What causes me the discomfort is thinking that what I have is not obsessive thinking but the non-acceptance that the reality is that I do not love my partner. However, I don't want to leave them nor do I want to change my life or anything related. My therapist told me that it was just irrational thought. Everything comes from the fact that at the beginning of the relationship when I was not sure of my feelings, but over time my life has been full and happy, until one day at night I began to think that everything was a lie, that I have never been loving her...and I entered into a very strong anxiety episode from which I have not been able to completely get out. In my case, everything is focused on my partner... on her physique, on the sensations she provokes in me. It's really hard to live like this.
OCD is nicknamed “the doubting disease” for a reason. It always wants certainty but questions everything = suffering. Accepting uncertainty = peace and happiness.
‼️Yeah but whenever I try going against my OCD bad stuff ends up happening in real life and it freaks me out and I get scared back into it. there is clearly some type of power it has that's beyond therapy and I don't know how escape it without risk of harming the people I love. for instance I've had thoughts in my mind that i ignore only for them to manifest in real life soon after. THIS is what keeps me trapped in this mental hellscape and I've yet to hear ANY professional mention thisnor how to handle it
Hi, I have a theme around self-protection and boundaries. If someone has said something and done something that I feel was energetically attacking, and if I don't defend, my brain and nervous system go into hyperdrive. I had a hard conversation with a neighbor yesterday. I did the best I could and I felt she attacked me and I didn't defend myself the way I should have. Now, my mind is going insane telling me the only way to correct this is to call her and have another in-person confrontation to clear the negative energy I took on yesterday. Yet, that is frightening. When I feel attacked my nervous system freezes and I am not good at defending. Also, I am worried if I don't do a perfect job defending myself if I do confront her again, then I will be back into this loop. I have a hard time discerning is this a message from my deeper self saying stand up for me, protect me--and therefore I need to confront her--or is this OCD and I should not feed it. I just want relief.
I just… lately it’s like I had a realization that I don’t love him anymore… but… 😞 I cry about it when I think about it… how do you deal with ROCD and other issues that usually arise in relationships? Or life in general? I know I need help I know I can’t keep living this way anymore. But I have had clarity moments to where I knew I really love him a lot and was actually happy when I didn’t overthink. But when I try to touch him I get this sensation that I shouldn’t touch him at all bc of how real theses feelings feel for me…
The compulsions tonite doing around the thoughts are what fuel the ocd cycle, give you more intrusive thoughts, and cause symptoms. Definitely get help, so many struggle alone. The Path is my coat effective membership program and you get calls with me. Or 1:1 coaching is an option too. Recovery is possible!!
I want to determine beyond any doubt whether my present intrusive thought is OCD or not because I feel, at the time, that’s the only way for me to move past it, either by practicing ERP or by addressing the real problem. However, if I had reasons to hope to regain normal functioning in some other way than by determining beyond any doubt whether my present intrusive thought is OCD or not, would it be as important for me to settle that issue?
100% certainty does not exist, with anything. OCD wants certainty, and the more you try to seek it, the more you feed OCD in the more doubts and intrusive thoughts you will have. Join one of my recovery programs to learn how to eliminate ocd you from your life.
I’m hoping you can help. I have a long history of OCD, but I recently have a new theme come along and it’s the worst yet. I had an innocent memory pop up from childhood, and my ocd took it and filled in the blanks with false memories and I immediately thought “oh my god, what if I was abused as a child?!” And now I can’t stop obsessing about it and looking into every detail of my childhood even though logically, I know I was not in any way abused! I have a wonderful relationship with this family member and now I’m afraid to even be around them to trigger this horrible thought. Do you have any insight if this is ocd? can you help?
Sounds like an intrusive thought to me! ERP is necessary here. If you haven't learned ERP or need additional help, I have openings. myocdcoach.teachable.com
@My OCD Coach, Danielle Thornton hello , you said in other videos that perfection doesn't exist ....I have Rocd ...and thought of asking my partner to do a plastic surgery...but then I thought that might be. Part of ocd... what should I do ?.. because I'm thinking that some actresses are perfect
My OCD Coach, Danielle Thornton 34 seconds ago That is a compulsion and won't help your OCD. It will make your partner feel less than as well. Then your OCD will just focus on something else. Please get ERP treatment so you don't do any further damage to your partner or yourself. www.myocdcoach.com
I think I have anxiety 90% of the time now… I get sensations touching my partner and I wake up not loving him… our love life is dead since I don’t really wanna do anything… when i do get a spark I get afraid I won’t enjoy it… 😞
@@MyOCDCoach And how to recover from relationship OCD and love addiction if these two aspects exist in a relationship? I just gave up on myself .. do I need to return myself to a hobby, society?
@@MyOCDCoach I have had moments of clarity. Like yesterday I was super relaxed and was actually able to say I know I love him and not focus on his flaws. This morning he got upset of something small and I got angry at him. He said that he was sorry but why am I feeling more that I don’t love him… it’s random when I get clarity. It’s like I don’t wanna do anything with anymore… 😞 it’s like I’ve been denying my truth.. I just don’t want it to be true…
You choose to accept uncertainty/imperfection. It sounds easy, I know, but it's not always so easy. I definitely needed help with recovery...most do! Otherwise we would all just get over OCD. My programs are here to help - www.myocdcoach.com
@@MyOCDCoach thank you so much for your answer🙏🙏but i don't understand "to be convinced" is not the same as a "doubt"... 🥺Can ocd thoughts look like affirmatives, facts? Without "what if", but "definitely"
@moonlee1599 Who is convinced that "it's not OCD"? Is it you? Because you're on a video that is about OCD... If you didn't think it had anything to do with OCD you wouldn't care about this video or this topic, right? But here you are. You see what I mean? :)
Hi I wanted to ask for some guidance as basically I cheated on my partner while ago and told them everything as I felt extremely guilty and then after ive had intrusive thoughts on pedophla and sexual thoughts, Now im fixated on relationship and If I am attracted people and I need an answer as its bothering me non stop I also feel like im having false memories on my past situations
Hello I deleted my comment sorry So this just means I should accept the reality of things and live like this ? I don't think it's ocd, not at all. I had it (I repeated over and over the same words) but now it's more like ruminating and reassuring myself in my head.. when I am avoiding the theme I don't have the intrusive thoughts or the ruminating thing at all.. my biggest fear was and is that I was right when I was questioning every of the things I love in my life. Now it's just real, it's scary and painful and I can't blame it on ocd or anything else because it's just the truth. This is exhausting. I wish so badly I didn't make this research. What should I do ?
You could very likely just be dealing with ROCD (obsessions and compulsions about relationships). I find that when we treat the ROCD, many of the other issues people think they have are also taken cate of.
for example, before I did not pay attention to the fact that she teased me and so on. And now it's like a trigger. I told her that I was not pleased, she said well, I will speak less like that. And so it is. I don’t want to quarrel ever .. Could it be that these are still suppressed emotions?
What causes me the discomfort is thinking that what I have is not obsessive thinking but the non-acceptance that the reality is that I do not love my partner. However, I don't want to leave them nor do I want to change my life or anything related. My therapist told me that it was just irrational thought. Everything comes from the fact that at the beginning of the relationship when I was not sure of my feelings, but over time my life has been full and happy, until one day at night I began to think that everything was a lie, that I have never been loving her...and I entered into a very strong anxiety episode from which I have not been able to completely get out. In my case, everything is focused on my partner... on her physique, on the sensations she provokes in me. It's really hard to live like this.
OCD is nicknamed “the doubting disease” for a reason. It always wants certainty but questions everything = suffering. Accepting uncertainty = peace and happiness.
How are you doing now?
I've often been wondering what is OCD in my brain and what isn't. This was very helpful thank you!
This is something I teach my clients individually.
This was helpful as a starting point for taking action ..Thank you
Thank you! :)
‼️Yeah but whenever I try going against my OCD bad stuff ends up happening in real life and it freaks me out and I get scared back into it. there is clearly some type of power it has that's beyond therapy and I don't know how escape it without risk of harming the people I love. for instance I've had thoughts in my mind that i ignore only for them to manifest in real life soon after. THIS is what keeps me trapped in this mental hellscape and I've yet to hear ANY professional mention thisnor how to handle it
Thank you for this
You're welcoe!
Hi, I have a theme around self-protection and boundaries. If someone has said something and done something that I feel was energetically attacking, and if I don't defend, my brain and nervous system go into hyperdrive. I had a hard conversation with a neighbor yesterday. I did the best I could and I felt she attacked me and I didn't defend myself the way I should have. Now, my mind is going insane telling me the only way to correct this is to call her and have another in-person confrontation to clear the negative energy I took on yesterday. Yet, that is frightening. When I feel attacked my nervous system freezes and I am not good at defending. Also, I am worried if I don't do a perfect job defending myself if I do confront her again, then I will be back into this loop. I have a hard time discerning is this a message from my deeper self saying stand up for me, protect me--and therefore I need to confront her--or is this OCD and I should not feed it. I just want relief.
Sounds like OCD, which needs certainty and/or perfection. This is where the urges or compulsions come in. When you engage with OCD, it gets stronger.
I just… lately it’s like I had a realization that I don’t love him anymore… but… 😞 I cry about it when I think about it… how do you deal with ROCD and other issues that usually arise in relationships? Or life in general? I know I need help I know I can’t keep living this way anymore. But I have had clarity moments to where I knew I really love him a lot and was actually happy when I didn’t overthink. But when I try to touch him I get this sensation that I shouldn’t touch him at all bc of how real theses feelings feel for me…
The compulsions tonite doing around the thoughts are what fuel the ocd cycle, give you more intrusive thoughts, and cause symptoms. Definitely get help, so many struggle alone. The Path is my coat effective membership program and you get calls with me. Or 1:1 coaching is an option too. Recovery is possible!!
This was so so helpful Danielle thank you:)
You’re welcome!
''A lot of times our thoughts are partially true'' I feel sick.
ERPmis important in these moments! 💕
I want to determine beyond any doubt whether my present intrusive thought is OCD or not because I feel, at the time, that’s the only way for me to move past it, either by practicing ERP or by addressing the real problem. However, if I had reasons to hope to regain normal functioning in some other way than by determining beyond any doubt whether my present intrusive thought is OCD or not, would it be as important for me to settle that issue?
100% certainty does not exist, with anything. OCD wants certainty, and the more you try to seek it, the more you feed OCD in the more doubts and intrusive thoughts you will have. Join one of my recovery programs to learn how to eliminate ocd you from your life.
I’m hoping you can help. I have a long history of OCD, but I recently have a new theme come along and it’s the worst yet. I had an innocent memory pop up from childhood, and my ocd took it and filled in the blanks with false memories and I immediately thought “oh my god, what if I was abused as a child?!” And now I can’t stop obsessing about it and looking into every detail of my childhood even though logically, I know I was not in any way abused! I have a wonderful relationship with this family member and now I’m afraid to even be around them to trigger this horrible thought. Do you have any insight if this is ocd? can you help?
Sounds like an intrusive thought to me! ERP is necessary here. If you haven't learned ERP or need additional help, I have openings. myocdcoach.teachable.com
Hi, I wanted to ask if we can get the one on ones even if do not have an ocd diagnoses yet?
Absolutely! You can schedule one today at www.myocdcoach.com.
@My OCD Coach, Danielle Thornton hello , you said in other videos that perfection doesn't exist ....I have Rocd ...and thought of asking my partner to do a plastic surgery...but then I thought that might be. Part of ocd... what should I do ?.. because I'm thinking that some actresses are perfect
My OCD Coach, Danielle Thornton
34 seconds ago
That is a compulsion and won't help your OCD. It will make your partner feel less than as well. Then your OCD will just focus on something else. Please get ERP treatment so you don't do any further damage to your partner or yourself. www.myocdcoach.com
I think I have anxiety 90% of the time now… I get sensations touching my partner and I wake up not loving him… our love life is dead since I don’t really wanna do anything… when i do get a spark I get afraid I won’t enjoy it… 😞
can relationship OCD be together with love addiction?
Sounds like ROCD. Recovery is possible!!
@@MyOCDCoach
And how to recover from relationship OCD and love addiction if these two aspects exist in a relationship? I just gave up on myself .. do I need to return myself to a hobby, society?
@@MyOCDCoach I have had moments of clarity. Like yesterday I was super relaxed and was actually able to say I know I love him and not focus on his flaws. This morning he got upset of something small and I got angry at him. He said that he was sorry but why am I feeling more that I don’t love him… it’s random when I get clarity. It’s like I don’t wanna do anything with anymore… 😞 it’s like I’ve been denying my truth.. I just don’t want it to be true…
@@CrazyMan-un8om I’m not sure what you mean. I highly suggest joining The Path. It’s a very cost effective membership program foe ROCD recovery.
How do you NOT try to figure it out? I have false memory and I don't know how to stop over thinking constantly.
You choose to accept uncertainty/imperfection. It sounds easy, I know, but it's not always so easy. I definitely needed help with recovery...most do! Otherwise we would all just get over OCD. My programs are here to help - www.myocdcoach.com
Can someone with ocd be convinced that it's not ocd?
OCD is nicknames "the doubting disease" for a reason:)
@@MyOCDCoach thank you so much for your answer🙏🙏but i don't understand "to be convinced" is not the same as a "doubt"... 🥺Can ocd thoughts look like affirmatives, facts? Without "what if", but "definitely"
@moonlee1599 Who is convinced that "it's not OCD"? Is it you? Because you're on a video that is about OCD... If you didn't think it had anything to do with OCD you wouldn't care about this video or this topic, right? But here you are. You see what I mean? :)
Hi I wanted to ask for some guidance as basically I cheated on my partner while ago and told them everything as I felt extremely guilty and then after ive had intrusive thoughts on pedophla and sexual thoughts, Now im fixated on relationship and If I am attracted people and I need an answer as its bothering me non stop I also feel like im having false memories on my past situations
I highly suggest getting ERP help. Otherwise OCD can switch themes and usually gets worse. My programs are available. www.myocdcoach.com
Hello I deleted my comment sorry
So this just means I should accept the reality of things and live like this ? I don't think it's ocd, not at all. I had it (I repeated over and over the same words) but now it's more like ruminating and reassuring myself in my head.. when I am avoiding the theme I don't have the intrusive thoughts or the ruminating thing at all.. my biggest fear was and is that I was right when I was questioning every of the things I love in my life. Now it's just real, it's scary and painful and I can't blame it on ocd or anything else because it's just the truth. This is exhausting. I wish so badly I didn't make this research. What should I do ?
Tell me, can relationship OCD be together with love addiction?
You could very likely just be dealing with ROCD (obsessions and compulsions about relationships). I find that when we treat the ROCD, many of the other issues people think they have are also taken cate of.
for example, before I did not pay attention to the fact that she teased me and so on. And now it's like a trigger. I told her that I was not pleased, she said well, I will speak less like that. And so it is. I don’t want to quarrel ever .. Could it be that these are still suppressed emotions?
@@CrazyMan-un8om OCD will attach (overly obsess and latch onto) anything it can find.