I love the fact that this video encourages everyone to be more caring while taking the burden off any one section of people. That is exactly what societies should aspire to be like.
Well for some it's burden For some it's their love ., But men must be of high quality ,only then a women s sacrifice worth it . But Marxist who are known to induce fight everywhere , have present it negatively to break society more ....To rule easily . Only aware ones know.
@@mrtriyja7800 watch the video. It is so nicely put. If I am to give an answer to ur comment as per the video to my best extent, it pointed out how sacrifice when done by self will, with love, are the one of the best assets on which our society thrives, it is saying that nobody should be forced to do sacrifice (like deliberate "gender role") but when someone willing of doing a positive one from inside, we should value it consciously (mind it, there r many ideological gasballons like suicide bombers who also do a sacrifice, but a negative one, which along with themselves, harms society, or idk if they really believe in going to a exploitative "heaven" of their imagination) and we should in general, stop looking down upon people (consciously or unconsciously) who r low key and not influential or powerful (and also we really should question the power or authority without any compassion, demand compassion and responsibility from them) at all because they are the actual rocks of our society. It nowhere talks about any "marxist fight" to be deliberately infused in anyone's brain, so do watch the video.
@@swapnasandhya6073 Lol I think maam u considering Marxist in old fashion . When I say Marxist , I mean those Kabbalah networks of Frankfurt school of thought .... They r expert in wearing skin. .... Last 3 decades they utilizing Marx method to intrude into the society ... If u know ...U know what I mean... U will see back to back agendas in newspaper , bollywood , Yt and twitter influencers .... Promoting certain agendas in a synchronized way that even a kid could NOTICE that ....
I know that swaddle is a feminist channel. But if we ask the question whether sacrifice is only expected for women, the answer is NO... Men and women, both of them are encouraged to be sacrificial. Fathers too sacrificed a lot for the wellbeing of the family as mothers do. Fathers don't enjoy the money they earn for themselves, they provide for their family. Society call a father who earns for himself as selfish and not caring for the family. Also men have sacrificed more than women in protecting(military, police, firefighting etc.,) and building the country while women made sacrifices in building the family. We are still thankful and we still remember the people who made sacrifices.
"IAnstead of expecting women to make sacrifices because of their gender, it’s time to reframe sacrifice as a virtue everyone aspires to, but noone feels the burden to perform." 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@Spell Check let's just call a feeling or a deed. If for good cause, it can be considered as a virtue, if for the bad cause (eg highly ideological talibani "fighter"), it's a futile and sad vice.
@Goblin Slayer I know hindu men makes sacrifice they can't pursue there dreams just because they have to be the earnings members but that's what feminism is if women started working men will have enough time to pursue there dreams and many more merits of women earning
@Ishwari Chaudhari you need to understand the other problem. men can't stay at home in society. he's seen as looser. when there is a child one has to take care of it. men can't stay back, so woman have to stay back and quit jobs. it's not like we men have a choice. atleast women have choice to work or quit in society nobody will ask you. for us men we must earn
@Ishwari Chaudhari first read the comments. you are just literate not educated with want goes around you. btw marry a man who loves equality respects and loves you but no job. no woman does that.
@Ishwari Chaudhari the rest of India is not like your family. speak with common sense and what's happening outside your house. don't be that frog in the well.
My mother is the excessively sacrificial person I have ever seen but took a big toll on her mental and physical health which I began to understand in my early 20s. Then I always kept making her realise that it's not her job alone. As a family anything good or bad should be borne by all of us equally. Now her burden has reduced and health also improved. The understanding within the family is so important for collective well being Edit 1- Thanks for all the likes. Special thanks to the progressive people in comment section who have supported me and stood by me. We are for equality. We are for love towards life Edit 2- I really donno what some sick people are doing in this comment section. I am talking of equality and people are talking shit of what not. This is what women need to be beware of. Toxic attitude of inhumane beings whom forget men or women they aren't humans in the first place.
@@shadowhymn5162 Why is your buttt burning?? You're own heat will burn you up. I think you're sitting idly that's why your mind has become a devil's workshops. Go do some household chores . You'll become all right ☺☺☺
@Villa de Álvarez Colima Look, I agree where you are coming from. Many people here are stating that fathers/men have a jolly time in their lives and they rarely sacrifice and even when they do, it is miniscule in comparison to mothers/women who sacrifice tremendously. I absolutely reject this claim as misandry. I personally believe that both fathers and mothers sacrifice for their families. Their sacrifices/contributions don't necessarily coalesce, however, both of them do. This is the bottom line, which people are missing. They are only seeing the contributions of mothers and are blind to the contributions that fathers make. However, there is a way to counter this narrative. You are straight up being misogynistic (objectively speaking) and completely subverting the role of mothers/women in our lives by gratuitously being provocative, when there is no need. Your point is nothing but an affront to mothers worldwide. On one hand there are some people here who don't want women to work and later also criticize women for marrying a rich man. Do you see the hypocrisy in such arguments??? You can't have your cake and eat it too. It can't go both ways.
@Goblin Slayer how is that even relevant, incel? I meant whenever she decides to take out time for herself, do a lil self care, the "scarficing woman good woman" narrative is so deeply rooted inside her that she feels guilty and selfish for doing it. No matter what I do she cannot help feeling that way because how repeatedly this narrative was practiced that she internalized it. Didn't get it right? Expected. Assuming youre man Take your privilege and self entitlement somewhere . I'm not gonna entertain incel like you here. So don't you dare police me. Go police your pathetic self.
@Goblin Slayer your entire recent comments are on all of "feminist" videos lmao. Utilizing all the time and obsessed with commenting on every other swaddle video. Imagine being so lame 😂
@@shadowhymn5162 What's the proof your your claims which show the evidence that Swaddle is Neo Nazi? Neo Nazism is quite different from what they are uploading on thier channel.
@@shadowhymn5162 person, first of all, in all of Swaddle's videos, they showcase true cases and statistics of every wrong deed against women.. it highlights what WOMEN GO THROUGH IN DAY TO DAY LIFE... NO ONE IS UNDERMINING MEN AND THEIR CONTRIBUTIONS TO SOCIETY!! And mind u, this channel is about EQUALITY between men and women. At the end of every video, the swaddle team gives a neutral message saying what is just and right for ALL OF HUMANITY TO DO AS A WHOLE AND DOES NOT JUST PROTECT WOMEN... The point of Swaddle is to bring out the circumstances where women are discriminated against and give out the message that EVERYONE (ALL GENDERS) DESERVE EQUAL TREATMENT UNDER THOSE PARTICULAR/HIGHLIGHTED CIRCUMSTANCES 👀👀 You, buddy, have misunderstood everything about this channel.... And what the hell are you bringing politics into this for? 😂 This channel promotes modern thoughts and approaches in life which you, a person with a terribly backdated mindset, are unable to understand or comprehend properly... But it's alright... I guess egotistic people like you need to exist too so that we can make comparisons between what is right, what is wrong and what is plain dumb... 😂 So once again, THIS CHANNEL IS NOT ABOUT SIDELINING MEN OR PROMOTING OVERLY EXAGGERATED ANTI POLITICAL AGENDAS BUT ABOUT BRINGING A SENSE OF EQUALITY AND EQUITABLE VISION AMONG ALL GENDERS IN THIS MODERN SOCIETY OF THE 21st CENTURY!!
@@shadowhymn5162 regarding Hinduism,they have made a lot of videos telling how Hinduism was infact more secular and equal regardless of caste gender. I wouldn't even have known it if it wasn't for them. Men in India only see feminsm and men hatingwomen when in reality it's not. We need a reformed society in today's world and swaddle is explaining everything very well. Are you so aftraud of reformations that your male ego is so hurt you keep inserting it whatever women's problems are discussed??make your own channel to voice out concerns about men,don't come here and cry.
Till now people get offended when they see women chilling or having time for themselves. Society assume women time will be something like reading religious book, recipies books or listening to dhaarmik verses or , doing some activities like knitting , decorating home etc.
It's not a bad thing to chill. After overworking, people deserve to take a break. Chilling is also something a hardworking person should do, as it will be beneficial for their health. Idk why people get offended when they see women chilling or having time for themselves. Both men and women can chill, and it's not "offensive" as narrow-minded people say.
Exactly, even when my mom talks some extra minutes with neighbours or on phones, my father starts cursing under his breaths. I get bad headache due to the tension and pressure he sometimes creates in our family for no reason.
India was a socialist government back then. Most hospital industries were owned by government. Doctors and engineers were payed heavy salary as compared to others. Majority being poor considered this profession as only way to get rid of poverty. Not only india several asian countries and many western countries were in similar situations. Thats why every parents wanted their kids to become doctor engineers (lawyer and beaurocrates) bcz of the high salaries and perks. Even now these jobs are highly paid jobs as compared to many.
soo true. infact their are soo many topics like why indian society hates single child?? why this indian society treats an introvert like a depressed patient??
@@rishovo2487 you never heared this because you never gone through than taunts may be you are not single child in your personal life that's why you never experienced in your whole life. & i know for this torture also first toxic aunties are responsible bt they never targeted for this thing
Dear Naive Modern women, Understand what mother was teaching, she was teaching her daughter to learn to give her younger brother so in future when sister asks brother to bring a ice cream or juice or anything that she like he would comply without any resistance. That's what we call bonding. so in future when mother is no more and sister asks brother to help her brother feels that it his "duty" to help not just a "favour" to his sister. More I read this intellectual comments more I understand that ability to read and write won't ensure common sense.
@@Mzingh what if her brother still refuse to buy ice cream in future ???? Much better she'll eat her pizza, do her job n buy ice cream from her own money. Perfect 👌👏
Whenever we cook Maggie at home, my mother always divide quantity equally for each n every member in our family between me, my brothers n my fathers n for herself too. Bcz she thinks everyone deserve equality. Now that's called great mother. 😍❤
@@misaki7588 Hahah Another Modern intellectual thinker keep your deep thoughts deep 😂😂. Keep proving that education doesn't necessarily mean one can be intellectually sound.😀😀
A very small part of this video happened to me. My mother was talking to her friend and she was saying that how I always fight against her for expecting that always girls have to do chores, stay in house, bounded by walls. My mother's friend said to me in a serious tone, 'You can bluff all you want. All women have to make sacrifices"," अभी छोटी हो तो ऐसा कह रही हो, बड़ी होके देखना तुम्हे त्याग करना पड़ेगा,हर औरत को करना पड़ता हैं और यही होता आया हैं" This sentence engraved in my mind and I swear I'll definitely prove her wrong
one point I will raise is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change I by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄. Artificial Womb Technology Sexrobot Already these two started to replace women 😃😄. Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
@@sadiqahmed1648 if a working man can support a jobless woman than a working woman can also support a jobless man. Just we need shift in our society's thinking and ideology.
Definitely not but places like in the US couples who work tirelessly throughout their life and are hardly involved in their kids life and their upbringing usually have this issue reason is if the kid grows up to be bad due to lack of upbringing no amount of regret would help that's exactly the situation in US where generally couples are both working tirelessly and in during teenage years kid starts to wander off to wrong paths because upbringing wasn't paid attention they should have that's why people say one shouldn't prioritize money over family. This is why atleast one parent has to stay back atleast in the initial growing stage of the kid now who should that be husband or wife logically speaking it should be the one who makes less in the relationship reason is the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is making more in similar timeframe than counterparts usually the one who makes more is the husband not in India but everywhere even in the western countries especially in india men making more than women is a necessary qualification for marriage and women actually never date down they barely even date across when you are the one who is making more without any doubt man should stay back for sure and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid. One more thing the reason why the mother feel sad about not being able to be there for the child as mentioned by the person is because women are actually not hardwired as men in terms of deriving pleasure from work as men do it is proven by research women actually get more satisfaction by being constantly involved in family and taking care of them the pleasure that any mother gets due to that is much more than career accomplishments as they are biologically hardwired like that it is even said by women who were single throughout never had any kids and dedicated their whole life to work till 50s.
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄. Artificial Womb Technology Sexrobot Already these two started to replace women 😃😄. Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
Because the modern approach they preach won't function in daily life and in relationships the same thing destroyed western relationships to an extent govt had to beg men to sleep with women one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄. Artificial Womb Technology Sexrobot Already these two started to replace women 😃😄. Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
For me, my mom and dad both have done enough sacrifices. In cases where women are expected to sacrifice more, I would say the woman should stand for herself instead of silently suffering all that comes her way. If people expect anything from us more, we aren't bound to fulfill their expectation unless and until we want to (out of our own choice)
@Goblin Slayer your logic is so crappy that even a five year old can see the flaw in it! What mister dumb-balls is saying is -“ either accept oppression or stay oppressed ” Idk why people like you call yourselves human beings because clearly you lack the basic intelligence even found in human toddlers
@Goblin Slayer btw a 35 year old can't call someone a boomer??? By all definitions she is a millennial. Mr dumb-balls didn't know that?? Oh sorry I forgot you are only an imitation of a human being
My mom and boyfriend's mom have sacrificed their health, happiness and priorities for our families. Now, my boyfriend is expecting me to do the same. He asked me to promise that I would put the family first no matter what for the sake of my family even if I'm unhappy with it. When we were discussing about our future if he would do the household chores etc, he always says he would "help" me.This thinking is so deeply rooted that I'm unable to explain or make him understand that things are different or might be different. We often argue over these topics but his ideology never seemed to change and always says you are thinking too "modern". Don't watch too much of these videos. However, I'll still try😊
He is not wrong though swaddle actually is portraying way too modern idea which won't completely work in majority of the cases one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
I hope that we the women of new generation learn from the examples of our mothers and not associate each and every thing to be done at home with ourselves. And if we not do it then feel guilty. The belongs to everyone and so does the responsibility. Before asking the men to change the first thing we need to change is our thinking. That there is nothing wrong with working outside. I am not a bad mother/wife/daughter by doing that. And we should start putting our needs as priority as well
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄. Artificial Womb Technology Sexrobot Already these two started to replace women 😃😄. Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔
Its weird how when the man does any work at home, everyone notices. But when women has had baby, waking all night long and then doing house work. No comments are said . My own parents judge me ,just because hubby is helping out at home.
Would appreciate if u add similar practices in other religions. I always see Hindu practices on this channel. Great job, otherwise. This topic is really important and relevant.
I think they post videos relevant to Hinduism as India is a Hindu majority country. Most other religions are in minority and about the practices of the peaceful religion, the members of that community will talk about it.
Just today my mother said that a women is the one having a great amount of love, kindness and compassion for others . Her duty is to transform the lives of her husband,children and in-laws by serving them and making sacrifices for them . Quite from a young age we are taught to be idle wives and mother but a very little emphasis is given on how we shape our own lives and future . Sacrifices are hence considered a part of our lives. We are expected to sacrifice our career, health and a lot more things for the sake our families . Women should taught to be more powerful on an individual level and Sacrifice should be a virtue not a duty assigned only to the women
@@mrtriyja7800 she is not agreeing with her mother! You want a woman who sacrifices for you and not does enough for herself?? Marriage is a partnership, sacrifice, compromise, adjustment is required from BOTH not one
@@Whatever_seriously Well it is not written by God to agree with everyone on everything . God has given u ur own brain ... If a women sacrifice for me , I would sacrifice for her more than she can think . And that's how we should carry our every relationship in a positive and shared manner .... And not like the NEGATIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE manner that those Marxist S(ums and so called f9m1n1st recommend .
While my mum was exactly that, I'm nothing of the sort. I'm quite opposite of this. While i have made adjustments, so has my husband. Unfortunately, most women aren't like me who put their financial, mental and physical well-being for themselves first.
@Goblin Slayer one can only offer help but the person you want to help also needs to want that help. That can't be done forcefully. Plus, like I said, I'm nothing like that traditional girl happy to sacrifice everything to keep people happy. There are people will disagree or absolutely hate me for it and I'm fine with that. Mum's neglecting her health because of her sacrificing attitude has taken a toll on her physical health and mental and emotional as well. My parents are of school and there's just so much I can do. One can't keep helping a person who keeps pushing you away.
Well they are biased actually one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
The timing of u guys is just a chef's kiss...thinking of why a so called 'ideal' mom should definitely sacrifice her life and be in service 24/7🙄😒😏🥴🤕 and u guys just made a video ..of course on a wider base of all women out there..
Sacrifice by women is has been deep engraved in our society and it's not just in the hindu religion but all mainstream organised religions in india. It's naturally expected for a woman to be all forgiving and sacrificial, otherwise she's considered as rude, selfish and characterless. It's such a huge pressure an I've seen it first hnd with my mother.
@Ashana Sinha one point I will raise is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change I by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄. Artificial Womb Technology Sexrobot Already these two started to replace women 😃😄. Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
This is so true, my mother once told me that somewhere she feels guilty since she couldn't be there with me during my growing up years because of her work-oriented attitude. However I know that even after working in the office she would care for me and handle the rest of my family's well, regardless of her being working- there was nothing more she could do for me or my dad. I still haven't understood why the women have these guilt even when they work to their fullest leaving no stone unturned.
This is a cultural shame forced on independent and working women. You surely make your mom feel comfortable so that she can do her own job satisfactorily.🙂
@@Studiousgirlonwards it is not actually couples who work tirelessly throughout their life and are hardly involved in their kids life and their upbringing usually have this issue reason is if the kid grows up to be bad due to lack of upbringing no amount of regret would help that's exactly the situation in US where generally couples are both working tirelessly and in during teenage years kid starts to wander off to wrong paths because upbringing wasn't paid attention they should have that's why people say one shouldn't prioritize money over family. This is why atleast one parent has to stay back atleast in the initial growing stage of the kid now who should that be husband or wife logically speaking it should be the one who makes less in the relationship reason is the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is making more in similar timeframe than counterparts usually the one who makes more is the husband not in India but everywhere even in the western countries especially in india men making more than women is a necessary qualification for marriage and women actually never date down they barely even date across when you are the one who is making more without any doubt man should stay back for sure and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid. One more thing the reason why the mother feel sad about not being able to be there for the child as mentioned by the person is because women are actually not hardwired as men in terms of deriving pleasure from work as men do it is proven by research women actually get more satisfaction by being constantly involved in family and taking care of them the pleasure that any mother gets due to that is much more than career accomplishments as they are biologically hardwired like that it was even mentioned by women who were single throughout their life time never had kids and family and only dedicated to work till they are like 50
onwards it is not actually couples who work tirelessly throughout their life and are hardly involved in their kids life and their upbringing usually have this issue reason is if the kid grows up to be bad due to lack of upbringing no amount of regret would help that's exactly the situation in US where generally couples are both working tirelessly and in during teenage years kid starts to wander off to wrong paths because upbringing wasn't paid attention they should have that's why people say one shouldn't prioritize money over family. This is why atleast one parent has to stay back atleast in the initial growing stage of the kid now who should that be husband or wife logically speaking it should be the one who makes less in the relationship reason is the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is making more in similar timeframe than counterparts usually the one who makes more is the husband not in India but everywhere even in the western countries especially in india men making more than women is a necessary qualification for marriage and women actually never date down they barely even date across when you are the one who is making more without any doubt man should stay back for sure and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid. One more thing the reason why the mother feel sad about not being able to be there for the child as mentioned by the person is because women are actually not hardwired as men in terms of deriving pleasure from work as men do it is proven by research women actually get more satisfaction by being constantly involved in family and taking care of them the pleasure that any mother gets due to that is much more than career accomplishments as they are biologically hardwired like that
@@kalashsharma4344 I disagree with you in two points, firstly, women are not "biologically" hardwired for anything, just like men are not too. And, secondly, maximum of the workforce is designed from male perspective, according to their convenience. That is what fuels this gender gap further, and not the other way, ie, there is no such existing gender gap that created such working set up.
@@Studiousgirlonwards you can fact check this there have been multiple studies till now and that biological mentality form the start has been present since the earliest of humans and this very mentality has ensured our existence till now and it is still prevalent in our minds today which cannot be removed as it has passed millions of years of testing. You can literally fact check this and whatever i quoted some of them was quoted by women as well. I am not saying exceptions are not possible but those don't actually make the rule and after the whole span of their life they will agree to whatever I said. I didn't get workplace designed according to men that fuels gender gap even further try giving some examples to make your perspective more clear
This type of people will get super treatment on Indian roads if they ever come with their degenerate and immoral ideas ..... This is not pu^^ssified west . All ramayan and mahabharat occurred here to protect it from degenerate shwine like swaddle.
@@carrey664 Yeah , u can call me whatever u wish ! But as ur wellwisher, dont be so loose screw to do that in public ... U will remain healthy , believe me .
I have an off topic question today. Let's say that the wife is an IFS/IAS officer and the husband works at a firm. He has a good position too. The wife has a transfer to practically another corner of the world/country. What do you think the husband should do? And if they have a child, what of him/her?
Long distance relationship or husband can find a job elsewhere. But if the husband moves, she’ll owe him one. A huge one. If a wife is expected to move for husband the same should be expected from him as well.
I like this channel the most and indeed, its high time when the scociety needs to undergo an age of renainssance again, a journey of self introspection for this scociety and questioning a change in the very basic fundamentals set up by the scociety, that might be oppressive.. Really a brilliant effort by swaddle!!!
Such a beautiful video 😍. Sacrifice is a virtue but when a person is expected to sacrifice then it's a burden to her. Our society expects woman to make sacrifices for her family members But the male are not expected to do so. Again, that mother cooking in her oxygen mask picture is so disturbing.
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
It's not just women who sacrifice. I have seen my father, my brother , my grandfather to sacrifice their needs to fullfill our desire. So when you are in a family playing a role of a father or a mother , you do have to sacrifice few things for the sakeof family well being and they feel proud to do so. Men equally sacrifice their dreams of becoming a writer, poet,artist because of the 9-5 job give their family financial security. So its equal either side .
Agreed one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship by not fulfilling the role they actually should
Well nobody asked you to do so. If you're hard working then you could have achieved your goals. And as per my opinion, women got so much to sacrifice. They don't even divorce just sake of the kids. Well you're right as well, we just need to change our thinking about keeping your desires over family is not a bad thing
Hey! Next overthinking it series- 1) Why do we Indians love comparing with others? 2) Why do Indians look down upon family planning? 3) Why do we Indians consider English language to be superior?
@Goblin Slayer abortion by choice is a taboo, as in if it is a male families are more likely to keep the baby even if they are not financially fit. But if its a girl they are more likely to abort it for cultural or financial reasons.
@Goblin Slayer govt bought population mandate only now and even if it's because of government policy, they chose to kill girls so that they could have boys. What was your point again?
Brilliant view points for women! I love it. Women should not make sacrifices but they should think about themselves. AND THAT'S NOT SELFISH. That's self love.
@@kprathamesh3564 they cannot convert feminism into man hating, when Feminism has always been about man hating The virtue of misandry need not be introduced. It's already there
You know mu family is amazing. My mother is a house wife. Everyone tries their best to help her in household chores. But the thing is everyone naturally associates work at home as role as of the mother. When we actually buy something for her the first thing she feels like we wasted the money. This is the first time I realised that the societal expectations way us down way too much that simple things like basic skin care feel like an additional burden to mothers
You know the expecting her to do all the house chores part would be happening less if she is working woman. But if she chose to stay at home, ofc everyone will expect this. Is this expectation wrong 🤷🏼♀️
@@ekta9789 I think house wifes do a lot of work and I respect that. And I am sorry but in many cases women in India not choose to stay at home, but are rather forced to stay at home like you've got a kid take a break, how will kids do without you stay at home
@@ekta9789 I am not saying that they shouldn't do work but it shouldn't be to the point that they cannot think of their lives outside of house work and the rest of the family just dumps all the work on her.
Not so much actually one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
@Heinz Doofenshmirtz Agreed lol. These dumb ppl just make stuff up and put the blame on feminism. Like feminism is all abt accepting people for who they are and giving them their own choices.
Love your work, Swaddle🙏🙏 They've also made videos on What's so great about "Being a Man"? And Why can't Indian women earn more than their husbands? They're questioning traditional gender roles and expectations.
Dear Modern Women, Please don't view man life from female lense. Man had made society you live in. Provided security that you have and food that you eat. Men don't need women to survive Women need men to survive. Regards,
I think both men and women need each other. Every man was given birth by a woman. You really can't say that men don't need women. But yeah if that's what you want to think, no point discussing.
@@DG-kg8jk haha naive!!! Read what I wrote. I said survival. Men don't need women to survive, women are not build to survive on your own, men are. Basic Biology Modern women.
They are actually brainwashing to some extent without actually thinking of equality one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄. Artificial Womb Technology Sexrobot Already these two started to replace women 😃😄. Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
Women n children are facing malnutrition in india...why these women give priority to males when giving food.. Why can't they eat a good portion of food they cooked. If they are starving then men also can starve
please keep making these amazing videos! I am learning so much about important things, always full of good information, thank you ! I enjoy the straightforward and quick videos, as well as the questions, thoughts to ponder, and conclusive solutions to wrap up the ending. Outstanding! :)
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Life isn't easy for men or women ,why women complain is because of lack of respect and appreciation we get . Please respect and appreciate women in your lives ,that's all we need.
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄. Artificial Womb Technology Sexrobot Already these two started to replace women 😃😄. Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
My mother always said, "you did more bad deeds in your previous life if you are reborn as a woman." No matter how I thought about it, she seemed right. I considered many things but there was nothing that could contradict this statement.
My grandmother was Buddhist and she also said that. But remember, you have done more good deeds to be reborn as a human and earn the good things in your life.
Women are expected to prioritize their husband and children over themselves so they never do anything for themselves. A few years down the line the husband gets upset that his wife doesn’t look the same as when they got married. Before marriage she wasn’t responsible for the well-being of a entire household, she didn’t have kids, she didn’t have to deal with the issues pregnancy causes during and after and it’s taken a toll on her mentally and physically. Before her personhood was replaced by being a mother or a wife. The stress of always being available for everyone constantly all the while never complaining cuz if you do you’re not a good mother or wife or sister or daughter. Even when women don’t like being a mother they’re forced by society to say that their children are the best things that happened to them. My mom clearly never wanted to be a parent and I wish she had the choice to never have us and continue with her career. My mom might have had to swallow her words for the expectations people have of her but I won’t do as she’s done for her sake even though she’ll go against me I never will sacrifice myself for the comfort of those around me.
@@dialga7777 Abey Indian army aur households chores mein farak h ghr ki responsibility ek mard bi sambhal sakta h aur career sacrifice krne ke jarurat ek aurat nhi h.mard bhi bache sambal sakhta h
The women in my family including my mother believe that men r physically not capable of going & getting a glass of water from the kitchen, & like the kitchen is a forbidden zone for them, I hate how all the women & older girls hangout mainly in the kitchen during family gatherings & the men sit in the living area with fan & Aircon, I refuse to adhere with these unsaid rules & hence I'm the wierdo & the rebel in the family...
Stop 🧢🧢 lady men have the responsibility of providing for the family and protecting the family so a little bit of free time won't hurt women like you but what I see these days is women wasting time on social media not helping their mothers out in the kitchen or cleaning the home ? Instead these modern women come to this community of feminists and act like the weight of the world is upon them while the men in your home's are working their butts out to protect and provide for you why don't modern women just stop wasting time on their phones and just f**ing put some effort ? Is that to hard to ask from us men
@@ronhow1188 Not all women are like what you said and not all men are useless.It varies from person to person.Judge by character .Not gender its that simple
@@ronhow1188 ya the typical excuse men use to justify the unpaid selfless work woman do. You guys complain that women do not work and earn money and at the same time you people also not let women work. U see the irony don't you.
@@奇妙-y2y well if she cooks and cleans the home why would I complain lady? Why would anyone complain about that ? Again you are not intelligent you don't understand the problem here
@@ronhow1188 honestly I don't know wat kind of world or society u come from but in my family most women also work & earn money, so it's not like we r asking for too much, just asking to be treated the same way.... Is that too much to ask ?!
Great Video, I would really love to hear your perspective on "Why gold digger word is so gender biased, when you hear it first you imagine a woman, but a man can be a gold digger too, and even if women are gold digger, what is wrong in wanting money, if that's what you've been taught your whole life, to do house hold work inorder to access your husband's money" please it's a request.
Yeah, with so many trolls in this comment section already wanting to gold-dig working women like the great "legends" etc, swaddle should definitely make a video on how only women are shamed as gold-diggers, and secondly, most of the men are gold-diggers when it comes to wanting a free family of their own, that too nicely patched with their old ones, so that they can continue their pursuit of the outer world, where they have so much responsibility, accountability etc😂😂
For a happy family boys should share and do some of the household works such as sweeping washing the clothes cutting the vegetables scrapping the coconuts fetching the water in the pots cooking morning breakfast
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄. Artificial Womb Technology Sexrobot Already these two started to replace women 😃😄. Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
I can understand my mother's pain.. sacrifice whole life for both of us.. so as a son I have decided not to marry and remain dedicated my life to her...
@02:30 mins... Great thoughts! 🏅 I have always said that child birthing and rearing are central specialised tasks that only the experts can do. All else are ancillary jobs like security, building, bringing food. Note that I said "ancillary" meaning that they are the remainder jobs after the main ones are handled by the experts. There is only one gender (of fertile age) that's the expert at child birthing and rearing. Whereas any other task can be done by any individual so you need not handover food dept, for instance, to experts and anyone else can do it.
It ain't saying sacrifices are bad. But I get it. Amazing video. It's just saying the guilt factor is high here. But I do get the second thought of men are also expected to sacrifice their family life and emotions for the sake of maintaining the image of the family in society. (Direct product of patriarchy which Feminism is against, so it's stupid to say that this video or feminists are against men.) Would like swaddle to make a video on that.
@Villa de Álvarez Colima ok that's so stereotypical As if no woman works and is hardworking and has its own money. No woman is a liability. No human is a liability. So don't flatter yourself. Plus I can say for a fact that the "women who are dependent" are more hardworking that you were ever in your entire like. And can you stop copy pasting.
@@innocentsoul2450 exactly. Everytime I see these very cliche arguments, but I don't see most of the men being of that quality. So many men exploit women and kids around me, so many of them r manchilds including many of my very very close family members, so many of them literally beat and then accuses the wife along with his own family members, cheats and cheats boastfully, dehumanize women... I would have really lost hope if only I didn't see just one example of a really good man, my previous teacher, he doesn't earn that much money, he doesn't really need to bcz none demands, he seems to be a good person, that's too rare to be cherished.
@@SARITASHARMA-wf3rx really miss know it all ? Then why don't you understand the reasons behind those ideologies ? Why don't you look at it from our perspective not from a feminist perspective
Its a fact that women are respected more that men, this is due to some people think that womem do more sacrifice. I am happy you r now breaking the strero type. Now women will not be faltu kaa respected.
It is all about changing the mindset, the viewpoint first. Of understanding and giving it a thought keeping aside stereotype or any kind of negative emotions.
It's not exactly practical in most relationships the same thing destroyed relationships in the west to an extent govt was so much concerned with birth rate that they had to beg men to sleep with women one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Hey swaddle team,love ur content but I would like to make a very humble request to you plzz make ur all previous and current videos in hindi so that ur good msg can reach maximum number of Indian people particularly those who speak only hindi,by this way we can speed up the process of positive change of bringing gender equality. 🙂
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Yaa kyuki tum ladki ho, toh tum ko toh dayaalu ,gharelu,hona chahiye. Bas apna muh jyada mat Chalao. Jyada haso mat ,jyada khudka mat socho. These things is ridiculously increased in our country. Seriously this Good women tag is really harmful for women's real emotions.
Gender roles are complementary not competitive. These expectations of sacrifice is disproportionately distributed but so does many dangerous jobs where men have the most casualties jobs like soldiers, works like mining, construction, road drivers where huge number of male dies, why don't we expect similar sacrifice for women. I believe we rather not coz each gender have their own way to contribute towards society! So it's not just leaders or powerful, Martyrs, casualties are also associated more with men.
It's not fair as a society to expect any kind of sacrifice from anyone. Everybody should have the rights to choose a life for themselves and when someone sacrifices by choice, (for positively contributing to the society) their deed should be valued and as and when in the way of their sacrifice, often they and/or their loved ones happen to belong to a social, economical, political disadvantaged position of being bullied or harmed or taken advantage of, we, as a society and a system, should fully understand and create a societal way of supporting them by protecting them from all those possible dangers, and fully utilize that to effectively dispel all the problems.
But as you see sir... women are now entering successfully in jobs like military and are ready to take the " risky jobs" if given a chance, and I totally agree that jobs should not have gender biases...
I so totally agree with this video."In today's world an ideal woman is considered to be one who can manage both work and family, whereas an ideal man is someone who works hard for their career and only to earn money"....It is as if the woman's duty to do household work and take care of children and along with that if they can manage their job they can do it!!!! I just can't get the grasp of this concept. If in a household both partners have job shouldn't both of them divide the household chores as well....Everywhere in movies, commercials ,serials women come back from their work and go to the kitchen to cook dinner for the family, while the man when he comes takes a shower and then settles himself in front of the TV with the remote..I want to ask today's so called "Modern Society" where equality supposedly prevails ,what kind of equality is this???
This is deep rooted I myself think like my mom did great for us but I am not doing that much for my daughter because I am a bad mother because of the environment in which I have grown.
I would love to know how many videos on this channel have included practices from other religions. I'm curious. I've been following this channel for a pretty long time and haven't found any.. I'd be happy if u guys drop the links..
@@akshaya626 you don't care what Muslims say? That's one way to declare that you don't want a critique, you just want to be appeased. Also, I don't think you know what secular means lol.
@@kinoxxan I don't care how Muslims talk abt that person because i dont have to. I'm not a Muslim. But when a channel posts abt feminism in general, they shouldnt target a particular religion. It's not happening for the first time. Scroll down and see all their other videos and u will find the answer 😌
So i replied something under this video.... and then others started discussing the most random topic about prostitution and feminists being pseudo feminists.... and so I deleted it cause .... half of the things I did not understand .... to begin with more of half of the feminists just want female to have general human right.... in the comment I mentioned one thing and that was romanticising women's sacrifice and how wrong it is.... but yes it is in general wrong to romanticise any parents sacrifice... I hate that fact that my dad has to sacrifice stuff for me .... I hate that my mom has to sacrifice stuff for me ... major issue of all... i hate it when people are like "oh wow your mom is so sacrificing for you" no darlings.... it pains me as a kid.... but out of nowhere the whole thing went to fans and feminists and psuedofeminists and prostitutes and what not etc etc ..... darlings.... I met this one friend today who was like... I don't like how people overhype general things like sexuality and shout about it everywhere all the time.... like cause I'm not against it.... but Idc what ur sexuality is dude... same way.... all u gotta do is not care fafos.... You guys need to calm down.... and stop joking around pls.... the whole romanticising thing was not even taken in legit meaning .... idiots need a Google or something Pls don't comment under my comment if you guys have other topics to talk about Pls I'm sorry for all th typos
2:13 . I find that debatable.. Men also invest most of their money to the family .. How is it only a woman sacrificing .. Even in the cases swaddle mentions to speak about women doing more chores than men.. The man is the one who makes up for the bigger payment.. Like taxes, their children's education, and also in such families .. I mean most of them.. It's generally the men who will plan vacations out of their own money.. So it's not like men haven't sacrificed either. I completely understand the point where women sticking up for their careers makes them feel worthless.. Which should not be the case but showcasing the video in a way men haven't sacrificed and it's only the women.. I think that's a fallacy right there.. Even in today's society.. Men are only considered worth marrying to when they are filthy rich which is also depicted in movies like dhadkan.. Judai.. How about you bring a change swaddle and address mens issues as well.
Men didn't sacrifice their career and life choices (at least not completely like most of the women), didn't sacrifice their parental home and those bondings and care after marriage to go to a completely stranger place and family.
@@Kirito-vt8wl yes exactly, 😅, from women's viewpoint. This is the problem, inclusivity and gender equality along with other equalities are required and is infact essential and only fair because otherwise everything is seen and judged and understood and explained from only one perspective, that of the men's.
I really wish they make these videos in other regional languages too so that it reaches to a wider section of audience. Like I really want so many people to hear these, but I'm afraid they aren't very fluent with this language.
While I completely understand and value the power of "sacrifice" that your trying to put forth...but I refuse to sacrifice.... it's a very negative term altogether and makes the one for whom we're doing it feel in debt when they are not. A woman when serves her husband food,she does it by choice, when she never argues if her son refutes to budge, she does it by choice, when she works where she's paid and contributes 90% of her earnings in and to the house, she does it by choice because she doesn't want to go through the guilt of being selfish and never understands that it's not. Yes it's engraved in our heads since we were born and I of the opinion women did it to us....but those who understand and see the reality need to come forth and speak. They should work in order to mitigate this sense of remorse if they think for themselves.... Man or woman...Do Not Sacrifice...make choices. When you have a child...you already should strengthen yourselves so much that you don't yell at the child one day that I "sacrificed" for you so much. You brought that one I to this world...you have no right to say that, s/he didn't drop one day on your lap....when a man married a woman either don't stop her from working or don't tell her that for her you're "sacrificing" so much... because you chose to marry her too... when a woman marries a man... don't tell him that she alone is taking care of the house and children because if he doesn't contribute at all...may be you're the reason too...may be you have taken everything in your hands...you don't let him fill his glass of water every single time or serve himself the food else he doesn't eat or anything that includes his the daily chores. Now I do get it that one can do it out of love...but don't let one depend on you for such basic stuff and if you don't one day that person is offended.
I love the fact that this video encourages everyone to be more caring while taking the burden off any one section of people. That is exactly what societies should aspire to be like.
Well for some it's burden
For some it's their love .,
But men must be of high quality ,only then a women s sacrifice worth it .
But Marxist who are known to induce fight everywhere , have present it negatively to break society more ....To rule easily .
Only aware ones know.
@@mrtriyja7800 watch the video. It is so nicely put. If I am to give an answer to ur comment as per the video to my best extent, it pointed out how sacrifice when done by self will, with love, are the one of the best assets on which our society thrives, it is saying that nobody should be forced to do sacrifice (like deliberate "gender role") but when someone willing of doing a positive one from inside, we should value it consciously (mind it, there r many ideological gasballons like suicide bombers who also do a sacrifice, but a negative one, which along with themselves, harms society, or idk if they really believe in going to a exploitative "heaven" of their imagination) and we should in general, stop looking down upon people (consciously or unconsciously) who r low key and not influential or powerful (and also we really should question the power or authority without any compassion, demand compassion and responsibility from them) at all because they are the actual rocks of our society. It nowhere talks about any "marxist fight" to be deliberately infused in anyone's brain, so do watch the video.
@@swapnasandhya6073
Lol I think maam u considering Marxist in old fashion .
When I say Marxist , I mean those Kabbalah networks of Frankfurt school of thought ....
They r expert in wearing skin. ....
Last 3 decades they utilizing Marx method to intrude into the society ...
If u know ...U know what I mean...
U will see back to back agendas in newspaper , bollywood , Yt and twitter influencers ....
Promoting certain agendas in a synchronized way that even a kid could NOTICE that ....
@tech.
Ur not capable to understand me by the limitations of ur top floor .
Don't push it hard .No need .
I know that swaddle is a feminist channel.
But if we ask the question whether sacrifice is only expected for women, the answer is NO...
Men and women, both of them are encouraged to be sacrificial.
Fathers too sacrificed a lot for the wellbeing of the family as mothers do.
Fathers don't enjoy the money they earn for themselves, they provide for their family.
Society call a father who earns for himself as selfish and not caring for the family.
Also men have sacrificed more than women in protecting(military, police, firefighting etc.,) and building the country while women made sacrifices in building the family.
We are still thankful and we still remember the people who made sacrifices.
"IAnstead of expecting women to make sacrifices because of their gender, it’s time to reframe sacrifice as a virtue everyone aspires to, but noone feels the burden to perform." 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@Goblin Slayer hey goblin? r u from China then?
@Goblin Slayer somehow there are only two types of men in the world: sacrificing Hindu men and Taliban.
What an example of false dichotomy!
Not just woman even men
@Spell Check let's just call a feeling or a deed. If for good cause, it can be considered as a virtue, if for the bad cause (eg highly ideological talibani "fighter"), it's a futile and sad vice.
@Goblin Slayer I know hindu men makes sacrifice they can't pursue there dreams just because they have to be the earnings members but that's what feminism is if women started working men will have enough time to pursue there dreams and many more merits of women earning
I am so proud to be a “bad woman”. I actually can care more about myself instead of just thinking of portraying myself as a good person.
Same besti🤚
@Ishwari Chaudhari you need to understand the other problem. men can't stay at home in society. he's seen as looser. when there is a child one has to take care of it. men can't stay back, so woman have to stay back and quit jobs. it's not like we men have a choice. atleast women have choice to work or quit in society nobody will ask you. for us men we must earn
@Ishwari Chaudhari first read the comments. you are just literate not educated with want goes around you.
btw marry a man who loves equality respects and loves you but no job. no woman does that.
@Ishwari Chaudhari the rest of India is not like your family. speak with common sense and what's happening outside your house. don't be that frog in the well.
Bruh you are a bad women/man if you are just care about yourself 😂
My mother is the excessively sacrificial person I have ever seen but took a big toll on her mental and physical health which I began to understand in my early 20s.
Then I always kept making her realise that it's not her job alone. As a family anything good or bad should be borne by all of us equally. Now her burden has reduced and health also improved.
The understanding within the family is so important for collective well being
Edit 1- Thanks for all the likes. Special thanks to the progressive people in comment section who have supported me and stood by me. We are for equality. We are for love towards life
Edit 2- I really donno what some sick people are doing in this comment section. I am talking of equality and people are talking shit of what not. This is what women need to be beware of. Toxic attitude of inhumane beings whom forget men or women they aren't humans in the first place.
@@Ayisha4889 happy rakhsha bandhan, may my brothers become true brothers to their sisters and not thoughtless puppets of patriarchy.
@Goblin Slayer boomer, don't come and teach a daughter how to take care of her mother, bcz we work from heart and heart needs no stupid teachings.😅
@Goblin Slayer I don't think mums will cry if their sons do household chores . Even if you can't cook at least clean toilets and help your mother☺☺
@@Ayisha4889 Also this raksha bandhan may God give you brains☺☺
@@shadowhymn5162 Why is your buttt burning??
You're own heat will burn you up. I think you're sitting idly that's why your mind has become a devil's workshops. Go do some household chores . You'll become all right ☺☺☺
Stop expecting women to "'balance" or "choose" between work and family if you don't expect the same from men 😇
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@@Ayisha4889 🤣🤣🤣
@@Ayisha4889 nice idea 👍thanks
@@Ayisha4889 Exactly and no need to marry a man when you can do it all by yourself.
@Ruchika's beauty vlogs Love, those people can breed as much as they like. They have absolutely no say over your reproductive health.
If he is unable to understand why I can't make sacrifices then I'll be unable to understand why we need to be together
@Goblin Slayer u think feminists are onli women?
Free food?lol Sure.
Housekeeping,child rearing, hospitality, nursing old parents etc is done by aliens after all
@@swatisaini6447 nice
@Villa de Álvarez Colima The relationship b/w husband and wife is never transactional. Stop spewing nonsense.
@Villa de Álvarez Colima Look, I agree where you are coming from. Many people here are stating that fathers/men have a jolly time in their lives and they rarely sacrifice and even when they do, it is miniscule in comparison to mothers/women who sacrifice tremendously. I absolutely reject this claim as misandry.
I personally believe that both fathers and mothers sacrifice for their families. Their sacrifices/contributions don't necessarily coalesce, however, both of them do. This is the bottom line, which people are missing. They are only seeing the contributions of mothers and are blind to the contributions that fathers make.
However, there is a way to counter this narrative. You are straight up being misogynistic (objectively speaking) and completely subverting the role of mothers/women in our lives by gratuitously being provocative, when there is no need. Your point is nothing but an affront to mothers worldwide.
On one hand there are some people here who don't want women to work and later also criticize women for marrying a rich man. Do you see the hypocrisy in such arguments??? You can't have your cake and eat it too. It can't go both ways.
It breaks my heart to see my mom feeling guilty of any little thing she does for herself
@Goblin Slayer how is that even relevant, incel? I meant whenever she decides to take out time for herself, do a lil self care, the "scarficing woman good woman" narrative is so deeply rooted inside her that she feels guilty and selfish for doing it. No matter what I do she cannot help feeling that way because how repeatedly this narrative was practiced that she internalized it.
Didn't get it right? Expected.
Assuming youre man Take your privilege and self entitlement somewhere . I'm not gonna entertain incel like you here. So don't you dare police me. Go police your pathetic self.
@Goblin Slayer and are you worth your mother's sacrifices? I tell you not . It's shame . What a waste .
@Goblin Slayer your entire recent comments are on all of "feminist" videos lmao. Utilizing all the time and obsessed with commenting on every other swaddle video. Imagine being so lame 😂
@Goblin Slayer you have 121 comments alone on swaddle channel lmaooooooooooooo the cringe itself😂😂😂😂😂
@@memoonacheema1476 if u are impressed with 100+ comments than u are yet to know about the legend with 1000+ comments
"--where loneliness is fast becoming an epidemic--" that line hit home, goddamn 😭😭
@Goblin Slayer misogynist spotted
@Goblin Slayer Misogynist/Sexist aka møfø spotted
@@shadowhymn5162 What's the proof your your claims which show the evidence that Swaddle is Neo Nazi? Neo Nazism is quite different from what they are uploading on thier channel.
@@shadowhymn5162 person, first of all, in all of Swaddle's videos, they showcase true cases and statistics of every wrong deed against women.. it highlights what WOMEN GO THROUGH IN DAY TO DAY LIFE...
NO ONE IS UNDERMINING MEN AND THEIR CONTRIBUTIONS TO SOCIETY!!
And mind u, this channel is about EQUALITY between men and women. At the end of every video, the swaddle team gives a neutral message saying what is just and right for ALL OF HUMANITY TO DO AS A WHOLE AND DOES NOT JUST PROTECT WOMEN...
The point of Swaddle is to bring out the circumstances where women are discriminated against and give out the message that EVERYONE (ALL GENDERS) DESERVE EQUAL TREATMENT UNDER THOSE PARTICULAR/HIGHLIGHTED CIRCUMSTANCES 👀👀
You, buddy, have misunderstood everything about this channel....
And what the hell are you bringing politics into this for? 😂
This channel promotes modern thoughts and approaches in life which you, a person with a terribly backdated mindset, are unable to understand or comprehend properly... But it's alright... I guess egotistic people like you need to exist too so that we can make comparisons between what is right, what is wrong and what is plain dumb... 😂
So once again, THIS CHANNEL IS NOT ABOUT SIDELINING MEN OR PROMOTING OVERLY EXAGGERATED ANTI POLITICAL AGENDAS BUT ABOUT BRINGING A SENSE OF EQUALITY AND EQUITABLE VISION AMONG ALL GENDERS IN THIS MODERN SOCIETY OF THE 21st CENTURY!!
@@shadowhymn5162 regarding Hinduism,they have made a lot of videos telling how Hinduism was infact more secular and equal regardless of caste gender. I wouldn't even have known it if it wasn't for them. Men in India only see feminsm and men hatingwomen when in reality it's not. We need a reformed society in today's world and swaddle is explaining everything very well. Are you so aftraud of reformations that your male ego is so hurt you keep inserting it whatever women's problems are discussed??make your own channel to voice out concerns about men,don't come here and cry.
Till now people get offended when they see women chilling or having time for themselves. Society assume women time will be something like reading religious book, recipies books or listening to dhaarmik verses or , doing some activities like knitting , decorating home etc.
It's not a bad thing to chill. After overworking, people deserve to take a break. Chilling is also something a hardworking person should do, as it will be beneficial for their health.
Idk why people get offended when they see women chilling or having time for themselves. Both men and women can chill, and it's not "offensive" as narrow-minded people say.
Exactly, even when my mom talks some extra minutes with neighbours or on phones, my father starts cursing under his breaths. I get bad headache due to the tension and pressure he sometimes creates in our family for no reason.
Next OVERTHINKING IT video: Why certain professions like engineers and doctors are OVERGLORIFIED. I have been asking for 2 months. 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
India was a socialist government back then. Most hospital industries were owned by government. Doctors and engineers were payed heavy salary as compared to others. Majority being poor considered this profession as only way to get rid of poverty. Not only india several asian countries and many western countries were in similar situations. Thats why every parents wanted their kids to become doctor engineers (lawyer and beaurocrates) bcz of the high salaries and perks. Even now these jobs are highly paid jobs as compared to many.
soo true.
infact their are soo many topics like why indian society hates single child??
why this indian society treats an introvert like a depressed patient??
@@vaishnavisambre122 I didn't hear about this in my entire life lol
@@rishovo2487 you never heared this because you never gone through than taunts
may be you are not single child in your personal life that's why you never experienced in your whole life.
& i know for this torture also first toxic aunties are responsible bt they never targeted for this thing
@@rishovo2487 you never heared this that doesn't meant it never exists lol!!
A great topic. Only today I saw a 14 year old girl told by her mom to sacrifice her pizza for her 13 year old brother who had already eaten his share.
Dear Naive Modern women,
Understand what mother was teaching, she was teaching her daughter to learn to give her younger brother so in future when sister asks brother to bring a ice cream or juice or anything that she like he would comply without any resistance. That's what we call bonding. so in future when mother is no more and sister asks brother to help her brother feels that it his "duty" to help not just a "favour" to his sister.
More I read this intellectual comments more I understand that ability to read and write won't ensure common sense.
@@Mzingh what if her brother still refuse to buy ice cream in future ????
Much better she'll eat her pizza, do her job n buy ice cream from her own money. Perfect 👌👏
Whenever we cook Maggie at home, my mother always divide quantity equally for each n every member in our family between me, my brothers n my fathers n for herself too. Bcz she thinks everyone deserve equality. Now that's called great mother. 😍❤
@❤ yeah
@@misaki7588 Hahah Another Modern intellectual thinker keep your deep thoughts deep 😂😂. Keep proving that education doesn't necessarily mean one can be intellectually sound.😀😀
A very small part of this video happened to me.
My mother was talking to her friend and she was saying that how I always fight against her for expecting that always girls have to do chores, stay in house, bounded by walls. My mother's friend said to me in a serious tone, 'You can bluff all you want. All women have to make sacrifices"," अभी छोटी हो तो ऐसा कह रही हो, बड़ी होके देखना तुम्हे त्याग करना पड़ेगा,हर औरत को करना पड़ता हैं और यही होता आया हैं" This sentence engraved in my mind and I swear I'll definitely prove her wrong
Keep up
Keep it up ...I will definitely ❤
This channel is underated as hell. The videos are so insightful and make me question my baseless beliefs and values.
one point I will raise is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change I by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄.
Artificial Womb Technology
Sexrobot
Already these two started to replace women 😃😄.
Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
It's 2021 and we still expect women to leave their jobs after marriage, have kids and stay at home and do nothing for themselves
Do u expect man to stay at home ? Will u marry a jobless guy ?
@@sadiqahmed1648 you know what I can.
@@sadiqahmed1648 if a working man can support a jobless woman than a working woman can also support a jobless man.
Just we need shift in our society's thinking and ideology.
@Goblin Slayer you are no one to inspect what feminists can say or not.
@Goblin Slayer I am Hindu and also a feminists.
Prioritizing ourselves over family doesn't makes women selfish
Definitely not but places like in the US couples who work tirelessly throughout their life and are hardly involved in their kids life and their upbringing usually have this issue reason is if the kid grows up to be bad due to lack of upbringing no amount of regret would help that's exactly the situation in US where generally couples are both working tirelessly and in during teenage years kid starts to wander off to wrong paths because upbringing wasn't paid attention they should have that's why people say one shouldn't prioritize money over family.
This is why atleast one parent has to stay back atleast in the initial growing stage of the kid now who should that be husband or wife logically speaking it should be the one who makes less in the relationship reason is the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is making more in similar timeframe than counterparts usually the one who makes more is the husband not in India but everywhere even in the western countries especially in india men making more than women is a necessary qualification for marriage and women actually never date down they barely even date across when you are the one who is making more without any doubt man should stay back for sure and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid.
One more thing the reason why the mother feel sad about not being able to be there for the child as mentioned by the person is because women are actually not hardwired as men in terms of deriving pleasure from work as men do it is proven by research women actually get more satisfaction by being constantly involved in family and taking care of them the pleasure that any mother gets due to that is much more than career accomplishments as they are biologically hardwired like that it is even said by women who were single throughout never had any kids and dedicated their whole life to work till 50s.
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
@@kalashsharma4344 bro kids are different. They choose to have kids so they're their responsibility to take care of them.
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄.
Artificial Womb Technology
Sexrobot
Already these two started to replace women 😃😄.
Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
Why doesn't content like this go viral?
It's viral.
Don't believe
Ask ur sis ...
Then what will happen to Honey Singh's songs?
Because the modern approach they preach won't function in daily life and in relationships the same thing destroyed western relationships to an extent govt had to beg men to sleep with women
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
@@kalashsharma4344 why can't they both work and raise the kids together?
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄.
Artificial Womb Technology
Sexrobot
Already these two started to replace women 😃😄.
Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
For me, my mom and dad both have done enough sacrifices.
In cases where women are expected to sacrifice more, I would say the woman should stand for herself instead of silently suffering all that comes her way. If people expect anything from us more, we aren't bound to fulfill their expectation unless and until we want to (out of our own choice)
@Goblin Slayer You are govt ? Let govt decide that boomer
@Goblin Slayer your logic is so crappy that even a five year old can see the flaw in it! What mister dumb-balls is saying is -“ either accept oppression or stay oppressed ”
Idk why people like you call yourselves human beings because clearly you lack the basic intelligence even found in human toddlers
@Goblin Slayer btw a 35 year old can't call someone a boomer??? By all definitions she is a millennial. Mr dumb-balls didn't know that?? Oh sorry I forgot you are only an imitation of a human being
@@she_wizzdom4410 He's a troll with engry balls
@Spell Check EXACTLY
My mom and boyfriend's mom have sacrificed their health, happiness and priorities for our families. Now, my boyfriend is expecting me to do the same. He asked me to promise that I would put the family first no matter what for the sake of my family even if I'm unhappy with it. When we were discussing about our future if he would do the household chores etc, he always says he would "help" me.This thinking is so deeply rooted that I'm unable to explain or make him understand that things are different or might be different. We often argue over these topics but his ideology never seemed to change and always says you are thinking too "modern". Don't watch too much of these videos. However, I'll still try😊
Please keep trying, and ensure you both have these terms sorted out before you get into some deeper commitment (like marriage). Good luck! :)
@@pragatisinghal9989 Thank you...Will make sure we are on the same terms before our wedding.
Omg breakup ! ! Set yourself free girl
@@saraali-ws9uv no matter what you do don't leave your job. That will automatically demand logistical adjustments.
He is not wrong though swaddle actually is portraying way too modern idea which won't completely work in majority of the cases
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
I hope that we the women of new generation learn from the examples of our mothers and not associate each and every thing to be done at home with ourselves. And if we not do it then feel guilty.
The belongs to everyone and so does the responsibility.
Before asking the men to change the first thing we need to change is our thinking.
That there is nothing wrong with working outside. I am not a bad mother/wife/daughter by doing that. And we should start putting our needs as priority as well
Exactly ✌️💕
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄.
Artificial Womb Technology
Sexrobot
Already these two started to replace women 😃😄.
Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔
Its weird how when the man does any work at home, everyone notices. But when women has had baby, waking all night long and then doing house work. No comments are said .
My own parents judge me ,just because hubby is helping out at home.
Would appreciate if u add similar practices in other religions. I always see Hindu practices on this channel. Great job, otherwise. This topic is really important and relevant.
Bcuz this is a secular jihadi channel
I think we should mass report this kinds of channel to cleanse the internet
@@Ayisha4889 Ask them about Taharrush and they will close their eyes !!
I think they post videos relevant to Hinduism as India is a Hindu majority country. Most other religions are in minority and about the practices of the peaceful religion, the members of that community will talk about it.
@@ManonLucas14 So at least let the swaddle accept that they fear the peaceful !!
Just today my mother said that a women is the one having a great amount of love, kindness and compassion for others . Her duty is to transform the lives of her husband,children and in-laws by serving them and making sacrifices for them . Quite from a young age we are taught to be idle wives and mother but a very little emphasis is given on how we shape our own lives and future . Sacrifices are hence considered a part of our lives. We are expected to sacrifice our career, health and a lot more things for the sake our families . Women should taught to be more powerful on an individual level and Sacrifice should be a virtue not a duty assigned only to the women
"idle wives"??? I think you mean ideal.
@@sulaganabiswas Yes right.. It was a mistake
Well ,I respect ur thoughts .
But women like u are very difficult to find these days ...
@@mrtriyja7800 she is not agreeing with her mother! You want a woman who sacrifices for you and not does enough for herself?? Marriage is a partnership, sacrifice, compromise, adjustment is required from BOTH not one
@@Whatever_seriously
Well it is not written by God to agree with everyone on everything .
God has given u ur own brain ...
If a women sacrifice for me , I would sacrifice for her more than she can think .
And that's how we should carry our every relationship in a positive and shared manner ....
And not like the NEGATIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE manner that those
Marxist S(ums and so called f9m1n1st recommend .
While my mum was exactly that, I'm nothing of the sort. I'm quite opposite of this. While i have made adjustments, so has my husband. Unfortunately, most women aren't like me who put their financial, mental and physical well-being for themselves first.
@Goblin Slayer no one can help u until u help yourself. Self help is the best help.
@Goblin Slayer one can only offer help but the person you want to help also needs to want that help. That can't be done forcefully. Plus, like I said, I'm nothing like that traditional girl happy to sacrifice everything to keep people happy. There are people will disagree or absolutely hate me for it and I'm fine with that. Mum's neglecting her health because of her sacrificing attitude has taken a toll on her physical health and mental and emotional as well. My parents are of school and there's just so much I can do. One can't keep helping a person who keeps pushing you away.
I thought they will make the video...and they made it...thanks swaddle...for positive vibes
Well they are biased actually
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
The timing of u guys is just a chef's kiss...thinking of why a so called 'ideal' mom should definitely sacrifice her life and be in service 24/7🙄😒😏🥴🤕 and u guys just made a video ..of course on a wider base of all women out there..
@Goblin Slayer whatever the shit u r saying is making you even most degenerate out there 😼💩
@@teslaoui7970Agreed lol. 😂😂
Sacrifice by women is has been deep engraved in our society and it's not just in the hindu religion but all mainstream organised religions in india. It's naturally expected for a woman to be all forgiving and sacrificial, otherwise she's considered as rude, selfish and characterless. It's such a huge pressure an I've seen it first hnd with my mother.
@Goblin Slayer all south asians are same. its nothing to do with particular religion. stop defaming hinduism.
@Goblin Slayer so men who work in corporate are dogs according to you?
@Ashana Sinha one point I will raise is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change I by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄.
Artificial Womb Technology
Sexrobot
Already these two started to replace women 😃😄.
Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
This is so true, my mother once told me that somewhere she feels guilty since she couldn't be there with me during my growing up years because of her work-oriented attitude. However I know that even after working in the office she would care for me and handle the rest of my family's well, regardless of her being working- there was nothing more she could do for me or my dad. I still haven't understood why the women have these guilt even when they work to their fullest leaving no stone unturned.
This is a cultural shame forced on independent and working women. You surely make your mom feel comfortable so that she can do her own job satisfactorily.🙂
@@Studiousgirlonwards it is not actually couples who work tirelessly throughout their life and are hardly involved in their kids life and their upbringing usually have this issue reason is if the kid grows up to be bad due to lack of upbringing no amount of regret would help that's exactly the situation in US where generally couples are both working tirelessly and in during teenage years kid starts to wander off to wrong paths because upbringing wasn't paid attention they should have that's why people say one shouldn't prioritize money over family.
This is why atleast one parent has to stay back atleast in the initial growing stage of the kid now who should that be husband or wife logically speaking it should be the one who makes less in the relationship reason is the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is making more in similar timeframe than counterparts usually the one who makes more is the husband not in India but everywhere even in the western countries especially in india men making more than women is a necessary qualification for marriage and women actually never date down they barely even date across when you are the one who is making more without any doubt man should stay back for sure and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid.
One more thing the reason why the mother feel sad about not being able to be there for the child as mentioned by the person is because women are actually not hardwired as men in terms of deriving pleasure from work as men do it is proven by research women actually get more satisfaction by being constantly involved in family and taking care of them the pleasure that any mother gets due to that is much more than career accomplishments as they are biologically hardwired like that it was even mentioned by women who were single throughout their life time never had kids and family and only dedicated to work till they are like 50
onwards it is not actually couples who work tirelessly throughout their life and are hardly involved in their kids life and their upbringing usually have this issue reason is if the kid grows up to be bad due to lack of upbringing no amount of regret would help that's exactly the situation in US where generally couples are both working tirelessly and in during teenage years kid starts to wander off to wrong paths because upbringing wasn't paid attention they should have that's why people say one shouldn't prioritize money over family.
This is why atleast one parent has to stay back atleast in the initial growing stage of the kid now who should that be husband or wife logically speaking it should be the one who makes less in the relationship reason is the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is making more in similar timeframe than counterparts usually the one who makes more is the husband not in India but everywhere even in the western countries especially in india men making more than women is a necessary qualification for marriage and women actually never date down they barely even date across when you are the one who is making more without any doubt man should stay back for sure and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid.
One more thing the reason why the mother feel sad about not being able to be there for the child as mentioned by the person is because women are actually not hardwired as men in terms of deriving pleasure from work as men do it is proven by research women actually get more satisfaction by being constantly involved in family and taking care of them the pleasure that any mother gets due to that is much more than career accomplishments as they are biologically hardwired like that
@@kalashsharma4344 I disagree with you in two points, firstly, women are not "biologically" hardwired for anything, just like men are not too. And, secondly, maximum of the workforce is designed from male perspective, according to their convenience. That is what fuels this gender gap further, and not the other way, ie, there is no such existing gender gap that created such working set up.
@@Studiousgirlonwards you can fact check this there have been multiple studies till now and that biological mentality form the start has been present since the earliest of humans and this very mentality has ensured our existence till now and it is still prevalent in our minds today which cannot be removed as it has passed millions of years of testing.
You can literally fact check this and whatever i quoted some of them was quoted by women as well.
I am not saying exceptions are not possible but those don't actually make the rule and after the whole span of their life they will agree to whatever I said.
I didn't get workplace designed according to men that fuels gender gap even further try giving some examples to make your perspective more clear
Sacrificing is not your duty as a woman. It's virtue worth aspiring as a human, regardless of you sex, gender, race, caste, class etc.
Yea,it's definitely worth watching, just waiting for this topic ✌👀
Every sentence is reminding me " Look into your house, u have so many examples " !!!
This channel is fuckin underated, people really need to watch these amazing videos. 🔥
This type of people will get super treatment on Indian roads if they ever come with their degenerate and immoral ideas .....
This is not pu^^ssified west .
All ramayan and mahabharat occurred here to protect it from degenerate shwine like swaddle.
@@carrey664
Do this outside in open ....
U will learn ur lesson .😂😂
@@carrey664
Yeah , u can call me whatever u wish !
But as ur wellwisher, dont be so loose screw to do that in public ...
U will remain healthy , believe me .
I have an off topic question today.
Let's say that the wife is an IFS/IAS officer and the husband works at a firm. He has a good position too. The wife has a transfer to practically another corner of the world/country. What do you think the husband should do? And if they have a child, what of him/her?
Wife can't do anything because its government service. Husband should do some sacrifices
Long distance relationship
If the lifestyle and education is better in another country the husband may leave his job
Long distance relationship or husband can find a job elsewhere. But if the husband moves, she’ll owe him one. A huge one.
If a wife is expected to move for husband the same should be expected from him as well.
Husband can ask for transfer from his company or work remotely
I like this channel the most and indeed, its high time when the scociety needs to undergo an age of renainssance again, a journey of self introspection for this scociety and questioning a change in the very basic fundamentals set up by the scociety, that might be oppressive.. Really a brilliant effort by swaddle!!!
Such a beautiful video 😍. Sacrifice is a virtue but when a person is expected to sacrifice then it's a burden to her. Our society expects woman to make sacrifices for her family members But the male are not expected to do so. Again, that mother cooking in her oxygen mask picture is so disturbing.
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
It's not just women who sacrifice.
I have seen my father, my brother , my grandfather to sacrifice their needs to fullfill our desire. So when you are in a family playing a role of a father or a mother , you do have to sacrifice few things for the sakeof family well being and they feel proud to do so. Men equally sacrifice their dreams of becoming a writer, poet,artist because of the 9-5 job give their family financial security. So its equal either side .
Agreed
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship by not fulfilling the role they actually should
Well nobody asked you to do so. If you're hard working then you could have achieved your goals. And as per my opinion, women got so much to sacrifice. They don't even divorce just sake of the kids. Well you're right as well, we just need to change our thinking about keeping your desires over family is not a bad thing
Everyone, even kids sometimes, are expected to make sacrifices.
Hey! Next overthinking it series-
1) Why do we Indians love comparing with others?
2) Why do Indians look down upon family planning?
3) Why do we Indians consider English language to be superior?
@Goblin Slayer as in?
@@vinnienanda abortion wala ho chuka hai
Abortion is a taboo in a country where women are forced to undergo abortion if their family comes to know that it's a girl? Nah
@Goblin Slayer abortion by choice is a taboo, as in if it is a male families are more likely to keep the baby even if they are not financially fit. But if its a girl they are more likely to abort it for cultural or financial reasons.
@Goblin Slayer govt bought population mandate only now and even if it's because of government policy, they chose to kill girls so that they could have boys. What was your point again?
Brilliant view points for women! I love it. Women should not make sacrifices but they should think about themselves. AND THAT'S NOT SELFISH. That's self love.
If people treat you like a toy, be an Annabelle.
There's nothing wrong with sacrifice as long as it's not at the cost of your own wellbeing
Beautifully summarised
@Goblin Slayer *brown (racist)
That's what the definition of sacrifice is
This channel is going to bring revolution
Or convert feminism in man hating 🤣🤣
@@kprathamesh3564 Or you should keep your misogynistic opinions to yourself.
Kuch change aaye yaa naa aaye, lekin ye channel divorce jarur karwayega husband wife kaa😂😂😂
@@vikassagar2304 kuch bhi
@@kprathamesh3564 they cannot convert feminism into man hating, when Feminism has always been about man hating
The virtue of misandry need not be introduced. It's already there
You know mu family is amazing. My mother is a house wife. Everyone tries their best to help her in household chores.
But the thing is everyone naturally associates work at home as role as of the mother.
When we actually buy something for her the first thing she feels like we wasted the money.
This is the first time I realised that the societal expectations way us down way too much that simple things like basic skin care feel like an additional burden to mothers
You know the expecting her to do all the house chores part would be happening less if she is working woman. But if she chose to stay at home, ofc everyone will expect this. Is this expectation wrong 🤷🏼♀️
@@ekta9789 I think house wifes do a lot of work and I respect that. And I am sorry but in many cases women in India not choose to stay at home, but are rather forced to stay at home like you've got a kid take a break, how will kids do without you stay at home
@@ekta9789 I am not saying that they shouldn't do work but it shouldn't be to the point that they cannot think of their lives outside of house work and the rest of the family just dumps all the work on her.
@@shakshineha 🙌agreed
Hi, I am just curious about your name. Is one part of that your mother's name?
Wow this makes so much sense . Thank you
Not so much actually
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
It was never a choice for her
@@Ayisha4889 ..............dude
it is a choice. It always is a choice or rather it should be choice. Both should make sacrifices.
@Goblin Slayer you actually sound ugly not them
@Heinz Doofenshmirtz Agreed lol. These dumb ppl just make stuff up and put the blame on feminism. Like feminism is all abt accepting people for who they are and giving them their own choices.
@@Ayisha4889 ok. It's not a bad Idea
Love your work, Swaddle🙏🙏
They've also made videos on What's so great about "Being a Man"? And Why can't Indian women earn more than their husbands?
They're questioning traditional gender roles and expectations.
Because high earning women don't marry less earning men.
Dear Modern Women,
Please don't view man life from female lense.
Man had made society you live in.
Provided security that you have and food that you eat. Men don't need women to survive Women need men to survive.
Regards,
I think both men and women need each other. Every man was given birth by a woman. You really can't say that men don't need women. But yeah if that's what you want to think, no point discussing.
Also, I have seen high earning women marry less earning men. Maybe it's not the norm right now but things are changing.
@@DG-kg8jk haha naive!!! Read what I wrote. I said survival. Men don't need women to survive, women are not build to survive on your own, men are. Basic Biology Modern women.
EXCELLENT!! We want this in Hindi too!!💯💯
PS -Who writes the script?!?! It is so so good!
I tell u who write ....
Some Marxist funded by Soros and like....
Malayalam too
They are actually brainwashing to some extent without actually thinking of equality
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄.
Artificial Womb Technology
Sexrobot
Already these two started to replace women 😃😄.
Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
Women n children are facing malnutrition in india...why these women give priority to males when giving food.. Why can't they eat a good portion of food they cooked. If they are starving then men also can starve
please keep making these amazing videos! I am learning so much about important things, always full of good information, thank you !
I enjoy the straightforward and quick videos, as well as the questions, thoughts to ponder, and conclusive solutions to wrap up the ending. Outstanding! :)
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Karwa chauth is not in Kerala. Thank God.
🙋🙋🙋
@@grgayathri8905 🙂
Not in Bengal too. Thank you mother India.🤣🤣
i wish this lady was a part of my family... i mean she doesnt talks for women only but for EQUITY. Which is the best content i guess...
Life isn't easy for men or women ,why women complain is because of lack of respect and appreciation we get .
Please respect and appreciate women in your lives ,that's all we need.
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄.
Artificial Womb Technology
Sexrobot
Already these two started to replace women 😃😄.
Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
So yoh mean men r not sacrifice so men no need respect 😃😃😄
Fake feminist
My mother always said, "you did more bad deeds in your previous life if you are reborn as a woman." No matter how I thought about it, she seemed right. I considered many things but there was nothing that could contradict this statement.
My grandmother was Buddhist and she also said that. But remember, you have done more good deeds to be reborn as a human and earn the good things in your life.
Weak women crying 😭 ...
Strong women and men face hardship without making any excuse
Women are expected to prioritize their husband and children over themselves so they never do anything for themselves. A few years down the line the husband gets upset that his wife doesn’t look the same as when they got married. Before marriage she wasn’t responsible for the well-being of a entire household, she didn’t have kids, she didn’t have to deal with the issues pregnancy causes during and after and it’s taken a toll on her mentally and physically. Before her personhood was replaced by being a mother or a wife. The stress of always being available for everyone constantly all the while never complaining cuz if you do you’re not a good mother or wife or sister or daughter. Even when women don’t like being a mother they’re forced by society to say that their children are the best things that happened to them. My mom clearly never wanted to be a parent and I wish she had the choice to never have us and continue with her career. My mom might have had to swallow her words for the expectations people have of her but I won’t do as she’s done for her sake even though she’ll go against me I never will sacrifice myself for the comfort of those around me.
Please don't use the word "overthinking" because it's not..... It's really normal and actually requires to think this deep.
Chill it's just used figuratively.
We say mothers are selfless because we are selfish
Arre arre! logic ko vacation bheja hai kya?
We say indian army is selfless because we are selfish, hai na?
😂😂
@@dialga7777 exactly so.
Dialga
not we, but yes the government.
@@pretty948 🧠 🔫
@@dialga7777 Abey Indian army aur households chores mein farak h ghr ki responsibility ek mard bi sambhal sakta h aur career sacrifice krne ke jarurat ek aurat nhi h.mard bhi bache sambal sakhta h
The women in my family including my mother believe that men r physically not capable of going & getting a glass of water from the kitchen, & like the kitchen is a forbidden zone for them, I hate how all the women & older girls hangout mainly in the kitchen during family gatherings & the men sit in the living area with fan & Aircon, I refuse to adhere with these unsaid rules & hence I'm the wierdo & the rebel in the family...
Stop 🧢🧢 lady men have the responsibility of providing for the family and protecting the family so a little bit of free time won't hurt women like you but what I see these days is women wasting time on social media not helping their mothers out in the kitchen or cleaning the home ? Instead these modern women come to this community of feminists and act like the weight of the world is upon them while the men in your home's are working their butts out to protect and provide for you why don't modern women just stop wasting time on their phones and just f**ing put some effort ? Is that to hard to ask from us men
@@ronhow1188 Not all women are like what you said and not all men are useless.It varies from person to person.Judge by character .Not gender its that simple
@@ronhow1188 ya the typical excuse men use to justify the unpaid selfless work woman do. You guys complain that women do not work and earn money and at the same time you people also not let women work. U see the irony don't you.
@@奇妙-y2y well if she cooks and cleans the home why would I complain lady? Why would anyone complain about that ? Again you are not intelligent you don't understand the problem here
@@ronhow1188 honestly I don't know wat kind of world or society u come from but in my family most women also work & earn money, so it's not like we r asking for too much, just asking to be treated the same way.... Is that too much to ask ?!
Great Video, I would really love to hear your perspective on "Why gold digger word is so gender biased, when you hear it first you imagine a woman, but a man can be a gold digger too, and even if women are gold digger, what is wrong in wanting money, if that's what you've been taught your whole life, to do house hold work inorder to access your husband's money" please it's a request.
Agree! A gold-digger is not just a woman but a man too.
Yeah, with so many trolls in this comment section already wanting to gold-dig working women like the great "legends" etc, swaddle should definitely make a video on how only women are shamed as gold-diggers, and secondly, most of the men are gold-diggers when it comes to wanting a free family of their own, that too nicely patched with their old ones, so that they can continue their pursuit of the outer world, where they have so much responsibility, accountability etc😂😂
99.99% girls are gold diggers thats why😃😃😄
You all should start this series in Hindi too.
For a happy family boys should share and do some of the household works such as sweeping washing the clothes cutting the vegetables scrapping the coconuts fetching the water in the pots cooking morning breakfast
Actually alrady men doing all house hold chores.... We dont need women for that.
I love your videos 😘😘😘 whenever I get notification I rush to watch them. U guys are really making awesome work .keep swaddling ......
Dear women still you are sleeping 😃😄😄.
Artificial Womb Technology
Sexrobot
Already these two started to replace women 😃😄.
Why you need for this world??? If men has an option 🤔🤔
The picture of the woman cooking while wearing a oxygen mask is so disturbing.
I can understand my mother's pain.. sacrifice whole life for both of us.. so as a son I have decided not to marry and remain dedicated my life to her...
You did it well brother. Otherwise someone else would have tortured her and you as well in the name of FEMINISM AND RIGHTS
@@sameeranil1 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Your life, your choice. It is your rights to choose a life for yourself, that is what feminism is all about.
@@Studiousgirlonwards With due respect Ms it’s true. Still we must remember who gave us this life and what we owe them.
@@sameeranil1 and as if I suggested you anything otherwise?😅
@02:30 mins... Great thoughts! 🏅
I have always said that child birthing and rearing are central specialised tasks that only the experts can do.
All else are ancillary jobs like security, building, bringing food.
Note that I said "ancillary" meaning that they are the remainder jobs after the main ones are handled by the experts. There is only one gender (of fertile age) that's the expert at child birthing and rearing. Whereas any other task can be done by any individual so you need not handover food dept, for instance, to experts and anyone else can do it.
It ain't saying sacrifices are bad. But I get it. Amazing video.
It's just saying the guilt factor is high here. But I do get the second thought of men are also expected to sacrifice their family life and emotions for the sake of maintaining the image of the family in society. (Direct product of patriarchy which Feminism is against, so it's stupid to say that this video or feminists are against men.)
Would like swaddle to make a video on that.
@Villa de Álvarez Colima ok that's so stereotypical
As if no woman works and is hardworking and has its own money.
No woman is a liability. No human is a liability. So don't flatter yourself.
Plus I can say for a fact that the "women who are dependent" are more hardworking that you were ever in your entire like.
And can you stop copy pasting.
@Villa de Álvarez Colima but most of the time men don't make sacrifices they do everything for themselves....while women live for others
@@innocentsoul2450 exactly. Everytime I see these very cliche arguments, but I don't see most of the men being of that quality. So many men exploit women and kids around me, so many of them r manchilds including many of my very very close family members, so many of them literally beat and then accuses the wife along with his own family members, cheats and cheats boastfully, dehumanize women... I would have really lost hope if only I didn't see just one example of a really good man, my previous teacher, he doesn't earn that much money, he doesn't really need to bcz none demands, he seems to be a good person, that's too rare to be cherished.
@@swapnasandhya6073 u are absolutely right...but these men can't face their criticism...nd try to defend themselves even over wrong things
@@innocentsoul2450 hm...
Say about all the religions too, how each religion has some elements directing oppression of women. Disgusting!
You are toxic that's why you have a problem with this 😂
@@ronhow1188 atleast, I'm not ignorant😂
@@SARITASHARMA-wf3rx really miss know it all ? Then why don't you understand the reasons behind those ideologies ? Why don't you look at it from our perspective not from a feminist perspective
@@ronhow1188 and why don't u look from ours? Why? Gonna loose the mask? Exactly.😃
@@ronhow1188 it's evident who is.
Really, your videos are amazing ☺️
Its a fact that women are respected more that men, this is due to some people think that womem do more sacrifice. I am happy you r now breaking the strero type. Now women will not be faltu kaa respected.
Whoa it's not about what is need to be done but changing the mindset ...And I like the way she represents the things
It is all about changing the mindset, the viewpoint first. Of understanding and giving it a thought keeping aside stereotype or any kind of negative emotions.
It's not exactly practical in most relationships the same thing destroyed relationships in the west to an extent govt was so much concerned with birth rate that they had to beg men to sleep with women
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Thr thing is that instead of responsibility we push for sacrifices which is why we are now on this position 😢
Simply superb!!!👍👍
So true things
The last part really touched the heart.
I love your content. Please keep making such good content..
Thank you! 💛
@@TheSwaddleTV seriously stop 🧢🧢 ladies it's getter funnier everyday😂
If you force someone to make sacrifices, then its not a sacrifce any more.
Hey swaddle team,love ur content but I would like to make a very humble request to you plzz make ur all previous and current videos in hindi so that ur good msg can reach maximum number of Indian people particularly those who speak only hindi,by this way we can speed up the process of positive change of bringing gender equality. 🙂
There are videos of The Swaddle in Hindi.
one point I will raise in terms of who needs to sacrifice their career is in any society indian or western it is usually men who actually earn more than their counterparts so after pregnancy period someone has to stay back and look after the house and the baby here logically speaking best candidate is the person who earns less in the relationship as the one who earns less would be less productive going out whereas the the one who earns more is more productive as he/she is the one who is making more money in similar time frame since the one who earns more is usually men don't you think it is quite justified if women have to stay back and halt their careers until situations become favorable like kid growing up to an extent it doesn't require more help it is usually because women never date down they barely even date across choosing someone who earns more is one of the major requirements in terms of marriage so unless women actually change by dating and marrying someone who makes less than them they should stay back ,if they make more no doubt they should go out and earn and man needs to stay back and take-up household duties and responsibility to raise the kid
But if the woman wants to still keep her job even after realizing she is not the best choice at the moment than it is just not being a team player and destroying the relationship
Wow I m so lucky that I am born in Northeast Indian. Women are still given much More independence than other parts of Indian
Epic.. Love it ❤️
I would call feminism a joke, if it wasn't so harmful.
Yaa kyuki tum ladki ho, toh tum ko toh dayaalu ,gharelu,hona chahiye.
Bas apna muh jyada mat Chalao. Jyada haso mat ,jyada khudka mat socho.
These things is ridiculously increased in our country.
Seriously this Good women tag is really harmful for women's real emotions.
@It's Oblivion yah but log toh , I mean society ka toh yahi stand hai for women's.
Very true
The editing is so good..... it always amazes me 🤩
Gender roles are complementary not competitive. These expectations of sacrifice is disproportionately distributed but so does many dangerous jobs where men have the most casualties jobs like soldiers, works like mining, construction, road drivers where huge number of male dies, why don't we expect similar sacrifice for women. I believe we rather not coz each gender have their own way to contribute towards society! So it's not just leaders or powerful, Martyrs, casualties are also associated more with men.
It's not fair as a society to expect any kind of sacrifice from anyone. Everybody should have the rights to choose a life for themselves and when someone sacrifices by choice, (for positively contributing to the society) their deed should be valued and as and when in the way of their sacrifice, often they and/or their loved ones happen to belong to a social, economical, political disadvantaged position of being bullied or harmed or taken advantage of, we, as a society and a system, should fully understand and create a societal way of supporting them by protecting them from all those possible dangers, and fully utilize that to effectively dispel all the problems.
But as you see sir... women are now entering successfully in jobs like military and are ready to take the " risky jobs" if given a chance, and I totally agree that jobs should not have gender biases...
I so totally agree with this video."In today's world an ideal woman is considered to be one who can manage both work and family, whereas an ideal man is someone who works hard for their career and only to earn money"....It is as if the woman's duty to do household work and take care of children and along with that if they can manage their job they can do it!!!!
I just can't get the grasp of this concept. If in a household both partners have job shouldn't both of them divide the household chores as well....Everywhere in movies, commercials ,serials women come back from their work and go to the kitchen to cook dinner for the family, while the man when he comes takes a shower and then settles himself in front of the TV with the remote..I want to ask today's so called "Modern Society" where equality supposedly prevails ,what kind of equality is this???
I want u to make a hindi translation video on this and then I can show this to my mom and dadi....
Plzzzz do it
Gosh, there are so many people who don't understand English but need to realise all of this
This is deep rooted I myself think like my mom did great for us but I am not doing that much for my daughter because I am a bad mother because of the environment in which I have grown.
❤️ this video
be proud to be a girl of her choices .
I would love to know how many videos on this channel have included practices from other religions. I'm curious. I've been following this channel for a pretty long time and haven't found any.. I'd be happy if u guys drop the links..
@It's Oblivion idc what Muslims say.. When ppl preach secularism, they should be "secular" ☺
@@akshaya626 I really don't understand this argument! Will you ask Hindu priests to recite azaan and prayers too or what?
@@akshaya626 you don't care what Muslims say? That's one way to declare that you don't want a critique, you just want to be appeased.
Also, I don't think you know what secular means lol.
@@kinoxxan I don't care how Muslims talk abt that person because i dont have to. I'm not a Muslim. But when a channel posts abt feminism in general, they shouldnt target a particular religion. It's not happening for the first time. Scroll down and see all their other videos and u will find the answer 😌
@It's Oblivion women from all religions are leaving. Living a logical life is much better than living in dogma.
Answer: Because men make sacrifices too. Sacrifices come from both sides.
So i replied something under this video.... and then others started discussing the most random topic about prostitution and feminists being pseudo feminists.... and so I deleted it cause .... half of the things I did not understand .... to begin with more of half of the feminists just want female to have general human right.... in the comment I mentioned one thing and that was romanticising women's sacrifice and how wrong it is.... but yes it is in general wrong to romanticise any parents sacrifice... I hate that fact that my dad has to sacrifice stuff for me .... I hate that my mom has to sacrifice stuff for me ... major issue of all... i hate it when people are like "oh wow your mom is so sacrificing for you" no darlings.... it pains me as a kid.... but out of nowhere the whole thing went to fans and feminists and psuedofeminists and prostitutes and what not etc etc ..... darlings.... I met this one friend today who was like... I don't like how people overhype general things like sexuality and shout about it everywhere all the time.... like cause I'm not against it.... but Idc what ur sexuality is dude... same way.... all u gotta do is not care fafos....
You guys need to calm down.... and stop joking around pls.... the whole romanticising thing was not even taken in legit meaning .... idiots need a Google or something
Pls don't comment under my comment if you guys have other topics to talk about
Pls I'm sorry for all th typos
Why expect men to provide and protect 😪
Not just mothers even fathers.
Yes,...but comparing to mother ,,,father sacrifices less..
Your thoughts are❤️
You all are doing great job👍 keep up the good work
Thank you for making videos like this👍
My mother always tells me to compromise in everything just because I m woman and from middle class 😔😐😐😐
Don't, at least not unwillingly. Live happily, by ur own choice.
"You're a woman, you're the one who should adjust"
Everytime I hear this, I wanna punch someone. Whoever mad these laws is a 1st class A-hole!
2:13 . I find that debatable.. Men also invest most of their money to the family .. How is it only a woman sacrificing .. Even in the cases swaddle mentions to speak about women doing more chores than men.. The man is the one who makes up for the bigger payment.. Like taxes, their children's education, and also in such families .. I mean most of them.. It's generally the men who will plan vacations out of their own money.. So it's not like men haven't sacrificed either. I completely understand the point where women sticking up for their careers makes them feel worthless.. Which should not be the case but showcasing the video in a way men haven't sacrificed and it's only the women.. I think that's a fallacy right there.. Even in today's society.. Men are only considered worth marrying to when they are filthy rich which is also depicted in movies like dhadkan.. Judai.. How about you bring a change swaddle and address mens issues as well.
I wonder which human being did not sacrificed anything!
@Villa de Álvarez Colima may be!
Men didn't sacrifice their career and life choices (at least not completely like most of the women), didn't sacrifice their parental home and those bondings and care after marriage to go to a completely stranger place and family.
@@Studiousgirlonwards Ture if seen from one point!
@@Kirito-vt8wl yes exactly, 😅, from women's viewpoint. This is the problem, inclusivity and gender equality along with other equalities are required and is infact essential and only fair because otherwise everything is seen and judged and understood and explained from only one perspective, that of the men's.
@@Studiousgirlonwards yèah :(
I really wish they make these videos in other regional languages too so that it reaches to a wider section of audience. Like I really want so many people to hear these, but I'm afraid they aren't very fluent with this language.
While I completely understand and value the power of "sacrifice" that your trying to put forth...but I refuse to sacrifice.... it's a very negative term altogether and makes the one for whom we're doing it feel in debt when they are not. A woman when serves her husband food,she does it by choice, when she never argues if her son refutes to budge, she does it by choice, when she works where she's paid and contributes 90% of her earnings in and to the house, she does it by choice because she doesn't want to go through the guilt of being selfish and never understands that it's not. Yes it's engraved in our heads since we were born and I of the opinion women did it to us....but those who understand and see the reality need to come forth and speak. They should work in order to mitigate this sense of remorse if they think for themselves....
Man or woman...Do Not Sacrifice...make choices.
When you have a child...you already should strengthen yourselves so much that you don't yell at the child one day that I "sacrificed" for you so much. You brought that one I to this world...you have no right to say that, s/he didn't drop one day on your lap....when a man married a woman either don't stop her from working or don't tell her that for her you're "sacrificing" so much... because you chose to marry her too... when a woman marries a man... don't tell him that she alone is taking care of the house and children because if he doesn't contribute at all...may be you're the reason too...may be you have taken everything in your hands...you don't let him fill his glass of water every single time or serve himself the food else he doesn't eat or anything that includes his the daily chores.
Now I do get it that one can do it out of love...but don't let one depend on you for such basic stuff and if you don't one day that person is offended.