respects and treats women with equality and kindess
Innah Krizelle Tighanon I searched up his name and couldn’t find anything except some petition against him repeating the same allegations. I’d love to see some articles or anything to check.
Brother I'm a bit confused on the 6th one, she always wants to compete against me and is always saying how she wants to work as a CNM. She wants to be rich on her own and achieve her own accomplishments like building an orphanage and buying a bigger home, it seems to me like she's just kinda excluding me from her future. Is this a red flag?
perhaps I miss understand with the game of throne analogy, if I announce my sahada on any social media it mean that I'm not muslim ?, but ofc it's not the same as the strong and independent or being a king isn't ?
Your a natural speaker u know how to make a point but we need to help each other with our issues , wt u r saying is that we have only two options, one is running away , second is to seek a therapy , but u missed one and that is trying to solve it by stating what made this relationship go that way and slowly finding the solution together as a couple
In 2018 there was a guy who rented a moving truck and mowed down women on a busy street in Toronto. This guy and the 2018 guy have the same views. He should be evaluated ASAP.
I'm replying to number 2 of your 5 deal breakers I'm currently in a relationship with a girl with insecurity and I think it's appalling of you to say just because of her insecurity that she doesn't have the right to be loved and understood by someone which is basically what your saying you don't have to directly say it. What men need to hear is or women if they are in a lesbian relationship is women with insecurity need reassurance and patients they need time to heal and they need support they don't need to be ignored and judged its not that they always feel the need to be right it's that they need you to listen to their view point and to know where they are coming from, it shouldn't be a battle in a relationship it should be staying strong together and fighting against the problem not each other. My girlfriend needs my support right now not for me to turn my back on her! Btw insecurity happens in men too because I have it I have a lot of insecurity and she helps me more anyone to deal.with it so there you go. I'm not here to hate I'm just hear to debate with you and give you my view point in the situation I really hope you take the time to read this and understand where I am coming from.
@precizion I disagree I believe in relationships working out and being healthy you need to be open and honest with who you are with and if the person is feeling down then sometimes people can’t always rely on councillors/ professionals to help I can honestly say I went down that road and it didn’t help me in the slightest, not to say it won’t help another person just personally wasn’t for me! However what I did find to help was talking to my partner who I’m still currently with and have been with for years, I on the other hand have been able to help her just by us both opening up to each other about how we feel it really is that simple. But every relationship dynamic is different and what works for me and my partner might not necessarily work for another relationship. I believe everyone has some kind of insecurity it doesn’t necessarily mean it should hold them back from achieving what they want in life so why should it hold them back from being with the person they love the most it hasn’t held me and my partner back that’s for bloody sure if anything it’s made us stronger or else 6 months ago I wrote that I wouldn’t still be with her today of his theory on relationships was in anyway right!
15:17 🤣🤣🤣🤣 thank u but no thank u my heart is in place it didn't sank like srsly u need therapy your wives must have made duaa on u the three of them to the extent that you became like this
The thing I can't understand is why you are so.focused on women and what hey do wrong what about what men do wrong? Men get uncontrollably jealous too I know I do sometimes with my girlfriend and it's not as if she did anything to make me feel that way I'm just very overprotective.
What's wrong with a woman being strong and independent? Also every woman will have at least one of these 'red flags'. So are you saying every woman is unsuitable? I agree having too many red flags is probably not wise to go ahead. But the individual needs to decide what they can handle.
Okay, but I would like to actaully talk to this dude and see why his view set is like this. Cause if I'm being honest; people with views like this was most likely hurt in the past. But that speaking; this viewpoint is not ' helpful ' it's sexist, not an opinion.
so us women with that poor logic of yours should ask and see if a potential husband's father was violent with his wife at the time this said future husband was A CHILD because as u saying here hhhhhhh a child stops at that age in our adult bodies and we never improve? baby talk about yourself like surely u're delusional i see that this was 3 years ago but still imma say you're in jahiliya bro go check up yourself and then come tell us what to do and what not
"Those who pronounce thihar among you [to separate] from their wives - they are not [consequently] their mothers. Their mothers are none but those who gave birth to them. And indeed, they are saying an objectionable statement and a falsehood. But indeed, Allah is Pardoning and Forgiving." [Surah al-Mujadilah: 2] How could you possibly compare women to their mothers? How is a daughter palpable for her mother's marriages? How are you possibly saying that because a woman may come from a family where there have been failed marriages this must mean you should stay away from her? What it is that you are claiming is absolutely against our deen subhanAllah. May Allah SWT soften your heart and guide you.
Sister you didn’t get his point. It can also be vice versa like father like son you know. If the father is not a good father figure and he is not religious and what not and he has anger issues and disrespects his female relatives, you can expect that from his sons as well to act like that. The thing he is talking about is traits or characteristics passed on like if there is a father who is abusive, it’s more likely that it will pass on to his children and then the next generation and so on. So he’s basically saying look wisely at how the other relatives of the family behave (Man/Woman) in order to determine what kind of person you marry.
My parents have been married for around 17 years and they make all decisions equally and it’s not teared there relationship apart. I do agree with the rest of your points though
You can’t make a decision “equally” there always has to be ONE person who makes the final decision, just like a prime minister/ president asks his colleagues for their advice but he always makes the last decision.
Cold hard truth is hard to realize but he is right in so many ways...a bit dramatic...but he isn't far from the tree of knowledge. "A Chinese Parade on Independence Day he meant...🤭👍🤣😂 I bet he pissed a Chinese guy off or two.🤦♂️🤭🤣😂🤣😂🤣
In reply to your 3rd deal breaker I have to disagree again there is and should always be equality in this world because without it the world would just resort back to the way it was before, women died for their right to vote women died for their right to work and have opinions on world topics and important issues they didn't die just so it could all be taken away again. My man you have to understand that what you are saying is preposterous and I can honestly say I understand the hate comments and why there is so much contrivercy and it's because this is a very sensitive topic and rightly so! Women may think differen you from men and maybe that is scary for some men to think that women could even be superior but it should not take their right away to be a CEO of a company or whatever they want to do because as much as you seem to not like it this world is an equal world and you will have a very difficult time with people if you can't come to term a with that. Women have a right just as much as men do, because I'm sum up right now what you just said and I know most will agree you've basically said that mens opinions are more important than that of a woman and that mens
That men initially have the final say whether the woman agreed or not now to me that would make more of an unhealthy relationship and actually break things apart rather than pull things together
@@chriscampbell9041 why should there be equality when we are not equal? This is not to say one is worse than another but we need different treatment because we are different. You want mother to have the same amount of maternity leave as the father?
RED FLAG No 7 :
When a woman says “ I don’t get along with other women ALL MY FRIENDS ARE MEN” You need to RUN
Yup, faster than Bolt.
SO OBVIOUS THAT NOT EVEN "PUT IT ON THE LIST WOARTHY".
why?
Watchu mean all male friends?
Even if she has 1 male friend😂
🤮Ain't no way a guy discussing my marriage w/her.
Not even his brother or father should have their noses in our relationship.
Let the women be women, let the guys stay the f away
@@mohamedzkr9402Alot of these girls try to sleep with their girls friends
As a Muslim woman who has had to vastly financially fend for myself in life, I completely agree with everything you have said brother. JazakAllah khair for these important truths.
Solid gold.
This is absolutely true. I thought I was married to the perfect Muslim woman, but her mother and every single person in her family had married only after zina. I though she was different, but she turned out to be exactly like them. You can't save her.
Also Daddy issues added on top. She told me herself, after i discovered her cheating, that she can't stop lying, and that she doesn't know how to love.
I was still holding on and trying to think of saving her from herself, but this saved me so much effort. Thank you.
I’m a girl and I can understand his points. People are so used to the secular feminism BS these days they can’t see reality.
Feminism has really created monsters. Some feminist have called out for people to be murdered just for disagreeing with their ideologies. This man was lucky, the masses hate the truth.
FACTS
Yeah here’s what you don’t know, he beat two of his 4 wives and his own kid too, has a court order to prevent him going anywhere near them
@@zaktheymor1977 That doesn't change that what he said makes sense! For example, if a murderer said stealing is terrible does what he said automatically becomes wrong!? By your logic, yes. And I don't agree. His transparency about his past issues may weaken his message but makes him more credible, nonetheless! he was def wrong but that doesn't mean his wives were angels. He is saying he was PARTLY wrong for choosing wives that contributed to his domestic problems.
@@zaktheymor1977 I can tell you're just an overgrown infant with how you think. This man gives the best advice because he actually has experience with the bad parts, so he's knows what to avoid. Wouldn't you like to get advice from a person who has been there done that, instead of a person who speaking on a topic he hasn't really experienced. People like you should just learn by experience, since you are too arrogant to take head to this mans advice.
I completely agree with a lot of what you are saying.. the problem with guys picking these girls - they see them on social media to begin with.. and then expect this girl/ woman to change. If you don’t like that person then don’t try to get her attention. She ain’t going to change. I told a coworker to go find a girl at the library- at the book store- at the grocery store .. a NORMAL person. Not an attention seeker on the internet/ dating sites.
yes people nowadays look for a wife in tiktok and they keep complaining... but it's easy go out to the world and you will find someone good for you
@@TV-zv1yz ❤️
I do slightly agree with your first point I was chatting to a sister who’s mum had a divorce and I could tell she did not like her dad, she said she didn’t trust men and wouldn’t trust her husband which shows that she carried emotional baggage from her mothers divorce.
First red flag in men they beat women
You mean like this one did to two of his wives and his own kid
@@zaktheymor1977 yup, but no one wants to talk about that.
Trust me running fast...the first movement's they slap you run...don't have babies with them and think it will get better and if you do leave them...your kids will thank you for it
This video is about qualities in a woman but you decided to turn it into qualities about men when that is not the topic.
Domestic violence between men and women are very similar. Stop trying to make a victim status for women.
And yes he has done it before but is he still doing it? How many women abuse their husbands and have no one telling them they are abusers for the rest if their life?
Angry feminist checks all the red flags, can't accept it and ignores everything he said throwing a random useless comment, typical!
I wish someone told me this way before my first marriage. Could have saved myself from a lot of hardship. At least 3 markers out of the 5 mentioned were true
Do another video on top 10 red flags
Brother is bang on! 💯
You nailed the first one my brother
Even though my father has been horrible and we don't get on it hasn't tainted my view of men. I do believe there are good men out there.
My dad left me 3 times as a child and my mum raised me and did such a fantastic job I never turned out like my dad he was a coward so I don't agree with what your saying because I looked at my dad and saw all his failed marriages with women and I wanted to do the opposite because I didn't agree I believe and still to this day believe that if you are perusing a relationship that you a there for the commitment and to be in that relationship for the long run and see marriage in your future. So this whole conspiracy that children follow what their parents do is lies my brother, we are all our own person and you will find that a lot of people never end up repeating their parents mistakes because they learn from them instead and if they are a good parent they will teach them that!
Is true.My dad was an alcoholic and I hate alcohol I never drink it
Are you the same guy who said your girl's father left you. Now your father left you as well?
@@93boxing81 hahaha
the fact you recognised your father's flaws has allowed u to become a better version of urself and not repeat his flaws, making you an exception to Mahdi's suggestion
Your experiences as an individual do NOT make you the rule, it makes you the exceptions… Mahdi is speaking in generalities because his points are not made to address you
Brother, its women who marry for short time and divorce are also red flags.
Same goes for men, before you marry a men look at his father's relationship with the mother. Look how his mother is treated at home, if mother has no value at home, than stay far away from this men. He will be controlling and toxic.
I honestly see you as my big brother, may Allah SWT keep you strong on your deen akhi ❤️
Can you make a video for women as well?
When they're considering a potential suitor.
a man always ruins a woman first, as he said daddy issues stemmed from malpractice of a MAN
exactly. they like to put all the blame on the woman
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@calamityxoo we should also say u chose that woman when she takes all your assets and leaves you broke with your kids
I am woman I 100% agree to these points.
Fathers have a lot to answer for when raising girls. They should be making sure there daughter sees how a woman should be treated. I have as you say daddy issues. I couldn’t resolve these issues with my dad as he died when I was 12. But ended up being diagnosed with bpd when I was 19 as they say it’s caused by childhood trauma . I was looking for male attention in all the wrong places and I was looking for that father figure to show me love. I got involved with the wrong people who tried to take advantage of my weakness. But when I was 17 I met my husband and we have been together 13 years now. There are exceptions I didn’t choose to loose my dad. I’m happy I’m a mum of two and I have sercutity and protection from my husband that’s all I need. I saw how my mum never gave up on trying to make things work with my dad even after all the wrong he did to her. A lot of woman who experience issues with there dad are normally worse for sleeping around because they are trying to fill the void and crave the love they never got. Therapy does help and prepares u to be mentally strong so u can have a decent relationship in life.
Very insightful read this was; thank you for sharing. So sorry for your loss Sadie
I would like to add any man or woman who recognises they have a problem is no longer held hostage by that problem: the mere fact you are able to openly and humbly identify you had an issue immediately makes you an exception to the rule. I salute you Sadie.
P.S. the mention of your mother relentlessly trying to make it work with your father is almost definitely indicative of your own resoluteness to make your relationship work despite the struggles you may face - as we all do. We reenact what we saw growing up to a large degree. Again, I salute you
Don't forget, she should also witness from a Mother how a man should be treated, forget that it's just how you treat a woman malarkey othewise it comes across very self entitled with no effort, understanding or education on men
Please do another video on how to actually test and expose these red flags.
u say woman need to be held accountable for who they open there legs too in a previous video. But surely u should of been more careful with who u stuck it too. Works both ways. U went for this type of woman.
Absolutely. Both parties are 100% responsible.
@@MahdiTidjani You shouldvw said in the tik tok bruh
@@itz_jaydenz Why? We have nrough video telling men how responsible they are. We dknt have enough videos telling women to take accountability.
@@93boxing81 because most women are taught that they should take accountability from day 1
@@itz_jaydenz Actually most women are not taught to take accountability. Accountability is kryptonite for modern women.
Good video bruh!!!
I am a divorced man and listened attentively to your point of view. I really tested all but the last one about the independent woman. I liked the second point and how you explained it, when I heard the second point, I remember 2018 and 2019 which were the hardest for me.
Man dont litsen to this idiot he hating in women for no reason!
@faye I’m a transformer, listen to this man
@@uzairkhan1080 do you listen to me
People don't always need to be right. They are just right when they are. If you don't have accountability, things will be lopsided even if they look straight.
My guy well said
What about the dad leaving the family they created (cheated, was abusive towards the mum) but she chose to stay for the kids sake? She later married someone else when the kids were teenagers and the dad bounced from woman to woman.
That's me now but scared to have a have a second incase he's not good enough for the family, hasbiya allah for who ever causes pain to any human
That's a topic for another vídeo 🤣
Classic diversion tactics
The woman chose the man.
you make the bed now lie in it...
still cant believe this the same man that squatted 620 pounds, love your tiktoks my brudda
Thank you brother
@@MahdiTidjani your disgusting
@@vaishalipatel398 😂😂
@@vaishalipatel398 Mr Pateel or Mrs Pateel ?
Preach it bro
If you are here from the Mahdi v Hijab debate, see 4:07 for referenced parts of video,
Just to add, when your kids become adults, you should take account of their opinion or information seriously as well, especially when you are making big decisions about the family. Due to the generation gaps, you might not be able to see the whole picture, while your kids might be able to do.
:This guys abused his ex wife.. his opinion in this is irrelevant so technically he himself is a big red flag
and his kids and he has the audacity, im 14 and im disgusted he has no right to talk about women the way he does, especially when he claims to be a muslim which is a religion that respects and treats women with equality and kindess
Where did u learn about those allegations? Is there a vid? I wanna know if this man is credible because I actually agree with him
Well he was all over the news, and his wife left him because of abuse
.search his name up, he is also a body builder
Innah Krizelle Tighanon I searched up his name and couldn’t find anything except some petition against him repeating the same allegations. I’d love to see some articles or anything to check.
Tu quoque logical fallacy
good content
Thank you
Brother your a legend 🎉💐💐🌺💙
Everything he was saying is things I say all the time
And I didn't need the internet to know this things
I was raised this way
Some women are single parents by no choice of their own
This was in my UA-cam recommendations good job UA-cam.
Brother I'm a bit confused on the 6th one, she always wants to compete against me and is always saying how she wants to work as a CNM. She wants to be rich on her own and achieve her own accomplishments like building an orphanage and buying a bigger home, it seems to me like she's just kinda excluding me from her future. Is this a red flag?
its a red flag ypua re the man the leader of the house
Scary👀
I don't know what to say about it, but it sure sounds scary.
Soldi advices, remember you are marrying a mother of your children not just a woman
'children learn from what they see' says the abuser
Abuse is a gross word. If police arrests a criminal and puts him in prison, criminal would say this is abuse. So abuse is sometimes necessary.
@@juxtapositionMS not necessary when it comes to your wife x
perhaps I miss understand with the game of throne analogy, if I announce my sahada on any social media it mean that I'm not muslim ?, but ofc it's not the same as the strong and independent or being a king isn't ?
So so so true!!!! I came across the same women he described and they are so so bad!!! Avoid them no matter what!
Your a natural speaker u know how to make a point but we need to help each other with our issues , wt u r saying is that we have only two options, one is running away , second is to seek a therapy , but u missed one and that is trying to solve it by stating what made this relationship go that way and slowly finding the solution together as a couple
@@Ounjai1575 ok
👏🏻ABUSERS. 👏🏻HAVE.👏🏻 NO. 👏🏻RIGHT. 👏🏻TO👏🏻. SEE.👏🏻 THEIR.👏🏻 CHILDREN. 👏🏻
True , the law probably removed his rights because he is not deserving anyway
In 2018 there was a guy who rented a moving truck and mowed down women on a busy street in Toronto. This guy and the 2018 guy have the same views. He should be evaluated ASAP.
I'm replying to number 2 of your 5 deal breakers I'm currently in a relationship with a girl with insecurity and I think it's appalling of you to say just because of her insecurity that she doesn't have the right to be loved and understood by someone which is basically what your saying you don't have to directly say it. What men need to hear is or women if they are in a lesbian relationship is women with insecurity need reassurance and patients they need time to heal and they need support they don't need to be ignored and judged its not that they always feel the need to be right it's that they need you to listen to their view point and to know where they are coming from, it shouldn't be a battle in a relationship it should be staying strong together and fighting against the problem not each other. My girlfriend needs my support right now not for me to turn my back on her! Btw insecurity happens in men too because I have it I have a lot of insecurity and she helps me more anyone to deal.with it so there you go. I'm not here to hate I'm just hear to debate with you and give you my view point in the situation I really hope you take the time to read this and understand where I am coming from.
@precizion I disagree I believe in relationships working out and being healthy you need to be open and honest with who you are with and if the person is feeling down then sometimes people can’t always rely on councillors/ professionals to help I can honestly say I went down that road and it didn’t help me in the slightest, not to say it won’t help another person just personally wasn’t for me! However what I did find to help was talking to my partner who I’m still currently with and have been with for years, I on the other hand have been able to help her just by us both opening up to each other about how we feel it really is that simple. But every relationship dynamic is different and what works for me and my partner might not necessarily work for another relationship. I believe everyone has some kind of insecurity it doesn’t necessarily mean it should hold them back from achieving what they want in life so why should it hold them back from being with the person they love the most it hasn’t held me and my partner back that’s for bloody sure if anything it’s made us stronger or else 6 months ago I wrote that I wouldn’t still be with her today of his theory on relationships was in anyway right!
You got like 20 comments going on a rant, calm down lad you sound like a lady thats frustrated she hits all them marks Mahdi mentioned, seek therapy!
Debate with Ali dawah
Debate Ali dawaha? ROFL
Maybe Mufti Menk?
@@finn6770 How about you show some decency and not address others as if they are little children. Learn to speak courtesy and respect!
7:53 okay here is the complete one if u r on a rush.
#1 was my ex-wife
And it goes VICE VERSA .....
Can you do a red flag on men please?
My ex wife has 4 of these signs. I’m screwed
What does someone do if they come to know of such behavior after marriage ? In case of arranged marriage.
15:17 🤣🤣🤣🤣 thank u but no thank u my heart is in place it didn't sank like srsly u need therapy your wives must have made duaa on u the three of them to the extent that you became like this
The problem is this covers like 90% of the women in the UK and elsewhere…🙃
hhhhhh bro just claimed watching GOT
You are talking about more than 99,99% of women.
The thing I can't understand is why you are so.focused on women and what hey do wrong what about what men do wrong? Men get uncontrollably jealous too I know I do sometimes with my girlfriend and it's not as if she did anything to make me feel that way I'm just very overprotective.
What's wrong with a woman being strong and independent?
Also every woman will have at least one of these 'red flags'. So are you saying every woman is unsuitable?
I agree having too many red flags is probably not wise to go ahead. But the individual needs to decide what they can handle.
What do you mean by strong and independent and the answer will defer based on your answer
So as we say kids do as kids see.. fid your dad put his hands on your mother, was your father sexiest?
marginalization is the language of ignorants and lazy people
Could you make a video about red flags to avoid in males for girls please and explain them
He’s got a video on his tiktok
men to avoid: misogynists like him
@@bon3999 wrong. He isn’t misogynistic
@@uzairkhan1080go on then please elaborate
@@bon3999 what makes you think he is misogynistic
Summary?
Bruv you chat bubbles are you sunni Muslim coz I don’t think you are
mums
Debate him then
@@Ibrahim-lf3ek who are you his mouth piece sit down clown
Debate him then you clown?
Please respond to the argument if you disagree I'd live to know what you have to say
11:27
Okay, but I would like to actaully talk to this dude and see why his view set is like this.
Cause if I'm being honest; people with views like this was most likely hurt in the past.
But that speaking; this viewpoint is not ' helpful ' it's sexist, not an opinion.
so us women with that poor logic of yours should ask and see if a potential husband's father was violent with his wife at the time this said future husband was A CHILD because as u saying here hhhhhhh a child stops at that age in our adult bodies and we never improve? baby talk about yourself like surely u're delusional i see that this was 3 years ago but still imma say you're in jahiliya bro go check up yourself and then come tell us what to do and what not
"Those who pronounce thihar among you [to separate] from their wives - they are not [consequently] their mothers. Their mothers are none but those who gave birth to them. And indeed, they are saying an objectionable statement and a falsehood. But indeed, Allah is Pardoning and Forgiving." [Surah al-Mujadilah: 2]
How could you possibly compare women to their mothers? How is a daughter palpable for her mother's marriages? How are you possibly saying that because a woman may come from a family where there have been failed marriages this must mean you should stay away from her? What it is that you are claiming is absolutely against our deen subhanAllah. May Allah SWT soften your heart and guide you.
Because people are more likely to learn habits of whom they grow up with or are raised by.
Sister you didn’t get his point. It can also be vice versa like father like son you know. If the father is not a good father figure and he is not religious and what not and he has anger issues and disrespects his female relatives, you can expect that from his sons as well to act like that. The thing he is talking about is traits or characteristics passed on like if there is a father who is abusive, it’s more likely that it will pass on to his children and then the next generation and so on. So he’s basically saying look wisely at how the other relatives of the family behave (Man/Woman) in order to determine what kind of person you marry.
My parents have been married for around 17 years and they make all decisions equally and it’s not teared there relationship apart. I do agree with the rest of your points though
@Brother Anon yep 👍
You can’t make a decision “equally” there always has to be ONE person who makes the final decision, just like a prime minister/ president asks his colleagues for their advice but he always makes the last decision.
Cmon matilda that shit ain’t gonna work out
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Women do post pics to the man she is in a relationship with on wahtsapp beacuse they in a relationships
Cold hard truth is hard to realize but he is right in so many ways...a bit dramatic...but he isn't far from the tree of knowledge. "A Chinese Parade on Independence Day he meant...🤭👍🤣😂 I bet he pissed a Chinese guy off or two.🤦♂️🤭🤣😂🤣😂🤣
he beats his wife
Don't talk to a girl that's talking to loads of other guys and very vocal about it. Tahmina Aktar from Gravesend --> this is you
High elo content xd
XDDDDD ?
wow even he thinks theres something wrong with him
A country a company an army is different to a relationship. A relationship is a team effort and you need to work together to flourish.
Yes but teams do have team leaders. And men are the leaders.
Thing is a masculine nobelam should be the leaders but they seem like a dying breed in this generation
In reply to your 3rd deal breaker I have to disagree again there is and should always be equality in this world because without it the world would just resort back to the way it was before, women died for their right to vote women died for their right to work and have opinions on world topics and important issues they didn't die just so it could all be taken away again. My man you have to understand that what you are saying is preposterous and I can honestly say I understand the hate comments and why there is so much contrivercy and it's because this is a very sensitive topic and rightly so! Women may think differen you from men and maybe that is scary for some men to think that women could even be superior but it should not take their right away to be a CEO of a company or whatever they want to do because as much as you seem to not like it this world is an equal world and you will have a very difficult time with people if you can't come to term a with that. Women have a right just as much as men do, because I'm sum up right now what you just said and I know most will agree you've basically said that mens opinions are more important than that of a woman and that mens
That men initially have the final say whether the woman agreed or not now to me that would make more of an unhealthy relationship and actually break things apart rather than pull things together
@@chriscampbell9041 why should there be equality when we are not equal? This is not to say one is worse than another but we need different treatment because we are different.
You want mother to have the same amount of maternity leave as the father?
I 100% agree, my wife's b[o]yfriend told me the exact same thing!!
This is so ignorant I don't even know where to start.
You can’t
I don't know how people are agreeing with these type of misogynistic guys
You can cry.
You seem like a nerdy guy qith no muscularity and kind of a very emotional man and with a very low testosterone levels