1. Success is not a zero sum game. 2. You can't make your parents happy. They can't even make themselves happy. 3. Happiness is an inside job. i. Suffering from displacement fantasy or destination anxiety. ii. Only if you are true about how you feel can you truly heal. 4. The lesson keeps presenting itself until it has been learned. i. Doesn't happen to you but for you. 5. You don't have to do things perfectly. You have to try to do better as a collective.
I love the one about your parents. I think we often forget like you said that our parents are just trying to figure everything out as well. Life is complicated enough as is.
“what’s travel and what good is it? any sunset is the sunset; one doesn’t have to go to constantinople to see it. the sensation of freedom that travel brings? i can have it by going from lisbon to benfica, and have it more intensely than one who goes from lisbon to china, because if the freedom isn’t in me, then i won’t have it no matter where i go. (...) no matter how high we climb or how low we descend, we never escape our sensations. we never disembark from ourselves. we never attain another existence unless we other ourselves by actively, vividly imagining who we are.” -Fernando Pessoa
I'm so happy that you quoted Pessoa, I'm Portuguese and he's one of our most loved poets. Everything he ever wrote was beautiful, I wish everyone could read his works in Portuguese.
Mostly in videos like this people say the same thing you hear everywhere...and you don't get anything worthy from them, but this is amazing! You're giving us some real advice!!! THANK YOU AMY!!! I hope this year we all get more healthy - both physically and mentally!
When u said that life keeps giving u people w some treats in common until u learn the lession and are able to level up ,,,,,,,, this shh hit HARD and is so true in my opinion !! Now that I unlocked level 2 I can clearly see it ♡
Recently the first mindset has really hit me. My mom always criticized everyone and doesn't trust anyone but that can be a lonely mindset. Even with success, it's better to learn how to collaborate with others. So I'm learning it doesn't have to be a dog eat dog world.
I’m a 21 year old, about to move to a new city and the whole displacement fantasy was something that was on my mind for weeks now. It’s made me want to seek therapy more and be even more open to trying out new things and actively seeking new experiences, knowing my fears of being stuck in my room feeling anxious and lonely in a foreign city. It’s made me more aware that yes, the same anxiety and depression will stick with me and so too will there be problems no matter where I go. But at least I know now I won’t be oblivious to it and rather learn to adapt and conquer it myself. That’s what comes with independence I suppose and you’ve made me more and more excited for this new experience so thank you :)
"problems are forever" - re-listened to this and everything you said in relation to it five times now. Just yesterday I questioned everything, my job, what I'm doing etc. But it's stupid to think everything will be better once I do have a new job. That's simply not the root of the problem. So simple and yet so eye opening! Thank you Amy xxx
It’s also worth mentioning that leaving an abusive environment for a new one is NOT destination fantasy. I moved out of my dad’s recently and I truly believe that my new apartment is my own, my sacred space, my refuge that I sought to get away from abuse. Just wanted to get this point out there so others in a similar situation don’t feel invalidated.
You are full of wisdom and kindness and I hope someday I can grow in to someone similar to you. Thanks for giving us such good food for thought ❤️ happy new year
I'm definitely watching this a few times. Excellent video. The bit about just learning the lesson rather than repeating the behaviour, really hit home. Writing it out makes it seem like it should be basic common sense, but it wasn't lol. Not for me anyway. Really need to be more self-aware. I loved this whole video. Thank you for making it.
Number 5 speaks the most to me. I need to remind myself all the time that it’s important to try your hardest, but don’t knock yourself down if you don’t get it 100% right!!
This is amazing, you talk about a lot of things that are similar to my religion which is the baha’i faith it’s great and it restates and suggests unity between all humans ❤️
Thank you so much for being so willing to share your insight on life. Your helpful words encourage me to continue with building awareness for mental illness and to build my brand based on personal experience. I suffer from Borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder and PCOS. Life is not easy, but you help me to remember how to find the good in my self and in my life. I love you and your channel. Thank you for existing.
I am watching this during lockdown and the detachment of the situation has brought a lot of past things into my life in a new, making me observe situations ive been struggling with for months, slowly putting them into a new perspective. Your words touched me greatly and really felt like they were coming from the warmth and genuineness of a friend. Thank you for speaking your truth and helping others while learning and growing yourself.
I always think "shes underrated" then i see the amount of subscribers and im like "oh ok" youre so down to earth and chill like a small ass youtuber but sis is a whole successful channel. I just love your personality sis
Literally it’s 4:31am I’m awake due to my mind just overthinking about problems but hey your channel helped a lot especially this video, thank you so much. 💗
you are probably one of the few creators on this platform that i feel like i can truly connect to and feel spiritually in tune with. thank you for helping me figure things out
watching your videos has changed my perspective on life into a much more positive one and i'm starting to notice the common mistakes i used to make, so thank you!
Really have been resinating with the destination anxiety one. No destination of a materialistic achievement or any for that matter can relieve or take away all unhappiness or problems. It can be temporary moment of happiness or satisfaction. But, yes problems are never ending. It's what keeps us on our toes, and has us continuing to figure them out and grow/improve ourselves.
I love you amy 😭 I'm not joking. I just finished college and got my license and now I'm looking for a job and it's really hard for me right now and I always watch your videos again and again so I could be reminded of your advices. So thankful at how you talk about these things 💗
Man I just wanna cry. This video was fantastic. I'm in love with your knowledge and passion for improvement. Your advice on pleasing parents hit the hardest. I'm 20 and I feel like I cant be who/what they need me to be all the time and that I'm stifling my own growth but dont want to admit it. I bet you have the best late night conversations with people - you're so inspiring. Thank you for your channel.
Wow. I'm very glad you popped up in my recommendations tonight. I was just coming to terms with the fact my dad is a high functioning alcoholic. And he's been like that forever, was just too young and blind to see. And I cannot have it hold me back. Especially after trying to do or say what I could. Thanks
Such an amazing video. So true about how people pick up their lives and move somewhere to 'start new' but in reality they're just going to a new place but taking themselves and their problems with them.
your videos are always the best!!!! can’t wait to start this new year with a different mindset,, also quick comment, we are not entering a new decade, we’re entering the end of the decade lol the decade doesn’t end till 2021.
Thanks so much for this amazing thoughts for new 2020 year. I really like your words about out parents, because it is the main problem of my stress and depression. I really will try to use your habit in my real life. Thanks, Amy)💞
This is a lovely insight into mindful mantras to adopt. I agree with all of these and something I've lived by is that every day is a new beginning and the possibilities for today are endless.
I love your videos since I was on highschool like 4 years ago and even if I don't have enough free time to watch all of them I always try to listen to u while doing the chores or things like that and sometimes I even repeat some parts to focus on what u just said! i have two personal mindsets relatively new in my daily life and those are: 1st don't be too hard on myself and adopt more a 'slowly but surely' way of working to fight against anxiety of doing everything perfectly and learn that most of the times things don't go as we thought and that's ok I just have to be more adaptive, and 2nd is to don't let others consume my happiness and grow up from every relationship/friendship I have. anyways, happy 2♡2♡
I really feel I connect with you and your way of life. I admire the way you use your platform to spread such wisdom and positivity. I appreciate your being and your channel!
Such a great video. I love that this video was put out for the world on the first of the year (although I am watching it today 02/26). I need to change my mindset because I have been in this place of "unknown" for years now and I feel lost. This video helped me a bit better with a sense of direction.
Hey Amy, I know you went to uni and in the case you are paying off debt those videos are so inspirational too, like Aja Dang. Transparency about money is very insightful and interesting ✨💕
I really enjoyed this video, I think you are very stray forward and I love that. You are helping me at this moment in my life, thank you. You are beautiful
i needed this so bad ! I really think its crazy how your content always come at the right time when i need it and actually has an effect over my mindset your tips literally always have an impact on me wherther it validates what i thought or suggests & helps me to spot mecanisms i can work on about myself thank you so much
It’s so true that those expectations that other put on us is can make us feel so bad and sometimes you internaliseren without realizing. That’s why I love affirmations! On my UA-cam Channel I make affirmation video’s to help people get rid of the selftalk others put on them 🌹
I've seen a lot of videos about this topic but this is the only one I feel like all the things mentioned could really be life changing. I'll definitely write them down in my bullet journal as a reminder. Please consider starting a Podcast in 2020. :)
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽yes the video is so true. Your points hit home. Thank you for this video, i needed to see it today💞💞😁
One of my favorite qotes is
"If you dont heal you bleed on the people that didn't cut you"
Lily F ♥️
Wow, that's a wonderful quote. Do you remember where or who the quote is from by any chance?
1. Success is not a zero sum game.
2. You can't make your parents happy. They can't even make themselves happy.
3. Happiness is an inside job.
i. Suffering from displacement fantasy or destination anxiety.
ii. Only if you are true about how you feel can you truly heal.
4. The lesson keeps presenting itself until it has been learned.
i. Doesn't happen to you but for you.
5. You don't have to do things perfectly. You have to try to do better as a collective.
Mithi Akanksha A+ note taking 😉
please start a podcast i love you so much and love hearing your wise words !
this YEAR!
@@amy_lee OMG, 2020 just got whole lot better.
cypheryerim please do I’m for it
AMY LEE do ittt
I literally was about to comment the exact same thing wow
“The same lesson keeps repeating itself until the lesson is learned.” WHEWWWW !!!!
I love the one about your parents. I think we often forget like you said that our parents are just trying to figure everything out as well. Life is complicated enough as is.
Millie Rouge yes and their parents were and their parents’ parents were too! just life ✊🏽
“what’s travel and what good is it? any sunset is the sunset; one doesn’t have to go to constantinople to see it. the sensation of freedom that travel brings? i can have it by going from lisbon to benfica, and have it more intensely than one who goes from lisbon to china, because if the freedom isn’t in me, then i won’t have it no matter where i go.
(...) no matter how high we climb or how low we descend, we never escape our sensations. we never disembark from ourselves. we never attain another existence unless we other ourselves by actively, vividly imagining who we are.”
-Fernando Pessoa
I'm so happy that you quoted Pessoa, I'm Portuguese and he's one of our most loved poets. Everything he ever wrote was beautiful, I wish everyone could read his works in Portuguese.
willy wonka The book of disquiet is a masterpiece, I also hope that everyone will read this book someday!
your content is life changing 🥺♥️
Yiyiih Shah 😀😀😀😀😀
Literally this it iss
Mostly in videos like this people say the same thing you hear everywhere...and you don't get anything worthy from them, but this is amazing! You're giving us some real advice!!! THANK YOU AMY!!! I hope this year we all get more healthy - both physically and mentally!
thank you for giving me a safe space to share!!
100000% agree
you’ve helped me in so many ways, thank you, truly.
virginie villemaire thank you for giving me a safe space to share!!
I was having a very bad existential new year crisis and this video make me feel so much better, motivated and less lonely. Thank you 💕
Daiana Diaz thank YOU for writing to me, sending strength n positivity your way Daiana
do you read often? if so what are your favorite books? you’re really wise
bettina bedicks my favo would always be house on mango street
When u said that life keeps giving u people w some treats in common until u learn the lession and are able to level up ,,,,,,,, this shh hit HARD and is so true in my opinion !! Now that I unlocked level 2 I can clearly see it ♡
Mars here’s to unlocking many more levels ;-)
Traits* treats ?????
I love her style: her clothes, hair, and makeup. Also, this video is so necessary! Such important thoughts said beautifully and articulately.
Recently the first mindset has really hit me. My mom always criticized everyone and doesn't trust anyone but that can be a lonely mindset. Even with success, it's better to learn how to collaborate with others. So I'm learning it doesn't have to be a dog eat dog world.
I’m a 21 year old, about to move to a new city and the whole displacement fantasy was something that was on my mind for weeks now. It’s made me want to seek therapy more and be even more open to trying out new things and actively seeking new experiences, knowing my fears of being stuck in my room feeling anxious and lonely in a foreign city. It’s made me more aware that yes, the same anxiety and depression will stick with me and so too will there be problems no matter where I go. But at least I know now I won’t be oblivious to it and rather learn to adapt and conquer it myself. That’s what comes with independence I suppose and you’ve made me more and more excited for this new experience so thank you :)
"problems are forever" - re-listened to this and everything you said in relation to it five times now. Just yesterday I questioned everything, my job, what I'm doing etc. But it's stupid to think everything will be better once I do have a new job. That's simply not the root of the problem. So simple and yet so eye opening! Thank you Amy xxx
I really liked the first one: "Success is not a zero sum game". Thank you so so so much
thank YOU for stopping by and tuning in 💕💕💕
It’s also worth mentioning that leaving an abusive environment for a new one is NOT destination fantasy. I moved out of my dad’s recently and I truly believe that my new apartment is my own, my sacred space, my refuge that I sought to get away from abuse. Just wanted to get this point out there so others in a similar situation don’t feel invalidated.
You are full of wisdom and kindness and I hope someday I can grow in to someone similar to you. Thanks for giving us such good food for thought ❤️ happy new year
Dasuni thank you! i’m always learning how to be more patient and kinder. sending you much love your way 💕😀
I looove watching your self-help videos in the morning with my cup of tea. Makes my day 10x better haha THANK YOU AMY.
I'm definitely watching this a few times. Excellent video. The bit about just learning the lesson rather than repeating the behaviour, really hit home. Writing it out makes it seem like it should be basic common sense, but it wasn't lol. Not
for me anyway. Really need to be more self-aware. I loved this whole video. Thank you for making it.
"GET REAL ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL SO THAT YOU CAN HEAL."
wow. this hit me hard.
Number 5 speaks the most to me. I need to remind myself all the time that it’s important to try your hardest, but don’t knock yourself down if you don’t get it 100% right!!
Please make a podcast,, I'd listen to you 24/7 omg
This is amazing, you talk about a lot of things that are similar to my religion which is the baha’i faith it’s great and it restates and suggests unity between all humans ❤️
fran i love that. most certainly, unity is what i stand for 💫💕
Thank you so much for being so willing to share your insight on life. Your helpful words encourage me to continue with building awareness for mental illness and to build my brand based on personal experience. I suffer from Borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder and PCOS. Life is not easy, but you help me to remember how to find the good in my self and in my life. I love you and your channel. Thank you for existing.
thank YOU for writing to me ☺️
I am watching this during lockdown and the detachment of the situation has brought a lot of past things into my life in a new, making me observe situations ive been struggling with for months, slowly putting them into a new perspective. Your words touched me greatly and really felt like they were coming from the warmth and genuineness of a friend. Thank you for speaking your truth and helping others while learning and growing yourself.
I always think "shes underrated" then i see the amount of subscribers and im like "oh ok" youre so down to earth and chill like a small ass youtuber but sis is a whole successful channel. I just love your personality sis
Literally it’s 4:31am I’m awake due to my mind just overthinking about problems but hey your channel helped a lot especially this video, thank you so much. 💗
Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly. It need not be perfect. ✌ thank you for existing. Happy new year!
you are probably one of the few creators on this platform that i feel like i can truly connect to and feel spiritually in tune with. thank you for helping me figure things out
watching your videos has changed my perspective on life into a much more positive one and i'm starting to notice the common mistakes i used to make, so thank you!
Really have been resinating with the destination anxiety one. No destination of a materialistic achievement or any for that matter can relieve or take away all unhappiness or problems. It can be temporary moment of happiness or satisfaction. But, yes problems are never ending. It's what keeps us on our toes, and has us continuing to figure them out and grow/improve ourselves.
I love you amy 😭 I'm not joking. I just finished college and got my license and now I'm looking for a job and it's really hard for me right now and I always watch your videos again and again so I could be reminded of your advices. So thankful at how you talk about these things 💗
You hit the nail on the all-or-nothing aspect of change!! Loving the content.
Man I just wanna cry. This video was fantastic. I'm in love with your knowledge and passion for improvement. Your advice on pleasing parents hit the hardest. I'm 20 and I feel like I cant be who/what they need me to be all the time and that I'm stifling my own growth but dont want to admit it. I bet you have the best late night conversations with people - you're so inspiring. Thank you for your channel.
I was so down , spend the whole 1rst crying. Thanks for the video + you are so gorgeous
Thank you Amy, i'm trying to figure out myself in this world and I really enjoy your chatty videos 💕
Happy new year sis! 😙
Graz Graz happy new year gorl :)
Best 2020 self help video I've seen so far!! Wow, thank you so much
You speak so well and get your message across so well. Love these videos ❤️
Wow. I'm very glad you popped up in my recommendations tonight. I was just coming to terms with the fact my dad is a high functioning alcoholic. And he's been like that forever, was just too young and blind to see. And I cannot have it hold me back. Especially after trying to do or say what I could. Thanks
NEVER BEEN THIS EARLY! HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE 🎉
Such an amazing video. So true about how people pick up their lives and move somewhere to 'start new' but in reality they're just going to a new place but taking themselves and their problems with them.
Thank you so much for this video, for reminding us that nothing is ever truly lost 💙 Happy 2020 to you Amy, keep on being amazing!
Amy please start a podcast series rolling!!
I also live by that Maya Angelou quote. Thank you for this video, Amy.
Ronald Lanzanas ✊🏽✊🏼✊🏻
Thank you for sharing all of your insightful thoughts! Keep it coming 😍
so wise. I love hearing you speak❤️
Thank you Amy! Thanks for sharing all of your insightful amazing thoughts.
love you so much and love hearing your wise words!
Big heart from Taiwan ❤️
some quote:
you create your thoughts and then your thoughts create you
Thank you for being you Amy and for sharing your experiences and advice, your content is very eye opening and healing💜
your videos are always the best!!!! can’t wait to start this new year with a different mindset,, also quick comment, we are not entering a new decade, we’re entering the end of the decade lol the decade doesn’t end till 2021.
Thanks so much for this amazing thoughts for new 2020 year. I really like your words about out parents, because it is the main problem of my stress and depression. I really will try to use your habit in my real life. Thanks, Amy)💞
I’m so happy I found your channel. Thank you for creating
Happy 2020 Amy! I always love hearing from you ❤️
This is a lovely insight into mindful mantras to adopt. I agree with all of these and something I've lived by is that every day is a new beginning and the possibilities for today are endless.
Thank you for this Amy!
I love your videos since I was on highschool like 4 years ago and even if I don't have enough free time to watch all of them I always try to listen to u while doing the chores or things like that and sometimes I even repeat some parts to focus on what u just said!
i have two personal mindsets relatively new in my daily life and those are: 1st don't be too hard on myself and adopt more a 'slowly but surely' way of working to fight against anxiety of doing everything perfectly and learn that most of the times things don't go as we thought and that's ok I just have to be more adaptive, and 2nd is to don't let others consume my happiness and grow up from every relationship/friendship I have.
anyways, happy 2♡2♡
!!! I love her content,,,,I cannot express !!
i love u! hope you'll have a good year amy! ⭐️🍾
I really feel I connect with you and your way of life. I admire the way you use your platform to spread such wisdom and positivity. I appreciate your being and your channel!
That 13secs hahah, loving you always AMY
Love it! I love the Peggy Gou vibe with your outfit!
Such a great video. I love that this video was put out for the world on the first of the year (although I am watching it today 02/26). I need to change my mindset because I have been in this place of "unknown" for years now and I feel lost. This video helped me a bit better with a sense of direction.
Love this, love you, love your content. Thank you for being you.
Happy 2020 Amy, I hope this year brings you success and all the things you want. Thank you so much for your uploads they have really helped me. 💜
Happy New Year's Amy. I love when you sit down with us.
You had me at "African Proverb"
Same same same. Needed to hear this even if I already knew it. Thanks, Amy!!! ☺️
Thank you for this. Truly.
Hey Amy, I know you went to uni and in the case you are paying off debt those videos are so inspirational too, like Aja Dang. Transparency about money is very insightful and interesting ✨💕
I really enjoyed this video, I think you are very stray forward and I love that. You are helping me at this moment in my life, thank you. You are beautiful
i needed this so bad ! I really think its crazy how your content always come at the right time when i need it and actually has an effect over my mindset your tips literally always have an impact on me wherther it validates what i thought or suggests & helps me to spot mecanisms i can work on about myself thank you so much
what eyeliner are u wearing beautiful?? & happy new year amy to prosperity & good health can't wait to see what 2020 has for your radiant soul 💘💘
Candace C haus labs :)
Hello 2020 Amy!!! What are we gonna get into this year? hahaha
tad ghostal A LOT.
Love you Mom 🌹🍒
Would love to see book recommendations! Love you Amy and Happy New Year
This is so helpful for me right now. Thank you
you def should start a podcast!!! ❤️❤️❤️ thank u for this x
It’s so true that those expectations that other put on us is can make us feel so bad and sometimes you internaliseren without realizing. That’s why I love affirmations! On my UA-cam Channel I make affirmation video’s to help people get rid of the selftalk others put on them 🌹
I've seen a lot of videos about this topic but this is the only one I feel like all the things mentioned could really be life changing. I'll definitely write them down in my bullet journal as a reminder. Please consider starting a Podcast in 2020. :)
Thank you for this video, its a great help!!!
love love love your hair!
Thank you. This will definitely be all noted down for 2020.
Happy 2020! Let's do this!
killed it as usual.
Very helpful tips !
The thumbnail is sooo cute oml
I love love LOVE your hair!!🤩 Gives me tropical ocean vibes🌊
Thanks for this amazing video Amy!
I definitely needed to hear this at this time in my life, now I can focus on making a better version of myself
Okay out of topic: you are SO beautiful damnnnn girl, so unique
Bubu xo aw shucks denk u 🌚
💞Awesome video.... Take care
omg ur eye make up in the webcam segment!! also, ily x
I have just recently been watching your videos and your content is really life changing
happiness is an INSIDE job
i love this girl so much you truly impacted my 2019 in such a positive way im so grateful i found you on my suggested last year!
I lovvve the fifth habbit
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽yes the video is so true. Your points hit home. Thank you for this video, i needed to see it today💞💞😁
I love your channel and videos like these 💓
Omg i LOVED this 💚