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I'm a virgin and proud at 25 as well and not thinking about sex it's okay to wait nothing is wrong with her it's a blessing .
yea it's good to wait. havin it too young is a real mistake
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Awesome!
"Ik they foggy but anyway"
*starts reading letter*
" Would you believe these are bifocals?!?! I'm not gonna discuss it"
😂😂😂😂😂
lol. that part made me laugh too
She made me laugh.😂
that's why I luv her she is to silly lol
LOL they were and are though! I thought it was important. lol 💕
Hi i'm 29 and still a virgin, people always ask me how that is possible especially with my personality lol. Sometimes people treat you like you are a martian or worse like you have a disease once they hear. I feel for the young lady, it starts like you said with joining groups one step at a time. She is definitely not the only one.
I'm a 27 year old virgin who's also never had a boyfriend either...I also have had guys approach me who also were just tryna get the draws. lol I also am just trying to focus on what is important for me. it is very discouraging at times especially the way the dating world is now. Rachelle your advice was so timely for me I said Lord did I send her a email and forgot about it haha! I'm definitely taking this information to heart.
GIRL. KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY AS LONG AS YOU CAN. You will regret if you waste it and find out he was the wrong person
the author sounds like she views her virginity as some kind of handicap instead of a HEALTHY choice. also, who goes around announcing that they're a virgin? and who goes around asking? just get out, maybe MOVE OUT, socialize and WHEN THE TOPIC IS NECESSARY, just make it clear that you want to wait... simple. you don't have to explain that you've never had sex. when a MAN really wants to be with you in a monogamous relationship, your virginity will not change how he feels. trust me. lastly, don't be do quick to tell a guy your a virgin because some guys will hang around & pretend to want you just to end your virginity.... so keep that private until months, and months after seriously dating imo
stay the course and wait for sex...it aint all its cracked up to be😐😐😐😐😐...I would GLADLY take a "do over" in life because I'd wait till marriage... excuse typos, "I'm not editing" lol
Love your advice and I totally agree. I didn't lose my virginity until 19, with the same intent of waiting until marriage and so on. Looking back on it (and even then I thought) I certainly should've waited much later. Waiting until you're older is honestly the smartest, safest thing to do. You're much more mature and often times much more emotionally stable. 💕✨
BeautyAndMarie omg you are so pretty 😍
luvpurple95 Awe 🙈 Thank you so much. 💜
I heard child hood sweet heart marriages are the longest and most stable. Or if your parents/family set you up with 'your type' if you have a type, also lasts, cuz they know them.
what I can say is don't worry. I lost my virginity at 29. a day after my wedding. it made both of us know each other in a whole different level. anyway it the best decision I've made. anyway what I want to say many ppl will leave u but the right person will stay. my husband came along and he told me I was Worth the wait n he waited for me. u will b OK. don't worry. mingle n make friends.
30 here and still a virgin.....there's no reason to rush it! Rush it and you will regret it.
I'm the same way except I'm 21! But, I'm not tripping to lose ANYTHING!! I'm good over here.. Honestly, I feel like I'm just starting my life. My main goal was to get a career first to be able to make a living for myself☝🏽️ so thennnn when my Mr. comes along I'll be already doing me but, ready to do us (when the time comes)!!! It's all about being confident in who you are at the moment! Don't focus solely on losing your virginity just because , focus on who you are willing to be with, for him and him only and not what you can get physically. I'm PROUD to still have mine😁 oh and and far as Rochelle stating you don't want to be too strong of a independent woman.. I agree! But, ☝🏽️ do be strong and independent 😂 while also being lovely and beautiful😉 They will respect and love you even more! At least the RIGHT guy will! Stay smart, honest, & stand your ground! Just be you hunny! Don't be a prude or uptight either! Have fun.. Joke.. but, show people you respect yourself!!
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Smart woman
*Rachelle
Well said!
+BorderHammer Thank you!
Great advice BH! I think this is a really valid and often overlooked point, sometimes it's not about needing to be "good" or religious, it's just about wanting not to waste your time or be played for your body. Don't feel compelled to do it just to get it over with. When the time is right, you'll feel better knowing that you didn't succumb to pressure. In the meantime, like she said, be open to meeting new people and having some fun. Your virginity doesn't dictate your cake as a human being and whenever you decide that you're ready, whoever that's with, it should be on your terms. Forget what anyone else is doing, your body is yours and yours only. Your physical and emotional health take precedent.
Maaan! I have the same reasons why I haven't lost my virginity. Not necessarily waiting for marriage but to be comfortable with sharing myself with someone with no pressure from them. I don't believe in casual sex and STDs are rampant, so a few minutes of pleasure that is not granted has not been something that has persuaded me. In other words, you can't miss what you haven't had. As of now, I'm in a long distance relationship with someone who has been celibate since he was in his teens, so we have a great understanding for each other. I'm starting my prerequisites for nursing school on August 22nd and I'll be documenting on UA-cam. I swear she is me lol I was so compelled to comment!
I love your advice to her. This reassures me that someone can be celibate with me together and that it can happen for me! I want to ask how did you meet your significant other that you're now in a long distance relationship with?
+dope_no_lye We met online about 6 years ago. We're not the traditional couple at all because we don't have an anniversary lol one day we were talking and he just called me his girlfriend while in the car with his older brother so it's just been something that we both knew and didn't have to speak on it.
I was a virgin until 23 and I waited until marriage. #4yearsstrongwiththehubby
"it maybe better than what happens in reality" that's putting the icing on the cake. That is real talk. You did great!You gave her some good advice. When she is putting out that good energy and not evening looking he will show up. She just needs to be ready. Obviously she loves herself because she refuses to lower her standards and accept anything. She is already on the right track!
I think if you are a virgin and you tell this to a guy... And he "runs" because he don't want you to be attached then you don't need him anyways! It shows he is not looking for a long term relationship 😐
I truly believe 2 things keeps bad guys away 1. Kids and 2. Being a virgin. Only a real man will accept both🙏🏽
PREACH!!!!
Virgins are not an issue but why would a guy, good or bad, want to take responsibility for someone else's children?
A real man wont accept kids. Especially if the mom has to keep in contact with the kid's dad. Whatever you guys are doing has to stop because her kid's dad is priority over you.
@@niallphelan28 right
Great advice!! Hold on to that thang as long as you can-- once is gone, it's GONE!!
Rochelle, this is your zone!! I love your energy and the fact that you care about people. Congratulations on the new space!
I think it's always good to date young. I don't mean you have to do the works, but I am in the same type of situation. And I wish I had dated more in high school and even middle school so I can learn how to emotionally be with someone even without sex. The older you get, the harder it gets if you don't know what you're doing. Not that it's impossible. And also, make sure you yourself mentally are prepared to be in a relationship. Make sure you're ready to give in a relationship. Hope things work out for you!
Even older, you can learn how to how to be emotionally attached to someone after sex. Though it's going to take some work and conditioning of your own.
Great advise. However, not everyone has that option. Lol
***** Why's it harder? As long you keep up your appearance, and take care of yourself, you'll be able to attract someone. Most people, especially girls I know of didn't get into their first relationship until 18-20 college years. All I can say is thank goodness for youtube so you can educate yourself on relationships, how they work, as well as "the game" that some guys will try to run on you. The only thing is you just have to be onest with what you want. Dating these days is also easier since a LOT of people date online. Of course many of us know that talking to random people over the net is far easier than talking to random people in real life.
I agree with you. You don't want to find yourself at thirty, having never been in a relationship. At this age society expects people to have careers and be thinking about settling down, having spent all their youthful wildness in their twenties. Learning to be with someone a is a gradual process, and going from untouched virgin to healthy, fulfilled adult at this stage is like jumping from basic counting to calculus overnight. (I have long struggled with emotional connections, having never dated as an adolescent or young adult, and it has been a real torment for me.) I don't think young people should worry about "preserving" themselves, either; it's not developmentally healthy, and the whole concept can give some a purer-than-thou attitude. The young should live their lives to the fullest, so they develop in a healthy way and have no regrets later on.
Bill Scannell i really disagree with you on that , staying a Virgin there's nothing more emotionally healthy ,sex is more complex than just physical it's spiritual , it's emotional . Giving yourself to anyone just for the sake of experience is really damaging .
1.men generally unless they love a woman sex means nothing to them but for the woman it's the opposite they get attached so after that separation they are ripped apart, heart broken and self esteem crushed
2.studies have shown that the more sexual partners a person has had the more chances of divorce increases when they get married because the sex that was supposed to be something special that links the couple is no longer the case they have already shared it with other people before so there's nothing special about it anymore
3.Soul ties with previous relationships every time , people have intercourse they are never the same when they part they always go with some part of that person which is why the attachment can still exist with exes which hinders the next relationship because the person is scattered
4.Comparison and expectations
Comparing the new partner with the former boyfriend or girlfriend how good are they in bed or do they make you feel like the other person did so there's that constant search for the former sex partner in every other partner which makes the person restless and the other unhappy
6.the vagina of women becomes as bigger as the penis size of the first sexual partner which is why once this doesn't work out ,the woman is going to be sexually unsatisfied and frustrated because not all men penis size the same
In conclusion , our grand mothers were virgins when they were married and there was nothing wrong with that they weren't deficienct in any way ,sex is not something meant to experiment with , it's a sacred bond that is shared within marriage and strengthens the bond.
That's my take on it!
Hi! I definitely loved what the anonymous woman had to write in her letter. I definitely have felt that way numerous times and I'm glad this was a conversation. I also am glad she mentioned the getting out more. My thoughts are on this are 1) When you live in a "hook-up" culture, I can definitely see how you can feel like the black sheep because you are a virgin/celibate. 2) People need to understand that virginity and celibacy can very well be a CHOICE. It's not always that we didn't have the "opportunity" to, but because we CHOSE not to. Some due to marriage, some because they haven't found the one. Either way, it was a choice. I am 23 years old, still a virgin and I'm celibate, by choice. And that's something I take pride in. Not only because of my faith, but because I want something real, and I don't want the "realness" built upon being a sexual agreement partner. I've seen many friends hurt over that very thing. I say all of this to say, sure its 2016, but there's nothing wrong with being in your 20s and choosing to be a virgin and waiting (til marriage or whatever). No one should make you feel bad for that, not even yourself. When you know who you are, accept who you are, and love who you are, you'll be fully aware and happy with your choices. Wrong or right. I also encourage this writer, to start finding sisters and brothers who are rocking in the same boat as you. Sometimes its hard to talk to someone who is sexually active about celibacy and virginity. It can feel like a pressure sometimes. But Im going to chill out on this post because its already long. lol I just wanted to add my 4 cents. :) #StayBlessed #StayHumble
Girl, that added part was sooo true! My husband was not my 'type' AT ALL! But he is perfect for me. So my suggestion is to go with the flow. If i feels good/ right to you-- conversation, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, trust it!
Microfiber cloths work beautifully for cleaning your glasses! (You can even get them at the dollar store) I wear them too! :) love your channel!
Thank you! Will definitely check that out!
I first had sex when I was 22 and it is one of my biggest regrets. I wanted to wait for the right person, and he really wasn't (though we were in a relationship and I had the best of intentions at the time)... It wasn't an enjoyable experience and really wrecked my confidence because I thought the problem was me, rather than our bad relationship. Wait until YOU are ready.
Such n such, girl u are a diamond. Please don't b discouraged at all!!! You've done exactly what u should do as far as blossoming!!! When he finds u, and he will... Ull b so glad and overjoyed that u saved it for ur King. Keep ur head up love. U deserve it all!!!
I love to hear this! You go girl! I am 25 years old right now and also a virgin. I have a hard time dating as well, I am waiting till marriage, its not for religious reasons it is simply who I am. I have only had one relationship but it wasn't what I wanted so now I pretty much am concentrating on me and the things I want and I am sure my husband will find me based on just that, the attraction to me and who I am. After my break-up I was heart broken but I took all of that energy and focused on me and the things I wanted to accomplish. 1.5 years later I have started my own business and am now 6 classes away from vet school! I think you staying focused and disciplined will be what brings your man to you. I have a hard time with meeting people I really want engage with as well. As in friends, I don't have a hard time making friends and socializing that is easy but it is very hard to find people that share my core values. But I make a point to go out and try and meet people.
I Love how you read and answer in between LOL. And your answer is so very on point. I honestly wish I had been a virgin at 25.
STAY A VIRGIN GIRL!!! Lol!!! Like Rachelle said reality is different than how you think it will be or even the way other people make it out to be. I lost my virginity when I was 28 to my friend (I'm 36 now). I saw friends who had kids really early regretted it and some contracted STDs so I didn't want to head down that road. And if you ever decide to get married and you disclose your sexual past to him, your husband will appreciate that his wife didn't sleep around. I truly believe it affects their ego whether they will admit it or not. Just get busy living life and be with someone that you truly love and feel comfortable with. That's what's most important.
Keep it. Don't be in a rush. Wait until YOU feel comfortable in a relationship and feel like you are emotionally and physically ready to give it to that special person. And even if the relationship doesn't work out, at least YOU know you weren't pressured into it. Go out and be social (I need to do that also), I don't have a lot id friends either, by no means a virgin, but I don't let sex bother me. Focus on all of you and not just the "virginity part"
Awesome advise. Your advise pertains to all walks of life!
Just have to say that I had a really crappy day but your smile and personality really cheered me up. I love your videos. Congrats on your new place! Now on to watch the video lol..
Really loved watching this video, Rachelle! (I hope I'm spelling your name correctly). Also, I can feel you're happiness through the screen girl. I wish you all the best in this new endeavor of yours and I'm so looking forward to seeing your upcoming videos,, Rachelle with the beautiful smile!
Hahaha!!! You are so funny and comical and animated!!! Hello there such and such!!! Good input none the less!!!
First, love the lipstick. Second, I had a list, and constantly prayed over it. I definitely had to constantly weed out stuff that truly didn't matter. I was also a virgin for a while....didn't make it to 25... I married the man of my dreams (the one I gave my vcard too) :) you gave a lot of great tips. Don't waste your time on guys just looking to play...you can smell them a mile away. But don't tell guys you are a virgin when you first meet them either. Wait, wait and have high standards!! There is someone out there for you!! If I can do things over again, I would have wasted less energy over wondering when will I meet him, and I would have just had more fun with girlfriends, and focused even more on a pre-marriage kind of bucket list or something. Believe it or not, there are virgin men out there also holding out for the right one. I don't know if the young lady is a Christian, but as a Christian and now a mother of a terrific two-year-old, I would say enjoy this time of your life :)
I LOVE that your making videos again! You are so FUNNY!!
LOL Thank you for watching Stephanie! I love making them!! 💕
Be open to making new friends and see what happens. Get a social life to meet new people. Everything will happen when it's time. I agree with Rachelle. Be balanced and it will come. And the guy that you find for you will love and respect you for that decision, and will be glad that you saved it. So don't be in a rush. Much love
You are not alone. My son is the same at 22. I say, "Kudos" to you for waiting. We live in a world that is sex crazed, but you are being smart and safe and that's awesome. Don't worry when it is time it will happen and yes, waiting for marriage is best. I do agree with Rachelle about making new connections not to lose your virginity, but to just make friends.
Great advise Rachelle! To the writer, awesome young lady and I applaud you, wish that more young ladies had your mentality; although I see that you have a lot of supporters below. I applaud you all because I can tell you that it is a GREAT thing to save yourself for someone who is worthy, and one who will love and care for you as a life partner and not just a temporary possession. Many guys, really don't look at sex and intimacy the same way women do, and more often they are looking to have a good time, and get their needs met, seriously! So, listen to the advise because you can offer so much more to a wonderful man than your body, and they need to see that first; then maybe they can get the draws, LOL. Great topic and I bet you helped someone else struggling with the same issue (which is not an issue, lol). Be blessed and save yourself for your husband...........I did and proud of it! :-)
I love her, she makes you want to be her friend lol By the way your voice is amazing lol I'm excited to watch your videos! Keep making videos :)
im 24 and a virgin waitin on marriage and u do feel pressured being the age that the majority been "popped". nowadays 99.9% of guys dont want nothing to do wit u or think they can change your mind OR say they can wait wen all the while cheatin on you. its not easy...
It's not easy but trust me when I say "WAIT"! You will find that special one!
SHERAYAMILI thank you ☺
queenie bowen: not all guys
Wow so glad i found you again. I used to watch you a lot 4 years ago 😊
Your advice was good enough....nothing more to be said...Plus, I want to add one important thing that she must do, and that is ..........................................................PRAY FOR GUIDANCE!!!
Agree with Borderhammer's advice. Focus on school, take advantage of living with your parents by saving as much as you can and paying down any debt you have. Find some local groups for young professionals in your field, find ways to serve your local community. If your town is really that small, look to the future. Where will you work after you finish school? Look for a larger city that you can afford to live in and apply for jobs. Being a virgin and singleness are both blessings; you may not ever have this much time to yourself again when you enter into a relationship. Develop yourself and focus on God's purpose for you. Good luck & God bless.
Outside of what she said, might I suggest that you don't broadcast that to guys you meet, SOME men once you tell them that, you become a CHALLENGE and they'll stick around just to GET your virginity. Try focusing on becoming their friend first that will garner you much more respect and consideration. If you're wondering how to respond when you begin dating and the subject of sex comes up just tell them that before you decide to become intimate with a person you need to have some idea of what it means to them in the big picture. Some men will be upfront while others will 'Front" prayers helps you decipher which is which! Be Blessed!
You are my best friend in my head. Girl you have me laughing at your randomness & rambling.
Rachelle the reason why your glasses are foggy is from the fabric softener in tour clothing. You need to clean them with a cloth without fabric softener of dryer sheets.
There is nothing wrong with being a Virgin. That is awesome!!!
I've had the same experience in the past ... Being a virgin is f-boy repellent ! Your Prince Charming will come when you're not even looking , it happened to me (I met mine at church & I was nvr into church boys ). I love your videos Rachelle u deserve your own talk show 👏🏽🙌🏾
On the topic of eyeglasses, talk to your Dr about progressive lenses. They are made to accommodate seeing distance, computer usage and reading print. You should be able to use your same prescription but it's written differently. BTW, your frames look cute on you.
I've noticed my glasses stay greasy to but I think it's because of the oils in my hair.... your hair looks elegant and super cute !!!
I agree with borderhammer, please don't let the pressure of others make you feel like you need to do that...I'm 39, I was 19 when I lost my virginity and if I could take it back I WOULD MOST DEFINITELY WAIT! focused on more important things, there is nothing wrong with keeping your V card
I think you're right on point. Focus on your life and he will find you. Just don't be so consumed with life that you miss out on him. I was twenty six when I lost mine and I wish I would have kept waiting. When I started focusing on my life my love found me. I also agree, join some clubs with ppl of like interests.
"There are other ways to satisfy your urges alone and a lot of the time it's better than what is going to happen in reality." Hahaha, preach!!! I think sometimes it's not about wanting to lose your virginity, it's about wanting someone to share that part of your life with. Completely agree that it's not going to happen unless you make it happen, but even then, it may take a while to meet someone who you want to lose it too. Focus on you, and being an interesting and interested person. I agree with another commenter who said when dating, just don't bring it up, I think it makes people unnecessarily cautious. Good luck!
Bring this back plzzzzz great segment
Rochelle, you have found your calling. Love it!
Thank you!! 💕
Nothing wrong with being a virgin and waiting for the one who TRULY deserves you :)
Focus on building strong emotional and spiritual connections, cause think about it - the physical stuff is always the easiest part; but the communication aspect TAKES WORK. Build that first then trust God will lead your life in the right direction :)
With all these STD's out here, and with as many people that Ive come across that have herpes, your saving yourself a LOT of fucking heartache. You have nothing to worry about. Sex is honestly overrated. Pregnancy is the LEAST of your worry's.
I disagree. STD's affect YOU. But become pregnant, and you're suddenly responsible for someone else.
So pregnancy IS the worry.
*****
If you have herpes or HIV, you shouldn't be having sex.
teppolundgren Well thankfully, I have neither. But try telling that to the many people out there who do.
*****
Illegalize irresponsible sex.
It won't stop all of them, but those who are caught, well, whoops...
teppolundgren Prohibition has never worked, not for alcohol, not for marijuana ad certainly not for sex.
So at what age does being a virgin become a problem?
I'll be 40 in January. Is that a problem?
Don't be so focused on why it hasn't happened yet. Find a hobby, get out of the house and do something once or twice a week! Do things that make you interesting. There are men everywhere, one will come! And when he does, you'll want more to talk about than school and not having sex.
Good idea and go visit your friends at school..yea explore ..travel enjoy your life and u will meet the right guy when u least expect it
Girl your edges look amazing!!!
OWWWW you see me?? lol 💕 ty!
On the topic of eyeglasses, talk to your Dr about progressive lenses. They are made to accommodate seeing distance, computer usage and reading print. You should be able to use your same prescription but it's written differently.
Its time to start editing 😂😂. its a lot going on. i love it
Dude I'm in the EXACT same situation. I'm 25 and I want to be in love and I've never been in a relationship. I'm also in school and working my career. I agree with everything she said completely. I'm a social butterfly and I have plenty of offers but I want it to be special. to be in love.
You should try eye glass cleaning wipes. They are sold at Wal-mart and they are amazing. They get the oil, grease and smudges off completely. It's like picking up your glasses for the first time from the retailer.
"Would you believe these are bifocals? I don't wanna discuss it." I busted out laughing in the library 😂.. I love this topic though, I'm a senior in college waiting for marriage to have sex (not a virgin) but felt like I was wasting myself with guys who aren't meant to be my husband.
21 & a virgin. Proud that God has brought me this far. Waiting till marriage. I consider myself a unicorn. 💁🏾🦄
Yeah I'm 23 and I can't just be casual or do the fwb thing. I've gotten to know a guy I trust and it is VERY hard for me to trust anyone. I'm half a virgin now (didn't go all the way in plus it was only one time). The thing is I'm thankful that I waited for at least him. He and I are still great friends and are continuing to get to know one another. He wasn't afraid of my virginity and still doesn't mind the work (of course I said no to the fwb). It's good to wait and be able to find someone you love/trust. You're doing it right girl and it will be worth the wait because of your security in that person. 😊
I really love this video ! I like the move and start fresh thing :)
love this video! it's so good to find out I'm not alone.
great advice. once u start doing you everything falls into place
Nothing wrong with being a virgin at 25. I wish I waited. Wait until you get married. Give it to someone who really loves you and not out to get the draws
omg I have that same candle I actually got 3 it smells so good!! we have similar taste in fragrance 😉
Why do you need to tell that you are a virgin? that's your business. If he asks (which he probably won't), then have that discussion, but that shouldn't be one of your first conversations. By the way, I was in a solid relationship with someone for 3 1/2 years before we had sex and it was no issue. You want your first experience to be memorable and worth it.
I lost mines at 23 and WISH I could go back and get it back. I'm now 28 and in a relationship, and I've told him he's not getting anything until we're MARRIED and he respects my choice. Although it hasn't been easy, I know from past mistakes that it'll be worth it.
35yrs and STRONG...and I ain't ASHAMED!!! When it's time, it will happen, be encourage love. I had my moment when I was like, if I'm not married by 30 I'm just going to go out and do it...BOL...thank God for my relationship with Jesus Christ. I look forward to the day when I can fully give myself away to my HUSBAND! #StayStrong
Enjoyed this topic
won't kill you... lol.. yes that's #1! once we get that established we can move forward.
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That whole comeback segment really hit home for me. Such wonderful advice!!! 😊❤
Hey Such n Such, you are the prize!! You don't want no man that don't appreciate you saving yourself for that special one or marriage. That would be an immature man who don't know the "advantages" of having a pure woman for himself..... if he knows what he's doing. Besides there's a large percentage of women who regret giving it to that first guy at a young age and he turned out to be a buster!
I can’t believe I’m just watching this video I thought I watched every video u had
Where did you get the glasses?
Girl, keep it! Don't rush!
Real advice girl.
You have such a beautiful spirit
I was a Virgin until I got married at 27yrs. After u divorced I didn't sleep with another person until 6 yrs. later and I wish I hadn't.
I find that this is a very important topic! This message is specifically for your writer: "Please be careful with the "gentleman" who you meet because date rape is a real thing that makes a situation of intimacy get out of control. I am not trying to scare you out of meeting people but, realize that some men may want to immediately help you change your status and "force" the issue if you catch my meaning. Watch your back! Don't leave yourself in isolated awkward situations with anyone. I know from actual experience!! When you say no, you mean NOOO!! I wish you all the best."
The core things... "won't kill you" 😂😂😂
Keep waiting girl! I'm proud of you LOL it's not all it's cracked up to be anyway!
I agree with you.
I totally applaud you for having self respect for yourself. I agree being a virgin is a great thing until you find the perfect man and hopefully your husband. There are MANY ladies that wish that would have saved themselves for the right man or even their husbands. kudos to you girl!
I am so proud of all these young ladies who are still virgins! Definitely keep waiting. It's really not all that. Most women wish they would have just had a V8 after that first time. What you imagine is always better.
I'm 22, a virgin and have never had a boyfriend. Looking at the comments I see that I'm not alone. I definitely don't believe in casual sex. And it's funny my family always ask me why I'm not dating as if something is wrong with me. The thing is I just refuse to settle. I've met guys here and there but I feel like none of them were worth my time. If I had tried to have something with them then that would've been me being with someone just for the hell of it and I'd rather not do that. I'm still fairly young and I'm just now really experiencing life. Still in school and have a year and a half left. My priority is just to get thru school find a job in my field and relocate!
I am 25 and a proud virgin. I'm in no big rush to lose my virginity to some random guy or a guy that is with me just until he gets my cookie. He has to work for it. There are some guys that truly respect females who still have their virginity and some who respect it, but also have underlying motives. I have had some really weird offers from guys and obviously never accepted them. Usually, I just laugh and walk away. Take your time and the right guy will come along.
Omg I have the same problem with my glasses!! Lmao I can't keep them clean for anything.
I have the same issue and I have a theory. It's a conspiracy! The people who make/sell the cleaning cloths are in cahoots with the lens makers and the cleaning solution folk.... It's a whole mess! I would add more, but I gotta go clean my glasses for the 658th time today! LOL
+Just Isunji... Lmao but really though!! Smh it's a real struggle.
Ms. Such-and-Such,
I will be 24 soon and am in the same boat. When I stopped putting my virginity on a pedestal and focusing on it, life became so more easier! I recently graduated from graduate school, have never been in a relationship, and still live with my parents. I am focusing on things I can actually change; working on my health, finding a place I like, working on my credit. lol We can't force love. It will happen organically. The right man will respect your boundaries (and maybe even have the same ones himself!)
I am waiting for marriage to have sex, so I know that will take a special kind of man. But in due time hopefully my season will come. But if not, I am and will be happy being me! I am happy with the friends I have made, happy with the ministries I am in, happy with my career, and happy with my family.
I wish you the best. Enjoy learning and loving on yourself :)
Just wait for someone you feel comfortable with who doesn't put pressure on you. And enjoy the other things in life and try not to think about it too much.
👏👏👏👏👏 To the writer. That is amazing, that is the one thing you have that yiu can NEVR get back. If you said not before marriage then hold to it. Don't be in a rush to let it go. Also when dating don't bring it up, it's not who you are it's just a decision you have made. The right guy will appreciate you for that and still wait for the I do or at least until you're ready. Date a while before you reveal it and i'm not talking 3 dates either. Let him get to know you and vice versa. Yes! pregnancy is real and life altering and std's as well. Pray about whatvyou want and not stuff that don't matter ie Let him be 6' tall and a body builder. That doesn't matter if he's mean and beats you. He can be 5'9" and chubby as long as he treats you right. If you want an educated equal cool but he cheat a little bit... don't think you want him. A trade and faithful could work. Fine has never paid a bill unless he's a model so get a list of the must haves and go through it and see what it is that matters most. True story I prayed for 6' tall, bald, bow legs and chocolate. I have 5'9" carmel with thick hair and bow legs lol. So um yea been married 20 years in February.
I love the video, but I think it's sad that our view point as a society doesn't take virginity as something special and honorable, Gurl I applaud you. because everything you said is right kids and STD'S are real. and a broken heart is real , you can survive them all but enjoy your life make friends and due time the right one will come.
I'm 27. Also single. Had a bf in hs that lasted for about a year and havent had one since. Which makes it almost 9 years single for me. I definitely think it's harder to date but I try to stay positive.
I wish I had waited until 25. Continue to wait. Find out who YOU are and find out what YOUR purpose is and find YOUR happy place. Oftentimes when sex comes into play, you have all these other emotions that take over if you're not already in a good place mentally. That's you're treasure,...treasure it. If you do that, then the person who opens the treasure, will treasure it also. I was raised that premarital sex is a sin in God's eyes so maybe God is ordering your steps. Just don't let that be a priority. Focus on you. You're young with no baggage. ENJOY LIFE! Get your career together! It'll happen! Good luck to you.😀
Pleasuring yourself is better than reality most of the time girl.... but I would suggest let it happen naturally dont force it and make sure the guy knows to be gentle and considerate there are guys that will do just that.
I love her she reminds me of my auntie so much😂
can you have more story time
Some girls would be surprised at how many guys hold their v card for someone special, but get pressured into it by society, or they dont tell females that because of social shaming. Some who hold it longer loose hope of finding a female who has did the same, so they just give up. Some even hold their lips for someone special, but it breaks their heart that they already kissed someone else.