BPD Secure and Insecure Relationship Attachment
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In this video we'll examine the secure and insecure attachment types and characteristics seen in children and adults and how they impact your relationships and functioning. We'll also discuss how you can change your attachment type. Yes, it's possible to change your attachment type. Check out this video to learn how.
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
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Hi my bpd friends, I love you all 💖
Namaste
Is there an online group to discuss these things? Maybe peer support?
@@jeremyrosen7842 tons on FB
@@emilylowrance7930 I'll check. Anyone you recommend?
Bonjour
I wish Dr. Fox lived in the UK. Absolute genius. He really understands everything in a way I haven’t seen before.
Is there a way I can pay in advance for FaceTime or Zoom contact to talk to you?
I've noticed that whenever I feel that I'm not enough OR too much in connection with my partner, I feel like an abandoned child, very vulnerable and helpless. And there is rarely a right balance because I am so dependant and anxious...
Whattttt he's doing attachment stuff?! WHAT AN AWESOME TOPIC! I'm stoked!
Yep! My therapist mentioned how reactive attachment disorder and BPD could be a componet... detached, dissociated as a "normal state", unable to give or receive compassion, etc.
My therapist said, I have a fearful avoidant attachment style.
I think a lot of BPD’s have that too.
Anxious is preoccupied with the partner, fearing abandonment, while at the same time, fearing engulfment, as a result acting dismissive or avoidant.
It’s like they have both.
The enmeshment happens without intention. Unconscious!
Because of lack of emotional boundaries.
Their sense of value comes from the relationship through the other.
Yes the fearful avoidant attachment style is the disorganized one mentioned in this video. Disorganized is just a combination of avoidant and anxious attachment, he should have made that clear. I have this attachment style too, and I have very severe BPD.
Yeah I think this is me also.
I have BPD and just left a relationship. I really fear never being loved again.
You will find love again. Just remember to be true to you.
This is my fear as well
I feel the same way everytime someone breaks up with me. It feels like my life has ended. I'm not usually the one to leave though. Everyone leaves me.
your videos always make me feel so well understood and calm, i’m trying to work on myself so i can finally break the pattern of ruining my relationships due to fear, thank you dr fox ❤️
I just thought of something. Can you please make a video on how to bring bpd up to potential partners??
This!!!
I am so afraid to talk about BPD with my partner because I don’t want him to look it up and see all the nasty stuff on the internet about us. I’m afraid it’ll scare everyone away from me so I just try to keep quiet about it/my symptoms (especially splitting). How would I describe to someone I love that I split on them over nothing and go from loving to pure hate without making him feel like he has to walk on eggshells around me?
anyway, be well 💕 we are not bad people or monsters.
Yes! More info. On how to best support? Especially when they withdraw how to best communicate?
Please.
Yeah and when it would be appropriate to do so. I feel like the first date probably isn’t the best time to do that but maybe it’s better to be upfront 🤷♀️
When my girlfriend and I started dating, she almost told me right away (a few dates in... maybe the second?) I truly appreciated her being upfront. I think the thing that made me most comfortable was how confident she seemed about it... like it was just how it is. It made me want to learn more about bpd and so I researched. Dr. Fox’s videos have been hugely helpful. I wish you the best on expressing this to those you wish to!
I would be interested in seeing a video on why you became so interested in BPD.
This.
Not gon happen.
Also would love to see a video on gaslighting and how to handle that and the long term effects that it has on the partner on the receiving end.
Yes. I need video on the effects of being in a new relationship after being in a previous relationship where I was gaslighted.
I can only describe you therapists as flashlights ❤ Thank you for your time ❤
When you said “if it doesn’t work out, you’ll find another one, it’s okay.” I wish it were that simple. As someone who has spent the majority of their life single due to only being able to attract narcissistic men. Thankfully I have strong boundaries and standards and will not put up with abuse so those relationships never lasted very long. As a result, I have spent a lot of time completely alone from these traumatic experiences. Therefore, when I do meet someone who could potentially be healthy or normal, I cling on for dear life because I don’t want to be alone and I don’t want them to abandon me. My attachment trauma activates and I become super anxious, people pleasing, over giving, performing, and needy to try and get them to stay. Ugh I’m so tired of being single all the damn time. (I’m 31)
Really sweet, supportive ending! Yes, please do one with Narcissistic PD, thank you
And thank you, as ever
Please continue one on narcisstic attachment. My partner has bpd. And lives in the rage emotion 90% of the time. He has severe abandonment issues. He is very disorganized. His sister has narrcistic avoidant attachment.
I am in a relationship & have been diagnosed with bpd. I can most definitely say that you most definitely know your stuff specially for studying for a min haha! Thank you, this was informative and reminded me of the fact I can change my attachment style & not to give up. Thanks so much
I honestly didn't know you could change your attachment style! I thought it was just identifying and dealing with it! That's honestly why I clicked on this video. I did not understand how a BPDer could have a secure attachment style! And I'm 41, always on the internet, and got my diagnosis more than a dozen years ago. How the hell have I not come across this information before?! I'm so glad I got caught in this rabbit hole today! I found a diamond, instead of just burning through more time and keeping the silence away, like usual. Imagine that...
How I wish muy daughter, 22, would understand her condition. I see her suffering so much. Breaks my heart.
I feel you. Just keep your calm, and let her know the beauty of Life.
I just wanted to say thank you sir. As someone with BPD, you’ve helped me a lot. Living with this disorder is difficult and us BPD folk need a lot of guidance.
There should be no excuses for staying in a relationship with someone that puts you through more stress and pain over love and joy.
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I literally could not hate myself more, especially when I’ve just been rejected like now.
DR. FOX PLEASE READ!!!!:
Can you do a video with someone with BPD who struggles to keep a job. I struggle with this hardcore and I'd love to watch a video on this from you and how to help. E keep a job. Thank you! I struggle with impulsivity.
Often times I notice that folks with BPD show up as having an un-organized attachement style, while anxiously attached people show up as codependent.
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder about 4 years ago, and recently I've been doing research about BPD, and the symptoms hit every mark for me. You have been such a great help with helping me figure things out.
I can say I've had experience with being all 3 styles of insecure at one point or another. But the underlying fear is and has always been abandonment.
All I know is that I'm trying. You said I can't be negative, so that's the best I've got.
I honestly just wish no one else would ever have to feel the way that I do.
This video was a godsend for me today! I just recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost 4 years and I am going through a lot of thoughts of rejection. Even though it's hard to move on from a relationship, like you said, people with bpd can find other relationships and they can be fine on their own too. I'm just taking this time to get to know myself better, which will eventually lead to healthier and happier relationships in the future.
The aspect of recognizing anxious attachment is where the desire for enmeshment comes from was very helpful. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
This is what makes me believe that my npd boyfriend might actually be good for me. When I get too overwhelming he will just walk out and go do yard work and as much as it drives me crazy to sometimes feel so disconnected, I also feel it's good for me too.
Was having a hard night but this helped me think more calmly and rationally. I wish everyone a nice, safe night
Ewwwww , this helped out tremendously. Not the be all and fix all but pointed me in the right direction
Hell yeah, I’m anxious attachment type all the way to the psychiatrists office
It's possible (I know for my own experience) to have BPD and go from an anxious avoidant attachment style to a secure style. So what you stated almost 4 minutes in, I just have to disagree with doc. Respectfully so. But I had to, I dealt with a 9 year long relationship with a dismissive avoidant who refused personal and couple counseling, so I did that on my own and got well. She's gone now, I left her. I don't miss her either, even though I loved her for 8 years, I kept waiting for her to change and grow, she refused to do so. So I did the growing instead to the point not only did my attachment style change but my BPD has minimized greatly!
Such an awesome topic. Fascinating to see how the anxious style fits in perfectly with my bpd symptoms 😳
Man I wish Dr. Fox was on the level of jordan peterson when it comes to views. It would be much deserved. Maybe one day when mental health crises arent taboo
Omg I was just thinking this. Two of some of my favorite humans alive
I am so glad to see a clinician who treats BPD and who sees and understands that much of the core of this illness is based on attachment. Attachment theory has been VERY helpful for me, a BPD patient, to understand myself and my relationships.
Also thank you, I feel this positive environment and your attitude feels very positive towards people that suffer from BPD.
I have insecure & anxious attachment type. I have the push & pull ( preoccupied & fearful) subtypes.
I have had disabilities so my parents sent me this message that no one can love me without taking advantage of me; I'll get easily deceived and then hurt; the outside world is mean & scary for people like me. 😞
I understand that having an insecure and anxious attachment type can be challenging, but remember that you are not alone. Many people struggle with similar feelings and experiences. It's important to surround yourself with supportive and understanding individuals who can help you navigate through these emotions.
Wowwww. First one; This is for sure me! Second one.... uh... me too.... third one. ... omg, they're all me whaaaat. 😂. I love that there is always a ray of hope and s tool in these videos!! So important.
I wish I could get my hubby of 12 years to watch these... so he could understand me better. So we could communicate better. 😞
I have BPD and your relationship vids inspire me to be more open about my struggles 🦋
Same..
Thank you Dr. Fox!
I reckon I'm more of a disorganized one, I was in a total state of dissociation from my feelings for the first twenty years of my life. Was grown up in an environment where the most positive and meaningful conversation with (_intentionally don't use possessive "my" 'cause it hurts seeing them as a part of myself.)the parents was "come eat your meal". Anyhow after getting past that period, I started to work on gaining insight into my mental situation and can say I am recovering now with definite help of compassionate souls like Dr.Fox, especially where I live therapy is not of ,in my view, acceptable quality and of course is pricy. By the way, the attachment style explanation by Dr.Fox was really cohesive and easy to grasp! Thanks for all you do for us :*
Thank you 🥺🥺🥺 the affirmations really truly reassures and calms me down.
Please do the narcissist relationship attachment video too!!!
Search videos on Medcircle or Dr. Ramani on UA-cam
Very informative video. I just wish there weren't so many ads sprinkled throughout the talk!
Wow, it's very hard to impress me but you are so insightful and skilled when it comes BPD. You truly deserve all of the credit you get. Best BPD psychologist I've seen yet. A lot of therapists focus on the effects of BPD way more than the treatment. You have ALL of the good karma coming your way. Keep you the good work :)
1:40 Secure attachment style
4:00 Insecure attachment styles (avoidant, disorganized, and anxious)
4:05 Avoidant (caregivers) > dismissive (adults)
6:00 Disorganized > unresolved
8:00 Anxious > preoccupied
11:00 Changing attachment styles
I have listened to some of your videos and trust me all the way from Africa you are impacting change and I would love one day to have a therapy session with you. Good work Dr.
Yes narcissistic attachment style please!
It’s so refreshing seeing everyone in the comments that shares the same situation as me. I really thought I was alone
Thank you so much for what you do. As someone who is here to try to help understand and support my husband, there’s a ton of really negative and scary information out there. You on the other hand present topics on BPD with such compassion and realistic positivity, and it helps me be a more empathetic wife and hope that my husband will someday find peace.
I'm a BPD with sometimes dismissive and unresolved attachment patterns since I come from a disorganized family attachment patterns. The level of anxiety increases with proximity.
This guys an effing saint, seriously love ya dude keep up the amazing work
Thank you, Dr. Daniel Fox. Youve helped me and others more than youll ever know.
I signpost many of my bpd patients to your videos 🙂
It’s really hard when someone rejects me for the crap I’ve done (as a BPD) and now when you talk to them it’s like talking to a wall. So depressing. I’m trying so hard to let go of my favorite person but I can’t stop texting him and he’s trying to tell me kindly that it’s over and that he doesn’t care.
I’ve been single 4.5 years . I have codependent relationships. I’ve been trying to really work on myself .I attract either emotionally unavailable types or narcissistic types . And because I attract these types this in turn triggers severe feelings abandonment in myself . I was fostered all my life and my mother was a covert, narcissist, and she would have severe rages at me .. she was also very physically abusive to me . I’ve had an unhealthy relationship with myself because of my early years . My Foster mother was also very cold to me and only fosters me to look good in front of her peers . She never showed me warmth . Even though I’m fairly successful and take care of myself ect and am financially secure- on the inside I always feel like am a fraud and not ever good enough . I suffered terrible anxiety and panic attacks at different times in my life . I don’t have a temper and am quite stable when I’m by myself . Is codependency a borderline personality disorder ?
Thank you, Dr. Fox! I've been receiving treatment for BPD for two years and my wife and parents are now starting to try to understand my condition a little more. I've recommended your channel to them to help them understand more aspects of BPD.
I have BPD. I have a fear of abandonment and fear of engulment/intimacy, so I swing between the two in relationships. I feel like I swing between Dismissive Attachment and the Preoccupied Attachment style. Very frustrating to live with for me, and I'm sure for my family, friends and partner too
You have a FA style 💕
Ignore anything bad said you've helped me I think your great and it's nice see a dr get what's going on
I have elements of all of these (except dismissive and avoidant) but unresolved and preoccupied affect my relationships the most…
Since I was a teen (currently 35) I've had great difficulty creating a relationship with my mom. I had 3yrs in a foster home with wonderful people, my mom was struggling greatly. I would visit with her when I wasn't working. She always seemed very happy that I was around her, excited to introduce me to people she knew...and then it was like she disappeared. The 1st time I didn't understand and it upset me. Then I realized I need to be delicate with her. And that's ok. We've had consistent contact for a little over a year now.
Realistically professionals have also acknowledged that being in even one single relationship with a neglectful narcissist in adulthood, even if it is not obviously abusive, (even if it is just covert, neglectful abuse) adults can start to manifest cluster B traits which they may only have been vulnerable to before. Professionals should be careful to, first, find out if clients are victims of narcissistic abuse, before diagnosing them as BPD (especially). Narcissistic abuse (like PTSD) presents like BPD in victims. Professionals MUST look for this first before diagnosing clients, because dealing with that single Narc relationship, sorts out the dysregulation and manifestation of abuse.
That's an interesting point! It's crucial for professionals to consider the impact of narcissistic abuse on individuals before making any diagnoses. Awareness and understanding are key in providing effective support and treatment.
Dr Fox, you and also Thais Gibson have both said anxious preoccupied fit BPD best from their practice experience.This makes me feel SANE
I have fearful avoidant and have been misdiagnosed with BDP with no history , then thorough diagnosis saying no bpd .
I actually think I have AVPD(which is more closely associated with FA attachment and there is no help or research for cluster c :(
. For the record, I am not shaming BDP but DBT didn’t help me. I tell
People my history of literally avoiding relationships, surpressing emotions It’s equally painful but different .
Last therapist pushed me out to DBT when I started acting FA(because he wasn’t boundaried and being really confusing and not being transparent , it brings the traits out more )anyways I think something psychodynamic like schema therapy is the only thing that can help me.
Thanks
Anxious was spot on for me 💯
Lots to mull over here. Thankyou.
I have BPD and am a parent and what hurts is seeing the behaviours of care givers during childhood is how I was/am currently raising my child :(
parenting while having BPD makes me the most aweful parent at times and it's hard to get over the guilt.
Can't wait to binge on your book after finals! ✨✨
Thank you so much for the work you do here!
It has been so helpful to gain insights and hope learn to manage this messy disorder.
Some days I just feel like I am hopeless, that nothing could help me. And that the rollercoaster and destructiveness gets tough to bear.. This channel has been a new beacon of hope and understanding, thank you so much.
I don't feel Like I need to be in a relationship probably better off on my own but in saying that I do get the hollowness but I've felt that all My life. disorganised attachment fits here and I really struggle with it. Oh and the fonz 😂😂😂
Im learning a lot about my issues through your content.. Gosh, I am a serious loner because I get so disregulated in relationships.. Just zoom calling with my 2 sisters leaves me out of balance for days...
I've only recently been able to show my face on video calls because I think I look like a monster... I am so screwed up from multiple forms of abuse and neglect...But I love people and wish I could be more engaged in life. I'm 57 years old and running out of time..
I love your videos Dr. Fox :) please keep making them!
I love you videos and I love your energy!!
May God bless and sustain all your needs! You are truly a blessing for those who suffer with bpd ❤
Thanks 😊
Thank you, for another helpful video. So often you post a new video and it ends up being just what I need at that time in my life. Your channel and your workbook have helped me so much since I was diagnosed with BPD last October. Thank you so much.
This honestly gives me so much insight and validation as to what I am going through! Thank you and this was soo helpful
thank you for doing these videos
Thank you Dr. Fox. I have just been reading lately on the various attachment styles in children to try and figure out how it relates to BPD traits.
I so much appreciate your help and the content you provide.
Thank you so much for all your videos especially this one! I have recently been diagnosed with bpd and I’m in an insecure relationship and have major anxiety emptiness sadness worry you name it! I’m currently having therapy so fingers crossed I learn and take in all the tools to help me! My heart goes out to anyone who is suffering with bpd ❤️ Thanks again Dr fox for all the very helpful videos
i always love your videos. im ordering your workbook on friday.
Absolutely amazing, dr fox. Hit the nail on the head. And so helpful to mesh in attachment theory, i’ve been curious for a while where bpd would fit in that. Surprised it wasn’t disorganised but as someone coming from bpd and also preoccupied style, it makes sense! Thanks
Thank you DR.
thanks for all your effort and wisdom and compassion
Eye opening. Another amazing vid! Thanks!
I love watching your videos it's definitely helping me understand my condition better. My current pshycolgist isnt very experienced with bpd and hasn't helped much. Everytime we see eachother it kinda goes off topic, need to find someone more experienced..... please keep these videos coming they're awesome :)
This is very insightful! Thanks for this amazing video Dr. Fox. I really expect your next video about attachment in narcissitic.
Thank you so much. 💓
Thank God for you Dr Fox
Good video!
Excellent insight, as always, Dr. Fox. Thank you!
I just want to date an adult..like me..who can admit their flaws & not project it onto me...I've been dating narcissists & codependents my whole life. I just want a partner who is as honest & not use or abuse me.... I dated codepedents who threatened emotional blackmail on me over & over...he said he would blow his head off with a rifle if I left him!!! That is not love, that is manipulation...All of my partners blame everything on me. I am Bpd...something is very sick here, not normal...this is gaslighting or some other form of abuse...borderlines know it. This is sick!!!!
Wow this comment sounds like me thinking out loud. I'm so over it . Even with self work and healing I keep attracting these toxic ppl and at first they dont evrn present themselves this way in beginning obviously until I start psycho analyzing them ...i give alot of chances for sake of benefit of doubt until I start to see a pattern. I'm not a BPD..but its exhausting..I've resorted to just being single...until I collect my self again. Best of luck
I think we keep on choosing broken people because we can relate to the pain.
Or we feel sympathy towards them.
Healthy isn’t attractive.
It’s boring or it’s too threatening.
Now that you want to date an adult, are you ready to be an adult? If we can figure what we don't want anymore, we should be able to figure why we always end up in those situations in the first place. You know it, yet you are there all over again. Smells like codependancy.
You should want to date adults when you are ready to be one. At this stage, you are still repeating the same mistakes again and again. Start working on yourself, then figure out what partner you want. So you don't end up with another rescue fantasy.
@@GM-yb5yg People with Bpd keep attracting abusers...so keep victim blaming, I hope you never grew up being an extension of your parents, how dare you judge me. When you are dying to find a sense of self but assholes keep bothering you.
Omg anxious attachment pattern describes me and my mum so much.
Dr. Fox thank you so much for all the work you are doing to help those of use with BPD and personality disorders in general. Your working provides such great visibility and allows others, as well ourselves, to understand us more. A true difference maker
Dr. Fox I deeply appreciate you wisdom and knowledge on mental disease. Your information has helped me tremendously with borderline personality disorder I thank you.
So wonderfully stated. Thank you 💕
Thanks so much Dr. Fox your videos help me always like you have no idea!!!🤗👏👏👏👏👏👏
You've saved my life pal, this series has really helped me understand where my unhealthy attachments stem from.
You are amazing! You helped me so much , I cannot tell how thankful I am for your teaching. I love you!
Your Videos are great, thanks !
Hey Doctor Fox, thanks once again for an amazing video. I wish it was easier to find a provider that was as knowledge and understanding as you are of BPD. I really need to be working with someone who knows as much as you do about our patterns of thinking and behavior. Unfortunately, being on Medicaid makes it next to impossible to find a good therapist. 😔 I watch your videos in an attempt to supplement my therapy but really wish there were more therapists that were educated about bpd. Thanks for everything you do, I’m very thankful I found your videos 🧡
Great video, interesting to see how children attachment style develops into adulthood (I never seen a discussion about this). I definitely see myself in one of these & this is helpful
this helps a lot. thank you dr. fox 😊 i also got your workbook and making baby steps one at a time 😂
Hugs!!! Thank you! I have the work book but half way into the book it got to intense or difficult or didn’t apply to me. I learned a lot. Tho. Loved this video because now I am back focused on being self aware of attachment styles!!!
Thank you for your video! Your compassion shines through and I love the details you include.
I have disorganized patterns that induced preoccupied attachment, so when I feel triggered, I tend to focus on my husband instead of myself. I cut off my mom a few weeks ago and since, I've been healing from that urge, though I still go from my office to the steps, walk down, talk to my husband, and walk back up before I realize the impulse. We both went through Dialectical Behavior Therapy and have practiced for three and a half to four years. So, our communication is getting better and we're accepting the breakdowns as much as possible.
I also have depersonalization/derealization syndrome (DPDR) and chronic (and complex) PTSD which I'm working through in therapy and through my writing and artistic journey. The moment my husband told me to make my own decisions, I realized why I trust him even after our breakdowns. I don't need the relationship as much as I want it. And the love I feel for him inspires me to love myself, because I'm stealing his energy otherwise.
My self-publishing business doesn't have money goals right now, though it would be lovely to make enough income that I satisfy the financial area of hierarchy of needs. Showing up and doing the work is hardest for me, especially on days when my husband and I split. He tends to split outward and I split inwards, so it's a toxic dance that we're both working on changing. Relationships can work if both parties are willing to put in the work.
Since making the intention to show up for myself like I want to (last week in therapy), I've written more of my second novel four days, completed half of my homework that's due Monday, meditated three days, sang in the shower every day, and made a script for a video on, "The imperfections of perfectionism," which I hope to film today after finishing my homework. It's a lot of work. I have near-constant headaches multiple days a week. And fibromyalgia kicks my butt after traumatic responses overload me. Between healing, relationships, and school, I'm working three full-time jobs! Good thing I've trained myself to relax and actually sleep. It takes time. It's brutal. But the healing journey is worth the price, even if it's moments of peace here and there.
You have some wonderful videos, thank you for these... I get confused because I have BPD but am not violent and am sweet to most people... My family only sees my depression and anxiety and me wanting to not be here, they dont see me split on them except maybe once every couple years... It's mostly romantic relationships that see it... Anyway, its all very confusing, I feel like a bad person for my disorder even though most people think I'm a good person... I have had a lot of trauma in my life... It is all so confusing and occasionally I hurt someone and feel like I should not exist because of it, but I know it is not actually that often... I think I overwhelm people tho.
Anyway, thank you a lot for these videos, you are helping me to understand my abandonment/rejection wounds and to recognize/step back when my thoughts and urges start stemming from that. You're doing something awesome for other people.
Dr. Fox, I think you are brilliant and your videos are quite, quite amazing. Thank you for all you do. 💖🌸