Right!!! Like, who the eff does that? Oh yeah, snakes!!!! They're disgusting and I hope OP and Sammy goes low contact with all of them and builds a real family up from people that love and support them. I also wish on them all the kids they want!
The problem is, even after apologies, what was said and heard cannot be unsaid or unheard. The fact is they said those things. Why on earth is the sister doubling down?! This girl offers you FREE babysitting and you do nothing but insult her?!
I think is Jealousy, Sammy is a good person, educated and in a great relationship. I agree with Reddit in the possibility of they projecting their flaws in her just yo feel better about themselves.
I think, OPs girlfriend is a genuinely nice and caring person and has shown much affection and consideration for OP's family. They probably don't have a legit reason to hate her. They are being confronted with an actual caring, generous and happy person, and they're probably bitter and jealous. That's why they can't stand her, even though they benefitted from knowing her.
Some people double down because they're embarrassed. She insists her actions were justified, and that Sammy is the problem. To apologize is to admit she's wrong, and she's not willing to do that. Everyone else, even if they didn't believe they were wrong, knew they had to apologize to keep the peace. And they may have realized that even if their feelings were justified, their actions weren't.
Indeed, apologies are only the first step. They still have a long way to go to mend the relationship. And even then, there’s always the possibility OP will never want them back forever no matter what they do. In that case, they’re just going to have to cut their losses, take the life lesson, and move on with regrets. That sister can take a flying leap into the dumpster though. Redemption is apparently “too good” for her.
I’m glad the girlfriend/fiancée/wife realizes that OP is her family. If they want kids, they will be her family too. Frankly, the people you choose to be in your life can be better family than the ones you don’t.
Apart from the father, I wouldn't trust any of their apologies as sincere. Mom can cry all the crocodile tears she likes, but what she's really scared of is losing OP. Brother is scared for his job. Fear is not a great motivator for genuine change, since fear eventually fades. After everything Sammy's done for the beyotch sister, and she's still doubling-down, she doesn't deserve a second chance. Bet she'll suddenly be full of phony apologies once she's uninvited from the wedding! But it's not up to Sammy if OP cuts ties with his family. He has to make that call, for his own reasons.
At first; I felt that OP’smom’s tears were phony. But I do feel that once she heard Sammy’s story, she had a change of heart. Also about the hold out sister? Why do I see a future “Reddit “ post from her claiming that “Her Brother’s Evil 👿 Girlfriend Has Turned Her Family Against Her”?
I’m so invested in OPs relationship now. 🤣🤣 I want them to have as many healthy beautiful kids as they want for as big of a family they want. Sammy deserves it! Also, I think that last sister is letting her pride get in her way. She’s more mad that there were actual consequences for her actions.
It is obvious she was envious of Sammy because she has the love of her man forever, a job and self-confidence enough to secure work for her other brother ,unlike herself who was divorced and a single mom with nothing really to show
The one sister who's refusing to apologize, I think she's embarrassed at getting caught. When some people are embarrassed after something like that, instead of apologizing or admitting that "ok even if i was justified, it still wasn't nice", they double down and insist they did nothing wrong.
Oh dear. Their comments were bad enough already, but in the context of her only bio family being an alcoholic father this would have been devastating to her - she clearly regarded OP's family as the family she never had. I feel terrible for her, and OP for having such schoolyard gossips and bullies for family.
I think its wonderful that Sammy is so self-assured, confident and comfortable with herself to hear the family out and keeping contact with them in her own terms without hurting herself. I could never.. She is definitely a gem and I think OP hit the jackpot (fortunately he knows and put a ring in it lol)
"She is not good enough to be happy but is to help me with my problems" is the vibe I get from the sister specifically. I bet that if they didn't hear it after she married OP she would ask for favors and money a lot.
When he started describing his love, I was like “that’s a golden egg right there!” Op’s love sounds like such an amazing woman, she didn’t deserve that crap from op’s family
At first I was wondering if her goofiness popped up in inappropriate ways during meals or something, but no the only reason they didn't like such a helpful and loving and great woman was petty jealousy that she's educated. I'm glad the dad seems like a decent guy.
She has to decide if having a decent, loving husband is worth becoming part of that awful family. Even if he goes no contact with them, she would blame herself for splitting the family. That's really tough. But I'd go with the guy, because those are not easy to find.
Well, OP’s gf/fw had two “walk-in“ discoveries in this story. The first was genuinely awful, and will take a lot of rebuilding to recover from. That family. The second surprise is just wonderful. I can just picture the scene in my head. Those two deserve every happiness.
Yea.... i think OP and his girl would be better off nit having those people in their lives. They only "saying sorry" because they dont want to lose OP. OP brother only apologized cause he was affraid Sammy would make his life hell at the job she helped him get. They not sorry for what they said, they sorry they got caught and called out.
Story 1 that man is a wonderful partner. His girlfriend is as lucky to have him as he is to have her. Man, if my husband (or other serious boyfriends) was as loyal, many years of my life would've been much happier
Sammie and OP are so lucky to have each other. Sammie sounds incredible, (like low key I want to date her after hearing what a goddess she is), but let’s give all the props to OP. What an incredible man. I’ll admit their have been a lack of good men in my life so when I meet or hear about a good one I’m always impressed.
If they “felt bad” they would gather up their panties, bow their heads, and apologize. With the knowledge that even if their apology is accepted that doesn’t make it okay.
I have parents that didn't approve of my choice of a wife either. Dad still "reminds" me of my "mistake" that I "have to live with" from time to time. #Irony - a few years back, in a rare visit where my wife and he were talking, he was being overly critical about love and how there's more to life, blah blah. My wife had enough and asked him: "so who did YOU let get away?" His expression was that of a kid who got caught with the hand in the cookie jar, I kid you not. So yeah, projecting shortcomings is apparently more common than one might think. The idea that my dad might be jealous of my relationship with my wife explains a lot of his behavior. Unlike OP, my parents never properly reconciled with my wife - which is a big reason why we limit contact. OP seems to already be in a better position with his family, even if some of it isn't fully sincere. At least they, short of the one sister, owned up to their gaffe. He and Sammy will probably work out just fine.
A Person's Weight/Appearance Have Nothing To Do With There Personality, If One Falls In Love With Someone Then Love Is Love. I Have Gotten Similar Crap About Girls I Have Dated, To Me Personality Is No 1. Nothing Else Matters ❤️❤️❤️
If I were a betting man, when the holdout sister finds out it's a destination wedding and she finds out that she's not invited, she going to suddenly change her tune and make nice and weasel an invitation and accomodations out of OP and his future wife. If that fails, she will put pressure on the parents to force OP to allow her and kids to come. Should that fail, she is going to do everything she can to sabotage the wedding and may resort to blackmailed the family by not letting them see her kids. She strikes me as that kind of vicious individual.
That seems to be the natural progression of that situation, yes. Sister not only believes her actions were justified, but that Sammy is the issue. There is currently no reason for her to apologize to keep the peace (like the brother did--we all know his apology was to make sure his job was safe). But if she's not invited to the destination wedding...
You know, I actually applaud the sister for being upfront about her bicthiness. The mom is scared of losing op and the brother his job. They’re not actually sorry, they just scared of the consequences.
I was in the church foyer at a youth function my youth pastor and the rest of the youth group was in the kitchen. I heard my youth pastor making fun of me.
That was sad. His family are just jealous and embarrassed they were caught. How sad of them. The sis who had the most to loose didn't even have the decency to apologize. She's who is annoying! She probably started it.
The family sounds like a**holes. "Passing the apology on", wth? That is so disrespectful towards OP's GF. And considering how much the GF has done for the sisters and brother, I can't believe they treat her like crap like this.
Usually these stories are painfully infuriating. This story was heartwarming. I don't really understand how things like this happen. My own family loves my wife, even though she is a different religion and ethnicity.
haven't gotten to the update yet, but i'm more commenting on your opinion section, anyway... at this point the dad who actually wants to apologize in person DOES get a pass, because OP mentioned the gf leaving for a trip, which led to bringing over early presents and overhearing the family talking behind BOTH of their backs. so i can appreciate that he would WANT to apologize, but not have had the opportunity to actually DO it yet...
If GF were me, with already low self esteem, anxiety and depression, I honestly don't know if I were stable enough to not become s*icidal. I already need to fight against the thought that everyone secretly hates me, thinks I'm annoying and/or ugly. It would be a nightmare come true. It would be like my mental illnesses were right all along and any progress was a lie..
I’m so sorry you feel this way, dear, and guess what, I have the exact same mental issues. I’m on meds and have been through therapy. But faith is the only thing that helps. I realize not every one agrees with that. But Just know that you are not alone in your feelings
OP's fiancee sounds so sweet, tender and caring. How the family said horrible things and didn't apologize immediately is disgusting. She was so kind-hearted that she left the gifts and left crying instead of insulting them and/or taking back the gifts. And the mother's excuse is b*llshit. Her entire generation lacked the opportunities we have today, most have to suffer horrible things and, again, most people would be glad that their children have a sweet partner that is very instructed. The dad is the only one being sincere. So glad that both OP and the fiancee saw through that.
You’re getting adverts! 👏👏🎉🎉. I’m so excited for OP and Sammy! Congratulations! I cut my entire maternal side of my family. This was after my last sibling died. I’m the baby, at 50, and lost both siblings to their own despair. My husband, children and sanity are so much better off. My husband’s family is phenomenal and I have my Dad, Uncle and cousins on that side. We also have brilliant friends that are considered family. It was tough at first, I grieved the loss of my toxic family but years on now, I wish I would have done it earlier. Just because they are blood, doesn’t mean they can treat you or your family wretchedly. As for OP’s youngest sister, I would say make her stay home anyway. She’s a git. Enjoy your beautiful new life together! ❤️❤️
Hatred of fat people is so pervasive in this world that no amount of work, favors, and loving behavior can subsume this hatred. I'm so sorry for Sammy, she will never forget this.
The story irked me to no end. My brothers wife has always been a bit heavier, but we all adore her. My parents (both deceased now) always treated her like a beloved daughter and for me, she was a big sister. She's educated, smart, extremely successful, energetic and funny and she's a fabulous wife and mother, and now grandmother. Who cares about some extra pounds when the person is so wonderful? Sigh...My brother adores her to this day and is really proud of her. I hate people like this; they showed how attractive they were - the ugliness inside seeped out and turned them into foul beasts.
I'm really skinny and I get the exact same comments just on the other end. Everyone says you're a drug addict or starving yourself, that I look like a holocaust victim (I hear that a lot) and I should a steak for christ's sake It's not just a hatred of fat people
@@ThirteenAmp that's horrible. Holocaust Victim? That's really offensive. The others are offensive as well. You need a snappy come back line that will put them in their place. ie "Oh my goodness. I'm very healthy but I can't imagine going through life with your ailment. How sad that you have the head stuck up ass syndrome".
I believe that OP and Sammy will have a beautiful life together. I’ve been in love with my husband for 40 years, and I’ve had a few incidents where my family disrespected him, and I went ape 💩 on them. Ironically, he’s good to my family the way Sammy is good to OPs family. I don’t know if it’s jealousy or what?? The last straw was just this year where my mom and brother ganged up on my husband and were awful to him. I actually said these words to my mom. “He is my world, he is my hero. Anyone who doesn’t treat him with the respect he deserves has no place in my life”. She didn’t apologize, but just cried. My husband is making excuses for them. But, I mean it. If it’s between him and them, they’ve gotta go.
Honestly family members like this make me upset they should be happy that their son found somebody that loves him and he loves her, also she helps around the house for them she even babysit the kids for free! she's a nice caring person why would you talk badly about her? Good than OP went no contact with them they were so disrespectful
I thought there was one extra bit about the sister that didn’t apologize. During the whole Christmas thing she was doubling down more not really believing op wasn’t there again and the dad LAID INTO HER. Basically giving the “I’m not mad I’m disappointed” speech to “daddy’s girl” while reminding her she was the only one holding out on apologizing. The sister DID NOT take it well
When op gets married invite the dad and plus one... don't even name the mother on the invite... Oh big shock the twin sister holdout isn't with the baby daddy lol
This is just the beginning, she will always be more educated, and want a family. The sister will double down when she hears about the proposal and the destination wedding.
I'll bet if OP looks back at growing up he will recall a few instances of things like this, but they didn't directly affect him. He seems also to have been sort of like the black sheep, or the youngest who was never taken seriously, so they don't give him the respect an adult deserves.
They just wanting to save face (expect the dad cuz he's genuinely) and don't want to lose op which they did after they talk mean things about Sammy. I wonder if there a new update , I let to know what happened next.
you can't forget something like that. It hurts and it's possible it's triggering PTSD, if not augmenting it. The family that was once healing for her is now a source of triggers for her deepest wounds, regardless how they apologize
This is a rough one. You thought they liked her before you caught them talking about her. Even if they apologize it doesn’t mean that they aren’t still talking about her. The fact that they haven’t immediately apologized tells me they don’t mean it. You’re happy and they can’t be happy for you. That alone is awful.
I always love when beggars get uppity when they treat their free help like garbage and then the help stops helping. OP's sister: a complete C towards Sammy who is kind and helps watch her kids. Sammy: stops helping Op's sister: WTF? You're so selfish!
There is NO WAY OP's family is sorry...if I were OP's girl, I would run very far from this ENTIRE FAMILY. She needs to think twice about joining this family, after all, OP is part of this family. I would NEVER trust any of them ever again. These women in these stories are way too DESPERATE, NAIVE & STUPID. They are willing to endure ANY ABUSE in order to marry into these ridiculous families! Who ARE these people?!?!
It sounds like everything has worked out the best way for OP and Sammy. Imagine if she hadn't heard them bitching about her that evening, and instead heard them 3 years and a kid or two later! Then she would have heard them trashing her ability as a mother as well, and that would have hurt much more. As for the sister who doubled down and refused to apologize? Screw her. But next Christmas, tell Mom and Dad, "It's our turn this year, tell Sis she's not invited." And refuse to compromise on that one.
1. If they are that bold when the person isn't there, he's heard then talk about others with him. Honestly there's something he's not telling. Like how often does she say she's declining an invite and then shows up? Or does it run in reverse where she says she'll show and then doesn't? Why do they think he's shooting low to avoid being hurt? That's not just aimed at her, but at him not coping and being afraid of being hurt again. There are a lot of the comments that were aimed at him. The fact they feared her lashing out at work is rather concerning. Seems like for just his girlfriend, she holds power over them in some way that is breeding resentment.
While it's all well and good that hes sicking up for her and says he loves her but did he really say Sammy is fat? That Was extremely rude Of OP also dad seems to be the only one that hasn't said anything rude about her and of course they feel bad and they're embarrassed because they got caught! Maybe choose your words wisely next time. And why does the father-in-law have to apologize he didn't say anything and it wasn't him and was his family It's really awesome of him to apologize on their behalf though sounds like a nice guy
They aren't embarrassed because they are wrong just because they were dumb enough to get caught hmph. Sammy should run from you as well you made excuses for them in the end. Now if Sammy stays they will keep this up. I would run if I were her. Run Forrest Run.
Oh... This hit home. -Please forgive me for any mistakes. English isn't my first language I can relate since I was / I am in a similar situation. Just that we married now, had a son and a second is on the way. My problem weren't his parents. They are great. The condescending attitude came from the sisters. My husband has five siblings, one brother and four sisters. They all have always been close. Out of the four sisters the three youngest have shown a supercilious attitude towards me since day one. I think it has to do with two things. One, I was the first serious relationship any of the siblings had and I think those three saw me as an intruder. Being a close family specially those three ganged up but always kept a carefully polished "polite" front (you could tell tho) so they couldn't be called out on that. Second, I come from a screwed up family, my social skills were not that good (they still aren't) and the definition of a doormat. I still avoid confrontation since I am not able to express my feelings properly. Usually I bottle them up until I feel the need to just cut ties (people usually make a surprised Pikachu face by that point and then I am the a*hole to dare and treat them like that). I tried for many, many years to make them open up to me, to gain their affection and trust.When I visited their home I tried to be as less a burden as possible, never entered an argument, bought gifts for Christmas for everyone, even when as a student money was very tight - at some point I handmade gifts, so since I was in the picture they always got a present from me and I helped with everything I could. But it was useless. I NEVER got a present back (maybe a chocolate bar or something) and never had help offered for anything. Any discussion I might have had with my husband, then boyfriend, in ear reach of any those three sisters ended up having all three against me, even if I was in the right. The last straw was the wedding, where I had the *glorious* idea to make those three my bridesmaids as a last effort on my side. Unnecessary to say it was a mistake. It was a burden for them, they complained about having to by the same dress. Which was a lie, they could buy whatever they wanted, I just would have liked if they had one thing in common, so they could use it again but that wasn't good enough, because they "don't use anything else than a long dress at weddings and not in private and on top of that wearing the "same" dress (still insisting) would take away their personalities". They didn't help with anything, didn't plan anything and at the wedding day they were too busy getting each other dolled up. No one helped me, no pictures, nada. Finally a switch went off. I don't care anymore. I have my own family now and they can sick it were the sun doesn't shine. They actually are expecting to become a godmothers to my children. Only over my dead body. Till this day they didn't apologize or even admit they had a crappy attitude. They behave like they were angels all along. Well, we moved to a different country and I only have contact so my children know their aunts. Since I never was given the opportunity to get to know any of my extended family, I know how that sucks and I don't want that for my kids. But I don't call for anything else and even those calls I keep up for my son are on my terms. Screw them. They will never change. Sorry for the long rant.
Thank you again, Voicey, for a top-notch video! This is one of those stories where I wish I knew the OP and his Fiancée, so I could see the story progress! Every detail. The wedding, the sister’s reaction to the engagement, wedding, etc. Was she invited? Why would she be so hateful (for that matter, why were they all so hateful, even the dude who had a good job due to her influence in the company), and why double down after her true feelings became known to OP and fiancée? Jealousy? Does she have some sort of personality disorder? Is she simply just a bitter bitch? So many questions! Ah, well. One thing I know for sure is that if there are any answers to be found, I will find them here! ✌️💖
1st story, OP should have spoken up when coming through the door with Sammy , at least they would have shut up. The only one in his family that's ok is his Dad.
Why, if it is true and he accepts it and doesn't care about it, why shouldn't he say "she is fat and I love her for/despite it"? Fat isn't a bad word, we need to stop trying to police speech, otherwise we'll end up with barely any "good" words that can be spoken. It is how people treat someone because of their size, skin color, sexual orientation, etc. that is good or bad. Stop letting mere words have so much power, they are simply vibrations of the air, and shapes on a screen/paper, it is the intent behind those words that should matter.
Nope. It’s a fact. He’s saying, it’s a fact and I don’t care, I still love her and am attracted to her. We can’t be that sensitive in life. Not saying it out loud, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
@@jasperj.d.g.4147 Yeah, exactly. Attractive women come in all sizes and forms. Acknowledgeding that someone is fat has nothing to do with the attractiveness, just the size they have. Nothing prevents people from calling each other skinny even if it was the type of skinny that looks unhealthy and unattractive.
Your family feels bad about being caught, their opinion of your girlfriend and their feelings towards her haven't changed. Your mom can't even bring herself to apologize!!! It's time to go no-contact with your family for a while and just support your girlfriend.
sister w/kids is just jealous of her brother because he ACTUALLY has a loving relationship with someone and she's a divorced hag, his other siblings are just immature and his father is probably on good footing with sammy and his mother took a big step
I think apologies are for actions and do have to come along with honest effort to change a behaviour or make up for it. They're not for words and opinions however.. I mean, will the opinions or meanings behind the words change? I doubt it. An apology for what they said will not change their opinions on th GF nor the GF knowing about them. Even if they truly try to see GF in a different light und change their opinions, how will OP and GF know? When they say they love and respect her now? How can they proof it's what's truly in their heart? The child already fell in the well as you would say in Germany. Cutting them out and standing by GFs side is the only reasonable thing to do.
Tbh on the dad he seems to be just keeping the peace in all ways asking people to be nice while not arguing with anyone he seems to lack much of an opinion himself
I saw this story popping up on so many reddit readers in the last couple of weeks. Can't believe it is 5 years old. Also there seems to be a second update.
I went through something similar when my wife and I first started dating. My older sister seemed to be kind of standoffish and I think it was because her free handyman was now busy. Both her and my mother were difficult about the wedding cuz we wanted something small and simple my sister wanted us to go to Vegas or Hawaii or some bullshit like that, and my mom was like well I don't know if I can make it on that date or this date mom has been retired for years. So we went to the courthouse wedding and just by ourselves and we've pretty much gone very limited contact with my family.
Story #1 - OP makes out like he is the only family member who does not gossip. Seems unlikely that he is not in on their family snark when directed elsewhere. OP protect your GF from your holier than thou family. Let everyone know, directly that Sammie comes first. Take space from family for 6 months. Propose as planned. Family are mean, goss-snobs.
If you're willing to leave your family for your partner, then you've found the one, no doubts. Also the family isn't sorry, they're embarrassed they got caught. I'd cut them all off and have security at the wedding to keep them away from ruining the beautiful day. And even if they do change their ways, I would keep them away still, don't let them meet your future kids either, imagine if you have kids that are "bigger", how awful they'd be to them too.
I feel like it's natural for family to feel their siblings can do better. I am pretty sure all families do this, it's just rarely overhead. Families learn to accept spouses overtime. It's all a part of the vetting system.
Story 1: The women in OP's family are toxic. How can they be so hung up on her physical appearance? Maybe they've been like this behind OP's back with all his exes. Sammy thought the family liked her but have just been using her to; clean, brings food and babysitting. So why don't they apologise to her face? Cowards and condescending b****es. Why am I anticipating a "I'm sorry you feel that way." in the near future and OP going low-no contact. I can't help wondering if the women in the family feel threatened by a new woman entering the family because she wasn't there from the beginning ore entirely on their side. So mum turned around, good. Less for the sisters and brother. Treat your baby-sitter like dirt, say goodbye to the sitter.
Lost Genre, I love your videos, and I love that you cover interesting updated stories all the time, but why do you always have random pauses that go on for so long like at 16:09??? I notice it in basically every single video at least once, and I know it's not a big issue or anything like that, but I'm just so confused and was wondering if there was a specific reason for it?
I think those pauses are built in around possible ad slots. You know how annoying it is when an ad pops up in the middle of important dialog, and you gotta wait for the ad to end and rewind 10 seconds to make sure you understand what's going on? Never had that happen with these videos. Ads are always in the middle of these pauses, but not all pauses have an ad.
4 Story number two I don't think he'll have a girlfriend when she comes back from her trip I think he's going to end up single single whatever relationship she thought she had with them she now realizes was just an illusion fact that she doesn't have any family alone is going to be very telling in her reaction why would she sign up the rest of her life to be around people that don't like her she won't do it I don't think she will I think you're going to end up single when she comes back from a trip
Not justifying the other family members but I think the sister instigated the situation. It is shitty but people sometimes jump in with a bully even when the don't have a problem with the victim. They might feel bad for joining in after the fact. That being said, actions speak louder than words and they have to show their remorse and work on rebuilding trust. The one sister though can suck rocks.
Ah yes, one of the _worst_ kind of an awful person: the tongue-biting coward. Self-improvement? Who cares about that! Just act nice, hold your tongue, and never trust others for coming to a good decision even if they’re family! But do it all in secret of course. You don’t have to change what you believe as long as you can hide them! If you can’t find anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all, rite?? Terrible people especially the sister. Hopefully they’ll take it as a lesson of communicating thoughts and feelings rather than to talk behind people’s backs like they’re in a crappy office job. Except the sister, she’s beyond redemption it seems.
Imagine disrespecting the woman that got you a job at her company and baby sits your kids for free. Damn bro OP’s family is full of snakes.
Right!!! Like, who the eff does that? Oh yeah, snakes!!!! They're disgusting and I hope OP and Sammy goes low contact with all of them and builds a real family up from people that love and support them.
I also wish on them all the kids they want!
And that's probably why they think Sammy is "annoying" because she's not a snake like them.
Dumb, ungrateful, entitled snakes.
The problem is, even after apologies, what was said and heard cannot be unsaid or unheard. The fact is they said those things. Why on earth is the sister doubling down?! This girl offers you FREE babysitting and you do nothing but insult her?!
I think is Jealousy, Sammy is a good person, educated and in a great relationship. I agree with Reddit in the possibility of they projecting their flaws in her just yo feel better about themselves.
I think, OPs girlfriend is a genuinely nice and caring person and has shown much affection and consideration for OP's family. They probably don't have a legit reason to hate her. They are being confronted with an actual caring, generous and happy person, and they're probably bitter and jealous. That's why they can't stand her, even though they benefitted from knowing her.
@@cibray89 especially good babysitters who do it for FREE. same goes for the brother whose job was handed to him by Sammy.
Some people double down because they're embarrassed. She insists her actions were justified, and that Sammy is the problem. To apologize is to admit she's wrong, and she's not willing to do that. Everyone else, even if they didn't believe they were wrong, knew they had to apologize to keep the peace. And they may have realized that even if their feelings were justified, their actions weren't.
Indeed, apologies are only the first step. They still have a long way to go to mend the relationship. And even then, there’s always the possibility OP will never want them back forever no matter what they do. In that case, they’re just going to have to cut their losses, take the life lesson, and move on with regrets.
That sister can take a flying leap into the dumpster though. Redemption is apparently “too good” for her.
I’m glad the girlfriend/fiancée/wife realizes that OP is her family. If they want kids, they will be her family too. Frankly, the people you choose to be in your life can be better family than the ones you don’t.
As a wise person once said, "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."
I've heard this before. I feel like they'll just be more discrete about what they say about her now. The siblings are only sorry they were caught.
Yes, don't feel the regret that much
I just hope the dad isn't one of them and is genuinely sorry
There was one post where redditor family made fun of his gf because she is deaf. She can read lips and told op. He went NC on his family.
Holy shit man, you got a link? Would love to read it.
As he should !! A real man
Give her a ring and take her last name. That would be a statement.
That’s what another husband in another story did. Brilliant move.
Yeah i heard that story before, that's a good one.
The fiance gave no indication of wanting a dickless man. To the contrary, she seemed to appreciate when OP put on his ass kicking boots.
@@Snipergoat1 Well .. in a society where people think that taking the name of the wife is dickless, doesn't that make the move even more stronger?
@@Snipergoat1 morfing or taking the wife's not a sign of dicklessness. Getting your panties in a twist about it is, however.
Apart from the father, I wouldn't trust any of their apologies as sincere. Mom can cry all the crocodile tears she likes, but what she's really scared of is losing OP. Brother is scared for his job. Fear is not a great motivator for genuine change, since fear eventually fades. After everything Sammy's done for the beyotch sister, and she's still doubling-down, she doesn't deserve a second chance. Bet she'll suddenly be full of phony apologies once she's uninvited from the wedding!
But it's not up to Sammy if OP cuts ties with his family. He has to make that call, for his own reasons.
I mean, it sounds like Sammy's story hit OP's mom right in the motherly instincts, but you've got a good point.
At first; I felt that OP’smom’s tears were phony. But I do feel that once she heard Sammy’s story, she had a change of heart.
Also about the hold out sister? Why do I see a future “Reddit “ post from her claiming that “Her Brother’s Evil 👿 Girlfriend Has Turned Her Family Against Her”?
I’m so invested in OPs relationship now. 🤣🤣 I want them to have as many healthy beautiful kids as they want for as big of a family they want. Sammy deserves it!
Also, I think that last sister is letting her pride get in her way. She’s more mad that there were actual consequences for her actions.
It is obvious she was envious of Sammy because she has the love of her man forever, a job and self-confidence enough to secure work for her other brother ,unlike herself who was divorced and a single mom with nothing really to show
The one sister who's refusing to apologize, I think she's embarrassed at getting caught. When some people are embarrassed after something like that, instead of apologizing or admitting that "ok even if i was justified, it still wasn't nice", they double down and insist they did nothing wrong.
Oh dear. Their comments were bad enough already, but in the context of her only bio family being an alcoholic father this would have been devastating to her - she clearly regarded OP's family as the family she never had. I feel terrible for her, and OP for having such schoolyard gossips and bullies for family.
I think its wonderful that Sammy is so self-assured, confident and comfortable with herself to hear the family out and keeping contact with them in her own terms without hurting herself. I could never..
She is definitely a gem and I think OP hit the jackpot (fortunately he knows and put a ring in it lol)
Sammy isn't too fat to provide free babysitting.
Too fat to be a part of the family but not too fat to be used. Seems legit.
"She is not good enough to be happy but is to help me with my problems" is the vibe I get from the sister specifically. I bet that if they didn't hear it after she married OP she would ask for favors and money a lot.
When he started describing his love, I was like “that’s a golden egg right there!” Op’s love sounds like such an amazing woman, she didn’t deserve that crap from op’s family
At first I was wondering if her goofiness popped up in inappropriate ways during meals or something, but no the only reason they didn't like such a helpful and loving and great woman was petty jealousy that she's educated. I'm glad the dad seems like a decent guy.
They're only embarrassed because they got caught.
All the cheer I had for OPs dad lecturing the kids went right out the window in 2.5 seconds. Being into bigger people isn't bad at all. That was foul.
She has to decide if having a decent, loving husband is worth becoming part of that awful family. Even if he goes no contact with them, she would blame herself for splitting the family. That's really tough. But I'd go with the guy, because those are not easy to find.
They can patch things up, but it will never be the same and certainly not better, the family screw up bad and there's just no coming back from it.
Well, OP’s gf/fw had two “walk-in“ discoveries in this story. The first was genuinely awful, and will take a lot of rebuilding to recover from. That family. The second surprise is just wonderful. I can just picture the scene in my head. Those two deserve every happiness.
I would have taken the Birthday gifts back. I am petty like that.
I would've taken the gifts back and sold them. The brother and sister don't deserve nice things.
@@MaryTheresa1986 Same there calling her annoying well am not been mean to twins but there the creepy ones .🤨
Yea.... i think OP and his girl would be better off nit having those people in their lives.
They only "saying sorry" because they dont want to lose OP. OP brother only apologized cause he was affraid Sammy would make his life hell at the job she helped him get.
They not sorry for what they said, they sorry they got caught and called out.
Story 1 that man is a wonderful partner. His girlfriend is as lucky to have him as he is to have her. Man, if my husband (or other serious boyfriends) was as loyal, many years of my life would've been much happier
Happy that OP and Sammy had each other's backs
Damn I almost cried for Sammy when op got to how Sammy doesn’t have a family and really loves his. She sounds like a great girl!
Sammie and OP are so lucky to have each other. Sammie sounds incredible, (like low key I want to date her after hearing what a goddess she is), but let’s give all the props to OP. What an incredible man. I’ll admit their have been a lack of good men in my life so when I meet or hear about a good one I’m always impressed.
This is so true but sad
If they “felt bad” they would gather up their panties, bow their heads, and apologize. With the knowledge that even if their apology is accepted that doesn’t make it okay.
I have parents that didn't approve of my choice of a wife either.
Dad still "reminds" me of my "mistake" that I "have to live with" from time to time.
#Irony - a few years back, in a rare visit where my wife and he were talking, he was being overly critical about love and how there's more to life, blah blah. My wife had enough and asked him: "so who did YOU let get away?" His expression was that of a kid who got caught with the hand in the cookie jar, I kid you not.
So yeah, projecting shortcomings is apparently more common than one might think. The idea that my dad might be jealous of my relationship with my wife explains a lot of his behavior. Unlike OP, my parents never properly reconciled with my wife - which is a big reason why we limit contact.
OP seems to already be in a better position with his family, even if some of it isn't fully sincere. At least they, short of the one sister, owned up to their gaffe. He and Sammy will probably work out just fine.
A Person's Weight/Appearance Have Nothing To Do With There Personality, If One Falls In Love With Someone Then Love Is Love. I Have Gotten Similar Crap About Girls I Have Dated, To Me Personality Is No 1. Nothing Else Matters ❤️❤️❤️
I can't imagine my family doing anything like that. If they did though, i think my reaction could be summed up in two words: Scorched Earth!
Exactly.
If I were a betting man, when the holdout sister finds out it's a destination wedding and she finds out that she's not invited, she going to suddenly change her tune and make nice and weasel an invitation and accomodations out of OP and his future wife. If that fails, she will put pressure on the parents to force OP to allow her and kids to come. Should that fail, she is going to do everything she can to sabotage the wedding and may resort to blackmailed the family by not letting them see her kids. She strikes me as that kind of vicious individual.
That seems to be the natural progression of that situation, yes. Sister not only believes her actions were justified, but that Sammy is the issue. There is currently no reason for her to apologize to keep the peace (like the brother did--we all know his apology was to make sure his job was safe). But if she's not invited to the destination wedding...
If the sister uses her kids as a weapon, OP and his family should go to her ex to set up visitation, and help him get sole custody of the children.
You know, I actually applaud the sister for being upfront about her bicthiness. The mom is scared of losing op and the brother his job. They’re not actually sorry, they just scared of the consequences.
Actually, I think the family truly wanted to change but the sister is the real evil one.
I agree. The rest of the family are b*tches (fake) but sister is a straight up c*nt. She’s mean but she’s real about it and not in denial.
I was in the church foyer at a youth function my youth pastor and the rest of the youth group was in the kitchen. I heard my youth pastor making fun of me.
OMG! That's horrible! That person should NOT be a pastor! 🤬
Just because you’re a pastor doesn’t mean you can’t be a jerk. I’m sorry you had to hear that.
That was sad. His family are just jealous and embarrassed they were caught. How sad of them. The sis who had the most to loose didn't even have the decency to apologize. She's who is annoying! She probably started it.
The family sounds like a**holes. "Passing the apology on", wth? That is so disrespectful towards OP's GF. And considering how much the GF has done for the sisters and brother, I can't believe they treat her like crap like this.
awww Great story LG. loved it. You are the only one that always has an update. Thanks LG. Stay safe please. PEACE
Usually these stories are painfully infuriating. This story was heartwarming. I don't really understand how things like this happen. My own family loves my wife, even though she is a different religion and ethnicity.
haven't gotten to the update yet, but i'm more commenting on your opinion section, anyway... at this point the dad who actually wants to apologize in person DOES get a pass, because OP mentioned the gf leaving for a trip, which led to bringing over early presents and overhearing the family talking behind BOTH of their backs. so i can appreciate that he would WANT to apologize, but not have had the opportunity to actually DO it yet...
If GF were me, with already low self esteem, anxiety and depression, I honestly don't know if I were stable enough to not become s*icidal. I already need to fight against the thought that everyone secretly hates me, thinks I'm annoying and/or ugly. It would be a nightmare come true. It would be like my mental illnesses were right all along and any progress was a lie..
I’m so sorry you feel this way, dear, and guess what, I have the exact same mental issues. I’m on meds and have been through therapy. But faith is the only thing that helps. I realize not every one agrees with that. But Just know that you are not alone in your feelings
OP's fiancee sounds so sweet, tender and caring. How the family said horrible things and didn't apologize immediately is disgusting. She was so kind-hearted that she left the gifts and left crying instead of insulting them and/or taking back the gifts. And the mother's excuse is b*llshit. Her entire generation lacked the opportunities we have today, most have to suffer horrible things and, again, most people would be glad that their children have a sweet partner that is very instructed. The dad is the only one being sincere. So glad that both OP and the fiancee saw through that.
I wonder if that sister had a dramatic turn around when she didn't get an invite to her brother's wedding!
You’re getting adverts! 👏👏🎉🎉. I’m so excited for OP and Sammy! Congratulations! I cut my entire maternal side of my family. This was after my last sibling died. I’m the baby, at 50, and lost both siblings to their own despair. My husband, children and sanity are so much better off. My husband’s family is phenomenal and I have my Dad, Uncle and cousins on that side. We also have brilliant friends that are considered family. It was tough at first, I grieved the loss of my toxic family but years on now, I wish I would have done it earlier. Just because they are blood, doesn’t mean they can treat you or your family wretchedly. As for OP’s youngest sister, I would say make her stay home anyway. She’s a git. Enjoy your beautiful new life together! ❤️❤️
Thanks LG. After the one I just listened to this one is not as bad as it could have been.
I'd be proud that my child's love sees past whatever body shape issues may be perceived by the commenter.
Hatred of fat people is so pervasive in this world that no amount of work, favors, and loving behavior can subsume this hatred. I'm so sorry for Sammy, she will never forget this.
The story irked me to no end. My brothers wife has always been a bit heavier, but we all adore her. My parents (both deceased now) always treated her like a beloved daughter and for me, she was a big sister. She's educated, smart, extremely successful, energetic and funny and she's a fabulous wife and mother, and now grandmother. Who cares about some extra pounds when the person is so wonderful? Sigh...My brother adores her to this day and is really proud of her. I hate people like this; they showed how attractive they were - the ugliness inside seeped out and turned them into foul beasts.
Don't project dude. Most folks can tank a hit or two just fine.
@@Snipergoat1 your comment makes no sense.
I'm really skinny and I get the exact same comments just on the other end. Everyone says you're a drug addict or starving yourself, that I look like a holocaust victim (I hear that a lot) and I should a steak for christ's sake
It's not just a hatred of fat people
@@ThirteenAmp that's horrible. Holocaust Victim? That's really offensive. The others are offensive as well. You need a snappy come back line that will put them in their place. ie "Oh my goodness. I'm very healthy but I can't imagine going through life with your ailment. How sad that you have the head stuck up ass syndrome".
OP is just wonderful. Stay kingly, my good sir.
I believe that OP and Sammy will have a beautiful life together.
I’ve been in love with my husband for 40 years, and I’ve had a few incidents where my family disrespected him, and I went ape 💩 on them.
Ironically, he’s good to my family the way Sammy is good to OPs family.
I don’t know if it’s jealousy or what??
The last straw was just this year where my mom and brother ganged up on my husband and were awful to him.
I actually said these words to my mom.
“He is my world, he is my hero. Anyone who doesn’t treat him with the respect he deserves has no place in my life”.
She didn’t apologize, but just cried.
My husband is making excuses for them.
But, I mean it. If it’s between him and them, they’ve gotta go.
Honestly family members like this make me upset they should be happy that their son found somebody that loves him and he loves her, also she helps around the house for them she even babysit the kids for free! she's a nice caring person why would you talk badly about her? Good than OP went no contact with them they were so disrespectful
I thought there was one extra bit about the sister that didn’t apologize. During the whole Christmas thing she was doubling down more not really believing op wasn’t there again and the dad LAID INTO HER. Basically giving the “I’m not mad I’m disappointed” speech to “daddy’s girl” while reminding her she was the only one holding out on apologizing. The sister DID NOT take it well
Op: all of them do feel bad
Me: No they don't!!!
When op gets married invite the dad and plus one... don't even name the mother on the invite...
Oh big shock the twin sister holdout isn't with the baby daddy lol
This is just the beginning, she will always be more educated, and want a family. The sister will double down when she hears about the proposal and the destination wedding.
I'll bet if OP looks back at growing up he will recall a few instances of things like this, but they didn't directly affect him. He seems also to have been sort of like the black sheep, or the youngest who was never taken seriously, so they don't give him the respect an adult deserves.
Oh the moment anyone don't care if they're my family or not they insults the woman I'm with we're going to have problems
They just wanting to save face (expect the dad cuz he's genuinely) and don't want to lose op which they did after they talk mean things about Sammy.
I wonder if there a new update , I let to know what happened next.
you can't forget something like that. It hurts and it's possible it's triggering PTSD, if not augmenting it. The family that was once healing for her is now a source of triggers for her deepest wounds, regardless how they apologize
You and your stubborn sister can take turns at the holidays at home. Best way to avoid her yet be fair about spending time with parents.
This is a rough one. You thought they liked her before you caught them talking about her. Even if they apologize it doesn’t mean that they aren’t still talking about her. The fact that they haven’t immediately apologized tells me they don’t mean it. You’re happy and they can’t be happy for you. That alone is awful.
I always love when beggars get uppity when they treat their free help like garbage and then the help stops helping.
OP's sister: a complete C towards Sammy who is kind and helps watch her kids.
Sammy: stops helping
Op's sister: WTF? You're so selfish!
There is NO WAY OP's family is sorry...if I were OP's girl, I would run very far from this ENTIRE FAMILY. She needs to think twice about joining this family, after all, OP is part of this family. I would NEVER trust any of them ever again. These women in these stories are way too DESPERATE, NAIVE & STUPID. They are willing to endure ANY ABUSE in order to marry into these ridiculous families! Who ARE these people?!?!
ive got a feeling they are going to make one big family
It sounds like everything has worked out the best way for OP and Sammy. Imagine if she hadn't heard them bitching about her that evening, and instead heard them 3 years and a kid or two later! Then she would have heard them trashing her ability as a mother as well, and that would have hurt much more. As for the sister who doubled down and refused to apologize? Screw her. But next Christmas, tell Mom and Dad, "It's our turn this year, tell Sis she's not invited." And refuse to compromise on that one.
And all of reddit replies: Ditch them! Ditch them! Ditch them! Ditch them!
1. If they are that bold when the person isn't there, he's heard then talk about others with him. Honestly there's something he's not telling. Like how often does she say she's declining an invite and then shows up? Or does it run in reverse where she says she'll show and then doesn't? Why do they think he's shooting low to avoid being hurt? That's not just aimed at her, but at him not coping and being afraid of being hurt again. There are a lot of the comments that were aimed at him. The fact they feared her lashing out at work is rather concerning. Seems like for just his girlfriend, she holds power over them in some way that is breeding resentment.
Why are boomer MIL so narcissistic? So so mean Petty and childish. The jealousy and projection is mind blowing
While it's all well and good that hes sicking up for her and says he loves her but did he really say Sammy is fat? That Was extremely rude Of OP also dad seems to be the only one that hasn't said anything rude about her and of course they feel bad and they're embarrassed because they got caught! Maybe choose your words wisely next time. And why does the father-in-law have to apologize he didn't say anything and it wasn't him and was his family It's really awesome of him to apologize on their behalf though sounds like a nice guy
They aren't embarrassed because they are wrong just because they were dumb enough to get caught hmph. Sammy should run from you as well you made excuses for them in the end. Now if Sammy stays they will keep this up. I would run if I were her. Run Forrest Run.
You CAN pick your family
Like most people I'd rather have a overweight awesome person spouse than some skinny jerk.
Twins. Of course.
I want a sammy in my life.
I'm betting that OP's sister is divorced because of that attitude..
I couldn’t marry OP if I was that girl. I would feel so uncomfortable around his family.
Oh... This hit home.
-Please forgive me for any mistakes. English isn't my first language
I can relate since I was / I am in a similar situation. Just that we married now, had a son and a second is on the way. My problem weren't his parents. They are great. The condescending attitude came from the sisters. My husband has five siblings, one brother and four sisters. They all have always been close. Out of the four sisters the three youngest have shown a supercilious attitude towards me since day one. I think it has to do with two things. One, I was the first serious relationship any of the siblings had and I think those three saw me as an intruder. Being a close family specially those three ganged up but always kept a carefully polished "polite" front (you could tell tho) so they couldn't be called out on that. Second, I come from a screwed up family, my social skills were not that good (they still aren't) and the definition of a doormat. I still avoid confrontation since I am not able to express my feelings properly. Usually I bottle them up until I feel the need to just cut ties (people usually make a surprised Pikachu face by that point and then I am the a*hole to dare and treat them like that). I tried for many, many years to make them open up to me, to gain their affection and trust.When I visited their home I tried to be as less a burden as possible, never entered an argument, bought gifts for Christmas for everyone, even when as a student money was very tight - at some point I handmade gifts, so since I was in the picture they always got a present from me and I helped with everything I could. But it was useless. I NEVER got a present back (maybe a chocolate bar or something) and never had help offered for anything. Any discussion I might have had with my husband, then boyfriend, in ear reach of any those three sisters ended up having all three against me, even if I was in the right. The last straw was the wedding, where I had the *glorious* idea to make those three my bridesmaids as a last effort on my side. Unnecessary to say it was a mistake. It was a burden for them, they complained about having to by the same dress. Which was a lie, they could buy whatever they wanted, I just would have liked if they had one thing in common, so they could use it again but that wasn't good enough, because they "don't use anything else than a long dress at weddings and not in private and on top of that wearing the "same" dress (still insisting) would take away their personalities". They didn't help with anything, didn't plan anything and at the wedding day they were too busy getting each other dolled up. No one helped me, no pictures, nada. Finally a switch went off. I don't care anymore. I have my own family now and they can sick it were the sun doesn't shine. They actually are expecting to become a godmothers to my children. Only over my dead body.
Till this day they didn't apologize or even admit they had a crappy attitude. They behave like they were angels all along. Well, we moved to a different country and I only have contact so my children know their aunts. Since I never was given the opportunity to get to know any of my extended family, I know how that sucks and I don't want that for my kids. But I don't call for anything else and even those calls I keep up for my son are on my terms. Screw them. They will never change.
Sorry for the long rant.
I would disown my family and tell them when they die I won’t be going to their funerals.
Thank you again, Voicey, for a top-notch video! This is one of those stories where I wish I knew the OP and his Fiancée, so I could see the story progress! Every detail. The wedding, the sister’s reaction to the engagement, wedding, etc. Was she invited? Why would she be so hateful (for that matter, why were they all so hateful, even the dude who had a good job due to her influence in the company), and why double down after her true feelings became known to OP and fiancée? Jealousy? Does she have some sort of personality disorder? Is she simply just a bitter bitch? So many questions! Ah, well. One thing I know for sure is that if there are any answers to be found, I will find them here! ✌️💖
I loved this awesome video. 💗
I'm someone who could drop his family at the drop of a hat I know how they are and there's a few that would care if I did so that's our dynamic.
1st story, OP should have spoken up when coming through the door with Sammy , at least they would have shut up. The only one in his family that's ok is his Dad.
No what you should have done is take a meat tenderizer from the kitchen and brain his mother
@@jaredstar I think we all know why that older sister is divorced, she's a pain in the butt
I totally disagree you never know their true feelings and they be using her for the rest of the her life
I feel *so* awful for the girl in the first story. OP, the words "yeah, she's fat.." should *never* come out of your mouth under any circumstances.
Why? If she's fat, she's fat. It's not always a bad thing.
Why, if it is true and he accepts it and doesn't care about it, why shouldn't he say "she is fat and I love her for/despite it"? Fat isn't a bad word, we need to stop trying to police speech, otherwise we'll end up with barely any "good" words that can be spoken. It is how people treat someone because of their size, skin color, sexual orientation, etc. that is good or bad. Stop letting mere words have so much power, they are simply vibrations of the air, and shapes on a screen/paper, it is the intent behind those words that should matter.
That comes from a place of fatphobia. It’s not a bad thing to be fat lol
Nope. It’s a fact. He’s saying, it’s a fact and I don’t care, I still love her and am attracted to her.
We can’t be that sensitive in life.
Not saying it out loud, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
@@jasperj.d.g.4147 Yeah, exactly. Attractive women come in all sizes and forms. Acknowledgeding that someone is fat has nothing to do with the attractiveness, just the size they have. Nothing prevents people from calling each other skinny even if it was the type of skinny that looks unhealthy and unattractive.
I think I know why op’s sister is divorced…..
Your family feels bad about being caught, their opinion of your girlfriend and their feelings towards her haven't changed. Your mom can't even bring herself to apologize!!!
It's time to go no-contact with your family for a while and just support your girlfriend.
sister w/kids is just jealous of her brother because he ACTUALLY has a loving relationship with someone and she's a divorced hag, his other siblings are just immature and his father is probably on good footing with sammy and his mother took a big step
I think apologies are for actions and do have to come along with honest effort to change a behaviour or make up for it. They're not for words and opinions however.. I mean, will the opinions or meanings behind the words change? I doubt it.
An apology for what they said will not change their opinions on th GF nor the GF knowing about them.
Even if they truly try to see GF in a different light und change their opinions, how will OP and GF know? When they say they love and respect her now? How can they proof it's what's truly in their heart?
The child already fell in the well as you would say in Germany. Cutting them out and standing by GFs side is the only reasonable thing to do.
Tbh on the dad he seems to be just keeping the peace in all ways asking people to be nice while not arguing with anyone he seems to lack much of an opinion himself
Not gonna lie. Cried a bit over the update and proposal.
I saw this story popping up on so many reddit readers in the last couple of weeks. Can't believe it is 5 years old. Also there seems to be a second update.
What is the second update
@@toniclarke7398 no idea. it was deleted and I could not get it back
The story made me cry
I went through something similar when my wife and I first started dating. My older sister seemed to be kind of standoffish and I think it was because her free handyman was now busy. Both her and my mother were difficult about the wedding cuz we wanted something small and simple my sister wanted us to go to Vegas or Hawaii or some bullshit like that, and my mom was like well I don't know if I can make it on that date or this date mom has been retired for years. So we went to the courthouse wedding and just by ourselves and we've pretty much gone very limited contact with my family.
Story #1 - OP makes out like he is the only family member who does not gossip. Seems unlikely that he is not in on their family snark when directed elsewhere.
OP protect your GF from your holier than thou family. Let everyone know, directly that Sammie comes first. Take space from family for 6 months. Propose as planned. Family are mean, goss-snobs.
If you're willing to leave your family for your partner, then you've found the one, no doubts.
Also the family isn't sorry, they're embarrassed they got caught. I'd cut them all off and have security at the wedding to keep them away from ruining the beautiful day. And even if they do change their ways, I would keep them away still, don't let them meet your future kids either, imagine if you have kids that are "bigger", how awful they'd be to them too.
Good one.
Am I the only one who thinks Sammy should have gone no-connect with fiancé and his family?
Why? What did OP do wrong?
I feel like it's natural for family to feel their siblings can do better. I am pretty sure all families do this, it's just rarely overhead.
Families learn to accept spouses overtime. It's all a part of the vetting system.
Story 1: The women in OP's family are toxic. How can they be so hung up on her physical appearance? Maybe they've been like this behind OP's back with all his exes. Sammy thought the family liked her but have just been using her to; clean, brings food and babysitting. So why don't they apologise to her face? Cowards and condescending b****es. Why am I anticipating a "I'm sorry you feel that way." in the near future and OP going low-no contact. I can't help wondering if the women in the family feel threatened by a new woman entering the family because she wasn't there from the beginning ore entirely on their side. So mum turned around, good. Less for the sisters and brother. Treat your baby-sitter like dirt, say goodbye to the sitter.
Oof, what a title.
Lost Genre, I love your videos, and I love that you cover interesting updated stories all the time, but why do you always have random pauses that go on for so long like at 16:09??? I notice it in basically every single video at least once, and I know it's not a big issue or anything like that, but I'm just so confused and was wondering if there was a specific reason for it?
I think those pauses are built in around possible ad slots. You know how annoying it is when an ad pops up in the middle of important dialog, and you gotta wait for the ad to end and rewind 10 seconds to make sure you understand what's going on? Never had that happen with these videos. Ads are always in the middle of these pauses, but not all pauses have an ad.
@@spooniesarah OH, that makes sense! I use adblocker so I never notice where the ad breaks are, oops
Op is a good man
4 Story number two I don't think he'll have a girlfriend when she comes back from her trip I think he's going to end up single single whatever relationship she thought she had with them she now realizes was just an illusion fact that she doesn't have any family alone is going to be very telling in her reaction why would she sign up the rest of her life to be around people that don't like her she won't do it I don't think she will I think you're going to end up single when she comes back from a trip
Not justifying the other family members but I think the sister instigated the situation. It is shitty but people sometimes jump in with a bully even when the don't have a problem with the victim. They might feel bad for joining in after the fact. That being said, actions speak louder than words and they have to show their remorse and work on rebuilding trust. The one sister though can suck rocks.
The thumbnail on this is misleading because he didn’t cut contact with his family.
Sorry but do you have more videos, new ones, maybe, I've watched them all, avid fan here 😁
Ah yes, one of the _worst_ kind of an awful person: the tongue-biting coward. Self-improvement? Who cares about that! Just act nice, hold your tongue, and never trust others for coming to a good decision even if they’re family!
But do it all in secret of course. You don’t have to change what you believe as long as you can hide them! If you can’t find anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all, rite??
Terrible people especially the sister. Hopefully they’ll take it as a lesson of communicating thoughts and feelings rather than to talk behind people’s backs like they’re in a crappy office job. Except the sister, she’s beyond redemption it seems.