I am with u on this one... had a huge realization about today ago :D. I think I knew for a while, it just didn't dawn on me how bit of an issue this is.
@@eliskadvorakova1717 I'm 25 in America with no friends. I use my phone and video games electronics in a way to hide or numb the pain of loneliness. But being addicted to rhese devices aren't making it any better
I just got a kindle and my main goal this year is whenever I notice I'm bored and reach for my phone, to instead grab my kindle and do some reading. Good luck to everyone else who's battling phone addiction in the new year, we got this 🥳
I am using an app called Jomo to do just this! It blocks UA-cam on my phone until I manually complete an habit (right now, it's "reading something" but i change it from time to time). Ofc, I can have cheat days but the most important is that the app always brings me back to my commitment day after day 🤣
I love how honest you are. you aren’t trying to demean others like some UA-camrs do. instead of shaming people for being on their phones, you say like “hell yeah, I do it too!” and I love that.
shame isn't a bad thing. Its a tool, to my knowledge, used to help society. It's a bad thing the only shameful thing nowadays is to shame someone else. Not all behaviors, actions, habits, or beliefs are good or should be done and being social creatures some of us won't change those without society doing something like shaming us for it. We don't like the shame and embarrassment from our community so we go and change said behavior hopefully for a more healthy behavior or habit that is more accepted amongst our peers and community.
@@okami425 yeah I can see what you’re coming from and sometimes it works, but other times people see being shamed as an attack in a way and it just makes them conform to their bad behaviors more
I love the fact that you recognize, that people not only want to break their phone addiction to be more productive and do work. Sometimes what we miss because of shitty scrolling entertainment is actually good entertainment such as books or movies
Personally I think it can just be the phone itself and not even social media. I deleted socials, all of them, and found myself scrolling on news sites, the weather, music, my notes, pictures, etc. As soon as I deleted a problem app I’d have another problem app without even realizing until I checked my weekly screentime. Worst part is, I’m very antisocial. I don’t respond to texts, emails, calls, for near weeks at a time. I just, get stuck in the comfort of doing nothing. Phone addiction is something that for people like me, a very serious problem that can only be fixed by completely removing the phone. Unfortunately that causes issues like not being able to bank, check in at the gym, clock in at work, etc. They’re just everything nowadays. I wish that employers and other people were more open to those who want to use flip phones but that’s just not an option for me. Hopefully with the help of therapy and treating some of my other mental health issues, my phone addiction will improve but damn, it is an awful thing humanity has created.
im sure theres apps where you can limit time on your phone in general, maybe try that ❤️ and find something a lot more exciting than scrolling through news articles
@@Lol-tr6cu yes! I have used a few apps, and gone away from the news. 😂 I went from 5 hours a day to 1.5 , but I still feel like that’s just too much now that I’ve realized how awful it is. Thank you for the tips! Haha
Omg I relate so much to this. I deleted Instagramme because I was going through reels hours at a time. Then started that same thing with UA-cam (I hate shorts with a passion). I stopped doing that and instead at least consumed Essay videos that are interesting, and podcasts to inform myself while doing something else in the mean time. At least I’m sort of productive now. But at work I read news when at break or rearrange my to dos…it’s so odd, I’d love a flip phone but I just know a lot of people hate SMS and calling, and I still need maps and safari on the go ://
@@Lol-tr6cu the thing is..when you got mental health issues it can cause you losing interest in your hobbies and what you would usually like to do. It’s so annoying.
I've gotten to the point where I hate being on UA-cam because I see nothing that interests me, everything bored me but I stay there because I feel obliged to do so because it's what I'm used/supposed to (be) doing at this point of the day. And that feeling gets mixed up with the whole "I'm too tired to do anything right now so I'll just binge watch UA-cam ad nauseam until I go to bed early and tomorrow I'll be more rested" spoiler alert: I never feel rested the day after because I couldn't sleep until 3am
I just got a kindle and my main goal this year is whenever I notice I'm bored and reach for my phone, to instead grab my kindle and do some reading. Good luck to everyone else who's battling phone addiction in the new year, we got this 🥳
I really appreciate the scientific look at it because then I don't feel like crying over how much I hate myself for having a phone addiction. I just look at it technically and then feel more motivated to change. Thank you.
You can do it! I believe in you! Now don't reply to my comment and go do something that makes you happy. 😌 All jokes aside, you aren't at fault for being addicted. Many apps were literally designed to be addictive, a lot of the content on them - to be addictive especially to children. You shouldn't be blaming yourself, but instead the makers of the content & apps who are even willing to stoop so low to target kids. They designed the apps to have this effect on you, you weren't "weak" or "stupid" to get addicted to them. Most people would get addicted. Maybe the only ones that wouldn't are old people who aren't willing to use phones. But even then I know elderly people who use phones a lot. So you shouldn't be blaming yourself, but instead you should be the one to help yourself get rid of that addiction. As I said earlier, I know you can do it and I believe in you! It might take time, but do it to make yourself happier. I know this is a random comment & it might seem so strange that it's so personal, but I hope I can help. :c
This is definitely something I want to change next year I absolutely hate how much time I spend on my phone and will definitely be using these tips to improve my addiction 🙏🏽
I think one of my problems is I don't hate it I enjoy watching tiktoks, it's a way for me to get a laugh turn my brain off and stay up to date with the latest slang/trends Will definitely swap that for reading a book before bed, just gotta find a book lol
@@odysseasenespanol It's fine if it's an hour ever now and then, but if you're spending 7-8 hours/day brainlessly scrolling on tik-tok, that's when it has become a problem. I am kind of in this situation right now, but I am starting to recover from it.
@@unsigned_var It's about 1-3 hours right now which honestly i was surprised it's this low... I've been going through a really rough time lately and it helps a lot to keep the dark thoughts away
1. bring awareness (knowing how much screen time etc.) 2. swapping old habits (for example change your lock screen to remind you of your goals + read more books) 3. environmental change (not charging your phone in your bedroom, don't have it next to your bed) 4. turn off notifications 5. try mindfulness
I really appreciate the scientific look at it because then I don't feel like crying over how much I hate myself for having a phone addiction. I just look at it technically and then feel more motivated to change. Thank you.
I was so addicted to twitter, until I decided waking up with anxiety over an app is just not worth it. You really don't realize how much time you have to do better things until you distance yourself from social media. I hope to stick to it with other social medias!
Something that I think might also be useful is to have a "commonplace notebook". I always find myself opening my phone and either forgetting what I was supposed to do or getting distracted just like the spotify example you gave lol. Using a commonplace notebook helped me a lot because there's nothing that could possibly distract me if all I needed to do is capture a thought or list something down. I think debloating my phone and switching to browser versions of apps also helped because I only check when I think I need to instead of whenever a notification pops up.
@@selina8435 I pretty much use it as a notebook, sketchbook, bullet journal, scratch paper all in one place haha. you could put a to-do list, write down all the things you are grateful for, write a journal entry, draw something, list down the songs you want to learn on guitar, your goals for the day, take note of some motivational quote that you heard recently, grocery list, write down the things you need to for the character you're levelling up, anything really. Also my common place notebook has removeable pages so I can easily remove the pages I used as scratch paper, rearrange pages however I like, and refill it with newer pages. I hope this helps :)
Oh yes i have a notebook since 3 months now and it really helped me a lot ! I write whatever goes through my head in it, like vacations plans, chores for the next day, but i also really like to take notes from interesting videos like this one. It helped me a lot to be more aware of what I'm doing and what i want to do.
Thank you. I recently realized that all my problems I have (Sleep problems, School problems , emotional problems etc.). That all comes from social media. I always thought that social media would help me out and it only satisfied me, it made me feel like im in a different world. But actually all this started because of social media. I don't have many online friends (2) , I have more rl friends and I'm proud of that. But still hearing how one of my friend is on her phone for only 1 hour a day makes me think if I should try that too. And I will. I want to. I want to make my dreams come true. I only played them in my head and I always said to my self "I'm going to start tomorrow" and did I do it ? No. I was on social media. I want to change that. I have a love for books and I have soooo many that I want to read but I always get distracted by my phone. I want to make my dreams come true. I want to be proud of myself and even (maybe) cure my problems! Cause also because of social media I had to fight through some deep depression last year that I luckily managed to control a little bit. I just want to say that it is never late to start and if you think of starting it.. then do it now..in the future you will regret not doing it earlier. Like me I want to be a dancer , a pro handball player and an artist! All this ! But have I started practicing? No. That's why I will start now. Start my dream. I wish everyone a happy new year and stay healthy ^^
A tip for people, if you like art or writing, carry a sketchbook around with you. Instead of going on your phone, draw something. If you still want to go on social media, find things you actually enjoy and give yourself 30 mins-1hr of it a day, (you can use screen time on your phone).
I have an Instagram addiction. I don’t mind going on my iPad to read, to write or draw, but the endless Instagram consumption is driving me mad. Any advice on what to do? Aside from just deleting the app altogether? I think the only things keeping me on there is wanting to get news on things I'm interested in (so for example, Disney, what movies they're bringing out, what new products they have) also sometimes I get inspiration for things, but honestly that is RARE, and lastly there are maybe like 2 or 3 online friends I speak to, one of whom I'd like to be sure I stay in touch with.
@@mckenzieeliza You could give yourself 30 mins a day and put a screen time limit on it? You can also pick a time (lets say after work/school) and then go on it for 20-30 minutes, and be like "hey! That's enough for today". I'm not sure if this is helpful, but good luck!
I'm working on my addiction. It's not the phone but it's definitely the apps that are at fault. They are literally designed to have our attention. I quit Instagram earlee this year but youtube has definitely been pretty hard. I think because of the pandemic people have become less social for obvious reasons but it would be something easier to overcome if EVERYONE as a collective would work on their addictions. You might be working hard to change but when you start seeing those around you are actually where you were a month ago, it's hard to make new friends or have a genuine conversation now. Everyone is in their phones. I remember a time when there were no apps. It was indeed an amazing time.
Damn john chill- though you 100% have a point here, both of you do. Social media IS designed to be addictive (like how tf is short form scrollable content about mind less things that dont even 'exist' or function the same in the real world healthy ؟؟؟؟) BUT at the same time any app can be used for good ex: yt i mean theres so many stuff you can learn here lol from cooking to making a car engine from houshold stuff haha. I think ya really need to look a little further into how drugs affect the brain and addiction develope, you will see that it is pretty similar to drugs in a way, but obviously not something like meth lamo more like vapes ect they are still shit for you but not impossible to quit if you put your mind to it! Anyways happy new year!
I don’t agree with the person above basically placing 100% of the blame on you since apps *are* designed to be addictive and we’ve also been conditioned to spend lots of time in our phones. However, I don’t understand why that would inhibit you from making friends. People aren’t always on their phone and everyone (or pretty much everyone) actually has hobbies and real life interests too, so you should be able to connect with people regardless, even if you can’t post them on your Instagram stories. I think you’re blaming social media for something that you actually do have control over.
@@belf16 Because how are you supposed to start a conversation when people have their noses buried in their phones? As a mom, it's even harder because I know why they do it so it's virtually impossible to make friends these days.
It's really important to have a goad, or a point of doing something. You will spend much less energy doing something with goal, rather than menaninglessly. Make/create a goal, and will have much mmore energy left to do other things. Thank you, Ruri!
The things I have keep in my routine is mindfulness , reading book and association The things I trouble with is digital distractions I spend over time than I aspect for my day and night. Crazy helpful , thanks so much Ruri Ohama I just follow you . Can’t wait to watch your next video !!
I'm in middle school and I already really struggle with putting my phone down. I always say that I'll do something tomorrow, but it never happens. Thank you for the tips. It really helps!
My 2023 New Year's Resolution was to stop being on my phone and work on myself. I just didn't know how to start. You don't know how thankful I am for you to make this video. Thank you, have a good day! :)
Because of my addiction, I did some stupid things that now I regret. In the past two months, I have realized the true cost of my addiction, and I hope to get my life back. Thank you for this video.
I think one thing that works good is to create a daily life you will be happy with. Because a lot of social media addiction is an escape from diffoculties in life.
I try to trick myself into thinking time on social media is productive… getting rid of notifications, catching up, gathering inspiration. But, I then spend too much time ‘consuming’ and not creating and doing. Sometimes it’s easier to live our lives through others… watching through screens and not ‘experiencing’ life. I really want to get better at lowering my screen time. Good luck to everyone trying this too 💜
making your screen black and white definitely effects the attractiveness of your phone. you know when you look at those bright colors the dopamine hits way harder. ive just started using my phone that way myself and my screentime decreased automatically. everyone should give it a try
thank you so much. I am 13 and I have horrible social media addiction. For many months I didn't even realise it!! I was just doing everything my friends, cousins, people around my age were doing. But at some point I saw these habits changing me into the worse side. I was always doing all my homework and even more. Now I usualy try to do it but one or two asignments are still left unfinished. My room was always clean. Now it's messy almost all the time. I had perfect routine: some calming music is playing in the background, I'm cleaning mess that formed during the day. After that I read and went to bed. Now I would go to sleep at about 1 in the morning!! My grades became much lower. And than I became friends with one girl who never had a phone. Her parents will get her one than she will attend university. And I saw how bright she was. That she was actually real. How she absolutely adored books!! And now I see that something must change. Thank you so much, have a great day!!
@@vis5462 thanks!!! I really hope you can deal with your problems. And I really get the concentration thing. It's VERY hard for me to concentrate sometimes. Have a great day 😁
I quit social media about one year ago, and my sense of self-control and happiness really skyrocketed. I remember when I and my wife went to a restaurant where they had a singer event, My wife was so busy taking photos and snapchatting. I was busy enjoying the food and the place vibes. The next day in the morning I still had the happiness of that evening, my wife was trapped in her Snapchat memories and busy answering her friend's direct messages.
“Active but ineffective” is the best way that I have heard the feeling be describe of how it feels to end a day of using tech. At college, when I had free time, it all went you UA-cam and video games. Sometimes engulfing entire days if it’s the weekend. And when the day was done, it was depressing even thought I felt like I was having an enjoyable experience throughout the day. That’s how I’m gonna describe it from now on. Thank you so much for this video!
my phone addiction has made my attention span so short. i literally can't focus on stuff for long and i literally get so bored easily. i feel like i don't have any real interests anymore cause of the overindulgence of media i take in daily. last week i literally had a total of 65 hours per week. i need to change.
the addiction is really hard to overcome. i have stopped all social media usage for a little over 3 weeks now i still check my DMs once every week so i don’t accidentally ignore my friends that i can’t contact elsewhere. i’m pretty happy with my self control so far, i don’t feel any « withdrawal » symptoms or urges to check tiktok even tho i have it on my phone. unfortunately i think i may have compensated with youtube…i’m pretty sure the time i spend on yt skyrocketed since i like listening to videos as background noise. it’d be good if there was a platform with random documentaries or just gibberish that sounds like a very boring presentation just so i can focus on my tasks while still feeling like i’m procrastinating i found that reading books helped me regulate my sleep schedule a lot better…it depends on the book but the physical aspect of holding a book, no matter how interesting it is, will always get me tired from holding it, changing positions so i can be comfortable, adapting to the dim light in my room etc so 100% of the time i’ll end up sleeping earlier than i would’ve if i was using my phone to anyone struggling with the addiction, good luck! you can start by reducing your screen time every day or try finding something more interesting. try not using it outside or while in the public transport, it do be boring sometimes but being bored isn’t a bad thing and far from abnormal, being overstimulated and constantly producing dopamine on the other hand is what’s abnormal. i’m not gonna lie, it IS hard but the more you resist it the easier it gets.
there’s an app called musi i think, that’s basically youtube, like it had all the videos that are posted to youtube but it can play with your ohone off
The reason why I use my phone a lot is because everything is in it. My calendar, my notes, my reminders, my tasks, and etc are on it. Even my money managing, Quran and prayer times are in it. I use it as a productivity machine. And I constantly try to find new apps to improve my productivity.
i really need this rn. my social media addiction is at the point where i'm constantly procrastinating on my real life work. i often don't work at all when i'm supposed to be working from home. the lockscreen idea is great and i'll try it first
I was planning to stop my social media or phone addiction, but I saw your channel and here I am again watching and watching your videos lol. Btw, you really have a great content
I'm addicted to using the comments section on UA-cam. I spent most of my time making a comment on videos, reading the comments, replying to comments and replying to replies. I don't know how to stop this, it's a habit for me
I haven't had social media in about 8 years and I have never been less attracted to it. I walk down the street or through the gym and just see people staring down with no attention to their surroundings.
Thanks for the video! I'm a 19 years old guy from Kazakhstan (near with Russia), and I have a phone addiction too. It's so bad, cause last 2 years I feel how my life pointless passes. It was a 2 week since I deleted most of my social network apps, unless messengers for a talking with my homies and family. Also, I've finally started learn english language with serials and videos like this, so sorry if I writed something wrong or not correct. Hope all of us can deal with this addiction together!
This video really helped me to find out that I’m too much addicted on my phone. Now that I accept it… I’ll try my best to get over it so I deleted all of my social media accounts for 2 weeks so let’s try it !
I really llike this and i like how u distinguished mindless scrolling and social media usage vs. intentionally using technology, i really hope to improve this next year, not just with my phone but also my computer.
Thankfully I realized this as soon as now. (I'm 17 so I have a life ahead of me that I won't waste scrolling all the time. I only regret not doing it 15 or 16 years old so I had better teenage years
It's strange but sometimes I'm doing meaningful meaningfulness scrolling. Like I'm giving myself this pleasure of just doing nothing but learning new things random and getting inspired
i always wanted to spend less time on my phone, but i always didn't have enough motivation to do something instead. but this video really motivates me to do something about my addiction. thank you :)
A while ago I deleted TikTok. In the first days I always searched for something on my phone, even though I didn't even know what. Whenever I was bored I used to open TikTok and scroll around. I'm so glad I got rid of it
One of my goal is to reduce the content I consume. I can't avoid social medias 100% because I really do enjoy them but I want to consume less and make more. So instead of just scrolling mindlessly, I want to focus on my creativity and provide content. I feel like, this way, I can still be part of social medias but in a more proactive way and lessen the amount of time I spend just scrolling. Let see where this takes me :)
I watched this video a couple of days ago, and I’ve just gotta say turning off the notifications social media (in my case youtube) has helped me a ton! I’ve been trying to get off of it for a while now and its really helped and I just wanted to come back and say thank you!
My problem with quitting my addiction to things like social media and pinterest and even spotify that it's not always useless content, all of it is chosen by me so its mostly good or useful. Quality memes, interesting or informative articles (mostly) and good art and music, but the apps are designed in a way they make you consume these in the most shallow way possible for countless hours, even when you don't enjoy it, until you get tired of whole artforms and get depressed. And a compilation of your favourite content is definitely not more important than doing creative things and getting inspiration from that, reading books or socializing. The solution would be installing separate apps for reading news and articles. And also the intent thing and putting books to places are really good ways of beating the addiction. Before having a phone, as a child I used to read the textbooks in random places the same way I read internet content now, we could have way less mental problems like depression and more educated people by simply putting books into peoples hands lol.
Agree mostly, but please be aware ADHD is not a mental problem, it's a cognitive difference, and is not caused by a lack of reading - it's mostly genetic. In fact, I and others I know with ADHD are the biggest readers I know, and always have been. This attitude is not helpful.
Those concerns you had with losing valuable and good content is something I worried about as well. I decided to delete the majority of my social media apps, except UA-cam. I worried that I would be missing out on important political news via instagram and Twitter, and I am. But for me, the cost of addiction outweighed the benefit of information. I’ve chosen to get my news from less addictive sources, even though I know I have sacrificed the ability to get news specific to my area and causes I care about. Instead I’m focusing on my studies. I get a lot of information that way.
ty for making me understand that reading books is way more interesting than scrolling my phone for hours, i always thought reading books that give u no knowledge is useless but it is honestly better than social media. tysm , take care
I slowly started to lower my social media consumption and i swear i feel so much better after i deleted apps like snap and instagram.Like a refreshed version of my self with less doubt and more confident.It might take long but it‘s definitely worth it trust me
@@Vicky-cp8yl That's my 2023 goal. Currently down to 9 hours so far haha! Having a morning routine cut down my morning scrolling. Still trying to practice hopping out of bed right when I wake up
Wow, I loved this video, really, you inspire me with those phrases, our actual society is so lost, that's why it's so important has people as you. Thank you, and never stop those videos.
I lit haven't even watched the video yet, but by looking at the comments i can relate to everyone. We need to stop over using social media, and start also to connect with real people as a society again!
I remember getting my first phone as a teenager, and it was a cheap brick with a numpad. I loved it. These days, I see small children with iPhone 14's and I just feel like we've failed as a race
Got an e-reader for christmas and found it actually easy to reduce time on my phone by downloading a few books and reaching for them whenever I don't have anything to do. On the bus or train I now often spend time listening to audio books.
Not good not bad... Had massive mental attack from month of Feb to June since I lost my contact with one of the closest person of my life. Then I got into study and sometimes I sleep for like 20-24 hours idk why and sometimes I had no sleep, while someday I study for like 12 hours while someday I do none. I'm not consistent with my stuff which i really used to love doing.. I have lost interest in many parts of my life and sometimes get massive amount of urges, I lost to it. I'm still working on myself
I miss when I was homeless and backpacking in a way because I was always using my phone to learn about plants and just exploring and being spontaneous, it was so fun and adventurous. But I couldn't earn money and my health suffered because I didn't have a stable shelter, so I had to switch to having a full time job and apartment. It's nice to feel secure and have better health, but my mental health has worsened too. And my phone isn't so much an important tool as it is numbing me from my heartbreak and confusion. I wish I could have the same feelings of adventure and excitement that I had when homeless, but still earn money and be housed
I think God sent you as a message to me, I have so many things I want to learn and do but my addiction is holding me back, it even took a toll on my grades. 2 weeks ago I deleted tiktok it's to addictive and I don't think I will be downloading it back in a long time. This new year I really want to make a change in my habits and I hope to become why smarter than I am when I start my reading habit. Thank you so much. I hope to learn new languages as well.
Quitting social media was one of the best decisions I ever made for my mental health and overall well-being. At first, I was skeptical, fearing I'd miss out or feel disconnected. But stepping away from the constant noise, comparison, and validation-seeking, I found a profound sense of peace and clarity. These my life is filled with genuine connections, meaningful experiences, and uninterrupted focus on personal growth. If you're contemplating a social media detox, I highly encourage you to give it a try. You might be surprised by the positive impact it can have on your life. Trust me, the freedom is life changing.
Hi, Ruri I just wanna say thank you because you changed my life completely. I applied your tips and it worked. My days are so balanced I'm thankful for all your advice. I used to hate studying I was depressed and I successfully recovered from most of my mental illnesses and now I enjoy studying. I stopped procrastination and I started to read again. So yeah that you for everything and keep going I hope the best for you.❤️ (Sorry if I wrote something incorrectly English is not my first language).
Thank you for this video. In 2021, I deleted all my social media apps and didn't use them for almost a week because my mental health was getting bad from all the hate I see on the internet. I can honestly say that I felt so much happier at the end of the week and I was much more productive. I hope that I can learn to limit my meaningless screen-time and scrolling on my phone again. My current daily average is nearly 8 hours, I would love to reduce to at least 5 hours.
I failed my uni test because while giving the test i had this constant urge to stop and check my phone there was this constant thought in my subconscious to look for the phone. My addiction is getting really bad 😭💔
Thank you sm for this video. Social medias I had before: instagram, tiktok, snapchat, youtube and pinterest. Now : youtube and pinterest. These two are important to me. UA-cam I use to watch subliminals, listen to thewizardliz and school stuff. Pinterest I use for inspiration bc I'm an artist and it's really helpful. I've deleted the apps since a bit now, and I do so many new things that are good for me now. I read mangas instead of watching anime, I go on a walk for 30-60 minutes everyday, I care about school more and I do exercises (since I'm very unhealthy and I never wanted to realize it but now I know better). I hope ya'll are doing good
I don't think the problem lies in an individual level (its our fault, etc.). But more about how the social media apps are created in a way that you get addicted, trying to maximise the time you use those apps, even hiring teams of psicologists. Being more apparent if you learn that these apps make all their money from ads and selling our data (to sell more ads).
I'm addicted to using the comments section on UA-cam. I spent most of my time making a comment on videos, reading the comments, replying to comments and replying to replies. I don't know how to stop this, it's a habit for me
I deleted all social media’s 3 weeks ago and I feel so much better. I know it’s hard to just delete it but just do it it’s better. Good luck if your trying to have a break from social media
Yepp this was the only way for me, I was struggling with the self control of not opening the app now I have to go to my computer which makes it more of an obstacle
I've had this video in my watch later list since it came out. Every time it came up I skipped it because I knew it would make me rethink watching videos and in that moment i just wanted to watch things because I didn't know what else to do with my time, or didn't want to get up. After trying this challenge I realized that I am dependent not only on my phone but on all entertainment because I'm either too lazy or to distracted to do anything else. What has really helped me is environment building my entire day. Put water by your bed at night so you will drink it in the morning, keep your charging areas far from your activity areas, put your remote or your mouse away every time you get of a device so getting back on is just as hard as finding something else to do.
Love this! Great content and ideas! I definitely am way more mindful these days with my phone. I don't look at my phone before bed, after I get out of bed, and when I am with other people. Just minor changes like that have made a huge difference in my life and my relationship with others.
Another Ruri video that makes people pleased! Followers love this very clever and cool girl! Isn’t it quite impressive that she provides just most essential information each and every time. And she’s doing it in a very cordial and cool way! I think That’s the reason why Ruri’s videos has got an addiction effect!
I used to be madly addicted to my phone when I was in the primary school to a point I had no friends in school 'cause I was using my phone the whole time. When I went to high school I learned my lesson, deleted all my social media, ditched texting for hours and instead I only text once a day, in the evening and that's it. I started doing a whole lot of things to pursue self growth like learning two new languages, writing poems, books and actually develop an affection for studying, doing notes and aesthetic surroundings. I called it a success. And I'm so proud of myself, especially because all those changes resulted in forming a great CV that makes me stand out in many workplaces. Making a change is important and the effects are real. Sadly, about a year ago I developed another addiction. It's not an addition of phone as a whole but rather specifically Tiktok. I could spend there hours and hours endlessly, which made all my efforts from the past left untouched. I stopped learning anything new, stopped even writing, I was just staring at the devil and couldn't stop. I downloaded a screen limiter that would forbid me to be on Tiktok for more than 20 minutes per day. I tried my best to start doing all the things I fell in love with, however, what's even more concerning, when I run out of time on Tiktok, I open UA-cam Shorts. The development of all those kind of apps where you just scroll endlessly is deadly to my attempts. I tried to look for a way to close UA-cam Shorts permanently but no results. Apparently, you can't do that. And I don't know how to come back to life! Now all I have is my willpower but as you said, it's difficult running only on this specifically
I feel like the best thing to do is to delete it completely; when you get 20 min of fast easy dopamine access ur brain will want to continue getting this easy dopamine but if your brain is not even used to get this type of dopamine the urge will become less. Nevertheless it is completely okay that you are struggling with this kind of Probleme again, our improvement is never linear and I know how easy it is to loose hope and motivation if you already have gotten better
@@givem3aflower just after writing this comment I deleted Tiktok completely and you're absolutely right, it helped me to surpass the urge to open UA-cam Shorts and yesterday I haven't watched any of these, so I'm proud I managed. Thank you!
Wonderful points aside, the production value of this video is so amazing. It’s so nicely paced and concise, it’s visually pleasing and the music pairs really well with the content of the vid. I promise to try to break my phone addiction AFTER i subscribe and binge all ur vids lol
I stopped going on social media last year and apart from watching UA-cam when it's time to wind down for bed. I literally don't use anything else unless messaging friends/family. I just realised social media was getting more toxic and worse. I just don't want to be around people who want to drag me down anymore.
Y'all it's 2023. I'm addicted to my phone and I honestly feel like I'm missing out on life. We gotta get our lives back. Let's get our lives back
agree
Yes!
I am with u on this one... had a huge realization about today ago :D. I think I knew for a while, it just didn't dawn on me how bit of an issue this is.
you are missing out, throw it in a lake and go camping for a week
@@eliskadvorakova1717 I'm 25 in America with no friends. I use my phone and video games electronics in a way to hide or numb the pain of loneliness. But being addicted to rhese devices aren't making it any better
I just got a kindle and my main goal this year is whenever I notice I'm bored and reach for my phone, to instead grab my kindle and do some reading. Good luck to everyone else who's battling phone addiction in the new year, we got this 🥳
Good luck in trying to battle a reading addiction in the new year 2024 lol.
- A humble reader
@@riaa_xi lol but i would prefer a reading addiction to a social media app addiction.
I am using an app called Jomo to do just this! It blocks UA-cam on my phone until I manually complete an habit (right now, it's "reading something" but i change it from time to time). Ofc, I can have cheat days but the most important is that the app always brings me back to my commitment day after day 🤣
yoooo same! i've been doing the same recently
i am doing it since one year, enjoyyy
I love how honest you are. you aren’t trying to demean others like some UA-camrs do. instead of shaming people for being on their phones, you say like “hell yeah, I do it too!” and I love that.
@Barthoven lmfao
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what youtubers are you talking about? most of them doing these videos are struggling with the same issue, hence why they do the video.
shame isn't a bad thing. Its a tool, to my knowledge, used to help society. It's a bad thing the only shameful thing nowadays is to shame someone else. Not all behaviors, actions, habits, or beliefs are good or should be done and being social creatures some of us won't change those without society doing something like shaming us for it. We don't like the shame and embarrassment from our community so we go and change said behavior hopefully for a more healthy behavior or habit that is more accepted amongst our peers and community.
@@okami425 yeah I can see what you’re coming from and sometimes it works, but other times people see being shamed as an attack in a way and it just makes them conform to their bad behaviors more
I love the fact that you recognize, that people not only want to break their phone addiction to be more productive and do work. Sometimes what we miss because of shitty scrolling entertainment is actually good entertainment such as books or movies
Hei i wanted to ask you something. This is my day 1 no phone. But why im still depressed?
@@youdontknowwhoiam1243 You cannot expect Your brain to recover from years of addictions in just one day
@@youdontknowwhoiam1243 it will take a lot longer than that love 😭give it a few months and you'll feel a lot better
I think phones aren't addictive i think the apps which are in it are addictive if you agree....
What is the difference? The phone is about Apps :)
UA-cam , games , Instagram
@@aaa-y4p6y Not much difference i jst wanted to highlight the root cause....
Same difference
@@aaa-y4p6y a phone isnt an app
Personally I think it can just be the phone itself and not even social media. I deleted socials, all of them, and found myself scrolling on news sites, the weather, music, my notes, pictures, etc. As soon as I deleted a problem app I’d have another problem app without even realizing until I checked my weekly screentime. Worst part is, I’m very antisocial. I don’t respond to texts, emails, calls, for near weeks at a time. I just, get stuck in the comfort of doing nothing. Phone addiction is something that for people like me, a very serious problem that can only be fixed by completely removing the phone. Unfortunately that causes issues like not being able to bank, check in at the gym, clock in at work, etc. They’re just everything nowadays. I wish that employers and other people were more open to those who want to use flip phones but that’s just not an option for me. Hopefully with the help of therapy and treating some of my other mental health issues, my phone addiction will improve but damn, it is an awful thing humanity has created.
im sure theres apps where you can limit time on your phone in general, maybe try that ❤️ and find something a lot more exciting than scrolling through news articles
@@Lol-tr6cu yes! I have used a few apps, and gone away from the news. 😂 I went from 5 hours a day to 1.5 , but I still feel like that’s just too much now that I’ve realized how awful it is. Thank you for the tips! Haha
@@miaangeline9526 Wow. That's great!
Omg I relate so much to this. I deleted Instagramme because I was going through reels hours at a time. Then started that same thing with UA-cam (I hate shorts with a passion). I stopped doing that and instead at least consumed Essay videos that are interesting, and podcasts to inform myself while doing something else in the mean time. At least I’m sort of productive now.
But at work I read news when at break or rearrange my to dos…it’s so odd,
I’d love a flip phone but I just know a lot of people hate SMS and calling, and I still need maps and safari on the go ://
@@Lol-tr6cu the thing is..when you got mental health issues it can cause you losing interest in your hobbies and what you would usually like to do.
It’s so annoying.
I've gotten to the point where I hate being on UA-cam because I see nothing that interests me, everything bored me but I stay there because I feel obliged to do so because it's what I'm used/supposed to (be) doing at this point of the day. And that feeling gets mixed up with the whole "I'm too tired to do anything right now so I'll just binge watch UA-cam ad nauseam until I go to bed early and tomorrow I'll be more rested" spoiler alert: I never feel rested the day after because I couldn't sleep until 3am
I relate to this so much. I’ve been going through this too.
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Gabriel Hanssens
I have the same problem. Most of my days i spend on UA-cam. Maybe we can be accountability Partners?
So relatable and honestly it’s a really vicious cycle.
but you can also use UA-cam study🥰
Tutorial videos is good.
I just got a kindle and my main goal this year is whenever I notice I'm bored and reach for my phone, to instead grab my kindle and do some reading. Good luck to everyone else who's battling phone addiction in the new year, we got this 🥳
Hmm good
I do the same, but sometimes I just allow myself to get bored.
I really appreciate the scientific look at it because then I don't feel like crying over how much I hate myself for having a phone addiction. I just look at it technically and then feel more motivated to change. Thank you.
Youre young. You will have many addictions growing older, and you will have to break your heart limiting them. We all go through it.
@@mrbard1 thank you that's insightful
You can do it! I believe in you! Now don't reply to my comment and go do something that makes you happy. 😌
All jokes aside, you aren't at fault for being addicted. Many apps were literally designed to be addictive, a lot of the content on them - to be addictive especially to children. You shouldn't be blaming yourself, but instead the makers of the content & apps who are even willing to stoop so low to target kids. They designed the apps to have this effect on you, you weren't "weak" or "stupid" to get addicted to them. Most people would get addicted. Maybe the only ones that wouldn't are old people who aren't willing to use phones. But even then I know elderly people who use phones a lot.
So you shouldn't be blaming yourself, but instead you should be the one to help yourself get rid of that addiction. As I said earlier, I know you can do it and I believe in you! It might take time, but do it to make yourself happier.
I know this is a random comment & it might seem so strange that it's so personal, but I hope I can help. :c
"you're connected but alone" Hits hard
This is definitely something I want to change next year I absolutely hate how much time I spend on my phone and will definitely be using these tips to improve my addiction 🙏🏽
Why next year, just start now
@@ElClipster true
I think one of my problems is I don't hate it
I enjoy watching tiktoks, it's a way for me to get a laugh turn my brain off and stay up to date with the latest slang/trends
Will definitely swap that for reading a book before bed, just gotta find a book lol
@@odysseasenespanol It's fine if it's an hour ever now and then, but if you're spending 7-8 hours/day brainlessly scrolling on tik-tok, that's when it has become a problem. I am kind of in this situation right now, but I am starting to recover from it.
@@unsigned_var It's about 1-3 hours right now which honestly i was surprised it's this low... I've been going through a really rough time lately and it helps a lot to keep the dark thoughts away
1. bring awareness (knowing how much screen time etc.)
2. swapping old habits (for example change your lock screen to remind you of your goals + read more books)
3. environmental change (not charging your phone in your bedroom, don't have it next to your bed)
4. turn off notifications
5. try mindfulness
Thank you so much
Thank you
I really appreciate the scientific look at it because then I don't feel like crying over how much I hate myself for having a phone addiction. I just look at it technically and then feel more motivated to change. Thank you.
Um how???? Howww???? 5milion bruhhhh
I was so addicted to twitter, until I decided waking up with anxiety over an app is just not worth it. You really don't realize how much time you have to do better things until you distance yourself from social media. I hope to stick to it with other social medias!
Twitter is the most toxic thing ,it can lead anyone to depression and anxiety 😢
Something that I think might also be useful is to have a "commonplace notebook". I always find myself opening my phone and either forgetting what I was supposed to do or getting distracted just like the spotify example you gave lol. Using a commonplace notebook helped me a lot because there's nothing that could possibly distract me if all I needed to do is capture a thought or list something down. I think debloating my phone and switching to browser versions of apps also helped because I only check when I think I need to instead of whenever a notification pops up.
Thats a really smart idea!
what do you fill your notebook with? i feel like this is a simple solution but i just wouldn’t know what to write in it
@@selina8435 I pretty much use it as a notebook, sketchbook, bullet journal, scratch paper all in one place haha. you could put a to-do list, write down all the things you are grateful for, write a journal entry, draw something, list down the songs you want to learn on guitar, your goals for the day, take note of some motivational quote that you heard recently, grocery list, write down the things you need to for the character you're levelling up, anything really.
Also my common place notebook has removeable pages so I can easily remove the pages I used as scratch paper, rearrange pages however I like, and refill it with newer pages.
I hope this helps :)
Oh yes i have a notebook since 3 months now and it really helped me a lot ! I write whatever goes through my head in it, like vacations plans, chores for the next day, but i also really like to take notes from interesting videos like this one. It helped me a lot to be more aware of what I'm doing and what i want to do.
Deleting tiktok was the best decision I’ve made in 2022, maybe even the best decision ever
I thought it was for me too. And then every other form of social media added short form content.
@@RobotDude375 yeah I completely relate :(
anyone else been trying to stop for YEARS. i’ve been successful for weeks and months, but it slowly creeps back in.
Same here. I used to smoke cigarettes and this is WAY harder to quit. I always redownload. It’s making me depressed.
Thank you. I recently realized that all my problems I have (Sleep problems, School problems , emotional problems etc.). That all comes from social media. I always thought that social media would help me out and it only satisfied me, it made me feel like im in a different world. But actually all this started because of social media. I don't have many online friends (2) , I have more rl friends and I'm proud of that. But still hearing how one of my friend is on her phone for only 1 hour a day makes me think if I should try that too. And I will. I want to. I want to make my dreams come true. I only played them in my head and I always said to my self "I'm going to start tomorrow" and did I do it ? No. I was on social media. I want to change that. I have a love for books and I have soooo many that I want to read but I always get distracted by my phone. I want to make my dreams come true. I want to be proud of myself and even (maybe) cure my problems! Cause also because of social media I had to fight through some deep depression last year that I luckily managed to control a little bit.
I just want to say that it is never late to start and if you think of starting it.. then do it now..in the future you will regret not doing it earlier.
Like me I want to be a dancer , a pro handball player and an artist! All this ! But have I started practicing? No. That's why I will start now. Start my dream.
I wish everyone a happy new year and stay healthy ^^
I believe in you!
i’m still working on my phone addiction. my first step was deleting tik tok and HOLY SHIT i feel so much better already.
A tip for people, if you like art or writing, carry a sketchbook around with you. Instead of going on your phone, draw something. If you still want to go on social media, find things you actually enjoy and give yourself 30 mins-1hr of it a day, (you can use screen time on your phone).
I really like this idea
Thank you for this
I have an Instagram addiction. I don’t mind going on my iPad to read, to write or draw, but the endless Instagram consumption is driving me mad. Any advice on what to do? Aside from just deleting the app altogether? I think the only things keeping me on there is wanting to get news on things I'm interested in (so for example, Disney, what movies they're bringing out, what new products they have) also sometimes I get inspiration for things, but honestly that is RARE, and lastly there are maybe like 2 or 3 online friends I speak to, one of whom I'd like to be sure I stay in touch with.
@@mckenzieeliza You could give yourself 30 mins a day and put a screen time limit on it? You can also pick a time (lets say after work/school) and then go on it for 20-30 minutes, and be like "hey! That's enough for today". I'm not sure if this is helpful, but good luck!
I'm working on my addiction. It's not the phone but it's definitely the apps that are at fault. They are literally designed to have our attention. I quit Instagram earlee this year but youtube has definitely been pretty hard.
I think because of the pandemic people have become less social for obvious reasons but it would be something easier to overcome if EVERYONE as a collective would work on their addictions.
You might be working hard to change but when you start seeing those around you are actually where you were a month ago, it's hard to make new friends or have a genuine conversation now. Everyone is in their phones.
I remember a time when there were no apps. It was indeed an amazing time.
Damn john chill- though you 100% have a point here, both of you do. Social media IS designed to be addictive (like how tf is short form scrollable content about mind less things that dont even 'exist' or function the same in the real world healthy ؟؟؟؟) BUT at the same time any app can be used for good ex: yt i mean theres so many stuff you can learn here lol from cooking to making a car engine from houshold stuff haha. I think ya really need to look a little further into how drugs affect the brain and addiction develope, you will see that it is pretty similar to drugs in a way, but obviously not something like meth lamo more like vapes ect they are still shit for you but not impossible to quit if you put your mind to it! Anyways happy new year!
@John Klein Okay Karen.
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@John Klein i can tell youre some millennial who thinks they know everything 🤮
I don’t agree with the person above basically placing 100% of the blame on you since apps *are* designed to be addictive and we’ve also been conditioned to spend lots of time in our phones. However, I don’t understand why that would inhibit you from making friends.
People aren’t always on their phone and everyone (or pretty much everyone) actually has hobbies and real life interests too, so you should be able to connect with people regardless, even if you can’t post them on your Instagram stories. I think you’re blaming social media for something that you actually do have control over.
@@belf16 Because how are you supposed to start a conversation when people have their noses buried in their phones? As a mom, it's even harder because I know why they do it so it's virtually impossible to make friends these days.
We're a generation more interested in showing ourselves than knowing ourselves.
It's really important to have a goad, or a point of doing something. You will spend much less energy doing something with goal, rather than menaninglessly.
Make/create a goal, and will have much mmore energy left to do other things.
Thank you, Ruri!
"we are connected but alone" I felt that.
The things I have keep in my routine is mindfulness , reading book and association
The things I trouble with is digital distractions I spend over time than I aspect for my day and night.
Crazy helpful , thanks so much Ruri Ohama I just follow you . Can’t wait to watch your next video !!
I'm in middle school and I already really struggle with putting my phone down. I always say that I'll do something tomorrow, but it never happens. Thank you for the tips. It really helps!
My 2023 New Year's Resolution was to stop being on my phone and work on myself. I just didn't know how to start. You don't know how thankful I am for you to make this video. Thank you, have a good day! :)
Because of my addiction, I did some stupid things that now I regret. In the past two months, I have realized the true cost of my addiction, and I hope to get my life back. Thank you for this video.
I think one thing that works good is to create a daily life you will be happy with. Because a lot of social media addiction is an escape from diffoculties in life.
I try to trick myself into thinking time on social media is productive… getting rid of notifications, catching up, gathering inspiration. But, I then spend too much time ‘consuming’ and not creating and doing. Sometimes it’s easier to live our lives through others… watching through screens and not ‘experiencing’ life. I really want to get better at lowering my screen time. Good luck to everyone trying this too 💜
making your screen black and white definitely effects the attractiveness of your phone. you know when you look at those bright colors the dopamine hits way harder. ive just started using my phone that way myself and my screentime decreased automatically. everyone should give it a try
I want to live differently. I REALLY MEAN IT.
thank you so much.
I am 13 and I have horrible social media addiction. For many months I didn't even realise it!! I was just doing everything my friends, cousins, people around my age were doing.
But at some point I saw these habits changing me into the worse side. I was always doing all my homework and even more. Now I usualy try to do it but one or two asignments are still left unfinished. My room was always clean. Now it's messy almost all the time. I had perfect routine: some calming music is playing in the background, I'm cleaning mess that formed during the day. After that I read and went to bed. Now I would go to sleep at about 1 in the morning!! My grades became much lower.
And than I became friends with one girl who never had a phone. Her parents will get her one than she will attend university. And I saw how bright she was. That she was actually real. How she absolutely adored books!!
And now I see that something must change. Thank you so much, have a great day!!
@@vis5462 thanks!!! I really hope you can deal with your problems. And I really get the concentration thing. It's VERY hard for me to concentrate sometimes.
Have a great day 😁
I quit social media about one year ago, and my sense of self-control and happiness really skyrocketed.
I remember when I and my wife went to a restaurant where they had a singer event,
My wife was so busy taking photos and snapchatting. I was busy enjoying the food and the place vibes.
The next day in the morning I still had the happiness of that evening,
my wife was trapped in her Snapchat memories and busy answering her friend's direct messages.
Love the way you present this problem. No shaming, just understanding
“Active but ineffective” is the best way that I have heard the feeling be describe of how it feels to end a day of using tech. At college, when I had free time, it all went you UA-cam and video games. Sometimes engulfing entire days if it’s the weekend. And when the day was done, it was depressing even thought I felt like I was having an enjoyable experience throughout the day. That’s how I’m gonna describe it from now on. Thank you so much for this video!
my phone addiction has made my attention span so short. i literally can't focus on stuff for long and i literally get so bored easily. i feel like i don't have any real interests anymore cause of the overindulgence of media i take in daily. last week i literally had a total of 65 hours per week. i need to change.
The focus comes back
the addiction is really hard to overcome. i have stopped all social media usage for a little over 3 weeks now i still check my DMs once every week so i don’t accidentally ignore my friends that i can’t contact elsewhere. i’m pretty happy with my self control so far, i don’t feel any « withdrawal » symptoms or urges to check tiktok even tho i have it on my phone. unfortunately i think i may have compensated with youtube…i’m pretty sure the time i spend on yt skyrocketed since i like listening to videos as background noise. it’d be good if there was a platform with random documentaries or just gibberish that sounds like a very boring presentation just so i can focus on my tasks while still feeling like i’m procrastinating
i found that reading books helped me regulate my sleep schedule a lot better…it depends on the book but the physical aspect of holding a book, no matter how interesting it is, will always get me tired from holding it, changing positions so i can be comfortable, adapting to the dim light in my room etc so 100% of the time i’ll end up sleeping earlier than i would’ve if i was using my phone
to anyone struggling with the addiction, good luck! you can start by reducing your screen time every day or try finding something more interesting. try not using it outside or while in the public transport, it do be boring sometimes but being bored isn’t a bad thing and far from abnormal, being overstimulated and constantly producing dopamine on the other hand is what’s abnormal.
i’m not gonna lie, it IS hard but the more you resist it the easier it gets.
there’s an app called musi i think, that’s basically youtube, like it had all the videos that are posted to youtube but it can play with your ohone off
my screen time is 10 hours even on a school day where phones are taken away. i’m so addicted, i really wish to begin my reading journey again
This video came at the right time as I was starting my detox, in social media, I just consume videos from now on.
The reason why I use my phone a lot is because everything is in it. My calendar, my notes, my reminders, my tasks, and etc are on it. Even my money managing, Quran and prayer times are in it. I use it as a productivity machine. And I constantly try to find new apps to improve my productivity.
i really need this rn. my social media addiction is at the point where i'm constantly procrastinating on my real life work. i often don't work at all when i'm supposed to be working from home. the lockscreen idea is great and i'll try it first
I was planning to stop my social media or phone addiction, but I saw your channel and here I am again watching and watching your videos lol. Btw, you really have a great content
I'm addicted to using the comments section on UA-cam. I spent most of my time making a comment on videos, reading the comments, replying to comments and replying to replies. I don't know how to stop this, it's a habit for me
You're so motivating ! You push us to be better persons and that's really cool.
Let's all become better versions of ourselves together
I haven't had social media in about 8 years and I have never been less attracted to it. I walk down the street or through the gym and just see people staring down with no attention to their surroundings.
If you are young generation so you are wise. It's good that there are people who just enjoy doing things without social media.
Leaving social media was my best decision
Thanks for the video!
I'm a 19 years old guy from Kazakhstan (near with Russia), and I have a phone addiction too. It's so bad, cause last 2 years I feel how my life pointless passes. It was a 2 week since I deleted most of my social network apps, unless messengers for a talking with my homies and family. Also, I've finally started learn english language with serials and videos like this, so sorry if I writed something wrong or not correct. Hope all of us can deal with this addiction together!
Удачи! Я верю в тебя
That's so inspiring! Your English is really good
Your English is good 👍👍. The only mistake you made is past of write is "wrote" and you typed "writed"
Сериалы на английском будут series, а не serials, buddy. :)
cool keep it up 🇹🇷❤️🇰🇿
I think this is it this is where I stop wasting my life away
This video really helped me to find out that I’m too much addicted on my phone. Now that I accept it… I’ll try my best to get over it so I deleted all of my social media accounts for 2 weeks so let’s try it !
Good on you for bringing this up!
The little kids with phones will have the hardest time.
Excellent video Ruri! The things you talk about goes beyond phone addiction.
You feel active but inefficient, connected but alone.
I really llike this and i like how u distinguished mindless scrolling and social media usage vs. intentionally using technology, i really hope to improve this next year, not just with my phone but also my computer.
Thankfully I realized this as soon as now. (I'm 17 so I have a life ahead of me that I won't waste scrolling all the time. I only regret not doing it 15 or 16 years old so I had better teenage years
It's strange but sometimes I'm doing meaningful meaningfulness scrolling. Like I'm giving myself this pleasure of just doing nothing but learning new things random and getting inspired
IS NOBODY GONNA TALK ABOUT HOW GORGEOUS SHE IS????
i always wanted to spend less time on my phone, but i always didn't have enough motivation to do something instead. but this video really motivates me to do something about my addiction. thank you :)
I love the kindle idea it’s so smart, we are so used to our phone and how easy it is to transport its a great replacement
I don't have a phone addiction but looking at you will prevent me from being aware of what's happening around me...
You should try cocaine
A while ago I deleted TikTok. In the first days I always searched for something on my phone, even though I didn't even know what. Whenever I was bored I used to open TikTok and scroll around. I'm so glad I got rid of it
One of my goal is to reduce the content I consume. I can't avoid social medias 100% because I really do enjoy them but I want to consume less and make more. So instead of just scrolling mindlessly, I want to focus on my creativity and provide content. I feel like, this way, I can still be part of social medias but in a more proactive way and lessen the amount of time I spend just scrolling. Let see where this takes me :)
I watched this video a couple of days ago, and I’ve just gotta say turning off the notifications social media (in my case youtube) has helped me a ton! I’ve been trying to get off of it for a while now and its really helped and I just wanted to come back and say thank you!
My problem with quitting my addiction to things like social media and pinterest and even spotify that it's not always useless content, all of it is chosen by me so its mostly good or useful. Quality memes, interesting or informative articles (mostly) and good art and music, but the apps are designed in a way they make you consume these in the most shallow way possible for countless hours, even when you don't enjoy it, until you get tired of whole artforms and get depressed. And a compilation of your favourite content is definitely not more important than doing creative things and getting inspiration from that, reading books or socializing.
The solution would be installing separate apps for reading news and articles. And also the intent thing and putting books to places are really good ways of beating the addiction. Before having a phone, as a child I used to read the textbooks in random places the same way I read internet content now, we could have way less mental problems like depression and more educated people by simply putting books into peoples hands lol.
Agree mostly, but please be aware ADHD is not a mental problem, it's a cognitive difference, and is not caused by a lack of reading - it's mostly genetic. In fact, I and others I know with ADHD are the biggest readers I know, and always have been. This attitude is not helpful.
I edited it now, because ADHD isn't the same as the 0 attention span people develop, idk why I left that part that oversimplified.
Those concerns you had with losing valuable and good content is something I worried about as well. I decided to delete the majority of my social media apps, except UA-cam. I worried that I would be missing out on important political news via instagram and Twitter, and I am. But for me, the cost of addiction outweighed the benefit of information. I’ve chosen to get my news from less addictive sources, even though I know I have sacrificed the ability to get news specific to my area and causes I care about. Instead I’m focusing on my studies. I get a lot of information that way.
ty for making me understand that reading books is way more interesting than scrolling my phone for hours, i always thought reading books that give u no knowledge is useless but it is honestly better than social media. tysm , take care
I slowly started to lower my social media consumption and i swear i feel so much better after i deleted apps like snap and instagram.Like a refreshed version of my self with less doubt and more confident.It might take long but it‘s definitely worth it trust me
My screen time used to be 12 hours a day on average. Just being aware of it caused me to lower that. My goal is 4 hours or less!
How is it going? Did you reach your goal? xoxo
@@Vicky-cp8yl That's my 2023 goal. Currently down to 9 hours so far haha! Having a morning routine cut down my morning scrolling. Still trying to practice hopping out of bed right when I wake up
@@TheNinjapancake14 That's amazing! Little by little you''ll reach your goal! Lots of love x
Wow, I loved this video, really, you inspire me with those phrases, our actual society is so lost, that's why it's so important has people as you.
Thank you, and never stop those videos.
I lit haven't even watched the video yet, but by looking at the comments i can relate to everyone. We need to stop over using social media, and start also to connect with real people as a society again!
I remember getting my first phone as a teenager, and it was a cheap brick with a numpad. I loved it. These days, I see small children with iPhone 14's and I just feel like we've failed as a race
Got an e-reader for christmas and found it actually easy to reduce time on my phone by downloading a few books and reaching for them whenever I don't have anything to do. On the bus or train I now often spend time listening to audio books.
Thanks so much for this video, I have ADHD, and I feel social media especially preys on people like me. Let's all attempt to get our lives back!
謝謝！Ruri can give me much idea to practice in real life. Not only productivity, but also re think my habits.
Thank you for your like.
2023 and I'll change myself for good
Its 2023 4months to 2024! Any changes??
Not good not bad... Had massive mental attack from month of Feb to June since I lost my contact with one of the closest person of my life. Then I got into study and sometimes I sleep for like 20-24 hours idk why and sometimes I had no sleep, while someday I study for like 12 hours while someday I do none. I'm not consistent with my stuff which i really used to love doing.. I have lost interest in many parts of my life and sometimes get massive amount of urges, I lost to it.
I'm still working on myself
I miss when I was homeless and backpacking in a way because I was always using my phone to learn about plants and just exploring and being spontaneous, it was so fun and adventurous. But I couldn't earn money and my health suffered because I didn't have a stable shelter, so I had to switch to having a full time job and apartment. It's nice to feel secure and have better health, but my mental health has worsened too. And my phone isn't so much an important tool as it is numbing me from my heartbreak and confusion. I wish I could have the same feelings of adventure and excitement that I had when homeless, but still earn money and be housed
I think God sent you as a message to me, I have so many things I want to learn and do but my addiction is holding me back, it even took a toll on my grades. 2 weeks ago I deleted tiktok it's to addictive and I don't think I will be downloading it back in a long time. This new year I really want to make a change in my habits and I hope to become why smarter than I am when I start my reading habit. Thank you so much. I hope to learn new languages as well.
Same,Gods got us through it all this year and forevermore,we’re destined for greatness we just gotta get a grip of this addiction,AND WE WILL
Quitting social media was one of the best decisions I ever made for my mental health and overall well-being. At first, I was skeptical, fearing I'd miss out or feel disconnected. But stepping away from the constant noise, comparison, and validation-seeking, I found a profound sense of peace and clarity. These my life is filled with genuine connections, meaningful experiences, and uninterrupted focus on personal growth. If you're contemplating a social media detox, I highly encourage you to give it a try. You might be surprised by the positive impact it can have on your life. Trust me, the freedom is life changing.
i did it for 4 months, it's pretty hard before you find your flow through your day, personally found it harder than quitting cigarettes.
I wasted the first month of 2023. But I'll start being more productive and live my life. Thank you very much
Hi, Ruri I just wanna say thank you because you changed my life completely. I applied your tips and it worked. My days are so balanced I'm thankful for all your advice. I used to hate studying I was depressed and I successfully recovered from most of my mental illnesses and now I enjoy studying. I stopped procrastination and I started to read again. So yeah that you for everything and keep going I hope the best for you.❤️
(Sorry if I wrote something incorrectly English is not my first language).
ahh i’m so happy for u i hope i will be able to do it too! how many days ago did you start this ?
@Usernamee I started on January 15th
@@usernamee7504 I'm cheering for you good luck 🎉
Thank you for this video. In 2021, I deleted all my social media apps and didn't use them for almost a week because my mental health was getting bad from all the hate I see on the internet. I can honestly say that I felt so much happier at the end of the week and I was much more productive. I hope that I can learn to limit my meaningless screen-time and scrolling on my phone again. My current daily average is nearly 8 hours, I would love to reduce to at least 5 hours.
I failed my uni test because while giving the test i had this constant urge to stop and check my phone there was this constant thought in my subconscious to look for the phone. My addiction is getting really bad 😭💔
Thank you sm for this video. Social medias I had before: instagram, tiktok, snapchat, youtube and pinterest. Now : youtube and pinterest. These two are important to me. UA-cam I use to watch subliminals, listen to thewizardliz and school stuff. Pinterest I use for inspiration bc I'm an artist and it's really helpful. I've deleted the apps since a bit now, and I do so many new things that are good for me now. I read mangas instead of watching anime, I go on a walk for 30-60 minutes everyday, I care about school more and I do exercises (since I'm very unhealthy and I never wanted to realize it but now I know better). I hope ya'll are doing good
I‘d love to see you follow these steps! More motivation if we do the challenge as a community :)
i haven't use social media since 2019 now.. best choice of my life
I love this video. Currently trying to cure my social media addiction
I don't think the problem lies in an individual level (its our fault, etc.). But more about how the social media apps are created in a way that you get addicted, trying to maximise the time you use those apps, even hiring teams of psicologists. Being more apparent if you learn that these apps make all their money from ads and selling our data (to sell more ads).
Online friendships emotionally drained me so I'm here fr help lol ..!!
omg same wtf
I'm addicted to using the comments section on UA-cam. I spent most of my time making a comment on videos, reading the comments, replying to comments and replying to replies. I don't know how to stop this, it's a habit for me
I deleted all social media’s 3 weeks ago and I feel so much better. I know it’s hard to just delete it but just do it it’s better.
Good luck if your trying to have a break from social media
Yepp this was the only way for me, I was struggling with the self control of not opening the app now I have to go to my computer which makes it more of an obstacle
I've had this video in my watch later list since it came out. Every time it came up I skipped it because I knew it would make me rethink watching videos and in that moment i just wanted to watch things because I didn't know what else to do with my time, or didn't want to get up. After trying this challenge I realized that I am dependent not only on my phone but on all entertainment because I'm either too lazy or to distracted to do anything else. What has really helped me is environment building my entire day. Put water by your bed at night so you will drink it in the morning, keep your charging areas far from your activity areas, put your remote or your mouse away every time you get of a device so getting back on is just as hard as finding something else to do.
Love this! Great content and ideas! I definitely am way more mindful these days with my phone. I don't look at my phone before bed, after I get out of bed, and when I am with other people. Just minor changes like that have made a huge difference in my life and my relationship with others.
2024 . I shared to my students this video. We can really learn a lot from this. Subscribed too. Thank you!
Another Ruri video that makes people pleased! Followers love this very clever and cool girl! Isn’t it quite impressive that she provides just most essential information each and every time. And she’s doing it in a very cordial and cool way! I think That’s the reason why Ruri’s videos has got an addiction effect!
Thank you so much!
@@ruriohama That’s my true feeling! I’m really happy to watch your way of success! Till the end l’ll be one of your subscribers!😊
I used to be madly addicted to my phone when I was in the primary school to a point I had no friends in school 'cause I was using my phone the whole time. When I went to high school I learned my lesson, deleted all my social media, ditched texting for hours and instead I only text once a day, in the evening and that's it. I started doing a whole lot of things to pursue self growth like learning two new languages, writing poems, books and actually develop an affection for studying, doing notes and aesthetic surroundings. I called it a success. And I'm so proud of myself, especially because all those changes resulted in forming a great CV that makes me stand out in many workplaces. Making a change is important and the effects are real.
Sadly, about a year ago I developed another addiction. It's not an addition of phone as a whole but rather specifically Tiktok. I could spend there hours and hours endlessly, which made all my efforts from the past left untouched. I stopped learning anything new, stopped even writing, I was just staring at the devil and couldn't stop. I downloaded a screen limiter that would forbid me to be on Tiktok for more than 20 minutes per day. I tried my best to start doing all the things I fell in love with, however, what's even more concerning, when I run out of time on Tiktok, I open UA-cam Shorts. The development of all those kind of apps where you just scroll endlessly is deadly to my attempts. I tried to look for a way to close UA-cam Shorts permanently but no results. Apparently, you can't do that. And I don't know how to come back to life! Now all I have is my willpower but as you said, it's difficult running only on this specifically
I feel like the best thing to do is to delete it completely; when you get 20 min of fast easy dopamine access ur brain will want to continue getting this easy dopamine but if your brain is not even used to get this type of dopamine the urge will become less. Nevertheless it is completely okay that you are struggling with this kind of Probleme again, our improvement is never linear and I know how easy it is to loose hope and motivation if you already have gotten better
@@givem3aflower just after writing this comment I deleted Tiktok completely and you're absolutely right, it helped me to surpass the urge to open UA-cam Shorts and yesterday I haven't watched any of these, so I'm proud I managed. Thank you!
Wonderful points aside, the production value of this video is so amazing. It’s so nicely paced and concise, it’s visually pleasing and the music pairs really well with the content of the vid. I promise to try to break my phone addiction AFTER i subscribe and binge all ur vids lol
Omg thank you😭😭💕 this video took me ages😪
Love the Vivienne Westwood necklace and love how honest u are about ur own habits in everyday life.
The part towards the end where you discuss the paradox of making small improvements was super interesting, although obvious in hindsight
thanks ruri .u r the best psychologist.
I stopped going on social media last year and apart from watching UA-cam when it's time to wind down for bed. I literally don't use anything else unless messaging friends/family. I just realised social media was getting more toxic and worse. I just don't want to be around people who want to drag me down anymore.
I'm glad you gave us tips, that's what I need. If I just try to stop using my phone without a plan, it doesn't work.