Healing Your Negative Core Beliefs
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- Опубліковано 1 сер 2024
- In this video, author and depression counselor Douglas Bloch explains how negative beliefs developed in childhood can lead to symptoms of depression in later life. He then shows how you can replace these beliefs with accurate and empowering beliefs about yourself, others, and the world.
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Just remember if you can train the brain in one direction then you can train it in the opposite.
Yes, that is true.
Easier said than done
TheAnnas4cats Exactly... I didn’t train my brain to have CPTSD... it was done to me from age 5 for decades... therefore I didn’t develop the tools to train my brain in any direction. This is why many people with trauma histories dont respond as well to CBT. Many therapists just get frustrated and acuse you of resisting. Its like they cant let in that it simply does not work for some people. First time this happened to me is what MADE me fall into hopelessness and despair. It was huge for me when they finally acknowledged depression from childhood trauma needs to be treated differently.
I do believe you can heal from depression but not with shallow cliched sound bites. If anything they make me feel worse. I do know I get live one breath at a time and get through the day and wait... because Ive done that already.
Karmas A Butch I feel relieved it’s strange I know but acknowledge is truly better than blind beliefs
@@KarmasAbutch Thanks for saying this here!!!! Yes I really agree with you on that! 👍👍👍👍👍😫😫
I was always belittled as a child. My sister was the beautiful one and I never measured up. When she had a psychiatric breakdown, everyone supported, while I sat alone in a psychiatric hospital. Never knew love
You can learn to give that love to yourself. However, you may need the help of another person such as a counselor or therapist
I hope you are around others who are showing you love now
Wow that's exactly what I went through. And it never changed after all these years I am the black sheep always been told how I'm no good Never Been Loved by my family now my sons are loved by my mother and not me isn't that nice so do
That’s so bad really sorry for you Debbie
@@DouglasBloch Amen to that Douglas!!! You've got to in fact! GBU all!! 👍👍👍👍👍❤ Peace!
This is just fabulous. The "I am resourceful" really hit home. So many times in life I feel incapable of changing anything and incapable of taking care of myself. This and , "when you're walking through hell..." are life saving. I repeat the latter almost daily right now and it's actually getting me through! Thank you for these videos!
For a depressive you have a lovely smile Douglas x
Mature Student Masters He really do, he´s a true angel
I resonate with this so much.
I am an only child and I had a happy childhood but my mom was a worrier and always told me to be cautious because the world is very dangerous. I’ve dealt with anxiety most of my life and am still struggling with it. Thank you for this video, and all of your videos. They help so much. I wish I could work with you, but I’m in California :)
Brit, I can work with people long distance through telephone mental health coaching. Here is he link that describes my service. Let me know if you are interested.
healingfromdepression.com/mental-health-coaching/
Douglas Bloch Thank you, that’s great to know ! :)
Exactly the same situation for me dude.
Me too california seems to me like dangerous becuz my mom said stuff like tat
Exact same!!!! Mom had anxiety/ depression......, I keep telling myself that I am not anxiety that was my mom’s baggage
I'd love to re program my core beliefs to be more positive and hopeful. Instead I'm a sad, pessimistic, melancholic!
You can do it. There are many books about this and you can find a good counselor who specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy
You're speaking death on yourself by just typing that!! Begin to speak life over your life, your subconscious will begin to receive it, and believe it
Merari Alfaro no she’s not. She’s acknowledging aspects of her mind she wants to change.
“You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge”-Dr Phil
Start to think and plan rather than feel. Use your prefrontal cortex and ignore the bullshit from your amygdala. It's the amygdala that is the incessant chatterer. Tell it to stfu once you've done your research on something you want to do and your worst-case scenario is manageable. Do it, and prepare carefully, and just ignore your amygdala. If your body floods with stress hormones go for a walk or dance or cry out the nerves. But don't be the hostage of your amygdala. Pushing through the inévitable anxiety is key. Accept it and run it off. The anxiety will fade.
You should read “what to say when you talk to yourself “
Hi Doughlas. i want to thank you so much for this video about healing your negative core beliefs.
i was very shocked about how 70 to 80 percent of core beliefs is negative.
Healing from depression for me has hit this mile stone in my recovery. and with the professional help i now receive in the UK from my CBT.. it seems your web site and my theropy are going hand in hand and i am so grateful for both. Thank you again for one of the greatest videos on mental health i feel i have ever seen.
I think continual trauma can do that as well. If someone is insecure and can see no way out, they will continue the pattern until something more traumatic happens in life.
Yes. Continued trauma goes deeper than core beliefs. This is something else that cannot be thought. It is circumstantial.
Thank you soo much for running this youtube channel. I have learned so many helpful things. And i am genuinely feeling better after applying your ideas. :)
I’m glad they have been helpful
Thanks Douglas. I was just exposing this to my mother and she finally got it.
3:08 man that is so beautiful that made me grin such a loving mother maaaan thats literally the root of all human behaviour is what happened in your first 7 years. The image of the mother embracing her child and whispering in his ear such empowering and comforting statements truly serene
yes, I agree.
Thank you so much Douglas. You are a true gift to mankind. I’ve been trying to build my brand for the last 4 years to create videos that touch move and inspire the world to make a positive impact. I am a introvert, so I get exhausted quickly. Your videos give me confidence to keep moving forward despite my core beliefs that I am a failure.
Here is one of my favorite sayings from a motivational trainer. “A big shot is a little shot who just kept on shooting.”
I just started listening to Douglas and hearing about anxiety and depression and whatever else I have just hearing him makes me feel like I am going to make it thank you
Keep persevering. You can come through this
Paused at 2:12 to say that I am your poster child! I have come to understand every word you have said so far as being true. My healing lags behind my understanding. I have just subscribed, in the hope that I will learn better ways of healing. Thanks.
There are a number of videos on this channel about changing our self talk and increasing our self-esteem.
Tonight I’m going to write in my Gratuity journal that I have your channel. Any time I need a pick me up I watch your video and It instantly boost my mood.
Thanks
I concur. My therapist dropped me because I am so depressed my therapist dropped me for missing 2 appointments.
What a relevant video to pop up. Lately I’m ruled by my phobias and inner beliefs that feel like I have no confidence in new endeavors. It’s so frustrating.
"I have the ability to create support for myself in my life. " I love that. As a therapist, I encourage my clients to come up with specific areas or tasks he needs help with. It works as a way of breaking down his overwhelming fear into manageable pieces.
That was an affirmation given to me by my therapist in 1987. I’ve been using it ever since. I have a website solely dedicated to affirmations. www.affirmationsheal.com
Thank you for these amazing words!
Hi Douglas! I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time of it right now. Looking as this long list of comments shows how many people whose lives you have impacted, and saved. Lots of new folks as well as some of us old-timers. Remember that your older videos are new to the people who have more recently joined, and a lot of us would benefit from watching them again. I hope you do not mind, I am going to send a private email to you. Remember that you have a 100% success record in getting through these episodes before and there is no reason that you will not get through this one. Sending you lots of love and thanks, Shirley
@3:09 "You can do anything that you want. There are no limits to what you can achieve." positive message his mother used to whisper in his ear before he went to bed.
Well there are limits as I have come to realize at my job, thanks to ADHD.
He's right on!
Thank you for this information! This made me realize that I'm protecting my fears on my son.
This is great Douglas. I can watch this over and over again. I just talked to my mother yesterday and she’s still doing the same thing even though I’m over 50 now. She means well.
I had the same experience when I was 52
@@DouglasBloch I’m 52 now.
How is your leg? Has your healthcare provider you with anything to massage your leg? The nurses used something on my leg when I recovered from surgery. Sharper image has something.
This video is a simplistic way of understanding yourself on an essential, do-able and applicable level. It seems to address well...the core of the negative issues and directly explains how the negative self talk/image generally evolves and how it can be recognized and retrained. I will say, this seems interesting, insightful, and worth exploring further and hopefully following🙂
I'm glad that the information was helpful
Thanks for mentioning agoraphobia. It has been a real challenge for me. The current pandemic just made things worse. I was a bold young adult. I experienced anxiety around age 30 due to relationship stress and other things colliding in a short span. It’s been 14 rough years. It is so hard now to envision myself happy and confident again.
I know what it’s like to feel hopeless about the future. But human beings are resilient. Whatever you have before you can get back to you.
this is one of the most positive inspiring messages of the 21st century
I’m glad it was helpful
Thanks Douglas
Thank you. Just to know the fact that I can change my negative core beliefs gives me the energy to change them into positive ones.
Yes, it takes work, but it can be done. It helps to have a guide, such as having a counselor or therapist.
Very very good material 🤙
It was an afterthought for me when I was young and I'm afraid remained one, take it to the Lord in prayer. A thing that was difficult was that primary conduits of religious instruction were also the origin of problems.
Very helpful and informative Thank You
Wow very informative thank you!
After I lost my job I got diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. The medication forbid me to have children. Now I am faced with potentially losing my parents and being alone in in this world. The thought of that makes me suicidal. Perhaps I feel the world is a dangerous place. Well my parents were both verbally abusive so... I have an intense fear of being alone and disabled to the point of being suicidal.
this is one keep your head above water when u find yourself in social turmoil.
Very good portrayal of C.B.T Douglas.I will try to implement them.One notion troubles me as I have had low to medium level of depression for decades, I would probably be frightened if one day the depression vanished just as some long term prisoners might feel if one day all the locked doors were opened.Thanks
Awwwwwwe!!! GBU! 💚💛💙💜👍👍👍👍
My depression vanished in one day after I was prayed for.
Now i understand why i do not want to be around my mum. She projects her fears onto me....
I'm really late for this but I still want to tell u how much ur videos has helped me.... But I have so much hate towards myself, I'm so depressed, I wanted to die do many times and I wanted to cure my depression but I realized I can't. So I gave up hope and let my depression take me over and I fell so much into darkness. But I'm trying to get better for the people I care about... And theses video are helping me take one step at a time to recovery, so thank u
I am sorry that you feel so negatively towards yourself. Here is a video I made called Be Kind to Yourself. ua-cam.com/video/MKA2neCekfM/v-deo.html
Thank you so much
thank you thank you thank you
following good news online cheers me up with positive outlook in the world seriously it cheers me up globally
for example guy donates money to charity in austin texas today or person tips waitress a large sum of money
Apple news on the Internet actually has a link that takes you to good news stories
I have the ability to create support in my life 🙏
I like that
In west Texas what is depressing is very low pay no outdoors activities because it's miserable outdoors extreme heat and wind. Property taxes are extremely high, kind of like renting you're own house off of the county.
What you are experiencing is situational depression. Perhaps you could move to somewhere more hospitable. If that is not possible, you can develop some coping strategies that will help you adapt to a difficult situation.
Cheers buddy really helped me out today.
I'm glad the material was helpful
@@DouglasBloch thanks for the reply. I flicked through a few of your videos worked really well. I'm starting a course tomorrow and your videos have definitely help my anxiety
What if we are depressed because we have been intimidated and surrounded by 100% assholes most of the time as children?
If this is true there might be no reason to replace "limiting" beliefs. We just have to trust our beliefs and take action. Saying NO is a good beginning, I think.
"But your parents always loved you". Did they really? What if our "loving caretakers" were genuine self-absorbed narcissistic assholes hiding in sheep's clothing?
My 2 cents: Negative beliefs developed in childhood has to do with emotional withdrawn parents - out of reach. Children are not born depressed.
I would like to see a video on Childhood trauma and Major Depression: What is the impact on your self-image and self-esteem growing up among people with no ressources?
Here is video on how childhood trauma leads to depression. ua-cam.com/video/yHolu6rHKCM/v-deo.html
And here is a video on how loss, a type of trauma, leads to depression. ua-cam.com/video/AWLLl6Mc2tE/v-deo.html
My parents give me away right after i was born. I have never seen what my dad look like. I was raised by a 70 years old women who didn't care much about me. These people didn't even bother to get me a birth certificate. So, I'm enjoying living with a fake identity as an adult its really nice. I was neglected 90 percent of the time. I literally raised myself. Feels werid talking about this lol.
But yea i always heard men talking about not being allowed to share their emotions. I am a women and i was raised the same. If anything bothered me as kid i had to keep it to myself and 90 percent of the time that women didn't even listen.
I always questioned why I am here it makes no sense to me at all. I'm not posting this to get someone to tell everything is going to be ok and all that. Just want to share this with someone maybe it'll make someone feel a little better knowing that at least you have a birth certificate and an identity and at least you had or have parents and they didn't give you away to someone to neglect and abuse you.
Dude, thanks, subbed
You are welcome
Dr.Douglas I do a thing, I got all the day debating conflicting with other people, I see myself from eyes of those characters. Its a type of thinking in 3rd person.
I don't know what it is and how I got this thinking pattern but I had it since childhood and now I become aware of it
That’s good. If you go to a good counselor here she can help you replace those negative beliefs with positive ones
@@DouglasBloch thank you for reply Dr.Douglas. I live in a poor country outside US and the only thing I could afford is books. If you could consider sharing an advice what books would you recommend me to read?
You have the sadness of the Shoah in your soul. My mum the sadness of Apartheid South Africa. Hello fellow pilgrim!
Hello to you. I’m glad you were finding my videos helpful
I’ve had pocd recently and defined myself through that belief when I know it’s not true
Thank you
You're welcome.
Thank you so muuuuch :)
Welcome 😊
Douglas I've been in and out of sobriety for many years now. I find it really really hard t0 accept everything in my life. And the clock is ticking. I get to about three months sober and I fall off the wagon. Any way I'm trying harfd to get to AA meetings. But I've always felt that I just want to fit in and be normal! I know God created all men equal but I'm struggle with it. Anyway your videos are great. Looknig forward to seeing more of them
Sorry about your struggle with alcohol. Perhaps working individually with a drug and alcohol counselor would be helpful. Here is a video that I made about the connection between depression and addiction. ua-cam.com/video/sT8C7YtQosQ/v-deo.html
Currently, I am feeling sad and alone. You are fine. The world is uncertain.
Thank you so much for this video. I used affirmations for a couple years but didn't feel a change. Do you have any advice for me? I spoke them to myself often and journal them, but no real noticeable difference.
Often times affirmations don't work because our subconscious mind believes just the opposite. I have an exercise in my book or is that heal that can help change this. I have it out as an e-book for only $5.99. You can find it on Amazon or Barnes and Noble.
Thanks so much. I’ll have to check that out!
Tq very much
I have ocd and and I'm in relationship .....recently ocd symptoms spiked and I have picked up a belief that if I break up wid her then I'll become normal ...how do u overcome it plz help
Go check ROCD on reddit, you'll find some help there
im exactly like the 29 year old girl im 29 and i live with my mum and i m stuck and i have no friends and no reason to go forward in life or any thing but i know my mum just didnt want me to be hurt but at the same time i feel so crippled in life and i just want to leave life and i dont know how to get out of it and your videos are good they help epople but i dont know how to help my self and i feel so reliant on her to the extent that i always ask for permission for any thing and one time i did bring up getting professional help and told me ina way that made me feel badly that if i didnt think i could do this on my own that i could get help but it made me feel like i am supposed to get through it on my own and im an alcoholic and its extended to the point of im definately killing myself and i dont know how my liver hasnt shut down yet and i dont know how to get out of this
Have you reached out to a counselor or a therapist?
Love your videos new subscriber
Thanks.
Isnt also better to ask what,why and how? Also to define what love is to the person or whatever it is and define it???
Is it true that affirmations should not conflict our core beliefs, like trying to replace 'I'm not good enough' with 'I am good' or 'I am resourceful' and instead we should use some more believable affirmations such as 'I am good at ___' or 'I'm a good friend'? I've seen that in two or three videos but not from a specialist like you. Thanks.
I agree with making the affirmations believable. Otherwise your unconscious will reject them.
Thanks, sir.
@@CorpusLael I learned that intentions work better in case there is a conflict with the affirmation. So for example when you think "I'm not good enough", you can set the intention: "I am willing to believe that I am good enough" or something like that. This doesn't have any resistance to the subconscious mind. Being willing doesn't mean we immediately have to change, but the fun thing is, that it changes your mindset. You start thinking: "Hey, yes, I AM willing to think about that and how to make it happen". Try it, it works.
Douglas Bloch - subconscious?
Yes... you´re absolutely right: Core Beliefs wire the fundamental neurons which actually form your personal environment. (with referenz to quantum physics and even all the stuff the freemasons believe in )
BUT ... what actually is defined as positiv in a society is build up by the "Collective Core Believes" itself FROM the society - this is the main problem of every ethical human being. Our society itself has designed very bad conditions to deal with each other because of our monetary system ( e.a. FED and all the very important videos you can find on youtube ).
So... in that case we cannot say "everything is build in our mind" and "we are personally responsable fpr being poor" f.e.
THATS the big point which all the positiv thinkers and personal lifecouches forget: "to earn money in this society is based on the internal acceptance of the monetary system which leads to all the bad circumstances we faced on our planet today"
Of course there are a few parallel economical systemstheories f.e.the german Andreas Popp and his "flowing money" .. but actual we are living in a world of injustice and ignorance ( no matter what i try to convince myself for being responsable for my environment ).
I think ( for I know that all the Core Beliefs concerning our system are results of interlectual examinations and therfore "real" ) thats a good idea to find a Core belief concerning our survival in society which includes the knowledge of the false monetary system AND our capability to deal with it...and the ability to look for ourselves IN SPITE of all the bad emotions "they" want to "install" in ourselves.
F.e.: "I´m able to look for myself and to gain enough for a good life in spite of the manipulating bad system I´m live in"
...think: what would you say concerning your "inner problems of humanity" when Hitlers had won the war and it racialism would be an INTENDED social worth !! That would also be not MY fault when I wouldn´t be able to accept this norm !!
thank you ;-) ... well .. it´s a big topic, indeed... and concerning astrology I must apologize - I´m not very familiar to it ( besides: i must apologize my english for I´m a native german speaker ;-) )
... perhaps astrolgy influences are given - who knows - its a part of hermes tresmegistos and the free masons are full of this stuff - i think for well known reasons .......but... if we determines influences to much on subjects we can not change, it has a bad taste.
Fact: we´re imprisoned in a monetary system which transfers all the rich and real economy whealth to a small group of people who reinforces hte believe in this monetary system - you own static analyses of the last few years will underlines this statement.
.. for this i will build a bridge between those "inner believe" psychologists and the people who are critical against our society and believe to all this very necessary topics like 9/11, illuminati etc etc ...
I create a new psychologic pattern: the "intrinsic" and the "extrinsic" Corebelief !
..the inner we can change ... the outer is the Corebelief in our society which is unreflected based in our minds ( f.e. monetary system, advertisements etc etc ).
..when we come to the point of revealing all this Corebelieves and find out that nearly 50% of all them are wrong, we have finally to decide in which kind of sov´ciety we want to live ..
..and this leads to one last simple question: against or with each other - competion or cooperation ... we can´t have both ... we must choose and it´s a lie to tell us that there is only competition possible in this world ...
the new system has born in austria .. and it works - it is called "infomoney"
+William von Baskerville So true!And rarely recognized or discussed.
Halleleujah, someone who gets it. Well said sir, I salute you. I would have liked to have seen how Mr. Bloch responded to this, but I guess it was personal and you deleted it. Anyway, thank you.
thank you ;-) .... here over in germany we start to work in groups for these topics, because i fear we haven´t got the time to let us fool anymore: the political situations increases against confrontation with russia and the rush of migrants is even more a part of this global agenda.
There is no time to be fooled and to believe that everything that every inner pain is just an inner problem - the biggest problems are the corebeliefs "they" implanted us by lying; stealing the history; telling us, that there is no alternative way; constantly distracting informations by media so we can´t get the whole picture.
The true enemy is in our society in very high positions of power and it´s all about keeping that power!
The only way for us to get our corebeliefs cleaned is to work in groups and to use "swarmintelligence" - why there must be allways a specialist who learned about 1 topic in 30 years? - what about 30 people who learn about a topic in 1 year? .... and they are only a part of the greater group to put further topics together as David Icke said - connecting the dots !
I´m sorry .... Mr Bloch hasn´t repeated .... it was someone else and it was an information about astrology - and this person had deleted it for reasons i don´t know.
Anyway: Astrology migth be an interesting theme but it isn´t as useful to find out what is wrong with our world and minds.
Be with the topic and forget about EGO credits - just live to serve the truth within a group .... and we finally get to the bottom of conspiracies, our wrong corebeliefs and the way out of it - of course we have to define a new society within a new picture from ourselves ... but why not? Is it so bad that the only power we have is the power about ourselves? to know who we are and what we could and should be in the future instead of greed and power over misguided others?
As Dr Steven Geer said: "they are watching us - first we has to be peaceful and then they reveal themselves"
I would do the same if I were an alien ;-))
Yes, anything that vitiates separation consciousness is a worthwhile effort. Separation consciousness is the foundation of every tool that the psychopaths use against us (money, capitalism, competition, disinformation, divide and conquer, obfuscation, religion, nationalism, etc.) When humanity attains a "swarm intelligence" whereby he can see that he is ineluctably a fractal of Universal Consciousness, only then will "depression" finally be conquered, and the dark night of humanity's collective soul be over.
This happened to my cousin so sad he is 50 and can’t work or drive.
hellow sir, im currently suffering from depresssion ,, can u give me some valuable tips on hopw to overcome this?
My entire UA-cam channel has videos on how to overcome depression. Here is a video that will get you started. ua-cam.com/video/b8FfcdHGQVk/v-deo.html
In addition, my website has a wealth of information on depression. www.healingfromdepression.com I hope these resources will be helpful
I wish I can afford for a psychotherapy for me and for my family. It's nearly impossible to overcome your negative intrusive thoughts without any help of a therapist. If you only depend on medication it's pretty useful to treat the symptoms but with your cognitive behavior it's very difficult to overcome. Impossible! We as a human have limitations and we are not intelligent enough to distinguish what we need to do in able to help our selves. We need other people guidance and help for us to be fully recover.
I wonder if there are any free or low-cost counseling services available where you live. In Oregon we have state insurance which pays
Could this be the root cause of the neuroticism trait, in variation with the level of abusive messages received as a child?
It is probably the main cause, although there may be other factors such as temperament and other interactions you might have had with siblings, peers, etc. as well as early losses. I would definitely seek out a good therapist to work on these issues.
affirmation is for me "i deserve a good life".
I really like that affirmation
i think negative thinking and past history are in my mind it is alarming for future am i right..?
The negative thinking is in your mind, but through counseling you can learn to release it and replace it with a positive outlook about yourself and the world.
To have this be real is the scary sad that keeps folks isolated. To be that angry at your self hurts. and the,
“ distortions “ in how people feel about themselves, seem proven by our failures. Done faking being a regular person when it is not true.
What do you mean " to have this be real" ??? Can you please explain what you're saying here??? RSVP please
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I have fears and negative beliefs about friendships. I always feel like an outsider and that I’m a last option. How do I change this belief to attract real and true friendships
A good therapist or counselor could help you change these beliefs
@@DouglasBloch May I ask, what if you've never found a "good" counselor, or it doesn't work for one??? Any ideas?
Olivia Cadena read his books or try group therapy
Is it possible to change/work on your negative core beliefs with the guidance of a therapist while still being in an environment that reinforces them?
That’s a good question. Ultimately you have the final say and how you interpret what happened to you. On the other hand it makes it easier if you are in a positive environment
Good one :D
My core belief is that I'm annoying, hence I don't have a friend group. At work people have to be with you, so I just do things for them to not be annoying. People complain a lot about other people, at least that's the case in my culture.
Hey ,I recently watched a thriller movie and it got stuck in my head ,it keeps coming and I worry more about it coming again than itself ,can you help me and I also have this negative belief nothing can heal including believing that this video is false
It sounds like you're having obsessive thoughts about this movie. I will reach out to the therapist or counselor who can help you let them go
@@DouglasBloch i watched the movie like 3-5 days ago , is this case too complicated or easy to handle than others? Any suggestions
well....m suffering from OCD mostly,harm and scrupulosity....from almost 10 yrs,hmm....i feel like giving up,so hard
Hang in there. There is a book called "Brain Lock" by Jeffrey Schwartz that can help you with your OCD.
I just noticed your message from two years ago. Just seeing how you are.
I am about to go abroad again for another job, how can I get over the anxiety?
I have a video called how to rewire your anxious brain he might want to look at. You should also go work with a counselor who specializes in anxiety
Thanks doctor i wanted to commit suicide days ago and your videos have helped me a lot i send u all the love in the world💕
I'm glad that you have chosen life. Keep moving forward one day at a time. I'm writing a book on suicide prevention. Let me know if you would like me to send you some information from it.
@@DouglasBloch i will be happy for sure
Am financially stable
When approaching women I'm always have a negative beliefs like she will reject you, A lot of people looking at you or it will be awkward if you talk to her. how to really cut off the negative beliefs out of my head, Can i?
You can release negative beliefs with the help of a counselor or therapist.
OK Thank you for your respond Mr. Douglas
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I have all these negative core beliefs spoken about in the beginning. Yet i dont know why
It may have been your early childhood conditioning. Seeing a good therapist could help you sort this out
are negative core beliefs just a symptom of depression or are they also there when we feel 'normal' or healthy? I noticed when I feel well again, my beliefs about the world change and become generally more positive towards others and myself. However, when I dip back into depression that all changes. Thus, how much weight or importance should we really be giving to our 'beliefs' as they may just be fluctuations on our mood. The greater question here for me is: To what extent should we be influenced by our feelings or mood as these are continuously changing and colouring our perception of the world. Therefore, perhaps, not all that trustworthy :)
Yes, when people are depressed they see themselves, others, the world and their future in a negative light. They color our perceptions. I describe this in detail in the videos: don't believe what your feelings when you are depressed:
ua-cam.com/video/QpqHLJRORrM/v-deo.html
and Don't Believe Everything Your Brain is Telling You."
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are there resources for how our inner child and core beleifs make us vulnerable to relationship violence domestic abuse? I have left 20 years of domestic abuse but am still sent into fight/flight/freeze fear and shame when I even hear his name or see and email from him. the fear and shame a d powerlessness has been with me since childhood but he and others have been "hammering" on it since then. I feel if I can heal and make that child feel safe and worthy and capable the abusers "target" will be removed.
That is a good insight. The way you keep the child safe is by becoming its parent. You can do this through therapy. Have you reached out to a good psychotherapist or a counselor? Talk with them and they will give you valuable insights on how you can heal.
In my best valid perspective if society declutter or stop watching tv n media social and political everyone might have positive beliefs about themselves n each other
Seriously tv n environmental programming tells us where not enough untill we have a fake identity they present to us
I try not to expose on myself to Society's programming
What could’ve been a beautiful relationship with an amazing woman didn’t work because of this core belief:
“I don’t deserve to be loved someone like _____ ”
I hate to say this but I proved myself right. 😢
The thing about core beliefs is that they can be changed.
ya ya , all t hat's nice... WHAT are those speakers you got there??? don't recognize them
This was the first video ever did in the living room. Later we moved down to my studio in the basement.
So my mum committed suicide when I was 7 and my dad used to use a belt on me if I was naughty or my sister's blamed me for things they had done. He continues to this day (I am 46) putting me down so I try to avoid him. He remarried someone 15 years his junior and she was just interested in getting us out the door as soon as she could. I am plagued constantly by suicidal thoughts and yes I do have a plan. I just don't care anymore. The only thing keeping me going is I have a son whom my soon to be ex wife drove out of our house back to his mother's who faked a suicide after 3 weeks of being together 18 yrs ago and I reported for neglect to social services. He is nearly 18 so i have to put it off. would hate for him to always be reminded on his birthday. I don't want to leave him with the legacy of what I am going through but I have had enough. I don't trust people had a best friend spike me with some form of lsd he brought back from India and since then when I was about 24 I have had severe problems with memory mood and all the rest. Yeah life's a bunch of fucking roses. Angry at life angry at being angry. Sick of ass holes calling me white privileged, if I am privileged you can have it!
No one who is suffering like he was privileged. I am white and I have had four nervous breakdowns and have been suicidal during every one. I'm glad you are staying or life or your son. Have you sought help from a mental health professional? If you provide your email address I will send you a featured on self-care strategies that can help improve your mood.
Even when your son is grown, it will have devastating effects on him. Things do get better. Don't stay alive for someone else do it for yourself. I know people don't like to hear it but God really does love everyone. He can truly feel that void left by your parents and then some if you let him. I tell everyone start with the words of Christ. Get to know him it can change everything. Trust me I know exactly how you feel. People suck. I don't put anything past anyone. I know all about rage and anger. Don't think you can possibly find anyone that had as much anger and rage as I did most of my life. I hope you find hope and peace. Hang in there don't give up
I thought the world is vast. Is that a positive thought or negative sir?
I was glad that I was able to watch this video, but it put me in the mind of something I learned about in a high school psychology class which I believe is referred to as "Depressive Realism." If true, depressive realism means that depressed people are essentially better at perceiving reality as it truly is than their nondepressed counterparts. To put it another way, how, given my limited information and perceptive abilities am I to reasonably conclude that my negative core beliefs are not very realistic indeed and in fact, correct?
Talk to anobjective person like a counselor about what you perceive
Damien: what you can do is ask yourself: "Is this true?" And another nice question: "Is what I belief right now true for everyone?" If this is not the case then it can't be true as a fact... because otherwise all other people would belief the same thing! Another nice way is to ask your friends about something you belief, ask them what do you belief about... and listen carefully to their answer. And something to trigger your mind to see it from the brighter side is ask yourself this question about anything you dislike: "What do I like about ...." and then just start thinking... Maybe the horrible people in a house are horrible, but their garden might look fantastic. Maybe your boss is not nice, but he does have beautiful eyes, maybe you dislike terror around you, but hey, there are also nice people... This changes your focus... It's a matter of training yourself. It only works if you make it a daily habit.
What if you get no messages? You don't believe anything about yourself.
Greetings from India sir..... i am using affirmations of true health, when dealing with some serious health issues at same time.
Trying to overcome my negative thinking , is it right ?
Please guide me :)
Yes, you are correct. Affirmations and cognitive therapy can help overcome negative thinking. I wrote a book about affirmations, which you might be interested in. Click on this link to read about it. www.healingfromdepression.com/words.htm
Douglas Bloch and sir, how to overcome habhit of keep noticing symptoms of my health issues ? As On one side i keep telling myself, I am perfectly healthy and on another side i just keep noticing symptoms of my health issues ( though I try my best to ignore that) , so my subconscious mind won't accept my positive affirmations.
Guide me on this please :)
If you send me an email to douglasbloch@gmail.com I will send you an exercise nohow to respond to these symptoms.
Douglas Bloch sent you an email sir :)
The first step is stop judging anyone.
Especially yourself!
I am love
How to heal OCD
May I have I have health and safety
my heart raise and sleepiness . depression attack. panic attack in morning. please help.
See if you can find a mental health provider in your area
@@DouglasBloch I not in usa. I am ksa working. from india
2:48 it s exactly my story;((
It seems that something comes before the thought-Like the thought is the middle of three cars in the accident.
I feel stuck with people.
A Spanish friend once said to me: "I'm the kind who would have been shot by Nazis." She is small and black-haired and brown eyed. The tyranny of WASPs.
Aren't you actually describing cognitive schemas (as beliefs about the world that were learned and influenced)? Core beliefs are secondary ? I'm Confused.
i used to be one level of pessimistic Ness I was all about the brighter shade of gray my cup was always half Emoty but what was left was mine and valuable to me. now I cannot seem to find any joy am perinoid with some reason but truly trust no one and am more able to talk about it to strangers and feel and am isolated from everyone as much as possible...i just need to say/ write these feelings to come back to reality and out of denial of the severity of my situation... to some i may be blabbering my husband tells me so all the time. I'm in an 2br appt with him and his 2 sons who are @the moment being nice try face and telling my jealous mistrustful husband stories that are causing great harm. to us and to my well being and stability... after a while they'll go back to being disrespectful and ungrateful to me again they'll follow his behavior. we are both on disability and both boys have serious emotional issues are extremely disrespectful and expect far more than is realistic for two well people
they both take advantage of our disabilities w guilt trips and other manipulation and I have no outlet my mental health services are a joke to be polite and we face poverty another major stress factor on all of our over all well beings... it's very difficult for me not to get wrapped up in total despair. i haven't 1 friend left after only 2 yrs of marriage. a lot were no good but it's still left me with no one to talk to without it going back to my husband... all people vent except me. the price is too high to pay. i don't want to be locked back up in another phych ward only to be told I skip out when it's hard and what little I have I'm holding out on. it's toxicity @ its worst case scenario I'm afraid to go to shelters again it was dangerous and if I tell the truth about abuse I'll be in more danger... I need help soo bad but the system is failing and being sucked dry for war toys... we are over populated we can't sustain this and they just keep breaking more people pushing pulling till there no longer sane... and bitch they're sucking off the system.... let us hunt and forge like we were ment not run run till u crack...i want soo badly to work be ok function but the fibromyalgia is cripplingly my hands I got a 3inch bruise from flushing the toilet... and the pain spreads all over i get in the shower and I am burned in one spot frozen in another fine somewhere else frim the same water!!!??? how do fight the world your body and you married family.lost biological and all friends because of mood swings behavior doubled by stress... I'm tired and scared every day what will happen today...full of resentment and blind rage at my situation and those who have really abandoned me... but shut up keep your head down and you might get to "take your 20 pills and go to bed..."I'm holding on for dear life so please do the same here something has to give. sorry to pick puke at you all I need to tell someone that I'm here...take care of you!!!
I'm sorry you are in pain. I hope you can find the right people (a counselor or psychiatrist) and tools to alleviate your symptoms.
Ryann Ferriter ,I am praying for you. I often feel the same way. Please, if there were children being abused, please get them help. Please let me know how you are doing.
Am repectful