EXCLUSIVE: Parents of Louisville bank shooter speak out in TODAY exclusive
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- Опубліковано 20 вер 2024
- Todd and Lisa Sturgeon, the parents of the gunman in the mass shooting at a Louisville bank, sit down with TODAY’s Savannah Guthrie and share their message to victims. “We are so sorry, we wish we could undo it but we know we can't."
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“We were not exceptional." Whew, this is every parent’s worst nightmare. I can’t imagine the grief and confusion they are going through. Heartbreaking.
That part got me too 😢
The fact that mom jumped hoops to get an appt immediately was imo definitely exceptional.
@@christycancan ❤️❤️
That absolutely destroyed me. I can't imagine the heartbreak they're feeling.
Also… I just got to say, that their son was an adult. They are free of culpability!! He acted alone. A parent can raise their children in exceptional ways and the outcome is never guaranteed!May God have mercy on us all! ❤
To go from praying for a son’s life, to praying that he only commits suicide and not hurt others, is unimaginable as a Parent. What burden of guilt these parents have to carry for the rest of their lives. Prayers up for them and the families of the victims. May God bring healing to America!
@@markbouldin6513What exactly do you think the "truth" is then? This should be good.
Nothing less than heartbreaking. To wish for that as the preferred outcome....
@@markbouldin6513 excuse me? What, you know him or something? He coached university and HS basketball, encouraged his students to be the best they can be, and is a very respectable man. A simple Google search tells you everything you need to know
Amen
@@markbouldin6513 whats his spiel homeboy??
I commend these parents for coming forward, and not making excuses for what their son did. They are truly devastated for the families of the victims. Can you imagine how heartbroken these two people are? My heart goes out to them as well. 😢
So hard to love your child but hate their actions
I love how you say the same thing but you’re a woman and get 60 likes.
@Breeki Gopnik It doesn't make sense, does it? My son says that women back up one another no matter what. I feel the same way. Have a wonderful day!
They are victims too. Imagine raising your child with love and they turn out to be the worst dissappointment in life
They are good parents compared to the Laundry family with their son who murdered Gabby Petito.
when the father said "you hope (your son) will commit suicide and not hurt anyone" is one of the most heartbreaking things i've ever heard. i commend these parents for sharing their story and hope they eventually can grieve the son they once had.
FalseFlag!
@@fALSE.fLAGGOT if you actually believe that, you are a rube of the highest order.
@@fALSE.fLAGGOT Where’s your proof this was a false flag?
I’m so sad for them. I can’t imagine if my child did something so horrific 😢
Wow 😯 all of the nice comments
I feel for these parents. The fact that they're speaking out is very commendable. Prayers for all of the victims
I cried through the whole interview, they did the best they could and helped him get help it's crazy this happened
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God bless you both..it's not your fault..
What good people these two are. They have extraordinary perspective with this situation and how genuine they come across as they say how sorry they are and that they prayed that he shoot himself so nobody else was hurt. To have that perspective in that time of chaos and tragedy is so impressive and just shows what good mentally healthy people they are! Its like you want to feel sorry for them, but then you feel like you’re not being fair to the victims family so you are stuck in this ping pong of feelings and emotions.
But also I mean Kuddos to Mom for pushing for an apt sooner, saying her son needs help before something bad happens not that in a million yrs she thought what happened was going to happen but just knowing her son needed help! And right now not next week but today! And that is hard for any parent
@@Capone4385 💯
Pretty remarkable to see such brutal honesty and emotional transparency in the wake of this tragedy.
For sure! Imagine the shame, guilt and horror! I recommend Sue Klebold's book. She's the mother of Dylan Klebold, one of the shooters in the Columbine school tragedy in 1999.
These parents are so courageous while living in this nightmare. They were active and tried to help their child and I do believe that they were blindsided by this. My heart hurts for them and everyone who has suffered a loss.
I lost a daughter to suicide and I just want to hug these two broken-hearted parents. 💝
Sorry for your loss. I can't imagine losing one of my kids. Any signs I should look for my daughter's 16 and son is 11? I don't believe either is suicidal but I'm sure you never thought it'd come to that either. Again so sorry for your loss.
So sorry for the loss of your daughter ❤
I am sincerely sorry for your loss and I want to hug you. I cannot imagine the pain and sadness you endure. But, always know, and believe, that there are many good people in the world who care about you. Never hesitate to reach out.
We are here for you.
@@DoubleDsDeliveries
Yes, talk to them, ask questions, be open, honest and available to them 24/7/366. Be curious about what their interests and motivations are… things have changed dramatically (social media influence) since we grew up.
@@DoubleDsDeliveries Thank you for the kind words. TIHS ON said it well. Open constant communication. Be a parent and be their BEST friend!
These parents did everything they could to help their child. She made the 911 call too, trying to prevent this. What a tragedy.
Automatic weapons are for military only. Why can't certain groups understand that? Keep you rifles and handguns...the bull doesn't work anymore.
It is so sad. I’m wondering why no one mentioned in this interview that he was about to be fired. That’s the critical part of this tragedy, and, we can guess, the motive of his fatal decision.
@@noble604 Because the manager of the bank said that she knew nothing about him being fired. He wasn't going to be fired.
Valerie - That’s odd since it was in most news stories that the gunman “knew he was going to be fired” and that’s why he went there to do that. It was said that he also included that in his notes that he was going there to “shooot.”
He might have thought he was going to be or he did something that he feared might be reason for his firing. Even if he wasn’t going to be and it was false information, I would think that would have been included in the interview to clear up the reason or motive. Nothing at all was said.
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Please Dad do not blame yourself! You cannot say you should have been exceptional. From what I hear in this video, you far exceed the average parents in your relationship with your son. The mother nailed it, “We had no idea. Even in the crisis, we thought we had it handled.” Connor called her, she took him to the psychiatrist, what else could they have done? YOU *ARE* EXCEPTIONAL!
TOOK COURAGE FOR THESE MORONS WHO RAISED THAT MONSTER , FATHER SHOULD BE CHARGED FOR NOT PULLING OUT
But we blame the uvalde shooters parents
@@Usernameblahblahnblah it's sooo easy to blame the parents and sometimes they are to blame but not in every case . These kids have personal lives no matter how intrusive or nosey we are have no idea about...
@@dominiquejenkins5495 Preach...now u see he did not tell them about his $600 gun purchase...
That’s not logical blaming the parents that guy was adult who made his own choices mental issue wasn’t fault of his parents
These parents are the epitome of grace and class. Godspeed.
Absolutely amazing couple.
It shows even the best of us can face enormous difficulties. And those parents who had the strength and compassion to reach out to them..there are no words. God Bless
I am so proud of this couple. I live five minutes from this mass shooting. It was so phenomenal but our city is plagued with shootings on a daily basis. We are fighting to end all acts of gun violence and better access to mental health in KY. This has to end and this couple believes in healing our city one day at a time.
AMEN
These are 2 BEYOND exceptional parents and people. To have their perspective and explain their own heartbreak….while acknowledging full accountability of their son’s horrific actions. God Bless Them; they did everything they possibly could have 💔
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Exceptional like Jeffrey dharma mamma and pop. Or exceptional like the mother who 6 year old shot the teacher, which one? They are sorry, but not exceptional. They raised another mass murderer and behaving like babies when this occurs for a certain picture in media will not change who is next. Other people should start being honest, news and media complain about a certain monster, when many are lurking right around Your Own backyard.
*****Mass shootings in the U.S. by shooter’s by race/ethnicity as of April 2023
Published by Statista Research Department, Jun 2, 2023
Between 1982 and April 2023, 74 out of the 142 mass shootings in the United States were carried out by WHITE shooters. By comparison, the perpetrator was African American in 25 mass shootings, and Latino in 11. When calculated as percentages, this amounts to 52 percent, 17 percent, and seven percent respectively.
My heart goes out to them, but they seem like nice people and did an exceptional *interview*.
All these comments "they're exceptional parents"... did we watch the same interview? They said they weren't. There's something exceptional about acknowledging that... but even if they were exceptional parents you can't tell that from one heartbreaking interview.
They raised a son who killed 5 people (and placed one cop in critical condition, probably who will never be the same after being shot in the head) and people want to overpraise the killer's parents? That's what comes to people's minds? There's something a little icky about that, to be honest.
These parents are a prime example that there are times where parents should not be automatically blamed for the criminal acts of their children. Two decent parents who tried everything to seek help. Some people cannot be helped. You can be the best parent, teach your child about respect, and your child still makes the wrong decision. I hope these two parents remain strong and find some kind of peace. Their emotions are so raw and understandably heartbreaking.
Right, the parents are not always to blame. I feel for the victims but I also feel for them.❤
More and more I think every situation should be taken individually. We have gotten so used to making snap judgements these days. But the truth is that everything is nuanced and nothing is black and white. I really feel for these parents.
How do you know how decent they are. Just because they can put on an act for 10 minutes does not mean anything
@@JimStanfield-zo2pz How do you know they’re putting on an act?
So I guess these puff pieces really do work.🙄
Poor parents having to apologize for their kids’ idiotic decisions. These are good people right here.
It wasn’t idiotic, it was psychotic. There is a big difference. This was extremely hard to watch. The dad saying he failed his son hit home for me. I’m literally in tears. Trying to help your mentally ill family member only for it to end in death is just too much.
Lol if the society let people with issues buy guns this easy...it is society mistake as well.
This goes beyond idiotic. Clearly, he was very, very troubled.
@@willybeama1 it is. That must be very, very hard.
No no one is good, but God.
This hits home. These parents joined a group they never thought they would-parents who had children do the unthinkable. I’m so sorry for all the families left behind in this tragedy.
Exactly.... people always blame the parents but after our kids become adults they change, because of one thing or the other... as parents we cannot know everything ...
@@FirstnameLastnames , Exactly..... there's so much we can do... when we couldn't deal with my brother in law anymore, then we involved the authorities , a judge set him up in a mental hospital, he's out and about now, but he knows that if he gets picked up there's no mother , father or sister, but lock up.
@Newport Waves ok troll
Mom speaks out quickly with honesty and the dad explains it well.
He had me till he said his kid walked into a gun store and walked out less than an hour later with a firearm. That’s just simply not true.
@@guitaard11 what do you think happened then?
@@TMDA12
“Officials said Sturgeon purchased the gun used legally in Louisville just days before the shooting.”
@@2K9s But they didn't say that he used it the same day that he bought it. They just said that he bought it in less than an hour, then used it a few days later.
This is such garbage esau got fired just wanted comeback to delete all his co workers that’s the WM NATURE!!!
I hope people are kind to these parents because they did everything humanely possible to help their son. It was his crime alone.
They need hugs and support!
They need jail time raising a shooter 😂
@@dredzoe367 smh
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@@dredzoe367 😡
The fact the father said he’d just commit suicide and not hurt anyone is heartbreaking.
Nope it's defeating. Their ignorance of the threat their son presented to innocent strangers was alarming. With his past mental health episodes exceptional monitoring would've saved lives.
@@newhorizon1355 have you ever had a family member commit suicide?
@@newhorizon1355 the parents didn’t even know that he had a gun
These parents are NOT to blame!
@@newhorizon1355because every person with mental health problems goes shooting people 🤦🏽♀️
He went to my school and was a year older than me. I recognize him. Just so, so weird and surreal to have this happen in my community
And im in awe of how his parents talked about this. So level headed and honest; they really said exactly what needs to be said.
He looks like someone cool, but I've heard he's been out of it in terms of repationships with friends and even cold. I heard that mother's phone call some times ago and I felt sorry for her and she seemed so concerned and put in this spot all a sudden. I'm not someone emotionally strong myself so I struggle with things, I can only keep watching these events play out and feel I'm a trigger to these young and struggling men.
At this rate, Mass shootings will affect virtually every community and every person in this country. I have a family member who survived a mass shooting and is still traumatized from it.
It’s not your fault dad. Wow! You can tell they’re great parents. They did everything they could, and then to do this interview… bravo. Much respect.
IF You Can Tell That Then You Are The Only Human Who Can Read Hearts.
Bet You Thought Ole Alex Murdoch Murderer Was A Wonderful Husband & Father Too.
@repentandbelieveinJesusChrist8Amen
You are not being helpful. Who is supposed to repent? The parents
Those parents obviously did their best to help their son, but he was an adult-responsible for his own actions. He's the one who went out & bought a gun with the intention of shooting people. To hurl random bible verses at people at a time like this is inappropriate
@@noradinneen1 Well the right scripture should have been used for some insight.
'But know this, that in the last days critical times hard to deal with will be here. 2 For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, haughty, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, disloyal, 3 having no natural affection, not open to any agreement, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, without love of goodness, 4 betrayers, headstrong, puffed up with pride, lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God, 5 having an appearance of godliness but proving false to its power; and from these turn away.
2 Tim. 3. 1-5.
My heart breaks for these parents. He was 25. A grown man. They cannot control his actions. I feel they were "exceptional " for coming forward, and speaking about this tragedy.
What medication was he using
It was a woman.
@@jamiemoore8740 no it wasn’t. It was a man.
@@elainemurphy2115 no it was a woman
@@AbigailMilamProductions yes it was
This mom really did try to save lives when she called that morning to report her child to the police. I can’t imagine how difficult their world is right now.. Why are these people essentially the only parents of a mass shooting to come forward and admit that their child DID this and his actions have had world wide effects. They show so much humility and I find it admirable of them to come forward. 🙏💜
Especially when they told her they already got reports of a shooting. Her voice changed and she sounded shocked or defeated.
There are other parents out there. One of the Columbine moms did a Ted Talk about her son.
These parents are amazing. My heart goes out to them.
No, they are not amazing at all. This is nothing more than scripted gun control propaganda with two DHS-owned paid liars participating in a scripted interview with the media who are in the know that these events are scheduled active shooter drills, using the media who are ALWAYS on site at these events BEFORE they take place.
Wow. Parents that, fully and without reservation, placed all blame and accountability on their child. Something that sounds so easy to those of us who have never been in their shoes, but must be absolutely devastating as a parent. Major props to these parents for being active in their son’s life, and for respecting the victims and their families when their instincts probably tell them otherwise.
A lot of parents would do this.
I think the biggest example of people not putting blame on their child even though it was 100% their child fault were the parents of Brian laundrie
@@lauralishes1 as they should! Brian laundries parents should take notes
Blah, blah,blah! Yeah he called you! Lock him up in a padded room!
@@chanelrevoy5623 q
How brave for the parents to speak out. I feel for them and for all the families affected by the devastating loss.
I heard this mother's 911 call and it's absolutely heartbreaking. God, please heal her broken heart...the entire family and all of the families who are affected.
Oh please ! Begging for his life ! Please don’t hurt him… as he damaged lives ! YT people and their crap
@@SaafiraRaja you're part of the problem, move out of the way pls
Where was God when this happened? He sat back and watched.
Where was your God during the attack?
@@karinaz8756 Note that you NEVER get an answer, they will not answer.
I cried as I watched this video. These parents feel the grief of losing a son. The grief of their son taking innocent lives. The grief of trying to put the pieces back together & trying to move on. It broke my heart, especially when the father said they failed as parents. No, sir. You both did not. Sometimes, as a family of people dealing with mental illness or addiction, it's hard to ALWAYS be exceptionally perfect or always there. We can only do so much. Or try to get them help the best we can. I wish the families of the deceased comfort & peace. And for this couple, to forgive themselves & know they did not fail as parents.
It broke my heart when he said "we were not exceptional". They absolutely WERE. So many parents, siblings, family members, friends, co-workers, strangers, don't even want to acknowledge someone has mental health issues. They don't understand, they refuse to believe, they criticize. These parents did all the right things. They believed their son, they understood, they told him so, and they tried to help. And they are now doing their best to spread awareness despite their grief. It's heart-wrenching.
This is nothing more than scripted gun control propaganda with two DHS-owned paid liars participating in a scripted interview with the media who
are in the know that these events are scheduled active shooter drills, using the media who are ALWAYS on site at these events BEFORE they
take place.
@@finoucat9299 how did they do the right think ? They literally failed as parents ....
These parents were brave to do this interview. Please know that an overwhelmingly majority of us (the community) supports you. I'm so sorry for what your going through. You're amazing parents.
They did the right things... worried why he was having attacks if on meds. That's not right. Only bcuz I had them and always never stop taking like I did when I first started them. They are awful...
I was close to what happened in Littleton Colorado over two decades ago. As a kid, I played baseball for 3 years with a school shooter.
These parents did something most previous could not. It's easier to go into hiding and look for excuses around what your child just did. Give them credit for this interview.
Now, to all the parents out there, most of you are doing amazing things for your kids. You'll never guess to see this unfold with yours, just like these parents. My only advice, again, having lived in this world for 20+ years of tragedy since it happened in our community - please, be very aware, if someone you love is in a bad state of mind, you need to sacrifice every part of yourself necessary to ensure your loved one does not carry out the harm on themselves and/or others that has become all too common in our society.
"Well meaning people keep saying to us... you did what any reasonable parents would have done...in his darkest hour, he needed us to be exceptional, not reasonable...we were not exceptional" It's well said, and unfortunate for these people. Their grief has only begun, take it from me.
Thoughts and prayers to all who are affected by violent crimes.
@@adriennem7927 this is definitely a very true statement - meds are not a solid answer. I'm glad you are feeling better in these times. Best wishes.
Not braver but crazy af tho 🤪
@@DM7817 here’s a solid fact…
“94 percent of public mass shooting occurred in a gun-free zone.”
I have so much respect for these parents I can't imagine what they're going through and how brave they are on trying to take accountability for what their son did
Absolutely!
She is so cold
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You are so right. My heart breaks for them.... they are exceptional... they opened themselves up to public scrutiny in our cancel culture. They are very brave and courageous. God bless this family and all the others those who have lost....
I appreciate their courage. It's so hard to put yourself together to be interviewed.
I feel so badly for these parents. So composed yet so full of grief. I admire their ability to articulate their feelings and their prior lives so well. They make no excuses and genuinely are grieved and so sorry for the horror their son caused. Prayers for them and for the victims' families 😢
This interview took a great deal of courage. Much respect and goodwill for these parents!
As a parent of 2 sons my heart hurts for these parents. I hope they will find peace in their hearts and minds.
This is proof that sometimes there’s is nothing anyone can do to stop this. These parents were proactive. They were still involved in their 25 year old sons mental health. Mom even called to make him an appointment, then asked to have it moved closer because he seemed like he needed it. These were not parents that turned a blind eye. And they are still blaming themselves for their ADULT sons actions.
Well....maybe if those guns werent so freely available....
@@andyd3447 gun free zones?
@@andyd3447 he was away at college and bought the gun himself. that has nothing to do with the parents
@@andyd3447 well maybe if the parents didn't raised a terrible son
You skipped the part where they said he should not have been sold the gun because of this mental situation. I BELIEVE YOU ARE NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO EVEN ENTER A DEBATE.
Finally parents that are honest about their son's horrible actions. I have nothing but respect for this couple.
“We were not exceptional” broke me. 😢As a parent, that’s probably the most heartbreaking thing to admit to yourself and see it’s manifestation. My heart goes out to all the families❤.
Dear god …. God bless you
What broke me is the victims' death.
It is okay for these parents to receive support. It’s okay for them to grieve for their son. When you love someone, you can’t force that love to suddenly evaporate over night. So sorry to the family of those who lost their life, including these parents ❤
Beautifully put. Thank you.
I actually feel very sorry for these parents trying to help they're son and he goes on this unnecessary rampage and now instead of mourning his loss they are mourning the loss of the victims he killed and the families lives that got changed forever
I feel so bad for the parents. They seem like lovely people who tried to do everything they could to help their son. May they find peace.
We dont know if they are telling the truth.
I know the family personally, and let me tell you. They are really good people. The father was my history teacher in high school. Connor was one of the most popular kids at our school, a star basketball player. No one could've seen this coming. And I know they did all they could with him
Would people feel bad for parents of color of harassed mentally ill emotional traumatic mass shooters mass killers?
@@rylandsparkman925 what concussion were the parents referring?why did not parents seek family 👪 counseling with combination of individual counseling for son?why did not parents seek psychotherapy for son for dealing with concussion and any trouble at work and harassment at work?
Where’s the compassion for these parent? They lost a son and forever people will blame them! It’s a tragedy for all!
After hearing these parents and knowing they were spot on dealing with their son, this scares the crap out of me. You never know who, what, when, where, or especially why. Keep your eyes peeled at all times people. Don’t let your guard down. This world is out to get you
People can't seem to help it. I know when I'm sometimes in a better mental place, then no one would commit these news-worthy, workplace or shool shootings.
Only in America...
These parents are amazing. My condolences for the victims and families.
Oh wow all of the nice comments!!! 🤔
You can see exhaustion and pain in their faces. As a parent myself, my heart goes out to them. This was not their fault. They were doing everything right and doing everything possible for their son. They were even involved with his mental health struggles trying to get them through that. I know what they are saying when they said they weren’t anything exceptional, but I definitely think they really are.
@Lilman Yellow You have no idea about mental illness and you should not condemn the parents at all.
@Lilman Yellow rubbish, as a parent you can do everything you’re supposed to do, and then something happens, as a parent, you blame yourself all the time!
yes utter exhaustion
there but for the grace of god goes @Lilman Yellow
you don’t know that you’d have made a difference in the same situation as a parent, and I truly hope you’re never put to that kind of test. no one deserves this. just a tiny bit of empathy can go a long way, I hope you’re able to see that someday.
@@sharona5646 right? What an asinine comment for her to make.
Oh my god, I have never felt such respect for two people I don't know... my heart breaks for everybody including these parents 💔
My son's been having behavioral issues and this is my nightmare... hard not to cry hearing this.
I think we men need to talk about our emotions more often and learn that it’s ok to cry and express your emotions
That’s basically what the dad started to say but he called his parachute bc he blames himself for that
Or so it seemed
That was a masterful interview. It was impacting , compassionate and informative.
To see the parents try to make something good...a change...come out of this was both heartwrenching and astounding. They may have prevented some other families from going through this catastrophe.
God bless all those involved to an eventual healing.
The interviewer deserves credit for a difficult job well done.
All three of them need to be jailed for their willingness to commit evil selfish deception. This is sadly a scripted interview and all three of them know it.
The father got me on the question he had to pull the parachute on. I definitely believe he was going to say he would’ve told him he loved him more, but men don’t do that. They are truly heartbroken
i think so too
Yup
I'm a similar age to this shooter and my Dad and I sign off most phone calls with "love you dad". Not all men are emotionally distant with their kids.
@@worsethanjoerogan8061 many many men are emotionally distant however. Glad your family is different
@@worsethanjoerogan8061 am so glad, my family is the same way, we always end every conversation with I love you, as well my friends and I do this too. However I find it so odd my husband's parents never end any phone call or when we leave their house with I love you to my husband, or any of their kids actually. I never even have seen his parents give each other a kiss or even a hug actually. It's so strange to me. I started ending my phone calls or goodbyes with I love you to them hoping it will I guess, rub off on them. Especially now that we have a baby I want them to tell him they love him.
Having a child with mental health issues, this is my worst fear. No matter how much you do to get them assistance when they are at a young age, there comes a point where they reach 18 and your involvement legally is ended, and after all is said and done, all you can do is pray they have learned to be aware and advocate for themselves. I feel the parents pain, and the pain of everyone involved in this tragedy 😢
@Queen of Kings True! Its medical professional fault too for the secrecy from the criminal's family, their session with a shrink, the prescribed meds, could have influenced the killer's mind and motive.
Most violent criminals are not mentally ill. If they know how to tie their shoelaces, dress themselves up, and eat their food without assistance, then they know what a gun is and what it's used for.
@Queen of Kings i don't know if it is the same all over the world, but here in South Africa, when a child turns 14 years old, a parent has no right to know what is/was discussed in a session between the child and their mental health professionals.
An involved, caring mother is legally involved in her son/daughter lives as a legal guardian whether he or she is at home or in a facility.
Is there a registry that family member can register their loved ones in order for them to not be able to purchase a fire arm?
Two very nice, very truthful parents who have to deal with such a tragic incident. I feel so bad for them as I feel so sorry for the families of the other victims.
What Connor Sturgeon did was horrific and unforgiveable no matter how you look at it. But it doesn't stop the fact that his parents are absolutely extraordinary and have exhibited incredible courage in doing this interview. These poor people. They deserve our sympathy and our respect. They've certainly won mine.
I just wonder what "exceptional" is. How could they have prevented this? Commit their child? Psychiatric holds are only for 24-48 hrs and they only thought they were dealing with anxiety and depression. They'd have to almost routinely interrogate their child from mild mental illness issues and that's a HUGE ask
As a recovering addict, this is killing me to watch these parents blame themselves. I had the BEST, most involved parents. My parents WERE and ARE exceptional- and I still lived 10 yrs of misery, addiction, crime, jail, etc. I will say, a lot of times one’s upbringing does have a huge causal effect but it’s, by no means, across the board. Not for me and I honestly don’t believe it’s the case with this family. Gosh, what a world of pain they must be in. They’re in my prayers, heartbreaking.
Thank you for sharing. I think many times people will blame addiction and mental health and a poor upbringing. But it’s not always the causal relation
100% Chloe. I had a phenomenal upbringing…loving parents, spoiled at Xmas/Bdays, awesome brother, etc. and I took a wrong turn in Grade 9 and it just grew from there including multiple arrests. In my 20’s, I struggled with an addiction and almost lost custody of my kid. My family has always supported me. They did nothing wrong with parenting me, I just made stupid choices.
@@missindependent1973 you and Chloe should be proud that you can reflect on and swallow your pride to admit any wrongdoings, super hard for anyone to take accountability nowadays so, as an internet stranger, I commend you both
Genetics. It’s not environmental at all
@@kathyr.8135some people are evil. Connor Sturgeon was. No matter what my life circumstances I can't fathom taking an innocent life. I'd take my own first.
My heart breaks for these parents. They are so strong for doing this interview. The father broke my heart .
They raised him
@@TheBoss0110101001It takes a village to raise a child.
All the work some parents do and you now are known for raising the mass shooter...make it make sense. Please I made the choice too not be a parent but still. Oh my
@@CT-vm4gf we don't live in huts anymore
@@TheBoss0110101001 It still applies though, we’re still in a civilisation. There’s more to deal with now than there ever has.
I’m 5 minutes into this and I feel so horrible for these parents… I think they made the right decision to do the interview. 😢 it couldn’t have been an easy decision. Prayers for all the victims and prayers for these parents.
Exactly , hope them coming forward saves lives
The first one minute in and I was about to puke. This is nothing more than scripted gun control propaganda with two DHS-owned paid liars participating in a scripted interview with the media who are in the know that these events are scheduled active shooter drills, using the media who are ALWAYS on site at these events BEFORE they take place.
You can see the fatigue, sadness and hurt on the faces of these parents. This interview has to be difficult but much appreciated by many.
I'm sure the money they received will make it a little easier for the next interview.
@@weirdmatter what money?
@@urekmazino6800 They got paid for this interview duh.
To the Sturgeon parents, I just want to say: This is not your fault. No matter what you say or do to help someone else, no matter how exceptional- you cannot control how they will respond to your efforts to help or if they will respond at all. Please don't blame yourself for something simply beyond your control. I'm so sorry that you have to bear the pain of this horrible situation. Thank you for trying your best not only to help your son but to demonstrate true compassion for the other families affected by his actions- although his actions were not yours.
Nahh, they raised him. It’s their fault. It’s always the families fault where I come from. My whole community is blamed for the actions of a few. Soooo, whose to blame here, if not the people who raised him?
Huh?
Oh you are so wrong… it is their fault! If a child is raised right with holy scripture he will not depart! They raised him with no hope!
@@troyboy4645 I disagree buster brown. I wonder what u would say if this happened to someone in ur family.
@@troyboy4645 Amen
@@billbaluka7526 Fr this dude is acting like psychosis doesn't exist. It's real
Todd and Lisa, my heart goes out to you. You did everything you could with what you knew. He was going to do this regardless if you were reasonable or exceptional.
Regardless of any gun right aswell. He planned the attack and was going to carry it out regardless. My heart goes out to the victims ' families.
They were on top of their son’s illness. They were involved and engaged in his care and did what they could. I appreciate what they did even after the terrible act their son did. So well spoken, educated and convincing about helping the community to stop this madness. You are great people🙏🏾I’m praying for everyone involved in this tragedy❤
These two are grieving their son, grieving who they hoped he would be, grieving the dreams they had for him. All the while grieving for the victims and their families, knowing it was their sons actions, that caused their grief and lives to be forever changed. So many what ifs, why didn’t I, or what did we miss, or what should we have done. Much, much prayers for all involved!
Bruh
Awful for his parents!
Wow that's exactly how imagine they feel
This is nothing more than scripted gun control propaganda with two DHS-owned paid liars participating in a scripted interview with the media who
are in the know that these events are scheduled active shooter drills, using the media who are ALWAYS on site at these events BEFORE they
take place.
They ain't grieving one tiny bit. No tears, they are smiling at times and doing an agenda pushing interview so soon after losing their son.
The parents are exceptional, in my opinion. The fact that they did this interview is incredibly brave. They did everything they could. They were involved in his life. We can't control the actions of others, short of locking them up in a straight jacket in a padded cell
Connor was 25 years old, Mrs. & Mr. Sturgeon. Please know you did more than the majority of parents would do for their grown son. I hope you don’t live with guilt (for too long). Your courage to speak out is admirable and respectable. I’m so sorry there was nothing anyone could’ve done to prevent him from doing this. I struggle with mental health and have for 30 years, and i know it’s not my parents responsibility to “fix me,” or be there 24/7. You did enough. ❤
Agreed, but it is actually Mr. & Mrs.
@@stevenrogers9263 Inappropriate Steven. Besides you're living in 2023, not 1953, and Miss Manners would be disappointed in you for thinking this was important enough *At A Time Like This.* So shine up your Buddy Holly glasses, wipe the ink off your pocket protector and iron the hem of your jean's turned-up cuff as those will all be better ways to spend your time than leaving crass messages for an eloquent caring woman.
A most thoughtful and heartfelt message Lindsay. Of all I've read over the years as our nation's numbers escalate your's is the one I would want the good parents and guardians to read. Bless you and your loving soul no doubt a result of your own pain which, as one whose 68 years are spent struggling with mental health, I hope remains minimal.💕🤗
@@DandyLion.Wishes What?
He should have been institutionalized!
This was a great interview. They really are so courageous to speak with someone while they are still in so much shock and grieving. Appreciate the way they handled it all ❤
wrong
They ain't grieving. Zero tears, smiling actors
My heart goes out to the victims, families, community and this brave family for speaking out. 🙏
I have nothing but RESPECT for this family. God Bless all the families and friends affected by this tragedy. 🙏🏾🕊️
Why? Their son shot up a bank
@@ryanengh1 Bevause they did everything they could to help him and when he shot up the bank they blamed him and put him in the wrong like he should’ve. He’s a grown man it’s not like he’s a little kid that lives with them.
@@ryanengh1 they said it’s be better off if he just took his own life.
@@ryanengh1 grow up
Where was your God that you are praying to when the slaughter happened?
My heart is broken for these parents, it is so clear they love their son and they are deeply saddened by this. They were doing all they could to help their son and sometimes you can't help enough. I'm praying for them, the victims and their families.
You sound like a very kind person.
My heart is broken for the victims and their families. They loved their deceased ones so much.
@@newhorizon1355 I’m sure they’re sad for them as well. I saw you talking about God in another comment and bashing these parents in every reply as well. Ironically, you’re very judgmental. Aren’t we supposed to leave the judging up to God?
@@Envy28496 I've sent money to the victims' families, isn't that what God teaches. What have you done? From a brief look at your posts you just say how good the shooter's parents are, yet no comments of grief for victims. Interesting 🤔
@@newhorizon1355 There you go judging me now. God doesn’t teach giving money🤦♀️I like how you’re just assuming everything about everyone involved. I pray for the victims and their families as well and my condolences are with them. You think you’re better than every person in this comment section that feels both compassion for these parents and the victims. You can have empathy for everyone that has been affected, but you don’t seem to have enough love in your heart for that.
God bless his parents. My heart goes out to them. They did the very best they could. I pray they are able to feel peace.
I have so much respect for these parents, grieving themselves, to come forward and be brutally honest about their son's mental health issues and be so cognizant of the impact that has had and will continue to still have on the victims, their families... The loss, the healing. They highlighted symptoms and actions, things that other potential family memebers, friends etc should bolo for to prevent such tragedies in the future..... R.I.P. and God bless to all injured and impacted... 🙏❤️
Seriously. This had to be the hardest thing they’ve ever had to do. My heart breaks for them .
@@rosecoloredtimes you can say that again. And they will never be looked at the same because of their son 😢😢
They ain't grieving.
My heart goes out to those parents. They did and tried everything and it wasn't enough. They are not to blame.
You can't save everyone.
I concur. They are definitely not to blame for what their son did. 😕
This is heavy, the anguish from the mother calling 911 her self once she found out he had a gun. Mental health comes in different forms. Seems like the parents raised him right but he was just not in the right state of mind. Condolences to the victims.
My heart breaks for this mother and father and the families. Grief and guilt. This is pure raw pain. 😔
This is the strongest set of parents I've seen. May they eventually find peace. They are both exceptional humans and parents.
Much respect to these parents, who didn’t come out to make excuses for their son. But owned what their child did. We rarely if ever see this much remorse and love for their fellow man and women who died. No other words can describe this awful act, and yet having loosing their son, also affected so many others to make any sense of it all.
They are not at fault for what their adult son did. However to see them take accountability and try so hard to get their son the help he needed is commendable and I wish them peace and healing in the coming months and years. Just as I wish for the victims families. This is a loose-loose situation here... nobody wins. My heart is with the victims of such tragedies as this.
Gun industry wins cause they know nothing will touch them after this, yet again :(
They have SOME fault. THEY raised a monster
@@aleesiauh you can do everything for your child and they can still become someone like him. He had mental issues but how would they think he’d do something like that? You just never know.
@@aleesiauh did we not see the same interview or something?? For what they're saying they did everything they could, they tried to help him and still this happened. It's not their fault
It’s lose btw
These poor parents😢 its not their fault for what their child at 25 years old did. It doesn't matter how close you are to someone you never know whats really going on in peoples minds😔
So sorry to all involved💔❤
My heart goes out to these parents who themselves are victims of this crime.
So brave of these parents to come forward...
They look like good, kind, considerate, responsible parents whose son took a horribly wrong turn. My heart goes out to them.
and to the victim's families as well. It's not either or. It's not guns or mental health. It's both.
So an inanimate object caused their son to murder all those people. Why don't they look into the mirror and acknowledge your poor parenting skills!!
There is NO mental healthcare in the United States. It has been created by completely destroying family culture, devaluing life and lives, allowing "anything goes" and a complete breakdown of morals & ethics. There's no morality left in this country. Heck, we can't even define what a Biological Woman is. And at the end of the day, everyone wants to blame inanimate objects 🤔🤔🙄🙄😂😂.
It's NOT the Firearms!!
100% it’s both ❤️
Eye opening. The family honestly couldn’t have done more to stop this . I hope they can forgive themselves as they seem like good people . Very strong of the victims families to reach out them as well. Just overall very sad .
My heart goes out to his parents. As well as those lost and their loved ones. ❤🙏🏼😞
This is nothing more than scripted gun control propaganda with two DHS-owned paid liars participating in a scripted interview with the media who
are in the know that these events are scheduled active shooter drills, using the media who are ALWAYS on site at these events BEFORE they
take place.
Oh sir, you two WERE exceptional!! Your wife pushed and pushed to make absolute sure your son got the mental healthcare he needed! You were both above and beyond good attentive parents! There are some things in this life that we will just not be able to comprehend until we are done here. My heart goes out to you both 💗💕
Do you know their entire life then?
I applaud them for their courage to sit down for an interview to talk about their child and the harm he caused to the families. May God give you the strength to endure the pain that has been caused by this horrible tragedy
It is impossible to be an 'exceptional' parent, it is possible to do the best you can as a parent and the rest is out of our hands. My heart aches for these parents and absolutely for the victims, their families and friends. At the risk of sounding crude, this was a beautiful interview and was handled in a very respectful way.
As badly as I feel for the families of the victims I also feel very bad for these parents. Parents are so often blamed when something like this happens even though they've done nothing wrong and it's heartbreaking. So they not only lost their son but they also have to deal with the horror and destruction he left behind. I cannot even being to imagine how horrible it is and the living nightmare they're going through.
This truly brought me to tears. Tears for those who were killed and seriously injured. Tears for these two parents who are not only grieving the loss of their son, but who are truly sorry for what he did to those innocent people in that bank, and feeling the guilt of failing their child. May God comfort them and bring them peace.
Yes, you said it so well. The parents are grieving on so many fronts and their guilt must be intolerable. Yet, they did everything they could and were wonderful parents. So sad. They will carry this burden the rest of their lives.
ARE you still crying if so please come back and cry with me 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Doesn't sound like they "failed" their child. Sounds like they did everything they could. The only failure is the failure you're projecting.
@@JohnMitch2 They said that bc the parents feel like they failed him. They actually said they failed him in this video.
@@serenapolk4379 I'll cry with u 😥💔
You did not fail him. This is not your fault. I am sending you all the love in my heart. I’ve lost two people, including my little brother, to guns. You are absolutely exceptional in every way that matters: you are kind and full of empathy. We need more people like you in the world.
Yes they did
@@prettygurlbounce90You’re not ready to admit that bad things happen despite people’s best efforts, are you?
@@prettygurlbounce90 Did someone hurt you to come to this conclusion?
@@newhorizon1355 Yeah, there is an obvious brush off of the medications that he was on.
And for sure he should have been red flagged from firearms.
@Violent_Bebop what was he on?
These parents are above reproach. They saw to it that he got help for his anxiety and panic attacks. They communicated with him regularly. He had a supportive family, friends, a girlfriend and a job. There was no indication that he was planning the attack. I commend his parents for their bravery for being so vulnerable. As a Louisville resident, I do not blame them for the actions of their son. They did everything possible to get help for their son. My heart goes out to them.
Treat being a parent like a car at the very least. License people, register guns, tax them too
@@MA-hn9vo or treat gun purchases that way instead.
@@jtrain9926 WHY
It seems like many of these shooters were on some type of psych medication. I just wonder if it could be playing a role in it. My ex husband was struggling with depression. He went for help. He was put on medication and a month later took his life. It was terrible. It still is. He shattered our daughter.
Being someone who suffers from extreme anxiety. We have a way to hide our anxiety and especially the pain we feel for being this way. 😢
How can we help?
I feel quilty about every time someone ends up on the news for these type of things.
Yes how can people be helped? Only anxiety?😮 That is a horrible feeling for the person experiencing it. My daughter committed suicide bc there is NO help for people living with anxiety and panic attacks. Because you heard the mother it ... Was only anxiety. Calling the suicide hot line only brings more anxiety bc police come and drag your child away in hand cuffs or carry them out to the squad car bc they are a danger to themselves.😢 God is the only way out. Come to me all who are burdened and I will give you rest.✝️🕊️❤️
His parents are his victims just as much as the victims that were killed and their families are and my heart breaks for all of them . 🙏🏻💔
Yes they are. They'll carry this heartbreak to their graves.😢
You can tell he came from a loving home, caring parents, and a supportive family.. they did everything they could to help him. The way the dad said they just weren't 'exceptional' enough 😭 absolutely heartbreaking. Praying they find peace, as well as the families of the victims and those involved 🙏
Prayers of Peace for these parents and for the victims families.
Amen.
These poor folks. It's so heartbreaking.
I truly feel sad for these grieving parents. I hope they get the support they need to heal as they try to move forward from this tragedy.
What are YOU going to do so that no one else goes through this?
Yup yup. Fingers crossed as usual
I feel horrible for his parents and for the victims. It was very brave and humbling of them to come forward and have this conversation. I'm praying for their family and the victims' families as well. Let's also pray for the police officer still fighting for his life.
Many times, at the age Connor was, mental illness presents itself, often times unexpected. Suicide is anger turned inward. Homicide is anger turned outward. Both were accomplished, in this case. These parents were very thoughtful in their responses, and they did not place blame on anyone else for what their son did. It hurts me when the dad gets teary talking about how they weren't exceptional. What a horrible situation! There are no winners here, only grief and pain.
Parents were spot on. RIP to all the victims.
You did not fail your son!!! You did everything you could to help him. My sympathies to you and the other grieving families.
For the first time ever watching a tragedy like this. I beg to differ sir you are exceptional! You showed up for your son but he did what he did not you! You guys are superb parents! God bless you. My condolences to the family of the lives lost.
I have so much respect for these parents! Thank you for this interview, I know it’s not easy, but it’s appreciated!!
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What medication was he on? This needs to be shared.
This is heartbreaking to watch. You can see the anguish in their eyes. So sad when dad was talking about needing to be exceptional. You can tell they are good people.
In all honesty, I can not think how they could have done anything more. They obviously loved him and tried to get him the help he needed, there’s only so much you can do. I wish them so much peace in the future.
They would have needed to have a crystal ball. I don't think there's any way they could have known, therefore, nothing they could have done differently. It's such a shame and a tragedy, for these parents, too!!
These parents are a stark contrast to the Crumbleys. These parents cared and were involved, despite their son being an adult.
I think these parents will work towards making a difference.
These parents did all they could. Lord be with them.
Yea right prolly daddies gun😅
@@dredzoe367 did you watch the video?
@@D_A_Marv That Dred Zoe dips**t has just been trolling the comments. Ignore it.
The parents in my humble opinion could have tried other non conventional or non drug ways to help their kid. Holistic approach. Meditation. Exercise. Charity work. Faith. In some culture & country, they expose their kids since young age to religion to study and learn their faith and rules and knowledge, to recite and memorize their holy scriptures and practice dzikir and whenever evil thoughts start messing with their mind they pray and they recite the holy words of the holy book, to ward off and chase off those evil whispers & spirits that try to influence their brain and mind and feeling to commit crimes as the evils are afraid of those holy recitation.
@@notimetodienttd1115 It doesn't matter what methods they used to help their son. Despite all they're help, he intentionally went on a rampage and planned it. Once a child becomes an adult and makes a decision on it's own, the parents and everyone else's else opinion is completely irrelevant.
These parents very much remind me of Dylan Klebold's mother. She was one of the first parents of a shooter to come out and speak up. Her book was eye opening and educational, at the same time, it was heart breaking. Lots of love and strength to all this tragedy has touched.
I agree. I saw a speech she gave and I had so much compassion for her. I admire her strength and bravery.
I’m late to this story but I completely agree-the complete opposite of the Crumbleys, my goodness these parents broke my heart, as has Dylan’s mom. Heartbreaking…
I can’t imagine the pain & agony these parents are going through!! My heart breaks for them!! The guilt they will carry every day for the rest of their lives is awful!! And they did all the right things for their son. These parents are so brave for coming forward & speaking. 😥💔