It sucks in social situations since it makes things unnecessarily harder but at the same time it's kind of idk cool to have it since nowadays mental health stuff is interesting. I'm not interested in well adjusted normal people, like no, I can't deal with it
I would but I avoided the situation with my fiancé so I lost him and the future we were building. I also lost a really good friend because I felt completely unable to communicate and apologise to her. I’ve been diagnosed with severe cptsd since but can it really cause all these problems?? I think I’ve always had problems with avoidance but never to this degree. The reality is I don’t have a life worth living anymore
My goals: -self respect and firm boundaries with myself -develop self confidence and stop doubting myself -not feel like it's the end of the world with small normal things -accept the things i can't change and strive with the things I can -be comfortable with being uncomfortable -have more patience with myself and the people around me -develop good habits -survive this academic year Thursday Aug 10, 2023💕
Anxiety has ruined my life, after my friend group fell apart and the pandemic hit and I was neglected by my only parent, it stripped any social skills I had and confidence and made me sick and tired every day of my life, being young and not understanding I would continuously give into anxiety and I started self isolating till the outside world felt terrifying, i was in fight flight and freeze far more then I needed to be, now I'm trying to take my life back so I can be a successful adult and live a life that actually means something to me, that I'm able to make fantasies about but terrified to take action on. I was never taught these skills nor was I able to get help or have the proper funds to get therapy, so I'm here trying to teach myself how to live. I hope to make meaningful friendships, start a convo with a random person on my walk, and not worry about how I have to put on a show or look appealing to everyone around me cause that's simply unrealistic, it's caused me uncomfortable memory blocks and the lack of ability to focus, i want freedom!
I really need this. I can’t take this anymore. It’s anxiety all day every day. I can’t sleep properly, i can’t eat properly. I don’t want to imagine a life where i continue to feel like this. I can’t do it.
Change my relationship to anxiety to one of compassion and acceptance rather than submission and resentment because I know it’s just a part of me that is trying to protect me and was once actually existentially necessary for my younger self’s survival when it first came along. And though I hear it and appreciate what is once did for me, I want it and am determined to make it understand that I’m an adult now, and I’m ready to take responsibility and to be in charge of my life from now on. I choose reasonable risk and unavoidable uncertainty, the limitless possibility of life and the dizziness of freedom over paralyzing fear and a false sense of safety and control.
Wow! Seems like you have been gathering good info about the topic and have some nice tools up your sleeve. May I ask you what resources you learned from ?
@@shahendarashwan5958 This channel. Gabor Mate. Dick Schwartz and IFS. Bessel Van Der Kolk and the Body Keeps the Score. Thich Naht Han and mindfulness/meditation. Years of trial and error, setbacks and breakthroughs.
I knew from 14 that I had anxiety but I had no idea years later (now 25) how much it would hinder my life. I thought I was just a shy, weak or depressed person but I realize that's not the case. I'm extremely capable of doing things it's just this underlying fear that holds me back. There are so many things that I've put on the back burner because of anxiety such as dating, travelling, freelancing, etc. At least I have more clarity now on why I behave the way I do and find solutions to help me with social situations.
I started with panic attacks at 15 and nobody could tell me what it was. I am 59 now and have major depression as well. I am still learning new tricks and it is NEVER too late to take your life back!
Do you really believe that? My life has been completely ruined by anxiety. I really now it’s a normal part of life and you HAVE to face it when it comes up it’s crucial to getting the life you want. Why do we not discuss this in schools?? It’s so important in how you deal with it as to whether you’ll lead a good life or not
If anxiety didn’t control me, I’d wake up everyday feeling over the moon. I’d have a nice shower with some music and make a lovely breakfast for myself. I’d make my life centered around so much positivity and prioritize my wellbeing. I’d be around all of those who I love, being unapologetically me.
Goals: 1)Leave home to do errands w/o running home partway through because of my anxiety 2)Be ok with losing people instead of trying to control the result 3)Figure out how to bring good people into my life instead of being a hermit
Little suggestion - try now rewriting the same goals and use only positives of what you want how you want to feel. E.g. feel comfortable/confident leaving home to do errands and be able to complete my tasks.
1)Be confident to leave the house to do things by myself, including speaking Spanish 2)Get a full-time job & feel like an adult & buy things I want & feel more secure in my housing, relationship 3)Do fun things simply because I want to do them 4)Find people I vibe with and make them my friends 5)Stop being triggered by shame and feelings of unworthiness, unshakeable faith in myself 6)Finish projects solo 7)Feel more alive and joyful
I am highly grateful to you Ma'am for such helping videos. You have made my life a lot better. I suffered from chronic stress and eventually with acute depression. Had to be on medication for almost 1 year. And I used to fear a lot that I will relapse again in that depression which makes one's life no less than a hell. But your emotion processing 30 videos on you tube and especially acceptance theory have completely changed my life. I am living now a happy and meaningful life and pursuing my dream with positivity. I will be thankful to you my entire life and I am in just early 20s. You are no less than angel for me. Lots of love and respect from India❤❤.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Does anyone know any good source to get them? I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels, would love to give shrooms a try.
yeah and if youre not carefull they will fuck you up harder than you can imagine. I HIGHLY recommend NOT taking psychedelics if youre not in the right frame of mind. there is a very big possibility that they will mess you up, and that is not something that you want to experience
My goals: -getting married and be happy in my relationship confidently -develop self confidence and stop doubting myself and others -not feeling like it's the end of the world with small stuff -develop good habits -build your own business -have good relationships with family and friends -stop obsessing over every thought that comes
My goal is to stop constantly fearing the fear. Hypersensitization to every little thing is robbing me of my joy and presence. I want to feel again but every time I try, I end up a shaky mess.
Mine started over a year ago, had panic attacks for 3 weeks straight multiple times a day every day. Lost 20 pounds. Went into hibernation basically, hardly worked, cut off relationships and barely left the house. Then I turned it around I started working at it, self care, meditation, eating clean, no caffeine. Actually stopping in the moment and explaining to myself there’s nothing to fear. I made myself go through my daily routine until it was normal again. It’s the most complicated/simple thing there is. It’s simple in theory and complicated in practice. But you can do it no problem
What helped some people I know is focusing on getting really good at something. At your job, or a skill… bc when they mastered something they felt a sense of assertiveness and could reflect that at other areas of their lives. Wishing you luck!!!
My goals: To learn about anxiety To stop anxiety taking control of my life To stop overthinking To start making decision based on what i want, not based on what i feel less anxious about To be a calm and assertive person
i revisit this note after i watch this video and the message is: we need to focus on what we want, not on what we want to avoid. Ok so let me rephrase some of my goals: To stop anxiety taking control of my life -> to start having a good relationship with my anxiety to stop overthinking -> - to start judge and think on a situation wisely and calmly - to start to differentiate a fact and opinion on a situation without having anxiety blurring my judgment
when she mentioned how we convince ourselves that we're worthless as a way to cope with anxiety that really hit very close to home for me. thinking about what i have cut out of my life, there's a lot of things, family, relationships, friendships. i never ask people to meet up with me or ask to make plans with them because of my fear of rejection. i am terrified of public speaking or even speaking in front of a small group of friends. i get anxious about sharing my work online or even talking about things i like for fear of being mocked or being made fun of. i don't dress the way i want to so i don't attract attention. for my goals i want to counter all of these things. i want to be able to share things without feeling anxious or worry about what other people think of me. i want to be able to present myself the way i want to. i am always scared of speaking first and also scared of calling others on the phone and i wish to fix that. i hope i can one day be the person i have always wanted to be.
I am actually trying to get myself out in the world MORE, meet new people, try new things, etc., to make my anxiety go away. It's just hard, because there aren't enough things to keep me busy as much as I'd like. But I AM trying. In fact, I just got home from going on a walk at the beach with a woman I met on Monday when I went to the civic center to volunteer making blankets for shelter dogs. I feel WAY less anxious than I have all morning. But I know the anxiety will come back as soon as I have little or nothing to do with my time. I wish everyone here well! ❤
Hi, I just wanted to say I think you did great! It's so easy to stay home and feel comfortable, but you went , did a good thing for someone else, and made a new contact. 😊 I wish you well too!❤
I admire you so much for taking the risk and getting out to do the things you did. You are a great example for me, because I'm the same about having too much time on my hands.....and such anxiety about trying new things and meeting new people. Thank you for telling your story.
That is so kind of you to say, @@betho.3542. Thank you. I started by just looking in my local newspaper for events happening in my area and picked a few to try. I also found the Center for Spiritual Living that way and now take a yoga class every Tuesday and just attended my first women's circle that meets monthly. Baby steps. You can do this, I promise. Wishing you peace and fulfillment. 🙏🏼
When the student is ready the teacher will appear. YOU are a lifesaver. I am ready for life!!! and to feel what needs to be felt in order to live the life i want. I cant wait to dive into your course. I feel i have just won the billion dollar lotto. My life back!!
Little late but my anxiety doesnt come from me worrying about myself, it comes from me worrying about the suffering of EVERYTHING else. Yaaaa so my anxiety comes from not having control usually. Goals: - to accept the things i cant change - learn to trust in others to do the right thing - to trust in the way of the world and let it be
1. Emotional regulation. Being able to continue with life and work even if there's a stressful situation going on 2. Stop overthinking 3. Have some goals in life and work towards them
Anxiety has definitely had its toll on me. In my senior year of high school, I didn't apply to a few of my dream schools because I was scared of being rejected. I also stopped talking to a lot of my friends and started avoiding social events. I continued to shut out many people and things that were meaningful to me thinking that would make the anxiety go away, but I realize now that it only made it worse because now I'm lonely.
My goals for this course are to learn how to manage anxiety in a healthy way so that it doesn’t disrupt my ability to function anymore, to trust my friends at their word more instead of reading into the small details of their word choices and behaviors so that I can feel more comfortable connecting with them on a more meaningful level, and to act in spite of my anxiety without my actions causing me to overthink even more so that I can connect with more people and learn how to be more authentic.
Goals: - To be able to accept criticisms, failures, and mistakes and learning from it instead of beating myself up for it - To be able to let go of my regrets and feelings of guilt and shame and move forward - To stop aiming for perfection and comparing myself to others - To be able to learn how to cope and manage with the anxious feelings especially when I am outside - To be able to do things on my own like going outside, doing errands, and etc. without constantly thinking that I might panic and faint - To learn how to manage my time and setting time to take breaks instead of doings things all at once or procrastinating - To be healthy - To be able to live life with all its ups and downs and with all its beauty and not letting the anxiety to hold myself back from it
If I may ask you - what are the things you can add to help this proces? :) What gives you joy? I feel like I'm overthinking less when I have a clear structure of sports in my week and see my friends often, but also take enough time to rest! I add those things to kind of 'overpower' the bad stuff. It gets less and less because I feel better in my body.
@@felienmusic for me it would be when i’m living in the moment similar to you but i should definitely write and get a clear picture of what’s to come down and what my intentions are
It totally makes sense to want to stop all those things. Phrasing goals as things to avoid often doesn't work very well though. Could you phrase the goals as what you do want to be or do, as opposed to what you don't? It seems like a small thing, but I've found it makes a big difference for me when I set goals and therapists have told me the same thing. I hope you're able to feel more connected, present and how you want to be!
I avoid telling people no, setting limits, because I don't want to feel guilt. My dream life: spending a day of variety, studying/learning new information, teaching people what I've learned, helping people love and accept themselves; spending some time with family and friends; traveling to new places
I enjoy listening to you. You make sense. Dealing with the physical symptoms that come with anxiety makes it hard to change. I've learned to perceive by telling myself I'm okay, I'm safe. God says be courageous and strong for I'm with you. Thanks for your videos.
I've been anxious since my teenage years. And it got completely out of control during and after lockdown. So, I'll remind myself: I won't avoid people, places and situations anymore. I'm not scared, anymore.
My goals: to not feel ashamed of myself in front of other people -> to feel proud of myself and my interests in life -go out to do anything really and actually enjoy it -be courageus enough to take singing lessons -to not worry about other people's problems and feelings all the time -to feel more happy by focusing on living in the moment -be more independent -to feel calmer in my body overall
I have been depressed for a long time, but after taking shrooms few months ago, l feel much happier and highly motivated and my ADHD gone , lost a ton of anxiousness and had a few epiphanies about how I should live my life. I decided to buy an ounce for backup, but haven’t yet felt the need to take any more since then.
My goals: - Separate myself from my emotions and thoughts, not be controlled by them - Rewire my thought process to more constructive and positive, not overthinking - Improve my emotional stability so that I can have better and stronger relationships - Be able to trust and support myself more 03/01/2024 ❤
I have chronic anxiety on an hourly basis. The only thing that has helped is literally constantly taking deep breathes. I have to constantly redirect and remind myself to take deep breathes. But it is helping
This video is super encouraging. I have not let anxiety stop me from doing anything. What bothers me is the anxiousness I feel anyway. In somethings I have definitely conquered anxiety such as with horses. I have overcome that. I accepted the position in my church to teach the women and have been doing that for over a year and each time it got more comfortable but I still really don’t enjoy it but I do it. Knowing that it’s okay to feel anxious and pushing through it is not letting it control me. I watched my mother stop living until she eventually passed away. I don’t want to do that! I want to live even if it is scary!!
Thank goodness for content that doesn’t cost a fortune. This is the issue with majority of people not getting help. In a perfect world we would all be warm and welcoming to strangers and people. You should be able to talk to anyone, anywhere.
That Is exactly what happened to me . I was avoiding everything that made me anxious and ended up with depression . This was also in the middle of covid lockdowns which really just made everything worse .
I've worked as an interpretor for 4 days with different groups. I have an immense fear of public speaking and I've been avoiding it for years but decided to face my fear (because I need the money to survive honestly). The sad thing is , after doing that my anxiety is still here, and although I am somehow proud of myself for finally facing my fear I don't feel better about myself, I feel slightly dissapointed, because whenever I go to sleep I think of all the times when I was awkward and made mistakes in front of groups of people and I don't ever want to go through that again. If you read this please send your good vibes or pray for me if you are a believer so that I can find a job that doesn't require public speaking🙏
You’re an awesome strong person and I believe in you. Keep contributing your awesomeness to this miserable/narcissistic planet that makes people lose focus of who they truly are inside
To have healthy, honest relationships with myself and others. Self empowerment, self respect, self acceptance. To escape my doom. To LIVE before I die.
My anxiety cycle often involves chronic pain that flares up when I’m stressed. I did PRT (pain reprocessing therapy) a couple years ago, and it was absolutely life-changing. This seems like the same kind of approach to anxiety in general & I love it! What you’re saying about changing how we interact with anxiety rather than shrinking our lives to avoid it really resonates. Thank you for the work you do to make this information accessible ❤
Wow thank you so much! I experience chronic pain when stressed as well, migraines, joint pains and stomach pains, I'm looking for the solution for those. Decreasing anxiety helps, but shrinks my life. I put myself out there as much as I can, taking some calming meds and processing feelings. But still there's some missing part about the pain afterwards.
I have chronic vertigo as well as pain from herniated discs. Needless to say, I "worry" about driving while vertigo is raging or I have numbness in my legs or pains in my legs/chest/arms I'd love to be able to commute, travel with my kids, or even just take a trip to the store without having to plan in case of emergency stops or outright avoid things
My anxiety is from chronic pain too from trigeminal neuralgia and MS. I was hoping someone in this thread would say their anxiety was from pain. I am just starting PRT. I am so hoping this will help and I am so glad to hear it worked for you it gives me hope
My goals- 1) I want to feel alive again. 2) I want to feel that I'm not worthless. 3) I want to be more confident of my self. 4) at last I want to love myself.
It is true i have been trying to get rid of anything that trigers my anxiety by avoiding everything and everyone and my world basically reduced to nothing i spent months in my room by myself and ended up feeling empty now even talking to my husband even to argue feels better than the chronic loneliness i experienced being by myself for so long 😂 that is my motivation right there remembering than being completely lonely feels way worse than anxiety 😂
Anxiety has caused me to to avoid social activity and going out to places like malls and restaurants. I used to be a cheerful and outgoing person. The work that I'm in right now, my boss is causing me anxiety. Due to my family conditions and tonnes of commitment I'm unable to look for another job at this moment. I just need to at least get back to my previous happy state where I can enjoy travelling, enjoy the crowd, enjoy dining out, enjoy the movie.
This video is so succinct and helpful. It's really helping me to understand and accept my anxiety. I think my anxiety exists most in romantic relationships.
I think i know where my anxiety came from. It's my inability to work properly in my new job. But because of the work getting harder, the more my anxiety grows and the more my anxiety grows, it's harder to do my work. It's an endless cycle
the first months on a job are hard really hard, but with time you do the things faster, start to feel confident in what you do, i hope everyting gets better for you!
Anxiety is making me waste time and possibly opportunities. I don't want to be ruled by fear (anymore.) I want a more meaningful, even creative, job; more social interaction and friends; and to check out new places. Making things makes me feel alive, which is probably why art classes are the only social thing I do these days! Without anxiety....I don't know! I could share more with people, maybe really connect and be a more useful person.
My goal: Getting better at identifying and feeling my feelings, accepting them and living with them in balance. Getting better at having enough distance to the situation and letting the story behind the triggers proceed through me, as opposed to me focussing on it. And as you said so well: I want to make my life wonderful, awesome, in its truest sense. I want to bring richness and joy back into my day instead of worry and fear. ❤❤❤
I didn't know I had anxiety. I'm a senior and I thought I had a medical problem for most of my life. Doctors would ask if I was depressed or anxious, but I'd say truthfully "Not that I'm aware of". I would ask for tests to be run; most came back normal or at least not serious, so I DID push on, I DID "tolerate it" and face it all like you say. And now it's gotten SO unbearable over the past couple of weeks that I have physically collapsed and in trying to describe the pain I realize damn, this IS anxiety. I can't relax, I can't unwind, I have the jitters all the time, even when I go to bed, and have to strictly ration my energy. At this point I'm not entirely sure that "getting out and living my best life" is a good idea as I feel like I am in the final stages of a progressive disease.
Anxiety has kept me from branching out more and has made me question everything. It's robbed moments of my life I've spent worrying only to find that it wasn't that bad!
Goals- 1. Making peace with the past and not feeling excessively guilty 2. being able to be okay with being alone 3. Realising my self-worth 4. becoming confident 5. stop dissociating 6. stop self-pitying and actually start working on myself 7. Having the will to persevere 8. Get healthy
I want to regulate my emotions and get back to living my life. I want to avoid mal-adaptive behaviour like stuffing myself after I have just eaten. I want the best part of myself to be in control and guide the child part of myself, not the other way around.
The life I want is to be around my loved ones and go out and have fun. Also find a job that I like that pays good to and I’m happy with the job. Eventually get my first car .
Anxiety has robbed me of having a good quality of life. After my mom passed 6 years ago, my anxiety got BAD. I stopped working out, and I stopped hanging out with friends and with parents of my kids' friends. I isolated myself so much that I think really poorly about myself. I recently found out that I have Avoidance Personality Disorder, which is 💯 everything you describe! Then I tried getting back into working out, and even just going into a gym parking lot freaked me out because I've gained 120 lbs over a 6 year period. When my mom passed, I practically shut down. Now I have this false belief that people at gyms will look at me like I dont belong or murmur things about me. It's also why I dont go to social gatherings because I'm always worried about what others are thinking about me. No, I dont think the world revolves around me, but the worry has been there from the time I was 9 or so. I have a great therapist, though, and she's working with acceptance and commitment therapy to help me get out of my comfort zone.
I understand you. I have been feeling like this but girl, just go to the gym. I know how you feel i was thinking exactly the same things, that omg I am fat and they are not and they will look when I exercise when what they think of me BUT we go to the gym to lose weight and not look like models. So that thought has stayed with me and helped me to be confident and just go there and do my thing. And if they wanna look, just look at them back. Embrace who you are fuck if people are looking at you.
My ultimate goal is to develop a healthier relationship with my feelings of anxiety and stress, and to use this feeling of excitement to make better choices and expand the richness of life. Instead of being avoidant as a unhelpful coping mechanism, and ultimately spiralling down into depression. I am looking for that consistent, upward spiral for the longer term!
At 64 I now have tinnitus which is untreatable, it has taken my anxiety through the roof! ENT says no treatment and common. have suffered major depression my entire life alongside PTSD, no this! I am at my wits end, therapy has been a dead end for various reasons and it is exhausting to keep trying! so many people take drugs or use alcohol to numb their anxiety, I haven’t but wish I could at times because it is just TOO much! So I finally tell people I am not ok, then they give me their lists of issues and diminish my needs, this is why I stay within myself!
Have you had your B12 levels checked? Wondering because of the tinnitus. I had issues with that for a short time and B12 is what fixed it. Obviously it could be something else, but it's a fairly easy thing to check.
Goals: Allow myself to think/do/say the things I want to regardless of the fear of judgement Heal my past wounds that spring my anxious sensations/thoughts Live life in an open capacity Pursue my authentic dreams and goals Live my life with optimism for the future instead of fear/regret from the past
What i want now is to go through anxiety and break through it and make it more controllable, and just devide the ideas that cause me anxiety and corrects them ..
Anxiety has impacted my life this way : _I feel anxious most of the time , and I guess I forgot how being calm feels like _It has impacted the process of my education _I feel afraid about starting new relationships _ I am afraid about future
I experienced anxiety in my early teens that I cannot describe as ordinary anxiety. It was intense and I believe it was part of mental illness triggered by environment. I couldn't think myself out of it.
Wow day one gave me so much inside... Ive got to know myself so much better... Reconizing this is the first step... I always thought it was part of my personality but now i know i have to fight it. I already feel so much stronger. I've listened to it twice (English is my second language, im dutch) and the second time i made notes cause i want to take the best out if this information. Thank you so much
I’m glad I saw this, I’m a child of a covert narcissistic mother, grown now, and I have CPTSD , so these are helpful, anything that helps is needed for my mind. Ty
Thank you so much for making this course! This is just the first video and I already feel like I have a little better understanding of how my anxiety is affecting me and that there’s still hope to live the life I want.
What makes me happy/feel alive/lights me up is possibly gaining back that feeling of how I felt before my anxiety took over. I was soooo excited for nursing school, helping others, making a difference despite how hard nursing school would be, I didn't care, I told myself I will still do it because I want to help people. I want to feel that excited nervousness/anxiety for going back to school, meeting new classmates, teachers, what the class schedule has for me, how much time and effort I have to put towards it and feel that happy feeling when I did.
My Goals: Find out what’s causing my anxiety . Stop constantly thinking about anxiety 24/7. Stop getting in my head. Accept the past and move on. Stop doubting myself and putting myself down. Build confidence. Start working again.
My goals: Stop overthinking. Stop not even trying, because it could hurt the perfect image I've created of myself. Stop avoiding by taking the path of least resistance. Stop trying so hard to make everything perfect by constantly thinking of every possibility. Enjoying and being in the moment. Being able to feel the emotions that are buried under the constant anxiety and overthinking.
Dear Emma, I’ve been following your channel for a long time now and I’ve learned so much from you!! The best thing I’ve done for myself in the process is picking up tapdancing… it’s a FUN activity that has really helped me a LOT with my overall balance… Thank you! ❤
Anxiety can make me be less of my authentic bad a$$ self. And that can be soul crushing- after all, I only have one life, my life...and it saddens me that despite all my strengths,, I still fear things that shouldn't matter or...are not that big of a deal. Speaking the Truth... Amen that is it! 🎉
My goals 1. To be present when in conversation and not ruminate as much 2. Start bettering my physical health and looking out for myself 3. Be able to handle these emotions without the use of distraction
I really like the idea that to reduce our anxiety we have to cut things out of our life. I cut almost everything out of my life for a very, very long time. Your perspective resonates strongly
Hi Emma. you clarify the thinking behind the feeling and focus on the consequences of giving in to it. I found it really useful to have a task to do that concentrates on positive goals .I'm really looking forward to the rest of this course. Thankyou! ❤
My goals: I want to be more self confident and better with people I want to be able to protect myself and set boundaries. I want to deal better with envy and negativity I want to stop letting anxiety and negative thoughts limit me and feed me with lies I want to develop a growth mindset I want to feel comfortable with myself and with others like me
Goals- 1)Stop overthinking and hurting my close ones because of it, not trusting anyone cause there's always a fear that people r gonna leave 2)Stop worrying about speaking my mind, thinking maybe my friends don't like me now, cause i gave an opinion which is different from their opinion 3)Don't feel overwhelmed after and before a task, it robs it of joy 4)self love
To learn to trust myself and not let my anxious thoughts question things so much that I either make the wrong decision or worry that I have. I want to be able to put my worries aside so I can feel lighter free and have more belief in myself and my capabilities.
Anxiety has impacted my life by causing me to give up my dream job due to being unable to cope with the level of responsibility. It has impacted my health and made me feel like a failure. It is hindering me from going for new career path as I am scared of the responsibility
Anxiety is literally hell. I’m 66 years old now and disabled due to violence. I had to go into hiding to protect my friends and family. Now all are gone. I get trauma sweats with anxiety I feel like my body is so hot it’s going to burst into flames and this is at its very worst each time I wake up from sleeping. I would sure appreciate you doing a video on this or addressing me here in the comments. Thank you❤
That is a horrible feeling when you first wake up. I went through that for years myself but for a different reason. It helped me to rock myself back and forth on my side in bed. And if I really couldn't stand it, I would get up and pace. Movement helped. Even though I was really exhausted, like my soul was so tired, but movement still helped. It will get better with time, gradually, not all of a sudden one day, but a little bit better day after day. God Bless.
Anxiety has stolen time, ability to display good healthy responses to stress. As a mother, I have not been my best for my youngest son. He is in high school and it's important he learns how to handle stress as well. I have definitely isolated myself as I felt like every time I was with people, I would feel judged. I appreciate you allowing us to view your beautiful course.
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My goal is to accept I have anxiety and stop fighting it and live alongside it.
I wish I could too
It sucks in social situations since it makes things unnecessarily harder but at the same time it's kind of idk cool to have it since nowadays mental health stuff is interesting. I'm not interested in well adjusted normal people, like no, I can't deal with it
How are you now
If you can do it, I can too!
@@neonicewhat are you talking about? If I could cure myself of my disorders I would do it in an instant.
My goals:
To stop avoiding
Stop letting my anxiety control my life
To start living again
Ditto.
Same
I would but I avoided the situation with my fiancé so I lost him and the future we were building. I also lost a really good friend because I felt completely unable to communicate and apologise to her. I’ve been diagnosed with severe cptsd since but can it really cause all these problems?? I think I’ve always had problems with avoidance but never to this degree. The reality is I don’t have a life worth living anymore
Same with me
My goals:
-self respect and firm boundaries with myself
-develop self confidence and stop doubting myself
-not feel like it's the end of the world with small normal things
-accept the things i can't change and strive with the things I can
-be comfortable with being uncomfortable
-have more patience with myself and the people around me
-develop good habits
-survive this academic year
Thursday Aug 10, 2023💕
how is it goin now, hope you doin well😊
All of mine are the same except the fact that I’m not in college unfortunately.
I hope you’re doing well with it!**
(Forgot to say this on my last comment)
Happy new year! How did you do? I hope you've been succeeding 😊
Feel the same way , hope your doing ok
Anxiety has ruined my life, after my friend group fell apart and the pandemic hit and I was neglected by my only parent, it stripped any social skills I had and confidence and made me sick and tired every day of my life, being young and not understanding I would continuously give into anxiety and I started self isolating till the outside world felt terrifying, i was in fight flight and freeze far more then I needed to be, now I'm trying to take my life back so I can be a successful adult and live a life that actually means something to me, that I'm able to make fantasies about but terrified to take action on. I was never taught these skills nor was I able to get help or have the proper funds to get therapy, so I'm here trying to teach myself how to live. I hope to make meaningful friendships, start a convo with a random person on my walk, and not worry about how I have to put on a show or look appealing to everyone around me cause that's simply unrealistic, it's caused me uncomfortable memory blocks and the lack of ability to focus, i want freedom!
I really need this. I can’t take this anymore. It’s anxiety all day every day. I can’t sleep properly, i can’t eat properly. I don’t want to imagine a life where i continue to feel like this. I can’t do it.
You can. You have to. Keep fighting back every day ❤
How are you feeling now?
Same here 😔
You can do It broo 😁😁
Same! I can't sleep, eat properly, and enjoy my life. Everyday is anxiety and trying to sleep
My goals;
-to understanding my anxiety
-to have more tools to not let it control my actions
-a new perspective
My goal is to get my energy back. The anxiety wears me out.
Change my relationship to anxiety to one of compassion and acceptance rather than submission and resentment because I know it’s just a part of me that is trying to protect me and was once actually existentially necessary for my younger self’s survival when it first came along. And though I hear it and appreciate what is once did for me, I want it and am determined to make it understand that I’m an adult now, and I’m ready to take responsibility and to be in charge of my life from now on. I choose reasonable risk and unavoidable uncertainty, the limitless possibility of life and the dizziness of freedom over paralyzing fear and a false sense of safety and control.
Wow! Seems like you have been gathering good info about the topic and have some nice tools up your sleeve.
May I ask you what resources you learned from ?
@@shahendarashwan5958 This channel. Gabor Mate. Dick Schwartz and IFS. Bessel Van Der Kolk and the Body Keeps the Score. Thich Naht Han and mindfulness/meditation. Years of trial and error, setbacks and breakthroughs.
wow this made me tear up because I am in the same boat and trying to learn to be kinder to myself
Anxiety has robbed me of my life.
Me too 😢
@@AfrohairliciousMe too.
Me too.
Me too. I’m 72 now and spent $$$$$$$ on therapy over the years.
Yeah mine too but we can fight back .
I knew from 14 that I had anxiety but I had no idea years later (now 25) how much it would hinder my life. I thought I was just a shy, weak or depressed person but I realize that's not the case. I'm extremely capable of doing things it's just this underlying fear that holds me back. There are so many things that I've put on the back burner because of anxiety such as dating, travelling, freelancing, etc. At least I have more clarity now on why I behave the way I do and find solutions to help me with social situations.
I’m 33 imagine if I started this at 25 very glad for you
@@adeo9293I'm also 33. Almost 34. Sucks I'm only now trying to get back to fighting my anxiety off.
@@adeo9293 man I am 25 and just starting to recognize all the problems. Even I think it's late.
I started with panic attacks at 15 and nobody could tell me what it was. I am 59 now and have major depression as well. I am still learning new tricks and it is NEVER too late to take your life back!
Do you really believe that? My life has been completely ruined by anxiety. I really now it’s a normal part of life and you HAVE to face it when it comes up it’s crucial to getting the life you want. Why do we not discuss this in schools?? It’s so important in how you deal with it as to whether you’ll lead a good life or not
If anxiety didn’t control me, I’d wake up everyday feeling over the moon. I’d have a nice shower with some music and make a lovely breakfast for myself. I’d make my life centered around so much positivity and prioritize my wellbeing. I’d be around all of those who I love, being unapologetically me.
Goals:
1)Leave home to do errands w/o running home partway through because of my anxiety
2)Be ok with losing people instead of trying to control the result
3)Figure out how to bring good people into my life instead of being a hermit
Your 1 and 3 are great goals for me
All your goals are good goals for me too
Little suggestion - try now rewriting the same goals and use only positives of what you want how you want to feel. E.g. feel comfortable/confident leaving home to do errands and be able to complete my tasks.
Goal Number 1... That's what brought me here. How are you doing now?
1)Be confident to leave the house to do things by myself, including speaking Spanish
2)Get a full-time job & feel like an adult & buy things I want & feel more secure in my housing, relationship
3)Do fun things simply because I want to do them
4)Find people I vibe with and make them my friends
5)Stop being triggered by shame and feelings of unworthiness, unshakeable faith in myself
6)Finish projects solo
7)Feel more alive and joyful
The first four for me too. Thanks for your list.
I am highly grateful to you Ma'am for such helping videos. You have made my life a lot better. I suffered from chronic stress and eventually with acute depression. Had to be on medication for almost 1 year. And I used to fear a lot that I will relapse again in that depression which makes one's life no less than a hell. But your emotion processing 30 videos on you tube and especially acceptance theory have completely changed my life. I am living now a happy and meaningful life and pursuing my dream with positivity. I will be thankful to you my entire life and I am in just early 20s. You are no less than angel for me. Lots of love and respect from India❤❤.
Sending you strength and love 🌺
Yes everyday and night I'm getting worse n I can't sleep I jus wish I could go back to myself like how I used to feel
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Does anyone know any good source to get them? I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels, would love to give shrooms a try.
Dr.sporesss is the best, he's been my go to for anything psychedelics.
Is he on instagram?
yeah and if youre not carefull they will fuck you up harder than you can imagine.
I HIGHLY recommend NOT taking psychedelics if youre not in the right frame of mind. there is a very big possibility that they will mess you up, and that is not something that you want to experience
My goals:
-getting married and be happy in my relationship confidently
-develop self confidence and stop doubting myself and others
-not feeling like it's the end of the world with small stuff
-develop good habits
-build your own business
-have good relationships with family and friends
-stop obsessing over every thought that comes
My goal is to stop constantly fearing the fear. Hypersensitization to every little thing is robbing me of my joy and presence. I want to feel again but every time I try, I end up a shaky mess.
I feel the same exact way, hopefully we figure this out.
Mine started over a year ago, had panic attacks for 3 weeks straight multiple times a day every day. Lost 20 pounds. Went into hibernation basically, hardly worked, cut off relationships and barely left the house. Then I turned it around I started working at it, self care, meditation, eating clean, no caffeine. Actually stopping in the moment and explaining to myself there’s nothing to fear. I made myself go through my daily routine until it was normal again. It’s the most complicated/simple thing there is. It’s simple in theory and complicated in practice. But you can do it no problem
What helped some people I know is focusing on getting really good at something. At your job, or a skill… bc when they mastered something they felt a sense of assertiveness and could reflect that at other areas of their lives.
Wishing you luck!!!
My goals:
To learn about anxiety
To stop anxiety taking control of my life
To stop overthinking
To start making decision based on what i want, not based on what i feel less anxious about
To be a calm and assertive person
i revisit this note after i watch this video and the message is: we need to focus on what we want, not on what we want to avoid.
Ok so let me rephrase some of my goals:
To stop anxiety taking control of my life -> to start having a good relationship with my anxiety
to stop overthinking ->
- to start judge and think on a situation wisely and calmly
- to start to differentiate a fact and opinion on a situation without having anxiety blurring my judgment
My goals:
•Set my boundaries firm for good
•Be consistent with things related to my career and make progress
•be more present and less disassociated
Hello muskan .. r u from india ?
when she mentioned how we convince ourselves that we're worthless as a way to cope with anxiety that really hit very close to home for me. thinking about what i have cut out of my life, there's a lot of things, family, relationships, friendships. i never ask people to meet up with me or ask to make plans with them because of my fear of rejection. i am terrified of public speaking or even speaking in front of a small group of friends. i get anxious about sharing my work online or even talking about things i like for fear of being mocked or being made fun of. i don't dress the way i want to so i don't attract attention. for my goals i want to counter all of these things. i want to be able to share things without feeling anxious or worry about what other people think of me. i want to be able to present myself the way i want to. i am always scared of speaking first and also scared of calling others on the phone and i wish to fix that. i hope i can one day be the person i have always wanted to be.
Im an licensed animal doctor who has stopped working bec of anxiety. I want to live again, earn a living, and help animals again.
What makes you feel alive ?
What lights up..
(If anxiety doesn't have to play a role)
Meeting people and having good conversations and funn with them
I am actually trying to get myself out in the world MORE, meet new people, try new things, etc., to make my anxiety go away. It's just hard, because there aren't enough things to keep me busy as much as I'd like. But I AM trying. In fact, I just got home from going on a walk at the beach with a woman I met on Monday when I went to the civic center to volunteer making blankets for shelter dogs. I feel WAY less anxious than I have all morning. But I know the anxiety will come back as soon as I have little or nothing to do with my time. I wish everyone here well! ❤
Hi, I just wanted to say I think you did great!
It's so easy to stay home and feel comfortable, but you went , did a good thing for someone else, and made a new contact. 😊
I wish you well too!❤
Thank you, @@janespond922. I appreciate the affirmation. Have a great day!
I admire you so much for taking the risk and getting out to do the things you did. You are a great example for me, because I'm the same about having too much time on my hands.....and such anxiety about trying new things and meeting new people. Thank you for telling your story.
That is so kind of you to say, @@betho.3542. Thank you. I started by just looking in my local newspaper for events happening in my area and picked a few to try. I also found the Center for Spiritual Living that way and now take a yoga class every Tuesday and just attended my first women's circle that meets monthly. Baby steps. You can do this, I promise. Wishing you peace and fulfillment. 🙏🏼
When the student is ready the teacher will appear. YOU are a lifesaver. I am ready for life!!! and to feel what needs to be felt in order to live the life i want. I cant wait to dive into your course. I feel i have just won the billion dollar lotto. My life back!!
“The only people who don’t feel any anxiety are people who are dead” And in my opinion that is why the lure of suicide is so strong in some people.
Little late but my anxiety doesnt come from me worrying about myself, it comes from me worrying about the suffering of EVERYTHING else. Yaaaa so my anxiety comes from not having control usually.
Goals:
- to accept the things i cant change
- learn to trust in others to do the right thing
- to trust in the way of the world and let it be
1. Emotional regulation. Being able to continue with life and work even if there's a stressful situation going on 2. Stop overthinking 3. Have some goals in life and work towards them
Anxiety has definitely had its toll on me. In my senior year of high school, I didn't apply to a few of my dream schools because I was scared of being rejected. I also stopped talking to a lot of my friends and started avoiding social events. I continued to shut out many people and things that were meaningful to me thinking that would make the anxiety go away, but I realize now that it only made it worse because now I'm lonely.
Thank you so much for doing this!
My goals:
- become calmer, happier
- be kind to myself
- slow down in life and feel good about it
My goals for this course are to learn how to manage anxiety in a healthy way so that it doesn’t disrupt my ability to function anymore, to trust my friends at their word more instead of reading into the small details of their word choices and behaviors so that I can feel more comfortable connecting with them on a more meaningful level, and to act in spite of my anxiety without my actions causing me to overthink even more so that I can connect with more people and learn how to be more authentic.
THANK YOU soo much for doing this for us.
My goals are:
- to decrease the anticipatory anxiety I feel before social events
I can’t begin to tell you how important your videos have been in my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Goals:
- To be able to accept criticisms, failures, and mistakes and learning from it instead of beating myself up for it
- To be able to let go of my regrets and feelings of guilt and shame and move forward
- To stop aiming for perfection and comparing myself to others
- To be able to learn how to cope and manage with the anxious feelings especially when I am outside
- To be able to do things on my own like going outside, doing errands, and etc. without constantly thinking that I might panic and faint
- To learn how to manage my time and setting time to take breaks instead of doings things all at once or procrastinating
- To be healthy
- To be able to live life with all its ups and downs and with all its beauty and not letting the anxiety to hold myself back from it
my goals:
Stop dissociating
Stop rushing through life and allow myself to be
Stop overthinking
If I may ask you - what are the things you can add to help this proces? :) What gives you joy?
I feel like I'm overthinking less when I have a clear structure of sports in my week and see my friends often, but also take enough time to rest! I add those things to kind of 'overpower' the bad stuff. It gets less and less because I feel better in my body.
@@felienmusic for me it would be when i’m living in the moment similar to you but i should definitely write and get a clear picture of what’s to come down and what my intentions are
It totally makes sense to want to stop all those things. Phrasing goals as things to avoid often doesn't work very well though. Could you phrase the goals as what you do want to be or do, as opposed to what you don't? It seems like a small thing, but I've found it makes a big difference for me when I set goals and therapists have told me the same thing. I hope you're able to feel more connected, present and how you want to be!
100%
I avoid telling people no, setting limits, because I don't want to feel guilt.
My dream life: spending a day of variety, studying/learning new information, teaching people what I've learned, helping people love and accept themselves; spending some time with family and friends; traveling to new places
I enjoy listening to you. You make sense. Dealing with the physical symptoms that come with anxiety makes it hard to change. I've learned to perceive by telling myself I'm okay, I'm safe. God says be courageous and strong for I'm with you. Thanks for your videos.
That's good. I like that last part. I think that will help me too so thank you for sharing.
My goals: communicate my needs
Find peace in being alone
Find true connection
I've been anxious since my teenage years. And it got completely out of control during and after lockdown. So, I'll remind myself:
I won't avoid people, places and situations anymore. I'm not scared, anymore.
My goals: to not feel ashamed of myself in front of other people -> to feel proud of myself and my interests in life
-go out to do anything really and actually enjoy it
-be courageus enough to take singing lessons
-to not worry about other people's problems and feelings all the time
-to feel more happy by focusing on living in the moment
-be more independent
-to feel calmer in my body overall
I have been depressed for a long time, but after taking shrooms few months ago, l feel much happier and highly motivated and my ADHD gone , lost a ton of anxiousness and had a few epiphanies about how I should live my life. I decided to buy an ounce for backup, but haven’t yet felt the need to take any more since then.
I have autism, I was diagnosed with it when I was 15. I tried shrooms and it made me function so much better.
Eek I’m autistic too and might wanna try mushrooms. How do I go about it?
Yeah doc.brenttt is your guide. Man is exceptional with anything psychedelics.
Hello Can he be reached on IG?
Yes doc.brentttt
I started crying when she said the more we try to fight the more it backfires
My goals:
- Separate myself from my emotions and thoughts, not be controlled by them
- Rewire my thought process to more constructive and positive, not overthinking
- Improve my emotional stability so that I can have better and stronger relationships
- Be able to trust and support myself more
03/01/2024 ❤
I have chronic anxiety on an hourly basis. The only thing that has helped is literally constantly taking deep breathes. I have to constantly redirect and remind myself to take deep breathes. But it is helping
Breathing techniques definitely help. Hope you’re doing ok. 👍
This video is super encouraging. I have not let anxiety stop me from doing anything. What bothers me is the anxiousness I feel anyway. In somethings I have definitely conquered anxiety such as with horses. I have overcome that. I accepted the position in my church to teach the women and have been doing that for over a year and each time it got more comfortable but I still really don’t enjoy it but I do it. Knowing that it’s okay to feel anxious and pushing through it is not letting it control me. I watched my mother stop living until she eventually passed away. I don’t want to do that! I want to live even if it is scary!!
Excellent keep it up your doing great.
Thank goodness for content that doesn’t cost a fortune. This is the issue with majority of people not getting help. In a perfect world we would all be warm and welcoming to strangers and people. You should be able to talk to anyone, anywhere.
That Is exactly what happened to me . I was avoiding everything that made me anxious and ended up with depression . This was also in the middle of covid lockdowns which really just made everything worse .
I just want this Anxiety to go away.. God blessed me with a amazing JOB and this stress & Anxiety is about to make me walk away 😢
I've worked as an interpretor for 4 days with different groups. I have an immense fear of public speaking and I've been avoiding it for years but decided to face my fear (because I need the money to survive honestly). The sad thing is , after doing that my anxiety is still here, and although I am somehow proud of myself for finally facing my fear I don't feel better about myself, I feel slightly dissapointed, because whenever I go to sleep I think of all the times when I was awkward and made mistakes in front of groups of people and I don't ever want to go through that again. If you read this please send your good vibes or pray for me if you are a believer so that I can find a job that doesn't require public speaking🙏
Sounds like you could use some self-compassion. 😊 Everyone says awkward things--some more than others--but it's a very human thing!
You ll do great
I hope you DO say awkward things from time to time, because that is what makes people relate to you and love you. It will be ok.
What if you remember the truth that most likely no one from your audience probably care. It is just human. Could it help?
You’re an awesome strong person and I believe in you. Keep contributing your awesomeness to this miserable/narcissistic planet that makes people lose focus of who they truly are inside
To have healthy, honest relationships with myself and others. Self empowerment, self respect, self acceptance. To escape my doom. To LIVE before I die.
My anxiety cycle often involves chronic pain that flares up when I’m stressed. I did PRT (pain reprocessing therapy) a couple years ago, and it was absolutely life-changing. This seems like the same kind of approach to anxiety in general & I love it! What you’re saying about changing how we interact with anxiety rather than shrinking our lives to avoid it really resonates. Thank you for the work you do to make this information accessible ❤
Wow thank you so much! I experience chronic pain when stressed as well, migraines, joint pains and stomach pains, I'm looking for the solution for those. Decreasing anxiety helps, but shrinks my life. I put myself out there as much as I can, taking some calming meds and processing feelings. But still there's some missing part about the pain afterwards.
I have chronic vertigo as well as pain from herniated discs.
Needless to say, I "worry" about driving while vertigo is raging or I have numbness in my legs or pains in my legs/chest/arms
I'd love to be able to commute, travel with my kids, or even just take a trip to the store without having to plan in case of emergency stops or outright avoid things
My anxiety is from chronic pain too from trigeminal neuralgia and MS. I was hoping someone in this thread would say their anxiety was from pain. I am just starting PRT. I am so hoping this will help and I am so glad to hear it worked for you it gives me hope
You CAN overcome
My goals-
1) I want to feel alive again.
2) I want to feel that I'm not worthless.
3) I want to be more confident of my self.
4) at last I want to love myself.
It is true i have been trying to get rid of anything that trigers my anxiety by avoiding everything and everyone and my world basically reduced to nothing i spent months in my room by myself and ended up feeling empty now even talking to my husband even to argue feels better than the chronic loneliness i experienced being by myself for so long 😂 that is my motivation right there remembering than being completely lonely feels way worse than anxiety 😂
I’m just discovering that now. Feel ridiculous for letting my life reduce to this
My goals:
- try more new things and meet new people and learn more even if i feel anxious
- change my relationship with school and anxiety
Anxiety has caused me to to avoid social activity and going out to places like malls and restaurants. I used to be a cheerful and outgoing person. The work that I'm in right now, my boss is causing me anxiety. Due to my family conditions and tonnes of commitment I'm unable to look for another job at this moment. I just need to at least get back to my previous happy state where I can enjoy travelling, enjoy the crowd, enjoy dining out, enjoy the movie.
This video is so succinct and helpful. It's really helping me to understand and accept my anxiety. I think my anxiety exists most in romantic relationships.
I think i know where my anxiety came from. It's my inability to work properly in my new job. But because of the work getting harder, the more my anxiety grows and the more my anxiety grows, it's harder to do my work. It's an endless cycle
the first months on a job are hard really hard, but with time you do the things faster, start to feel confident in what you do, i hope everyting gets better for you!
Anxiety is making me waste time and possibly opportunities. I don't want to be ruled by fear (anymore.) I want a more meaningful, even creative, job; more social interaction and friends; and to check out new places. Making things makes me feel alive, which is probably why art classes are the only social thing I do these days! Without anxiety....I don't know! I could share more with people, maybe really connect and be a more useful person.
My goal: Getting better at identifying and feeling my feelings, accepting them and living with them in balance. Getting better at having enough distance to the situation and letting the story behind the triggers proceed through me, as opposed to me focussing on it. And as you said so well: I want to make my life wonderful, awesome, in its truest sense. I want to bring richness and joy back into my day instead of worry and fear. ❤❤❤
Social anxiety ruined my childhood, my adolescence, my university life, actually my whole life, but I'll overcome it (I hope😢) 💪🏻
I didn't know I had anxiety. I'm a senior and I thought I had a medical problem for most of my life. Doctors would ask if I was depressed or anxious, but I'd say truthfully "Not that I'm aware of". I would ask for tests to be run; most came back normal or at least not serious, so I DID push on, I DID "tolerate it" and face it all like you say. And now it's gotten SO unbearable over the past couple of weeks that I have physically collapsed and in trying to describe the pain I realize damn, this IS anxiety. I can't relax, I can't unwind, I have the jitters all the time, even when I go to bed, and have to strictly ration my energy. At this point I'm not entirely sure that "getting out and living my best life" is a good idea as I feel like I am in the final stages of a progressive disease.
That sounds awful. And I can identify. How are you feeling now?
Anxiety has kept me from branching out more and has made me question everything. It's robbed moments of my life I've spent worrying only to find that it wasn't that bad!
Emma, you get the wonderful person of the decade award!!!!! Thank you for everything you do to help others.
My goals are
-to stop making big deals out of everything
- to live my life freer
- to fear less
-to be braver
Goals-
1. Making peace with the past and not feeling excessively guilty
2. being able to be okay with being alone
3. Realising my self-worth
4. becoming confident
5. stop dissociating
6. stop self-pitying and actually start working on myself
7. Having the will to persevere
8. Get healthy
You are so right!😊 Just like you said in other video,, acceptance and willingness/ embrace anxiety!!❤ Basically what I've learned about fear ,ect....
I want to regulate my emotions and get back to living my life. I want to avoid mal-adaptive behaviour like stuffing myself after I have just eaten. I want the best part of myself to be in control and guide the child part of myself, not the other way around.
The life I want is to be around my loved ones and go out and have fun. Also find a job that I like that pays good to and I’m happy with the job. Eventually get my first car .
Anxiety has robbed me of having a good quality of life. After my mom passed 6 years ago, my anxiety got BAD. I stopped working out, and I stopped hanging out with friends and with parents of my kids' friends. I isolated myself so much that I think really poorly about myself. I recently found out that I have Avoidance Personality Disorder, which is 💯 everything you describe! Then I tried getting back into working out, and even just going into a gym parking lot freaked me out because I've gained 120 lbs over a 6 year period. When my mom passed, I practically shut down. Now I have this false belief that people at gyms will look at me like I dont belong or murmur things about me. It's also why I dont go to social gatherings because I'm always worried about what others are thinking about me. No, I dont think the world revolves around me, but the worry has been there from the time I was 9 or so. I have a great therapist, though, and she's working with acceptance and commitment therapy to help me get out of my comfort zone.
I understand you. I have been feeling like this but girl, just go to the gym. I know how you feel i was thinking exactly the same things, that omg I am fat and they are not and they will look when I exercise when what they think of me BUT we go to the gym to lose weight and not look like models. So that thought has stayed with me and helped me to be confident and just go there and do my thing. And if they wanna look, just look at them back. Embrace who you are fuck if people are looking at you.
Hi
My ultimate goal is to develop a healthier relationship with my feelings of anxiety and stress, and to use this feeling of excitement to make better choices and expand the richness of life. Instead of being avoidant as a unhelpful coping mechanism, and ultimately spiralling down into depression.
I am looking for that consistent, upward spiral for the longer term!
my goals; reduce overthinking, stop dissociating, be more accepting of uncertainty
At 64 I now have tinnitus which is untreatable, it has taken my anxiety through the roof! ENT says no treatment and common. have suffered major depression my entire life alongside PTSD, no this! I am at my wits end, therapy has been a dead end for various reasons and it is exhausting to keep trying! so many people take drugs or use alcohol to numb their anxiety, I haven’t but wish I could at times because it is just TOO much! So I finally tell people I am not ok, then they give me their lists of issues and diminish my needs, this is why I stay within myself!
Have you had your B12 levels checked? Wondering because of the tinnitus. I had issues with that for a short time and B12 is what fixed it. Obviously it could be something else, but it's a fairly easy thing to check.
Goals:
Allow myself to think/do/say the things I want to regardless of the fear of judgement
Heal my past wounds that spring my anxious sensations/thoughts
Live life in an open capacity
Pursue my authentic dreams and goals
Live my life with optimism for the future instead of fear/regret from the past
What i want now is to go through anxiety and break through it and make it more controllable, and just devide the ideas that cause me anxiety and corrects them ..
Now i feel worried for commenting three times separately 😂
goals:
- be more secure in my relationships (friendships, family, partner)
- learn better coping mechanisms
- to be happy/happier
Anxiety has impacted my life this way :
_I feel anxious most of the time , and I guess I forgot how being calm feels like
_It has impacted the process of my education
_I feel afraid about starting new relationships
_ I am afraid about future
I experienced anxiety in my early teens that I cannot describe as ordinary anxiety. It was intense and I believe it was part of mental illness triggered by environment. I couldn't think myself out of it.
I’ve experienced this. Did it get better when you left?
@@hummingbird4934 I was too young to leave home, so I had short-term treatment at the time which improved my anxiety.
Wow day one gave me so much inside... Ive got to know myself so much better... Reconizing this is the first step... I always thought it was part of my personality but now i know i have to fight it. I already feel so much stronger. I've listened to it twice (English is my second language, im dutch) and the second time i made notes cause i want to take the best out if this information. Thank you so much
You have a wonderful way of addressing anxiety and all that goes with it in simple, thought provoking ways. Thank you for these wonderful videos.
I’m glad I saw this, I’m a child of a covert narcissistic mother, grown now, and I have CPTSD , so these are helpful, anything that helps is needed for my mind. Ty
Hello 👋
My goal is to be able to live a good life even with my anxiety because I think it is a part of me.
What makes me feel alive. Being with ppl I love. Socializing and traveling. Inspiring others who need help.
Thank you so much for making this course! This is just the first video and I already feel like I have a little better understanding of how my anxiety is affecting me and that there’s still hope to live the life I want.
what lights me up: quality time with family, friends, and my boyfriend. as well as contributing to my community and helping people.
My goals are:
To live a life worth living
To be much more concentrated
To be free of negative and catasthofic thoughts
What makes me happy/feel alive/lights me up is possibly gaining back that feeling of how I felt before my anxiety took over. I was soooo excited for nursing school, helping others, making a difference despite how hard nursing school would be, I didn't care, I told myself I will still do it because I want to help people. I want to feel that excited nervousness/anxiety for going back to school, meeting new classmates, teachers, what the class schedule has for me, how much time and effort I have to put towards it and feel that happy feeling when I did.
My Goals:
Find out what’s causing my anxiety .
Stop constantly thinking about anxiety 24/7.
Stop getting in my head.
Accept the past and move on.
Stop doubting myself and putting myself down.
Build confidence.
Start working again.
My goals:
Stop overthinking.
Stop not even trying, because it could hurt the perfect image I've created of myself.
Stop avoiding by taking the path of least resistance.
Stop trying so hard to make everything perfect by constantly thinking of every possibility.
Enjoying and being in the moment.
Being able to feel the emotions that are buried under the constant anxiety and overthinking.
Dear Emma, I’ve been following your channel for a long time now and I’ve learned so much from you!!
The best thing I’ve done for myself in the process is picking up tapdancing… it’s a FUN activity that has really helped me a LOT with my overall balance…
Thank you! ❤
Anxiety can make me be less of my authentic bad a$$ self. And that can be soul crushing- after all, I only have one life, my life...and it saddens me that despite all my strengths,, I still fear things that shouldn't matter or...are not that big of a deal. Speaking the Truth... Amen that is it! 🎉
My goals
1. To be present when in conversation and not ruminate as much
2. Start bettering my physical health and looking out for myself
3. Be able to handle these emotions without the use of distraction
Goals - reduce panic, return to social engagement, engage in self compassion.
I really like the idea that to reduce our anxiety we have to cut things out of our life. I cut almost everything out of my life for a very, very long time.
Your perspective resonates strongly
Hi Emma.
you clarify the thinking behind the feeling and focus on the consequences of giving in to it.
I found it really useful to have a task to do that concentrates on positive goals .I'm really looking forward to the rest of this course. Thankyou! ❤
My goals:
I want to be more self confident and better with people
I want to be able to protect myself and set boundaries.
I want to deal better with envy and negativity
I want to stop letting anxiety and negative thoughts limit me and feed me with lies
I want to develop a growth mindset
I want to feel comfortable with myself and with others like me
Goals-
1)Stop overthinking and hurting my close ones because of it, not trusting anyone cause there's always a fear that people r gonna leave
2)Stop worrying about speaking my mind, thinking maybe my friends don't like me now, cause i gave an opinion which is different from their opinion
3)Don't feel overwhelmed after and before a task, it robs it of joy
4)self love
To learn to trust myself and not let my anxious thoughts question things so much that I either make the wrong decision or worry that I have.
I want to be able to put my worries aside so I can feel lighter free and have more belief in myself and my capabilities.
Anxiety has impacted my life by causing me to give up my dream job due to being unable to cope with the level of responsibility. It has impacted my health and made me feel like a failure. It is hindering me from going for new career path as I am scared of the responsibility
Anxiety is literally hell. I’m 66 years old now and disabled due to violence. I had to go into hiding to protect my friends and family. Now all are gone. I get trauma sweats with anxiety I feel like my body is so hot it’s going to burst into flames and this is at its very worst each time I wake up from sleeping. I would sure appreciate you doing a video on this or addressing me here in the comments. Thank you❤
That is a horrible feeling when you first wake up. I went through that for years myself but for a different reason. It helped me to rock myself back and forth on my side in bed. And if I really couldn't stand it, I would get up and pace. Movement helped. Even though I was really exhausted, like my soul was so tired, but movement still helped. It will get better with time, gradually, not all of a sudden one day, but a little bit better day after day. God Bless.
How about if the underlying cause of the night sweats and resulting anxiety is hormonal (menopause?)
Anxiety has stolen time, ability to display good healthy responses to stress. As a mother, I have not been my best for my youngest son. He is in high school and it's important he learns how to handle stress as well. I have definitely isolated myself as I felt like every time I was with people, I would feel judged. I appreciate you allowing us to view your beautiful course.
goals: reduce overthinking. get better at feeling.