This randomly popped up in my feed. As a 22 year old father of 2 toddlers...i needed this. I never had this type of parenting. This is possibly the best thing ive ever heard.
I would recommend the book ‘The Tribute’ by Dennis Rainey. It helps with adult children who are hurt by their parents lack of involvement in their lives. God bless you.
The same here. I wasn't taught anything, then it was painful trying to adapt to the world outside of my parent's home. Now I'm married with two young children and a third coming in about a month, and my 2 year old was taught more practical and meaningful tasks than I was taught the first twenty years of life. The very fact that you recognize you needed this shows that you have a lot of potential and good intentions as a father. Many blessings to your family.
@@cyborgbear7269 appreciate it. The great thing about the internet is you can find a lot of good wisdom and advice. I know I'll never be a perfect father, but I know I'll always do the best I can.
2:00 #1 integrate them into every aspect of life 7:45 #2 a love to work 14:52 #3 give them freedom to pursue their own projects 22:17 #4 create investment opportunities 25:10 #5 encourage a separate child business 34:46 #6 maintain humor 37:30 #7 pay the children 43:48 #8 praise, praise, praise 54:13 #9 enjoy your vocation 58:31 #10 back off from personal domains
What a rich presentation. Certainly sharing with my husband. That part where you say, "The problem with young people is not young people it's old people" couldn't be more true.😢 God bless you Sir.
I can absolutely remember when I stopped dreaming. I still have the desire to hear affirmation from my parents. These are excellent principles to follow. Thanks for sharing this!
Sadly, my parents were about control- their control with everything and nothing my sisters and I did was good enough. My Mom complained bitterly and constantly about not getting any help with anything. I was the "talented" child and my work had to be outstanding every time. I still overthink everything. I may win all the awards, but my sister out produces me in amount of goods in almost everything she does. Sigh. I think that I'll call her and tell her that I think that she has become an exceptional adult!❤
Your dynamic with your sister sounds a lot like mine. I'm 5 years younger, much less of a perfectionist, but much more gregarious and, in turn, have much more output, more energy, and oddly, a cleaner more presentable home (which kindof flies in the face of the perfectionism).
thorn hill school for boys in allegheny co 1910 learned farming and animal care, Montessori already did this and understood self esteem but i visited many for my internship and found it was twisted because parents just wanted obedient children and prestige, i was very disillusioned, John Holt NYC began the unschooling trend in the 80s; just love your children, make it fun
Your son sounds exactly like mine! I gave up trying until he was ready to read despite the criticism and now he’s learning quickly! He also knew how to drive equipment and move cows before reading!
My 9 year old is this exact way as well! He can operate various machines better than most adults can and is exceptionally mechanical minded. But reading/book work he has HATED. I wish I hadn't been so hard on him at first. My expectations were too high as I looked over at "other kids his age". I felt so much pressure to get him on track. But, I finally decided to take a break from formal school with him and after that break he has come a long long way. I wish I had just blocked all the opinions out. His initial schooling experience would have been so much better. I hope he can forgive me as he gets older and thinks back on this time. Sorry, just wanted to share haha.
we publish reports about how kids are a liability, what kind of a culture views kids as a liability how much it cost to raise a kid culture a liability, homestead opportunities, gather eggs, green beans, all sorts of. So letting them explore is a big deal.
We need to let them find what they enjoy doing to preserve the passion for dreams and end exploration. They actually are interested in doing things and I remember very well. The very early you know homeschooling type material not begin reading you know the biggest problem in this is trusting your kids to maintain your curiosity most kids will be curious , if we don't beat it out of you and tell him the only thing worth learning is what the teacher says is worth learning or or the only time to learn something is when the bell rings it says that you can go study history now you can go study biology, but if we incorporate them and all these on each other OK if we incorporate them and and and Create this fascination with our world and don't stifle their curiosity they will absolutely find what they like to do. Let them and they'll find their project. They'll find their place.
Investment opportunities create investment opportunities so what this is about is creating long-term commitments personal ownership so that they grow up saying the word OURS and WE and NOT "mine" and my one of the most important things I know that dad did for me was the day the day he found out that I wanted to take the farm full-time quit investing in itso the piece blew off the roof flapping tractor before exemption and in taxes that we have now but I mean he was he was you know preparing for this idea of letting them invest I know so many farmers that won't let up a 20-year-old even buy a tractor and analyze if they're gonna take it to Paradise with him know if we want the kids to appreciate the cost and care and care for infrastructure you must change ownership physically to change ownership emotionally.
And give them freedom to pursue their interest, maintain a healthy world of curiosity and mystery imagination and they will learn at their place. Our daughter Rachel. She was like you know she was very verbal and she started reading at five and she's a book OK but people are different you know and you gotta give them freedom so that you can find out where this branch is bent And they need to find out where their branch has been. One of the problems with her today is since they've never actually done anything practical and meaningful. They come into 16 1718 years old and they've never they've never had the freedom to experiment to eclectically incomprehensively incorporate into their life meaningful task.
I did involve my children, gave them age appropriate responsibilities, encouraged personal endeavors, praise and lots of encouragement, etc. Then one day the enemy came and convinced em they were merely slaves and i was bad for them. (In reality, he was mad i wouldn't let em shack up). Not too much after they moved out, he had the nerve to complain they wouldn't do their chores at home. But he didn't connect the dots. 🧐😒🤦♀️😐😐 A parent can give children ops, do all the right things but they still retain free will. And if they choose laziness, the way of the world, etc, then the parent is villified. Nope, i do not accept that. 🤨 If the kids choose against what was taught (good values, work ethic, serve The Lord Jesus, live by His Word, The Holy Bible), then that's on them, not the parent. 😐😐😐😐😐 🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊
This randomly popped up in my feed. As a 22 year old father of 2 toddlers...i needed this. I never had this type of parenting. This is possibly the best thing ive ever heard.
I would recommend the book ‘The Tribute’ by Dennis Rainey.
It helps with adult children who are hurt by their parents lack of involvement in their lives. God bless you.
I don't believe this randomly appeared ..when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. ;)
The same here. I wasn't taught anything, then it was painful trying to adapt to the world outside of my parent's home. Now I'm married with two young children and a third coming in about a month, and my 2 year old was taught more practical and meaningful tasks than I was taught the first twenty years of life.
The very fact that you recognize you needed this shows that you have a lot of potential and good intentions as a father.
Many blessings to your family.
@@cyborgbear7269 appreciate it. The great thing about the internet is you can find a lot of good wisdom and advice. I know I'll never be a perfect father, but I know I'll always do the best I can.
Common sense my friend
2:00 #1 integrate them into every aspect of life
7:45 #2 a love to work
14:52 #3 give them freedom to pursue their own projects
22:17 #4 create investment opportunities
25:10 #5 encourage a separate child business
34:46 #6 maintain humor
37:30 #7 pay the children
43:48 #8 praise, praise, praise
54:13 #9 enjoy your vocation
58:31 #10 back off from personal domains
What a rich presentation. Certainly sharing with my husband. That part where you say, "The problem with young people is not young people it's old people" couldn't be more true.😢 God bless you Sir.
Riding in the tractor/combine with my dad when i was 4 years old is still the best memory of my life
Insightful content 🔥
Work, play and learn along the way.
Joel has so much wisdom, I love listening to him and learning from him❤
I can absolutely remember when I stopped dreaming. I still have the desire to hear affirmation from my parents. These are excellent principles to follow. Thanks for sharing this!
I could listen to Joel any day any time!
I’m one of three sibling and we all work for the family business. It’s a good life!!
It’s always good learning new things so we can improve and encourage our little ones! ✨
Absolutely brilliant. Greetings and thank you from sunny South Africa 🇿🇦👌🏽👏🏽🫶🏽
Rare wisdom about parenting tips on yt 💐 wish more of that
This was great! Thanks for recording!
I live across from a farm in missouri that reminds me of yours, it's called campo lindo farms it's ran by Jay and Carroll Maddox
Excellent
Your voice is a blessing
Thank you Joel awesome speech
This just popped up in my feed as I was thinking to go to the library and find a book about starting your own business for kids.
Thanks for sharing.
I remember working at 14 for a restaurant. I learned a lot from that experience.
I wish I had heard this 20 years ago…
Perfect timing for this video. 🎉❤🎉
I so wish I would have heard this in 2010😢
Any chance i can get here in Ohio to hang out with Joel i take it 👍. Ohio Amish Country here
I live in Ohio. Hit me up.
Sadly, my parents were about control- their control with everything and nothing my sisters and I did was good enough. My Mom complained bitterly and constantly about not getting any help with anything. I was the "talented" child and my work had to be outstanding every time. I still overthink everything. I may win all the awards, but my sister out produces me in amount of goods in almost everything she does. Sigh. I think that I'll call her and tell her that I think that she has become an exceptional adult!❤
Your dynamic with your sister sounds a lot like mine. I'm 5 years younger, much less of a perfectionist, but much more gregarious and, in turn, have much more output, more energy, and oddly, a cleaner more presentable home (which kindof flies in the face of the perfectionism).
Be thankful u had parents.
Great
Great talk!
thorn hill school for boys in allegheny co 1910 learned farming and animal care, Montessori already did this and understood self esteem but i visited many for my internship and found it was twisted because parents just wanted obedient children and prestige, i was very disillusioned, John Holt NYC began the unschooling trend in the 80s; just love your children, make it fun
Your son sounds exactly like mine! I gave up trying until he was ready to read despite the criticism and now he’s learning quickly! He also knew how to drive equipment and move cows before reading!
My 9 year old is this exact way as well! He can operate various machines better than most adults can and is exceptionally mechanical minded. But reading/book work he has HATED. I wish I hadn't been so hard on him at first. My expectations were too high as I looked over at "other kids his age". I felt so much pressure to get him on track. But, I finally decided to take a break from formal school with him and after that break he has come a long long way. I wish I had just blocked all the opinions out. His initial schooling experience would have been so much better. I hope he can forgive me as he gets older and thinks back on this time. Sorry, just wanted to share haha.
we publish reports about how kids are a liability, what kind of a culture views kids as a liability how much it cost to raise a kid culture a liability, homestead opportunities, gather eggs, green beans, all sorts of. So letting them explore is a big deal.
We need to let them find what they enjoy doing to preserve the passion for dreams and end exploration. They actually are interested in doing things and I remember very well. The very early you know homeschooling type material not begin reading you know the biggest problem in this is trusting your kids to maintain your curiosity most kids will be curious , if we don't beat it out of you and tell him the only thing worth learning is what the teacher says is worth learning or or the only time to learn something is when the bell rings it says that you can go study history now you can go study biology, but if we incorporate them and all these on each other OK if we incorporate them and and and Create this fascination with our world and don't stifle their curiosity they will absolutely find what they like to do. Let them and they'll find their project. They'll find their place.
Investment opportunities
create investment opportunities so what this is about is creating long-term commitments personal ownership so that they grow up saying the word OURS and WE and NOT "mine" and my one of the most important things I know that dad did for me was the day the day he found out that I wanted to take the farm full-time quit investing in itso the piece blew off the roof flapping tractor before exemption and in taxes that we have now but I mean he was he was you know preparing for this idea of letting them invest I know so many farmers that won't let up a 20-year-old even buy a tractor and analyze if they're gonna take it to Paradise with him know if we want the kids to appreciate the cost and care and care for infrastructure you must change ownership physically to change ownership emotionally.
And give them freedom to pursue their interest, maintain a healthy world of curiosity and mystery imagination and they will learn at their place. Our daughter Rachel. She was like you know she was very verbal and she started reading at five and she's a book OK but people are different you know and you gotta give them freedom so that you can find out where this branch is bent And they need to find out where their branch has been. One of the problems with her today is since they've never actually done anything practical and meaningful. They come into 16 1718 years old and they've never they've never had the freedom to experiment to eclectically incomprehensively incorporate into their life meaningful task.
I had to fight my kids to get any help
Didn't work
Way more is caught than taught.
quote un quote 😉
I did involve my children, gave them age appropriate responsibilities, encouraged personal endeavors, praise and lots of encouragement, etc.
Then one day the enemy came and convinced em they were merely slaves and i was bad for them. (In reality, he was mad i wouldn't let em shack up).
Not too much after they moved out, he had the nerve to complain they wouldn't do their chores at home. But he didn't connect the dots. 🧐😒🤦♀️😐😐
A parent can give children ops, do all the right things but they still retain free will. And if they choose laziness, the way of the world, etc, then the parent is villified.
Nope, i do not accept that. 🤨
If the kids choose against what was taught (good values, work ethic, serve The Lord Jesus, live by His Word, The Holy Bible), then that's on them, not the parent. 😐😐😐😐😐
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Love the content! Growth can be tough, but using tools like SMM KPM has been a lifesaver for me