I had my worst period of life between the age of 22 to 25 that was in a toxic marriage.... Now living my best period of life after divorce.... Who said it is a bad thing.... for me it was life,rescue and relief alhumdulillah......
Exactly sister but kuch extremists ke yeh baat dimaag mein nahi ghusti wo khud ka dimaag nahi lagate hain fir inke hisab se zindagi bhar toxic marriage ke chakkr mein depression mein sadte raho, lekin khud ke liye stand mat lo jab tak ham as an individual in toxic cycles ko inn beliefs ko break nahi karenge tab Tak aane waale waali future generations bhi safar karti rahegi
To the girl in the toxic marriage for 10 years, please please don’t have a child with that man. He will never change and your child will suffer, why bring someone in this world with such a toxic father. It’s the biggest myth that having a child will fix him, it’ll never happen. You’re lucky that you don’t have a child with him at the moment (Allah knows best but He may have saved you). Have faith, leave him and your life will be beautiful InshaAllah. Women are extremely strong and resilient and you don’t even know how capable you are, you will get through this, just make the decision and have faith in yourself. Your life is too precious to waste like this. All the best!
Divorce or not? Yes. Divorce. All your fears are valid and natural. But things will not improve. You are still young. And smart. Get out of this relationship and build yourself. Be smart and don't fall for the wrong guy. Take your time. It's better to be alone and grow than to be with someone who is just grinding you down every single day. You basically are single. Single in a marriage.
get ready, ye tootiyaan baajay har kisi desi k hissay mein hotay hain, kisi k kam bajtay hain, kisi k zyada, aur kisi k phat phat k... pr bajtay zaroor hain... learn and live 🙃
This is a message from one girl to another: (Girl living in the UK) SIS LEAVE HIM AND DON’T LOOK BACK!!! He will not change and be grateful that you didn’t have any children with this guy otherwise you would’ve never been able to leave this toxic marriage. Trust me you don’t need a man to live a happy life. Honestly, get therapy and a support group, you’ve been through a lot. If you’re brave Allah will open so many doors for you InshAllah. Your family does not love you, otherwise they would never allow this shit. Your recovery was your second chance at life, don’t waste it! All the prayers and power to you❤️❤️❤️
Hey Junaid, you don’t have to spend too much time on editing and stuff of your q&a videos if it takes too much of your time because we only care about your answers. Even you sitting in front of a laptop camera being live or recording would also be great for us! just to save your time and you sharing more content.
UK Woman: Divorce the guy! You’re better off alone than your family. For everyone, I would advise the book “Educated” which has most of the same story.
Plz plz plz do a podcast on narcissistic parents. We have been told to tolerate antagonistic parents at all cost. How to maintain distance how to heal. I can totally relate with the lady from Uk.
Indian here, with all due respect recently l saw a post on insta wherein Pakistani girls have won a football match against Maldives and during post match press, a journalist asked why these girls are not covered as they follow Islam , l was seriously disturbed as instead of congratulating them on there achievement and boosting there confidence ,he is taunting them and most worst part whole comment section was supporting the journalist ,again I am not trolling my neighbour but this is something so disturbing Peace from India 🙏🙏
@@DoomSlayerTheGamer12. you can blame their religious views which supports their toxic mindset , it might hurt a lot of people here but it’s the truth , they see everything from the eyes of religion and they are crazy about it and I think it’s a mental issue for that whole country ( OCD of the highest order )
@@sidjain999 yes I agree n feel real blessed as a woman to be born on the other side of the border…though India has its own problems but we are progressing slowly but steadily… Payers fr women in Pakistan 🙏🙏
(About 2nd case) Junaid bhai is right you have to leave your toxic family asap. Please dont try to give another chance because “Insaan ko agar sudharna hota hai toh itna time nhi lagata sudharne may” + he isnt even touching you like you also have desires throw him out from your life forever. Take a new start get a job and live a happy life why your destroying your life for a men and family who doesn’t even care about you :’) And dont think about the future ke agla sahi milega ya nhi ye sab Allah par chorden usne future likha hai or better likha hai. Insaan dokha dete hain Allah nhi deta
To the woman from UK, why would you even want to have a child with such a low character man? Don’t you have any self respect? You have to be brave if you want to change your story. Only you decide what your life story is going to be. You’re being selfish for staying with him for kids. I chose to leave my abusive marriage after 1 yr of abusive behavior I faced. I knew it will be challenging but I built my life again. And I don’t regret my decision. That man from UK will NEVER change. The woman is scared to face the consequences of choosing her life. It’s her choice: an abusive life, complete waste OR a courageous leap of faith in herself that she will manage to stand on her own feet eventually.
The 1st girl's case reminded me of the time i went to and from University via public transport & on either side the walk time was 5 minutes but walking slow or peacefully was never an option. Even on crowded bus stop there were people but some random guy in a car or bike would stop n just stare or make suggestive gestures for me to sit with them... I had uncles saying Masha Allah when i passed... N all this when i wore hijab n a burqa wore no makeup even i didn't wanna wear kajal lest someone said Masha Allah... Once on the way back in my home's street it was deserted n afternoon a guy on a bike came n touched my back n i froze thinking i got hit by a bike but it was his hand when i could move i threw a stone at him but he was gone... my father came from his office everyday for 2 weeks just to walk me from bus stop to home because i was soo disturbed... There's countless more things everybody sees u like u are just meat.... Not that there aren't good people who knew me n would walk me till i got on bus but majority is a**holes... If i was a weak person i would've decided to leave studies n just lock myself in my house...
Being a dr,hosp say bahar nikaltay waqt kisi rakshay walay ko roka tha menay Aur peechay bike pr aik uncle nay koi vulgar comment mara tha n I remember that rakshay wala picked me up n I sat hurriedly Aur Wo young tha pr usnay koi Jawab bhi dia is budhay ko…even age doesn’t matter tharki tharki hi hota hai
@@dlosha Sad that you went through such incidents. Know that this is not your fault in any way shape or form. I say this because a few women I spoke to wondered if they could have done anything to change the course of incident. Thank you for speaking out . Much respect to you
Yup there are good people... There would be few riksha uncles or young men even who wouldn't argue abt the fare n be like beti bethjao de dena jo theek lgy...
27:57 my grandma died of cancer in village because of abuse of my grandfather and in laws. I was told she was beautiful but my grandpa assaulted her because her in laws told she might has affair before marriage. Even after 60 years, I can't believe we are still in same toxic society. And yeah desi families in US UK never grew up who moved in 1970s.
For 12:24: Just leave the guy without any second thought,start a new life ,contact social services ,get yourself a job and give life a new start,Don't be afraid of "clock ticking thing" you can have babies even in your 40's.You've suffered more than half of your life ,don't make yourself suffer anymore.Your family doesn't care about your well being ,so it should never be your concern what happens to anyone of them.Don't waste your life like that.
Hahahaha. No. Womans value dramatically decreases as she gets past 35. Cant bear children. Most woman cant past 40. Keep giving women false hopes. Yea keep doing what you think is best and keep doing your “career” and live independently. When time comes and you are in your 40’s and living and dying alone with cats
@@smsr101 that's OK dying alone or living alone is still better than living together n feel alone, being abused n fight with cancer like disease all by urself. Woman have a biological call I agree but in her situation not having kids is a blessing in disguise.
@@smsr101 You seem like a very well educated, considerate and kind person. Thank you for your comment. We all needed your opinion about a woman's "value". Next time please draw a graph on how a woman's value increases and decreases using different factors. It'll be helpful for all of us. If you can take time from your busy schedule, please let us know how career, independence and cats destroy a woman's mindset. Thanks.
6:15 if you aren't happy being alone; then you're never going to be happy. Your happiness is in your hands and you should never be dependent on others. 25:01 you can never take the Pakistan out of the person but you can take the person out of Pakistan. 44:21 no matter what anyone says you've got to be strong and never give up. 1:02:05 not everyone you meet is going to be your friend and not everyone you hangout with is your friend.
The worst thing one can do is have baby with a toxic man..I am not kidding abhi one life is suffering after a baby their lives will be ruined too leave this man !!
For Sister in 12:26 Just leave him and ran away with all your things like degrees and passport. find your life in other city. Find your soul mate in other city. In case you have kids,they will suffer the same their entire life. Just move out from the toxic situation. Find job and be independent. Enjoy your rest of life.
I am 5th in my family of 6 sister and one youngest brother .at the age of 37 I still remember the thapar from my father not giving a toy to my brother becoz he was the aqlota son ..but I have 2 kids a son and a daughter and after listing to a banyan of molana tariq jameel I give everything first to my daughter then to my son it's a Sunnat way ..everyone has to made changes on their behalf
To that lady who is in unsatisfied marriage in UK,one of my relative got out of this kind of marriage with one kid in canada and she got married after 5 years at the age of 48 and that person is a gem.Don’t loose hope,Allah is watching and will reward you for your sabar and loyalty you have for this person but divorce is an option given in islam as Allah also don’t gave us any order to suffer in silence especially in marriage.May Allah bless you with lots of happiness in future Ameen.
Great answer to the Guy whose question was about unsatisfied life etc. because there are many people out their both men and women and they should definitely get a reality check great answer to this question 👍
sir we dont need ultra hd video or different camera angles or good light or top notch production or videography, we just need basic voice quality and you in the video and bit more consistency. hope you take a note of that.
I don't know 1 ajeeb si attachment h is series se I curiously wait when the new episode will come? Sir I have left my favorite show behind for waching this episode. Love what you are doing for us❤
Yes there is research going on in various institutions , but many renowned doctors agree that chronic stress and very negative attitude do lead to auto immune diseases and cancer
47:28 Referring to this story, a tad bit of a harsh remark from JA. Here's a guy sharing his deepest thoughts and we continue with the theme of dude bashing. He was honest enough to state that his wife is great when it comes to all other matters. Indirectly he is highlighting his lack of satisfaction/pleasure and asks for ways to overcome it and you go on a bit of a rant of being stuck in the dopamine/porn box and mentioning that there is no way out. @Ask Ganjiswag you're a great individual and I am a fan but you're alienating a proportion of your listener base in keeping with a particular theme. You are no doubt more eloquent and wise than I, but I would highly recommend counselling, therapy, etc. for the individual in question. Much respect and all the best moving forward.
Literally one of the best in this space. He is very clear in his point of view with solid reasoning. Keep it up Junaid bhai you are the best hand down🙌❤
Junaid Bhai thank you so much for the podcast got to learn a lot today 😀😀😀😀😀 and I also love reading books as you do Junaid so I am recommending some fantastic books down here for you and for your followers 1. the secret of family happiness 2. Questions young people ask answers that work 3. The psychology of money hope your followers can benefit from these books specially for your south Indian followers
This is for the UK lady stuck in an unsuccessful marriage. I understand your predicament. It's time to get tough. Here's what you need to think about - You'll already mentally decided to do something about your situation, it's just the next steps that are unclear. This is what will happen - The first few months will be hell. Your family will not support you, your husband will feel shame and embaressment which will lead to anger and the rest of your cousins will stop speaking to you. Prepare for a very hard time. - Focus on what you need to do. There will be organisations that can help you, reach out to them as you can. You'll get council housing, you'll get benefits, but life will be very frugal to begin with. - Prepare to leave at a moment's notice. Keep your passport, keep your birth certificate, NI number etc. Any HMRC and benefits documents. Put them somewhere safe. - You'll have to start working somewhere. It may not be what you like, but it could just be short term, depending on how you structure your future life. In 6-12 months, the family will accept what has happened and will move on (anger, denial, acceptance). You're 35. You have a long life ahead of you. It can be suffocating and unhappy. Or free and on your terms. The choice is yours, no one else can make this decision for you. Good luck sis
The one in UK not having kids is a blessing in ur situation sorry to say. U r cancer survivor in UK stay here dont go back to pak leave the abusive relationship ship and rebuild ur life you are not even 40 yet. If it helps I rebuild mine at 30. Now have a house, car bought by my own money n hard work ofcouse. In my case I couldn't deal with abusive inlaws best decision ever to leave pak. The guy complaing abt wife weight hello brother at time of marriage u only saw PR for US sorry to say n now if she is good in all other ways may be help her to lose weight that too if she wants don't ruin your life becoz of these fantasies.
I usually go to gloria jeans in dolmen mall karachi to unwind from office. Peaceful, serene and i highly recommend it for all you karachiites out there, meine toh apne office walon ko bhi recommend kiya tha par unka jawab toh you can guess "oiiii dolmin mowl mein akele akele bachi tara hai"
@@rahmaizu abusive relationships hon tu depression, anxiety, tension yeh chezen common hain. Jab mere cancerous tumour ko check kia tu os main is tarha k chemicals thay jesay buhat darna, tension,jesay kahin lock kar k rakha hu buhat time tak
A person living in Lahore, Karachi or Islamabad is more moderate and tolerant than a Pakistani living in Middle east, Spain, Italy and UK.(This is my personal experience).
To the 2nd last question re keeping in touch with people, I would suggest that you keep good ties with everyone, occasionally messaging them at Eid or events, or having some sort of connection is healthy. It is a small world and you're doing amazing in professional life.. from experience, you'll cross paths with them sometime later in life, or you'll be able to connect with them for something in future. Keep focuseed but keep in touch, in a healthy way and on your terms
Yeah it's true. When you are too much stressed you are diagnosed with such health problems having no reasons. I had love marriage still abused by my spouse and left by my family because of love marriage, feeling so helpless and lonely at this point of my life.
Czn Say Jealous Agar Hoti Hain Tu Daily Us Czn K Liye Dua Karna Start Kardain Uski Dunya o Akhirat Ki Bhalai Ki Dua InshaAllah Allah Apkay Dill Say Hasad Jalan nikal K Muhabat Dal Day Ga
As a person raised in the US I always struggle with lack of freedom and independence when I go to visit back home. Relatives will tell me to always be with someone when going out...it gets suffocating! On the other hand I managed to go out to the malls in Islamabad alone but still felt I had to be on alert and avoid the weirdos. It sucks! Here I can easily get up at 11 pm and run out for an errand without worrying much (general precautions of course). We need change that starts with our parents teaching and expecting better standards from their kids. Eventually we can get better as a nation Inshallah
I am Watching him from previous Year May 2023 A.D. I have Watched his 1st Video of "Title: No Jobs". Then I started Watching All of his videos New + previous. I got really Amazed and Educated. And Realized the Reality. Because, Before May 2023, The Raja Zia and Youth Club had criticized Junaid Akram that he is not good, or he is not Considering Islam in his Opinions or expressions and I ignored him. But Now, Alhamdulillah! I Educated by him more than Cult Society.
To add more to the second question, one beautiful thing I've learned living abroad is that you don't owe your parents, they choose to have you, however, this doesn't mean that you leave them on their own and you do everything you can possible, but if Parents are expecting that you'll destroy your life for them, then they are totally wrong as again they choose to have you and not the other way around. So Parents are ethically and morally bound to take care of their children but not the other way around.
Junaid bhai aapne ruladia aj basic rights k baray me baat kr k. Abhi aisi hi me kaam krhi thi tu socha apka podcast lagalun... pata chala k chalo koi tu hai baat krne k liye k aurtein khulla aram se road pr freely chal sakain.. I currently live in Dallas. But me karachi me paida hui or brought up hui... Such a great person you are... Allah bless you most😊
About the girl from UK, I'm so sorry to hear that All I can say is that I have a 1 year old son and I vow to raise him a right man High time we raise right men who are extremely respectful and empathetic towards women especially their wives!!!
Join families are supposed to help each other out but in most of them in this modern society, they are just like a in a marshal law state where the eldest narrow-minded psychopath person controls the every thing. Alhamdulilah In our Khandaan, every Head of a family (like the fathers) has the primary control and every family mind their own business. Yes they do control situations like these but in a totally opposite manner. In the case of the lady above who's living abroad (in the 2nd Question), Same happened in our family where a cousin of mine was mistreating his wife and having an affair. She complained to the elders of the family (even it was an out-of-family marriage), The father of the boy and His brothers (Chachus of the boy) forced him to either be gentle or they will punish him either by throwing him out of the home or will ground him forever. Even other family members started to the take side of the girl and in the end the husband left those bad habits. There are many scenarios happened like that in our family and our elders tends to resolves the issue instead of controlling everything. Most of the people says that small families are better but let's suppose, You're living with Your husband and kids and Your husband starts to adopt bad habits, How'll You control it. It's the elders of Yours who can keep him on track. Family systems is blessing but only if managed and executed properly...
UK woman, be grateful that you don't have kids with that toxic man... you can be free. but if your family isn't willing to support, don't give a thought to them,you get to live peaceful life with or without them.
Regarding Question # 4 . Your answer is remarkable. We are so greed, we are blind when we need green passport but when it arrives we start finding such useless things. Hats of to your courage answer. 👏
To the lady from UK" please leave this narcissistic man and move on. Not having a child with this man is a sign that he does not deserve one. Please save yourself, seek help from social services."
Dude, you're Super. Only thing I find bit overdose is invoking religion. I remember seeing you in a Stand Up comedy skit in front of Shoaib Akhtar and Sunil Gavaskar. It's amazing how you are able to prepare content for diverse tastes and different genres.
Yes as a doctor I can confirm there is a lot of science behind living in a state constant depression and emotional abuse is associated with high stress hormones levels, cortisol spikes, and consistently decreased immunity. I also want to add, nowadays, most working Muslim women in USA don’t get a chance to get married until they reach the age of 35-40, because they start looking quite late due to their academically challenging and demanding careers. So many Muslim women are dealing with the “clock is ticking issue.” These days it’s more common to have children in late 30s and early 40s for most muslim women in foreign countries. This should give her hope and shouldn’t be the reason to remain in a dead end toxic marriage. Sister, do better be an inspiration for others and you future children. Even your future children do not deserve to live in such an environment with a toxic father. Give them better.
A family in uk wanted a good Pakistani girl for their son . They found a girl in lyari Karachi and got their son married. The couple lived in uk peacefuly for 15 days. Now the girl had a boyfriend in Pakistan who somehow got to uk. The girl packed her suitcase and left, went to the police and falsely accused her husband of hitting her and now she is living with her boyfriend in uk . Simply used this marriage to get to uk.
To that UK girl, the sooner you get out of this relationship, the better it is... leave him ASAP. You'll see the light/happiness once you leave him otherwise be prepared to be tortured for whole life.
I wellcome to sister in UAE from UK it's really hard and painful her life Life is beautiful if in case junaid bhai she want to move on I welcome her to my home as my own sister can staying in my home with my family
For Mental Health Crisis, the lady in question needs to get in touch with her GP. GP will most probably refer her to the Mental health services. If the GP feels things are really bad, the lady can be referred to the emergency services. A safeguarding concern can be referred. Adult social services can pick up the case and help facilitate the lady
I had my worst period of life between the age of 22 to 25 that was in a toxic marriage.... Now living my best period of life after divorce.... Who said it is a bad thing.... for me it was life,rescue and relief alhumdulillah......
Exactly sister but kuch extremists ke yeh baat dimaag mein nahi ghusti wo khud ka dimaag nahi lagate hain fir inke hisab se zindagi bhar toxic marriage ke chakkr mein depression mein sadte raho, lekin khud ke liye stand mat lo jab tak ham as an individual in toxic cycles ko inn beliefs ko break nahi karenge tab Tak aane waale waali future generations bhi safar karti rahegi
best rescure .....saved ur life...keep assertive
It's your humblness that you apologize, we provide you nothing while you provide us with this quality content ❤️
I actually envy people who are listening to ganjiswag at the age of 18-20.
You guys have bright and happy futures :)
I am 15
seriously
18 here!!!...I'm glad we have Junaid sir to do a way better "tarbiyat" then our society.
I am 20
22 here and been listening to him from age 19 and learned a lot from him which has changed the way I think on different spectrums of life.
To the girl in the toxic marriage for 10 years, please please don’t have a child with that man. He will never change and your child will suffer, why bring someone in this world with such a toxic father. It’s the biggest myth that having a child will fix him, it’ll never happen. You’re lucky that you don’t have a child with him at the moment (Allah knows best but He may have saved you). Have faith, leave him and your life will be beautiful InshaAllah. Women are extremely strong and resilient and you don’t even know how capable you are, you will get through this, just make the decision and have faith in yourself. Your life is too precious to waste like this. All the best!
Divorce or not?
Yes. Divorce. All your fears are valid and natural. But things will not improve. You are still young. And smart. Get out of this relationship and build yourself. Be smart and don't fall for the wrong guy. Take your time. It's better to be alone and grow than to be with someone who is just grinding you down every single day. You basically are single. Single in a marriage.
George soros says hi with a lot of good luck 👍
Totally agreed👍👍👍
shae bat h
listening to this podcast while i'm 21 years old and experiencing the toxic mindset of our people.
get ready, ye tootiyaan baajay har kisi desi k hissay mein hotay hain, kisi k kam bajtay hain, kisi k zyada, aur kisi k phat phat k... pr bajtay zaroor hain... learn and live 🙃
Bhai mein tou abhi 19 ka ho 😂
@@aliimam7374 laughs in 17
@@aliimam7374 16🌚
27 and I agree with @End of It bht zlaalat hoti hai kuch logo ki. Khair, zindagi aesay hee hai. Kisi jga theek kisi jga khrb.
Being reminded of how we Pakistanis cant even enjoy the most basic of basic pleasures in life makes me so melancholic. We are humans too, man.
Noo bro we are not our surrounding treat us like animals
So true
Is it really that bad? I think he is exaggerating. How is it possible that people can't even walk around?
This is a message from one girl to another: (Girl living in the UK)
SIS LEAVE HIM AND DON’T LOOK BACK!!! He will not change and be grateful that you didn’t have any children with this guy otherwise you would’ve never been able to leave this toxic marriage. Trust me you don’t need a man to live a happy life. Honestly, get therapy and a support group, you’ve been through a lot. If you’re brave Allah will open so many doors for you InshAllah. Your family does not love you, otherwise they would never allow this shit. Your recovery was your second chance at life, don’t waste it!
All the prayers and power to you❤️❤️❤️
Hey Junaid, you don’t have to spend too much time on editing and stuff of your q&a videos if it takes too much of your time because we only care about your answers. Even you sitting in front of a laptop camera being live or recording would also be great for us! just to save your time and you sharing more content.
Thats right!
Make Sense
Listening to you is free therapy. Please never stop ask ganjiswag 🔥🔥🔥
But he should take questions of us mazloom
Men too. Not all the situations men are tyrant
@@saleschemicals195 you are so right all his questions are men hatred and parents hatred
@@hkvlogs1051 that's the experiences of majority in this country. And he has always shared the struggles of boys and men of all ages.
@@arisharizwan2751 of course you are gonna side with him he takes women questions mostly
@@hkvlogs1051 aik podcast dekh kar sab decide na kiya karo bhai....🙏..he has answerd a lot of questions relating to men problems
UK Woman: Divorce the guy! You’re better off alone than your family.
For everyone, I would advise the book “Educated” which has most of the same story.
Litterally is banda ka lia dil se duaen nikalti ha
Is insan se jo kuch seekha maine is priceless
Stay happy
Plz plz plz do a podcast on narcissistic parents. We have been told to tolerate antagonistic parents at all cost. How to maintain distance how to heal.
I can totally relate with the lady from Uk.
Indian here, with all due respect recently l saw a post on insta wherein Pakistani girls have won a football match against Maldives and during post match press, a journalist asked why these girls are not covered as they follow Islam , l was seriously disturbed as instead of congratulating them on there achievement and boosting there confidence ,he is taunting them and most worst part whole comment section was supporting the journalist ,again I am not trolling my neighbour but this is something so disturbing
Peace from India 🙏🙏
thats islam for you,nikhat jareen faces same comments from Indian mullahs
that journalist should be fired
@@DoomSlayerTheGamer12. you can blame their religious views which supports their toxic mindset , it might hurt a lot of people here but it’s the truth , they see everything from the eyes of religion and they are crazy about it and I think it’s a mental issue for that whole country ( OCD of the highest order )
@@sidjain999 yes I agree n feel real blessed as a woman to be born on the other side of the border…though India has its own problems but we are progressing slowly but steadily…
Payers fr women in Pakistan 🙏🙏
I agree it was indeed very disturbing…sometimes I just fathom to understand the basic thought process behind such a regressive behavior..
(About 2nd case) Junaid bhai is right you have to leave your toxic family asap. Please dont try to give another chance because “Insaan ko agar sudharna hota hai toh itna time nhi lagata sudharne may” + he isnt even touching you like you also have desires throw him out from your life forever. Take a new start get a job and live a happy life why your destroying your life for a men and family who doesn’t even care about you :’) And dont think about the future ke agla sahi milega ya nhi ye sab Allah par chorden usne future likha hai or better likha hai. Insaan dokha dete hain Allah nhi deta
To the woman from UK, why would you even want to have a child with such a low character man? Don’t you have any self respect? You have to be brave if you want to change your story. Only you decide what your life story is going to be. You’re being selfish for staying with him for kids. I chose to leave my abusive marriage after 1 yr of abusive behavior I faced. I knew it will be challenging but I built my life again. And I don’t regret my decision. That man from UK will NEVER change. The woman is scared to face the consequences of choosing her life. It’s her choice: an abusive life, complete waste OR a courageous leap of faith in herself that she will manage to stand on her own feet eventually.
The 1st girl's case reminded me of the time i went to and from University via public transport & on either side the walk time was 5 minutes but walking slow or peacefully was never an option. Even on crowded bus stop there were people but some random guy in a car or bike would stop n just stare or make suggestive gestures for me to sit with them... I had uncles saying Masha Allah when i passed... N all this when i wore hijab n a burqa wore no makeup even i didn't wanna wear kajal lest someone said Masha Allah... Once on the way back in my home's street it was deserted n afternoon a guy on a bike came n touched my back n i froze thinking i got hit by a bike but it was his hand when i could move i threw a stone at him but he was gone... my father came from his office everyday for 2 weeks just to walk me from bus stop to home because i was soo disturbed... There's countless more things everybody sees u like u are just meat.... Not that there aren't good people who knew me n would walk me till i got on bus but majority is a**holes... If i was a weak person i would've decided to leave studies n just lock myself in my house...
Being a dr,hosp say bahar nikaltay waqt kisi rakshay walay ko roka tha menay Aur peechay bike pr aik uncle nay koi vulgar comment mara tha n I remember that rakshay wala picked me up n I sat hurriedly Aur Wo young tha pr usnay koi Jawab bhi dia is budhay ko…even age doesn’t matter tharki tharki hi hota hai
@@dlosha Sad that you went through such incidents. Know that this is not your fault in any way shape or form. I say this because a few women I spoke to wondered if they could have done anything to change the course of incident. Thank you for speaking out . Much respect to you
Yup there are good people... There would be few riksha uncles or young men even who wouldn't argue abt the fare n be like beti bethjao de dena jo theek lgy...
Allah ap ki hifazat kry
27:57 my grandma died of cancer in village because of abuse of my grandfather and in laws.
I was told she was beautiful but my grandpa assaulted her because her in laws told she might has affair before marriage.
Even after 60 years, I can't believe we are still in same toxic society.
And yeah desi families in US UK never grew up who moved in 1970s.
For 12:24: Just leave the guy without any second thought,start a new life ,contact social services ,get yourself a job and give life a new start,Don't be afraid of "clock ticking thing" you can have babies even in your 40's.You've suffered more than half of your life ,don't make yourself suffer anymore.Your family doesn't care about your well being ,so it should never be your concern what happens to anyone of them.Don't waste your life like that.
Hahahaha. No. Womans value dramatically decreases as she gets past 35. Cant bear children. Most woman cant past 40. Keep giving women false hopes. Yea keep doing what you think is best and keep doing your “career” and live independently. When time comes and you are in your 40’s and living and dying alone with cats
@@smsr101 dying alone with cats is better than dying in a toxic household
@@smsr101 that's OK dying alone or living alone is still better than living together n feel alone, being abused n fight with cancer like disease all by urself. Woman have a biological call I agree but in her situation not having kids is a blessing in disguise.
@@smsr101 What's fucking wrong with that?
@@smsr101 You seem like a very well educated, considerate and kind person. Thank you for your comment. We all needed your opinion about a woman's "value". Next time please draw a graph on how a woman's value increases and decreases using different factors. It'll be helpful for all of us. If you can take time from your busy schedule, please let us know how career, independence and cats destroy a woman's mindset. Thanks.
6:15 if you aren't happy being alone; then you're never going to be happy. Your happiness is in your hands and you should never be dependent on others.
25:01 you can never take the Pakistan out of the person but you can take the person out of Pakistan.
44:21 no matter what anyone says you've got to be strong and never give up.
1:02:05 not everyone you meet is going to be your friend and not everyone you hangout with is your friend.
1:15:23 Junaid bhai please upload videos in 4K even though 1080p looks realistic enough.
1:15:23 Junaid bhai please upload videos in 4K even though 1080p looks realistic enough.
The worst thing one can do is have baby with a toxic man..I am not kidding abhi one life is suffering after a baby their lives will be ruined too leave this man !!
This content should literally be paid. You are a gem 💎 man! Really appreciate these episodes Junaid bhai!
For Sister in 12:26
Just leave him and ran away with all your things like degrees and passport. find your life in other city. Find your soul mate in other city. In case you have kids,they will suffer the same their entire life. Just move out from the toxic situation. Find job and be independent. Enjoy your rest of life.
I am 5th in my family of 6 sister and one youngest brother .at the age of 37 I still remember the thapar from my father not giving a toy to my brother becoz he was the aqlota son ..but I have 2 kids a son and a daughter and after listing to a banyan of molana tariq jameel I give everything first to my daughter then to my son it's a Sunnat way ..everyone has to made changes on their behalf
"Distancing people in phases of life " ...i like this chapter ❤️👍👍(same here)
I have realized it is much needed to become your Patreon as to be your support for this show..
These podcasts by junaid bhai are literal life changers 👏👏
29:05
Yes! Sir. "Wealth n kids are to test you."
Quran
To that lady who is in unsatisfied marriage in UK,one of my relative got out of this kind of marriage with one kid in canada and she got married after 5 years at the age of 48 and that person is a gem.Don’t loose hope,Allah is watching and will reward you for your sabar and loyalty you have for this person but divorce is an option given in islam as Allah also don’t gave us any order to suffer in silence especially in marriage.May Allah bless you with lots of happiness in future Ameen.
It's better to get separated than become toxic for each other. Relations need space, harmony and love.
i make sure to like before even watching it that is how much we love ask ganjiswag pls junaid bhae never stop this channel
Great answer to the Guy whose question was about unsatisfied life etc. because there are many people out their both men and women and they should definitely get a reality check great answer to this question 👍
sir we dont need ultra hd video or different camera angles or good light or top notch production or videography, we just need basic voice quality and you in the video and bit more consistency. hope you take a note of that.
We want the thumbnail to be minimalistic like the ones before 💓💓
Bro nah
Yeah just need to remove this outer stroke from the text and make the text white.
True true 🙌 I miss it, simple and personal
Outer strokes looked cheesy especially with light parrot color
I don't know 1 ajeeb si attachment h is series se I curiously wait when the new episode will come? Sir I have left my favorite show behind for waching this episode. Love what you are doing for us❤
Yes there is research going on in various institutions , but many renowned doctors agree that chronic stress and very negative attitude do lead to auto immune diseases and cancer
47:28 Referring to this story, a tad bit of a harsh remark from JA. Here's a guy sharing his deepest thoughts and we continue with the theme of dude bashing. He was honest enough to state that his wife is great when it comes to all other matters. Indirectly he is highlighting his lack of satisfaction/pleasure and asks for ways to overcome it and you go on a bit of a rant of being stuck in the dopamine/porn box and mentioning that there is no way out. @Ask Ganjiswag you're a great individual and I am a fan but you're alienating a proportion of your listener base in keeping with a particular theme. You are no doubt more eloquent and wise than I, but I would highly recommend counselling, therapy, etc. for the individual in question. Much respect and all the best moving forward.
I am shocked as always seeing views of this podcast itnyy kam views wo bhi itnii useful discussion py... Thanks Junaid.
Literally one of the best in this space. He is very clear in his point of view with solid reasoning. Keep it up Junaid bhai you are the best hand down🙌❤
I would like to marry her if she makes her decision to leave that monster. Age doesn't matter at all. She deserves respect and love.
And you deserve a UK Passport? 😂😂😂
@@alizawasimkhan1324 hahaha
You are a Light in a lot of Dark Ganji. Your Tind Shines. JazakAllah for everything
Loved the way you share your story considering us your family... Honored
Junaid Bhai thank you so much for the podcast got to learn a lot today 😀😀😀😀😀
and I also love reading books as you do Junaid so I am recommending some fantastic books down here for you and for your followers
1. the secret of family happiness
2. Questions young people ask answers that work
3. The psychology of money
hope your followers can benefit from these books specially for your south Indian
followers
This is for the UK lady stuck in an unsuccessful marriage. I understand your predicament. It's time to get tough. Here's what you need to think about - You'll already mentally decided to do something about your situation, it's just the next steps that are unclear. This is what will happen
- The first few months will be hell. Your family will not support you, your husband will feel shame and embaressment which will lead to anger and the rest of your cousins will stop speaking to you. Prepare for a very hard time.
- Focus on what you need to do. There will be organisations that can help you, reach out to them as you can. You'll get council housing, you'll get benefits, but life will be very frugal to begin with.
- Prepare to leave at a moment's notice. Keep your passport, keep your birth certificate, NI number etc. Any HMRC and benefits documents. Put them somewhere safe.
- You'll have to start working somewhere. It may not be what you like, but it could just be short term, depending on how you structure your future life.
In 6-12 months, the family will accept what has happened and will move on (anger, denial, acceptance).
You're 35. You have a long life ahead of you. It can be suffocating and unhappy. Or free and on your terms. The choice is yours, no one else can make this decision for you.
Good luck sis
4th question 😂- achii khaasi class le li👍👏👏😂😂
It is not hate for their children. It is live for themselves and their image in the eyes of strangers which they chose over their children.
The one in UK not having kids is a blessing in ur situation sorry to say. U r cancer survivor in UK stay here dont go back to pak leave the abusive relationship ship and rebuild ur life you are not even 40 yet. If it helps I rebuild mine at 30. Now have a house, car bought by my own money n hard work ofcouse. In my case I couldn't deal with abusive inlaws best decision ever to leave pak. The guy complaing abt wife weight hello brother at time of marriage u only saw PR for US sorry to say n now if she is good in all other ways may be help her to lose weight that too if she wants don't ruin your life becoz of these fantasies.
Turning to 18 this year insha'Allah and so happy to find this man so before 18 ❤️ Alhamdullilah
I usually go to gloria jeans in dolmen mall karachi to unwind from office. Peaceful, serene and i highly recommend it for all you karachiites out there, meine toh apne office walon ko bhi recommend kiya tha par unka jawab toh you can guess "oiiii dolmin mowl mein akele akele bachi tara hai"
The best quality of podcast so far!!😮
1:01:35 very true, very good answer to the question
Main abusive marriage main rahi 10 years or isi wajah se cancer hua and i am a cancer survivor ALHUMDOLILAH
Cancer kaise hogya? Are you serious?
@@rahmaizu abusive relationships hon tu depression, anxiety, tension yeh chezen common hain.
Jab mere cancerous tumour ko check kia tu os main is tarha k chemicals thay jesay buhat darna, tension,jesay kahin lock kar k rakha hu buhat time tak
power packed podcast every bloody single word bullet proof .
1:12:37 Once a wise man said "Kon Yahood aur kon Nasaara, Ye saara qasoor hai humara".
For the 4rth question 👏👏👏
Awesome reply 😂
I love love love love your Ask Gangiswag podcasts.
A person living in Lahore, Karachi or Islamabad is more moderate and tolerant than a Pakistani living in Middle east, Spain, Italy and UK.(This is my personal experience).
To the 2nd last question re keeping in touch with people, I would suggest that you keep good ties with everyone, occasionally messaging them at Eid or events, or having some sort of connection is healthy. It is a small world and you're doing amazing in professional life.. from experience, you'll cross paths with them sometime later in life, or you'll be able to connect with them for something in future. Keep focuseed but keep in touch, in a healthy way and on your terms
U r blessing for Pakistan.
Hope more & more listen to you. Hope u don’t change.
Listening to you soothes the brain and we also learn so much!
Yeah it's true. When you are too much stressed you are diagnosed with such health problems having no reasons. I had love marriage still abused by my spouse and left by my family because of love marriage, feeling so helpless and lonely at this point of my life.
51:43 ... Pyar to ho jaeega P.R pakar lo! Lolz I watch ask Ganjiswag for these jokes!!
Czn Say Jealous Agar Hoti Hain Tu Daily Us Czn K Liye Dua Karna Start Kardain Uski Dunya o Akhirat Ki Bhalai Ki Dua InshaAllah Allah Apkay Dill Say Hasad Jalan nikal K Muhabat Dal Day Ga
Loved it how junaid bhai ne achi dhulai ki woh US walay banday ki jisko fit fat bandi chhaye very satisfying response
You really change our mindset i really really get to learn from you
1: he will never never never change. Leave him🤬 .
Once B.R.Ambedkar said, I measure the progress of a community by the degree of progress which women have achieved.
As a person raised in the US I always struggle with lack of freedom and independence when I go to visit back home. Relatives will tell me to always be with someone when going out...it gets suffocating! On the other hand I managed to go out to the malls in Islamabad alone but still felt I had to be on alert and avoid the weirdos. It sucks! Here I can easily get up at 11 pm and run out for an errand without worrying much (general precautions of course). We need change that starts with our parents teaching and expecting better standards from their kids. Eventually we can get better as a nation Inshallah
junaid bhai apse ek bhi conflict nhi, mtlb ek bhi bat aysi ni lgti jis k liye alag POV hi mera, you are the best!!
I am Watching him from previous Year May 2023 A.D. I have Watched his 1st Video of "Title: No Jobs". Then I started Watching All of his videos New + previous.
I got really Amazed and Educated. And Realized the Reality. Because, Before May 2023, The Raja Zia and Youth Club had criticized Junaid Akram that he is not good, or he is not Considering Islam in his Opinions or expressions and I ignored him. But Now, Alhamdulillah! I Educated by him more than Cult Society.
To add more to the second question, one beautiful thing I've learned living abroad is that you don't owe your parents, they choose to have you, however, this doesn't mean that you leave them on their own and you do everything you can possible, but if Parents are expecting that you'll destroy your life for them, then they are totally wrong as again they choose to have you and not the other way around. So Parents are ethically and morally bound to take care of their children but not the other way around.
Junaid bhai aapne ruladia aj basic rights k baray me baat kr k. Abhi aisi hi me kaam krhi thi tu socha apka podcast lagalun... pata chala k chalo koi tu hai baat krne k liye k aurtein khulla aram se road pr freely chal sakain..
I currently live in Dallas. But me karachi me paida hui or brought up hui...
Such a great person you are... Allah bless you most😊
About the girl from UK, I'm so sorry to hear that
All I can say is that I have a 1 year old son and I vow to raise him a right man
High time we raise right men who are extremely respectful and empathetic towards women especially their wives!!!
Join families are supposed to help each other out but in most of them in this modern society, they are just like a in a marshal law state where the eldest narrow-minded psychopath person controls the every thing.
Alhamdulilah In our Khandaan, every Head of a family (like the fathers) has the primary control and every family mind their own business. Yes they do control situations like these but in a totally opposite manner. In the case of the lady above who's living abroad (in the 2nd Question), Same happened in our family where a cousin of mine was mistreating his wife and having an affair. She complained to the elders of the family (even it was an out-of-family marriage), The father of the boy and His brothers (Chachus of the boy) forced him to either be gentle or they will punish him either by throwing him out of the home or will ground him forever. Even other family members started to the take side of the girl and in the end the husband left those bad habits.
There are many scenarios happened like that in our family and our elders tends to resolves the issue instead of controlling everything.
Most of the people says that small families are better but let's suppose, You're living with Your husband and kids and Your husband starts to adopt bad habits, How'll You control it. It's the elders of Yours who can keep him on track. Family systems is blessing but only if managed and executed properly...
Haan bhai kya haal bhaiya
Is a good starting line
Unique n unusual
51:25 ganji swag na bhai ki leli 😂😂😂😂
42:04
Chris rock said this in a stand up comedy
"Only women and children are loved unconditionally. Men are only loved when they provide"
UK woman, be grateful that you don't have kids with that toxic man... you can be free. but if your family isn't willing to support, don't give a thought to them,you get to live peaceful life with or without them.
learning a lot from you. thanks for bringing these topics
Regarding Question # 4 .
Your answer is remarkable. We are so greed, we are blind when we need green passport but when it arrives we start finding such useless things. Hats of to your courage answer. 👏
I really like ur program and ur advise. U give honest advise❤
To the lady from UK" please leave this narcissistic man and move on. Not having a child with this man is a sign that he does not deserve one. Please save yourself, seek help from social services."
At 30:40 You said I Completely Agree 💯
Dude, you're Super.
Only thing I find bit overdose is invoking religion.
I remember seeing you in a Stand Up comedy skit in front of Shoaib Akhtar and Sunil Gavaskar. It's amazing how you are able to prepare content for diverse tastes and different genres.
Yes as a doctor I can confirm there is a lot of science behind living in a state constant depression and emotional abuse is associated with high stress hormones levels, cortisol spikes, and consistently decreased immunity.
I also want to add, nowadays, most working Muslim women in USA don’t get a chance to get married until they reach the age of 35-40, because they start looking quite late due to their academically challenging and demanding careers.
So many Muslim women are dealing with the “clock is ticking issue.” These days it’s more common to have children in late 30s and early 40s for most muslim women in foreign countries. This should give her hope and shouldn’t be the reason to remain in a dead end toxic marriage. Sister, do better be an inspiration for others and you future children. Even your future children do not deserve to live in such an environment with a toxic father. Give them better.
Hum 6 sisters or1 bother hhain..ma gar hamary baba world k best best best father hain ..
The ganjiswag plushie in the bg looks really nice😂
Good habits of life keeps us energetics
Junaid bhai Uk wali larki se pocho is she got divorced?? If shes agree to marry a guy working in malaysia 😊?
Or she want i travel to UK ??
A family in uk wanted a good Pakistani girl for their son . They found a girl in lyari Karachi and got their son married. The couple lived in uk peacefuly for 15 days. Now the girl had a boyfriend in Pakistan who somehow got to uk. The girl packed her suitcase and left, went to the police and falsely accused her husband of hitting her and now she is living with her boyfriend in uk . Simply used this marriage to get to uk.
Video quality is awesome ✨
To be financially strong
To that UK girl, the sooner you get out of this relationship, the better it is... leave him ASAP. You'll see the light/happiness once you leave him otherwise be prepared to be tortured for whole life.
56:58 😂 some stories added Junaid Bhai just for (own) entertainment (but I'm 100 percent agree with you 👍)
Haye loved it PR pyaaaarrrrr 😂😂😂
Junaid bhai please recommend actually good therapists in karachi.
Not every joint family is toxic ...some ppl r v understanding and giv space
I wellcome to sister in UAE from UK it's really hard and painful her life Life is beautiful if in case junaid bhai she want to move on I welcome her to my home as my own sister can staying in my home with my family
21:30 don't give a next chance he won't change jo aik dafa kar sakta hai ye chez wo dubara bhe kr sakta hai
For Mental Health Crisis, the lady in question needs to get in touch with her GP. GP will most probably refer her to the Mental health services.
If the GP feels things are really bad, the lady can be referred to the emergency services. A safeguarding concern can be referred. Adult social services can pick up the case and help facilitate the lady