Why Some Hot Women Date Down - Hypergamy 101
Вставка
- Опубліковано 16 вер 2024
- A viewer asked me why a hot woman would date a fat man, what hypergamy is, and how this relationship defies the laws of hypergamy
Channel Sponsor: You're showering anyways, so why not buy handmade soap from a sponsor that supports the creation of my content. Use code "COOPER" at checkout and Get 10% off Tactical Soap mentioned at the end of the video here: bit.ly/2jQEZbz
Send business/sponsorship inquiries to EntrepreneursinCars@gmail.com
======================================================
HOW TO GET COACHING:
Phone Coaching: clarity.fm/ric...
Request a Video: entrepreneursi...
======================================================
Join my email list: entrepreneursi...
======================================================
JOIN MY PRIVATE MENS COMMUNITY
The absolute best way to connect with me, and 400+ men chasing excellence, is to join my private community for men.
It's a monthly subscription, and the exclusive content is commercial free, catered towards men living better lives, and will never be found publicly on my channel.
You will get direct access to me and:
1) In depth private videos to help men master, self-care, money, biz and inter-sexual dynamics
2) Access a secret Facebook community men working on themselves
3) Join private bi-weekly live Q&A hangout sessions with me
4) 25% discount on my 1 on 1 coaching rate.
All of the above perks can be had on my website: entrepreneursin...
======================================================
Bitcoin Donations
BTC address:
1L1AUHgPeEWXr5AeG6eStRpHsa93FBSNuk
======================================================
FAQs
That thing on my wall: • My Torso Cast
What I do for a living: • What I do for a living
======================================================
© Richard Cooper - For all business inquires contact EntrepreneursinCars@Gmail.com
This video is not to be reproduced without prior authorization. The original UA-cam video may be distributed & embedded, if required.
#Hypergamy #Dating #Love
It's so frustrating when I see guys liking, posting emojis and commenting, on women's social media. All you're doing is feeding her ego. Women love getting that validation. Just imagine what would happen if beautiful women posted sexy selfies and got very few likes? They would freak out. The only power men have with beautiful women is to ignore them and you guys just give these women free attention and get nothing in return
Very well said Sir! 👍
Preach fam, this is FACTS
Suicide rates would go up a bit, but eventually things would get back to normal lol
Absolutely, I just don’t understand it.
If all guys would do this the power would shift to men, but that will never happen.
If she’s active on social media, it’s just a matter of time.
Yup. A woman who is willing to ditch her phone off a cliff with you is a keeper. 99.9% will not do this.
Remember she can just look at tinder for an upgrade if she feels she can do Better.
The fake swipes she gets will brainwash her.
she belongs to the streets
proper garden tool
It’s already too late.
Spot on brother
He is working as a mechanic, so he is paying for her studies, hence why she stays. He is her free ticket through university.
Exactly!
Ahhh, there's the rub.... Good catch.
Yep. I have seen it happen more than once. College girls mooching off their blue collar BFs is a thing.
OFC this means she'll leave him right after he graduates, she's likely already sizing up his replacement online and on campus.
Chris Townsend He’s a 5 and gets to be with a 10 for four years.
A poet has written, “The desire to feel loved is the last illusion: let it go and you will be free.”
This works
AMEN!
Wow.
Who is the poet? For research purposes.
Which poet?
That's good. It really is the last illusion to let go of, but it's also the first and original illusion, the one behind all the others, or the one from which all the others came.
Social media has ruined dating for men. I started dating after the military in 2005 and immediately saw the consequences of MySpace. I spent 18-25 focusing on my purpose and not dating, but after establishing myself to some degree dated many women over the years. I can honestly say that 80% of my relationships ended due to the woman posting pics on social media and practicing social media hypergamy. Usually these chicks would dump me to duck a chad only to be left at the curb afterwards.
And that's why I already kept on thinking in my view I'm at 22 years old right now, women logic wise won't pull off social media away everytime thus of me already not focusing on relationships and focus on excellence. Very ridiculous on how that is contuning to go on.
Wilma always thinks she can do better 😂
They are depreciating assets. You're a fool if you buy. Just rent a high-value one and return it to the dealership.
Stephen Bottom lease don’t own 😂 save the money you would spend on a wedding ring on a new car.
@@eknoke01 You've got it, Erik.
"A woman should be a compliment to your life, not the focus"
*complement
an accessory more like.
@@DanteTheSimpSlayer dude i know this is late but that was brilliant, ngl i laughed my ass off when read that :D
That goes with anything until you have kids and a family.
lmao this is how ive always viewed it ngl
This man is changing lives for the better. Wish I had access to this level of help when I was 16. Value you it guys, value it.
Hey! Luckly ı am 16 aňd happy to learn life
@@eminozdemir2166 hey me too men im16 i guess we are very lucky
You guys are extremely lucky. 👍👍
Same here, guys of 16, embrace this and practice it
@@rayaneali7239 Don't depend entirely on her for birth control either. I don't care what she says she is doing for that aspect.
My dad always told me, never date too far above or below your league. Either situation leads to trouble. Strive for the highest value you can, but accept the cards you’re dealt and navigate the market accordingly.
Your dad was a wise man!
I’d say that’s pretty good advice. First, you probably aren’t able to date too far about your status...and dating too low economically only puts you at risk of losing your shirt if the marriage goes south. Which, most do.
Isn’t that like some Chinese saying ‘when it comes to dating/relationships, be as realistic as possible.’ I am not being mean or racist. Its just based on this video, that’s some weird form of chemistry that attracts this 2. Possibly the fat dude was a different dude that deteriorated badly.
I mean it might be common for people to date one another of different attributes or qualities. In western societies, it’s more to do with some form of eccentricities or opposites attract that kept this 2 together for the time being. In my own cultural background, it’s a different story.
Wise man
yeah one will start to think they're not good enough while the other will ponder if they could've done better
Hypergamy will catch him soon. I recall being in high school, and having relatively high SMV for a high school boy. Athlete. Tall. Fit. Popular. I ended up getting a very cute girlfriend who was a classmate. We matched up well. But two years later I was in college, and just a guy. I had no money and was the typical starving college student. My social status was not as high as it was in high school. Meanwhile my girlfriend was in her absolute peak SMV. Gorgeous. Getting hit on wherever she went. Guys deeper into their 20s, with money, were hitting her up nonstop. Needless to say she jumped out of our relationship and started leveling up to the higher SMV guys. I didn’t understand it then, but fully understand it now.
That’s how I see it too.
High school girls settle for way less. But once they get to 18 they want higher quality men.
19 they want even higher. Etc etc.
@J D Dont bs around. If you were poor and got from zero to hero, you will try to level up your smv through training too. Rich guys are top smv and always have been. Also they are much more attractive physically normally. One can see on these online dating studies how money is 1:1 a predictor of attractivness for males. There is no need to buy someone when they are naturally flocking towards you.
@J D With rich I also mean upper middle class (top 10%). Then there is classic rich (top 1%) and wealthy. What you mean most likely is wealthy good looking guys are extremely rare, but thats not what Im talking about.
In animal world this is happening everyday its not a drama just how nature works, we just have to accept it, the only difference the animals have reproduction season where they have to show of to get a female and get in get out that's it no relationship no bullshit
@@gool54 I really don't call that hypergamy though. Hypergamy is purposely leveling up because someone has more money or talent. However, when a girl gives up her boyfriend from high-school to date someone else, thats just her exploring her self. In fact usually people break up before college. Thats normal. It isn't about the money. Its about a guy just having better game and the women wanting experience. By 26, she will go back to guys that value her for her but first she wants to play. True hypergamy is when a girl who got it good with a guy who takes care of her and they are married but she trades up because a guy literally made 10,000 more and drove a better car. Thats hypergamy. Most guys just failed to give girls attention.
This is the truest statement I've ever heard: "Women don't care about your struggles. They just pick the winners when they cross the finish line." If I had understood this in my 30s life would have been much different.
Dating down guarantees emotional control. Safety Optimization strategy for her.
Has any of you ever taken in consideration that good women actually exist. ?
I mean ...they re rare, I know...as rare as good men
@@Tkimba2 Yes my sister on a good day
@Nemesis Red yeah, you are so illuminated... And you are good man, right?
@@Simon-og5vy learning life on youtube, huh ? You rock 👍👌✌
@@Tkimba2 I must admit...
I used to see this all the time in the Army. Little Billy from Butt Crack, middle of nowhere where he was a big deal would join up and bring Little Suzy with him. Once Little Suzy arrived on base and saw all the super Chad SF soldiers running around she realized Little Billy wasn't such a big deal, bye-bye Little Billy.
Poor Little Billy...
If little billy was single, he wouldn’t have any worries. No bitch, no obligations, no bullshit.
Jody strikes!
Thats when little Billy buys a Wrangler or Charger at 88% interest rate to show her what she's missing.
@@t900badbot 😂😂😂👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
I had a pretty woman at work hitting on me for a while, badmouthing the husband at home. At first I was kind of flattered, but I researched a bit her behaviour and I found the red pill. I explained her nature to her as I understand it, telling her not to be shameful of her nature but to try to control it as it is fully in her power. She has good intuition and quickly realized the red pill is the true shit. Now she thanks me for saving her marriage. She understands that her husband having retreated to the gaming room is an expression of his own attempt to create a frame for himself, and all she has approved for him is a small cot under the stairs. She says she now encourages him to go away with his pals for weekends and he is showing her attention again.
This is awesome man, it’s really encouraging to hear a story like this.
Good shit hombre.
@Jonny I’m not understanding, wouldn’t it be right if the woman to show her man these things if she is aware of it? If she’s a decent woman at least, then she would desire and want to respect him more and have him lead, etc.
This might backfire
"Frame" year right.
im 56 & retired & yet there are a LOT of women in my age group who are still single but keep wanting to meet that "guy whos perfect for them" not realizing that theyre still looking for perfection no matter how its worded & will remain single until that mindset changes which of course it NEVER does.. and many are jaded, selfish & only look a what a guy can give them temporarily-- great sex or money or a comfortable lifestyle & try to make him feel lucky to be banging them. This is why im single and finally after raising 3 kids ,buying my own home this yr and ive started losing weight --down 25 lbs so far.
most women aren’t willing to put the work to become the woman that their high quality men need on their side.... they never get picked and they don’t realize why
That’s not true they’re getting dick down by men in their 40s. Sorry we winning
A lot of women in this age group can get quite bitter, because the grass looked greener on the other side of divorce, then they found that their SMV for good men wasn't what they thought it was. Got to chuckle about that. The grass turned out not so green.
Rich is spot on when he says that she needs to wake up each morning knowing that you are the best thing in her life. If she doesn't think that way, it's game over sooner or later. You cannot control how she thinks. You can control you. Be the best!
I'm 57 and had the same realization. You are spot on my friend. This is why I'm single as well. Best of luck with your weight loss goals!
@@joeroot9142 It's not that you're winning. Look over your shoulder - there are guys in their 30's just waiting to take your place. And guess what... They have guys younger than them to worry about.
So no, you're not winning anything. Because, as one gets older and wiser, one realises that it's not a race. You think you're winning because you think it's a race. You have competition, right? Keep on trying to win, dear chap.
Some of us know that there is no race. No race = no competition.
Rich Cooper talks about those who hang out at the finish line. Wise words. But some (not all) of us older dudes have learned the secret: move the finish line.
You'll catch up!
She's not his, it's just his turn.
And that turn runs out the moment she gets her diploma.
Why would you even WANT to own "her" anyway? That's WEAK.
She's not his, just her turn.
That mentality will never get you the so-called red pill quality woman.
@@cristinap273 lol
I used to work security at special events, a lot of wedding receptions, parties, etc.. I've seen plenty of mismatched couples over the years. It's not always what we might think, that draws two people together. I've seen it especially with large families, certain women are attracted to men with large family structures even though they might not be attractive. There are a lot of variables usually not considered.
Maybe in India
I cannot disagree with you but a lot of these women that are with men like this come into my club without their wedding rings or their husbands and trying to take me home. I work at night clubs just because I'm kind of violent and a big guy and also I get a lot of girls. And they talk crap about guys that do the same thing and they become way worse than most men ever thought about being. not all of them but a lot of them
@@BJETNT lol your so cringe
@@BJETNT
You're out in clubs? You probably have COVID 19.
:-0
Yeah I agree, there's alot more factors, I like this dude but he's kinda shallow in a realistic modern way. Iv seen hot chicks with guys because if family structure, finances for sure, personality sometimes, bid d energy, popularity, access to drugs, even moral compass, ethical base, religious similarities.
If she just hit 21 that's when the party stage really starts and she'll be gone soon. Iv seen my friends make that same mistake. Girls night out is how it gonna start. High school sweethearts and happily ever after don't happen in today's world.
It happened in the 60’s and 70’s and even the 80’s. But then the internet came along and social media was born. Divorce skyrocketed.
it can, but it's rare that a guy is truly on his purpose & chasing excellence consistently from high school -> young adulthood. Out of my two best friends in hs, one is married to his hs sweetheart, and one is living with & probably going to marry his hs sweetheart in a few years. However one is in med school and one is an engineer so... they're more of the exception rather than the rule
Bobby it did happen to a couple of my high school buddies but that was decades ago. I doubt the percentages are that high in 2021.
@@eknoke01 I agree, I'm thinking where I grew up it might just be a bit more common
@@bsp3971 anything is possible I suppose. But I know several couples that have stayed together just bc they don't know anything besides each other. One couple in particular have both confided in me they wish they hadn't got married straight out of high school.
This is essentially what happened to me. I had a high school sweetheart, we dated for 4.5 years. She found a guy "friend" in college, and my blue-pilled beta ass couldn't see what was going on. Tough, but valuable lesson!
Similar situation for me, except she didn't leave me for a "friend" more so cause we couldn't fix some underlying issues in our relationship and she wanted to take some time for herself and maybe find someone more compatible.
It's ironic that you have jim as your pp
As soon as she finishes school and Tyrone slides into her DMs she’s outta there.
@@claytonbouldin9381 💯
Or Jamal 😂
Men love idealistically, women love opportunistically. For women, it's all about what he can offer to her..
add "right now" to that and everything you say about a woman.
And for men it's how attractive she is.
@@mariansmith9685 same the other way, and wom3n are more entitled and picky. Explains the increase in singl3 mothers and divorce. The " i can do better" mentality
What if the guy was the sweetest ever? It doesnt matter if he is chubby or not.
Obviously not all women are the same
I'll bet she's using him for his money, he makes money for a house and bills while she attents university.
Exactly, i knew a guy like that. He worked his ass of to pay the monthly bills and her university, thinking they would get married in the future. The girl split after she finished school.
lh 311 damn that’s cold 🥶
@@eknoke01 Damn Thats the reality of a women. Look at what they do, Not what they SAY.
John Averick no Truer words spoken. They are walking contradictions. 😂
Or she fell in love with the dude when they were young. Are all of you guy's virgins?
"monkey branch" so true. My x, my son and I went on a hike she did not want me to be in picture at end of hike but I made it in. She ended up editing me out and sending her online man a pic of her and our son after a hike. I got into her cell and found text with photo, so now 4 years later I am way better off.
Damn, that's fucked up.
Yes you are way better off.
King
Any phone related social media garbage and she needs to be kicked to the curb. Sucks yes, but that's just the way it is. Glad you're outta that.
so, you ruined a nice mother son photo, invaded her privacy, and- and you’re bragging about it?😂
For this reason: Always be the better version of yourself all the time.
One of the best movie quotes I've ever heard:
"You can lose lots of money chasing women but you'll NEVER lose women chasing money."
this is basically the story of mine , its almost a year ago , it hurts ,and hard to swallow the truth but i take it , been hitting the gym for 6 months and have my confidence back , try a lot of new things and life gets better and better .
She will "outgrow" him by the time she is 25 y/o. She will use those exact words "outgrow" him. I hve seen it a million times with women
She lost her virginity to him.
That's how strong the initial bond is.
Why men are supposed to marry virgins.
that sounds right but few women today stick with the guy that took their virginity
@@MikeG82 Granted.
But you also must acknowledge that society is designed in a way to where 'sticking together' is rare.
Boys are high fiving taking virginity.
Girls are giving it up to boys they aren't even with.
No one is taught the true value of it, nor to wait until marriage.
You could have 2 kids who would have, but one of the families moved away.
Or were inundated with "no one stays with their teenage partner!"
These things combined serve to annihilate one being able to even realize there's a natural rule being violated.
-
One can look at those in pockets of 'strict religious adherence' to see that being virgins on wedding nights highly impacts relationship success rates.
-
And I'm not a Jesus freak.
I was raised secular to bathe in the debauchery.
But logic is logic. The stats are in.
The real world 2020 answer is dudes that are good at sex isnt going to take the time to get a virgin up to speed sexually. The inexperienced guy and the virgin girl will have shitty sex. He going to want to do the stuff he sees in porn, so he ends up wrapped around the finger of an experienced women and joined the meat grinder.
@@jamiesp3901 Right.
Back in the day, dudes knew not to sexualize their wives.
They'd step out for the kinky stuff - with the ruined 'liberated' chick who lived down the block.
Now they're all under programming that you can have a chick who is both.
Which has never existed.
@Jupiter Chicks can't grasp logic. They don't have agency.
They are but a reflection of the programming they're under.
Change the programming, and you can change the great majority within a generation.
The last century of 'liberation' is but a blip on the radar of human history.
A woman does not love unconditionally there's always a long list of conditions if you want unconditional love get a dog it'll love you like a woman never will...The only exception is a mother's love for her child.
Not even that a mother loves her child because it's her child even that is conditional.
True. But to be fair, a ♂️ doesn't love a ♀️ unconditionally either: If she no longer has sex with him, and her personality becomes rotten... goodbye "love"!
@@SL2797 wrong. If she is a narcissist then she always finds a fool she can have around. Even if there is zero sex. The fool she uses can then pretend to the world that he gets sex/care when in reality his balls are blue
There are no exceptions.
My mom is poor just like the grandparents, parents, siblings, friends, and all the others around them. Poor to me means packed in suburban at best if not worse (whatever that is) such as townhomes, condos, or apartments. Packed in like cock'a roaches. "Hi neighbor to my left, hi neighbor to my right, hi neighbor behind me, hi neighbor in front of me, hi neighbor below me, hi neighbor above me........did you all see what I had for din din last night" lol
Yep still puppy love. Everything will change though at the latest when she hits her mid twenties and her "10" friends start getting engaged to lawyers and doctors. Hypergamy has a lot to do with comparing yourself to others (from a female pov).
Appreciate for sharing.
Yup the wall is in the near future for her.
Women can be just as competitive as men, if not more.
Yep, constant conformism, comparison, and envy is what drives most of them.
@@r.d.6290 That means they're operating from ego, or fear (of losing/not being the envy of the bunch/not being accepted) and not from their heart and intuition, which is a quieter internal dialogue than ego. After their looks fade, you hear women talk about men and you'll notice they've shed the superficial side of it and suddenly value totally different qualities than they did when they were younger and attractive. Too bad with social media and comparison ever so present, that it's difficult to find a girl that values what she does from a wholesome place and isn't acting from scarcity, fear, and ego.
I was in a similar situation... got together with my eventual wife in 2000... spent ten years paying her way... sent her to nursing school... even did some of her classes for her... took care of the house, the kids... worked my ass off while increasing her socioeconomic value...
ten years and five kids in she’s making a comfortable six figure salary... so, like an idiot, I figure it’s my turn (I was a greasy mechanic, like this dude, and had little or no time to for myself so, of course, I’d gained weight... I was a high-end tech, though, working on exotics, race cars, and classics/show cars... not that any of that matters but I thought that should count for something because at least I was trying to elevate my skills... it didn’t)... I was wrong about it being my turn...
So, after ten years she announces to me and everyone within ear shot, on New Years Eve, while at a friends house, she’s reconnected with an ex boyfriend and wants to go spend some time with him ( dude was an ex Navy SEAL... 6’5”, 245, pure muscle, hung like a horse [so she said] and was always using him as an example for what I should be [alpha widow])... I should have divorced her then and there... but I took it as a challenge and blessed her venture... she told me she had to see if she made a mistake by choosing me over him... like, obviously, this had been eating at her for some time...
two days into her week with him she called me and told me she made a mistake and begged for my forgiveness... of course, I was all too willing to forgive and forget because I won!!! (not really)...
she spent the next ten years waffling between me and him (all the while having a number of other “adventures”) until she decided to turn to heroin... because, I suspect, she couldn’t stand not being able to have him AND her kids... she tried to take my kids away and start over with him but she made a lot of mistakes along the way that made that impossible for her...
if she wanted to be with her kids she needed to stay with me and that was too much for her to take so she blew up our lives by becoming a heroin junkie... we lost everything... homeless... kids taken by the state... nursing license gone... all worldly possessions gone...
I divorced her the beginning of last year and started to put my life back together... it’s been tough but I now own my own home and have my kids back... still have a long way to go but glad I have folks like you to help me along my journey...
Look forward to being a dad for your kids and forget her
Wow, dude, sad story for sure. Hope you’re faring well!
I hope you recover from this brother. So sorry for everything that you've been through
wow, such a story, thanks for sharing, wish u the best, heroin ruins so many lives
Man , you have been through hell and back , so glad u did not break under the stain of her off the charts selfish actions , karma is going to bring her to hell in the form of her atrocious nature and heroin addiction , sooo glad u picked yourself up out of the ashes of that chaos , your kids will worship u forever bro , my greatest energy to you my friend 😌
He might be out of shape and just be a regular guy in terms of success, but he does have something that's in his favor. And that's the fact that he met her young when her bodycount was probably still low. This means that her ability to pairbond was still intact.
Also, we don't know much about this guy's game and ability to hold masculin frame. Those factors are important as well.
Note that hypergamy tends to be stronger in women who are over 30 and have a higher bodycount.
That’s because women over 30 have limited options and are grasping at whatever comes their way. Younger women are more picky because they can be. Time and good looks are on their side.
facts 💯
I tried dating after 30. It sucked. After 30 (as a female) I think it is best to be happy with friends and if you are lucky maybe a friendship down the line can blossom into something. In my view dating seems pointless after 30. 😆 Definitely by 35. You men can just find a woman in her 20s no matter how old you get and be okay with it. So your dating pool doesn't really narrow as much.
Cait M kinda sad but true. As a female your best option is to focus on yourself and stay viable by being fit and independent so either way your good. There are lots of guys who who could care less if the woman is in great shape and has her life in order.
@@caitm8209
Most women your age want rich old suger daddys... xD
Quite a few of my friends told me that I date down. Those so called friends are no longer in my life. The things that are most important to me have nothing to do with money, status or looks. I prefer what alot of ppl describe as the weird, introverted nerdy type. When you develop a true emotional bond with someone they look good to you. So why concern yourself with looks when it could derail you from something much more balanced and fulfilling? PUT THE LOOKS DOWN AND STEP AWAY FROM THE LOOKS!!!! The grass is greener. 😂❤
I really hope your words are true and that all hope is not lost for romantics out there 😅
@@toeknee3302 My words are true but finding a person of intellect and quality is close to impossible!! I am very old fashioned with certain things and it's difficult to find someone who wants the same type of relationship I'm looking for. Ppl who want Monogamy, honesty, warmth, loyalty, teamwork, individual as well as shared goals and friendship are unicorns these days!! Good luck out there it's a jungle. 😁
I like the introverted nerdy women types also and I find them to be most attractive and have great character and personalities. And I have also had old friends tell me that I date down. I don't care though; I date whom I wish to date.
What do women want? "more" Why? "Because they can"
This is the comment of the day
And also because they are a trio of holes. Holes are spaces to be filled
they don't want just more
they want something else too
Self confidence, gift of gab/humor, have your own place (no roommates or parents) can go a long way. You can pull in any chick you want I've been a big guy my entire life and never had a problem with it.
same here.
Getting used by gold digg3rs isnt pulling chicks lmao
@@joys8634 Were did I mention in my OC that I pay women? Stop being jealous and making shit up, troll.
You’re right, I’ve been a skinny chad to a dude who’s packed on pounds and it never really changed I’ve been able to pull chicks easy and not wildabeast lookin chicks. I don’t make a ton of money, but have owned my own house since 2009. Like you said gift to fab humor confidence and having your own place. I have a buddy who says man you don’t even leave the house and chicks just come over to fuck you, and I was like yea bro you still live with your dad and we graduate high school 20 years ago. I’m 37 but chicks think I’m 31-33.
Abstain from liking their instagram posts. Deny them the undeserved validation. If every man does this we can change the world
The true morons are the ones who eye-heart every post of hers, with the delusion that they have some sort of shot by dishing attention which constantly reveals interest level. They don't realize that the only reason she keeps them in her friend network is to sponge attention from them. Basically: Have self respect and don't be an attention-shelling male orbiter.
in my country , Kazahstan, we say "women have chicken brain".... yeaaaah.. high 5
yet they can outsmart guys who are otherwise brilliant...
Borat approves
government scientist Dr Yamuka has proved it is size of squirrel
Give her the Moon and the Stars and she'll ask for some space.
Bro you hit it right on the head. My situation exactly. Had similar SMV in HS, I got sloppy and unfocused in my early twenties, put her on a pedestal, she bounced at 23. No excuses, this is how it goes boys. LISTEN TO THIS MAN
Same, my blue pilled ass dated a cheerleader in high school, she wasn’t upset attractive but had a nice body, I played football and was definitely a point or 2 higher than her in SMV. We graduated and I got out of shape and lazy, she did too but not to the extent I did. My smv definitely dipped below hers and about that time she started hanging with a guy she used to fool around with that played baseball in college. That was the end of that. Funny now I’ve gotten back in shape and have something going for me, she tried to reconnect but I shut her down. Hate I had to learn lessons the hard way but it is what it is. I wouldn’t trade it for anything, totally woke me up to reality of women
I can vouch for what he’s saying. My friend was with his wife for more than 15 years since high school. There about the same in attractiveness. He was excelling in his small business, paid for their wedding put a down payment on a nice house. But he couldn’t compete with her boss who as far more established so she left him took money on her way out
"The only real lasting power a man has over a beautiful girl is indifference; indifference will always be a girl's kryptonite." - brian padrick drake
Learning to behave with indifference while harbouring a desire for partnership is the true test, isn't it. The moment she senses that you're more invested than she is, her interest plummets. What a stupid, backwards way for human nature to work. Especially for those of us who are romantics at heart.
Well said, @@davidj5425
"Excellence"
_Extremely ...subjective._
Right. Excellence in God’s eyes VS Man’s eyes.. the two are diametrically opposed. Nobody is taking their treasure to the other side.
The smart man figures out what treasure he can take with.
I think you are good if you follow your own personal brand of excellence. Too many of us "sell out" for the sake of wealth, power, sex, etc. If we're honest with ourselves, we will have taken the first step towards living well.
@@Skeetopunk01
The smart man don't believe in religious fairy tales.
7:00
I have experienced this. Met a girl when we were both in college and had pretty much a fairytale romance. I finished college and started working, she went on for another two years, got her PhD and got a great job as an engineer (she is a very intelligent and hard working person, not somebody who spends hours on social media or makeup everyday etc), she got her own apartment in her home country.
I had a decent job, had a future of some sort, she had a better qualification and job but it wasn't too unequal overall. She sent me a lot of pictures, wanted me to visit her and maybe join her over there if I could find anything decent there.
However, I was hurt in a car accident coming home from work. At first she was very caring and supportive, we were still skyping, she sent chocolates etc. But when it became apparent that I wasn't going to bounce back quickly she started to pull away and become distant until I realised it was over.
When both of our lives were going in a positive direction there was love and romance, when I got knocked back and she continued in a positive direction (as so defined by our society) she lost interest and began looking elsewhere.
I am not bitter, I don't dislike her and I still respect her as person.
I think it's important for men to understand women's nature and not to judge them for it, we can love, respect, care without owning, and when our lives are going well we can have the benefits of love, sex, respect and care as our reward for our successes, our work and our positive attributes. But we have to think of this love as more akin to a cat's love than a dog's love. You can enjoy the company of the cat in full knowledge that it could ditch you for a better deal without looking back if it got the opportunity. We don't hate the cat for this because we understand that it's just it's nature.
This attitude will benefit your mental health, especially if you have such an experience, because it is an attitude based on truths and not on falsity.
From a woman's point of view, my guess would be that he's supporting her through college. Once she starts making some of her own money, she will likely disappear. The other thing you see is the very average guy who dates through school and then marries the slightly heavy girl. She puts on more weight through pregnancies. Then she suddenly gets it together and drops it all - 95% leave the original guy as she has always known that she settled for any guy who would date her.
I've heard about those situations a few times but I think they might be outliers. I say that because people usually let themselves go a little bit as they age, rather than transform from overweight to fit. It must be starnge to see someone you're married to completely transform themselves into something they have never been before and not become insecure about it. The transformation will also be accompanied by a complete change in lifestyle too I imagine, and possibly even a slight change in what social circles they are in. That being said, I wonder how many people who do change their lifestyle manage to keep it up indefinitely. There will almost certainly be a lot of loose skin etc as well. If the person is naturally atrractive though, the changes to their face alone will be huge.
If she's fat and a "4"
And you dated her, she thinks you're a "4" for dating her,
even though you're a "7" who saw potential in her.
With your help she lost 50lbs.
But now she thinks she's a "7."
She'll dump you because all her friends tell her to.
They don't care what you did for them.
I'm 5'10" and 285 plus.
My lady is a 8 plus looking hot mama but hey I am the Alpha Man and in charge... and she knows her role and place in our marriage...
30 years ago I knew a couple like this. When they started out, he was overweight and she was quite the dark hair, dark eyes beauty! He was also 15 years older than her. The difference was, this man had charisma, loads of confidence, been a U.S. Marine drill instructor, U.S. Embassy military police, served two tours in Vietnam, had about $500,000 in investments and cash reserves, had an awesome sense of humor, was successful as a top tier welder (he has an entry in the ASME handbook for inventing a method to successfully weld copper to aluminum while working in a Navy shipyard), he was the right hand man to the owner of a large ironworks company who was a major contractor for local industry, including a nuclear power plant, and Gold Card scuba diver. He had everything but good looks. He was a definite alpha and my best friend. The lesson here is...never judge a book by its cover.
I worked with this lady who ran ever morning and did CrossFit. She was in great shape. When I met her husband, he was a little pudgy and had a big fuzzy bread and always laughing.
She told me later that she didn’t like muscular guys and that she liked Teddy Bears. They have been married for years. Maybe she felt more in control of the relationship or maybe she didn’t view him as a threat with other women.
I talked to a lesbian that was a former coworker and asked her why i see so many hot chicks with guys who aren’t even close to them in attractiveness or SMV. She told me some girls like the control, the guys deep down know they’ll never get a girl on her level again so they’ll do anything to keep her, and they get off on that. She said more than likely those relationships will end when the girl gets bored. Lesbians are lowkey all red pilled bc they deal with the same things we do, plus they know exactly how women think
I know a few ppl like this and all these ‘Teddy Bears’ worship the ground these women walk on… the Teddies do everything! When the man is hot, the woman does everything 😂😂 The hot person naturally does less bc they are the commodity and have more options
I've always noticed that some women "date down" - Women in their 20's who are attractive, doing alright and weren't with a "bad boy" either; an Average looking, average job etc. - I've seen women who are a few inches taller than the man, married and who doesn't have money. In a social psychology course I had in college in an auditorium room because there were about 300 people in the class, one day the professor asked the women in the class if they would date a guy that was shorter then them to hold up their hand. In a class of 300 where about 200 were women, I was surprised to see most of them with their hands raised. I've known men who were older and happily married and the women made more. One thing to never forget is that there are differences. This chart shows this, this data shows that. But people are different, and women are different. Some will be with a man that makes them happy, respects them, that's a positive in their life and the aspects of money, status and looks are secondary... sometimes a far second, especially the money and status.
I like that you, someone educated, came to that conclusion. Because all too often on youtube you have these jokers making videos claiming theyve got it all figured out and that all women are the same and only want money or good looks and to not make your lady the focus of your life, dont put her on a pedestal, (in other words, dont treat her too too good). And they dont even realize not all women are like that, and if they are those relationships almost always end it divorce. I think it takes a woman who is mature in mindset to finally ask herself, is this guy even nice to me. Does he love me and does he try. So sometimes women date down. I used to be concerned about how ppl looked as a kid. As an adult i realize it matters more how the person makes me feel. Do they make me feel happy inside.
@@erk44 I'll tell you as a guy I look for a woman with good character as my primary attribute. I'm a man of good quality all around. I'm not rich or famous, but people like this can be of bad character, negative, miserable etc. that make for a bad, unhealthy relationship. I'm wise enough to know that someone I'm attracted to in various manners and have an overall positive and healthy relationship with is what makes me happy.
@Eran Riblo most of these girls are beat. They ain't getting no 6'3 line backer.
If people really love and care about each other this Hydrgamy won't ruin things but it seems now people don't value their spouses only material things and money
I definitely agree with this notion of extra layers to what's important in a relationship, rather than the linear perception of status and money. But, you have to remember, there are few intelligent people in this world, with this particular mindset. Someone's intelligence is also a very underrepresented quality of a person that rarely is mentioned in these discussions and spaces of contention. The whole money and status thing is a common problem for those that have average to below level intelligence, they make up a large portion of the global populace. This is only a problem for those that go by conversations after conversations only about how their day went, or news, or some generic small talk.
In the early 90s a family member was the guy to be in high school. Played sports, had a job, in shape, alpha, drove an Iroc Z Camaro. You couldn’t be any more cooler. He had a smoking hot girlfriend turned wife. He graduated to become a mechanic and hurt his back on the job. She was going to college. They had a kid, he got fat, she stayed in shape. He sat around doing nothing except collect workmen’s comp and take odd jobs for years. She divorced him and rightly so. She moved on, and he eventually returned to work in the law enforcement field. Got fatter, got himself a fat wife. Together they graduated to obese along with a new fat child and live fappily ever after.
The key to a long term relationship is learning to live with the other persons flaws . Everyone has them. Up to each person to know what they will deal with and not. My number one thing is cheating . Number 2 is money / let’s not use each other for it. Other than that it’s fair and square .
"Couple from High School"....Usually couples that stay together from young, consistently that is, tend to stay interconnected better. There is a stronger bond that connects them. However, if people sleep around often then it's more difficult to create that bond with anyone new.
Ability to pair bond is a real thing. Some have it some don’t.
I believe it also depends on the cultural backgrounds & family priorities. If you have a family that prioritise culture and early relationships, it might be possible for high school couples to be a success.
However, very few people have that sort of thinking. Do know that this world has a big variety of cultures and backgrounds that high school couples in most cases are a failure.
Yup. "Mismatched" or otherwise, ALL of my high school couple friends are still together 20 years later. The only long term couple from those times that broke up was my guy Jared. He left his girl due to pressure from family about him dating a white girl...he was dating her since the 6th grade...smh. He's a single dad now, his "black queen" cheated and left him.
@@eknoke01 all people have it.
It's a chemical wiring in the brain. There is a deeper reason why your first love you cna remember. It isn't just memories it's a chemical wiring for survival, linking back to our early days as humans. It's to do with survival and gut response to danger and protecting one's mate from danger. It's also why women and men's field of gravity is different. Men, for defense and fighting, women for running with a child to safety.
"There's an infinite amount of time where that relationship is likely going to run out."
I always find it fascinating how much red pill culture still hyperfixates on women, chasing women, measuring their value in relation to how women perceive them etc. It seems to run counter to focusing on yourself and your well-being.
It's also funny how they try to tear other men down. Sometimes red-pill culture reminds me of the most insecure incels.
Exactly. It's more like "men going the other way" instead of "men going their own way".
Ok radical lefty, wateva u say
@@xXxSPADExXx0 swing and a miss.
Because Rich and other Red pill guys are insecure.
A woman will stay with a guy even if she hates him. They hate being alone, they jusy want to be with someone and she'll jump ship as soon as something better comes along.
I hate to admit it but most the time that's the truth!! Most women and men are only as loyal as their options. If I get one hint that they're like that my ass is gone!!! One of the reasons I'm 45 years old and single and still built better than a 20-year-old and have money in my pocket. Honestly though I would rather not be single. My last couple of girls that I were messing with were in their mid-twenties and that's not as fun as it sounds. Sex is great everything else sucks
I just saw the title and IMMEDIATELY liked 🤣
PLEEEEEASE .. stay fit guys .. I 🏋️♀️ everyday!!
This relationship will fail. Rich is 1000% on point.
Sounds like the brother asking for the opinion might have the hots for this chick...just my feeling.
Have a great day brothers.
Dy definition 100% is all that is possible
The dude just sounds uneducated to how women work. We all wish we knew what we know now but when we were 17.
Great to hear that "Steve from accounting" got a mention again!
It's nice to hear that there is someone out there confused when someone like me wins
Been the fat guy there. My high-school sweetheart wasn't a dime piece but, 2 months after my 21st birthday... Shit was over! Dead on accurate here.
All men should have skills and interests especially if they 'stay at home' (would not suit me) Houses need maintenance as do gardens and outhouses. MEN SHOULD AND CAN ACHIEVE MANY SKILLS IN A LIFETIME. That is what gives us value to ALL women.
I tried to warn one young man about this, he ignored me, four year later he was back at my office crying, 11 days after graduation she dumped him, claimed abuse (chicago court) had papers demanding he pay for her education. (190,000K and every cent he earned in three 1/2 years) I advised him get an attorney, file a complaint of marriage fraud, write her board and DO program demanding an ethics investigation, don't pay any money to her ( he was back in Iowa ) WOW, you should have heard the threatening phone call I got from her.....
Why do all of these dorks who have never had a successful relationship or even a relationship at all give out so much advice? Take advice from men who are in a successful relationship and/or good fathers.
Lately it's not always just a dorks. I'm by far not that way by description. I'm extremely well-built blonde-haired blue-eyed bodybuilder. But you know what women nowadays they expect the best even if they're the worst. It blows my mind how a girl that looks like she lives off of Twinkies thinks they can take me home on the weekend. But if a guy says something like that we're automatically a misogynist. Nice thing about running the club that I'm atI can get loud and when I shoot them down and make them feel about 2 in tall for being such a b****
@@BJETNT You're suprised women at nightclubs are vapid & shallow?
This doesn’t apply. You can learn a lot from people’s experience and mistakes. Just because someone has failed doesn’t mean it was his fault. You can do everything right but life still won’t reward you because anything involving humans is subjective in who gets what and with who.
99% of acting coaches in Hollywood never made it as a movie star. But they have a long list of A-list movie stars as past students and have a never ending waitlist of new students ready to sign up an learn.
@@jamesmeezy3114 Dont waste your time, with this blue pilled fish out of water.
which dork? this is a successful guy
Thanks Riched for the book . Absolutely loved it ❤. Now going to DO THE WORK and this type of relationship i had with my ex gf and yes it broke and I am happy that it happened it opened my eyes from the Disney world and brought me back into reality. Can't thank you enough Rich.🤙🏻🙏🏻
So sad that this is true...long gone are the days of "To death do us part"...so disheartening that people have lost the ability to push each other to be better!!
Your spot on man... Women would deny all these things but it's completely accurate 100%!... Thank you for the information we appreciate you.
Liked before listening to the content. Yeah I'm a fanatic.
Maybe she really loves him.
Nah, she's just using him.
Not gonna lie, You had us in the first half.
In 5 years they are done! I meet a wonderful girl a perfect 10 .. she was meek, sweet to her husband , swore up and down she was happy... less than a year later she filed for divorce and went with one her followers. Once a girl knows she's hot, just light a fuse it's just a matter of time.
old mate has basically described my high school sweetheart breakup. couple of years out of college, I had got lazy and put on weight, relied too heavily on the relationship and she got sick of it and bounced. listened to the bullshit and believed it for a while before i realised how it was. glad I used it as a marker begin to get my shit together and work hard. 2 and a half years on I can confidently say it was a brilliant learning experience and i'm lucky i got the eye opener at such a time.
I'm a 47 year old bald teacher. I am married to a 31 year old Chinese yoga instructor (10/10). Confidence and hard work will bring in all kinds of women to you. Knowing what you want and how to pick the right one is key. What I always tell people - learn to be uncomfortable. Comfort is a luxury you need to earn and only cash in 5% of it at any time to keep from getting soft and lazy.
She doesn't want your money?
I'm 24m and this situation just happened to me. Got lazy and to comfy. Should have read the signs but now it's to late 🤷 time to rebuild myself
Same, 22m, dated my high school sweetheart who was also my first gf. Took it for granted, she hit the road looking for greener pastures.
Get to the gym, work hard it will be all good.
Dang I've been happily married for 25 years and nothing said in this video has been true in my case. My wife definitely married down in education, our work ethic was the same, I was a stay at home dad then built a nice business. I'd say my wife has tons to do with my success but I sure wasn't successful when we hitched up.
Thanks for yet more good content! Your helping change the world!
The thumbnail is gold
I am really hoping it's just a stock photo or we need to find this man and learn something.
Rich!! Love the videos and been looking forward to one like this. The one thing I would add in my experiences that women have told me is they refuse to date good looking guys as good looking guys don’t appreciate. So they say. Also keep in mind that women are incredibly insecure! Women have told me there’s no way they could date a man who rates the same or higher on the SMV scale. If they are the higher one in the SMV scale in the relationship they feel more secure. To add to it if the guy is Beta and basically kisses her feet in the relationship she then feels she can do and get away with whatever she wants as she knows he’s not going anywhere.
these concepts alone hold me back from even wanting to get in a relationship or taking any female seriously on any level, if you don't invest in women in general then your not loosing anything, if there going to consistently look at you and think to themselves can I do better then this guy then why shouldn't you treat them the same or worse.
Cool, just take yourself out of the genepool.. 🤔
The key to getting hot chicks: post that you are only available on weekends due to restrictions from your prison release program.
The odd couples are always because the guy is rich, or because they have dated since highschool. The clock is ticking, because shes at that age where the high school bond starts decaying.
Bond only decays because of social media and dating apps though.
Tough times strengthens bonds.
Instant gratification culture seduces women.
Many valid points, and fair enough.
HOWEVER, there is always the rarity that they are TRUE to each other.
WHY?
Because they are High School Sweethearts that found each other and it's a very STRONG Bond. Extremely Tough to Break.
Be curious as to a Follow up as it's been 2 plus years later.
Women hate competition and want all the attention. When I was younger, I was very athletically fit. Women loved it at first, some even enjoyed the attention of women looking at me. BUT after a while, their insecurity kicked in and they became rude or possessive. They also tried picking at other things about me, my haircut, my facial hair, clothes, etc. I never allowed them to break me down and the relationships always ended. Now that I'm older I've gotten fatter but I'm still confident and just don't care what women think.
Before watching: I got to hear this!!
I tend to have found over the years that the women I’m attracted to, many other guys would be too, they could walk into a bar and have many guys want to date them, I couldn’t do that I don’t think, I keep myself fairly low key as I stand to lose so much if I end up with a wrong woman, I’d rather take care of myself and live comfortably as a single man then be stitched up by anyone
Wise above your years..I'm 53 and bought into the whole Picket Fence BS...married 26 years..finally divorced her and she got the house ans I got the shaft...marriage is a LOSE LOSE LOSE Proposition for any man.
Well I'm 40 years old now lol, so not too far behind you, agree totally as men, we only stand to gain what the eye can see, wheras females in my case, they could gain a great deal, not something I'm willing to signaway to someone who wears a white dress for a day
That's why I date women who got their shit together and no kids.
The fact that they dating since young is a giveaway. Young girls don't know better. But for other cases: 1. She has low self esteem. She doesn't know how high value she is. She THINKS she can't get better. Same reason a successful man stays with an average looking girl. 2. Guy has dominant traits eg. if he's controlling and she's submissive, it can work. Or he's 'chasing excellence' as a gamer and she 'accepts' that. 3. Some girls just want a genuine guy, usually girls that have great relationships with their dads. 4. Easy to control/good provider. e.g. fear of hitting the wall made her go for the safe option. Like some men going for ugly women.
Are you just giving general reasoning or being specific to this situation? What 21 year old has a fear of hitting the wall?
@@banjomcgee6333 See where I said 'for other cases'...
@@TheCrystalbrite Oh shit. My bad bro. Totally overlooked that bit. I get you.
I am 50, I have had my fair share of fun (believe me), I am just fine not dealing with any of this crap ever again.
Living my life, doing my own thing, onward and upward. Thank You for verifying what I already knew in my heart.
Once she realizes she can do much better, she will.
"She is not the focal point of your life" well said
McKenzie Bezos was with Jeff before Amazon became big and attributed a lot of Amazon's success in the early days to her support.
really believe that? C'mon man
Deluuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuusional
I’d rather have a so-so looking man who treats me well and is a good provider. Those men make better husbands. The men who are very focused on appearance will run around on their wives.
That guy will definitely be a future rich cooper sub.
Jaded AF
"Women are hypergamous except when they're not." Very good.
Met my daughter's mom in high school. She was beautiful (actually was my dream girl and never thought I could get her). Law of attraction made her mine. She was 18, I was 17. She got pregnant and had my daughter. We moved in together. I got fat due to stress, work, and complacency. My daughter was only months old when her mother started riding the cock carousel behind my back. Needless to say, she left, tried to come back, but I was done. No second chances. 22 years later: ME: I have my own successful business, own a home in So Cal, and put my daughter through University. HER: Is a single mom with two additional kids, no job stability, renting in the hood, and is an mental and emotional burden to my 21 year old daughter.
Never pay for a hot college chick's loans/tuition, she won't stick around once she gets that diploma. If you got the dinero and want some coed action - stick to the Three F's Rule.
Find ‘em
Fuck ‘em
Forget ‘em
@@richk794 If it Flies, Floats, or Fucks it's always cheaper to lease than to buy.
But that other version works too.
I had plenty of women tell me they like men less attractive then them
My thing with hypergamy is that you can't really find a girl who's on your level, or maybe you do but then they turn out to be psycho
I listened to this while I folded some clothes, really good info. Thanks.
A 10? I thought 10s where almost impossible to find
Exactly, I met in person one 10/10 in 42 years of my life, and mind you, I met thousands and thousands of women.
They are rare as unicorns.
What guys usually describe as "10" are solid 8s and 9s.
A woman who's a 10 ? I have a few words to say.... Glamour girls = Glamour problems ( Stay safe my brothers )
Yes 10s like a fitness model with a move star face , like Anna. kournikova in her day
@@Simon-og5vy The one 10/10 I met was a babe around 23 years young, absolutely perfect body and stature, face of a Ms.Universe, natural thick long hair that reached below her round firm perfect ass, green blue eyes like a feline, her voice was like a heavenly music and she was so pleasant in her demeanor, that once she spoke to me I was left speechless. Totally classy. Last but not least, I met her around ten years ago in a luxury night club in Czech capital Prague. :D
They are unicorns. They don’t exist.
I'm just so glad I found you on UA-cam you clarify everything I feel in no I do know there are good ladies out there but finding one I may have to use some of these skills that you advise it will definitely help thank you
I think she's just with him because he's probably her 1st boyfriend. And she's probably scared of a break up or something....
This is the important part, the knowledge.
It's just your turn.
Don't get too atached.
Be ready to leave at any point and you'll be fine 👍