Why Can’t Women Be Single?
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- Опубліковано 10 вер 2024
- This week, The Swaddle team explores how Indians discriminate against single women, and why being single can be liberating.
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I think back to how stressful it would have been for my mother to handle kids, a career and a household at my age, when I have the freedom to not marry and stay single. It makes a huge difference, and it's a choice we need to give all women.
It's already a choice
@@sohit7706 I don't think so
Women Shouldn't be Single Because they behave like babies and they need Protection and Care
@@gopikamurali3756The number of people choosing to be single is increasing day by day. Data proves that. It doesn't matter what you think.
@@dipakkumarmandal7248 yeah, protection from stupid opinions from men and women like you
I'm 32 and happily single, not in a relationship and don't want to get married. I love to live alone as I don't have to work for anyone or according to anyone's wish. I go anywhere at anytime as I want, alone or with friends, I dont have to take permission of anyone. And I feel happy of my choice because 90% of my married friends only talk about the problem they are facing.
You should remain single
@@TusharSharma-cy9xo thanks bro.
@THE ZOLDICS not to empathize they tell me to get marry so I'll go through the same situation as they are facing. I say if they are happy in marriage then it's good for them but why do they advice me to get married. There is only one friend of mine she tells me not to get married at all and live with freedom you do have.
Same
Ok
giving women a free choice of staying single or not without scrutinizing them will actually lead to a positive and more peaceful society. staying single is way better than being in a toxic relationship.
@@ultimatetruth4156 No marriage = no abusive husband
No marriage = no dowry demand
#endofpati
Yes, stay childless. We need fewer Indians.
Yeah its true Toxic men and feminists are a huge red flag they will just demand unreasonable things from you to validate their ego.
@@yarpenzigrin1893 adoption is always an option !!
@@thetarottranslator 🙌
Side Note : Queen of Indian music industry, Lata Mangeshkar ji never married, never had children and remained single all her life. And she did live such a wonderful and successful life....So, yeah it's totally Ok to be single, unmarried and childfree. Marriage and motherhood are choices, Not Obligations. Don't let the patriarchy tell you otherwise.
Amen🙌🏻🙌🏻
Wow nice to here such positive outlook from a peer Assamese
Thank you!
Yes, stay childless. We need fewer Indians.
Better say successful in your opinion...not every woman is as famous as lataji and can survive without a family in old age
I am 25 and unmarried. In my village girls of my age have kids. I am still studying and working on my career. There is so much pressure... Like sooooo much... On me to get married as soon as possible. Relatives put pressure on my parents and my parents are very very upset about me. They tell me I'm already 25 so i need to compromise on certain aspects in marriage or have to 'adjust' in terms like age etc! Its so annoying. I am not at all ready for a marriage... I just came out of a bad phase in life and people want to push me into marriage bcs they think thats what my ultimate purpose in life is and they think marriage will solve all my problems! Its so irritating and makes me feel so low
Same thing happening with almost every single girl.. m 26 and the same kind of pressure my parents and relatives putting on me.
@@Dam6404 its so horrible na.. At times it breaks me.. Especially when ur parents fail to understand you
@Rainbow Rose Princess Mishti 16???? Are they mad????
Hey Rubina just don't get bothered by what others has to say . Even if your parents don't care it doesn't matter. You should care for yourself enough to not let any else get into your head. Just don't agree to do something that you would feel sorry for the rest of your life. Work hard for your independence, trust me life is too beautiful to waste in compromises
@@eaglemgtow2789 Hey !
The reason why Indian women aren't intaking anti depression pills is because mental health is still a non existent issue in our country. Why we don't want to get married or have children doesn't have anything to do with Western influence , but us getting the financial independence and choice. Whether someone wants to get married or not should be a conscious choice . Not everyone is meant for marriage. Not everyone wants children.
Sometimes I feel that it's easier to call myself asexual than explaining people why I am single... 😂😂😂
Indian society can't keep calm...
Majority of people don't understand asexuality too.
You would still face difficulties to fit in this narrow minded ignorant society..
Ya ya you are correct dear
Same here from Sri lanka
U must be ugly
Actually many of the people especially the boomer generation don't know how to live for yourself, they are only told to live for others
The point on how single women have issues with banking and government policies was so revelatory. And uff, yeh edit!!!
Would be good to have some indian statistics on the same. The UK and US stats may not have a correlation of 1
@@ultimatetruth4156 your life is propoganda
I am an ex Banker, and we used to sanction loans to Single women. (West Bengal)
@@tsubasayohashire5599 thats why the swaddle is a bull shit channel. Full of fake propoganda. Boycott and unsubscribe it right now
At the end of the day what matters is choice
Give the women the choice to choose what she wants to do
Whether she wants to get married
Whether she wants to stay single
Whether she wants to have have kids
It's high time the society realises that they have no say in a women's decision
And that women can actually make independent decisions and lead a happy life and the so called 'settled life'
@@eaglemgtow2789
More anti depressants are prescribed because, in America the stigma for metals health is absent, women take it more than men because women are statistically more likely to seek help for mental health issues, while men tend to stick to Manning up and eventually walking the path of self destruction.
Pets are preferred because if evolution didn't make the process of making children so pleasurable, many people would voluntarily opt out. Leaving that aside, children come with a lot of emotional labour and they are very expensive to raise. With the curent economy in India it's preferable to adopt a pet and take care of it instead. Even couples are adopting pets and choosing not to have kids or ditching it altogether and using the money in shared experiences and ventures.
Just because you're a bitter man parroting what sex offenders and pimps are spouting on UA-cam, in the name of "truth and facts" doesn't make you smart dude. Go back to school and maybe take some anthropology and sociology classes. Or try and make conversation with real people with real experiences instead of listening to hateful and toxic garbage of the MGTOW community.
@@eaglemgtow2789 According to UNICEF, one in seven Indians between the age of 15-24 have depression and 1-10 Indians have some sort of mental health issue. One can have depression with or without marriage.
Secondly, pets are adorable, there is literally no harm in loving your pet. You can't take away a woman's choice just because you believe in the concept of marriage. Let women do what makes them happy.
@@resonance8346 Hate to admit this, but he’s not wrong about the depression and anxiety in women in countries that’ve reached the parity. Even if u control for other factors like seeking and receiving medical help. Married people have an overall better lives than singles. That’s just a fact. We’re biologically wired for it. But if those wirings u ill-connected, then living single is a better option in comparison.
But by no means, single hood is the best option for the person or the society at large.
Pets r a second option, especially like u said in the economy of today. Or given the fact that kids aren’t as respectful and r exposed to infinite variables that can influence them greatly. However, it’s not the optimal option. Not by a long shot.
@@ultimatetruth4156
It will be just wait....
@@ultimatetruth4156 given that many indian fathers don't actually try to parent their child i would say that we already are a fatherless society
I am a proud single girl child of a divorcee mother. I am proud of her that see is handling everything alone and also taking care of me. I must say that we are now living much happier and peacefully than living with that toxic and abusive father.
Edit- You will get some good examples of toxic misogynist- men under this comment. Because of these few stupid people, the whole men race is disgraced. May God protect the good men :)
Don't think that it's something so great.
U managed it well but it's not that great to be something too proud.
Just normal management of your normal lives.
Just that. Don't compare that to a normal healthy complete family.
Be happy whatever u make with your lives.
@@ultimatetruth4156 she never said only fathers are abusive. she said HER FATHER was abusive. Don't try to be the men who think that they are greater than women.
@@ultimatetruth4156 who told you that every father is abusive? I see my friend's fathers, they are so protective and caring to their children. They see me like their own daughter. I have a toxic father because of my bad fortune, but God gave me the strongest mother in the universe. And I am forever grateful for that!
And do comment after understanding a thing properly, clear the garbage from your mind first!
@@mrtriyja7800 I am proud that I am not depend on any man
I am proud that me and my mother raised voice against violence.
I am proud that we chose self respect over a painful life.
I am proud that I am healing the past traumas.
@@youhashiccupinabbitipsy3815 thank you friend for understanding my comment and supporting me. Some narrow minded people will never understand my struggle. God bless you.
I am only 26 and my neighbours and relatives are so concerned about my marriage that my parents are under so much pressure. They are thinking about the society and what people will say and just want me to get married within a few months. Society actually puts so much pressure on parents by spreading rumours about the girl that in the end the girl and her family suffer.
Same here.. not letting me focus n my career 😶.. evn if my parents are okay. .. the relatives are torturing us .. like they gonna pay for my marriage 😶💯
With me my parents are more or less okay but relatives and family friends are constantly asking me all kinds of intrusive questions. So I guess we are all sailing on the same boat :P
Same same same.. I'm 27 and this pressure has increased in past 2 years. As if they don't have any other topics to talk about. They are pressurising my mom in every social gathering. It is giving me panic attacks, anxiety issues and I'm unable to live peacefully, concentrate on my career and LIFE! I feel like killing myself now..
Same, everyone constantly wants to know when I will ' settle down'
I am 10 years older than you and still my mom and landlords family in my native try convincing every now and then to not remain single!!!
Wish them luck 😂
One day:
Our country will stop asking for Father's/Husband's name. That day we will declare us to be equals.
It already happened. Some girl with single mother in the comment section said that now a days only mothers name is fine.
Fathers name/ guardians name
And then mothers name. You can put mothers name in both. ✌️
@@tenone7726 yes you can put. That's fine. But I'm talking about it still being there in every form/affidavit.
@@maha_sage fathers name is in optional format, but mothers name is mandatory you must put your mothers name even if she is not with you. Just put your mothers or grandfather's name in guardians list.
99% people has their father as guardian dont you think it will be injustice towards fathers entirely ignore their roles in a family they are also human they also has heart.
Woh aap jaise logo k liye jinke aage baap ki koyi aukaad nehi. Hamare liye Maa Baap dono he same value rakhte hain.Aapke baap ke liye dukh hua ki unhe aap jaise ungrateful beti mili
Every fucking legal document asks to be identified as "son/ daughter/ wife of Mr. ____.
‘Kal Ho Na Ho’ is a great reference for a video on Single Women.
Yup Naina,her mom,dadi, neibhrour all are single women
@@swatisaini6447 Do You Drink Alcohol and Beer?
@@dipakkumarmandal7248 is beer different from alcohol?🤔
@@eaglemgtow2789 you think Indian women doesn't consume anti depressants of they had to? The stress of marriage responsibilities are so large and with the stigma of mental health, there probably will be suicides more than anti depressant consumption. Taking anti depressant is nothing to shame about.
@@ishoe7684
Yeah, by this logic u can save ur $ even committing murder.
Lately swaddle is pouring out my thoughts ! First being on asexual, then caste discrimination, n now being single ! I am definitely sharing this with all aunties, uncles and peers. 😂
Your life is really difficult.
Learn some skills for job.
Send it in my whatsapp family grp also, I cannot do it myself
@@mrtriyja7800 I am a doctor! 🙄
@@nishapawar398
Ok good.
@@ultimatetruth4156 🤦 there are variations of being asexual, I didn't want to elaborate I just mentioned the words which I picked form the videos I lately watched which were relateable to my personal experiences. And the comment was for the channel. Sorry ! If I made my point in other way round.
Now u will see tons of men getting hurt and showing there fragile ego on comment. As usual
Yeah they have started it already and even denying that single women are happy
@@veracity5412 they are men or bots i don't understand. Same messages copy pasted everywhere. I have reported them as spam in another video and UA-cam has taken them out.
@@swarmay yes...even I observed the same comment 🤣🤣🤣 they are badly hurt ...unko darr h .ladkiya single rehne lagi toh wo kisko supress krenge
But in my college all girls where looking for a rishta
@@shrishri8898 chinta mat Kar. Tera naam list me nahi h
Yes and No.
Married or single - each side comes with its own set of challenges.
The trick is to find out which side's challenges you can handle better.
Finally a sensible comment
Marriage is just an option. To be considered IF at all you find a man good enough to spend time with constantly for quite a few years.
As a daughter of a single mother I've faced huge difficulty in taking Lc's n documents from educational institute cz they always wanted a father n I used to go with my grandfather to explain them that I don't talk to my father anymore n now society has come a long way where mother's name is enough. They understood my point but the whole time they were staring at me like what big fault my mom did. Pity on them.
Edit:- funny how this talks bout single women n few men with their ego stuffing their opinions in here.
You just need father's name for documentation purpose. What is wrong in that. Every child has a father.
@@sohit7706 but what if u don't wanna include him in ur life anymore. Every child has a father but every child is not in good talks with them
@@sohit7706 what's wrong with not mentioning dad's name ? Even now in many documents father's name is compulsory but mother's name is not. Mother is also a parent.
@@monukeys1105 Which documents?? 🤔🤔.. Both parents names are compulsory in majority of documents.
@@sohit7706 no. I don't remember but in few things , father's name is only asked
So true ! We have to change the meaning of this word "settled life". A lot of people consider this as a women who is married and has a child as the ultimate parted of settled life.
Change words but meaning don't change
@THE ZOLDICS no some people earn for buying houses, cars traveling, luxurious possessions
And there is a time for everything
Let us marry when we find the perfect one(perfect for us, no one is perfect)
I know this is about women, but I have to say, the whole, "you need to get married" thing needs to change, and not just for women. My uncle is about to be in his 30s and has clearly shown no interest in marriage, but everyone keeps pushing him for it anyway. It sucks to watch, and when I try to speak up and say "marriage isn't that important if they don't want it" I get ignored. I remember a time when even I, as a kid used to joke about his marriage, and honestly, it's concerning that arranged marriages/getting forced to marry is still a norm.
Arranged marriages are rare in this time even of you find your partners information from from a relative or a matchmaker. The presence of smartphone allows you to have a conversion with your partner so what we usually think of as arranged marriages are not arranged but matchmaking. Even in the usa people use match makers and dating sites to conversion with the partner. So there is nothing wrong in it.
In my area there are poor families where both the girls has smartphone and they talk to their partners all the time, they walk ally beside our house thata how I know. India has the cheapest call rate and internet data rate in the entire world...
Love this video . 38 and happily unmarried ! Living my best life with myself ☺️
You can be happy for some years for sure
When the loneliness strikes , your eyes will open
@@BrotherBernard-yy4yd Aww ! Your concern is adorable ! But no thanks 🙏
@@himanik2118❤❤❤❤ love you mam
@@BrotherBernard-yy4ydunlike you, most women here belong to affluential families and have money to kill their loneliness, but ofcourse unemployed and poor people (like yourself) won’t understand that.
You are lesbian say directly
I love this series a lot, and finally a video which talks about how being single does not have to look like desperation to settle down, but can be one's choice against the norm and still be happy!
This↑ person gave this reply to some other comments too and got replies from them you can read them
@@ultimatetruth4156 Women will become unmarried mothers only if they've got a man to impregnate them. And if a baby is created by both a man and a woman, why are you trying to shift all of the blame on women even though a baby is the responsibility of both the partners?
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@@eaglemgtow2789 let us laugh at the fact that the a large proportion of Indian women who suicide are married women, before laughing at others.
Of course, dying is much better than taking therapy.
@@eaglemgtow2789 LEFT OVERS! Do you remember you are talking about a living being?
They are talking about women remaining unmarried of choice and not because they cannot find a spouse. There is a huge difference, genius!!!
And yeah, Rosalind Franklin, Sushmita sen are all left overs.
I'm 30 and I've had one doctor who was looking into my body pain tell me to get married and another senior neurologist asked my age and then proceeds to ask me why I'm not married yet. I felt as if somehow this fact reduces my value as a woman. It was irritating.
Actually by married they sometimes mean if you are sexually active. It's a more conventionally acceptable way i guess. I went to my gynaecologist couple of months ago and she asked me the same thing.
@THE ZOLDICS bro wtf? we aren't selling ourselves unfortunately, so we don't want to be in a market, we're humans.
Women are fertile for a very short window of time(as compared to men).
Women after 30s have trouble conceiving and often need expensive medical assists.
And since two parent household are the best environment to raise children i can see why that neurologist might be worried.
The point of animal life is the continuation of your genes by ensuring healthy well raised children.
Marriage is just another way to look at it.
@@jenniekim-5155 you are the reason why noodles have instructions on them.
Dating market is not a literal market.
@THE ZOLDICS Har jagah ek hi comment chipka raha h ...Apne dimag ka ilaaj kraa le...koi single rahe ya marriage kre ye uska choice h...tu idhr ladkiyo ko gyaan baatne mat aa...
Someone in the past did some shoddy psychological surveys and misjudged that women cannot handle loneliness in old age due to their want to nurture. That is why, lot of women who didn't get married are comfortable with their cats and investing in cat food post age 40nnow, it's doable, it's the society that can't handle that.
fyi: again this comments section attracts naysayers that the lone woman in a non war torn advanced society is still somehow not ok being alone, women have outlived men in the past, loneliness affects equally to a physiological/epidemiological specimen, my point of disagreement was why are women portrayed as worse off than men, both genders can do fine alone and seperated in the predictive future.
@@eaglemgtow2789 funny how people have a problem with vegans and women petting cats but think abortion is a sin because it's killing a life.. 🤡...yeah u care so much about 'lives' don't you
@@thefrustratedneetaspirant7777 bruh
You are right
Focus on neet first
Warna tera bhi arrange marriage hoga 🤡
They're actually DEPRESSED...
THEY TREAT CATS as their kid... Coz they couldn't have a real one.
@@mrtriyja7800 they're depressed because of society. Not because of not having kids.
@@eaglemgtow2789 did you checked how many of them were married/not single women who take anti-depression pills, How many married people there (men and women) are obsessed with pet animals and treat as their child? In india in 2020/21 court decided marriage between rape survivor and her rapist, don't you feel ashemed to criticize feminism? Such cases happens because in your country many men don't respect women, so don't respect their wives too, first teach men to respect women, respect their wives then tell women why they should decide to get married.
Now at the age of 22 I'm pressurised by my whole family to get married.. to be honest I like to be single.. and according to them I'm mental, arrogant, selfish.. yeah I'm selfish . So what ,they are pressurising me on an unwanted marriage for thier selfish reasons.. so why can't a women be a little bit selfish for once in our life.. and stereotyping of women has to be selfless and kind regardless the abuses and inequality is bullshit..
Learn to say 'no'
22 seriously thats child marriage
Your pronunciation, voice and expressions are soo overwhelming. You actually make the videos even more meaningful and interesting just by your way of speaking ❤❤your channel actually brings up so underrated yet relevant topics which we don't even notice that it's happening. It's a pleasure to be a part of such a channel💯
@@eaglemgtow2789 Dear… Have you heard of a word called CHOICE??
@@eaglemgtow2789 Too much time in your hands, huh? The only reason indian women aren't taking anti depressant pills is because mental health is a taboo topic here. It has nothing to do with not having kids. Have some shame about being jobless and spamming trash under every comment section.
Being single is much more happier if you can't find the matchable partner with similar mindset ...being single myself I want strong law and order and availability of basic facilities
I love this overthinking series. There is one suggestion most of the people who have problem with single hood speaks Hindi, i wanted to share this but people will not understand English.
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Leave single hood.
Women who wish to get married late often hear comments like agar young young karte rahe toh saare acche ladke khatam ho jayenge.
As if men and women are items sold in the supermarket
Exactly!!! I'm told this.. Im 25..so they tell me if u dont get married soon I'll miss out the good guys.. Or else later will have to compromise on guys age or education to get married.. What the fuck!!! I feel like a product when they say all this! Men and women are treated like products in marriage market.. Marriage seems like a trade
@@eaglemgtow2789 no one is talking all this based on research of western countries. Girls don't really want to get married. Its about their feelings more than researches. Growing up we have seen women making all compromises and unhappy in marriages. We really don't wish to get married.. I tell you again.. Its an inner feeling that has got nothing to do with researches. And there is nothing wrong in treating pets as kids.. Bcs its a choice.
@@eaglemgtow2789 haven't you seen happily single people? People who are so fulfilled with life?
@@eaglemgtow2789 karens r suburban middle-aged moms who like to harrass the service staff
@@ultimatetruth4156 so having a child is the ultimate aim of life 🤣lol
Exactly my notion. Life is much more happier and stressfree when the woman choses to stay single and childless 😌😌
No
@@mrtriyja7800 It is. But I am not gonna argue with someone who has differnt opinions
@@_witi
You mean we should end civilization?
@@mrtriyja7800 i mean, not every woman has to take the responsibility of carrying on civilization by putting themselves in relationship and in roles, they don't want to. I have nothing against women who wants to marry and have kids. That's their choice.
But I personally think relationships, marriages, kids ... these things doesnt necessarily have to be a part of every woman's life, specially when they don't want it.
@@_witi
Then what should these types of women do with their life?
I mean no one cares if hv a job, some money... You roam around places....
But this is all temporary pleasure, after some time people usually fed up with that . And a human body don't remains same physically , mentally and emotionally.
Do u mean as a human that's the things that complete .
I don't think so.
I am 29. I have my caring parents, my supportive brother and sister-in-law and ofcourse a good job. These are enough for me. I don't need any husband, bcoz nowadays guys are just torture for me(not for all girls)😌
Ma'am honestly speaking single women are happy with their life ma'am. No stupid restriction from their male partner and no kids pressure and can focus on their dream completely. Government should just stop these discrimination and should recognize single women. Ma'am also can you please make a video on how single men struggle too.
Unmarried logo ko samaj shak ki najro s dekhta h jese single hona bada CRIME ho.
samaj ki ayi ki taisi.
i want one day this Indian society will collapse and finish.
@@sonujain2348us samj ke shaq ki nazro se dekhne se kya jata hai jisme bhar bhar ke khot ho😂😂
@@Divinefrequencies555 .U r right. But jab samaj married logo ko SAR p baithay or unmarried ko inferior feel karti h society tab BURA lagta h
@@sonujain2348 🤦wo toh samaj ka kaam hai...🤣🤣☕🍼
I have started sharing swaddle videos in my extended family group
the best kind of forwarded message 😉
At least in crowded (also frustrated) India, single woman adopting children should be rewarded. So many people, yet hard to find compatible partners.
Single and happy AF. But I don't think there is any point trying to change how people think. If someone questions you or has a problem with your decisions, even if it's someone in your close family, one should have the courage to speak up for oneself. It has ruined many of my familial relations. But i am happy that I spoke up and confronted everyone. If I didn't, I would have regretted it all my life. Besides I am not obligated to associate with anyone who are making my life worse.
The thing is that
No one likes you and want to live with you
Thats why u are single
As simple as that
If u are single or married.no one fcking cares
@@dontscreenshotmynft1548 as if you know well who likes whom better! Isn't it?
loved your reply. Yes, that is the way. Live life on your own terms.
Waiting for the Hindi release. Will definitely send this to my parents and wait for their tannas 🌝🌝
You want to send a video which shows statistics of women in US and UK to prove a point?
@@jonron3805 she wants to send a video that shows what's in her heart. It depicts her feelings.. She wants to be single.. And its her choice. We are not here for the statistics but for the ideology
Sis you're so brave😭
@@rubinam4107 One can communicate anything that one desires. Different people desire different things. OBVIOUSLY every person believes what they are doing will lead to the best outcome. However its also true that parents typically will have double of the experience of this person, they have lived this phase to know how it feels AND most importantly they love their child and would work for the best of their childs life by their advice
@@jonron3805 it's never about the statistics bruh. I wanna show them that I can be happily single, earn heavy and support them. Perfect life!!
This "single woman has hard time to get IDs" is so damn true. My domestic helper had so much difficulty to get adhar card, coz her husband left her many years ago.
Adhaar doesn't require husband name.
Stop saying non sense.
Aadhar does not require husband/ father name.
It just needs your biometrics, name, dob, address, phone number.
Yes same with my maid. My family had to help her.
This is not true!
@@user-hc3kq9hp3q Correct . Now rule has changed and it's not mandatory to give relative's name at all.Aadhaar card is an identity proof for citizens of India and that's it.
I find it very curious when Indian children are segregated from children of the opposite sex, their movements are restricted and they see unhappy marriages, why would you then ask if they’re single?
P.S. I do have to acknowledge I have asked “Why are you still single?” due to existing biases.
@@ultimatetruth4156
India also had old teaching that male should learn hard and skill themselves for 25 years in 1st Ashram in 4 .
It's said that they should remain pure while learning in these period.
@@ultimatetruth4156 Since you're so dumb, there's something called 'contraception' that you should know about. It stops people from getting preggo. Wow!! Rocket science, right?
I guess you are right the reason of so many problems in the society is the lack of interaction between the two genders. This is coming from a student of girls school. I still think many times before interacting with males specially boys of my age.
@@kumudtiwari7222 The fact that there is a gender binary is a problem. Also, Single-Sex Schools are an obsolete relic.
@@PokhrajRoy. Sir, what I am trying to say that lack of communication creates misunderstanding and can cause problems and 12% students of India are attending single sex schools.
Next someone asks me ,when are you getting married?
I am sending this video to them....
they’ll drown in embarrassment 😂
@@justme-qq4od that's the goal sister....
@THE ZOLDICS oh yeah! Thank God! at least its suited for modeling. That's what I do for living...
Gunjan u single because I were not good enough to attract one 🙂😂😂😂
@@amoghrajput4708 I have not seen a single woman in my life who are not good enough to attract at least one man in their life. at any age group, background, and ethnicity man throw themselves to woman
. Just because you are a frustrated man who can not get the reply of "hi " after hitting tons of women on social media . And sort of trying to comfort yourself saying "' I am awesome the problem are the ladies who do not reply to me "' and came to this video to find out something that agrees with your thought and found none and decided to trash talk to a random woman .
Bro get a life stop doing chichora pan and work on your personality. I wish you all the very best to find a partner. good luck
This just comes straight from the heart.... N hits straight home...
Kudos
Another karen.
@@mrtriyja7800 another jobless man who’s replying something negative under every comment in this video :)
I am 26. I have made a good career for myself. I want to get married. But I don't want to rush into marriage just for the sake of it. I don't want marry soon but regret later. I am an only child , so I also have to take care of my parents. I want to make sure that my future husband shoud be in tune with my thinking, equally ambitious and career oriented as me and support me while I support my parents.
I have been getting many rishtas but none have matched my expectations yet. And trust me ladies this process takes time. Due to this the count of your age also increases. But please take your time to find the right partner. Singlehood is better than wrong partner.
How much do you earn?
@@basic7052 I don't want to mention my exact package but I am a software engineer
@THE ZOLDICS you must be insane. Are women objects?
@@basic7052 she makes 2 million dollars a month .
Tcs Infosys is not a career
I'm 29 and unmarried and want to be unmarried for next some years at least...but family is making pressure like anything i just want to be strong enough to handle it
Please remain unmarried for life.
Why a men should add responsibilities of a high attitude women.
We don't want another competitor in our home.
Niklo yaha attitude girl 🤡 koi jarurat nahi hai tumhari
I know of this couple who are married just in name because of societal pressure. They lead separate lives with the man having flings here and there and the girl raising the child who has become her sole reason for living. Family is sympathetic towards the girl and are busy doing everything they can to 'make' the guy take up his 'responsibilities'. It is so sad to see three lives wasted due to societal norms and pressures.
No partner means no fighting over chores, losing career to motherhood or 0rgasm gap ❤
@@ultimatetruth4156 No bitches like you = a better world.
@@ultimatetruth4156 True
@@ultimatetruth4156 No marriage= No domestic violence by husband, no marital rape, no "dahej"
#patimuktbharat
@@ultimatetruth4156 hahaha PhD from university of whatsApp
@@ultimatetruth4156 bro I'm like 80 percent sure the only way you're getting married is if your parents force some poor girl into an arranged marriage with you. Don't worry about it too much.
I am 28, lifelong Celibate and single, made a house for my parents at 27, living my best life. I don't see a reason to get married when I am free bird with no restrictions. I have a very caring and cooperative family. So I don't need any faltu ka lafda
They are greedy men, and they have a lot of body count nowadays and no purity at all, a man would think am I marrying a mother for my child or a sex worker nowadays? They have too many affairs compared to a woman in the past. Many women still think the body count for men and women are same, actually, they don't understand only Men of a higher social status get women but women of any social status can get laid. I urge all men to marry a woman who is 23-26 Irrespective of caste. If a woman is marrying you after 32 remember she is not marrying you by compromising with you. Do not marry older women and give them a chance most of them are filled with past traumas like “all men are the same” kind of notions. Being a man society expects you to take care of her and protect her even though she earns well because India is not the US to call 911. Being a man you have gotta protect her and after all this, you have to welcome the burden of traumas she comes with. Older women in the chance to woo richer men travel with them have hookups and remain with the heartbreak of them abandoning them too. Marrying a girl inside 25 from any class. If you think it's funny reading all this go to a nearby court or spend a month in a family dispute advocate chamber by giving him some money or reading court judgments on divorce and alimony, just because your friend is a feminist you don't have to accept to her for your insecurity (nobody helps you financially) they might shame you, morally judge you and hurt your reputation for having these views but remember you have mother and father whose reputation is too at stake and when she comes she will take your surname. Again never give a chance to an older woman and marry a younger one even if she is uneducated or of lower class.
It's her choice .it's her life ..,stop intruding in her space
Nobody cares wtf u do with ur life.
But u can't shut others mouth... It's their right
their body... Their mouth... Their choice.
@@mrtriyja7800 but their mouth is not meant to be opened in someone's personal life .,
@@mrtriyja7800 if you don't care what we do with our life then why u talking bout it boo.
@@sanskritinautiyal
It will, if they find it meaningful
"Women can't be single because who will take care of them? Who will bring them materials and comfort in their lives whenever they'll be needing or desiring it? Who will pamper them with a sane mindset when they'll become hysterical? Who will look after them when they'll be having insane periods cramps or going through labour? Who will offer them a happy life when we know they can't do that themselves with consistency as compared to a men?"
(Not me, gender stereotypes saying)
@@ultimatetruth4156 a stereotype
Well that's true u dmb
@@mrtriyja7800 um depends
As if Men do that already lol
@@Shauryaaa05😂😂😂😂 exactly
This is not the case in every place. Women who are financially independent in southern cities don't face as many issues. Speaking from personal experience.
Totally agree.
@THE ZOLDICS You got rejection from a Girl, isn't it?🤣The Frustration is clearly visible in your comment.
@@shilpavijay7490 yes...He is very frustrated and replying to every woman's comment here out....
Its high time that the Indian psyche towards women must change. Women must have a right on their own life. Its horrible that even a woman with good career is also made to suffer. Her character is under constant scrutiny. Life of a female in India is very difficult
I am 22 now and just started working. I seriously don't want to age further as I know in two years I will have to hear from countless relatives on marriage prospects and all those stuff. Arranged marriage frightens me as the couple only have a few initial meetings to see if they are a match. I am an introvert so finding someone I like to date is difficult for me as well.
Ps: Two years later, I decided what ever the situation, I won’t get an arranged marriage as it’s too transactional. If I don’t find someone on my own, I am okay being single. I like my own company.
U from??
As a single guy i feel so pleasure seeing women also going single.
why dude?
Me, separated, soon to be happily divorced with two lovely kids. Never been happier.. Never regreted leaving him..
Good luck. Be happy. Im still stuck in hell. Peace of mind more important than men.
From where u meet these kinds of men . I have never seen such people like u in my life . U guys live a very fucked up life . Thank god I'm not a poor like u
Paisa kaun dega
@@shrishri8898kyun ex husband khud ke lie pesa bhi jugaad nahi kar sakta, jo dahej lene k baad abhi bhi wife pe dependent hai?
@@Divinefrequencies555dahej illegal hai 😂
Women ☕🤣🤣
Thank you so much Swaddle for covering this, such an important topic. I feel young women nowadays are still at a better position to take such important life decisions, unlike earlier times. I feel really bad for my mother, aunts and grandmothers who weren't even given the option to stay single as per their choice, unlike my female cousins, female friends and me, who do what we want and love to do, take our own life decisions and would only settle down if we feel like, without any external pressure or third person's opinion. And I really hope that more women start doing it as soon as possible, that is live life on their own terms, irrespective of political, social and economic backgrounds. ♥️
Such a much needed thought process! 🔥
@@eaglemgtow2789 MGTOW ji, why are you replying to women's comments? You should go your own way na? Leave women alone and be happy
Can we just take a moment and show some love to the amazing editing with the script? Especially the Ideal Aurat achievement certificate one?
As an Indian woman with a white British boyfriend, all Indian aunties and uncles keep badgering me about marrying into an Indian household, as if my relationship is 'less then' or 'not valid'.
Why do u need others validation.
Skin don't make a man great... Qualities do.
@@mrtriyja7800 I don't need their validation. I just need them to stop bothering me and to leave me alone
Marry a liberal minded foreigner. Indian men with their abusive families can just eff off.
@@Mira-gu6we
Why do u think indian men will not marry more pure and feminine muslim women ( foreign and domestic) instead wrndi looking feminized modern girls ?
Feminist can eff off .
From where u get the white dick ??
A queen knows how to build her own empire.
By becoming bitch
@@indian3953cry more male
@@indian3953 what? bro you are doing a mistake..
@@Aashna585 sorry if it hurts the above comment..
Who cares about your empire when you have no one. Who you gonna show your empire...to your cats...? Lol
Amazing video. No matter how much you empower women, removing the stigma and prejudice against single women and granting them autonomy and recognising their individuality can actually help in attaining gender equality.
Individuality and autonomy is everyone's fundamental right. But sadly, these things are demonized in collectivist cultures which are prevalent in India and many South Asian countries.
Lots of support and love to swaddle and single women and womenhood💕💕💕💕
Some women don't like sex some have physical prb that's why they stay away from marriage. Nd mostly marital rape is legal in India
Well said ! Great Video... It's every women's personal choice, if they want to have a boyfriend or not, if to get married or not and if to have children or not.
Relationships, marriage and motherhood are not obligations. They are every woman's personal choice, no matter what. Women don't owe men anything. Women don't owe this world any children. We must stop judging and bugging women, asking them personal questions like "when are you having a boyfriend?", "When are you getting married?", "When are you having kids?" etc. And we need to stop penalizing women in anyway for the choices they make regarding their own lives.
Today i am struggling to make my parents understand that i do not want to get married... A simple NO... I thought my friends would understand... They didnt either..... When does thing stop.... Literally STOP forcing marriage on women who dont want to ...
I'm 35 yrs old and i'm happily single....💛 i really want to married also children . Freedom is my choice ...from sri lanka
Being single mom
You can't get admission for your ward in missionary school
Passport without father's name is a crime
And I fought through all and gave my child my parentage
Thanks to Ms. Gauri Ishwaran the then Sanskriti school Delhi principal she gave admission to my ward
Being single is slightly different not accepted but is equally appreciated by your loved ones 😊
That's my name
What a great achievement....
Do u like to have a Bharat ratna Or something.....
@@mrtriyja7800 you must be ignored by frnds and family becaue all do k*ll the mood of someone being grateful
@@loulicious5882
I don't believe in killing moods .
Nope 😊
@@ultimatetruth4156 if the father or even the mother is abusive.. they should be erases from the life of the child..
I am 19 year old girl and my parents are telling me to get married but I really like to be single 🙂
If this is your real photo then don't care... U have lot of time..
Gao dehat se bahr niklo
Ohh Bhai tu bacchi hai shadi 19 me tere mom dad ko samja or jaldi indipendent bn
Actually, there is nothing like getting settled. Challenges and problems keep increasing with increase in age and responsibilities........ whether you are single or married. For me true settlement is learning to earn everything with your own capabilities and efforts in all circumstances. So, depend upon your knowledge and wisdom more than anything else. Thanks to the swaddle team for adding up to our knowledge and wisdom. You are truely empowering us. 🙏🙏🙏💕
I am a single woman who's also very quiet. I dont listen to loud music or have groups of friends over. I wasnt even allowed to see a house for rent, twice, in Bangalore. One tur* asked me to bring my parents. The house I finally rented had a family where the man was a total drunkard. He came home drunk vryday and there were daily fights in the house, till 12am sometimes. Our crappy society will rent it to this an cos hes married, but not single people
Wanted to give 1000 likes for this video .....but unfortunately could give just one....nailed it u guys
💛
Single forever
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Dear women of this comment section, can you give me advice about my future?
I absolutely don't want to marry but I feel that if I don't, I'll be lonely, and the path ahead of me will be very difficult. Does anyone know any places/organizations in India that support single women? Any lifestyles you could tell me about? I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
(Please ignore the trolls. Please don't respond to them atleast under my comment.)
I have same questions. Please someone answer🙏
@@eaglemgtow2789 Women have the greatest risk for developing depressive disorders during their child-bearing years. Psychosocial events such as role stress, victimization, sex-specific socialization, internalization, coping style, disadvantaged social status, and perceived stigma of mental illness, more in females,[9] have all been considered to contribute to the increased vulnerability of women to depression. The prevalence of mental morbidity in married women from Mumbai was found out to be 27.2% using a self-reported questionnaire from WHO with higher reporting of somatic symptoms than emotional symptoms.[10]
In addition, depression is also an important consequence of domestic violence, which affects between one-quarter and over one-half of women at some point in their lives.
@@shreyas4945 Honey do you really think they're here to listen? Let's not waste our energy on ppl like them and let's support each other instead💛
Everyone wants a loving partner to share life with but in India marriages are sometimes not on equal terms.
My suggestion to focus on your career first. When you earn, you get confidence and you will know what exactly you want in your partner.
If you are afraid that of you end up single, would tell you about my friends experience. Some of them were heartbroken and did not want to marry, but guess what they found their love at the age of 32 , 34 and happily married now. Universe has its own way to show up things to you.
If you are afraid to marry because you think marriage is a suppression for women, then you must make a strong career. No one would be able to suppress you then.
@@asha1537 Thank you for the advice🤗
I completely agree with your suggestions. I know for sure that I'm never gonna be financially dependent on a man. But I fear that no matter how feminist we both are, the society and our inner conditioning is gonna make us behave in sexist/stereotypical ways subconciously at some point in life. Even the laws and documents are archaic, so it will have to be a lot of active effort and patience.
And yeah, I don't want to marry someone just cuz I should marry. Like you said love will happen when it will.
My mom says my life will end after marriage but she can't see me unmarried. What sick world do i live in ...
Men and women should have their own choice on marriage
Im a single mother with Nigerian roots living in Belgium. I love this channel and the insight look it gives to Indian culture. There are a lot of parallels here in Belgium "the free West" or so they claim 😂. I can relate very much to this video. Even though it is very hard being independent, raising two very young children. Still I feel so much more happiness then when I was in a relationship with the father who didn't help out all. A lot people find this frightening. But at the end of the day what matters is that i'm living this life and raising the children in the most happy possible way for us and nobody can take that away from us. Thanks to all the people working on this channel. It is very appreciated for us femenist world wide. Keep up the awesome work ❤️!!
Its not just about traditions or religions ...in urban settings too everyone keeps asking why r u single , why r u not dating yet ...you r so pretty still single , you r so loving still single , so intelligent still single ....and if someone has never dated or been in a relationship its just too village type or uncool ......if these so called forward thinking ppl want that ppl dont judge them or question their character based on their multiple relations , casual dating , sex partners etc why do they judge ppl who just want to be single and dont wanna date ......whats so uncool about it ?????
This single mother loves your videos from Pakistan! great content
Kudos to the contents creator... You guyzz have my respect forever
I'm 24 and i probably never want to get married as i love to free and in control of my life. This opinion might change but the only thing that holds me back is the idea that I'll be unsafe. Does anyone else think like that?
Why you will be unsafe?
@@user-ig-gg26j u know- a woman, alone in india. Its unsafe... 🥹
@@aasthasonarait’s sad that your ex partner never made you feel safe
Oh yaah! This is so much wanted after watching "little things".
Hey all swaddle team. I need an advice.. i am 25, earning a decent amount for living. I was in a relationship for a while and then broke up with him as things didn't turn out to be working at that moment but we chose to stay friends. However, as much my family is pressurising me to get married, i feel like i have started developing feelings for this guy. I don't know if the feelings are genuine or am I making him the scapegoat to avoid choosing someone random.
If you have that doubt, part of its true, stay away for a while, we can love people to not want to be with them forever as well, maybe he's a rebound and you want that attention that you miss in a relationship, trust me the guy would be hurt for no reason, DONOT TRUST YOURSELF SO MUCH, human attention span+distraction+commitment we all know and we aren't above it and we aren't clinical best examples of good people out there all the time, take a break from it all, thank the ability to marry late and marry right in current society
Been in your shoes. Considered asking my bestie to marry me. Luckily realized these kinds of shortcuts and zabardasti "feelings" were just me looking for a way out. Not fair to the guy or myself. I am 35 now and happily single. I know at 25, the family pressure and associated guilt can be too much to handle. But trust me, you will figure it out. You don't need to do this.
@@nchl5340 what difficulties do you face in life being single after 30?
@@swatisaini6447 @swati saini I faced most of the difficulties in my 20s. I always knew I wanted to be single and childfree. But being from a conservative Muslim family, they all thought I was crazy. Literally. My mother would call me and cry every day. My dad would look sad. I would feel so guilty. If finding a rental house is tough for single women, it is 2x for single Muslim women (though I am anti-religion). I bought my first apartment at 29 and the amount of harassment I faced from banks was criminal. Finally, I had to threaten them to file a case and spread it in social media. The loan was approved the next day.
Oh yea, married men in office flirting with you when they find you're nearing 30 and still unmarried - yuck!
I am happier in my 30s and loving it. More financially independent. Sorted in my thoughts and choices. Parents too have accepted and our relationship improved.
@@nchl5340 I'm almost where you were. I'm 25,unmarried, from a Conservative Muslim family.... Parents being sad that u r not married, you getting confused, guilt, answering questions like 'after ur parents die, if you are sick.. Who will take care of you', ' u may earn well but if u don't have a child, all your money will be of no use', harassment, embarrassed at every family functions, taunts on your parents, people questioning parents, it's all so so soooooo frustrating and tiresome 😣
It's a shame that in order to very an education in school, a woman has to bring her husband with her to the school. & if a child is fatherless forget about getting an admission in a good school. Why are women punished like this?
Education is a human right that shouldn't be dependent on father or not. Shame on you india !
The thought of being forcefully married is tough.
The laws for being single in the country makes us feel like a sin for the country.
The problem is that both men and women who are "single" hate the society due to brutal discriminations.
Instead of getting women married to men and vice versa, let the single people work on their financial growth and development by which, they can acquire a property.
The problem is that the Gen W, Gen X and Gen Y made it difficult for the Gen Z to find livelihood. Whenever we need a job, chances of finding the right job is located in other states and by staying in other states means to find rent which is tougher than finding jobs these days.
Marriage is not the key for every success. We are entitled to succeed only when we work on them. Marriage is like an obstacle these days.
I am just adding mixed emotions here because it is what it is.
Please leave women alone.. 💯💯 please. If we don't want to get married.. leave us alone.
You guys should list your sources, we were trying to use one of the videos as a source for a research but couldn't justify it due to lack of sources
Amazing content as always. Thank you for this video.
Thanks, Ruchira!
This video is bang on because getting a divorce was the best thing to happen to me
I'm 26 still single and wish to b single till 32 after that think about marriage
Life changes hell alot i believe after getting married…nothing like literally nothing remains same….and the worst part is we ourselves get used to all of it is what im scared of
Loved this one 😍.One of the most relevant videos
34 divorcee , can't relate more.
You deserve much more subscribers than 248k 😊👏
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@swaddle hitting on the target again. 🎯
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This how much PATRIARCHY destroyed women existence. And plz iss content ko hindi me bhi laao yar
@@eaglemgtow2789 yeah and people like u have lost ur brains!!!
@@ultimatetruth4156 u are a living proof 🤣 so how come it be a conspiracy
Patriarchy built the comfort women live in.
@@TusharSharma-cy9xo ohh so all the domestic violence and sexual harrasment is comfort for u👏👏👏👏👏👏
@@grgayathri8905 only idiots like you generalize, not all men harm women, what are you? A 7yr old?
Please make a video on "Why can't men be single?"
That kind of video won't bring views
I think Indians need to come up with new norm that for every huge bank fraud like Mallya case, government and banks together will use same amount to support women and other marginal section of society in form of study, business and other loans. This will be a simple way for the banks and government to apologise for their mistakes while uplifting the ones that really need it. This way either women and marginal will get uplifted or fraud cases wont happen.
Women are not minority , they make 50 Percent of population.
Im so happy that ur specifying heterosexual relationship. A small detail but great help.
I think we need to make men and women equally strong to be able to choose singledom as life decision. We do stigmatise women for being single, but we also never care for single men. Have we ever asked why is it that men are more desperate to get into relationships? Why single men commit more sucides? Why are men so emotionally unavailable? I quite often feel that we have it the other way round, men are much more dependent on women for their emotional stability, and ofcourse it is not good for a balanced society. If we only empower and encourage women to embrace singledom and independence, we will leave a generation of emotionally unstable men behind.
Only weak muthals need women for emotional support.
Men were always loners as saints, adventurers and mystics.
We are well aware- Hence we are opting for no marriage.See the rates of crimes around,and the criminals walking away in most cases.If the men doesn’t value a woman’s safety and respect the same as his, after a significant amount suffer ,they will finally learn.
I m 30 unmarried girl. I m fed up with society. My life is like HELL. I m feeling suicidal bcz i cant handle marriage pressure anymore
Just keep going
Mothernature will sort this out in about 40 years.
Single women can adopt children( do something good for someone, atleast those kids when they grow up will be thankful) and LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER with her own money and assets... if you dont find TRUE love its WORTH not to marry anyone. marrying someone because your parents, neighbors, relatives wants you to get married is the WORST decision one can make.
Absolutely the more girls stay single more cats will get homes fully support you
you think you are funny don't you? well as a forever single woman i will keep a dog
Now I'm extremely liking this series.... Cause it's talking about so me.
My choice.. I'll never marry
Nobody cares what one do with their life .
If they care, they express in anger or wishes .
Those who don't care.... U r just a news or number for them.
Remember it
@@mrtriyja7800 ohhkk.. chill man.
@@gauri_mshra
I m chilled always .
I enjoy to troll here .
@@mrtriyja7800 if u dont care, dont comment na