Trying To Win Back My Wife | Ask Ganjiswag
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To the dude trying to "win back" his wife... if the tables were turned would you ever fully trust her again? Would you forgive her not just for cheating on you but for completely shattering your self-confidence and self-worth? NEVER. Every time she walked out the door you would wonder where she was going and whether she was going to see her ex or worse, someone else. Every time she tried to come close to you, you would see it as a compromise for sake of the children or worse, as pity.
The only thing you did right was to tell her the truth because in today's age of social media and phones, she would have found out sooner or later.
But now realize this, that you single handedly destroyed your very happy marriage and completely broke your wife. She may come around in a few years or she may not. I doubt if you will get as close as you were before your affair.
But hey, don't you ever dare get angry at her if she doesn't come around soon... any time you do get angry, ask yourself what you would have done if she had been the offending party. If you don't think you can patiently accept her current behavior for the next 4-5 years then leave her.
He is more concerned about HIS loss and wants everything back to normal..wahh…its called consequences. Deal with it. Repent & be patient.
Nice analysis. I agree with you
Totally agree with your analysis
Not even 3,4years she should leave him forever there is something called self respect
That's the point ... If she cannot "forgive" what he has done, leave him ...but just dont pretend that you have forgiven him which actually you did not ...
Dont just constantly make both of your lives miserable, dont just constantly keep him in this circle of guilt trip ... The man regrets and asks for forgiveness of his sins ... If you can, forgive ... Forgive him ... If you can't ...leave him , but just dont ruin both of yours relationship and lives ...be a woman !
I am a working woman. I have worked since the age of 18. My father passed away when I was 19, and at the age of 25 I sponsored my entire wedding. Everything in my wedding was luxurious, be it makeup, dress, venue or photographer, every thing was lavish and every penny was paid by me. I am mentioning this to explain, that I know what being a working woman feels like. I am going to be 26 soon and I can never imagine leaving my job because mujhsay ab ghar nahi betha jata. But my question is if a girl knows that she wants to be a housewife, to ismy kia burai hy? If she is going to take care of her house, her children, and is willing to contribute by maintaing the home by cooking, cleaning, laundary, usmy kia burai hy? Is this not a contribution? HOME MAKING IS UNPAID LABOUR. If you think this is not equavilent of gari k paiyoun ka sath chalna, then calculate the cost if you had to outsource everything! More than half of your salary will get used in these minor expenses whom you don't even consider a labour. How is she a liability when she is supporting your entire home?
Yes that's the sane reply
@fatimaqureshi9964 Half of the salary gone in expenses? that only happens in bahir k mulk not in pakistan. Pakistan has very cheap labor. 5-6000 rupees main kaam chal jata hai.
Other thing is. Even doe its unpaid labour. But alot of women tend to really enjoy the process of cooking cleaning and house chores. Women tend to enjoy these things while cooking they put music on, morning shows on, junaid akram podcast on. So they enjoy doing these kind of work its not pain to do these jobs. God has created women to be good in these kind of work. Women are naturally good in these things.
Secondly All house chores doesn't take the whole day it only takes 4-5 hours MAX. And cleaning doesn't have to be done every single day.
Thirdly There is no boss on the head who is gonna fire you if you don't complete house chores. The husband is not gonna punish her if she is cutting short.
On the other hand husband has to deal with office politics, fights for salary, fight with Bosses, being at the office the whole day even if its not required. Getting tired for everything Which is much harder as compared to doing house chores.
So how is that fair and equal for both.
Aur bahir ki larkian, of bahir k countries they do everything. They cook, clean, work, handle kids, manage everything. Thats exactly what men try to make pakistani women understand k insaan has alot of super power. But they take it as " Shohar naukar bana rha hai" not as " This is something productive and can make life lot easier. Ye bus pakistani larkion ko hi maut ajati hai kaam ka naam sun k. They just want a bakra who can do everything for them and they can just sit on chair getting their nails done wo bhi husband k paison pe.
I am a working woman and I know how much men are working in office, sara din TC kerne mein aur bahir beth k suttay lagany mein hi waste kerty hain. And if you don't clean regulalry you are in a dirty househould, you better do ghr k kaam khud like bahir k men as well. Your entire comment is bakwas because thing you mentioned are fictional lol@@theutmoststunner
@@theutmoststunner It's easy to talk. Try to walk the talk with whole susral and a Mil on your head and then come back.
@@Hnk088thats the thing you considered susral as " bad thing" why you think susral is a burden and responsibility. Exactly Pakistani Dramas. Every pakistani girl says " Oh i don't watch dramas" but they think the same. You don't have to make susral trips all the time. If you talk to your husband and husband is understanding then you don't have to show up to susral all the time. Maybe once awhile. Again " victim pakistani mentality". "Merey pe bohat zulm ho rha hai".
I study in a private medical university and there are a lot of Hindus and Christian in the university.I as a Muslim have seen that all the community they respect Muslims like saying Salam and Saying Allah hafiz so minorities do respect us but sadly we Muslims we need to learn some moral ethics that’s what we lack.I hope we Pakistanis learn some moral ethics and learn how to live in diverse environment
Yes Ameen
Think are you just thinking from a Liberal high horse
The globalisation is shaping this will be possible One-Day pakistani will respect every citizen
For the guy that cheated on his wife, you’re a literal scum. You don’t deserve to have her in your life, let alone have your relationship go back to what it used to be. I truly do pray she leaves you for someone who will genuinely care for her. And I pray she finds happiness with that man. Ameen. Cheating on your wife while she’s pregnant is the scummiest thing to do.
He needs to be treated in same way he treated her he is a fuckface
Real beta energy with this comment. People like you are the reason multiple halal marriaged are a Taboo. Thats why men have to 'cheat'. Also its no big deal men are designed to spread their genes. While women want to settle with the highest value man they can. So why should men settle for a woman's s3xual strategy?
She also have been flinging in her early days. So don't over react
@@alijafri2730 who the fuck said that? And flinging is very different to cheating on your pregnant fucking wife. That man deserves hell and I pray she leaves him. She deserves better.
@alijafri You made a very irrelevant comment my friend. You are speaking out of pure assumption on what the wife MAY have done. Secondly, flinging is not a form of cheating it is a term that defines short term relationships for just fun and moving on to the next. Thirdly, even if she did, what the husband did to a wife that is putting her body through extreme amounts of pain and doing something that will leave her completely changed mentally and physically for her family while her husband is seeing another woman is a slap in the face. It is disrespectful. It is inconsiderate. It is shameless. A man does not do that.
For the "cheater boi". It seems he went from "us" to "me, me, me". His transgression towards his marital vows came at a time when her attention went from him to her unborn baby and herself. His entire email seems to be centered around "I". By confessing he was hoping to transfer the burden of his guilt on his wife, but now that he is not being commended for his honesty, and also being looked at with mistrust, his burden did not ease as he had hoped. I would say that if guilt is what you were feeling for betraying your wife's trust, then suck it up. That is the lowest punishment you deserved. But now that you have shattered both glasses, yes take her to therapy to deal with this blow. And once her anger has had a chance to work itself out of her system, then go for couples therapy. A professional will give her tools to deal with it. You are the wrong doer, so suck it up. You brought this upon yourself and did not do anybody any favors by confessing your crimes. Do not expect your sentence to be lenient because of it.
Such a sane advice ❤
agreed.
Before calling a housewife/homemaker a liability and labelling her as she does nothing and sits all day at home, try hiring a maid for 24/7 to do household chores, to be a nanny for your kids and take care of your parents and see how much of a liability she turns out to be when you actually have to pay her a handsome amount and also have to give her a day off and work your own ass off to do her job on her day off. Are you able to provide her a separate home? Are you ready to be a man and not a baby who won't even help in the kitchen after a long day at work. Will you think of a working woman as liability too because she wouldn't want to cook? I'm sure the guy's mother has also been a housewife all her life.
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I totally agree with you on this I also felt it seems so off to call a house wife a liability.....but I do agree with @Junaid Akram that both partners should have some goals (including financial too but it's not necessarily important if wife does not want to have a financial responsibility) which will help them to grow together......
Junaid bhai your take on unwanted invitation to Islam was on the point. Please do an interview with Dhruv Rathe .
Respect from India .
To my mind, this is one of the best podcasts in terms of understanding different situations and ultimately learning to make things better in any scenario. I love your way of articulating someone's experience and giving them a nice solution.❤
The loser with the 2 cousins Is actually worse than both of them.
At least his "true love." ( insert rolling eyes here) is honest and has told him that she wants to be a housewife. The idea that being a successful housewife is somehow being aimless is a regressive thought process to begin with.
I don't understand how do these idiots who think themselves to be very intelligent and smart start claiming "true love" when the other party has not even smiled in their direction.
Regarding the second girl. I'm hoping that the only reason she likes this loser is because he has not conveyed to her his true brain power by telling her That he actually loves the other cousin but is contemplating going with this one only because she is very good at her career and will give a huge boost to his professional life.
If the girl is as intelligent as he claims her to be and has an iota of self-confidence and self-respect, She will dump him like a hot potato right there and then.
If after this, she still claims her "true love" for him, then both losers deserve each other.
Exactly, I dont understand these people who says that wOmEn sHoUlD hAvE tHe cHoIce and when she chooses to be a housewife then suddenly, she is a loser. What a load of BS, she has full right and choice to be a housewife if she wants to be. The problem is when people start forcing people specially women to do what they want and what they project to be happy and successful. I am very much disappointed in Junaid to not able to understand this.
The loser wants a ladder, not a wife!
@omer19951 Actually, the only caveat to that is when the woman who wants to be a housewife does not understand that that is actually a full-time job. When I heard the whole thing again, it seemed like the first girl Thinks that being a housewife means that you have service to do everything and that you don't have to lift a finger.. That kind of mindset is absolutely wrong to choose to be a housewife.
Personally speaking, I do believe that even if they do not want to work after marriage, every girl should earn money before marriage, at least through work. She should have some job experience and Should know how to deal with and move in the outside world. Circumstances in life can change any second, and in case of a husband leaving her or worse case dying, she should not be sitting there waiting for the in laws or some relatives to give her food and clothing. She should have had the experience of going out in the world and earning her own living.
@@user-wv1yt agreed
The last email was really hurtful to hear. The wife will remain broken forever. This is a wound that will never heal. She should divorce him.
i am wondering how this possible first..... you attracted towards an Indian Girl than you fucked her for 5 month seriously .....even you know your wife is Pregnant ....than all of sudden you realize this... oh no this Indian Girl is not so temptating anymore ...can you anybody explain how this Guy Blocked that Indian Girl ...if both of them working in the same office ....second this Dude fucked that Indian Girl for 5 month okay... after giving a False hope ....after that he blocked her ....means that Indian Girl is having no feeling she left this Dude so easily right ...same question his Wife also thinking ??? ...first you chased a Girl and Fucked her than you Blocked her means everything is fine ...and that Indian Girl is so benevolent she will leave you even you fucking in the name of love ....& she will say it okay Dude it okay you will go back to your wife again ...i think this Mr Predator hiding so much thing here ...corporate romance is the most detrimental thing it can destroy your professional life , image etc etc ....you can loose you Job reputation also ...here this Dude only talk about his wife ....conceal everything about the nasty drama with that Indian Girl woww ?? how can anybody trust such joker who fabricates the whole story like he sleep or Fucked some Prostitute ...who take money for the fucking service and forgot everything ... He Fucked an office colleague & employee not some Prostitute ???
Hehe
He’s a clean man, a sober man and a Doberman
What 😅
I hope he lives up to be a good boi.
Sorry to break it to the guy in the last email but the relationship is dead. His wife probably came back to him because of kids or maybe she doesn’t have enough resources to live on her own.
Junaid Bhai I disagree. Cheating is never a mistake, always a choice. The man from the last question does not deserve to be with his wife anymore.
We all make mistakes mate
Wrong choices are also mistakes. Toba Tou Allah bhe qabool Ker letay hen
I agree with you, cheating is always by choice, no one falls on your bed by mistake
💯, it is always a choice, not a mistake, mistake tab hoti hai jab insaan ko pata na ho wo kya kar rha hai. Cheat karte waqt insaan k dil mein darr bhara hota hai, fir bhi wo cheat karta hai 2 din ki khushi paney k liye.
The point is, if the wife thinks it is that big of a wrong "choice" (by your words), then decide and be a woman and leave him ...
Why keep living with him and make his life miserable by constantly guilt tripping him and ruining both their lives & relationship ??
Junaid Bhai I'm a Christian and I 100% agree with you what you said. I've experienced this debate from my school, college and now in every single company where I've been working and believe me, it's so disturbing. This needs to be stopped.
For the last guy, he made a choice that has damaged his relationship that he had. That’s not saying his relationship can not be saved, but it will never go back to how it was. Ever. They will need to build a new relationship.
But you wouldn't have said that had the gender roles reversed
@@Logicalsane Where in my comment did I mention that this was exclusive to him being a man? Cheaters are the scum of the earth. Especially those who willingly go out of their way to destroy their happy, healthy and content relationships. Once a cheater has destroyed the trust in their relationship it’s damn near impossible to get it back. Whether that’s a man or a woman.
This story was extremely inflaming because this man had no reason to go and screw up his life. He had an extremely happy and loving home. A wife some men DREAM and pray for! And he screwed it up!! For what??? And now he wants his wife to just forgive forget and move on? The disrespect and disregard is unfathomable. Astagfirullah.
There are consequences to all actions. In this life and the next.
Have you guys seen the movie "Marriage story" starring Scarlett Johansson? Cheating is an irreversible and unforgivable offense. And that's definitely not a mistake that's a choice. Do not expect the relationship to be the same. Its been scarred and your wife might need several years to recover from that. Be grateful that she's still staying with you even if for the children's sake only. If that situation works for you, fine. If not then end it once and for all.
Hi Junaid. Being born and raised in the uk I see this thing a lot. Inappropriately all of a sudden bringing religion into a conversation. I feel that it’s not because they are seeking for jannat for themselves, it’s more so because of a lack of conversational skills. And not knowing what really to talk about. Also feeling superior to their peers, allows them to bring up such a private matter. I need to mention that most of the times it’s people whom they don’t really have any realationship with. Just people they might work with or meeting for the first time. It’s so so very inappropriate, to the embarrassing point. I’ve experienced Muslims trying to tell Hindus or Sikhs that they believe in monkeys and reincarnation in a very jokey way. Then they complain about feeling left out or think that other people are racists. I don’t understand the lack of respect shown publicly.
The other part of this is if they see that nobody is paying interest in their talk/tableeq then they go mute and show antisocial behaviour. Which again proves to me that they have not much to offer beyond religious talks. It’s so sad, when I witness this as a Muslim myself.
We pakistanis like to bring politics and religion into every discussion.
Junaid! You absolutely nailed it with your answer against the 1st question. Preaching is an art, an expertise that requires a specific competence, acquired through rigorous training & education. Horses for courses, i.e. choose correct people for each job. For all untrained individuals, stick to unobtrusive preaching practices, i.e. preach through your behaviour/ your day to day dealings/ your personality traits. Simples!😊
In islamic perspective, agr ap ny koi gunnah kia and us ka kisi ko pata nahi siwaey Allah k, its better to leave the matter with Allah after repent and ask Allah to give you ease in heart. jb wo ap k sin chupa rah dont go out and tell people.. best is to repent dil sy tht it wont happen again and make sure you give even more love what she deserve.
In the case , mistaken by partner in relationship must never be told . Because relationship itself is very sensitive issue and the sins made by human should not be told as it only creates problems. Hume tuba krni chai aur Allah sy rehmat ki umid krni chahiy. Kionk humary hath mein ab yehi hy. I hope that everybody find it helpful.
Sir you are too honest & balance so ppl love you
With regards to the guy who is trying to win back his wife, I appreciate how you are providing suggestions to fix the relationship. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. However in most cases, even if the woman wanted to get back with him, she can't ignore her feelings. And how hurt she feels by what he did. Some things are just irreparable. Nonetheless its best to try. Just my opinion as a woman.
Awesome video😎😎👍👍
Zina after marriage has a penalty stoned to death. He should be thankful this law hasn't been applied and move on and redeem his life and leave his wife alone.
I appreciate your thoughts and suggestions but saying that you are cringing about a woman who wants to be a house wife is not right. True feminism is about letting woman choose whatever they want, whether it’s being a house wife and doing household chores or doing a job outside home. Besides, taking care of home and raising children is a huge challenge and responsibility but unfortunately it’s a thankless job because you don’t get paid for it
i also work in a multinational , Alhamdulillah we have a good culture , our Shia and Sunni pray together in jamat ,respect each other religion & thoughts.
Thanks
Last question: Ab wo larki tumhare sath sirf guzara karegi bacho k liye, kuch bhi pehle jesa nhi hosakta ab qki ek bar jab trust toot jaye or wo bhi ese person jis se aap bhut pyar karte ho, pir wo pehle jesa kabhi nhi hoga, sadly you literally ruin your happy life forever
Loved the answer to the first question....from India ❤
Every solution to the last problem was wrong on so many levels.
You said he should not have told her, but this wasn't something he did before his wife came into his life. He cheated on her while they lived together in a strange country, which would have meant a lot of time away from home and family.
Suggesting a Vancleef bracelet is like telling a woman who cheated on her husband to buy him a drone or a Playstation. Do you see the flaw in your suggestions? And can you honestly say you would suggest that to a woman who cheats on her husband?
Staying in it for kids is a "typical desi mom" thing because of the disgusting society we live in. Typical desi moms live in a society that gives zero second chances to women. I'm very interested in seeing your response to the same question if it comes from a woman.
Response to the last question "You did a sin by cheating on your spouse and you will do another sin by breaking her heart by telling her what you did behind her back" if a person genuinely feel remorse and guilt internally and repent to Allah that he/ she will never repeat this again, then the matter is closed and its between Allah and that person. when you confess about your cheating to someone who has given everything in the relation, you are in short giving her the trauma for life which she will never be able to cope. My heart goes out to the lady who is dealing this. Prayers for you
Exactly, I think if a spouse is cheating and regrets sincerely ( if Allah wanted to hide his / her sin ) then don't do it again or confess it. Otherwise be ready not to be forgiven at all. It is very difficult to forgive + even if you are forgiven then winning back trust will take a lot of time.
The comments regarding freelancing and drop shipping etc. were right on point by Junaid bhai ... that is exactly what is wrong with all these so called motivational speakers out there trying to sell their courses by taking advantage of your situation where you are feeling low and depressed sitting in your home trying to make ends meet and suddenly you see some random guy pop up on your screen and starts showing you what he has accomplished in his life and you can do so too without letting you know what he may have gone through and how much hard work or dedication he may have to put in and how many Years it took for him to achieve what he has ... they make it seem like you can have all that overnight and you start chasing those courses and start trying to get rich in as short as possible ... its too far from reality ... great things take time ... As Junaid bhai said, you are the one who needs to figure out what you are good at and once you start doing something, stick with it for at least a Year or so to see the results ... there is no such thing as a get rich quick scheme... not even crypto since that also requires a great bit of knowledge and understanding about trading ...
Brother, you are right. I bought many online courses and they don't even know about freelancing. Some of the so-called gurus are selling Facebook strategies (just scaling when you get enough orders copying and pasting that campaign 3 times blah blah).
Playing "fear of missing out" tactics in their FB campaign.
For the last question husband/wife should tell if they cheat as transparency is core for any relationship so nothing should be hidden and of course she will be hurt because she genuinely loved you and gave you that freedom supported you and in return she got hurt. so take it as a punishment and try to get her love back by doing things she was doing all 9 years.
Very wrong. When Allah hides your sins, don't reveal yourself!
@@jahanzebali589cheating in marriage is also sin..........and as per allah mard aur aurat ek dusray ka libas bhi hotay ha
@@jahanzebali589chup chutiye anpadh gawar. Tere jaise khusre ko kutiya bhi na puche
The man should have chosen the right time and more appropriate time than post delivery. A woman is very fragile post delivery, emotionally, physically and mentally. He should have waited for the right time when she has recovered. Truth always comes out. No matter how much you hide or pray that it will go away. He needs to give her time and be patient for her to recover from the trust blow. Go for marriage counseling. Another thing is women should not self sacrifice for a man and make them "pati-parmeshwar". Men are human. They will make mistakes and hurt you. So better not make larger than life sacrifices for a man. Thats the problem with the desi couples....husbands think its their right and women are self sacrificing and they don't know when to say no.
It absolutely disgusts me to see how low men have gone now a days.....the word LIABABILITY for someone you provide for and work for!!.....by the same token children are a liability, old parents are liability, siblings in need are a liability.....the list goes on..... for your information the double inheritence men get is not because they are favourates, its because Allah has put responsibility of so many people on a man, even of his orphan neices and nephew, hence he gets a share..... but no when its time to TAKE money, these men want their whole share but not the responsibility......seriously gangi swag, you've really shocked me by the choice of words and this man who is choosing based on money....MEN of character do not do this....they ALWAYS rise up to the occasion and do the bigger part ...... this is not to offend but to knock some sense real hard ...because so many men listen to you and these stories and are making a standard of a woman in their heads..... 99% of the men listenimg to you will have mothers who do not work and the fathers with utmost respect lived up to the occasion of providing for them..... your sons and daughters will one day also disrespect their mother by saying she is a liability by the same token of how theu see their father..... dont do this!!!! for the next generation will suffer and you will carry the burden on your shoulder for it
i agree😢
And I hate how entitled women have become these days. They want feminism as long as it saves them the hard work of managing a family, but in other cases they want to choose the traditional roles of men taking care of them! They want to do what suits them. Can't really blame men for going elsewhere and trying to be adventurous
@@deadnlovingit dude what feminists say that let women have some choice, don't freaking force them. If you want a working woman then find one and if you want a housewife then find someone who wants to do that. Don't force women in doing what they don't want to. Is that difficult to understand?
@@deadnlovingit i agree ...i also hate it when women for no reason feel entitled ..... when women lool after their family with love and compassion ..the whole society thrives ....
Feminazi triggered
to the dude "to win back wife" you have damaged something that should built in 9 years atleast repent a few years. give her time and reasons to forgive you with your actions more than your words.
Junaid Bhai, hunter/Qawam is always the man. It is his core responsibility since he is mentally and physically designed to do that. Don't call "housewives" a liability. I respect your opinions but this way of thinking is absolutely wrong. If she earns and wants a career? Okay. Good for her if not? Then that is also her choice which does not mean that she is a liability. She is capable of producing a mini copy of you. Can you do that?
Lmao. You are comparing a women who can live with a man at his any point of life, bad or worse to a girl who wants to live like a Queen.
@@Sanjay_Singh_Bisht bro that's like the bare minimum treatment for women in our religion. Ignorant people have hijacked it.
@@Sanjay_Singh_Bisht yeah like housewives run away when you stop earning or lose your job? How many housewives in Pakistan or India just leave their husbands when things go south? this mentality is as bad as not letting women to work.
@@omer19951 I am not saying a woman can't be a housewife. I am saying, that guy explained the girl he likes as a QuEeN and the cousin he like explains as a hard working woman. If I got these two choices, I would surely go for a woman who is hard working dedicated girl.
What is the email where I can ask questions?
Assalamualaikum Junaid Bhai, absolutely appreciate your efforts to improve Pakistan
Do you thing he should give advice according to shariyat? Because shariyat is the ultimate code for muslman from allah.....he is providing advice which is not according to quran or ahadish....
Great work junaid. Keep it up.
@@prb392lode pe Lele shariyat. Teri shariyat ne tere bhikmange mulk ko IMF se 1 billion loan lene ke liye nanga kiya hai🤣🤣🤣
@@laibanasir3498 i am kufaar my brother....my contribution to shariyat is that i have read it🤣
@@laibanasir3498 and yes shariyat is no way possible to implement and no way possible to follow for human.....even for animals too.......
While u were talking about the 3rd email, I imagined Andrew Tate, I am not his fanboy or so. I agree with some of his points and not with others, but the thing that most hit me is his courses, like if u r a millionaire who has a lot of businesses, and u want men to escape “matrix”, why are you selling your courses, and not give it for free, etc
I think he did the right thing by telling his wife the truth. She deserved to know, imagine you didn’t know you got cheated on while you were having a baby and find out later. they will never forgive you, at least now you have told her, you need to give her the space and wait. She will have to come by her own choice, you won’t be able to convince her.
32:23 swag courses 😂😂😂
I have a question, How do I ask, I’m not sure how to contact you?
Lots of love Junaid A. ✌
Wife has to know! If the man doesn't tell her that he has cheated on her, this basically means that he has not just cheated but he is hiding an information that the wife has every right to know.
If he wouldn't tell, then without this lesson of wife giving him hard time, this man would go around cheating again. Kyunki he has this side to him where he was looking at other women with the eyes of trying to sleep with him. He has it in his nature. He will do it again...requires a lot of courage to cheat. It's not that you wake up and ghalti sai ho gaya. He was attracted, pursued the girl, slept with her. That's a lot of time where he was cheating..so he would do it again. And if he had good intentions,he should tell her. Wife has the right to choose what to do. When he f*** it all up, tb he didn't think abt his wife but selfish hai. Her dafa apna he problem nazar araha h
He brought her to USA. He clearly has high value but beta mindset cause he told his wife and now feels sorry.
Men want to be with multiple women. Man can't cheat. Its only cheating when a woman does it because that woman cheat to mate switch because they want to mate with the highest value man they can.
right to know, my hairy butt! There are somethings that men need to hide from wives of modern times! Nothing wrong if an extra gets added to list
I do believe that their is nothing like a sorry, their is a cost of everything. If someone had cheated on her wife telling a truth is only option because from justice point of view of you done wrong and everything is normal than where is justice. Tell her if she forgive you and things become nomal its good if life is not normal than that's a little punishment for a sin instead of separation.
@ 45:00
معراج نہیں وہ صراب ھوتا ھے اُردو میں
Anyway you are doing good and I listen you.. Have a good day
For the second email, if the girl does not want to do a job or has not thought much about the future. It is ok, maybe that is how she was raised. Nothing wrong with that. Ppl say "jo bhi krna shadi ke bad krna" Fucked up, I know. But maybe she was conditioned like that. The boy sure is full of himself. Looking down on her so called true love. If you really loved her, you would not have cared. And what if the other girl does not want to do her job at one point, then what? She is a liability too?
45:10 Nice words 😎😎
I am curious about this married guy who was dating his Indian colleague. Did he tell her he was married? Or did he tell her he was in a bad marriage and planning a divorce? Why did he feel the need to disclose the nationality of the woman with whom he had an affair. Is he trying to imply that it is cool to use and discard Indian women? He could have just said I had an affair with another woman, what was the relevance of the nationality?
Separately even if he doesn’t tell his wife, the wife could find out eventually. Now at least she decided to forgive him. If she found out on her own she may never have forgiven him. Yes she has difficulty trusting him and he will have to make extra effort to earn her trust. He also has to be patient. He cannot expect that things will be as they were from day 1. If his affair lasted a year, he should be willing to wait for two years to win her back. Woo her, show through actions and words how much she means to you. This guy is acting entitled because he is not even giving her time to heal.
He's telling indian women are easy to discard & Pakistani men are as*holes.
Bilkul theak kaha Junaid Bhai Christian walay mamlay may aap nay bilkul theak kaha
There's nothing wrong about marrying a woman who wishes to be a housewife. The only thing is then you need to make sure she fully understands her household responsibilities, actually enjoys doing most if not all of the household work, and is a type of person who will take good care of kids on her part.
Majority of the Pakistani girls do that bro, this dude just thinks too highly of himself.
@@omer19951 Are you crazy? How's holding an opinion about a domestic issue equivalent to thinking too highly of oneself?
Watch the movie called: eternal shine of spotless mind. Before taking any hard decisions regarding your relationships
Junaid bhai tableegh is a huge part of islam.
Ofcourse theres a way of doing,l it, which you can criticize but refusing the concept of tableegh is quite bizzare and against Islam.
agree with you but the best way of doing it is by practicing it which most people can't do
For the last Question:
Bro If You wanna win Her back, take Her to Umrah (if You can afford) and apologize to Both Allah SWT and Her in front of Kabaa.
It's My personal suggestion...
For the Second Question in my opinion If he Loves the Girl and wants her to be something in the Future so he should tell her that I want these qualities because see this is not that girl's mistake this is how her parents tell her That ( Husband ke Khedmat karo larki akher ma bachi he peda karne ha kam kar ke ya karo ge taleem karke kia karo ge) etc so when a girl hears these things every time her mindset will also develop like this so now she is thinking that getting married and give birth to a child this is only girl responsibility and future so my advice to this man is okay Second girl is a Good choice if you have feeling for her and love but the first girl will also a good option if you tell her how the world work and I want these qualities in my wife give her advice everything you wants in your life partner if she understands that yes you are right so man you are in Canada She can work run her own business after marrying you in Canada if she Develops Mindset like this. Maybe now her mindset is like this because of her parents who tell her that (JO karna ha Shadi ka bad karna). The Second one is Good a better choice but who knows the future Practically second one sounds good but as you said you don't have feeling for her as junaid said you try to hang out a little bit with her or you can try to explain your first Crush that this I Wants if she got agree well and good.
Bhae mai australia mai rehta hu mera dost pakistan sai mujhay bolta hai k video banao streets pai aur logo ko Islam ki dawat do.
Mai nai bola agar unho nai mujhay dawat daidi kisi aur cheez ki to kia karunga?
Bhai Australia may jo ziada religious bunta hai wahi harami hota. I experience it myself.
this podcast is helped me 25:04
Nothing will help just go on with the flow, things will never be the same, he shouldn't have told his wife, just go on things will come back to normal but it will take around five years.
Brro post this content in TikTok too alot ppl complaining the same issues
Tik tok nachniyo ke liye hota hai
Ignore the fundo's and keep producing great content that ACTUALLY HELPS PEOPLE.
lahore also same 1:44
12:00 that is very bold statement junaid in Pakistan
Hope you will be always safe
Last case is a very common case of badnazar (evil eye) unfortunately
that's why I come to saudi recently
Agar apne apni galti man li he to batana ya nhi ye depend krta he partner ke personality pe kuch log accept kr lete he kuch nhi
This guy has made a huge mistake. He needs to keep going at it and try to win her trust back. Also why isnt anyone talking about the girl whom he suddenly left because his conscience woke up one fine day. Let him just imagine himself in his wife's place and ask himself the qs if he would forgive his partner. He will find the answer, iguess
She deserved it. Knowing he was a married man kept on going out with her, shameless creature but man is an absolute trash.
i am wondering how this possible first..... you attracted towards an Indian Girl than you fucked her for 5 month seriously .....even you know your wife is Pregnant ....than all of sudden you realize this... oh no this Indian Girl is not so temptating anymore ...can you anybody explain how this Guy Blocked that Indian Girl ...if both of them working in the same office ....second this Dude fucked that Indian Girl for 5 month okay... after giving a False hope ....after that he blocked her ....means that Indian Girl is having no feeling she left this Dude so easily right ...same question his Wife also thinking ??? ...first you chased a Girl and Fucked her than you Blocked her means everything is fine ...and that Indian Girl is so benevolent she will leave you even you fucking in the name of love ....& she will say it okay Dude it okay you will go back to your wife again ...i think this Mr Predator hiding so much thing here ...corporate romance is the most detrimental thing it can destroy your professional life , image etc etc ....you can loose you Job reputation also ...here this Dude only talk about his wife ....conceal everything about the nasty drama with that Indian Girl woww ?? how can anybody trust such joker who fabricates the whole story like he sleep or Fucked some Prostitute ...who take money for the fucking service and forgot everything ... He Fucked an office colleague & employee not some Prostitute ???
@@laibanasir3498 dude dont say this Global MNC & Corporates is very much inclined towards Women sanity & safer work place ....corporate romance is the biggest nightmare .... i think that Indian Girl is naïve or still in dilemma other wise if she dropped one mail to HR Head ...just to explain how this Guy Pervert used her for the Physical need ....company immediately kicked that Bustard from the Job ... i worked in Tata currently working in Google in both companies very strong law for the safety of Women....i have seen many cases where Guy kicked without any explanation just to hampering the women sanity ..
he did right by telling his wife
Can any female give their opinion on the last case?
Can somebody please tell me where to send your questions??
Mailing address
I don't know his email to send my questions
Anybody?
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Junaid I can see that you spectacles keep on slipping, if you go into any Specsavers they can adjust them for free. 👍
32:00 I know of many international youtubers who do this.
A women who focuses on her beauty and fitness and stays home is a "trophy girl".
Bhai i have been through a similar experience as this guy and i think letting the other person know the truth brings closure at least it takes time but things get back to normal. Agar aap ka reply ata hai aur agar aap interested hain toh main zaroor apni love aur relationship life k f*** ups aur saray aspects share krna chaunga its very long toh 3 say 4 chapters hongay.
bhai yahi bata do
Yeah we are very keen to listen how you became a trash
To the guy who want to win her wife back: You did the right thing to tell her upfront . In my opinion
Just keep doing extra for her and bear her attitude towards you because she must be broken.
Let her vent it out.
It will take time but eventually things will get better.
Men sympathizing with cheating, characterless men! Really touchy! 😂😂 says a lot about men! If his wife cheated on him, you will say “screw this woman, she is a Wh*re and a sl*t, you will find a 10 year younger, more hotter girl for you, dump her, she is characterless”
Wait wasn’t adultery punished by two parties being stoned. Why such a harsh punishment? Because you damage the innocent party. Even God doesn’t forgive this so why should she!!!!
The right expression for the 4th question is: ‘ A jack of all traits is a master of none.’
Dukhi dilon ka sahara😅😅😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
We the OG
Hey man give your wife a lifetime to get back and work really hard to show that you really love her a lot and it was a blunder which didn't last and would never happen again.
With reference to the person who cheated, Its morally incorrect to hide something like that and by deciding to tell his wife and that too by his own, without her finding it out, he surely did the right thing, although its not about cheating, its about the trust that was broken as Junaid bhai said and that is something like a piece of crumbled paper, once its in that shape, it won't go back to the original one. Anyways I feel for the guy as he had the courage to end it and spill the beans to the wife. Definitely it will take a lot of time for her to be back as its already been 6 Months, these situations are never easy. Sometimes you snap out of it and sometimes it takes a lifetime. Not intending to demoralize the person, please keep trying and since you seem to be sincere in your regret, do pray to Allah that he heals the wound your wife is going through as Allah is all powerful and able to do all things.
To the person of the last question. Fine but not fine you made a mistake. Now if you felt guilty should had not told your partner. Why make her go through the pain . And now since you had give her time . Let me tell you it will never be the same . Its just human nature. Cant change that . Put your self in her shoes will you ever be the same . No . As a muslim don’t tell your sin to others. Repent and never do it again . Which I am sure you wont . It will unfortunately never be the same . Bitter truth. Take care
Answering last question "nhe btana chaey"
the problem is the sense of superiority by apologists like Zakir Naik and Ahmed Deedat. Both of them have been misqouting and distorting hundreds of questionable verses in the Quran. Quran has gone through the same process as the Bible; oral tradition and written and compiled 200 years after the death of the prophet.
Oh, are u Muslim!?
are you out of your mind? Quran was already written but it wasn't gathered in one place and it didn't took 200 years for Quran to compile, It was done by the first caliph shortly after the death of Prophet Muhammad pbuh.
Junaid 8/10 does take side of the women and makes men seem out to be bad in any relationship.
He did it by choice not by mistake, and he should be ready for the results in the future. I believe she is waiting for her kids to grow up then she will leave him eventually. He shouldn’t told her! No matter how open minded you are this is very hard to digest! Once the glass is broken it will never be the same.
Last question:
What should be done?
He shouldnt have told her. If he felt so guilty that he told her, then he must be suffering for what he had done. He should have found respite in resorting to therapy and not passed on his punishment to the wife by telling her. Telling the spouse is the easy way out. What came of it? She got hurt. Their relationship took a blow. He might have found respite from the burden he was carry but he exchanged that burden with a lifelong sadness that he is responsible for ruining their relationship. If there is no logical way that she could have found out, then he shouldnt have told her imo.
What can he do now?
Honestly, nothing. I disagree with what junaid said here. Main chahta to na bi batata type ki baat kehna exudes a kind of arrogance which may hurt her further because she is already down in the dumps that her folks are not really supporting her and that she is alone. This may be seen as chori ooper se seena zori. Nobody who says trust me, is immediately trusted. You broke years of trust here. You have to earn it again and for that you have to be patient. Saalon ka trust mahinon main nai kamaya jata wapas. Be the ideal husband. Agar wo baat nai kar rai to aap kar len. Ghar aa k us ki tareef kar den choti moti. Wo demand nai kar rai to aap khud andaza laga k us ko kou gift de den. Observe her mental health. Tell her you are concerned and if she would like to take therapy. Ask her if she would like to take a break from house chores and kids while you babysit the kids so she can have her time. All of this has to be done with lots of patience and nonexistent expectaTions from her. Its not much. It is really basic and what norm should be but men today are such that if any man does this for his wife, he is considered some sort of angel
You have raised all the points. Its getting harder for non muslims in pak even Shia sect is having a hard time. This hypocrisy is never ending.
Whats ur ladies clothes brand name???
Bhai pls STOCK MARKET py bna do 1 video... Online Trading real or Fake.... Scope???? Plsssss
I appreciate the bold honesty of The man in the last question. I can see you have massive regrets. You are you shouldn’t have told her at this time though, just waited for the right moment. But My suggestion is to give her some time. Keep trying to win her back. Trust me you are a better man for her than any other because you have chosen your wife over the other woman you were attracted to which shows how much you want to be with your wife.
I dunnoe if the person from the last email can work it out or not..may Allah lead them to the path thats best for each of them…but one should never tell anyone “well u found it out from me/atleast i told u“ …its like that u made a mistake and now u want the other person to give u points for telling..n it just makes the situation worst
We have Pushto Sikhs in Pakistan, and they are vulnerable
The mini plant died!
Jonaid bai ap hamsha aisa kio kehty ho ky saiks k bad charm finis ho jay gh shodi ka? luv frm bangladesh
14:46 Junaid bhai a humble request! As you said charity begins at home & you are influencer of millions of people around the globe, you gave so good lecture, why don’t you give your sister to some converted Hindu & sets an example. ☮️
Bro you are a converted Muslim, it's just that you don't know it. Your surname Chaudhary is literally a Sanskrit word and it originated from Indian Hindu culture. lol
Thanks for speaking about Hindus in pakistan
It would be more heartbreaking if she finds out herself or if someone tells her about her husband’s affair.