My husband cheated on me, took all my money, forced me to resign from my well paying nursing job which gave me lifetime security, however , to adjust I gave in to his demands and then he stole my savings and went off. Currently I am left jobless, feels like I am stuck . Trust me health too goes for a toss in such situations. I can understand. In a relationship do your duty, but never give up on your job and dreams. Choose the right path girls.
My question is that yes it is good to pay higher Infact they can add all d bills together and the wife can pay 60% and husband 40% but my question is that will the man also share d chores with here house chores is not a joke in the UK because some men with unnecessary Ego, as a woman earning much u need to pay more but imagine when d money woman does all d chores do the cooking, cleaning and all. Will the man share d chores too bcos as a woman I feel am being used after paying higher bill, get pregnant with the pain and all, do the cooking and still do chores bcos I knw some men that dnt assist in d chores for me I feel am being used.
Nurse Vee. It is well. God will help us. In marriage 1+1=1. Know this and have peace. Theres nothing like this is my own and that is your own in marriage. We are one.
Nurse Vee I think they should switch responsibilities. Giving the man money monthly or buying car for him will not solve the problem. Men naturally have ego so please. If he pays the bills he will have a thousand left, if she pays the rent she still has over 2k with that they can both supplement the feeding of the home. Men can become spoilt when you start giving them money . I am speaking from experience and research . So please my sister switch responsibilities so the man can be free to manage his ego. Your marriage will not break just apply wisdom. As for love he still loves you but his ego as a man is under threat so please let him have his own spear money to spend.
Am sure his attitude towards her is the major reason for how she feels(she even stated it). What if he is a proud person that shows arrogance? What if he is someone who brags to his friends and family especially those back home and would want to be unnecessarily sending/spending money or being extravagant? What if he doesn't do any work around the house or care for their child but expect only her and MIL to do those? If she truly feel loved and supported by him, am sure it will be much easier to be on same side financially, cause I cant imagine doing so much especially financially with a man that behaves somehow towards me and feels entitled. My advice would be to find time (even a short vacay) away (from your MIL and child) and openly discuss, hiding nothing about how you feel about the whole stuff with him.
Firstly, Men should take their eyes off women's money. Let's be sincere, to feed humans is the hardest and most expensive thing to do because you don't know what they eat. She works hard that's why she earns more, let the man take extra shifts and earn more. She has other bills of hers to attend. She did not bring him to become a liability to her. Let him pay the rent, period. You'll be shocked that same man has a gf somewhere he still sends money to. Yes she expects him to take care of her as every man would their wives yet, she still foots her bill without minding. You guys needs to be realistic in your comments please.
My dear reason am now. Nurse Vee has advised you finish. We use our hands to break our homes. Some of us envy your family earnings join. I don't know what you believe in but if you are a Christian, pray for the grace to do the right thing and borrow sense join. Also reduce your bank shifts and build your the other room. That is where the problem even started before the financial insecurities.
She isn't responsible. Honestly, that is lack of responsibility as a wife. So if the man was earning more than her salary, he would have been paying all bills? Cause if she can do this to her husband in lack of little, I can imagine what could do in his abundance. This isn't fair at all.
You have said it all. Nurse Vee, you are a kind and wise woman. Let her try give to give her husband some amount of money like you said. Nurse Vee please kindly reply to my emails.
Madam Violet, you have given her the best advice. This woman has no problem at all, she is blessed. Let her do as you have said and watch her husband cherish her like gold and put her on a pedestal. She will enjoy her marriage like never before. But most importantly she must do it in humility not with arrogance, otherwise the man will be repelled. A wise woman builds her home.
Hello VEE. men's ego blows up x10 when the husband earns less than wife. another problem is working at night and husband during the day. they start the journey of emotional separation without them knowing because they are trying to make ends meet. God help all of them who are in this age group because it is really hard. Again once the kids are teens/ young adults, the young adults dating drama starts and most parents ends up in divorce. Empty nest children never come to see their aging parents because they are busy dating or raising up kids or even exploring the world and they only come for the inheritance. We live in a dark world where good is seen as evil and evil is seen as good. May the Almighty God redeem the Humanity.
I think she should pay the rent of 1550 and let the man take care of the bills of 800
My husband cheated on me, took all my money, forced me to resign from my well paying nursing job which gave me lifetime security, however , to adjust I gave in to his demands and then he stole my savings and went off. Currently I am left jobless, feels like I am stuck . Trust me health too goes for a toss in such situations. I can understand. In a relationship do your duty, but never give up on your job and dreams. Choose the right path girls.
My question is that yes it is good to pay higher Infact they can add all d bills together and the wife can pay 60% and husband 40% but my question is that will the man also share d chores with here house chores is not a joke in the UK because some men with unnecessary Ego, as a woman earning much u need to pay more but imagine when d money woman does all d chores do the cooking, cleaning and all. Will the man share d chores too bcos as a woman I feel am being used after paying higher bill, get pregnant with the pain and all, do the cooking and still do chores bcos I knw some men that dnt assist in d chores for me I feel am being used.
Exactly, the man's behavior should be checked. Reality is different from imagination.
Nurse Vee. It is well. God will help us. In marriage 1+1=1. Know this and have peace. Theres nothing like this is my own and that is your own in marriage. We are one.
Nurse Vee. You have said all. Sis please support your husband and you see peace come back to your home
You have said it all nurse Vee, I share in your opinion
God bless you Nurse Vee,this is a very good advice you have given
If this couple are saying my money is my money, how do they intend to get mortgage together? Will they think in the direction of buying one
Nurse Vee I think they should switch responsibilities. Giving the man money monthly or buying car for him will not solve the problem.
Men naturally have ego so please.
If he pays the bills he will have a thousand left, if she pays the rent she still has over 2k with that they can both supplement the feeding of the home.
Men can become spoilt when you start giving them money . I am speaking from experience and research .
So please my sister switch responsibilities so the man can be free to manage his ego.
Your marriage will not break just apply wisdom.
As for love he still loves you but his ego as a man is under threat so please let him have his own spear money to spend.
Am sure his attitude towards her is the major reason for how she feels(she even stated it). What if he is a proud person that shows arrogance? What if he is someone who brags to his friends and family especially those back home and would want to be unnecessarily sending/spending money or being extravagant? What if he doesn't do any work around the house or care for their child but expect only her and MIL to do those?
If she truly feel loved and supported by him, am sure it will be much easier to be on same side financially, cause I cant imagine doing so much especially financially with a man that behaves somehow towards me and feels entitled. My advice would be to find time (even a short vacay) away (from your MIL and child) and openly discuss, hiding nothing about how you feel about the whole stuff with him.
Firstly, Men should take their eyes off women's money.
Let's be sincere, to feed humans is the hardest and most expensive thing to do because you don't know what they eat. She works hard that's why she earns more, let the man take extra shifts and earn more.
She has other bills of hers to attend.
She did not bring him to become a liability to her.
Let him pay the rent, period.
You'll be shocked that same man has a gf somewhere he still sends money to.
Yes she expects him to take care of her as every man would their wives yet, she still foots her bill without minding.
You guys needs to be realistic in your comments please.
My dear reason am now. Nurse Vee has advised you finish. We use our hands to break our homes. Some of us envy your family earnings join. I don't know what you believe in but if you are a Christian, pray for the grace to do the right thing and borrow sense join. Also reduce your bank shifts and build your the other room. That is where the problem even started before the financial insecurities.
She isn't responsible. Honestly, that is lack of responsibility as a wife. So if the man was earning more than her salary, he would have been paying all bills? Cause if she can do this to her husband in lack of little, I can imagine what could do in his abundance. This isn't fair at all.
You have said it all.
Nurse Vee, you are a kind and wise woman.
Let her try give to give her husband some amount of money like you said.
Nurse Vee please kindly reply to my emails.
Madam Violet, you have given her the best advice. This woman has no problem at all, she is blessed. Let her do as you have said and watch her husband cherish her like gold and put her on a pedestal. She will enjoy her marriage like never before.
But most importantly she must do it in humility not with arrogance, otherwise the man will be repelled.
A wise woman builds her home.
Hello VEE.
men's ego blows up x10 when the husband earns less than wife. another problem is working at night and husband during the day.
they start the journey of emotional separation without them knowing because they are trying to make ends meet. God help all of them who are in this age group because it is really hard. Again once the kids are teens/ young adults, the young adults dating drama starts and most parents ends up in divorce. Empty nest children never come to see their aging parents because they are busy dating or raising up kids or even exploring the world and they only come for the inheritance. We live in a dark world where good is seen as evil and evil is seen as good. May the Almighty God redeem the Humanity.
Nurse Violet please I have sent you an email
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