Patrick-Update (September, 2021)
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- Опубліковано 8 лип 2024
- Soft White Underbelly update interview and portrait of Patrick, a crack addict in Los Angeles.
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There is a Brenè Brown quote that goes, "shame lives in the distance between your secret self and your public self." The bigger the distance between your public, private and secret selves, the greater the scope for shame. So, in being open about your story, you shorten that distance and reduce possible feelings of shame... 🤷🏼♀️
This is exactly what happened to me with porn. The moment I was open about my issues with it, every bad emotion tied to it just vanished.
FTP
Absolutely true. That's how I finally overcame my addictions and freedom from guilt and shame
"secrets keep you sick"
I think he is one of the biggest manipulators ever..He needs a long-term rehab..sorry just my honest opinion
I think one of the fascinations with Patrick, is the fact that he is well spoken. Financially stable, (continuous employment with a six figure job) educated. Most of his addiction he had his own apartment , and it wasn't on skid row. Supportive family and stable family background through his years of childhood through adolescent. He is on a totally different spectrum than most of Marks interviewees. So many folks can relate on this level, and root for him in recovery. Patrick is a reminder that addiction happens in supportive, well financial, families too.
You described all of the most extreme drug addicts I've ever known. I love his interviews because I see myself in him to a extent and I see what happened to too many of my friends who were wildly successful, remarkably intelligent, and for the cast majority of their addiction they had lives that were seemingly perfect with great job, money, home, etc. The people who can function and abuse drugs are the most dangerous because they can go so much deeper down that hole before anyone even knows and by that point they have the most to lose and enough financial resources to get crazy
I totally agree. I'm Patrick's age and had a similar background. I know Patricks from my own past and this is one reason I root for him all the more.
Hunter Biden is not exactly a one-for-one here, but there he is. The whole governmental thing with Hunter is not anything relatable to Patrick. But Hunter is a little bit of a comparison to this guy. I mean Biden never worked a day in his life. So there's that.
Nah. he just has a unique spirit is all. he's like everyone else. maybe a little extra charisma.
@@thatgirl73067 His medical leave is up until October. His job has to follow the American Disabilities Act. Drug Addiction is legally labeled as an illness.
Patrick is doing great. He has a year and a half clean and sober. He is looking forward to marriage (yikes!) later this year. Work is going well. His golf game is improving. He is in the process of helping another hopeless addict find the kind of recovery he has found. Basically, things are falling into place for him in a way he never imagined. 12 simple steps and his world has transformed.
Thank you!!
Yooo get Pat back on here!
Love this guy! Thanks for the interviews, so encouraging his story
Wow congratulations on so much Patrick, nicer to hear life is good. Keep working it buddy!
Ty for the update
Id really love an update on Patrick if he's available still.
His story, honesty and vulnerability is what first turned me on to this channel. As a person with a lived experience of addiction and a living experience of mental health, i really appreciate you giving the opportunity to speak to previously unheard voices.
THIS^
We all have a living experience of mental health! Haha
Please please do an update on Patrick! His transparency is unmatched! He gives such a real perspective on addiction and how hard it is to fight EVERY MINUTE OF EVERY SINGLE DAY.
There are sporadic updates posted in the comments by a close friend of his. He is doing extremely well❤
Done. Today
The more I see these videos of Patrick, the more I want to see an interview with his employer. Dude is unreal.
Yea, he really has a great job and boss. I’ve always gotten my ass fired from my jobs in my active addiction. Ha. In another video he was saying how it might not be legal to fire him because of his addiction. But just not showing up to work for long ass periods of time and being able to call and they’re like, just be here Tuesday…or whatever it was. That’s nuts. I can’t imagine a boss putting up with that even once, let alone consistently.
On God, I am a black accountant...NEVER. If I'm late I'm fired
@Maximus Meridius what the fuck? No I think that’s just your perception and you have some racism issues.
@Maximus Meridius Dude, half the amount of hours he doesn’t show up can easily be used to find another engineer…
He's selling crack to his boss
As of August 2022 Patrick is doing well. He has several months off drugs and alcohol. He is on a path to recovery.
It's a good story but how do you know?
I work with him on his recovery. I saw him yesterday, the day before that, and had dinner with him 4 days ago. I talk to him on the phone almost every day.
@@FOBW That's amazing to hear! I'm very very happy for him, that really brightens my day to know he's doing well
@@FOBW Thanks for the update. I'm praying for Patrick. I agree with the interver that "Self-Love" is a key factor, but Self-Love is never apart from understanding how much God loves us and how he sees us. Victory Over Darkness is a very good starter book on just that.
this warms my soul. no other SWU video has hit me the same way as his. i adore him so much. i hope he creates his own channel someday.
Perhaps one of the most loved people on this channel; so many people rooting for Patrick. Hope he's OK.
I’m hoping Patrick is ok!
So many of us love him and would really appreciate an update!
He’s too blessed to quit. Supportive family and friends who don’t give up on him. Even his job won’t give up on him. Why would he quit? I think he either needs to replace this with something good or he’ll never quit.
I find it so interesting that his job knows about his addiction problems, but he stays employed and his job gave him a leave of absence until October. His drug addiction seeming doesn’t effect his work productivity and he seems to be a high valued member of his employment
@@tink58bell yeah! ive seen all his interviews and ive never seen someone treated so well by their place of employment. hes said in older interviews that he'd go for days on end or even more with his boss knowing full well hes on a crack binge and his boss tells him to come back when hes ready. its just crazy to me.
I'd rephrase the question; why should he quit?
@@rckism4198 I think that is how it should be. Treating people with respect when things go south especialy.
I agree mostly and thats why I wrote a long comment above to him basically saying I think he should ask his job to be the one to help him stay straight by giving him weekly drug screens tied to his employment there while also working on scheduling a life to keep him busy and he will also have that knowledge if he uses he wont have a good job to keep this new lifestyle of staying busy doing golf or whatever he chooses like buying fixer upper house or something... I dont think he can totally rely on just knowing he will get fired because he obviously has risked his job so much before he doesnt really care about it because his actions say so but if he starts to have responsiiilitiess and scheulding golf tournamanents of needing 40% of his income to build/fix/rent a house or whatever I think the combo can help save him. He def doesnt need the job or his mom bailing him out ever again because like you said why would he care if he knows exactly what will happen he wont suffer enough to hurt him hes use to it. Since he doesnt have kids or a wife or anthing that forces you to be busy and responsible for the majority of people anyways he has to spend extra time on keeping busy with good things with good people and having that urine screen coming every couple days just might be enough to keep him clean since he has a month or so already (if true which he doesnt seem to lie). I think his biggest setback is actually his ability to talk to people he doesnt know and make "friends" so fast and be willing to hang around people he just met who are the type to give him deadly drugs knowing he doesnt use opioids so he would OD for almost certain.. if he was shy he wouldnt have this big of a battle to be honest.. he needs to turn that talking and outgoing personality on to something that is productive and far away from the types who get him into the wrong shit and he will do well IMO
I have binge watched your story, Patrick and I just want you to know how loved and how worthy you are. You’re such a special human being and I’m so glad that you’ve shared your journey with us 🧡
I just binge watched Patrick’s story. Thank you for sharing. You’ve got this Patrick and I’m looking forward to the next one. You are an inspiration to the millions of followers on this channel.
I feel so invested in Patrick’s story and outcome. He feels like a close friend that I love dearly. Please keep updating us, good or bad we’re here for you.
These interviews are so poignant and moving, and we often some of the first to hear their stories. Some really do feel like a friend.
Yes girl! I second this 1000000% i feel the same way about him!!! I was so damn happy to see an update finally, we need more and.more and i totally agrree, good or bad doesn’t matter at all!
@@sammyjett7396 I don’t care if he goes 200 times. Every time he goes he’s bettering himself and we don’t know which time will be the one that saves his life.
there are few things more real than this channel
#parasocial
Patrick is like family to all of us now 😆 We just want him to get well
That’s exactly what it feels like. We all just want to see him living his best life without the struggles that using beings.
🤍💜🤍💜
Seeing him this morning was like getting a hug from a beloved brother ❤️
Definitely pulling for you Patrick! ❤️👏
Spot on 👍
I am so happy to have found this channel. It reminds me of the blessings I have in my life. Thank you Matt and everyone who shares their story.
Just watched the whole series on Patrick.
You speak things that a lot of us can relate to. Stay strong friend, you're worth more than where the drugs will lead you (you know this) .
Glad to see you doing well, rooting for you!
Clicked so fast. Been waiting for another update from Patrick.
Me too x
Same 😊
Same . At first I thought mark was going to say he was dead . Thank g-d he’s still here
HE IS BACK!!!!!! I was waiting for him.
I’m a recovering addict, and I’m coming up on one year sober. These videos have really inspired me. I relate so deeply to what Patrick is going through. Thank you for showing the truth about addiction.
in 5 days, it'll be exactly one year since this video came out. I really hope Mark is preparing a surprise update on Patrick.
Same here.
Updated!
Patrick is one of my favorites, thank you for the upload Mark.
I’m so glad I did a quick search to see if there’s an update and don’t know how I’ve missed this, but absolutely delighted to see Patrick (honestly for better or worse, but hoping for better) and that he’s still with us with hope.
I’m so invested in this gentleman’s recovery, he’s in the biggest battle of his life and my goodness he has an army behind him wishing him the best in getting out of his addiction.
Thank you Mark for updating us and also thank you Patrick for being brave enough to continue to share your journey in its rawest form. God bless you sir
Patrick, thank you for your courage and honesty.. I watched all your interviews tonight. I am really drawn to your kind nature and how you speak so frankly about your struggles and experiences. You have a lot of people out here that want the best for you.
I have never once commented on a UA-cam video in my life but I felt compelled to today. I really see myself in Patrick. Aware of my own vices, aware of the things that make me happy, aware of the negative impacts my actions have, but still feeling a lack of control of those vices. His honesty with himself is beautiful. I think we all tend to be dishonest with ourselves, sober or not. I’m not religious but I find Patrick’s integrity and accountability, despite his addiction, is really impactful in spiritual way.
“I understand nothing”
As a 32yr old addict in long term recovery from alcohol, heroin, fentanyl, cocaine & nicotine but who subscribes to no anonymous program, i can tell you, hes not done, hes just freshening up. Hes not sick and tired of being sick and tired yet. He still enjoys it, loves it even…
Sad, but true I’m afraid
Absolutely. 37-year-old addict in long term recovery from alcohol, benzos & cocaine here. Patrick doesn't demonstrate the kind of shame as he did in his first two videos on this channel. He's reveling.
Dude he has been in 21 rehabs, the addiction is not a choice, it comes from trauma. He should try ibogaine or mushrooms, clear out all the toxic crap rotting his core
Izzy, let’s be sober friends! I’m in long term recovery too . Just saying. Thank you for reading this.
Congratulations you. You’re a superstar. Anonymous doesn’t work for everyone, in fact it just puts people in early recovery in touch with other addicts. I have had my nephew living with me for the last 2 years. Fresh out of jail and rehab no one, not even his parents would take him in. I live away from his old home and friends, and early days that was what I saw with the Anonymous group, he was making connections. He was addicted to everything, and we are now at 2 and a half years clean. I’m so proud of him, and of all of you who take on your demons and fight back.
Patrick and Mark I'm a recent recovering alcoholic. I've been af for almost 3 months. Patrick keep your head up you're my favorite dude on here man. We're all struggling. Keep going man! Love yourself Patrick it starts with loving yourself. ❤
I just want you to know you are loved by so many people Patrick. We’re all rooting for you! You’ve got this! ❤️
I'm so glad he's back he's by far my favorite interviewer he's super open and honest and seems like he is really a smart guy with a successful career and he is one of the people u would never think did drugs 💯 love the content man keep it up buddy
Patrick's honesty gave me the courage to be honest about my problems. So thank you Patrick!
I sincerely wish him the best. I'm not sure what else to say. I watch these videos with him, and his story resonates. I honestly think about him from time to time, hoping for the best. Best of luck, Patrick.
Can’t wait for the next Patrick update, we all know he can do it. Hopefully he’s still clean and just imagine how happy his family will be to watch that one!
Been a while now. I’d love to see another update on Patrick.
I bet he did drugs again.. Inteligent but weak person..
@@D4V1D_03 Damn
@@jahsolonely6139 what did he say? Comment is gone
Patrick still around??? Love this guy
@Christian Torres whoa, what?! What makes you even say that???
Patrick was cool for his honesty at first. Now I can see he is just spoiled. He has no consequences. His mom and family are always there, he doesn’t lose his job and everyone just gives him more chances. He’s never going to stop. He doesn’t have to
He was my favorite episodes on this channel and I was so behind him and team Patrick all the way until this episode. Now I see he isnt all that honest at all. He claims he wanted to. Stop and would do anything and this bs but he isn't doing shit to quit.
So first of all he was smoking crack on his trip to rehab do he didn't even go into rehab wanting sobriety, or actual sobriety
IF YOU LEAVE REHAB AGAINST MEDICAL ADVICE & FIND YOURSELF SMOKING CRACK WITHIN DAYS then you have to admit that your doctors were right and your "opinion about treating addiction" has no merit!!
Thats that yt privilege lol
I love Patrick 🙏 God Bless him 💖
Lmao you don't know his life. Seriously how can you think you're smart enough to state that like a fact
Yes, he keeps getting away with it, so he's going to ride it out as far as he can
He looks INCREDIBLE! I can’t wait to watch this all the way through. Thank you for continuously coming back to us Patrick!
I live in Worcester. This is not the city to get clean in, our crack problem is out of control. You look great though, keep going man! You CAN do it.
@patrick @softwhiteundedbelly Patrick you’re not ready and all the “reasoning” is not serving you at all. And too bad the people around you don’t soften or cushion your bottom. It was a hard lesson for me someone had to die for me to get the “psychic change” needed to just let go. You clean up well and I can see why people like you you’re super great! You still have ideas until you just say show me you will ok my experience get that help.
I just hope with all of these IDEAS you still have that you are still alive to tell the story. Everyone who loves Patrick please let the bottom be concrete now feather. I PRAY (to whom ever you choose) I hope you don’t clean so quickly I hope you one day not talk about staying sober forever that’s too much pressure. There is a solution
And all of this is my opinion because I am you. And interestingly enough that will kill you. Surrender !!
@andrea lawent agree
Hi K 🖐️
@Samantha Love He looks very tense to me. He acts like a big baby and I'm sure his Mother baby's him.
Just found this series tonight and I'm already so invested in Patrick. I hope that he is still well and getting it together. I don't know....his honesty and frankness makes me think he is truly a great guy. I can't imagine how difficult recovery is. I hope he makes it.
Mark, you’re doing great work buddy. It’s like you plant a seed….sometimes it grows & sometimes it doesn’t but you’ve shown a true commitment to these folks. Patrick is amazing & I think of him from time to time. So smart, handsome, tortured & oh so honest. Thank you for the updates…
I wish him love & a happy life….
OMG, PATRICK!!!! FEELS LIKE I'VE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS UPDATE FOR YEARS NOW
Love that smile😃. Seems so genuine and sincere. Loved this vid! Thanks Patrick. I’ve been sober from alcohol 10.5 yrs. keep it up!
patrick was the first video i watched on this channel. maybe a year ago. i just finished the subsequent 4 videos. this channel is a blessing. thank you , Patrick, for your soul rending honesty. thank you, Mark, for providing the time the place the safety net for these stories to be told. there are infinite channels out there. this one stands out and alone as a truly healing beacon. to be honest, this could be seriously addicting. sending love to all, and finding myself hoping that all who sit in that chair find love and light and peace and community. thank you all for your courage.
Mark, the way you stealthily build you interviewee’s self esteem is brilliant. People that despise themselves need this more than anything. Self worth is a powerful thing. You are a beautiful person. When one can’t look themselves in the mirror you become their mirror and remind them of their awesomeness. You are great!
So happy to see this guy again thank god your doing so well. This guy inspired me to stop drinking and I am over 5 months sober.
patricks story always really spoke to me. I've never clicked so quickly on a upload.
Mark your a very special man you throw your whole heart into helping these people at there worst. Thank you Mark for your inspiration and passion in your work.
I JUST LOVE PATRICK!!!! You are incredible! At this point when I see you, I just SMILE! YOU ARE THE PERFECT STRANGER! Yet, I feel like I know you!!! Sending you hugs and love!!!!!! ❤️
Isn’t that incredible! I feel the same about Patrick.
@James Topham That statement you just made was some fake a** hating a** sh*t. Take that negativity and flush it down the toilet man.
@James Topham so sad that YOU take time out of your day to spread negativity and make assumptions about people you don’t know.
@James Topham I guess I didn’t realize spreading love was “blowing praise up there arse”. Your hate is not needed under this post. Stop wasting time here and go spend time on the things you deem worthy.
@James TophamWhy are you watching them? You do realize that those who are on this channel displaying their weaknesses, many times had something traumatic happen to them or potentially a mental illness that leads them on this path. If you’re not into it, don’t waste your time watching the videos or commenting on another persons feelings about what they’re watching. Just keep your time invested in what you personally have an interest in. ✌🏼
I am so happy to see you Patrick! Don’t give up, we are all rooting for you. 💕
Really nice to see Patrick enjoying sobriety, having more clarity and a natural sense of calm.
After watching this man's story on here, to see him now... clean but clearly fragile gives me hope for myself. His last words... "We're all just walking each other home." broke me. Such a beautiful line when I'm feeling so lost. God bless you, Patrick.
I'd like to see his friends and family interviewed. Let him get the full honesty on how this is affecting all the people in his life. Maybe that will help him straighten up.
I would love to see that too.
Absolutely!
Same
@@lisalamorey3453 I’m one of his best friends ❤️ 15 years now! I would love to speak on this!!
He doesn’t care or he wouldn’t have been doing crack when his mother came to visit him and help him move out.
He’s just got to fight his demons
Seeing how much better and healthier he looks is an awesome thing to behold.
I am stunned by the comments. You all really are so smart about addiction. I watch the vid's, then read and learn. Thank you Mark and thank you all for this experience.
I love patrick. His story hit so close to home. I appreciate him doing these videos so much 💕💕💕 thank you mark
He needed to stay in that place the full 6 months. His addicted mind recognized that it was working, and out of fear, manufactured a "valid" reason/conflict to leave. As soon as he left he was doomed to get high.
Yes!
Accurate post
Absolutely 💯% Correct
You are not in control of anything, Patrick. Here's another one for you 'Let go and let God'. Radically Surrendering
Incessant Prayer
You can do it. 🙏
Hope he makes it...just not sure...he needs a very long rehab
Please have him back ASAP! Step 3 (I say this only because your story is my story) seems to be the roadblock we need to overcome. Have we truly (every morning) given our will to God. I have to say the third step prayer 100 times a day at times, my will be done. Running on my will...it's just a matter of time. I will continue to pray for you brother 🙏
"We're all just walking each other home." -Ram Dass
. “I can do nothing for you but work on myself…you can do nothing for me but work on yourself!”
Ram Dass
Beautiful comment
“If I knew the way, I would take you home.” Lots of lost souls out there. 🙏🏻
We're all Kali-Yuga dumpster babies if we want to be. Paramatma is just waiting to guide us home. Like 2 birds in a tree. One eating the fruits of happiness & distress.(jiva)The other bird(supersoul) God is just waiting for us to turn around and acknowledge that He's there. Life after life. It's up to us.
You are a fascinating man Patrick. I could listen to your honest commentary on your struggle for hours. You are going to do amazing things in your life for so many people. You already have. I’m so enamoured by you. Can’t wait to see you again & again…
Thank you Patrick for the update. Still routing for your sobriety. Sending more prayers.
I really like that Patrick is trying to be more aware of his own tendencies and taking the 'one day at a time' approach. Even one MOMENT at a time can help!
Patrick looks so much better today bless you Patrick and please know that theres lots of us behind you xx
Your ability to articulate the subtleties of your predicament are immensely useful to people - this is purpose in life.
Huge smile on my face to see him doing better then the last video..
Thank u for the update, I'm invested in this guy now really want him to do well
He is just not ready to give up the drugs.
Yep, he's going all round the houses making all sorts of excuses. He hasn't let go of the drugs yet.
Amen
I agree. Needs to grow up some, too.
Sadly you could see the excitement in his eyes that he isnt done yet with crack. You can see it when he talks
@@monicabroussard840 I agree
Patrick is honest, well spoken and I wish nothinv but the best for him and for all that struggle with addiction. God Bless, Patrick!
Mark your channel is so beautiful. Patrick, thank you for sharing your journey with us. Your honesty is so refreshing. Your hope is so beautiful. I am also Christian & I pray for healing over your addiction.
Keep fighting the good fight Patrick! Our Love and Prayers are with you
This guy is amazing to watch ! Great content as always .
This is another great one Mark! Being aware of our flaws is the first step! And you have feel humiliating/embarrassed of what you are doing what you become would be the first step for a user to want to get help.. I’ve learned more from this channel than 7 years of therapy
This makes me so proud of this man. I for one know how hard it is to battle with addiction and actually defeat it. You look so good brother and I am thankful to see a turn around. God bless you man
Did you watch the interview?
Been wondering how you've been. You look and sound better every time. Just keep chipping away at it man.
One day at a time.
Like golf - chippin
Just like golf chipping! ⛳ 😎
"I spend way too much time thinking to know so little".....(let that sink in). This was a great interview!
Such a huge difference between this interview and the previous one!! I can see a change in his body language and being more on ease and relaxed... great effort buddy bless you
Such a handsome, cool, kind smart guy! I hope you stay well!! You are worth it and your life is valuable
So happy to see an update from Patrick!!
Patrick, I can see you working in a position where you are ministering others. Perhaps teens, men, or just people in general. Your experiences are going to help many people. Your struggles will not be in vain. 💪🏼🙏🏼❤️
People like Patrick can't have constant reminders.. leaving this all behind is the ONLY way.
We believe in you Patrick, hope you're doing well!! 🤗❤
This guy is awesome. Glad to see updates on him.
The one we’ve been waiting for! 🥺
I've been thinking about this guy, and hoping he would get better. I hope his ego can dissolve enough to let himself succeed. I've been there, my friend. You only get so many chances. And breaths.
I will nevet forget what one of my sponsors told me when i was toying with an obsessive idea of smoking crack again. Something that i hadnt done in 20 years. I didnt do it because she said to me .....you can try and relapse and come back but hear this not all of us have another relapse in us. We might not make it back
Thank you so much for sharing your story and being so open and honest. You are helping others, keep it up!
I’ve binged all of the Patrick videos today and somehow I went from rooting for him, to still rooting for him but also realizing how incredibly privileged and spoiled he is.
He may actually need to hit rock bottom if he’s ever going to change.
I feel like you are absolutely right
I agree for the most part. But he also worked for everything, Nothing was just given to him. The fact his job still employs him is nuts. He must be an excellent engineer. It seems like his parents do a lot of enabling as well. But like you said skid row rock bottom may be what he needs to permanently get on track...
Sadly, I totally agree with you. Still rooting for him though.
Spoiled in which way?!
Addiction doesn’t care about privilege. It’s a red eyed monster that wants only pleasure, chaos, and oblivions release. And it exists in all of to one degree or another. Fuck off with your “privileged and spoiled” bullshit. We’re all human beings going through it as best we can.
Patrick is so intelligent and handsome. I love seeing his videos. I truly hold out hope for his sobriety and success. I live in Arizona, spend time in the desert! Arizona is something truly special.
I agree with all you've said, but I am biased to my home state Washington in the PNW.
I sincerely wish him the best, but I do hear a tone of "romancing the high" As the mother of a 20 year addict, I'm a skeptic. Mark, I love what your'e doing!
My son is 22. I fear he will be Patrick at 44. He has 1 year, 11 months, 16 days clean. He got arrested 3 weeks ago and so will be clean and sober while in, but could relapse as soon as he gets out. People he knows offer free stuff to him, plead with him to stop over to catch up, even if he doesn’t want to use, they actively blow up his phone or stop by and go out of their way to see him fail. I could just kill them.
I don’t actually believe in Hell, but if there is one, nothing could be worse than being impotent to save your child. At least I have not had to bury David. Patrick’s parents… 21 rehabs, wow… the Agonies he has put them through. Patrick is unusual. I can’t help, but wonder if he has an undiagnosed Mental Health issues. My son is BiPolar. 1 in 5 succeed in committing suicide and they also attempt it. They live a decade less than ordinary people. David went off his meds, got arrested and now may spend years in jail. That outcome might set Patrick straight. They would seriously evaluate him, insist on appropriate therapy and meds and keep him sober. He’s shockingly cheerful about having relapsed. He is one of my favorite subjects. I hope he hits bottom and starts the healing for real.
@@annieseaside hoping your son is able to pull through. ❤️
@@annieseaside My son is 23 years old and his story is so similar to your son’s. Where do you personally turn for help to maintain and preserve your own emotional health and well being? I’ve tried Al Anon and therapy but neither seemed to help. I could really use someone to talk to who is walking in my shoes. Any suggestions?
@@panama7564 I recommend reading A Piece of Cake by Cupcake Brown. Even though she tells it from her point of you (as an addict) she doesn’t skimp on the details on how her family & “friends” played a part in her addiction/getting sober. Her story is very enthralling & at times you may want to slap her yourself lol; but her description of her bottom & finally sticking with rehab is so inspiring. Maybe it’s a book you & your son could read ❤️. Praying for recovery ❤️.
@@KimberlyJay , thank you for the suggestion! I ordered it on Audible so I can listen to it on my drive to and from work this week.
He is doing so much better, I am so god damn happy for him. Keep it up Patrick, you will give yourself the life you deserve.
I'm so very glad that you went and got the help that you need it
Whoever knew him from YT and offered to get high with him is terrible! How could you watch his videos and want to contribute to something he deeply struggles with and obviously tears him up inside. It almost killed him, don’t get me wrong its of course his responsibility too but to know he has an addiction and then feed into it is terrible to me😔
Was just thinking the same… screw that woman
I completely agree with you!!
Misery loves company
AGREE 100%
They are addicts too. He seems to have money. So.....
I clicked this so fast. I think about Patrick often. He looks so much better. He’s glowing and just looks so damm GOOD. I’m so glad you do these update videos, I love seeing people be stronger than their addiction. Thank you Mark. I wish you nothing but success Patrick.
Patrick gets it. He’s sees the narrow path. Faith is everything. Hope he is well
I love all these series but Patrick is my favorite, because he’s so authentic, raw and really funny. His honesty is endearing. I pray he continues to seek God and continues to press in and break through the veil.
It is incredibly saddening when you hear people leading others to the same drug they struggle with (the fentanyl scenario). Like you absolutely know the burden it put on you personally but lead someone to the same struggle. That really breaks my heart.
You put that nicely. I was so pissed at that woman for inviting him to use with her when she watches him on this channel and knows his struggles.
@@Noonecares3203 Absolutely, say hello, perhaps give some words of encouragement and let them know you too are fighting the same battle. I will never understand a person leading another to a drug. Like here try this, you “may” enjoy it today but it will be like hell on earth in the future. I know we all have our own free will but don’t introduce or offer it to someone knowing how much damage it can do.
Not making excuses for anyone, but that's the beast of addiction.. It's like having a mind of it's own inside your own mind
@@newkingdom6750 I understand people do what they normally wouldn’t do when they’re using drugs. They stoop to lows they wouldn’t if it weren’t for the drug. I just can’t fathom offering someone a drug and potentially changing their life for the worse forever. That makes me incredibly upset to hear things like that. It’s not just a night of fun… it’s potentially going to change another person’s life forever. That sh*t’s no joke…
@@aliciablanchard2500 yes I agree it's serious and again not making excuses.. what you "can't fathom" is what I was trying to bring understanding to.. addiction will literally make you lose your own conscience which causes one to do the things they would never normally do.
We all just LOVE Patrick!! I was so happy to see his face pop up in my feed.
we ?
Not me! I think he's creepy and weird!
I hope we can get an update on Patrick soon. ❤️
Patrick, you are worthy. Thank you for inspiring others. Keep pushing.
Amazing conversation. The balance is key. Big respect
Thank you for sharing your life with us Patrick you have no idea how much hope you give some of us. My brother has been struggling with Heroin addiction for years and everyday I'm afraid will be his last day. But then I come here and see you. Thank you for giving me a glimmer of hope I love him so much and I'm so afraid for him. You stay diligent Patrick so many of us are rooting for you and care to see you happy and successful. 🌻❤️🙏🏽
My younger brother suffered with a meth addiction for many years. He's now a successful business owner, great father, amazing husband. I often think back to the days when I would let my mom go to voice-mail every time for fear she'll tell me he was dead. There is definitely hope, is what I'm trying to say. Much love to you & your family! It's hard to watch someone you love go through addiction & you're not alone! 🤗
God bless your brother and your family. Cant imagine watching a family member going through this.. He will be in my prayers.🙏
I was right to be scared for my brother. He passed away on October 2nd, alone kneeling in his best friend's backyard. I wasn't going to comment but someone liked mine and it showed up in my notification. I'm just heartbroken without him if you're in trouble and you're reading this you have to get help because this drug will take your life and along with it your family's heart. God be with all of you.
I adore Patrick, I came back just to see his updates. I love that no matter how many times he falls off the wagon, he never stops trying. Dusting himself off each time and trying again. I love his honesty and ability to be vulnerable. I have struggled with multiple cancer diagnosis and recently had my lymph node removed (awaiting biopsy results on another) and to see Patrick dealing with these same issues made me feel less alone. I hope he continues to do well in his recovery. Rome wasn't built in a day. You can only eat an elephant one bite at a time. xxx
Any super successful person or celebrity attempting to make a profound statement from behind a podium at a college graduation ceremony or something will always say something to the affect of - we’re not defined by our successes, but by how we bounce back from our failures. And while maybe a bit cliche, it’s said because it’s often true. I see a lot of comments talking about how he is just freshening up and preparing for another binge. Maybe so. Maybe not. Maybe he’ll fail 1,000 more times and go to 50 more rehabs before he gets it. He keeps trying though and I dig that. I hope you continue to persevere with what’s ailing you as well, Miss K. I’m in a similar place as you and Patrick. I’ll try to remind myself that you both are trying, along with countless others, so there’s no good reason that I can’t too. Hope everything turns out ok with you.
@@colinschafer5453 You are right, I dig that about Patrick too and thank you! Same to you! My biopsy was positive and I am preparing for radiotherapy now but I am very mentally strong and thats half the battle. Good luck to you - all my love xx
@@missk5092 Thank you! You beat it before. You can do it again. You got this! All my best!
I love that Patrick is so intelligent and spiritually well rounded. I truly pray for his Deliverance from the addiction & strongholds. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Nothing is impossible with GOD! 🙌🏾
Months into his recovery, Patrick is still doing well. Tools for his recovery have been laid at his feet and he is using them to build a new life for himself. He is emulating a few others who came before him, those that have the peace and serenity that he craves. He is actively cleaning up the wreckage of his past, apologizing, and more importantly, making amends. Probably his biggest growth comes in that he is now helping those that came after him. The desperate ones who need someone that understands them. Someone like Patrick. The holidays are coming up and they can be hard on addicts and alcoholics, especially in the first year. Patrick is already preparing so he can get through them without any major problems.
That's so good to hear. My friend just successfully checked out of Rehab but immediately relapsed. I'm not sure how to help only to continue loving him. He always says no one understands him or knows what he's going through and part of that is true. He is 43, alone - although dreams of having a family, he has a boss similar to Patrick's where he can go back to after not showing up for a week due to a binge, etc etc.. Would Patrick be willing to connect with him? The one difference though with my friend is he struggles with honesty.. but I think that's because he doesn't believe people would accept him or love him, he had a hard childhood. Please let me know either way?
How is he now in what is almost September 2023??
A year and a half into his recovery, Patrick is going strong. He has recently redoubled his work on his sobriety and is even helping other addicts find their sobriety. 12 simple steps and his life has been transformed. He's living the kind of life beyond what he could have ever imagined possible.
"My mind's dancing with it." Fascinating young man and interview. Thank you!
He’s 40…
@@tink58bell That's young to me. Hope that's ok with you...
@@skyking228 nope
Wishing the best for him. I’m the same age and this episode really meant a lot to me, as did the first video with him
What an incredible powerful moving story thanks mark for sharing and thanks for the updates
Been waiting for a update on Patrick. He's the first person I found on this channel and I have been rooting for him.